[HN Gopher] Stop postponing things by embracing the mess
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       Stop postponing things by embracing the mess
        
       Author : vitabenes
       Score  : 276 points
       Date   : 2024-02-21 09:31 UTC (13 hours ago)
        
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       | loneranger_11x wrote:
       | Spot on argument.
       | 
       | Especially valuable piece of advice is to find 25-30 minutes of
       | uninterrupted time and aim to knock out one small task. Even if
       | you didn't finish it, note down progress and next steps. Go at it
       | again in the next slot.
       | 
       | Taking notes will both help you track progress and give you a
       | sense of movement. It will also make sure that you can easily
       | regain context in the next attempt.
        
         | bru3s wrote:
         | I agree wholeheartedly. I've been stuck in a rut of
         | procrastination for the last several years, during which I
         | hardly ever _started_ side projects or experiments due to tired
         | old excuses such as  "I simply don't have enough time", "This
         | would at least need x hours per day", etc.
         | 
         | When I eventually tried to start something, it would inevitably
         | be delayed by other daily things to carry out (work, family,
         | other life related stuff), so not taking notes would always
         | result in "" have no idea what I was aiming for last time".
         | 
         | Add to that a fairly (un)healthy dose of perfectionism coming
         | from working in the same field, and you have a recipe for years
         | wasted on complete inactivity.
         | 
         | Another fiend of this kind, friendly to procrastination, is the
         | inability to decide what to actually work on, especially when
         | you have a lot of interests. Then the question becomes "I have
         | hours available to work on something, but I cannot pull the
         | trigger on any of those things that interest me", so back again
         | to square 1 with year wasted on indecisiveness with nothing to
         | show for it.
        
           | thoughtFrame wrote:
           | For both of your cases, the "25 to 30 minutes task" trick
           | won't work at all. For a case that persists for years, what
           | I've learned is that it's either real ADHD, or some emotional
           | problem around the topic. For me, it was 100% an emotional
           | problem, though I do have a bit of a scattered mind, but I
           | can focus it, whereas I've seen people with serious ADHD who
           | can't do it at all and need meds (among other things).
           | 
           | For example, having many interests is fine, but when it comes
           | to choice, what keeps you stuck can be something like a
           | complete fear of regretting the choice. Words like lazyness
           | or perfectionism are usually the sheep's clothing that the
           | wolf (emotion) is wearing. How can some organizational trick
           | from a blog post help here?
           | 
           | I've read lots of self-help books (among other things) when I
           | faced these issues a few years ago, and there's a curious
           | commonality: it's all small tricks developed for the author's
           | personal experience. But what I've noticed is that there are
           | two kinds of people in these situations: the ones who don't a
           | solution and get out of the problem (which is the group that
           | happens to include most of those authors), and the ones who
           | stay stuck looking for an answer, a quick solution, a trick
           | to escape. The first type can get out by using something like
           | the GTD book. That means their problem really was that they
           | lacked some crucial bit of organizational knowledge to unlock
           | their path towards whatever they want to do.
           | 
           | But the latter type (the ones who're stuck in the cycle) need
           | to _let something go_ rather than accumulate new things (in
           | this case, tips and tricks about Getting Things Done).
           | 
           | There's the DIY path (hard, involves journaling,
           | introspection, noticing and categorizing your emotions,
           | reading Jung, reading ancient texts like the Bhagavad Gita)
           | and the psychologist path (you need to find a good
           | paychologist who doesn't just ask "and what do you feel about
           | it?" over and over but actually takes an active role in your
           | situation and your circumstances)
        
             | bru3s wrote:
             | > For both of your cases, the "25 to 30 minutes task" trick
             | won't work at all. For a case that persists for years, what
             | I've learned is that it's either real ADHD, or some
             | emotional problem around the topic. For me, it was 100% an
             | emotional problem, though I do have a bit of a scattered
             | mind, but I can focus it, whereas I've seen people with
             | serious ADHD who can't do it at all and need meds (among
             | other things).
             | 
             | I'm not so sure about that. Mind you, I had already been
             | thinking that putting some effort in limited amount of time
             | instead of doing nothing at all before reading the article,
             | so if anything the latter gave me some more confidence that
             | it's actually a solution that at least worked _for someone_
             | 
             | > But the latter type (the ones who're stuck in the cycle)
             | need to let something go rather than accumulate new things
             | (in this case, tips and tricks about Getting Things Done).
             | On that front, I thing you're perfectly right.
             | 
             | > There's the DIY path (hard, involves journaling,
             | introspection, noticing and categorizing your emotions,
             | reading Jung, reading ancient texts like the Bhagavad Gita)
             | and the psychologist path (you need to find a good
             | paychologist who doesn't just ask "and what do you feel
             | about it?" over and over but actually takes an active role
             | in your situation and your circumstances)
             | 
             | Admittedly I don't feel 100% sure that what you just wrote
             | doesn't apply to me, so would you mind expanding a bit more
             | on the details? Why would procrastination in a case like
             | mine be linked to emotional issue? Actually even better,
             | was it that for you? In which way did this link exist, and
             | how did you find out? How did you managed to solve it, if
             | you solved it at all?
             | 
             | Thanks for replying
        
               | thoughtFrame wrote:
               | (there's a typo in my post: "the ones who don't a
               | solution and get out of the problem" ought to be "the
               | ones who find a solution and get out of the problem")
               | 
               | > I'm not so sure about that. Mind you, I had already
               | been thinking that putting some effort in limited amount
               | of time instead of doing nothing at all before reading
               | the article, so if anything the latter gave me some more
               | confidence that it's actually a solution that at least
               | worked for someone
               | 
               | Yes, absolutely, but for the kind of people I'm talking
               | about, it's like telling an overweight person to "just go
               | to the gym, bro". It works, yeah, but there's some who do
               | buckle up and go to the gym, and there's others who stay
               | stuck in a cycle and don't take any steps out even
               | thought from the outside, what they have to do is obvious
               | (for example, some cope with stress or anxiety by eating.
               | How can they become healthier without tackling the root
               | of the issue, which is the source of the stress/anxiety?
               | This is what I mean by things having emotional causes)
               | For ADHD, you needn't look too far. There's a top comment
               | in this thread about someone who spent 40 years with
               | these issues until they got actual help. Once the root is
               | identified (diagnosed) then the difficulty in dealing
               | with the problem goes down.
               | 
               | ------------------
               | 
               | > Actually even better, was it that for you?
               | 
               | It's good that you ask this, because I don't know your
               | situation. As for me, I basically tried to exhaust the
               | possibilities by reading self help books, then moving
               | into philosophy (mostly eastern) and then moving into
               | psychology (via Jung's books, and Alok Kanojia's youtube
               | videos). No tip or trick helped me, and intellectually, I
               | knew what the right answer was all along (an equivalent
               | of "just go to the gym"). But that still didn't translate
               | to action, which surprised me. In the end, I was forced
               | to leave my overly intellectual/rational view of the
               | world, and delve into what Jung called Eros, a contrast
               | of Logos. But don't be distracted by the name. Perhaps
               | it's better to talk about "intelligence quotient" (IQ)
               | and "emotional quotient" (EQ). My underdeveloped EQ was
               | causing me quite a bit of problems, because I wasn't
               | aware of my emotions, of what I was feeling, of why I
               | moved towards some things and not towards others. EQ is
               | related to motivation, among other things. That's where
               | what I wrote in the DIY path comes in. It took me a year
               | of work. And it taught me a very interesting meta-lesson:
               | I noticed in hindsight the amount of effort that I had
               | put into this problem. It made me feel so desperate that
               | I spent hours and hours going through books, taking notes
               | every day, and learning a lot. But for the areas that
               | really mattered to me, I had been led away. The lesson is
               | that the more intellectually important something is to
               | me, the harder it becomes to deal with it. This can
               | manifest as perfectionisn. For example, I don't care at
               | all about how my books are arranged in my bookshelf. So I
               | place them as they fit. But if I care a lot about
               | organization, I may keep them in boxes for years while I
               | fret over the best way to implement the Dewey system for
               | my 1000+ books and also planning (but not writing!) an
               | app to scan my books into a local database and so on.
               | (What do I mean by "intellectually important"? It's
               | whatever we aren't led to by our emotions yet still
               | matters to us. When I was led by the emotion of despair,
               | I studied ceaselessly to get rid of it. But when I think
               | about wanting to do something without a strong emotion
               | backing it, it's harder to jump into it without forcing
               | yourself)
               | 
               | So I care about a lot of things, and I care a lot. Also,
               | I want to work on everything. So my inaction here was
               | because I was scared of the possibility of letting go of
               | the others if I dedicate myself to a few things, and
               | truly focused on them, devoting my time and energy to
               | that endeavour.
               | 
               | That's what annoyed me when I saw others, who spent years
               | on making their passion project (whether a game, a set of
               | paintings, a program or a tool to help others, a web
               | novel they self-published, or whatever else)... And I
               | knew what I had to do. Do what they did but for what I
               | care about, for my ideas that I feel so strongly about.
               | And I wasn't doing it. It's fucking annoying, like trying
               | to lift your hand (which you know works perfectly) but
               | you can't.
               | 
               | As for your case, only you can find out. The first link
               | that therapists will try to find inside you is trauma,
               | because that kind of stuff has far-reaching consequences
               | on everything in your life, including motivation. But
               | it's not always trauma, so don't think that there must
               | have been something suppressed inside you or whatever.
               | 
               | For example, I had a lot of problems from having been a
               | "gifted kid", being treated like I'm super smart and
               | whatnot. That pushed me away from hard work and from
               | things that weren't immediately easy, and that a big root
               | cause. But it wasn't a trauma of any kind - I had a
               | normal childhood
               | 
               | About my progress... I'm working on it and getting much
               | better. I recently passed a big exam, and I'm honing some
               | of my skills, putting in the hard work.
               | 
               | Good luck on your path
        
           | dboreham wrote:
           | Try viewing this as "I'm so effective at doing things that
           | other people want me to do way more things than I have time
           | for".
        
         | sanderjd wrote:
         | Honestly, I really don't relate to this.
         | 
         | I don't have tasks I can do in 25 or 30 minutes, except for the
         | exact kind of "marking messages read" tasks that leave me
         | feeling empty at the end of the day.
         | 
         | > _Even if you didn 't finish it, note down progress and next
         | steps. Go at it again in the next slot._
         | 
         | For me, these notes would mostly be "spent 25 minutes
         | rebuilding context, got pulled away" over and over again.
         | 
         | I think there are some good techniques in this article. Taking
         | notes is good.
         | 
         | But I don't think embracing the chaos is the way to go, I think
         | being a lot more proactive and firm about giving yourself the
         | time you need to focus and do high quality work is the better
         | approach.
         | 
         | If every day is becoming a mess, start by figuring out how to
         | fix that.
        
           | LoganDark wrote:
           | This is part of my issue, too. Not having no things to do in
           | a short amount of time, but _knowing that I don 't have time,
           | preventing me from starting_. A lot of people have the
           | ability to just dive in regardless of how much time they
           | foresee having. I don't. I need to have time in order to feel
           | safe starting anything.
           | 
           | In the hours preceding something like a doctor's appointment,
           | I can't do anything. Anything I start will be interrupted by
           | the appointment, so I can't even try.
        
             | dboreham wrote:
             | This is just how the brain works. People who claim they can
             | do a hard focused task in 20 min chunks are faking it. The
             | article is trying to say I think "don't worry about that,
             | because on average you will have some uninterrupted
             | stretches in which to do the hard task, but right now get
             | some simple shit done because that needs done too".
        
           | dboreham wrote:
           | I didn't read it as embrace the chaos, rather to not fixate
           | on the perfect non-chaotic day that's coming (it isn't).
           | Instead adopt a "continuous improvement" stance where any
           | little deviation from total chaos is a win. Iterate that
           | process. Basically the same thing as continuous delivery:
           | start delivering a crappy thing and progressively fix issues
           | / add features until it's done.
        
       | __natty__ wrote:
       | I like to think about discipline in terms of habits, either built
       | in a perfect environment or real and messy, as described in the
       | article. The perfect ones are what we aim to achieve, but they
       | are flimsy because once we are in a different environment, the
       | habits disappear. The latter are much more prone to changes but
       | harder to initialize.
        
         | mingusrude wrote:
         | This is the conclusion that I've come to as well after trying
         | for way too long to find inspiration to those things that I
         | either want to do (on some level) or need to do.
         | 
         | Habits are things you do that don't have a big hurdle. For
         | years I've been able to run without feeling that there's a
         | great resistance in doing it (I don't normally identify as a
         | runner). But picking up some work that I want to do but don't
         | feel it's the right moment to do has been a lot harder. Lately
         | I've had some progress with at just doing tasks because it's
         | become a habit when I have some time over.
        
       | hoc wrote:
       | I also suggest to add a physical signal on your typical life
       | accessories like phone or watch.
       | 
       | E.g. swapping or adding a special colored case during productive
       | time to remind you to return to focus on production when you tend
       | to break into "day-dreaming".
       | 
       | Does not make you start the day, but lets you keep going longer
       | (ok, that might sound wrong, but let's keep it for its mnemonic
       | value).
        
         | corobo wrote:
         | I have a little silicone thumb ring I use for this. No idea why
         | I bought a handful of them in the first place but they're
         | useful for this sort of thing!
         | 
         | If I'm wearing it, there's still work stuff on my todo list
         | that needs doing today.
         | 
         | Brings me back to the PC rather than coming in from a walk and
         | doing a bunch of housework I notice on the way in haha. Hard to
         | miss being on my hand, almost anything I could do while
         | procrastinating will make me see it :)
        
       | aaron695 wrote:
       | This site is bizarre.
       | 
       | If you look at their stuff on addiction, they have no grounding
       | in current theory. And by current theory, that's from science to
       | religious ideas like prayer, nothing they talk about matches
       | anything in the world from hard numbers to mysticism. They also
       | have no explanation why they break with all the current theories
       | or where their theories come from.
       | 
       | By now they are a HN institution, but I'd be very wary following
       | their advice if you medically depend on it working.
       | 
       | deprocrastination.co is like a surreal movie, I think I like it,
       | but I'm glad sites like these are not everywhere, like
       | Scientology, fun because it's different. OP you should also
       | create a new religion and run a site, you'd be good I think.
       | That's not facetious-ism, but you'd have to be morally ok with
       | it.
       | 
       | [edit] As an example of what I'm saying related to this article -
       | "Imperfect action > perfect nothing" has no real meaning. It's
       | simplified to "action > nothing"
       | 
       | What would be meaningful is "wrong action > perfect nothing" or
       | "action > planning"
       | 
       | But as you can see HN eats up stuff like "Imperfect action >
       | perfect nothing" It's good writing.
        
         | sanderjd wrote:
         | I think you may be right about the rest, but I don't understand
         | your last point. "Imperfect action > perfect nothing" is not
         | meaningless and does not simplify to "action > nothing". It's
         | just a different (not nearly as evocative, IMO) way to say
         | "don't let perfect be the enemy of good". And I think this is
         | indeed an important point that chronic procrastinators
         | constantly struggle with.
        
         | Apocryphon wrote:
         | What do they say about addiction? They've got so many articles
         | on it.
        
       | detourdog wrote:
       | There is also the idea that the common thing is more important
       | than the extraordinary. Common everyday tasks should be higher
       | priority than the extraordinary tasks.
        
       | masto wrote:
       | The oversimplification and promises that if you just buy their
       | thing you'll have a distraction free life in 14 days really irks
       | me.
       | 
       | I struggled with this stuff for over 40 years. Only last year,
       | after a disastrous crash, did I start learning about ADHD, which
       | finally gave me the language and tools and access to support that
       | I needed to start making a meaningful difference.
       | 
       | Without the understanding that diagnosis gave me, I'd tried every
       | productivity technique and app, and came up with my own ad hoc
       | systems, but they didn't stick and just reinforced the cycle of
       | seeing myself as someone who's just doomed to live the life of a
       | chronic procrastinator, always stressed out and overwhelmed.
       | 
       | A course like this would have done nothing but separate me from
       | some money and give me a temporary feeling that I found the magic
       | answer to everything, leading to disappointment and self hatred
       | when I inevitably dropped it all.
       | 
       | I only have a personal anecdote, but if it sounds familiar, maybe
       | there's some advice buried in it.
        
         | LeafItAlone wrote:
         | With your diagnoses, what are you now doing that is helping
         | you?
        
           | dartos wrote:
           | It may be a little weird, but the from us music from brain.fm
           | really helps me.
           | 
           | I've measured the work I get done over sprints where I listen
           | to brain.fm and where I don't, and I usually get 2-3 more
           | cards done of weeks that I do.
           | 
           | Not a scientific measurement, but it is what it is.
        
             | criddell wrote:
             | I'm intrigued, but brain.fm requires a credit card for a
             | free trial. Bummer.
             | 
             | Edit: I just checked my email and (in the spam folder) was
             | an email from them with a link that works for 3 days. I'm
             | trying it now.
        
               | dartos wrote:
               | FWIW I've been using brainfm for about 8 years.
               | 
               | Granted, I got my account with a lifetime subscription
               | back when they were just spinning up, but I've used them
               | pretty consistently since then.
        
               | pc86 wrote:
               | Not to excuse these dark patterns from shitty products
               | that can't get revenue without tricking people, but
               | privacy.com lets you set up single-use credit cards with
               | e.g. a $1 lifetime limit. This is my go-to for places
               | like this if I really, really want to try it.
        
               | mp05 wrote:
               | it's worth it, good product
        
               | matteason wrote:
               | You might enjoy the binaural beats and ambient radio on
               | https://ambiph.one as a free alternative (disclosure:
               | it's my site). Not as science-y as brain.fm but it helps
               | me a lot with focus
        
               | criddell wrote:
               | Wow - nice work! Your site looks and works great. Thanks
               | for sharing it.
        
               | matteason wrote:
               | Thanks, glad you like it! I'm all ears if you have any
               | suggestions (here or there's a feedback form linked at
               | the bottom)
        
             | dingnuts wrote:
             | I have ADHD (professionally diagnosed as an adult) and
             | basically cannot focus without music. I complained at work
             | about endpoint management software that was interfering
             | with my music player and was told I didn't need to listen
             | to music while working.
             | 
             | I WFH so I just found another way to play music, but it was
             | tempting to point out to my boss (who I otherwise quite
             | like) that he had just told me that I shouldn't be using a
             | reasonable accommodation for my disability that costs the
             | company nothing, lol.
        
               | hirvi74 wrote:
               | > he had just told me that I shouldn't be using a
               | reasonable accommodation for my disability that costs the
               | company nothing
               | 
               | To suffer from ADHD is to suffer alone.
               | 
               | The world does not care for us and does not care about
               | us. The world would rather attempt to hammer us screws in
               | than try and use a drill.
        
         | prometheus76 wrote:
         | It's the classic situation of someone without ADHD telling us
         | "just focus!" or "you just need to write things down!" or
         | "you're just lazy".
         | 
         | I have ADHD, and I also do not have a sense of smell (lost it
         | in a TBI when I was a teenager). I tell people, "you take for
         | granted what it's like to have a sense of smell. It affects
         | every moment of your day, catching your interest and directing
         | your attention all the time. Imagine not having a sense of
         | smell. Imagine not smelling dinner or smelling your wife or
         | smelling your baby. Imagine not smelling flowers or not
         | smelling a gas leak. So much of what you take for granted comes
         | from your sense of smell. Having ADHD is like that. You take
         | executive function for granted, and can't imagine what it's
         | like to not have that. When you say 'just write things down!'
         | it's like saying 'just smell harder!'"
        
           | darkwater wrote:
           | I'm not a medical expert or anything but I guess there is a
           | good chunk of population who just procrastinates or can
           | struggle with focus without having ADHD? Or is there always a
           | 1:1 relationship?
        
             | pjc50 wrote:
             | ADHD, like a lot of things relating to the brain, is not a
             | binary condition; it's just the diagnosis that's binary.
        
             | dartos wrote:
             | It's likely that a lot more people have ADHD than we think,
             | but I don't think everyone who procrastinates does so bc of
             | ADHD
        
               | adadadadadad wrote:
               | If you read the diagnostic criteria that is used, it's so
               | broad it could easily apply to most of the world's
               | population...as long as they declare they have trouble
               | focusing.
        
               | corobo wrote:
               | Many people probably do have the same brain wiring, or
               | maybe it's a low level of background dopamine, or
               | whatever it turns out to be once science figures it out.
               | 
               | The reason most of the worlds population isn't
               | diagnosed[0] is that second D: Disorder.
               | 
               | No disorder, no problem, no diagnosis.
               | 
               | [0] outside of lack of access to mental health resources,
               | not knowing what they're looking for so never getting
               | referred to a place to diagnose it, not believing in
               | treating mental health issues, self-medicating, avoiding
               | stigma, etc
        
               | hirvi74 wrote:
               | I liken it to forgetfulness in old age.
               | 
               | A majority of elderly people see a decline in memory as
               | they age. Not every elderly person who is forgetful
               | necessarily has dementia.
        
               | dartos wrote:
               | Yeah it's hard to write specific criteria for some mental
               | disorders.
               | 
               | They're not all uniform in presentation or affect.
               | 
               | It'd really be up to the therapist.
               | 
               | Thankfully, it doesn't seem like most of the ADHD meds
               | usually have long lasting adverse effects.
        
               | projektfu wrote:
               | I disagree. I think that 6 months or more of 5/9 symptoms
               | of inattentiveness or 5/9 symptoms of hyperactivity,
               | persistently, does not represent most of the world. (And
               | excluding: "The symptoms are not solely a manifestation
               | of oppositional behavior, defiance, hostility, or failure
               | to understand tasks or instructions." 6/9 symptoms are
               | required to diagnose children) [0]
               | 
               | Indeed, surveys show that it's probably under 10% [1].
               | Mind you, these are surveys of symptoms, not surveys of
               | diagnoses.
               | 
               | 0. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK519712/table/ch3
               | .t3/
               | 
               | 1. https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/fullar
               | ticle/...
        
               | cloverich wrote:
               | This is true about most diagnostic criteria, which is why
               | medical students think they have all the illnesses before
               | they get experience with people who actually have them.
               | Its just very difficult to use words with sufficient
               | precision to capture the bits that are, somehow, more
               | obvious once experienced.
        
             | snazz wrote:
             | A lot of people (myself included) procrastinate on
             | something because it's emotionally uncomfortable, without
             | necessarily having ADHD. For example, when I was much
             | younger, I'd procrastinate on math homework specifically,
             | not because I struggled with focus, but because it was
             | difficult to admit to myself that I didn't know how to do
             | it and would need to practice. Subjects that came more
             | naturally to me (English, science) didn't give me a "fear
             | of failure" response in the same way.
        
               | darkwater wrote:
               | Yep, that's my experience as well. Or because it's just
               | something I don't like to do that much or that doesn't
               | give me some good hormone to my brain in exchange after
               | doing it.
        
               | WhitneyLand wrote:
               | Makes perfect sense. Kind of interesting the opposite can
               | bite too: Math came naturally to me, but after seeing
               | some high standardized test scores adults paraded them
               | around and made a big deal of it, so it became stressful
               | to do without perfect outcomes. For my own kids I just
               | refused to allow a lot of that stuff like IQ testing,
               | etc.
        
               | helboi4 wrote:
               | How do you overcome this? I've avoided things due to
               | emotional discomfort my whole life and I don't think I
               | can ever do better at this point. I find that it requires
               | conscious effort to learn to do things that are required
               | as standard for most adults.
        
               | snazz wrote:
               | With math specifically I had a good teacher in high
               | school who made us practice in class together. He'd get
               | everyone to sit around a table and he'd give handheld
               | whiteboards to every fourth or fifth person (depending on
               | the number of basic steps in the problem), and then the
               | person with the whiteboard would do the first step and
               | pass it to the person on their right. That experience
               | stuck with me because just forcing me to get started
               | (with help available) was enough to quickly clear up
               | anything I was avoiding getting started on at home.
               | 
               | I still avoid doing things because they're emotionally
               | uncomfortable occasionally, so I haven't really found a
               | general solution. But it's gotten better over time and
               | it's less of an issue when I'm more invested in
               | something.
        
               | prometheus76 wrote:
               | I have found the advice in this Andrew Huberman video to
               | be helpful. Long version: [1] Useful clip from that
               | longer video: [2]
               | 
               | TL;DR: motivation is a muscle that can be developed as
               | long as your efforts to do so are voluntary. In other
               | words, do the hardest thing that you can actually do,
               | even if it is just pick up one piece of trash and put it
               | in the garbage. Or wash one dish. The list of
               | possibilities is endless. The idea is to face your
               | discomfort, and as you do so repeatedly, your ability to
               | do so increases.
               | 
               | [1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OHYynw7Yh4 [2]
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoutTY8XHSc
        
               | StuffMaster wrote:
               | +1 for Andrew Huberman
               | 
               | Controlling Your Dopamine For Motivation, Focus &
               | Satisfaction:
               | 
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QmOF0crdyRU
               | 
               | ADHD & How Anyone Can Improve Their Focus:
               | 
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFL6qRIJZ_Y
        
               | equalsione wrote:
               | Growing up, my parents didn't have encouragement or
               | patience in their emotional toolkit. You were expected to
               | do everything perfectly - homework, writing a letter, any
               | kind of planning, even sweeping the floor or washing
               | dishes - and if you struggled in any way you were berated
               | at length.
               | 
               | Many decades later even mundane things can be a battle -
               | ringing a doctor to ask for an appointment, or a provider
               | to query a bill, filling in forms and so on. Most of my
               | procrastination stems from my experiences back them. It
               | is easier in my mind to defer action than to risk the
               | imagined verbal abuse. I'd imagine a fair share of non-
               | ADHD related organisational issues can be traced to
               | similar experiences.
               | 
               | Just like you can't out-train a bad diet, you can't out-
               | live a shitty childhood.
        
               | haswell wrote:
               | Really sorry you went through this. Your experience
               | reminds me of mine, which left me to contend with a
               | lifetime of challenges.
               | 
               | > _Just like you can 't out-train a bad diet, you can't
               | out-live a shitty childhood._
               | 
               | I think I'd challenge this slightly. Out training a bad
               | diet probably doesn't work, but is better than a bad diet
               | with no training. And when you fix your diet, the
               | training can start working wonders.
               | 
               | My childhood left deep and unhealthy imprints, but I'm no
               | longer in that environment. I think you _can_ out-live a
               | shitty childhood, by changing your diet so to speak. This
               | is grueling work, painful, slow, and often frustrating.
               | But replacing old patterns can really transform living in
               | the same way changing a bad diet can transform the
               | process of training.
               | 
               | Over time I've come to believe strongly that the only
               | thing harder than dealing with the past is not dealing
               | with it. And over time, this gradually transforms the
               | present. I very much prefer the late 30s version of me to
               | all of the preceding iterations.
               | 
               | Best of luck on your own journey. Send me an email if you
               | ever want to chat. (Not selling anything, just someone
               | who cares about this topic a lot).
        
               | StefanBatory wrote:
               | That is something I share too, I had similar experience.
               | 
               | Faced with hard task, I ended up not even trying -
               | penalty for failure was the same as one for not doing
               | something.
        
               | T_MacThrowFace wrote:
               | But with the upside that it is technically unknown
               | whether or not you actually could have pulled it off if
               | you tried, and if every once in a while you manage to
               | perform the impossible, that covers for 100 failures.
               | 
               | People who don't care about their children don't care
               | about this, of course. You have failed them simply by
               | being a child.
               | 
               | "Why didn't you just have better parents you stupid
               | little brat, didn't anybody teach you anything you
               | absolute dumbass lazy #%!PS moron?"
               | 
               | "I'm sorry, mom"
        
             | LoganDark wrote:
             | ADHD is a spectrum, so it can have different severities.
             | Some people simply find it more difficult to function well
             | whereas some people find it absolutely and utterly
             | impossible.
        
               | hirvi74 wrote:
               | > ADHD is a spectrum
               | 
               | When analyzing people what is not a spectrum? Every human
               | attribute can be placed on a spectrum. Even other
               | diseases, disorders, etc.. A broken bone can be a
               | hairline crack or shattered into pieces.
        
               | LoganDark wrote:
               | Someone can have a mild form of ADHD without it being
               | severe enough to cause executive dysfunction outright.
               | That's what I mean by spectrum
        
               | hirvi74 wrote:
               | Ok, now I understand. The term I have always heard is
               | "subclincial."
        
               | UniverseHacker wrote:
               | What spectrum means in this context is that it's a multi-
               | dimensional problem- different levels of severity across
               | a large number of different dimensions. Executive
               | function is typically broken up into a large number of
               | different functions, and people have different levels of
               | each, so a person that functions well in one context
               | might do poorly in another, and vice versa.
        
               | LoganDark wrote:
               | > What spectrum means in this context is that it's a
               | multi-dimensional problem
               | 
               | I used "spectrum" to mean that ADHD is not always severe
               | enough to cause outright disability, but the underlying
               | problems can still be present to a lower degree.
               | 
               | The parent mentioned "procrastinates or can struggle with
               | focus _without having ADHD_ " (emphasis mine) and I
               | wanted to point out that some of those people may also
               | have some very mild form of ADHD.
        
               | UniverseHacker wrote:
               | I don't disagree with your point, but you are misusing
               | the term and misunderstanding what it means when it is
               | applied to neurodevelopmental disorders like autism and
               | ADHD.
        
               | LoganDark wrote:
               | ADHD the diagnosis is a set of symptoms. These individual
               | symptoms may be present to varying degrees in different
               | people. The fact that it varies means that ADHD is a
               | spectrum. That's not misuse or misunderstanding, and it
               | agrees with your original comment. I'm simply clarifying
               | what I meant because it's not just "everyone has
               | different specialties". It's that specific problems that
               | can contribute to ADHD can be present in people even if
               | they don't have the entirety of ADHD. There is no genetic
               | boolean that decides if one will have ADHD or not.
               | 
               | While, sure, everyone _does_ have different specialties,
               | they could _also_ have some traces of ADHD that aren 't
               | severe enough to give them all the symptoms but still
               | manage to hurt their performance in certain areas.
               | 
               | Also, I said nothing of autism. Please don't extrapolate
        
               | T_MacThrowFace wrote:
               | Aren't you guys talking about an academic and somewhat
               | theoretical definition of the term "spectrum"?
               | 
               | In reality, it means
               | 
               | "But doctor, how can you attach this very serious and
               | stigmatizing diagnosis to my child while skipping half
               | the tests in the official criteria and fudging the
               | numbers to reach some threshold number?"
               | 
               | "Oh don't worry, it's a spectrum, you see"
               | 
               | ...
               | 
               | "But doctor, what you just entered into my medical
               | records is not what I told you at all, how can you be
               | sure you're making the correct diagnosis if you're not
               | really listening to what I'm saying, and when you're
               | completely misrepresenting my situation?"
               | 
               | "Well, it's a spectrum you see"
        
               | LoganDark wrote:
               | I'm using "spectrum" to mean that mild and severe cases
               | of ADHD exist, as well as everything in between.
               | 
               | For example, ADHD controls my life and I was never
               | diagnosed with it until I figured out the symptoms
               | myself, because nobody could ever see me struggling with
               | it - there is no fighting it for me. However for some
               | others, their ADHD is trivially controllable via medicine
               | or habit-forming.
        
             | WhitneyLand wrote:
             | Extreme forms of procrastination do not mean that someone
             | has ADHD by definition. It can be rooted in anxiety,
             | stress, depression, other mental health conditions. It can
             | be lack of motivation, or simply the habits and behaviors
             | one has developed over time.
             | 
             | I'd really like to know in addition to personal anecdotes
             | of successfully overcoming it, what on average turns out to
             | be most effective?
        
             | prometheus76 wrote:
             | I was diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD about 8 years ago,
             | and since then, I have mainly worked on my anxiety. My
             | anxiety has diminished drastically, and I have found that
             | my ADHD symptoms are now manageable without medication
             | (although I still struggle some days). For me, ADHD led to
             | failing in my daily duties as a kid, which led to higher
             | and higher levels of anxiety, which really exacerbated my
             | ADHD symptoms. Now that I have learned how to control my
             | anxiety, and with the resulting calming of my nervous
             | system, the ADHD isn't nearly as problematic.
             | 
             | TL;DR: anxiety and ADHD are often intertwined and they
             | spiral each other out of control, so what looks like ADHD
             | is sometimes much worse because of anxiety.
        
             | annie_muss wrote:
             | The real measure is the level of harm. That's it.
             | 
             | My ADHD meant I couldn't hold down a job or relationship.
             | You lose your job enough times and the depression that
             | follows is inevitable.
             | 
             | That said, I can imagine a Dustin where I had stumbled into
             | a different career, a different family situation. Then my
             | ADHD might not have caused enough problems to be a
             | disorder.
        
             | Modified3019 wrote:
             | ADHD is definitely a major cause, but another big one which
             | is much more complex to talk about is "avoidant" type
             | behaviors that are a result of trauma/neglect/abuse early
             | in life.
             | 
             | There is correlation that occurs among diagnoses of ADHD,
             | Autism, CPTSD, and other "mental issues", such that by the
             | time one becomes noticeable as having _pathological_
             | effect, then it's likely to be able to identify at least a
             | few more issues acting in a comorbid manner.
        
             | hirvi74 wrote:
             | It's a square vs. rectangle kind of thing.
        
             | slowmovintarget wrote:
             | Deep breath in... Many people who suffer from ADHD actually
             | have undiagnosed allergies.
             | 
             | My father was told he had ADHD late in life... he had
             | allergies. I had problems with focus and being
             | scatterbrained... on days the tree pollen was up. Kiddo was
             | starting to get easily distracted and unable to focus on
             | schoolwork... It was an allergy to the hard wheat used in
             | U.S. bread making and preservatives.
             | 
             | You [edit: most people] don't just "have ADHD." That's like
             | diagnosing someone with a headache disorder. There's an
             | underlying cause that requires more work to dig out.
        
               | Jommi wrote:
               | No that's not true. ADHD is a real thing that exists. You
               | shominimize that.
               | 
               | Now are there other disorders/illnesses/allergies that
               | affect concentration definition.
               | 
               | A lot of people have deviated septum or allergies that
               | make nasal bresthing incredibly hard without effort. Of
               | course this has a major effect on concentration.
               | 
               | Other examples surely exist. But please don't minimize
               | real debilitating ADHD.
        
               | slowmovintarget wrote:
               | I'm not talking about difficulty breathing. I'm talking
               | about a systemic inflammatory response from allergies
               | that includes neurological symptoms like an inability to
               | focus, problems with reading comprehension, and
               | uncontrolled daydreaming or "tuning out." Every time I
               | got my allergy shots, my concentration was shot for the
               | day, and it had zero to do with my nasal passages.
               | 
               | I'm not minimizing the problems of those who suffer from
               | ADHD. I'm hoping that they work with their doctors to see
               | if there's more going on.
        
               | UniverseHacker wrote:
               | I don't think they are in any way minimizing ADHD. ADHD
               | is diagnosed by symptoms, and has a large number of
               | different possible underlying causes, most of which are
               | not well understood. When ADHD is caused or worsened by
               | an allergy, that in no way makes it not real ADHD, but
               | can make it easier to treat, if the allergy is
               | identified!
               | 
               | It's known that ADHD is highly heritable and has some
               | specific genetic mutations weakly associated with it, but
               | it can also be caused by traumatic brain injury, toxin
               | exposure, some food dyes and preservatives, and
               | allergies. It's very likely that many of the heritable
               | genetic factors themselves have interactions with
               | external environmental factors, and can therefore be
               | treated with environmental manipulation, if we can
               | understand it better.
        
               | T_MacThrowFace wrote:
               | If you ever get diagnosed as having ADHD though, then
               | every doctor will forever pretend that they know for a
               | 100% fact that your ADHD is caused by mutated dopamine
               | receptors, while having done no testing of course; why
               | would they when you have already been diagnosed
        
               | UniverseHacker wrote:
               | That is pretty silly, and a misunderstanding of the
               | research. All of the mutations in dopamine transport
               | associated with ADHD are pretty weakly associated, and
               | still very common in the non-ADHD population.
        
             | brnt wrote:
             | People love to label things, and parents overlabelling ADHD
             | has been a common warning among anyone working with kids
             | now.
             | 
             | In broader context I think we are now finally starting to
             | pay attention to the fact every single human is subtly or
             | not so subtly different, and we haven't even scratched the
             | surface of mapping all those particularities and so we put
             | people into categories we know, not necessarily where the
             | actually belong.
             | 
             | It's great were slowly letting go of 'normalising'
             | ourselves, but we're going to have to learn entirely news
             | vocabularies to says describe who we then are. Also, by
             | thinking about yourself you define yourself, so if you
             | think differently you define differently. I.e. we are
             | fluid, to a certain extent.
        
           | bookofjoe wrote:
           | Memories of my ex-wife admonishing me, while in the throes of
           | a deep, disabling episode of clinical depression, to "Snap
           | out of it!"
        
             | bloopernova wrote:
             | I'm sorry that happened to you. The phrase that made my
             | then wife an ex-wife for me was "you're not supposed to be
             | fixing _yourself_ you 're supposed to be fixing our
             | marriage!"
             | 
             | Led me (with therapy and time) to realize what I meant to
             | her; I was an accessory.
        
               | camillomiller wrote:
               | Oh wow, glad for you she's ex now
        
               | brnt wrote:
               | Wut, wild for her to not see how those two are so
               | interlinked that separating them is considered old
               | fashioned nowadays by therapists.
        
             | verisimi wrote:
             | "Snap out of it!"
             | 
             | lol
             | 
             | Sorry. I actually relate to this!
        
               | Arrath wrote:
               | Same. And all the comparisons akin to "Hey what are you
               | sad about? You don't live in a third world country
               | struggling from meal to meal!"
               | 
               | Very helpful, thank you.
        
             | d0100 wrote:
             | Ironically, "snapping out of it" is the best way I can deal
             | with it
             | 
             | No other reasoning with myself works better than just
             | "snapping out"
        
           | helboi4 wrote:
           | I just had my new therapist yesterday telling me
           | 
           | "doesn't it feel good to be consistent and achieve things"
           | and I'm like yeah no shit.
           | 
           | "so you need to be consistent with something" yeah that's my
           | problem dawg.
           | 
           | "what's the feeling you get when you want to quit?" it just
           | happens that my life falls apart or I get really into sth
           | else. does nobody else just lose track of all the bricks
           | required to do things sometimes?
           | 
           | "it will eventually not become effort to do these things" no
           | sir I can tell you from experience that it NEVER becomes
           | natural for me to be organised and motivated. It takes
           | substantial effort for me just to use a diary, which
           | apparently is what is supposed to make me organised.
           | Sometimes it becomes easiER because I have a streak of good
           | habits, but it can fall apart at any moment because it's all
           | a precarious conscious effort.
           | 
           | "that's because you've never stuck to anything long enough"
           | i've stuck to different things for different lengths of time,
           | at what point are you suggesting this actually starts
           | working?
           | 
           | God I hate therapists. I sure do hope I actually have ADHD.
           | Otherwise I'm fucked.
        
             | SleepilyLimping wrote:
             | It's always uncomfortable with a new therapist because they
             | lack the context to know what you're going through, for how
             | long, and the factors that are affecting it. I've seen mine
             | for over a decade at this point, and when I talk to people
             | about their potential growing pains when they're seeking
             | out help, a lot of it is a reminder that you have to create
             | that context/history with them over time.
             | 
             | It seems like yours is more comfortable making suppositions
             | without the historical context, which sucks to hear and is
             | pretty exhausting.
        
               | helboi4 wrote:
               | Yeah, most therapists have pissed me off because its
               | infuriating having to teach a so called expert how to
               | understand you at a premium price. I find it ludicrous
               | that they'd be able to tell me anything about myself that
               | I don't know or that my friends couldn't point out to me,
               | because I'm not exactly someone who struggles to analyse
               | myself. I'm not unfamiliar with journalling, I have read
               | tons of stuf about psychology and I'm not afraid to
               | confront these things. I have therefore quit all therapy
               | I've tried after a couple months tops because I can't
               | justify paying to see how it goes. However, I am trying
               | it again now because I am paying nothing now because of
               | insurance. So even if I'm skeptical I lose nothing. So
               | hopefully I'll get to the point of them having enough
               | context to be helpful and can assess it properly this
               | time.
        
               | alpaca128 wrote:
               | > I can't justify paying to see how it goes
               | 
               | YMMV but the best therapist I've met so far already felt
               | more understanding and productive in the first hour than
               | others in months, I think if it's going nowhere after a
               | couple sessions that might not change any time soon.
        
             | prometheus76 wrote:
             | Find someone that understands ADHD (even better if they
             | have it too). This is just more gaslighting from people who
             | can't comprehend that other people might not be wired the
             | same.
        
             | alpaca128 wrote:
             | It sounds like your therapist is in the wrong profession.
             | 
             | I've interacted with four different ones so far, and while
             | the value I got out of them varied greatly I think none of
             | them would ever say BS like that.
             | 
             | > I sure do hope I actually have ADHD
             | 
             | I hope whoever tests you is not like the ADHD "specialist"
             | I had to deal with. Knowingly swapped symptoms and cause in
             | the final report for whatever reason, and made terrible
             | jokes that indicated he either doesn't know the basics I
             | could read on Wikipedia or just already made up his mind
             | beforehand. Absolutely fantastic when it comes to disorders
             | subtle enough that you even question yourself sometimes.
        
               | hirvi74 wrote:
               | > It sounds like your therapist is in the wrong
               | profession.
               | 
               | It's like all professions. Most have no business being
               | there. And if Pareto was right, then 20% of the therapist
               | make up for the other 80%.
        
           | doubled112 wrote:
           | > you just need to write things down
           | 
           | That's fine and all, but where did I write it down again?
           | 
           | I lost my sense of smell for a few weeks with covid, and I
           | actually can relate now. It's a very, very strange thing to
           | be without. It doesn't seem that important until it's
           | missing, but now I can't imagine life without it.
        
           | hirvi74 wrote:
           | I'm doubly screwed.
           | 
           | Like you said
           | 
           | > "It's the classic situation of someone without ADHD telling
           | us "just focus!" or "you just need to write things down!" or
           | "you're just lazy".
           | 
           | Of course, this advice was never helpful and did not work.
           | However, I was properly diagnosed, went to medication route,
           | coupled it with therapy, and I'm still not better. Now, the
           | medication and all that is definitely better than nothing,
           | and I still rely on the relief I get. But the benefit of
           | modern medicine for me is like taking a low dosage of
           | painkillers for 3rd degree burns.
        
           | brnt wrote:
           | In defense of whoever said it to you: I find that writing
           | things down goes a long way for me. Even just the act of it,
           | without ever reading it back.
        
           | jprd wrote:
           | "...you are so smart, if only you would apply yourself!"
        
             | hirvi74 wrote:
             | Maybe that is a _true_ sign of intelligence? Smart enough
             | to know it 's all a waste of time and effort.
        
         | slingnow wrote:
         | This isn't at all what they claim. Can you point out where they
         | say that "if you just buy their thing you'll have a distraction
         | free life in 14 days" ?
         | 
         | What it actually claims is to get you to "bearable levels of
         | procrastination", which I find refreshing, since it seems like
         | a very achievable and realistic goal for those of us that
         | procrastinate. In fact, this claim is nearly the opposite of
         | what you're railing against.
         | 
         | You also said you have personally started making a meaningful
         | difference, but gave zero hint about what you have done, and
         | what impact it has made. And you leave us with "maybe there's
         | some advice buried in it". I'd like to say, no, there's none I
         | can see, unless you'd like to offer something specific and
         | helpful. I'm curious to see what you have done.
        
           | hiatus wrote:
           | > Can you point out where they say that "if you just buy
           | their thing you'll have a distraction free life in 14 days" ?
           | 
           | > From distraction to calm focus in 14 days
        
           | nuancebydefault wrote:
           | In fact my first reaction would tend to be the same as yours
           | but then again,
           | 
           | - If you read the whole article you see that it is in fact a
           | pretext to a subscription.
           | 
           | - There is in fact burried advice. The fact that reading
           | articles like this is exciting and gives hope, but might turn
           | out to be false hope in the end, especially if you have a
           | severe form of ADHD. The advice is YMMV.
        
         | charliebwrites wrote:
         | What language and tools did you learn that helped you finally
         | be able to cope?
         | 
         | This is something I also struggle with and as I get older it
         | feels like I'm losing opportunities to do the things I want to
         | do to ADHD
        
           | bibliotekka wrote:
           | I too would appreciate some resourceful links.
        
           | fragmede wrote:
           | Dr. Russell Barkley is a good resource https://youtube.com/pl
           | aylist?list=PLKF2Eq0eYbbrNLoJjFpWG_ULG...
           | 
           | Jessica McCabe of How to ADHD is another one.
           | https://youtu.be/sErtHttYOL4?si=ZZ2bGQ5HgbCIxSg8
        
         | UniverseHacker wrote:
         | I could have written this... I've spent thousands on
         | productivity and organization courses, and put a lot of effort
         | into them, only to find myself unable to follow the system, for
         | reasons I don't understand.
         | 
         | My whole life I've suffered from massive guilt, shame, and
         | stress over not getting things done that were really important
         | to me, and nobody understanding. "Clearly it's not important to
         | you, or you would just do it."
         | 
         | I was actually diagnosed with ADHD 12 years ago, and the first
         | medication and dose I tried didn't work, so I stopped, and
         | basically forgot I even had ADHD. In part, I think I
         | internalized the shame and dismissals from other people and
         | still believed I was just "lazy" and "bad" and needed to try
         | harder even despite having a clinical diagnosis.
         | 
         | It didn't help that my (now ex) wife also was totally
         | dismissive of the idea that I had ADHD, as were most of my
         | friends and family. Even from other people I know with ADHD,
         | they would get angry or dismissive when I mentioned my
         | diagnosis, saying I can't possibly have ADHD because I have
         | been successful so far in my career.
         | 
         | I just recently decided to start looking into it again, now
         | that my son has also been diagnosed. If I can learn how to help
         | myself, maybe it will help me help him.
         | 
         | I recently heard a podcast interview with Jessica McCabe, and
         | she said something that was mind blowing to me: that there is
         | no one solution or cure for ADHD, and we need to stop looking
         | for that. You will need a large toolbox of things to help, and
         | will need to keep adapting and changing this, and it still
         | won't ever be a "cure."
         | 
         | If anyone has any good info or resources to learn more about
         | ADHD, please post them.
        
       | lupire wrote:
       | I'm not comfortable taking advice on "deprocrastination" from
       | someone who made procrastination their career (or side gig?),
       | except for the advice "if you find yourself procrastinating, quit
       | your job and make what you'd rather do your job". But that rarely
       | pays the bills .
        
         | bookofjoe wrote:
         | "Work is what you're doing when you'd rather be doing something
         | else."
        
         | LoganDark wrote:
         | Gee, I wish I had something stable that I'd "rather do". The
         | problem is that even though I've had hundreds of hobbies, _once
         | I get good at something, I stop being able to do it_. Not a
         | single one of those hobbies lasts long enough to be a job.
        
         | rapnie wrote:
         | There's also the "Price goes up in" and a counter (4 hrs from
         | now). So don't procrastinate, buy now! Geez.
        
           | baapercollege wrote:
           | You posted 4 hours back. Timer for me still shows 4 hours ;)
           | no worries, feel free to procrastinate on the purchase
        
           | larrik wrote:
           | I believe that is 4 days, actually
        
       | codetrotter wrote:
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/from?site=deprocrastination.co
       | 
       | Interesting that pretty much all submissions on the first page of
       | results from this domain is both by the same user and broadly
       | seems to be about the same overarching theme of procrastination.
       | 
       | Is OP the author of the site?
       | 
       | (OP also posts links to other sites, so not saying OP is doing
       | anything wrong though.)
        
         | moritzwarhier wrote:
         | Since 7 of the last 30 submissions by OP are that site and the
         | pattern continues, I find it absolutely understandable and
         | good-faith to become suspicious.
         | 
         | Other users have been accusing the same
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28894120
         | 
         | I don't want to participate in a witch hunt here, but HN needs
         | to stay vigilant against spam and self-promotion that exceeds
         | the reasonable intersection with honestly showing personal
         | projects.
         | 
         | Discussions including "human interest" topics like this one are
         | often of exceptional quality here. It would be bad to lose
         | that.
         | 
         | So I think it is fair to dicuss this openly. Sorry if I am
         | being coming across as rude towards a one man enterprise or
         | something, but self-promotion on HN should follow strict rules
         | and if this is indeed promotion, it is breaking the rules.
        
           | strongpigeon wrote:
           | Which rule is it breaking? From the guidelines:
           | 
           | > Please don't use HN primarily for promotion. It's ok to
           | post your own stuff part of the time, but the primary use of
           | the site should be for curiosity.
        
           | Tomte wrote:
           | It's not breaking the rules. You're breaking the rules.
           | 
           | Stop harassing people!
        
             | moritzwarhier wrote:
             | I'm sorry, harassing OP was the least of my intentions.
             | 
             | So maybe I should have worded my comment differently, or
             | not comment at all.
             | 
             | The reason for my comment and that I even deep linked
             | another thread was simple, I strongly felt that this
             | exceeds a normal amount of promotional content, especially
             | when it comes to self-help themes.
             | 
             | My sincerest apologies if this came across as me unaskedly
             | playing the moderator, or if my brief look at the previous
             | threads appears like I was stalking OPs comment history.
        
           | jacoblambda wrote:
           | I think given the OP is a regular poster and they often post
           | content from the same domains multiple times (each with a
           | different article, with decent amounts of time between posts,
           | i.e. ~1/wk), they probably just follow the content on these
           | sites and "cross post" it to HN whenever they find something
           | particularly interesting to them.
           | 
           | I can say personally (while I don't post on HN), when I share
           | content in a community, it's things I find interesting, which
           | often I see from the projects/blogs I subscribe to/follow.
           | 
           | So odds are OP is just someone with ADHD who finds this
           | content useful to themself and people like them so they share
           | new content from the site when they see it.
        
             | moritzwarhier wrote:
             | I did not elaborate on this for time reasons and because I
             | don't want to make up unfounded accusations (astroturfing)
             | against other users.
             | 
             | Just had a bad gut feeling with this particular post and
             | content and wanted to comment on it (plus context).
             | 
             | Your explanation is nicer and I'll assume I was wrong here
             | for it's better to assume good intentions.
        
           | StefanBatory wrote:
           | They might be just binging a site or just liking it to the
           | point where they want to share every article.
           | 
           | I would do so in the past too.
        
           | Kiro wrote:
           | > but self-promotion on HN should follow strict rules and if
           | this is indeed promotion, it is breaking the rules.
           | 
           | What rules are you referring to? This is what the HN
           | guidelines say:
           | 
           | "Please don't use HN primarily for promotion. It's ok to post
           | your own stuff part of the time, but the primary use of the
           | site should be for curiosity."
           | 
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
           | 
           | Doesn't seem very strict to me.
        
         | vitabenes wrote:
         | I post whatever I find interesting and occasionally throw in
         | one of the articles I worked on. If people find it interesting
         | or useful, great, if not, that's okay too.
        
       | xyzzy4747 wrote:
       | In my experience the best way to solve procrastination, provided
       | you have a tangible goal, is to do at least one small thing
       | towards it per day. This will often (but not necessarily) put you
       | in the mindset to do more things.
        
       | thiago_fm wrote:
       | Great ideas. I believe that dealing with a messy ambient or
       | situations is a nice skill to develop, some people can't handle
       | it at all.
       | 
       | With time, you'll start to appreciate the imperfections, the fact
       | that you can't absolutely focus for a task because people are
       | sending you messages, will have a smaller impact on your emotions
       | and your overall focus will improve.
       | 
       | Having the goal of having absolute uninterrupted time and the
       | stars aligning so you can just do what you need is the root of
       | all procrastination, doing something 10% is better than 0%.
       | 
       | I'm a perfectionist and as soon as I've started thinking,
       | reflecting and accepting real and even half-assed solutions to
       | problems, my life started to improve, and it became lighter as
       | well.
       | 
       | You also don't need to worry, you can't unlearn being a
       | perfectionist, but indeed, you need a few things or moments of
       | your day to unleash that "perfection' energy, it just doesn't
       | need to be everytime.
        
       | xyzelement wrote:
       | My first couple of weeks at Bridgewater I was diagnosed with a
       | fear of failure - deep reluctance to set off on a journey unless
       | I could see the entire path through to the other side.
       | 
       | I thought that was a good way to be actually (keeps you safe from
       | doomed endeavors) but obviously keeps you from progressing on
       | things where the only way to figure out the path is to walk it.
       | 
       | In retrospect it's a form of anxiety. If you assume the world is
       | against you and dangerous then setting into an ambiguous space is
       | probabilistically negative. If you have faith that things work
       | out for the best, it lets you set out on such a path easier.
       | 
       | I think this isn't just me. We tend to procrastinate in the
       | absence of "perfection " because we perceive some sort of danger
       | / downside for ourselves from that imperfection. Whereas the
       | better way to think is with the end in mind: what outcome do I
       | really care about? Does this messy step X make that outcome a bit
       | more likely? If yes then you do it with excitement.
        
         | dakial1 wrote:
         | You are describing me perfectly.
         | 
         | One of the main things holding me back in life is this fear of
         | taking risks (which translates into a lot of things, like
         | procrastination)
         | 
         | I'm great at mapping project risks though. So there is that. :)
        
           | xyzelement wrote:
           | I agree, and I think these are really easy to munge (and I've
           | munged them)
           | 
           | 1) your ability to perceive risk that is there to be
           | perceived and act accordingly.
           | 
           | 2) your ability to operate in places where you are not able
           | to make risk-based decisions and you have to just "go for it"
           | 
           | I am very good at #1 and it has been a handicap in navigating
           | #2 because I keep searching for a "risk model" where one
           | isn't available.
           | 
           | That was the thing I've learned to overcome somewhat, as
           | mentioned in the post you replied to.
        
         | codelobe wrote:
         | To lessen the cost of the first step that begins The Thousand
         | Mile Journey: I plan to do everything at least twice. Leave
         | room for failure in the prediction to (at least partially)
         | avoid the planning fallacy.
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Planning_fallacy (if you haven't
         | encountered this one weird quirk yet, it's a must read/skim). I
         | believe most mammals tend toward optimism... They naturally
         | have less fear of doomed endeavors.
         | 
         | I had an essay on Emergent Design Principles around here
         | somewhere... For instance, I do a quick and dirty stab in the
         | dark to map the problem space. Then totally rewrite and
         | refactor now that I can make a more educated guess. Right then
         | I generate the API and all (public function stubs), organizing
         | and documenting everything. Management will demand I "ship it"
         | without full docs and full of kluges otherwise...
         | 
         | I'll save the rest of that for a more on-topic thread. The gist
         | is that procrastination can be countered by allotting time to
         | play around in the problem space (incorporate procrastination
         | into workflow -- can't beat it, join it). At worse I try a
         | deliberate attempt at failure (well I knew it wouldn't have
         | worked, but it would have been cool if it had), and at least I
         | got myself into "code mode" doing something at all. No fear of
         | failure, since I planned to fail that time anyway. Then I'll at
         | least know a bit better the "lay of the land" (problem space
         | features to fit against). It's oft the first step for me that's
         | the hardest.
         | 
         | My favorite trick is to have at least one side project that I
         | work on as procrastination of doing main projects. Without fail
         | I'll be worrying about the main project enough that I'll
         | realize some side-project procrastination-code I've just
         | written shows an elegant way forward in the main project and I
         | can no longer resist the urge to see it in action. At the least
         | I'll be making some manner of progress, and getting closer to
         | that "Zen" state wherein I do my main project work.
        
         | snikeris wrote:
         | Was this diagnosis from your employer or colleagues?
        
           | xyzelement wrote:
           | I think it popped up on an assessment, or maybe my manager
           | quickly tuned it. Either way, the organization was very keen
           | to identify and help grow through such stuff.
        
         | larrik wrote:
         | I can definitely relate to this, and I found the only way past
         | it (for me) was to _not plan at all._ Just show up and hope for
         | the best, basically. Requires a different kind of prep (good
         | habits vs direct planning) and an adjustment of attitude (it 's
         | fine if things aren't perfect).
        
         | hirvi74 wrote:
         | > If you assume the world is against you and dangerous then
         | setting into an ambiguous space is probabilistically negative.
         | 
         | I have seen zero evidence that this is not true in my 31 years
         | on this planet.
         | 
         | > If you have faith that things work out for the best, it lets
         | you set out on such a path easier.
         | 
         | As Louis C.K. said:
         | 
         | > "An optimist is somebody who says, 'Maybe something nice will
         | happen?' Why they fuck would anything nice ever happen?"
        
           | xyzelement wrote:
           | I love Louis CK but you're quoting a joke. In reality almost
           | everything we do is rooted in some optimism.
           | 
           | Ever go on a job interview? It's because someone deep down
           | you trust that it or another one like it will land you a job.
           | Ever go on a date? It's because deep down you trust that
           | something will work out with someone.
           | 
           | Maybe _you_ don 't do these things, or maybe you do these
           | things expecting bad outcomes (which ironically nearly
           | guarantees that outcome) but the majority of the world
           | operates this way.
        
       | tokai wrote:
       | Seems like a new-age con reformulated for the HN crowd.
        
       | adadadadadad wrote:
       | I wonder if anyone had success by handing control of their life
       | to a higher power...like ChatGPT.
       | 
       | I wonder if you could prompt it to be a vicious task master boss
       | who demands regular status updates and can adequately shame you.
        
         | corobo wrote:
         | Tiny successes in something like this - I've got a whole system
         | of timers that are either tracking what I'm doing or tracking
         | the time when I'm not doing something during work time.
         | 
         | From there I've got an automation that will send me a
         | notification warning me the timewaster timer is about to start
         | and that I should start working on something. There's a tiny
         | slither of shame in there that seems to be helping! :)
         | 
         | I am also working on a more thought out app/system/service/bot
         | that does indeed use GPT (and regular old if statements and
         | cron jobs) to help me schedule out my tasks for the day,
         | recover my schedule after missing tasks, shame me via a
         | messenger interface for leaving a task on my list too long,
         | etc... but in the most obvious case of irony I keep
         | procrastinating on actually building it. It's getting there
         | slowly :)
        
           | adadadadadad wrote:
           | > tracking what I'm doing or tracking the time when I'm not
           | doing something during work time.
           | 
           | Made me think of a chess timer. Maybe I will buy one now
           | haha.
           | 
           | --
           | 
           | I've found that any ideas I have for projects to help with
           | procrastination never get done. It's the ultimate
           | procrastination and there is no end to it. It doubly kills my
           | motivation because now I have to be thinking how much more
           | efficient I would be if I had my tools which I currently
           | don't have. So even if I eventually start working, now it
           | feels even harder :D
           | 
           | I think there are a lot of rabbit holes like this in
           | programming in general.
        
         | hindsightbias wrote:
         | What if we built procrastination into LLMs?
        
       | hindsightbias wrote:
       | How many of you have checked other media while reading this
       | content or thread?
        
         | thefatboy wrote:
         | I was watching Constellation while reading this and didn't like
         | the show... switched to something else while typing this
         | comment.
        
       | MichaelRo wrote:
       | All these advice on productivity ultimately seem to wanna turn
       | you into some sort of assembly line robot, achieve maximum
       | productivity, produce!
       | 
       | Well funk that, in the end what matters is persistence. You don't
       | need to work 12 hours per day, heck don't even need to work 8 ;)
       | ;) ;) I mean like everyone knows the productivity window is at
       | best a couple hours. But those couple hours add up and in the end
       | somehow stuff gets done, tasks get completed, company carries on.
       | 
       | And on my own side projects I'm applying the same philosophy.
       | Ideally a little bit from time to time (not even every day coze
       | it starts to look too much like work). And if it happens that I
       | start working and some interruption comes along, so be it, there
       | will be another day. I don't have to ship tomorrow as long as I
       | finish eventually. Over the years this has added up to quite a
       | bit of accomplishments.
       | 
       | So one word: persistence.
        
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