[HN Gopher] The Soldiers' Philosopher
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       The Soldiers' Philosopher
        
       Author : aways
       Score  : 28 points
       Date   : 2024-10-01 23:59 UTC (23 hours ago)
        
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       | quercusa wrote:
       | (2014)
       | 
       | Interesting:
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       |  _The Stoics were giving salvation for tough times. It's a great
       | philosophy for tough times, I'm not sure it's a great philosophy
       | for everyday living. It's always good to feel more in control,
       | but it's not good to think that luck and the vicissitudes of the
       | world can't touch you or that you can't show moral outrage, love,
       | grief, and so on._
        
         | mturmon wrote:
         | Full agree.
         | 
         | The preceding paragraphs are terse and add further insight
         | about the limits of Stoicism (or perhaps the little-s version
         | that one might commonly adopt if under stress) and its effects
         | on curtailing emotions.
        
           | pjlegato wrote:
           | Common misconception; Stoicism is not about curtailing or
           | repressing emotions.
           | 
           | Stoicism is about not allowing your emotions to govern you.
           | 
           | Subtle but profound difference.
        
             | jajko wrote:
             | Hmm, I may be a stoic by accident then (or more like coming
             | there on my own). Emotions are great, I've fallen madly in
             | love few times, I've cried from happiness when summiting
             | Matterhorn, proposing to my girlfriend on top of Mont Blanc
             | or checking some other higher peaks, I've had tears of joy
             | when cutting umbilical cords of my kids and so on.
             | 
             | But I never let them run my life, and I remove them from
             | any bigger decisions. Cold hard facts don't change, and so
             | doesn't your perspective and decisions based on them. Any
             | new fact just adds to the mix with at most mild alteration
             | of the result.
             | 
             | Yet many folks I know have fucked up something bad in their
             | life, by giving up to emotions in crucial moments. Lifelong
             | regrets often afterwards, either hiding the fact in shame
             | or living with consequences, in both cases visibly
             | permanently less happy (not just cheating to be clear
             | although that's of course one of main ones).
        
         | keybored wrote:
         | If someone said this about Stoicism on HN (not a professional
         | philosopher) they would get corrected by the Stoic
         | practitioners/dabblers: that it's about skillfully managing
         | circumstances and your reaction to them. Not about cutting off
         | your emotional life.
         | 
         | Anyway I don't see the connection between the vicissitudes of
         | life and travelling half-way across the world and then getting
         | blown up by an IDE^W IED. What part of that fits into the
         | Reinhold Nieburh quote?
         | 
         | > God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot
         | change, Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know
         | the difference.
        
           | getpokedagain wrote:
           | Damn IntelliJ blowing people up
        
             | keybored wrote:
             | Ahh haha. Fixed now. ;)
        
       | KineticLensman wrote:
       | I used to work with Soldiers a lot (I helped build training
       | simulations) and was often amazed by their perspectives. I
       | remember theoretical discussions (Q: when is the enemy defeated?
       | A: when he thinks he is) alongside powerful raw emotions (Dutch
       | peacekeepers unable to intervene in the Srebrenica massacre). On
       | one project, where things were technically crashing around our
       | ears, I was staggered by the emotional and practical support from
       | soldiers who understood that I was on their side, more than I've
       | ever experienced from civvie project managers. It's the closest
       | I've come to crying with gratitude. That and the attitude: when
       | you fall down, we will laugh, but we will help you up.
       | 
       | Respect.
        
       | nonrandomstring wrote:
       | Excellent read. Original perspectives too - just drop the D from
       | PTSD and get with the idea that this is normal and the hardest
       | people are soft on the inside.
        
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