[HN Gopher] Digitopia is ruining our lives
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       Digitopia is ruining our lives
        
       Author : deeshee
       Score  : 75 points
       Date   : 2024-02-04 17:50 UTC (5 hours ago)
        
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       | deeshee wrote:
       | Hey HN,
       | 
       | I, as many of you, work in tech. And the last 3 years were
       | mentally horrible. The constant information bombardment, working
       | remotely and rarely leaving the apartment, isolation, and so on
       | and so forth, have left me scarred.
       | 
       | If anyone feels the same way, I hope that the pieces I'm shipping
       | are helpful as I truly want to help a million people on
       | overcoming the 21st century pandemic.
       | 
       | For those who are curious, I describe Digitopia as: an idealized
       | but ultimately isolating and detached state induced by excessive
       | digital interaction.
        
         | CalRobert wrote:
         | Digiqatsi, even.
        
           | rzzzt wrote:
           | Cue the Philip Glass soundtrack! _clouds start to whizz by_
        
         | neon_electro wrote:
         | Please remember that your experience discovering you were not
         | suffering from ADHD is not shared by all your readers.
         | 
         | I have only been diagnosed after 30+ years of guilt and shame
         | related to procrastination and other behaviors associated with
         | ADHD.
         | 
         | Please recognize some of your readers actually suffer from
         | this.
        
       | JKCalhoun wrote:
       | > I've decided to combine the words "Digital" and "dystopia" to
       | describe the hole I've found myself in.
       | 
       | "Digital" and "Utopia" also combine to make "Digitopia". (Maybe
       | my most HN comment yet.)
        
         | deeshee wrote:
         | Yep, that's true. I can only give a philosophical reply to
         | this; we feel as we are in an utopia when utilizing tech to
         | distract us from the negative thoughts/feelings that we are
         | experiencing!
        
           | dreamworld wrote:
           | Why not digistopia? (digi-topia to me really sounds like
           | digital utopia, which I'm all for... erm, actually I think a
           | real utopia needs to acknowledge the real world, so it can't
           | be fully digital)
        
         | cobalt wrote:
         | dygitopia works better I'd think
        
           | JKCalhoun wrote:
           | Digiclysm.
        
         | kazinator wrote:
         | I also thought only of _utopia_.
         | 
         |  _dystopia_ is a relatively recent derivative of _utopia_.
         | 
         | An individual can suffer in the middle of an utopia.
        
       | StopTheTechies wrote:
       | What is wrong with the tried-and-true "alienation"? This seems
       | like a continuation of trends that were happening long before
       | computers came around.
        
         | deeshee wrote:
         | What do you mean by "tried-and-true alienation"?
        
           | hklijlyh wrote:
           | Trying to start a flame war?
        
           | jjjjj55555 wrote:
           | I'm not the person you asked, but alienation was a major
           | theme for early 20th century sociologists who studied the
           | ugly effects of urbanization in those days.
           | 
           | Alienation means the breakdown of social ties and the
           | fragmentation of identity. Durkheim published theories on
           | this stuff well over 100 years ago. He also studied suicide.
           | 
           | I agree that we're probably seeing a continuation of trends
           | that began long ago and that are tied in with capitalism,
           | urbanization, and the decline of religion.
        
           | StopTheTechies wrote:
           | I mean it in the sense that Marks used it:
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marx%27s_theory_of_alienation
           | 
           | I mean this not to imply a structural sense of our society,
           | only the shock that his prediction is insanely accurate given
           | the time and technology separating us.
        
         | polotics wrote:
         | Good idea! It then follows that we are looking at CAA: Computer
         | Assisted Alienation , or maybe Optimized Alienation, or
         | Automated...?
        
       | JKCalhoun wrote:
       | > Being present - Being in the Digitopian state usually means
       | living on autopilot. Grabbing one thing after the other, trying
       | to get through the day, distracting yourself at any negative
       | emotion you face.
       | 
       | Yes, I've become aware that I am quite disconnected from "living
       | in the moment" in a way that I was not when I was younger, a
       | teenager.
       | 
       | I had begun to think that it was a result of getting older,
       | taking on more responsibility (or just being more responsible, ha
       | ha).
       | 
       | Losing my minimum wage job when I was in my teens, early 20's was
       | not a huge deal. No mortgage but I did have rent -- but if I
       | couldn't make that there was probably a friend's mom's basement.
       | 
       | No kids then. No concerns about my health then. Friends to hang
       | out with, commiserate with, bounce your problems off of.
       | 
       | It may still be "just growing up" but I suspect the degree to
       | which I have supplanted the "running around" I did when I was
       | young with browsing may be a big factor.
       | 
       | The author suggest meditation, walking, showering. I've showered
       | daily since I was a teenager, started running daily (now walking)
       | a decade ago.
       | 
       | Like flossing, meditation has come and gone with me. Perhaps I
       | should do it regularly (and floss regularly).
       | 
       | Road trips seem to help me get back in touch with The Moment. No
       | distractions...
       | 
       | Last Fall a high school friend and I rode the "Katy Trail" on our
       | bikes for 6 days. Hauled camping gear, tents, stoves, water,
       | food... It sucked right up until the moment we finished -- and
       | now I can't wait to do it again.
       | 
       | Reflecting on it, I think it recharged my soul and brought me
       | back into The Moment for almost a week stretch.
        
         | lacrimacida wrote:
         | We do need long vacations to recover from modern day digitopia.
         | Living in the US though doesn't confer much such a priviledge.
         | With an average of 2 weeks of vacation per year I don't think
         | it's enough to have enough escape time to fully recover from it
        
         | tpm wrote:
         | > Last Fall a high school friend and I rode the "Katy Trail" on
         | our bikes for 6 days. Hauled camping gear, tents, stoves,
         | water, food... It sucked right up until the moment we finished
         | -- and now I can't wait to do it again.
         | 
         | I don't even need to ride a trail for days, just spending more
         | than an hour on the bike outside is plenty to return me to the
         | 'right' state.
        
         | thimp wrote:
         | If you are going to do a context switch of this nature it's
         | best to do something random rather than routine. Sometimes the
         | routine is the problem. Going for a walk every day may become a
         | chore during winter but you feel obliged to do it because you
         | feel like you should because of the routine you have developed.
         | This is slave to the same thinking.
         | 
         | The only bit of advice I can give is spend more time with
         | actual people in real life. That doesn't necessarily mean close
         | friends, just anyone you can connect with. Trade stories,
         | ideas, experiences and importantly time with people. Be
         | spontaneous and do things well outside your comfort zone.
         | 
         | Importantly though, turning off notifications and choosing when
         | you interact with technology, not the other way round, is
         | important.
        
       | Animats wrote:
       | Re-invention of wheel. See "Internet addiction disorder".[1]
       | 
       | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_addiction_disorder
        
       | blackhole wrote:
       | It's interesting that, every time an article comes up like this,
       | I wonder why I never seem to experience the same kind of digital
       | addiction or negative feelings that other people do - and then it
       | turns out I'm already doing almost everything the article
       | suggests for "unplugging". I've taken an hour long walk every
       | single day for the past 15 years, and shower, and make sure I'm
       | not getting overwhelmed with notifications. Yet, I feel no desire
       | to interact with the physical world. I prefer being online,
       | perhaps because I know how to handle it properly. I wonder how
       | much of our misery is caused by poor user-experience defaults
       | that people don't think to change (like always-on notifications).
       | We get used to a corporate-designed hellscape and think that's
       | the only way to experience a digital existence.
        
         | deeshee wrote:
         | I'm happy to see that you are able to strike a good balance
         | between those two worlds and, in an ideal world, that should be
         | the ideal outcome, rather than going back into the stone age.
        
         | makk wrote:
         | > perhaps because I know how to handle it properly
         | 
         | A subset of people seem to share this sentiment. From their
         | perspective, the rest of us are somehow just doing it wrong
         | when it comes to being online. What they never seem to have,
         | however, is a clear understanding of what it's like to be on
         | the other side.
         | 
         | A little vignette: I've been entirely off of social media for
         | about 10 years, as in no accounts. Very recently, however, a
         | friend of mine went on a trip and said the best way to follow
         | along was on Instagram. So, I created an account and followed
         | just that person and one other close friend, who is a fan of
         | posting pics. Straight away, I was bombarded with an endless
         | repeat of advertisements in the feed for some kind of colon
         | cleansing technique. I'm unaware of any problems with my colon,
         | so just ignore it, right? It's not that easy. Now, I have ideas
         | about colon difficulties implanted in my brain. And it's now
         | crossed your mind, too.
         | 
         | Some major forms of digital media insert themselves between me
         | and my friends, rather than simply facilitating communication.
         | In doing so, they hijack the power of human relationships.
         | 
         | It bends people. I'm not sure how else to say it. From where I
         | sit, progress likely means giving up on maximalist capitalism
         | and developing online stuff that strikes a balance between
         | everyone needing to make a living and everyone needing to be
         | cared for as humans.
        
         | thimp wrote:
         | Technology is just a delivery mechanism which can be used for
         | good or bad interactions. The problem is some technology is
         | optimised for delivering the bad interactions because it
         | benefits the technology vendor. Use technology that you control
         | and decide when to interact with.
         | 
         | What I see is a lot of people saying on the one hand "I want my
         | privacy and to be left alone" then hiring a vendor that is
         | motivated to take your data and bug the shit out of you because
         | it's cheaper and subsidised by this poor behaviour. On top of
         | that they then install apps which damage multiply that.
         | 
         | Incidentally on notifications all my kit is set on do not
         | disturb all the time apart from alarms when I need to get up.
        
       | teekert wrote:
       | I sounds recognizable and also insightful and as such perhaps the
       | beginnings of a research question and hypothesis... I'd advice
       | against making it more than that for now. We need real research,
       | scientific recommendations. Something real. Otherwise it could
       | just be a reflection of the human state as it always was. Similar
       | to blogs claiming: "Stuff is not fun anymore, when I was
       | young..." Yeah that's it, you're now old and you're not having
       | fun anymore. It says nothing about the world.
        
         | deeshee wrote:
         | Thanks for the feedback. But could you elaborate a bit? Are you
         | interested in pieces that lay on the scientific-side of things
         | or personal stories?
        
       | 29athrowaway wrote:
       | It is not Digitopia, it is Internet Addiction Disorder.
       | 
       | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_addiction_disorder
        
       | bowsamic wrote:
       | Ironically an article that is perfectly indicative of the very
       | problems it is pointing out
        
       | karaterobot wrote:
       | > Frequency: 30-60 minutes a day
       | 
       | 30-60 minutes to take a shower?!
        
         | codetrotter wrote:
         | It's nice to shower for a while.
         | 
         | But speaking of this specific line from the text, "frequency"
         | would be "daily", and the amount of time probably "duration" so
         | this could perhaps be more exactly expressed as:
         | 
         | > Frequency and duration: 30-70 minutes a day
         | 
         | (Yes. Opposite order so not quite perfect either, heh.)
        
       | smcameron wrote:
       | > just enter the shower and turn the water on.
       | 
       | Reverse this, turn the water on, let it warm up, then enter the
       | shower.
        
       | marginalia_nu wrote:
       | Recently, as an experiment, I've begun compartmentalizing my
       | digital tools.
       | 
       | I've set up different system accounts for different tasks, then I
       | configured each account with its own privoxy proxy that blocks
       | websites that are not related to that task. The proxies are there
       | basically as a reminder, since a lot of these tabs tend to open
       | without thinking of it.
       | 
       | So for example, on my work account, I can't use social media and
       | news; on my social media account, I can't access github, access
       | dashboards, or check my mail. Phone's on the work privoxy too.
       | 
       | The idea being that distracted context-switching, e.g. opening a
       | hacker news tab any time there's a moment's pause in what you're
       | doing, a moment of frustration, of boredom, any negative motion;
       | that this is a major part of the problem.
       | 
       | This doesn't prevent me from checking up on social media (I'm
       | doing it right now!), but it does mean I can't do so while
       | supposedly working. To use social media, I need to log off the
       | work account, closing anything I'm doing, and log into a
       | different user. That's a lot of friction, and as a result, is
       | something I do maybe once or twice a day for ten to fiteen
       | minutes. I usually don't really find much to engage with and then
       | log off.
       | 
       | I do find myself needing to make active choices a lot more. Like
       | if I find I don't know what to do next, I need to decide on
       | something. I can't just default to grabbing my phone and start
       | cycling through the usual tabs. It's taken a while to get used to
       | reading these moments as cues for getting off my ass and doing
       | something, but it's also incredibly impactful.
       | 
       | The critical part of the regimen is that it does not have many of
       | the drawbacks you get with going offline completely (or using a
       | dumbphone), where you can't park your car because you need an app
       | for that, or people try to get ahold of you and messenger isn't
       | working on your brick.
        
         | skydhash wrote:
         | That's almost the same strategy I used to get a better
         | work/life balance. I created a new user account on my computer
         | and then connecting to services I used for work on it.
         | Switching accounts is a pain (I logged off after using one), so
         | that added enough friction for me. Similar things with social
         | media. I allowed myself to use them, but only through a private
         | tabs. It reduced the urge to visit them.
        
       | eggplantemoji69 wrote:
       | I generally agree with the defined problem, but when a
       | prescription is provided then that becomes the new goal rather
       | than the initial desired outcome (no more negative effects of
       | digitopia). Your progress is compared against your adherence to
       | the protocol firstly, then the initial desired outcome secondly.
       | 
       | With that being said, to be a bit hypocritical, and with the
       | disclaimer that this is non-exhaustive and different things work
       | for different people, the protocol that has worked for me is as
       | follows:
       | 
       | Delete all social media
       | 
       | Meditate hour a day
       | 
       | Gym (weights, cardio) 5x a week
       | 
       | Good sleep
       | 
       | Proper diet and supplementation
       | 
       | Have job that pays good enough and be good at it
       | 
       | Live well below my means and take on no debt
       | 
       | I think once you remove basically everything, and you've listened
       | and quieted all of your thoughts and sophisticated ape urges, you
       | come to understand things truthfully, and wisdom + stoicism +
       | peace naturally ensues.
        
       | wuuak wrote:
       | I think there's like a confusion here, where people think tech is
       | the direct cause of many of these symptoms. In reality, I think
       | that pervasive tech _can_ be _a_ cause of depression, but it 's
       | the depression itself that in turn wreaks havoc on your brain and
       | produces the myriad other symptoms mentioned.
       | 
       | Not being able to concentrate, escapism (fixation on superficial
       | things/people, buying things online, imagining some perfect life
       | you deserve to be living), sleep/restfulness disturbance (do you
       | stay up to all hours and then frustratingly wake up early anyway?
       | how about get in a solid 8 hours but wake up feeling like
       | dogshit?)
       | 
       | That's not tech overdose, that's depression.
        
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