[HN Gopher] The cochlear implant question
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       The cochlear implant question
        
       Author : Tomte
       Score  : 59 points
       Date   : 2024-11-15 11:26 UTC (11 hours ago)
        
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       | FollowingTheDao wrote:
       | Saying this as someone who is hearing but close to the deaf
       | community in college and knows ASL. By trying to give her the
       | best of both worlds she is going to diminish both worlds. Not
       | fully in the deaf community and not fully in the hearing
       | community.
        
         | Etheryte wrote:
         | An alternative framing would be that she gets to experience
         | both to at least some extent, and isn't that better?
        
           | rincebrain wrote:
           | I think a lot of people who have their feet in multiple
           | commonly "either/or" cultures have written quite a lot about
           | the struggle to establish their own identity given those
           | cultures framing many things in terms of, for lack of a
           | better word, sole/primary membership.
           | 
           | I'm not sure anyone can say better or worse, in a useful
           | fashion, objectively - more options can also lead to more
           | ambiguity and stress, as with anything in life.
           | 
           | They're not wrong to say that by necessity, your experience
           | is going to be different if it's defined in terms of choices
           | made before you had agency, that are not mutable - your lived
           | experiences are going to be very different if you cannot hear
           | at all, and spent 10000 hours or w/e framing everything in
           | your life around that, versus being able to hear.
           | 
           | Unfortunately, I think absent something else, this will go
           | the same way as most narratives of cultures where there are
           | utilitarian reasons to not remain in it - people will often
           | choose the route of most visible potential benefit, in these
           | situations.
           | 
           | Something more "ideal", in theory, would be if we could
           | ignore critical periods, and just let people choose in
           | adulthood to learn verbal language, but even that presents
           | the problem that the majority dictates the "easy" option, and
           | by nature, people who are not in that group will sometimes be
           | the ones acting as sandpaper on rough edges in that
           | interaction, as they're not as well-polished. (Look at all
           | the government systems in the US that don't know how to
           | handle more than the common "firstname lastname", for
           | example.) So even that option presents the problems of
           | utilitarian optimization resulting in rational actors just
           | opting out of the more demanding route.
           | 
           | e: Just to be clear, I'm not trying to say I think any of
           | what I just described is "good" - I think homogeneity in
           | human experience deprives everyone of enrichment in the
           | variation of life. But I don't see a way to optimize for this
           | where given the ability, a lot of people don't choose the
           | lower-friction route in their lives.
        
             | FollowingTheDao wrote:
             | "Just to be clear, I'm not trying to say I think any of
             | what I just described is "good""
             | 
             | Yes, this has been the problem. Many in the Deaf Community
             | do not see being deaf as "bad", but that is the label
             | society has put on them.
        
               | Etheryte wrote:
               | I mean, why would they? It would only create negative
               | emotions, but it wouldn't have any positive impact on
               | anything. Feeling bad about a condition can be useful if
               | it can propel you to improve the situation, e.g. if
               | you're an alcoholic and you feel bad about it, you might
               | stop drinking. But for conditions where it's out of your
               | control and there is no cure, framing it as bad does not
               | do any good. No one needs to wallow in self pity thinking
               | oh if only I was born different, especially if they can
               | lead rich and fulfilling lives.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | More importantly, by framing it as a thing (not good or
               | bad just is) they can find ways around the issues. They
               | can live their life just fine. Sure there are some things
               | you cannot do without hearing, but there are more things
               | to do in life than there is time anyway so there isn't a
               | problem. You can't enjoy a symphony concert, but there
               | are a lot of people who could do that yet don't. You can
               | still enjoy a baseball game with those people, or if you
               | don't like baseball - many others don't was well, just
               | ...
        
         | keiferski wrote:
         | Do you think bilingual kids have the same issue? I don't.
        
           | robin_reala wrote:
           | The article talks about the capital-D Deaf community. It's
           | not just a different language, it's a different culture.
        
             | keiferski wrote:
             | And people that speak say, Chinese and American English,
             | don't have two different cultures?
        
               | FollowingTheDao wrote:
               | Knowing ASL does not make me Deaf. And knowing Mandarin
               | does not make me Chinese.
        
               | keiferski wrote:
               | Obviously my example was for someone that grew up
               | speaking Chinese and American English natively, as in a
               | person of Chinese descent that grew up in America. There
               | are millions of such people.
               | 
               | I think you're missing the point entirely.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | Language does not make the culture. There are many deaf
               | people who are not part of the Deaf culture. There are
               | many people who have heard all their life but are also
               | part of the Deaf culture.
               | 
               | There are many different cultures in the US. Some are
               | more similar than others. There is a Chinese culture in
               | the US - as someone not part of it I'm content to call it
               | one, but I'm sure those in it know of differences that I
               | cannot see.
        
             | sarchertech wrote:
             | Language facilitate access to culture. You think that Deaf
             | culture is the only culture you can't fully participate in
             | without speaking the language?
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | It is more that there is strong vocal subgroup of the
               | Deaf culture that sees participation in larger speaking
               | community as betrayal.
        
           | gyomu wrote:
           | If you spend time around bicultural people or 3rd culture
           | kids you'll find this is definitely an issue.
           | 
           | Eventually most people figure things out and make the most of
           | it in adulthood, but it definitely makes for teenage/young
           | adult identity crises that monocultural people don't have to
           | deal with.
        
             | keiferski wrote:
             | I think you're confusing two things: third culture kids who
             | grow up in multiple places while not feeling at home in any
             | of them; and bilingual kids that grow up in a smaller
             | number of places/one place but still speak multiple
             | languages because of their ancestry, etc.
             | 
             | The former group has more issues fitting in, while the
             | latter seem to be just fine. Certainly plenty of people in
             | Europe speak more than one language natively and don't feel
             | like they lack a home. And it's not like there is an actual
             | country where only deaf people exist. So the idea of
             | avoiding bilingualism seems totally absurd to me,
             | especially when probably the majority of the world has some
             | level of bilingualism by default.
        
           | FollowingTheDao wrote:
           | I texted this comment to my deaf friend (a graduate of
           | Gallaudet University) and she said; "Not bilingual kids, but
           | certainly immigrants from non-english speaking countries!
           | Just go to any big city and you will see a thriving Mexican,
           | Chinese, or Indian community!" And she suggested you read
           | just one book on the Deaf Community before being so certain.
           | Deaf in America or Inside Deaf Culture would be a good start.
           | 
           | I will add that most people do not understand how divided the
           | Deaf Community is about Coclear Implants. Least of all what
           | you hear is not like what we would hear. It sounds like a
           | robotic voice.
           | 
           | https://journals.sagepub.com/stoken/rbtfl/3WBTL0klZP48Y/full
        
         | sarchertech wrote:
         | Who knows what the Deaf community is going to look like in 20
         | years when this kid is in college. Treatments for hearing loss
         | are advancing and it's likely that most of her peers will be in
         | a similar position to her. 80% of deaf children born in
         | developed countries receive cochlear implants.
        
         | saalweachter wrote:
         | This isn't really a conflict unique to membership in the
         | deaf/hearing communities.
         | 
         | You can be the kid who stayed on the farm or the kid who left
         | the farm for the big city, but you can't be both. You can be
         | the kid who spends half the year on the farm and half in the
         | city, or the kid who went to the big city for twenty years
         | before returning to the farm, but those are different things.
         | 
         | We all only get one life to live. All we can do is try to pick
         | a good path and enjoy the stories from people who picked
         | different paths. A person who picks a hybrid path doesn't get
         | to fully enjoy either path, but they do get to enjoy some of
         | each, and they get to be the storyteller who tells the city
         | kids about the farm and the farm kids about the city.
        
         | Almondsetat wrote:
         | The hearing... community?
        
         | ttpphd wrote:
         | Have you met the undergrads at Gallaudet University? They live
         | in both worlds.
        
       | paulryanrogers wrote:
       | > it is unarguable that only signed languages are easily
       | accessible in all situations
       | 
       | Even in the dark? Or at a distance? Or not facing the signer? Or
       | with arthritis?
       | 
       | Differently abled folks are entitled to their own culture and
       | beliefs. Yet claims like that seem to be trying too hard to find
       | a silver lining.
        
         | robin_reala wrote:
         | I've seen two signers on a train platform pause their
         | conversation while one got on the train, then carry on through
         | the window after they'd found a seat. While the article is
         | hyperbolic, there are pros and cons to all modes of
         | communication.
        
           | paulryanrogers wrote:
           | Right, I didn't mean to deny the advantages of signing.
           | Rather point out some arguments are crossing over into
           | absurdity.
        
           | cbsks wrote:
           | I went on a scuba dive trip with a couple of deaf people and
           | I was definitely jealous.
        
             | mitthrowaway2 wrote:
             | You don't have to be deaf to learn sign language!
        
         | throw894389 wrote:
         | My deaf coworker does not even know sign language, she uses
         | phone for everything. She lives perfectly normal life.
         | 
         | Entire office is not going to learn new language, just to speak
         | with an odd deaf person. And communicating specialized stuff
         | like technical programming is not possible, gestures only cover
         | basic words.
        
           | techsupporter wrote:
           | > And communicating specialized stuff like technical
           | programming is not possible, gestures only cover basic words.
           | 
           | I want to gently push back on this. While sign languages do
           | have signs for common, "basic" words (ASL has a lot of 1:1
           | mapped signs for English), sign languages are languages. They
           | can, and do, express "specialized stuff".
           | 
           | I have two coworkers who are deaf and they absolutely
           | communicate specialized medical and technical concepts to
           | each other and other people who use sign language. It's
           | amazing to watch them sign to each other, as someone who is
           | only intermediate at ASL.
        
           | astura wrote:
           | >And communicating specialized stuff like technical
           | programming is not possible, gestures only cover basic words.
           | 
           | This part just absolutely and categorically untrue.
           | 
           | I've personally witnessed people whiteboard code using only
           | ASL on multiple different occasions.
        
           | mapt wrote:
           | "Not possible" is a vast overstatement.
           | 
           | We've negotiated imperial territory disputes and hired
           | mercenaries on contract with pantomine. You get there
           | eventually if you're motivated & creative. It's about how
           | efficient using the language for that purpose is. If it lacks
           | a lot of specialized jargon, that jargon needs to be unpacked
           | into symbology that does exist in the language both people
           | are trying to use.
           | 
           | With any language learning, you revert to more basic forms in
           | a sort of puzzle of "How do I say that?" if you don't have a
           | deep exposure to the vocabulary. An elementary learner might
           | use twenty words of clarification to be certain of
           | communicating meaning where an expert uses six.
           | 
           | With ASL, reverting to fingerspelling to bridge gaps in
           | either person's vocabulary or in the existing corpus of well-
           | known ASL vocabulary is also common.
           | 
           | But fingerspelling and using long strings of basic words is
           | painfully slow compared to higher bandwidth formats. If two
           | people speak two languages, they can just pick the one that
           | has the best mutual SNR, which allows for the most concise
           | effective communication. Sometimes, that's going to be
           | written text typed into a phone instead of ASL, and sometimes
           | it's going to be the other way around.
        
             | throw894389 wrote:
             | > "Not possible" is a vast overstatement.
             | 
             | Perhaps I should say "not economically viable". We could
             | also use morse code, but it is just not very practical.
             | 
             | > you revert to more basic forms in a sort of puzzle of
             | "How do I say that?
             | 
             | So we are playing "guess what" and pantomime at working
             | hours. Wonderful!
             | 
             | > reverting to fingerspelling to bridge gaps in either
             | person's vocabulary
             | 
             | Typing on phone or keyboard just seems more practical. Or
             | using pen and paper....
        
           | EdgeExplorer wrote:
           | Sign language is not gestures.
           | 
           | This is covered in (among many other places) the
           | _introduction_ to the Wikipedia article on sign language:
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sign_language
        
             | tokai wrote:
             | Pedantic and wrong. What was your point here? Sign
             | languages per your own link are expressed through manual
             | articulation in combination with non-manual markers. That's
             | gestures in common speech in all cases unless you are
             | operating with the most specific and unhelpful definition
             | of gestures.
        
               | sethjgore wrote:
               | I use sign language myself everyday.
               | 
               | Sign language is way more than just gesturing. I did not
               | see read that link from the above post, regardless,
               | gestures are fundamentally a semiotic expression of
               | meaning with the body rather than speech.
               | 
               | Like sounds, one can create a basic Piercian sign, and
               | build onto that sign.
               | 
               | I believe that sign language has the unfortunate
               | implication of being composed exclusively of gesturing.
               | The word "sign" is confusing as well, especially when
               | "sign" signifies (pun intended) a set of commonly
               | understood meanings in linguistics. Body language,
               | gestures, manual expressions all are just parts that come
               | together and become more than the total of sum parts.
               | 
               | I see spoken and sign languages as two different tools
               | that can do similar job with different features and
               | weaknesses. Like python vs go vs JavaScript.
        
             | RandallBrown wrote:
             | > a movement of part of the body, especially a hand or the
             | head, to express an idea or meaning
             | 
             | Dictionary meaning of gesture.
             | 
             | > Sign languages (also known as signed languages) are
             | languages that use the *visual-manual modality to convey
             | meaning*
             | 
             | From the introduction to the wikipedia article.
             | 
             | Sign language is definitely made of gestures, at least by
             | my understood definition of the word gesture.
        
           | bluGill wrote:
           | When you need to communicate something technical you finger
           | spell what you mean once, and the you make up a sign on the
           | spot for that one thing and use that sign there after. The
           | next conversation you can make up a different sign for the
           | same thing, or reuse the old sign. If a sign is used often
           | enough it enters the common language.
           | 
           | By doing such you can communicate anything technical.
        
             | throw894389 wrote:
             | What if the other person does not know the sign you made?
             | In my experience there are multiple dialect in sign
             | language, because every school just manufactures their own
             | gestures.
        
           | zie wrote:
           | When I sign with other deaf programmers, we don't have
           | trouble communicating with signs, even about technical
           | programming.
           | 
           | When I go to the doctor's office and someone interprets for
           | me, I don't have trouble understanding the doctor.
           | 
           | Please don't speak so assuredly about things you clearly
           | don't understand. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sign_language
           | 
           | I agree with the 1st sentence however. You don't have to know
           | sign language to be content or happy with your life, even if
           | you are deaf.
        
             | sethjgore wrote:
             | Been looking to connect with other signing engineers deaf
             | or not! Seems you are one and you know others as well!
             | Would love to connect. Dm me at contact at signsnap.me
        
         | mezzie2 wrote:
         | Or if you have to talk to a _visually impaired_ person. My
         | vision impairments are on the very mild end of the spectrum,
         | but they 're still enough to prevent any effective use of or
         | learning of sign.
        
           | bluGill wrote:
           | I have "met" people who are both blind and deaf. They use
           | sign language by putting their hand on the hand of the signer
           | and follow that way. (I only know a couple signs so it wasn't
           | worth trying to talk to them except via interpreter and so
           | saying I've met them is a bit strong)
           | 
           | This also is proof that sign language works in the dark.
        
             | mezzie2 wrote:
             | ASL (and sign language generally) and tactile sign are two
             | different languages, and language types that are at least
             | as different as verbal languages and seen/sign languages -
             | an American deafblind person who uses tactile sign and
             | meets someone who uses ASL isn't necessarily going to be
             | able to communicate with them. The signs and underlying
             | language structure (morphology/syntax/etc.) are all
             | different. I wouldn't consider the existence of tactile
             | sign to mean that sign language works in the dark because
             | they're two different language types, but the terminology
             | is confusing and I have a linguistics background so I don't
             | know if the author was including tactile sign or not. I'd
             | guess not since it's about teaching his daughter who is
             | d/Deaf, not deafblind, and tactile sign isn't in much use
             | outside of the deafblind community. d/Deaf and blind people
             | don't use it much, I believe.
        
             | Fire-Dragon-DoL wrote:
             | That is so painful to hear. Having those two disabilities
             | at the same time cut you out of so much of the world
        
           | zie wrote:
           | See tactile signing:
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tactile_signing
        
         | vr46 wrote:
         | At a distance works great, my friend (not deaf, but works in a
         | school) taught her kids BSL (also not deaf) and recounted the
         | story of how she was able to bollock the kids once in public
         | across a hall.
         | 
         | She also had no trouble ordering a drink from her boyfriend
         | (not deaf) who was standing at the bar some way away in a
         | crowded pub.
         | 
         | Sign languages are indeed quite useful.
         | 
         | The article seemed a bit straw man and whining, as well as
         | recycling old ideas, such as letting groups isolate themselves
         | from others, but I confess I was too bored to finish reading.
        
         | ben7799 wrote:
         | I think the bigger one is how does a signing person communicate
         | in a situation where their hands are otherwise occupied and
         | they can't stop using their hands for the other task?
         | 
         | If you need to communicate while operating a vehicle sign
         | language seem to put you at a disadvantage for example.
        
       | cen4 wrote:
       | Will just say, there are many different causes of Deafness. And
       | therefore outcomes vary a lot depending on what the exact
       | condition is. If the issue is with the auditory nerve for
       | example, cochlear implants won't solve anything. And the whole
       | debate can go in some other direction entirely.
        
       | poulpy123 wrote:
       | as a foreigner, the language used is baffling (for example:
       | "rarely addressed in moderate, bipartisan terms" that comes out
       | of nowhere)
        
         | resoluteteeth wrote:
         | Bipartisan probably isn't quite the right word there
        
       | swalker326 wrote:
       | I have two deaf daughters, both have cochlear implants and I'm
       | very happy with the decision. My wife and I both learned sign,
       | and let our kids wear or not wear their cochlear's as they see
       | fit. The youngest is too young to really understand but the
       | oldest understands and almost exclusively selects to wear them.
       | She is in main stream school but does spend time with her dhh
       | friends. She 100% prefers to be with other dhh folks and sign,
       | but likes being able to hear.
       | 
       | All in all the decision is yours to make and people can weigh in
       | or tell you what to do. We got a lot of hate from Deaf community
       | members for going down the road of implants, but we also got a
       | lot of support. There are hatful people in all walks of life. Do
       | what you think is best and love your kids.
        
         | techsupporter wrote:
         | My niece was born deaf and her parents went the opposite
         | direction: they chose not to have her get an implant because of
         | the risk of surgery at such a young age and being fortunate to
         | live in an area with a sizable deaf community. They took ASL
         | classes (my spouse and I joined them) and she's now enrolled in
         | a mix of ASL and English interpreted classes.
         | 
         | I agree that people can only make the decision with what they
         | have at the time. After watching her grow up these last several
         | years, her parents think they made the right choice.
        
       | sheepscreek wrote:
       | I like this pragmatism because it sheds light on the realities of
       | life. People live their experience in a muddy grey world, which
       | is far less crystal than any activist would like to imagine.
       | Activism thrives on polarizing individuals and circumstances,
       | more so off-late. We could call it politicization. Either way, I
       | believe that it's more harmful than helpful. That polarizing the
       | PoVs of individuals makes them more apathetic for those that hold
       | different views.
       | 
       | The piece that was beautifully described by the author
       | (paraphrasing) - "we can follow X while acknowledging that this
       | isn't how things should be, that it's unfair - yet this is how
       | the world is today".
       | 
       | On a similar level, but less consequential for sure, being left
       | handed creates an additional step/mental block for individuals in
       | a world that mostly defaults to right-handedness. I consciously
       | nudged my own child towards being more right-handed for this
       | reason, because I didn't want them to have this additional piece
       | to process on top of the already complex life they were going to
       | have by likely inheriting my ASD.
        
       | dghughes wrote:
       | I'd certainly urge someone to get a cochlear implant. Deafness
       | and even being hard of hearing carries a known increased risk of
       | dementia.
       | 
       | https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/want-to-reduce-your-risk...
        
         | bkfunk wrote:
         | This is a study of people in their 70s. The vast majority of
         | people with hearing loss in their 70s lost it late in life;
         | they have no Deaf/HH community, they almost never learn to
         | sign, and they often struggle to adjust for their loss of
         | hearing.
         | 
         | The study you linked talks about reduced stimulation, and in
         | particular _social_ stimulation:
         | 
         | > when an individual suffers from moderate to severe hearing
         | loss, they are less likely to participate in social activities.
         | Perhaps they are embarrassed about their hearing loss. Or they
         | may simply find it unrewarding to attend a social event when
         | they cannot hear what is going on.
         | 
         | People who are born deaf/hh , or who lose their hearing early
         | in life, _if they are allowed to access and participate Deaf
         | /HH communities and spaces_, simply do not have any of these
         | difficulties in social contexts _within those communities_.
         | 
         | Martha's Vineyard had an unusually high rate of congenital
         | deafness for centuries [1]. It became a place where _everybody_
         | , deaf and hearing alike, used sign language regularly. In such
         | a society, being deaf was not a significant impediment to
         | participating in social society at all; I am aware of no
         | evidence that would suggest the dementia rates would be higher
         | for the deaf residents just because of their deafness.
         | 
         | A disability is only a disability in a given context; for some
         | conditions (eg advanced ALS), they are disabling in almost all
         | contexts, while for others (eg a food allergy), they are
         | disabling in a relatively narrow set of contexts. The
         | relationship to dementia is caused by the hearing loss mis-
         | fitting the individual's context; people with the same
         | condition but different contexts would not be deprived of
         | stimulation and therefore not susceptible to dementia in the
         | same way.
         | 
         | [1]:
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martha's_Vineyard?wprov=sfti1#...
         | (Martha's Vineyard sign language is a major source for what
         | became American Sign Language. The other was French Sign
         | Language, which is why British Sign Language and ASL are quite
         | different despite sharing the same local spoken language)
        
           | pugworthy wrote:
           | I 100% agree with the line you quote and refute in your
           | reply, which I've repeated below...
           | 
           | > when an individual suffers from moderate to severe hearing
           | loss, they are less likely to participate in social
           | activities. Perhaps they are embarrassed about their hearing
           | loss. Or they may simply find it unrewarding to attend a
           | social event when they cannot hear what is going on.
           | 
           | This has been my life experience since the late 60's. It's my
           | life right now.
           | 
           | You replied...
           | 
           | > People who are born deaf/hh , or who lose their hearing
           | early in life, if they are allowed to access and participate
           | Deaf/HH communities and spaces, simply do not have any of
           | these difficulties in social contexts within those
           | communities.
           | 
           | As someone who's been hard of hearing for most of their life,
           | I'm curious exactly where these "HH communities" might have
           | been in 1969, or the 70's, or 80's, or even now in the
           | 2020's? Beyond the occasional subreddit that is. I suppose in
           | elementary school the teachers could have put me in special
           | ed classes. Or made me sit in the front of the class all the
           | time. I'm glad they didn't do either.
        
             | cardiffspaceman wrote:
             | The local community college used to show lectures for
             | certain classes on the cable TV. They had lectures on "Deaf
             | Culture". The lecturer would use the word "hearies" and
             | generally made a good case for the existence of deaf
             | culture. I am a "heary" and I found these lectures eye-
             | opening.
        
         | ibejoeb wrote:
         | That study seems to have found that there is an association
         | between dementia and concurrent vision and hearing impairment
         | in elderly adults.
        
         | barbazoo wrote:
         | Also social isolation, much much earlier in life.
        
       | pmarreck wrote:
       | I wrote a commandline app that takes a youtube URL (or path to
       | any audio or video file that ffmpeg can read) and converts it
       | into a transcript using the Whisper model and then optionally
       | translates or summarizes it using OpenAI. It's been incredibly
       | useful for chewing through my youtube backlog, but it might also
       | be hugely useful for the deaf or hearing-impaired. It uses Nix to
       | manage dependencies, although I got clever about making that not
       | necessary (I don't like forcing Nix on people until they're ready
       | for it)
       | 
       | https://github.com/pmarreck/yt-transcriber
       | 
       | This is mainly useful for single-speaker videos that are
       | conveying information.
       | 
       | Most other solutions out there that claim to do this only
       | download the closed-captioning and summarize that, but MANY
       | YouTubes do not have a good closed-captioning track, in which
       | case my method still works. (Note: Aiming for Linux/Mac
       | compatibility but have only tested it on Mac so far)
       | 
       | I next want to convert it into a simple web service and/or
       | perhaps Docker image to democratize this out to everyone. (I
       | don't know if I'd be able to afford to host since the CPU/GPU
       | cost for running Whisper on spoken audio is not insignificant,
       | but it should work fine on anyone's local machine assuming they
       | have the hardware for it.)
       | 
       | I also want to add speaker identification (something called
       | "diarization"), possibly by going to WhisperX or other solutions
       | out there, which would make this more useful for multi-party
       | conversation audio.
       | 
       | In other news, I'm looking for contract work (I'm just doing side
       | projects like the above to keep myself busy and, ideally,
       | useful). My last job was Director of Engineering for a startup,
       | but due to having a toddler I wish to remain work-flexible for
       | the time being. https://www.linkedin.com/in/petermarreck/
        
       | plondon514 wrote:
       | As the hearing brother of a deaf sister with hearing parents,
       | what I usually tell people is to learn sign language and get the
       | cochlear. Forcing only cochlear on the child means that the
       | family does not live in the deaf world with their child, while
       | only speaking SL might distance them and cause them to miss out
       | on a lot in the hearing world.
       | 
       | It reminds me of basque spain, where everyone speaks catalan and
       | some people continue to speak euskera at home or with friends
       | they know can speak.
        
         | jborichevskiy wrote:
         | This seems like a really thoughtful compromise, a meeting-in-
         | the-middle that keeps optionality as open as possible for the
         | child.
        
         | plondon514 wrote:
         | edit: castellano not catalan
        
       | James_K wrote:
       | I feel like the narrative around disabled people has advanced to
       | the point where some now insist that they aren't disabled. In
       | reality, it's a pretty objective fact that being disabled means
       | being unable to do something. It is a net negative on someone's
       | quality of life. I'd be jolly pissed off if my parent decided not
       | to get me an implant that enabled me to hear just because someone
       | had told them that being deaf was actually the same as being able
       | to hear. Give the kid the hearing aid, and if they don't like it
       | they can take it out later.
       | 
       | There are plenty of things where this "different, not worse"
       | narrative holds up. Children with autism or ADHD might struggle
       | in some ways, but be better off in others. It seems clear that
       | there is no objective reason they are worse than a neurotypical
       | person, so if a "cure" to these conditions was developed, you
       | would have some degree of moral quandary. But someone without
       | hearing is just objectively worse off than someone with it, the
       | same way someone without legs is worse off than someone with
       | legs.
       | 
       | The last part is what really gets me about this. The child values
       | the hearing aid so highly that they literally hug it as they go
       | to sleep, and this is somehow presented as a "both sides are
       | right" outcome. To me at least, that's a pretty conclusive
       | endorsement that kids should be given these things.
        
         | exceptione wrote:
         | Children with autism or ADHD might struggle in some ways, but
         | be better off in others.       It seems clear that there is no
         | objective reason they are worse than a neurotypical
         | person, so if a "cure" to these conditions was developed, you
         | would have some degree of       moral quandary.
         | 
         | Careful, you are most likely talking about someone spending
         | their energy at masking their handicaps. *You only see the
         | handicap you can see*.
         | 
         | Someone with high intelligence but severely damaged executive
         | functioning might look like the under performer in your team,
         | but is giving all they have to work and still failing in
         | silence, with their personal life being a giant mess.
        
           | James_K wrote:
           | No, I'm not talking about that.
        
         | Workaccount2 wrote:
         | A common thread across all the disability groups is an
         | intrinsic desire to normalize it, a drive towards a world where
         | everyone has the disability and therefore no one is disabled.
         | 
         | Prune it down and it is simply "You can fix something by
         | developing a fix, and if you can't do that you can fix
         | something by redefining what "fixed" means".
        
           | TeMPOraL wrote:
           | It starts becoming a problem if this evolves further into
           | "ignore or fight an actual fix when it's available", and then
           | into "if it ain't broken, break it, so it's "fixed"".
        
         | cameronh90 wrote:
         | There are ways you can present being deaf as an advantage.
         | 
         | I personally think it's excessively reductive, but there are
         | those that say, for example, that you become more attuned to
         | your other senses when you lose your hearing, or even that area
         | of the brain can be repurposed for other tasks. They may say,
         | therefore, that the only reason being deaf is a disability is
         | because the world is designed for non-deaf people. In the same
         | way that you wouldn't consider yourself disabled for being
         | unable to see x-rays or detect magnetic fields.
        
           | James_K wrote:
           | Saying the world is designed for people with hearing is
           | causally inaccurate. Hearing evolved because sound is a
           | useful way to perceive the world, the same way vision evolved
           | in the spectrum it did because those are the strongest
           | frequencies of sunlight. And more generally, I don't see many
           | things in my everyday life with exclusively audio feedback.
           | Usually anything designed with an audio cue just uses it to
           | reinforce a visual one. Things we are interested in (animals,
           | cars, etc) make noise, and we have evolved hearing in
           | response to that. Without hearing, you have no way to be
           | notified about things outside your field of view. This is not
           | something we've designed about the world, it's just how that
           | sense works.
        
             | marci wrote:
             | They probably meant "the human world", cities, etc. For
             | example in the subway, the warning for the closing of doors
             | used to be only audio, now you can see more modern ones
             | that have both audio and visual cues that doors are about
             | to close. In the same way, when crossing at a traffic
             | light, there used to be only visual cues. In some cities
             | now you have places that also have audio cues for people
             | that need it.
        
             | mannykannot wrote:
             | A non-trivial part of our artificial world is designed on
             | the tacit assumption that listening to spoken language is
             | what we do.
        
               | evilduck wrote:
               | The world was dark half the day for much of human
               | history. Communicating in the dark is clearly easier with
               | noise than signing or passing tactile writing around.
               | It's not like we just invented noise for the fun of it,
               | it's just a better medium in most situations.
        
               | mannykannot wrote:
               | Well, most of human activity, then and now, is conducted
               | in a lighted environment. Regardless, it is not clear to
               | me how the reasons for vocal/aural communication arising
               | as the dominant mode is at all relevant here.
        
           | evilduck wrote:
           | We don't have food that's only detectable with x-ray vision
           | and we're not food for predators that are hiding in the x-ray
           | spectrum who pop out and attack you with that advantage, so
           | not being able to see in x-ray is not a comparable
           | disability.
        
         | barbazoo wrote:
         | Not being able to hear "normally" sucks. I only developed
         | hearing loss later in life but it's bad enough not hearing
         | everything, sometimes just nodding along when I don't hear
         | something because I already asked a hundred times that day and
         | feel embarrassed about it. Not being talked to by others
         | because they feel like you don't understand them. It's a huge
         | disadvantage in terms of mental health and socializing.
         | Imagining having that condition as a kid breaks my heart.
        
           | sleepybrett wrote:
           | I was born with some hearing challenges, nothing too bad..
           | enough for the hearing test in elementary school to flag it
           | and to suggest I don't sit in the back of the class, but
           | thats about it. As i've aged I've noticed more issues.
           | Hearing in louder spaces can be challenging, etc. What I
           | would consider fairly normal age-based hearing loss, coupled
           | with a bit of a hearing issue from birth and probably
           | bolstered by a youth spent going to a lot of concerts and
           | clubs.
           | 
           | My father has hearing aids and has had them since he was
           | probably in his mid 60s, I'm just pushing 50....
           | 
           | ...but to my point, Apple recently released their 'kinda
           | hearing aid' tech (from what I can tell just a custom EQ and
           | passthrough for the mics in the airpods).. and man it's
           | fucking great. I'm probably not ready yet for 'real hearing
           | aids' and they are so fucking expensive to boot.. but having
           | this 'half measure' has been really useful for me.
        
         | ben_w wrote:
         | While I'd agree with your point for a hearing aid, as per the
         | article:
         | 
         | > While hearing aids are relatively speaking uncontroversial,
         | the internal portion of a cochlear implant requires surgery,
         | which of course entails risk
         | 
         | I don't know the scope of that risk. Might be fine, but the
         | point is you have to actually find out what it is before doing
         | it.
        
         | AuryGlenz wrote:
         | Tangential, but I'm just going to point out that severe autism
         | is absolutely debilitating. I think many people have only known
         | people with what used to be called Asperger's and don't realize
         | just how bad it can get.
         | 
         | My cousin with it needs to live in a group home. He's barely
         | verbal.
        
         | TylerE wrote:
         | As an autistic person with ADHD, I'm going to push back hard on
         | this. They see absolutely disabilities. Actions that a normal
         | person would think nothing of can leave me mentally drained for
         | hours.
        
         | lsy wrote:
         | > In reality, it's a pretty objective fact that being disabled
         | means being unable to do something.
         | 
         | This isn't an argument for or against the comment or the OP,
         | but this is not universally seen as objective, and there are
         | more ways to think about this than the medical model where
         | there are "normal" people and that disabilities are deviations
         | from what is "normal". Many disabled people and experts on
         | disability see it as socially constructed, because certain
         | conditions (e.g. being shorter than average), while limiting
         | your physical abilities, are not _disabilities_ because society
         | generally provides for those conditions and extends equal
         | access. If 50% of people were born Deaf, our society would
         | still function, but it would address Deafness with affordances
         | like the ones currently offered to short people.
         | 
         | To put it another way, despite e.g. being gay or short posing
         | various social or physical disadvantages, we shy away from
         | encouraging conversion therapy or height extension surgery by
         | default, instead opting for a more inclusive society. And human
         | beings are complex -- a person who has found culture and
         | meaning as a member of the Deaf community may disagree with you
         | that they are "objectively worse off" for not having hearing,
         | despite the obstacles.
         | 
         | This article I think does a good job of explaining the quandary
         | of a parent faced with a "fix" for a condition that is
         | challenging but through which people have developed identity
         | and culture. I am lucky to not currently have to take a stand
         | on the right choice here, but I think the complexity of the
         | issue deserves more respect than to be dismissed out of hand.
        
           | idopmstuff wrote:
           | > because certain conditions (e.g. being shorter than
           | average), while limiting your physical abilities, are not
           | disabilities because society generally provides for those
           | conditions and extends equal access
           | 
           | This doesn't make them not disabilities, it just makes them
           | disabilities with societal affordances. Even if we accept
           | what you're saying here, these people are still less able to
           | do things in the world, because much of the world doesn't
           | provide those affordance, so they're restricted to the places
           | that do.
           | 
           | Even in those places, there are still limits to the
           | affordances provided - even people have the idea that in the
           | US, employers can't discriminate against disabled people,
           | they absolutely can if the disability affects their ability
           | to do the job. Warehouse jobs routinely discriminate against
           | those who can't lift 50 pounds as a matter of policy.
           | 
           | > And human beings are complex -- a person who has found
           | culture and meaning as a member of the Deaf community may
           | disagree with you that they are "objectively worse off" for
           | not having hearing, despite the obstacles.
           | 
           | I hear the argument, and I don't necessarily disagree that
           | people find meaning from these kinds of communities.
           | Nonetheless, there's a difference in that a hearing person is
           | still able to find community (though obviously not the exact
           | same community) but can also hear, while a deaf person can
           | only do one of those two things.
           | 
           | When I was a kid in school, the phrase "differently abled"
           | was in vogue, and it always seemed sort of ridiculous. It's
           | not like you get other abilities for being deaf or having a
           | missing leg or being paralyzed - you just have fewer. The
           | only example I can think of where the phrase is really
           | appropriate is for people with autism, who often are better
           | than non-autistic people at some tasks as a result of their
           | autism.
        
           | James_K wrote:
           | > we shy away from encouraging conversion therapy or height
           | extension surgery by default
           | 
           | Because these things are dangerous and ineffective. You can
           | point to clear negative consequences that come from doing
           | them at a mass scale. Again, I go back to the idea of
           | "different, not worse". Being gay is not the absence of
           | straightness, and being short is not the absence of tallness.
           | But being deaf is the absence of hearing. You just get less.
           | 
           | > This article I think does a good job of explaining the
           | quandary of a parent faced with a "fix" for a condition that
           | is challenging but through which people have developed
           | identity and culture
           | 
           | You could say the same of cancer, but a fix would be very
           | appreciated. Anything that makes people's lives worse will
           | create a community, but I don't think this is an argument
           | against resolving that problem. What's contradictory about
           | this is that these people saying the solution is bad also
           | demand their problem be fixed. They just say that the fix
           | should be implemented at a global scale. Instead of a simple
           | implant that restores hearing, they want the entire world to
           | be made accessible to people without hearing. If this was
           | fully achieved, it would have the same effect as restoring
           | their hearing. There would be no struggle, there would be no
           | community. Being deaf would be just as unusual as being
           | short. Yet I've never heard opposition to making things more
           | accommodating to deaf people. Essentially, their issue isn't
           | with the problem being solved, but that this solution to the
           | problem is too effective.
           | 
           | > Many disabled people and experts on disability see it as
           | socially constructed
           | 
           | They are wrong. Even without society, the disability would
           | exist. The only social construct is the threshold for how
           | badly something needs to affect you before it is considered a
           | disability. While it's true that we can, through science,
           | reduce the degree to which a disability affects a person to
           | the point it falls below that threshold, this is just curing
           | disability. The fact that a disease can be cured doesn't make
           | it a social construct. The only real point to be had here is
           | that the word "disabled" is a social construct, but this is a
           | meaningless statement. All words are social constructs.
           | That's just how words work.
        
             | giraffe_lady wrote:
             | Are people who wear glasses disabled? They have an
             | impairment that can prevent them from full participation in
             | work, family, social life. But they also have an
             | _accessible_ accommodation that mitigates most of the
             | practical consequences of their impairment.
             | 
             | The _impairment_ doesn 't go away, but the extent to which
             | is it _disabling_ is a function of the individual 's
             | relationship to society. Two people with the same
             | impairment can have different degrees of disability based
             | on accommodation. We can both have bad vision but if I can
             | afford glasses and you can't, only one of us is disabled by
             | it.
             | 
             | This is the social model of disability, it's a well
             | established framework that has had immense practical value
             | in the medical treatment of a huge range of disability,
             | including adhd and hearing loss. It's so so shitty to
             | dismiss it as "they are wrong" when you clearly don't even
             | know the absolute basics of the history and practice of
             | this field.
        
           | UltraSane wrote:
           | Hearing people by definition can do something that deaf
           | people cannot: HEAR SOUND.
           | 
           | Being able to hear is basically a superpower if you are deaf.
        
         | markovs_gun wrote:
         | Yeah as someone with a disability (juvenile arthritis) I hate
         | this a lot. If I could take a pill and be cured of arthritis
         | forever I would do it, and I would hate my parents if they
         | decided to not give it to me because of some insane idea about
         | arthritis being my culture. The deaf community in particular is
         | really weird about this but I think it's pure delusion to think
         | that giving a kid a hearing aid if they need it is wrong in any
         | way.
        
         | crystal_revenge wrote:
         | > being deaf was actually the same as being able to hear.
         | 
         | That's not even _close_ to the argument being presented.
         | 
         | The fundamental crisis within the deaf community is around the
         | fact that deaf people _share a common language_. This is very
         | different than most other disabled communities. Language is
         | _fundamental_ to shared culture.
         | 
         | To be clear, I'm not saying that deaf children should not be
         | given cochlear implants, but the issue is _much_ more complex
         | than  "being deaf is the same as being able to hear." It's that
         | deaf people historically felt a sense of shared community and
         | culture. The ability to "fix" (a term many of them would not
         | agree with) deaf people leads to a challenging position where a
         | culture is slowly being destroyed.
         | 
         | It's much closer to the choice white American parents who adopt
         | Asian children have around what culture should those children
         | be exposed to and how much. Is it okay to raise an adopted
         | Chinese child _exactly_ the same a white American child? Should
         | the adopting family try to learn Mandarin? Teach the child them
         | about Lunar New Year? Make friends with other Chinese families
         | in the community? There 's no absolutely correct answer for any
         | of these questions, but they are issues families in these
         | situations must navigate.
         | 
         | I suspect your immediate response is that being Asian isn't a
         | disability, but I would point out the first point in my
         | comment: deafness, unlike other disabilities, _does_ have it 's
         | own distinct culture because of shared _language_ (not shared
         | disability).
        
           | jl6 wrote:
           | Cultures come and go, arising from circumstances that can
           | change. Does preservation of a living culture take priority
           | over the wellbeing of its members? Perhaps a culture is
           | something that can be decommissioned humanely.
        
             | jonathanlb wrote:
             | > Does preservation of a living culture take priority over
             | the wellbeing of its members? Perhaps a culture is
             | something that can be decommissioned humanely.
             | 
             | This is problematic. Who, but the members of a living
             | culture, can determine any of these questions? My
             | understanding is that most cultures are self-preserving,
             | until they aren't, usually through conquest or other
             | external forms of eradication.
        
               | throwawayk7h wrote:
               | When can the child be considered part of that culture
               | though? They may be deaf, but when do they become
               | capital-D Deaf as defined in the article? Is it while in
               | the womb, when they're born, when they gain the capacity
               | for signing and potentially speech, or when they are
               | first introduced to members of the Deaf community?
               | 
               | I don't see the problematic aspect of "curing" the
               | child's deafness before they become a member of the Deaf
               | community. It's not removing someone from the Deaf
               | community. Deontologically, it ought to be fine, surely?
               | (I'm looking at this deontologically, because from a
               | utilitarian perspective, we should be asking what is the
               | correct percentage of otherwise non-deaf children we
               | should surgically make Deaf.)
        
             | giraffe_lady wrote:
             | We need to decommission the culture of this website that
             | makes straightforward eugenics a popular position here.
        
               | h0l0cube wrote:
               | Utility monsters are definitely overrepresented here. But
               | it's just a consequence of intellectual discussion that
               | all ideas are entertained, no matter how perverse. But
               | that shouldn't be absent any reflection of how these
               | ideas would affect real peoples' lives. Especially in
               | tech circles where there can be a large potential to
               | affect many lives
        
             | h0l0cube wrote:
             | Species come and go. Should we be concerned about the
             | existential threat to species such as homo sapiens? Why
             | should we limit ourselves in the present day to protect our
             | biosphere? Everything is inescapably transient after all?
             | 
             | Nihilism is perfectly fine as a philosophical argument, but
             | few would support it in practice
        
           | throwawayk7h wrote:
           | If I understand correctly, what you're saying is that the
           | tradeoff is whether or not for the child to have the
           | disability but along with it the opportunity to gain a close-
           | knit and supportive community with a shared language.
           | 
           | (Although, given the child will continue to need a cochlear
           | implant or similar device, they'll still be disabled either
           | way, and nothing is stopping them from learning sign language
           | too.)
        
         | cassepipe wrote:
         | I would like to recommend this book on the issue :
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stigma:_Notes_on_the_Managemen...
         | 
         | It shows quite well the tension between normality and the need
         | for a community IIRC
        
       | zie wrote:
       | "Blindness separates people from things; deafness separates
       | people from people." -- Helen Keller
        
       | ibejoeb wrote:
       | Anyone here with SSHL have experience with CI? I've heard mixed
       | things due to the rather different sound experience vs natural
       | hearing.
        
         | observationist wrote:
         | I don't have personal experience with CI, but have researched
         | it extensively as a potential fix for my hearing loss. From
         | what I understand, the number of electrodes or links to neural
         | tissue is the limiting factor. With something like NeuraLink
         | with 1024 electrodes, the resolution of the sound signal can be
         | much higher. For something like early cochlear implants, with 8
         | or 12 channels, the signal is going to be very digitized and
         | artificial sounding; you have to heavily optimize for a
         | particular type or modality of sound, and that's usually
         | speech. That means all sorts of nuance things like music and
         | voices get lost in compression, or filtered out entirely.
         | 
         | Cochlear implants are essentially BCI implants, taking the
         | place of the cochlea in signaling via neural tissue.
         | 
         | To completely replicate natural sound, you'd likely need
         | somewhere between 15,000 to 30,000 electrodes. It's not linear,
         | however, and 8-12 electrodes might get you to sound that is
         | about 25% of normal, and 1024 will get you to 85-90% normal.
         | Full fidelity of sound, or even better, will be possible once
         | we get implants working with many tens of thousands of
         | electrodes. People will have senses that far exceed biological
         | human limitations.
         | 
         | One neat thing with all of this is that due to plasticity, any
         | connections on the neocortex can be trained to behave as if
         | they're wired to any sensory organ; there aren't any hard
         | limits on where an implant has to be connected. If you had an
         | implant with 50k electrodes, half of them could be dedicated to
         | sound, and the other half to sci-fi level possibilities like
         | BCI mouse and keyboard control, simple virtual displays through
         | modified sight, secondary audio channels, North sense, radar,
         | electromagnetic signals, or immersion tweaks that modulate
         | proprioceptive signaling.
         | 
         | 1-500k would allow for convincing replication of normal sight,
         | with the obvious advantage that with everything being digital,
         | you'd be able to process your vision in software (Please watch
         | this ad before waking! Skip in 10...).
         | 
         | With a million electrodes, you could get into convincing
         | totally immersive full sensory simulation. There would be some
         | resolution issues, initially, but we're some materials science,
         | software design, and engineering problems away from full Matrix
         | style simulations. 1 sq cm of neocortex is all you'd need for
         | access to 1 million neurons - things are pretty densely packed,
         | and all the neurons we need to access live on the outer surface
         | of the brain.
         | 
         | Things are gonna start improving and the rate will accelerate,
         | so hopefully we start seeing radical doublings of cochlear
         | implant and other BCI capabilities in the near future.
         | 
         | TLDR; as much of normal hearing as possible is compressed down
         | to around 100hz over 8-12 electrodes in a cochlear implant.
         | This results in significant quality degradation compared to
         | normal hearing, but it can be a huge boon to someone who is
         | totally or profoundly deaf. Implant technology is experiencing
         | a boom, and we're going to see a period of Moore's law like
         | scaling of electrodes until implants reach parity with the rest
         | of our computing technology.
        
           | ibejoeb wrote:
           | Really informative stuff, thanks!
           | 
           | Yeah, what I've heard is that a lot of people do it, don't
           | like it because it's really not the same as before, so they
           | wind up going through the whole process only to abandon it.
           | 
           | Fascinating stuff about implant tech though.
        
         | cromulent wrote:
         | No experience with CI, however:
         | 
         | SI has SSHL left side from infection. Dealt with it for 20
         | years, then an impact basal fracture degraded the right side.
         | 
         | Started with Apple Airpods Pro as aids. Now using Oticon CROS
         | and Own. CROS works OK, Own works OK, but both are compromises,
         | and have the overhead of using aids. Both have a different
         | sound experience.
         | 
         | CI seems like another compromise. I am guessing stem cell is
         | the golden ring - growing back the nerves.
        
       | arjie wrote:
       | My wife and I faced a similar situation and found it a simple
       | decision. We both carry GJB-2 gene mutations that will likely
       | result in profound non-syndromic hearing loss. We went through
       | Orchid Health to get a whole genome sequence of our prospective
       | embryos and then selected one that was not affected by the
       | condition.
       | 
       | We have 1 more carrier girl and 2 more unaffected girls to work
       | with, and if we want boys later in life we will probably wait for
       | Decibel Therapeutics / Regeneron to finish their GJB-2 gene
       | therapy before we have that child. If there are constraints then
       | we will have a cochlear implant or simply not implant that
       | embryo.
       | 
       | It was obvious to us how it should play out. My wife and I have
       | an obligation to maximize the cone of possibility for our
       | children and a duty to equip them best to experience the world so
       | that they can choose the path through it that they wish.
       | 
       | Just like I would not pierce the eardrums of my child after she
       | is born, I shall not intentionally choose an embryo that carries
       | a debilitating condition that I cannot remedy or mitigate if I
       | can choose otherwise. I don't think this is a dilemma in any way.
       | There is an obvious choice for us. We will not deny her normative
       | sense organs. My parents got me glasses and contact lenses. My
       | life would have been much less vibrant if they had chosen to not
       | provide me those prosthetics.
       | 
       | Some parents are not so fortunate as us to have this choice. I
       | hope modern therapeutics will enable all children and adults to
       | have the full range of sensors that most humans carry.
        
         | sssilver wrote:
         | How much money do things like this end up costing?
        
           | UltraSane wrote:
           | Must be nice to be rich.
        
             | nuancebydefault wrote:
             | The bringing up part of having children is much more
             | expensive than that.
        
           | zonkerdonker wrote:
           | In the US, a full round of IVF plus transfer will be around
           | 20k on the low end, up to maybe 40k on the high end,
           | including all medication required if paid for fully out of
           | pocket. Genome sequencing costs a few k per embryo.
        
         | janeerie wrote:
         | We have the same mutation and have a deaf son (we had no idea
         | we were carriers until after he was born and failed the hearing
         | screening). I've often wondered if we had decided to have
         | another child if I would have done IVF and selected a hearing
         | child. And I don't think I could do it. It's not rational at
         | all, but it would feel like a rejection of my son (who is doing
         | amazing with his cochlear implant).
        
         | seanw444 wrote:
         | > We went through Orchid Health to get a whole genome sequence
         | of our prospective embryos and then selected one that was not
         | affected by the condition.
         | 
         | It's pretty nuts to me that we're at this point now. Eugenics
         | is about to become mainstream.
        
       | Animats wrote:
       | "Botticellian baby"[1] "Many perfections". "I had a stubborn
       | sense that her deafness was not a pit she had fallen into, but
       | just one of many extraordinary discoveries about her that I was
       | making every day." This is coming across as denial.
       | 
       | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Botticelli_04_Louvre.jpg
        
       | lemursage wrote:
       | I'm "almost" a lifelong user of a cochlear implant. I got my
       | first one when I was 9. Before I got it, I was communicating
       | through lip reading and speaking, I never knew sign language. Lip
       | reading I still use relatively often -- when I'm at a crowded
       | restaurant, or at an unbearably noisy party, and there's many
       | interlocutors at the table, I persistently stare at their lips.
       | They take me for a great listener, when in fact, I can't hear
       | shit, and I'm desperately switching back and forth between
       | people's mouths to catch what they're saying. I'm out of shape
       | and this takes so much of my brain power to understand people
       | that I often cannot contribute my thoughts.
       | 
       | Though my cochlear isn't perfect, I would never think of not
       | getting it. In fact, I'd probably be rather angry at my parents
       | for not helping me get one as soon as it was possible. During my
       | childhood and up until late college, I've only ever met one
       | person who was so severely hard of hearing and was about my age,
       | and that was where I have been getting my speech lessons before I
       | got my first cochlear implant.
        
       | snakeyjake wrote:
       | Three years ago I paid $47k for my deaf nephew to get implants
       | because his fully-insured deaf parents wouldn't pay for them. Not
       | $47k just the out of pocket ($2k-3k-ish). I paid $47k and I got a
       | deal because it was cash.
       | 
       | They wanted him to live in and embrace the "deaf world".
       | 
       | He wanted to live in the actual real world.
       | 
       | They ended up nearly irreparably fucking up his life and denying
       | him the only thing that he wanted so when he turned 18 instead of
       | buying a new car I bought a surgery because crying children piss
       | me off.
       | 
       | There is no deaf world.
       | 
       | There is only the world.
       | 
       | This entire debate is insane.
       | 
       | Nobody is going around telling pediatric biliary atresia patients
       | to not get a liver transplant because of "not having a
       | functioning liver" culture. There are an infinite multitude of
       | analogous situations where an "x" culture or "x" world would be
       | considered direct evidence of mental illness or cult behavior but
       | due to the inertia of history here we are.
       | 
       | edit: Maybe I should have not gotten a spinal fusion because of
       | the rich tapestry and long history of "living in constant
       | excruciating pain due to degenerative disc disease" culture?
        
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