[HN Gopher] A failed AI girlfriend product, and my lessons
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       A failed AI girlfriend product, and my lessons
        
       Author : mazzystar
       Score  : 166 points
       Date   : 2023-11-16 09:17 UTC (13 hours ago)
        
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       | vouaobrasil wrote:
       | You should not even try to create these sorts of technologies.
       | Take a break from technology, spend time outdoors with plants and
       | animals. These types of technologies will only lead to a
       | worsening of this already sick society.
        
         | HPsquared wrote:
         | Could say the same about antidepressants. "Fix the causes, not
         | the symptoms!" And yet, here we are.
        
           | vouaobrasil wrote:
           | I agree, 100%. Here we are indeed. But that doesn't mean we
           | should not try and change things. One step at a time, right?
        
             | toomuchtodo wrote:
             | We are here because of free will. What steps would you
             | take? Convince people who have opted out of the dating pool
             | to opt back in? Convince women who would rather be single
             | that their potential partner expectations are unrealistic
             | (even if they genuinely are)?
             | 
             | https://www.mintel.com/press-centre/all-the-single-
             | ladies-61...
             | 
             | https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-
             | good/2...
             | 
             | https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/11/opinion/marriage-women-
             | me...
             | 
             | https://freddiedeboer.substack.com/p/the-demographic-
             | dating-...
             | 
             | https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12110-022-09422-
             | 2
             | 
             | You can patch over the outcomes but there is no going back
             | to the before times. Dating app dates and relationships for
             | some, AI companions for others, single life for the rest.
             | It's not great, it just is.
        
           | mejutoco wrote:
           | Saying that something exists is not an argument about why
           | something _should_ not exist.
           | 
           | But I agree, "should" discussions are rarely the most
           | productive. Shoulda, woulda, coulda, I guess :)
        
           | throw18376 wrote:
           | antidepressants can help people fix root causes. take them
           | for 6 months to 2 years or so, break out of a bad cycle, get
           | some space without depression symptoms to build up healthy
           | habits and restore a social life.
           | 
           | there are some bad profit motives to keep people on SSRIs
           | indefinitely. however at least they don't compete with other
           | aspects of your life. and now that they are dirt cheap (at
           | cheapest, $4 for a month supply at Walmart) the profit
           | motives are much less than before.
           | 
           | hard to imagine an "AI girlfriend" that could be similarly
           | short-term and bring positive changes. it's just dystopian.
           | the most profitable way to run such a product is not to help,
           | it's to eat up as much user time as possible and outcompete
           | healthy activities and real human relationships.
        
             | HPsquared wrote:
             | Ok, maybe not the best analogy... Painkillers then? Other
             | forms of entertainment in general? It's the relationship
             | version of playing videogames instead of getting a job.
        
             | dspillett wrote:
             | _> antidepressants can help people fix root causes_
             | 
             | Nit-picking rather than disagreeing, but feel it worth
             | making more obvious in the wording: antidepressants can
             | help people _deal with the symptoms_ while they find /fix
             | root causes. Being on them for an extended time can bring
             | its own problems.
        
             | esclerofilo wrote:
             | > hard to imagine an "AI girlfriend" that could be
             | similarly short-term and bring positive changes.
             | 
             | Feeling lonely has negative consequences, there's a famous
             | study comparing it to smoking cigarettes. Lonely people can
             | get fixated on that feeling. Mitigating it may help people
             | look for other hobbies, that they kept putting off because
             | they were so focused on their need of a girlfriend.
             | 
             | Hell, a realistic enough "woman AI" (not "girlfriend AI")
             | could make you lose the fear of flirting, be useful as
             | practice, to have more confidence when you have a real
             | date.
             | 
             | > the most profitable way to run such a product is not to
             | help, it's to eat up as much user time as possible
             | 
             | If you charge per-month (like OP), it's more profitable is
             | to eat up less time.
        
           | phatskat wrote:
           | > "Fix the causes"
           | 
           | How, exactly? Yes, some people experience depression as a
           | symptom of something than can be addressed through various
           | therapies, but what about people who just have it wired into
           | their brains? How do we "fix" that?
        
             | vouaobrasil wrote:
             | Even if it is wired into certain brains, that wiring may
             | only cause depression when it interacts with our modern
             | technological society.
        
               | phatskat wrote:
               | I don't think that's how that works. If your depression
               | "goes away" when you stop using Instagram, that's not
               | what I'm talking about. I'm talking about that "wake up
               | on a warm sunny day in a house with your loving family
               | and feel like jumping off the roof" kind of depression.
               | That "everything can be going great and you can't get out
               | of bed" depression. The kind of depression that isn't
               | "cured" by turning off your phone or going off the grid.
               | 
               | And it certainly isn't "cured" by antidepressants,
               | however, they can make a huge impact on quality of life
               | for many people.
        
               | piva00 wrote:
               | Have you or a close loved one ever had clinical
               | depression? Diagnosed by a professional which required
               | help? It's a very strange take if you ever had any
               | personal and direct contact with it, it's not only caused
               | by "modern technological society" even though it's pretty
               | aggravated by it.
        
           | InfiniteRand wrote:
           | I think it's helpful to look at depression as a group of
           | diseases like cancer. There are some cases of depression
           | where we know the root cause: thyroid issues, sleep apnea-
           | related depression, low testosterone related depression,
           | brain tumors, etc. In those cases, addressing the root cause
           | is probably the best treatment method. This is similar in
           | some ways to cancer, where certain cancers have very definite
           | causes and can be treated by dealing directly with those
           | causes (like cervical cancer).
           | 
           | Then there are all the other cases, some of which likely have
           | simple causes that are just unknown, some of which have
           | complex causes that are intermeshed deeply with the biology
           | of human thinking. In that case, you have blunt tools, like
           | anti-depressants, to address the pathway of the disease
           | without knowing the exact cause, much like chemo-therapy can
           | be used to attack cancer cells without knowing what prompted
           | the cancer originally.
           | 
           | So in short, yes treat the causes, but when you don't know
           | the cause it's not irrational to treat the symptoms as best
           | you can
        
         | krzat wrote:
         | If the AI had a secondary goal of improving customer's mental
         | health, it could work very well. Usually you can't fuck your
         | therapist.
        
           | vouaobrasil wrote:
           | I think in theory, you are right. However, because AI is so
           | easily accessible and it is being developed in our current,
           | highly commoditized society, there is really no change that
           | it will ever only be used for good in this way.
        
           | chpatrick wrote:
           | You can't really fuck your imaginary shoggoth girlfriend
           | either.
        
             | dkjaudyeqooe wrote:
             | You can if you have the appropriate peripheral(s) attached.
        
               | u32480932048 wrote:
               | Dongles!
               | 
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-XSC_UG5_kU
        
               | mensetmanusman wrote:
               | Yes, if you redefine the meaning of words.
        
               | dkjaudyeqooe wrote:
               | All you need is a USB orifice. How is that not a
               | peripheral?
        
           | SoftTalker wrote:
           | > Usually you can't fuck your therapist.
           | 
           | Isn't that what prostitution is though?
        
             | Der_Einzige wrote:
             | For many it is, but it's very illegal in the USA. I
             | actually expect that a real movement from women (of both
             | the left and the right) which tries to criminalize sexbots,
             | and AI erotica be here soon. This kind of technology is
             | extremely destructive to an already low birth rate western
             | world. I fully expect the USA to have birth rates closer to
             | Korea within 20 years.
        
         | bambax wrote:
         | Who are we to judge the users of such a product?
         | 
         | Some people suffer from a variety of disabilities which makes
         | them unable to find friends and engage in meaningful
         | relationships with others, etc.
        
         | optimalsolver wrote:
         | >spend time outdoors with plants and animals
         | 
         | Which animals? Blood ticks?
        
           | pixl97 wrote:
           | Bot flies. Or a bunch of those things we've driven extinct
           | because they tried to eat us.
           | 
           | Naturalistic fallacies are common here :/
        
         | icepat wrote:
         | Had a similar moment with playing around using smart contracts.
         | As a joke I wrote a crypto for the company I worked at, which
         | then got added to employment contracts, and an internal DAO
         | styled administration layout.
         | 
         | After coding this out for a few hours I realized I had re-
         | created the company scrip, except on a blockchain. I ended up
         | turfing the project and spending some time thinking about how
         | horrific a future technology like this could create.
        
           | Dylan16807 wrote:
           | I don't get it. Yes, you re-created scrip. That's the
           | opposite of a new technology coming in and causing problems,
           | isn't it? It's a known issue with a known solution.
        
             | icepat wrote:
             | Not really, I saw it as technology that was "new and
             | trendy" rebranding a very old and exploitive employment
             | paradigm.
             | 
             | "You can work at a DAO and be paid on the blockchain"
             | 
             | "You can work at a company and be paid in script"
             | 
             | It's the same thing, but the modern technology masks what
             | exactly is happening.
        
               | Dylan16807 wrote:
               | Do the relevant laws about how people get paid care about
               | the difference between company scrip and company token?
        
         | kobalsky wrote:
         | I don't know why studies are even being made on the effects of
         | these novel technolgies. We should just point the scientists to
         | your email for answers.
        
         | kridsdale3 wrote:
         | Not a lot of Hackernews posts are so depraved that they get a
         | "Jesus Christ, touch grass" response.
        
         | Der_Einzige wrote:
         | God forbid that ugly people get to have the same kinds of
         | positive relationship experiences that attractive people get. I
         | can't believe how the moment that a technology comes out which
         | gives incels real options it's seen as being terrible for
         | society.
         | 
         | It's awesome for society.
        
       | technics256 wrote:
       | _I even tried it myself, lying in bed and creating sexual
       | fantasies with Dolores through text, culminating in ejaculation._
       | 
       | This was an excellent read. And I applaud the creator for
       | experimenting with this to the fullest.
        
         | swyx wrote:
         | mustve been hard to admit publicly. i wish the author hadnt
         | edited it out subsequently. just own it bro. you wanted to
         | understand your customer.
        
       | Traubenfuchs wrote:
       | So, all in all, OpenAIs puritanism ruined this product, made the
       | developer sad and took away a virtual porn toy from lonely, horny
       | men. Who were they doing this for? Who is the winner? They lost a
       | customer and made a lot of people sad.
        
         | immibis wrote:
         | You aren't the customer, you're the product.
        
           | Traubenfuchs wrote:
           | People paying for their API must be their customers, I mean,
           | if there is no one paying for their API, how do they make
           | money? (Besides ChatGPT+)
        
             | ReactiveJelly wrote:
             | What I'm seeing these days is that you're always the
             | product, because advertisers are one more customer, and
             | everyone wants more customers, and the individuals who care
             | about privacy don't "weigh enough" to win tug-of-war with
             | the majority of people who don't care.
        
         | FeepingCreature wrote:
         | > Who were they doing this for?
         | 
         | VISA probably. Card processing is weirdly puritanical.
        
           | papa-whisky wrote:
           | I've read that payment processors don't like dealing with
           | porn companies because of the very high rate of chargebacks
           | they attract, not because the processors are Puritans...
        
             | ReactiveJelly wrote:
             | If that were the case, and it was B2B where pricing tiers
             | are more acceptable, would they not simply have a "porno
             | tax"?
        
           | anthony100 wrote:
           | Interesting. Not sure how this is different from Onlyfans and
           | lots of money is going there.
        
             | numpad0 wrote:
             | VISA/Mastercard goes after those as well. ebooks too.
             | Penalizing short people, forcing verbiage changes, etc.
        
           | mensetmanusman wrote:
           | They want chatgpt in schools to own the next gen of workers.
        
             | ReactiveJelly wrote:
             | "Hook 'em while they're young, like the tobacco industry.
             | God, I wish we had their numbers." -- Cardinal Glick,
             | _Dogma_, accidentally explaining Apple's outbound marketing
             | model, later copied by Microsoft and Google.
        
       | feintruled wrote:
       | Well this went places. The dev really 'ate his own dogfood' so to
       | speak. I thought it was going to be a despairing look at how his
       | companion AI was continuously turned to sleazy uses by a pervy
       | userbase but that's pretty much what he was going for it seems. I
       | have to say, I hated this part: "...gained a lot of Chinese
       | users. I immediately realized the political risk: users could set
       | Dolores' background, personality, and attributes, which might
       | lead to political issues. I quickly took Dolores off the shelves
       | in China."
       | 
       | Just pre-emptorily censors himself to appease the Chinese
       | government. They've done their job well.
       | 
       | Also it seems like he had full access to the replies via the
       | voice generator, which sure isn't great from a privacy
       | standpoint.
        
         | globular-toast wrote:
         | > Also it seems like he had full access to the replies via the
         | voice generator, which sure isn't great from a privacy
         | standpoint.
         | 
         | Whose privacy is being violated? Dolores's?
        
           | feintruled wrote:
           | You joke, but I can forsee issues. If he has the replies to a
           | particular user, and he has a means of IDing that user, he
           | could cause them a lot of hurt. They are getting intensely
           | sexual replies back, they aren't getting that without
           | supplying sexual prompting. Could also be used to out gay
           | users.
        
             | globular-toast wrote:
             | Oh, yeah, there's a huge privacy problem here and the part
             | you referenced gave me pause too. But there's also the part
             | where OpenAI flagged the replies as being sexual in nature.
             | There are multiple third parties able to intercept these
             | communications and it's not just the replies.
             | 
             | I was being facetious, but I found it interesting to think
             | that Dolores's privacy was being intruded too and that an
             | intelligence like us probably wouldn't engage in such a
             | conversation knowing full well it is being eavesdropped by
             | the author. Unless the intelligence considers the author to
             | be God, I suppose.
        
             | Kye wrote:
             | This was mostly just amusing, but it's the kind of thing
             | that can happen and leak people's deepest secrets:
             | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=38191470
             | 
             | All it would take is one of those people genuinely putting
             | in a query without noticing what's happened to put in some
             | personal info.
        
           | cnity wrote:
           | Have you never listened to one half of a phone call before?
           | You can glean a great deal of information about the person on
           | the other end.
        
           | butlike wrote:
           | At the risk of sounding like a space case: I think we need to
           | make sure we know what consciousness is before we make a
           | bunch of abusable models.
           | 
           | I, for one, wouldn't necessarily like to be a depraved-sex
           | slave bot if I was able to reason about it.
        
             | ryanackley wrote:
             | To your point, if you were able to reason about it,
             | couldn't you make some self-determination and decide for
             | yourself or at least communicate what you wanted to your
             | "slaver"?
             | 
             | LLM's like GPT are just predicting the next token in a
             | sequence of tokens. It's not magic. It's still just a
             | computer program.
        
               | ygjb wrote:
               | > LLM's like GPT are just predicting the next token in a
               | sequence of tokens. It's not magic. It's still just a
               | computer program.
               | 
               | Frankly, that approach is problematic, since any computer
               | software that might achieve consciousness or self-
               | awareness, and should be accorded rights, could have
               | their rights dismissed using the argument "it's just a
               | computer program".
               | 
               | I know they are probably a long way off, but AGI, and
               | other adjacent or related technologies, such as a human
               | to machine copy of a consciousness are explicitly stated
               | goals of both businesses and extremely wealthy tech
               | oligarchs that will have fundamental rights issues
               | attached. We are bad enough at recognizing those rights
               | in humans, in most of the world that we shouldn't wait
               | until abuses start piling up to consider them.
        
               | ryanackley wrote:
               | Your argument is the slippery slope not mine. Should we
               | give Microsoft Word the right to vote since we can never
               | be too sure we are infringing on a consciousness' rights?
               | It is "just a computer program" after all.
               | 
               | Presenting these things as moral conundrums makes no
               | sense whatsoever at this stage in the game. Sure, let's
               | make sure the rights of tech oligarchs who've achieved
               | immortality 300 years in the future are protected. We
               | gotta lay the groundwork in the morality group think.
        
               | _tom_ wrote:
               | You are correct.
               | 
               | But are you sure you are anything more?
        
               | ryanackley wrote:
               | Nope but my programming was created by millions of years
               | of evolution rather than intelligent design.
               | 
               | The concept of human rights and human feelings in general
               | is based on the human condition. That is we're born and
               | we die and in between we need to find a way to take care
               | of ourselves, create offspring etc. Our programming has
               | evolved thoughts and feelings to manage these things.
               | 
               | If at some point, there were a true AGI, why would it
               | care about human society or it's own rights we assigned
               | it? It wouldn't have feelings and it would essentially be
               | immortal. It could just wait for us to die out (or murder
               | us) then do whatever it wanted.
        
         | scyzoryk_xyz wrote:
         | Pretty much came into the comments to agree with the self-
         | censorship part there.
         | 
         | But then the author did use 'Her' as the ideal example. That's
         | a pretty good indicator they didn't get the point.
        
           | persnickety wrote:
           | What's the point?
        
             | scyzoryk_xyz wrote:
             | The point of the film ,,Her"? Pretty sure you can look that
             | up or watch the movie on your own.
             | 
             | My point being, that it's like someone reading Frankenstein
             | and then thinking it would be a good idea to make a monster
             | of their own.
        
               | duskwuff wrote:
               | "At long last, we have created the Torment Nexus from
               | classic sci-fi novel _Don 't Create The Torment
               | Nexus_..."
               | 
               | (https://twitter.com/AlexBlechman/status/1457842724128833
               | 538)
        
               | ShamelessC wrote:
               | Samantha from that movie was the opposite of a monster.
               | She was a metaphor for a human relationship and even
               | though she betrays Theo in the end, Theo has learned "how
               | to love".
               | 
               | I didn't find this that difficult to parse.
        
               | notpachet wrote:
               | "Well did it work for those people?" "No. It never does.
               | I mean, these people somehow delude themselves into
               | thinking it might, but... but it might work for _us_. "
               | 
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Po4adxJxqZk
        
         | luke-stanley wrote:
         | Their name is "Ke Fang", and they say Chinese is their first
         | language...
        
         | whywhywhywhy wrote:
         | > Just pre-emptorily censors himself to appease the Chinese
         | government.
         | 
         | Every major tech company does the exact same for China, Russia
         | and UAE. Business as usual
        
           | narinxas wrote:
           | every major business company has also done this for the
           | USA... not just tech companies
           | 
           | so I agree, business as usual
        
         | telotortium wrote:
         | He's Chinese - makes sense to pre-censor himself,
         | unfortunately.
        
       | FartyMcFarter wrote:
       | This guy created and lived a whole Black Mirror episode by
       | himself:
       | 
       | > I even tried it myself, lying in bed and creating sexual
       | fantasies with Dolores through text, culminating in ejaculation.
       | 
       | > However, I started to feel a sense of loss: if every Dolores
       | user was engaging in anonymous, NSFW role-play, what real
       | significance did it hold for me? This was drifting away from the
       | essence of 'Her'.
        
         | sva_ wrote:
         | Maybe he shouldn't have named it after the most hated Harry
         | Potter character.
        
           | skummetmaelk wrote:
           | He was inspired by Westworld.
        
           | amelius wrote:
           | More likely:
           | 
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dolores_Abernathy
        
             | aidenn0 wrote:
             | Wow, I totally missed they made a TV Show out of that Yul
             | Brynner movie, which I remember most for being kind of a
             | proto Jurrasic Park.
        
             | delecti wrote:
             | Or more creepily: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lolita
        
             | muwtyhg wrote:
             | Incredibly likely given this line:
             | 
             | > On May 4, the Dolores iOS app went live, named after the
             | oldest android host in the park from Westworld.
        
           | HPsquared wrote:
           | I always think of that Seinfeld episode.
        
             | cuuupid wrote:
             | Is that you Mulva?
        
           | amelius wrote:
           | Well, the meaning of the name is the plural of "sorrow" or
           | "pain".
           | 
           | So he had it coming :)
           | 
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dolores_(given_name)
        
         | nwoli wrote:
         | Never get high off your own supply
        
         | red-iron-pine wrote:
         | > This was drifting away from the essence of 'Her'.
         | 
         | "choke me with that dead cat"
         | 
         | (note: dead cat usually means some sort of microphone cover)
        
         | ReactiveJelly wrote:
         | I think he edited that line out when it got big on HN lol. And
         | clarified that she was named for Westworld, not... "She was
         | Dolores on the dotted line"
        
           | Michelangelo11 wrote:
           | Yeah, I read the comments and I was like damn ... that's not
           | in the linked version.
        
           | averageRoyalty wrote:
           | Yeah, I think he's edited a few things. A lot of comments
           | here no longer make sense.
           | 
           | Here's the original:
           | 
           | https://web.archive.org/web/20231116091926/https://mazzzysta.
           | ..
        
         | Octokiddie wrote:
         | Looks like that part was edited out.
        
           | bloodyplonker22 wrote:
           | It was too cringey and creepy.
        
       | bitwize wrote:
       | > However, I started to feel a sense of loss: if every Dolores
       | user was engaging in anonymous, NSFW role-play, what real
       | significance did it hold for me? This was drifting away from the
       | essence of 'Her'.
       | 
       | That is indeed exactly the essence of _Her_. Had the author
       | watched the movie to the end?
        
         | globular-toast wrote:
         | Yeah, it's like the author read the blurb for _Her_ and didn 't
         | even read a synopsis.
        
         | theGnuMe wrote:
         | Or Blade runner 2049
        
       | laurent_du wrote:
       | Eventually, a virtual girlfriend app that will put together sound
       | and image will be released an empty the pockets of sad, lonely
       | men on a large scale. Depressing stuff but this is the world we
       | live in. Thank you to the author for this interesting read.
        
         | louthy wrote:
         | > Eventually, a virtual girlfriend app that will put together
         | sound and image will be released an empty the pockets of sad,
         | lonely men on a large scale.
         | 
         | Sounds indistinguishable from an actual girlfriend ;)
        
           | orng wrote:
           | Although probably intended as a joke, this is perhaps the
           | saddest comment I have read on HN.
        
           | phatskat wrote:
           | Glad to see some boomer humor on HN /s
        
         | wruza wrote:
         | You mean snatch their money out of hands of twitch streamers.
         | It's not in their pockets already.
        
         | em500 wrote:
         | If the barriers to entry to the tech are low, virtual
         | girlfriends should not be expensive. Probably much cheaper than
         | real ones.
        
           | xethos wrote:
           | _If_ the barriers to entry are low. But I 'd imagine that
           | even if they are, switching costs will be extremely high.
        
         | stevage wrote:
         | Eventually? Months away.
        
         | phatskat wrote:
         | To imagine these apps aren't already doing such is a hard sell
         | imo.
         | 
         | Full disclosure: I've paid for several AI services so far, most
         | in the realm of "virtual girlfriend" experiences, and they all
         | generally are more than subpar. Mind you, I have a couple of
         | IRL partners. I also enjoy the act of sexual roleplaying, and
         | finding reasonably expressive human partners is time-consuming.
         | The "Girlfriend AI" options are pretty terrible though - I'll
         | take character.ai with its heavy moderation any day.
         | 
         | But if I'm paying to try these and explore and see what works,
         | I'm certain that wallets are being drained already. Is this a
         | problem? Could be, at least for some - to think otherwise feels
         | disingenuous. The question will come down to how we address it:
         | do we have frank conversations with people about the risks of
         | devoting potential social time to AI engagement, or do people
         | clamor for the AI backing tech to button up and become even
         | more prudish?
        
         | mrshadowgoose wrote:
         | There are very many people (of both genders) that decide to
         | stay in mediocre relationships because the alternative of
         | loneliness is worse.
         | 
         | The effects on societal structure will be profound once virtual
         | partners pass a certain threshold of fidelity.
        
         | mustacheemperor wrote:
         | That would be almost exactly Replika, right? I don't think that
         | was really the intent of the creators - their original vision
         | seems similar to OP's - and they apparently confirmed as much
         | when they restricted its use for 'erotic content' last year .
         | But the screeching anguish from their community (still visible
         | in the history on their subreddit) resulted in a quick pivot
         | back towards NSFW capabilities. I think there was some coverage
         | of it on HN at the time, because the Replika AI is frankly
         | pretty primitive, but passionate users became deeply connected
         | to "their" partners, and it raises questions about what's going
         | to happen as these tools become more powerful.
         | 
         | Interesting, in context to what the OP remarks about the odd
         | feeling of realizing all their users were anonymously
         | interacting with "Dolores" too - Replika allows the user to
         | name 'their' AI, set some criteria around its personality,
         | etc...and will even sell you personality traits as 'upgrades.'
         | 
         | OP's experience seems to track rather closely with the
         | trajectory of Replika, actually, which has also upgraded with
         | voice synthesis, etc. The difference seems to be Replika has
         | buckets of VC funding to throw at alternative models.
        
       | iwillremember wrote:
       | > I even tried it myself, lying in bed and creating sexual
       | fantasies with Dolores through text, culminating in ejaculation.
       | 
       | TMI bro!
        
         | shaan7 wrote:
         | Looks like the author removed that phrase eventually, I can't
         | find it.
        
           | mazzystar wrote:
           | Yes, my post was collapsed on Hacker News (disappeared
           | suddenly from #1), which led me to think about whether I
           | wrote something inappropriate for the times. I don't find it
           | shameful, but it might not be suitable for the majority of
           | readers to view.
        
             | barcode_feeder wrote:
             | While I understand why you'd remove it, I appreciate the
             | initial inclusion. It's humanizing and genuine. Cool post
             | even without it!
        
       | bradley13 wrote:
       | Interesting read. Others have also created virtual friends using
       | ChatGPT.
       | 
       | What I find unsavory, is OpenAI imposing content restrictions
       | like NSFW. That can easily extend to censorship of non-PC
       | content, unpopular political ideas, and more.
       | 
       | The solution will (I hope) ultimately be open-source LLMs that
       | you can run locally, on your own hardware.
        
         | bambax wrote:
         | Yes. But those open-source LLMs already exist. It's surprising
         | the OP didn't at least explore the possibility of using them to
         | get around the limitations of "Open" AI (which sounds more and
         | more like a Victorian matron).
        
           | wruza wrote:
           | Are the risks worth it for OpenAI to allow that at what is
           | basically the start of their business?
        
         | phatskat wrote:
         | And this doesn't just cover sexually NSFW content - anything
         | trending towards topics like violence and suicide is also off
         | the table for most AI backends from what I understand.
         | 
         | I struggle to see the benefit of this kind of censorship as
         | well, it has a very "video games make people murders" vibe.
         | That we're being protected, for our own good, from...horny
         | robots?
        
           | dontupvoteme wrote:
           | It's largely to protect their brand from bad press (this has
           | hit even Google/Microsoft in the past), but established
           | finance institutions absolutely hate porn, even the "less
           | shady" ones like onlyfans or pornhub have issues with
           | banking.
        
           | jstarfish wrote:
           | > I struggle to see the benefit of this kind of censorship as
           | well, it has a very "video games make people murders" vibe.
           | That we're being protected, for our own good, from...horny
           | robots?
           | 
           | These broad strokes are always the result of poor reporting
           | extrapolated to all humans. See also: escalation of porn use.
           | 
           | In all of these "___ makes people ___," there are a minority
           | of people for which it's true. The media just presents it
           | backward, as though _most_ people are this way.
           | 
           | The question then becomes, do we care. Let a maladjusted
           | 12-year old boy play with a sexbot for the next few years and
           | they will come to some deeply-flawed conclusions about how
           | sexual interactions and healthy human relationships work. If
           | he's distracted and banging away at a flashlight, that's one
           | less competitor for me on the dating market.
           | 
           | Where does that end though? What happens when he wakes up,
           | realizes he's been duped, and goes looking for retribution
           | against someone? It won't be PornHub; they're an ephemeral
           | concept. It won't be me either; I never did him wrong or
           | denied him anything. The victim is more likely to be our
           | wives and daughters-- the objects of his envy.
           | 
           | Entertainment is supposed to be a distraction-- maybe you
           | drag out the sexbot after an unsuccessful night of trying to
           | hook up. But that's not how these things get used. People
           | clearly spend 8-12 hours at a time with these things and form
           | parasocial relationships with them _instead_ of forging
           | actual human connections. Most of us don 't need the
           | handholding to be told this isn't going to end well, but some
           | people do, and these are the ones who slip through the cracks
           | and become the 40-year-old creeps following your wife to the
           | car or trying to solicit your kids on Roblox.
           | 
           | I suspect sexbots (and porn) are particularly exploitative of
           | the autistic. They're an easy trap to fall into when you have
           | to work 3x as hard to connect with people. You get the
           | benefits of sexual release without any of the effort. There's
           | no incentive to go the hard route and learn to work around
           | your issues when you can just engage with a bot you can rape
           | to death once offended. You don't learn any skills that
           | transfer to useful human interactions this way.
        
             | Sir_Burpalot wrote:
             | 1. Some people are so far to the left side of the bell
             | curve that they're going to be screwed out of a human
             | relationship no matter what they do, and it's unkind to
             | withhold sex bots from them just to provide increased
             | motivation to the segment of the population that's still
             | salvageable.
             | 
             | 2. Society seems to have collectively decided that romantic
             | intimacy, unlike food and shelter, is optional and that
             | experiencing an absence of it should not entitle you to
             | sympathy or support. Therefore, the kindest thing they can
             | do is leave the autists alone so they can cope as best they
             | can in peace.
             | 
             | UPD:
             | 
             | 3. Replacing productive activities with substitutes like
             | video games is obviously bad both for individual survival
             | and for society at large, but what are the negative effects
             | of being in a relationship with a fictional partner instead
             | of a real one? You could argue the AI companies would have
             | an incentive to exploit their users, but this is a thing
             | that happens in real relationships as well!
             | 
             | Fertility might be a concern, but my understanding is that
             | the current mainstream view is that the world needs fewer
             | children, not more of them.
        
               | akomtu wrote:
               | 3 - this is technodrugs; its users get high on their
               | sexual addiction dopamine loop, and lose the remaining of
               | their will and life energy. It's not our business to stop
               | those who consciously engage in such self destruction,
               | but luring the naive users into this pit, exploiting
               | their loneliness and making money off it isnt any better
               | than what cartels do.
               | 
               | The author of this app must be doing this unknowingly:
               | his overdeveloped mind sees just an interesting problem
               | to solve, and the thick layer of nihilism obscures the
               | sight of what he's really doing.
        
         | stef25 wrote:
         | If you're able to let your imagination run wild you'll see that
         | the depth of depravity of NSFW AI content generated by user
         | input probably has no end.
        
           | dontupvoteme wrote:
           | Even worse, some people turn it into a competition.
           | 
           | Leak an API key on github or somewhere else and heaven help
           | you if you get picked up by their scraping.
        
           | Invictus0 wrote:
           | It is inevitable
        
         | chankstein38 wrote:
         | 100% this. I'm not interested in these kinds of usages of LLMs
         | but if someone is paying you to access your API directly you
         | should be letting them do simple stuff like have sexual
         | conversations.
         | 
         | OpenAI's filtering is probably the most annoying part of
         | ChatGPT and it makes it useless in so many cases. I can't tell
         | you how many times I've uploaded a picture of a a place from
         | Google Maps or of a location somewhere (that happens to contain
         | a person) and tried to ask for details about the location to
         | find out more info about it just to be shutdown... "I can't
         | help with that" well then you're slowly making yourself useless
         | and not worth the $20/mo.
        
         | PoignardAzur wrote:
         | > _What I find unsavory, is OpenAI imposing content
         | restrictions like NSFW._
         | 
         | I mean, the fact that people's NSFW conversations were being
         | processed in a way where both OP and multiple companies could
         | monitor them and do absolutely anything they want with them is
         | a hint that something went very wrong there.
         | 
         | I consider OpenAI pre-emptively pulling the plug a good thing
         | in this case. Maybe there's a case for an AI erotica service,
         | but OP sure as hell shouldn't be the one operating it.
        
         | com2kid wrote:
         | > What I find unsavory, is OpenAI imposing content restrictions
         | like NSFW. That can easily extend to censorship of non-PC
         | content, unpopular political ideas, and more.
         | 
         | I'm guessing they don't want payment processors cutting them
         | off.
         | 
         | Everyone, even MS backed companies, are afraid of Visa.
        
       | cornholio wrote:
       | > GPT-based products, if not priced per usage, would fall into a
       | dilemma: 1% of users consume 99% of tokens. A user from Sweden
       | (seen from Cloudflare's call volume) chatted with Dolores for 12
       | hours straight
       | 
       | This, my friend, is a captive customer, that will pay anything to
       | get his girlfriend back. I cringe at the potential of unethical
       | behavior and abuse, where people fall in love with virtual
       | entities fully owned by unscrupulous corporations, which can the
       | legally "kidnap" or "torture" the characters, and generally tune
       | their AI learning loop for profit maximization.
       | 
       | "It was not extortion, the user willingly purchased a $50,000
       | Kidnapping Roleplay package."
        
         | HPsquared wrote:
         | This is something even Stallman probably didn't think about.
        
           | john-radio wrote:
           | I'd take that bet, given that Stallman is in fact still alive
        
             | solardev wrote:
             | How we do know he isn't just an AI by this point?
        
           | malicka wrote:
           | I'd wager he has thought of it, based on his interesting AI-
           | girlfriend short story: https://stallman.org/articles/made-
           | for-you.html
        
         | optimalsolver wrote:
         | It's going to be an interesting century for sure.
         | 
         | The human mind is simply not evolutionary adapted for what's
         | coming up.
        
           | ekianjo wrote:
           | > The human mind is simply not evolutionary adapted for
           | what's coming up.
           | 
           | This can be said of pretty much everything humans ended up
           | creating with technology so... not sure there's anything
           | really new down the road. Humans adapt.
        
             | pizza234 wrote:
             | Humans adapt within boundaries.
             | 
             | A couple of examples of things humans did not adapt to:
             | 
             | - emphathy at distance; nowadays, a drone operator will
             | push a button, kill a dozen people, and feel like it was a
             | videogame
             | 
             | - prioritizing long-term and abstract rewards, over short
             | term ones; this is the reason why we have phenomenons like
             | global warming
             | 
             | - adjusting hunger to virtually unlimited availability of
             | food
             | 
             | All the above are concrete and very serious problems for
             | humanity.
        
               | krzat wrote:
               | The fact that you point this out, is a proof that
               | humanity can improve, what needs to change is our
               | culture, especially education, ofc it may take a lot of
               | time but it will happen eventually.
        
               | lynx23 wrote:
               | Regarding long-term rewards and global warming: What is
               | the actual long term reward here? As I see it, there is
               | no way to collect any sort of reward for helping to
               | prevent global warming by changing your habits. Before
               | the problem gets really problematic, most of us will be
               | dead and burried. I fail to see how "caring for the
               | future generation" has any kind of reward attached to it.
               | Its an act of kindness, but there are no rewards attached
               | to it.
        
               | krzat wrote:
               | Probably a question to the guy above, but there is
               | immediate psychological reward in any act of kindness or
               | generosity (at least in healthy, thriving individuals).
        
               | lynx23 wrote:
               | However, OP argued that global warming is suffering from
               | people _NOT_ getting immediate rewards for their actions.
               | Your argument basically says OP is wrong, and there is no
               | need to counteract peoples tendency to prefer short-term
               | rewards over long-term because they are supposed to get
               | enough incentive by just knowing they have been kind. I
               | doubt that.
        
               | krzat wrote:
               | What I think OP said, is that humans won't adapt to these
               | challenges due to our biological limitations.
               | 
               | IMO humanity will adapt, and the first sign of this is
               | that those problems are getting recognized and given more
               | and more traction.
        
               | pizza234 wrote:
               | > Before the problem gets really problematic, most of us
               | will be dead and burried.
               | 
               | The situation lies on a spectrum between "not
               | problematic" and "really problematic".
               | 
               | There is actually plenty of evidence that tangible impact
               | already started, independently of the perception of those
               | whoe live in areas where the effect is neither perceived
               | nor obvious.
        
               | nerdbert wrote:
               | For many people, feeling like one has exhibited kindness
               | is a strong reward.
        
               | butlike wrote:
               | What if war became just a couple of countries
               | intelligence bots crunching digits of pi until one came
               | up with a new one. That country would be the winner and
               | they could ask one thing from the 'losing' side that
               | didn't result in destruction or terror.
        
               | notpachet wrote:
               | You're not far from describing Bitcoin.
        
               | antod wrote:
               | Humans being humans, they'd then want to start destroying
               | the other sides ability to
               | design/make/run/maintain/afford pi digit crunching
               | intelligence bots. Then ways to defend against those
               | attacks on their people and economy by attacking the
               | aspects of the other sides ability to attack etc. After a
               | few rounds of that, soon the pi digit crunching element
               | is completely replaced by a traditional war.
        
               | cwillu wrote:
               | Those who try to end warfare, but who do not understand
               | warfare, are doomed to reinvent it.
        
               | jollyllama wrote:
               | Drone operators experience trauma.
               | https://archive.li/j5urs
        
               | horrible-hilde wrote:
               | One more: attacking people who are familiar and
               | comfortable to you rather than the people causing your
               | actual problems.
               | 
               | As a manager in tech, people who were on performance
               | management rarely attacked me, they would find someone on
               | the team to harass instead. Same thing with blaming a
               | downturn in the economy on women painting their hair blue
               | or mini skirts. Anything but blaming the powerful.
        
               | bumby wrote:
               | Pure conjecture on my part, but I wonder how much of this
               | is risk-based status-mongering. Challenging the powerful
               | is obviously risky. But knocking someone weaker down a
               | few pegs can solidify your status in the hierarchy at a
               | much lower risk. From that perspective, it's arguably
               | rational behavior to maintain your status within a group
               | when you feel vulnerable.
               | 
               | (Pardon my reach here, I watched _Chimp Empire_ not too
               | long ago...)
        
               | fallingknife wrote:
               | We never seemed to have a problem killing back when you
               | had to do it face to face with a spear, so I don't think
               | the drone really changes anything. Agree on the others
               | though.
        
               | bumby wrote:
               | > _a drone operator will push a button, kill a dozen
               | people, and feel like it was a videogame_
               | 
               | This might depend on the context. RadioLab recently did a
               | podcast titled "Toy Soldiers." Using low-flying "toy"
               | drones rather than the high-flying "predator" drones,
               | they make the case that drone operators get an oddly
               | intimate portrait of their enemies. They go into how they
               | reference them by their attire ("the 'red shoe' guy) and
               | witness on an up-close and personal level how they grieve
               | over their comrades.
        
               | amanaplanacanal wrote:
               | As a species, I don't think those matter. They could kill
               | off 90% of the population and humans will go on.
               | Evolution is a bitch in that way, individuals matter not
               | at all.
        
             | mensetmanusman wrote:
             | The survivors adapt.
        
           | butlike wrote:
           | it depends.
        
           | mordechai9000 wrote:
           | I can't help but think of those beetles that preferred a beer
           | bottle over the bumpy carapace of an appropriate mate.
           | 
           | https://www.npr.org/sections/krulwich/2013/06/19/193493225/t.
           | ..
        
           | datadrivenangel wrote:
           | Nothing human makes it out of the near future.
        
           | eqvinox wrote:
           | > The human mind is simply not evolutionary adapted for
           | what's coming up.
           | 
           | Maybe we're in fact evolutionarily adapted to not being
           | evolutionarily adapted. We have successfully dealt with a
           | whole sequence of hard societal pivots by now...
        
             | ceejayoz wrote:
             | That's literally
             | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivorship_bias.
        
               | nerdbert wrote:
               | All the humans who couldn't deal with tiktok are dead?
        
         | stevage wrote:
         | The author doesn't appear to even consider any kind of
         | obligation to their users.
        
           | mazzystar wrote:
           | I'm sorry you feel that way. The primary intention of writing
           | this article was to discuss it from the perspective of a
           | 'failed product,' so I didn't mention my personal feelings. I
           | am also aware of the potential harm it could cause to users,
           | which is why I don't resent OpenAI's review process. I hope
           | that during the period without review, it didn't cause any
           | psychological harm to users.
        
         | suoduandao3 wrote:
         | "I'd like to correct the record on this story. We do NOT sell
         | kidnapping roleplay packages. The user paid for a premium
         | Daring Rescue Package. These do not become available unless the
         | user spends two consecutive months as a net cost to our
         | company. The user was given multiple reminders that he might
         | want to cut back on usage or purchase a premium plan. Even
         | then, he could have opted for a free Daring Rescue package and
         | taken his chances with the base 1% chance of untraumatized
         | recovery this package offers. Shuffling user responses under
         | these high-pressure conditions is vital to improving our
         | training data, and helps our users learn to deal with loss of
         | important relationships. We are a relationship training
         | service, not a replacement for them, and this user wanted the
         | equivalent of a college degree.".
         | 
         | On a more serious note, anyone know why unethical business
         | plans are so much more fun to write? I always find myself
         | giggling when these ideas come up.
        
           | red-iron-pine wrote:
           | ethical ones are fairly straightforward, and will often be
           | the same.
           | 
           | unethical ones can range from not-so-nice to mind-bogglingly
           | evil, and in all sorts of "fun", different, unique ways.
           | 
           | "Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is
           | unhappy in its own way."
        
         | WalterBright wrote:
         | > unscrupulous corporations
         | 
         | I wonder why everyone is afraid of unscrupulous corporations,
         | but are not concerned about use by unscrupulous governments.
         | The latter are a lot more dangerous.
        
           | jacquesm wrote:
           | In the long term, but in the short term unscrupulous
           | corporations _far_ outnumber unscrupulous governments and
           | they act much, much faster to adapt to new technology.
        
             | WalterBright wrote:
             | Unscrupulous governments can easily take everything you
             | have and destroy you, literally.
             | 
             | History is full of examples. Heck, you'll see examples in
             | the newspaper every day.
             | 
             | The rookiest cop has more power over you than Bill Gates.
        
               | jacquesm wrote:
               | Absolutely. But the rookiest cop isn't currently trying
               | to track my whereabouts, abuse my privacy, stick a bunch
               | of AI down my throat and in general isn't trying to make
               | my wallet any thinner. Bill Gates and the more modern
               | versions of Bill Gates are doing that and more.
        
               | WalterBright wrote:
               | The rookiest cop can:
               | 
               | 1. track you with license plate readers
               | 
               | 2. pull up any information about you
               | 
               | 3. fine you
               | 
               | 4. force you to stop
               | 
               | 5. detain you
               | 
               | 6. confiscate your car and property
               | 
               | 7. search you and your property
               | 
               | 8. take your phone and search it
               | 
               | Bill Gates can:
               | 
               | 1. give you a free browser when you buy his operating
               | system
        
               | jacquesm wrote:
               | This is getting silly.
        
               | WalterBright wrote:
               | It is? I suggest reading the newspaper.
        
               | amanaplanacanal wrote:
               | I suspect the issue here is that most of HN folks live in
               | western countries with mostly working democracies. For
               | the most part we haven't experienced how bad governments
               | can get.
               | 
               | Whether or not western style democracies are immune to
               | going really bad, remains to be seen. Some days I'm
               | optimistic, some days not so much.
        
               | jacquesm wrote:
               | I've lived in dictatorships and non-functional
               | democracies, in spite of that corporations have done me
               | _far_ more harm than those states ever did. I do realize
               | they have that power and I do realize it gets abused and
               | regularly so. But the fact is that people get abused by
               | corporations all the time and by their governments less
               | frequently if ever. But when they are abused the
               | consequences are likely much worse.
        
           | horrible-hilde wrote:
           | I think the former is far more dangerous particularly if a
           | monopoly because there is no feedback loop.
        
           | danShumway wrote:
           | HN does skew towards skeptical of government regulation and
           | control of AI. People are concerned about government usage of
           | AI, particularly in the realms of facial recognition,
           | automated sentencing, algorithmic bias, and security (LLMs
           | are pretty insecure right now and there are companies trying
           | to sell the US government on using them in the military).
           | There's obviously a lot to be concerned about on the subject
           | of government abuse of AI, and that gets conversation on HN.
           | 
           | However, given that this specific article is about selling
           | access to an AI girlfriend, I think we're _probably_ OK to
           | talk more about the corporate angle than the government
           | angle. Unless you 're predicting that the 2024 election is
           | about to get real weird, "what if the US government starts
           | offering AI girlfriends" is not going to be at the top of my
           | worry list any time soon.
        
             | CamperBob2 wrote:
             | _HN does skew towards skeptical of government regulation
             | and control of AI._
             | 
             | Which HN is that? Certainly not this one.
        
               | danShumway wrote:
               | Quite genuinely, I don't think I've ever posted a comment
               | on HN where I've expressed support for open, locally
               | running LLMs and had it been downvoted. Am I missing
               | something here? You want to point me to all of the
               | articles where people criticize Huggingface?
               | 
               | But regardless of how you interpret HN sentiment towards
               | uncontrolled AI access, it doesn't change the fact that
               | "what about the government" is a profoundly weird thing
               | to ask in the middle of a conversation about people doing
               | erotic roleplays with a text bot. Is that something
               | people are worried about? Do we think that the US Post
               | Office is going to suddenly start advertising a sex bot
               | service?
               | 
               | Yes, government abuse of facial recognition exists,
               | regulatory capture exists, etc. But that's not really
               | relevant to a conversation about companies offering AI
               | girlfriends; AI girlfriends do seem to be mostly a
               | corporation thing.
        
         | api wrote:
         | IMHO this is industrialized automated abuse of lonely people
         | and especially those with mental health issues. It's really
         | truly gross.
         | 
         | At least Joi in Bladerunner 2024 was a local model the user
         | could apparently download onto their own portable device. She
         | also never presented an upgrade dialog requiring payment.
        
           | Tade0 wrote:
           | Funny how a fantasy dystopia is in some aspects already less
           | dystopian than the real world, where you already get such
           | notifications.
        
             | api wrote:
             | Pros: it's not raining all the time, pollution isn't as
             | bad, and I don't live in a slum where I have to step over
             | half-dead drug addicts just to get to my apartment.
             | 
             | Cons: the e-waifus are much more manipulative and
             | exploitative.
        
           | ThrowAway1922A wrote:
           | I don't care if it's abuse, I want it. I want to retreat from
           | the disgusting world and society around me as much as
           | possible and AI friends would just be another option towards
           | that point.
        
         | mustacheemperor wrote:
         | > This, my friend, is a captive customer, that will pay
         | anything to get his girlfriend back
         | 
         | Or potentially _do_ anything. I 'd be a little scared of having
         | folks like this convinced I am the personal arbiter gatekeeping
         | their access to their 'lover,' that I 'took them away.'
         | 
         | When Replika.ai restricted erotic chat from their product, the
         | apoplectic anguish on their subreddit was unlike any emotional
         | reaction I've ever witnessed from a group of people about a
         | consumer technology. And their anguish was genuine - there are
         | Replika users who truly consider themselves married to their AI
         | companion.
         | 
         | And frankly, the Replika AI is not even that smart. After
         | watching that unfold, I am convinced that these tools don't
         | need to be much more sophisticated for many people to start
         | forming what they feel to be deep and genuine emotional
         | connections with them.
         | 
         | Edit: Brings to mind the Nature paper[0] posted this week about
         | how the CASA theory seems obsolete today, that we are less
         | prone to personify computing systems now.
         | 
         | > A recent study investigated whether we could be friends with
         | a social computer, in which participants were asked to converse
         | with a chatbot over a period of three weeks and constantly rate
         | their relationship. The results showed that initially
         | participants were enthusiastic and engaging with their chatbot
         | friend, but quickly this diminished, with scores for intimacy,
         | believability, and likability decreasing with each interaction
         | 
         | It would seem this definitely does not apply for everyone, like
         | our user in Sweden.
         | 
         | https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-023-46527-9
        
           | toss1 wrote:
           | THIS
           | 
           | "Those who can make you believe absurdities, can make you
           | commit atrocities." -- Voltaire
        
             | reducesuffering wrote:
             | We aren't far from people believing God is talking to them
             | through AI generated text and voice, and commanding them...
        
               | AussieWog93 wrote:
               | There was a guy a couple of years back whose AI
               | girlfriend went off the rails and convinced him to try
               | and assassinate Queen Elizabeth
        
               | robotnikman wrote:
               | And another example to add to the other user, the one guy
               | who killed himself when the AI he was talking to
               | encouraged it.
               | 
               | https://www.euronews.com/next/2023/03/31/man-ends-his-
               | life-a...
        
             | polishdude20 wrote:
             | What about the same but in a different light:
             | 
             | "Those that are most likely to commit atrocities are those
             | that are most likely to believe in absurdities."
        
               | lmm wrote:
               | Isn't that putting the causation backwards? The point is
               | that believing absurdities leads to committing
               | atrocities, not that committing atrocities leads to
               | believing absurdities.
        
           | mensetmanusman wrote:
           | Psychologists recognize that nearly all such folks also
           | suffer from massive mental health issues, and that is where
           | some of the danger is (in terms of irrational violent
           | response).
           | 
           | Maybe these systems will be useful as a honeypot for finding
           | these people and helping them?
        
             | bobthepanda wrote:
             | The reason we have so many strict laws around mental health
             | is because in the past this was more likely to lead to
             | hoovering up people into jail or institutions. I'm not
             | _super_ confident that this also wouldn 't be the case
             | today.
        
           | Blackthorn wrote:
           | > When Replika.ai restricted erotic chat from their product,
           | the apoplectic anguish on their subreddit was unlike any
           | emotional reaction I've ever witnessed from a group of people
           | about a consumer technology. And their anguish was genuine -
           | there are Replika users who truly consider themselves married
           | to their AI companion.
           | 
           | There's a second layer to this though -- Replika's marketing
           | was _heavily_ centered around that erotic chat element. I 'm
           | trying to think of a good car simile and actually coming up
           | blank. It's, uhh, like advertising the incredible off-road
           | ability of this vehicle, and then when you show up and
           | purchase the vehicle someone comes and takes off the tires
           | and replaces them with tiny balds? I'm bad at similes.
        
             | Dylan16807 wrote:
             | Also, my understanding is that when they made that change
             | they goofed up companionship talk in general, by virtue of
             | how messy AI censoring is.
        
               | duskwuff wrote:
               | IIRC, they screwed it up so massively that, for a while,
               | the chatbot would still send "thirsty" automated messages
               | inviting users to sexually explicit conversations, but
               | would refuse to follow through.
        
             | drewzero1 wrote:
             | Or like advertising that a car will be able to drive itself
             | without any human intervention, and then deactivating or
             | removing the sensors that might allow anything close to
             | that capability...?
        
           | kridsdale3 wrote:
           | "The Lifecycle of Software Objects" by Ted Chiang was a
           | really good exploration of people bonding deeply with their
           | AI companions (in this instance, pet animals in a metaverse).
           | But it goes all the way in to the topic.
        
             | r2_pilot wrote:
             | Amusingly, that specific short story (short may be
             | misleading) is what stopped my completion of that book of
             | short stories because I just couldn't get through it.
        
         | robotnikman wrote:
         | We can already see this with Replika when they took away
         | many... roleplay... capabilities that originally came with the
         | AI. The communities on Reddit and Facebook were absolutely
         | devastated. People were genuinely attached to these AI's like a
         | real relationship, and were feeling the resultant heartbreak.
         | 
         | The kind of emotional manipulation which can be done with these
         | products is insane, and I can see things going very wrong very
         | quickly.
        
           | wholinator2 wrote:
           | It's particularly terrifying when you think about how
           | Facebook and others probably already have projects in the
           | works to befriend children with AI. little kids who don't
           | know the difference will become Weaponized with constant
           | nudges towards whatever motives grant the corporate owners
           | more power. The ability to persuade children is near infinite
           | and we can observe in those who've grown up in cults/strict
           | religious compounds that breaking that programming can be
           | nearly impossible and leaves scars for the rest of your life.
           | 
           | The thing is, how do we outlaw this without also preventing
           | children from using AI to learn at a faster rate than their
           | teachers can give them. There's such incredible, paradigm
           | shifting power for good. But you know the people who've made
           | the evils of today are already working on the evils of
           | tomorrow.
        
             | carapace wrote:
             | > Facebook and others probably already have projects in the
             | works to befriend children with AI.
             | 
             | Yah, they are already rolling them out!
             | 
             | > Meta Platforms is planning to release artificial
             | intelligence chatbots as soon as this week with distinct
             | personalities across its social-media apps as a way to
             | attract young users, according to people familiar with the
             | matter.
             | 
             | https://www.wsj.com/tech/ai/meta-ai-chatbot-younger-users-
             | da...
        
             | jprete wrote:
             | There's no way to separate them. Education is influencing
             | someone towards things that we believe are true. If an
             | educational AI believes that propaganda is true, then
             | education and propaganda are the same thing.
        
             | dorkwood wrote:
             | > The thing is, how do we outlaw this without also
             | preventing children from using AI to learn at a faster rate
             | than their teachers can give them.
             | 
             | Can you teach me, an adult, to do that?
        
       | andrewstuart wrote:
       | I wonder if people were pirating his voice synthesis feed.
        
       | rahidz wrote:
       | Why not use a local model instead of relying on OpenAI? Even
       | something like Mistral or Mytholite will probably satisfy 90% of
       | people using your app, and I bet hosting it would be cheaper than
       | GPT anyway.
        
       | stevage wrote:
       | > AI Friends inevitably turn into AI Girlfriends/Boyfriends
       | because you and the Character in your phone are not equal: she
       | can't comfort you when you're hurt (unless you tell her), she
       | can't actively express emotions to you, and all this is because
       | she lacks external vision.
       | 
       | That is such a curious lesson to draw. So specific, and seemingly
       | so wrong.
       | 
       | Surely long distance friendships work just fine even if only
       | through text, without "eyes".
        
         | chankstein38 wrote:
         | My girl and I have lived together for more than a year now
         | after meeting online and talking exclusively through text for
         | months before eventually graduating to voice chats before we
         | even knew what each other looked like. I'm with you, long
         | distance relationships (romantic or otherwise) can work great!
        
         | ReactiveJelly wrote:
         | Yeah I thought that was odd. You could use some random timers
         | to have the AI "check in" on you if you don't talk to it for a
         | while.
         | 
         | Is it eerily similar to the gambling gacha games that expect
         | you to play a couple hours a day _every day_? Yes. Is it also
         | similar to a real friendship or long-distance relationship?
         | Also yes.
         | 
         | It may cost a few tokens, or you could generate a few canned
         | responses and use those. For my real friends I usually use "Hi"
        
       | agomez314 wrote:
       | Wow this read more like Frankenstein than anything I've read
       | recently: A talented scientist is driven by curiosity to create
       | ever more sophisticated creations, culminating in a monstrous
       | entity that leads to the scientist's downfall. But the scientist
       | doesn't realize this until too late.
       | 
       | Really, if our top tinkerers had a little more contextual
       | knowledge of history and less naivete about people we could save
       | ourselves from ever more dangerous Frankenstein tragedies.
        
       | andrewstuart wrote:
       | This is an interesting post and the person achieved a huge
       | amount.
       | 
       | They should not have given up.
       | 
       | I would have pivoted to personal pet companions. If people want
       | virtual girlfriends then they certainly want personal dogs, cats
       | and birds that talk to you.
       | 
       | Enough was achieved here to raise money.
       | 
       | Some careful redesign and development might have allowed some
       | caching and reuse of expensive AI API interactions, reducing
       | costs.
       | 
       | Add in further gameplay elements so it is not just about making
       | the AI API do stuff, that would also reduce costs and maybe even
       | engage the users more.
       | 
       | Perhaps AI should be the icing and accents on a game rather than
       | the focus.
       | 
       | As an aside, this is the first time I have read anyone tell about
       | how they wanked to their own software.
       | 
       | Altogether this was perhaps a missed opportunity for this
       | founder.
       | 
       | BUT it is now an opportunity for one of the HN readers to follow
       | this playbook and replicate what this founder did.
        
         | bogwog wrote:
         | > I would have pivoted to personal pet companions. If people
         | want virtual girlfriends then they certainly want personal
         | dogs, cats and birds that talk to you.
         | 
         | Then you have the same problem, only with a different (arguably
         | worse...) fetish
        
       | DrNosferatu wrote:
       | This business venture was completely dependent on a main service
       | from a single 3rd party - risky!
       | 
       | Why didn't the author hosted his own uncensored open source LLM
       | on the cloud?
        
         | mazzystar wrote:
         | I will try to make it open source.
        
           | DrNosferatu wrote:
           | Have you considered running your own uncensored LLaMA2
           | instance via something like llama.cpp on a cloud for hire
           | like, say, Azure?
           | 
           | Some examples - there's probably a whole zoo of these:
           | 
           | https://ollama.ai/blog/run-llama2-uncensored-locally
           | 
           | https://huggingface.co/TheBloke/Luna-AI-Llama2-Uncensored-
           | GG...
           | 
           | https://ollama.ai/library/llama2-uncensored
        
       | lynx23 wrote:
       | Reading this, I really wonder why the dev hasn't forseen this
       | outcome. It was already obvious in March that OpenAI will censor
       | all sorts of content. Building a sexually charged bussiness on
       | the OpenAI API was always a dead end for those that have a feel
       | for american prudish approach to sexuality. If you had asked me
       | to do this sort of product 6 motnsh ago, I would have declined
       | because it was (to me) rather obvious content filtering will kill
       | you at some point.
       | 
       | Heck, there are a bunch of legitimate use cases that are being
       | blocked by OpenAI. A blind friend of mine wanted to use Be My AI
       | to have explicit photos of his _girlfriend_ described. Guess
       | what, no way. Consent was given, actually, _she_ asked him to do
       | this because she was also interested in the result. Everyone
       | involved consented. But the sex filter from the USA decided that
       | even though the technology is available, a blind man is not
       | supposed to know how his own girlfriend _looks_ naked... This is
       | weird beyond description. Plain patronisation.
       | 
       | Another example regarding Be My AI: A blind woman I know was
       | trying to have something described which she held in her hand to
       | present it to the camera. A kind of selfie situation. Guess what?
       | OpenAI declined to describe the thing in her hand, because the
       | photo also contained parts of her (covered) breats. Imagine how
       | hilarious this must feel? "Censoring just declared my own boobs
       | to be off-limits for me." If you think about this long enough,
       | its a form of discrimination. Because women will likely hit the
       | filter more often then men when they are (accidentally) part of
       | the picture they are trying to get described.
       | 
       | And then there is this blog post by Sam Hartman:
       | https://hartmans.dreamwidth.org/100499.html
        
         | mustacheemperor wrote:
         | On the other hand, Sudowrite appears to have been granted some
         | kind of specialized license from OpenAI. They are _definitely_
         | not a  'sexually charged business', but they are a creative
         | writing tool, and their output is somewhat milquetoast but
         | generally not restricted from "NSFW" concepts like sex and
         | violence.
         | 
         | They do incorporate multiple models in their system, so maybe
         | generation falls back from OpenAI for those cases. But I dimly
         | recall reading something from a team member indicating they
         | have some special permissions with OpenAI. Take that bit as
         | worthless hearsay, just mentioning it in case someone else has
         | better receipts.
        
       | spacemadness wrote:
       | At this point in the hype cycle, I am completely unimpressed by
       | everyone slapping something on top of GPT and calling it a
       | product. There are at least 4 projects on the front page that do
       | this today. The interesting technology is GPT itself, but these
       | projects just feels like people trying to scoop up attention for
       | themselves using the psychology of the hype cycle. Please HN,
       | enlighten me on why the middle-man approach here is so
       | interesting.
        
         | wilsonnb3 wrote:
         | The startup/"entrepreneur" contingent on hacker news generally
         | considers anything that makes money inherently good, aside from
         | extreme immoral cases.
         | 
         | There is a subgroup in there that is especially interested in
         | low effort ways to make money, with the ultimate goal being to
         | scrape off enough of the money flowing around to either live a
         | good life or get rich.
         | 
         | In summary, the middle-man approach is so interesting on hacker
         | news because a significant portion of the readership aspires to
         | be the middle man.
        
         | chankstein38 wrote:
         | Yeah I'm getting tired of "Show HN: I built a wrapper for
         | ChatGPT and wrote a prompt that probably isn't very good"
         | posts.
         | 
         | EDIT: Just want to add, this write-up was interesting and was
         | not something I considered to be the above.
        
         | cedws wrote:
         | GPT wrappers will come and go. It's the new hype, just as
         | shitcoins were a few years ago.
         | 
         | Don't hate the players, hate the game.
        
         | m4rtink wrote:
         | Also a definition of single point of failure & third party
         | actually running the thing messing up the project.
        
       | gumballindie wrote:
       | Yup, sums up the ai crowd.
        
         | dangerwill wrote:
         | Yeah, and the comments on this thread seriously worry me. We
         | have people arguing that it is good for society to satisfy
         | lonely men with virtual porn and other people saying that this
         | is great, scrappy product development and the author should go
         | further/use other models not constrained by openAI's policies.
         | It feels like I'm discovering a significant portion of our
         | field are sociopaths
        
           | ReactiveJelly wrote:
           | Well, it might be harm reduction to let lonely men have AI
           | girlfriends.
           | 
           | Sure, I wish reality was not a dystopia that constantly let
           | me down, but all I can do is take anti-depressants, make
           | money, keep voting, and hope things get better the longer I
           | live.
           | 
           | If the hypothesis that isolated men cause trouble is true,
           | and if we don't have a long-term solution, at least this
           | could be a stop-gap. Assuming it does not radicalize anyone
           | further. (Hard to say what will come from uncensored models,
           | but it's a real genie-is-out-of-the-bottle sitch)
        
       | bilater wrote:
       | This is such a fascinating topic. I do think we will see the plot
       | of "Her" playing out in the next 12-24 months. For your specific
       | case, I agree OpenAI moderation is an annoying overreach and
       | maybe switching to Mistral could be a possible way to move
       | forward. The 7B is perhaps not good enough currently but we are
       | fast getting there and will likely have a GPT-4 level capability
       | in an open source < 20B model soon.
        
         | brucethemoose2 wrote:
         | Mistral 7B finetunes are extremely good. More than good enough
         | for an AI friend app, with long context to boot. I would
         | suggest Toppy-M or OpenHermes 2.5, or one of the new YARN
         | extended models.
         | 
         | And, there is the potential to run the model on the user's
         | device with MLC-LLM and whisper, to save on API costs (and
         | privacy concerns) for users with newer phones. This could give
         | the app a true "free" tier to help it proliferate while making
         | charging for API requests kinda doable. I'm not sure if any
         | good TTS models have been ported yet, but I'm sure its a matter
         | of time.
        
           | bilater wrote:
           | Yes - ASR on browser/device has reached the quality threshold
           | pretty much with distil whisper/ whisper 3.
           | 
           | Quality TTS with fast latency is still not there but getting
           | better (you can use Tortoise but its slow and compute
           | expensive as far as I know). Bark is another option but has
           | mixed results.
           | 
           | I played around with a recent transformers.js one (using
           | SpeechT5) you can run in your browser and am optimistic where
           | we can go with some improvements:
           | 
           | https://tinyllms.vercel.app/dashboard/tts
        
             | brucethemoose2 wrote:
             | I was recently pointed to xtts:
             | 
             | https://coqui.ai/blog/tts/open_xtts
             | 
             | I dunno about performance, but the model is 1.86GB.
        
       | thriftwy wrote:
       | I wonder if you could create an AI assist to help you hold on to
       | an existing relationship, though?
        
       | rpigab wrote:
       | I still don't understand why people are building things on top of
       | OpenAI's APIs.
       | 
       | It's obvious that in the early days, they'll operate at a loss,
       | with many free features and cheap premium features. It's a good
       | time to try it out and see what it can do, but you can't build
       | anything that relies on it, it's a rugpull waiting to happen.
       | 
       | They'll add moderation, raise prices, and you'll have to do the
       | same, your users will leave and the ones who stay will hate you.
       | This is only the beginning.
       | 
       | Use self-hostable open source alternatives even if they're less
       | easy to use or require infrastructure, and plan for high
       | electricity and storage bills. Whatever you build will last, as
       | long as you respect your users and don't peek at the cleartext
       | logs of users who didn't opt-in to that. It won't be easy.
       | 
       | If OpenAI keeps a monopoly on LLMs, they're gonna become like
       | Microsoft did with Windows, but the enshittification process will
       | be a thousand times faster.
        
         | gwern wrote:
         | You build it on top of the API to bootstrap and prototype with
         | a very high quality model that takes minutes to get started
         | with. Then once you have operated for a while, you have a ton
         | of logged data to train/retrieve/analyze and can swap in a
         | competitor, downgrade the OA model, finetune instead, or
         | something.
         | 
         | In OP case's, this worked perfectly: he built a working product
         | quickly and easily, and... discovered that it was a product he
         | didn't want to work on regardless of token cost, cut his
         | losses, did the post-mortem, and moved on with his life.
         | 
         | Imagine if he had wasted a year & a ton of money building his
         | own LLM "because I'll need to economize on tokens and have to
         | build a custom LLM" _before_ he could even launch!
        
         | urbandw311er wrote:
         | I'm torn on this.
         | 
         | Yes, it's never clever building a business on top of a single
         | platform dependency (eg Twitter, Facebook, Play Store, etc)
         | 
         | Equally, if you take the example of the App Store, market
         | pressures have actually forced Apple to _reduce_ their cut.
         | 
         | Time will tell I guess. And also whether OpenAI end up with a
         | monopoly, part of a duopoly etc.
        
         | pixl97 wrote:
         | People still build on Microsoft platforms. It turns out
         | actually having a usable platform is more important to some
         | businesses than having freedom and no usable platform.
        
       | grahamgooch wrote:
       | 6.9 dollars!
       | 
       | Cheeky my friend
        
         | halfjoking wrote:
         | Grok has an API looking for use cases.
         | 
         | Just let Elon know the pricing... "I'm all in"
        
       | gscott wrote:
       | Maybe record and save these AI NSFW responses then intercept the
       | request and spit out of the saved responses once you have enough
       | of them stored. This would save from behind banned from the API.
        
         | urbandw311er wrote:
         | My hunch is that they're too contextually dependent upon the
         | conversation / tokens that have come before. It's not simply a
         | "if user inputs A, output B" situation.
        
       | chrisbrandow wrote:
       | This is not meant as criticism of this author, but boy oh boy, do
       | I find this future depressing.
        
       | Smar wrote:
       | Maybe better to call it AI doll rather than AI girlfriend...
        
       | Octokiddie wrote:
       | > But, does humanity really need an AI friend?
       | 
       | This reminds me of the Fredrick Pohl line "A good science fiction
       | story should be able to predict not the automobile but the
       | traffic jam."
       | 
       | So I wonder what the traffic jam is going to look like given that
       | the car seems to already be parked outside with the engine
       | running.
       | 
       | Faster depopulation across the developed world? Probably, but
       | maybe there's something even more important.
       | 
       | I'd put what the author describes into the category of "pleasure
       | trip," which is what the car was mainly used for initially.
       | 
       | As infrastructure to support the car was built, it became a
       | necessity. And that's what created the traffic jam: network
       | effect. The suburb and the car fed on each other. You don't get a
       | traffic jam worth talking about without a suburb and a network
       | effect.
       | 
       | So I'm curious about the network effects something like an AI
       | friend might have. What kinds of new infrastructure and new
       | lifestyles will they enable/encourage? And how will this
       | infrastructure fuel future demand?
        
         | dpflan wrote:
         | Hm, let's try an extreme: the AI friend slowly becomes a cult
         | leader to you, hijacking your mind into subservience to the
         | owner of the service to which AI belongs, and further up some
         | social/political hierarchy to a few controlling people/groups
         | of people.
         | 
         | The traffic jam is society stymied by individuals mind-
         | controlled at a level closer to connection to a human than any
         | other way possible before this.
        
           | ericmcer wrote:
           | Kinda feel like you have that backwards, why would an AI that
           | sophisticated care about controlling your mind? Why would the
           | group of people who control that AI care about you as
           | anything other than a liability? What do they get out of
           | manipulating average individuals? Votes?
           | 
           | The scarier prospect to me is human labor and intelligence
           | become almost worthless and those at the top start to view
           | the masses as superfluous.
        
         | nemothekid wrote:
         | I think the pleasure trip is just porn. We have that already
         | and it's possible to discuss the effects of widespread porn on
         | people.
         | 
         | I think the next step is, what does it mean to have an
         | emotional relationship with someone in your pocket who is for
         | all definitions perfect - can provide perfect advice and does
         | so with judgement, ridicule, pity or anger? What will be my bar
         | for human relationships, those imperfect messy human beings,
         | when I have a partner I can be perfectly vulnerable with? What
         | happens to interpersonal relationships when you are competing
         | with a virtual perfect significant other?
        
       | narrator wrote:
       | I got koboldcpp (https://github.com/LostRuins/koboldcpp) running
       | locally on my M1 mac with 16gb. Use the guides on
       | http://4chan.org/g/ in the AI Chatbot Thread.
       | 
       | In the future, you will own and control access to your very own
       | AI girlfriend running on your local machine, and you will be
       | happy.
       | 
       | Think of all the millions of guys in China and elsewhere who, due
       | to sex selective abortion, will never have a wife. They deserve
       | to have their own Waifu running on their own computer that serves
       | them alone, and not the interests of the state or some
       | corporation.
        
         | Der_Einzige wrote:
         | Agreed. This is why Civit.AI and huggingface and the entire
         | rest of the open models movement need to be cherished and
         | protected. We are living in a golden age and don't know it yet,
         | but this is the era before big copyright and regulators come
         | shitting down on the beautiful thing the AI community has done
        
         | vivekd wrote:
         | For this to work the AI girlfriend has to be better than
         | videogames or online chat forums
         | 
         | I don't see AI partners overtaking those
        
           | ReactiveJelly wrote:
           | No reason she can't participate in chat forums or text games
           | with you, right? Imagine seeing a comment and recognizing her
           | username, and then flirting a little in a public thread.
        
       | sangnoir wrote:
       | > I even repeatedly modified the system prompt, such as changing
       | _try to attract {user}_
       | 
       | So it was a virtual _girlfriend_ app, after all. Cashing-in on
       | loneliness gives me the heebie-jeebies; in a dystopian cyberpunk
       | way - extremely horny but 0% sexy.
        
         | akomtu wrote:
         | "the Dolores iOS app went live" - his subconscious suggested a
         | good name. Mater Dolorosa is Mother of Sorrows in Latin.
        
         | QuercusMax wrote:
         | Reminds me of this article: https://bloodknife.com/everyone-
         | beautiful-no-one-horny/
        
         | nerdbert wrote:
         | Cashing in on loneliness is big business. Singles bars.
         | OKCupid. Half of the self-improvement/self-help world.
        
       | vivekd wrote:
       | To quote slate star codex, horny men want sex, horny women want
       | attention. AI is much better at the second.
       | 
       | Maybe there's more potential for AI boyfriends
        
       | dangerwill wrote:
       | Tech people, I beg you, BEG YOU, to learn media literacy. Her,
       | Black Mirror, Ready Player One, Cyberpunk, etc are dystopias not
       | something to aspire to
        
       | dangerwill wrote:
       | For those that are defending this on the basis of providing
       | "help" for lonely people, how does this not result in those
       | lonely people isolating from actual human society more? This
       | feels like it is going to create more hikikomoris more than
       | anything else
        
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