[HN Gopher] Home schooling's rise from fringe to fastest-growing...
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       Home schooling's rise from fringe to fastest-growing form of
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       Author : cs702
       Score  : 236 points
       Date   : 2023-10-31 14:29 UTC (8 hours ago)
        
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       | generalizations wrote:
       | https://archive.ph/KftoD
        
       | generalizations wrote:
       | > a largely unregulated practice once confined to the ideological
       | fringe
       | 
       | Tell me your bias without telling me you're biased.
        
         | 303uru wrote:
         | What about that is untrue?
        
           | generalizations wrote:
           | Nothing whatsoever - they are technically correct (the best
           | kind of correct). And yet it is also a descriptor that is
           | likely to prime the reader with a negative connotation.
           | There's a reason that witness oaths require not only "nothing
           | but the truth", but first of all "the whole truth".
        
             | voxic11 wrote:
             | I read it as acknowledging a preconception the reader is
             | likely to have and therefor building rapport with the
             | reader, not necessarily a sign of bias by the author.
        
               | generalizations wrote:
               | That just sounds like bias with extra steps. Which subset
               | of readers is the author choosing to build rapport with?
               | Which subset are they choosing _not_ to build rapport
               | with? Why one, and not the other? And anyway, why build
               | rapport at all - this isn 't an opinion piece.
        
           | HEmanZ wrote:
           | Is there some misunderstanding in English that "biased" means
           | "factually false"? I've seen a lot of people on the internet
           | confuse them as the same thing.
           | 
           | Bias is supposed to mean something that is factual but
           | presenting a one-sided opinion by e.g using a subset of facts
           | and language meant to influence the readers opinion.
        
         | MilStdJunkie wrote:
         | It's biased in the same way an unchoked shotgun shoots pellets
         | with wider dispersion. K-12 education done independently,
         | atomized from regional or national institutions, means people
         | come out more different, so the edges of the cluster are
         | further away. Homeschoolers are biased about 43% to white and
         | rural, so it's pretty fair that the fring is going to be on
         | that side of things. I'm kind of stumped as to how that's
         | biased.
        
           | zdragnar wrote:
           | You can't tell me with a straight face that public education
           | is a uniform experience in the US.
           | 
           | Just read through the comments other people have posted in
           | subthreads here about their own experiences.
           | 
           | My own school had a wide range of "don't bother learning, get
           | pregnant and drop out" to "goes on to elite university"
           | students, and everything in-between.
        
             | margalabargala wrote:
             | > You can't tell me with a straight face that public
             | education is a uniform experience in the US.
             | 
             | No one claimed that "public education is a uniform
             | experience in the US". Did you reply to the wrong comment?
             | 
             | Do you think the variability is wider among public schools,
             | or among homeschools?
        
         | hotnfresh wrote:
         | "Somalia--a country that once conjured images of famine and
         | interminable civil unrest--"
         | 
         | Is that snippet most likely an expression of bias, or is it
         | most likely setting up to challenge bias?
        
       | alex_young wrote:
       | https://web.archive.org/web/20231031143032/https://www.washi...
        
       | boeingUH60 wrote:
       | Good luck to these people, hope it turns out well. Personally, I
       | can't imagine home-schooling kids. I neither have the time nor
       | patience to do that, which is why I appreciate teachers.
       | 
       | Besides, I believe school is also a place for kids to socialize
       | with and learn from their peers. I'm very introverted, but I
       | think I would have ended up horribly social-wise if I was home-
       | schooled.
        
         | krastanov wrote:
         | Just FYI, while I share the overall sentiment, I think you are
         | not up to date on the socialization aspect of homeschooling.
         | Typical homeschooling today includes activities where most
         | homeschooled kids from the town gather together for PE or art
         | or other enrichment activities, maybe even specialized academic
         | activities.
        
           | Loughla wrote:
           | There is no such thing as typical homeschooling, in my
           | experience in education (decades and decades).
           | 
           | It is extremely dependent on 1. access to wealth, 2.
           | underlying reason for homeschooling (religion/safety/other
           | item), and 3. where in the country you live (rural v suburban
           | v urban).
           | 
           | In that order specifically. Homeschooling is the ultimate
           | class solidification technique. Those with wealth can almost
           | certainly guarantee their children will do really well. Those
           | without don't stand a chance in hell.
        
             | brodouevencode wrote:
             | > Homeschooling is the ultimate class solidification
             | technique
             | 
             | In what ways that are different from any public or private
             | school?
        
             | Taylor_OD wrote:
             | Yup. There are a few big buckets in the US.
             | 
             | 1. Religious Home Schoolers. They are primarily
             | homeschooled because the parents are very religious and
             | don't want them in public schools because of fears their
             | kids will become too secular.
             | 
             | 2. Wealthy Home Schoolers. These are very well off people
             | who choose to home school their kids for any number of
             | reasons (like their traditional schooling options being
             | poor) but can afford to hire tutors or teachers or if they
             | teach the kids themselves, there were previously teachers.
             | 
             | 3. Group Home Schoolers. These are families that have
             | grouped up to split the duties of homeschooling across
             | multiple families. Sometimes for all classes or just a few.
             | The kids are more likely to have more day-to-day connection
             | with other kids/students other than their siblings.
             | 
             | All of these groups have tons of cross over. Religious
             | group home schoolers is a big thing right now. But your
             | opinion on homeschooling is likely heavily built on the
             | type of homeschooling you have witnessed/been involved in.
             | 
             | At the end of the day, everyone has their own experience
             | and biases built into schooling from their own lived
             | experiences. For every, "I was homeschooled and grew up to
             | be very social and successful" story, there is a, "I
             | learned nothing and I don't know how to talk to people"
             | story.
        
             | chasd00 wrote:
             | > in my experience in education (decades and decades).
             | 
             | are you a public school teacher by chance? your view seems
             | biased against anyone who does not send their kids to
             | public school.
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | Large part of socialization is what happens outside of
           | structured interactions. During breaks, when being with
           | friends you have choosen by yourself and so on.
           | 
           | The activities you mention are not even thought about as
           | socialization situation outside of homeschooling context -
           | because kids come, engage in highly structured activity and
           | leave.
        
         | 303uru wrote:
         | Ya, this doesn't end well. The data isn't amazing for
         | homeschooling, but what I've seen shows a strong bimodal
         | distribution. Extremely wealthy home schoolers with tons of
         | resources have kids that perform well in college and have
         | strong lifetime earnings. Everyone else not so much, unprepared
         | for college, earnings well below their peers. Pair this with
         | the fairly predatory organizations offering "learning
         | materials" and education online. Could probably make a few
         | million launching an overnight online school run by a bible
         | trained LLM.
        
           | Turing_Machine wrote:
           | > Extremely wealthy home schoolers with tons of resources
           | have kids that perform well in college and have strong
           | lifetime earnings. Everyone else not so much, unprepared for
           | college, earnings well below their peers.
           | 
           | So... exactly the same as public schools, then?
        
             | chasd00 wrote:
             | right. what they want is "wealthy home schoolers with tons
             | of resources" to suffer in college and have low lifetime
             | earnings in the same way as "everyone else". That's
             | equality.
        
         | zaphar wrote:
         | I think possibly the worst place to learn and practice social
         | skills is from other kids who are just as in the dark as you
         | are.
         | 
         | In my experience a home schooled child is significantly more
         | likely to be good at social skills than a public schooled
         | child. They are also adept at navigating adult conversation and
         | social situations much sooner.
        
           | Loughla wrote:
           | My experience is the absolute opposite of yours. In all
           | seriousness, there is a trend of homeschooled kids coming to
           | the local large high school for the extracurriculars, and the
           | school offering Autism testing, because they are so far
           | behind socially.
           | 
           | I find it interesting that your experience is the opposite.
           | Where in the world do you live?
        
             | zaphar wrote:
             | I've lived all over the country. I was homeschooled as well
             | and have a number of friends who were.
             | 
             | Anecdotal evidence is going to vary certainly and effect is
             | highly dependent on the parent. But I've been around
             | homeschooling groups for over 30 years now and the balance
             | of them have been significantly ahead of the public
             | schooled.
        
             | Turing_Machine wrote:
             | > the school offering Autism testing, because they are so
             | far behind socially.
             | 
             | Do you have any published evidence for this?
        
           | rootusrootus wrote:
           | My experience is exactly the opposite. Homeschooled kids
           | frequently have to learn how to adult all at once, right as
           | they get dumped into the pool with everyone else to go find a
           | way to make a living.
           | 
           | The most successful kids that I see are the ones who have
           | professional instructors by day and excellent support at
           | home. Not one or the other, but both.
        
             | Turing_Machine wrote:
             | > Homeschooled kids frequently have to learn how to adult
             | all at once
             | 
             | How does sitting in a room with a bunch of kids, all of
             | whom are within one year of you in age, with an authority
             | figure at the front telling you exactly what to do, teach
             | you "how to adult"?
             | 
             | It might prepare you for Army boot camp, which is the only
             | "adult" place you're likely to encounter that kind of
             | environment. Even prison usually has a range of age groups.
        
               | rootusrootus wrote:
               | > with an authority figure at the front telling you
               | exactly what to do
               | 
               | This is not an accurate description of school. Maybe,
               | _maybe_ in high school and college you kinda sorta get to
               | something resembling that, but for elementary school and
               | middle school it is nothing at all like your description.
               | 
               | I'll grant you that 40-50 years ago it was a bit more
               | regimented. I'm old too. But I have school age kids in
               | both elementary and middle school, and I have a lot of
               | experience in what their environment looks like. It's
               | very dynamic, lots of hands-on learning opportunities.
        
               | tivert wrote:
               | > This is not an accurate description of school. Maybe,
               | maybe in high school and college you kinda sorta get to
               | something resembling that, but for elementary school and
               | middle school it is nothing at all like your description.
               | 
               | Elementary and middle school are even _less_ like being
               | an adult than high school
               | 
               | I think GP's point is that the school environment is
               | nothing like "adulting," so your original point was just
               | plain wrong.
               | 
               | And I agree with the GP: I don't see any reason why home-
               | schooled kids would be at a disadvantage to public school
               | kids when learning to navigate the adult world, because
               | the school environment is strange and not at all focused
               | on "adult life skills."
        
               | Turing_Machine wrote:
               | > This is not an accurate description of school.
               | 
               | Hmm... so you're saying that students aren't segregated
               | into artificial cohorts of a specific age, and there
               | isn't an authority figure in the classroom telling them
               | what to do?
               | 
               | Perhaps that's the case where you live (though
               | I'm...skeptical), but it certainly is the case here and
               | everywhere else I've ever lived.
        
             | chasd00 wrote:
             | "who have professional instructors by day"
             | 
             | what school age child has access to that? Maybe in the most
             | selective and well funded private schools there's
             | professional instructors put public school? No way.
        
               | mcast wrote:
               | Probably school districts in close proximity to
               | prestigious schools (Boston/Harvard) who can hire new
               | grads who want to stay within the university bubble.
        
           | weeznerps wrote:
           | >They are also adept at navigating adult conversation and
           | social situations much sooner.
           | 
           | And they are often worse at navigating interactions with
           | children who are not homeschooled (at least I was).
           | Specificity is king.
        
           | chasd00 wrote:
           | home school kids arent locked in a cage. There's all kinds of
           | social engagement activities available to home schoolers, i
           | would argue even more than public school. The social
           | isolation rumor of home schoolers is totally unfounded in my
           | experience. Maybe it was true 30 years ago but it's certainly
           | not true for school age kids toay.
        
         | brodouevencode wrote:
         | When you have kids your perspective on many, many things
         | changes in very big ways. This is more true when the pregnancy
         | is planned for and you and your spouse are both ready to have
         | children.
         | 
         | We don't personally home school but have many friends that do.
         | It's a very common thing in our church and community. It's hard
         | to tell what kids are homeschooled versus the ones that aren't.
         | Many homeschools engage in co-op programs and use curricula to
         | drive personal engagement. For instance in one family we're
         | very good friends with they use a curriculum that requires
         | community service for middle school ages and up. There are
         | several charities that they engage with in addition to the
         | community service activities that the church is doing.
        
         | chongli wrote:
         | Home schooling doesn't mean setting up the garage with a
         | chalkboard and two kids at their desks with mom or dad playing
         | teacher. Home schooling doesn't even have to take place at
         | home! Lots of homeschooling parents will take their kids to the
         | library, the (science, art, natural history) museum, to offices
         | and factories, and out into nature preserves.
         | 
         | It also doesn't mean just Billy and his little sister Jenny
         | learning all by themselves. Homeschooling parents often join
         | groups where they can bring all the kids together. The kids can
         | socialize and the parents can share responsibility for teaching
         | and supervising.
         | 
         | It also doesn't mean just the parents participate. At my local
         | public library, the children's floor has a huge amount of
         | programming aimed at homeschooling families. The librarians run
         | activities with the kids, showing them how to find books in the
         | library for science research, make crafts together (by hand and
         | with library 3D printers), learn about engineering by building
         | cars and robots with electronics components.
         | 
         | Homeschooling can of course be done badly and we should worry
         | about kids in those environments. However, homeschooling done
         | right can be far more dynamic and engaging than the best public
         | schools around. It also doesn't have to be expensive, it just
         | takes time and commitment from the parents involved.
        
         | bluefirebrand wrote:
         | In Alberta, homeschool is really more akin to "remote school"
         | than homeschool.
         | 
         | The kids are still required to pass the same exams to get their
         | high school diploma, and they still get a package of course
         | work and required reading and such. They also have access to a
         | teacher to ask questions to, who can help explain concepts,
         | projects, and such.
         | 
         | My wife was homeschooled here growing up and she loved it. She
         | would finish her school for the day in the morning then do
         | whatever she wanted for the rest of her time. She would also
         | finish her courses early and have long summers. Now she has a
         | masters degree and leads teams at work.
         | 
         | Definitely not for every family or every kid, but the outcomes
         | don't have to be terrible
        
       | brightball wrote:
       | When I moved into my current house about 10 years ago, the family
       | next door home schooled. I'd never known any home schoolers
       | before and definitely had some notions about how terrible it must
       | be until I learned about it.
       | 
       | This family was part of a home school group with other families.
       | The kids went to different houses every day and had an instructor
       | focus on 1 subject for half of the day, mixed in with free time,
       | depending on the age. 2 subjects per day, so as a parent your
       | teaching commitment was a half day a week on 1 subject.
       | 
       | They would do field trips. They held a school play in a garage
       | complete with costumes and video. And the kids were smart, well
       | mannered, socially adjusted kids with very happy and normal
       | lives. And there are plenty of sports opportunities as well. As
       | far as I know, they all went to public high school too.
       | 
       | Completely shifted my view of what I thought home schooling was,
       | which was the kids stuck in 1 house with 1 parent all day in
       | social isolation.
       | 
       | The reality was closer to a model of a Montessori school which
       | has a huge amount of success stories.
        
         | CharlesW wrote:
         | There are many home-schooling success stories, and also many
         | home-schooling horror stories.
         | 
         | https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2020/05/law-school-pr...
        
           | keiferski wrote:
           | It seems to me that the only relevant question here is how
           | home schooling compares to public schools when it comes to
           | "horror stories." And there certainly aren't a lack of public
           | school horror stories...
        
             | pixl97 wrote:
             | There are plenty of 'public school' horror stories because
             | these things are public and can be audited in a great
             | number of cases.
             | 
             | You don't get to hear the homeschooling horrors when they
             | happen because they are private. Maybe you'll be a
             | therapist and years later get to talk to one of these
             | people how they are effectively crippled for the rest of
             | their life. Or you'll be like me that grew up in a place
             | that had a bunch of religious organizations that
             | homeschooled most of their children with educations that
             | I'd consider completely and totally deficient, and then
             | pull those same people back into the organization as
             | cheap/uneducated labor they could abuse.
        
               | keiferski wrote:
               | Sure, I don't think anyone denies that there are some
               | home schooling horror stories. But it really doesn't seem
               | like most public schools do a great job either, so the
               | question is if this broken system damages more people
               | than one dominated by home schooling.
        
               | klodolph wrote:
               | We have some insight into the answer to this, because
               | public schooling is (more or less) a replacement for home
               | schooling. Home schooling has an incredible amount of
               | inequality built in to it. Affluent parents can hire
               | instructors. Poor parents may not even be able to meet
               | their children's basic schooling needs, if it weren't for
               | public schools.
               | 
               | Obviously there's a lot of middle ground between those
               | two extremes, and the circumstances today don't exactly
               | match the circumstances of the mid-19th century, which is
               | roughly when modern public schools started appearing in
               | the US (based on the "Prussian model").
               | 
               | There are a lot of different objectives that public
               | schooling sets out to achieve. It can be too easy to
               | focus on narrow sets of metrics like test scores, or
               | collect a bunch of anecdotes about bad experiences in
               | public schools (or bad experiences in homeschooling). IMO
               | it's probably a lot easier to fix this broken system
               | rather than burn it to the ground and do homeschooling
               | instead.
        
               | scarmig wrote:
               | > IMO it's probably a lot easier to fix this broken
               | system rather than burn it to the ground and do
               | homeschooling instead.
               | 
               | Imagine your school district has banned teaching algebra
               | to 8th graders, for reasons of equity. You're upset at
               | this, since you have a child about to attend 8th grade.
               | You go to a school board meeting, express yourself, and
               | are at best ignored or more likely called names. What,
               | from the perspective of a parent with a child who needs
               | an education, do you then do? Fixing the system would be
               | nice and all, but how do you do that before your kid
               | becomes an adult, let alone make up for all the damage
               | public schooling has been doing in the meantime?
        
               | otoburb wrote:
               | If a family is willing and resourced to (deeply) consider
               | homeschooling because of one subject (you mentioned
               | Algebra for 8th graders[1]), then another less
               | expensive/effortful path could be hiring an afterschool
               | math tutor, or sitting down with your child to work
               | through Khan Academy together.
               | 
               | Both suggestions require extra time, while still keeping
               | your child "within the system" through attending school
               | and (presumably?) receiving a decent-enough education in
               | other non-math subjects. If the malaise extends to (many)
               | other subjects, then I could see how home schooling
               | becomes a more attractive option.
               | 
               | [1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=37741653
        
               | petertodd wrote:
               | > then another less expensive/effortful path could be
               | hiring an afterschool math tutor, or sitting down with
               | your child to work through Khan Academy together.
               | 
               | ...so now after your child spends hours every day at
               | school, they have to spend yet more hours learning what
               | they should have learned in school.
               | 
               | You can see why so many parents decide that for more
               | effort, they can save their child a lot of wasted time,
               | effort, resentment, and bad influences. Particularly
               | families where at least one parent can stay at home (and
               | these days, working from home makes that so much easier
               | once kids are old enough to learn by themselves).
        
               | ndriscoll wrote:
               | The math situation is a clear signal that school
               | administration/education departments do not prioritize
               | education, and in fact find it unfair that some students
               | actually manage to learn something, and want to stop
               | that. It's not that they don't have the resources or
               | enough interest to fill classes; it's that they don't
               | want kids to learn too much. It's fair to infer that this
               | attitude is not limited to math.
               | 
               | Ostensibly education is why the schools exist. If they're
               | not going to do that, let's at least let the kids go play
               | in the park or something. They'd probably get better
               | socialization that way anyway.
        
               | sfink wrote:
               | > the circumstances today don't exactly match the
               | circumstances of the mid-19th century
               | 
               | That's a bit of an understatement. I'm not great at
               | history, but my understanding is that the mid-19th
               | century was a little lacking in videoconferencing
               | software, educated people with the resources to be on the
               | other end of that video link, population density to have
               | enough other like-minded kids within driving... uh,
               | horse-riding range, up to date books, parents who weren't
               | gone to the factories or fields during the day, etc.
               | 
               | > There are a lot of different objectives that public
               | schooling sets out to achieve.
               | 
               | Agreed. There is a smaller set of objectives that they
               | actually do achieve.
               | 
               | > IMO it's probably a lot easier to fix this broken
               | system rather than burn it to the ground and do
               | homeschooling instead.
               | 
               | I would assert that it's impossible to fix this broken
               | system, and I can cite a lot of past history. I would
               | also assert that replacing it entirely with homeschooling
               | (which is not a single thing, but whatever) is also a
               | guaranteed path to failure. The only hope I see is for
               | exploration to be possible, and for people in the
               | different situations to learn from each other. The public
               | school institutions do try to experiment, but are
               | incredibly restricted in all sorts of ways. Homeschoolers
               | have the training wheels off and are much more free to
               | crash straight into the bushes or off a cliff, but in
               | practice plenty don't and plenty come up with a lot of
               | different ways of doing things, some of them that seem to
               | be working quite well in practice -- academically,
               | socially, etc.
               | 
               | I agree that sucking resources out of public schools to
               | benefit the privileged few is very troubling and
               | worrisome. But so is the current state and trajectory of
               | public schooling, and holding everyone back may be short
               | term fair but long term disastrous.
               | 
               | We're homeschooling one of our kids (both until recently,
               | when one went to a public charter high school). We've
               | seen the institutional effects firsthand. Simple example:
               | we found excellent math resources, but they weren't "A-G"
               | accredited for University of California entrance
               | requirements. Which gave us pause, since we wanted to
               | leave that option open. We ended up going through a A-G
               | accredited program, the best of what we could identify,
               | for a semester. It was crap: rote memorization of
               | algorithms exactly matching to the state standards, lots
               | of repetitive exercises, minimally useful feedback from
               | teachers and their assistants. My son passed all of their
               | tests and got an A+ grade, and is now a semester behind
               | in math because none of that stuck in a way that is
               | useful for building on. It was a waste of time. We gave
               | up on it and the whole accredited path, and went back to
               | an online program that is far more conceptual, rigorous,
               | and just plain effective. (His earlier public school
               | experience was somewhere in the middle, Again he did
               | quite well there according to the state tests.)
               | 
               | My guess is that it's yet another form of
               | enshittification: A-G accreditation is very valuable, but
               | once you get it there's no profit in increasing quality,
               | only in growing your student base. There aren't enough
               | accredited places to provide any competition on quality,
               | especially when there's so much disagreement about what
               | "quality" is in the first place, and as usual any useful
               | definition ends up being expensive. Non-accredited places
               | have to compete on quality.
               | 
               | (For anyone who finds value in my personal opinions:
               | Silicon Valley High School math bad, Art of Problem
               | Solving math good.)
        
               | dmazzoni wrote:
               | Are you comparing the best public schools to the best
               | homeschools? Or the worst to the worst? Or the average to
               | the average?
               | 
               | I suspect that the education kids get at the worst 20% of
               | public schools in the country is still way better than
               | the worst 20% of homeschoolers.
               | 
               | I also would totally believe that the education kids get
               | at the top 20% of homeschools is better than the average
               | public school.
               | 
               | Public schools are far from perfect, but there are
               | minimum standards and there are resources at the state
               | and federal level to try to improve schools that aren't
               | meeting those standards.
               | 
               | My problem with homeschools is that in most states, there
               | aren't any standards being enforced. If homeschools had
               | surprise inspections and biannual state-run testing, I'd
               | be fine with it.
        
               | biomcgary wrote:
               | The reason why many homeschoolers opt out of public
               | schools is because of those minimum standards. Who wants
               | their children to be taught to a minimal standard? My
               | autistic son would still be completely non-verbal (and
               | probably worse) if we put him into the local public
               | school system. We saw the classroom he would have been
               | in, it was horrific. Instead, he has a speech language
               | pathologist working with him one-on-one three to four
               | hours per day.
        
               | pixl97 wrote:
               | The homeschooling crowd is so far up their own butts that
               | they cannot accept homeschooling has horrific and hidden
               | outcomes.
               | 
               | It's kind of the democracy versus authoritarianism
               | debate. Authoritarians typically look really good on
               | paper because they can conceal their mistakes, while the
               | democracy bears all to the populace. And yea, there are
               | some benevolent dictatorships with great outcomes, but I
               | don't think that a single one of the homeschoolers would
               | think that would be a valid point because it's also the
               | exception.
        
               | Spooky23 wrote:
               | Comparing homeschools to the worst public schools is a
               | false comparison in the United States, as school quality
               | equates to wealth, and poor people by and large don't
               | homeschool.
               | 
               | Most of this stuff is driven by religion and politics.
        
               | BobaFloutist wrote:
               | One of the biggest, most important roles of public
               | schools is to pry children away from their parents and
               | give them baseline floor of education and independence
               | (as well as force them to interact with the public,
               | giving them context for what's normal and presenting
               | opportunities for abuse to be discovered), no matter how
               | crazy or abusive their parents are. The education can be
               | pretty mediocre, as long as it achieves this goal.
               | 
               | Letting parents opt out of public schools means that the
               | most committed abusers get to sidestep this safety valve.
        
               | dingnuts wrote:
               | > educations that I'd consider completely and totally
               | deficient, and then pull those same people back into the
               | organization as cheap/uneducated labor they could abuse.
               | 
               | You just described public schools, Universities, and
               | their relationship to the student loan racket. Deficient
               | education followed by indentured servitude through loan
               | repayment. False advertising by public school teachers of
               | a ticket to the easy life through any university degree.
               | If I had a nickel for every person I've met who had their
               | life messed up by that lie, I'd be rich
        
               | soco wrote:
               | I suppose you are talking about the US school system of
               | late, right? Because even there it used to be better, and
               | there's also an entire world outside with many different
               | systems (possibly with their own rackets, just like
               | homeschooling).
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | > You don't get to hear the homeschooling horrors when
               | they happen because they are private.
               | 
               | You're also not going to hear about the homeschooling
               | horrors from the typical HN demographic. Broadly, and
               | obviously with exceptions, there are two groups of
               | parents who choose to homeschool: 1. Parents who have an
               | abundance of educational resources and time and do it to
               | provide a higher quality of education, and 2. Parents who
               | do it for religious separatism reasons because public
               | school gets in the way of their indoctrination. Selection
               | bias means you're going to see a lot of the outcomes from
               | #1 posting here, and not a lot of #2.
               | 
               | For every example who was homeschooled with a high-
               | quality curriculum, had great parent-run
               | extracurriculars, socialized well, and so on, how many
               | examples are invisibly stuck as someone's housewife who
               | can't even be employed because their only textbook was
               | the Bible, and they didn't learn anything past 3rd grade
               | math? They're not posting their horror story here on HN.
        
               | eduction wrote:
               | Why do you presume that religious parents necessarily
               | have bad outcomes homeschooling?
               | 
               | I have a relative who is deeply religious. I know I would
               | not agree with her on, for example, evolution. But she is
               | loving and devoted and her two daughters have received
               | tons of time and investment from her in their education,
               | far more than they would receive in a public school.
               | 
               | I obviously haven't, like, tested her kids, but they do
               | seem smart and well adjusted. I'm not really worried
               | about the limitations on their scientific learning --
               | it's not ideal if they are skipping some evolutionary
               | biology (I actually have no idea but I assume they are)
               | but they are going to leave home, go to college in a very
               | secular country and get to learn that stuff. I'm sure
               | with the internet they are already widely exposed to what
               | science has to say about e.g. the creation of the
               | universe (which, honestly, how many high school students
               | could walk you through?).
               | 
               | By the way, I don't think there is anyone homeschooling
               | with the "only textbook is the Bible" and in most states
               | you need to file a curriculum every year that gets
               | reviewed and approved.
        
               | throwaway626 wrote:
               | > By the way, I don't think there is anyone homeschooling
               | with the "only textbook is the Bible"
               | 
               | They're pretty common, in fact. Here's a curriculum
               | company that'll gladly give you the tools:
               | https://answersingenesis.org/homeschool-edition/
               | 
               | "The Bible is the only education you need" is a very
               | common meme among evangelical Christians.
               | 
               | > and in most states you need to file a curriculum every
               | year that gets reviewed and approved.
               | 
               | Most states have almost no recourse to reject submitted
               | curricula, no matter how specious they are. One
               | influential homeschool association has a 24/7 legal
               | hotline specifically for subverting these mild attempts
               | at accountability.
        
               | bumbledraven wrote:
               | >> By the way, I don't think there is anyone
               | homeschooling with the "only textbook is the Bible"
               | 
               | > Here's a curriculum company that'll gladly give you the
               | tools: https://answersingenesis.org/homeschool-edition/
               | 
               | Contrary to your claim, the linked page implies nothing
               | about the Bible being the "only textbook". It simply
               | offers a set of Bible lessons for homeschoolers ("This
               | exciting curriculum contains homeschool lessons that
               | cover the entire Bible chronologically in four
               | years...").
        
               | throwaway626 wrote:
               | You misread the claim and are arguing against something I
               | didn't say.
        
               | NotSuspicious wrote:
               | While you only wrote that that website provides the
               | "tools" it would have been very reasonable to infer from
               | your comment that you were also implying that they agreed
               | with Bible-alone teaching.
        
               | bugglebeetle wrote:
               | I would assume any kind of education that is dependent on
               | strict adherence to a specific ideological doctrine,
               | whose tolerance of free inquiry is similarly constrained,
               | to underperform one without these limitations. This was
               | my experience of attending public schools that were under
               | the thumb of right wing religious nuts vs. attending a
               | state university that was not. I learned much more at the
               | latter than the former.
        
               | dmazzoni wrote:
               | Not all religious parents who homeschool will have bad
               | outcomes, but it's by far the largest demographic of
               | people who fail to actually educate their children.
               | 
               | As for your last statement: in most states there's no
               | oversight. Sure, parents have to file a curriculum that
               | gets reviewed and approved. Parents jump through that
               | hoop by downloading a curriculum and mailing it in.
               | There's nobody checking that they actually follow any of
               | that curriculum. There's no state-run testing as a check
               | and balance.
        
               | Spooky23 wrote:
               | Religious groups have broad discretion in curriculum in
               | most states.
               | 
               | My kids went to a Catholic elementary school, where I was
               | the school board president. A breakaway group tried to
               | insert a "classical education" curriculum on the school,
               | which is a popular trend in more right-wing Christian
               | schools that was adopted from homeschool curriculum.
               | 
               | The biggest growth in private schooling is in this and
               | similar curriculum. It's attractive to more reactionary
               | people as they can assert "local control" while using
               | texts that are too old to be considered controversial.
               | 
               | Parents aren't to blame necessarily, people want what's
               | good for their kids. But awful elements of society are
               | abusing religion to achieve their social ends. In my
               | case, I was accused of being a "Marxist" for not
               | condemning a fundraiser that provided winter clothing for
               | poor children, including migrants swooped up and shipped
               | across the country. We've allowed people to be
               | brainwashed by charlatans.
        
               | bakuninsbart wrote:
               | If your relative is so indoctrinated by neo-christian
               | ideology that they believe in creationism over evolution,
               | the question is more if they should raise children at
               | all, much less educate them.
        
               | escapedmoose wrote:
               | A few friends shared with me some of the textbooks that
               | their extremely religious sister uses to homeschool her
               | children. They were hilarious! Extremely inaccurate and
               | full of indoctrination garbage. Then we all realized that
               | this is what these kids' "education" amounts to... not as
               | funny anymore. Maybe their only textbook isn't the Bible,
               | but that doesn't mean it's any good.
               | 
               | After her eldest child was bordering on middle school age
               | and still completely illiterate, she wound up sending the
               | lot back to public schools. Thank god, but I still feel
               | awful for those kids.
               | 
               | (Mandatory "not all homeschoolers" of course.)
        
               | petertodd wrote:
               | Much more important to worry about how well the kids
               | understand math, and secondarily, physics (aka applied
               | math!) and/or similarly math-using subjects (accounting,
               | baking, chemistry, economics, programming, etc. etc.
               | etc.) Those subjects are genuinely hard to master, and
               | everyone should understand the basics because they're
               | useful for so many careers.
               | 
               | As you say, learning the basics of evolution is something
               | that can be done on your own in a weekend reading
               | wikipedia. Similarly, you can learn the mainstream
               | scientific explanations of how the universe was created
               | from watching a few youtube videos. That's basically how
               | I learned that stuff as an (atheist) homeschooled kid.
               | 
               | School seems to fail to teach the philosophy of science
               | well anyway - skepticism, evidence, double-blind testing,
               | etc. So I don't think evangelical homeschoolers are
               | missing that much.
        
               | pdonis wrote:
               | _> public school gets in the way of their indoctrination_
               | 
               | Public schools themselves indoctrinate children--just
               | with a different set of values than many parents have.
               | The people who built the US system of widespread
               | compulsory public schooling in the US were quite explicit
               | about that being one of the primary purposes of the
               | system. (So were the people who built the Prussian system
               | that was referenced elsewhere in the thread.)
        
               | biomcgary wrote:
               | Assumptions about homeschooling are just a socially
               | acceptable form of stereotyping. I was homeschooled and
               | I'm a computational evolutionary biologist with a Ph.D
               | from a reasonably well known state university.
               | 
               | Yale flew me out to interview for a biology graduate
               | program. I had the credentials and test scores to be
               | considered, but was turned down, quite possibly because
               | of those stereotypes (based on the questions I got in the
               | interview process).
        
               | Animats wrote:
               | Right. I've seen #1 in Silicon Valley. One homeschooled
               | girl made it into Harvard. (Unfortunately, she died there
               | in a horse accident.)
        
               | FireBeyond wrote:
               | Very much so. Watching the Last Week Tonight segment
               | (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lzsZP9o7SlI) on this
               | recently, in a startling number of states, a one time
               | declaration that you're homeschooling effectively drops
               | the kids out of the system with zero oversight from that
               | point on.
               | 
               | You get things like a Christian family whose "curriculum"
               | for their daughters was: listen to classical music, bible
               | listening 20 minutes/day, handwriting, bible
               | memorization, exercise 15/day (not great so far, but wait
               | for it): clean room 6/week, fold laundry 5/week, clean
               | living room 5/week, clear off bar 6/week, tidy shelves in
               | dining room 3/week, tidy stereo cabinet 2/week, clean
               | brown cupboard in pantry 5/week, clean storeroom 1/week,
               | tidy blue chest, dust piano, clean and vacuum, clean
               | hallway, make bed...
        
             | Taylor_OD wrote:
             | I don't know if that is the only relevant question. If you
             | have a terrible time in public/traditional school, you may
             | resent and blame a whole slew of factors. If you have a
             | terrible time while homeschooled, you are likely to resent
             | and blame the people teaching you or the ones who made that
             | decision for you. Your parents.
             | 
             | That is a pretty serious factor to weight.
        
             | scythe wrote:
             | Research on the question is limited. One review found
             | _weakly_ positive average outcomes for homeschooled
             | children, although they performed worse in one interesting
             | dimension: they were considered inferior military recruits.
             | 
             | https://www.educacaodomiciliar.fe.unicamp.br/sites/www.educ
             | a...
             | 
             | Selection effects create a "blind men and the elephant"
             | problem when considering anecdotes about homeschoolers.
             | Homeschool children who return to public school may do so
             | because their parents lack the resources to homeschool them
             | effectively, so they might perform worse (academically &
             | socially) than the average homeschool child. But homeschool
             | children who get jobs in the technology industry and post
             | on _Hacker News_ are probably more successful than the
             | average. It remains for the reader to determine whether the
             | lack of  "success" of homeschool children who join the
             | military, in contrast to homeschooler mean success
             | elsewhere, is due to a selection effect or a psychological
             | effect of homeschooling.
        
             | FireBeyond wrote:
             | An acquaintance of mine and his wife just started an
             | alternative, semi-home school (hybrid system). Neither of
             | them have any education experience, just a
             | libertarian/anti-government mindset.
             | 
             | They were able to franchise a school for, I believe
             | $10-15,000 (certainly under $20K), a background check, and
             | a 2 hour open book test for them both.
             | 
             | I struggle to see how this is acceptable for not just
             | "homeschooling" your own kids, but other people's kids.
        
           | Amezarak wrote:
           | Similarly, there are many public school horror stories. For
           | example, despite spending $21k/student, making it the third-
           | highest funded school system in the country, 23 Baltimore
           | schools failed to produce a single student with basic math
           | proficiency.[1]
           | 
           | One of my friends went to a school where she was beaten every
           | day and the teachers had totally given up and most of them
           | did not teach.
           | 
           | Unfortunately, we need much more data than we have. The
           | article mentions school quality is often not the driving
           | reason for homeschooling, but you can definitely imagine
           | public schools where almost any level of homeschooling is a
           | better alternative.
           | 
           | [1] https://foxbaltimore.com/news/project-baltimore/state-
           | test-r....
           | 
           | My children are in public school, but I am not sure if they
           | will stay there. Even in "good" schools, there's many
           | problems (especially in middle schools) and a lot of time is
           | wasted if your kids have any academic ability at all.
        
             | orochimaaru wrote:
             | School is parents + school. I would say about 60% parenting
             | and 40% school. If you don't push your kid academically
             | nothing is going to happen.
             | 
             | Peer groups matter. In "good" schools you're optimizing the
             | peer group. A good/bad school rating has little to do with
             | teacher capability.
        
               | toomuchtodo wrote:
               | So when do we start blaming parents instead of schools?
               | And saying, "this is what you get, take it or leave it,
               | you have to put effort in too"? Parents treat themselves
               | as customers expecting a turnkey service, when instead
               | they are stakeholders with their own book of work and
               | responsibilities they need to be accountable for to
               | deliver the environment and education their child will
               | need to become a functioning member of society.
        
               | huytersd wrote:
               | This aspect is so different from South and East Asian
               | society. We expect little from the teachers (not to say
               | they're bad), the majority of the onus and blame lies
               | with the parent.
        
               | Amezarak wrote:
               | It sounds like the article is about parents holding
               | themselves fully accountable for their children's
               | education.
               | 
               | The problem is what you do with the parents who do not
               | care at all. People making these statements that "it's
               | about the parents" - well, it has some truth to it. But
               | when 10% of the students are running the halls, screaming
               | and fighting, beating random kids, having sex and doing
               | drugs in the bathrooms, and assaulting teachers who don't
               | care anymore, then it doesn't matter what the other 90%
               | of the parents are doing.
        
               | nradov wrote:
               | We started blaming parents long, long ago and never
               | stopped. Unfortunately that's not effective in many
               | cases. A lot of parents are ineffectual, apathetic, or
               | shameless. Blaming them might make the rest of us feel
               | morally superior but it doesn't improve outcomes for
               | their children.
               | 
               | And for older children, peers tend to influence them more
               | than parents anyway. Turning around a failing student
               | will often require separating them from their current
               | friends. Tough to do when you can't afford to move to a
               | better school district.
        
               | ViktorV wrote:
               | Just a personal anectode: I'm pretty sure that this
               | wasn't true for me. I think some humans have an instinct
               | for survival, maybe all of them, if a persons emotional
               | needs are met then developing, advancing, learning is a
               | natural byproduct without any external pressure. Just
               | like we learn to talk and walk without someone telling us
               | to do.
               | 
               | All the push just hurt me in the end, I would be a lot
               | better off without traditional school, rarely I learned
               | anything useful there.
        
               | orochimaaru wrote:
               | Push for me isn't edicts. It's providing support and
               | opportunity. I send my daughter to extra math lessons.
               | She didn't need them she was solidly an average. But
               | getting those has really improved her level. I have to
               | spend time with her, make learning fun, help with
               | homework, coax reasoning out of an opinionated 12 yr old,
               | etc, etc.
               | 
               | It's not a "do this or else". It's basically let's do it
               | together.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | I would guess it's 90% parenting and 10% school.
               | 
               | If you search niche.com, you can see proficiency scores
               | correlate exactly with household income. Same school
               | systems, same new facilities, same teacher compensation,
               | same class sizes.
        
               | jewayne wrote:
               | And I would say that 50% of parenting is getting your kid
               | into the right school. I don't know about you, but
               | suburban life as I know it is organized entirely around
               | the importance of a good school district.
               | 
               | And are you saying they have per-student household income
               | data? Or they just have the household income data for the
               | school district as a whole? Or maybe the household income
               | data for the student body as a whole? Those are very
               | different things.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | I assume niche.com is using household incomes for a
               | specific school's surrounding neighborhoods, although I
               | cannot attest to how accurate it is compared to actual
               | school boundaries.
               | 
               | I think we might be saying the same thing though, since
               | "right" school generally means a school where a large
               | proportion of the other kids have parents who are
               | throwing a lot of resources at the kids (including the
               | parents' time and attitudes towards academic learning).
               | It just so happens that this group of parents is higher
               | income, so the easily visible statistic will be
               | neighborhoods with higher income households will have
               | higher academic proficiency percentages in the schools.
               | 
               | There is also this old map:
               | 
               | https://opportunityatlas.org/
        
             | psychlops wrote:
             | I doubt if homeschooling would work in Baltimore either.
        
               | whatshisface wrote:
               | What "different" schools allow parents to do is pull the
               | top 1% of lucky students out to escape. Maybe most of the
               | parents in the low cost of living areas can't give any
               | time to their children because they've got three jobs,
               | but there are always going to be the few that can. The
               | same goes for a few who can one way or another afford
               | private school. It's better that three percent get
               | through than none.
        
               | jewayne wrote:
               | Well, unless having the three percent get through makes
               | it impossible to improve the condition of the other 97%.
               | Survivorship bias is our favorite logical fallacy here in
               | the US.
        
               | whatshisface wrote:
               | Yeah, if you reduce the number of frogs in the pot while
               | keeping the burner setting constant, the ones remaining
               | will boil sooner.
        
             | escapedmoose wrote:
             | Baltimore's government has been corrupt af for years for
             | some reason or another. In this circumstance, they should
             | be treated as an outlier imo
        
           | onlyrealcuzzo wrote:
           | Almost exactly like public and private school!
        
           | newsclues wrote:
           | Sounds like regular schools or private boarding schools.
           | 
           | Schools are a tool to teach people at scale. Tools can be
           | used well or poorly and for various end goals.
        
           | bitlax wrote:
           | I guess enough time has passed that people are posting
           | Elizabeth Bartolet again.
        
           | omginternets wrote:
           | Are there any broad indicators of what separates the success
           | stories from the horror stories?
        
         | 303uru wrote:
         | Sure, that's one model. The underlying problem is the
         | completely unregulated nature. Similarly, there is household in
         | my neighborhood that home schools. The kids (all 8 of them)
         | never leave the house. They have a 8ft. fence and 1 acre yard
         | where I assume they get some outside time. No one visits. Only
         | dad is allowed to talk to anyone and when he does it's
         | extraordinarily weird.
        
           | brodouevencode wrote:
           | For this anecdote I can provide you with about 20 anecdotes
           | that are the complete opposite in nature. There is no
           | regulation, but does there need to be? Homeschoolers take the
           | same standardized tests as everyone else - that's about as
           | regulatory as it needs to be (and even that's questionable).
        
             | rjbwork wrote:
             | This is just not the case. In many states it's nearly
             | completely unregulated, and the home school lobby is
             | working diligently to strip even those regulations.
        
               | colpabar wrote:
               | You didn't answer his question - why are regulations on
               | teaching your own children in your own home so necessary?
        
               | 303uru wrote:
               | Stripping myself of my morals and ethics, sure. Maybe I
               | don't need to give a shit whether someone else's kid has
               | any future. I'd rather care.
        
               | brodouevencode wrote:
               | This assumes government schools has everyone's morals and
               | ethics in mind.
        
               | whatshisface wrote:
               | What we see in the education debate is a consistent lack
               | of care for the kids who get ahead (why'd _they_ get
               | ahead of _my_ kids?) and a consistent care for the kids
               | being left behind, and that produces a trend to
               | regulation and centralization that extinguishes anything
               | good. The same forces that take children away from highly
               | dedicated parents and put them into underfunded districts
               | take advanced course tracks and the creativity of
               | teachers away from them when they get there.
        
               | eduction wrote:
               | This is an insightful way of framing things. It had not
               | occurred to me to look at it this way. It describes my
               | own issues with school growing up and my own interest in
               | homeschooling -- the chance to provide individualized
               | instruction and to tap into play and creativity. Schools
               | can provide a baseline but for bright, motivated students
               | they can be like a straightjacket. It's interesting and I
               | suppose logical that the arguments against homeschooling
               | focus on the idea that the practice dangerously removes
               | that baseline. (I don't find those arguments particularly
               | convincing because I had troubled peers who I went to
               | public school with, and the school system helped
               | precisely none of them substantially improve their
               | lives.)
        
               | whatshisface wrote:
               | On top of that there is an element of "liability control"
               | where putting troubled kids in the same unsuccessful
               | system as the other troubled kids makes the kids the
               | problem, while putting them in a different unsuccessful
               | system, which counts as an action in the non-utilitarian
               | trolley problem ethics of our culture, and leads to some
               | fraction of blame falling on the individual who tried to
               | change the outcome.
        
               | CryptoBanker wrote:
               | Because one day those children are going to grow up,
               | leave the home, and interact with other members of
               | society. At that point it becomes a public interest.
        
               | lcnPylGDnU4H9OF wrote:
               | > At that point it becomes a public interest.
               | 
               | This doesn't seem to be so self-evident. Why do I care
               | about the education of those around me?
        
               | alistairSH wrote:
               | An educated populace...
               | 
               | ...generates more economic activity
               | 
               | ...understands basic civics and government
        
               | bigstrat2003 wrote:
               | > ...understands basic civics and government
               | 
               | The public school system isn't doing that for our fellow
               | citizens already. I fail to see why it would be worse if
               | the failure happens at home rather than in a government
               | building.
        
               | AnimalMuppet wrote:
               | Because they're going to be your neighbors, your co-
               | workers, and your fellow voters.
               | 
               | That's also why you care about the state of the public
               | school system, even if you have no kids (or they don't
               | attend public school).
        
               | illirik wrote:
               | A well-educated population is generally considered to be
               | a good thing. That's why schooling is compulsory in
               | almost every country in the world.
        
               | colpabar wrote:
               | Sure. I just don't think this argument that any child who
               | is homeschooled is going to grow up and be a complete
               | idiot and never contribute to society is a good one,
               | especially since all of the comments in this thread
               | making that argument are using anecdotes as evidence. I
               | recently found out the band director at my high school
               | was fucking kids. Can I use that to argue against all
               | public schools? Of course not, so others should not be
               | able to say "well I knew a kid who was homeschooled by a
               | religious weirdo so all homeschooling is bad."
               | 
               | It's just odd that so many people here seem to be so in
               | favor of the "sit down and shut up" style of schooling.
               | Isn't it pretty widely agreed upon that US public schools
               | suck? Don't you think there are some parents who are
               | homeschooling their children explicitly because they feel
               | their public school would not prepare them to be good
               | members of society?
        
               | brodouevencode wrote:
               | You're assuming that these existing regulations (assuming
               | the ones in public education) produce a net good. Based
               | on what I'm seeing from here that's not so much the case.
        
               | rjbwork wrote:
               | Because one of the biggest ways that child abuse is
               | detected and abated is by interaction between students
               | and children. Isolating children in insular communities
               | is a really great way to abuse them and hide the evidence
               | of it.
               | 
               | Regular interaction with non-custodial adults provides
               | more opportunities for child abuse to be uncovered and
               | stopped. You can go on youtube and hear myriad
               | testimonials from former homeschooled kids that were
               | abused for _years_ on end. And nobody knew. Nobody even
               | had a chance to know.
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | Homeschooling famillies do not do the same tests. And
             | especially families whose kids are less likely to ace those
             | tests will avoid them when they are voluntary.
        
           | edgyquant wrote:
           | > underlying problem is the completely unregulated nature
           | 
           | No that's literally the main benefit. People actually get to
           | teach their own kids without state indoctrination (either
           | left or right.)
        
             | spacephysics wrote:
             | Fully agree, this is the primary benefit.
        
             | alistairSH wrote:
             | I love that when a parent tells a kid that Jesus rode a
             | velociraptor it's "teaching" but when a school tells a kid
             | the universe probably started with a big bang, it's
             | "indoctrination".
        
           | BurningFrog wrote:
           | Public schools are highly regulated, and are on average
           | horrible.
           | 
           | I'd bet a lot on parents caring more about their kids welfare
           | than regulators.
        
             | onlyrealcuzzo wrote:
             | There are many bad public schools - but it seems a bit
             | hyperbolic to say the average public school is "horrible".
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | I guess it depends on how you measure it. If we go by
               | percent of kids meeting the standards and a passing grade
               | being 70%, you could justifiable say the schools are
               | horrible on average.
        
               | BurningFrog wrote:
               | Agreed. I could have phrased that better.
        
               | ndriscoll wrote:
               | 40% of American adults can't do basic arithmetic[0],
               | which seems like a disaster to me. 88% are apparently
               | incapable of doing things like reading a simple table or
               | comparing two documents and identifying sentences that
               | express the same ideas between them[1][2]. Over 50%
               | apparently can't scroll through a list of information
               | about books and identify the author of a specific book
               | they're told to find. I'll never forget that in 12th
               | grade I took non-AP government, and we were still
               | spending significant time going over the three branches
               | of government _again_ (I 'm quite sure this was covered
               | in elementary school) and somehow people were not getting
               | 100% on everything. Other tasks included--not joking--
               | coloring pictures of animals, which the teacher put up
               | around the room.
               | 
               | My school was actually rated decently for the area. Not
               | the best, but pretty good.
               | 
               | [0] https://phys.org/news/2018-03-high-adults-unable-
               | basic-mathe...
               | 
               | [1] https://nces.ed.gov/pubs2019/2019179/index.asp
               | 
               | [2] https://nces.ed.gov/surveys/piaac/measure.asp?section
               | =1&sub_...
        
           | akira2501 wrote:
           | > The underlying problem is the completely unregulated
           | nature.
           | 
           | I didn't need your permission to give birth to my children,
           | why do I need your permission when deciding how I educate
           | them?
           | 
           | > Only dad is allowed to talk to anyone and when he does it's
           | extraordinarily weird.
           | 
           | If you feel these children are legitimately being abused in
           | some way, I'm guessing there are plenty of state resources to
           | address that challenge.
           | 
           | Do you actually feel there's abuse happening? Or, is it that
           | you just find them unusual?
        
             | throwaway2203 wrote:
             | This is my thing, like what right does a public school have
             | to regulate when I can and won't send my kids to school? If
             | I decide to take a trip abroad for a month, that's on me...
             | why do i have to worry about truancy court and CPS
             | breathing down my neck?
        
               | 303uru wrote:
               | Your kid has a right to education, you don't get to deny
               | them that right. It's funny how rugged individualism
               | seems to end with self and extend to happily stomping on
               | others.
        
             | vharuck wrote:
             | >I didn't need your permission to give birth to my
             | children, why do I need your permission when deciding how I
             | educate them?
             | 
             | One legal theory that may be relevant was brought up long
             | ago for a case on banned books in school: you have the
             | right to raise your kid according to your beliefs, but many
             | states guarantee children the right to education. So the
             | state could regulate homeschooling to ensure all children
             | have access to an actual education.
             | 
             | >If you feel these children are legitimately being abused
             | in some way, I'm guessing there are plenty of state
             | resources to address that challenge.
             | 
             | A lot of those resources rely on processes that come after
             | reports from teachers and caregivers. If nobody outside the
             | home ever sees or talks to the kids, there's not much the
             | state can do to even start an investigation. Children who
             | go to daycare or public school are seen by professionals
             | trained to spot abuse.
             | 
             | We allow anyone to have children, because otherwise we're
             | on a very slippery and short slope towards eugenics. But
             | those children are entitled to the same rights and
             | protections as their parents. It's hard to strike a good
             | balance between a family's freedom and a child's freedom.
             | 
             |  _Edited out some unnecessary detours in my ramblings_
        
               | jononomo wrote:
               | People just assume that other people must be abusing
               | their kids. Sheesh. The commenter is describing a two-
               | parent household with 8 children and a massive backyard
               | -- the odds are that they're extremely happy and our
               | commenter is just a grouch.
        
               | akira2501 wrote:
               | > but many states guarantee children the right to
               | education
               | 
               | They guarantee the right to /access/ education. This is
               | not at all the same as guaranteeing that all children
               | "must be educated at a state approved school."
               | 
               | > If nobody outside the home ever sees or talks to the
               | kids, there's not much the state can do to even start an
               | investigation.
               | 
               | I read an incredible number of police reports. There's a
               | lot of abuse that gets detected outside of daycare and
               | schools. Unless the children are literally locked into a
               | basement, I doubt that the parents can continually
               | exercise enough total control to keep whatever other
               | abuse their committing hidden.
               | 
               | To the extent that if it is happening, it's an
               | exceptionally rare case, and I doubt that simply forcing
               | all parents to send their children to a third party for
               | education is going to have any impact on these
               | particularly pernicious cases.
               | 
               | I understand the instinct, but I think the solution is
               | wrong, and it's an inappropriate case to use to defend
               | schooling in general.
        
               | FireBeyond wrote:
               | > They guarantee the right to /access/ education. This is
               | not at all the same as guaranteeing that all children
               | "must be educated at a state approved school."
               | 
               | That's oversimplifying. You're right about the "at a
               | state approved school", but the right is to access
               | education to a set standard that will equip them for
               | life.
               | 
               | You can't just say "well, they have access to -my-
               | education, so we're good". There should be caveats around
               | quality and deliverability of education.
               | 
               | Because if you (the generic 'you', not singling you out
               | individually) have low/zero value educational material,
               | and no desire to provide it for your children, then that
               | is /not/ them accessing education in any meaninful sense
               | of the concept.
        
             | cycomanic wrote:
             | > > The underlying problem is the completely unregulated
             | nature.
             | 
             | > I didn't need your permission to give birth to my
             | children, why do I need your permission when deciding how I
             | educate them?
             | 
             | Because your children are not your property, they are your
             | responsibility and we as society have decided that we want
             | to make sure that the education is to a certain standard.
             | 
             | As a side note I find it fascinating how people who feel
             | strongly about individual freedom, believe they should have
             | ultimate authority (sometimes it feels more like ownership)
             | over their children. Why do you believe that the freedoms
             | do not apply to children?
        
               | akira2501 wrote:
               | > Because your children are not your property, they are
               | your responsibility
               | 
               | I am their _guardian_.
               | 
               | > and we as society have decided that we want to make
               | sure that the education is to a certain standard.
               | 
               | And what is that standard? Passing standardized tests?
               | How do you account for the poor performance of American
               | schools in general? How do you account for the
               | differential performance across the country, let alone,
               | wild performance differences across a single city? If a
               | child goes to school but fails to become educated, can
               | the sue the school district? Does the school owe them
               | continued education until they meet the standard?
               | 
               | > believe they should have ultimate authority (sometimes
               | it feels more like ownership) over their children.
               | 
               | If something happens to my children and I'm even just
               | negligent then I will pay the ultimate price. You cannot
               | ensconce in me this responsibility and then deny my
               | authority to exercise control over them to maintain it.
               | 
               | > Why do you believe that the freedoms do not apply to
               | children?
               | 
               | Why do you think children can't sign contracts or buy
               | alcohol? They have _limited_ freedom, under my
               | _guardianship_. This is more important than the States
               | imputed idealism with respect to "education."
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | > How do you account for the poor performance of American
               | schools in general
               | 
               | Actually, American schools do not do badly in
               | international comparisons. They are the number one, sure,
               | but they are still pretty good.
        
               | XorNot wrote:
               | Also there aren't "American" schools. There are "American
               | state" schools - 50 different versions.
               | 
               | There's also some very unsurprising outcomes based on
               | state policy there.
        
               | FireBeyond wrote:
               | > If something happens to my children and I'm even just
               | negligent then I will pay the ultimate price. You cannot
               | ensconce in me this responsibility and then deny my
               | authority to exercise control over them to maintain it.
               | 
               | That's demonstrably false.
               | 
               | You can do plenty of neglectful or negligent things to
               | your children and face zero consequences.
        
               | s1artibartfast wrote:
               | I think I can explain the confusution.
               | 
               | The state dictating and setting the rules is no more free
               | than the parents setting the rules.
               | 
               | This basically comes down to an argument not of freedom,
               | but if the children are property of the state or parents.
               | 
               | When you look at it this way, it makes perfect sense that
               | libertairian minded folks would support homeschooling.
               | 
               | After all, the state isnt offering the freedom of choice
               | and action to children, it is making legal requirements
               | and demands.
        
             | 303uru wrote:
             | >why do I need your permission when deciding how I educate
             | them
             | 
             | Your kid has a right to education, you don't get to deny
             | them that right. It's funny how these arguments are all
             | "don't tread on my right to tread on my kid."
        
           | whatshisface wrote:
           | I have got bad news about that, the majority of abusive
           | households send the kids to school and scare them into
           | silence. Regulations against abusive households do exist but
           | enforcing them completely would require a degree of
           | inescapable surveillance that cannot exist.
        
             | ARandumGuy wrote:
             | That may be true, but way more kids get sent to school then
             | are home schooled, so that doesn't mean much on its own.
             | 
             | The issue is that when a kid's at school, there are many
             | people who may notice something's wrong. From teachers,
             | school nurses, school administrators, and even other kids.
             | This is by no means perfect, and many, many cases of abuse
             | slip through the cracks. But it is something, which is more
             | then many home schooled kids have.
             | 
             | While I'd wager most home schooled kids aren't abused, the
             | fact of the matter is it's much easier for an abusive
             | parent to cover up their abuse if their child is home
             | schooled. You may still feel home schooling is a net
             | positive, but this aspect is very hard to deny.
        
               | whatshisface wrote:
               | Homeschooling requires some degree of investment in the
               | child, even just to keep them occupied or tolerate their
               | presence. School provides free childcare for long periods
               | of time. I don't think the majority of abusive parents
               | will ever homeschool their children, because most are not
               | believers in teaching an abusive ideology but rather have
               | simple personality disorders. "Homeschool makes it easier
               | to hide abuse" presupposes that abusive parents are
               | planning or organizing abuse which is plainly not true in
               | the majority of cases.
               | 
               | Like the Satanism panics of the 1990s demonstrate,
               | elaborate imaginings of complex sadistic rituals that are
               | necessarily rare[0] bordering on nonexistent, tend to
               | capture the public mind and suck oxygen away from
               | treating the totally unattractive (not even in the
               | capacity of making for a true crime special) real
               | problems.
               | 
               | If you want to see this on TV, the last season of The
               | Wire was about it.
               | 
               | [0] There were actually a spate of ritual killings in
               | Liberia through the 1970s, proving humanity capable at
               | least and making the issue to be one of reasonableness.
        
               | escapedmoose wrote:
               | Unfortunately, of the 4 people I know personally who were
               | homeschooled, it was a vehicle for abuse for 3 of them.
               | 
               | One friend's mom wouldn't teach him the curriculum for
               | months, and then when she knew a test was coming up she
               | would make him study with her for 14 hours a day to try
               | to cram it in. Then when he naturally performed poorly on
               | state exams he was punished (often physically) for not
               | trying hard enough. She regularly woke him up for classes
               | when she wanted to be awake at 2 or 3 am, then later
               | after her afternoon nap at 6 or 8pm. He grew up
               | constantly tired, without a regular schedule of meals,
               | and never made it to the group outings because he felt
               | sick all the time.
               | 
               | Another friend's mom just couldn't be bothered to teach
               | and just took her out on "learning" hikes with other
               | homeschooling moms, never taught her anything, and wound
               | up sending her back to public school with severely (I
               | mean _severely_ ) underdeveloped skills after being held
               | back for several years.
               | 
               | Neither of these parents I'm sure "planned" to abuse
               | their children in this way. They just weren't up for the
               | task of teaching in the way that a child requires, and
               | their own personal issues turned that into a larger
               | problem. But my friends suffered for it.
        
               | whatshisface wrote:
               | I don't think it's ever going to be possible to separate
               | the outcomes of homeschooling from the selection of
               | parents who desire to homeschool, but this overall
               | neutral study (I'm not really arguing that homeschooling
               | is a great thing just that it is okay) doesn't find
               | evidence of the three out of four thing that you
               | encountered extending to the whole population.
               | https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8580227/
               | 
               | My honest sympathies to your friends.
        
         | n3storm wrote:
         | Montessori is succesful with healthy wealthy beloved children.
        
           | chasd00 wrote:
           | Montessori was invented specifically for bottom income
           | special needs kids.
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | Yes, but that is not how it is used today. Today it is used
             | primary by wealthy heavily invested families.
        
         | MadcapJake wrote:
         | It's like people are reinventing all the same stuff schools do
         | at scale. Can't we be more efficient as a society?
         | 
         | Not to mention the privilege that is draped over every detail
         | of this setup.
        
           | brightball wrote:
           | Are big efficient schools better than lots of small schools?
        
             | bloaf wrote:
             | https://www.americanscientist.org/article/the-most-
             | dangerous...
             | 
             | This article makes a case that the statistics of small
             | sample sizes has bamboozled many different well-intentioned
             | groups, including the small school movement.
             | 
             | The argument is that the fact that many of the best schools
             | are small is an artifact of statistics (de Moivre's
             | equation) rather than evidence small schools are superior.
        
           | giantg2 wrote:
           | "Can't we be more efficient as a society?"
           | 
           | Not the way government tends to work in US.
        
             | jgeada wrote:
             | It is wild that this is the take. This eep distrust of
             | government is at the root of many American problems. It is
             | deliberately created and fed, and it directly leads to some
             | truly awful results: bad education, bad healthcare,
             | virtually no public benefit for all the taxes we pay. But
             | we do get world's largest military, large corporate
             | subsidies, highest per capita healthcare costs.
             | 
             | Unlike in most other Western countries, education in the US
             | is controlled at a local level; every town, district, and
             | city etc has its own rules, has to hire its own staff and
             | pay for it all out of local taxes. And because the
             | generally tiny constituency of each district, a very small
             | number of nutcases can change the rules and impose their
             | point of view for the school district.
             | 
             | And because of the local funding, there can be huge
             | resource and quality differences between schools for
             | adjacent locations, just due to crossing some arbitrary
             | jurisdiction line.
             | 
             | It is madness, but it is a madness that is deeply
             | loved/entrenched here.
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | It's not really a wild take - that's the reality. It's
               | not really distrust _in this case_ either. The question
               | was can we educate more efficiently.
               | 
               | This case is of a group of kids being taught by parents.
               | The parents give up half a day a week to teach one of
               | their homes. They don't need a staff, a building, etc.
               | You really can't be more efficient than that model of
               | using the existing resources.
               | 
               | And you're only partially right about local control of
               | education. There are many federal and state regulations
               | that dictate school policies in every facet. These would
               | rule out many of the _local_ "nut cases". Much of the
               | funding is provided by the state and federal government
               | too, depending on the state.
        
               | alistairSH wrote:
               | _You really can 't be more efficient than that model of
               | using the existing resources._
               | 
               | It's only "efficient" because it doesn't have to scale.
               | Add non-wealthy kids into the mix. Add children with
               | learning disabilities. All of a sudden, homeschooling
               | fails a massive chunk of the population.
               | 
               | Public education has served the US well for most of the
               | post-WWII era. Let's fix it, not abandon it.
        
               | jtriangle wrote:
               | >Unlike in most other Western countries, education in the
               | US is controlled at a local level
               | 
               | It is not. Curriculum is decided far above the heads of
               | the districts, as is standardized testing. Funding is a
               | problem, though, how much of a problem is wildly variable
               | depending on where you are.
        
           | hombre_fatal wrote:
           | Scale isn't necessarily good. I went to a massive highschool
           | in Texas and suspect I would have had a far better experience
           | in a much smaller school whether it be a homeschooling co-op
           | or a small public school (the latter didn't exist in my
           | hometown, only massive Texan highschools).
           | 
           | And my best classes in uni weren't the massive lectures at
           | the University of Texas but rather small summer school
           | classes I took in a cheap Houston community college during
           | summer break where I could actually interact with the teacher
           | and fellow students.
           | 
           | Finally, HNers overuse "reinventing" as a pejorative. If you
           | use a similar approach found in another option, and the HNer
           | doesn't prefer your option over the other option, you're
           | always "reinventing" it. As if some trivial thing in common
           | between two options are the only would-be differences between
           | them. It's not very thoughtful commentary.
           | 
           | Home-schooling could be 100% identical to public schooling
           | except that it's _not_ the local school system and it would
           | still deliver on its goal of not being the local school
           | system. That 's the whole point.
        
             | brightball wrote:
             | "Reinventing the wheel leads to better wheels." - Don't
             | remember where I heard it, but it's a good line.
        
           | jononomo wrote:
           | I guess if having friends, family, and a garage is
           | "privilege", then more power to them -- they'd be idiots not
           | to take advantage of this privilege.
        
           | pengaru wrote:
           | They're not reinventing anything, they're just doing
           | education with a better instructor:student ratio.
           | 
           | We all know the worse the ratio the worse the education tends
           | to be. Tutoring is a long established means of compensating
           | for this, by supplementing sessions with a 1:1 ratio, clearly
           | illustrating the problem.
        
             | chasd00 wrote:
             | Also, every parent and student has a direct connection to
             | every other parent and student. Doing education "at scale"
             | is a terrible idea.
        
           | eutropia wrote:
           | "I'll intentionally disadvantage my kids in the name of the
           | ideal of egalitarianism" said basically no parent ever.
        
             | huytersd wrote:
             | Eh there no clear cut answer that the alternative doesn't
             | disadvantage them either
        
             | chasd00 wrote:
             | I had someone (childless i might add) try to make me feel
             | guilty for pulling my kids out of a school circling the
             | drain and into a high performing one in the name of
             | diversity. I told them, when the time comes, if they want
             | to sacrifice their child on that altar then it's their
             | decision but don't ask me to sacrifice mine.
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | Kind of wild and weirdly refreshing to finally see the
               | "everyone is in it for themselves and their own" attitude
               | on fully overt display in this article's comments.
               | Usually it's masked behind talk of "freedom" and
               | "individuality," but here, it's raw and out there in the
               | open!
               | 
               | FWIW I probably could afford to send my kid to a better
               | private school or alternate-schooling group, withdrawing
               | from the community and not-so-great public school system,
               | but I don't because then I'm just another contributor to
               | the inequality problem. We Live In A Society.
        
               | bigstrat2003 wrote:
               | One's job as a parent isn't to use their children to
               | solve systemic issues in society, it's to do the best
               | they can for their children.
        
             | mrguyorama wrote:
             | I only exist as an educated person who can make a middle
             | class income and live a normal life because of public
             | education. My single mother is an experienced and gifted
             | teacher, but would not have had the time to educate me. We
             | could never have afforded to send me to any private school.
             | 
             | My only chance for a normal life and education was public
             | school.
             | 
             | A huge amount of americans are poor in time and money. The
             | only option their children have is public school. Their
             | future is entirely dependent on a public that is willing to
             | invest in them so that they even have a future, one that
             | isn't just "wage slave at walmart". Sure, it often doesn't
             | work out, it's a struggling system that has been abused and
             | ignored for decades, and it fails millions every year.
             | 
             | You know what doesn't help any of those millions of kids?
             | All the wealthy families sending their kids to private
             | schools or homeschooling and removing their property taxes
             | from the public school system. Society will not be a better
             | place for your kids if they are individually 10% better but
             | 10% of the children born in the US basically have no access
             | to education.
             | 
             | The advocation of "School choice" as conservatives are
             | currently selling it is about taking away the chance I had
             | at a middle class life. It's about saving a few thousand
             | dollars for already privileged individuals at the expense
             | of swathes of people like me who were at least average
             | intelligence who had the audacity to be born to a poor
             | mother.
             | 
             | If you think public schooling in america is deficient, then
             | let us fix it.
        
               | blt wrote:
               | > Society will not be a better place for your kids if
               | they are individually 10% better but 10% of the children
               | born in the US basically have no access to education.
               | 
               | But that's not how they think. They believe the bottom
               | 10% deserve their hard lives.
               | 
               | Capitalism needs an oppressed class to function.
               | 
               | The people on top write laws to ensure the oppressed
               | class will exist. Then they sell it to the middle class
               | using scary stories of crime, religion, etc.
        
           | rcpt wrote:
           | How do you propose we measure that efficiency? Attendance
           | requirements? Standardized testing?
        
           | jtriangle wrote:
           | Scale for scale's sake isn't necessarily ideal, or efficient.
           | 
           | My freshman year of highschool, I was at a very large school,
           | around 3400 in attendance. The school had been expanded
           | several times, and was more or less at capacity. Some
           | facilities were scaled out well, others weren't. There were
           | fights on a weekly basis, tons of security trying to prevent
           | that, but, they could only do so much. Lunch lines were very
           | long, sometimes I'd be lucky to get 10 minutes to eat, mostly
           | brought my own lunch because of that. The school was locked
           | down a few times that year because of weapon scares. It was
           | hell.
           | 
           | Then my sophomore year, they cut the school in half, sending
           | most of the students, save for the seniors, to a new school
           | across town. That landed the school I attended at around 1400
           | kids, my junior year, all of the extra seniors had graduated,
           | so, it shrank further to around 1300. From sophomore year on,
           | there was not a single fight, everyone knew eachother and got
           | along, they cut the security team down to just two people and
           | they both were well liked. Test scores were way up, class
           | sizes went from 40+ to consistently under 30, and things
           | overall were fairly good as far as highschool goes. The new
           | school across town was a similar situation from what I
           | gathered from friends who went there.
           | 
           | Now you might write that off as it was simply too crowded,
           | but, they closed about a third of the school, which was held
           | in portable classrooms when the split happened. Some of those
           | were re-purposed for offices and whatnot, most got hauled
           | away. So the actual density of people didn't really change
           | much. We got some extra space to have PE classes in, but that
           | was about it, space wise.
           | 
           | You might also write that off as demographic changes, which
           | was also not true. In fact, the roughest part of town all
           | went to the school I attended, while the nicer, more affluent
           | side of town, mostly got sent to the new school.
           | 
           | The way I see it, the school was simply too large, and
           | managing that many students day to day, and all of their
           | needs and affairs, did not scale well, and bred inefficiency,
           | inefficiency that existed long before I got there and
           | everyone got to keep their job and maintain that as the
           | status-quo. Sure the buildings/campus could physically
           | contain them well enough, yes they were all reasonably well
           | fed and watered, but they'd become unmanageable in such a way
           | that was not likely to be fixed.
           | 
           | In terms of reinvention in public education, smaller schools
           | are a decent model, as are smaller class sizes. The real
           | deciding factor in how well a student does however, is parent
           | buy-in, which homeschool models have in spades, and in
           | addition the class sizes are about as small as you can
           | reasonably go as well. Understand of course that, parents
           | opting to homeschool are paying taxes to public schools,
           | while receiving no benefit, and that in addition to paying
           | for the costs associated with homeschooling. Not all families
           | can afford to effectively pay for schooling twice, hell, most
           | can barely afford to exist while paying once. You could very
           | likely fix your concerns about privilege by simply
           | redirecting money back to homeschool parents that would
           | normally be spent on public school. There are very well
           | defined $/student numbers out there, so, the amounts would be
           | fairly trivial to come up with. You could also really work
           | around the whole right/left politically polarized bullshit
           | factory by perhaps giving a little more to the lower income
           | families and a little less to high income families. I think
           | that'd sufficiently frame the nominally 'right wing' framed
           | homeschool ideals as neutral, or at least dissonant enough
           | that you might get most of everyone on-board provided you
           | could get the right palms greased in state government.
           | 
           | Understand of course that, the public education system is an
           | enormous apparatus, and they're managing unfathomable numbers
           | of students. They're also not setup in fairly clean
           | competency hierarchies either. At the local level, seniority
           | tends to be king, at the broader level, the ability to
           | navigate the political system is the selection factor.
           | Neither of those have anything to do with "who's talented at
           | educating kids", and while you do have means to measure
           | performance, those same means are also decided upon by the
           | very same people being effectively measured, so there's an
           | incentive to make them easier over time, as that looks
           | politically better. So if anything, the incentives we've
           | created are exactly backwards, and the system cannot change
           | until those incentives are fixed. I don't really know how
           | you'd prevent standardized testing from being watered down or
           | trifled with. I don't really know how you'd create sufficient
           | educator turnover with the unions in place to weed out bad
           | teachers. More or less, the system is broken, we need
           | bloodsports to fix it, but they've thought of that, and have
           | prevented it from happening.
           | 
           | I'm not holding by breath of course. People are more than
           | likely going to write it off as "privilege" regardless of the
           | changes proposed, with a whole list of valid enough sounding
           | reasons that they haven't really thought through, most of
           | which won't really have any baring on reality, and nothing
           | will change aside from actual children being mortally wounded
           | by poor education. That'll continue as-is, furthering the
           | class divide, increasing unrest, increasing predatory
           | behavior toward people who, could have been saved by better
           | policy, but were thought more useful as sacrifices on the
           | altar of "the other team's" apparatus.
           | 
           | As for me? I'll be eating beans and rice and driving a 15
           | year old honda while putting my future children through a
           | homeschool program regardless of what happens.
        
           | inglor_cz wrote:
           | If everyone was force-fed the same dinner and compelled to
           | wear the same clothes, there would be a lot of societal
           | efficiency to unlock. It would also be a nightmare.
           | 
           | People are diverse and have diverse needs. That includes
           | kids. AFAIK the most efficient method of education is still
           | one-to-one tutoring, the very opposite of "schools at scale".
           | Unfortunately it is also very expensive.
        
         | dmurray wrote:
         | At what point does this become not "homeschool", but "school,
         | with different licensing requirements for the teachers"? It
         | doesn't seem right to discuss this setup in the same breath as
         | children schooled by their own parent.
        
         | pokstad wrote:
         | We've seen something similar here with co-op schools. Not done
         | in the home, but the teaching is handled by parents of the
         | students. They are very happy with their school.
        
       | keiferski wrote:
       | _This is a fundamental change of life, and it's astonishing that
       | it's so persistent._
       | 
       | It is pretty misleading for this article to talk about
       | homeschooling being a "fundamental change" without mentioning
       | that homeschooling was the _default_ practice for most of human
       | history. If anything, this is just a return to a long-established
       | practice, not a fringe movement.
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homeschooling
        
         | jwestbury wrote:
         | There are many behaviours which were common throughout human
         | history which would now be fringe movements. Human and/or
         | animal sacrifices, for instance.
        
           | keiferski wrote:
           | If animal sacrifice became common again, I would expect
           | articles to mention the fact that it was a human practice for
           | millennia - and not pretend it's just a fringe thing those
           | pesky Other People invented.
           | 
           | Homeschooling was also the default thing a +-century ago,
           | while you'd need to go back pretty far to find true
           | animal/human sacrifice in European/European-American culture.
        
             | Manuel_D wrote:
             | The default thing in preindustrial societies was no formal
             | education for the vast majority of the population. The
             | elite - a small slice of the population - was homeschooled
             | by private tutors, and artisans (also small % of
             | population) went into apprenticeships. This isn't really
             | analogous to a vision of the world where the majority of
             | the population is schooled at home.
        
           | edgyquant wrote:
           | What a weird example. Sacrifices have not been common in the
           | west for thousands of years and the majority in the Middle
           | East for over half that time as well. Seems like a bad faith
           | gotcha
        
           | tivert wrote:
           | > There are many behaviours which were common throughout
           | human history which would now be fringe movements. Human
           | and/or animal sacrifices, for instance.
           | 
           | I better example might be freedom from surveillance. It's a
           | totally fringe lifestyle to not be tracked everywhere you go,
           | at least in a developed country.
           | 
           | But your rhetoric might be useful for shooting down privacy
           | advocates during the next dust-up. Privacy may have been
           | common in the past but now its fringe, just like animal
           | sacrifice. Key escrow is the future!
        
             | bombcar wrote:
             | What's sad is the "fringe privacy" lifestyle has been
             | getting easier and easier, because so many privacy invading
             | things assume you have a GPS enabled phone on you at every
             | moment, and are constantly connected to the Internet.
             | 
             | Make those two untrue and it's like you never existed.
        
         | brodouevencode wrote:
         | It's a fundamental change versus the Prussian model, which
         | provided a basis for much of the educational theory in the US.
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prussian_education_system
        
           | keiferski wrote:
           | It's funny how so much of social conflict today basically
           | boils down to: industrial systems put in place in the 19th
           | century aren't working anymore.
        
             | akira2501 wrote:
             | It's constantly going to be with us. These systems weren't
             | "put into place" they generated "higher profits" when
             | implemented. As such, the people profiting from their
             | existence are willing to use some of those profits in
             | preventing the advantages of technological advancement from
             | reaching the populations they currently enjoy power over.
             | 
             | This is part of the reason why business monopolies are
             | social poison.
        
         | lom888 wrote:
         | It's interesting that we treat kettling children up indoors by
         | age cohort with little movement and making them solve math
         | problems ad nauseum as if it were the most natural thing in the
         | world and treat those who can't sit still and learn in such an
         | environment (or understand the purpose of doing all of those
         | math problems for 13 years) as if they are an aberration.
        
         | nonameiguess wrote:
         | Surely, this can't be true. For most of human history, children
         | may have learned to do whatever their parents did behaviorally
         | or vocationally, whether that be to become a forager, farmer,
         | peasant, nobility, whatever, but almost nobody ever received
         | any kind of general-purpose, primarily academic education, and
         | whatever they learned, they learned by following their parents
         | around and doing it, not by structured, formal curricula.
         | 
         | I'm sure homeschooling can work out fine, but that is hardly
         | assured by simply being inline with historical tradition. If
         | you go to war with broadswords and spears, you're going to
         | lose. If you insist on living without indoor plumbing or
         | refrigerated food storage, you're likely going to have your
         | kids taken away, and rightfully so, in spite of the fact humans
         | lived that way by default longer than not.
        
         | ouiouibaguette wrote:
         | The majority (non-aristocratic, non-clergy) were illiterate for
         | most of human history.
        
         | watwut wrote:
         | Default state for most human history was that only small
         | minority of people can read and write. It also meant that
         | majority of people have no say in public affairs.
        
       | tivert wrote:
       | > Many of America's new home-schooled children have entered a
       | world where no government official will ever check on what, or
       | how well, they are being taught.
       | 
       | Isn't escaping from those officials the whole point? Either
       | because they're failing at their job or doing things that are
       | disagreeable to some subset of the population?
        
         | add-sub-mul-div wrote:
         | Sounds like a generational Dunning-Kruger situation.
        
         | Loughla wrote:
         | The college I most recently consulted with had to take a
         | homeschool "transcript" that can literally be a signed paper
         | from the parent handwritten with nothing to back it up.
         | 
         | It's astounding. I don't know if that's just because that
         | particular state doesn't have very strict rules around
         | homeschooling, or if that's standard; I just haven't done the
         | research.
        
           | Amezarak wrote:
           | How else do you think a transcript should work? What makes
           | you think a random private school transcript has anything
           | else backing it up?
           | 
           | Presumably the students are also applying with ACT/SAT scores
           | in hand, which do have an established meaning.
        
             | tivert wrote:
             | > How else do you think a transcript should work? What
             | makes you think a random private school transcript has
             | anything else backing it up?
             | 
             | Are you saying things written on a fancy letterhead with a
             | stamp can't be unquestionably trusted?
        
             | Loughla wrote:
             | Because they have some kind of accreditation body that
             | monitors and approves the schools with established
             | standards and approved/documented practices, whereas
             | homeschool does not?
             | 
             | And ACT/SAT has become optional since covid for most
             | institutions.
        
               | Amezarak wrote:
               | > Because they have some kind of accreditation body that
               | monitors and approves the schools with established
               | standards and approved/documented practices, whereas
               | homeschool does not?
               | 
               | There are "accredited" homeschool programs, and the
               | "accreditation" means probably about as much as it does
               | for "accredited" private schools, many of whom don't even
               | bother.
               | 
               | Elsewhere in the comments I mentioned the Baltimore
               | public school system, where clearly whatever
               | "accreditation" it has is completely and utterly
               | worthless.
               | 
               | Heck, even my ABET accredited university, although
               | overall of high quality, had a few teachers that taught
               | me nothing at all and who had no checks on their failure
               | to teach.
        
               | hotnfresh wrote:
               | I don't think it's the case that if you show up with a
               | transcript written in crayon and don't bother to submit a
               | standardized test score, your college admission prospects
               | are likely to be very good. The tests may be optional,
               | but I don't think that means they have to assume you'd
               | have done well on them, if other evidence looks iffy.
        
               | bigstrat2003 wrote:
               | > And ACT/SAT has become optional since covid for most
               | institutions.
               | 
               | So they should go back to requiring it. Seems pretty
               | easy.
        
             | eszed wrote:
             | >Presumably the students are also applying with ACT/SAT
             | scores in hand, which do have an established meaning.
             | 
             | Except...
             | 
             | >More Than 80% Of Four-Year Colleges Won't Require
             | Standardized Tests For Fall 2023 Admissions
             | 
             | >An additional 85 schools will be test-blind or score-free,
             | meaning that applicants' standardized exam results are not
             | considered even if they are submitted. Included in that
             | number is the entire California public university
             | system....
             | 
             | >[And] at least 1,450 colleges and universities have made
             | their test-optional and test-blind policies permanent.
             | 
             | https://www.forbes.com/sites/michaeltnietzel/2022/11/15/mor
             | e...
        
               | Amezarak wrote:
               | One imagines that students with any reason to suspect the
               | university they're applying to will not know enough about
               | their high school, or possibly derogatory information
               | about their high school, will submit an application with
               | test scores attached in the "optional" cases.
               | 
               | One of the other reasons for this is because students
               | completely unprepared for college from public schools are
               | an increasing problem. This is also why they now all
               | offer remedial classes under varying names and programs,
               | and why first-year university programs are much easier
               | than they were in say, 1940.
        
               | jimbob45 wrote:
               | "Test-optional" and "test-blind" are vastly different. If
               | I can get a leg up on the competition by taking the test,
               | then it's basically required even if it's technically
               | optional.
        
           | Ancapistani wrote:
           | How is that any different from someone who attended a rural
           | public high school?
           | 
           | Many of the school districts in my area have consolidated,
           | and it's not even possible to verify attendance of students
           | from the small schools that no longer exist.
           | 
           | To my knowledge, there is no "accreditation" that matters for
           | public high schools - there are only thresholds for which
           | state funding is available.
        
           | ejb999 wrote:
           | how is this worse than some schools not even requiring
           | students to be able to read, write and do some mathematics in
           | order to graduate with a HS diploma?
           | 
           | https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/oregon-suspends-
           | graduation...
        
             | watwut wrote:
             | Difference is thatbin one case it is a scandal that is
             | investigated. In the other, there is no one to investigate,
             | no rules are broken, it is just homeschooling exactly as
             | meant to be per law.
        
               | bitlax wrote:
               | https://nypost.com/2023/09/23/students-at-40-of-
               | baltimore-hi...
               | 
               | Oh please. No one's going to jail for this.
        
         | asynchronous wrote:
         | It is, and article hit pieces like this are exactly why it will
         | continue to expand. Newsflash, there's an actual large portion
         | of the population that more and more doesn't want what is
         | taught to their children regulated by the government.
        
           | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
           | Yeah, there are a number of people out there who only want to
           | teach their kids what's in the Bible. We should all be so
           | lucky as to be a bunch of Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidts.
           | 
           | Obviously I'm presenting an extreme example, but society at
           | large has a vested interest in ensuring that children,
           | broadly, are educated. I'm not saying there are no problems
           | with regulations, but I hate how the "deregulate everything!"
           | crowd conveniently ignores the reasons those regulations were
           | created in the first place.
        
             | urmish wrote:
             | People are making a choice for their kids, whether they
             | want the after effects of religious or public school
             | 'brainwashing'. For many, its a clear cut choice, one way
             | or the other.
        
               | mikeyouse wrote:
               | It's weird to strip the kids of any agency or
               | consideration, but you've phrased it well. People are
               | making a choice for their kids -- parents don't own their
               | kids, they have something akin to justified paternalism
               | over them. Society _should_ care whether parents are
               | providing a base level of education and opportunity to
               | these kids. It 's pretty apparent from the discussion
               | here who grew up around e.g. fundamentalist Mormons or
               | Baptists where homeschool kids were often abused as a
               | matter of 'doctrine' and those whose experience with
               | homeschool kids is more like the Bay Area version of
               | precocious children learning in nature.
        
               | pdonis wrote:
               | _> Society should care whether parents are providing a
               | base level of education and opportunity to these kids._
               | 
               | And society should also care whether government-run
               | public schools are doing this--not to mention whether
               | they are indoctrinating children with values that many
               | parents disagree with.
        
               | mikeyouse wrote:
               | Society _does_ care about that, hence why the public
               | school standards are all public, school boards are
               | elected, and there 's broad democratic oversight.
        
               | pdonis wrote:
               | The standards are public, yes, but that does not mean
               | they are standards that a majority of the public agrees
               | with. They are set by unelected bureaucrats.
               | 
               | School boards are elected, but I don't think "broad
               | democractic oversight" is a fair description.
               | 
               | In any case, none of the things you mention prevented the
               | US public school system from being explicitly set up to
               | indoctrinate children, as explicitly described by the
               | people who set it up. So to the extent that society in
               | the US cares about educating children, it cares about
               | educating them according to a particular political agenda
               | that many people do not agree with. That is a major
               | reason why homeschooling continues to increase in
               | popularity.
        
             | ike2792 wrote:
             | I'm sure this varies by state, but where I live in MN home
             | schooling parents have to register with the state and meet
             | certain curriculum standards. Homeschooled students also
             | have to take standardized tests and show certain standards
             | of proficiency. The parents need to keep diligent records
             | and be in regular communication with the school district.
             | We have a lot of friends that homeschool (although we don't
             | ourselves), and in general most homeschooled kids seem to
             | be meeting or exceeding where their public- or private-
             | schooled peers are at.
        
             | politician wrote:
             | If you just taught kids the Bible, at a minimum they would
             | have amazing literacy skills.
        
             | pdonis wrote:
             | _> there are a number of people out there who only want to
             | teach their kids what 's in the Bible_
             | 
             | Not all homeschoolers are like this. There are plenty of
             | other good reasons for parents not to want their kids to go
             | to public schools.
             | 
             |  _> society at large has a vested interest in ensuring that
             | children, broadly, are educated_
             | 
             | Yes, but for whose definition of "educated"? In the US, at
             | least, the government was not supposed to decide that.
             | Individual families and communities were. And, as I have
             | posted elsewhere in this thread, the people who set up the
             | US system of widespread, compulsory public education were
             | quite explicit about what _they_ meant by  "educated", and
             | that included plenty of things that any reasonable person
             | would consider to be indoctrination, not education--and
             | that was on purpose.
        
             | bloaf wrote:
             | With the laws Florida is toying with around trans youth in
             | education, you think people here would be more
             | understanding of the desire to be able to give the
             | government's regulations the finger.
             | 
             | Saying that the cost of giving persecuted minorities an out
             | is "then we might not be able to persecute the minorities
             | that I've decided actually deserve it" just feels
             | fundamentally unconvincing.
        
           | burkaman wrote:
           | Will it continue to expand? This article makes the case that
           | the large increase in 2020 was driven by temporary pandemic
           | conditions, and explicitly not by politics or school quality.
           | The graph shows it has already started to decline. Longer-
           | term data shows a small peak in 2012 followed by a slow
           | decline until the pandemic: https://nces.ed.gov/programs/dige
           | st/d21/tables/dt21_206.10.a.... In the article's district
           | lookup tool, most districts follow this same pattern of a
           | pandemic spike that begins to decline, whether you pick a
           | stereotypically liberal or conservative district.
        
         | onlyrealcuzzo wrote:
         | > Isn't escaping from those officials the whole point? Either
         | because they're failing at their job or doing things that are
         | disagreeable to some subset of the population?
         | 
         | It sounds ideal.
         | 
         | But we might want at least _some_ oversight and regulation to,
         | for example, make sure kids aren 't being homeschooled on how
         | to build rockets and kill some group of people.
        
           | ejb999 wrote:
           | because public school kids never kill people?
        
             | onlyrealcuzzo wrote:
             | They generally aren't brainwashed to kill people.
             | 
             | Bad apples will fall from any tree. A poisoned tree will
             | mostly produce bad apples.
        
               | bigstrat2003 wrote:
               | > They generally aren't brainwashed to kill people.
               | 
               | Nor are homeschooled kids.
        
           | u32480932048 wrote:
           | Concerns (or "concerns") like this always make me wonder what
           | kind of terrible environment the commentor grew up in: a war-
           | torn country with child soldiers firing homemade rockets, or
           | maybe a cute little cul-de-sac in an upper-middle class
           | suburb where all problems are hypothetical yet everything is
           | still terrifying.
           | 
           | Maybe modeling the child rocket program[1] on [whatever it is
           | that public high schools are doing] would save us?
           | [1] https://estesrockets.com/collections/stem-products
        
         | elil17 wrote:
         | But should you be able to totally escape from scrutiny? To me
         | it seems very wrong to deny a child the opportunity to learn
         | the things they'd need to function in society like reading,
         | math, and science. Most homeschooling parents are teaching
         | these things to there kids, but there are some who aren't. That
         | ought to be stopped.
        
           | ejb999 wrote:
           | there are plenty of public schools, despite spending
           | 10-15-$20K per student are also not teaching those things.
           | THAT ought to be stopped.
        
             | elil17 wrote:
             | Yeah that should also be stopped.
        
         | standardUser wrote:
         | And part of the point of schools, at least in the modern era,
         | is that kids have access to authority figures if they are being
         | abused at home. That access often ends with home schooling.
        
         | jmspring wrote:
         | The statement implies the students being taught in schools
         | today are learning at a level they should be. With all the
         | exceptions made and dumbing down of curriculum, most classes
         | teach to the least abled in the class holding back many.
         | 
         | That said, I don't think home schooling is an option for all
         | either. Covid showed how difficult it could be for many
         | families.
        
         | Exoristos wrote:
         | For some, that may be true. For others, it's a replacement for
         | private school that they can't afford.
        
       | at_a_remove wrote:
       | The Post has a vague undercurrent of bafflement, a wide-eyed,
       | "What could it possibly _be_? " and really only bothers to
       | speculate toward the end.
       | 
       | I was on Facebook, idly scrolling, and I received an ad for a
       | nearby Montessori school. The ad was a simple lavender square,
       | with the name of the school on it (no photo), and simply the text
       | "Championing LGBTQIAA+ Lives." Of all of the letters, the "three
       | Rs" weren't in evidence. Nothing about how the school will teach
       | the child how to learn, prepare them for high school, or provide
       | a rounded education. Just "Championing LGBTQIAA+ Lives." Upon
       | some mental reflection, I recalled some recent radio ads for
       | local universities, and the first sentence was about how they
       | were diverse, and then there was something about inclusion and
       | equality. No mention was made of "we will prepare you to be an
       | adult" or "we will get you a good job."
       | 
       | Unfortunately, I cannot have children, but if I were in a
       | position to, I would like to think I would be interested in their
       | education to the extent that I would make serious choices. And
       | right now, that educational institutions consider their highest
       | advertising priority is to display a relentless laser focus on
       | DIE to the exclusion of, well, education does give a little
       | _pause_ to their selection.
       | 
       | As I recall just how ill-served I was by the many schools I
       | attended (we moved quite a lot), both for education and
       | socialization, I can only imagine that diverting the already-
       | anemic school efforts away from the core mission it even-then was
       | not doing a great job at would only make these institutions even
       | less-suited to their supposed task.
        
       | burcs wrote:
       | We're homeschooling our kids. I was pretty against it at first,
       | but seeing our education system degrade to the state it is today,
       | and being honest about my schooling experience definitely opened
       | me up to it.
       | 
       | I think the biggest argument for schooling is the socialization
       | aspect of it. I don't know about the rest of you but I was
       | bullied pretty relentlessly throughout grade school and it
       | completely changed my personality. I became much more of a loner,
       | reserved, quiet, and just defeated. I'm still working through
       | some of that baggage 30 years later. That's not the socialization
       | that I want for my kids.
       | 
       | I work remotely, my wife freelances. We have lots of friends and
       | family with children our kids age, why not surround them by
       | people who love them?
        
         | keiferski wrote:
         | I think I have basically the same opinion. It's not so much
         | that I believe homeschooling is amazing in-itself, but rather
         | that the public education system has so clearly deteriorated
         | that it seems borderline criminal to subject your kids to it.
         | 
         | The question for me, personally, is private school vs.
         | homeschooling. If you can avoid many of the downsides of public
         | education via choosing the right private school (and being able
         | to afford it), I do wonder if that would be superior to most
         | homeschooling setups.
        
           | wizerdrobe wrote:
           | We didn't go full home-school, but my wife and I
           | intentionally left our city to go raise our kids out in a
           | rural area so they could grow up in and around nature and
           | with a nice, small school district that smokes anything we
           | had back in the city. Better test scores, smaller classes,
           | minimal major discipline issues.
           | 
           | Prior to moving, our only "good" option for realistic
           | schooling was putting our children in a local Catholic school
           | with high fees. Given our state is in the midst of legal
           | battles with activist groups fighting to overturn a recent
           | school-choice voucher program, seemed moving was the safe
           | choice.
           | 
           | For the life of me, I can't understand why anyone but a
           | public-sector teacher being finally held to account would
           | fight against giving parents options to place their kids in a
           | school they see fit.
        
             | boojums wrote:
             | I like collecting examples that confirm/deny my biases.
             | Would you mind sharing the demographic differences between
             | the two schools?
        
           | standardUser wrote:
           | I don't understand this talk about "the public education
           | system". Every school and school district is going to be
           | different. Some are great and others are not. I understand if
           | you live in an area with middling-to-poor schools, but lots
           | of people live near great public schools.
        
             | keiferski wrote:
             | I'm sure there are good public schools, but my experience
             | and the experience of everyone I've ever known has not been
             | positive. Combined with policies like California's [1], I
             | don't think it's unreasonable to just be skeptical of most
             | American public education.
             | 
             | 1. https://www.noahpinion.blog/p/california-needs-real-
             | math-edu...
        
             | rcpt wrote:
             | Ridiculous amounts of standardized testing and curriculums
             | designed to optimize for that was the main thing we hated.
             | Seems to be a thing everywhere.
             | 
             | When I was a kid teachers had a bit more freedom to decide
             | what to teach but now you teach to the test or lose your
             | funding.
        
               | jewayne wrote:
               | Teachers absolutely should teach to the test. And
               | individual teachers really shouldn't be in the business
               | of deciding what to teach, either.
               | 
               | Why is there an assumption that what is on the test is
               | inherently worthless but every individual teacher is
               | qualified to design an entire curriculum?
        
               | standardUser wrote:
               | The educators that stood out in my life were the ones who
               | were passionate and interesting and added their own
               | experiences and perspectives. We have somewhere between
               | 40-60 teachers over the course of a typical public
               | education. I'd hope at least a good cross-section of
               | those bring something to the table other than rote
               | explanations of test questions.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | >Why is there an assumption that what is on the test is
               | inherently worthless but every individual teacher is
               | qualified to design an entire curriculum?
               | 
               | Because my mother went to school for six years for
               | exactly that purpose? Some states have pretty high
               | requirements for teachers, and they tend to do well.
               | 
               | Also, the "teach to test" BS is extremely locality
               | dependent. There are zero things you can generalize
               | across all public schools in the US.
        
         | CodeWriter23 wrote:
         | Check for homeschooling groups in your area. Meet and talk to
         | parents, you'll find out all about it including resource
         | centers for when your child needs to learn topics where you are
         | weak.
         | 
         | We've been homeschooling for 7 years. Our child's social
         | experience has increased both quantitatively and qualitatively.
         | From few/constantly bullied physically and sexually, to
         | many/nice thoughtful friends who will jump in and defend her
         | instead of filming her, should things go down. She's also a
         | leader, does service for her community, and (proud papa moment
         | here) at her 4th debate competition (3 per year in this league)
         | won 9th place speaker and 3rd place team. Her team swept the
         | series of 4 rounds. The only way their team could do
         | that...wait for it...lots of practice aka socialization.
         | 
         | The "socialization" boogeyman is one of the most overplayed red
         | herrings about homeschooling IMO.
        
         | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
         | I think anyone who has been seriously bullied would definitely
         | agree - being bullied as a child can severely fuck up the rest
         | of your life. Sure, many/most eventually move on, but like you,
         | 30 years later I've got the therapy bills to show for it.
         | 
         | Sometimes I feel a little guilty feeling envious about my
         | nieces' upbringing. They went to private school that ran from
         | 1-8 grade, so they essentially skipped the middle school
         | experience that was detrimental to so many. Honestly, I believe
         | middle school as I experienced it (a whole bunch of elementary
         | "feeder" schools that fed into one giant middle school for 7-8
         | grade) is the dumbest invention in the history of humanity. It
         | sticks together kids, at wildly different stages of
         | development, in an unfamiliar environment where everyone is
         | trying to find their place in the social hierarchy - Lord of
         | the Flies should have been set in middle school. Much better
         | IMO to just have kids stay together 1-8th grade, and by then
         | most folks are at least well into puberty by the time they get
         | to high school. Not saying of course bullying doesn't happen in
         | high school, but I think by then more kids are able to find
         | their "tribe", so if they are bullied they have friends to fall
         | back on (again, I'm of course painting with broad strokes).
        
         | akira2501 wrote:
         | > That's not the socialization that I want for my kids.
         | 
         | On the other hand, I'd definitely want my children to be
         | familiar with it. Bullying is not something isolated to
         | schools. I've seen it in nearly every social and political
         | situation that exists at nearly every age group. In my
         | estimation people are getting worse at identifying it and
         | collectively we're getting worse at punishing it.
        
           | doubled112 wrote:
           | Dealing with bullies is something you'll definitely see later
           | in life.
           | 
           | I'm glad I learned how to shut it down quick or avoid it
           | altogether earlier rather than later.
           | 
           | Being let out into the world thinking everybody loves you
           | sounds like a terrifying idea too.
        
             | SoftTalker wrote:
             | What do you do to quickly shut down an adult bully?
        
               | KoftaBob wrote:
               | Sleep with their wife
        
               | doubled112 wrote:
               | Well that escalated quickly.
               | 
               | Are you also taking photos for blackmail purposes? That'd
               | very possibly shut the whole thing down.
        
               | doubled112 wrote:
               | It really depends.
               | 
               | If it's a peer in a more professional setting, simply
               | calling them out generally makes you less a target,
               | especially if calling out their behaviour is done in a
               | group setting. It comes down to the old "stand up for
               | yourself" rule we've all heard. Also, calm confidence
               | tends to work with adults too.
               | 
               | If the bullying is coming from above, time to move on. I
               | have zero patience for it, and there's likely no stopping
               | them.
               | 
               | Also, I'm not suggesting you take them outside, although
               | I know a couple guys who've been through fights between
               | coworkers in their workplaces. Grown men (in their 30s)
               | sure can take a long time to grow.
        
           | doktrin wrote:
           | > Bullying is not something isolated to schools. I've seen it
           | in nearly every social and political situation that exists at
           | nearly every age group.
           | 
           | Unless you live in prison or a war zone I highly doubt you've
           | witnessed "adult" bullying that remotely approaches the
           | ferocity and cruelty some kids have to endure on a daily
           | basis.
        
           | pfannkuchen wrote:
           | As an adult there is basically no situation where someone is
           | harassing you and you have no way out of it. What do you have
           | in mind?
        
         | plussed_reader wrote:
         | Care to name the region of your 'degrading system' with your
         | anecdote?
        
         | arrowsmith wrote:
         | > I work remotely, my wife freelances.
         | 
         | Are you both working full-time? What's the arrangement? How do
         | you fit the homeschooling in around your jobs?
         | 
         | My wife and I have talked about this a lot. We don't have kids
         | yet, but we're very open to the idea of homeschooling when the
         | time comes. I'm not sure how we'll do it though - we're in a
         | better position than most (we make good money and both wfh) but
         | there are only so many hours in the day. I'm interested to know
         | how other people make it work.
        
           | gnicholas wrote:
           | Kids are in school for 5 or so hours per day, but for many
           | kids (especially those who are bright), they are learning for
           | perhaps 1 hour of that time. If you can take an hour to teach
           | them something, and another 10 minutes to assess their
           | progress later in the day, they will learn at least as much
           | as they would have in school. Of course, the time commitment
           | also varies by grade; younger kids need lots of attention,
           | whereas older kids are more self-sufficient. It depends on
           | lot based on your particular kids.
        
       | pjc50 wrote:
       | So .. I was homeschooled for a couple of years, in the UK, and
       | had a relatively normal if solitary experience. But that was
       | because my mother was a qualified teacher who'd stopped working,
       | and I was a smart kid. This left me naturally favourable to the
       | idea.
       | 
       | Since then it's become clear that there are basically two
       | categories of homeschoolers: those that want to bring in extra
       | education beyond what the public school system can deliver, and
       | those that want to bring in _less_ education than the public
       | system. Usually in the name of  "protecting" them from some
       | information for religious reasons. That's where all the attention
       | and concern is. Because children can't advocate for themselves,
       | especially against their parents.
       | 
       | (The UK had a recent scandal with illegal schools:
       | https://www.theguardian.com/education/2019/apr/12/ofsted-unc... ;
       | running a school for money - heck, even offering a childminding
       | service for money - without registering with OFSTED is definitely
       | illegal, while homeschooling is legal by default
       | https://www.gov.uk/home-education )
        
         | pixl97 wrote:
         | This too is my experience.
         | 
         | I grew up in a place with a large number of religious
         | organizations and outcome of this is what I would consider
         | abuse in a huge number of cases. Would the children themselves
         | think so at the time, kinda hard when you're taught "spare the
         | rod, spoil the child" and "Of course the Earth is only 6000
         | years old" daily.
        
       | n3storm wrote:
       | Huge batch of negationists and easy-to-scam-with-health-products
       | humans incoming.
        
       | outside1234 wrote:
       | The problem with home schooling is that it is a solution for the
       | rich and leaves all of the poor kids behind.
        
         | throwaway1777 wrote:
         | Yes it is. People forget this because they live in a bubble.
         | It's like remote work, nice for the laptop class, but not
         | possible for the person growing your food and manufacturing
         | your tesla.
        
           | pjc50 wrote:
           | Oh, there's definitely poor people doing it as well. Not
           | necessarily as well.
        
             | Ancapistani wrote:
             | We've looking into this, as deeply as we can as
             | "outsiders". We homeschool, but are firmly "middle class"
             | from a national perspective and easily in the top 1% income
             | in our county.
             | 
             | Regardless of income, the key factor seems to be the
             | rationale. If parents want to homeschool because they're
             | involved with their kids' lives and want them to succeed,
             | they'll do well relative to the available public school
             | options.
        
           | BurningFrog wrote:
           | There are plenty of people doing low paid jobs like phone
           | support from home.
           | 
           | Just like high earners like LeBron James are not allowed to
           | WFH and have long commutes.
           | 
           | It just depends on the nature of the work.
        
           | fundad wrote:
           | Always nice to see a silly Elon quote
        
         | ryan93 wrote:
         | It is almost exclusively a middle class activity. Also not that
         | expensive if one parent is home. I knew many homeschooled kids
         | who were just given a math textbook and worked through it. You
         | only go to math class in public school for about 182 hours a
         | year, so a diligent kid can do a year of math in a few months
         | no problem.
        
         | hotnfresh wrote:
         | The rich hire tutors or send their kids to $25k-$75k/yr private
         | school. Or both.
        
         | Ancapistani wrote:
         | How familiar are you with the experiences and outcomes of poor
         | kids in public schools?
        
         | dxhdr wrote:
         | Rich families already do this by sending their kids to private
         | schools. Have you seen how expensive and competitive these
         | schools are, even starting as early as Kindergarten?
        
         | missedthecue wrote:
         | From personal experience, the average homeschooled family seems
         | to be blue collar
        
       | throwaway1777 wrote:
       | There's a whole spectrum of "home schooling". At one end you have
       | parents teaching their own kids, maybe using some online
       | resources, libraries etc. but for many it is more like group
       | schooling which is almost like a charter or private school where
       | you join with other "home" schoolers but don't have a traditional
       | teacher and administration, it's basically the remote work
       | approach of school vs the in-office approach. Then you have
       | actual private schools with a more traditional building and
       | teaching method. And finally you have public schools, the default
       | choice which used to be seen as the gold standard in terms of
       | equal opportunity, but let's forget about that because schools
       | are "indoctrinating" kids now.
        
       | monero-xmr wrote:
       | I would much prefer "backpack funding" aka vouchers. The blue-
       | state city I live in spends almost $25k per student per year and
       | apart from a few magnet schools they are atrociously bad. Like
       | the high school my kids would have to attend if I wasn't wealthy
       | had a student murdered outside of it a few years ago.
       | 
       | If you gave parents even 1/3 of that money the state would save a
       | fortune and parents would be so much better off. The monopoly
       | system of education we have is just so awful. I'm fine with
       | having bonus benefits for special needs kids, and public schools
       | should always exist to educate the high-needs students. But the
       | system we have now is so laughably bad and segregated that anyone
       | who defends it must have a financial stake in keeping it running.
        
         | hotnfresh wrote:
         | Naive per-student-spending calculations can misleading. Some
         | students cost a lot more than others. My state spends hundreds
         | of thousands per student in some cases--but that's schools in
         | juvenile detention facilities. Nonetheless, that goes in the
         | stats. Kids in self-contained classrooms ("special ed" kids who
         | can't function in the normal classroom) can be several times as
         | expensive to educate as the median kid. Kids in ordinary
         | classrooms who get a dedicated assistant, they've got all the
         | usual spending plus the fully-loaded cost of the assistant, so
         | that's easily over $50k total. Kid in a gifted program? Add
         | low-five figures to the cost. Fancy selective-admission public
         | schools, which some states have? Typically higher spending per
         | student than other schools, which drags up the average.
         | 
         | They also have bussing costs, which (e.g.) private schools
         | don't, which further complicates comparisons. That's not a
         | small amount of money.
        
           | monero-xmr wrote:
           | I clearly stated I am fine for the special needs kids getting
           | more funding. The central point is to give me - the parent -
           | the money that would go to the atrociously bad school so I
           | can put my kids (not special needs) into a good school. That
           | is the situation for the majority of students.
        
             | throwaway626 wrote:
             | So, to be clear, you're fine with funding special needs
             | education and etc. as long as it's someone else footing the
             | bill.
        
               | monero-xmr wrote:
               | I have no idea what you are talking about. I already pay
               | via my tax dollars $25k on average per student. I'm
               | suggesting reducing that spend, for those that want it
               | for non-special needs kids, and giving the reduced amount
               | to parents to spend on any school they want - or staying
               | in their public school they already have.
               | 
               | The problem is the local public school where everyone in
               | my neighborhood is forced to go (unless they are rich) is
               | dangerous and ranked bottom 5%. That is extremely racist,
               | inequitable, and unfair to people who are forced to
               | attend.
        
       | underseacables wrote:
       | We started homeschooling our kids during the pandemic with a
       | neighborhood group, and it went really well. Everything about
       | them improved, not just their academic performance, but also
       | their mood got way more positive about learning. Now we have them
       | in private school and.. it seems to be going fairly well. They
       | don't have the irritability that they did in public schools, and
       | I think my children are much happier. From my perspective,
       | there's just too much chaos in public education for healthy
       | learning.
        
       | chmod600 wrote:
       | If you home school, you don't get the money back. Public school
       | is something like $12k/yr. That's a lot of money that you're
       | essentially opting out of.
       | 
       | For parents who do so for political or culture war reasons, that
       | must seem profoundly unfair. To be driven out of the public
       | schools means to be denied resources.
       | 
       | Public schools using public money should be especially sensitive
       | and as neutral as possible on political or culture war issues.
       | That's increasingly difficult, but without that, public school
       | doesn't have a good future.
       | 
       | Normally schools are thought of as Democrat-controlled, but
       | that's not true everywhere. So rather than just saying that
       | everything is OK the way it is, think about how it will be when
       | your political opponents are in control.
        
         | keiferski wrote:
         | I believe that some states have programs that give you the
         | money if you home-school. There seem to be some restrictions,
         | though:
         | 
         | https://idealschool.education/full-day-program/utah-voucher-...
        
           | Ancapistani wrote:
           | Our state does - we did not take it, because the money comes
           | with enough strings to make it distasteful.
           | 
           | We homeschool to keep our kids out of government schools.
           | Inviting that same government into our home for a bit of
           | money would make no sense whatsoever.
        
             | keiferski wrote:
             | Makes sense, and looking at some of the requirements,
             | understandable.
        
         | burkaman wrote:
         | > as neutral as possible on political or culture war issues
         | 
         | I don't think it's really possible to be neutral about culture
         | war issues, sort of by definition, especially when many of the
         | wars are about schools themselves. A school is part of American
         | culture, it can't somehow choose not to participate. To use a
         | historical example, there was a culture war over teaching
         | evolution in schools. A teacher at the time could describe the
         | history and facts of the controversy without stating their
         | opinion on it, but when the students leave that classroom, they
         | are still in a school that either teaches evolution or doesn't.
         | By existing and having a curriculum, the school takes a
         | position in the culture war.
         | 
         | Imagine if your country held a referendum on a certain issue,
         | and said "if more than 50% of citizens vote yes, the law
         | passes, otherwise it fails". You could have a genuinely neutral
         | opinion on the issue ("I don't care which side wins"), but you
         | cannot take a neutral action, because not voting makes the law
         | less likely to pass. This is unfair, and you can be mad about
         | it, but the only way to be "neutral" would be to leave the
         | country and renounce your citizenship so that you are no longer
         | part of the equation. Similarly, in a culture war, the only way
         | to be neutral would be to not participate in the culture in
         | question, which is even more difficult than leaving a country.
         | 
         | Let me give one more example: whether or not to tip your server
         | in a restaurant. Tipping 10% instead of 20% is not neutral.
         | Tipping 50% of the time you go to a restaurant is not neutral.
         | You could say "I don't wish to take a position, so I will no
         | longer go to restaurants", but I'm confident the anti-tipping
         | side would claim you as one of their own. Again it feels
         | unfair, but it's just how culture works.
        
           | chmod600 wrote:
           | Lack of perfection doesn't mean you shouldn't try to be more
           | neutral. Trying by itself (even if failing) earns the trust
           | of voters.
           | 
           | And if you live in an area where evolution is a controversial
           | topic, then you should leave it up to the parents. You don't
           | have a right to use their money to teach something that a lot
           | of people don't want to be taught. Of course, there's some
           | line where something is fringe enough and you don't have to
           | accommodate every last person. Again, try to be neutral,
           | don't aim for perfection.
           | 
           | And you know what? Evolution is a nuanced topic. The actual
           | claims that can be backed up by first principals using the
           | scientific method are fairly narrow. Much of the reasoning is
           | very prone to confirmation bias and all kinds of after-the-
           | fact fitting rather than forward-looking predictions. To
           | stick to the science on the topic of evolution you have to be
           | pretty careful and most teachers are not. Not saying it
           | shouldn't be taught... I think it has a lot of explanatory
           | power outside of pure science and represents a large body of
           | important observations. But I don't think it's a good example
           | of science-vs-idiots.
        
         | brodouevencode wrote:
         | You've just made a strong case for a voucher type of program.
        
         | kashunstva wrote:
         | > For parents who do so for political or culture war reasons,
         | that must seem profoundly unfair.
         | 
         | I homeschooled my daughter for reasons other than culture wars
         | or politics (she's a violinist and public schools didn't regard
         | practice time as particularly important.)
         | 
         | But I never thought of public school funding as transactional.
         | We did not take direct advantage of the benefit; but a
         | reasonably well educated populace benefits me in a host of
         | other ways. So I harboured no resentment when paying my public
         | school levy.
        
           | chmod600 wrote:
           | "We did not take direct advantage of the benefit; but a
           | reasonably well educated populace benefits me in a host of
           | other ways."
           | 
           | But that's precisely the point: what does "well-educated"
           | mean? If the money is going toward reading, writing, and
           | 'rithmetic, then few will disagree. When the curriculum,
           | environment, or manner of teaching drift into more
           | controversial areas, then you might start to see things
           | differently.
           | 
           | Imagine the school starts teaching things that don't align
           | with your values, and they leave out things that do. How
           | would you feel about the way your tax dollars are spent?
        
         | SketchySeaBeast wrote:
         | > If you home school, you don't get the money back. Public
         | school is something like $12k/yr. That's a lot of money that
         | you're essentially opting out of.
         | 
         | That's not money you have a right to as a parent. I don't take
         | part in all the social programs my government offers, but I
         | don't get all that money back.
        
           | chmod600 wrote:
           | Public schools don't have some inalienable right to that
           | money either -- they are entrusted with the money by popular
           | vote. If we want that to continue, then there needs to be
           | very broad consensus that the things teachers are teaching
           | are the right things, or at least not the wrong things.
        
             | SketchySeaBeast wrote:
             | What other institutions do people try to claw back money
             | from when people decide they can do a better job?
        
               | chmod600 wrote:
               | Schools are one area where there's a lot of money
               | involved, it's a direct service to normal people, and
               | those people actually can do a pretty good job without
               | the school (not saying that everyone can or that it's
               | easy).
               | 
               | Some communities highly dissatisfied with their police
               | attempted to defund and/or defunded their department.
               | That's not a great example because self-service policing
               | doesn't work very well, but it's kinda close.
               | 
               | Ultimately, if you want the voters' money, you need to
               | convince them that you at least won't use it against
               | them. And it's really easy for people to start thinking
               | that it's being used against them when engaging in
               | culture war or political issues.
        
               | SketchySeaBeast wrote:
               | > Some communities highly dissatisfied with their police
               | attempted to defund and/or defunded their department.
               | That's not a great example because self-service policing
               | doesn't work very well, but it's kinda close.
               | 
               | This is a great example for what should happen - demands
               | for systemic reform, not taking what you think is "your"
               | money and going home.
               | 
               | It's one thing to opt out of a system, it's another to
               | think you're justified to get money back for it. As
               | someone without any children am I justified in getting
               | 24k/year back because I'm not using the school system for
               | my (average) 2 non-kids? Of course not, but I do pay
               | taxes for that service.
        
         | gnicholas wrote:
         | > _If you home school, you don 't get the money back. Public
         | school is something like $12k/yr. That's a lot of money that
         | you're essentially opting out of._
         | 
         | Money spent [?] value provided. My kid's class has over half a
         | million dollars spent on it per year. But many parents see it
         | as merely childcare, and then spend more money on after school
         | tutoring and activities.
         | 
         | I can see the appeal of skipping the schooling and doing the
         | other activities during the school day. It's probably much
         | easier/cheaper to get appointments before 2, when most kids are
         | in school. And there's more flexibility in terms of scheduling.
         | I just heard today that a family was threatened with being
         | kicked out of our local school if they accrued 10 days of
         | unexcused absences (which includes vacation days). While I
         | don't think the school would actually kick the family out, the
         | fact that this is even floated as an idea sounds crazy.
        
       | weeznerps wrote:
       | I was homeschooled in the 90s/early 00s in the conservative
       | Christian wing of the movement. Personally, I think it was a
       | great experience (despite the conservative, religious aspect
       | which I later rejected) and made me a more unique person. I would
       | not have done well socially in school as a child anyway. My
       | brother though, raised in the same environment, resents our
       | upbringing. I also meet many homeschoolers raised in conservative
       | Christian households who disliked the experience.
       | 
       | Overall, it's a very high variance method of education. For every
       | Judit Polgar, you have a woman told her highest calling must be
       | to reproduce and be subservient to her husband (I know these
       | people personally).
       | 
       | If you have the resources and have intellectually precocious
       | children, especially if they are a bit odd, they will likely
       | enjoy it and benefit from it. If you have kids that really want
       | to play sports at a high level or are socially very successful,
       | they might later resent the opportunities they missed and the
       | shared experiences they lack. Obviously, this is reductive, but I
       | think something like this is true.
        
       | burkaman wrote:
       | Is there a story here beyond the pandemic? The data really makes
       | it look like homeschooling increased a significant but not mind-
       | blowing amount at the beginning of the pandemic, when parents
       | pulled their kids out of school either because they thought they
       | were unsafe or were upset about mask mandates. Now the rate is
       | gradually declining as some kids return to school and some
       | parents decide it's working well so they'll keep going until
       | their kids are older.
       | 
       | The pandemic is the most obvious cause, and the article notes
       | that "Despite claims that the home-schooling boom is a result of
       | failing public schools, The Post found no correlation between
       | school district quality, as measured by standardized test scores,
       | and home-schooling growth." Obviously test scores are not the
       | only measure of quality, but at least in this article there is no
       | evidence of any cause other than the pandemic. The other possible
       | factor discussed in this comment section, politics, doesn't seem
       | to be relevant either. There is no correlation between
       | homeschooling rates and the politics of the parents or the state.
       | 
       | Also, "fastest-growing" is not very remarkable when the only
       | other categories are public and private. Home-schooling is by far
       | the smallest category, less than 5%, so basically any increase
       | (which has to come from a decrease in at least one of the other
       | categories) will make it the fastest-growing category.
       | 
       | Here are statistics going back further:
       | https://nces.ed.gov/programs/digest/d21/tables/dt21_206.10.a....
       | Homeschooling gradually increased from 1999 to 2012, and then
       | started to decline a bit until the pandemic.
        
         | tivert wrote:
         | > The data really makes it look like homeschooling increased a
         | significant but not mind-blowing amount at the beginning of the
         | pandemic, when parents pulled their kids out of school either
         | because they thought they were unsafe or were upset about mask
         | mandates.
         | 
         | I think you're forgetting the biggest reason: it turns out zoom
         | school was a disaster and the worst of both worlds.
        
           | burkaman wrote:
           | Yes thank you, definitely should have mentioned that. My
           | point is that there were a wide variety of pandemic-driven
           | reasons that parents decided to homeschool. Even if all these
           | reasons disappeared when the pandemic culturally ended, we
           | wouldn't expect homeschooling rates to suddenly drop back
           | down to the pre-pandemic level. Switching to homeschooling is
           | a huge change, and so is switching back. I would expect the
           | rates to gradually decline as fewer new students enter
           | homeschool, existing students age out of it, and some
           | students switch back to public or private school, and that's
           | exactly what the data looks like.
        
       | Taylor_OD wrote:
       | Feels like there is a big homeschooling article once every other
       | week here and a whole slew of parents saying, "We homeschool and
       | its great and our kids love it" and then a bunch of adults
       | saying, "I was homeschooled and it was not great, and I did not
       | love it"
       | 
       | Regular schooling isn't ideal. But homeschooling is a pretty
       | major reaction to that, and it shouldn't be done without serious
       | consideration for the non-zero chance that your kids will resent
       | you for that decision.
        
         | Ancapistani wrote:
         | > But homeschooling is a pretty major reaction to that, and it
         | shouldn't be done without serious consideration for the non-
         | zero chance that your kids will resent you for that decision.
         | 
         | As a parent of two daughters who are homeschooled -
         | _unschooled_ , actually - I 100% agree.
         | 
         | As with everything, our approach is intentional and we're open
         | with our kids about it. If they wanted to go to a school -
         | public, private, or religious - we would make that happen.
         | 
         | Our eldest is currently taking three hours per day at the local
         | public high school. She's 15, wants to own a equine stud farm,
         | and is taking every agriculture class she can find. After this
         | year she will have exhausted their offerings in that subject,
         | so she'll likely start at the local community college in the
         | fall.
        
       | nickthegreek wrote:
       | John Oliver did a great segment on the issues with home schooling
       | in the modern age a few weeks ago.
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lzsZP9o7SlI
        
         | goalonetwo wrote:
         | Ah yes, John Oliver.
         | 
         | Probably one of the most biased formats you can find. Mixing
         | comedy with pseudo-facts and personal opinions to push an
         | agenda/narrative.
         | 
         | I wish we could only see what he produces as comedy but way too
         | often people love to share his clips/narrative as a semi-
         | reliable source of information.
        
           | nickthegreek wrote:
           | If you have any specific issues with this segment, I would be
           | interesting in hearing them.
        
             | goalonetwo wrote:
             | Let's start with this thread:
             | 
             | https://twitter.com/wanyeburkett/status/1715586174658441404
        
               | nickthegreek wrote:
               | I do appreciate the effort, but I can't see the thread as
               | I do not have a twitter account.
        
       | francisofascii wrote:
       | Anecdotally I have worked with many colleagues who were
       | homeschooled. I suspect a correlation with home school children
       | and programmers. Also, just met a ninth grader who enrolled at
       | our local high school after being home schooled. He is
       | programming Rust and taking Calculus with a bunch of seniors. Not
       | sure if he is exceptional or simply was able to fast forward due
       | to being homeschooled.
        
         | xxs wrote:
         | I find it rather unlikely homeschool process had anything to do
         | with, esp. Rust. At that age I did mostly assembly but that was
         | just personal search/no teaching. Overall the kid is just an
         | anecdote.
        
       | brentm wrote:
       | I wonder how this all turns out. I know some people will do a
       | great job at educating their kids but I have a feeling that on
       | the average most of these kids will have been better off not home
       | schooled. I think it takes a pretty special type of kid to do the
       | work when the only pressure comes from your mom and dad.
        
       | knodi wrote:
       | Home schooling is also the worst form of education, only second
       | to no education.
        
         | bluescrn wrote:
         | Home schooling can be anything from the very best to the very
         | worst, depending on who's doing the teaching and how well
         | they're doing it.
        
       | vasco wrote:
       | I wasn't homeschooled and it's not legal to do it in my country
       | even, so I have a bias. That being said it seems weird to me that
       | parents in the US seem to consider that they "own" their kids to
       | a much bigger degree than some places in Europe at least. I don't
       | have kids but I think most parents around me growing up had a
       | sense that their kid also belongs "to society" in a way, and
       | going to school and learning about what society "wants you to" is
       | expected, in the same way you also are just simply required to
       | vaccinate and that's it, because you also "belong to society" in
       | some way other than just belonging to your parents.
       | 
       | I wonder how much of the whole debate is mostly about difference
       | of opinions between people on both sides of this specific subject
       | rather than the ones the media focuses on.
        
         | zo1 wrote:
         | So grown ups in a country where children aren't allowed to be
         | home schooled generally believe that their children "belong to
         | society"?
         | 
         | At what point do we call it culture and "difference of opinion"
         | as opposed to just plain old indoctrination or brainwashing?
         | 
         | It's not a left vs right issue, this is freedom vs tyranny.
         | Right now the left isn't able see it as Tyranny or
         | indoctrination because _their_ predominant opinions and values
         | are being taught to children, so it 's convenient. It's another
         | form of "civilizing those barbarian <insert unfavorable group
         | here>".
         | 
         | At the end of the day, I don't belong to society, and neither
         | do my children. They belong to themselves and can choose for
         | themselves how they see fit. Until then, I'll instill my values
         | to them, and make sure they treat their fellow beings better
         | than the way "society" treats them.
        
         | anon291 wrote:
         | Well the issue is that the United States is very diverse. Most
         | countries are basically monocultural ethnostates. My kids do
         | not belong to American society but they definitely belong to a
         | particular culture. And within that culture, and families who
         | partake, we do 'share' our children.
         | 
         | But, to bring the culture wars into this, how do you feel that
         | you have joint guardianship of a child whose parent
         | fundamentally disagrees with you? With our church group, I
         | trust the parents to discipline, to entertain and to teach in a
         | way consistent with my beliefs, even if they're very different
         | people. On the other hand, my next door neighbor is convinced
         | my daughter is a boy because she likes trucks and would like
         | her to be trans, like she has already transed her son. When you
         | perceive other adults attempting to abuse your child and this
         | is a common enough movement you're not going to be able to feel
         | any joint sense of guardianship. And it's not just culture
         | issues. Unsurprisingly, neighbors children are also poorly
         | behaved, disrespectful, and never get told no.
         | 
         | America has fully embraced multiculturalism without
         | assimilation, so there are now dozens of cultures, so no sense
         | of joint guardianship over children.
        
       | seltzered_ wrote:
       | "Many home-schooling families say they have re-created these
       | communal functions through co-ops, or microschools, or Facebook.
       | But such groups often cluster by shared ideology; home
       | education's rise has coincided with the fracturing of a nation
       | unable to agree on the results of the last presidential election
       | or how to fight a pandemic that has killed more than 1.1 million
       | people."
       | 
       | There was a vice documentary that sorta touched on the political
       | & religious biases with some homeschooling communities &
       | programs: https://youtu.be/9kuNycfklN4 (2022)
        
       | lapetitejort wrote:
       | I was home-schooled until high school. Long story short, it was a
       | disaster. I bordered on having no education at all, on top of no
       | socialization. I'm so fortunate I got at least four years of
       | public school. I still think I suffer to this day. For parents
       | who are thinking of home schooling your kids: best of luck to
       | you. If you succeed, maybe your kids will be smarter. If you
       | fail, you could be setting your kids up for a lifetime of stunted
       | socialization skills and poor work habits.
        
         | ejb999 wrote:
         | so kind of like public school then?
        
         | arrowsmith wrote:
         | > a lifetime of stunted socialization skills and poor work
         | habits.
         | 
         | The joke's on you, I wasn't home-schooled and I still got both
         | of those.
        
           | brightball wrote:
           | Is your username related to the actual program out of
           | Toronto?
        
             | arrowsmith wrote:
             | No, I'm not Canadian and have no idea what program you're
             | talking about.
        
               | brightball wrote:
               | https://www.arrowsmith.ca/
        
         | giantg2 wrote:
         | Good education vs bad/no education
         | 
         | You'll find this in public schools too.
        
         | Hello71 wrote:
         | there are obviously lots of kids that had a very bad
         | homeschooling, and also lots of kids that had very bad public
         | schooling. many kids are bullied so badly at school that they
         | commit suicide, and many more develop antisocial habits there.
         | the question is whether those issues are better or worse with
         | homeschooling, and a single anecdote doesn't help us with that.
        
           | lapetitejort wrote:
           | I see a lot of single anecdotes and see no reason not to
           | include mine.
        
           | Spooky23 wrote:
           | Neither does the balance fallacy.
        
         | biomcgary wrote:
         | Did you notice that the article highlights the rise of
         | homeschooling co-ops? This is intentional on the part of the
         | homeschooling movement. It improves both socialization and
         | educational opportunities (e.g., shared lab equipment).
         | 
         | Rather than pearl clutching about individual anecdotes or
         | doubling down on government control, I think states should
         | provide direct funding to homeschool co-ops in addition to
         | direct funding to families. That money and its positive effects
         | on socialization and educational development will only work if
         | governments keep their noses out of the details (i.e.,
         | parallels arguments for UBI).
         | 
         | My son is autistic and non-verbal. The local public school
         | program that he would be in is overwhelmed. We hire a speech
         | language pathologist to tutor him 3-4 hours a day in our home.
         | That is only possible because of Arizona's support for
         | homeschooling families. Homeschooling is a great outlet when
         | standardization fails.
        
           | lapetitejort wrote:
           | I was in a home-school coop about 25 years ago. We attended
           | it a few times, until we stopped going. I was just a kid so I
           | have no idea why we stopped. I remember it didn't help. I
           | didn't know how to do any of the homework they assigned so I
           | never did any (a practice that carried into high school).
           | Since I never had tests or grades of any sort it didn't
           | really matter.
        
             | biomcgary wrote:
             | Thanks for the additional details about your experience
             | (and I'm sorry about them). Statistically, I'm slightly
             | surprised that you were in a co-op that long ago. I was
             | home-schooled a few years earlier and the notion of a co-op
             | was just starting to be discussed.
        
               | noelwelsh wrote:
               | There is a long tradition in this sort of thing in
               | anarchist (and related) education. For example
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-
               | managed_social_center#Fre...
               | 
               | It's maybe not 100% what you're thinking of, but it's
               | reasonably close.
        
             | vkou wrote:
             | > Since I never had tests or grades of any sort it didn't
             | really matter.
             | 
             | I was homeschooled to grade 3, and just because my parents
             | didn't give me tests or grades, it absolutely mattered.
             | 
             | I had to correctly solve, both verbally and in writing,
             | enough questions at the end of the current chapter of the
             | textbook, to a standard that satisfied them. For every
             | subject of study. Every single day.
        
               | spiderice wrote:
               | > just because my parents didn't give me tests or grades
               | 
               | > I had to correctly solve ... to a standard that
               | satisfied them
               | 
               | In other words, you had tests and grades
        
           | fzeroracer wrote:
           | A homeschooling co-op is literally us just reinventing the
           | wheel. A large enough co-op becomes a school system and a
           | school system eventually adopts a standard curriculum.
        
             | scarmig wrote:
             | People who do co-ops might not object to public schooling
             | in principle but to the particular implementation that
             | their locality has adopted. If co-ops becomes public
             | schools with better management, all the better.
        
               | boxed wrote:
               | And if they become public schools with worse management
               | and driven by crazy people.. what then?
        
               | jiveturkey42 wrote:
               | Straw man, slippery slope, false dilemma, causal
               | fallacy.. do they teach rhetoric and Aristotelian logic
               | in public schools?
        
           | spiderfarmer wrote:
           | > The local public school program that he would be in is
           | overwhelmed.
           | 
           | Pay more taxes. Solve the problem for all people who run into
           | it, not just the ones who can afford it.
        
           | poorlyknit wrote:
           | Isn't that just a private school where the parents are the
           | teachers?
        
             | ARandomerDude wrote:
             | It depends on the co-op. Some meet every day, in which case
             | yes it's effectively a private school. My kids used to
             | attend a co-op that met once a week for hands-on, group
             | learning activities. The rest of the time, they were doing
             | their course work at home.
        
           | jrflowers wrote:
           | > Rather than pearl clutching about individual anecdotes
           | 
           | > We hire a speech language pathologist to tutor him 3-4
           | hours a day in our home.
           | 
           | You have a good point. GP's experience with home schooling
           | was an anecdote whereas your experience with home schooling
           | is not
        
         | zarzavat wrote:
         | People socialised for thousands, in fact hundreds of thousands
         | of years before schools were invented.
         | 
         | I went to school and got beat up, colour me sceptical about
         | school as a mechanism for socialisation.
        
           | civilitty wrote:
           | Were they actually socialized for thousands of years? The
           | average (sub)urban school in the US teaches more kids every
           | day than the average person would have come in contact with
           | in their entire lives, often ten times over. Most people were
           | subsistence farmers and didn't travel very far from their
           | little village in their entire life.
        
             | wizofaus wrote:
             | Arguably any period of history where the majority of people
             | lived as subsistence farmers and rarely interacted with
             | others not part of the household was an anomaly though, and
             | very different to how pre-agricultural societies lived.
        
             | jltsiren wrote:
             | The average medieval subsistence farmer probably had ~10000
             | people living within 6 miles of them. People tended to live
             | in areas with fertile land, and the land could easily
             | support 100-200 people per square mile.
        
           | scarmig wrote:
           | Socialisation here means "learn to accept arbitrary
           | hierarchies and petty injustices as the natural state of the
           | world," not "learn to respect other people as human beings."
           | In fairness, the former probably maps better to the real
           | world.
        
           | defgeneric wrote:
           | Socialization is broader than just between peers. It's how
           | the individual develops a relationship to society as a whole.
           | The public school system is the primary way the state
           | socializes kids. You learn the difference between the public
           | and private spheres (the school vs the family), how the two
           | relate, and how they relate to the broader community. Some
           | are better served by it than others but on the whole it's a
           | very good thing.
        
             | zarzavat wrote:
             | Yeah I can't say I ever experienced the values of the state
             | at school, unless the values of the state are "survival of
             | the fittest" and "might makes right".
             | 
             | Actually, you might be on to something!
        
             | carlosjobim wrote:
             | You believe in a false god you call "the state" and
             | "society". These things don't exist, only people exist.
             | 
             | Public schools are operated with the purpose of breaking
             | the spirit of the children of the underclass so that they
             | become obedient workers or soldiers. That's why the
             | education part is so lacking and the obedience training so
             | focused. Children are schooled in having no liberty of
             | time, no liberty of movement and no liberty of thought.
             | Perfect for a soldier or industrial or corporate worker.
             | 
             | On the contrary a successful adult is characterized by
             | having liberty of her time, liberty of her movement and
             | liberty of her thought.
             | 
             | The purpose of state schools is to create failed human
             | beings, because they are needed to serve the rulers.
             | 
             | Schools are specifically made to break communities by
             | separating children by age, leaving their main influence to
             | be a few teachers, instead of having dynamic interactions
             | with adults of all different types.
             | 
             | No institution has been more damaging to humanity than
             | state schools.
        
         | SoftTalker wrote:
         | You write pretty well based on these few sentences. I have
         | found that nothing improved my writing more than reading
         | authors I liked and being aware of (in some cases adopting or
         | imitating elements of) their writing styles. Did you read a lot
         | on your own?
        
           | lapetitejort wrote:
           | Pretty much everything I know I picked up in community
           | college about six years after graduating high school with a
           | 2.6 GPA. I like to think I'm a smart and empathetic person. I
           | would love to meet the person who got to use those innate
           | skills at a young age instead of having to dredge up whatever
           | remained after a decade of neglect.
        
             | giantg2 wrote:
             | I think this is a highly individualized question depending
             | on the circumstances.
             | 
             | I'd qualify as smart depending on the metric. I actually
             | went to a private school (the public schools in the area
             | were complete garbage and out of control - bomb threats,
             | drugs, etc at the middle school level). It really wasn't
             | that challenging and most of my useful knowledge beyond the
             | basic read/write/math is self taught. Most of the stuff I
             | learned in college was never used. Using those innate
             | skills at a young age produced nothing tangible. I won't
             | achieve any real success in life even though I checked all
             | the boxes when I was younger - smart, good grades,
             | extracurriculars, family, religion, went to college, etc.
             | 
             | Really all any good school or parent can do that is helpful
             | is teach their kids to want to learn and how to self-teach.
             | Most schools are terrible at this and just want to hit test
             | scores and follow procedures/regulations (learning
             | environment can be atrocious). I'd say most parents are
             | average at this.
             | 
             | The real question is, what do _you_ think would be
             | different and why can 't you achieve that now?
        
               | anon291 wrote:
               | I will second this. I went to a normal parochial school
               | and my wife went to a normal public school and we both
               | agree that our higher-than-average educational outcomes
               | were due to self-teaching and tons of parental tutoring.
        
         | merpnderp wrote:
         | I'm sorry for you bad experience, but statistically kids do
         | better when homeschooled. It's not like public school as some
         | minimal level they're assured to bring kids up to.
        
           | FireBeyond wrote:
           | Citation needed.
           | 
           | Beyond studies by the National Home Education Research
           | Institute, that is. The three leading studies by
           | homeschooling advocates looked at "homeschooled students who
           | went to college" and how they did at school versus public
           | schooled students at college, and ignored the fact that the
           | percentage of homeschooled students who went to college was
           | _much_ smaller (why?) than for public schools.
        
             | noirbot wrote:
             | My guess for the college admission situation is at least
             | partially because, until recently, a lot of public and
             | private colleges essentially refused to recognize
             | homeschooling as a way to get an education, so your chance
             | of getting admitted was almost zero at a ton of schools.
             | This lead a lot of people (myself included) to essentially
             | join something that's legally an accredited private school,
             | but functionally homeschooling, but you take your exams at
             | a central place at a central time. For statistical
             | purposes, I was private schooled, because that was what I
             | needed to do to make it into college. Actually fully
             | homeschooled people went to community college and then
             | tried and often failed to transfer.
        
           | wizofaus wrote:
           | I was curious to know what sort of studies had been done in
           | that regard, I didn't notice anything mentioned by the
           | article, though admittedly I only skimmed the 2nd half. FWIW
           | I don't think I've ever met or known of anyone being home
           | schooled in Australia, though I'm sure it must happen.
        
           | gemstones wrote:
           | (Educationally)
        
         | jwells89 wrote:
         | The majority of my schooling was at home as well, and while
         | education was mostly ok (with some notable highs and lows) my
         | parents found it difficult to make the scheduling work for
         | socialization (in part due to my semi-rural hometown -- any
         | activities meant a considerable drive), and so that was largely
         | absent.
         | 
         | I've done alright for myself and have even managed to rank
         | among top achievers in my family, but it's felt like I've been
         | stuck playing catchup in various ways throughout my adult life.
         | Now in my mid-30s, in some aspects I feel that I'm where I
         | should've been in my mid-20s.
         | 
         | With that in mind I wouldn't say I'm against homeschooling
         | necessarily, but I think it's crucial for parents to consider
         | if they really have the time available to make it as complete
         | as it needs to be. If there's any doubt at all it might not be
         | a great idea.
        
         | darigo wrote:
         | I mean, this cuts both ways. One of the most consistent
         | predictors of success in public school is parental involvement.
         | 
         | The only school I ever went to that was good for socialization
         | was community college. Tbh, for learning too. I basically
         | learned all of math, from arithmetic up, as an adult at
         | community college, to compensate for learning nothing and
         | getting pushed through all of the grade levels at public
         | school.
         | 
         | I wish they had community colleges where I live now lol.
        
         | gemstones wrote:
         | For real. It's telling that the kids don't jump in here to
         | defend the practice, hardly ever (also homeschooled, education
         | was great, socialization was absolutely problematic despite
         | doing all the homeschool group things.)
        
           | cpill wrote:
           | read plus the internet are a bit challenging for them :P
        
           | bigstrat2003 wrote:
           | > It's telling that the kids don't jump in here to defend the
           | practice, hardly ever...
           | 
           | Homeschooled kids are a minority, and therefore formerly-
           | homeschooled adults are a minority too. More of a minority,
           | even (since the rate of homeschooling was lower when we were
           | growing up). It's not "telling", it's simply the fact that
           | not a ton of people exist to give a defense.
           | 
           | For my part I was homeschooled and had a great experience. My
           | parents were able to challenge me in ways that the local
           | public school wasn't willing to, and they made consistent
           | efforts to make sure I had social exposure to other kids. I
           | don't believe I am lacking in any way because my parents
           | homeschooled me - in fact, if anything I believe it was the
           | better option for me.
           | 
           | And I think you need to remember that the other side of the
           | coin exists too. My wife went to public school, and was
           | bullied by other kids. She has social anxiety and other
           | issues _to this day_ (she 's 42 years old) as a result. That
           | doesn't mean public schools are all bad, of course, but
           | people need to stop ignoring the downsides of public school
           | when they compare the two paradigms.
        
             | buildbot wrote:
             | Counterpoint - why don't we see defense of homeschooling at
             | the same rate of attacks? Even if they are rare, there are
             | several posters here that have experienced bad home
             | schools. If they are at least 50:50, shouldn't we expect
             | the same rate of defense? That we don't see that is
             | telling.
             | 
             | Being bullied sucks and has huge negative impacts. I am
             | glad though, that I have the tools and experience to
             | identify that happening now that I am an adult. A
             | homeschooled me might not, and then suffer much more in the
             | adult sphere. Negative interactions are something kids have
             | to learn to deal with. It's not pretty or fair or even
             | safe, but neither is the world.
        
               | lolinder wrote:
               | My sense is that we _do_ see defense at approximately the
               | same rate as attacks (if not higher), but the attacks
               | stand out more because negative emotions weigh more than
               | positive ones. Even if we _didn 't_ see equal rates, that
               | would be expected for the same reason: someone who hates
               | that their parents homeschooled them is far more likely
               | to get on and post a scathing comment than someone who
               | loved the experience.
               | 
               | Companies have to bribe and cajole customers to leave
               | positive reviews because otherwise the few people with
               | disastrous experiences will be the only ones who bother
               | to review at all. There's no equivalent pro-homeschool
               | lobby begging people to get on and defend homeschooling
               | on Hacker News.
        
           | lolinder wrote:
           | You must be skipping over all of the comments on this thread
           | where homeschooled kids do exactly that.
           | 
           | Hi. I was homeschooled. I graduated university top of my
           | class, have a high-skill high-paying job, think more
           | critically (about everything _including_ religion) than most
           | people that I know, and overall I enjoy my life very much. I
           | 'm homeschooling my kids.
        
         | Nicholas_C wrote:
         | My siblings and I were homeschooled up to about middle school.
         | My mother had three years of college but no degree and taught
         | all four of us at once. For financial reasons we all ended up
         | going to public school at around late elementary/middle school
         | and we were miles ahead of everyone from an academic
         | standpoint. There were definitely some social issues
         | integrating which didn't take long but I think our parents
         | could have done a better job exposing us to "normal" kids and
         | not moving around so much. YMMV.
        
         | stronglikedan wrote:
         | Sorry that happened to you, but thankfully you're in a small
         | minority with that outcome.
        
       | camhart wrote:
       | When the choice is be happy with your assigned school based on
       | your location, or you have to uproot and move your entire
       | household, homeschooling becomes one of the few options when
       | public school is failing one of your kids.
        
         | chasd00 wrote:
         | If you have the ability and desire to homeschool then it's
         | always going to be the best choice. Only if you feel like you
         | won't be a good teacher or you do not have the resources should
         | you consider public/private school. My kids are in public
         | school because neither my wife nor I have the time to
         | homeschool. However, I feel like we still do about 25%
         | homeschool because of the engagement required to actually
         | educate our kids. They basically goto school to sit in a chair
         | until the workday is almost over.
         | 
         | /both our kids are in one of the "best" public middle schools
         | in DFW supposedly. It's still filled with the most wildly
         | incompetent staff imaginable.
        
       | ZeroGravitas wrote:
       | "Fringe" and "fastest-growing" are in no way contradictory, quite
       | the reverse.
        
         | droopyEyelids wrote:
         | Great point.
         | 
         | We need a "so-and-so's law" type name for this, even though
         | it's obvious when you think about it.
        
       | linuxftw wrote:
       | There's always this pretense that other people should have some
       | say whatsoever in how another person chooses to educate their
       | child. As if what people decided 100+ years ago should exist in
       | perpetuity.
       | 
       | What does a public high school diploma afford one these days? The
       | opportunity to work manual labor or retail jobs for starvation
       | wages, and the opportunity to attend more school that costs money
       | for jobs that pay marginally more for most people.
       | 
       | It's wasted time and resources for the vast majority of people.
       | Could you imagine trying to train children to become elite
       | athletes? As if everyone is going to play on a collegiate sports
       | team, so we just spend 8+ hours per day doing athletic training?
       | Even though most will never achieve success in collegiate or
       | professional sports? Well, at least kids wouldn't be obese in
       | that scenario, which is likely going to pay more dividends than
       | teaching an average-iq person calculus.
        
       | teaearlgraycold wrote:
       | I have a set of cousins that were all home schooled. Most of them
       | went to ivy league schools, a couple own very successful
       | businesses. I went to public school and haven't done too poorly.
       | The most important thing is that your parents give a shit and can
       | prioritize their children's well being.
        
       | jawns wrote:
       | People talk about homeschooling as if it's one single concept,
       | but it's actually a whole bunch of very dissimilar things.
       | 
       | There are people who homeschool because they don't agree with the
       | government's viewpoints, people who homeschool because the public
       | school system has failed their kids, people who homeschool
       | because it just happens to fit their lifestyle. Those are all
       | very different motivations.
       | 
       | Likewise, there are people who "unschool," people who use very
       | formal curricula, people who make use of co-ops and traditional
       | classroom settings, people who use a lot of remote learning,
       | people who value social interactions and have their kids involved
       | in lots of activities with other kids, and people who are more
       | focused on academic achievement. These are all very different
       | methods of education.
       | 
       | Beyond that, there are parents who are well equipped to
       | homeschool and parents who are not. And there is a small but
       | hard-to-ignore percentage who claim to homeschool but really
       | neglect their kids.
       | 
       | Treating all these scenarios as a single thing that you can hold
       | a single, consistent opinion about suggests to me a lack of
       | familiarity with its wide spectrums along multiple dimensions.
       | It's like passing a judgment on a person based on their race,
       | country of origin, gender, etc.
       | 
       | Disclaimer: Our family homeschools. Both my wife (previously a
       | public- and private-school teacher) and I were biased against it
       | prior to having kids, but we came to find that a lot of our
       | biases and concerns were unfounded.
        
         | torial wrote:
         | 100% agree with this.
         | 
         | Also, with the right community, it is possible to have plenty
         | of "socialization" with other kids. My family participates in a
         | parent-led co-op that allows kids to benefit from different
         | strengths in different parents and to have lots of friends.
         | 
         | As my kids are neurodivergent, I think this environment has
         | been safer for them and allows them to focus on their passions.
         | There is still some peer pressure re: neurodivergence, but I
         | think it was less severe than when I was in public school with
         | less obvious neurodivergence.
        
           | darigo wrote:
           | >it is possible to have plenty of "socialization" with other
           | kids.
           | 
           | I agree. Public school is not a great place for
           | socialization, and it's not hard to create something better.
           | Nothing socializes kids like sitting next to each other
           | motionless in silence for several hours lol
        
             | dboreham wrote:
             | I'm not sure it's about socializing with other kids.
             | There's also something about being able to function in a
             | hierarchical organization (e.g. the workplace) that may not
             | be developed in a home school environment.
        
             | potta_coffee wrote:
             | I went to a violent high school. There were shootings and
             | stabbings. Socialization is overrated.
        
             | vrc wrote:
             | Do you really think kids in school sit silently and
             | motionless in class for several hours? I'd invite you to
             | sample any classroom to test that hypothesis. There are
             | many reasons to suppose schools aren't the best for
             | socialization, but that's not it.
        
             | bluGill wrote:
             | The best part about socialization in public schools it you
             | will meet someone who isn't like you. I know plenty of home
             | schooled kids who got plenty of socialization - but it was
             | all people of the same group as their parents. Same
             | religion, same politics...
        
             | BobaFloutist wrote:
             | The advantage of public school isn't that the socialization
             | is super high quality, but that it's going to be broader
             | spectrum than pretty much any alternative.
             | 
             | It's not about getting your kids to form the best
             | relationships possible, it's about teaching them to be
             | comfortable with and learn to handle a huge swathe of
             | people that are different from themselves.
             | 
             | And, possibly more importantly than that, it's about
             | teaching kids to do this without the immediate presence of
             | their parents.
             | 
             | Are public schools a perfectly diverse cross section of the
             | population? Of course not. Are they a whole lot closer than
             | very nearly any private school or home school? Absolutely.
        
           | low_common wrote:
           | What the heck is neurodivergence?
        
             | jandrese wrote:
             | It's almost anything out of the ordinary by definition, but
             | usually refers to children somewhere on the Autism
             | spectrum. They often struggle with being bullied in public
             | school and depending on where they are on the spectrum can
             | cause considerably increased workload for the school or
             | even have outright behavioral problems complete with
             | physical violence. That's extreme and rare thankfully, but
             | even kids with relatively mild conditions can struggle in a
             | chaotic public school environment.
        
               | seabass-labrax wrote:
               | Tiny suggestion: s/children/people. It's true that it's
               | usually used to refer to children, but that's just
               | because autism is most identifiable in early childhood.
               | Autism (or Asperger's syndrome) is not something you can
               | 'grow out of' or 'cure', because it's a difference in
               | basic cognitive functions.
        
             | natpalmer1776 wrote:
             | Neurologically divergent individuals who do not adhere well
             | to traditional expectations of behavior in social settings.
             | 
             | Given that this is a technical term that has gained
             | colloquial usage, not everyone who is identified as (or
             | self identifies as) neurodivergent is actually
             | neurologically divergent in a literal sense, but
             | behaviorally is close enough to be a moot point in non-
             | academic settings.
        
             | torial wrote:
             | This link has some good details on it - https://my.clevelan
             | dclinic.org/health/symptoms/23154-neurodi...
             | 
             | It is a term describing people with mental differences:
             | ASD, ADHD, Dyslexia, Tourettes to name a few.
        
         | alexvoda wrote:
         | There is a single opinion that is valid of all those different
         | forms together: it (home schooling) will increase inequality in
         | society in terms of amplitude, spread and flavors.
        
           | quacked wrote:
           | Why do you think that?
        
           | kbelder wrote:
           | I'm doing everything I can to raise my children unequally.
        
             | BobaFloutist wrote:
             | As, understandably, is everyone.
             | 
             | Everyone would do a better job with their taxes than the
             | government is.
             | 
             | Everyone drives better than the average driver.
             | 
             | We need some structural limitations to keep things sorta ok
             | for everyone.
        
           | A4ET8a8uTh0 wrote:
           | Seconding the request to elaborate. There may be good and
           | valid arguments against homeschooling but increase of
           | inequality sounds.. weird.
        
           | sbuttgereit wrote:
           | The notion that you should sacrifice your children on the
           | alter of some notion of egalitarianism is something I find
           | deeply immoral.
           | 
           | If I have a duty to my child it is too ensure that he has the
           | best opportunity to lead a happy, fulfilling life.
        
         | defgeneric wrote:
         | Then these should be distinguished and regulated appropriately.
        
         | kup0 wrote:
         | Fully agree. For a long time I was heavily biased against it
         | because of the versions of it I saw, growing up in a
         | conservative religious family and seeing other far _more_
         | conservative religious families in our church /etc do a very
         | extreme/strict/sheltering form of it- and then becoming non-
         | religious, kept that bias.
         | 
         | But over time I've come to realize that is only one very
         | specific form of 'homeschooling' that is nothing like other
         | forms
        
         | complianceowl wrote:
         | I have never been homeschooled or homeschooled my children, but
         | as someone who personally knows a looooot of homeschoolers,
         | this has got to be the most accurate assessment of
         | homeschooling I've seen.
         | 
         | The various people I know who homeschool do it for different
         | reasons; like you mentioned, some are entrepreneurs who need to
         | stay mobile as a family, some have lost hope in the educational
         | system and its ability to educate, and one particular friend
         | who is in Mexico has his children in a co-op that consists of a
         | large group of like-minded friends where they divide the
         | curriculum based on area of expertise (e.g., the mechanical
         | engineer teaches math, the fitness couple teaches physical
         | education, the history buff teaches history, etc.).
         | 
         | I don't have the network for a co-op, but hands down, that
         | would be my school of choice for my kids.
        
         | sfink wrote:
         | Thank you. I came here to say this. We're homeschooling, and I
         | made the mistake of reading the train wreck of comments on the
         | Post article. It was irritating how many people were absolutely
         | certain of what homeschooling is and what its shortcomings (or
         | successes) are, when it's nowhere close to being one thing.
         | Homeschooling is defined by what it is not.
         | 
         | Homeschooling because of COVID policies in public schools? Ok,
         | there are some of those, some because things were too strict,
         | some because things were too lenient. For religious reasons?
         | Yes, some people want more of their religion, some want less of
         | others'. Are the parents teaching? Sometimes, sometimes it's a
         | co-op, sometimes it's online, sometimes it's at a community
         | college. (Usually it's a mixture.) Then there are "non-location
         | based charter schools" where the parents receive some of the
         | state per-student funding, ...
         | 
         | It's really hard to find a common thread between all of these
         | scenarios, because there isn't one. Other than not being in a
         | public school. Er... at least, not being in a public school for
         | most of the day, since some people _do_ use bits and pieces
         | from public schools.
         | 
         | "Not-zebras are awful because they're eating my rose bushes!"
        
         | FireBeyond wrote:
         | > Beyond that, there are parents who are well equipped to
         | homeschool and parents who are not. And there is a small but
         | hard-to-ignore percentage who claim to homeschool but really
         | neglect their kids.
         | 
         | There's such a disparity between states. States like mine
         | require homeschooled kids to occasionally attend actual school
         | for check in or certain classes, and participate in the same
         | testing (regardless of your opinion of such testing).
         | 
         | Other states are more vague and less frequent about such thing.
         | 
         | And then a notable swathe of states, you might as well go off
         | the grid. Tell the state you're homeschooling, and then that's
         | it, you never interact with the state again. Troubling. And
         | there's not just neglect, but active abuse, that that can help
         | hide.
         | 
         | Texas is working on an amendment that ostensibly cuts taxes on
         | child care facilities to make them more affordable. It's very
         | easy to tell that those savings won't be passed on to
         | consumers. In reality, it's very much more a pro-homeschooling
         | thing. "Homeschool your kids and save on your property taxes".
        
           | anon291 wrote:
           | > Texas is working on an amendment that ostensibly cuts taxes
           | on child care facilities to make them more affordable. It's
           | very easy to tell that those savings won't be passed on to
           | consumers. In reality, it's very much more a pro-
           | homeschooling thing. "Homeschool your kids and save on your
           | property taxes".
           | 
           | A 'childcare facility' typically refers to something kids go
           | to before school. I've noticed several other commenters make
           | the claim that those who are not using daycare facilities for
           | their non-school-age children (i.e., the norm up until the
           | late 90s) is a form of 'homeschooling'.
           | 
           | It's not. Raising your young non-school-aged children at home
           | is the normal way people have raised their children
           | 
           | I have no opinion on Texas's law, but it doesn't sound like
           | it's about homeschooling
        
             | pastage wrote:
             | It has not been normal to spend workdays with your three
             | year old around here for ages. At 1-3 years most if not all
             | children go to kindergarten.
        
           | guidoism wrote:
           | I wonder how the neglecters/abusers stay hidden. We are in a
           | state that doesn't even require notification. As far as the
           | school district is concerned our kids don't exist. But the
           | medical system definitely knows them. I guess the
           | neglecters/abusers don't take their kids to their annual
           | well-child visit? Maybe that's the thing that should be made
           | compulsory?
        
         | AnimalMuppet wrote:
         | Not only do different parents have different skills, but also
         | different kids have different needs. And different schools have
         | different strengths and weaknesses.
         | 
         | The big thing is this: Parents, the buck stops with you. When
         | one of your kids tells you "Every day when I get ready for
         | school, my stomach hurts", _pay attention to that_.
         | Homeschooling won 't be perfect, no more than public or private
         | or charter schools will be. But pay attention enough to see
         | when something isn't working, and figure out what you have to
         | do to make it better.
         | 
         | This can cut both ways. If you're homeschooling and your kids
         | aren't actually learning things, pay attention to that, too.
        
         | jandrese wrote:
         | There is a huge spectrum, but back when we homeschooled (my
         | wife wasn't yet comfortable sending the kids back to the
         | classroom in 2021) we did a few events where local homeschool
         | kids got together for various activities. Tree
         | identification/nature trail at the park, visits to historic
         | sites, stuff like that.
         | 
         | Of the parents I met there was some variety, but 9 times out of
         | 10 it seemed like they were mostly doing it because they
         | thought the public schools were too secular and were teaching
         | "sinful" sciences like evolution. They were all polite about
         | it, but it started making me wonder if all of these other
         | aspects of homeschooling were just a fig leaf over a whole lot
         | of religious indoctrination. Maybe those kids are fine, I
         | didn't quiz them, but it did raise an eyebrow.
        
           | llbeansandrice wrote:
           | It's really difficult because a lot of the resources and
           | groups are created by and supported by this very religious
           | group that homeschools.
           | 
           | There is still a very wide margin though. My wife was
           | homeschooled because she did gymnastics at a fairly high
           | level when she was young and so scheduling was easier for her
           | that way. Her older sister wasn't homeschooled hardly at all
           | though.
        
             | jandrese wrote:
             | Yes, no more recommendations for "excellent PragerU
             | material", please!
        
             | petertodd wrote:
             | > It's really difficult because a lot of the resources and
             | groups are created by and supported by this very religious
             | group that homeschools.
             | 
             | ...and why do those groups create so many resources?
             | Because they tend to be people trying hard to replicate the
             | traditional schooling experience, with high academic
             | standards and expectations. Evangelicals are rarely the
             | ones doing unschooling.
             | 
             | Source: was mostly(1) unschooled as a kid, but spent a lot
             | of time around evangelical Christian homeschoolers because
             | we'd go to the gym classes and other organized events they
             | ran. The evangelicals didn't seem to have any issues with
             | the fact that I was 100% an atheist.
             | 
             | 1) A key exception being reading and writing. The main
             | reason why I ended up being homeschooled was the school
             | systems useless "whole word" approach to reading was
             | failing me. So I was drilled intensively on phonics and
             | other traditional techniques, and finally learned how to
             | read and write fluently much later than I should have.
             | Meanwhile, I had no problem learning math and science with
             | much less structure.
        
           | verisimi wrote:
           | > religious indoctrination
           | 
           | indoctrination is a given. Do you prefer your secular type,
           | the religious type or the government type?
        
             | bigstrat2003 wrote:
             | I prefer the Reaper type, myself.
        
               | red-iron-pine wrote:
               | you exist because we allow it, and will end because we
               | demand it
        
             | efd6821b wrote:
             | All education is intertwined with indoctrination. At least
             | religious indoctrination is a known quantity, unlike other
             | less self-aware forms.
        
               | gameman144 wrote:
               | This is a pretty strong take. I'd be curious whether you
               | believe that education is _inherently_ indoctrination, or
               | whether all current education approaches are just also
               | indoctrinating?
               | 
               | I disagree on both counts, but it seems like the claims
               | there are pretty different in how extreme they are.
        
               | Guvante wrote:
               | Are you saying "I believe it is true so it is fine to
               | indoctrinate that way"?
               | 
               | I can't find any definition of known quantity otherwise
               | given how extremely wide the variations on religious
               | teaching is only focusing on science let alone other
               | topics like history.
               | 
               | Let alone that there isn't only one religion in the
               | world.
               | 
               | If your perspective is "if the parent says it is correct
               | it is correct" you cannot say that is different in any
               | meaningful way.
        
               | potatopatch wrote:
               | That's strange, I knew a lot about how my society
               | rejected the views of each of my teachers as a child and
               | I feel neither motivation to follow in their footsteps
               | nor try to undermine their particular political
               | constellations. If those people were all related to me
               | and I couldn't get away from them I might feel a bit
               | different.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | In religion, they say "God made the heaven and the earth"
               | 
               | How do you know that? "He wrote it in this book"
               | 
               | In education: "Gravity is about 9.8m/s/s"
               | 
               | How do you know that? "Well do this pendulum experiment
               | with me and see for yourself."
        
               | gwd wrote:
               | It's interesting that you changed the question, because
               | if you had education answer the same question, it would
               | be a lot less compelling:
               | 
               | > In education: "The earth accumulated matter together
               | after a previous supernova."
               | 
               | > How do you know that? "It's written in this book."
               | 
               | In the vast majority of cases, that is literally how the
               | teacher knows it: they don't actually know the evidence
               | or the chain of reasoning that science took to get to
               | where the current theory is, nor how one could actually
               | go about gathering the evidence oneself to prove it true
               | or false.
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | That is a good question since it is well explained in
               | middle school, maybe you forgot it but here goes what
               | they told me in middle school:
               | 
               | We were taught basic nuclear physics in middle school and
               | were shown the valley of stability.
               | 
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valley_of_stability
               | 
               | Atoms larger than iron came from atoms crashing together
               | like in an atom bomb ie super novas and similar, while
               | atoms smaller than iron can come from regular decaying
               | processes. Doesn't take much to explain that.
               | 
               | Does it explain exactly how the nuclear energy was
               | calculated? No, but we can see how people figured out
               | that parts of earth came from a super nova. This is very
               | different from just "it was written in a book".
        
               | epups wrote:
               | Sorry but there is an incomparable difference between
               | knowledge obtained by revelation and scientific method.
               | The book is the vehicle, not the source of knowledge for
               | the latter.
        
               | robertlagrant wrote:
               | In education also: "Go to university and do anything you
               | like and it'll all work out. Don't worry about the debt."
               | 
               | Anything can be characterised well or badly.
        
             | jjav wrote:
             | > indoctrination is a given.
             | 
             | Indoctrination is not a given and should never be
             | acceptable in education.
             | 
             | What is indoctrination? Here's one dictionary definition:
             | indoctrination: the process of repeating an idea or belief
             | to someone until they accept it without criticism or
             | question
             | 
             | Note "accept it without criticism or question". This is the
             | polar opposite of what education should be, which is to
             | encourage investigation, researching topics with a
             | scientific method instead of believing without question.
        
               | ARandomerDude wrote:
               | > what education should be...with a scientific method
               | 
               | Does the scientific method tell you this? It couldn't
               | have, because this is a philosophical belief not a
               | scientific one. Very likely, you were indoctrinated to
               | believe this.
               | 
               | Not all "doctrine" (teaching) is wrong and not all
               | indoctrination is wrong. But everyone undergoes some form
               | of indoctrination.
        
               | soperj wrote:
               | Would you believe the paper that said that teaching by
               | encouraging research with the scientific method is
               | better? Would be very ironic if it said that it wasn't.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | Encouraging researching the scientific method is itself
               | indoctrination, though it is done differently from other
               | indoctrination.
               | 
               | This isn't bad. I don't think it is worth you while to
               | research cannibalism, or a number of other things that
               | people have done/believed in over time. Even if you come
               | to the "right conclusion" there is just too much too
               | research to look into everything people have come up
               | with. My life is worse because I - a non-doctor - had to
               | research all the anti-vaccination claims to see if they
               | really were baseless (they were, but I know from history
               | experts are not always right and once in a while a
               | conspiracy really does occur)
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | > Very likely, you were indoctrinated to believe this.
               | 
               | No, you are shown how the ancient Greeks did things, and
               | how they had a lot of ridiculous ideas. Then they
               | introduced Galileo Galilei that showed how experiments
               | can rat out many bad ideas and used them to disprove many
               | of the things written by the ancient Greeks.
               | 
               | That is how we know the scientific method is valuable,
               | nobody has to indoctrinate you to it you can see it
               | yourself. The reason the scientific method is so popular
               | is because you don't have to get indoctrinated into it,
               | it is so obvious that it is a great method.
        
               | gosub100 wrote:
               | that definition applies _perfectly_ to modern leftism
        
               | NemoNobody wrote:
               | Societies indoctrinate all those that live within them -
               | that's what social norms are.
        
             | Jensson wrote:
             | > Do you prefer your secular type
             | 
             | What is secular indoctrination? Kids who grow up without a
             | religion doesn't get told anything, all you have to do is
             | to not indoctrinate the kid into a religion.
             | 
             | There is still school etc, but removing religious
             | indoctrination doesn't add anything else, its just less
             | indoctrination overall.
        
               | lolinder wrote:
               | > Kids who grow up without a religion doesn't get told
               | anything
               | 
               | I work in edtech with a bunch of former teachers, and
               | this is _absolutely_ untrue. Many elementary and middle
               | school teachers see part of their role (regardless of the
               | subject they 're officially teaching) as being to teach
               | morals to their students, and the morality that they
               | choose to teach is every bit as subjective as the
               | morality that comes out of a religion.
               | 
               | And if it's not their teachers teaching them morals, then
               | it's their parents. You can't raise a child without
               | intentionally or unintentionally instilling in them your
               | own value system.
               | 
               | The biggest factor in whether someone feels that
               | something is "indoctrination" isn't whether it originates
               | from a religion but whether they agree with the
               | principles being taught.
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | You missed the last line I wrote, I never said there
               | weren't other forms of indoctrination:
               | 
               | > There is still school etc, but removing religious
               | indoctrination doesn't add anything else, its just less
               | indoctrination overall.
               | 
               | I should probably have clarified it in the first bit that
               | I meant that the kids weren't told anything about
               | religion, not that the kids aren't told anything at all.
               | My point is that there is no indoctrination required to
               | raise a kid without religion, it is the natural state. I
               | and most people I grew up with were raised that way,
               | religion was stories we read about in school, not some
               | magical thing.
        
               | lolinder wrote:
               | I didn't miss it, I disagree with the idea that it's less
               | indoctrination overall: it's just _more homogenous_
               | indoctrination. A kid who gets taught religion at home
               | and secular values at school is _less_ indoctrinated than
               | a kid who gets secular values in both places.
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | What are "secular values"? Do you mean that things like
               | "you shouldn't hurt others" are secular values? Otherwise
               | I don't understand.
               | 
               | If that is what you mean then I'm pretty sure that even
               | religious homes teaches secular values.
        
           | xyzelement wrote:
           | // other aspects of homeschooling were just a fig leaf over a
           | whole lot of religious indoctrination
           | 
           | I was raised totally secular but I now understand that
           | religion is about fundamentally aligning yourself to the
           | highest aspirations ("what kind of man does G-d want me to
           | be?") and even w/o actual faith, I am starting to think
           | that's preferable to the current mode of "anything goes, you
           | can be whatever you feel like and there's no judgement of any
           | of your actions." So yeah I am not surprised that parents
           | aren't dying to throw their kids into an environment that
           | fosters the latter.
           | 
           | I used to think religion was about deep fear, now I see it
           | more as about deep care. You may still disagree with what
           | they care about but I find that harder and harder to do,
           | personally.
        
             | ImPostingOnHN wrote:
             | The question "what kind of person should I be?" could be
             | answered by god, I guess, but the alternative would be to
             | answer it yourself, and/or consult society, possibly
             | friends and family. Not "anything goes".
             | 
             | Putting it in the hands of god means anything goes, and you
             | just say that's how you thought god wanted you to be. You'd
             | have to trust that society encoded the proper set of values
             | and morals into the religion. Which sounds like "ask
             | society" but with extra steps, and also you're asking the
             | society of 1,000+ years ago instead of the society of
             | today.
        
               | ksenzee wrote:
               | Not necessarily. For me it's a subset of "answer it
               | yourself": it's a way of asking myself "what is my
               | potential? What was I put here for? If I had a perfect
               | parent, what would they expect of me?"
        
             | drw3 wrote:
             | [deleted]
        
               | FredPret wrote:
               | We should start a new, more useful religion
        
               | ksenzee wrote:
               | I was raised in a conservative Christian denomination and
               | left it for a progressive one, and I've learned you can't
               | say "Christianity is ___" and be at all accurate. There
               | are too many different Christianities. There are
               | denominations that are pro-debate, pro-introspection,
               | pro-logic, pro-science. They're aiming for exactly what
               | the GP is getting at: how best to live out the
               | commandment to love one another, to build a society on
               | earth where we care for each other and live up to our
               | potential.
               | 
               | I bring this up not because I want to wave my "not all
               | Christians" flag, but because it is really important for
               | our common civic life that post-religious people
               | understand there is more to religion than the sad toxic
               | morass they grew up with. Society doesn't need religion
               | to die off. It needs religion to evolve. It needs people
               | who are naturally religious (and there are a lot of us,
               | we've evolved that way) to come together for the common
               | good, not get shoved into a back closet to worship
               | illegally in secret.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | As a christian I already have a region that is not
               | debatable. That helps me be more willing to debate all
               | the things outside. Communist, capitalist, jew, muslim,
               | hindu, cannibal, republican, democrat, green, other sect
               | of christian - all the same to me, something I'm not
               | religiously attached to so I can try to understand. Some
               | of those I understand enough to conclude they are wrong.
               | 
               | I know some who are strongly religious about their
               | political party. I was treasurer of my local Republican
               | party for a while, but I was able to leave them when the
               | party it self starting going off of the things I
               | supported them for (the local party is still pretty
               | good). I might return in the future, we will see.
        
               | r00fus wrote:
               | > Some of those I understand enough to conclude they are
               | wrong.
               | 
               | Sounds like you may be justifying your conclusions
               | instead of the other way around.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | There is no objective way to measure most of the above.
               | Cannibals really did exist - not in large numbers. People
               | really did sacrifice their kids to the gods. I'm willing
               | to state both of the above are wrong.
               | 
               | Note that I didn't state everything on my list is wrong.
        
               | The5thElephant wrote:
               | Genuinely curious what your personal approach is to
               | "picking" a religion to believe in. Generally I know most
               | people don't pick a faith and just have the one they grew
               | up with, but you strike me as someone who actually
               | critically examines their beliefs (based on your
               | comments).
               | 
               | I've had a lot of great conversations with religious
               | people about the nature of their faith, but I have never
               | gotten a good answer on why they chose their particular
               | organized/named faith. Other religions have people who
               | believe just as much as you do that their religion is the
               | "right" one and all the others are wrong. How did you
               | come to choose your particular form of Christianity over
               | the dozens of other named faiths you could choose that
               | have equal levels of historical correlation to their
               | religious texts?
        
               | arcbyte wrote:
               | Interestingly you're having the same experience as the
               | person you are replying to, but you haven't reached the
               | understanding they've reached.
               | 
               | If all those people you say refuse to question their
               | beliefs are actually chasing a higher form of good for
               | themselves, why would they engage in any kind of activity
               | that would undermine that pursuit? It doesn't make sense
               | unless you propose to replace it with a structure that is
               | more strongly aligned to with the goal of achieving a
               | higher form of themselves. Which nobody ever actually is
               | when they argue against religion, they just got hurt by
               | somebody's interpretation of it and are trying to find
               | validation for that hurt.
        
               | bigstrat2003 wrote:
               | > I know you just said "religion," but I can only speak
               | about Christianity as I'm deeply familiar with it.
               | 
               | I believe you when you speak of the bad experiences you
               | had, but you seem to think that what you've seen is the
               | only (or at least the typical) manifestation of
               | Christianity. But that isn't true, and if you do indeed
               | believe it's true I respectfully suggest you aren't
               | deeply familiar with Christianity the way you believe.
               | 
               | I am a Christian, and I was raised Christian. I have
               | never _once_ seen a community such as you describe. I
               | realize they exist (everyone knows about the WBC, for
               | instance), but they aren 't the norm. Christians I have
               | known aren't trying to indoctrinate anyone, and they are
               | quite happy to entertain respectful discussion and debate
               | about their faith. They are only human, of course, and
               | like all humans they don't wish to constantly debate
               | things they settled for themselves ages ago (so you are
               | sometimes going to get individuals who shut you down).
               | But on the whole Christians are perfectly willing to
               | engage in introspection or intellectual debate _to the
               | same extent anyone else is_ (because let 's not forget,
               | many people don't do introspection or intellectual debate
               | of _any_ topic).
               | 
               | > It's slowly dying in every developed country because it
               | doesn't make sense when logic and science are applied.
               | 
               | You are welcome to your opinion, but it stands at odds
               | with the fact that there have been many Christian
               | intellectuals throughout history. Scientists,
               | theologians, and philosophers have all found that their
               | faith still makes perfect sense in the context of their
               | intellectual pursuits.
        
               | chaostheory wrote:
               | Christianity is not one singular entity. There are many
               | different sects that can drastically vary from each
               | other. Fundamentalist Christians like the Southern
               | Baptists are not going to be as accepting or open minded
               | as the more liberal Christian sects such as Catholicism.
        
               | robertlagrant wrote:
               | > That's what religious people want you to believe, but
               | if you watch how they act, how they vote, and how they
               | discriminate it could not be farther from the truth.
               | 
               | While your deep understanding of a few people around you
               | is your own, Christianity alone has over a billion people
               | from all cultures and walks of life ascribing to it. I
               | don't think you can realistically claim to treat them as
               | a bloc, and to attempt to might cast doubt on your
               | ability to even judge well the people you _do_ know.
        
               | throwaway962237 wrote:
               | But you can treat religious believers as a bloc because
               | they hold a core set of beliefs, and those beliefs cause
               | them to act a certain way. In fact, the whole point of a
               | religion is to bind a "bloc" of people to a common set of
               | beliefs.
               | 
               | The same way you can associate conspiracy theory
               | nationalism with Qanon believers, you can associate
               | supernatural supremacism (i.e. "chosen by god") with
               | Christians, Muslims, and Jews. While these religions may
               | promote healthy behavior for "in group" morality e.g.
               | community, family, etc. the effects on a geopolitical
               | scale are catastrophic.
        
               | User23 wrote:
               | > Everyone already "knows" their religion is correct and
               | is not actually willing to challenge that because it's
               | scary.
               | 
               | 1 Peter 3:15-16 literally commands us to do exactly that.
               | But sanctify the Lord Christ in your hearts, being ready
               | always to satisfy every one that asketh you a reason of
               | that hope which is in you.            But with modesty
               | and fear, having a good conscience: that whereas they
               | speak evil of you, they may be ashamed who falsely accuse
               | your good conversation in Christ.
               | 
               | Believe it or not, the ignorant bible thumpers are
               | actually a minority of Christians worldwide. There is a
               | rich apologetic tradition going back centuries and odds
               | are good every one of your objections was answered in the
               | middle ages at the latest.
        
               | CaptWillard wrote:
               | // It's a refuge for indoctrination, meaning you aren't
               | allowed to truly question.
               | 
               | The idea that religion has any kind of market cornered on
               | THAT concept in the last 7-10 years is a non-starter.
        
               | r00fus wrote:
               | If you want an example of current events as it applies to
               | the danger of religion take a simple look at the
               | Israel/Hamas war.
               | 
               | 1) Hamas jihadists cultivate decades of repression of the
               | Palestinian populace into a spectacular terrorist strike
               | on Oct 7th.
               | 
               | 2) Israel, an apartheid ethnostate, where Rabbis call for
               | extermination of Palestinians in response to the Hamas
               | strike (after decades of dehumanization), drops a nuclear
               | payload worth of bombs on Gaza - which kills thousands of
               | Palestinians (but only a few dozen Hamas soldiers).
               | 
               | 3) In the US, Christianist pastors and churches back the
               | Israeli government's push to ethnically cleanse Gaza -
               | primarily because apocalyptic prophesy requires Jews to
               | be in the "holy land" - all of whom are prophesied to
               | perish.
               | 
               | In all of these cases, all of the involved religions make
               | the conflict unavoidable. There were steps to peace in
               | previous decades but religious extremists assassinated
               | key figures to prevent peace.
               | 
               | This isn't exclusive to this region or these religions,
               | of course.
        
               | vorpalhex wrote:
               | That'd be a great counter example if any of it were
               | factually true.
               | 
               | Hamas is the elected government of the Palestinians and
               | it's planks include the extermination of the Jews
               | wholesale, whether in Israel or elsewhere. Part of why
               | Israel was created is because.. a large group of Muslims
               | was attempting to enact an extermination of the Jews (and
               | did kill quite a few).
               | 
               | Israel is not an apartheid ethnostate in any sense of
               | those words and you do dishonor to actual apartheid and
               | ethnic conflicts even by a comparison. Gaza itself has a
               | luxury car dealership[1]!
               | 
               | Not only do non-Jews have equal rights in Israel but it's
               | one of the few countries in the middle east where Arab
               | women have a legal right to vote and free travel without
               | an escort.
               | 
               | I have no idea where you got three from but it's not
               | actually in the Christian Bible or the Torah.
               | 
               | [1]: https://www.thenationalnews.com/world/mena/libyan-
               | luxury-car...
        
               | Larrikin wrote:
               | Did they not have luxury cars in apartheid South Africa?
               | Does having a dealership make the whole shit show in both
               | countries okay?
        
               | autoexec wrote:
               | > It's slowly dying in every developed country because it
               | doesn't make sense when logic and science are applied.
               | 
               | It's not just the contradictions (with science, logic,
               | it's own doctrine) that is hurting their numbers. Almost
               | all the Christians I know have distanced themselves from
               | the church and are embarrassed to be associated with the
               | faith because of the way they see other "Christians"
               | behave. If more Christians really lived their faith they
               | couldn't act/vote/discriminate the way that they do. I
               | can't blame my Christian friends and family for not
               | wanting to be associated with that.
               | 
               | I suspect that the number of Christians is higher than
               | the falling numbers suggest, because many just don't want
               | to be grouped in with the loud people who plainly act in
               | ways that violate the basic message of the faith.
        
               | prosqlinjector wrote:
               | > but if you watch how they act, how they vote, and how
               | they discriminate it could not be farther from the truth.
               | 
               | This is a low quality and bigoted comment.
        
             | AlexandrB wrote:
             | > "what kind of man does G-d want me to be?"
             | 
             | Unfortunately, there is not a singular answer to this
             | question. You still have to choose which religion/sect you
             | want to answer this question for you. You can't _really_
             | delegate your morals to a deity because the choice of which
             | interpretation of that deity 's teachings you want to
             | follow is still yours to make.
        
               | austhrow743 wrote:
               | I dont see the distinction between sect choice vs
               | religious or not religious at all. If you're
               | indoctrinated good and hard you're likely to be religious
               | in the way the sect you were brought up in is. Choice
               | elimination is the whole idea.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | I hear this a lot, but I just don't agree. Being
               | indoctrinated into a particular system of belief is very
               | different from not being indoctrinated into any belief
               | system at all.
               | 
               | Yes, certainly there are some atheists who are
               | "religious" about it, and will vehemently teach their
               | children that there is no possibility of any deities or
               | afterlife, and that anyone who tries to tell them
               | otherwise is mentally defective somehow. But I would
               | agree that's just as tragic as indoctrinating someone
               | into any religion, and that certainly isn't the only kind
               | of atheist. But if you're going to be a part of your
               | religion, and teach your children to believe in it,
               | that's always going to be some degree of indoctrination.
               | 
               | I do really appreciate parents who are religious, but do
               | their best to let their kids find their own way. I
               | suspect that's a much rarer phenomenon than the atheist
               | parents who do the same, though.
               | 
               | Let's also not get into an atheist vs. agnostic debate.
               | My take on it is that if you are not agnostic, at best,
               | you're a "religious atheist" who presents belief (that
               | there are no deities) as fact, and that's just as
               | dishonest as teaching someone the "fact" of a god and
               | heaven and hell (or whatever).
        
               | c0pium wrote:
               | What's unfortunate about that? Free will is a good thing.
               | It doesn't sound like gp is delegating anything, that
               | sounds pretty thoughtful.
        
             | addicted wrote:
             | Your ideas of secularism and religiousness does not match
             | anything in my personal experience whatsoever (I have
             | friends of any different religions including many most
             | haven't heard of...I was raised in 1 major religion and
             | followed 1 other major religion for a few years before
             | turning to atheism and non-religousness almost 2 decades
             | ago).
             | 
             | Of course it's probably true for certain individuals, but
             | you're talking about religion and secularism (which isn't
             | the opposite of religion, btw, so I don't even understand
             | what it means to be raised "secular", and in fact
             | secularism is essential for a society with multiple
             | religions) broadly, and you only need to see what's
             | happening in the world right now to observe that your
             | generalization is almost certainly wrong.
        
             | chaostheory wrote:
             | > I used to think religion was about deep fear, now I see
             | it more as about deep care.
             | 
             | As someone who has grown up in a religious, conservative
             | household, I strongly disagree. Sure, there are many good
             | values that a religious conservative household can foster
             | such as independence and self accountability. However, you
             | cannot its ignore downside either. The same culture
             | promotes fear of the "other" ie different religion,
             | different ethnicity / race, different political ideology,
             | et al. Whether or not these fears are justified is beside
             | the point. I'm just pointing out that they exist which runs
             | counter to your very short and limited personal experience.
             | (I'm also not saying that the other side is free of any
             | fault either.)
             | 
             | https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/conservative-
             | and-...
             | 
             | https://www.discovermagazine.com/the-sciences/liberals-
             | are-f...
        
               | bigstrat2003 wrote:
               | > However, you cannot its ignore downside either. The
               | same culture promotes fear of the "other" ie different
               | religion, different ethnicity / race, different political
               | ideology, et al.
               | 
               | That has nothing to do with religion. These are facets of
               | human nature which find a way to express themselves in
               | _all_ societies regardless of religion.
        
               | chaostheory wrote:
               | One of the main tenants of religion is to make it clear
               | that the people who aren't adherents are wrong and that
               | they will end up in that respective religion's hell.
               | Religion is a large part of it.
        
               | c0pium wrote:
               | This is explicitly not what the Catholic Church teaches.
               | There is a commonly used rhetorical device in Catholic
               | education asking whether, in fact, anyone has gone to
               | hell (the answer being that we can't know but it's very
               | possible that it's no). This is well summed up by Mother
               | Teresa in her famous response that we are not called to
               | be successful, but faithful.
               | 
               | There are a lot other religions which are similar in this
               | regard. The real issue is that some (many?) who outwardly
               | profess to adhere to a particular religion are totally
               | ignorant of that religions teachings.
        
             | jkestner wrote:
             | > the current mode of "anything goes, you can be whatever
             | you feel like and there's no judgement of any of your
             | actions."
             | 
             | That doesn't match reality. Do you have kids in public
             | school? Of course they judge actions--especially those that
             | harm others. Sometimes that's called social-emotional
             | learning, one of the things that Florida politicians have
             | tried to make a boogeyman. We're certainly willing to
             | punish kids based on their actions.
        
             | Teever wrote:
             | If the purpose of religion is to align yourself to the
             | highest aspirations why do so many large religious
             | organizations get caught up stuff like this:
             | 
             | https://www.cbsnews.com/news/mormon-church-ensign-peak-
             | whist...
        
             | golergka wrote:
             | We secular Jews have completely different first-hand
             | experience of religion than most of other people on the
             | planet, so while I completely understand and share your
             | perspective, I'm not in the least surprised by the reaction
             | your comment got.
        
             | jackmott42 wrote:
             | Hard to look at the current state of American Christianity
             | and think of it as deep care.
        
               | HybridCurve wrote:
               | American Evangelicals seem to gravitate toward their
               | belief as a form of authoritarianism. It's less about
               | compassion and more about incontestable moral authority
               | over others.
        
             | underwater wrote:
             | What a weird take. Religions ability to influence behaviour
             | works because of our lizard brain, not despite it.
             | 
             | The idea of God judging people from afar is an extension of
             | the important humans place on social conformity. We are
             | hard wired to care about what other people think of us. If
             | you remove the religious decorarions then that underlying
             | trait still exists.
        
             | kelnos wrote:
             | I was raised very Catholic (and decided by my early teens
             | that I didn't believe in any of it), and I completely
             | disagree with your conclusion. Organized religion (at least
             | Christianity) absolutely is about deep fear. "Do this or
             | you'll go to hell!" "Believe this or you'll go to hell!"
             | Repeat ad infinitum.
             | 
             | I won't deny that some churches (as in, specific people,
             | not the system as a whole) can do good in the world; one
             | church I attended with my parents as a kid had some great
             | community outreach programs that helped a lot of people who
             | had fallen through the cracks. And some clergy members are
             | good people who are trying to help.
             | 
             | But overall, religion is about control (for the religious
             | leadership, and politicians who use religion to gain
             | power), and about belonging and feeling less lost and alone
             | (for practicioners) in an uncertain world.
             | 
             | Oh, and as an atheist who knows and hangs out with a lot of
             | other atheists, I can assure you that "anything goes, you
             | can be whatever you feel like and there's no judgement of
             | any of your actions" is not a thing. Or, rather, it very
             | much is a thing, but that attitude comes from just as many
             | religious people as it comes from the non-religious. And
             | there are quite a few actions that religious people take
             | that I think are disgusting and immoral, but somehow
             | "anything goes" as long they can justify it in the pages of
             | their made-up fantasy holy book. I don't consider things
             | moral or immoral based on what a storybook tells me; I
             | decide based on how I think my actions will affect others.
             | My system is certainly not a perfect one, but I dare say
             | it's miles ahead of the religious process.
        
               | kulahan wrote:
               | You've misunderstood Catholicism. The entire reason
               | Christianity is so radical is because it's the first
               | major religion of purely love. There is no need to
               | sacrifice anyone, you get _infinite_ forgiveness, so long
               | as you truly repent, and nearly every facet of
               | Catholicism is based around the idea of love.
               | 
               | A fine example is the incredibly important Corinthians
               | 13:13: And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.
               | But the greatest of these is love.
               | 
               | When we die, there is no need for faith. We have the
               | answer. When we die, we have no need for hope - again, we
               | have the answer. The Catholic church places love above
               | all else.
               | 
               | The idea that you only think "specific people" can do
               | good in the world is pretty nuts - the Catholic Church
               | alone is the largest non-governmental provider of
               | healthcare in the world.
               | 
               | I also don't understand why books are somehow bad places
               | to get information, even if they're completely fictional.
               | Can you not learn lessons from cartoons, even? Do you
               | truly think every moral issue is so simply black and
               | white that it doesn't require practice and debate?
               | 
               | I am not going to say religion is perfect by any stretch
               | of the imagination, but much of what you're complaining
               | about simply is not true.
        
               | dragonwriter wrote:
               | > You've misunderstood Catholicis
               | 
               | To be fair, Catholics at even rather high ranks in the
               | heirarchy have fairly radical divergent views of
               | Catholicism.
        
               | triyambakam wrote:
               | > first major religion of purely love.
               | 
               | Hinduism is much older than Christianity. Specifically
               | the Shiva sects. Shiva means compassionate one. God is
               | seen as immanent love and transcendent reality.
        
               | nunodonato wrote:
               | > But overall, religion is about control
               | 
               | how many religions do you know and have experience with,
               | in order to make such a claim? don't throw the baby out
               | with the bath water.
        
             | wayfinder wrote:
             | Religion isn't about any one thing. For some, it's a sense
             | of community and meeting people. For others, it's doing
             | right by a greater power. Then there are those who do it
             | because they've always done it. Some do it because it gives
             | a dependable source of meaning. And some do it because they
             | actually live in deep fear.
             | 
             | When you talk about living in deep care, that's because
             | that's _your path_. Ask someone else and it might be
             | completely different.
             | 
             | You still have to choose your own adventure.
        
               | fellowniusmonk wrote:
               | Yeah, it's very weird the way people act as if the
               | religious aren't choosing how to live, what to think and
               | what action to take, moment by moment any more or less
               | than the irreligious.
               | 
               | In my experience in North America I've found that those
               | raised irreligious are generally far more in touch with
               | living an inherent "do unto others" than people that have
               | exceptions and biases against that rule due to a holy
               | writ they can selectively pluck from.
        
             | fellowniusmonk wrote:
             | As someone who was raised in religious communities, that
             | "higher aspirations" is only the position "in principle" in
             | reality working with people in the religious community was
             | just scams and moral self justification of despicable
             | behavior hidden behind soft language and terrible behavior.
             | So much contention, so much gossip, so much backbiting
             | behavior and hidden evils against children so that
             | communities wouldn't "lose face". The worst behaviors, the
             | least faith, the most fear, all hidden by duplicity and a
             | weekly practice of virtue signaling. This is not isolated,
             | my parents were involved in the church in many states and
             | internationally, it was everywhere.
             | 
             | I am old enough now that I have seen the outcomes
             | projecting into peoples 30s. I know so many poorly educated
             | homeschoolers whose lives have been destroyed with no hope
             | of recovery by the complete lack of skills their hyper
             | religious parents imparted them with, in jail, broke,
             | unable to hack it in college and too lacking in common
             | sense to make it in the trades or professional work, with
             | living standards insanely far below their parents. That
             | being said, I am not against homeschooling personally and
             | may do it myself.
             | 
             | I think your outsider perspective makes sense since you
             | didn't see the self-righteousness and persecution complex
             | inherit in the system. It's like a northerner taking "bless
             | your heart" at face value because they're dealing with a
             | degree of cowardice and dishonest duplicity they haven't
             | experienced before. All the best people I have known have
             | been atheists or "religious" people who don't take it
             | seriously and just follow their own inherent internal moral
             | guidance (which is all the religious people are doing as
             | well, as at core everyone acts as they choose to act.)
        
           | lolinder wrote:
           | Where was this? How did you find the events? How many
           | families were involved? Did they find the events through the
           | same channels you did, or did the others all know each other
           | ahead of time?
           | 
           | In my experience not only is OP correct that there are
           | different kinds of homeschooling, but the people involved in
           | the different segments don't really interact at all. My wife
           | and I were both homeschooled, living less than a mile away
           | from each other for 10 years, but we didn't meet until we
           | were adults. Her circle was much like you describe, but ours
           | was far more secular, and there was very little overlap.
           | 
           | If you accidentally found your way into the local religious-
           | homeschooling circles, I can understand how it would be
           | eyebrow-raising, but that doesn't mean that the _other_
           | circle isn 't close by.
        
           | CaptWillard wrote:
           | // other aspects of homeschooling were just a fig leaf over a
           | whole lot of religious indoctrination.
           | 
           | While this may technically fit the definition of
           | "indoctrination", that's a pretty loaded way to describe what
           | parents teach their own children.
           | 
           | // they thought the public schools were too secular and were
           | teaching "sinful" sciences like evolution.
           | 
           | Really? In 2021, the hot-button issue among religious parents
           | was evolution?
        
             | vel0city wrote:
             | I personally know multiple people who homeschooled their
             | kids to avoid discussing evolution. There's even been
             | debate at state board of education levels about how
             | evolution is taught in public schools. There's absolutely a
             | lot of people who want to teach their kids humans and dinos
             | existed at the same time.
        
               | lolinder wrote:
               | I think their point wasn't that religious parents
               | wouldn't be concerned about evolution _too_ , but that in
               | 2021 they would have expected LGBT issues to be at the
               | forefront of the religious right's fears surrounding
               | public schools.
               | 
               | For the parental fears to center on evolution either
               | suggests either that the parents were censoring their
               | larger concerns for OP, or it's an anachronism that
               | brings the chronology into question.
        
             | petsfed wrote:
             | I mean, you pick the subject, there's a hot-button issue.
             | 
             | Could be evolution in the science side of things, the
             | legacy of slavery or colonization in the history side of
             | things.
             | 
             | Math is generally pretty safe, although I do see a steady
             | stream of "I'm so glad I'm homeschooling my kids, I can't
             | believe what $currentEducationalBogeyman is trying to pass
             | off as education" when presented with some way to
             | understand math that I had to teach myself, in college, to
             | do the math faster in my head.
             | 
             | Composition is pretty safe, but as its frequently combined
             | with literature (that is, the study of rhetoric in other
             | people's writing) which also has a lot of self-censorship.
             | It's also unsteady ground, as the Bible should be study as
             | literature as well as religious tome, but that can lead to
             | kids thinking about the humans who wrote the bible and what
             | rhetorical outcome they were reaching towards.
             | 
             | Physical education is safe so long as it limits itself to
             | exercise, but health topics like human sexuality are
             | obviously going to raise some hackles.
             | 
             | I think it really depends on the parent what is the
             | absolute bogeyman of public schooling, but evolution has
             | posed the most consistent existential threat to the
             | stereotypical fundamentalist who is looking to avoid
             | "sinful" public schools.
        
             | rhcom2 wrote:
             | Half of Republicans don't believe in evolution
             | 
             | https://www.pewresearch.org/short-
             | reads/2014/01/03/republica...
        
             | PsylentKnight wrote:
             | > While this may technically fit the definition of
             | "indoctrination", that's a pretty loaded way to describe
             | what parents teach their own children.
             | 
             | I'm a former homeschooler that had to watch countless Ken
             | Ham and Kent Hovind videos. These videos were filled with
             | strawmen and faulty logic. I distinctly remember one of
             | them tearing into Lamarckism, a theory discredited in the
             | 1930's, as if it were something that people actually
             | believe in today. Indoctrination is exactly how I'd
             | describe it.
        
             | SpicyLemonZest wrote:
             | Creationism never went away, it just became less
             | politically salient. Public belief in evolution has been
             | basically static for decades.
        
           | wskinner wrote:
           | I don't know where you live, but my anecdata from being
           | homeschooled starting ~20 years ago in the Bay Area
           | contradicts this. I was part of a group of more than 50
           | homeschooled children of various ages. Our parents all had
           | their own reasons for homeschooling us, but to my knowledge,
           | none of them did it because they thought the public schools
           | were too secular and teaching "sinful" science.
           | 
           | We were aware of families homeschooling for religious
           | reasons, but not in the Bay Area.
        
         | geocrasher wrote:
         | ^^^^^^^^^^ This.
         | 
         | We unschooled our kids. Worked beautifully. They're both as
         | much of a success or failure as if they had gone to public
         | school. Had more to do with their idiot gene donor's DNA than
         | their schooling.
        
           | DiggyJohnson wrote:
           | > Had more to do with their idiot gene donor's DNA than their
           | schooling.
           | 
           | What do you mean by this? I'm assuming it's just self-
           | deprecating humor.
        
             | geocrasher wrote:
             | Their biological father I am not. There's no way my kids
             | would turn out the way they did if they had my DNA.
             | 
             | If anything, they'd be dumber.
        
         | maxwelljoslyn wrote:
         | > Treating all these scenarios as a single thing that you can
         | hold a single, consistent opinion about suggests to me a lack
         | of familiarity with its wide spectrums along multiple
         | dimensions. It's like passing a judgment on a person based on
         | their race, country of origin, gender, etc.
         | 
         | A huge +1 to this, from observing the many friends I have who
         | do homeschooling. Judging by their results -- super-smart,
         | super-well-behaved children -- has gotten me thinking I'd like
         | to do the same once I have kids.
        
           | jeffrallen wrote:
           | Your children's future classmates wish you wouldn't keep your
           | children from enriching their shared classroom. You might be
           | just the kind of parent that the school needs to maintain a
           | critical mass of involved parents.
        
             | anon291 wrote:
             | My wife resents that her parents made her be this for the
             | other kids in her class. This meant my wife had to do
             | things like be the one to 'tame' the poorly behaved boy. Or
             | she had to be the one to do extra work because the teacher
             | would group her with the worst student. This is actually
             | not preparation for adulthood. As an adult, when someone
             | acts like a jerk, you ignore them and shun them and may
             | report them depending on how bad it is. As a child, you're
             | forced to interact. As an adult, I choose my colleagues so
             | that they're intelligent and pull their weight.
             | 
             | A common complaint I hear from homeschooled kids is
             | 'parentification', where their parents expect adult
             | responsibility from small children. I fail to see how what
             | you're asking for is any different. Children shouldn't be
             | expected to do adult's jobs.
        
           | bsder wrote:
           | > A huge +1 to this, from observing the many friends I have
           | who do homeschooling. Judging by their results -- super-
           | smart, super-well-behaved children
           | 
           | Maybe.
           | 
           | The primary difference between the upper classes
           | "homeschooling" and the lower classes "homeschooling" is that
           | the upper classes will purchase tutors/teachers and the lower
           | classes will do it themselves.
           | 
           | A couple of local elementary school kids from your upper
           | middle class housing development being put together in a pod
           | with two teachers will blow the doors off _ANY_ school--
           | public, private, homeschool, whatever. Homeschoolers from
           | lower socioeconomic classes _can_ keep up with this, but it
           | 's a _LOT_ more effort than they generally estimate.
           | 
           | The problem is the dramatic increase in sophistication
           | required in middle school grades. Writing goes from very
           | basic sentences to multiple paragraphs. The _vast_ majority
           | of people are not equipped to deal with this as they can 't
           | write well enough themselves. Math goes from multiplication
           | tables to Algebra I. The _vast_ majority of the population is
           | not equipped to teach Algebra I. Science comes online as a
           | subject in middle school--we _know_ most people aren 't
           | equipped to teach that.
           | 
           | The higher socioeconomic classes will recognize that they
           | cannot handle the teaching and purchase appropriate teachers
           | if they are committed.
           | 
           | The lower socioeconomic classes cannot apply the relevant
           | resource _even_ if they recognize the problems. However, they
           | are _committed_ to homeschooling at that point and cannot
           | back down and say that they need to put their child into
           | public school.
        
         | twobitshifter wrote:
         | How do you deal with the cases where kids are neglected or
         | indoctrinated against American society?
        
           | jdminhbg wrote:
           | Take them out of public schools, I guess?
        
         | tw04 wrote:
         | Sure, but ultimately when kids receive vastly different
         | childhood educations, it will eventually fracture society
         | because we're all starting from a completely different set of
         | beliefs. Even if some schools are "better" or "worse" for the
         | most part they have similar curriculum. As time goes on and
         | that curriculum diverges, it'll make the political fractures in
         | society today seem like a walk in the park IMO.
         | 
         | The social aspect of schooling is just as important as the
         | educational part of it. There's a reason growing up when we had
         | home schooled kids that joined for their high school years,
         | they were the "weird kids" - they just had absolutely no idea
         | how to interact socially with their peers. And for some folks
         | that carries on to adulthood.
         | 
         | Disclaimer: my parents were public school teachers, and seeing
         | the system deteriorate feels like a travesty. The number of
         | parents who think school is daycare is disheartening to say the
         | least.
        
           | ndriscoll wrote:
           | In theory, society should be robust to differing beliefs:
           | allow people to segregate into communities with shared
           | beliefs and self-govern. Use higher levels of government
           | sparingly to resolve conflicts and where coordination is
           | necessary and general consensus exists that the thing you are
           | coordinating is desired.
           | 
           | In practice, people have trouble not butting into each
           | other's lives. If we're going to try to force a shared belief
           | on everyone, it should be to fix that.
        
             | autoexec wrote:
             | Segregating everyone into insular pockets of the like-
             | minded just feeds ignorance, intolerance, and group-think.
             | We shouldn't force beliefs on everyone, but we should
             | reject ignoring facts or replacing them with beliefs.
             | 
             | There's a lot to be said for giving all children a baseline
             | level of education based on fact so that everyone
             | understands the world and the large problems we have and so
             | they will know how to work together to face them.
             | 
             | The kids who are only ever taught that the world is 6,000
             | years old and flat, that women are inferior, that evolution
             | is a lie, that global warming isn't real, or that gay
             | people cause hurricanes are going to be at a substantial
             | disadvantage in many areas of their lives and they will
             | hinder efforts to resolve conflicts, to coordinate when
             | necessary, and to reach general consensus.
        
         | Justsignedup wrote:
         | Homeschooling _can_ work. But the likelihood of it working well
         | is pretty low. You literally have a teacher wife who is
         | homeschooling the kids. For most people homeschooling = not
         | schooling.
         | 
         | Very heavily used by the hassidic community here in nyc to
         | prevent girls from having any education.
         | 
         | I linked to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lzsZP9o7SlI as a
         | top level post, but just to give you some ideas. This is John
         | Oliver's take on it.
        
         | clausok wrote:
         | We started homeschooling by happenstance when it turned out
         | that kindergarten was going to conflict with our son's beloved
         | jiu-jitsu class. The class was a bit of a drive and we weren't
         | going to be able to get there in time for his favorite part:
         | the 30 minutes of horsing around on the mats before class
         | started.
         | 
         | We thought, "Well, it's only kindergarten". It worked out well
         | enough (knock on wood) that we just kept going.
         | 
         | Compared to my own harried "THE BUS IS COMING!!!" sleep-
         | deprived school days, it has been a wonderful change.
         | 
         | If I could go back in time, I'd put my mom in an ankle lock
         | until she agreed to do the same for me.
         | 
         | Especially since I learned that in my home state homeschoolers
         | can participate in high-school sports. In high school I had to
         | wake up at 4AM for 5AM hockey practice. If I could have
         | returned home afterwards and slept, rather than going straight
         | to school, I would have thanked the Gods.
        
           | Zelphyr wrote:
           | > the 30 minutes of horsing around on the mats before class
           | started
           | 
           | Followed by the collective groan about how they're too tired
           | to do the warmups.
        
           | justhereforthe wrote:
           | May I ask if your son is an only child? I've thought about
           | online homeschooling my son when he's old enough (he's still
           | a baby), but I wonder if he would be lonely if he turns out
           | to be our one-and-done. You mentioned your son's beloved jiu-
           | jitsu; does he have other outlets for meeting friends and
           | socializing?
        
         | liveoneggs wrote:
         | Religion and its associated anti-science (etc) is the majority
         | reason for home schooling. The groups in highly-skilled co-ops
         | are a small minority and are not what the word normally
         | invokes.
        
           | lolinder wrote:
           | > The groups in highly-skilled co-ops are a small minority
           | and are not what the word normally invokes.
           | 
           | Essentially what this sentence says is "the people that don't
           | fit my stereotype are not the image that comes to my mind
           | when I hear ${word}." While this is definitely _true_ (it 's
           | more or less the definition of a stereotype), it's not a
           | refutation of OP's point that homeschooling is more
           | complicated than your stereotypes would have you believe.
        
         | petertodd wrote:
         | > but it's actually a whole bunch of very dissimilar things.
         | 
         | Even in the same kid it can be very dissimilar.
         | 
         | The main reason I was homeschooled was that the local school
         | system's ridiculous "whole word" approach to reading and
         | writing was failing me badly, and by age ten I still could
         | barely read. So that part of my homeschooling experience was
         | very traditional, hands on, drilling in phonics and other time
         | tested techniques... and soon I finally could read and write
         | fluently.
         | 
         | Meanwhile for math and science, I had no problem figuring it on
         | my own with much less input now that I could finally read. I
         | wasn't quite unschooled for those subjects. But it was close to
         | that.
         | 
         | Funny thing is I actually learned basic programming _before_ I
         | could read fluently. I remember the hardest thing about it
         | being struggling to read the books I was learning from.
         | Programming itself seemed pretty straightforward in comparison.
        
         | rrradical wrote:
         | I was (non-religiously) home schooled and very much benefited
         | from it. I was able to spend a lot more time reading books than
         | I would have in school. I was able to learn about computers,
         | programming, etc. I did get some socialization through other
         | kids in my neighborhood and events with other home school
         | families. I started in back in school around high school and,
         | although it was a bit of a transition, I enjoyed it (and don't
         | regret homeschooling either).
         | 
         | It probably wouldn't work well for every kid and every family.
         | Personally, I found the structure of elementary school very
         | constraining and was glad to get out. I'm sure there are pros
         | and cons to both approaches.
         | 
         | I think relative to my peers I'm generally able to be a bit
         | more self motivated. And I think schools generally teach you to
         | solve problems using only the information on the page in front
         | of you, whereas the real world is much messier than that.
        
           | bluGill wrote:
           | Or so you think. I don't know you, but every home school kids
           | I've met shows the lack of meeting
           | republicans/democrats/jews/blacks. None of them see that in
           | themselves though.
        
             | robertlagrant wrote:
             | It's hard to know what this looks like.
        
             | lolinder wrote:
             | Nearly every _person_ I 've met struggles with empathizing
             | with people who aren't in their in-group, that's not a
             | homeschooled-specific thing. The enormous polarization in
             | the modern political climate is due to precisely the kind
             | of insularism that you're calling out, and it's not because
             | of the 1.5% of the adult population that was homeschooled.
        
         | nixass wrote:
         | In short, homeschooling is idiocracy in making
        
       | turminal wrote:
       | Fringe and fastest-growing are not mutually exclusive:
       | https://xkcd.com/1102/
        
       | pengaru wrote:
       | I expected home schooling to take off in popularity once school
       | shootings became normalized and schools responded by increasingly
       | resembling prisons.
        
       | brindlejim wrote:
       | This appears to be largely a COVID phenomenon. Lacking that
       | forcing function, I doubt whether subsequent cohorts of parents
       | will opt for that burden. The only thing that might push them to
       | maintain the discipline of home schooling is the ideological
       | capture of public schools, which leads to discrimination,
       | unmonitored chaos and the long-term medicalization of students
       | based on dumb ideas, the naming of which will would get this
       | comment flagged.
        
       | timerol wrote:
       | "Rise from fringe to fastest-growing" seems like a math
       | misunderstanding. Something that's small has the largest
       | possibility of growing rapidly, expressed as a percentage.
       | https://xkcd.com/1102/
       | 
       | The article really doubles down on suspect use of numbers by
       | talking about "[Hillsborough County, Fla] vote results have
       | predicted the winner in 22 of the last 24 presidential elections.
       | Now it is a harbinger of a different trend: the widespread
       | adoption and acceptance of home schooling." Spurious election
       | correlations make for bad articles.
       | 
       | Within that county since 2017 school enrollment has grown "3.4
       | percent, to 224,538 students." (about 7400 student increase),
       | while homeschooling has grown 74%, up to 10,680 (growth of about
       | 4500 students).
        
       | defgeneric wrote:
       | I'm skeptical when these parents their kids cite poor public
       | schools as the primary reason for home schooling. When you look
       | closer, it's almost always lifestyle and ideology that are the
       | main factors.
       | 
       | The often-cited failure in socialization extends beyond
       | socialization within peer-groups as well--kids also need exposure
       | to a variety of adults and authority figures. It's not only about
       | learning how to make friends.
       | 
       | > Today, Hillsborough home-schoolers inhabit a scholastic and
       | extracurricular ecosystem that is in many ways indistinguishable
       | from that of a public or private school. Home-schooled kids play
       | competitive sports. They put on full-scale productions of "Mary
       | Poppins" and "Les Miserables." They have high school graduation
       | ceremonies, as well as a prom and homecoming dance.
       | 
       | > The Christian home-schooling co-op that had about 40 kids in
       | 2011 when McKeown joined it -- a co-op she would go on to direct
       | -- has grown to nearly 600 students.
       | 
       | > "Home-schoolers in Hillsborough County do not lack for
       | anything," she said. "We have come such a long way."
       | 
       | I mean reading this it just sounds like they are discovering the
       | hard way the concept of... a school??
        
         | pdonis wrote:
         | A school-like environment that doesn't indoctrinate their
         | children in values that the parents disagree with, which is
         | what would happen if their children went to public schools.
        
           | defgeneric wrote:
           | Sorry, but the parents' "values" are almost always some
           | crackpot nonsense. Public schools at least aim for a measure
           | of neutrality, beyond which children can develop their own
           | ideas. It's just strange to me that people are so intent on
           | having their children mirror their own ideas. Have some
           | humility, entertain the idea that you yourself may be wrong
           | about everything, and let the kids figure out what they think
           | for themselves. The public school gives them a reasonably
           | neutral basis to do that, even as the different ideological
           | fads come and go in the faculty and administration.
        
             | pdonis wrote:
             | _> the parents ' "values" are almost always some crackpot
             | nonsense_
             | 
             | "Almost always" is way, way too broad. Yes, some parents'
             | values are crackpot nonsense, but many are not. One does
             | not have to be a crackpot to prefer homeschooling to US
             | public schools.
             | 
             | Also, the values that the people who set up the US public
             | school system explicitly said that system would
             | indoctrinate children into are nothing to write home about
             | either.
             | 
             |  _> Have some humility_
             | 
             | Take your own advice. If anyone is being way overconfident
             | here, it's you.
             | 
             |  _> let the kids figure out what they think for themselves_
             | 
             | It seems to me that homeschooling is far more likely to let
             | kids do this than public schools are.
             | 
             |  _> The public school gives them a reasonably neutral basis
             | to do that_
             | 
             | In the US? You must be joking. Public schools in the US are
             | anything but neutral.
        
           | tomtheelder wrote:
           | Ok so they invented religious school which, again, already
           | exists.
        
         | jononomo wrote:
         | > I mean reading this it just sounds like they are discovering
         | the hard way the concept of... a school??
         | 
         | Yeah, a school that works.
        
           | tomtheelder wrote:
           | It's literally just a religious private school.
        
       | jononomo wrote:
       | Hasn't homeschooling been the norm for our species for over a
       | hundred thousand years and has only recently (in the last five
       | thousand years) begun to seem abnormal?
        
       | AlbertCory wrote:
       | I kept waiting for the ideology, which is mostly absent from
       | this, but here it is:
       | 
       | >Of the 10 districts with the most home-schooled kids in The Post
       | database, nine are in Florida. That's partly because of the
       | state's large school districts, but also because its elected
       | officials have grown friendlier to home education as they saddle
       | public schools with politically charged restrictions on what can
       | be taught about race and gender.
       | 
       | So, FL parents are homeschooling because they object to the rules
       | recently put in place about teaching about racism and LGBT
       | issues?
       | 
       | Somehow, I doubt that.
        
         | FireBeyond wrote:
         | No, it's more: "if you homeschool, you, and we are free to not
         | even have to worry about this as an issue, versus us trying
         | with varying degrees of success to lock it out of your kids
         | school".
         | 
         | The two can be entirely compatible.
        
           | AlbertCory wrote:
           | I don't even understand this.
           | 
           | FL officials are encouraging homeschooling? That's silly,
           | given that the majority of kids will still go to public
           | schools.
        
             | FireBeyond wrote:
             | It's ideology. If you're invested in taking those things
             | out of education, and that's your motivator, then you have
             | a couple of options: encourage homeschooling, where it
             | can't be mandated, or work to remove it from public
             | schools. Who is to say you can't do both? After all, either
             | achieves your ideological aims.
        
               | AlbertCory wrote:
               | so you claim to have found a motivation for this
               | behavior, which you haven't even provided evidence for?
               | 
               | these horrible people are _encouraging_ homeschooling,
               | and that 's why it's growing? Extraordinary claims
               | require extraordinary evidence. Especially when the whole
               | article describes it as a nationwide phenomenon.
               | 
               | I believe "projection" describes this paranoid belief of
               | yours.
        
       | deepsquirrelnet wrote:
       | Growing up, I had friends from 3 different families of kids that
       | were homeschooled.
       | 
       | The first was my neighbor. I'm not really sure why his parents
       | homeschooled him. He was an only child, and strikingly similar to
       | the character of Cartman from Southpark. Him mom was also
       | strikingly similar to Cartman's mom. He didn't learn anything, as
       | his mom was not very strict about making sure he did his lessons.
       | He had terrible social skills and very few life skills, which all
       | came from hobbies that he pursued. He was an intelligent kid, and
       | is struggling today due to generally poor work ethic and few job
       | skills.
       | 
       | The second family was a typical anti-government family with cult-
       | like religious beliefs. They believed God was in charge of their
       | reproductive systems and had way more children than they could
       | care for. It was a huge family. The first born was able to secure
       | a job as an airline attendant, and led a reasonably normal life.
       | Last I heard, many of the rest had succumb to methamphetamine
       | and/or opioid addictions and have been in and out of jail. All of
       | them were substantially undereducated, several with severe speech
       | impediments and none with GEDs or high school diplomas.
       | 
       | The last family were the kids of my family's pastor. They were
       | generally successful. Their parents were strict, but very
       | involved in their kids' education. In many ways, they were
       | successful - ahead in reading and math. They were somewhat poorly
       | adapted socially, but had enough relationships through the church
       | to overcome it.
       | 
       | In my experience, it _can_ be a positive thing for children. The
       | success of the children really depends on how involved parents
       | are in making sure their kids needs are met. Sadly, it also seems
       | like many parents who choose to homeschool do so because they
       | don't personally value education.
        
       | mberning wrote:
       | To see the mind boggling topics that come up during school board
       | meetings and elections I can see why people want to home school.
        
       | ken47 wrote:
       | Titles like this irk me. It's likely the fastest growing
       | _because_ it's fringe.
        
         | gnicholas wrote:
         | The graphics don't help clear things up, either. Showing the
         | growth rate over time is interesting, but only if you also show
         | the percent of kids in each camp. It's not immediately obvious
         | whether homeschooled kids are 2%, 8%, or .2%, from looking at
         | the charts (and even doing a ctrl-F on "percent").
         | 
         | It's kind of embarrassing that this article doesn't once
         | mention the rough percentage of students that are being
         | homeschooled.
        
       | jononomo wrote:
       | I'm noticing several comments to the effect that "teachers" have
       | some particular qualification to teach that other people don't
       | have. But, at least in the US, the qualifications required to
       | become a teacher are intended to protect the teacher's union and
       | they don't confer any special "teaching ability".
       | 
       | People have been teaching things to each other for hundreds of
       | thousands of years, even before there were degree programs in
       | education.
       | 
       | I will grant that some people are particularly good at explaining
       | things well, but I don't associate that ability with "public
       | school teacher" in any respect. In fact, it correlates with being
       | bright, which is negatively correlated with being a public school
       | teacher.
        
       | sweeter wrote:
       | I mean its obvious. There has been a concerted effort to de-fund
       | public schools and center the conversation about "right to
       | choose" education, alongside a handout of vouchers to attend
       | private religious schools AND the implementation of new laws that
       | allow tax payer dollars to go to funding those privately owned
       | religious schools (seriously).
       | 
       | The intent imo is to make schools seem "scary" and push parents
       | to put their kids in private schools that these religious groups
       | control, they are for-profit so they can rake in those sweet tax
       | dollars and the parents money, while public schools flail and
       | kids don't get a proper education. Its a concerted effort to
       | privatize and dismantle the public school system. These schools
       | don't have to abide by federal laws either, even while receiving
       | federal tax money.
       | 
       | Throw that in with the very real dangers of going to school these
       | days, these are the only two options after a while. Go to a
       | private religious school, or home school... and that is not an
       | accident or a coincidence.
        
         | collaborative wrote:
         | I find it a bit far fetched to suggest that these private
         | religious schools have enough influence to change laws and get
         | tax dollars
         | 
         | The much simpler explanation is that having influence over
         | private schools is very tempting for the govt and the easiest
         | tool is via giving or retaining funding which they don't
         | personally have to pay. They just want to secure votes and
         | influence
        
           | sweeter wrote:
           | You'd be partially correct in saying that private schools
           | alone dont have the influence to do this, its more so
           | politicians who endorse these schools and own stake in these
           | schools that are at the root of the issue. With the goal of
           | moving taxpayer money into private monied interests, instead
           | of public services. Its a tail as old as time in the US.
        
         | ImJamal wrote:
         | While there may be an effort to defund public schools, funding
         | (inflation adjusted) has been increasing.
         | 
         | https://www.statista.com/statistics/203118/expenditures-per-...
        
       | Modified3019 wrote:
       | I'm not surprised, american public schools can end up with a lot
       | of pathologies that can't be practically addressed by a parent
       | outside of "flee and try literally anything else".
       | 
       | My public elementary school was outright hostile to my existence,
       | with teachers ignoring/enabling my bullies and then trying to
       | punish me when I started fighting back _viciously_ at the
       | prompting of my exasperated father. "Anarcho-tyranny" is a good
       | way to sum up my experience. You'll likely find it unsurprising
       | that I am adhd(I) (fully evaluated) and almost certainly autistic
       | to some degree (not fully evaluated as there's not much for me to
       | gain on a diagnosis), though these revelations wouldn't come
       | until decades later when I learned what these things actually
       | meant instead of media tropes. Prior to that I was considered
       | "shy /very introverted".
       | 
       | Homeschool was straight up not an option for me, since we were a
       | single parent/provider household. I'm extremely lucky that a
       | charter middle school opened up around 4th grade. It was amazing
       | to see what sort of environment occurred when both teachers and
       | children were held accountable and can and would be removed.
       | There's also the effects of the natural bias of having most of
       | the children there having active and concerned parents involved,
       | which I imagine also plays a big role in the ultimate quality of
       | the education homeschoolers now get, as opposed to what seemed to
       | be more prominently religious/paranoid motivations when I was a
       | child.
       | 
       | Also fortunately my public high school was, mostly, tame.
        
       | haizhung wrote:
       | Am I the only one thinking that home schooling is the wrong
       | solution to the underlying problem?
       | 
       | The problem is that the public education sector has been - for
       | years - continuously squeezed dry of any funding. Teachers are
       | quitting left and right, and schools are in a terrible state.
       | Instead of fixing THAT problem, now people homeschool.
       | 
       | Ok; I guess. At least homeschooling is something that the
       | individual can control, public funding not so much.
       | 
       | But it boggles my mind how people can assume, with a straight
       | face, that they are equipped to educate their child alone -
       | something which is normally a profession for which you have to
       | study O(years) (and even then most people aren't really good at).
       | What gives parents this confidence? And what gives parents the
       | right to squander the future of their children on a whim?
       | 
       | I have two kids, would consider myself very well educated (have a
       | PhD, etc), and I habe absolutely 0 confidence in myself schooling
       | my kids.
       | 
       | Finally, public schooling is obviously an attempt at leveling the
       | playing field between children from different backgrounds. By
       | removing your kid from that, I think it further contributes to
       | the segregation of our society.
        
         | traject_ wrote:
         | > But it boggles my mind how people can assume, with a straight
         | face, that they are equipped to educate their child alone -
         | something which is normally a profession for which you have to
         | study O(years) (and even then most people aren't really good
         | at).
         | 
         | The key assumption here is that the expertise and years of
         | studying translates to desirable outcomes. The large expansion
         | of homeschooling suggesting by the article suggests a great
         | rise in people who no longer believe that the expertise
         | promoted by teaching schools is actually relevant to teach
         | their children.
         | 
         | After all, mass public schooling is only about a century old
         | and default human experience in many ways has always been
         | closer to what we call homeschooling.
        
           | mrguyorama wrote:
           | >The large expansion of homeschooling suggesting by the
           | article suggests a great rise in people who no longer believe
           | that the expertise promoted by teaching schools is actually
           | relevant to teach their children.
           | 
           | "Believe" is the important word there. Are these people
           | removing children from school because they actually can do a
           | better job, or because the TV told them a school somewhere
           | had a litterbox for a furry student?
        
         | marcusverus wrote:
         | > The problem is that the public education sector has been -
         | for years - continuously squeezed dry of any funding.
         | 
         | Public school spending in the US is up almost 50% in the last
         | 30 years.[0]
         | 
         | https://www.statista.com/statistics/203118/expenditures-per-...
        
           | haizhung wrote:
           | Thanks for the data! It seems that adjusted for inflation, it
           | still is an overall net decrease (11,500$ in 1990 equals
           | about 27,000$ today).
        
             | jdminhbg wrote:
             | No, look at the chart again, it's denominated in constant
             | 2021 dollars, i.e., adjusted for inflation. Public school
             | spending has increased.
        
             | hagy wrote:
             | The data is already adjusted for inflation as indicated in
             | the y-axis label, "Expenditure in constant 2020-21 U.S.
             | dollars".
        
           | cwoolfe wrote:
           | I agree that funding isn't necessarily the problem. We live
           | in a wealthy county and have more to spend per pupil.
           | Unfortunately that doesn't translate to higher test scores.
           | The extra dollars go to administrative positions in the
           | central office which may or may not translate to better
           | academic performance.
        
           | ryandrake wrote:
           | Where's all that money going? Surely not to teachers who are
           | chronically underpaid and have 30+ students per class. It's
           | not buying school supplies, which our teachers often have to
           | pay for out of pocket or hold bake sales to fund.
           | 
           | Is it all going to football fields, useless technology
           | spending, and 5 levels of non-teaching administration staff?
        
           | AlexandrB wrote:
           | _Where the hell is all this money going_? It 's certainly not
           | to teachers, whose salaries have barely changed[1] when
           | adjusted for inflation. Is it going to real estate costs?
           | Technology costs? Administration? What?
           | 
           | [1] https://www.statista.com/chart/20979/public-school-
           | teacher-s...
        
         | bloaf wrote:
         | The evidence is weak, but currently leans towards "parents can
         | and actually do a better job than the professionals." This
         | _includes_ parents with low incomes, and _includes_ parents
         | with low educational achievement.
         | 
         | You categorize this as contributing to segregation, but I say
         | that it contributes to diversity. Public school is a hugely
         | homogenizing force and the homogeneity it targets is not
         | necessarily good. I think it is good for society to have a set
         | of people who were raised in an environment with fundamentally
         | different experiences and priorities.
         | 
         | https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-translator...
         | https://www.nheri.org/research-facts-on-homeschooling/
        
         | owenpalmer wrote:
         | > The problem is that the public education sector has been -
         | for years - continuously squeezed dry of any funding.
         | 
         | Lack of funding isn't always the problem. As jawns mentioned,
         | there's a lot of reasons to remove your kids from public
         | school.
         | 
         | > I have two kids, would consider myself very well educated
         | (have a PhD, etc), and I habe absolutely 0 confidence in myself
         | schooling my kids.
         | 
         | Interesting. I'm surprised you feel this way while
         | acknowledging that most educated teachers "aren't really good
         | at it". Perhaps you aren't qualified to teach your kids, and
         | that's okay. At least you have the self-awareness to know they
         | need help from someone else.
         | 
         | > public schooling is obviously an attempt at leveling the
         | playing field between children from different backgrounds.
         | 
         | Yep. But it can also stifle the growth of overachievers.
        
         | MattGaiser wrote:
         | > something which is normally a profession for which you have
         | to study O(years) (and even then most people aren't really good
         | at). What gives parents this confidence? And what gives parents
         | the right to squander the future of their children on a whim?
         | 
         | You have to consider capacity. It is a parent educating 1-2
         | children vs a teacher educating 30+. So while the teacher has a
         | lot more training on how, a lot of the how is how to do it in
         | bulk.
         | 
         | Would an individual focused on solving any particular problem
         | outperform a PhD trying to solve 30 at once? I don't think that
         | is unreasonable. Someone who hasn't picked up a book on
         | software development yet has a reasonable chance of beating me
         | (professional software developer) if I work on 30 projects at
         | once.
         | 
         | If you have the means, you can also buy a lot of teaching a la
         | carte.
         | 
         | When faced with similar resource and time constraints, teacher
         | is going to win. But the gap in those is huge.
        
         | dbjacobs wrote:
         | We let our 3 kids choose between homeschool and private school.
         | As a result they tended to bounce back and forth between the
         | systems depending on their priorities. By the time they reached
         | 4th grade I was mostly a coach when they chose homeschooling. I
         | would let them know the things they needed to learn and help
         | them find curriculum. And when they got stuck on something they
         | would come to me for help, but in general they were responsible
         | for themselves. Mostly they would only do schoolwork for 3
         | hours a day or so.
         | 
         | They had no problems reintegrating into regular school when
         | they chose to do so. Our youngest stayed on the homeschool
         | track the longest (from 7th grade because they got involved in
         | competitive Call of Duty. So they ended up doing the
         | homeschool->community college->GaTech track.
         | 
         | > But it boggles my mind how people can assume, with a straight
         | face, that they are equipped to educate their child alone -
         | something which is normally a profession for which you have to
         | study O(years) (and even then most people aren't really good
         | at). What gives parents this confidence? And what gives parents
         | the right to squander the future of their children on a whim?
         | 
         | There are awesome resources to educate you kid on just about
         | anything. The real distinguishing attribute on whether a parent
         | can be a good educator is whether their children can spin them
         | up emotionally. If a parent can't stay calm when their child is
         | pushing their buttons homeschooling probably won't work. And
         | then secondarily, a parent should know when they are over their
         | head and need to bring in assistance. Not every parent is
         | equipped to help their children learn calculus and other
         | advanced courses.
        
         | mikrotikker wrote:
         | At least in my country the homeschooling is ballooning as
         | parents don't want the LGBT stuff and DQST forced on their kids
         | but also don't want to be accussed of being a bigot when they
         | raise issue with it.
        
         | pokstad wrote:
         | Funding is not the issue. Private schools pay their teachers
         | less and have higher success rates.
         | 
         | Public schools are still teaching in a style suited for the
         | Industrial Revolution. They also are a jobs program, so they
         | can't change to accommodate students if it hurts the employees.
        
       | dgunay wrote:
       | Ignoring the education/socialization arguments, I'm surprised to
       | see that no one has mentioned the ostensibly reduced risk of your
       | homeschooled child becoming the victim of a school shooting.
       | 
       | Go on and tell me how statistically the risk is negligible. It
       | makes me feel a bit anxious whenever someone I love is doing
       | _anything_ with a tail risk of instant death that society has
       | somehow normalized, even just driving. I'm not a parent but I
       | imagine that kind of thing could really affect some parents'
       | peace of mind.
        
       | xyzelement wrote:
       | It might help to begin with the end in mind. The goal of
       | education and the reason you send your kids to school is so that
       | they come out with skills that enable them to succeed in
       | society[1] and you also want them to be bolstered as moral and
       | ethical human beings.
       | 
       | If you trust the public school to do that - or at least do a
       | better job of it than you could yourself - then you send them. On
       | the other extreme, you either opt for private school or home-
       | school.
       | 
       | I assume people don't make these decisions lightly. The path of
       | least resistance is to send your kid to whatever random school
       | they are zoned for. The next level of care is to move to an area
       | with better schools or hope you can get into a charter school.
       | Next level beyond that is paying a heavy price (in dollars or
       | hours) to send them to private school or home-school. So I
       | respect people who do that, a lot. It comes from care for their
       | kids and ability to commit to it deeply.
       | 
       | As a personal observation, I was very lucky with the public
       | school education I got in Brooklyn in the 90s. Especially in high
       | school, I had many teachers that taught me _how_ to think more
       | than _what to think._ But that was 30 years ago and that kind of
       | teacher was kinda old-school then. Back then, I can count on one
       | hand the number of teachers I had that today would be categorizes
       | as  "woke crazies" (one tell-tale sign, they grade you on whether
       | you agree with them, not the quality of your argument) but I
       | suspect that ratio is way worse now. My kid is a toddler and I
       | have a bunch of years to evaluate the teaching in our area, but I
       | wouldn't think I'd be doing my son a favor sending him to a
       | school that constrains thinking and speech rather than encourages
       | breadth. I am very far from considering home schooling but if my
       | choice is to basically stay home and teach my kids or to send
       | them to a brain-deadening environment (that's an extreme, don't
       | think it's happening in my town) I know what I'd pick.
       | 
       | [1] that is a combination of technical, thinking, and social
       | skills.
        
         | rahimnathwani wrote:
         | Not sure how old your toddler is or whether you already know
         | about this, but you might consider adding 'Teach your child to
         | read in 100 easy lessons' to your cart:
         | https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&que...
        
           | xyzelement wrote:
           | Funny enough, I heard about this book on HN before, took it
           | out from the library and didn't do anything with it for
           | months, then returned it and just thought to buy it
           | yesterday!
        
       | Animats wrote:
       | Caution, dark pattern in the data search:
       | 
       |  _" This page keeps track of the districts that you search for in
       | the database. We use this information as described in our Privacy
       | Policy, including to better understand our readers and
       | personalize your experience."_
        
       | Justsignedup wrote:
       | Just to leave it here, here's John Oliver's take on it.
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lzsZP9o7SlI
        
       | simplyluke wrote:
       | The article's failure to mention the shuttering of many of these
       | schools for well over a full academic year seems intentionally
       | negligent. My local school district, Seattle, didn't have full
       | in-person instruction until the Fall of 2021. We've now got
       | decent data on how disastrous remote learning was for kids, so
       | parents choosing to take matters into their own hands seems like
       | an entirely rational response. I don't have kids but if I did
       | would have absolutely looked into alternate options to zoom
       | lectures for kindergarteners.
       | 
       | > In fact, high-scoring districts had some of the biggest spikes
       | in home schooling early in the pandemic, though by the fall of
       | 2022 increases were similar regardless of school performance
       | 
       | Parents with resources are opting out of a system that was not
       | providing for their kids. This isn't surprising.
        
       | WalterBright wrote:
       | I had a good time in public schools. All my friends were there,
       | and we had a lot of fun.
       | 
       | Didn't learn much of anything, though, which became apparent
       | during the disastrous first week of college.
        
       | calebm wrote:
       | I heard Salmon Khan give a talk earlier this year where he
       | mentioned the "Two Sigma Problem"
       | (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bloom%27s_2_sigma_problem), where
       | kids with a private tutor perform 2 standard deviations better
       | (on average) than public-schooled children. (Caveat: not all
       | parents are going to be quite as good as a private tutor.)
        
       | Pound5260 wrote:
       | I see all this comments about how the homeschooled kids fail
       | academically, and I cannot help but wonder if the people
       | parroting this have any idea of the current state of public
       | schools in the US. Homeschooled kids are subject to the very
       | strict scrutiny of the court of public opinion (and ironically
       | some of the most academically sound kids I have seen were
       | homeschooled...) while public school kids can finish high school
       | without knowing how to read or do basic math, and that's ok...
        
       | lgleason wrote:
       | The lack of quality with public schools has degraded to the point
       | of you facing the choice of either spending a boat load of money
       | on private, and even some of those have gone downhill, or
       | homeschooling. I also know a lot of people who were very
       | successful with homeschooling.
        
       | lefstathiou wrote:
       | To add my two cents to the HN community scratching their head
       | about this: my wife and I are the products of public school, we
       | have the means to send our kids to private school, and I am
       | actively lining up the people and resources to home school our
       | two toddlers.
       | 
       | For us, it comes down to the belief that we can provide better
       | moral education, values education, and intellectual rigor than
       | the majority of public and private schools we've seen. I also
       | don't see the social element being something that can't easily be
       | solved for. Our kids are involved in so many activities and they
       | are effectively home schooled, whereas countless friends and
       | clients are bemoaning how toxic their children's high schools
       | have become. The bar seems low to both of us and it's getting
       | unapologetically lower. That's the plan anyway, we'll see how it
       | plays out.
        
       | SeanLuke wrote:
       | This is a terrible, just terrible headline and awful data spin.
       | 
       | Let's start with the obvious: "fringe" is a measure of _size_.
       | "fastest growing" is a measure of _rate_. You don 't go from size
       | to rate.
       | 
       | Next: the data graphically presented has no axes or explanation,
       | but what it appears to be showing is the percentage growth of
       | each schooling type relative to its 2017 value. But then there's
       | this bit:
       | 
       | > In 390 districts included in The Post's analysis, there was at
       | least one home-schooled child for every 10 in public schools
       | during the 2021-2022 academic year ... > The Post estimates that
       | there are now between 1.9 million and 2.7 million home-schooled
       | children in the United States, depending on the rate of increase
       | in areas without reliable data.
       | 
       | Let's be charitable and say 2.7 million. The Post data says
       | that's 158% of the 2017 value, and 2020 was, oh, let's say, 164%,
       | so in 2020 there were 2.8 million. According to the DoE, there
       | were 48.1 million kids in public schools in 2020. This is at best
       | 1 in 17. Surely the Doe and the WP can't differ by a factor of 2?
       | 
       | https://research.com/universities-colleges/number-of-public-...
       | 
       | Last, the graph clearly shows that, post covid, home-schooling is
       | the _fastest_ _declining_ form of education. It has dropped 15%
       | since 2020 alone, whereas public school has dropped by, what,
       | about 1%? Why isn 't this the headline? Or that clearly
       | homeschoolers are being moved to private institutions?
        
       | selimnairb wrote:
       | Home schooling should be banned. It is anti-social behavior.
       | Also, no parent knows how to teach children of all ages.
       | Likewise, no parent knows enough about everything children need
       | to learn.
        
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