[HN Gopher] Two nights of broken sleep can make people feel year...
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       Two nights of broken sleep can make people feel years older, finds
       study
        
       Author : Brajeshwar
       Score  : 281 points
       Date   : 2024-03-27 11:28 UTC (11 hours ago)
        
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       | Waterluvian wrote:
       | A week of broken sleep is enough to change my whole personality.
       | I end up hopeless, self-destructive, and convinced that I'm going
       | to die imminently for some reason. Just this conviction that my
       | heart is going to wear out any day now. It's such a bizarre
       | experience, especially to finally get sleep and wake up with such
       | energy and positivity.
        
         | eqmvii wrote:
         | Classic symptoms of anxiety from the sleep deprivation, no?
         | 
         | I've also found that there's a lag on recovering from sleep
         | deprivation, where the first night of good sleep often leaves
         | me feeling foggy and lethargic the next day. After 2 or 3, that
         | energy and positivity returns - not sure if that's
         | idiosyncratic or not.
        
           | maksum wrote:
           | I feel exactly the same way. The first night of real rest
           | feels as if my body "caught up" to how sleep deprived I was
           | and I often don't accomplish much that day.
        
       | d--b wrote:
       | How about 20 years ? Just curious...
        
         | sph wrote:
         | https://imgur.com/gallery/4e4G5
        
       | jdawg777 wrote:
       | I would be curious as to how they are measuring the subject's
       | perception of their age. Are they just asking them how old they
       | feel? How do they get meaningful results?
        
         | sp332 wrote:
         | The link to the paper is halfway down the article.
         | https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/10.1098/rspb.2024.017...
        
           | jdawg777 wrote:
           | Thanks.
           | 
           | > Subjective age was assessed using a single-item question:
           | 'On some days you may feel older or younger than your
           | calendar age. What age do you feel right now?
        
             | akira2501 wrote:
             | How would any of these people _know_ what older actually
             | "feels like?" It's hard to believe they felt this surrogate
             | question would reveal anything useful, let alone, that the
             | numeric values associated with it were worth averaging.
        
         | francisofascii wrote:
         | Good point. The study would be better if they tracked actual
         | biomarkers like HRV, RHR, blood pressure, etc. rather than
         | asking the question, how old do you feel.
        
       | vaylian wrote:
       | See also: Sleep deprivation is torture:
       | https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dreaming-in-the-digi...
        
         | lynx23 wrote:
         | I can think of a much more fitting headline for that article.
         | The international community not reacting to the blatant human
         | rights violations proudly performed by the U.S. speaks volumes
         | about opression and bullying tactics. How did the comedian I
         | heard just yesterday express it: "You lend money to the USA,
         | because if you dont, they come and get it."
        
       | edu wrote:
       | I'm the dad of a 7 month old baby. I think I feel around 100
       | years older than I actually am.
        
         | inference-lord wrote:
         | 100% having the same experience. It's mind bending how tired
         | you can get.
         | 
         | We recently all had the flu, 2 nights of the baby having a
         | fever and both of us being sick and also having a fever was one
         | of the most testing things in my life.
        
           | objektif wrote:
           | Try having a kid with febrile seizures. Mine runs 105 fevers
           | casually for 5 to 7 days. We have to check her very often to
           | make sure she is not going into a seizure.
        
             | 2024throwaway wrote:
             | Sorry.
             | 
             | But it's not a contest.
        
               | objektif wrote:
               | Oh no did not mean it that way. Not that I want a trophy
               | for sleeping less lol. My point was as a new parent
               | things can get a lot worse in terms of sleep deprivation.
               | I was not prepared for it.
        
           | verisimi wrote:
           | Best advice I heard on this, is for partners to take turns to
           | get sleep if possible. Perhaps it's obvious, but we didn't do
           | that initially. You really only need 3 hours or so (in my
           | experience) and the insanity starts to subside.
        
             | david422 wrote:
             | My wife and I had a spare bedroom - we used to alternate
             | nights down there when our child would scream all night.
        
         | forgotmyinfo wrote:
         | I've never seen a more zombified human being than when a friend
         | had a fussy baby who simply would not sleep. Two hours a night
         | was her and her husband's norm, sometimes. Godspeed, I hope you
         | can get some rest soon. (Also, congratulations on the new baby!
         | :))
        
         | gambiting wrote:
         | I feel you - our son had about 6 months(from ~4 months old
         | until 10 months old) where he just wouldn't sleep for more than
         | an hour at the time, then would wake up screaming and it took
         | at least 30-40 minutes to put him back to sleep. I think in
         | that period me and my wife were actual zombies, just didn't get
         | any sleep at all, there was a point where I thought to myself I
         | haven't had more than 2 hours of continious unbroken sleep for
         | few months, and that there is no way this can be healthy lol.
         | 
         | Also, I know saying this now doesn't help, because at the
         | moment you are in one of the most "intense" periods of their
         | development where they need all of your attention but give
         | relatively little back - but that _will_ improve. They will
         | eventually sleep better and they will start telling you how
         | much they love you and kiss you goodnight - and then all of
         | those early months are forgotten :-)
        
           | tutfbhuf wrote:
           | I can relate, sleep deprivation can have serious health
           | effects. We did night shifts on cycles every other day, where
           | one parent slept through the night on the couch with hearing
           | protection, while the other stayed with the baby in the
           | bedroom. This method worked out quite well. The advantage is
           | that the parent who slept on the couch has more energy during
           | the day for the child and can enjoy the time more, which is
           | also beneficial for the child.
        
             | fullstackchris wrote:
             | so... what are you supposed to do if you have a full time
             | job?
        
               | n4r9 wrote:
               | I have an 8 month old and am full time while mum's on
               | maternity leave. When the baby was ill recently, at times
               | he wouldn't sleep unless he was being held by a standing
               | person. I'm not kidding - there were nights where sitting
               | or lying down as gently as possible would wake him up. We
               | ended up doing half-night shifts where I'd have him from
               | 8pm to 2am and then mum would take him from 2am-8am. I'd
               | wake up at 8am, put him in the carrier for a nap while
               | mum napped as well (30-60 mins) and then start work.
               | 
               | How parents in the US do it when maternity is only 12
               | weeks unpaid... I have no idea!
        
               | Loughla wrote:
               | I caught shit from my ex-employer when out latest was
               | born because I wanted to take 2 weeks off. 2 weeks. It
               | was part of my review that year _before I even took the
               | time off._
               | 
               | I left that company the same day. We lived VERY lean for
               | a year or so while I figured out a new direction. Thank
               | Christ for a supportive family.
        
               | n4r9 wrote:
               | That's just awful. As a new parent I'm so much more
               | keenly appreciative of these kinds of struggles. I found
               | 4 weeks of pat leave and a very gentle re-introduction to
               | work very challenging, let alone bringing up an infant
               | without an income. I'm glad that you had family around to
               | support you and that you did indeed find a new direction
               | (which it sounds like you did).
        
               | gambiting wrote:
               | As a dad I only had 1 month of paternity leave and I
               | still found it incredibly difficult to go back to
               | work(not because of work, but because my son needed a lot
               | of support and I wasn't able to provide it). 2 weeks
               | would be literally impossible, I think I'd resign.
        
               | MrDresden wrote:
               | And coming from the nordics I wonder how the parents in
               | the rest of Europe do it when there is barely any
               | paternity leave.
        
               | n4r9 wrote:
               | Yes, I'm very jealous of what you get, "up north". Some
               | companies in the UK are generous - I hear Google (or at
               | least DeepMind) provides 3 months - but some dads in my
               | antenatal class only got a single week off. And some of
               | the mums went back to work after 6 months, putting the
               | baby in nursery at that age.
        
               | InitialLastName wrote:
               | Answer A (because capitalism is for sociopaths): Sleep
               | train
               | 
               | Answer B: Work harder on the days you have energy.
        
               | tutfbhuf wrote:
               | It will be a challenge for a few months, but as other
               | parents pointed out, it will improve over time. My advice
               | is, if you plan to have kids, then try to reduce any
               | other factors of stress, such as work-related, as much as
               | possible, because your kid requires full attention,
               | especially in the beginning.
        
               | mcntsh wrote:
               | This is why I love Germany, because you don't have to ask
               | questions like this. You have the right to take a year
               | off (or more) as a father and mother and the state pays
               | you.
        
               | a_e_k wrote:
               | My experience as a working parent has been that you just
               | have to muddle through some days one way or the other.
               | (But taking longer shifts like GP mentioned works _way_
               | better than trying to split the difference within a
               | single night.)
        
           | PaulHoule wrote:
           | We just slept with our son in bed and didn't have a fraction
           | of the problems in this department.
        
             | lolinder wrote:
             | This should be obvious, but you also had a different child.
             | 
             | Our oldest child wouldn't sleep until we got him not only
             | out of the bed but the bassinet all the way out of the
             | room.
             | 
             | Our second child slept like a baby pretty much whenever.
             | 
             | Our third did fine in the bassinet, but now that she's
             | older and transferred to the nursery she wakes up if even
             | the slightest bit of light comes in through her door.
             | 
             | Kids are wildly different from one another from a very
             | young age. I wouldn't assume that your cosleeping is the
             | _cause_ of your having fewer sleep troubles. If anything it
             | might be the reverse.
        
               | skrbjc wrote:
               | Makes you wonder where "sleep like a baby" comes from,
               | because it definitely seems like only some babies are
               | great sleepers.
        
               | yayitswei wrote:
               | Older babies do tend to sleep very soundly though!
        
               | edmundsauto wrote:
               | It could also mean that you wake up every 2 hours and
               | crap your pants crying! That's why it's such a great term
               | - it can mean almost anything.
        
             | gambiting wrote:
             | One thing I learnt a while ago is that every child is
             | different and that everyone(me included!) love to
             | extrapolate their own experiences on everyone else.
             | 
             | But yes, in hindsight I would probably try some form of co-
             | sleeping, even though everyone around us was advising
             | against it(too much of a risk).
        
               | Balgair wrote:
               | I've dug into the studies on the co-sleeping risks.
               | 
               | It turns out that co-sleeping is a risky thing _if you
               | are on drugs or are drunk_.
               | 
               | If you are 100% sober, then it's perfectly fine. If you
               | are high, or have had a drink, or are on some sort of flu
               | medication (NyQuil, _then_ the risks start ratcheting up.
               | 
               | So, since we're most worried about the parents that do
               | drugs and drink around their infants, the common advice
               | is to no co-sleep. It makes sense, I totally agree with
               | that tack, but if you are willing to be 100% sober of all
               | drugs and alcohol, then try co-sleeping and see how it
               | goes.
        
               | nineplay wrote:
               | I didn't co-sleep with my first because of the warnings
               | about co-sleeping. Instead I'd fall asleep in my office
               | chair with my feet propped up on the coffee table.
               | 
               | Finally realized that I was going to fall asleep
               | somewhere and did the same research. Co-sleeping sober (
               | and with a healthy BMI ) is safe and often better than
               | sleeping somewhere else. We don't all have the money and
               | space for cutesy recliners.
        
         | meindnoch wrote:
         | I'm in the same shoes, and I often wonder why evution haven't
         | solved this yet... Like, babies' chance of survival should drop
         | if their parents are sleep deprived. There should be a
         | selection pressure for well-sleeping babies.
         | 
         | Or is it about ensuring that mom and dad don't make a sibling
         | that takes away the baby's resources?
        
           | dgfitz wrote:
           | I think that is part of the "it takes a village" saying.
           | Communities/grandparents (of the baby) were all either in the
           | same abode or most likely very close.
           | 
           | Having run the same gamut three times, the best advice I ever
           | got was: chunk sleep. Let the wife sleep for 4 straight
           | hours, and then tag out, where the awake person sleeps
           | if/when they can. I know nursing can gum this up, but either
           | pumping, or just doing the formula thing, it's worth it.
        
           | pfannkuchen wrote:
           | The current situation of 2 parents alone in a box ("house")
           | with baby is severely unnatural. I don't think there is an
           | evolutionary explanation because in this regard we are out of
           | spec.
        
           | HumblyTossed wrote:
           | > I'm in the same shoes, and I often wonder why evution
           | haven't solved this yet
           | 
           | It did! But we, in our infinite wisdom, got selfish and we
           | now live alone. Fight nature and she fights back!
        
           | PaulHoule wrote:
           | It is our own damn fault. Back in the day people slept with
           | their kids and being close to their parents meant they felt
           | secure and would (1) sleep through the night, and (2) if they
           | needed any attention it would be easy to give it to them.
           | 
           | Somebody invented the crib, got rich at our expense, and now
           | people can't imagine life any other way.
        
             | alex_duf wrote:
             | Isn't co-sleeping a significant cause of death though? So
             | maybe our society traded sleep to get a higher survival
             | rate
        
               | PaulHoule wrote:
               | There are two versions of this story.
               | 
               | "It's very safe to sleep with your baby unless you sleep
               | with your baby drunk or on a small couch", and
               | 
               | "It's very dangerous to sleep with your baby especially
               | if you sleep with your baby drunk or on a small couch"
               | 
               | That last bit is right and a study found "The risk
               | associated with being found in the parental bed was not
               | significant for older infants (>14 weeks) or for infants
               | of parents who did not smoke and became non-significant
               | after adjustment for recent maternal alcohol
               | consumption..."
               | 
               | See
               | 
               | https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC28288/
               | 
               | Anyone who has shared a bed with a cat or small dog would
               | note that you never roll over and crush it.
        
               | arkey wrote:
               | Thank you for this.
        
             | lordswork wrote:
             | It's more of the fact that we discovered the scientific
             | method and measured that cosleeping is statistically more
             | likely to kill your child. Even if that increase % is
             | small, it's enough for most (western) parents to make the
             | tradeoff and suffer through sleep deprivation.
             | 
             | And the tradeoff makes sense -- as a parent, you are
             | biologically programmed to go through great lengths to keep
             | your children safe.
        
               | PaulHoule wrote:
               | Some have made the case that "cry it out" is preparation
               | for sitting there and suffering while you get bullied in
               | school, while your group gets discriminated against, when
               | employers treat you like a thing, or when politicians
               | scapegoat and steal.
        
               | robocat wrote:
               | > biologically programmed
               | 
               | You mean Socially programmed.
               | 
               | Instincts are biological programming.
        
               | lordswork wrote:
               | I'd say you have instincts to protect your child.
        
             | n4r9 wrote:
             | All I can say is that doesn't jibe with our experience.
             | 
             | We co-slept for the first 2-3 months, then had baby in a
             | "next-to-me" for a few months, then moved baby to a crib in
             | his own room at 6.5 months. Prior to being in their own
             | room, the baby would usually wake up every 2-4 hours, with
             | the very occasional 6-7 hour stretch. After going in his
             | own room, his sleep began to consolidate and he would
             | regularly last from 7-8pm to 4am without needing
             | resettling.
             | 
             | We have friends with a 4 year old daughter who co-slept
             | until now and have just moved her to her own room. She
             | wakes up screaming and needing attention most nights around
             | midnight.
        
           | xyzelement wrote:
           | As others are saying, how tired you are as a parent is a
           | direct inverse function of: how far away your parents/inlaws
           | live, how much they prioritize their grandchildren over
           | boomer pastimes, and your relationship with them.
        
           | lr4444lr wrote:
           | It did: live in extended family dwellings. The modern nuclear
           | family (with 2 working spouses to boot) is the problem.
        
         | caporaltito wrote:
         | Keep in mind: this period does end at some point. All the best!
        
         | chasd00 wrote:
         | To you and the others, just hang in there it gets better.
         | You'll get through and come out the other side better,
         | stronger, and full of more love than you thought existed.
         | 
         | /father of a 14 and 12 year old boys
        
           | garrickvanburen wrote:
           | ^ fully agree. I blinked an my youngest was suddenly 10yrs
           | old. The kids all being in double digits is really awesome
           | and far less labor intensive than the early months.
        
         | ActionHank wrote:
         | Ask your doctor about Modafinil, my GP prescribed it for me
         | when my son was born and it was a life saver.
        
         | chasebank wrote:
         | For the love of god, sleep train your baby. There are coaches
         | online if you need help.
        
         | silveira wrote:
         | 2 years and 5 months here. He never slept well, wakes up during
         | the night, makes all sorts of sounds while sleeping, and wakes
         | up early (5~6 am). Doctor said some kids are like this and it
         | may get better over the years. The lack of sleep took a lot of
         | my concentration, energy, and memory.
        
           | pdxandi wrote:
           | Same here. 3.5 year old and one year old twins. Poor sleep
           | and just general fatigue most days. It's hard to convey to
           | those who sleep well how challenging it is to be constantly
           | sleep deprived.
        
         | jmacd wrote:
         | Posting this here, because it was advice given to me by one of
         | the founders we all look up to on HN when I had my first child
         | (on our 4th now).
         | 
         | "If you are going to have kids and run a company, you all need
         | to sleep." and then he introdued me to a sleep trainer/coach.
         | 
         | "No way, we are not sleep training" was my thought, but I
         | quickly realized that there is a difference between sleep
         | normalization and what we know as sleep training.
         | 
         | The sleep coach gave us a completely customized regime for 2
         | weeks. Once the baby is 6 months or so, you can start. (up
         | until 6 months, I just slept with the kids in my arms every
         | night. Oh my god I miss those nights now. It makes me cry to
         | think about how wonderful it felt.)
         | 
         | We've done it 4 times now and all our children gladly sleep
         | from 7pm to 6:30am every single night. (The older ones now go
         | to sleep more like 9pm). Everyone in the house is rested every
         | day and it makes a big difference. Those two weeks are a lot of
         | work for one of the parents (it is specified that one person
         | should be focused on it) but in our experience it works by the
         | 3rd night or so.
         | 
         | The main takeaway from the aproach is to disassociate eating
         | and interaction from the act of sleeping. It created buffers
         | between feeding times and play times and when you finally put
         | them down in their crib to sleep. If they do wake up during the
         | night they don't think "oh, if I cry I will get to eat right
         | away." and they self-soothe and go back to sleep. If they do
         | wake up hungry, it's a failure of the parent to have ensured
         | they've eaten properly. You adjust as they grow. (A hungry cry
         | is totally different from a discomfort or bored cry. You learn
         | them pretty quickly.)
         | 
         | When I put my 10 month old in his crib to sleep now he looks
         | back at me briefly and then turns over and gets in his sleeping
         | position and he's asleep before I leave the room. It's such a
         | relief knowing that no matter how badly a day goes, you can
         | sleep that night.
         | 
         | I've had a lot of friends think this isn't for them, but 100%
         | of the ones I have convinced to do it (and in some cases have
         | just paid for) have been successful.
         | 
         | I'll also add that 2 of our kids were "colicky" and were very
         | unfcomfortable during the day for their first year. Even still
         | we were able to have them sleeping the entire night most nights
         | after 6 months.
         | 
         | Again, there is no "cry it out". In fact, the baby almost never
         | cries at all in this process in my experience.
        
           | mreezie wrote:
           | Can you point me in the direction of this trainer/method?
        
             | thehappypm wrote:
             | Taking Cara Babies, by Cara Dumaplin, is an excellent
             | resource for sleep training that works super well.
        
           | cblum wrote:
           | > "oh, if I cry I will get to eat right away."
           | 
           | This kinda matches what I've read recently in a parenting
           | book.
           | 
           | I'm currently reading Bringing Up Bebe, a book written by an
           | American journalist who lived (maybe still lives?) in Paris
           | and had her kids there. She wrote it after she started
           | observing that French parents don't seem to have the myriad
           | of exhausting issues American parents have, or at least not
           | with the same intensity and for the same duration.
           | 
           | When it comes to sleep, she writes that most French babies
           | sleep through the night by the time they're 6 months old.
           | 
           | According to her, what a lot of American parents (and from my
           | experience as an expat, parents from several other countries
           | too) do wrong is to immediately tend to the baby the moment
           | they make any noise at night, in the first months few of
           | their lives (this apparently doesn't apply to the very first
           | month though). That trains the baby to do exactly what you
           | wrote, to get what they want as soon as they wake up in the
           | middle of the night.
           | 
           | According to the author, French parents typically wait a few
           | minutes whenever the baby wakes up at night. Most of the time
           | the baby goes back to sleep.
           | 
           | The explanation she offers is that babies' brains don't know
           | how to link one sleep cycle to the next, so they wake up
           | between cycles and typically cry or fuss for a bit. By
           | leaving them alone for a few minutes instead of instantly
           | reacting, parents can help their brains learn to connect
           | sleep cycles more efficiently. If they're immediately picked
           | up though, they're actually being trained to do the exact
           | opposite and to stay awake instead.
           | 
           | I really like your post btw, going to look up what you wrote
           | about as it sounds invaluable in case the French method
           | doesn't work :)
        
           | misiti3780 wrote:
           | who is this coach?
        
         | bicepjai wrote:
         | It felt good to read the stories that we can relate to, we have
         | a a 2.5 year old; literally sleep deprived and these stories
         | woke me up, thank you and good morning. I can see aging process
         | is definitely faster with sleep deprivation. We can physically
         | see it in our photos timeline and feel it in our workouts that
         | we work so hard to keep up. Grey hair and baldness surged in
         | this 2 years. We use to have so much energy in the evening for
         | personal projects after work, not anymore. It's so hard to deal
         | with this both mentally and physically. Sleep training
         | definitely helped us, but again every experience is unique.
         | Hold on and it will pass.
        
         | jrussino wrote:
         | A lot of people here will say "it gets better", and it does,
         | but be sure to take your health seriously and not let yourself
         | normalize that feeling for the long-term. Mine are 7 and 4 now
         | and we're well past the sleep-deprived early years, but I
         | realized recently that I had grown accustomed to that feeling
         | and my new baseline is significantly worse, largely due to bad
         | sleep habits. I'm a lot busier now, juggling the needs of 2
         | kids and my other responsibilities, and for too long I've
         | coasted on ~5-7 hours of sleep thinking it's OK to sacrifice
         | 1-3 hours of sleep in favor of squeezing in extra work or some
         | low-quality leisure time at the end of the day because, "hey,
         | it's still better than it was when they were babies, and I made
         | it through that".
        
         | UniverseHacker wrote:
         | People who haven't been through this often underestimate the
         | severity of it... they often think that because they've pulled
         | all-nighters for school or something that they understand but
         | weeks or months of chronic sleep deprivation is a totally
         | different thing.
         | 
         | It was living hell for me- my son wouldn't sleep during the
         | night for more than 10-20m at a time, and my partner was having
         | severe postpartum mental health issues
         | (psychosis/rage/depression) so I was parenting solo, and up all
         | night every night by myself with a crying baby. I eventually
         | started hallucinating, and had a short temper and made very
         | poor decisions. I couldn't get advice, help, or sympathy from
         | anyone- usually something along the lines of "parenting is so
         | easy for dads, why are you complaining?" Visiting family would
         | expect me to serve meals to them, and not help either.
         | 
         | I almost lost my job also because I couldn't focus or code
         | anymore. Once I started sleeping in a separate room from my
         | son, I could finally think/code/work again. Understanding in
         | the workplace for a struggling new dad was non-existant:
         | everyone assumed the mother was doing all of the work, and I
         | would perform like normal.
         | 
         | If anyone is reading this and can relate, don't do what I did-
         | pay for help. Pay for a nanny- take out a loan if you have to.
         | If you or your partner is struggling, get them professional
         | mental health support. Prioritize your sleep, bodily, and
         | mental health needs: you need to "put the mask on yourself
         | first" or you can't help anyone else. Don't be afraid to set a
         | crying baby in a safe crib and go sleep for a while if you need
         | it.
        
       | pjc50 wrote:
       | I'm hoping that someone will ""solve"" poor sleep, in the sense
       | of working out how to determine what's actually causing it.
       | What's the state of the art in affordable home sleep analysis?
       | Smartwatches?
        
         | diggan wrote:
         | Anecdote, but I've found that the less I analyze and try to
         | "mold" my sleeping, the better I sleep. The times I sleep worst
         | is when I'm worried about sleeping too little, so whatever I
         | can do to take my mind off how poor my sleep is, the better
         | rested I feel when I wake up.
         | 
         | Some nights are still horrible though, and it's a hard loop to
         | exit when you lie there at 03:43 in the morning and panicking
         | about getting too little hours this night...
        
           | doubled112 wrote:
           | I know that feeling. You're probably onto something. If you
           | worry about something, I think you always make it worse.
           | 
           | There was a point where even other people worried about me
           | sleeping, and that made me worry about my sleep.
           | 
           | Eventually I decided I would go to bed when I was tired and
           | see how it went. Been doing that half my life now. I go to
           | bed when I'm tired (about 12-1am) and I usually wake up at
           | 7AM feeling fine.
           | 
           | Forcing a whole 8 hours often makes me feel worse. YMMV
        
           | ambicapter wrote:
           | Yes, I've had terrible sleep most of my life, and a period of
           | good sleep recently. Felt stupid, but I realized during that
           | good period that I just needed to "chill" when going to bed.
           | My brain has a tendency to WANT to focus, and actually
           | slowing down is almost a foreign state at this point, and
           | it's exactly the state you need to get in to naturally fall
           | into sleep.
        
           | eszed wrote:
           | Listening to podcasts helps me. It gives my brain something
           | else to focus on, and I drift off much more quickly.
        
             | QuercusMax wrote:
             | I like listening to podcasts as well, but the ones I like
             | when trying to fall asleep are different than those I
             | listen to recreationally when doing chores. For falling
             | asleep, I need to make sure whatever I listen to is
             | something I'm OK with missing, so call-in shows often are a
             | good fit, as there's infinite content in a call-in type
             | show.
        
           | schnuri wrote:
           | For me it's the same. The moment I accept that I'll be super
           | tired the next day is the moment I finally fall asleep.
        
         | ramon156 wrote:
         | I've seen DIY gadgets before that cost around the same, seems
         | very interesting. I'm wondering if there is a gap in the market
         | in sleep quality analysis
        
         | forgotmyinfo wrote:
         | Sleep studies exist, and they're fairly advanced, is my
         | understanding. For most people, though, it'll be possibly
         | difficult lifestyle changes, like reducing light in the room,
         | better bedding, less noise, not sleeping with a partner,
         | winding down before bed without screens (big one), better diet,
         | etc. The solutions are there, they're just unpalatable, like
         | everything else you should do that's good for you.
        
           | 0xcde4c3db wrote:
           | Sleep studies collect a lot of data, but that may or may not
           | translate into an actual intervention depending on the
           | situation. As I understand it, they're mostly useful for
           | detecting _when_ sleep is disrupted, which can then
           | potentially fit a profile for e.g. sleep apnea or be
           | correlated to some other physiological indicator.
           | 
           | As for lifestyle changes, I'm not an expert in sleep science,
           | but I've tried to read some of the literature to understand
           | what works, since I struggle with sleep quality. As far as I
           | can tell, a lot of the specific suggestions that often get
           | thrown around (even by otherwise reputable sources, sadly)
           | are somewhere between speculative and pseudoscience. There is
           | some evidence that "sleep hygiene" interventions as a whole
           | might have some kind of effect, but the individual components
           | aren't typically tested, the studies usually aren't
           | adequately controlled, and the effect is often exaggerated
           | (e.g. by highlighting questionable measures like "sleep
           | efficiency").
           | 
           | CBT-I has better evidence, although it's also not entirely
           | clear which components are really worth the trouble (the
           | evidence for sleep restriction seems pretty strong; the "CBT"
           | elements less so, but it may be that they help different
           | subpopulations), and clinicians who actually have experience
           | delivering CBT-I are not readily available in many places.
        
             | thibaut_barrere wrote:
             | I have followed a distilled version of CBT-i remotely via
             | SleepReset (a HN company), because I discovered CBT-i but
             | it wasn't indeed readily available in my country and
             | region.
             | 
             | It has helped me tremendously (together with other tooling
             | like sport and meditation).
        
         | RattlesnakeJake wrote:
         | > ...what's actually causing it.
         | 
         | I'm not sure a smartwatch could do anything with my chronic
         | diagnosis of "Having a toddler kicking my ribs at night."
        
           | yosito wrote:
           | The good news is that condition usually resolves on its own
           | with time!
        
         | monktastic1 wrote:
         | I suspect it will only be "solved" once the problems of
         | existential angst and ennui are. It's remarkable how powerful
         | our primal emotions can be at overriding even the strongest of
         | drugs.
        
         | vundercind wrote:
         | Electronics and very bright nighttime lighting are a ton of it.
         | 
         | Cutting those out would turn a hell of a lot of "night owls" or
         | people who "can't sleep" into people who sleep on a normal
         | schedule just fine.
         | 
         | It's obvious when you consider what all that stuff really
         | means. Obviously it's hard to sleep when you spend your hours
         | after sunset in hundreds-of-candle-power lighting and have
         | hyper-stimulation of a hundred kinds available at the press of
         | a button.
         | 
         | Of course there's also apnea and kids and such, but that's a
         | _large_ proportion of the problem, overall.
        
           | randerson wrote:
           | Color temperature is more of a factor than brightness.
           | Blue/white light disrupts Melatonin production. Changing your
           | lightbulbs to be below 2700K (more of a yellow light or even
           | red light) won't disrupt Melatonin.
        
       | david-gpu wrote:
       | Sleep apnea degrades your quality of life tremendously. Even when
       | treated with CPAP you can still have pretty poor sleep due to the
       | mask shifting around while you sleep and other side effects of
       | the treatment, but it's generally much better than the torture of
       | untreated apnea. It's so bad that even with moderate apnea you
       | wake up more tired than when you went to bed.
       | 
       | Now allow me a preemptive reply: I suffered apnea with a BMI
       | below 20. Plenty of people don't have apnea because they are
       | overweight; instead, they are overweight because they suffer
       | apnea.
        
         | dbspin wrote:
         | Thank you for this comment which mirrors my experience.
         | Unfortunately CPAP seems to be considered the be all and end
         | all of treatment, although the mask, tubes and reliance on such
         | a bedtime setup can be enormously disruptive of sleep on its
         | own.
        
           | giantg2 wrote:
           | I think CPAP is just convenient and inexpensive compared to
           | surgery. If I ever have sleep apnea, I'd want the surgery.
        
             | alwaysrunning wrote:
             | There is also the mouth guard for apena.
             | 
             | https://www.sleepapnea.org/treatment/sleep-apnea-mouth-
             | guard...
        
             | e40 wrote:
             | I have heard horror stories about the surgery. Who knows,
             | but I'm skeptical because surgery presumes the precise
             | cause is known. The number of variables for sleep apnea is
             | large to have certainty.
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | "The number of variables for sleep apnea is large to have
               | certainty."
               | 
               | Clearly they have to know which part of your airway is
               | restricted. Most of the variables for sleep apnea are not
               | related to the surgey, just factors that make it more
               | likely to experience that restricted airway (drinking,
               | weight, etc).
        
               | e40 wrote:
               | I have sleep apnea and I use a CPAP. During the
               | diagnosis, there were tests but nothing that would/could
               | finger a physical culprit that could be fixed via
               | surgery.
               | 
               | My question is, what tools are there to narrow, to a
               | certainty, what would need to be done via surgery? In all
               | my research I have found none. Maybe I missed them. If I
               | did not, then it amounts to a guess by a surgeon. And
               | that's what worries me and has fed a lot of the horror
               | stories I've read about.
        
             | newaccount74 wrote:
             | I talked to a bunch of dudes who had various surgeries to
             | open up their airways. It seems the outcome of the
             | surgeries is kind of hit and miss. Some people had multiple
             | surgeries and still no success.
        
               | poulsbohemian wrote:
               | This is a really important comment. Whether for apnea or
               | other sinus related issues, I've met far more people for
               | whom the surgery did nothing than people I've talked to
               | who had good outcomes.
        
           | PaulHoule wrote:
           | I adapted to it really well but I am used to adapting to the
           | needs of machines. My wife doesn't like it when it blows air
           | on her but my cat is very curious about the mask. My doc told
           | me that most people have a lot more trouble.
        
           | elric wrote:
           | CPAP is by far the best option for very nearly everyone with
           | obstructive sleep apnea (for now).
           | 
           | Unless you have a very specific, isolated problem (such as
           | huge tonsils or a fucked up jaw), surgery is rarely a good
           | option. Results are hit or miss, recovery is unpleasant, and
           | the scar tissue created can result in more obstructions years
           | down the line.
           | 
           | None of the current implants are as good as cpap and few
           | peole qualify for them.
           | 
           | Mouth guards can work, but many don't tolerate them well and
           | they can lead to TMJ issues.
           | 
           | Etc.
        
         | on_the_train wrote:
         | If it's not weight, what's the common cause? Such a bad
         | impediment on so many people should have a very clear signal.
         | And apparently it's not weight? O never really looked into it
        
           | wredue wrote:
           | The most common cause of sleep apnea is anything that
           | obstructs your airways. Being overweight does that and is far
           | and away the most common cause of sleep apnea.
        
             | elric wrote:
             | This is such an often repeated trope, but it's not at all
             | as clear cut as that. Sleep apnea *causes* weight gain, the
             | arrow of causality can go both ways.
        
           | kkwteh wrote:
           | One theory is poor facial structure that develops due to
           | faulty breathing technique.
           | 
           | Reference
           | https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4686746/
        
           | schwartzworld wrote:
           | With obstructive apnea, it's mostly hereditary. You inherit
           | the shape of nose from your parents, why not the structures
           | in your airway? Weight gain can make it worse as those
           | tissues also can expand, and any weight on your breathing can
           | help turn a partial blockage into a full one. That weight can
           | include muscle weight, and body builders often suffer from
           | apnea.
           | 
           | But the thing to keep in mind is that obstructive sleep apnea
           | isn't so much a condition as a description of what's
           | happening. Apnea means you stop breathing, obstructive means
           | something is blocking it. Maybe it's because your fat belly
           | is weighing you down, maybe it's your tiny nostrils and
           | deviated septum, or maybe the back of your tongue is thick
           | because your dad also had a thick tongue.
           | 
           | That's not even including self-imposed factors like central
           | nervous system depressants (alcohol) and smoking, both of
           | which can make apnea worse. Ever notice how drunk people
           | snore?
        
           | hombre_fatal wrote:
           | Beyond physical obstruction, sleep apnea can also be
           | neurological which is the more annoying one since only air
           | pressure seems to fix it. You simply stop breathing.
           | 
           | Obstructive apnea doesn't need to be caused by fat either. I
           | always thought sleep apnea was a fat person's problem until I
           | realized at age 30 that when I slept on my back, the tissue
           | mass at the base of my tongue was dropping into my airway.
           | And I'm fit/slim and also a nasal breather.
           | 
           | (I used to think I always woke up gasping for breath in my
           | 20s because I had frequent nightmares. Ugh, wish I could go
           | back and fix it sooner.)
        
           | stordoff wrote:
           | It's not exactly common, but you can have central sleep
           | apnoea instead of obstructive sleep apnoea. Essentially,
           | rather than your airway being blocked, you just stop
           | attempting to breath for a period of time. I was diagnosed
           | with this a few years ago, and IIRC there are multiple
           | possible causes of it.
        
           | jerlam wrote:
           | One theory blames "modern life" as a supporting factor, that
           | since modern people eat more processed and softer food, that
           | jaw muscles are out of proportion to the bone structure and
           | this contributes to apnea, as well as tooth problems like
           | impacted wisdom teeth.
           | 
           | https://news.stanford.edu/2020/07/21/toll-shrinking-jaws-
           | hum...
        
         | HumblyTossed wrote:
         | > Plenty of people don't have apnea because they are
         | overweight; instead, they are overweight because they suffer
         | apnea.
         | 
         | A lack of sleep means a lack of energy. You're body compensates
         | by getting food energy.
         | 
         | Too much stigma around what should just be understood as a
         | biological mechanism.
        
           | pc86 wrote:
           | This is stated as biological fact when it's simply not. Sleep
           | apnea doesn't change the laws of thermodynamics - if you are
           | gaining weight you need to eat less or move more. It's not
           | stigma, it's simply the way it is for the vast majority of
           | people (the rest being covered by rare hormonal conditions
           | that require a doctor to treat).
           | 
           | Being tired may cause you to eat more but being tired isn't
           | making you gain weight, it's the overeating that is.
        
             | throwaway11460 wrote:
             | Being tired changes how your body uses and stores energy.
             | Your body might be permanently trying to save up for bad
             | times (because the times are always bad) and so you're
             | getting fat even if you eat very little.
        
               | serf wrote:
               | can you point to examples of otherwise healthy
               | individuals under moderate to high calorie restriction
               | that gain weight due to chronic poor quality sleep?
               | 
               | it's not something I have ever been made aware of, and I
               | don't understand how it could be the case.
        
               | throwaway11460 wrote:
               | A lot of things about your body changes when you're
               | extremely tired.
               | 
               | I don't have anything specific to link - it's just my own
               | personal experience and what the doctor said.
               | 
               | In my own case, I had to eat much more than I
               | theoretically should because my body wasn't able to
               | process the food as well as it should (less than 50% of
               | usual efficiency). And yet I was fat - not obese, but
               | definitely not thin. The body redirected some of my food
               | to storage even though I didn't have enough energy
               | (glucose etc) as measured by blood screening. And it
               | didn't use the reserves properly when I stopped eating.
        
               | pc86 wrote:
               | What is mentioned in a couple of these comments about
               | your body's response to external stressors changing how
               | it allocates calories is absolutely true, but it's at the
               | margins. If you're at maintenance caloric intake and +- a
               | couple hundred calories a day, over years this can have
               | an effect. But it's not going to meaningfully impact a
               | 500-1000 calorie/day deficit to the point where you're
               | still gaining weight.
        
               | jf22 wrote:
               | I believe there is a study where people ate at a 25%
               | deficit but had high glucose and still gained weight.
        
               | riversflow wrote:
               | Is this the study you were referring to?
               | 
               | https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7898726/
               | 
               | > Effects of moderate sleep restriction during 8-week
               | calorie restriction on lipoprotein particles and glucose
               | metabolism
               | 
               | Because the conclusion starts with,
               | 
               | > In this study, 8 weeks of calorie restriction with and
               | without sleep restriction of less than 90 minutes per day
               | on 5 days with 2 days of ad libitum sleep per week,
               | resulted in similar degrees of weight loss
               | 
               | Let me be clear that sleep deprivation doesn't seem to be
               | good for your circulating lipoprotien levels or insulin
               | sensitivity based on that study, but they didn't gain
               | weight.
        
               | nonameiguess wrote:
               | Not gonna try to find a specific example, but just from
               | having listened so much to the Stronger by Science and
               | Iron Culture podcasts for the past few years, there have
               | at least been numerous studies and metas over the last
               | decade examining the effects of sleep on weight loss and
               | weight gain as it pertains to bodybuilding goals. I don't
               | recall any having showed an impact on the rate of gain or
               | loss but duration of sleep opportunity definitely has an
               | impact on the quality of gain or loss. That is, you lose
               | more muscle and less fat losing weight while sleeping
               | poorly, and gain more fat and less muscle when gaining
               | weight while sleeping poorly.
        
               | vmladenov wrote:
               | By this logic, one could run an army legion without food
               | supplies simply by keeping them sleep deprived.
        
               | throwaway11460 wrote:
               | Uh, no? The whole point is that the entire system breaks
               | down. So you get sleep deprived humans who can't process
               | food properly and have no energy as a result. Sounds like
               | a big failure.
        
             | brnt wrote:
             | The body is far more complex than simple thermodynamics
             | however, and to pretend the dozens of biological feedback
             | loops are fully under ones control betrays a lack of
             | understanding.
             | 
             | Reducing getting fat to thermodynamics is like reducing
             | computing to adding numbers. While that may be the basic
             | building block, only a fool thinks that merely by
             | comprehension of the add operator, one is also able to
             | debug hugely complicated soft- and hardware stacks.
        
               | pc86 wrote:
               | I actually like the computing and adding numbers analogy
               | because "Sleep apnea makes people overweight" is the
               | nutritional equivalent of saying "1 + 1 = hammer."
               | 
               | The root cause of weight gain is either overeating or
               | lack of sufficient exertion in almost every case. Sleep
               | apnea may absolutely cause someone to overeat in part
               | because of those dozens of biological feedback loops you
               | mention. But that doesn't mean that sleep apnea makes
               | people gain weight. It's still too much food at the end
               | of the day.
        
               | pkoird wrote:
               | I'd like to contribute by saying that even when you are
               | sleeping, body burns calories for various neurobiological
               | processes. That automatically translates to bad sleep
               | equals decreased calorie utilization (than a healthy
               | baseline)
        
               | balfirevic wrote:
               | > It's still too much food at the end of the day.
               | 
               | It's all four fundamental physical forces actually, if
               | you want to go that route. Which isn't helpful.
        
               | criddell wrote:
               | If overeating has causes, then it's not really a root
               | cause.
        
               | dgfitz wrote:
               | By this logic, sleep apena doesn't make people gain
               | weight either.
        
               | david-gpu wrote:
               | _> But that doesn 't mean that sleep apnea makes people
               | gain weight_
               | 
               | I gather that you are unaware of how sleep apnea causes
               | poor sleep, which in turn causes insulin resistance,
               | which in turn causes an elevated production of insulin,
               | which in turn forces glucose into your adipose tissue,
               | which in turn makes the rest of your tissues starved for
               | energy, which in turn causes you to be hungrier, overeat
               | and gain weight.
               | 
               | This is an oversimplification, of course, as there are
               | hormones other than insulin and cortisol involved in the
               | complex process of insulin resistance, but it is at least
               | a starting point that goes beyond the _useless truism_
               | that  "people gain weight because they overeat". Of
               | course they do, but the mechanisms why they are hungrier
               | than they need to be are crucial if you want to address
               | the problem, because in the long run every human being
               | with free access to food will eat precisely until they
               | are no longer hungry, whether or not they are
               | metabolically healthy or not.
        
               | jonhohle wrote:
               | But that's not what he's saying. Being hungry does not
               | cause you to eat. Regardless of hunger, a caloric deficit
               | will result in weight loss.
               | 
               | There definitely is the issue of how to reliably maintain
               | a caloric deficit when your body is screaming at you to
               | eat more, but the underlying mechanism is much simpler.
               | 
               | At the most basic levels, food choice doesn't even really
               | matter (specifically for weight loss, not general
               | health), but choosing satiating foods with low calories
               | is going to help with implementation. Eating 2,000
               | calories of oranges (45) is going to be a lot harder than
               | 2,000 calories of fast food hamburgers (2).
        
               | david-gpu wrote:
               | The problem isn't that CICO isn't true, it's that it's
               | not useful. It can't even explain why fat people are
               | still hungry when they have enough calories stored in
               | their bodies to last them for months.
               | 
               |  _> Being hungry does not cause you to eat_
               | 
               | Yes, it does. That's why people eat: to alleviate hunger.
               | You may will power your way to a caloric deficit for some
               | months, maybe a couple of years, but eventually hunger
               | will win and you will eat until satiety.
               | 
               | Metabolically healthy people aren't slim by being hungry
               | all the time. They eat to satiety, and they are lucky
               | enough that their satiety signalling is still working
               | well enough. If you make them chronically
               | hyperinsulinemic, they will be hungrier and they will
               | gain weight -- it happens in humans and in animal models
               | when allowed to eat ad libitum.
               | 
               |  _> At the most basic levels, food choice doesn't even
               | really matter (specifically for weight loss, not general
               | health), but choosing satiating foods with low calories
               | is going to help with implementation_
               | 
               | As long as you are hyperinsulinemic, you will store a
               | portion of the energy you consume in your adipose tissue,
               | because that is one of the major effects of insulin in
               | the body. The remaining energy left in you will not be
               | sufficient to supply the energy needs of your body, and
               | as a result you will be cold, tired and hungry.*
        
               | dgfitz wrote:
               | > Yes, it does. That's why people eat: to alleviate
               | hunger. You may will power your way to a caloric deficit
               | for some months, maybe a couple of years, but eventually
               | hunger will win and you will eat until satiety.
               | 
               | If this is the premise of your argument, it is flawed.
               | 
               | You have no idea if "eventually" happens to everyone.
               | You're making a wildly strange assumption.
        
               | david-gpu wrote:
               | _> > You may will power your way to a caloric deficit for
               | some months, maybe a couple of years, but eventually
               | hunger will win and you will eat until satiety._ _> You
               | have no idea if "eventually" happens to everyone_
               | 
               | Have you tried? Are you willing to try? How many people
               | do you know that intentionally remain hungry every day
               | for more than a couple of years, while otherwise having
               | free access to food?
               | 
               | Any weight loss advice that does not adequately address
               | hunger and satiety is naive to the point of ridicule. And
               | any person who advises others to address their weight by
               | telling them to be hungry in perpetuity hasn't given much
               | thought to what they are asking for.
        
               | jonhohle wrote:
               | >> Being hungry does not cause you to eat
               | 
               | > Yes, it does.
               | 
               | Nearly 1:10 people in the world are chronically hungry.
               | Being hungry has no impact on their ability to eat.
               | Likewise, those with access to food eat when not hungry
               | and (believe it or not) may not eat when hungry.
               | 
               | I really think you're missing the point, though. We have
               | a host of signals in our body that can misfire due to
               | various conditions and people cope with them. Hunger is
               | no different and many of us have spent months ignoring it
               | to our own benefit (and some to their own peril).
               | 
               | Caloric intake in excess of expense causes weight gain.
               | What factors lead to that excess do not.
               | 
               | There are certainly those with a variety of issues that
               | make caloric deficit difficult. Fortunately, that's not
               | most people.
        
               | jonhohle wrote:
               | I know you're being downvoted into oblivion, but I agree.
               | I'm not overweight, but had put on nearly 40lbs more than
               | my historic average. There's all kinds of advice, but the
               | best I found was: the only way to lose weight is to have
               | a caloric deficit.
               | 
               | That meant measuring calories until I could generally
               | estimate what I was taking in each day. 1000-1500
               | calories a day sucks at first, but seeing the scale drop
               | is motivating. I dropped 30lbs in about 6 months.
               | 
               | You can't gain weight if you are taking in less calories
               | than you expend. That's pretty simple. Not eating that
               | cheesecake, on the other hand, not so easy.
        
               | Modified3019 wrote:
               | >It's still too much food at the end of the day.
               | 
               | The problem with that is you can reach a point were
               | trying to reduce calories further will only further
               | sabotage your metabolism and makes you feel like shit.
               | Which is why treating the symptom repeatedly fails to
               | work long term.
               | 
               | I'm a 5'11" male who gained weight up to ~220 pounds on
               | ~1800 calories eating a very consistent meal rotation. I
               | now maintain ~190 pounds at ~2100 calories. My problem
               | was likely a combination of my food acting as a chemical
               | signal to gain weight (high in branch chain amino acids,
               | polyunsaturated fats from fatty pork and chicken), work
               | stress, bad sleep, and possibly even chronically elevated
               | blood sugar or thyroid effects from essentially what was
               | an almost carnivore one meal a day sort of diet. My body
               | temperature was hitting lows of 96.3 degrees F. It's now
               | roughly two degrees higher, which seems small, but feels
               | so much better.
        
               | bnralt wrote:
               | I think one of the issues with this is that most people
               | have pretty terrible diets, most people have pretty
               | terrible diets that can be improved pretty easily, and
               | when dietary improvements are suggested a lot of time the
               | response is "this is just really complicated, it's not
               | that simple." Not everything is simple, but, say, giving
               | up soda is something that's healthy and going to have a
               | positive impact on people's lives. People who are saying
               | "don't tell me to give up soda because I have sleep
               | apnea" are looking for excuses for their bad habits.
               | 
               | If someone is eating healthy foods and making a genuine
               | effort to get good exercise, then we can talk about other
               | factors. But too many people use "this is so complex" to
               | avoid the very basics of healthy living.
        
             | moritzwarhier wrote:
             | Lack of sleep and stress are associated with overeating,
             | and not only that, they also trigger hormons that promote
             | the body to prioritize building up fat reserves.
             | 
             | I'm on mobile and don't have time to link, but a quick
             | google search should give medical studies on this.
             | 
             | The "energy" thing is a simplification, but as a
             | description of how this feels, it is apt in my view.
             | 
             | This is not about thermodynamics.
        
             | schwartzworld wrote:
             | > Being tired may cause you to eat more but being tired
             | isn't making you gain weight, it's the overeating that is.
             | 
             | Potato pot-ah-to.
        
               | pc86 wrote:
               | Maybe the end result is the same but it's an important
               | distinction. It's too easy to say "oh yeah I'm gaining
               | weight because I have sleep apnea" while you're snacking
               | on donuts at your desk at all. The people who are tricked
               | into believing it think that if they "cure" their apnea
               | they'll be back to a healthy weight when a) they could be
               | at a healthy weight despite their apnea with some effort,
               | and b) they're building habits that even if their apnea
               | disappears a year from now they will stay at the same
               | weight.
        
             | nerb wrote:
             | You reference the laws of thermodynamics, but I'm not sure
             | which laws you're applying to the human body? Is it the
             | first which requires the measured system to be closed which
             | a human body is not? Is it the second about entropy always
             | increasing? Or is it the third defining perfect entropy at
             | 0 Kelvin?
             | 
             | Bringing up thermodynamics as a generalization for
             | biological systems is pseudo-intellectual. We aren't all
             | equal machines that take in a fuel stock and output work.
             | How do you account for differences in peoples' resting
             | metabolic rates? How do you account for the difference in
             | available energy in the foods you chose to eat, and in the
             | differences in peoples' biological processes that extract
             | that energy? Stress is a common hormonal modifier that
             | impacts how the body stores fat; no where near a "rare"
             | condition that many people experience nowadays, and yeah
             | caused by things like sleep apnea. You betray your own
             | argument anyway by adding an the "hormonal condition"
             | exception (I don't see any exceptions referenced in the
             | laws of thermodynamics, lol).
             | 
             | Biology has more dimensions than you are choosing to look
             | at, and using thermodynamics as a "gotcha" when it comes to
             | others' bodies reveals your lack of understanding and
             | intuition.
        
               | foobarian wrote:
               | Yes the first one. The energy contained in ingested food
               | is far and away the dominant metabolic input.
               | 
               | There is no need to get into the weeds of various details
               | of how that breaks down; the main problem is that
               | calories are way too cheap in the modern day and age, and
               | people's habits and instincts developed in far different
               | eras lead to easily ingesting more than is expended. Yes
               | the OP is not wrong, but it's not a very useful argument
               | unless we're going to roll back the modern civilization.
        
             | lr4444lr wrote:
             | He's not entirely wrong, but perhaps not for the stated
             | reason. Sleep deprivation can skew the ghrelin/leptin
             | hormonal balance, which can make appetite control
             | difficult.
        
             | BobaFloutist wrote:
             | The body never processes 100% of calories from food the way
             | a bomb calorimeter does https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Calor
             | imeter#Bomb_calorimeters, but depending on how much energy
             | it needs it processes more or less.
             | 
             | It's entirely possible to eat less food and have your body
             | decide that food is more scarce and choose to strip more
             | calories from your food than it was when you were eating
             | more.
             | 
             | Thermodynamics is an asinine thing to bring up in a system
             | that can reconfigure its efficiency on the fly to optimize
             | for different environments.
        
               | tehjoker wrote:
               | All that does is change the lower limit. The system has a
               | compensation limit, below that you lose weight.
        
               | BobaFloutist wrote:
               | Sure, but it's still unhelpful to say that overeating is
               | what makes you gain weight when other people eating the
               | same amount and with the same amount of activity are not
               | gaining weight, especially when eating less could cause
               | you to gain more weight until you hit a threshold.
               | 
               | I don't think many people disagree with "If you starve
               | yourself enough your body will eventually start burning
               | fat", they disagree that it's as simple as "anyone
               | gaining weight is necessarily doing it to themselves by
               | eating more than other people".
               | 
               | And starving yourself isn't easy. It's one of the top
               | like five things your body is designed not to let you do.
               | So how on earth is it helpful when people are talking
               | about factors that can influence your appetite and can
               | literally influence the number of calories your body
               | chooses to extract from the exact same food to say "just
               | eat less lol"?
               | 
               | I might add that overwhelming research suggests that
               | social pressure on people's weight _causes people to gain
               | weight_. So even if you were right, bringing it up would
               | be counterproductive.
        
             | david-gpu wrote:
             | _> if you are gaining weight you need to eat less or move
             | more_
             | 
             | You could do a little experiment: set up an alarm to wake
             | you up 15-30 times every _hour_ while you try to sleep.
             | That is what _moderate_ sleep apnea does to you. Try this
             | for, say, a year. See what happens to your overall health
             | and your weight in particular. Don 't forget to "eat less
             | or move more".
        
             | SamBam wrote:
             | People love to think of the body as a simple energy-
             | in->energy-out equation, but it's definitely more complex
             | than that, as the body can change what it's deciding to
             | hold on to and what it's deciding to burn or expel.
             | 
             | I am one of those that stayed skinny as a rake throughout
             | my childhood and mid-adulthood (in my mid-40s I'm starting
             | to become more normal sized). I wasn't particularly active,
             | and I ate voraciously -- third or fourth helpings of pasta
             | bowls. But the food never stuck to my ribs. (And it wasn't
             | a worm or anything -- the whole side of my mother's family
             | is the same, while my dad's side is the opposite.)
             | 
             | No one should look at my body and say "clearly he is
             | exercising more than he is eating" because it wouldn't have
             | been true at all, and yet that's what the simplistic
             | energy-in and energy-out conclusion would say.
        
               | aliasxneo wrote:
               | I can second this. I get routinely mistaken for a runner
               | because of my size. I do strive for 10k steps a day, but
               | generally, my activity levels would not easily reflect my
               | BMI.
        
               | nvy wrote:
               | >People love to think of the body as a simple energy-
               | in->energy-out equation, but it's definitely more complex
               | than that, as the body can change what it's deciding to
               | hold on to and what it's deciding to burn or expel.
               | 
               | If calories-in/calories-out didn't work, then it would be
               | impossible to starve to death.
               | 
               | Where people get confused is that the number of calories
               | changes as your metabolism speeds up or slows down.
               | 
               | If you are ingesting fewer calories than your body
               | requires, you _will_ lose some combination of fat and
               | muscle. There is no possible way for this to be false.
        
               | SamBam wrote:
               | It's the flip side that _is_ quite possible to be false.
               | You can certainly eat more calories than your body
               | requires and yet not gain weight. Your gut could absorb
               | less, so you excrete otherwise-digestible carbs. You
               | could have a parasite.
               | 
               | Further, you could be burning more calories without doing
               | more exercise or otherwise doing anything "useful" with
               | the energy -- i.e. having a higher basal metabolic rate.
               | These calories can be burned doing all sorts of things
               | that the person has no control over: you could have a
               | higher core body temperature, you could be spending more
               | energy on cellular repair and other cellular processes,
               | you could be synthesizing more hormones, you could be
               | spending more energy metabolizing foods, etc etc.
               | 
               | These latter causes are obviously on the "energy out"
               | side of the equation, but they do not relate to things
               | under our control. Further, they can change with age,
               | stress, and (relevant to TFA) sleep.
               | 
               | So a body that has been coasting by eating 2200 calories
               | per day and never gaining a pound could suddenly change
               | and start putting on weight, even though the person's
               | diet and activities haven't changed.
               | 
               | The point is that two people could eat the exact same
               | calories, and do the exact same exercise, and one of them
               | go up in weight and the other go down. The "calories in
               | vs calories out" idea usually simplistically makes people
               | think this couldn't be true, because "calories out" is
               | simplistically taken as "exercise."
               | 
               | The reason I shared my story is that so many people just
               | quote "calories in vs calories out" as if both sides of
               | the equation were perfectly under control, and those
               | people are also often like me: they find it easy to keep
               | the pounds off (because of a high metabolic rate) and so
               | they look down on people who have trouble shedding weight
               | and figure that those people could live just like them.
               | But those heavier people could well be eating _less_ and
               | doing _more_ exercise than them.
        
               | unshavedyak wrote:
               | > It's the flip side that is quite possible to be false.
               | You can certainly eat more calories than your body
               | requires and yet not gain weight. Your gut could absorb
               | less, so you excrete otherwise-digestible carbs. You
               | could have a parasite.
               | 
               | Is the flip-side really debated that much tho? I feel
               | like when people talk about CICO they're primarily
               | talking about reducing CI to lower than your CO. No?
               | 
               | The complexity in CICO of course is measuring your CO. Ie
               | you could estimate your CO, reduce your CI to what you
               | believe your CO is - and still not lose weight. But does
               | that undermine CICO? Because as the other commenters
               | mentioned, it's "impossible" for you to burn more than
               | you take in without losing mass, so our issue in this
               | example is incorrectly asserting the output (assuming of
               | course we're not also underestimating the input).
               | 
               | Note my questions here are generally questions. I am not
               | an expert here, so please correct me if i'm wrong.
               | 
               | > The reason I shared my story is that so many people
               | just quote "calories in vs calories out" as if both sides
               | of the equation were perfectly under control, and those
               | people are also often like me: they find it easy to keep
               | the pounds off (because of a high metabolic rate) and so
               | they look down on people who have trouble shedding weight
               | and figure that those people could live just like them.
               | But those heavier people could well be eating less and
               | doing more exercise than them.
               | 
               | Fwiw, i don't dispute that some people have the wrong
               | ideas with CICO. Perhaps frequently even. But i thought
               | it still stood as a foundational truth nonetheless; that
               | you have to "simply" burn more than you take in. If you
               | gain weight (ignoring water weight for simplicity), then
               | you have ate more then you burned, always.
               | 
               | My takeaway with CICO is that the hardest question seems
               | to be correctly figuring out how much you're burning.
               | Which i feel like usually, especially for overweight
               | people, it's much less than they think. You can't outrun
               | a bad diet, as they say. Rarely do people actually want
               | to exercise enough to truly compensate for the thing they
               | want to eat. Hence why i like CICO, as to me it signals
               | the only effective action is in restricting your CI,
               | since increasing CO is so difficult.
        
               | valarauko wrote:
               | In my Indian family, this sort of skinny phenotype with a
               | voracious appetite had a simple folk explanation - you
               | eat so much that the food doesn't have time to be
               | absorbed.
        
               | Kirby64 wrote:
               | And yet, if you want to lose weight, it's almost always
               | (outside of medical conditions) as simple as getting into
               | a caloric deficit that matches the deficit necessary to
               | induce weight loss.
               | 
               | If you have a 500cal deficit per day, you lose a pound of
               | weight (fat) per week. It's literally that simple.
               | 
               | There's some auto regulation of caloric burn rate, but
               | it's not some impossible problem to solve.
        
               | silverquiet wrote:
               | If you knew your exact metabolic requirements as well as
               | the exact calorie count of every food you ingested, then
               | it would be that simple. But what if you take the
               | elevator one day instead of the stairs and don't burn off
               | the 30 or so calories it might take to go up them? What
               | if someone went a little heavy on the dressing on a salad
               | you ordered and added 100 calories or so?
               | 
               | I've manipulated my body weight a few times and the real
               | world is vastly different from a simple model of CI/CO.
        
               | Kirby64 wrote:
               | On average this doesn't matter. Humans are a whole lot
               | more predictable and pattern based than you seem to be
               | implying.
               | 
               | Also, if you're trying to aim to a specific deficit, you
               | should be calorie counting your food. If you got fatty
               | dressing, you should be counting that. Even estimating is
               | relatively easy once you do it for awhile. And if you
               | don't get it quite right, being a little off shouldn't
               | impact your overall average too much. It keeps you
               | honest, which I think is by and large the main reason
               | people don't think they can lose weight: dishonest
               | assessments of food consumption.
        
               | silverquiet wrote:
               | As I've said, I can absolutley lose weight, but I cannot
               | reliably lose one pound per week; I do not seem to have
               | that resolution in the numbers.
        
               | Kirby64 wrote:
               | Reliably losing one pound a week (beyond the initial 1-2
               | week period where your weight is going to go all over the
               | place due to water weight fluctuations) is as simple as
               | cutting calories until you see the weight (on average,
               | ignore fluctuations) drop by 1 lb a week. You have to
               | average extensively. Bodies are very temperamental at
               | this, unfortunately. My scale weight swings 0.5-1 lb
               | quite frequently mainly due to sodium changes in my diet.
               | It's all about trend weight, though.
        
               | Izkata wrote:
               | I've been tracking my weight weekly and all calories
               | (even with crude estimates in some cases) for a year and
               | a half, and have been experimenting with exactly this: I
               | made a scatter plot and linear regression of average
               | calories per day on the X axis, and weight change for
               | that week on the Y axis.
               | 
               | Week to week weight has extra fluctuations that make it
               | difficult to tell what's going on, but after around 6
               | months of data it stabilizes, and has been consistent for
               | any 6-month period over the last year and a half: I burn
               | around 2200 - 2300 calories per day on average (way
               | higher than the online estimator tools think I burn, 1600
               | - 1700).
               | 
               | Knowing this I've also been reliably able to control my
               | weight up or down at the rate I want as long as I'm
               | looking at it for over a month span - because as above,
               | week to week there's too much fluctuation (fullness of
               | stomach and bowels mostly).
        
             | Modified3019 wrote:
             | People do not live on a thermodynamic knife edge. There is
             | a very wide leeway of excess intake that allows our body to
             | burn energy "wastefully" or store it based on a hideously
             | complex set of factors.
             | 
             | The idea that everyone is fat because we're somehow more
             | sinful (gluttonous, slothful) than in the past has
             | repeatedly failed to resolve any problem except for the
             | need for smug people to pat themselves on the back for
             | using thermodynamics in a sentence.
        
             | vikingerik wrote:
             | This is the truth, even if people don't like it so you're
             | receiving downvotes for it. Weight gain or loss is calories
             | in vs calories out. Nobody's body is so special that you're
             | defying thermodynamics and creating mass that you didn't
             | intake as food. And that's definitely not changed by sleep
             | apnea.
             | 
             | That said, there is the point that calories ingested
             | doesn't necessarily equal calories absorbed, and sleep
             | apnea could indeed affect that. But if you're relying on
             | that thin margin for the difference between staying at a
             | healthy weight or not, that's a fragile state of affairs,
             | and you could fix your diet more to be more comfortably on
             | the right side of it.
             | 
             | (My own, unscientific, hypothesis: far too many people are
             | indeed unknowingly relying on that. I think a ton of people
             | cram in 3k calories a day while absorbing 2k because
             | there's just too much mass for the body to process, and
             | then when they do cut ingestion to 2k, that doesn't change
             | absorption and that's why they don't lose weight. (Numbers
             | here are approximate.) It's actually pretty amazing how
             | little food the human body actually needs and how little
             | mass 1500 calories is.)
        
               | vmladenov wrote:
               | > and how little mass 1500 calories is
               | 
               | Or how much, depending on what you're eating. It would be
               | physically impossible for me to eat 1500 calories of
               | lettuce in a day (10kg worth) but it definitely aids in
               | "feeling full" when added to a meal.
        
             | unshavedyak wrote:
             | Sidenote, i'm in your camp and agree with you - BUT,
             | hypothetically there's a side to this i've not seen
             | discussed here. That you can lose sleep and it causes a
             | weight gain, with no other change to your CI or CO.
             | Notably, you were previously not processing a portion of
             | your potential CI and it was just passing through you.
             | 
             | In that case you didn't change how much you ate or how many
             | calories passed your lips, but you did change your CI by
             | way of changing your sleep.
             | 
             | Is this a real example or a contrived edge case from a
             | software dev? No clue. I'll let better minds decide that
             | hah.
        
           | lordswork wrote:
           | I thought it was more complex than this, something like lack
           | of sleep disrupting hormones that regulate feelings of hunger
           | and fullness.
        
             | HumblyTossed wrote:
             | I'm sure it is. But the point should still stand.
        
           | sandworm101 wrote:
           | >> A lack of sleep means a lack of energy. You're body
           | compensates by getting food energy.
           | 
           | I saw this ironically during military basic training. Lots of
           | exercise, but very little sleep. The body compensates by
           | keeping blood sugar levels high. I was one of the many that
           | actually gained weight during basic training. The eating
           | routine of three solid meals eaten very quickly also was not
           | healthy.
        
             | jerlam wrote:
             | My doctor wore one of those continuous glucose monitors for
             | a while and reports something similar. He considers himself
             | an endurance athlete and his blood sugar levels were always
             | a bit high when he was regularly exercising, but once he
             | took some time off, his blood sugar levels dropped to
             | "normal" levels once his body realized it wasn't under so
             | much stress.
        
           | alwiejrlai wrote:
           | Absolutely. When I was in the Navy, working 80-100hrs/wk, we
           | were served four meals a day, every six hours, like
           | clockwork. You can substitute sleep with calories for days or
           | weeks at a time. It's terrible for you, I do not recommend
           | it, but it can keep you going.
        
         | Vaslo wrote:
         | Sleep apnea is not the reason people are overweight.
        
           | mort96 wrote:
           | Nobody is overweight from one reason alone. But do you
           | dispute the idea that it contributes?
        
           | david-gpu wrote:
           | If you are so confident, try setting up an alarm to wake yo
           | up 15-30 times every _hour_ of every night, for a year. See
           | what happens to your overall health and to your weight in
           | particular.
           | 
           | And that is moderate sleep apnea. Actually, apnea is worse
           | because you wouldn't even be breathing normally while you are
           | "asleep".
        
           | anonuser123456 wrote:
           | Sleep deficit drives metabolic changes that may result in
           | obesity (e.g over feeding behavior).
        
         | hackernoteng wrote:
         | I fixed apnea using MAD night guard (pulls jaw forward using a
         | mouth guard device). Made by dentist. Cost about $2000. But it
         | works.
        
           | QuercusMax wrote:
           | You can also try "snore prevention" night guards like ZQuiet
           | and SnoreRX - they're less than $100 and you can buy them
           | online. I find they work just as well as the custom night
           | guard I got from my dentist.
        
           | ted_bunny wrote:
           | When you say fixed, do you mean you no longer need the
           | device?
        
         | monktastic1 wrote:
         | In case this helps anybody: I've been using those BreatheRight
         | strips (extra strength) and they've been incredibly helpful.
         | Not nearly as effective as CPAP, I'm sure, but a milder version
         | of the same effect.
        
           | euroderf wrote:
           | I could not handle the CPAP mask but instead I got a dental
           | appliance (custom) that juts out my lower jaw a bit. Worked
           | great.
        
             | QuercusMax wrote:
             | I got a custom dental appliance for like $1000 out of
             | pocket, and it broke within a few months, conveniently when
             | I had moved out of state from my original dentist.
             | 
             | There are a few over-the-counter options that advertise
             | themselves as just for snoring reduction - SnoreRX and
             | ZQuiet are ones I've tried. I've found that wearing a
             | BreatheRight-type strip along with one of these appliances
             | works as well or better than the one I got from my dentist,
             | and it's MUCH cheaper. I also take an anti-allergy nasal
             | spray, as I have pretty bad allergies also interfere with
             | sleep.
        
             | euroderf wrote:
             | I got mine thru the city health service, so I only made a
             | token payment. 1000$ ouch.
        
           | wnolens wrote:
           | That's a little upstream of where in one's anatomy is the
           | common choke point - usually the back of the throat/soft
           | palate relaxes and obstructs _all_ breathing.
           | 
           | But I have nose blockage issues and use nasal strips
           | nowadays, too. It prevents mouth breathing which is nice to
           | prevent dry mouth in the middle of the night (which even a
           | humidifier on my nightstand can't completely solve in my
           | climate)
        
           | johnbellone wrote:
           | Those never worked for me (mouth breather) but for some they
           | do work wonders.
        
           | hombre_fatal wrote:
           | Tape didn't work for me. What did work were nasal dilators:
           | 
           | https://www.amazon.com/Rhinomed-Snoring-Solution-
           | Reduction-C...
           | 
           | I don't understand why, but in my 30s, it's like my nostrils
           | aren't big enough to get the airflow I need, especially when
           | sleeping on my side where a pillow might compress one
           | nostril.
           | 
           | Disclaimer: they are not very comfortable, but far more
           | comfortable than a CPAP mask.
        
             | bluefirebrand wrote:
             | I feel the same way, I wish there was some kind of way to
             | permanently expand my sinuses or something because I feel
             | like I can't force air through them.
             | 
             | Sometimes just breathing hard through my nose starts to
             | make my ears pressurize and threaten to pop
        
               | instagib wrote:
               | There's a metallic device to insert inside your sinuses.
               | It looks like a finger trap with one side going to a
               | point. I remember it lasts a few years then needs to be
               | replaced for $1000 or so.
               | 
               | My grandfather looked into it because the surgery doesn't
               | last very long and he had it done multiple times.
        
               | toasterlovin wrote:
               | > Sometimes just breathing hard through my nose starts to
               | make my ears pressurize and threaten to pop
               | 
               | I had something similar (ears permanently felt like they
               | needed to be popped, for months). Was diagnosed with a
               | deviated septum + allergic response causing my eustachian
               | tubes to not regulate ear pressure properly. Flonase
               | helped. But cluing in that it was partially due to an
               | allergic response (deviated septum made my nasal passage
               | narrow, allergies closed them all the way), I have found
               | that Benadryl is extremely helpful with both nose
               | breathing and preventing the issue with pressure in my
               | ears. I only take it when I have difficultly nose
               | breathing.
        
             | konfusinomicon wrote:
             | nasal dilators definitely help a lot. I've tried the mute
             | brand you posted and another style that smells of lavender
             | and the mute ones are better. my only problem is I
             | subconsciously mid sleep pull it out because they are a bit
             | uncomfortable like you mentioned, or it falls out at some
             | point of the night and gets lost in the bed. it is amazing
             | how much more air I can breathe through my nose with one in
             | though, and I definitely feel much more rested using them
             | when they stay in. I knew they worked the first time I fell
             | asleep and woke up the next morning in the same position
        
         | bbatchelder wrote:
         | CPAP has been life changing for me. For my entire life I
         | struggled getting up in the morning, and I never felt
         | "refreshed". Getting up before 9-10AM was super difficult. I
         | also was often in a sort of fugue state when I would first wake
         | up, I'd often have no memory of any interactions, and
         | apparently was often mean.
         | 
         | Now I can easily get up, even at hours that were previously
         | unthinkable, and more often than not feel fully recharged.
         | 
         | I have no doubt that played a part in me being unhealthy -
         | though by no means was it the sole reason.
         | 
         | As an aside, also getting on a dose of Semaglutide has been
         | similarly life changing. The damn near elimination of "food
         | noise" has been incredible.
         | 
         | I know there are a number of folks of the opinion that its
         | somehow cheating. But for me I am left wondering "Is this just
         | how normal people feel?".
        
           | phone8675309 wrote:
           | It always bothers me when someone says it's "cheating" to use
           | a GLP-1 agonist.
           | 
           | It helps but the person losing weight still has to clean up
           | their diet and start an exercise routine. There are still
           | major changes they need to make to become successful. GLP-1
           | agonists help a lot of people make better decisions due to
           | how they fight hunger. Less hunger means less chances to make
           | bad choices when eating, and weight loss progress is a
           | virtuous mental cycle where you keep doing what you're doing
           | because you see results.
           | 
           | None of that is cheating. There are still major changes one
           | must make. Taking Ozempic but continuing to eat a trash-tier
           | diet will yield little to no progress.
        
             | bbatchelder wrote:
             | Definitely agree, but man, the sheer number of folks who
             | leave just horrible comments on videos/posts people make
             | about how they lost weight on a GLP-1 agonist is so
             | disheartening.
             | 
             | In addition to saying that its cheating, they will actively
             | wish harm to the person by saying "just wait til you get X"
             | where X is some side effect (real or imagined). Or just the
             | "well once you stop taking it you'll just get fat again".
        
               | phone8675309 wrote:
               | The people who say "you'll get fat again once you stop
               | taking it" also baffle me.
               | 
               | The most difficult part of losing weight for me
               | personally is changing my routine and habits. Setting
               | myself up with a kitchen that's ready to cook. Figuring
               | out what kind of meals I'm happy to have on a weeknight
               | that don't require a lot of cooking. Preparing parts of
               | meals over an hour or two on the weekend to complete some
               | of the more time consuming parts when I'm not so
               | constrained on time. Learning to deal with the urge I
               | (used to) have to "eat my feelings".
               | 
               | All of those things don't just magically go away when you
               | stop taking a GLP-1 agonist. Losing a lot of weight isn't
               | just about self-control like if you're just trying to
               | lose five pounds to make your pants more comfortable for
               | going to your 20th high school reunion; you have to
               | rewire your habits and mind and make a life long
               | commitment to those changes.
               | 
               | Rewiring your habits and rewiring your brain are things
               | that persist if your intention going into the weight loss
               | was to change your habits instead of just moving the
               | number on the scale. If you are looking to do it only
               | temporarily and are unwilling to lock in those behavioral
               | changes then you're likely going to fail, and that has
               | much more to do with mindset than medication.
        
         | Redster wrote:
         | As a fairly thin guy in my 20s (I was about 130lbs and 5'6"), I
         | had years of undiagnosed hypopnea. I would wake up with tears
         | streaming down my face and choking, but couldn't figure out
         | why. I was constantly exhausted and yet, couldn't sleep. I
         | would spend more than 12 hours in bed every night, hoping to
         | get as close to 8 hrs as I could.
         | 
         | Paid for a sleep study and the doctor walked in the room and
         | said, "You don't have sleep apnea." I was like, " I knew that,
         | but what can I do?" The doctor shrugged and said, "You have
         | hypopnea. You could try a mouthguard...?" trailed off and left.
         | 
         | So, with this newfound wisdom I was back at square one.
         | 
         | Some things that dramatically helped me in recovering from
         | years of sleep loss: - A chinstrap. - I found a study (n=1,
         | literally) about a patient who didn't fit the typical sleep
         | apnea profile as a thin older man. The doctors treating him
         | wondered if it was "positional sleep apnea" and had him get a
         | chinstrap. This held his mouth shut while sleeping and
         | prevented his tongue from falling back and blocking his airway.
         | I found a chinstrap on Amazon and immediately started sleeping
         | better.
         | 
         | - A blood test - My doctor knew that I was dealing with adrenal
         | issues due to not sleeping, Lyme disease, and other issues, so
         | he ordered a blood test. This was fantastic. For me, addressing
         | my underlying magnesium and B-12 deficiency made an enormous
         | difference in sleep quality. I found that taking my B-12 right
         | before bed helped my sleep be so much more restorative.
         | 
         | - Andrew Huberman - Andrew Huberman's podcast Huberman Labs is
         | old news, now, but when I found him a few years ago, it was
         | some of the more actionable advice I had ever gotten about
         | sleep, falling asleep, and circadian rhythm.
         | 
         | Anyway, there were more things across the way, but these are
         | some things I shared with others that they also found helpful.
         | I now am in control of my sleep and feel decades younger. You
         | can get there! It's worth experimenting and finding a doctor
         | who is going to help you find your problem. The mental clarity,
         | focus, and energy has definitely made up for all the the months
         | of trying to find out what was wrong with me.
         | 
         | I hope you sleep well!
        
           | cko wrote:
           | I had sleep apnea and got jaw surgery. But I also have a
           | dysfunctional TMJ, so my mouth opens when I sleep. Every chin
           | strap on the market pushes the chin down into the airway, it
           | seems. Which one did you get?
        
             | Redster wrote:
             | I got some random generic one. I wouldn't recommend it as
             | the quality could've been better. For you, I also tried
             | tape over the mouth. I got a wide washi tape from a friend
             | and experienced similarly helpful results to the chin-
             | strap. However, I found that comfort-wise, I preferred the
             | chinstrap.
             | 
             | But, if you can breath through your nose well enough, I
             | think some kind of mouth tape can work? I haven't tried the
             | Hostage brand anti-snore tape, but maybe someone here has
             | had experience with that.
             | 
             | If you really want the chinstrap that I got, I got this
             | one: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08DR16XGV/
             | 
             | Based on the pictures, it obviously pushes the jaw
             | backwards. That obviously wouldn't work for you. I wear
             | mine in such a way that it is helping my jaw close and stay
             | shut. I agree that you don't want something pulling your
             | lower jaw backwards.
        
               | cko wrote:
               | Yep I've tried mouth tape and it's pretty good,
               | especially when combined with side sleeping.
               | 
               | Though I have this paranoia that mouth tape will increase
               | my philtrum length, which I know is a vain worry. Another
               | solution is one of those incline pillows - just a 20%
               | gradient should allow me to back sleep, which I prefer.
               | 
               | Post-surgery I had my jaws wired shut and they had this
               | chin strap that was like an ace bandage that around my
               | head and chin. I could replicate that with one of those
               | mouth guard combined with a chin strap, but I read
               | somewhere that this would eventually pull the upper jaw
               | down towards the airway as well (since maxillary plates
               | are not fixed.)
        
             | SamBam wrote:
             | Have you tried mouth taping instead? Seems to work better
             | for some people than chin straps, but I don't really know.
        
         | johnbellone wrote:
         | I've had sleep apnea and CPAP for years. The last several weeks
         | have been grueling because of mask fit, movement, and other
         | factors. My BMI is very high, but I am in minority that will
         | have sleep apnea regardless due to anatomy. That doesn't mean
         | it won't help to lose weight.
        
         | jonhohle wrote:
         | As an additional PSA, sleep apnea may not be the cause of
         | exhaustion, even if diagnosed. I was diagnosed with apnea and
         | CPAP did (still does) little if anything for my energy levels.
         | I finally found a sleep doctor who checked my iron levels, and
         | despite being within the normal range suggested I take an iron
         | supplement (iron polypeptide) and within a week felt normal
         | again.
         | 
         | It turns out that people with restless legs, which I've had
         | since childhood, experience iron deficiency anemia with much
         | higher blood iron content than the average population.[0]
         | 
         | My primary care didn't consider this. A pulmonologist had no
         | interest in checking this. An oral sleep doctor had no interest
         | in checking this. I had people suggesting getting an implant to
         | force my tongue to stick out when the issue was low iron.
         | 
         | Definitely get a sleep study (I'd recommend lab over home). I
         | use a sleep tracker (cheap Garmin "smart" watch, but I've also
         | tried an Apple Watch) as a reasonable proxy for REM and deep
         | sleep. And if you think a practice is just trying to sell
         | equipment, they probably are. Fortunately I found a good doctor
         | from acquaintances that I would have never otherwise considered
         | (not part of the local medical systems, though did take
         | insurance).
         | 
         | Unfortunately, for many issues it's not enough to trust the
         | doctor. Do your own due diligence for your health.
         | 
         | 0 -
         | https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/neurology/articles/10.3...
        
           | SamBam wrote:
           | I have occasional restless leg (once every two weeks or so)
           | and low energy. How would one know if one has iron deficiency
           | despite blood work being normal? Is it just a case of popping
           | iron pills and seeing if you feel better?
        
             | dj_mc_merlin wrote:
             | Doesn't hurt to try does it? A bit of extra iron is
             | harmless.
        
               | SamBam wrote:
               | That was partly my question. Looking online, iron is
               | definitely something that you don't want to have too much
               | of.
               | 
               | My question is, basically, is having a non-anemic iron
               | deficiency something that can be easily remedied by
               | having low-dose over the counter vitamins, or is it
               | something that requires a higher dose (to make up the
               | difference in what you're missing) and so requires a
               | doctor. And yet it sounds like this is difficult to
               | diagnose.
        
               | dj_mc_merlin wrote:
               | Over the counter iron supplements are totally safe to
               | take for the period indicated on them. They contain as
               | much iron as a medium piece of chicken liver.
        
               | SamBam wrote:
               | Most of the over the counter ones I see online are 65 mg
               | iron, which is nearly twice the iron in a whole half kilo
               | of chicken liver.
               | 
               | The medical sites say a safe value is no more than 45 mg
               | per day.
               | 
               | There are also low iron pills (or "gentle iron") that are
               | 28 mg.
               | 
               | So not only are many over the counter pills potentially
               | over the safe levels, but it still doesn't even really
               | answer the question, which is whether the low-dose pills
               | that are under the RDA effective in countering an iron
               | deficiency.
               | 
               | Anyway. I think I'll ask my doctor at a once-every-
               | several-years checkup.
        
               | dj_mc_merlin wrote:
               | Do you live in America? Supplements tend to be much
               | stronger there. Here in Germany at the local pharmacy you
               | will mostly find in the 10mg-30mg range. I've bought and
               | drank them before to no ill effect, which is why I even
               | started this entire chain.
        
               | zhengyi13 wrote:
               | It can indeed hurt[1], and getting medical advice from
               | the Internet can be... fraught.
               | 
               | [1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK557376/#:~:text
               | =The%20....
        
             | raffraffraff wrote:
             | What's "normal"? Your results are never just "normal",
             | there is a range that is considered normal. If you're at
             | the low end of normal, that could actually be just "low".
             | Those teams can be a bit too wide.
             | 
             | How is your B12? If you're a vegan or vegetarian and aren't
             | taking those supplements then I would start taking them.
             | It's always safe to take extra B12.
             | 
             | Unless your iron is at the upper end of the band it should
             | be safe to take a low dose. But it won't do anything if
             | you're not really deficient.
             | 
             | I find that sitting at a desk all day makes me tired. I
             | just push past it and go for a run. Always works, and it
             | guarantees me a good night's sleep.
             | 
             | Just remembered, if you walk a _lot_ , like over 25k steps
             | a day, or do a lot of exercise (squats?) that can also
             | cause restless legs.
             | 
             | Also, your diet? Most people are getting more than enough
             | carbs these days, but are you on some weird diet?
        
           | tbirdny wrote:
           | Serum iron is a pretty useless test. What was your ferritin?
        
             | jonhohle wrote:
             | In August it was 66ng/mL prior to taking any supplement. So
             | above the reference low, but below the adjustment for RLS.
             | 
             | Unfortunately, I just had it tested last week but had given
             | power red a few weeks prior and came in below even the
             | normal range (20ng/mL).
        
           | dwallin wrote:
           | Do you have any additional resources you recommend on this
           | topic? I've experienced life long restless legs alongside
           | issues with sleep quality, daytime tiredness and low energy
           | levels so this seems like an interesting avenue to explore.
        
             | jonhohle wrote:
             | I don't, just my personal experience. A few years ago I
             | started getting exhausted to the point I was napping every
             | day and getting 10-12 hours asleep and still felt tired.
             | I've never been overweight, don't have any structural
             | occlusions in my airways, though I do snore (so says my
             | wife).
             | 
             | I did all of the normal things and got regular exercise. I
             | finally went to a specialist, and got an at home sleep
             | study which found moderate apnea (on the low side of
             | moderate). I spent several months using a CPAP and bought a
             | sleep tracking watch. Nothing improved and I was still
             | tired. The pulmonologist suggested one of my medications
             | affected REM. I was able to stop taking it without any
             | significant issue and my REM improved, but I was still
             | tired. I asked them for an in lab study and did that and it
             | found the same as the home study.
             | 
             | I had convinced myself I had narcolepsy or some similar
             | neurological issue.
             | 
             | My wife's friend coincidentally mentioned he had sleep
             | issues and they had found a sleep doctor they liked. He was
             | the first to ask about restless legs and have any blood
             | work done. He confirmed that I have apnea, but thought
             | trying an iron supplement might help based on recent
             | studies and my iron levels.
             | 
             | The iron helped almost immediately. Within a week I didn't
             | need to take a nap, which I had done daily for at least two
             | years. I still use the CPAP because apnea can cause heart
             | issues long term, but don't "feel" like it does anything in
             | the short term.
             | 
             | Usually, the most common thing is the most likely, but when
             | it's not, it can be really hard to find someone who both
             | believes you and can do something about it. When I was
             | exhausted all of the time, finding that person was even
             | more challenging.
        
           | y-c-o-m-b wrote:
           | Isn't iron one of those things you don't want to overdo due
           | to dangerous side effects?
           | 
           | You raise an interesting situation here though because I've
           | also had restless leg forever and my iron tests came back
           | normal. Still, I'm not sure how safe it is to take iron
           | supplements under "normal" conditions.
           | 
           | EDIT: this is just one source, but it doesn't sound like a
           | great idea to be taking iron supplements with normal iron
           | levels, at least not on your own:
           | https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/Iron-Consumer/#h11
        
             | jonhohle wrote:
             | Did I suggest otherwise? I said I ended up seeing four
             | doctors before one suggested what worked for me. YMMV.
             | Consult a physician, etc., etc.
             | 
             | I need to have my iron levels checked semi regularly. I
             | would imagine any doc suggesting iron supplements would
             | suggest the same.
        
           | annpierce wrote:
           | So interesting! Thanks for sharing. Do you still take iron
           | every day, or is this the kind of thing one does for a period
           | of time until the body is rebalanced?
        
           | kirse wrote:
           | H.Pylori is well known to impact iron absorption and serum
           | iron/ferritin levels. Most of the world carries this
           | unknowingly (esp. since childhood), and it has all sorts of
           | silent consequences ranging from fatigue (due to iron impact,
           | etc) to GI issues to stomach cancers.
           | 
           | [1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8513126/
           | 
           | [2] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11218379/
        
           | raffraffraff wrote:
           | My wife had menorrhagia (extremely heavy periods that lasted
           | a week) and extreme lethargy. And restless legs. Not only did
           | her doctor not get her bloods checked, he didn't care about
           | the heavy periods and said (about heavy periods), "go on the
           | pill, and see a shrink" (because presumably he thought she
           | was a hypochondriac or depressed, because she came back
           | several times to see if he could do anything about it). He
           | finally got her iron and B12 checked, and since they were
           | both on the lowest end of the "Ok" range, he didn't do
           | anything further.
           | 
           | It took 2 doctor changes and a lot of goggling to realise
           | that her menorrhagia had a cause, but that she's need scans
           | to prove she might have uterine fibroids. It took 2
           | procedures to correct them. Once all that was done and she
           | got iron + B12 injections, and got her life back.
           | 
           | On a forum she talked to other women who were left to deal
           | with fibroids for up to a decade because their doctors would
           | just sigh and say, "Yes, women's problems. This is normal. Go
           | on the pill". Unfortunately the fibroids grow so large that
           | there is sometimes no option but a full hysterectomy. This is
           | a common story.
           | 
           | I completely agree, you need to do your own due diligence
           | these days.
        
         | MuffinFlavored wrote:
         | How would one know if they had sleep apnea in any shape/form?
        
           | instagib wrote:
           | Get a sleep study for accuracy.
           | 
           | If your partner notices you snore or stop breathing when
           | sleeping.
           | 
           | You can record yourself also. You wake with a headache and
           | dry mouth almost daily.
        
         | TurkishPoptart wrote:
         | Do you think sleep apnea is a condition caused by civilization?
         | I.e. did medieval people suffer from this? And is this a
         | consequence of the American diet and a sedentary lifestyle, or
         | something else?
        
         | maxglute wrote:
         | Sometimes I wonder if humans need more variability in sleeping
         | positions. Animals sleep in all sorts of positions on all
         | manners of not perfectly even terrain, probably trains nassal
         | to be strong in different orientations. When I had bad
         | heartburn/gerd I'd pass out propped up on the couch or setup a
         | bunch of cushions in the corner of the room, or raise head of
         | my bed up with a few books and getting great sleeps.
        
         | elric wrote:
         | I wish CPAP manufacturers were a bit better. There has been
         | little innovation, and if anything, there's been a downward
         | trend in quality in recent years.
         | 
         | My wishlist:
         | 
         | 1. Every CPAP device should be BiLevel.
         | 
         | 2. All data they record should be accessible to the user (for
         | tools like oscar).
         | 
         | 3. Either more granular pressure controls, or better algorithms
         | (or both). Some people do well on CPAP, others do better when
         | iPAP > ePAP (BiLevel, or EPR), while others do better when ePAP
         | > iPAP (vcom).
         | 
         | 4. Better masks. Seriously. It's so hard to find a good mask,
         | and so expensive to experiment with them. A new mask can set
         | you back EUR150, and if turns you hate it, you're shit out of
         | luck. I've toyed with the idea of personalized 3D printed masks
         | to get a better seal for each unique nose/face shape.
         | 
         | 5. Quieter machines. Without the Philips cancer foam.
         | 
         | 6. Quieter masks. Some have excellent diffusers in the
         | exhalation port (P10), while others blast out a concentrated
         | jet of air that will wake you up when it hits the pillow, or
         | will lead to divorce faster than your snoring ever did when it
         | hits your bedpartner.
         | 
         | 7. Bring back travel cpap devices. The market collapsed post
         | covid. I'd love to keep a small device and super lightweight
         | mask/hose in my bag for sleepover emergencies. I'd pay any
         | price for that, because having to lug a full size cpap around
         | ruins any chance of spontaneity in my bachelor sex life.
         | 
         | None of these are rocket science. But Philips Respironics are a
         | bunch of evil cunts, ResMed are goofing off, and the other
         | brands might as well not exist.
        
           | david-gpu wrote:
           | Agreed on all counts, down to having contemplated 3D printing
           | molds to manufacture custom silicone masks. I also wish the
           | tube had a sensor to detect whether you are sleeping on your
           | back to preemptively raise the pressure. Or having better
           | algorithms to detect hypopneas before the air stops flowing
           | altogether.
           | 
           | I don't even understand why purchasing a CPAP machine
           | requires a prescription. I'm scared of the possibility of a
           | doctor denying me a new CPAP machine when the current one
           | inevitably croaks. The device is a glorified fan, for
           | goodness sake.
        
             | elric wrote:
             | The prescription thing is probably location specific, but
             | AFAIK you can just buy them online. I have a few spares I
             | bought online from back when I frequently slept in
             | different places.
             | 
             | Masks straps could probably be fitted with an accelerometer
             | to detect positioning. If they can make heated tubing, this
             | isn't such a stretch. Might also be useful in correctly
             | flagging events: my machine often incorrectly marks
             | position switches as periods of hypopnea.
        
         | flanbiscuit wrote:
         | I have severe apnea and have been skinny most of my life, as I
         | get older (in my mid-40s now) I can gain _some_ weight, but I'm
         | still slim. My apnea is caused by having a narrow airway
         | entrance and thick tongue that just completely blocks the
         | entrance during sleep when my tongue relaxes and falls back.
         | Has nothing to do with my weight, just the genetics I
         | inherited. I use a CPAP that helps. My AHI is really low with
         | it on. Now I just need to make myself go to bed earlier, I
         | definitely have that "revenge nighttime procrastination" thing
         | where I stay up way too late.
        
         | 1vuio0pswjnm7 wrote:
         | It causes binge eating. Need to resist those urges.
        
       | jackallis wrote:
       | that's why it is imperative that you squeeze in some amount/level
       | of workout. does not have to at the gym, even 5 mintues of
       | jumping jack at your home helps. Granted if you have are
       | exhuasted from lack of sleep, workout is the last thing you want
       | to do; but through out your weekly routine -- to quote immortal
       | bard Eddie -- go ahead jump
       | <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SwYN7mTi6HM>.
        
       | goalieca wrote:
       | I find having kids in my late 30s hits really hard because of
       | this. Biologically, I can see it being best having kids in your
       | early 20s when you're made of rubber and can bounce back after
       | lack of sleep.
        
         | silverquiet wrote:
         | I hear this all the time regarding bouncing back after lack of
         | sleep when younger, but I have to say that I never really
         | experienced it - I was always completely shot after a (rare)
         | night of not sleeping. To the point where I actually
         | essentially lost consciousness involuntarily for a few hours on
         | one occasion. Then, when I was in my 30's I suffered a bout of
         | sleeplessness for a bit and found I could actually "function"
         | to some extend during the day, though it was a bit dicey.
         | 
         | It really gave me a fear of situations that might involve sleep
         | deprivation - one reason among many I never thought I could
         | handle medical school for instance.
        
           | yosito wrote:
           | I'm in my late 30s, and physically healthy. Mentally, I can
           | function better on low sleep than I could in my 20s. But two
           | weeks ago, I had five nights in a row of 4 hours of sleep. By
           | the end of the week, I ended up in the hospital with chest
           | pains and doctors were concerned it was a heart attack. In
           | the end, things checked out fine, but my body definitely
           | can't handle the stress of lack of sleep like it used to.
        
             | QuercusMax wrote:
             | I had 4 kids in my 20s, and I dealt with a lot of lost
             | sleep.
             | 
             | Since I hit about 36, I've found that a poor night of
             | sleep, such as from a red-eye flight, will wreck me for
             | about 2 days.
        
         | hackernoteng wrote:
         | Yeah have the young kids in your 20s. Thats why you dont need
         | sleep in your 20s. Also has benefit kids are grown and moved
         | out by the time you hit 50...
        
         | lolinder wrote:
         | I had my first in my mid twenties and there wasn't a lot of
         | bouncing back happening.
         | 
         | In college you can bounce back after an all nighter not just
         | because you're younger but also because it's an opt-in single
         | event and you can opt out of the next one when you recognize
         | that you're sleep deprived. You can also do what my brother
         | does and regularly sleep in till 10 to make up for the late
         | nights.
         | 
         | Once you have kids there's no opt out mechanism, and sleeping
         | in isn't an option any more. There's not really an opportunity
         | to bounce back from the sleep loss, even for a younger adult.
        
       | donatj wrote:
       | The first two months after my wife had my daughter about a year
       | ago, I was a walking zombie.
       | 
       | I wasn't really here. I tripped and fell down so many times. I
       | had not fallen down since I was in my teens and I am in my late
       | 30's.
       | 
       | I really had no idea how bad lack of sleep was going to mess me
       | up. Of the things I had planned for in having a child, I was
       | absolutely not prepared for this.
        
       | jmpman wrote:
       | This is why I need to work from home. I have random periods of
       | chronic insomnia. If I'm able to get a nap in, it breaks the
       | cycle. If not, after 2 days, I begin to spiral down. When in the
       | office, I could only recover on the weekends, leaving a
       | productive Monday and Tuesday.
        
         | chankstein38 wrote:
         | I also work from home and take lunchtime naps most days! I have
         | been chronically deprived of sleep for a while by an old dog
         | who doesn't relax for more than 5hrs at a time and I think I'd
         | be dead without my lunchtime naps.
        
         | galdosdi wrote:
         | If only your job let you have a real office with a door, you'd
         | have no problem working from the office.
         | 
         | A lot of the benefit of WFH is just undoing the damage of open
         | office.
         | 
         | Not long ago Google was famous for having nap rooms (supposedly
         | -- I never found it at the NYC office when I worked there in
         | the mid teens).
         | 
         | But in the days of private offices, this was just normal.
        
       | tschumacher wrote:
       | My sleep is very irregular but I always get enough. I tend to
       | have trouble falling asleep but once I'm asleep nothing can wake
       | me up. Some days I sleep until noon or I have to get up early but
       | then take a nap later. I wonder if all the bad consequences that
       | are associated with "broken" sleep apply to irregular but plenty
       | sleep as well.
        
       | froyolobro wrote:
       | Validated. I exercise, eat well, don't drink, don't consume
       | caffeine after noon, and my sleep is still terrible. I get four
       | good hours, that's it.
        
         | duderific wrote:
         | Same here! I'm in my 50's, so I often have to wake up to pee at
         | anywhere from 3 - 5 AM. Sometimes I go right back to sleep but
         | sometimes not. Then it's up at 6:15 AM to get the kids going
         | for school (I had kids really late.)
         | 
         | I've just become accustomed to being in a semi-groggy state
         | much of the time. I know it's not ideal, but I'm just not
         | gifted with being a good sleeper. Conversely, my wife can sleep
         | 10 hours in a row if given the opportunity.
         | 
         | In the rare situation where I get 6 to 7 hours of unbroken
         | sleep, I feel fantastic.
         | 
         | Edited for clarity
        
       | xyzelement wrote:
       | I found myself feeling "old" during north east winters, I would
       | wake up exhausted and crabby.
       | 
       | Recently I tracked this down to indoor air quality, installed an
       | ERV (basically, introduces fresh outside air into the house) and
       | I feel much better.
       | 
       | There's a lot of talk about (obesity related etc) sleep apnea
       | that's due to how the person breathes, it seems to me that
       | there's a version of it related to WHAT you breathe.
       | 
       | Granted I think I am more sensitive to indoor air quality than an
       | average person or maybe just more aware of the effect, but this
       | seems to have been a game changer in a way.
        
         | chankstein38 wrote:
         | I'm having a very similar experience with indoor air quality in
         | winter. Googling ERV doesn't deliver anything. What would I
         | look up to find what you're talking about?
        
           | xyzelement wrote:
           | It stands for "energy recovery ventilator" - in a nutshell it
           | just blows fresh air into your house and exhausts stale air,
           | but uses the heat in the exhaust air to warm up the incoming
           | air so it's more comfortable and energy efficient compared to
           | an open window with a fan in it.
           | 
           | Before you go too far that route (a multi-thousand dollar
           | install) I recommend getting an indoor air quality meter to
           | get a sense of what might be the problem. I recommend the
           | Airthings View Plus, which is about $300 but is comprehensive
           | and reliable and since (in my case) I made a multi-thousand
           | dollar decision based on it, it was worth the investment.
           | 
           | In my house it was obvious there's a massive CO2 buildup, CO2
           | itself isn't as big a deal itself but an indicator of stale
           | air (ie, it's not being vented out by itself) and somewhat
           | elevated radon. The ERV isn't the "prescribed" solution for
           | radon but since it ends up venting it out it's fine.
           | 
           | One last thing - for me, the connection between energy and
           | indoor air quality was obvious in retrospect. I could wake up
           | early and be miserable, but once I stepped outside to take my
           | son to school I'd feel better. Or vice versa - I could be
           | full of energy running around all day, then come home and
           | immediately get drowsy.
           | 
           | It only took about 15 years to realize indoor air was the
           | cause.
        
             | gilbertbw wrote:
             | This is called MVHR (mechanical ventillation with heat
             | recovery) in the UK. We're looking at putting it in, but
             | have a fairly poorly insulated house, so it's not clear if
             | the heat recovery is worthwhile. There is also PIV
             | (positive input ventillation), which blows fresh air into a
             | property (normally the hallways), but does not recover
             | heat, or duct air from the rooms. So it's much simpler and
             | cheaper to buy and install. It relies on the natural
             | 'leakiness' of the property to vent stale air out.
        
               | xyzelement wrote:
               | // This is called MVHR (mechanical ventillation with heat
               | recovery) in the UK.
               | 
               | These are actually two subtly different things. ERV (what
               | I am talking about) recovers some of the moisture content
               | along with heat, while an HRV (heat recovery ventilator
               | and probably what you're talking about) does the heat but
               | not the moisture. Depending on where you live this
               | matters or doesn't matter (eg, if your winters are really
               | dry and/or your summers are really humid, you want the
               | ENERGY recovery ventilator to keep the house humidity
               | closer to what you want vs equalizing with the outside.
               | 
               | // We're looking at putting it in, but have a fairly
               | poorly insulated house, so it's not clear if the heat
               | recovery is worthwhile
               | 
               | This doesn't make sense to me at all. First, if your
               | house is "leaky" then why do you need mechanical
               | ventilation at all, versus just relying on the natural
               | air exchange (I can think of a valid reason but just
               | curious how you think about it.) Second, if you DO put it
               | in, your house is obviously better conditioned inside
               | compared to outside so why wouldn't you want to recover
               | that heat, at least for comfort if not economy?
               | 
               | // There is also PIV (positive input ventillation), which
               | blows fresh air into a property (normally the hallways)
               | 
               | Yut but I think your hallway is then going to be as cold
               | as the outside in the winter?
        
       | ActionHank wrote:
       | I hate the fact that I must sleep everyday. I have always tried
       | to get around 6 - 7 hours a night as a result.
       | 
       | Through my 20s it wasn't an issue, but I stopped gyming a few
       | years back and it has been hard if I lose any sleep.
       | 
       | I started working out again and I am back to 6.5 hrs a night, no
       | problem.
        
         | bibliotekka wrote:
         | Almost 50, working out more than ever, super clean diet and it
         | really is the key to maintaining all kinds of energy and
         | stamina, good sleep, focus, all that stuff.
        
       | bdw5204 wrote:
       | I've found that my body can tolerate one day in a row of waking
       | up via an alarm clock instead of at my natural wakeup time. The
       | second day, I'm completely exhausted and can't think straight.
       | 
       | The way to sleep effectively and be most alert is to sleep when
       | your body tells you to not when society tells you to.
        
       | johnbellone wrote:
       | Last night my kid slept with us because he is sick. At 2am woke
       | up to screaming and alligator death rolls. I feel like ass after
       | one night.
        
       | dudefeliciano wrote:
       | I was just sick for 2 days and spent about 1.5 days sleeping
       | (like I literally slept 18-19 hours on one day, and probably
       | 12-13 hours the next) - I am now recovered and I feel a couple of
       | years younger...so I guess it goes both ways
        
         | Redster wrote:
         | To your point, I had a season of extremely hard work (for me)
         | where I was on two timezones (one in Europe and one in the US)
         | and ended up in a situation where, due to severe jet lag, I
         | would go to bed at the right time for the timezone I was in,
         | sleep for 12hrs, and wake up *more exhausted* than when I went
         | to sleep. Very demoralizing, but this continued for weeks.
         | Eventually I decided to take a sleep-cation. I went to a
         | friend's house who generously offered a private room. I
         | prepared a couple of meals in the fridge and proceeded to sleep
         | as much as I could for the next three days. I probably slept
         | more than 20 hrs per day, although I didn't necessarily have
         | very long stretches. I only needed like 4-5 meals over that
         | time. It really took me out of a negative spiral and got me
         | back on track. If you actually can sleep, I've seen this
         | approach help people "reset" on their sleep and then get more
         | regular benefits from their sleep hygiene.
        
       | begueradj wrote:
       | Some martial artists of the UFC say that sleeping is the best PED
       | (performance enhancer drug)
        
         | chikitabanana wrote:
         | *when the cameras are on
        
       | racl101 wrote:
       | Ain't it the truth.
        
       | uoaei wrote:
       | I like to set an alarm for 9 hr 30 min before sunrise. This gives
       | me 30 min to get ready for bed, and to go to bed with time for 6
       | full REM cycles of 1.5hr each. The rest of the timing (the timing
       | of my rest?) is up to my body and how much sleep it wants.
       | 
       | When I do it this way, vs setting alarms, I'm always surprised by
       | the sleep debt I've accrued and am now paying back.
       | 
       | Modern (especially urban) society demands a lot more of us than
       | many of our bodies can sustain.
        
       | EPWN3D wrote:
       | I'm sorry, but this is clickbait junk science.
       | 
       | > Psychologists in Sweden found that, on average, volunteers felt
       | more than four years older when they were restricted to only four
       | hours of sleep for two consecutive nights, with some claiming the
       | sleepiness made them feel decades older.
       | 
       | The average was four years older, with some people claiming they
       | felt "decades" older. This should be enough to tell you how
       | useless this methodology is. People cannot reliably estimate how
       | much "older" they feel because it's their subjective
       | interpretation of an experience they don't have. By definition
       | they don't know what being 4 years older feels like.
       | 
       | You might as well ask them whether sleep deprivation made them
       | feel like they'd been waterboarded for 4 hours or 4 days.
        
       | AlfredBarnes wrote:
       | This is one of those "no shit" articles.
        
       | seanhunter wrote:
       | This is incredible. I can't remember the last time I had a night
       | of unbroken sleep. It's literally months ago.
        
       | aronhegedus wrote:
       | Recommend the book "Why we sleep" for people who want to learn a
       | bit more about effects of sleep deprivation
        
       | failrate wrote:
       | One of the hardships of sleeping rough is that poor sleep quality
       | can rapidly degenerate your cognitive function. Simply put, being
       | homeless hurts your ability to escape homelessness.
        
         | diggan wrote:
         | > Simply put, being homeless hurts your ability to escape
         | homelessness.
         | 
         | Well known self-reinforcing mechanism, sadly :/
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cycle_of_poverty
         | 
         | Same with sleep surely, where bad sleep leads to worse sleep...
        
       | IncreasePosts wrote:
       | Maybe a coincidence but I got the first gray hair of my life 4
       | months after getting a newborn(and waking up like 4 times per
       | night)
        
       | nadermx wrote:
       | A thing I noticed had a dramatic effect on my sleeping was
       | forcing myself to keepy my mouth closed while doing any sort of
       | excersize, be it running or calisthenics. It forces my entire
       | nasal cavity to empty all the mucus, and I can breath
       | significantly better and my sleep improved dramatic.
        
         | globular-toast wrote:
         | I was having problems breathing through my nose too. It led to
         | snoring and I felt like a had a blocked nose more often than
         | not. Other than forcing myself to breathe through my nose I
         | also got one of those sinus rinse bottles and did some salt
         | rinses.
         | 
         | It's made such a huge difference. After years of having a
         | blocked nose I sometimes just take a moment to enjoy the fact I
         | can breathe through my nose at last. I've also gone from being
         | a snorer to a "very quiet sleeper" according to my girlfriend.
        
       | swozey wrote:
       | The older I've gotten the earlier I wake up, probably due to my
       | bladder going down the drain. I usually pop awake 4-6am and just
       | begrudgingly stay awake, I don't work until 9-10am.
       | 
       | When I _DO_ go back to bed after waking up like this and manage
       | to actually sleep until 8-9am I feel more drained and tired by
       | far. I did that last night /this morning and I am way more tired
       | than I've been all week getting up as soon as I wake up.
       | 
       | I don't really go to bed late, 10-11 probably. My doc complains
       | all the time that I'm not sleeping enough but that's why.
        
       | sarasasa28 wrote:
       | I have very very poor deep sleep, but no apneas. Anyone in the
       | same boat?
        
         | monroewalker wrote:
         | Yes
        
           | sarasasa28 wrote:
           | Did you do anything? I Have recently done a sleep study and
           | that was the result mainly. Haven't seen the doc yet but no
           | idea
        
         | ngai_aku wrote:
         | How did you discover you have poor deep sleep? Wearables?
         | 
         | I've been discussing my issue with (for lack of a better term)
         | chronic fatigue. He suspects it might be an issue with my
         | sleep, but
         | 
         | - I fall asleep really quickly - no obvious signs of apnea - I
         | wake up feeling pretty good
         | 
         | My issue is that by 10:30am I'm dragging.
        
       | gjvc wrote:
       | from the department of the bleedin' obvious
        
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