[HN Gopher] Should more of us be moving to live near friends?
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Should more of us be moving to live near friends?
Author : Geekette
Score : 53 points
Date : 2024-12-26 09:23 UTC (1 days ago)
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| brailsafe wrote:
| Less of us should be discounting the value of investing in new,
| long-term friendships, in the second or third place we live, and
| stop discounting the impact of arbitrarily moving away for
| cheaper or more isolated pastures just because we work remotely.
| There's a threshold past which it's worth considering how much is
| worth it to remain, but for many it seems like a no-brainer
| financial consideration, and they don't really seem to have tried
| to integrate within their neighborhood, perhaps because they knew
| they'd eventually be forced out by the landed gentry. I'd
| personally never move back to my home city, I'm happy in the
| metropolis I moved to, but have put in a hell of a lot time and
| energy into forming a strong social circle and be present in my
| community, and I probably wouldn't throw that away just to own a
| house somewhere in the boonies, but I also wouldn't spend
| millions to get a 2 bedroom condo, so it's an awkward place to be
| in one's thirties.
| lukan wrote:
| Yes of course. Intentional communities of like minded people are
| the alternative to atomarisation of strangers living next to
| strangers with fake smiles and talking behind the back as the
| standard social interaction.
|
| Easier said then done, though in most cases, but worth it
| wherever possible.
| phendrenad2 wrote:
| Great idea - to make this happen we either need to solve the
| housing affordability crisis in high-density areas, or spread job
| opportunities around to lower-density areas.
|
| My friends are in a diverse set of fields, finding a place with
| jobs for all of them isn't feasible right now.
| wenc wrote:
| [delayed]
| wenc wrote:
| I would love to, but I come from a place where intellectual
| pursuits are not valued, so I would lose out on that front if I
| moved back. I'm the type who needs to always be learning. So I
| would always need to be in a big city.
|
| Alain Bertaud, the urbanist, recently said, "the big contribution
| of cities is randomness." And he continues: "You don't know what
| to expect. You don't know who you will meet. And, it's precisely
| because you meet people who are different from you, who have
| different ideas. Sometime even it could be obnoxious people. I
| think obnoxious people -- I mean, what I consider obnoxious --
| are necessary in order to stimulate."
| lelandbatey wrote:
| The only way to get a house in my case was to buy it with family
| and split it (in our case it was one big old house that'd been
| converted to a duplex nearly a century ago, so while it's one
| building it's well set up for two families to live separately).
|
| The benefits they talk about are real, but I don't know how
| realistic this is as a recommendation. I suspect few folks will
| find themselves not only able to buy housing (or a portion of
| housing), but also able to do so with folks whom they trust
| enough to make such a big commitment.
|
| I'm curious what other folks think about such situations and
| recommendations though. Is it a realistic recommendation?
| w10-1 wrote:
| Or, in California, buy a single-family urban home and subdivide
| it under SB-9.
| kidneystereotyp wrote:
| rich people problems
| bdangubic wrote:
| you expected many poor people here on HN? :)
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