[HN Gopher] Funeral Food
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Funeral Food
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Score : 53 points
Date : 2024-04-24 17:48 UTC (2 days ago)
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| semireg wrote:
| Both my grandparents died a year ago and with one Catholic and
| the other Lutheran the food looked similar but tasted oh so
| different. The Catholic food was decent. The Lutheran food, the
| turkey sandwiches, the buns/rolls, the gingersnap and whole-date-
| filled cookies were, forgive me: to die for. Everything seemed to
| be made from scratch and it made me feel love for the elder
| women, for how special they treated their job that day. I want my
| friends and family to remember me by the good food they had at my
| funeral.
| spectra72 wrote:
| In my family, the difference would have been that the good food
| was from my German relations, who were Lutheran. (as were my
| Norwegian relations, but they didn't cook as good for
| funerals).
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| My wife's family is also German, but they are Catholic, from
| another part of the state and their funeral food is pretty good
| too.
| every wrote:
| Weddings and funerals. Time to break out the family recipes...
| barbazoo wrote:
| I remember when growing up with my grandma in 1990 Germany that
| after funerals of people that died of "old age", you would always
| have a get-together afterward to celebrate the person that
| passed, either at someone's house or at a simple local
| restaurant. I hope people get together and celebrate when I die.
|
| I have fond memories of those social events.
| jgable wrote:
| One of the best parties I've been to in my life was the
| reception after a funeral for my wife's great-aunt. Generations
| of relatives and family friends, some of whom hadn't seen each
| other in thirty years, took over their house from after the
| ceremony at noon until 10pm that night. It was a rager.
| hinkley wrote:
| > I hope people get together and celebrate when I die.
|
| phrasing might need a little work.
| eddd-ddde wrote:
| Does it? I kind of feel that way too, no rephrasing needed.
| UncleOxidant wrote:
| Will they be celebrating _because_ you 've died or
| celebrating the life you _lived_? (the phrasing above
| sounds like the former) I want to live my life in such a
| way that people aren 't happy (and/or relieved) when I die.
| I know some people whose passing will cause relief among
| the living - probably we all know people like that.
| pvg wrote:
| The article doesn't mention specifics (even the link to 'other
| cultures' is fairly thin gruel) but it made me think of a common
| in a number Eastern Orthodox traditions: boiled and typically
| sweetened wheat:
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| https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Koliva
| stavros wrote:
| Oh damn, koliva are amazing. I like varvara even more (it's a
| kind of sweet soup with raisins and wheat).
| ggambetta wrote:
| This is fascinating. I was born and raised in Uruguay and I don't
| think food was ever a thing in funerals. You just hang out in a
| room and are generally sad, but food is nowhere to be seen. I've
| only seen food in funerals in the movies! I wonder whether this
| is by country, by religion (and variant of that religion), or
| what.
| pvg wrote:
| The title makes it sound somewhat more specific than it is - it
| is also about food at funeral and mourning related events
| rather than just funerals - so it includes things like wakes,
| 'funeral receptions' and various other forms of remembrance.
|
| Edit: although that does make me wonder if the idea of
| strictly-at-the-actual-funeral funeral food has been
| sufficiently explored. e.g. dancing pallbearers with coffin but
| the top of the coffin is also a sushi boat and/or salad bar.
| bloomingeek wrote:
| Where I live, Oklahoma, after the church funeral service,
| everyone eventually ends up in the "fellowship hall", which is
| a large room with a kitchen and a lot of tables. If the
| deceased attended the church, a church committee would bring in
| food to feed the family and all who went to the service. Family
| relatives would also bring food. (This is where the most
| interesting dishes came from, usually family favorites.)
|
| Usually, but not always, only the family would go to the
| graveside for a short service and prayer.
| ihaveajob wrote:
| I live in the US but my family is in/from Spain. When my mom
| was visiting, we had to attend a funeral (for my wife's
| grandpa), and after the ceremony everyone went to a local
| restaurant and had a small feast. My mom was appalled, because
| she thought it was disrespectful. But I think it's a sweet
| thing to do, remembering the deceased in a pleasant setting.
| Especially if the death was of old age.
|
| I hope when I go, my friends and family have a good time
| together.
| DavidPeiffer wrote:
| Awhile back someone mentioned they had all the important
| people in their lives together for the wedding, and most
| likely the next time it'd happen was their funeral.
|
| It made me think about community and priorities. Obviously
| not everyone needs to get together from all the distinct
| friend groups, but more gatherings of people who are
| important to you sounds like something I need to generally
| strive for.
| justsomehnguy wrote:
| https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Koliva
|
| https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memorial_service_in_the_Easter...
| Spooky23 wrote:
| [delayed]
| Waterluvian wrote:
| I love (and I mean love) egg salad sandwiches. But if they're cut
| in triangles, I just cannot eat them. The aversion is especially
| strong if there's also tuna triangles and cold cut triangles. And
| this is 18 years after the funeral that caused the association of
| these food formats.
|
| Brains are weird.
| tithe wrote:
| But a triangular-shaped sandwich is an efficient sandwich shape
| to eat without making a mess: you're biting "off", not biting
| "into" (thus not getting egg salad all over your face). And
| what do you get when you've bitten off all three points?
| Another triangle!
|
| It's a beautiful day, I think I'll go outside and get some
| fresh air now :)
| meowster wrote:
| Website won't load for me, but I went to a viewing where the
| deceased requested (prior to her death) that ice cream be served
| at the viewing. I'll never forget that one.
| tingletech wrote:
| My Dad died in the south, and I had to write his obituary and
| publish it in the local paper. The paper wanted me to publish the
| address of where I was staying so that people would know where to
| bring food, but I left that bit out. I did not turn down the
| pastor's offer to ask the "church ladies" to bring food for the
| little gathering we had in the church basement after the
| graveside service -- that was some good food.
| assimpleaspossi wrote:
| Growing up in St Louis, it was traditional for neighbors to bring
| food to your house when there was a death in the family. I
| thought that tradition faded away until a few years ago when my
| wife had a relative pass and a neighbor brought us a dish.
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