[HN Gopher] Is it better to fail spectacularly?
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       Is it better to fail spectacularly?
        
       Author : hasheddan
       Score  : 97 points
       Date   : 2024-10-21 12:37 UTC (10 hours ago)
        
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       | BubbleRings wrote:
       | Ha, "burn the ships", I love it. Congrats, great blog and amazing
       | running!
       | 
       | I'm facing a huge moment soon where I will see whether I have
       | made a big mistake that will result in the biggest fail of my
       | life. But I'm still optimistic that it will be the biggest win of
       | my life. My ships are burned!
        
         | hasheddan wrote:
         | I appreciate the kind words! Best of luck on your leap of faith
         | -- it takes courage to attempt it in the first place!
        
         | marmaduke wrote:
         | Was your path towards the decision point a sudden one or a slow
         | burn?
        
       | wsintra2022 wrote:
       | In the upcoming preview for Slow Horses new season. "At least my
       | lot fail spectacularly, your lot just fuck up" - Jackson Lamb
        
         | gcanyon wrote:
         | Shout out for Slow Horses, one of the best shows on TV.
         | "So you're in charge of the rejects."         "They don't like
         | being called that."            "What do you call them?"
         | "The rejects." -- Jackson Lamb
        
       | croes wrote:
       | Better than what?
        
         | mistrial9 wrote:
         | survival is overrated
        
         | andai wrote:
         | Succeeding boringly?
        
       | TomMasz wrote:
       | At a company I once worked for failure was anything but a barrier
       | to getting offered newer, bigger opportunities. Those who did
       | well often get stuck in the same place without further
       | advancement.
        
         | blitzar wrote:
         | Ahh failing upwards - seeing this concept up close and so often
         | early in my career really messed with my head.
        
           | xedrac wrote:
           | I have come to expect it in politics, but I was surprised to
           | see it in engineering.
        
             | adityamwagh wrote:
             | Can you share some examples?
        
               | snovv_crash wrote:
               | IC has terrible technical skills --> make them a manager
               | so they stop screwing up the codebase.
               | 
               | Project is behind schedule because of mismanagement -->
               | give them a bigger team because that's what they claim
               | they need to get back on track.
        
               | givemeethekeys wrote:
               | Then they move on to the next sucker, I mean, company
               | claiming they were in charge of a huge team, so they
               | deserve a bigger raise.
               | 
               | Team size (the number of people under you) is a big
               | determiner of compensation.
        
             | netdevnet wrote:
             | Engineering has humans in it. Same as politics. All with
             | human brains using the same architecture full of biases.
             | It's not very surprising to be honest
        
             | blitzar wrote:
             | "We have to get them off the shop floor, they get
             | everything wrong, break things and are costing us millions
             | - lets promote them to management."
        
               | dbcurtis wrote:
               | Ha ha, yes, that does happen. Usually with poor results.
               | But... I have seen the opposite case, a person who had
               | great organizational and people skills, and bench skills
               | that were an utter disaster -- but was self-aware enough
               | to realize they needed to be more "hands-off". It turns
               | out that they were self-aware enough to appreciate those
               | bench skills in other people, and good at doing the other
               | things needed to keep a shop productive. I admit, though,
               | this is not guaranteed to happen.
        
             | TomMasz wrote:
             | It's often a case of becoming (or believed to be) so
             | essential to a product that moving them is considered to be
             | dangerous. It really feels like being _just_ competent
             | enough is your best bet for career growth.
        
               | LtWorf wrote:
               | I've observed that also being completely incompetent
               | doesn't hurt. But you must continuously demo your
               | completely trivial achievements (or demo someone else's
               | achievements before they are ready and can do it
               | themselves).
        
         | theturtletalks wrote:
         | Now that's one way to counteract the Peter Principle!
        
       | jeffreportmill1 wrote:
       | That may be the wrong question, though that might help avoid the
       | sunk cost fallacy ("It's better to burn out, than fade away!").
       | On the other hand, sticking with things has its benefits, with an
       | eye towards a pivot. The right question may have more to do with
       | speed than scale. Best to try and find partners in your endeavor.
       | Then you can succeed or fail twice as fast, and try more things.
       | And have more fun along the way.
        
       | ramenlover wrote:
       | Amazing story the climax to me felt like the moment just before
       | ...Go! in the cages. Congrats!
        
       | 6510 wrote:
       | My best advice is to not listen to anyone, you know damn well
       | what you should do.
       | 
       | But since you've gone there... Marathoning... okay... stop
       | looking at the ground in front of you and look at the horizon.
       | This marathon is unimportant, the goal is much further away,
       | think of the next race and the one after that. Where do you plan
       | to go with this?
        
         | butlike wrote:
         | "Oh that's a cool bird in that tree. Dang, they have an odd
         | gait. Would my shoes have been 20% off at that other place? Oh
         | I forgot to get shampoo at the store today."
         | 
         | "Oh wow, the race is done. Fancy that"
        
           | king-wavy wrote:
           | This guy marathons.
        
           | 6510 wrote:
           | I hate it when I get caught up in earthly matters.
        
       | jbreckmckye wrote:
       | So that's what it takes to run a sub 3hr marathon... Basically
       | eight 20 minute 5Ks, back to back!
        
         | have_faith wrote:
         | Cool, now I just need to run one 20 minute 5k and I'll be on
         | track!
        
         | n4r9 wrote:
         | A British Olympian recently performed this feat despite having
         | a stress fracture in her hip:
         | https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0kj07d5gmzo
         | 
         | Some people seem to be built differently!
        
       | butlike wrote:
       | > As I sit just under two weeks out from the race, I can't help
       | but think I haven't done enough. I didn't make enough sacrifices,
       | I wasn't disciplined enough in my training plan, I -- the list
       | goes on.
       | 
       | Why do you have to sacrifice anything? The greats are great
       | because they enjoy the activity and would probably be doing it if
       | no one was around or cared that they were. Do it for the fun, not
       | the glory
        
         | 0xFF0123 wrote:
         | While I agree with the sentiment, I doubt any of the greats
         | would say their achievements hadn't required _some_ sacrifices
        
           | IggleSniggle wrote:
           | It really depends whether or not by "sacrifice" someone is
           | just saying "opportunity costs." There are trade offs in all
           | actions/inactions.
        
             | wholinator2 wrote:
             | Well i mean if your natural talents and interest are enough
             | to get you to, say 5th place on some stage how likely are
             | you really to just give up at that and not push to place
             | higher, what if you got second and knew you'd have a chance
             | again next year. I bet sacrifice could describe a lot of
             | the consequences of attempting to place higher.
             | 
             | Also, isn't literally every sacrifice just an opportunity
             | cost? That kinda what makes it a sacrifice. Sacrifice your
             | first born and give up the extra productivity possible.
             | Sacrifice a lucrative but over taxing job and lose out on
             | the money. Sacrifice a meal for someone and you go hungry.
             | Sacrifice is always about the opportunity cost of the thing
             | you're sacrificing. If it doesn't hurt, if it doesn't cost
             | you something, it's not a sacrifice.
        
               | treflop wrote:
               | You can't go back on some sacrifices.
               | 
               | e.g. if you overtrain or don't wait long enough after an
               | injury, you may permanently damage something forever.
               | Speaking from personal experience and knowing a lot of
               | people who have done the same. There's also some
               | documentaries about athletes doing it and losing it all.
               | Go the extra mile but don't look back and have regret
               | about that one time.
        
             | RobRivera wrote:
             | Synonyms really. Sacrifices just have a more explicit call
             | out that the opportunity cost is something important
        
               | IggleSniggle wrote:
               | Yes, exactly!
               | 
               | And since "important" is relative to the person making
               | the sacrifice, it's easy for a person to declare
               | something a sacrifice when what they were giving up was
               | not especially important to them, or on the other hand
               | for someone to dismiss a "real sacrifice" that someone
               | else has made as unimportant.
               | 
               | Not that this matters, really. But I think it's important
               | not to use them synonymously. In the case of an
               | opportunity cost, you are acknowledging that there were
               | things given up. In the case of a sacrifice, you are
               | saying there were things given up _and it hurt_.
        
               | jacobr1 wrote:
               | denotation and connotation. They have the same literal
               | meaning (denotation) but certainly not the same
               | implication and tone (connotation). Choosing to eat a
               | turkey sandwich vs roast beef is an opportunity cost. I'm
               | forgoing the roast beef. But it isn't really a sacrifice.
               | I could say that it, and it would be true in some sense
               | (denotation) but it would be very hyperbolic of me.
        
           | legacynl wrote:
           | But that is just confirmation bias. You cannot infer valid
           | conclusions by just looking at the success stories. By that
           | same logic you can conclude that eating food leads to
           | becoming one of the greats, because they all ate food.
           | 
           | Fact is that most failures and sacrifices don't lead to great
           | success. But of course most of them don't result in some
           | humble-brag grind-set blog post either.
           | 
           | So those sacrifices and failures are under-represented, and
           | this leads to people who are not well versed in statistics,
           | to conclude that therefore sacrifices and failures are
           | somehow a necessary step in the way to success.
           | 
           | But that's false. There are loads of people with good ideas
           | and talent who have made plenty of sacrifices but still have
           | never seen success, and there are loads of people who gain
           | success without any meaningful sacrifice at all.
           | 
           | Another point is that I don't think those sacrifices were
           | difficult decisions for those 'greats'. Because another
           | overlooked difference between people is an inherent ability
           | to relentlessly pursue a singular goal. So even though they
           | might have felt bad about giving up on something at the time,
           | they did so because it was standing in the way of what they
           | truly wanted.
           | 
           | I this way, could you really say they have sacrificed
           | anything at all? If you really care about productivity and
           | don't care so much about comfort, is it really a sacrifice to
           | spend the night at the office?
           | 
           | It's the people who don't really care about all that who have
           | to make the hardest sacrifices, in which case maybe better
           | advice is to tell them to not make the sacrifice.
           | 
           | Just living your life without wanting to attain status is a
           | perfectly valid go to try to achieve.
        
             | munificent wrote:
             | I think you have your statistical inference backwards.
             | 
             |  _> By that same logic you can conclude that eating food
             | leads to becoming one of the greats, because they all ate
             | food._
             | 
             | No your logic is wrong. The data you have is that "All
             | people who are successful eat food." That _does not_ imply
             | that  "If you eat food, you will be successful."
             | 
             | But it _does_ imply  "If you do not eat food, you will not
             | be successful." And that's certainly a true fact. Starving
             | to death and being dead is not a viable path to success, or
             | at least not any kind of success you will be around to
             | experience.
             | 
             | If you see that all people in category X have a certain
             | property Y, that's good data that you'll need to have Y
             | before you can be an X. But it does not imply that having Y
             | _will_ make you an X. It 's a necessary but not sufficient
             | condition.
             | 
             | To the original point, it seems that nearly all successful
             | people have to make some difficult sacrifices to get there.
             | So, yes, you probably will also have to make difficult
             | sacrifices to be successful. But even so, that's no
             | _guarantee_ of success. It 's just that _not_ making any
             | sacrifices is a guarantee of _not_ being successful.
             | 
             | I'm ignoring, of course, that "success" is highly
             | subjective and individually determined. But certainly when
             | it comes to marathon runners, you won't find any successful
             | ones that didn't have to make real sacrifices to get there.
             | Long distance running is hard.
        
         | Swizec wrote:
         | > The greats are great because they enjoy the activity and
         | would probably be doing it if no one was around or cared that
         | they were. Do it for the fun, not the glory
         | 
         | Dude is aiming for a 3h marathon so he's already there purely
         | for fun. The greats are pulling 2:01 marathons these days.
         | 
         | And while Phelps was certainly a great, I doubt he would've
         | spent 6 hours per day training like a maniac if he was just
         | swimming for fun. That's a lot of hard work.
        
         | asdfman123 wrote:
         | > The greats are great because they enjoy the activity and
         | would probably be doing it if no one was around or cared that
         | they were
         | 
         | That's not true. Enjoyment of the game got them there, but
         | succeeding at anything often requires long periods of bleeding
         | for it every day. Amateurs wait for inspiration, professionals
         | show up to the studio and work.
         | 
         | Furthermore, with running suffering is an inescapable part of
         | it. On some days, it hurts bad, but on other days it hurts
         | really good. It's a blissful spiritual form of suffering but to
         | get it you have to grind through the bad parts.
        
         | ErikAugust wrote:
         | "I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit.
         | Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion." -
         | Muhammad Ali
        
         | pessimizer wrote:
         | This sounds like "they're successful because it's easy for
         | them."
        
         | nonameiguess wrote:
         | It's amusing how much discussion this provoked. Does anyone
         | here actually run? There is plenty you have to decide whether
         | to sacrifice or not and consequences of that. He's talking
         | about a margin of 34 seconds over the course of nearly 3 hours.
         | 
         | I enjoy the fuck out of running and don't even compete, but
         | it's still something you think about all the time. What
         | sacrifices do I make and which do I not? I'll give you
         | examples. I wake up between 3 to 4 AM every morning to run. I
         | enjoy it. I'm a natural morning person. This isn't some CEO
         | grindset. But it entails not being to do other things that
         | involve staying up late or going out. That's fine for where I
         | am in my life right now. I doubt I'd have done it in my early
         | 20s when I had more of a night-oriented social life.
         | 
         | I prepare all my own food and weigh and measure everything I
         | eat. I also weigh myself each morning. This allows me to enter
         | everything into a logging app that estimates TDEE and gives you
         | a target. I can't say for sure this is absolutely necessary,
         | but I don't do it universally 100% of the time, and when I'm
         | home I tend to gradually lose a bit of weight because I'm not
         | eating enough. When I'm traveling and eating out, I tend to
         | gradually gain a bit of weight. So it seems that sticking to
         | the strict tracking as often as I can is the best way to go. I
         | enjoy this as well. I have no problem with it. But it means I
         | don't eat out much and prepare everything from raw ingredients
         | so the estimates are actually accurate. That sacrifices
         | convenience.
         | 
         | There are other sports I enjoy. I lift weight. I rock climb. I
         | surf and skateboard. Every minute spent training to run is a
         | minute I could spent training for another sport. In the lifting
         | case, at a high enough volume aerobic training and trying to
         | gain muscle pretty directly conflict with each other. It's not
         | realistic to expect any particularly high volume of leg work in
         | particular. I'm sacrificing squat performance for sure to be
         | better at running.
         | 
         | What am I not sacrificing? Well, I still travel. I still go off
         | script for a few weeks here and there. I don't try to stick to
         | either a diet plan or a training plan when on vacation. I still
         | run and eat reasonably good foods, but I have no doubt I'd
         | perform better if I never let up at all. To me, this isn't
         | worth it. But if I cared badly about qualifying for a world
         | major and was 34 seconds off, maybe I would.
         | 
         | Nobody is saying you need to sacrifice joy or fun. But you have
         | finite hours in the day and your body has a finite capacity for
         | recovery and training adaptation. Every bit of effort you
         | devote to running is a bit that could have been something else.
        
         | rozap wrote:
         | Erm, you have to practice, prepare, whatever in order to do
         | anything apart from sitting on the couch. I participate in
         | motor racing, which is about as type 1 fun as it gets.
         | Seriously, racing other people at the limit of your ability for
         | a whole weekend is about as fun as it gets. But goddamn is
         | there a lot of preparation that goes into building the car,
         | wrangling the team, etc, etc. Yea, I like building the car, but
         | I'd be lying if I said I was absolutely stoked about rebuilding
         | two engines that we blew up in the last race. And all this
         | stuff takes time, and that time has to come from somewhere,
         | which is a sacrifice.
        
       | 23B1 wrote:
       | Yes and besides its rude to keep adventure waiting.
        
       | bee_rider wrote:
       | I've noticed that I take much bigger "risks" on really
       | meaningless projects, and get more interesting outcomes as a
       | result. That's my gut take here as well, I guess he did a
       | slightly riskier marathon strategy, but in the end nobody cares
       | about his time other than himself, and even there, there isn't
       | any downside to missing it other than that he might feel slightly
       | bad about his performance.
       | 
       | But, I also can't help but wonder if the world would be a better
       | place if we did all our projects like hobby side projects, rolled
       | the dice, and failed spectacularly where it matters. But, what to
       | do about self driving cars?
        
         | jacobr1 wrote:
         | It is all about variance. Higher variance activities have both
         | more potential upside and more potential downside. Risk
         | management is all about figuring out how to improve average
         | upside. In investment, that probably means placing a variety of
         | bets. In one's personal life, nearly everyone I know has a
         | story about how they benefited from being talked into trying
         | something they wouldn't have otherwise presumed interest in. Be
         | that a hobby, a blind date, a job, going to talk/meetup. Even
         | just listening to a song/album.
        
       | youoy wrote:
       | Run to fail, run for success, run to waste time, run for fun. I
       | don't care.
       | 
       | You can live every experience while running, that's the beauty of
       | it.
        
       | legacynl wrote:
       | Yes, it's better to fail spectacularly, like in the case of Lane-
       | merging on the highway, parenting your children, or when cooking
       | for an allergic friend.
       | 
       | /s
        
       | TheRealPomax wrote:
       | What would be a spectacular way to fail a marathon, though?
       | Because you can aim to win, but pretty much all versions of "not
       | winning" are just... not winning? That's not particularly
       | spectacular.
       | 
       | Maybe accidentally forgetting you're in a marathon and
       | bootstrapping a billion dollar startup sometime between starting
       | and forgetting to finish?
        
         | ChrisGammell wrote:
         | Spontaneous combustion, for sure
        
         | legacynl wrote:
         | There is no way to spectacularly fail a marathon. Hell even if
         | you didn't finish in the alloted time you still did something
         | healthy.
         | 
         | The author is just trying to inflate his personal goal, to
         | achieve some self set time, big enough so he can turn it into a
         | self serving post that he can post to HN.
         | 
         | I don't really blame the author to be fair, nowadays this is
         | kinda the thing people do, but I do get tired of the constant
         | hyperbole.
        
         | travisjungroth wrote:
         | It's spectacularly failing at his goal of under 3 hours. It's
         | not an objective, absolute measure. It's a subjective, relative
         | one. I'm guessing he'd consider finishing with a time of 3:15 a
         | spectacular failure.
        
         | julianeon wrote:
         | There is a disconnect between what most people imagine
         | spectacular failure to be (probably something publicly
         | humiliating and/or financially ruinous) and this, where even a
         | spectacular failure when running a marathon wouldn't be noticed
         | unless you told other people about it.
        
           | TheRealPomax wrote:
           | Spectacular failing doesn't need to be humiliating or
           | ruinous, but it _does_ need to be a spectacle. An incredibly
           | obvious, public showing of failure that needs no additional
           | explanation for people to recognize it as such. Even if the
           | additional explanation makes it even better.
           | 
           | This is just "failing a personal goal", sans spectacle.
        
       | pazimzadeh wrote:
       | > My pre-race fueling strategy of not increasing the total
       | intake, but trying to eliminate everything but carbs seemed to
       | pay off. I felt like I had plenty of energy, and my stomach felt
       | good the entire race, which is extremely rare for me
       | 
       | But maybe eating just carbs led to low minerals, hence the
       | cramping? You could try to bank by eating oysters and a potassium
       | supplement two days before?
        
         | hasheddan wrote:
         | Good suggestion. I think that my pre-race fueling strategy was
         | better than previous races, but certainly lots of room for
         | further improvement!
        
       | ebiester wrote:
       | It all comes down to the consequences of failure.
       | 
       | If failure means homelessness, avoid failure.
       | 
       | If failure means you lose your one chance in your life of
       | completing a marathon, be conservative.
       | 
       | If the difference between failing and succeeding is minimal in
       | your life, burn the bridges! This was not his first marathon, and
       | even if he bonked, he'd likely still be able to finish it, albeit
       | slowly.
        
         | wing-_-nuts wrote:
         | The question of consequences is real. I graduated in 2008 at
         | the beginning of the great recession, and I watched some of my
         | classmates go off and do startups. I asked them 'Dude, what if
         | you fail?!' and one of them just shrugged his shoulders and
         | said he'd move back home with his parents, and get a job at his
         | dad's company. No big deal.
         | 
         | That's when I realized it was much easier to take those risks
         | when you _knew_ you had a safety net to fall back on and you
         | didn 't have to worry about winding up homeless sleeping under
         | an overpass.
        
           | rqtwteye wrote:
           | I did some real estate deals with guys from wealthy families
           | a long time ago. We failed but the difference in consequences
           | was enormous. I lost my savings of 10 years and struggled
           | getting out of the situation. The other guys got bailed out
           | by dad, did more deals and are now very successful business
           | people.
        
             | jbs789 wrote:
             | Sorry to hear. For the benefit of others, I read this as
             | the importance of sizing the bet relative to your portfolio
             | and nobody else's, and is broadly applicable.
             | 
             | If someone bets a million bucks on stock A, but is worth a
             | billion bucks, then that's not $1m conviction, it's <1%
             | conviction. And that information is then factored into the
             | size of my bet.
             | 
             | Unfortunately I also learned this the hard way.
        
               | wadadadad wrote:
               | I really like the word conviction here for this concept
               | and this use is new to me; has this been used before? A
               | casual search for me doesn't term up anything.
        
               | jbs789 wrote:
               | I really appreciate this comment! (I think that word just
               | popped into my head given some professional experience
               | recently rather than being sourced from the field.)
        
               | tracerbulletx wrote:
               | 41 Jesus sat down opposite the place where the offerings
               | were put and watched the crowd putting their money into
               | the temple treasury. Many rich people threw in large
               | amounts. 42 But a poor widow came and put in two very
               | small copper coins, worth only a few cents.
               | 
               | 43 Calling his disciples to him, Jesus said, "Truly I
               | tell you, this poor widow has put more into the treasury
               | than all the others. 44 They all gave out of their
               | wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything--
               | all she had to live on."
        
               | rqtwteye wrote:
               | Problem is that your bets have to be of a certain size to
               | make a difference. Making 100% on $100 is not doing much
               | good for you. So the guy with less money has to take much
               | higher relative risks if he wants to get somewhere.
        
           | packetlost wrote:
           | Family is easier, but you can also build up a support network
           | with close friendships too. It doesn't necessarily come for
           | free, but it's certainly possible. That isn't to say it's
           | equal, especially when it comes to money.
        
         | LtWorf wrote:
         | I think failure at a marathon can involve death.
        
           | LtWorf wrote:
           | I love the downvotes... when the very story of the marathon
           | is that the 1st person to do it died right after :D
        
         | jumping_frog wrote:
         | Yet many people attempt K2 summit knowing the probabilities of
         | death. Homelessness pales in comparison to death.
         | 
         | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jw8GHgyiqw
        
           | ndileas wrote:
           | I wouldn't state that unequivocally. I think for many people,
           | homelessness (really, the pain, shame, and indignity
           | associated with it) is worse than a "glorious" or meaningful
           | death. Certainly, many people's actions show this to be true,
           | if you believe to the idea of revealed preferences.
        
           | delusional wrote:
           | Certainly objectively, but I think we have an odd misjudgment
           | when it comes to death. Surely nothing I get out of skiing is
           | worth the increased risk of death it also imposes. Yet I do
           | it anyway, without any hesitation.
        
             | ghaff wrote:
             | Unless you do fairly extreme stuff I suspect the risk is
             | more about driving to ski areas in winter on a regular
             | basis
        
             | jacobr1 wrote:
             | While we can compare tail-risks (some lower probability
             | risks and many orders of magnitude more likely than others)
             | I think most people, intuitively, use something like a 1 in
             | a 100 risk of a death (over a lifetime) or 1 in 10,000
             | acute chance. Anything over the floor is fair game, and the
             | specifics are more around what is culturally acceptable.
             | For comparison the lifetime risk from driving is something
             | like 1 in 100, and from skiing (1 in 2000) making some
             | assumption of average participation in both.
        
             | jumping_frog wrote:
             | Compare that to society's extreme definition of safety.
             | Vehicles will be allowed on road only if it results in less
             | than 100 deaths per year. Yet, we as a soceity has decided
             | that certain risks are worth taking compared to the
             | benefit.
             | 
             | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bb7Fi8I-qOk
        
         | chrsig wrote:
         | yeah, getting people to think through consequences is like
         | pulling teeth.
        
         | Aurornis wrote:
         | > If the difference between failing and succeeding is minimal
         | in your life, burn the bridges!
         | 
         | The author's analogy was about burning ships, not bridges, but
         | your quote about burning bridges reminds me of related scenario
         | I'm seeing more frequently among young people I've mentored:
         | The idea that burning bridges is not a big deal because there
         | are always more opportunities.
         | 
         | I'm in a big Slack where people come to ask for advice on tech
         | careers. An alarming number of questions in recent years are
         | from people who want to leave their jobs with a bang: Quitting
         | without notice, intentionally making things difficult for their
         | successor, unloading their grievances with specific people as
         | they leave, posting big angry messages on the company Slack on
         | their last day, and other ill-advised ideas.
         | 
         | They're always disappointed when the Slack unanimously tells
         | them it's a bad idea to intentionally burn bridges like that. I
         | guess it's not until later in your career that you realize the
         | value of being able to call on old managers and coworkers for
         | referrals or job opportunities. They see leaving a job as the
         | last time they'll ever see any of those people. We have to
         | remind them every time that networking is important and
         | therefore they don't want to leave a lasting negative
         | impression on a place where they spent years building a
         | reputation. Just do your two weeks notice and quietly exit.
         | 
         | Tangential, but it comes up enough in these scenarios about
         | taking on new risks that I thought I'd mention it.
        
           | ebiester wrote:
           | You're right, though in this case I was just typing quickly
           | and didn't double check the analogy after reading the post.
           | :)
           | 
           | I have found that a bad network is often worse than no
           | network in that the type of people that work in a way you
           | hate will lead you to jobs that are not right for you. Going
           | back to the point above, this all depends on your risk
           | capacity. I speak that as someone with a high risk capacity.
           | For someone who has not built up reserves, that is terrible
           | advice.
        
         | baxtr wrote:
         | But if the difference is minimal, does it really qualify as
         | failure?
        
         | tetha wrote:
         | This is pretty much the framework I teach admins at work:
         | 
         | - What impact does the change have?
         | 
         | - How do you get out of that change, and how long does that
         | take?
         | 
         | - And what is your confidence into the change, and the bail-out
         | plan?
         | 
         | And honestly, if you have a high-confidence, fast bailout plan,
         | you can be downright brazen/#yolo about changes. We've recently
         | had to update a central and critical IDP, but we eventually
         | realized: We have the old docker images, and it has a 200MB
         | sized DB. We can dump + restore that in 2 minutes. So if the
         | upgrade goes wrong, we have high confidence to rollback in like
         | 5 minutes. At such a point.. why not just go with it?
         | 
         | Similar things are developing with Postgres upgrades. Setup 1
         | leader + 3 replicas, upgrade 2 replicas, failover, see how much
         | explodes and at worst, fall back. If we can test beforehand,
         | alright.
         | 
         | Other teams plan complicated upgrades requiring coordinated
         | actions of 6 other teams. And like 3 know how to possibly take
         | back that change? And like 4 know what to actually do? Ugh,
         | this ended up in a fun weekend.
        
       | rqtwteye wrote:
       | I think people are using the word "fail" a little too much. Not
       | getting your marathon time may hurt your ego a little but
       | ultimately it's not a big deal. I would use the word "fail" for
       | things that have real consequences.
        
         | eddd-ddde wrote:
         | "Fail" is by definition to be unsuccessful on one's goal.
         | 
         | It can literally mean my cake burned in the oven or my company
         | loses millions of dollars.
         | 
         | Consequences are irrelevant.
        
         | TacticalCoder wrote:
         | > I think people are using the word "fail" a little too much.
         | 
         | The issue is when it's combined with "spectacularly".
         | 
         | As in: _" I spectacularly failed at boiling my eggs. I let them
         | boil for 7 minutes instead of 6 minutes 30. What a spectacular
         | fail"_.
         | 
         | But nobody gives a flying f--k about my failed eggs.
        
           | Xymist wrote:
           | I would envision a "spectacular failure" at boiling eggs to
           | mean the pot boiled dry and the eggs caught fire, burning
           | down your kitchen.
        
         | margalabargala wrote:
         | I interpreted the "spectacular" part of the fail a bit
         | differently.
         | 
         | The author had options to either 1) try for right at 3 hours,
         | and either succeed or fail, or 2) push harder, get a much
         | better time, and perhaps succeed but risk putting himself in a
         | state where he did not finish at all. The failure to finish at
         | all due to the extra reach is the spectacular fail referred to.
        
       | renewiltord wrote:
       | Terrific blogpost. Enjoyed reading.
        
       | anothername12 wrote:
       | In life, I can't even manage to fail spectacularly. I get more of
       | a like warm limbo of misery
        
       | Kon-Peki wrote:
       | Not sure I understand the "qualifying time" aspect. Does hitting
       | 2:55 guarantee you entry into the Boston Marathon, whereas
       | achieving the "cutoff time" gets you into the lottery for one of
       | the remaining spots?
        
         | ErikAugust wrote:
         | They call that a "BQ" or Boston Qualified.
         | 
         | But it actually doesn't guarantee you entry because for that
         | age group (Male 18 - 30?) there ends up being too many
         | qualified entrants so they have to shave down the actual time
         | required for entry.
         | 
         | When I was running, it was 3:05 for example but you had to run
         | a <3:03 to make it in.
        
           | Kon-Peki wrote:
           | So this is what confuses me. You can look at the most recent
           | results. There were 14578 male finishers in the most recent
           | Boston Marathon. 7000th place was 3:29:24. 14000th place was
           | 5:29:37.
           | 
           | How do these runners get into the race if they needed to go
           | 3:03:00 (or whatever the current number is) to qualify? I'm
           | clearly missing some piece of important information!
        
             | agundy wrote:
             | Boston has two modes of entry, qualifying time or meeting a
             | fundraising goal of something like $5,000. I suspect 5:29
             | runners are fundraisers.
        
               | Kon-Peki wrote:
               | Ah, I see. Unfortunately, there doesn't seem to be any
               | official information about the second mode of entry. I
               | assume that this is intentional.
        
               | canucker2016 wrote:
               | I don't know why they don't distinguish entrants who are
               | fund-raising versus time-based qualifiers.
               | 
               | If you ran a marathon sufficiently fast to get under the
               | qualifying time, that doesn't mean that you are required
               | to run THAT FAST on race day for the Boston Marathon.
               | 
               | Some runners try and run fast on race day and discover
               | that their body has hit the "wall" and are forced to run
               | slower, walk for much of the remainder of the race, or
               | worst case, drop out.
               | 
               | Qualifying times for the Boston Marathon are different
               | for older age groups. Older runners can get into Boston
               | with a much slower time than someone in their 20s.
               | 
               | Then there are years where it would require super-human
               | effort to get close to a qualifying time (i.e. 2018, year
               | of heavy rain and wind, see
               | https://runningmagazine.ca/sections/runs-races/japans-
               | kawauc... )
        
         | timerol wrote:
         | Boston keeps a table of qualifying times that need to be hit.
         | But it's such a popular race, that people train to hit that
         | qualifying time, and they end up with too many runners. The
         | solution is to use a cut-off time to adjust all of the
         | qualifying times. As an example, an 18-34 year old male had a
         | qualifying time of 3 hours exactly for the 2025 Marathon (which
         | qualification ended for last month). The cut-off time required
         | athletes to be 6 minutes and 51 seconds faster than the
         | qualifying time for their age group and gender. So
         | qualification was actually 2:53:09, but no one knew that when
         | they were running. (Next year they've adjusted the times all
         | down 5 minutes to compensate, though they'll likely have around
         | a 2 minute cut off, since the times have been getting faster.)
         | 
         | https://www.baa.org/races/boston-marathon/qualify
        
       | king-wavy wrote:
       | Great blog post. Congrats on the PR! While it's true that no one
       | cares more about your marathon time than you, it still feels like
       | a tremendous victory when a new one is achieved, and likewise,
       | oppositely when an attempt is failed. There are not many serious
       | consequences when failing except maybe a temporarily bruised ego
       | and trying even harder on the next build.
        
       | madmountaingoat wrote:
       | I believe the article misses the point of the saying. It's not
       | really about failing but rather about committing yourself to the
       | objective. If you know in your heart you gave something
       | everything you had, and you still fail, well that's spectacular
       | or glorious failure.
        
       | metalman wrote:
       | sometimes failure is not an option my horse needed hay,so I went
       | to a buddy place,kinda coolsl spot(I think) not home went where
       | he might be and told him and his wife that there dogs say hi,went
       | back a few days to get hay and chatted about things snd the
       | dogs,and only later thought about,who do can I talk to that would
       | be able to enjoy the idea of walking up a long drive way knee
       | deep in snarling pitbulls stopping to talk to them and pat them
       | on the head which of course messes with there minds,no one home
       | ,and walk back out with the same escort my favorite wasn't
       | there,as he was still healing up from trying to eat a porqipine
       | whole,lovely bruser,half piti and half coyote its not a
       | marathon,except in the sense that life itself is a relay race
       | different batons is all
        
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