[HN Gopher] Demands for Tips Are Up. Actual Tipping, Not So Much
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       Demands for Tips Are Up. Actual Tipping, Not So Much
        
       Author : malshe
       Score  : 31 points
       Date   : 2023-09-18 21:02 UTC (1 hours ago)
        
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       | egypturnash wrote:
       | "Tipping baristas isn't the norm", says the caption on the photo
       | at the head of the article. It isn't? I've been tipping baristas
       | about 20% ever since I got a laptop around 2005 and started
       | spending a lot of my work time in coffee shops. But the chart in
       | this article says only about 25% of people do this. Huh.
       | 
       | I'm not gonna quit though.
        
         | belfthrow wrote:
         | You really are the white knight barristas need in this 7 dollar
         | latte age.
        
           | mplewis wrote:
           | It's spelled "barista"
        
         | Waterluvian wrote:
         | If we tip baristas at Starbucks we should tip the people at
         | McDonald's. Both are essentially fast food workers.
         | 
         | I'm not trying to be mean. I think there's some brilliant
         | manipulation going on with how some of these coffee shops brand
         | and present themselves.
        
           | skyyler wrote:
           | The ability and care of the Starbucks worker has a lot more
           | impact on the product than the McDonald's worker.
           | 
           | I don't like the idea of tipping at (or going to) Starbucks,
           | but I tip at independent coffee shops.
        
           | Spooky23 wrote:
           | You tip people like this as a form of mild corruption.
           | 
           | When I travel to places I'm going to return to regularly, I
           | take out a few hundred bucks in $5 bills. Parking guys, the
           | hotel clerk, the night housekeeping supervisor, etc. I'm also
           | nice to people, as I truly appreciate them.
           | 
           | Kindness + cash = courtesies granted.
           | 
           | If you're abusing the hospitality of the coffee shop, the
           | staff should be happy to see you.
        
       | hermannj314 wrote:
       | Stop letting the capitalist class pit the working class against
       | one another.
       | 
       | Stop tipping. The employee's issue is not with you, it is with
       | their employer. Studies have also shown that tipping enables
       | race, age and sex discrimination in total pay.
       | 
       | If you believe in equity and fair wages for all, you will stop
       | tipping.
        
       | wruza wrote:
       | Is there even a way out of this situation? Some socioeconomical
       | absurdities just cannot die.
        
         | dpkirchner wrote:
         | Government regulation is the only viable option, and that's
         | pretty unlikely to happen (at least in the US).
        
         | alwayslikethis wrote:
         | By not paying. Your continued tipping allows restaurants to not
         | pay their employees a living wage and forcing the customer to
         | subsidize them. Once a sizable percentage (let's say 30%) of
         | customers don't tip, it will become progressively less
         | effective as they have to jack up the percentages even more for
         | people that do pay, resulting in more of them joining the non-
         | tippers in a feedback loop. And then, maybe tipping will become
         | a thing of the past.
        
         | wait_a_minute wrote:
         | Paying with cash.
        
       | 1letterunixname wrote:
       | Finding decent restaurant food and service is like running into a
       | Navy SEAL or a model who's an astronaut with a PhD and a private
       | pilot's license. If I can cook better than what's on the plate,
       | then why even walk in the door? To catch this year's COVID?
       | 
       | And the "living wage fee" gotcha capitalism tricks aren't cute or
       | advancing socioeconomic justice. Raise the prices, pay fair
       | wages, and run a respectable business... or don't.
        
       | silisili wrote:
       | I feel so aggravated that nearly every single place I visit asks
       | for a tip or 'donation' now. I take some solace in the fact it's
       | not just me getting old and grumpy for once, and nearly everyone
       | is saying the same.
       | 
       | I'm hoping this will be the trend that -finally- ends tipping
       | culture in the US. When everyone asks for a tip, nobody gets a
       | tip.
        
         | mahastore wrote:
         | Yep the waiter that served us the other night in a Mexican
         | restaurant showed sufficient displeasure at the $50 tips we
         | were giving him and clearly said he expected more. He hardly
         | spent anytime talking to us (a party of 10 people) or making
         | suggestions etc and did nothing out of normal , neither did he
         | spent a lot of time on our table. I am not sure if they feel it
         | is right to ask for more tips nowadays but I am afraid it also
         | shows the general decline in affordability. Or the restaurants
         | themselves are in really bad shape and not able to support the
         | waiters fully? Either way it leaves a bad taste and if this
         | continues even lesser people will go out for dining.
        
         | candiddevmike wrote:
         | For me, I just round up to the nearest dollar and call it good.
         | For anything where a tip was expected pre-2017, it's between
         | 5-15%, typically 10%. I'm tip fatigued and this is what I am
         | comfortable paying now. Pay your employees better.
        
         | bsder wrote:
         | > I feel so aggravated that nearly every single place I visit
         | asks for a tip or 'donation' now.
         | 
         | A lot of this was done by the credit card processors in order
         | to increase their rake.
         | 
         | I don't tip on machines unless I'm in a resaurant (and I
         | probably shouldn't there--either). If I'm going to tip, I give
         | cash because I can't count on any of what I put into the
         | machine getting to the person I intend it to go to.
        
           | nickjj wrote:
           | > A lot of this was done by the credit card processors in
           | order to increase their rake.
           | 
           | I can't speak for every terminal supplier but store owners
           | often do have the option to turn it off.
           | 
           | But it becomes problematic when it ships with tips enabled by
           | default and there's strong messaging from your terminal
           | vendor's rep to keep it enabled. You end up having to go out
           | of your way and against the grain to disable it.
        
         | malshe wrote:
         | I am totally with you. The other day I bought shaved iced for
         | my child which took perhaps 1 minute to make. I was already
         | paying $5 for a really tiny cup and then another $1 that showed
         | up as the suggested tip on the card reader. The employee was
         | looking directly at me and I couldn't see the option for "No
         | Tip" fast enough. So I had to click on $1.
         | 
         | That $1 didn't mean anything to me until then. It was suddenly
         | a tax I was paying for not being Larry David :)
         | 
         | The businesses who think that are striking a balance between
         | good customer service and paying fair wages don't realize that
         | the consumers are leaving with a bad taste in their mouths.
        
         | adriand wrote:
         | As a privileged white collar tech worker who makes far more
         | money than just about any service worker, I happily respond to
         | requests to tip by tipping. It is a privilege to be able to!
        
           | daneel_w wrote:
           | What?
        
           | mahastore wrote:
           | The issue here is not even request to tip , but rather
           | hostile behavior when not tipped to the satisfaction of the
           | service worker.
        
       | FireBeyond wrote:
       | Went to a concert the other night, happened to be at a winery.
       | They had wine sales. Walk up to the cashier, ask for a bottle
       | (only bottles), and how many plastic cups. They hand you both,
       | and you can uncork off to the side.
       | 
       | Tip options for this "service" (on wines ranging from
       | $28-60/bottle): "20, 25, 30 or 35%".
        
         | _dark_matter_ wrote:
         | Same, but for buying canned beer at an arena concert recently.
         | Pretty awkward to manually press "Other" -> "0".
         | 
         | My "system" now is to _always_ press "Other", even if I'm going
         | to tip one of the pre-selected amounts (e.g. 20%). This way I'm
         | always making a conscious choice.
        
           | malshe wrote:
           | Sometimes they make it quite difficult to navigate to "Other"
           | by making the font too small or forcing you to swipe to
           | another page. I think most people are too afraid to ask the
           | servers how to find "No Tip" option.
        
       | malshe wrote:
       | https://archive.ph/6XFUI
        
       | wait_a_minute wrote:
       | Pay with cash. Then there's no more bs tip options at every
       | transaction like when you pay with card.
        
       | happytiger wrote:
       | We just stopped going out. It's not fun, it's expensive, and the
       | constant tipping is simply awkward.
       | 
       | So, no thanks. We used to eat out twice a week. Now I go maybe
       | once every 3-6 months, always just for work.
       | 
       | I do tip generously. I just don't enjoy the culture.
       | 
       | I can't be alone in this.
        
         | speff wrote:
         | We're in the same situation - the budget just can't take it. On
         | the plus side, I've learned how to cook meals better than any
         | restaurant I've been to. Just need the right tools to get
         | started. It's surprisingly easy to cook and cheap if the
         | grocery's bought on sale/clearance.
        
         | ryanklee wrote:
         | What kind of places are you even going where "tipping culture"
         | intervenes in such a way that it affects your enjoyment?
         | 
         | I am not at all a fan of the economics of tipping, and I've
         | spent tens and tens of thousands of dollars on restaurants and
         | bars, but I've never once felt tipping intrude on my time.
         | 
         | Generally, I pay and tip at the end of the night. It's a pretty
         | uneventful moment.
         | 
         | Curious how your experience differs.
        
         | jpcfl wrote:
         | You are not. But every time I bring up the unpleasantness and
         | absurdity of compulsory tipping, people seem to assume I'm
         | stingy.
         | 
         | I live in San Francisco, so the surcharges added to my bill are
         | often:                 * tax (I think it's 8.625%)       * 18%
         | gratuity       * 6% SF mandate
         | 
         | I know we've become accustomed to this, but I'm getting real
         | sick of this kind of trickery in the US. I don't see any way to
         | stop it short of legislation, though.
         | 
         | All I want is to pay a straight $15 for a sandwich, and not
         | have to solve the math equation of $14.99 + 8.625% tax + 18%
         | tip + 6% "SF mandate".
        
         | MuffinFlavored wrote:
         | What do you do now? Go to the grocery store and buy groceries
         | and then cook/clean? Or do you order to-go/takeout/delivery/go
         | pick it up?
        
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