[HN Gopher] You are what you love
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       You are what you love
        
       Author : gspanos
       Score  : 109 points
       Date   : 2024-02-04 09:57 UTC (13 hours ago)
        
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       | inertiatic wrote:
       | >I find it really challenging to talk with people who have
       | completely separated their work from their emotional being. For
       | me, work is part of life and it should be a meaningful one.
       | 
       | I like my work too but when I hear things like this it's so hard
       | not to cringe because of how much of a place of privilege this
       | comes from. Most jobs are things no one would want to do if they
       | didn't need to survive, and that's fundamentally built into our
       | society and economic system. Let them eat cake though.
        
         | akolbe wrote:
         | Aye, you put your finger on something there. Reminds me of how
         | common it is for menial jobs to be outsourced to immigrants or
         | seasonal labour. Fruit picking in the UK to Eastern Europeans,
         | agricultural work in Israel to Thais, etc.
         | 
         | Someone has to empty the bins. I guess like anything emptying
         | bins is a job you can enjoy more or less, depending on your
         | inner attitude to doing it, and your ability to "make the best
         | of it" (by having a laugh with mates on the job etc.) but
         | surely it's hard to be _creative_ in it.
         | 
         | There are millions of jobs like that that have to be done by
         | someone - unless everyone, including those who enjoy that self-
         | fulfilment in their work, somehow were to chip in and do their
         | bit.
        
           | wouldbecouldbe wrote:
           | Ironically emptying the bins and picking fruits might be more
           | directly meaningful for people then building the new
           | generation ad platform/social media/saas tool.
        
             | jasongi wrote:
             | Picking fruit would have been incredibly meaningful if you
             | had spent the year doing the variety of agricultural
             | activities leading up to it. There's a reason so many
             | cultures had harvest festivals. But now rather than a whole
             | area getting together to literally pick the fruits of their
             | year-long labour and celebrate we've optimised the process
             | by just bringing in some seasonal workers.
        
               | elteto wrote:
               | So you want all of NYC to have harvest festivals?
               | 
               | Those traditions and rituals are alive and well in small
               | communities. Modern agriculture is based on the need to
               | feed millions and millions of people. That's why it is
               | the way it is.
        
               | kdmccormick wrote:
               | I think GP means that picking fruit has a direct,
               | meaningful impact on _consumers_ --fresh food--whereas
               | the positive impact of the next saas thing is indirect
               | and often dubious.
               | 
               | But yeah, harvesting as a community sounds more
               | meaningful to workers than mass fruit production does.
        
               | wouldbecouldbe wrote:
               | I think you both overcomplicate things.
        
               | memonkey wrote:
               | Haha, yeah. I have a side story about working in
               | construction with my dad. He was a home builder and was
               | helping to build out a line of new apartments. It was
               | very straightforward work -- he did the tile in the
               | kitchen and bathrooms. I was his helper. He was excellent
               | at it. All the buzzwords inclusive of efficiency and
               | quality. It was fulfilling work to me and I had a sense
               | of pride working alongside my dad. I made $10/hour, $80 a
               | day.
               | 
               | Now I work in FinTech. The fulfillment is different,
               | sometimes it's good. But I reflect on this time often. I
               | own a small home now and my dad comes around to help me
               | fix or remodel stuff. I'm handier now because of those
               | experiences -- I think I do find a little more
               | fulfillment when working with my hands. I also find
               | myself in my garden more often which brings a little more
               | joy than my day job. Perhaps it's just balance.
        
             | wegfawefgawefg wrote:
             | Its for the mental exercise, and the practice. But if i had
             | to do it a second time id kill myself.
        
             | badpun wrote:
             | Some of my friends from Poland went to Western/Northern
             | Europe to pick tomatoes, salad, cherries etc. None of them
             | ever spoke about meaning of the job, only that it was long,
             | hard, uncomfortable hours in sun, rain etc. and that it
             | paid good money.
        
             | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
             | 100%, I was thinking this exact same thing. I couldn't help
             | but ponder the irony that during the pandemic, the vast
             | majority of "essential workers", i.e. people we really need
             | to fulfill the foundational layer of the economy, were
             | usually the lowest paid: garbage men, farm labor,
             | construction labor, grocery store workers, delivery
             | drivers, etc. The famous "Pyramid of Capitalist System",
             | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pyramid_of_Capitalist_System,
             | had never felt more spot on to me.
             | 
             | Meanwhile, I'm relatively very highly paid, and while I
             | really like my job because I get to work with interesting
             | technology and I think my coworkers are fantastic, the only
             | reason my job exists at all is because of the extreme
             | insanity of the US healthcare system. Literally everyone
             | would be better off if there wasn't a reason for my job to
             | exist in the first place.
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | We make sure that all important jobs are easy to do so
               | that they can reliably get done. Hard unreliable jobs can
               | thus never be as important as the easy ones, they are
               | still important but never as important because we don't
               | want to rely on unreliable work.
               | 
               | You can see that in software orgs as well, the easiest
               | tasks are also the most important, like ensuring the site
               | continues to run and handling breaking changes in
               | dependencies, those tasks has to be done or your entire
               | product is gone. But the highest paid engineers probably
               | don't work on those things, instead they might look at
               | adding more features or drafting new architecture, those
               | tasks aren't as important but they are much harder to do
               | so are better paid in general and you require higher
               | skilled workers.
               | 
               | So in general the lower paid the more important their
               | work is, because higher skilled tasks are harder and less
               | reliably done so we try to not rely on them getting done.
               | Think famous painter vs low paid icon designer, which
               | work is more important? Goes for most things.
        
               | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
               | Thanks very much. I've heard this phrased different ways
               | before and I understand it, but "We make sure that all
               | important jobs are easy to do so that they can reliably
               | get done" is probably the clearest and most succinct way
               | I've heard this put.
        
           | rambambram wrote:
           | I worked as a garbage man to pay for the start of my software
           | ventures. It was the best combination thinkable of sitting in
           | a room on a chair behind a computer, being in the software
           | clouds, typing away, and being outside, working out, having
           | fun and getting enough sunlight.
           | 
           | These both completely different things balanced each other
           | out perfectly.
        
             | BuyMyBitcoins wrote:
             | So you're saying that collecting garbage enabled you to
             | learn about garbage collection?
        
             | akolbe wrote:
             | Nice. I think the key thing here is, or was, the mix: the
             | two activities complementing each other.
             | 
             | Also, perhaps, the knowledge that both were _temporary_ and
             | meant to lead to other, or better, things.
        
         | __s wrote:
         | Which jobs are you considering no one would want to do?
         | 
         | I've worked labor in flooring, it's definitely not a job one
         | wouldn't want to do without pay, but there was still an element
         | of craftsmanship which one could find joy in
        
           | akolbe wrote:
           | Right; there is an element of satisfaction that comes from
           | doing a job well that is relatively independent of the kind
           | of job it is.
           | 
           | In a way, that kind of enjoyment is actually more important
           | than extrinsic rewards - it actually _is_ your moment-to-
           | moment life.
           | 
           | Which, to be fair, is what Spanos' piece is getting at too.
        
           | c0balt wrote:
           | > Which jobs are you considering no one would want to do?
           | 
           | Not OP but most low-skill, sanitation-related jobs are most
           | likely the best example. There certainly is craftsmanship
           | behind cleaning but it mostly boils down to hard physical
           | labor.
        
             | mettamage wrote:
             | I once had a conversation with a cleaner, she liked it
             | because she could listen to Spotify podcasts all day (she
             | was working as a cleaner in Sweden).
        
               | politelemon wrote:
               | The Spotify part though, isn't part of cleaning, if that
               | makes sense? It happened that she has found an enjoyable
               | aspect to the tasks due to its nature, but not that she
               | specifically searched for that job because it lets her
               | listen to Spotify.
        
               | quonn wrote:
               | I can confirm this, I know a cleaner like that as well.
               | Additionally the work is not that physically taxing for
               | the most part and there is no struggle involved like in
               | many problem solving jobs. It's often poorly paid but
               | that depends a lot on the country.
        
               | ethanbond wrote:
               | having health insurance helps
        
           | j4yav wrote:
           | I grew up in pretty severe poverty, the adults around me
           | didn't work glamorous jobs but they all took pride in doing a
           | good job. Even sanitation jobs, which were pretty common in
           | the family. They would actually say something pretty similar
           | to what the guy wrote - that if you're going to spend so many
           | hours of your life doing it, it's taking pride in a job well
           | done, the relationships you have with your colleagues and
           | customers you get to know, and things like that that you
           | connect with emotionally. Spending 50 years doing a job where
           | you try to dissociate emotionally as best you can sounds
           | something like a nightmare, and what would a person who
           | behaves like that be like to work with?
        
             | dottjt wrote:
             | Well, tech is a bit different in that because it uses a
             | computer (and a lot of roles aren't highly monitored, if at
             | all i.e. WFH) you have the choice to do things other than
             | your job.
             | 
             | I imagine most people working with a computer in a
             | corporate role, are spending maybe a few hours of their
             | time actually working, and the rest of their time doing
             | things they actually enjoy doing.
        
           | Yizahi wrote:
           | Delivery, call center, government jobs processing some
           | applications or similar, any dirty job, any harmful job etc.
        
         | lambdasmith wrote:
         | Agree, people whose job intersects their passions are very
         | lucky but they are in the minority. Most people look at their
         | jobs for what they are: a source of income that allows you to
         | buy food and have a roof over your head.
         | 
         | Nonetheless I believe emotional drive is needed for some high
         | skilled jobs. It doesn't necessarily need to be passion though.
         | It could be desperation, greedy, peer pressure - whatever keeps
         | you going
        
         | agumonkey wrote:
         | so many people argue the opposite, to me I often am what I do,
         | which is an issue since most people want to get away from the
         | tasks as soon as possible
         | 
         | there's also the problem of ending exploited since you will
         | accept doing more for less
        
           | djoletina wrote:
           | Same here. And when you make a point of it in conversation
           | you're considered the crazy one. Let alone mention it to
           | coworkers, you're instantly a kissass.
        
             | agumonkey wrote:
             | Exactly.
        
         | kubb wrote:
         | As an empathetic person, this really makes me feel that we
         | should fight for an economic system that gives people more
         | leisure. Rewarding life doesn't need to be expensive, but it
         | does require us to have the time to do something that we love.
         | This is also why I dream about financial independence. I'm not
         | lazy, I just want to do something else than what I have to.
        
           | coldtea wrote:
           | > _we should fight for an economic system that gives people
           | more leisure_
           | 
           | We don't even have an economic system that pays well or
           | treats people humanely...
        
             | baggy_trough wrote:
             | Compared to what?
        
               | chefandy wrote:
               | Maybe compared to ones that don't toss mid and late
               | career professionals out like a bag of moldy peaches when
               | some confluence of economical and technological factors
               | makes them inconvenient, no matter if they've got kids,
               | or a cancer diagnosis, are supporting lots of relatives,
               | or anything else like that, and then say it's their fault
               | for not predicting it. Maybe ones that don't financially
               | ruin people because the hospital they got driven to while
               | unconscious doesn't take their insurance? That is, if
               | they have it because the insurance that costs more than
               | local mortgages for many? Maybe the places that sentence
               | someone involved in a bank heist orders of magnitude
               | longer sentences than white collar criminals that stole
               | orders of magnitude more money?
        
               | baggy_trough wrote:
               | What ones would those be?
        
               | chefandy wrote:
               | > What ones would those be?
               | 
               | If you really don't know, I'm not your research assistant
               | so I won't go look up things like universal health care
               | and the social support strategies of various European
               | countries for you. If you're just trying to bait me into
               | some sort of pedantic argument, I'm far past the age
               | where I felt compelled to interact with people who think
               | being deliberately obtuse is a valid conversation tactic.
               | Either way, I'm going to let you finish this one
               | yourself. Have a fantastic sunday.
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | Compared to one that pays well and treats people
               | humanely.
               | 
               | It's not like that in order to suggest that something is
               | bad there must be an existing better version. The
               | suggestion can be about creating that better version.
               | 
               | That of course is a general answer to your asking for a
               | comparison, as if lack of one would refute the point.
               | 
               | Some country first abolished child labour, even when all
               | others still had it. Where the people who advocated for
               | that misguided, since they didn't have a better example
               | to "compare" to?
               | 
               | These are of course also concrete answers to your
               | question, like many EU countries where the vacation
               | period is one month, where there are better employee
               | protections, where there is less discrimination, where
               | overtime is frowned upon and the work culture is not the
               | US "grind", where waiters don't have to make do on
               | tipping, and so on.
               | 
               | They don't have to be perfect in everything either
               | (because an easy knee jerk critique would immediately
               | point to some other shortcomings in their work
               | arrangements). For the point of the suggestion, it's
               | enough that they have better aspects than some country
               | like the US could also adopt.
        
             | marcosdumay wrote:
             | All the evidence point towards the GP's goal being more
             | realistic than fixing just that intermediate step.
        
               | thfuran wrote:
               | What evidence is there for that?
        
               | marcosdumay wrote:
               | The fact that we have several viable proposals for that,
               | and that partial versions of them already work on
               | practice.
               | 
               | While we have no idea at all of any interventions that
               | only achieves the partial result you want.
        
           | polio wrote:
           | I think we're at a point in the history of Western
           | civilization where we should strive to guarantee non-painful
           | survival for all our citizens. This doesn't necessarily mean
           | comfort, but nobody who grew up legally in the United States
           | should have to wonder about finding nutritious food; clean
           | water; and a quiet, warm, and secure place to sleep. I only
           | restrict this tentatively to citizens because I think these
           | programs would fare better politically if limited to
           | citizens.
           | 
           | People of all backgrounds will find that non-painful survival
           | is still profoundly unfulfilling and will continue to
           | innovate, create, work. I think the fear of succumbing to the
           | elements in America is too real and that that fear is a
           | massive drain on the economy and the spirit of our people.
        
             | CooCooCaCha wrote:
             | I totally agree and I don't understand why everyone isn't
             | on board with this vision. Sometimes I look around and
             | think "this can't be the end of the story, there has to be
             | a better way to run society".
             | 
             | What's interesting are the libertarian types who want the
             | opposite. You don't get anything by default, you have to
             | fight for everything. All I can think of is 1) why? and 2)
             | is that really their vision of the future? Like in 100
             | years we'll still have to work meaningless jobs just to put
             | food on our table? Is that really the future we want?
        
               | becquerel wrote:
               | They want that future because they ultimately believe in
               | human hierarchies.
               | 
               | Sometimes those hierarchies are natural and essential
               | (race, gender, age, whatever), sometimes they're
               | contingent and constructed (skillset, grindset, 'hard
               | work', whatever), but it always has the same end result:
               | they think that you can categorise people like insects,
               | and that some groups of people deserve better things than
               | others. Naturally they believe they would not be at the
               | bottom of the hierarchy.
               | 
               | You may also be interested in the term 'capitalist
               | realism'.
        
               | CooCooCaCha wrote:
               | Hah, I'm right there with you. I'm definitely aware of
               | capitalist realism, and what you said about hierarchies
               | is exactly why I claim libertarians are right wing.
        
             | oceanplexian wrote:
             | > This doesn't necessarily mean comfort, but nobody who
             | grew up legally in the United States should have to wonder
             | about finding nutritious food; clean water; and a quiet,
             | warm, and secure place to sleep.
             | 
             | Western civilization has brought more food, clean water,
             | and rescued more people from poverty in the 20th century
             | than the entire history of human civilization. None of that
             | was done by offering guarantees, it was achieved through
             | free market capitalism. Competing economic systems that
             | offered the guarantees you're describing not only
             | slaughtered millions and caused mass starvation but
             | collapsed from economic dysfunction.
        
               | polio wrote:
               | I agree with both statements you've made, however I don't
               | see why offering food and housing security would
               | necessitate mass murder, if we were to try it from a less
               | ideological fervent posture. It wouldn't be described as
               | a proletariat revolution or seizing the means of
               | anything. It would just be another social program that I
               | hope would be administered efficiently and ambitiously,
               | and which would replace some of the other legacy programs
               | we've built. I'd hope we'd test it at a small scale and
               | then go from there. The scope of the communism you're
               | identifying in my suggestion would be limited.
               | 
               | I'm generally a supporter of capitalism, but I think
               | present conditions could be improved to facilitate that
               | competition. Workers need to be able to use public
               | transit in peace, which means getting homeless people
               | out. We need to be able to offer shelter so that forceful
               | removal is justifiable. Children need unequivocal access
               | to nutrition so that malnourishment doesn't impair their
               | ability to compete in the arena of idea-generation and in
               | the knowledge economy. I think if the government were in
               | the business of offering floors on quality of life that
               | people could spend their time more productively instead
               | of solving the same hunter-gatherer types of problems
               | individually over and over again. Food insecurity may
               | have been the impetus for work in the past, but I believe
               | that status insecurity can replace it going forward.
               | Nobody needs to starve for the West to prosper.
        
           | gspanos wrote:
           | This is what motivated me to start a company. It is a tech
           | company because that's what I know. But at the end of the
           | day, it's my way of creating what I consider a healthy
           | environment. I was very fortunate to work in an environment
           | like that 6-7 years ago and now I want to re-create it
           | through my company.
        
         | j4yav wrote:
         | On the other hand, sometimes it's also refreshing to just hear
         | about what makes someone happy and appreciate it on its own
         | merits without assessing its validity against others who have
         | it worse in various ways. There's a time and a place for both,
         | I think.
        
         | brabel wrote:
         | Before the modern age, most humans worked in agriculture.
         | Really, really hard work, day in day out, no vacations, no sick
         | days, you had to be there no matter the weather (except extreme
         | events where your live would be endangered too much, probably).
         | It's amazing how today we can actually even think that "work
         | should be a meaningful part of life" rather than just a means
         | to keep you alive. Today, I would say most people still do
         | either menial jobs or "pointless" jobs that they have very
         | little emotional attachment to. They do it because they must do
         | something to survive. But there's also the higher ups who don't
         | really love at all what they're doing, but feel like they need
         | to keep "going up", from engineer to "lead" to C-level to CEO
         | to founder etc. I don't think anyone really loves doing those
         | things (except extremely narcissists who feel pleasure being in
         | charge), they do it because they know that they have the
         | potential to do it and they feel social pressure to climb the
         | ladder. If we lived in a completely equal society where CEOs
         | were not seen as "higher" than individual contributors, and
         | consequently didn't receive ridiculously larger paychecks, who
         | in their right mind would choose to do that? Even though I do
         | enjoy my job, I am pretty sure that's in large part because I
         | managed, like most other well functioning adults, to
         | rationalize my situation so that I don't feel like working day
         | in day out on my desk it not a stupidly pointless way to spend
         | life - and pretend like I wouldn't much rather be surfing in
         | the Pacific islands, working as a bartender at night, sharing
         | stories by a fire on the beach until sunrise, living the simple
         | life without responsibilities.
        
           | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
           | > Before the modern age, most humans worked in agriculture.
           | Really, really hard work, day in day out, no vacations, no
           | sick days, you had to be there no matter the weather (except
           | extreme events where your live would be endangered too much,
           | probably).
           | 
           | Btw this is simply not true. People worked less in
           | agriculture than a 9-5. You'd only really be working hard at
           | specific times of the year- harvesting, seeding, etc. You'd
           | be doing other things like working on the house, feeding
           | various animals, churning butter or making clothes, etc, in
           | the in-between.
        
             | coolThingsFirst wrote:
             | As soon as i read this a beautiful and peaceful life
             | flashed before my eyes.
        
               | raducu wrote:
               | > As soon as i read this a beautiful and peaceful life
               | flashed before my eyes.
               | 
               | I lived such a life on my grandparents subsistence farm
               | in early post-communist Romania, where we only bought
               | store made bread and nothing else for months (and even
               | that was optional, but store made bread tasted better
               | than homemade).
               | 
               | I would LOVE to go back in time to that house on a summer
               | night, 0 light pollution, starry night, just the crickets
               | and occasional sound of the hooves of the cows or horse
               | against the stone pavement in their yard when they went
               | for a drink, or the dog being happy you visit him outside
               | when you take a piss.
               | 
               | Or the late evening dinner on the high porch, people
               | across the stone-wall fence returning from the fields in
               | their horse pulled carriages overburdened with hay. Or
               | the strong sense of community of the people gathered at
               | their out of the gate benches smaltalking in the evening.
               | 
               | Or the rain-invocation rituals that involved splashing
               | the village virgins dressed only in leaves in their late
               | evening procession. Or the taste of milk straight after
               | being milked out of the cow (I don't know how I never got
               | sick), or the taste of fresh butter, or cheese or whey
               | cheese.
               | 
               | Or fetching sheep milk from the herd manager over the
               | bouncy wire bridge, starry night, accompanied by swarms
               | of fireflies, wind whispering through the alder leaves.
               | 
               | Or the cows opening the iron gate with a thud in the
               | evening when they return with the communal herd.
               | 
               | Or riding the horse without a saddle because my shoeless
               | feet hurt from walking over freshly scythed grasslands.
               | 
               | Or returning with my grandpa late in the night from a
               | long trip up the mountain to his lonely uncle's house. We
               | brought him meaty treats and he showed us the squirrels
               | in his roof attic.
               | 
               | Or to hear my grandparents extraordinary survival stories
               | or stories about supranatural occurences.
        
           | richrichie wrote:
           | Not quite day in and day out. Agricultural work pre modern
           | times was seasonal.
        
             | badpun wrote:
             | There was stuff to do outside the growing season still.
             | There were farm animals to tend to, you fixed up your house
             | and the farm buildings, made and mended clothes etc.
             | Although, since the days were shorter, the work time was
             | naturally shorter as well, as artificial light was
             | expensive.
        
               | hnfong wrote:
               | I guess you could always get into a situation where you
               | manage a farm that exhausts all your available time.
               | 
               | But work is indeed seasonal, and I doubt you'd actually
               | be able to be so effective that you don't have any free
               | time at all. (And if you manage that, presumably you'll
               | be a rather rich farmer...)
               | 
               | Also, in many places, there's nothing much to do in the
               | winter except stay inside the house around a warm fire
               | and try not to freeze. Yes you could take on some other
               | work using the light from the fireplace as well... but
               | did everyone actually exert themselves so much that they
               | didn't have a single day of rest? I really doubt it and
               | it's more likely it's a tale told by capitalists to scare
               | us into being grateful for being employed.
               | 
               | PS: much of Europe also observed the Sabbath too, so
               | there's also at least one day off per week.
        
           | huytersd wrote:
           | This is bullshit. I directly know families in Asia that farm
           | a moderate sized one acre plot without heavy machinery. It is
           | long days of work during planting and harvest but that's less
           | than 2 months of the year. The rest of the year is
           | maintenance and other support work and starting at 6 in the
           | morning they're usually done by 1-2p.
        
           | j4yav wrote:
           | That's actually sort of a myth. If you work on a farm, there
           | are a few very intense parts of the year, but most days are
           | otherwise prep work and maintenance and you can actually wrap
           | up fairly early and manage your own schedule. What sucks
           | about farming is thin margins and how a bad crop can wipe you
           | out.
           | 
           | Possibly different on a factory farm that maximises
           | production every day but that's not really what you're
           | referring to.
           | 
           | This comes from personal experience working on productive
           | small farms.
        
         | nonrandomstring wrote:
         | Isn't fixating on "privilege" a way of avoiding more troubling
         | thoughts far beyond guilt? As if God made some people rich and
         | some poor, and that's the way the world is. Let's all say a
         | prayer for them?
         | 
         | The Protestant work ethic once contained many good things like
         | a sense of duty, efficiency, self-discipline and so on.
         | Emancipation of others, and helping others out of poverty was
         | always built into that!
         | 
         | But under late stage capitalism it becomes disfigured and
         | twisted.
         | 
         | That guilt is used against us. We make "work" into something
         | that must be miserable by definition. And some of us even revel
         | in that self-flagellation. We stop distinguishing between
         | laborious chores and work as art and living. "Money and
         | survival" eclipse all else. The abject penury of that mind-set
         | is a sort of work in itself.
         | 
         | It need not be. Ten thousand years of artisan labour,
         | craftsmanship, labours of love building cathedrals and
         | monuments, cooking delicious meals... Half of all the work done
         | in the world is childcare and caring for the old.
         | 
         | It's the power relations of capitalism that make work shitty,
         | and we all know it. There's nothing "fundamental" about it. We
         | are at a very unique and hopefully short moment in history
         | where modern employers will go out of their way to fit
         | suffering, humiliation and self-loathing into the job-
         | description, maybe in order to feel justified for what they pay
         | - often cynically hiding behind false notions of efficiency and
         | necessity, security or whatever.
         | 
         | Some of the most miserable and fucked-up people I've ever met
         | work in banking, advertising. and other places of "privilege".
        
           | ttt11199907 wrote:
           | I'm not sure many workers building cathedrals considered it a
           | labor of love. Particularly those cathedrals that took many
           | generations to build.
           | 
           | > Half of all the work done in the world is childcare and
           | caring for the old.
           | 
           | This is a really profound statement, thanks for making me
           | think slightly differently!
        
             | penjelly wrote:
             | > I'm not sure many workers building cathedrals considered
             | it a labor of love. Particularly those cathedrals that took
             | many generations to build
             | 
             | youre kidding right? of course some of them were proud of
             | their contribution.
        
               | nonrandomstring wrote:
               | Guess we could think of the Giza Pyramids as a counter-
               | example. Plenty of religious monuments got built on the
               | bones of slaves.
               | 
               | But I wonder, factoring out the physical toil, whether
               | future generations might look at giant technological
               | monoliths, maybe The Internet of 2100 and say;
               | "Those techies were unhappy slaves. they laboured in
               | basements and         cubicles. They wrote code just to
               | eat! It was obscenely inhuman."
               | 
               | Or maybe historians might pore through HN archives and
               | say;                  "Those who believed in the Great
               | Singularity", devoted their lives        out of religious
               | fervour. Many of them wrote code without being
               | paid, just because they had a vision. "
               | 
               | Or maybe there will be no trace of us. Anyway, history
               | can tell us facts about what happened, but maybe isn't so
               | good at telling us what went on the minds and dreams of
               | people past.
               | 
               | edit: s/Interest/Internet/g
        
           | t0bia_s wrote:
           | What would be a fix for capitalism that cripples our attitude
           | to work?
        
             | nonrandomstring wrote:
             | > What would be a fix for capitalism that cripples our
             | attitude to work?
             | 
             | Us. Our culture.
             | 
             | FWIW I'll try to explain a little more. I mean, that's a
             | great question but I think it's the wrong question, if you
             | don't mind me saying that.
             | 
             | Nobody can see outside the logic of their own epoch.
             | 
             | Capitalism can't be "fixed", because it's just what it is.
             | If we "fixed" it, it wouldn't be capitalism any more, it
             | would be something else. In fact it's been many different
             | things over the past centuries as it transforms, much as
             | people like Smith and Marx predicted.
             | 
             | Most people at this point say "Okay, smarty.. so what will
             | you replace it with?". And again, wrong question. There is
             | no list of "systems" that could simply be plugged in as
             | replacements. That kind of nonsense leads to great leaps
             | into famine and 20 million starving. Politics is not
             | software like that. At best it's a set of potential slow
             | paths that all start at where we are now. It is not even a
             | set of destinations, because every end point we pursue
             | changes with the dynamics of time and change itself.
             | 
             | The question, as I see it, is what do we change in
             | ourselves to make capitalism work. What makes capitalism
             | into a non-toxic system that does not destroy our planet
             | and lead us to perpetual cycles of war, and misery and
             | self-hatred?
             | 
             | Now if you want to talk about that list... that's another
             | conversation.
        
               | thfuran wrote:
               | But we can change the way capitalism works (see the EPA
               | or FLSA) much more easily than we can change human
               | nature.
        
               | nonrandomstring wrote:
               | I don't think we can ever change human nature (if such a
               | thing exists), no?
               | 
               | That's not the same as changing culture. That by
               | definition must change.
               | 
               | You're talking about changing rules (EPA)
               | 
               | Are you familiar with the work of Meadows? She gives
               | names to each of these levels and sets up a relation
               | between them.
               | 
               | Here's a couple of digs into that if you're interested
               | [0,1]
               | 
               | [0] https://cybershow.uk/episodes.php?id=19
               | 
               | [1] https://cybershow.uk/episodes.php?id=21
        
             | slimrec77 wrote:
             | "More communism man"
        
         | rawgabbit wrote:
         | 100% agree. For me the cringe is that this belief is often used
         | to justify ridiculous work place demands. What, you don't want
         | to work 60 plus hours a week for another month?
         | 
         | You are not defined by how "useful" you are to your job.
        
         | karmakaze wrote:
         | It's also a recipe for a bad work environment. It's good to
         | have passion and accountability in doing good work. It becomes
         | a problem when you _identify with your creations_ , then
         | anything said about it can only be taken personally without an
         | ability to detach from it and speak/think objectively.
        
           | rrrrrrrrrrrryan wrote:
           | Actual artists are a little better at this.
           | 
           | Despite the passion they pour into their work, they
           | understand that once it's out there in the world, it's not
           | theirs anymore. The moment the artist lets go of it, it
           | belongs to the viewer, who will interpret it differently
           | through the lens of all their personal experience. And if the
           | thing is any good, it will be heavily analyzed and critiqued,
           | so to stay sane the artist has to completely let go of it and
           | focus their energy on their next creation.
        
             | karmakaze wrote:
             | I was lucky to have learned this lesson from day one. My
             | Atari 400 had no storage since it was beyond my budget and
             | I wanted to save for the diskette drive rather than
             | cassette. So I'd spend days making and playing with a
             | single program creation, never turning it off. Eventually
             | I'd want to do something else so click, playing Asteroids,
             | and repeat.
        
         | lepus wrote:
         | Their only reference point is other tech workers. Maybe they
         | should get out of their social bubble and make some blue collar
         | friends to figure this out.
        
           | CalRobert wrote:
           | And most tech workers are doing classic "bullshit jobs" aka
           | "dumb shit that doesn't matter". Too many of the others are
           | doing work that is a net negative to the world. I'd be more
           | passionate about collecting garbage bins than making kids
           | depressed.
        
             | lepus wrote:
             | My blue collar friends aren't passionate about their jobs
             | at all - it's long hours, physically unhealthy, and bad
             | conditions/pay. But at least what they do is real and
             | meaningful without having to craft a weird narrative for
             | themselves about how passionate their life is making better
             | buttons and faster queries.
        
         | pmarreck wrote:
         | I get your point here, but here's mine.
         | 
         | When push comes to shove, a bit more pay won't motivate someone
         | as much as having a feeling about the work will.
         | 
         | I feel guilty because I have a passion for software development
         | but once pushed it away because I felt it was causing me social
         | ostracization I couldn't afford (this was long before the Web
         | exploded and "legitimized" the software developer). While doing
         | things that were not-software, I kept getting dropped "hints"
         | that I was on the wrong path (there is no rational way to
         | explain this unfortunately), so I decided to hop back in
         | (conveniently, right when the Web was starting to take off).
         | I've been there ever since.
         | 
         | My S.O. is artistic but found no way to monetize that so she
         | now does what amounts to "admin and logistical planning work
         | for highly-paid traders", and she hates it. She complains about
         | it all the time, especially after every business day, and she
         | brings much stress into our relationship as a result. I spent a
         | while trying to encourage her to push back into creative work
         | but it just wasn't sticking- turns out that she had an evil
         | woman manager once who kept completely shooting down her work
         | and I think she resolved then to never let her feelings get
         | near work ever again. My attitude towards that situation, was I
         | in those shoes (having grown up ostracized for what I believed
         | in and cared about, and then later vindicated) would have been
         | to tell that woman to EABOD and I would have tried creative
         | work elsewhere.
         | 
         | I have to wonder how many people out there are just going
         | through the motions at their jobs because of something like
         | this. And you're absolutely right- I AM privileged... but if it
         | was possible for this to be more common, I wouldn't be. I
         | really wish that something like my experience would happen to
         | everyone. Would something like UBI enable more people to find
         | "their life's work" before they get stuck in a rut that just
         | happens to pay the bills, I wonder? How much potential economic
         | growth are we actually missing out on, here?
         | 
         | You know how when you shake a bunch of different shapes on a
         | sieve with similarly-shaped holes, you get more falling through
         | the sieve (i.e. finding their happier job)? And when you stop
         | shaking, whatever shape happens to be over whatever hole is the
         | one they rest in? What do we need to do to add more
         | "shakeability" to the market so that more people can try more
         | things relatively safely (financially)?
         | 
         | My life DOES have a lot of other drawbacks that I won't get
         | into (which probably serve to level the overall privilege I'm
         | experiencing), but this is not one of them.
         | 
         | I really do wish it on everyone.
        
         | D13Fd wrote:
         | My thoughts exactly. Does the convenience store clerk have to
         | love her job? The garbage person? The bus boy, dishwasher, or
         | line cook? The assembly line worker?
         | 
         | There are aspects of all of our jobs that we all love and hate
         | to varying degrees, but there is nothing weird or wrong about
         | taking a job just because you need the money.
        
         | nuancebydefault wrote:
         | Does being able to do what you love, or being passionate about
         | your work, come from a place of privilege? I'm not convinced. I
         | know people who envy me at times, and often I think, why don't
         | or didn't they follow a similar path? I think loving what you
         | do comes mostly after feeling fulfilled from doing serious
         | studying, a lot of working and quite some discipline. This love
         | does not appear by itself. Just as in relationships, it takes
         | continuous investment.
        
         | timeagain wrote:
         | In less well paying jobs it is usually easier to have emotional
         | integration. Less of your identity is at stake, your
         | responsibility is small enough that you don't have to
         | reorganize your values to work the job.
         | 
         | This is my experience working in factories vs offices anyway.
         | No one is fake in the factory because we don't need to be.
         | Office people play so many little games and politic around and
         | pretend to be happy even when they're not.
        
       | glimshe wrote:
       | This one never _had_ to work on payroll software for a living,
       | have they?
        
         | upupupandaway wrote:
         | I call your payroll software and raise you working on device
         | drivers for Nokia's Symbian OS phones.
        
       | Dachande663 wrote:
       | I used to be the same. Until I started a family. You suddenly
       | realise how... unimportant coding is when you have people who
       | depend on you and you them. I'm a different developer now than I
       | was back then, but I think better for it.
        
         | mettamage wrote:
         | How are you better for it?
        
           | Geisterde wrote:
           | Id also be interested, I see learning computer skills as a
           | way to eventually make my families life better by creating
           | solutions for things around the house. Have you reoriented
           | your efforts to something similar?
        
           | elteto wrote:
           | Me, personally, I'm better on the soft skills. Things like
           | better organizing my work and strongly separating work and
           | personal life.
           | 
           | My work day is 8-5 and that's the time I have to get
           | everything done. That's it. I don't take work home so I
           | better make the best of the day.
        
         | hotpotamus wrote:
         | I've never found the job to be all that important; especially
         | once I saw how quickly my work was discarded for some new,
         | fashionably different way of doing things. Honestly it's scary
         | to imagine that some child's health insurance would depend on
         | me staying on the treadmill of ever-changing tech nonsense. I
         | doubt my ability to keep pace for a couple decades.
        
         | TacticalCoder wrote:
         | > Until I started a family.
         | 
         | I'm 51 and I've got a family too (9 years old kid) and my love
         | for coding and tinkering with computers never went away. For
         | example yesterday evening when they were asleep I spent hours
         | playing with a (used) NUC I just bought. I did hack on some
         | scripts too.
         | 
         | My hobbies are my cars and computing and I love that, since
         | forever. And I still love these even though I've got a family.
         | 
         | I'd argue that something that you love and that you suddenly
         | don't love anymore once you have kids is something you didn't
         | really love that much.
         | 
         | A family and a love for the craft are definitely not mutually
         | exclusive things.
        
           | elteto wrote:
           | Let's not pass judgement on what other people love or not.
           | You simply have no idea.
           | 
           | There are many things I love but since I got a family I just
           | don't have time for them. Or if I have the time I realize
           | there's a million other things I can be doing with my family.
           | 
           | You have cars and coding. You spend time on those hobbies and
           | presumably not with your family. OP just realized he'd rather
           | spend it with his family.
        
           | scruple wrote:
           | I love my family and I love programming but I'm only showing
           | up to daily standup because they pay me to.
        
           | dottjt wrote:
           | It's possible to love something for a period of time, and
           | then no longer love it as you find other substitutes for it.
        
         | makeitshine wrote:
         | I'd say that applies across the board. For most, that kid is
         | more important than anything else.
        
       | mettamage wrote:
       | > Firstly, let's make clear that it's unlikely that you're good
       | at something you don't love. If you managed to do that, you've
       | probably dedicated the hours to something that does not fulfill
       | you. The goal is not happiness. It's about fulfillment. After
       | all, you have to do what you love. You are that, how can you be
       | doing anything else?
       | 
       | The author is not considering loving meta-skills. I don't love
       | programming, I do love intellectual challenge. I also love
       | learning things as fast as possible.
       | 
       | If I'd be a cleaner as a job, I'd teach myself how to be mindful
       | while doing it. I'd teach myself how to be okay with the
       | boring/mundane and utilize the job as a tech detox. If I'd be a
       | bus driver, I'd utilize the job as a way to make my social skills
       | better (I've seen bus drivers do that in NL) or I'd utilize the
       | job as a way to reflect on life as I wouldn't need all the brain
       | space for driving the bus. If I'd be a blue collar worker, I'd
       | flip homes since my network would allow for it. I'd also do a lot
       | of crafting on my own.
       | 
       | When one loves a meta-skill, many things become their passion.
        
         | MattPalmer1086 wrote:
         | That's a great way to think about it, love the meta skill
         | concept.
         | 
         | I had the same realisation but never expressed it as well. I
         | used to want to be an artist for my living. Eveventually I
         | realised that what I really wanted was to be creative in some
         | way. Didn't have to be art or music to earn money.
        
           | mettamage wrote:
           | Ha! That's a fun one. When it comes to music, I compulsively
           | think of musical melodies. That's not passion though but just
           | compulsion :')
           | 
           | I recognize the creativity part, well put!
        
         | gspanos wrote:
         | That's an interesting take!
        
       | theusus wrote:
       | It's a powerplay imo. You can show your emotions if you are in
       | the power. I've found repeatedly getting penalized for being
       | emotional at work. That's one of the reasons I want to move out
       | of a job.
        
       | tgv wrote:
       | Motivation takes many forms. Emotion, and not even every one, is
       | only one.
        
       | bambax wrote:
       | > _If you don't know what you love, try playing with a couple of
       | things._
       | 
       | I have a theory that what you love is what you can experience bad
       | versions of. If you're picky about something, you don't really
       | like it. Connoisseurs and fanatics aren't picky, they're
       | voracious.
       | 
       | If you can only drink the very best wines, you don't like wine. I
       | can eat very very bad, even stinky Chinese food, because I love
       | all versions of it.
       | 
       | I can tolerate bad books much more than bad movies. I can't stand
       | a bad movie, it makes me upset and impatient: I don't really like
       | movies. People who do, watch everything they can, the good and
       | the bad alike. Etc.
       | 
       | If you truly don't know what you love, see if you can get
       | interested in bad instances of things; if you like something when
       | it's bad, you'll love the good version of it.
        
         | lordgrenville wrote:
         | I would qualify this. If you like movies, you like _all sorts_
         | of movies. You can enjoy well-done schlock horror as much as
         | experimental Thai drama. But you still have a sense of good and
         | bad, and you don 't want to sit through something done badly
         | _in terms of what it 's trying to achieve_. Same with food: if
         | you like Chinese food you maybe like all sorts of tastes, and
         | high-end to low-end, but you don't need to like it when it's
         | bad. Someone who likes all movies or Chinese food that they
         | encounter doesn't actually like that thing - they just don't
         | care enough about it.
        
           | bambax wrote:
           | I'm not saying to love something is to be devoid of taste or
           | incapable of sorting the bad from the good. I'm saying it
           | means being able to suffer the bad, to sit through a bad
           | movie until the end, in the hunt for any passable scene.
        
         | quickthrower2 wrote:
         | Not really. Having taste doesn't mean you don't like it. You
         | can really like subsets of things that suit your taste. "You
         | don't like interior design unless you get lit by prison cell
         | decor"
        
         | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
         | > I can eat very very bad, even stinky Chinese food
         | 
         | Hi, I'm a Chinese person. WTF do you mean by this? Are you
         | seriously saying you love Chinese food (also what do you mean,
         | Chinese food? What provinces? What regions?) when it's shit?
         | You'll happily eat stale bao, rotten meat dumplings, moldy
         | rice? What is "stinky": durian? Something else?
        
           | bambax wrote:
           | Sorry if this came out as insensitive. I've never been to
           | China. By Chinese food I mean food that is available in
           | Chinese restaurants in Europe where I live. By bad Chinese
           | food I mean food that isn't fresh, that's dry, that has
           | obviously been reheated more than once. I don't mean rotten
           | exactly (although it can happen).
        
           | makeitshine wrote:
           | While I can understand the irritation, the tone of your
           | response seems excessive for someone talking about food.
        
         | nonrandomstring wrote:
         | Definitely "love" in its casual usage, is very fickle. You can
         | turn something you love into something you hate by over-doing
         | it.
         | 
         | Maybe the best way to kill something you love is to make it
         | into work in the first place. There's a good argument for
         | keeping the things you really savour a little at arms-length.
         | 
         | One psychological idea I found immensely helpful but hard to
         | digest is the relation between love and hate; Love and hate are
         | not opposites, but proximate. Love can easily flip to hate and
         | vice versa. They're from a vector of two circuits, arousal and
         | pleasure/displeasure. The opposite of love (and hate) is
         | _indifference_. Socially, we worry about  "hate speech" when a
         | much more dangerous state of mind is blank faced indifference.
         | ( Most of what I'm saying is just Erich Fromm [0]).
         | 
         | [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Art_of_Loving
        
           | nyanpasu64 wrote:
           | Socially I'm more worried about targeted harassment, legal
           | threats to safety, and murder than indifference to my
           | existence.
        
         | dudul wrote:
         | Makes no sense to me. It seems totally possible to me to love
         | movies without enjoying wasting 2h watching a poorly made film.
        
       | pelasaco wrote:
       | You are what you love, but until you don't have a family
       | (specially kids) you don t know what love is, and its definitely
       | not work. So I am what I love, but I'm not my work neither my
       | job. You neither. So don't judge people based by what they
       | demonstrate at work. Most majority of people are there for the
       | money.
       | 
       | Fun fact that I became a much better developer when I started to
       | think like that. I dont slack around. I work 10 hours day, happy
       | and concentrated. I see the results of my work impacting my
       | personal life in a positive way. And the problems that I have at
       | work, are not my problem, but companies problem. I am there to
       | solve them, but after day is over, I just keep them at work.
        
         | eimrine wrote:
         | Family converts men into money printers.
        
       | fzeroracer wrote:
       | I get why someone would believe this, but it's so disconnected
       | from reality for the majority of people. It comes from a place
       | where you haven't been concerned about needing to live. About
       | feeding yourself or your family, having stability, getting out of
       | debt.
       | 
       | I'm lucky enough to be doing what I love, but I got here by being
       | good enough at doing what I don't love.
        
       | clot27 wrote:
       | reminds me of "people become whatever they want to be"
        
       | tock wrote:
       | Great advice provided all jobs and fields pay the same. They do
       | not.
        
       | biscuits1 wrote:
       | Consider love as a half-measure, therefore:
       | 
       | You are what you create
        
       | boredemployee wrote:
       | Well. The paragraph below really comes at a good time,
       | 
       | >> Emotion cannot be separate from work. It has to be a part of
       | it. When working, you're expressing yourself. You express
       | beliefs, opinions, and strategies, world views. You cannot detach
       | yourself completely from work. I doubt that you ever should.
       | 
       | because 2 days ago I had a discussion with the owner of the
       | company I work for (and, therefore, my boss), where I told him
       | that we are going through a bizarre moment and that one of our
       | colleagues was in pieces when talking to me.
       | 
       | He asked if that affected me, and I said that obviously it does,
       | it's a person suffering, a person I like and who delivers a lot
       | of value to the company.
       | 
       | He replied saying: "Well, it shouldn't, only our family should
       | affect us in that aspect."
       | 
       | Then, finally, I understood what these people really think. They
       | use us just to achieve their goals, the whole idea of team/squad
       | is, in the end, a big fallacy.
        
         | skydhash wrote:
         | Enjoying your work does not means rooting for your employer.
         | You can establish meaningful relationships with your coworkers,
         | especially if you're spending 8 hours together.
        
         | deebosong wrote:
         | Your boss sounds like they have an extremely rigid view of what
         | emotions are and aren't "correct" in any given setting. Sounds
         | controlling, and lacking a fundamental understanding of
         | reality, people, and basic empathy.
         | 
         | I don't think all bosses are like this, but the ones who
         | express these views in critical junctures that reveal their
         | character and world views as such, I think it's safe to say
         | that they indeed are intellectually and developmentally blunted
         | (of the emotional intelligence, interpersonal relationship, and
         | leadership dynamics variety) in a manner that can cause
         | legitimate harm to anyone under their authority and has to take
         | orders from them.
        
       | badpun wrote:
       | Most people don't love anything particularly strongly IMO. They
       | have interests and they exhaust them over time (sometimes, over a
       | long time, if they're too busy to spend too much time on an
       | interest). People who actually love something, i.e. spend a lot
       | of time on it over decades, are rare.
        
       | dakiol wrote:
       | Work != career.
       | 
       | I love programming and computer science and everything around it.
       | I love learning about it in my free time and creating programs
       | that serve no other purpose than entertainment (for myself).
       | 
       | I couldn't care less about the e-commerce software my boss pays
       | me to maintain/fix/add features. I do it because it pays the
       | bills. God, I hate daily stand ups.
        
       | bitwize wrote:
       | Some of us didn't choose the right parents when we were born, and
       | don't have a nice cushy trust fund to fall back on when doing
       | what we love doesn't pan out in compensation. Some of us have to
       | take webshit jobs -- or worse -- to keep food and a roof. Or we
       | could starve, which I'm sure would suit libertarian techbros just
       | fine.
        
       | t0bia_s wrote:
       | I freelance over 9 years on field that was my hobby and love.
       | While I still love my work, I wouldn't say its a hobby anymore.
       | Passion is gone, now I improve my skills with everyday working in
       | field of mine previously a passionate hobby.
       | 
       | I consider hobby as unconditional needs for creativity, while job
       | is condition for make a living.
        
       | arnejenssen wrote:
       | To quote an Austrian philosopher
       | 
       | "Love the reps" - Arnold Schwarzenegger
        
       | StopTheTechies wrote:
       | > I find it really challenging to talk with people who have
       | completely separated their work from their emotional being.
       | 
       | Is this not everyone? Who the fuck brings their emotions to work?
       | I thought the whole trope of "you should love what you do" was
       | just capitalist tripe to get people excited about the work most
       | people were required to do to avoid homelessness (notice--society
       | offers no right to shelter or any other meaningful protection
       | from harm).
        
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