[HN Gopher] My Clients, the Liars
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       My Clients, the Liars
        
       Author : paulpauper
       Score  : 197 points
       Date   : 2024-03-10 03:21 UTC (19 hours ago)
        
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       | defrost wrote:
       | Original: YASSINE MESKHOUT DEC 5, 2023 posted to:
       | 
       | https://jessesingal.substack.com/p/my-clients-the-liars
       | 
       | https://archive.md/c4SRO
       | 
       | Other HN discussion of Yassine Meskhout's writing:
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33462658
        
       | account-5 wrote:
       | That was an excellent read.
        
       | avmich wrote:
       | It's kind of a pity the parallel construction used by some
       | services can't be revealed just as easily.
        
       | andrewflnr wrote:
       | I recommend also reading the post titled "Eleven Magic Words",
       | linked through the text "they haven't". OP is interesting and
       | kind of funny, but the linked article affected me... pretty
       | deeply, in a weird way.
        
         | yobert wrote:
         | That Eleven Magic Words article got me totally hooked on his
         | writing. I found it very powerful too. There's so much of our
         | society that I know nothing about, and he sheds so much light
         | on it. I feel like he tells you the truth.
        
           | richdougherty wrote:
           | http://ymeskhout.substack.com/p/eleven-magic-words-unlocked
        
             | 93po wrote:
             | I found this a little disappointing after so much build up.
             | It's good writing but there was no payoff as to why those
             | words had the impact they did and the reason was
             | effectively just a random choice by a judge
        
               | matthewdgreen wrote:
               | That's the entire point of the piece.
        
               | shermantanktop wrote:
               | Exactly. The machinery of justice is decorated with all
               | kinds of indicators of objectivity and wisdom: precedent,
               | settled law, sentencing guidelines, burdens of proof, law
               | schools filled with eminent scholars.
               | 
               | And yet someone has a bad day, or a change of heart, or
               | ate a tasty taco for lunch, or just fell in love, and
               | lives are ruined or saved.
        
               | DANmode wrote:
               | > Every morning I wonder whether that day has Eleven
               | Magic Words and, if it does, whether I'll be able to
               | figure them out. And every day that potential scares the
               | shit out of me.
        
             | Huggernaut wrote:
             | Aye aye aye I got more and more confused reading this
             | wondering how this was going to relate to the Elves.
        
       | lowbloodsugar wrote:
       | I find this persons attitude disgusting. They should not be a
       | public defender.
        
         | roenxi wrote:
         | Yes and no. His attitude is a bit unprofessional, but he
         | appears to be putting in an honest attempt at securing the best
         | outcome for his clients. I'm guessing, but it seems reasonable
         | that once criminals start lying there isn't a productive
         | direction to take the conversation.
        
         | yobert wrote:
         | How should a public defender behave? He's doing what his job is
         | supposed to be.
        
           | tetris11 wrote:
           | He should understand the position his clients are in, where
           | one small admission could lead to an entire sentence pinned
           | on them.
           | 
           | While he might not like it because it makes his job
           | difficult, he should nonetheless understand it and at least
           | pretend to sympathize on some level.
        
         | croes wrote:
         | His attitude doesn't matter if he gets the results
        
         | mft_ wrote:
         | Why?
        
         | account-5 wrote:
         | Their attitude is the result of being a public defender. The
         | result of the people they are trying to defend. They are trying
         | to do the best they can for their client, despite their client.
         | They're allowed to voice their frustration, and even mock the
         | ridiculousness of their clients actions.
        
           | lucianbr wrote:
           | I wonder why the respective people lie. Maybe their life
           | experience tells them nobody is really on their side, and
           | telling the truth never helps.
           | 
           | Also, I wonder if the author really does the best they can.
           | We only have their word for it, and... well, from what I can
           | read on the internet, the criminal justice system in the USA
           | isn't that great, so to speak.
        
             | account-5 wrote:
             | Have you read the other story linked to in this thread,
             | eleven magic words, by the same person? Another excellent,
             | truthful sounding, story. It suggests they do their best
             | with what they have to work with.
             | 
             | Regarding the US justice system, I am thankful every time I
             | hear about it that I am not subject to it.
        
             | latency-guy2 wrote:
             | Since you supplied your own rhetoric about these people and
             | their lives, I'll offer another.
             | 
             | These people lie because they know they did it but are
             | trying to avoid the consequences since they got caught,
             | their first instinct is to convince anyone who will talk to
             | them, and after the first few times where that doesn't work
             | out, they finally get the lesson to only talk to their
             | lawyer. But, they carried forward the same behavior.
             | 
             | Now instead of trying to convince the people before,
             | they're now trying to convince the lawyer that they weren't
             | even there, they were asleep even. But, they live with
             | other people who don't share their alibi, they made a call
             | using their phone just 15 minutes before the crime took
             | place, or cite the classic SODDI when that all fails, like
             | Marcel and Kyle.
             | 
             | Sometimes people are irrational, forgetful, and however
             | unfathomably unlikely: stupid. Sometimes people cite
             | "experience" to lead their path through life, but really
             | they mean "familiarity" with the situation, they really
             | haven't learned anything.
             | 
             | I'll use the authors own thoughts here to affirm:
             | 
             | > No, the lying doesn't come from a lack of trust but
             | rather a manipulation attempt. Their overriding goal is to
             | get off the charges no matter what it takes, so they're
             | willing to flip through and latch onto whatever narrative
             | helps them get there. They basically want me to be a
             | ventriloquist and use me to launder their talking points
             | because it's more believable coming from me. Of course as I
             | pointed out, they don't really think the plan all the way
             | through.
        
           | tetris11 wrote:
           | But their client _has_ to lie, even if they 're not fully
           | guilty of the crime -- it takes just one small offhand
           | admission of guilt related to the crime in a seemingly
           | private space, for the police and the prosecution to pin the
           | entire crime on them.
           | 
           | The system is not built on forgiveness. It will punish you
           | fully regardless the severity of your actual crime.
           | 
           | The fact that the author has no sympathy nor understanding of
           | this, leads me to believe that they're not doing the job for
           | the right reasons.
        
             | latency-guy2 wrote:
             | > The fact that the author has no sympathy nor
             | understanding of this
             | 
             | This is not a fact, this is you twisting the content of
             | this post into a very badly formed representation of the
             | author.
             | 
             | > But their client has to lie, even if they're not fully
             | guilty of the crime
             | 
             | Client does not need to confess to their lawyer, they do
             | however need to provide the lawyer with enough information,
             | most importantly with evidence or a pathway to it, that may
             | lead to an innocent or non-liable verdict. Client can
             | misunderstand this position all they want, does not matter.
        
       | richrichie wrote:
       | Clearly, this lawyer has not heard of Saul Goodman.
        
         | marmakoide wrote:
         | The whole read made me reframe Better Call Saul as a
         | documentary.
        
       | pjerem wrote:
       | > Part of my clients' clammed-up demeanors rests on a deluded
       | notion that I won't fight as hard for their cases unless I am
       | infatuated by their innocence.
       | 
       | I mean, isn't it very human ?
       | 
       | How to help the client avoid this thinking ? Even more so when
       | you are defending people who have no knowledge of how the system
       | even functions ?
        
       | 0xDEADFED5 wrote:
       | isn't the entire premise of this article flawed? the feigned
       | indignity at their clients lying...when it's pretty much required
       | for them to receive any semblance of effective defense:
       | There is a kernel of an exception that is almost not worth
       | mentioning. The Rules of Professional        Conduct 3.3
       | obligates me with the duty of candor. I am not allowed to present
       | evidence that I "know"        is false, which encompasses witness
       | testimony. Some jurisdictions make exceptions to this rule for
       | defendants testifying in their criminal trial (correctly, IMO)
       | but not all. So assuming that a        client truthfully
       | confesses to me, assuming we go to trial, assuming they decide to
       | testify, and        assuming I "know" they're going to lie, then
       | yes, this could indeed spawn a very awkward situation
       | where I'm forced to withdraw in the middle of proceedings.
        
         | account-5 wrote:
         | I'm curious how a lawyer not being allowed to present as truth
         | known falsehoods at trial is stopping an effective defense?
         | Wouldn't the lawyer knowingly be committing perjury if they
         | lied in court?
        
           | bryanrasmussen wrote:
           | they said it also applies to defendants testifying, so if
           | question is
           | 
           | And then you shot her, correct?!
           | 
           | Answer: No I did not shoot her! I never did that.
           | 
           | And your lawyer knows it is a lie that you indeed did shoot
           | her, it could be problematic at that point, depending on some
           | jurisdiction.
           | 
           | I guess it depends if you think an effective defense should
           | allow the guilty to go free?
        
             | quickthrower2 wrote:
             | Effective defence would allow the guilty to go free.
             | (although "guilty" is a jury verdict so that is impossible
             | but I presume you mean would be found guilty had more
             | evidence prevailed). You can't have an advocate that draws
             | arbitrary lines at which they are not on your side
             | advocating for you, what would those be?
             | 
             | Say someone says to their lawyer they shot the person but
             | really they are covering for their wife even to mthe
             | lawyer. The lawyer then hears them say in court they didn't
             | shoot (the truth) but the lawyer just knows they are saying
             | something different now to what they said before. It could
             | be that.
        
               | mannykannot wrote:
               | > ...although "guilty" is a jury verdict so that is
               | impossible but I presume you mean would be found guilty
               | had more evidence prevailed.
               | 
               | I'm not the author of the post referred to here, but I
               | suspect that 'guilty' was intended to be read as
               | 'actually committed the crime'.
               | 
               | To be clear, I support the principle that it is the
               | acquittal of a perpetrator is far less of a miscarriage
               | of justice than is the conviction of someone other than
               | the perpetrator.
        
               | bryanrasmussen wrote:
               | In this case I was using guilty in its common English
               | usage, and not the specific American Jurisprudence usage.
        
               | quickthrower2 wrote:
               | You must mean clear cut cases too then. Not self defence
               | etc.
        
             | notahacker wrote:
             | I think the general principle is that defence lawyers
             | aren't expected to contradict their clients' _probably_
             | false testimony, and are perfectly entitled (encouraged,
             | even) to deliver a  "my client maintains the shot was fired
             | by someone else, and _nobody witnessed the shot_ " defence
             | whilst being pretty convinced they fired the shot, but if
             | they close with a series of factual claims about "Richie
             | Bottoms" whilst knowing full well that name was made up on
             | the spot by their client they could be in trouble. Doing
             | their job properly means trying to persuade their client to
             | stick to technicalities and avoid the "Richie Bottoms"
             | defence because it'll fall apart, not patching the holes in
             | it.
             | 
             | But the fact we're debating how open defence lawyers are
             | supposed to be and there is jurisdictional variation is a
             | good indication of why criminals might feel they're best
             | served lying to their defence lawyer, and lying as
             | elaborately as possible rather than just avoiding
             | confessing. The potential consequences of telling the truth
             | are much worse than merely having your public defender
             | think you're a fool. Plus if you're intending to test
             | whether your denials are believable before you use them in
             | court, you won't get a better opportunity than a privilege-
             | protected conversation with someone who's seen a lot of
             | excuses...
        
           | __derek__ wrote:
           | That's not perjury. Trial attorneys are not under oath
           | because that would conflict with their duty to advocate for
           | their clients. Their duty not to lie to the court is a matter
           | of professional ethics.
        
         | bryanrasmussen wrote:
         | That's right, I'm pretty sure if you're rich enough you don't
         | have to lie to your lawyer, they want to know exactly the truth
         | in order to craft an effective defense.
         | 
         | That said they also say here it depends on the jurisdiction so
         | in some jurisdictions it won't matter that you know if your
         | client is lying.
         | 
         | hmm - potentially can you start a case in jurisdiction 1 where
         | rules are a certain way and then get case moved to a different
         | jurisdiction where it is different? Seems unlikely and probably
         | not something competent lawyer would allow - but still...
        
         | RobinL wrote:
         | In addition, I guess a public defender is likely to work harder
         | in a case where they believe the client is innocent.
         | 
         | This interpretation of 'eleven magic words' also suggests it
         | matters: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33471299
        
           | MadnessASAP wrote:
           | His client in that case, by their own admission, was
           | flagrantly guilty. What he was seeking and managed to receive
           | was leniency.
        
         | eloisant wrote:
         | That's only if your defense strategy is to lie in court. But
         | once you're caught, and there is evidence, you're best strategy
         | is to admit your guilt.
         | 
         | Or if you really think you can lie your way to acquittal, then
         | you can successfully convince your lawyer of your lie. If your
         | lawyer can see through your bullshit as easily as the examples
         | he gives, you're not going to fool the court.
        
         | avalys wrote:
         | "Lying to the court" is not necessary for an effective defense,
         | and defendants are not obligated to testify in the first place.
         | 
         | Remember that perjury is also a crime and you're not "allowed"
         | to commit perjury just because you're testifying in your own
         | defense (which is your choice).
         | 
         | If you're actually guilty, your defense is supposed to
         | challenge the validity of the evidence the prosecution is using
         | to convict you. Not lie to the court and hope your lies are
         | more convincing than the prosecution's evidence.
        
           | 93po wrote:
           | > If you're actually guilty, your defense is supposed to
           | challenge the validity of the evidence the prosecution is
           | using to convict you. Not lie to the court and hope your lies
           | are more convincing than the prosecution's evidence.
           | 
           | Ideally yes, but prosecution (and the entire process leading
           | to arrest) lies and breaks the law and takes advantage in
           | every way possible. It's a very dishonest process to try to
           | be honest against.
        
             | skybrian wrote:
             | That's often said, but this public defender seems to think
             | otherwise and he's certainly seen the inside a courtroom
             | much more than I have.
             | 
             | But he seems like an odd person [1] and I wonder what might
             | be atypical about his experiences? It would be interesting
             | to read the experiences of other public defenders. It's
             | their job to look for problems.
             | 
             | [1] https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/4rsRuNaE4uJrnYeTQ/defun
             | ding-...
        
               | 93po wrote:
               | Did you link the correct article? The author really says
               | nothing about the legal system and is only reflecting
               | that their 100% ACAB attitude maybe requires more nuance.
               | This same author has written other pieces that plainly
               | call the legal system an unfair joke (Eleven Words
               | article specifically).
               | 
               | Regardless of any public defender's opinion, I am
               | inclined to not fully respect opinions of people who are
               | deeply embedded in the thing they have an opinion about,
               | especially if it's in defense of the thing they're deeply
               | embedded in. Humans lose perspective very easily, and
               | especially when their identity is wrapped up in it.
        
               | skybrian wrote:
               | I shared that to show that he has a somewhat odd
               | background, not because it's directly relevant.
               | 
               | Yes, it's possible that insiders might have a biased
               | view. However, in general, I do respect the opinions of
               | people who have had experiences and write about them more
               | than the comments of random internet strangers who, as
               | far as I know, have no experience.
        
               | rayiner wrote:
               | I know a few PDs, and I also worked in a court. The story
               | checks out to me. I don't think you'll find a lot of PDs
               | who will say cops and prosecutors regularly target
               | genuinely innocent people. For the most part the job is
               | to make sure all the boxes are checked and that the
               | prosecution matches the actual crime.
        
             | avalys wrote:
             | If you're innocent, you don't need to lie to your defense
             | attorney.
             | 
             | If you're guilty, the system is not designed to protect
             | you, and there's no reason why it should permit the guilty
             | to commit perjury out of some desire to balance out (?) the
             | fact that the prosecution and police sometimes lie as well.
             | 
             | What is a scenario where an innocent person needs to be
             | allowed to lie to present an effective defense?
        
               | soerxpso wrote:
               | I don't think the person you're replying to is saying
               | perjury should be legal. They're saying perjury might be
               | a good idea sometimes. Especially if you're guilty,
               | sometimes your only chance of staying out of prison does
               | involve lying. A guilty person looking at 20 years would
               | be reasonable to be unconcerned about whatever addition
               | perjury charges might add (if they were even caught
               | perjuring).
        
         | quickthrower2 wrote:
         | Not indignity but inconvenience. It would be like a boss lying
         | to a software engineer about the requirements as they are
         | scared it will cost too much then the wrong thing is built.
        
         | unyttigfjelltol wrote:
         | When the judge or jury look over to the defendants' table, they
         | need to find someone they can trust and believe. Sometimes,
         | yes, from the outside the result seems binary, but it's a
         | _process_ that everyone ideally navigates with _dignity_ that
         | might involve multiple _levels_ of culpability and end with a
         | _sentence_ that is highly discretionary. The attorney could
         | give weak factual defense on one or more levels of culpability
         | to preserve credibility and generate more positive outcomes in
         | terms of the process, dignity, and sentence. Also, the attorney
         | is going to see that judge and prosecutor again ....
        
         | tekla wrote:
         | > when it's pretty much required for them to receive any
         | semblance of effective defense:
         | 
         | No its not, holy shit.
         | 
         | Lying to your lawyer is a terrible idea. The lawyer is there to
         | HELP YOU and present an effective defense. If you lie to the
         | lawyer, the lawyer works with a different set of baseline
         | arguments for your defense. If the lie is revealed, the defense
         | is broken, it doesn't matter anymore. Months of work tossed out
         | the window, nobody trusts the defendant anymore, and the lawyer
         | needs to figure out damage control rather than actually
         | defending you.
         | 
         | Repeat. If anyone finds out you lied, you are FUCKED. Trust
         | goes out the window, Judge thinks you're a unrepentant idiot,
         | most possibility of leniency in the case you are considered
         | guilty is dropped.
         | 
         | It's literally one of the worst things you can do at trial.
        
           | RuggedPineapple wrote:
           | To add to that, your lawyer is bound by both professional,
           | enforceable ethical guidelines as well as legal doctrine from
           | revealing anything you've said to them in the course of their
           | representation of you without your express consent. The
           | number of exceptions to that is tiny. The only one that
           | really matters is crime/fraud which relates not to your crime
           | but using a lawyer to commit a crime. The others are either
           | after you're dead (probate exception, where your lawyer can
           | disclose information for the purposes of helping settle your
           | will after your death) or are exclusively about money (your
           | lawyer can disclose details of your agreed upon contract and
           | payment structure if they are having to fight you to be
           | paid).
           | 
           | There is zero reason to lie to your lawyer, all you do is
           | make them less prepared in their defense.
        
         | plagiarist wrote:
         | Defending a criminal is a completely separate thing to abetting
         | a perjury.
        
         | FireBeyond wrote:
         | I also believe that (at least in some states), this assertion
         | is inaccurate:
         | 
         | > It's true, a client can show me where they buried their dozen
         | murder victims and I wouldn't be allowed to tell a soul, even
         | if an innocent person is sitting in prison for their crimes.
         | 
         | At least in Alabama (for no specific reason other than it was
         | the first hit I found):
         | 
         | > RULE 3.3: CANDOR TOWARDS THE TRIBUNAL
         | 
         | > (a) A lawyer shall not knowingly:
         | 
         | > (2) fail to disclose a material fact to a tribunal when
         | disclosure is necessary to avoid assisting a criminal or
         | fraudulent act by the client
         | 
         | Seems to me that knowing that your client is materially guilty
         | and an innocent person has been convicted for their crimes is
         | "assisting a criminal or fraudulent act" by your client.
        
       | ildjarn wrote:
       | "Chicanery" nice reference!
        
         | stavros wrote:
         | Reference to what? It's a word.
        
           | azemetre wrote:
           | There's a very good scene in Better Call Saul that uses this
           | word. Also the title of the episode.
           | 
           | Better Call Saul is about a lawyer.
        
       | RecycledEle wrote:
       | The author of the post is scum.
       | 
       | It was his job to have the fingerprints on the gun compared to
       | Marcel's fingerprints, not to be sarcastic and then fail to do
       | the evidence comparison.
       | 
       | Right there he (the defense attorney) needs to go to prison.
       | 
       | I have seen so many cases where pigs are setting someone up, and
       | they lie to their victim's attorney then the two groups of
       | criminals (pigs + attorneys) work together to destroy evidence
       | that I can no longer trust any "officer of the cult."
        
         | RecycledEle wrote:
         | Then he goes on to confess "Ivan expounded at length about how
         | Cindy's testimony was invalid because, as a social worker, she
         | would be violating HIPAA.[5] The glaze over my eyes must have
         | gotten too obvious for me to hide"
         | 
         | The author of the article just confessed to failing to give his
         | client competent legal advice. He had an ethical obligation to
         | explain the limitations of HIPPA and why he thought the
         | testimony would be admitted to his client.
         | 
         | I am going to have to file a disbursement complaint against
         | this scumbag attorney.
        
           | loloquwowndueo wrote:
           | Please be sure to post a link or a pdf so we can follow along
           | the complaint's progress! Yay!
        
           | PhasmaFelis wrote:
           | What exactly is a "disbursement complaint"? Your comment is
           | the #6 result in a Google search, so it's not exactly common,
           | and the other results aren't terribly informative.
        
             | tylerchurch wrote:
             | Likely a typo for "disbarment".
        
         | fallingknife wrote:
         | Why would that be his job? If his client had actually touched
         | the gun that would be the opposite of his job because it would
         | produce strong evidence against his client.
        
       | SebFender wrote:
       | As House said "People lie".
        
         | Pwntheon wrote:
         | I believe a more accurate quote is "Everyone lies".
        
       | narag wrote:
       | I have some good friends that are lawyers and used to work as
       | public defenders, not sure if they still do.
       | 
       | Their experience was not exactly like the author's. Their clients
       | lied to them, yes. But they were very competent, knew every
       | loophole and detail of the legal machinery, having experienced
       | all of it before and shared their knowledge with like-minded
       | individuals while in jail. They were afraid their lawyers weren't
       | up to the task.
        
       | kikimora wrote:
       | In my country public attorneys 100% work with police to convict
       | you, not to protect you.
        
       | compumetrika wrote:
       | By happenstance I just ran across this by the same author
       | somewhere: https://ymeskhout.substack.com/p/death-of-a-client
        
       | tekla wrote:
       | Lying to your lawyer is one of the worst things you can possibly
       | do. If anyone finds out it fucks up EVERYTHING
        
         | D-Coder wrote:
         | Wise old saying:
         | 
         | "Three people you should never lie to: your doctor, your
         | accountant, and your attorney."
        
       | rayiner wrote:
       | If you catch a public defender in a candid moment, you'll get a
       | lot of stories like this. What makes the criminal justice system
       | so difficult is that the overwhelming majority of the people that
       | it targets are guilty of what they're accused of, and scumbags on
       | top of that. When you face that day in and day out, it's
       | difficult to make yourself keep your eyes open for the innocent
       | ones.
       | 
       | I remember an ACLU email in my inbox about the Juwan Wickware
       | case: https://www.aclu.org/news/criminal-law-reform/only-
       | america-1.... It was trying to drum up outrage about a young man
       | who attacked a pizza delivery driver as part of a coordinated
       | robbery. One of the members of Wickware's party ended up killing
       | the driver in front of his wife and kids (who were in the car).
       | When I dug up details about the case, I thought "you'd think
       | they'd have picked a more sympathetic case to make their point."
       | But the fact is that those are few and far between.
        
         | LeftHandPath wrote:
         | I remember reading about how the TSA was very unsuccessful in
         | catching errors, because they faced a large number of true
         | negatives day in and day out. The alarms barely ever went off,
         | and when they did, it was usually a false positive. The natural
         | human tendency in that situation is to optimize / reduce energy
         | expenditure by letting your guard down and paying less
         | attention.
         | 
         | In security, "covert tests" that replicate rare events (like
         | attempting to sneak a gun through a checkpoint) more
         | frequently, seem to increase the chances of success in
         | detecting real threats [0]. If only we could do the same for
         | our legal system.
         | 
         | [0]:
         | https://www.cmu.edu/news/stories/archives/2013/november/nov4...
        
           | rayiner wrote:
           | Except imagine the situation if you faced true positives
           | every day. Working in a court made me do a 180 on my views of
           | the criminal system. We would see the pre-sentence reports,
           | and most of these guys had been engaged in criminal activity
           | since late adolescence. I remember one case where a guy
           | committed crimes in a tri-state area. He ultimately wouldn't
           | even be prosecuted for most of them after the feds got him.
        
       | unstatusthequo wrote:
       | As a lawyer, but not criminal one, none of this surprises me.
       | Some amount of your job is protecting clients from their own
       | misconceptions and things they have convinced themselves of.
       | Those who say this guy is a scum or should be in jail do not have
       | much of a concept of the justice system and what it means to
       | zealous represent a client. Without the truth, you can't see you
       | blind spots--in fact, your client is making them. To both their
       | and your detriment. I personally love how the writer handled the
       | fingerprints. It allows an immediate inflection point of "let me
       | do the thinking and handle strategy, and stop lying, or find
       | another lawyer." But, some clients won't, and those are the ones
       | that end up with an imperfect defense by virtue of them thinking
       | they are being clever or whatever.
        
       | poulsbohemian wrote:
       | When I was in software, my employers lied about their priorities,
       | about what compensation they were willing to extend, about my
       | promotion prospects, etc. When I moved in to consulting, my
       | clients lied to me about their budget, about their requirements,
       | about their goals, about their decision making process. When I
       | moved into real estate, I found the old phrase "buyers are liars"
       | exists for a reason - people don't want to tell you their real
       | budget, they sign an agreement that you are their real estate
       | agent and then you see them at an open house with another
       | agent...
       | 
       | I can't help but reflect on all the media on romantic
       | relationships, where so often the root problem is an inability to
       | tell the other person what you really want and need.
       | 
       | It's all fascinating stuff because like this author states up
       | front - whoever it might be often would be in a more competitive
       | or better negotiating position if they would just be honest.
        
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