[HN Gopher] Everything that turned out well in my life followed ...
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Everything that turned out well in my life followed the same design
process
Author : jger15
Score : 104 points
Date : 2024-08-06 00:14 UTC (4 days ago)
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| the_real_cher wrote:
| > I paid attention to things I liked to do, and found ways to do
| more of that
|
| This is great advice to people who dont need to have a job that
| takes up all their time.
| trevyn wrote:
| If you think you need a job, you're wrong.
| noworld wrote:
| Only if you need money.
| gr4vityWall wrote:
| Could you elaborate? I'd be happy to be proven wrong. I do
| need a source of income to pay my monthly costs, and I don't
| know how I can have one besides having a job or owning part
| of a business.
| IncreasePosts wrote:
| Not OP, but I imagine they're getting at the fact that you
| only need a job because of lifestyle choices you make, and
| if you drastically cut back on that, you could work far
| less than you currently do.
| therein wrote:
| The classic you did this to yourself. Walking across the
| street, hit by a car? You could have decided to take the
| bus that day.
|
| Some people say stuff like that and not see anything
| wrong with it somehow.
| maximinus_thrax wrote:
| Nature made some choices about my chronic conditions, so
| I depend on access to healthcare. Healthcare is tied to
| my job (I live in the USA). Should I cut back on my life
| expectancy?
| gr4vityWall wrote:
| > if you drastically cut back on that, you could work far
| less than you currently do
|
| I don't disagree with that per se (of course there are
| exceptions), but I don't see how that implies I'd only
| need a job because of my lifestyle choices. Even for a
| frugal life style where you only pay for groceries,
| Internet and rent, I'd still need a source of income. I'm
| assuming to healthcare either, as that's a luxury I've
| never had. :P
| therealdkz wrote:
| UBI FTW
| sophacles wrote:
| Having a job and finding a way to do more of the things you
| like to do are not mutually exclusive.
|
| For instance - find a job that takes less of your time. Or find
| a way to manage your time better so you don't work all of it.
| Or both.
| elliotec wrote:
| This is great advice to people who DO have a job that takes up
| "all their time." Find ways to do things you enjoy; maybe
| eventually, it even leads to a job you might like more or that
| takes up less time so that you can continue pursuing the things
| you like.
| kylebenzle wrote:
| Sorry to be negative for no reason but I got nothing out of
| reading this article other than the author has been extremely
| lucky and privileged.
| elliotec wrote:
| How much of that do you think was by following his "design" vs
| just luck and privilege falling into his lap? I think that's
| the point he's getting at, but I don't know his backstory and I
| don't see where you gleaned that from this post.
| euvin wrote:
| I'm not sure what this talk about luck and privilege has much to
| do with the core ideas of the article, which I took to be:
|
| * look critically at your life's successes and your interests,
| discern what to prioritize
|
| * being aware of societal abstractions and what you're "supposed"
| to do in life affecting your choices
|
| * that your current "vision" of a proper life might not be the
| actual best fit for you, precisely because of the above
| abstractions
|
| I thought these were generally fair points, if not rephrasings of
| common wisdom like "iterate more" and "your first idea isn't
| perfect" and "be wary of preconceptions". If you're in a bad
| material situation, I'm not sure that everything here suddenly
| doesn't apply?
|
| Not saying that the author isn't privileged, that the path to
| success wasn't made easier by being able to travel, rent, and buy
| a farm in the footnotes. But again, the advice seems to be pretty
| universally put no matter how big or small your steps are.
| lemonwaterlime wrote:
| Some people will go out of their way to live a life without
| principles. They will go so far as to discount any success as
| the result of luck or privilege or some other externality such
| that the only reasonable response must be that there is no
| point to doing anything but live a random life, day-by-day. To
| such individuals, no amount of planning or reflection can get
| you out of your situation or lead to a better life. If you have
| resources, you will have more. If you have none, you are doomed
| to fail. Or you can get lucky.
| aliasxneo wrote:
| The initial comments on this post seem unreasonably negative. I
| did have to stop and process things a bit, but the underlying
| idea deeply resonates with me. This is quite the nugget:
|
| > The context is smarter than you. It holds more nuance and
| information than you can fit in your head. Collaborate with it.
|
| Sometimes, I feel like our mental models can form outside of a
| context (e.g., a classroom setting), and we are tempted to
| "force" the context to mold to the existing mental model. The
| problem, as the author describes, is the context tends to be far
| more complex than your rudimentary mental model.
|
| Instead of forcing the mental model, allow the context to inform
| and grow it to be reasonable for the current situation. I find
| this particularly valuable in the field of platform engineering
| where this sort of behavior is prevalent. Every software team is
| different, and contexts can vary to a large degree. Instead of
| taking "the best platform approach" and trying to make your team
| conform to it, go "be" in the team and let that experience inform
| what the "best platform approach" is.
| euvin wrote:
| > Sometimes, I feel like our mental models can form outside of
| a context (e.g., a classroom setting), and we are tempted to
| "force" the context to mold to the existing mental model. The
| problem, as the author describes, is the context tends to be
| far more complex than your rudimentary mental model.
|
| Right. A lot of common wisdom I hear seems to agree, like
| "professional work > university courses", "experience > reading
| theory", "iterative launches > the perfect launch", "just
| play/draw/code/practice more". The line about the context being
| smarter seems like an amalgamation of all of that, where direct
| experience with the "context" (the real world) yields a
| subconscious amount of depth you can't even imagine beforehand,
| much less with rigid external abstractions drilled into you.
| theGnuMe wrote:
| You should listen to this week's episode of Hidden Brain.
| ochronus wrote:
| I see how this mental model is helpful for a lot of people. I
| think the points he's making about the "unfolding" topic are
| universally great; at first glance, it looks like a
| straightforward idea, but we fail at keeping it in mind when we
| do the actual thinking. I've added a couple of his questions in
| that section to my journaling template.
| theGnuMe wrote:
| Marry the right person.. well at least don't marry the wrong
| person. And if you do marry the wrong person get out quick!
| Avisan wrote:
| I'm particularly intrigued by the idea of unbundling complex
| problems to gain deeper insights. This approach seems to offer a
| powerful way to challenge assumptions and find innovative
| solutions.
| jebarker wrote:
| The idea of discovering a life that fits you rather than trying
| to predict it up front makes sense to me. In my life I think I've
| found most success, enjoyment and reward when I've followed my
| gut as opportunities arise. But I'm not really sure what the
| guiding reward signal is. Without up front choosing you want to
| be rich, high status, surrounded by a loving family, popular, for
| example, how do you make the near-term tactical choices well? Is
| it just "do what feels right"?
| unraveller wrote:
| Reminds me of the advice "Find your passion and let it kill you"
| only lets flip it so you compromise endlessly first and just
| accept the life this process finds. Neither approach is truly
| ever followed by their proponents, it just rings humble and
| selfless and without responsibility. How agreeable.
|
| Why would my vision for life be an error and the visions that
| come from interacting with others or "the context" be without
| error?
|
| You get better at vision when you maintain higher standards for
| yourself, not when you loosen aims as failure approaches and look
| at your happiness from 30,000 feet in a daily journal. You do
| have to decide who you want to be at some point, always with
| limited information. But willing a great life for yourself is in
| no way like designing inanimate products to be released.
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