[HN Gopher] The quiet art of attention
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       The quiet art of attention
        
       Author : billwear
       Score  : 226 points
       Date   : 2024-10-13 15:01 UTC (6 hours ago)
        
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       | andsoitis wrote:
       | _" As we grow in this practice of attention, something else
       | becomes clear: much of what occupies our thoughts is unnecessary.
       | The mind is cluttered, filled with concerns that seem urgent but,
       | on closer inspection, do little to serve our deeper well-being.
       | Simplification is not just a matter of decluttering our physical
       | surroundings--it is a way of thinking, of living. As we quiet the
       | noise within, we see more clearly what truly matters. We focus,
       | not on everything, but on the essentials. We pare down, not by
       | force, but by choice."_
       | 
       | Our information-technology driven culture does not help; the
       | algorithms and shiny objects they push undermine our attention-
       | ability.
        
         | abound wrote:
         | This may be the culture, but one can largely choose to not
         | participate in it. E.g. not having social media accounts and
         | curating your news sources with a focus on unsensational, fact-
         | based reporting.
        
           | billwear wrote:
           | yes.
        
           | rfonseca wrote:
           | "curating your news sources with a focus on unsensational,
           | fact-based reporting" -> curious how you do this!
        
             | dleink wrote:
             | I'm working on this as a personal project so I'm interested
             | in other's solutions!
             | 
             | I'm not working on it toooo hard. This is something I think
             | some AI software tool might swoop in and solve before I can
             | build something I'm happy with.
        
             | abound wrote:
             | News Minimalist [1] is one way, where it aggregates stories
             | across outlets and uses LLMs to remove clickbait from
             | titles. It also assigns loose 'scores' to each story to
             | approximate how 'important' it is, which I've found to be
             | directionally useful.
             | 
             | Ultimately, it comes down to why one consumes news at all.
             | If it's to have something to discuss around the water
             | cooler or dinner table, that's a very different use case
             | than someone trying to pattern match on world events for
             | trading stocks or selling their wares.
             | 
             | [1] https://www.newsminimalist.com/
        
         | 8n4vidtmkvmk wrote:
         | This is why I don't wear a smart watch. My phone is always on
         | silent. Sometimes i Ieave it in a different room. There's
         | nothing good on here. 99% of notifications are just trying to
         | sell me something or bad news. Go do something you enjoy and
         | put down the devices, the notifications will still be there in
         | the morning. That is to say, dedicate a block of time for that
         | stuff if you must, but otherwise tune out the Internet.
        
         | dirtyhippiefree wrote:
         | The "attention economy," defined.
         | 
         | It's why sensory isolation is valuable.
         | 
         | Shut out the world and hear what's being drowned out by the mad
         | scramble to control our attention...
        
       | bl0rg wrote:
       | tl;dr?
        
         | billwear wrote:
         | that's the point: sometimes there is no tl;dr.
        
           | Lerc wrote:
           | There are however a great deal of things people can do to
           | make the same information available to a wider audience.
           | 
           | Formatting, fonts, colours, structure of argument, visual
           | aids.
           | 
           | Clicking [reader view] on this article aided me immensely in
           | being able to take it in. As one of the many ADHD people who
           | encountered this, the white on black, wide page, and a
           | serifed font were all non-informational aspects of the page
           | that made it difficult to take in.
           | 
           | You are wrong that sometimes there is no tl;dr In the absence
           | of someone putting in the work to make content accessible the
           | emphasis merely falls upon the dr of tl;dr.
           | 
           | No-one requires you to make things for everyone, but you
           | cannot expect to reach everyone without consideration of them
           | either.
        
         | dirtyhippiefree wrote:
         | What billwear said first is true. Also, what is the endpoint of
         | oversimplification?
         | 
         | It's okay if you're waiting for the comic book edition, but I
         | don't think it's on the horizon.
        
         | keybored wrote:
         | You can train your attention.
        
       | hall0ween wrote:
       | I like the message of the article overall. And I am skeptical
       | when "liberation" and "freedom" are used when not clearly defined
       | because where I am from (US) these words are thrown around
       | flippantly. If I follow this approach of quietness and attention,
       | will I be free from hunger (ie have food)? Free from fear (eg
       | security from violence)? No, clearly not. There are other
       | freedoms.
       | 
       | Also, a left out item that we have direct access to sense,
       | manipulation, cultivation: our bodies.
        
         | billwear wrote:
         | good points. the first could have been a better choice, or a
         | better explanation. the second? that's a much longer piece
         | about the three brains and how we integrate them.
        
         | joseferben wrote:
         | my read on it is that it's liberation and freedom in a very
         | buddhist sense.
         | 
         | you won't be free from hunger, but it may reframe our
         | relationship with food so there is less compulsion and mindless
         | consumption.
         | 
         | it won't take away fear in the face of imminent danger (that's
         | a good thing, we have to survive) but it may reduce background
         | anxiety that's present in our daily lives.
        
         | keybored wrote:
         | If I am free from a shackle, does that mean that I am free from
         | hunger? Clearly not. Hmph, then why say that I am "free" from a
         | shackle.
        
       | mzajc wrote:
       | Well written! I can relate to most of the article. However, I
       | find that
       | 
       | > To focus on one thing deeply, to give it your full attention,
       | is to experience it fully. And when we do this, something
       | remarkable happens. Time, which so often feels like it is
       | slipping through our fingers, begins to slow.
       | 
       | doesn't really apply to me, or to many people I know and have
       | worked with - it is when I focus on one task that "time flies",
       | and it's distractions that end up throwing men out of the zone.
        
         | billwear wrote:
         | agree that the "clock of life" is a strange beast, when
         | compared to the clock on the wall. i try to quit paying too
         | much attention to the latter, and time becomes more nuanced and
         | textured.
        
         | gchamonlive wrote:
         | Yeah, it's more like time taking a backseat than slowing down.
        
         | smith7018 wrote:
         | What you're describing is a state of flow which is good for
         | things like work but the article seems to be talking about time
         | metaphorically.
         | 
         | For example, imagine you're going to your daughter's piano
         | recital and spend the whole time thinking about work. You would
         | be missing out on the experience of watching her perform and
         | grow. If you become mindful of these habits and say "My mind is
         | focusing on something that I cannot change right now, I should
         | be present" then you'll be able to fully experience a moment in
         | your child's life. So rather than feeling like life is passing
         | you by, you're able to experience it in the moment. The
         | surrounding sentences of the line you quoted don't read like
         | the author's describing time like you are:
         | 
         | "But in this process, we must remember something important:
         | life is not meant to be rushed through. It is not a race, nor
         | is it a problem to be solved. It is an experience to be lived,
         | and living well requires presence. ... Moments become rich,
         | textured. Even the simplest of tasks takes on a new
         | significance when approached with care, with attention."
        
         | yapyap wrote:
         | What I think he meant is that time slows down for him in the
         | way that time around him speeds up while he can stay focused on
         | one thing.
         | 
         | Now of course I'm not the author so I'm not sure but yeah the
         | way you're describing it (real time flying when you're locked
         | in on something) is how I feel it goes for most people
        
           | marmaduke wrote:
           | Yep that's my reading too. I like to see it from a dynamical
           | systems perspective: as a system approaches an attractor, the
           | phase flow slows down, while the wall time marches on
           | steadily. If we consider the "perspective" of the system,
           | which is wall time divided by phase flow, we get the time
           | speeding up part.
        
         | bbor wrote:
         | Well put, but I think you're using "focus" in a different sense
         | than the author is.
         | 
         | The article discusses internal (intensional!) focus on the
         | substance of experience itself as it's presented to your
         | unified Ego, and you're discussing the much more common idea of
         | external (extensional!!1!) focus, which is almost the exact
         | opposite since it typically requires quieting your inner
         | monologue to the greatest extent possible and letting your
         | subconscious faculties act autonomously.
        
         | larodi wrote:
         | Author describes experiences that myself can fully confirm.
         | Everything said in this article resonates very strong,
         | including how time slows in observation. This incredible essay
         | is a very organic, honest summary, yet without all the
         | esoteric, of what a mindful presence can be (whenever
         | achieved). A bliss retold in few paragraphs.
         | 
         | Indeed to let go of the worldly rush is truly liberating. What
         | a pity it is not allowed to complement the scriptures with such
         | insights.
        
       | d4mi3n wrote:
       | While I like the premise of this piece of writing, I quite
       | strongly disagree with the title and this line:
       | 
       | > the only thing we truly possess, the only thing we might, with
       | enough care, exert some mastery over, is our mind.
       | 
       | Anyone with ADHD, clinical depression, bipolar disorder, and many
       | other conditions simply do not and cannot have full control of
       | their minds without medical intervention.
       | 
       | That said, there is a lot to be said for learning how to
       | recognize and compensate for one's foibles. Meditation and
       | therapy can be helpful for ADHD and some other conditions.
       | 
       | It's not surprising to me that these same things can help people
       | from all walks of life feel more centered and empowered over
       | their own destinies.
        
         | abc-1 wrote:
         | You know every time someone mentions walking, they're not
         | obligated to mention some people cannot walk right? Can we stop
         | moralizing and grandstanding everything, it gets so tiresome.
        
           | aroman wrote:
           | I read no moralizing or grandstanding in GP's comment. It's a
           | valid point - most humans on planet earth will experience
           | some form of mental disorder in their lifetime.[0]
           | 
           | [0] https://hms.harvard.edu/news/half-worlds-population-will-
           | exp...
        
           | eterpstra wrote:
           | You know, the entire point of this website is to comment on
           | articles with our own thoughts, experiences, and opinions -
           | even if it's moralizing and/or grandstanding.
           | 
           | Can we stop discouraging comments in the comment section? It
           | gets so tiresome.
        
           | d4mi3n wrote:
           | My intent was to point out that personal experiences differ
           | and that things the article points out as given are not so
           | given for everyone.
           | 
           | My intent was not to moralize and I'm uncertain to what part
           | of my original comment could be interpreted as a moral
           | stance.
        
           | tikhonj wrote:
           | People largely understand that folks who can't walk can't
           | walk. There is still _a lot_ of moralizing around mental
           | health and treatment.  "ADHD is not a real thing, they just
           | need to stop being lazy"/etc/etc.
           | 
           | The two situations are simply not comparable.
        
         | keybored wrote:
         | > Anyone with ADHD, clinical depression, bipolar disorder, and
         | many other conditions simply do not and cannot have full
         | control of their minds without medical intervention.
         | 
         | Who are you and how are you privy to what I can and cannot do
         | without intervention? Where do you get off?
        
           | d4mi3n wrote:
           | I'm speaking for myself (ADHD) and anecdotal experience from
           | people in my life with these conditions (clinical depression,
           | bipolar disorder, ADHD). I don't claim to speak for anyone.
           | 
           | Your experience may be different, and that is fine and valid.
           | The point I'm trying to make (and that you're also making) is
           | that things that are fundamental truths for some are not
           | always applicable or valid from the context of another
           | person's lived experience.
        
             | keybored wrote:
             | > I'm speaking for myself (ADHD) and anecdotal experience
             | from people in my life with these conditions (clinical
             | depression, bipolar disorder, ADHD). I don't claim to speak
             | for anyone.
             | 
             | Now you say that. But you made a very clear, _absolute_
             | statement that these people "cannot have full control of
             | their minds without medical intervention".
             | 
             | And everyone's lived experience is eventually respected
             | with some back and forth in these exchanges. But making
             | absolute statements about what people can or cannot do cuts
             | both ways. So it's best to make your vantage point clear
             | from the start.[1]
             | 
             | I'm personally much more offended when someone says that my
             | "type" cannot do something. Compared to assuming that I
             | can.
             | 
             | Thanks for the clarification.
             | 
             | [1] For all we knew you could have been a medical
             | researcher.
        
               | soulofmischief wrote:
               | As someone with severe, often debilitating ADHD, I
               | understand not wanting to depend on medication. It was
               | forced upon me under threat of punishment as a child and
               | heavily exacerbated my OCD and tic syndrome, which led to
               | further punishment anyway.
               | 
               | Learning to be okay with medication has taken a long
               | time. But the last couple decades of research have made a
               | few things clear. Importantly, ADHD has been shown to be
               | a genetic disorder, wherein your brain simply doesn't
               | produce the same amount of dopamine receptors as a normal
               | person.
               | 
               | This has a profound impact on your mood, executive
               | functioning skills, motor function and more. Drugs which
               | increase the dopamine available in your system can have
               | negative effects (some extra dopamine gets shunted to
               | your motor cortex and causes motor dysfunction/aggravates
               | tics) but when you consider that 60% of ADHD sufferers
               | are also diagnosed with depression, or in my case a large
               | comorbidity with OCD and bipolar disorder, it becomes
               | clear how valuable medicine can be.
               | 
               | ADHD is beginning to be understood as a reward-deficiency
               | syndrome [0] and in this light, meditation/mindfulness
               | and good habits are only coping mechanisms for an
               | underlying condition which is ultimately genetic and
               | massively aided by dopaminergic drugs. The result is
               | literally night and day for many people, especially those
               | who did not get diagnosed until adulthood and never
               | developed coping mechanisms.
               | 
               | > But making absolute statements about what people can or
               | cannot do cuts both ways.
               | 
               | I just lost one of my best friends last year because I
               | moved in with him and experienced incredible prejudice
               | around my disorder, which he was convinced was made up
               | and not real. He would wax on and on about mindfulness,
               | and _constantly_ get defensive and aggressive at the
               | slightest, most inconsequential manifestations of my
               | disorder, and it rapidly deteriorated my mental health at
               | a time where I was already in dire need of a safe space.
               | His bias and increasingly erratic response to my disorder
               | made me feel unsafe until I had no choice but to leave.
               | The entire experience was very traumatic and reminded me
               | of all the times as a child that my disorders lead to
               | punishment and physical abuse. Some people have mild ADHD
               | and it might be a slight convenience for them, but in my
               | case it has been a major defining aspect of my life with
               | a long list of consequences over the years.
               | 
               | [0] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2626918/
        
         | greggyb wrote:
         | I will note that you are not responding to what you have
         | quoted, but to an extreme re-interpretation.
         | 
         | The OP says "exert some mastery over", which is a far cry from
         | the "full control" you say some people cannot have.
        
         | krzat wrote:
         | Honestly the bigger problem is probably that creating lasting
         | habits is hard. Everyone knows that exercise is important but
         | how many people maintain a consistent routine?
         | 
         | With mindfulness it's even worse because there is no way to
         | track how strong your equanimity is. You can't know if you are
         | making progress or just deluding yourself.
        
           | keybored wrote:
           | My meditation book ( _The Mind Illuminated_ ) divides
           | everything into stages. And the strength of one's mindfulness
           | is discussed.
        
           | imp0cat wrote:
           | People are creatures of comfort. That's why I'd disagree with
           | your first sentence. I think creating long-lasting habits can
           | be easy, in fact sometimes you don't even realize it happened
           | until it's too late.
           | 
           | Now getting rid of the bad habits and keeping only the good
           | ones, that is the hard part.
        
         | hu3 wrote:
         | You're getting disproportionately criticised and having
         | uncharitable replies but, you're right.
         | 
         | Any serious psychiatrist will confirm that medication is
         | immensely helpful to the majority of ADHD cases if not all. Our
         | brains are just different, chemistry-wise.
         | 
         | I don't know why people get so offended by this notion.
        
           | keybored wrote:
           | People have already responded with their reasons. You can try
           | to hammer on with further digressions from what the
           | submission is about (not even wrong), complete with that
           | inflamed/emotionally charged interpretation, but what's the
           | point in spilling more bytes on this.
        
         | scubbo wrote:
         | > Anyone with ADHD, clinical depression, bipolar disorder, and
         | many other conditions simply do not and cannot have full
         | control of their minds without medical intervention.
         | 
         | Right - hence "might", not "do"; and "some", not "full".
        
         | afro88 wrote:
         | You're right, but it's a bit of an uncharitable take on the
         | post. Nowhere does the it say that medical intervention is
         | unnecessary for people with conditions requiring it.
         | 
         | The title, and quoted passage, are fully applicable to those
         | with the listed conditions and without. The advice from the
         | post supplements medical intervention for folks requiring it.
        
       | joseferben wrote:
       | excellent article!
       | 
       | one of my favorite books about this that i can not recommend
       | enough is "the miracle of mindfulness" by thich nhat hanh.
        
       | vonnik wrote:
       | Cognitive control is one of the most important issues of our era,
       | IMHO:
       | 
       | https://vonnik.substack.com/p/how-to-take-your-brain-back
       | 
       | There are many techniques to increase our CC. The ADHD community
       | is a trailblazer in this respect.
        
         | YossarianFrPrez wrote:
         | I used to think that once I started browsing the internet, it
         | was time for a break. One technique I've implemented, which I
         | haven't seen mentioned is "walking pomodoro technique": for
         | every 25 minutes of work, I get up and take a brisk 5-min walk
         | (or lately, a jog) and come back. One of the most surprising
         | things is that by mandating my own breaks, I browse the
         | internet a lot less.
        
           | greggyb wrote:
           | I suffer from RSI and definitely do not move enough when I am
           | invested in some piece of work (personal or professional). I
           | recently installed workrave[0] and have noticed marked
           | improvements in just a couple weeks of actually taking breaks
           | when it indicates.
           | 
           | I take a 25 second break every 5 minutes, and use this time
           | to do one hand and wrist exercise (I keep some resistance
           | bands and hand exercise balls at the desk). I take a 5 minute
           | break every 25 minutes. I will either do some stretches, or a
           | quick chore (e.g. vacuum one room).
           | 
           | https://workrave.org/
        
         | keybored wrote:
         | tl;dr: more talk about "dopamine" and addictive devices. I
         | prefer the submission.
        
         | bbor wrote:
         | Fun article, thanks for sharing! It always blows my mind how
         | much work people will put into this stuff without
         | consulting/citing the thousands of years of cognitive
         | scientists that have been working on the problem, but that's
         | more of a systemic problem; it's what we get for describing the
         | history of science as "first there was silly philosophy, and
         | then in 1600 we finally figured out empiricism and
         | actual/real/true science started". I absolutely agree that
         | cognitive science in general is about to take the world by
         | storm as we learn more about our neurology (Google "DeWave"),
         | and systematize philosophies.
         | 
         | The DOJ recently filed the first big post-Covid telehealth suit
         | against a California ADHD treatment company (aka Adderal
         | distribution) called Done, and it's honestly fascinating to
         | read the blog posts written by the founding doctor. His
         | professional and philosophical opinion is that ADHD is a wildly
         | underdiagnosed neurological state that can come and go over a
         | lifetime, especially in reaction to attention-degrading
         | "exocortices" as your article calls them. Obviously his
         | credibility is damaged by the fact that he made ~$2.5M off that
         | stance, but still, I think there might be something there. His
         | favorite citation is Hippocrates, though I've never actually
         | looked for the primary source he's referring to.
         | 
         | The big exception to my complaint above is, in 2024, of course
         | Stoicism, probably because it's so damn _cool_ (a book by an
         | ancient general on how to be stronger? Sign me up!) and can be
         | downright utopian when summarized in the right way, promising
         | you eternal control. The article above clearly takes the
         | general Stoic framework for granted in the very first
         | paragraph, so I was more than a little surprised not to see it
         | cited directly.
        
         | larodi wrote:
         | The universally accepted ADHD community's technique seems to be
         | called Adderall. It is difficult to pinpoint another
         | universally accepted technique. Breathwork is not always good
         | for ADHD from my personal experience and is not universally
         | accepted. So really wonder what this trailblazer thing is
         | about.
         | 
         | Another very apparent shortcut to ADHD treatment, also not
         | universally accepted, is called endogenous adrenaline - the
         | simplest drug molecule as somebody (Neal Stephenson in Snow
         | Crash if memory serves right) designated it, and extreme sports
         | provide a lot of it for free. This article though, does not
         | seem to be about any of these - adrenaline or sports. Extreme
         | sports such as snowboarding, downhill biking, paragliding (not
         | really a sport), motorbiking, etc... are all about said state
         | of flow and attention. No other activities I can think of that
         | impact ADHD so quick and profound. Cause you loose your
         | attention only once with these things.
        
           | devjab wrote:
           | In Denmark where I am from mindfulness is actually a rather
           | big part of ADHD mastering (or whatever they call learning to
           | live with it these days). Exercise and medicine are also part
           | of it, but learning skills to help you function are bigger. I
           | think breathwork as you point out is individual. Here they
           | tend to have you try out various ways of gaining focus
           | through mindfulness though. The one which worked best for me
           | is holding hands under water, like washing hands, others
           | meditate, others again so the whole breath focus thing and so
           | on.
           | 
           | I do think this article plays a little light on what you can
           | do, and how much of it you'll need to do, to actually tame
           | your attention. I do a lot of things. I don't keep my mobile
           | phone near me when I don't want to use it. I do mindfulness.
           | I plan to head out at 9:00 if I'm really supposed to head out
           | at 9:15 because that means I'll get out at 9:13-9:17 and not
           | stress about it leaving more energy to focus my attention. I
           | do the drugs, in my case Lisdexamfetamin is the least shitty.
           | I ride my bike everywhere. I walk in the woods. I do a lot of
           | things like that and it helps, but it's not like it's quite
           | as simple as this article might make it sound. Even if you do
           | it in small steps.
           | 
           | I think the biggest difference between how we deal with ADHD
           | and attention here and the article is that we don't focus on
           | attention. We view ADHD as an "energy deficiency". This is
           | because you pay attention to too many things with ADHD, which
           | means you run out of energy sooner than regular people. At
           | which point you can't pay attention to things that aren't
           | interesting to you. What is worse is that you'll hyperfocus
           | on things that, are, interesting and that will drain your
           | energy as well. You'll probably also forget to eat because
           | you don't really feel hunger, again draining you. Anyway, to
           | live with ADHD in Denmark is in large parts about managing a
           | fuel tank which is simply much smaller than everyone else's.
           | Because you need the fuel to pay attention.
        
       | tolerance wrote:
       | The mind is not the locus of peace and contentment. It is the
       | heart.
        
       | dirtyhippiefree wrote:
       | The power of Being (simply existing mindfully) as opposed to the
       | Doing we feel compelled into.
       | 
       | When you Are who you are, you will Do what you do, and likely
       | find greater success because it comes from who you are, not what
       | someone is telling you to do...
        
         | loa_in_ wrote:
         | It's a very hard topic to write or even talk about but what you
         | wrote rings true.
        
       | connectsnk wrote:
       | To the author : I find your article really insightful. I want to
       | read more but I realize this article is not on your homepage.
       | There might be more stuff that you have written and is unlisted.
       | How can i find it all.
        
         | pkilgore wrote:
         | OP is in large degree one articulation of foundational
         | mindfulness concepts that have been written about for
         | centuries.
         | 
         | What about the OP specifically appeals? Happy to point you at
         | some other things if I can.
        
         | greggyb wrote:
         | I can recommend the Waking Up app. It has a well paced and well
         | done introduction to mindfulness in a very similar style to the
         | linked article. If interested, I can share a link for a free
         | 30-day trial.
         | 
         | I have no affiliation and get no kickback. It has simply been
         | quite useful for me.
        
         | keybored wrote:
         | _The Mind Illuminated_ is a book with a similar style.
        
         | dmje wrote:
         | I was reminded of my all-time favourite book on meditation /
         | mindfulness: Mindfulness in Plain English by Henepola
         | Gunaratana. The article had a similar style. Gunaratana's book
         | is full of humour and beautiful writing and I'd recommend it as
         | a brilliant guide to anyone interested in this stuff.
        
         | billwear wrote:
         | i usually post here first, and then add to the homepage later.
         | i'll fix that next couple of days.
        
         | scubbo wrote:
         | https://billwear.github.io/
        
           | connectsnk wrote:
           | This article is not listed on the homepage. That's what I
           | said.
        
         | bushido wrote:
         | I had the exact same question. I was able to locate the
         | contents with a code search on github:
         | https://github.com/billwear/billwear.github.io
        
       | mistermann wrote:
       | As much as I love the sentiment, these sorts of pieces (written
       | or verbal) always contain contradictions, usually important ones
       | relative to the claims.
        
         | keybored wrote:
         | These contradictions (?) may be rooted in the reader's
         | assumptions about the world: the writer says A and B, but to
         | the reader B implies (not A) because of their world view. In
         | short they might not be actual contradictions.
         | 
         | This might seem very vague but a discussion on something so
         | first-person as the mind is ripe for that kind of thing.
         | 
         | Which is resolved with dialogue. If the contradictions are
         | brought up.
        
           | mistermann wrote:
           | > Which is resolved with dialogue. If the contradictions are
           | brought up.
           | 
           | In my experience noting contradictions usually leads to
           | evasive memes and anger/unhappiness.
        
         | youoy wrote:
         | For me contradictions are unavoidable when speaking about the
         | mind. Usually the aim is not to give you specific objective
         | truths, but to evoke something in your mind that feels
         | evidently true to you. That is why usually the most effective
         | communication tools that are used are metaphors. And
         | communicating that way correctly is very very difficult. That
         | means that most of these sort of pieces are going to be very
         | bad... But I actually think that this one is not that bad
        
           | mistermann wrote:
           | > For me contradictions are unavoidable when speaking about
           | the mind.
           | 
           | "It (seems like it) is my opinion that {some opinion}" has
           | very few ways of going wrong, and has the side benefit of
           | reminding one that they're dealing with a subjective map,
           | which is in part the goal of most authors of such pieces,
           | imho anyways.
           | 
           | I think mindfulness gang could up their game.
        
       | dmje wrote:
       | This is a really great description of why a meditative practice
       | is worth taking time on and also why it's worth railing against
       | todays constant attention deficit and lack of empty, quiet
       | spaces, both mental and physical. Excellent writing!
        
       | akomtu wrote:
       | Ads Industry would rather not you to have any control over your
       | attention. Indeed, if ads can't distract you, can't steal your
       | attention, then those ads can't make money.
        
       | bansuian wrote:
       | The first paragraph reminds me of the following from The Joy Luck
       | Club.
       | 
       |  _It started to rain again, just a light rain. The people from
       | downstairs called up to me once again to hurry. And my thoughts
       | became more urgent, more strange.
       | 
       | I asked myself, what is true about a person? Would I change in
       | the same way the river changes color but still be the same
       | person? And then I saw the curtains blowing wildly, and outside
       | rain was falling harder, causing everyone to scurry and shout. I
       | smiled. And then I realized it was the first time I could see the
       | power of the wind. I couldn't see the wind itself, but I could
       | see it carried the water that filled the rivers and shaped the
       | countryside. It caused men to yelp and dance.
       | 
       | I wiped my eyes and looked in the mirror. I was surprised at what
       | I saw. I had on a beautiful red dress, but what I saw was even
       | more valuable. I was strong. I was pure. I had genuine thoughts
       | inside that no one could see, that no one could ever take away
       | from me. I was like the wind.
       | 
       | I threw my head back and smiled proudly to myself. And then I
       | draped the large embroidered red scarf over my face and covered
       | these thoughts up. But underneath the scarf I still knew who I
       | was. I made a promise to myself: I would always remember my
       | parents' wishes, but I would never forget myself._
        
       | oxqbldpxo wrote:
       | I'm grateful for this advice. Will put into practice immediately.
       | Death being a certainty, it is difficult to determine what time
       | is actually worth using for. From an individual perspective,
       | religion and knowledge are part of a conceptual world that will
       | end with death. If there's actually anything post-death, it has
       | to do with what it is here being called attention. Something
       | beyond memory and thinking.
        
       | vunderba wrote:
       | It's a bit heavy on the purple prose (though I was guilty of a
       | very similar writing style in my 20s, and as I got on in life the
       | purity of the idea became more important than its surrounding
       | ornamental structures).
       | 
       | The gist of the article reminds me of a quote from the famous
       | pianist Clara Schumann who would admonish her more virtuosic
       | students for striving to play through passages as rapidly as
       | possible.
       | 
       |  _" Why hurry over beautiful things? Why not linger and enjoy
       | them?"_
        
         | zozbot234 wrote:
         | So you're saying that Attention Is All You Need? (badum tss)
        
           | bsbsjsusj wrote:
           | Yes, and if you want the verbose version, an LLM can generate
           | that.
        
         | keybored wrote:
         | > It's a bit heavy on the purple prose (though I was guilty of
         | a very similar writing style in my 20s, and as I got on in life
         | the purity of the idea became more important than its
         | surrounding ornamental structures).
         | 
         | I can see that.
        
       | romesmoke wrote:
       | For a more elaborate, complete take on the value of attention, I
       | can't recommend the work of Sir Iain McGilchrist enough.
        
       | wwwater wrote:
       | Wow, great piece, thanks for sharing it! While reading it I was
       | absolutely sure I've already heard it. For the first part I
       | thought it's the transcript of the text they read in Vipassana
       | retreat, and for the second I thought it must be from Alan Watts.
       | But from the rest of the blog and from the comments here I
       | understand that it's neither, and that it's just your thoughts.
       | It reads really nicely, like a river.
       | 
       | I also noticed that your previous blog's name (stormrider) is
       | somehow similar to mine (cyclinginthewind) haha.
        
       | alexashka wrote:
       | > And it is then, perhaps, that a subtle truth begins to emerge:
       | the only thing we truly possess, the only thing we might, with
       | enough care, exert some mastery over, is our mind
       | 
       | Well, that's not true at all.
       | 
       | When people make sweeping _simple_ statements about matters that
       | can 't possibly be trivial - it makes me wonder how much most
       | people resemble LLMs.
       | 
       | I'm sympathetic to spiritual matters but the field is littered
       | with people who are deeply confused.
        
       | baxuz wrote:
       | > the only thing we truly possess, the only thing we might, with
       | enough care, exert some mastery over, is our mind.
       | 
       | And our bodies.
        
       | fzeroracer wrote:
       | I'm going to be That Guy and say I didn't particularly care for
       | this piece. it reads like every single self-help or mindfulness
       | book I've had the misfortune of skimming or having pushed down on
       | me.
       | 
       | That isn't to say I fully discount mindfulness but rather the art
       | of people being able to say a lot about ultimately nothing.
        
       | carrotpuncher wrote:
       | I appreciate coming across writings like these. For me I easily
       | forget to just chill out, one day I'm full of whatever
       | mindfulness i gain from nowhere in a quick hit of inspiration
       | then as quick as it came I'm back to step one lost, until I come
       | across something like this.
        
       | kvetching wrote:
       | I've found cannabis to be extremely helpful. It adds a tinge of
       | paranoia - so if you're paranoid about not reaching your
       | potential, it can kick you into gear.
        
       | youoy wrote:
       | > Each small effort, each moment of renewed attention, builds
       | upon the last. Over time, these moments accumulate, and what was
       | once difficult becomes second nature.
       | 
       | This! One thing is to find an oasis of attention from time to
       | time, but the goal should be to fill it so that it becomes the
       | sea, and that is extremely difficult (for starters due to the
       | traps of modern attention seeking algorithms, but not only...).
        
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