[HN Gopher] The loneliness of the low-ranking tennis player
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       The loneliness of the low-ranking tennis player
        
       Author : jgwil2
       Score  : 158 points
       Date   : 2024-06-27 17:23 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | chasebank wrote:
       | Andre Agassi spent the 9th most time as #1 tennis player in the
       | world and in his book, Open, he says multiple times how lonely of
       | a sport tennis is. I think the loneliness of tennis affects the
       | whole spectrum of the ranks, not just the bottom.
       | 
       | FWIW, Open is one of my favorite books and a very easy read if
       | you're interested.
        
         | mattw2121 wrote:
         | Open is a great book and so is "You Cannot Be Serious".
        
         | jakub_g wrote:
         | There's a few references specifically to Agassi a few times in
         | this writeup
         | 
         | > Andre Agassi was lonely but never alone, players on the
         | Futures tour are both.
        
       | throw0101b wrote:
       | _Vox_ had a video a few months ago,  "Why most tennis players
       | struggle to make a living":
       | 
       | * https://www.vox.com/videos/2023/9/12/23870760/tennis-wages-s...
       | 
       | One anecdote: one ranked player made more money restringing other
       | players's rackets than actually competing.
        
         | jakub_g wrote:
         | From the original article in the thread:
         | 
         | > Those "rich fucks" kept Johnny on the road, mind, as he
         | offered a racket-stringing service to players. Johnny has
         | claimed he's the only player ever to make a consistent living
         | on the Futures tour, and he kept overheads low, running the
         | school bus on vegetable oil. More recently, he has been making
         | YouTube videos about "extreme couponing", where he lists the
         | great savings he has made on his weekly grocery shop.
        
         | optimalsolver wrote:
         | Is it true that "You're not worthy to restring my racket" is a
         | popular insult in tennis circles?
        
           | ore0s wrote:
           | Nope, this isn't Downton Abbey. The further you go in
           | competitive tennis, the tighter the community gets. Also,
           | playing tennis and stringing rackets are two distinct
           | skillsets. For elite players the strings are just as crucial
           | as the racket itself. Check out this interview with the
           | stringer who traveled the globe with Federer for 15 years,
           | ensuring he had nine freshly strung rackets for each match.
           | 
           | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4sRSqSupzyM
        
         | carabiner wrote:
         | Most olympians too, even medalists:
         | https://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/olympics/2020/02/24/su...
         | 
         | Once at Mammoth in the locker room, I overheard a family
         | mentioning how they bought US olympic ski team jackets from the
         | olympians themselves.
        
       | MisterBastahrd wrote:
       | Not really sure how this is much different from any consultant
       | who does long projects on the road, at least as far as social
       | isolation is concerned, really. You go to work, you do a job, and
       | then you go back to the hotel. What I suspect is happening on top
       | of everything else for these players is that (a) they're in a
       | competitive field so they have to stay on top of their rest and
       | diet at all times, (b) isolation is definitely a thing, but (c)
       | many of them come from upper middle class backgrounds and it's a
       | culture shock to bleed through money just to travel for
       | tournaments and have proper gear.
        
         | p1esk wrote:
         | The difference is: consultants are expected to get paid after
         | they complete the job, tennis players lose a lot more matches
         | on average than they win so they usually do not get paid.
        
         | fallinditch wrote:
         | I understand that the actual playing the matches is very
         | isolating too: there may be a crowd of people watching the 2
         | players but it's just them on the court battling it out. The
         | intensity of the battle and its psychological components
         | probably adds to the isolation on the court, and loneliness off
         | it.
        
         | alexpotato wrote:
         | A family acquaintance of mine was a consultant with an
         | interesting work/life balance:
         | 
         | - He had no permanent physical residence aka he didn't own a
         | house or rent an apartment (he did have a PO Box in a city just
         | for a legal address)
         | 
         | - Everything he owned was in 4 suitcases
         | 
         | - Other than scheduled PTO, the firm decided where he would go
         | for consulting projects (often on short notice) which could be
         | anywhere in the world
         | 
         | - When he DID have PTO, the firm would pay for ANYTHING he
         | wanted to do. Rent a speedboat? Check! Fly him to Asia to see a
         | friend? Check!
         | 
         | He had a girlfriend (who I was friends with and how I knew him)
         | so I don't think he was totally isolated. That being said, must
         | be tough to put down roots in that situation.
        
         | asdff wrote:
         | Well, consultants also have marketable skills that don't depend
         | on them fighting aging and injury and are actually making money
         | on the road vs going into debt potentially with nothing to show
         | for it. I'd say that helps one sleep easy and not feel so
         | constantly anxious.
        
         | et-al wrote:
         | > _they 're in a competitive field so they have to stay on top
         | of their rest and diet at all times_
         | 
         | Versus a consultant where you're racking up miles and points,
         | have a per diem, and usually treated to a client dinner and/or
         | sports game. Personally I enjoyed traveling for work when I was
         | young and single. Depending on the hotel you're staying at, you
         | can meet other traveling workers and commiserate.
        
       | p1esk wrote:
       | In pro tennis only the top 100 players actually make more money
       | than they spend.
        
         | xmprt wrote:
         | To be fair, the same could be said about a lot of gamers.
         | People spend $1000+ on a gaming PC and even if they enjoy
         | playing competitively, most of them never go pro. I wonder if
         | pro tennis is a case of people not wanting to go pro or not
         | being able to go pro.
         | 
         | Edit: I think a handful of people are misunderstanding my
         | point. I'm saying that not everything has to have a monetary
         | return on investment. Even if the "opportunity cost" of
         | spending all that time grinding is super high, the return is
         | just the enjoyment that one gets from playing the game or from
         | feeling accomplished to reach a certain goal/rank even if it's
         | not pro level.
        
           | jncfhnb wrote:
           | $1000k on a gaming pc is an extremely small investment
           | compared to the time spent training to be competitive at
           | anything.
        
           | hombre_fatal wrote:
           | If it were just $1000, it would be a bargain. The real cost
           | is the opportunity cost of grinding and never making it.
        
           | tpurves wrote:
           | $1000 could be less than the costs of just flights to one
           | weekend tennis tournament which, because of seeding, you're
           | highly likely to go out in the first round as a low ranked
           | player.
        
         | TeaBrain wrote:
         | This may have been true at one time, but it is not true now.
         | 128 players qualify for the first round of each of the four
         | major tournaments and for each, the players have a guaranteed
         | payday even if they lose in the first round. For the 128 who
         | qualify for the US Open, players will get over $80k for just
         | playing the first round, even if they lose.
         | 
         | For example, the 101st ranked ATP (men) player has made over
         | $450k from prize money in just a little over half of this
         | season. The 102nd ranked player has made over $330k so far.
         | Considering that there are two more majors left this year which
         | they'll likely qualify for, they'll likely make another several
         | hundred thousand more at-least this year from just competition.
         | 
         | Many of the top 150 tennis players often make the equivalent
         | amount to their prize money or greater in sponsorships. The
         | lack of sustainable income from just competition becomes more
         | true once you look outside the top 150.
         | 
         | The low ranking tennis players that the article referred to
         | were outside the top 300, which meant that they were stuck
         | playing the futures tournaments where there is little
         | possibility for money. Conor Niland, who wrote the article,
         | only briefly achieved a career high ranking of 129, but spent
         | most of his career ranked outside of the top 300.
         | 
         | https://www.atptour.com/en/players/luca-van-assche/v0dz/over...
         | 
         | https://www.atptour.com/en/players/yoshihito-nishioka/n732/o...
        
           | IncreasePosts wrote:
           | $330k would be good for an individual with a desk job, but
           | when you factor in the other costs to run the "enterprise" of
           | a tennis player, what does the take home look like?
           | 
           | IE how much does a tennis coach cost? Travel and lodging for
           | tournaments. I'm assuming they might have a medical expert or
           | nutritionist on the staff as well?
        
             | TeaBrain wrote:
             | 330k is his earnings from only a little over half of the
             | season. It is probably only half of earnings this year
             | also, considering that an equal amount is likely made from
             | sponsorships, given that Yoshihito is Japan's second
             | highest ranking ATP player. Top 150 players usually have
             | separate sponsorships for both clothing and racquets. A
             | quick search reveals Yoshihito has brand ties to Yonex,
             | Morinaga & Company, Miki House and AFH.
        
             | navane wrote:
             | 330k good for a deskjob is quite an understatement
        
           | p1esk wrote:
           | The problem is it is different 128 in each major, and the
           | overlap across all four majors in a year is significantly
           | less than 100. People move up and down the rankings a lot. To
           | actually make a living you need to be consistently in the top
           | 100, year after year. Your two examples are both very good
           | players who spent most of the last 6 months well inside of
           | top 100: in Feb, van Assche was #68 and Nishioka was #47. Of
           | course they did well. Look at those who spent the last 12
           | months outside of top 100, and remember that total expenses
           | of tour life can get as high as $20k/mo.
        
             | TeaBrain wrote:
             | The players that compete in each of the majors does not
             | vary that widely. The most points come from the higher
             | tiered tournaments and to get into the higher tiered
             | tournaments, a player has to have a higher amount of
             | points, which grants the player direct entry, which is how
             | most players get into tournaments. The only alternatives to
             | get into tournaments are entry by wildcard or qualification
             | via a qualification tournament, each of which only grants
             | entry to a small minority of players in any given
             | tournament. For the US Open, the top 101 ATP ranking spots
             | are given direct entry. As I mentioned, ranking spots are
             | largely self-reinforcing, so the entries do not vary
             | considerably. Also, players outside the top 100 are not
             | spending $20k per month to tour. That is a wildly
             | inaccurate even for most players inside the top 100.
        
           | naveen99 wrote:
           | They should probably unionize like nba players. nba players
           | beyond the top 100 make 10 times more.
        
       | timdellinger wrote:
       | Ironically enough, professional pickleball players today are
       | making more money than WNBA players and more money than most of
       | the folks that this article talks about.
        
         | antisthenes wrote:
         | I would bet most of the money comes from endorsing and peddling
         | selling pieces of plastic for $249, when they cost $10 to make
         | in China, not from actual tournament winnings.
        
           | office_drone wrote:
           | Yes, articles on Ben Johns suggest his income is 5% winnings
           | and 95% endorsements.
        
       | jncfhnb wrote:
       | I don't understand why these people are continuing to try to play
       | tennis professionally when the odds of them making something
       | resembling a living wage seems so grim. Like, after a few years
       | of trying it's got to be obvious.
       | 
       | The author here mentions his parents pushing him and his sister
       | to do this. Is the low key story that these are mostly just old
       | money children in a limbo of their parents' whims and lifelines?
        
         | p1esk wrote:
         | It's similar to wanting to start your own company: the odds to
         | succeed are grim.
        
           | generic92034 wrote:
           | Or surviving as a book author, or making it as an
           | actor/actress in Hollywood, or ... - they simply have a dream
           | and it is quite hard to find the right timing for giving up
           | such dreams.
        
             | Miraste wrote:
             | Succeeding as an author, actor, or tennis player is a much
             | greater challenge than starting a company. There are
             | millions and millions of companies succeeding well enough
             | to keep their owners afloat. The chances for creative
             | careers and professional sports, meanwhile, are abysmal.
        
           | pineaux wrote:
           | This is not true. The odds of becoming a unicorn are grim.
           | The odds of getting a decent wage is actually quite high if
           | you ask me.
        
             | awelxtr wrote:
             | In Spain 60% of companies don't survive the 5 year mark
             | [1]. That's what I think when people say that making a
             | company is hard.
             | 
             | [1] https://www.eleconomista.es/economia/noticias/12101579/
             | 01/23...
        
               | dangus wrote:
               | That's way better odds than being a top tier professional
               | athlete.
               | 
               | If 60% of companies fail that means if you start 6
               | businesses then you have a 95% probability of having a
               | successful business.
               | 
               | Only 1.6% of college football players transition to the
               | NFL.
        
           | Ekaros wrote:
           | Maybe like running a restaurant... Other businesses if they
           | are sensible to start with are lot less risky.
        
             | WJW wrote:
             | You can be "less risky" than a restaurant while still
             | having dismal chances of success though. Nobody who starts
             | a business expects that it'll be bankrupt within a few
             | years, yet statistically some 90% are. The worst cases are
             | when the company manages along for years and then still
             | goes under. I was contracting for a 10 year old company of
             | ~30 people last year and they just had to fire 20 of those
             | and will still almost certainly go bankrupt. They weren't
             | in a business you'd call "risky" either.
        
         | tech_ken wrote:
         | I think that once you've become, ex., the number 1 tennis
         | player in a country it's tough to retrain, both literally and
         | psychologically. Your whole life, and likely your self-worth,
         | are highly enmeshed with the sport. Accepting that it's not
         | going to work out is going to be straight up painful,
         | psychologically, not to mention that you probably are pretty
         | short on other qualifications.
        
           | TeaBrain wrote:
           | It is exactly this. Tennis has been the focal point of the
           | entire life of these players. I saw this even in the juniors,
           | no matter the success of the players. For those that were
           | really involved in the sport, their entire life revolved
           | around it, to the point where it became part of their
           | identity. Young competitive players will spend most of their
           | available time outside of school to play, that being multiple
           | hours a day, seven days a week, year-round. To stop playing,
           | is not just to make an easy pivot like the guy you responded
           | to thinks it is, but is more like giving up on a religion
           | that you've devoted your entire life and being to.
        
           | krisoft wrote:
           | But if you are the number 1 tennis player in your country in
           | some objective sense, can't you build a coaching career out
           | of that?
           | 
           | Unless it is some pocket sized country (like the Vatican, or
           | Andora) you should be able to find enough students to support
           | yourself and being the number 1 player should help with
           | marketing your coaching business.
        
         | paulcole wrote:
         | Why does anybody do anything when the odds are grim?
         | 
         | Either they want to do it anyway or they think they have to do
         | it.
        
         | neaden wrote:
         | At a guess, is it to become a tennis coach/pro later on? Like
         | you do this in your 20s then coach at a private high school so
         | they can say they have the former #129th ranked tennis player
         | in the world.
        
           | t0mas88 wrote:
           | My previous coach was somewhere in the top 200 at some point.
           | He wasn't very good at teaching tennis... My current one is a
           | long term career tennis teacher with a much lower ranking,
           | but he's very good at teaching.
           | 
           | Being good yourself doesn't add much to your teaching skills.
           | But it does help marketing a bit if you're targeting an
           | audience that wants to become pro themselves.
        
         | antisthenes wrote:
         | > Is the low key story that these are mostly just old money
         | children in a limbo of their parents' whims and lifelines?
         | 
         | I think that's incredibly reductive, although does have a bit
         | of a point.
         | 
         | The gist of the story is that there's a special kind of
         | loneliness when you're always on the cusp of "making it big" in
         | an industry that is very very top-heavy in terms of rewards.
         | (sports, acting, content creation, startup company, restaurant
         | etc.)
         | 
         | You can spend your entire youth chasing this dream, and it's a
         | lot harder for some people to "give up the dream" than others.
         | You can call this being delusional or you can call it the
         | tyranny of high expectations (from others or from themselves).
         | 
         | Yes, it's a lot easier to feed your delusion if you come from
         | money. That's where a big "ick" for rich people come from -
         | some of them are just incredibly mediocre in terms of skills,
         | with their egos boosted by daddy's wallet.
        
           | jncfhnb wrote:
           | I more so meant just where are they getting the money to do
           | this? Because the article sure seemed to suggest he was
           | making far less than minimum wage considering his training
           | time and tourney earnings.
        
         | TeaBrain wrote:
         | People playing tennis professionally aren't simply trying it
         | out. The development of a tennis professional is probably most
         | similar to someone who has been bred to become a classical
         | musician. Those that play tennis or classical music
         | professionally are never just trying something out, but have
         | been fully immersed since childhood, to the point where their
         | entire life revolves around playing. To give it up, would be to
         | give up the one thing that their entire life has revolved
         | around since childhood.
        
           | jncfhnb wrote:
           | Giving up the thing your life has revolved around since
           | childhood because it's just not happening is totally
           | reasonable though.
        
             | Ekaros wrote:
             | Problem with these players is that it is kinda happening.
             | Not properly, but they are not entirely failing... This is
             | the most dangerous spot to be, you are not there yet, but
             | you can reasonable think you can get there. These players
             | get to play at least the early rounds. You are ever so
             | slightly alternatively above and below the water...
        
             | ordu wrote:
             | Reasonably, maybe, but it means that the person needs to
             | rejects themself. At this level of immersion sport/music
             | becomes the part of the person, their definition (implicit
             | or explicit) contains words "music" or "sport". It is still
             | possible to throw it away and start again, but it is really
             | difficult psychologically, and probably in other aspects
             | too: they don't know how to be someone who is not a
             | musician or an athlete.
        
             | TeaBrain wrote:
             | What I'm trying to explain is that for the top level
             | juniors who become pros, it is not a hobby or "thing", it
             | is their entire universe. Top junior players that expect to
             | become pros are already touring the world when they are in
             | their mid-teens. Their entire world is their parents, their
             | coach, their peers at their tennis academy, and the players
             | they see at tournaments. They are living and breathing it,
             | and little else. The top junior players often do not
             | participate in regular high schooling and the promising
             | ones that go pro young, don't go to university at all.
             | Almost none of the top pros even today have ever gone to
             | university. The players that do make it to successful
             | careers in the top 100, don't make it with the attitude of
             | being half in with a backup plan. They make it with the
             | idea that tennis is their entire life and purpose.
        
           | riku_iki wrote:
           | > To give it up, would be to give up the one thing that their
           | entire life has revolved around since childhood.
           | 
           | I imagine they could try to transfer to some coaching
           | carrier, open personal business, etc.
        
         | asdff wrote:
         | Any of those players can go on to make excellent hourly
         | offering lessons to adults and wealthy children. Its a poor
         | slog now but that doesn't mean the experience has no value they
         | could get from it.
        
       | Liquix wrote:
       | > I made virtually no lasting friendships on tour through my
       | seven years, despite coming across hundreds of players my own age
       | living the same life as my own.
       | 
       | > Some players did go out partying locally, which I always felt
       | was a stupid thing to do. Why put yourself through the budget
       | travel, practice and expense to then go drinking in some remote
       | and isolated corner of the world?
       | 
       | I'm sure Futures events are isolating and lonely, but it seems
       | the author was quick to cast judgment on the players who
       | prioritized socializing over winning at all costs.
        
         | tpurves wrote:
         | Indeed. By definition, very few aspiring players break through
         | to be among the very top players. But I bet some of those
         | socializing players at least came away from their journey with
         | a little less loneliness and more lasting friendships.
        
         | bojan wrote:
         | Is he wrong? That is an equivalent of weeknight drinking for us
         | (remote) office workers.
         | 
         | Showing up to work with a hangover is not a great thing to do.
        
           | jononor wrote:
           | You do not need to get drunk, or drink any alcohol at all to
           | have a good time. No need to go until early in the morning
           | either...
        
           | dukeyukey wrote:
           | I do not optimise my life to benefit my day job.
           | 
           | And even if I did, socialising with your coworkers has a
           | strong chance of being much better for your career than
           | another early night.
        
           | hext wrote:
           | You can go out for drinks with coworkers and not show up
           | hungover the next day... Like, office happy hours are
           | basically a cliche at this point.
        
           | xeromal wrote:
           | Mentioning loneliness and then complaining about them
           | socializing is kind of a self own
        
         | paxys wrote:
         | Yup, on reading the second part I immediately went "this guy is
         | an introvert". Nothing wrong with that, of course, and I'm
         | exactly like that on work trips and conferences, bolting to my
         | hotel room immediately after the day's work is done. But I
         | don't really buy the "no professional tennis player has any
         | friends" message he's trying to push.
        
         | NickC25 wrote:
         | >I'm sure Futures events are isolating and lonely, but it seems
         | the author was quick to cast judgment on the players who
         | prioritized socializing over winning at all costs.
         | 
         | I'm not so sure. These guys don't earn jack shit, even if they
         | win small Futures/Challengers. Taxes, equipment, travel, etc..
         | adds up quickly. Forget about coaching at that level.
         | 
         | Not the right environment to go party with someone one night
         | and then have to beat them the next day in order to put food on
         | the table.
         | 
         | Keep in mind that at this level, tennis is fucking insanely
         | hard. A few guys from my high school tried that level (they all
         | played D1 at top schools, a few were top 20 USTA as juniors,
         | one made top 3 ITF and was highly ranked within the college
         | game) and none of them fared well. These aren't some random
         | scrubs - these are often times guys who either played top
         | college ball, or guys who were top 100 ITF juniors who never
         | had the game to get to the next level, or guys who were just
         | not quite good enough to make top 100 ATP and need to grind
         | every day to get auto entry to qualies at majors or ATP Masters
         | events.
        
       | alexpotato wrote:
       | > By the time he had cracked the top 20, he was ignoring me
       | completely.
       | 
       | Many years ago, I was the global "head of support" for the main
       | trading application at a large bank.
       | 
       | I sat on the trading floor (b/c most of my users were there) and
       | one of my jobs involved training the newly hired junior traders
       | how to use the software.
       | 
       | The training was usually on their first or second day on the
       | floor. At this point in the story, they were INCREDIBLY polite to
       | me. "Thank you so much for showing us this", "Wow! This training
       | is so great! We really appreciate it!"
       | 
       | Within two or three days, they stopped saying hello or even
       | talking to me unless they were having an issue or there was an
       | outage.
       | 
       | Reading about how ranking determines social interactions in the
       | tennis world resonated rather strongly with me given my
       | experiences working in technology at a bank.
        
         | noisy_boy wrote:
         | This is reflection of our innate tendency to fit ourselves in
         | an hierarchy and judge others by their perceived position in
         | that hierarchy. The stronger someone attaches their self worth
         | to their place in this hierarchy (ranking for tennis players,
         | job title in corporate setting etc), the stronger their
         | behaviour towards others will be driven by it.
        
           | mgh2 wrote:
           | Ego is a universal human problem, not only at work and
           | sports, but in anything in life.
        
         | ldjkfkdsjnv wrote:
         | Such a bizarre thing to experience, especially when you first
         | join the work world.
        
         | altdataseller wrote:
         | Maybe im missing something but what is so strange about that?
         | Once you stopped training them and thanked you, what else are
         | they supposed to thank you for everyday?
        
           | optimalsolver wrote:
           | And yet I'm sure they managed to think up something to say to
           | people higher in status than themselves.
        
           | mensetmanusman wrote:
           | Being a non-treadmill human.
        
           | trevor-e wrote:
           | > what else are they supposed to thank you for everyday
           | 
           | OP: > they stopped saying hello or even talking to me
           | 
           | The OP said they completely stopped talking, which is weird
           | to not acknowledge someone you previously would talk to.
           | Seems like sociopathic behavior to me, which these
           | professions tend to attract. They got what they wanted/needed
           | out of the relationship and now could care less.
        
             | riku_iki wrote:
             | > Seems like sociopathic behavior to me, which these
             | professions tend to attract.
             | 
             | given how cheap is to say hello, and maybe get some
             | advantage from this in the future, this is not very smart
             | sociopathic behavior.
             | 
             | But this maybe be result of culture differences: some
             | people grew up in culture where work is work(with all
             | protocols, like saying hello to coworker), and personal
             | life (interhuman behaviour) is something separate.
        
             | billforsternz wrote:
             | Obligatory mention that the more correct and logical
             | formulation is "could NOT care less".
        
               | usui wrote:
               | Thank you for your service to the English language. This
               | tremendous faux pas is so easy to correct just by
               | thinking for a single second the basic logic of what is
               | being said, and yet so many people continue making the
               | mistake. Even worse, sometimes people justify it with a
               | wacky "I care so little that I could care less, but I
               | won't, that's how little I care" explanation.
        
               | Retric wrote:
               | It started as a sarcastic statement not a mistake, but
               | it's been used so often it's turning into an idium.
               | 
               | Languages are full of phrases that get used so often the
               | original meaning gets lost organs others that are heading
               | that way. Raining cats and Dogs is ancient and nobody is
               | quite sure where it came from, but as long as people
               | understand intent there's no need for to add up
               | correctly.
        
               | chgs wrote:
               | Given that in English people say "I couldn't care less",
               | seeing the complete opposite is somewhat weird.
        
               | toss1 wrote:
               | From what I've read, the logical formulation is indeed
               | "could not care less".
               | 
               | But the _correct_ formulation is a shrugging question  "I
               | could care less?", with the implication that the care-
               | meter is already pegged at zero.
        
             | KoftaBob wrote:
             | > Seems like sociopathic behavior to me, which these
             | professions tend to attract
             | 
             | Yeah professions like finance both attract and reward
             | sociopathic behavior.
        
             | s1artibartfast wrote:
             | It is completely normal human behavior when you work with
             | many people.
        
               | chgs wrote:
               | I still see people I haven't worked with for 15+ years.
               | Assuming I recognise them I will nod or say hey if I bump
               | into them in the lift.
        
           | tomcam wrote:
           | In the States saying hello to one's coworkers is regarded as
           | a common courtesy.
        
             | s1artibartfast wrote:
             | At some point you can't say hi to everyone, which is very
             | normal. I walk by a hundred coworkers a day, and don't
             | greet all of them, it isn't anything personal if I don't.
             | 
             | That said, you better believe I Do take the extra 5 seconds
             | to say hi to my bosses when I pass them.
        
         | Waterluvian wrote:
         | If I ignore you or anyone, please instead assume it's because
         | interacting with you or anyone is very exhausting. I can and
         | will be polite and full of smiles as you train me, but that's
         | by far the hardest part of my day.
        
           | tomcam wrote:
           | It's hard to say hello?
        
             | Waterluvian wrote:
             | Very.
        
       | asdff wrote:
       | Most individual competitive sports are like this. The top of the
       | crop get the bulk of the tournament payouts, the bottom get a
       | pittance that barely cover their costs to attend the tournament,
       | and the ones who miss the cut entirely get a mound of debt for
       | making their way out there to merely be a warm body for other
       | talent to route. Sponsorships help cover some costs but not
       | everyone can get very lucrative sponsor deals especially a low
       | rank player. There's honestly better money giving lessons for
       | probably $150-250 an hour or so than there is making a go at the
       | world stage. I'm sure that's a path many end up taking after the
       | writing is clear on the wall.
        
         | jakub_g wrote:
         | Not to mention that in many sports, you can literally be a
         | world champion level and just barely affording to cover the
         | necessary costs (best equipment, long training camps abroad
         | etc.) to compete at the highest level.
         | 
         | In my country we have olympic medalists in kayaking, rowing
         | etc. and they are nowhere close to making any money out of it.
        
           | johannes1234321 wrote:
           | > In my country we have olympic medalists in kayaking, rowing
           | etc. and they are nowhere close to making any money out of
           | it.
           | 
           | That's the reason that in many countries the zoom Olympic
           | athletes work for the state (soldier, police, ...) where
           | training and representing the country at competitions are
           | part of the Job and once the aports career is over ideally
           | they get a job as clerk or such in the administration
        
           | avalys wrote:
           | Is there any reason to expect it should be otherwise?
           | Competing in sports is a very selfish thing to do, and
           | produces no benefit for anyone else unless you're good enough
           | to be entertaining to watch, so why should anyone expect to
           | make money doing it? You're adding no value to society.
        
             | spuz wrote:
             | I disagree that the low ranking athletes don't provide
             | value to society. They are the motivation for the people at
             | the top to continue to improve. The more people are nipping
             | at the feet of the top athletes, the more they realise they
             | increase their game. That's without mentioning that in some
             | sports, a lot of people enjoy watching the lower level
             | performers because they can more easily relate to them.
        
       | gnicholas wrote:
       | > _The true unfortunates, though, were the ones who were talented
       | enough to rationally hope to advance. These were people who grew
       | up as the best tennis players in their country, but were stuck
       | between 300 and 600 in the world, not quite contending for the
       | Challenger Tour nor the qualifiers at grand slams, but winning
       | just often enough to keep their tennis dream faintly alive._
       | 
       | Seems like a familiar pattern.
        
         | renewiltord wrote:
         | Just like startups innit? Fail quick or win big. But the worst
         | is muddling along. You might be a figma you might be nobody.
         | Nothing to do but keep going. M
        
       | lurker919 wrote:
       | When I was a child I dreamed of being a professional sportsperson
       | - a soccer star or a tennis pro. Now in my late 20s, I shudder
       | thinking of the pressure/stress, injuries and constant
       | competitiveness that my life would have been if I had gone down
       | that path.
        
       | smallstepforman wrote:
       | I was stunned to see the tennis world "ignore" the polital
       | mistreatment of Djokovic at the Australian 2022 Open. The 8-time
       | defending champ and most likely the GOAT although given a visa
       | from the proper authorities was expelled from the country due to
       | a whim of a local politician in a position of power.
       | 
       | His fellow players should have all united together and said "ban
       | him, and we all go in protest to his mistreatment". Instead, like
       | vultures, they enjoyed and tried to capitalise on his
       | mistreatment. A selfish batch of players in the top 100, every
       | single one of them. And the Joker was their "spokesperson /
       | representative" for countless issues before, and they all
       | abandoned him. Disgraceful.
        
         | navane wrote:
         | He was treated fair and just, and with that the other players
         | were respected.
        
         | giraffe_lady wrote:
         | There are a lot of small insular little fields like this where
         | the main people all know each other personally and
         | professionally: touring musicians, professional surfers, that
         | sort of thing. Tennis players definitely.
         | 
         | When one of these people receives negative publicity that
         | reaches the general public and no one from their field really
         | speaks out on their behalf, you can usually assume it's because
         | they're widely disliked among their peers. Professional tact
         | may prevent colleagues from publicly saying anything against
         | them, but they will just decline the opportunity to speak in
         | their favor like this.
         | 
         | It's a heuristic and not a perfect one but it's pretty
         | reliable. If it were just a matter of internal sport politics
         | they would have some allies that would come to their defense.
         | If they are personally disliked even by their associates &
         | allies you get this kind of silence.
        
         | krisoft wrote:
         | > 8-time defending champ and most likely the GOAT
         | 
         | None of that should matter at all.
         | 
         | > expelled from the country due to a whim of a local politician
         | in a position of power
         | 
         | It was the Australian Minister for Immigration, Citizenship,
         | Migrant Services and Multicultural Affairs. That is a federal
         | position. Saying "local politician" makes it sound like it was
         | the city major or something. But if you mean a politician local
         | to Australia, sure. Who else do you think should have decided?
        
       | amelius wrote:
       | Is there a self reinforcing effect that keeps high ranking tennis
       | players in the higher ranks, other than playing regularly against
       | other high ranked players?
        
       | gumby wrote:
       | Was just reflecting on this yesterday: when I parked my car I saw
       | a paper sign on the lamppost: "learn tennis from a professional".
       | The person was the number 1 player in Nepal, ranked in the 1200s
       | professionally.
       | 
       | I assume and hope he was in Palo Alto as a student and just
       | wanted to make some beer money. Otherwise that sign would reflect
       | a pretty tough situation.
       | 
       | The Stanford faculty family swim and tennis club has a pro, the
       | local Palo Alto tennis and skating club has a pro...there are a
       | lot of them to go around.
        
         | gnicholas wrote:
         | Plus all the kids advertising on Nextdoor, including members of
         | Stanford's team.
        
         | dcreater wrote:
         | He most likely will make more money coaching than playing
         | competitive tennis. Especially in the Bay area.
        
       | nextworddev wrote:
       | Sounds like pro tennis has a lot in common with startup world and
       | SV
        
       | staminade wrote:
       | I really recommend reading any of David Foster Wallace's essays
       | about tennis. The book "String Theory" collects all his writing
       | on the subject. He was a lifelong fan of the sport, but also a
       | nationally ranked junior player and he's able to provide
       | exceptional insight in the insane dedication (as well as talent)
       | needed to reach even the lowest rungs of the competitive tennis
       | world, and what a grind the tour can be for lower ranked
       | professionals.
        
         | papa-whisky wrote:
         | The essay that the book takes its title from is particularly
         | relevant to this discussion and freely available online:
         | https://www.esquire.com/sports/a5151/the-string-theory-david...
         | 
         | (As an aside, I'm surprised to see this in Esquire, do they
         | still publish writing like this or was it a very different
         | magazine "back in the day"?)
        
       | tthhy58855 wrote:
       | Sounds awfully like academia.
       | 
       | I hate meeting some of my former colleagues. Worse, success in
       | academia is not entirely determined by how smart you are - your
       | ability to socialize and market had far greater impact.
       | 
       | Ofc. academics' priority for knowledge is far far lower today
       | than fame and money.
        
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