[HN Gopher] Should we be thinking about luck differently?
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       Should we be thinking about luck differently?
        
       Author : daverol
       Score  : 63 points
       Date   : 2024-10-09 15:58 UTC (4 days ago)
        
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       | roenxi wrote:
       | > We can go even further in considering our existential luck.
       | 
       | We can, but it quickly becomes nonsense.
       | 
       | The problem with existential luck is that we don' know the odds.
       | Obviously, based on our current understanding of physics, we can
       | come up with an estimate. But that understanding has to be wrong,
       | because we can't explain why the universe exists at all. Forget
       | the cosmological constant having lucky values, what are the odds
       | that physical constants exist as opposed to there being a
       | matterless void?
       | 
       | I could make an unfalsifiable prediction that there is some sort
       | of N-dimensional super-soup where all 3 dimensions of space, time
       | and physical constants and maybe some huge number of others to
       | determine starting conditions are an axis on a hypercube of
       | unimaginable proportions. Then, everything is a certainty. The
       | amount of luck involved in any particular space-time-other point
       | existing is 1 and there is no luck anywhere. In some sense
       | reality has to be of that nature, because the odds of us existing
       | by chance is so small it suggests that our model is wrong and our
       | existence was in fact guaranteed.
        
         | User23 wrote:
         | > Forget the cosmological constant having lucky values, what
         | are the odds that physical constants exist as opposed to there
         | being a matterless void?
         | 
         | The odds of there being something rather than nothing are
         | absolutely zero. This is easily seen because for the odds to be
         | anything more than that would require some reason, and that
         | reason, whatever it might be, would be something. This is why a
         | matterless void isn't actually nothing.
        
           | persnickety wrote:
           | And yet, there is something, therefore the odds cannot be
           | zero, revealing a flaw in this line of reasoning.
        
           | travisjungroth wrote:
           | > for the odds to be anything more than that [zero] would
           | require some reason, and that reason, whatever it might be,
           | would be something
           | 
           | p=0 and p=1 both satisfy this. Given the probability exists
           | (and, you know, we're talking about it) only p=1 satisfies.
        
             | User23 wrote:
             | Right, so there is some reason and there always must have
             | been.
             | 
             | If you think there is a symmetry, there isn't, because no
             | reason would be required if nothing existed.
        
           | hshshshshsh wrote:
           | > The odds of there being something rather than nothing are
           | absolutely zero
           | 
           | And how did you came up with that? Evidence suggests the
           | contrary.
        
             | bsbsjsusj wrote:
             | You are both right. Dealing with infinities!
        
         | astrobe_ wrote:
         | Their "existential luck looks no different from the
         | "circumstantial luck" to me - an asteroid hitting the earth is
         | indeed in the matter of being "at the wrong place at the wrong
         | time".
         | 
         | But as someone said here, it's all about probability
         | distributions and trying to minimize/maximize your chances.
         | 
         | I like to believe that there is not such a thing as "chance",
         | that it is all about hidden variables, but I've been told right
         | here before that the quantum theory says otherwise.
        
         | pistoleer wrote:
         | > In some sense reality has to be of that nature, because the
         | odds of us existing by chance is so small it suggests that our
         | model is wrong and our existence was in fact guaranteed.
         | 
         | Sampling bias: we only exist to perceive the reality in which
         | we exist. the countless realities in which we don't exist, we
         | don't experience.
        
           | vharuck wrote:
           | This is called the Anthropic Principle.
           | 
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anthropic_principle
        
       | loopz wrote:
       | You're one out of 8 billion people, the only known humans
       | inhabiting an incredible vast cosmos with billions of galaxies
       | and billions of years of timespan. That you are sitting here
       | reading these typed words is nothing short of incredible, in a
       | world that many want to model as a Newtonian marble-universe
       | devoid of life and consciousness.
       | 
       | People denounce past lives and future lives, but have no qualms
       | about hanging on to their current life, as if that is worth
       | anything more in the grander scheme of things. That's not to say
       | it's a solution to end it all, but just pointing out the lack of
       | logical thinking and grander perspective, that leads many
       | thinking minds astray.
       | 
       | Or think of it like a hacker: You're cast out as the solitary
       | sentient entity within a huge cosmos with many possibilities and
       | experiences. What do you want to do today?
       | 
       | In many spiritual circles, luck has nothing to do with it, but
       | inevitability does. Mathematics, if advanced enough, could maybe
       | come to the same conclusion. But it's a matter of perspective.
       | What perspective do we inhabit today?
       | 
       | One where everything can be explained (away)?
       | 
       | Or one where we cannot even explain what existence and sentience
       | is, or why everything seems to become empty but still infinitely
       | complex, when we zoom into them?
        
         | persnickety wrote:
         | > You're one out of 8 billion people, the only known humans
         | inhabiting an incredible vast cosmos with billions of galaxies
         | and billions of years of timespan. That you are sitting here
         | reading these typed words is nothing short of incredible,
         | 
         | There's nothing incredible about being the only kind of human
         | known to humans. Classic anthropic principle, making every kind
         | of human special as long as they haven't met any other kind.
        
         | HarHarVeryFunny wrote:
         | > You're one out of 8 billion people, the only known humans
         | inhabiting an incredible vast cosmos with billions of galaxies
         | and billions of years of timespan
         | 
         | Sure, but there are also 10^18 insects, and untold other
         | critters too. Given the size of the universe there are likely
         | also billions of other planets with life out there.
         | 
         | It doesn't make sense to call existing and being alive lucky,
         | since that's not a statistical outcome - 100% of humans/etc are
         | alive. I suppose you could call temporarily being part of a
         | living organism a "lucky" outcome for a carbon molecule, since
         | for "them" it's not a guaranteed thing.
         | 
         | As a human, things to consider yourself lucky for, rather than
         | existing at all, as we all do, are things like where you were
         | born, and who your parents are. Were you born into poverty, or
         | some weird religious cult, or lucky to be born into some more
         | fortunate circumstance?
        
           | mrangle wrote:
           | Most pop science writers and readers don't understand the
           | depth of factors involved in creating a habitable planet
           | here. If they did, a simple chat with a better LLM would
           | reveal that the possibility for life is far more rare than in
           | the Universe than is commonly calculated estimating, say,
           | only for "goldilocks zone" planets. Even plugging in one
           | additional obvious factor other than distance to the star,
           | such as planetary tilt, puts the estimation for the nearest
           | possible planet at 2.5 million light years away (when
           | starting with a reasonable estimation for the number of stars
           | in the universe, which you will also need to pare down
           | filtering for star type). And the factors involved go far
           | beyond, including those involving other characteristics of
           | the Star both in isolation and in relationship to those of
           | the planet, and possibly additional solar system bodies like
           | moons and perhaps more.
           | 
           | Then compare in ratio to the number of planets that don't
           | hold life, and in general the vast absence of life in the
           | Universe. Which is far more impressive in its commonness than
           | the existence of Life.
           | 
           | Not feeling "Lucky" to be here is arguably a spiritual crime
           | and, whether or not one is amenable to that type of guilt,
           | perhaps also one of intellect. Sincerely, this is fully a
           | generalized comment and I'm not trying to insult you.
        
             | HarHarVeryFunny wrote:
             | The rarity of goldilocks life-friendly plants seems far
             | outweighed by the astronomical number of planets that must
             | be out there... 100B stars in our own galaxy, and 100B-1T
             | galaxies in the observable universe. Even if on average
             | each galaxy only has one star/planet with life (i.e. only a
             | 1-in-100,000,000,000 chance of a planet having life),
             | that'd still mean 1T planets with life out there! In
             | reality I'd bet there are tons of planets with life in our
             | galaxy.
             | 
             | I'm not sure where you are getting "vast absence of life in
             | the Universe" from... Our search for intelligent life has
             | been limited to looking for radio transmissions. I wonder
             | what the stats are on an intelligent species in our nearest
             | neighboring galaxy happening on our own transmissions?
             | 
             | It's good to feel lucky/thankful for ones own fortunate
             | circumstances, but merely existing isn't really one of
             | them. If you are a drugged-up child soldier in Africa, who
             | has just been forced to kill your own parents, then should
             | you be feeling lucky to be alive?
        
         | mbivert wrote:
         | > In many spiritual circles, luck has nothing to do with it,
         | but inevitability does.
         | 
         | What do you mean exactly? Say, the notion of karma in Eastern
         | religions is a way to explain at least some amount of what is
         | commonly dubbed "luck".
         | 
         | But from the perspective of someone ignorant of karmic ties,
         | can't it only be considered luck/random? Furthermore, isn't
         | more genuine luck/randomness (free-will?) causing such initial
         | ties?
        
           | loopz wrote:
           | It depends on perspective. If you look into karma, it only
           | holds for the perspective of sequences of lifetimes, or a
           | couple of lifetimes being interwoven by karmic ties. What
           | karma is is also very mystical, but not unthinkable
           | physically speaking. Ie. gene expressions can flip during a
           | lifetime, thus our genes hold memories lasting for at least a
           | couple of generations. So ancestral karma is also a concept,
           | but hard to research of course.
           | 
           | From a holistic and wider perspective of wholeness,
           | everything may be said to be predestined. From a spiritual
           | perspective, it's about how everything is set up in order to
           | have certain experiences and maybe "lessons". Mathematically,
           | if you have all the variables, everything that may happen can
           | be solved by calculation, however that is done on the cosmic
           | scales.
           | 
           | If the idiot is guided by a higher mind, then there's no room
           | for "luck" on the grandest scales, but it will look like luck
           | to the person, as a unique and individual experience.
        
       | PaulRobinson wrote:
       | A mathematical model for luck is variance.
       | 
       | We understand variance, we understand distributions - normal,
       | binomial, poisson, t-distribution, chi-squared, and so on - and
       | we can model with some confidence how to take action to select
       | where we sit in some distributions. For example, not smoking and
       | having an active and healthy lifestyle moves you in the
       | distribution of people likely to get lung cancer by a certain
       | age. You are "choosing your own luck" to some degree. It's
       | probabilistic, not certain, but it fits a known model.
       | 
       | And then there are those situations where the distributions - and
       | therefore the variance, i.e. the luck - is less knowable. The
       | best tool we have for this right now is Bayesian statistics:
       | here's what I know right now, and I will update my understanding
       | of the probabilities as new information becomes available to me.
       | 
       | So, yes, we should think about luck a little differently. It's
       | not fate, it is expression of variance within a known or unknown
       | distribution, and we can do more to understand it. This is more
       | than most people do, and it feels more actionable and of higher
       | utility than the examples given in the article.
        
         | tpmoney wrote:
         | > For example, not smoking and having an active and healthy
         | lifestyle moves you in the distribution of people likely to get
         | lung cancer by a certain age. You are "choosing your own luck"
         | to some degree. It's probabilistic, not certain, but it fits a
         | known model.
         | 
         | I forget where I read it but some time back I came across this
         | idea of measuring "luck" as something akin to radiation doses.
         | I think the author used the term "mililucks". Their argument
         | was that if it takes X amount of luck to get married/get a
         | promotion/have a healthy life/etc, then one should examine
         | which of those things they want, and then examine how many
         | "mililucks" any given choice you have will give you towards
         | that goal. There's still no guarantee, just like a given dose
         | of radiation isn't a guarantee of getting sick, but a house
         | party might contribute 200 mililucks towards your goal of
         | finding a romantic partner, but since the party also has lots
         | of alcohol and greasy food, maybe only 1-2 mililucks towards
         | your healthy life.
         | 
         | You don't get to decide the ultimate outcome and you don't get
         | to even know for sure whether you're really doing to right
         | thing, but you can reasonably see how going to a lot of house
         | parties increases the chances of you lucking into a romantic
         | partnership, while doing little to increase your chances of a
         | healthy life style. In this way you "make your own luck",
         | simply by increasing the number of chances you have to "get
         | lucky" in any given direction.
         | 
         | The caveat of course is that not everyone is starting from the
         | same baseline of luck. If you grow up in a safe area you are
         | much more likely to not get mugged than in you grow up in a
         | crime ridden area. But in both areas "nothing good happens
         | after midnight" is probably a worthwhile approach to increasing
         | your "luck" with regards to being mugged, and probably has the
         | same number of "mililucks" regardless
        
           | chistev wrote:
           | I like this.
        
           | datavirtue wrote:
           | I think this matches to a parabola that tracks with age.
           | Early on you can't do much because you don't know shit. As
           | you gain wisdom and experience you can influence it
           | significantly but as your age increases it falls off because
           | it is what it is at that point.
        
           | savanaly wrote:
           | Maybe you're thinking of "micromarriages"? [0]
           | 
           | [0] https://colah.github.io/personal/micromarriages/
        
           | swatcoder wrote:
           | It's a cute model to write or read about, but I strongly
           | encourage people not go do this to themselves -- at least not
           | on this scale.
           | 
           | A life lived lived through such brainy analysis of small
           | things is a recipe for anxiety and depression. For all the
           | millilucks towards this or that you might attribute to your
           | house party, you've already allotted decilucks to your
           | chances of a life mired in your own head and its imaginings.
           | 
           | As much as you can, just trust yourself, talk to people,
           | trust that you can roll with consquences as they come, and
           | save the deep analysis for things of much greater
           | consequences and much lesser frequency.
        
       | abhaynayar wrote:
       | > He told me that his father's experiences in the RAF led him to
       | insist that the family sat at the back of the plane - and the
       | only survivors were seated at the back. He had the right parents.
       | 
       | Interesting... will be getting seats at the back from now on!
        
         | heresie-dabord wrote:
         | It's hard to say how serious you are, but this is a good
         | example of casual notions of "luck".
         | 
         | Aircraft are often struck by lightning. US airlines (for
         | example) are very safe statistically. Looking at the
         | probabilities, I would suggest that you can optimise your
         | actuarial projection by insisting on sitting in centre-rear
         | position in all passenger vehicles.
         | 
         | From the fine article:
         | 
         | > Of course, we wouldn't be here to muse on our good fortune if
         | this chain of events had not occurred [...] But perhaps the
         | fragility of this chain should induce some humility about our
         | self-importance.
         | 
         | If we hope for humility, maybe we also need to hope for the
         | right kind of humility. We need to understand that the metaphor
         | of a "chain of events" implies some purposeful causation.
         | However we came to be was an accident; where we are going
         | depends on our ingenuity and ability to reason ourselves out of
         | the mud and pathology.
        
           | OJFord wrote:
           | > optimise your actuarial projection by insisting on sitting
           | in centre-rear position in all passenger vehicles
           | 
           | As long as your seatbelt's on. Takes quite a low-speed
           | collision to be extremely bad for a seatbeltless middle-seat
           | passenger, whereas those either side might have a nasty bang
           | against the seat in front but be basically fine.
        
         | hackernewds wrote:
         | Classic survivorship bias /s
        
       | Mistletoe wrote:
       | I was just thinking yesterday how me and my three brothers
       | wouldn't exist if my Mom's father hadn't had a box fall on him in
       | the back of a delivery truck, crushing his hip and making him
       | have to move his family several states away to convalesce. Later
       | my Mom would grow up there and meet my Dad. Nevermind the
       | astronomical chances that the single sperm that made you achieved
       | success and you aren't some other version of your siblings. Life
       | is weird and the chances any of us exist is so remote. Enjoy your
       | beyond lotto win and that you were able to pop into existence in
       | the universe at all! What a gift.
        
         | TeMPOraL wrote:
         | Kind of puts a brake on the whole notion of time travel. I know
         | "just world" is a fallacy, but thinking about ethics of such
         | hypothetical temporal interventions, I have this strong sense
         | that time travel is not possible in our universe because
         | otherwise it would be too abhorrent a place.
        
           | bena wrote:
           | It's one of those weird paradoxical things. Yes, the chances
           | of all _that_ happening is astronomically small, but the
           | chances that _something_ happens is nearly 1. So, while that
           | specific person may not have existed, it's likely his mother
           | would have had children, etc, etc.
           | 
           | And it kind of ties into the general idea. Luck is favorable
           | variance. So put yourself in situations where you can
           | experience variance. Eventually, you will have something
           | favorable happen to you.
           | 
           | There's a post on this site that gets linked about how
           | success is like a carnival game. And it's about how many
           | chances you can afford. It's also the mentality behind "fail
           | fast and fail often". Increase your exposure to variance and
           | you increase your chances of success.
        
       | sigzero wrote:
       | You mean that there is no such thing as "luck"?
        
       | xyst wrote:
       | what if luck is just proof of the infinite parallel universe
       | theory?
       | 
       | Each event, action, or outcome with even a slight variance is in
       | each its own reality. Buy a powerball lotto? Lose in 292,201,337
       | realities, but win grand prize in 1 reality.
        
         | bugbuddy wrote:
         | Infinite parallel universe is nonsensical to me. It is an
         | unprovable metaphysical contraption that offers nothing of
         | value besides copium for the less fortunate and the gullible
         | among us.
         | 
         | Also, it has nothing to do with luck as being discussed here.
        
           | jeremyjh wrote:
           | I think you can prove Many Worlds Interpretation correct for
           | yourself. You do the Schrodinger's cat thing on yourself. If
           | MWI is correct, you'll observe yourself surviving
           | indefinitely even if every second there is a 50% chance
           | determined by a quantum event that the trap triggers and
           | kills you. I'm not sure this would convince anyone else even
           | if you open the door after 6 hours and come out alive, and
           | regardless the vast, vast majority of total observers would
           | conclude the experiment failed since in most universes you'd
           | be dead. But you'd either know the theory is true or just be
           | dead. Not really worth the risk but I think it is testable.
        
             | fwip wrote:
             | Jesus Christ.
             | 
             | No, this is not supported by the MWI. There's no clause in
             | there about your consciousness getting magically teleported
             | to worlds in which you survive. There's science-fiction
             | with that as the premise, but it's fiction.
        
               | jeremyjh wrote:
               | A lot of people smarter than me think it is supported by
               | MWI. Max Tegmark, for example wrote about this in Our
               | Mathematical Universe[1]. No "teleportation" is required,
               | you simply aren't observing the universes in which you
               | die. So there is a selection bias.
               | 
               | 1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quantum_suicide_and_immo
               | rtalit...
               | 
               | edit: Note that I do not agree - as some do - that you
               | can extrapolate from this that MWI means we are all
               | immortal. The "continuous fade" argument made by Tegmark
               | is quite convincing, as are other objections to this
               | idea.
        
               | qarl wrote:
               | > There's no clause in there about your consciousness
               | getting magically teleported to worlds in which you
               | survive.
               | 
               | You are absolutely correct - there is nothing about the
               | MWI that implies such a thing. Such a thing is implied by
               | consciousness itself.
               | 
               | Here's a thought experiment. You implement a conscious
               | system on a computer. After letting it run for a year,
               | you interrupt the software but save all of its state.
               | After waiting 20 years, you restart the software from the
               | same point on a completely different computer running an
               | emulator for the old system.
               | 
               | The consciousness, whose reference of time is entirely
               | independent of the real world, does not "feel" the 20
               | year pause. It "magically teleports" to the new computer.
        
             | powersnail wrote:
             | I'm confused as to how this proves anything. Are you
             | suggesting that the only explanation that something with
             | small probability has happened, is that there are many
             | worlds in which this has not happen?
        
               | jeremyjh wrote:
               | No you don't have to observe other worlds, and you
               | wouldn't be able to "prove" anything to anyone else for
               | all sorts of practical reasons. But you'd know for
               | yourself that there is virtually no chance that MWI is
               | wrong if you survive for 6 hours (21,600 iterations at
               | 50% probably each), and you could go as long as you want
               | to further drive that probability down.
        
               | powersnail wrote:
               | I'm not sure that answers my confusion. Even if I am just
               | proving it to myself, why does the occurrence of a not
               | probable event prove the existence of many worlds?
        
         | shepherdjerred wrote:
         | Community covers this in "Remedial Chaos Theory"
         | 
         | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yS7eyAg13HM&list=PLzPhBo3i-o...
        
       | Mordisquitos wrote:
       | This comparison of different understandings of "luck" really
       | resonates with me. I have a personal experience that, when I talk
       | about it, I often mention the paradoxical levels of "luck"
       | involved. Given this is a lazy Sunday, I am taking the luxury of
       | typing it all out. Content warning: badly written self-centred
       | personal anecdote involving serious injury and death.
       | 
       |  _TL;DR:_ I was almost killed in an accident due to terrible
       | circumstantial luck (wrong place, wrong time), I survived with no
       | medical sequelae thanks to incredible outcome luck (great
       | doctors), and with no psychological trauma thanks to partially-
       | learned partially-intrinsic ability to accept circumstances out
       | of my control.
       | 
       |  _Part 1: TERRIBLE CIRCUMSTANTIAL LUCK_
       | 
       | In late 2019 I was on a long-weekend trip to another city in my
       | country, in which me and some old friends who were living
       | elsewhere were meeting up. While I was there, I was walking on
       | the pavement at around four in the afternoon and I was hit from
       | behind by a car at a speed of ~40-50 km/h (the driver had briefly
       | lost consciousness, there were no drugs or alcohol involved).
       | Last thing I remember was being in the area walking normally
       | before the accident; I do not remember anything about the
       | accident itself nor the car bursting onto the pavement.
       | 
       | The impact left me with a broken hand and a fractured skull, and
       | I was fully unconscious (GCS of 3) when the ambulance that rushed
       | me to hospital. According to eyewitnesses I believe I was
       | unconscious from impact. A CT scan in hospital showed I had an
       | epidural haematoma of 19mm (bleeding inside the skull, pressing
       | against the brain) which was pushing my brain midline by 3.7mm to
       | the other side. I was taken to the operating theatre and was
       | undergoing emergency neurosurgery ~2 hours after the accident.
       | 
       | This bad luck was even worse than that of a plane crash. With a
       | plane crash, you were unlucky to fly on that aircraft, but in my
       | case literally _anything_ I had done differently that day, to the
       | very last minute, could have led me to being at that same spot 1
       | minute later or 1 minute sooner and thus could have saved me from
       | the accident.
       | 
       |  _Part 2: INCREDIBLE OUTCOME LUCK_
       | 
       | If you know anything about TBIs, after reading my description
       | above you may already know I'm lucky to be able to type this. And
       | if you don't, let's put it this way: after surgery, my parents
       | and my partner at the time (who flew in as soon as they heard)
       | were warned by the doctors that though surgery had gone well they
       | had to be ready that I may be left with severe long-term
       | sequelae. The doctors warned them that I may need training to be
       | able to walk and talk again, and it was impossible to tell to
       | what extent my personality and mental capacities may have been
       | damaged. There was a chance I may need some level of special
       | support for the rest of my life.
       | 
       | And yet, as soon as I came back from anaesthesia, it seems that I
       | was able to recognise everyone and I was trying to escape from my
       | hospital bed--needing to be physically restrained by hospital
       | staff--and loudly demanding my release. Apparently these are
       | common reactions after waking up from a concussion. Post-op I was
       | in ICU for 1 week and in normal hospital wing for another week. I
       | have no memory of the first half, but it appears that all tests
       | of cognitive ability were coming back extremely promising and
       | signalling a shockingly good recovery.
       | 
       | Don't get me wrong, I was in a terrible state, with a massively
       | swollen skull, clumsy, no sense of smell (before it was cool) due
       | to damaged olfactory nerves, and my full recovery would take many
       | months of rehab. But the fact remains that, probably in a large
       | part to the amazing skill of the neurosurgeons and their team who
       | did an emergency craniotomy on me, I had no perceptible brain
       | damage. Every doctor who saw me in the followups would say how
       | surprised they were after reading my clinical history of the
       | event.
       | 
       |  _Part 3: GREAT CONSTITUTIVE LUCK_
       | 
       | Some of my first memories of when I was in hospital (at first I
       | had no idea why I was there, it felt like a no-context dream
       | state) was that, when asked what I wanted for my meals, I would
       | intentionally ask for fish because I was aware that omega-3 fatty
       | acids are good "brain food"--and apparently I was brain injured?
       | In other words, even not knowing why I was there, my mind was
       | already focusing on improving my chances.
       | 
       | More important than this was my long-term well-being in the days,
       | weeks, and months after the event. I have left out an important
       | detail so that it didn't distract from the point I was making,
       | but it was not only me who was hit by the car: it was me and one
       | of my friends whom I had not seen in years, and she died on the
       | spot.
       | 
       | My partner intentionally didn't tell me this detail until after I
       | was released from hospital and we were spending a night at a
       | hotel. She wanted to tell me only when she was sure I could fully
       | understand what had happened (for which I am grateful), and it
       | made me terribly sad to head about it. Now, what made the initial
       | _circumstantial luck_ even worse, was this: it was _I_ who
       | suggested travelling to that specific city to meet up. And guess
       | why me and my friend were on that pavement at that specific
       | moment? We were walking to pick up the rental car in the rental
       | place at which _I_ had chosen to make the reservation.
       | 
       | As you can imagine, all these things are a recipe for disaster
       | regarding traumatic memories and needing years of therapy. I had
       | suffered an unexplainable severe accident which left me unable to
       | work and doing rehab for months ( _" so unfair! Why did this
       | happen to me?"_), my friend whom I had not seen in years --and
       | mother of two young sons-- had died in the same event ( _" why
       | did I survive and not her?"_), and I had made two of the
       | arbitrary choices that led us both to be in the wrong place at
       | the wrong time ( _" I am ultimately responsible for what
       | happened!"_).
       | 
       | And yet, thanks to having internalised ideas of stoic philosophy
       | --and to some extent, thanks to my personality-- I never believed
       | any of the italicised thoughts in parentheses above. My partner
       | and her mother, as well as a friend of ours, all initially
       | insisted that I should look for psychotherapy to deal with the
       | situation --not in response to any observation of my behaviour or
       | feelings, mind you, but just because it is "normal" to need
       | therapy after going through a traumatic event. But I didn't need
       | therapy, I was fine. I was able to completely accept my radically
       | new circumstances that I had to deal with, as well as having no
       | feelings of guilt over what was simply a series of fucked up
       | coincidences. In the words of Epictetus, "some things are in our
       | control and others not". How I ended up in that situation was not
       | in my control.
        
         | datavirtue wrote:
         | This is why I hate mixing vehicle and pedestrian traffic and
         | why I don't feel safe on the sidewalk. I think it's lunacy to
         | have vehicles driving over foot paths in front of grocery
         | stores. The vehicles have no reason to be there but the
         | establishment directs vehicle traffic right through the main
         | chokepoint in front of the entry doors. I have witnessed
         | workers and shoppers getting assaulted by vehicles numerous
         | times at my local Kroger. Still waiting for the lightbulb to
         | come on.
        
           | carapace wrote:
           | The crazy thing is, and forgive me if you've heard this
           | before, this insane situation is the result of a deliberate
           | domestic propaganda campaign:
           | 
           | "The Real Reason Jaywalking Is A Crime" (Adam Ruins
           | Everything) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vxopfjXkArM
           | 
           | "Street Rivals: Jaywalking and the Invention of the Motor Age
           | Street", Peter D. Norton
           | https://www.jstor.org/stable/40061474
        
       | mrangle wrote:
       | Be careful Spiegelhalter, lest you flirt with religion.
        
       | MailleQuiMaille wrote:
       | Fate, Destiny, Logos, God(s), and so on...
       | 
       | It seems that for most of History, we personified luck and lived
       | along that knowledge that something someone wanted some things
       | out of that collective human experience, and thus was guiding
       | events and people to a goal.
       | 
       | I'm wondering what we lost by trying to explain that. For sure,
       | religions and mythologies are still here and kicking, but I'm
       | curious if "Science" will ever get to a point where stuff like
       | this becomes as trivial as "Well, it's God's Plan, I'm just the
       | character in their cosmic drama".
       | 
       | WHat happens when the character want to change the story
       | themselves ?
        
         | zdragnar wrote:
         | It isn't so much religion specifically as philosophy, or a
         | mindset.
         | 
         | Looking at the stoics, for example, the message is to not
         | despair or be angry at misfortune. Such emotions are a result
         | of the world not meeting your expectations, and are a lesson to
         | adjust your expectations.
         | 
         | Rather than focusing on what you cannot change, the focus is
         | moved to what you can.
         | 
         | The trendy term for this is "resiliency", the emotional quality
         | of capability to endure hardship. That it the very first step
         | to "changing the story", as you say. There's no use crying over
         | split milk, but now you can take steps to avoid spilling it in
         | the future.
        
         | bsbsjsusj wrote:
         | Religion and science in general are not incompatiable.
         | Immutible religions and mutable scienece are incompatible
         | though. God didn't create the world in 7 days. As a theory this
         | is disprovable. So the bible needs to be edited! But that is
         | not allowed but we have an out! We can imterpret it as
         | metaphor.
        
       | m3kw9 wrote:
       | People hate it when most of their success is actually based on
       | luck. Sequence of events that allows them to do what they do.
       | This isn't dumb luck but luck that enables. (The downvotes or
       | lack of there of will prove it).
        
       | gmuslera wrote:
       | Like with the Murphy's Law, you are looking at the wrong side of
       | the stick. It's like the Texas sharpshooter fallacy, you paint
       | the target after the shots has been made.
       | 
       | I remember some critics on Ringworld's Teela Brown superpower,
       | that was basically the author taking care that everything go well
       | for her. Because that is what really implies being having luck as
       | implicit attribute, that the universe conspires to make
       | everything go well for you. Situational awareness to avoid or get
       | involved in bad or good events is not luck, truly random events
       | won't be biased towards you.
        
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