[HN Gopher] The Tyranny of the Marginal User
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       The Tyranny of the Marginal User
        
       Author : ivee
       Score  : 1374 points
       Date   : 2023-09-14 14:28 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | zmmmmm wrote:
       | I think it's unnecessarily unkind to Marl.
       | 
       | The reality is, your core user base is always your easy-to-get
       | captive market that intrinsically want what you do. A corollary
       | of that is that gradient towards more users is always going to be
       | eating into people more at the fringe or even totally outside the
       | core intent of your product or service. So intrinsically,
       | optimising for them is _very_ unlikely to be optimising for your
       | core users.
       | 
       | We can believe a fairy tale where we tell ourselves that we can
       | optimise for new users while still maintaining equal service for
       | existing users, but it's really just a fairy tale - invariably
       | these things end up in competition with each other.
        
       | MostlyStable wrote:
       | Is this related to the phenomenon where, as the smart phone
       | market got _larger_ the diversity of options decreased? Naively,
       | I would have assumed the opposite. Seems to be similar in lots of
       | large hardware markets where I would expect there to be a large
       | enough total customer base to justify serving at least a few
       | groups with niche interests, but it often seems like that doesn
       | 't happen and you get a very small number of very similar
       | monolithic offerings.
        
         | ivee wrote:
         | yeah this is strange and I don't fully understand it. perhaps
         | the options exist and we just haven't heard of them (like
         | there's a chrome extension or an OSS library that solves every
         | conceivable problem)? Or that the nature of the modern
         | smartphone software stack encourages too much bundling of
         | functionality?
        
         | ghaff wrote:
         | My theory would be that as the market grows and matures and the
         | mainstream offerings are refined, niche offerings are
         | marginalized. Most people probably adapt to the mainstream even
         | if they'd really prefer a somewhat smaller laptop for traveling
         | given the 13" one is pretty light and refined. Some people will
         | buy whatever phone is smallest but most won't.
        
         | genewitch wrote:
         | well once android hit the market it became more rare to see
         | RIM-compatible software, palmOS software, and all the other
         | players back then that i can't remember. The installed userbase
         | for android, which was designed for well-off Marls was massive,
         | and iphones supplanted the need for nearly every other purpose
         | built communication device. Why bother making my [chat
         | client/browser/social media app] compatible with 16 OSes?
         | iphone using cocoa or objectiveC or whatever and android using
         | java meant only two stacks to maintain - at least until the
         | platform started pushing updates whenever a new phone was
         | released, and now you've fragmented the OS market - which leads
         | to devices becoming obsolete before the end of their actual
         | useful life.
         | 
         | the first company that can make a phone that can run android
         | apps in a virtual machine and otherwise be a glorified electron
         | app server (run javascript/webasm apps only) will clean up. If
         | they make it possible to upgrade the components (m.2 storage,
         | sodimm memory, socketed SoC), even if you have to take it to a
         | store to upgrade - they'll win the entire market.
        
       | pier25 wrote:
       | By Reddit he means old Reddit, right?
        
       | pxoe wrote:
       | am i the only one who finds the vilifying of a "dumb user", of
       | internet, of anything, if not just dumb in itself, then just a
       | bit unethical. sorry guys, you are all just here on this planet
       | along with dumb people. that's so sad, huh. sucks to be you.
       | 
       | making accessible things is actually good. not sure how that
       | "dumbification of software for the marginal user" really aligns
       | with what happens with apps. sometimes things don't get "dumber",
       | or "simpler", or "easier to get even for the most basic of
       | users". sometimes things just get worse. or get more complicated,
       | internally (to exploit that user) or externally (dark patterns).
       | simplification is really not the reason nor the 'evil thing-
       | ruining machine' running behind the 'worsening of everything'. it
       | might be the myriad of business processes, including a/b testing
       | and orienting on whatever metrics analytics spit out, but like,
       | despite almost pointing to that, this still diverts to 'things
       | get simplified for the sake of the user' (boo hoo cutting
       | features removing buttons). sure. but that's not the problem. the
       | problem is the process that leads to, not just 'simplification'
       | but whatever changes that happen.
       | 
       | >nearly all popular consumer software
       | 
       | is it really?
        
       | unoti wrote:
       | The article says:
       | 
       | > Google Search itself, has decayed to the point of being
       | unusable for complicated queries. Reddit and Craigslist remain
       | incredibly useful and valuable precisely because their software
       | remains frozen in time
       | 
       | I was contemplating the truth of this, and thinking about how
       | much of the internet's wealth of useful content gets overshadowed
       | by nonsense and UI antipatterns. It was right at this moment that
       | I continued reading and scrolled down and the stuff I was trying
       | to read got greyed out and replaced by one of those annoying
       | popups about something or other before I could finish reading the
       | article. Oh the irony...
        
       | cbare wrote:
       | Fuck that guy Marl.
        
       | a-dub wrote:
       | the internet has been gentrified lol
        
       | edelwax wrote:
       | I worked on this problem for more than a decade, as co-founder of
       | what became the Center for Humane Tech, and in other roles.
       | 
       | One way to break it down is different users, but as Ivan notes
       | towards the end, we all have Marl in us. So, another way to get
       | at the same thing is to exclude certain engagements from the
       | metrics -- the things we click on but would not reflectively
       | endorse as meaningful. You get a lower engagement number that
       | represents meaningful choice, rather than just "revealed
       | preference" / engagement.
       | 
       | This is what I work to align LLMs with at the Institute for
       | Meaning Alignment[1], and Ivan is helping! I also have a paper[2]
       | on the difference between revealed preference and meaningful
       | choice.
       | 
       | (It's also worth noting that this process of enshittification
       | doesn't just happen in software. Markets and voting also have
       | this revealed preference vs meaningful choice problem. So, making
       | this distinction is a chance to upgrade all of our large-scale
       | systems.)
       | 
       | [1] https://meaningalignment.org/ [2]
       | https://github.com/jxe/vpm/blob/master/vpm.pdf
        
       | iamwil wrote:
       | This reminds me of the post on Product Market Fit the other day.
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=37490300
       | 
       | That PMF is never done, and you are just chipping away at more
       | and more market segments. There's no negative feedback for people
       | to think that they're done with a market and they're starting to
       | squeeze blood from rocks.
        
       | Communitivity wrote:
       | Is the marginal user marginal though, in terms of marketing? Put
       | another way, could you put a filter in place to bar marginal
       | users and still have a commercially viable product without prices
       | too high? I'd think the answer is yes, but perhaps the business
       | would need to be aim toward a successful lifestyle business
       | rather than a unicorn valuation.
        
       | camgunz wrote:
       | I like this article, but I have to say it spills a lot of ink
       | just to say that engagement metrics fucked us. These products
       | stopped trying to empower us and started commodifying us. Marl
       | isn't the problem; those execs are the problem.
        
         | brainwad wrote:
         | Engagement metric focus can come from the bottom up, too. If
         | you're an engineer who just build a feature you think is cool,
         | but which nobody is using, it's very tempting to start applying
         | growth hacks to make it more "popular". I have been through a
         | few cycles of this on various projects in big tech.
        
       | dredmorbius wrote:
       | I'd arrived at a similar conceptualisation which I call "The
       | Tyranny of the Minimum Viable User":
       | 
       | <https://web.archive.org/web/20230000000000*/https://old.redd...>
       | 
       | In terms of impacts on software / application complexity,
       | capability, and suitability to the needs and interests of
       | advanced users, I feel somewhat similarly. I do take exception
       | however with the notion that serving the needs of the much larger
       | set people with less-advanced skills or interests is
       | _necessarily_ bad. In general I _do_ support the effort of
       | expanding access to computers and digital technologies.
       | 
       | A large part of the degredation Vendrov describes is less an
       | element of the people _using_ these tools as it is the financial
       | and economic incentives of the entities _providing_ them,
       | encapsulated in Cory Doctorow 's ever-more-widely-known term
       | _enshittification_. That 's driven by the dynamics of winner-
       | take-all monopolies, advertising, surveillance capitalism, and
       | the inherent challenges of monetising information goods.
       | 
       | What I _would_ very much like to see, though, is a world in which
       | _both_ general and advanced-skills access are available and
       | supported. A general characteristic and problem of media and
       | information goods, going back to the advent of printing, is that
       | _popular_ tends to equate to _degraded quality_. This shows up in
       | other products and services as well, though I 'd argue it's most
       | pernicious with information and media.
        
         | ivee wrote:
         | great essay! saving people a click:
         | https://web.archive.org/web/20230606224134/https://old.reddi...
        
           | dredmorbius wrote:
           | Thanks, on both points. And I'd meant to post the direct URL.
        
       | redbell wrote:
       | > _why consumer software gets worse, not better, over time_
       | 
       | This reminds me of Jonathan Blow's presentation about the
       | collapse of our civilization:
       | https://youtu.be/ZSRHeXYDLko?si=0HZJzEvIYqIlmPqe
        
       | wrineha2 wrote:
       | Some shameless self promotion. I wrote about this exact idea back
       | in 2021: https://www.williamrinehart.com/2021/big-tech-
       | regulation-spe...
        
       | michaelteter wrote:
       | I have my share of OKC stories, and indeed the app of today is
       | vastly inferior than the app of years past.
       | 
       | What exists of OKC now is a "free" system which is utterly
       | useless. You simply must pay to do anything that might result in
       | a date.
       | 
       | This problem isn't the marginal user. The problem is the ever-
       | growing marketing push to dangle "FREE" in front of people to
       | lure them in, when of course there is cost later. In the case of
       | OKC, the cost is your time at first. Then eventually you may pay
       | (what is frankly an exhorbitant rate per month) just to be able
       | to communicate with anyone.
       | 
       | Back to the point though. Think of all the garbage free apps for
       | phones. Think of all the absurd games they play to trick or goad
       | you into paying. That whole process IS the experience moreso than
       | whatever the theoretical purpose of the app was. Instead of the
       | old concept of "here's what we offer, and here's what it costs to
       | get", we have this current state of the world.
       | 
       | There is a solution to all this: sell your product from day one.
       | Do the traditional show and tell marketing to illustrate your
       | product's value so you might gain customers. This is far better
       | than the (VC?) approach of gathering users at a big loss and then
       | figuring out how to monetize them. As we know, some of the
       | monetization methods are evil...
        
       | mikpanko wrote:
       | OkCupid's problem wasn't pursuing the "marginal" user but rather
       | not being able to capture the "mainstream" user and staying
       | niche, while Tinder was the first dating app to bridge the
       | divide. Tinder did it by making the experience less awkward and
       | more casual, similar to how most people start flirting and
       | evaluating each other offline: by looks and vibes. As a result
       | more people were on the app and there was more choice, which
       | sealed the dominance.
       | 
       | I tried OkCupid for several months in 2013 without much success.
       | Then I tried Tinder for a few months the same year and met my
       | wife. Very different experience from the author of the article.
        
       | 1vuio0pswjnm7 wrote:
       | "How is it possible that software gets worse, not better, over
       | time, despite billions of dollars of R&D and rapid progress in
       | tooling and AI? What evil force, more powerful than Innovation
       | and Progress, is at work here?"
       | 
       | I once asked someone this question and he replied with a single
       | word. "Greed", he said.
       | 
       | I wanted the opinion of someone who was not biased, i.e., who did
       | not believe, AKAIK, that, as stated by the author of this blog
       | post, "software is getting worse".
       | 
       | This person was longtime shareholder in one of the companies that
       | engages in what's being described here and their success has been
       | his success.
       | 
       | If anything, I thought, he should be biased in favour of "modern"
       | software not against it.
        
         | nine_k wrote:
         | The software in question only gets worse for you, the audience,
         | not the people running it. For them, it gets better as it
         | brings in more profits.
         | 
         | (Another reason why free software is essential.)
        
       | epivosism wrote:
       | Could it be something simple, like how as companies grow, the
       | average company knowledge about the product decreases?
       | 
       | Both at IC and exec level; the new people coming in are more
       | likely to just be good general operators. Plus the CEO and
       | leadership gets tired or retire.
        
       | gytdev wrote:
       | amazing essay, does anybody have a list of sites that promote
       | human agency instead of decreasing it?
        
       | tikkun wrote:
       | Related concept: Enshittification (I've seen this mentioned on
       | HN)
       | 
       | A company starts out focused on building a great product.
       | 
       | Then, they reach product-market fit.
       | 
       | Then, they raise money.
       | 
       | Now, the best way for them to grow is to go upmarket. Sell to
       | enterprises.
       | 
       | Unfortunately, then the resources of the company are directed to
       | features that enterprises buyers care about, because that's the
       | best way for the company to make more money.
       | 
       | The actual product stagnates.
       | 
       | (This does leave an opportunity for bootstrapped founders to come
       | in and swim in the "wake" of B2B startups that built a great
       | product, then let their product stagnate while they went
       | upmarket. Eventually some of those bootstrappers might choose to
       | get bigger and move upmarket themselves, and then the opportunity
       | opens up again for new bootstrappers. Or the bootstrapper can
       | remain niche, focused on winning users who choose the best
       | product and who don't require enterprise features, which is a
       | smaller market but still can be quite profitable and would be a
       | much smaller and simpler to run business.)
       | 
       | Examples: Airtable (it's a great product, I still love it, but it
       | hasn't really improved for me as an end user since about 2016),
       | Notion, Docusign (maybe it wasn't ever a great product, I'm not
       | sure, but it sure hasn't improved for me as a user).
       | 
       | Instead of going from "good to great" it unfortunately seems like
       | many startups go from "great to good"
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | golergka wrote:
       | If you're making a product for the billions, your average user
       | will inevitably have IQ of less than 100. And moreover, you can
       | get much stickier users if you optimise for 80 IQ.
        
       | croes wrote:
       | Fun fact in german the acronym DAUb means Dummster anzunehmender
       | User = Dumbest Assumable User
        
       | sharas- wrote:
       | So the fault is with zombie Marl? As any zombie marketer would
       | say: "we are just giving them what they want". Something
       | fundamentally is amiss in this posts reasoning.
        
       | capybara_2020 wrote:
       | Is the problem more fundamental? Investor controlled/focused
       | businesses are just bad for users and companies in the long run?
       | Especially if investors have short term goals. Some of the
       | easiest ways to make more money is to squeeze the users(more ads)
       | or reduce product quality to the bare minimum as long as it lasts
       | long enough to meet contractual needs. All this at the cost of
       | the user/company.
        
       | koch wrote:
       | > Reddit and Craigslist remain incredibly useful and valuable
       | precisely because their software remains frozen in time
       | 
       | Craigslist, sure, but Reddit has fallen off a cliff in terms of
       | content quality since the whole API/3rd party apps debacle. More
       | confirmation of the author's point, I suppose - valuing the
       | marginal user and a broader base over what's already there.
        
         | cole-k wrote:
         | I think the changes to Reddit suggest that we (the ones
         | complaining about Reddit) are but a small minority. I really
         | thought Reddit would revert their API changes after seeing the
         | community response, but then... nothing happened. This was the
         | event that made me realize how far I am disconnected from its
         | average user.
         | 
         | OP makes it seem like Reddit's users lose something when Reddit
         | panders to a Marl. But I've observed that the majority of them
         | don't care (enough). Some even like changes we view as
         | invasive. I talked to someone once who told me "Aren't
         | personalized ads so great? I was looking for new shoes, then I
         | see an ad for the perfect shoes. A few clicks and now I have
         | great shoes!" These people exist, and I suspect that they _have
         | to exist_ for ads to generate any revenue.
         | 
         | I do think that it's wrong to paint those who (still) use
         | Reddit/etc. as brainless scroll-zombies, though. They just care
         | about different things.
        
           | mminer237 wrote:
           | I can't say what percentage of Reddit users cared, but I can
           | definitely say that the majority of Reddit participants--the
           | people actually posting the content Reddit is trying to sell
           | --have left. Reddit activity has dropped off a cliff:
           | https://subredditstats.com/r/askreddit
        
             | Panzer04 wrote:
             | Geeze, I didn't realise there was such a precipitous drop -
             | I wonder how bad it is for smaller subs.
        
             | cole-k wrote:
             | Wow, I figured from hearsay that it was unchanged. Thanks
             | for letting me know. I admit to being wrong about most
             | people not caring, at least judging from the numbers you
             | gave.
        
             | broguinn wrote:
             | Are you sure this data is accurate? By the site you
             | reference, r/nottheonion has ~30 comments a day:
             | https://subredditstats.com/r/nottheonion
             | 
             | But if I actually visit the subreddit, I see many posts
             | from within the last 24 hours with 300+ comments each. Is
             | it possible subredditstats.com had some kind of regression
             | in its counting around that time? It could be related to
             | the API changes.
        
               | cole-k wrote:
               | That would make a lot of sense, I wonder if there's a
               | good way to identify activity. Perhaps looking at the #
               | of subscribers/active users that Reddit reports (but I'm
               | not sure if historical data for this is kept).
        
           | foogazi wrote:
           | I left Reddit after the API changed and Apollo died.
           | 
           | Last week I realized I still kept doing a bunch of reddit
           | searches so I went back and tried the app.
           | 
           | The app is not that bad, hope the users stick around
        
             | cole-k wrote:
             | This is what's been somewhat hard about quitting/boycotting
             | Reddit for me. Ultimately the community comes before the
             | platform and Reddit happened to house a lot of good
             | communities. I admit to breaking my boycott when the only
             | answers I can seem to find for my exact question lie on
             | Reddit. The same goes for my boycott of Stack Overflow,
             | which I have to break even more often due to its ubiquity.
        
           | lotsoweiners wrote:
           | Those people sometimes exist in your own family too. My wife
           | asked me to get rid of pi-hole because the sponsored links at
           | the top of a Google results page no longer worked.
        
         | qingcharles wrote:
         | Content quality seems to be inversely proportional to subreddit
         | size.
         | 
         | If you find a much finer-grained niche subreddit you will
         | probably find the quality is still 2010 Reddit.
        
         | dale_glass wrote:
         | I think Reddit is a bit different. They're not a company that
         | is finding that optimizing metrics leads to targeting Marl (as
         | per article). They're a company that decided that the optimal
         | way forward is to intentionally push out their former users and
         | replace them with as much Marl as possible.
         | 
         | And I think that makes sense. The original Reddit is full of
         | technical people with ad blockers, weird hobbies, weird
         | communities, and various undesirables. Keeping this herd of
         | cats happy is extremely tricky, selling anything to them is
         | extremely difficult, and there's all sorts of complex drama
         | that needs managing.
         | 
         | So it seems that Reddit decided that to make the site more
         | profitable, manageable and attractive to advertisers, all this
         | weirdness needs to be pushed out over time. Drive out the
         | technical users and weird unprofitable communities, and replace
         | with as much mindless scrolling as possible.
        
           | ecshafer wrote:
           | Reddit seems to have easy sales. Specific subreddits can be
           | targeted with specific ads really easily. So it should be
           | easy to sell things there and easy to keep the users happy.
        
             | jacobn wrote:
             | I've tried buying reddit ads. Maybe I was selling the wrong
             | thing, or my ads sucked or whatever, but boy those ads
             | didn't just not perform, they were just completely useless.
        
             | intended wrote:
             | Reddit ads sadly didnt work well. They really tried all
             | sorts of things.
             | 
             | I feel that they may have been a media firm, and not a
             | platform. When Victoria conducted AMAs, Reddit was a
             | burgeoning cultural force.
             | 
             | Maybe if they had gone that route they would be their
             | "ideal" state. However that leads to no billionaire club
             | IPO/Exit.
        
               | zmmmmm wrote:
               | it's an interesting counter narrative then to the
               | currently in vogue idea that you can stop individual ad
               | targeting and instead target people based on their high
               | level interests.
               | 
               | Reddit is like a distillation of that, the logical end
               | point of it ... if that is a dead end, Google is in for a
               | rough time with the pathway they are pursuing with
               | Chrome.
        
               | ChefboyOG wrote:
               | My experience with Reddit ads (years ago now) wasn't that
               | subreddit-level targeting was bad--there's a reason
               | sponsored content is such a big marketing channel, after
               | all--but rather that the ads platform just never worked
               | very well.
               | 
               | And by "never worked very well," I don't just mean "We
               | ran ads without good results." The whole experience was
               | just sort of confusing and underwhelming, especially when
               | compared to other channels like FB or Google. We
               | suspected that the majority of our clicks were bots,
               | based on our own analytics. The targeting always felt
               | unreliable. Support interactions were weird. In general,
               | the platform always just felt kind of... janky.
               | 
               | Don't know if that's still the case now, but at least as
               | of a year or so ago, I knew a lot of people working in
               | digital marketing who felt the same about the platform.
        
               | ecshafer wrote:
               | So the targeting wasn't just you choosing to run ads on
               | /r/coffee and /r/programming? In my head the ads should
               | be so easy to sell with how niche it is. But I also
               | believe reddit could screw it up.
        
           | wmichelin wrote:
           | Can you elaborate on why you think reddit is pushing out the
           | weirdness? I don't think it's a zero sum game, you can have
           | both normies and weirdos in entirely separate subreddits.
        
             | dale_glass wrote:
             | Yeah, but what's the point of hosting them? Like what do
             | you sell on r/dragonsfuckingcars? (no, I'm not joking)
             | 
             | And what does the existence of such a place at all mean to
             | a prospective advertiser? Imagine a viral picture of your
             | ad next to one of those posts.
             | 
             | But okay, let's ignore porn. How about subreddits that deal
             | with subjects like depression, gender issues, politics,
             | etc? What do you sell to those? Maybe a book or two but
             | probably not very much. And they're also ripe for
             | "hilarious" ad/content mismatches.
             | 
             | It seems to me that from the advertising point of view,
             | Reddit would be a lot more desirable to advertise on if it
             | was nothing but endless cute cat pictures.
        
               | username332211 wrote:
               | How did advertisers become such puritans? Playboy
               | magazine carried ads for normal products just fine. Every
               | newspaper deals with "depression, gender issues,
               | politics" and they somehow survived trough most of their
               | history on advertising revenue.
               | 
               | Surely there should be marketers that see "Imagine a
               | viral picture of your ad next to one of those posts." and
               | realize that everything apart from "Imagine a viral
               | picture of your ad" is often irrelevant.
        
               | Eisenstein wrote:
               | The people who create the content (the reason people put
               | reddit at the end of google searches) also like
               | dragonsfuckingcars, and if you push them out they stop
               | writing about their vacuum cleaners and the content
               | becomes the default subreddits which are pretty much
               | entirely people yelling political talking points at each
               | other.
        
               | raisedbyninjas wrote:
               | They don't need to monetize every sub. Most subscribers
               | to dragonsfuckingcars probably sub to several other subs
               | that can be monetized. Keeping all the weird niche stuff
               | around keeps users scrolling longer. Just keep them off
               | /r/all.
        
         | hiidrew wrote:
         | Other Reddit enshittification is their pushiness to use the
         | mobile app. Great UX case study here, this guy makes them very
         | entertaining - https://builtformars.com/case-studies/reddit
         | 
         | Also related, Cory Doctorow's essay on this where he labeled it
         | 'enshittification' -
         | https://pluralistic.net/2023/01/21/potemkin-ai/#hey-guys
        
         | mayormcmatt wrote:
         | Also the UI redesign they pushed through and bad search that
         | precipitated the flourishing of third-party clients.
        
         | Night_Thastus wrote:
         | Everyone here is completely missing the point. It wasn't the
         | API change, the 'new reddit' UI change, or frankly any other
         | individual change. Those are symptoms of a greater problem -
         | Reddit is social media that _succeeded_.
         | 
         | This exact same fall happens to any and all social media that
         | succeeds, and is not in any way unique to Reddit.
         | 
         | It grows, and with growth comes complexity and greater expenses
         | to keep it all propped up. In order to pay for those expenses,
         | advertising revenue must increase. To increase advertising
         | revenue, the site must be more 'family friendly' and have
         | stricter moderation. More users means that you can't be as
         | personal and must be more automated. You don't want bad
         | publicity because that can turn advertisers away. If you want
         | more advertising revenue you need more users, which means you
         | need to sand off any rough edges and unique appeal and instead
         | appeal as broadly as possible, regardless of the original
         | intent of the site. To appeal broadly you must add every
         | feature that everyone else has and forget being unique. Broader
         | appeal brings in people who reduce the quality of the content.
         | The larger the site gets, the more appealing it becomes to bots
         | and propoganda. In order to maximize impact for either personal
         | (ego) or professional (money/political) reasons, you need to
         | post content that hits people where they're vulnerable - cute,
         | funny, infuriating, etc.
         | 
         | So, the product experiences enshittification. It's just
         | inevitable. It will _always_ happen to social media if it
         | grows.
         | 
         | You can have a small, niche social media that is good but will
         | _never_ grow - or you can have a large, casually-used social
         | media that is awful. There is no in-between. Anything in-
         | between inevitably slides towards one or the other.
        
           | dimal wrote:
           | It succeeded for a long time without becoming enshittified.
           | It was the front page of the internet and it was great. Then
           | they took VC funding. That changed everything. That was the
           | driver for all the enshittification that followed. The VCs
           | need to get a 10x return and they only have one playbook --
           | the one you describe. But if they hadn't taken VC funding,
           | maybe they could have found a different path.
        
             | intended wrote:
             | They were a YC team. They were always on VC funding - and
             | they were not exactly a tale of profit and success.
             | 
             | Essentially, Reddit always had to IPO.
        
               | Iulioh wrote:
               | The problem was the pandemic expansion.
               | 
               | See how many people worked at reddit in 2021 and in 2022.
               | 
               | It went from something like 500 to 2000
               | 
               | And even if, the CEO said that reddit was never
               | profitable and that's or bullshit or a clear sign of how
               | badly can a company be managed.
        
             | strbean wrote:
             | Eh, I think the reason reddit was resilient against this
             | effect was because of the balkanization resulting from the
             | subreddit model. If you look at an individual subreddit,
             | unless it is incredibly fringe, it will follow the 'social
             | enshittification' model perfectly. Reddit has the advantage
             | that a portion of users can migrate to a newer, still-
             | fringe subreddit as a replacement.
             | 
             | Over time, though, the namespace starts to get cluttered.
             | You have to go to r/realTrueSubreddit2 to find a decent
             | community now. Also, r/realTrueSubreddit1 was taken by
             | nazis/trolls who were mad at getting banned for using
             | slurs.
        
             | ryandrake wrote:
             | If you remember Fark, they did the exact same thing. At
             | some point in these sites' growth/success they always seem
             | to have this irresistible compulsion to do The Grand
             | Redesign which always, always shittifies itself.
             | 
             | I wonder if there were any dissenters inside of Reddit who
             | have actually been on the Internet in 2007, desperately
             | warning the designers that they were "Farking" themselves
             | with that redesign.
        
               | pbj1968 wrote:
               | What killed Fark was the founder ran for office and we
               | all found out what a terrible person he is. It's still
               | fun to visit that ghost town and look at the tombstones
               | occasionally.
        
       | bdcs wrote:
       | The tyranny of the marginal user reminds me of population ethics'
       | The Repugnant Conclusion.[0] This is the conclusion of
       | utilitarianism, where if you have N people each with 10
       | happiness, well then, it would be better to have 10 _N people
       | with 1.1 happiness, or 100_ N people with 0.111 happiness, until
       | you have infinite people with barely any happiness. Substitute
       | profit for happiness, and you get the tyranny of the marginal
       | user.
       | 
       | Perhaps the resolutions to the Repugnant Conclusion (Section 2,
       | "Eight Ways of Dealing with the Repugnant Conclusion") can also
       | be applied to the tyranny of the marginal user. Though to be
       | honest, I find none of the resolutions wholly compelling.
       | 
       | [0]
       | https://plato.stanford.edu/ARCHIVES/WIN2009/entries/repugnan...
        
         | didibus wrote:
         | I really don't see the issue with your happiness split. You
         | have 10 people, and they're are equally unhappy.
         | 
         | This is perfect, because now they are all equally incentivized
         | to do something about it. They're motivated to work together
         | and collaborate for change.
         | 
         | If you do any other split where some people will be very happy
         | and others very unhappy, you've now created certain category of
         | people who are incentivized to maintain the current system and
         | repress any desire for change from the unhappy people.
        
         | feoren wrote:
         | That conclusion is not repugnant at all, it's just that its
         | phrasing is so simplistic as to be nearly a straw-man. It's a
         | poisoned intuition pump, because it makes you imagine a
         | situation that doesn't follow at all from utilitarianism.
         | 
         | First of all, you're imagining dividing happiness among more
         | people, but imagining them all with the same amount of
         | suffering. You're picturing a drudging life where people work
         | all day and have barely any source of happiness. But if you can
         | magically divide up some total amount of happiness, why not the
         | same with suffering? This is the entire source of the word
         | "repugnant", because it sounds like you get infinite suffering
         | with finite happiness. That _does not follow_ from _anything_
         | utilitarianism stipulates; you 've simply created an awful
         | world and falsely called it utilitarianism. Try to imagine all
         | these people living a nearly _completely neutral_ life, erring
         | a bit on the happier side, and it suddenly doesn 't sound so
         | bad.
         | 
         | Secondly, you're ignoring the fact that people can create
         | happiness for others. What fixed finite "happiness" resource
         | are we divvying up here? Surely a world with 10 billion people
         | has more great works of art for _all_ to enjoy than a world
         | with 10 people, not to mention far less loneliness. It 's crazy
         | to think the total amount of happiness to distribute is
         | independent of the world population.
         | 
         | There are many more reasonable objections to even the
         | _existence_ of that so-called  "conclusion" without even
         | starting on the many ways of dealing with it.
        
           | galaxyLogic wrote:
           | Your post reminds me of xenophobes who lament the arrival of
           | immigrants. The immigrants are taking their jobs they are
           | saying. Such a viewpoint can be countered with the imaginary
           | scenario where you live in a country with only 2 people. How
           | well are they doing? There are no stores to buy goodies from
           | because who would create such a store for just 2 people?
           | Perhaps an immigrant, could open a deli!
           | 
           | When there are more immigrants who are allowed to work, the
           | immigrants will make some money for themselves. What do they
           | do with that money? They spend it, which grows the economy.
           | Our economy, not some other country's economy.
           | 
           | If you were the only living person on this planet you would
           | be in trouble. Thank God for other people being there too.
        
             | anon84873628 wrote:
             | It seems you completely misunderstood the parent comment.
             | They are arguing against the existence of the repugnant
             | conclusion, by pointing out that happiness -- like the
             | economy -- is not actually a finite pie to divvy up.
        
             | bluefirebrand wrote:
             | > What do they do with that money? They spend it, which
             | grows the economy. Our economy, not some other country's
             | economy.
             | 
             | I'm going to guess you've never spoken to anyone who is
             | sending money back to their family in their original
             | country with every paycheck.
             | 
             | Not really the point of this conversation I guess but...
             | yeah. It does happen more than you probably think. To the
             | point where malls in my area have kiosks for wiring money
             | to other countries for cheap.
        
               | soorya3 wrote:
               | That's not true, most of the money is spent here and very
               | little to take care of the family that's been left back
               | home. Otherwise how can they survive here, think about
               | immigrant kids education, housing, healthcare,
               | retirement.
        
               | solatic wrote:
               | Your logic: let's reduce immigration because immigrants
               | send remittances to family members who are not permitted
               | by our immigration laws to join their family members in
               | this country, which would increase immigration numbers
               | further while reducing capital offshoring.
        
               | Sai_ wrote:
               | Wouldn't they be sending left-over money ie, money after
               | spending locally, back to their home country?
               | 
               | I can't imagine a lot of people out there who send all
               | their money back home without spending some of it locally
               | for self sustenance.
        
               | eru wrote:
               | > I'm going to guess you've never spoken to anyone who is
               | sending money back to their family in their original
               | country with every paycheck.
               | 
               | If that sent money ever comes back to the domestic
               | economy, then you are back to the previous situation.
               | 
               | If it doesn't come back, that's even better: because then
               | your central bank can print more money to make up for the
               | disappearance. Essentially, you got the foreigner to
               | perform services in return for some ink and paper.
        
               | Fripplebubby wrote:
               | I agree this happens a lot, but isn't this an area of
               | financial life that is regulated, governed, and monitored
               | by states today? I am not familiar with the policies or
               | regulations in play here but this seems very addressable
               | by the institutions and regulatory bodies that exist
               | today in most (all?) countries. A solved problem, in
               | other words.
        
               | Fripplebubby wrote:
               | For example the income tax or other taxes already capture
               | a portion of foreign workers' incomes that the state
               | wants to capture without discouraging workers too much
               | and working elsewhere, according to their economic models
               | and policies.
               | 
               | I suppose different countries have different strategies
               | on this, rich countries are trying to benefit from
               | foreign labor and capture some taxes from them while less
               | rich countries are trying to increase their haul by
               | encouraging their citizens to become foreign workers
               | (example: Philippines).
        
             | ThinkBeat wrote:
             | Your scenario leaves a lot to be desired.
             | 
             | Yeah two people only.
             | 
             | Well Your scenario can easily be countered with the
             | imaginary scenario that you have a town with 1 billion
             | residents, far too little housing, no green space left due
             | to trying to provide housing and the city only has natural
             | resources for perhaps 300.000.000.
             | 
             | Now 100.000.000 immigrants arrive. There is not enough
             | food, water, hygiene. Hopefully, opening delis will solve
             | the issue.
             | 
             | Yes, it is absurd. But no more so than a world of 2.
             | 
             | History though does prove your theory right. When proud and
             | brave Europeans immigrated to what would become the United
             | States.
             | 
             | "When they arrive there are no stores to buy goodies from
             | because who would create such a store for just 2 people?
             | Perhaps an immigrant, could open a deli!""
             | 
             | Thankfully for the native people's immigrants came in to
             | create a consumer capitalist culture.
             | 
             | Can you imagine the utter horror if they native peoples
             | were allowed to keep their versions of society going and
             | develop it the way they wanted. They sure were blessed by
             | the immigrants. A lot the natives' peoples also became
             | xenophobes and we sure now what bastards' xenophobes are.
        
               | astrange wrote:
               | This is silly because you don't have to imagine any
               | scenarios. Good economic models are based on empirical
               | data, not on imagining things, and "immigrants don't
               | increase unemployment or decrease wages" is just about
               | the strongest empirical result there is.
               | 
               | The reason being that someone moving closer to you
               | increases demand for labor more than supply, and
               | immigrants generally have complimentary (slightly
               | different) skills to natives. So the person whose labor
               | the immigrant most competes with is another immigrant.
               | 
               | https://www.noahpinion.blog/p/why-immigration-doesnt-
               | reduce-...
               | 
               | As for remittances/brain drain, there are certainly
               | theoretical issues but it seems to be okay in the end
               | because it boosts investment in the originating country.
               | 
               | https://www.noahpinion.blog/p/why-skilled-immigration-
               | usuall...
        
               | Spivak wrote:
               | And if you subscribe to MMT you should love immigrants
               | because they're free "unemployed" people you didn't have
               | to spend money raising so you have greater runway to
               | print more money without inflation.
        
           | julianeon wrote:
           | Here's a simpler way to phrase the problem.
           | 
           | The current world population is about 8 billion.
           | 
           | By this argument, and also by your argument, it should
           | actually be 999 billion. Or a number even higher than that.
           | 
           | The conclusion boils down to:
           | 
           | 1. Find maximum population number earth can support.
           | 
           | 2. Hit that number.
           | 
           | I do think that, when put this way, it seems simplistic.
        
             | olddustytrail wrote:
             | Here's an even simpler way to phrase the problem.
             | 
             | The current world population is about 8 billion.
             | 
             | By my argument it should be 2 billion.
             | 
             | Your argument is therefore rather foolish.
        
             | curiousllama wrote:
             | To be fair, boiling something down to a simple statement
             | does indeed tend to produce simplistic statements
        
             | [deleted]
        
           | skybrian wrote:
           | Yes, more generally, I'm reminded of David Chapman's essay,
           | "No Cosmic Meaning" [1]. Thought experiments are a good way
           | to depress yourself if you take them seriously.
           | 
           | But I think that utilitarianism has a vague but somewhat
           | related problem in treating "utility" as a one-dimensional
           | quantity that you can add up? There are times when adding
           | things together and doing comparisons makes a kind of sense,
           | but it's an abstraction. Nothing says you _ought_ to quantify
           | and add things up in a particular way, and utilitarianism
           | doesn't provide a way of resolving disputes about quantifying
           | and adding. Not that it really tries, because it's
           | furthermore a _metaphor_ about doing math, which isn't the
           | same thing as doing math.
           | 
           | [1] https://meaningness.com/no-cosmic-meaning
        
             | greiskul wrote:
             | The big problem with utilitarinism, is that people think
             | that a preference function for the utilitariam that is
             | creating a given world is something simple. Then some
             | people are like, no, it's more complex, we need to take
             | into account X, Y and Z. But the truth is, no human being
             | is capable of defining a good utility function, even for
             | ourselves. We don't know all the parameters, and we don't
             | know how to combine those parameters to add them up. So I
             | would say that formal, proper utilitarinism, is not a
             | metaphor for math: it is math. But is right now in the area
             | of non constructive math.
             | 
             | Maybe our descedants will elevate it outside of that with
             | computers someday. Cause the human brain with just pieces
             | of papers and text, probably cannot do it.
        
               | Gibbon1 wrote:
               | Also utilitarinism was created by people who were utterly
               | unaware that the world is fundamentally chaotic. Instead
               | they thought it could be represented by a system of
               | linear equations.
               | 
               | It's fundamentally broken in practice.
        
             | pdonis wrote:
             | _> utilitarianism has a vague but somewhat related problem
             | in treating "utility" as a one-dimensional quantity that
             | you can add up?_
             | 
             | Yes, it does. This is one of the most common (and in my
             | view, most compelling) criticisms of utilitarianism.
        
               | at_a_remove wrote:
               | One of the very muddled thoughts I have in my head, along
               | with Goodhart's Law and AIs which blissfully attempt to
               | convert the universe into paperclips, is that having a
               | single function maximized as a goal seems to give rise to
               | these bizarre scenarios if you begin to scan for their
               | existence.
               | 
               | I have started to think that you need at least two
               | functions, in tension, to help forestall this kind of
               | runaway behavior.
        
               | pdonis wrote:
               | Even "two functions, in tension" still assumes that you
               | can capture values as functions at all. But the reason
               | ethics and morality are hard in the first place is that
               | there are _no_ such functions. We humans have multiple
               | incommensurable, and sometimes incompatible, values that
               | we can 't capture with numbers. That means it's not even
               | a matter of not being able to compute the "right" answer;
               | it's that the very concept of there being a single
               | "right" answer doesn't seem to work.
        
               | at_a_remove wrote:
               | I think that's what it will approach in the limit, yes,
               | if you are talking about humans. For AIs, I think it will
               | be somewhat less so, and that it would be preferable for
               | the sake of predictability.
        
           | shadowgovt wrote:
           | All of this having been said, replacing happiness with
           | revenue makes chasing marginal users make _a lot_ of sense.
           | 
           | If you have a sure-fire way to get half the people on the
           | planet to give you $1, you can afford a yacht. Even if it
           | means the tool you make for them only induces them to ever
           | give you that $1 and not more... Why do you care? You have a
           | yacht now. You can contemplate whether you should have made
           | them something more useful from the relative safety and
           | comfort of your yacht.
        
           | pdonis wrote:
           | _> a situation that doesn 't follow at all from
           | utilitarianism_
           | 
           | Except that it _does_ according to many utilitarians. That 's
           | why it has been a topic of discussion for so long.
           | 
           |  _> you 're imagining dividing happiness among more people,
           | but imagining them all with the same amount of suffering_
           | 
           | No. "Utility" includes both positive (happiness) and negative
           | (suffering) contributions. The "utility" numbers that are
           | quoted in the argument are the _net_ utility numbers after
           | all happiness and all suffering have been included.
           | 
           |  _> You 're picturing a drudging life where people work all
           | day and have barely any source of happiness._
           | 
           | Or a life with a lot of happiness but also a lot of
           | suffering, so the _net_ utility is close to zero, because the
           | suffering almost cancels out the happiness. (This is one of
           | the key areas where many if not most people 's moral
           | intuitions. including mine, do not match up with
           | utilitarianism: happiness and suffering aren't mere numbers
           | and you can't just blithely have them cancel each other that
           | way.)
           | 
           |  _> if you can magically divide up some total amount of
           | happiness, why not the same with suffering?_
           | 
           | Nothing in the argument contradicts this. The argument is not
           | assuming a specific scenario; it is considering all
           | _possible_ scenarios and finding comparisons between them
           | that follow from utilitiarianism, but do not match up with
           | most people 's moral intuitions. It is no answer to the
           | argument to point out that there are other comparisons that
           | don't suffer from this problem; utilitarianism claims to be a
           | universal theory of morality and ethics, so if _any_ possible
           | scenario is a problem for it, then it has a problem.
           | 
           |  _> you 're ignoring the fact that people can create
           | happiness for others_
           | 
           | But "can" isn't the same as "will". The repugnant conclusion
           | takes into account the possibility that adding more people
           | might _not_ have this consequence. The whole point is that
           | utilitarianism (or more precisely the Total Utility version
           | of utilitarianism, which is the most common version) says
           | that a world with more people is better even if the happiness
           | per person goes down, possibly _way_ down (depending on how
           | many more people you add), which is not what most people 's
           | moral intuitions say.
           | 
           |  _> It 's crazy to think the total amount of happiness to
           | distribute is independent of the world population._
           | 
           | The argument never makes this assumption. You are attacking a
           | straw man. Indeed, in the comparisons cited in the argument,
           | the worlds with more people have _more_ total happiness--just
           | less happiness _per person_.
        
           | Murfalo wrote:
           | Thank you for this! I have very similar thoughts. Felt like I
           | was going crazy each time I saw these types of conversations
           | sparked by mention of the "repugnant" conclusion...
        
         | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
         | Many versions of utilitarianism never specified the function to
         | compute the sum for the many. Your example assumes that the
         | function is simple addition, but others have been proposed that
         | reflect some of the complexities of the human condition a
         | little more explicitly (e.g. sad neighbors make neighbors sad).
        
           | tshaddox wrote:
           | Which conceivable method of summing is the least problematic?
           | Depending on the summing method you might find yourself
           | advocating creating as many people as possible with positive
           | utility, or eliminate everyone with below-average utility,
           | etc.
        
             | Karrot_Kream wrote:
             | Utility is very complicated and summing might not even be
             | possible. Folks have argued for completely different
             | utility systems, such as cardinal utility where utility is
             | modeled purely as relations instead of something that is
             | isomorphic to a real. Even going by the mainstream view of
             | ordinal utility, utility tends to be a convex function
             | (simplistically, having 1 food is much better than having
             | no food, but having 1000 food isn't that much better than
             | having 500 food.) Modeling utility as something purely
             | isomorphic to reals gives it all the fun paradoxes that we
             | know the reals have and can be used to create some really
             | wacky results. The "repugnant conclusion" is a direct
             | consequence of that.
        
           | onlyrealcuzzo wrote:
           | Yeah, utilitarianism means you want to act in a way that's
           | beneficial to most people.
           | 
           | There's many ways you can interpret that, though.
           | 
           | But I think if you say, before we had 1 apple per person, and
           | now we have 2x as many apples, but they're all owned by one
           | person - that's hard to argue it's utilitarian.
           | 
           | If before you had 100 apples, and everyone who wanted one had
           | one, and now you have 10,000 apples distributed to people at
           | random, but only 1 in 100 people who wants one has one - that
           | also seems hard to argue as utilitarian.
           | 
           | Businesses are value maximization functions. They'll only be
           | utilitarian if that happens to maximize value.
           | 
           | In the case of software - if you go from 1m users to 10m
           | users - that doesn't imply utilitarianism. It implies that
           | was good for gaming some metric - which more often than not
           | these days is growth, not profit.
        
           | tasty_freeze wrote:
           | Reinforcing your point, Peter Singer, philosopher and noted
           | utilitarian, has explicitly said that he weights misery far
           | more than happiness in his own framework. From a personal
           | level, he said he'd give up the 10 best days of his life to
           | remove the one worst day of his life (or something like
           | that).
           | 
           | All of his work with effective altruism is aimed at reducing
           | suffering of those worst off in the world and spends no time
           | with how to make the well off even happier.
        
             | pg_1234 wrote:
             | As an aside, this is why buying insurance, despite being a
             | financially bad bet (or the insurers would go out of
             | business), actually is a sensible thing to do from a
             | quality of life perspective.
        
               | astrange wrote:
               | Insurers are often mutually owned by their customers, so
               | they don't need to profit.
        
               | eru wrote:
               | That doesn't make much of a difference.
               | 
               | Profit is only one part of the overhead. They also have
               | to pay agents, adjusters, underwriters, managers, office
               | stationary, postage, fraud investigators, lawyers, taxes,
               | interest on bonds etc.
               | 
               | Similar for hospitals etc. Profit, ie cost of equity
               | capital, is usually (but not always) a relatively small
               | part of an organisation's overall cost structure. And the
               | non-profit alternatives typically don't have meaningfully
               | lower costs.
        
               | selectodude wrote:
               | Insurance isn't a financially bad bet. They're providing
               | a service (not needing to maintain the liquidity of
               | replacement costs) in exchange for a fixed monthly fee.
               | It's cheaper for me to grow my own food but it's not a
               | "bad bet" to not be a subsistence farmer and buy my food
               | at the grocery store even though many people are making
               | money off my purchase up the chain. I get to use my money
               | and time for something more productive.
        
               | eru wrote:
               | You are right for catastrophic insurance, ie insurance
               | that covers outlays that would financially ruin you, or
               | at least be majorly inconvenient.
               | 
               | Many people buy (or are forced to buy) insurance that
               | covers minor outlays, too.
               | 
               | Using that kind of insurance has pretty big (relative)
               | overheads not just in terms of money but also in terms of
               | annoying paperwork and bureaucracy.
               | 
               | Some of the worst offenders are probably health insurance
               | plans that include a fixed hundred bucks allowance
               | towards new glasses every year. They might just as well
               | charge you hundred bucks less in premiums and strike that
               | allowance. (Unless in cases where that scheme is a tax
               | dodge.)
        
             | frereubu wrote:
             | I hadn't heard that about Singer's philosophy
             | (unsurprisingly as I've read very little of his work). It's
             | interesting for me in that it lines up with Kahnemann &
             | Tversky's "losses loom larger than gains" heuristic in
             | psychology.
        
               | tasty_freeze wrote:
               | Singer publishes his book, "The Life You Can Save" for
               | free -- it was revised for the 10th anniversary. It is
               | available in various formats, including an audio book. It
               | is a short, easy read. It is also one of the most
               | impactful books I've ever read.
               | 
               | https://www.thelifeyoucansave.org/
               | 
               | Along the header there is an item "free book" if you want
               | to get the book.
               | 
               | In short, there are a few theses in the book that combine
               | in a compelling way. This isn't his summary, this is the
               | summary I got out of reading it. (1) the suffering of
               | someone you don't know is just as real as the suffering
               | of someone you do know. (2) there are many worthy causes,
               | but we aren't allocating enough resources to address them
               | all, so it is best to allocate them such that they do the
               | most good for the worst off (3) if you are reading hacker
               | news, you are likely in the 1% (worldwide) and your
               | primary needs are already being met and you can make
               | meaningful contributions to help those most in need
               | without affecting your lifestyle much.
               | 
               | Each chapter tackles a topic. For instance, part of it
               | brings up many the counter arguments about why someone
               | might not want to donate and then debunks them. Eg, in a
               | poll, most US citizens believe that 10-20% of their taxes
               | are going to foreign, and say about half that, say 5%,
               | would be reasonable. In fact it is well under 1%. Or
               | people will say there have always been poor people and
               | there will always be poor people (counter argument: to
               | the people who are helped, aid makes a huge difference to
               | them personally, and there have actually been great
               | strides in the past 30 years at reducing global poverty).
               | 
               | Another chapter talks about the typical feel good news
               | item about someone in the community who has gone blind
               | and so the community pitches in to pay for a seeing eye
               | dog for the person (it costs up to $50K to train and vet
               | such dogs). Yet that same $50K could have prevented river
               | blindness for thousands of children, or been enough to
               | perform cataract surgery on thousands of blind adults.
               | 
               | People often say, why give to a charity in Africa? It
               | will just end up in someone's pocket before it helps
               | anyway. The book talks about the effective altruism
               | movement and describes how charities are vetted and
               | monitored. The website above has links to many such
               | vetted charities.
               | 
               | Another chapter talks about where to draw the line? Sure,
               | I can afford $700 to pay for corrective surgery for a
               | woman suffering from fistula and feel good about myself.
               | But in reality I could afford another $700, then another
               | $700, etc. Do I need to keep donating to those worse off
               | until I am one of the worse off people? (spoiler: no)
        
               | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
               | I don't know who to be more angry at: the idiots who
               | think that Sam Bankman-Fried is effective altruism rather
               | than the version of it above, or SBF.
        
           | fouronnes3 wrote:
           | Assuming linearity of utility either in individuals or in
           | aggregation is a very common straw man of utilitarianism.
        
             | polygamous_bat wrote:
             | Doesn't have to be linear, ANY strictly increasing function
             | for aggregating the utility leads to the same conclusion.
        
           | jancsika wrote:
           | > (e.g. sad neighbors make neighbors sad)
           | 
           | I much prefer, "I'd rather have a bottle in front of me than
           | a frontal lobotomy." At least in that case nobody will
           | confuse a trucker hat slogan for a viable system of ethics.
        
         | Terr_ wrote:
         | > infinite people with barely any happiness
         | 
         | That reminds me of the SMBC "Existifier" comic, which satirizes
         | the idea that merely helping something exist is morally
         | positive.
         | 
         | https://www.smbc-comics.com/comic/existence
        
         | hammock wrote:
         | Tyranny of the marginal user is a riff on the Nassim Taleb
         | classic "The Most Intolerant Wins: The Dictatorship of the
         | Small Minority":
         | 
         | https://medium.com/incerto/the-most-intolerant-wins-the-dict...
        
         | mercenario wrote:
         | > This is the conclusion of utilitarianism, where if you have N
         | people each with 10 happiness, well then, it would be better to
         | have 10N people with 1.1 happiness, or 100N people with 0.111
         | happiness, until you have infinite people with barely any
         | happiness
         | 
         | 1) Population isn't infinite, you can't continue this for too
         | long
         | 
         | 2) Your assumption completely depends on how costly it is to
         | increase +1 happiness and to increase +1 user, you don't even
         | mention it. And these costs are not fixed, it increases, so
         | even if it is cheaper to add +1 user in the beginning, it will
         | not continue to be cheaper indefinitely
         | 
         | So, nothing is preventing you from increasing happiness at the
         | same time you increase users.
        
         | Vt71fcAqt7 wrote:
         | There is a minimum happiness threshold mH. We can increase
         | population P until happiness H reaches mH, give or take some
         | depending on how close you want to get to mH.
        
         | mvdtnz wrote:
         | Why would anyone think that a large overall pool of happiness
         | is somehow better than a high per capita happiness? This seems
         | like the kind of thing that's incredibly obvious to everyone
         | but the academic philosopher.
        
           | patmcc wrote:
           | Maximizing for per-capita happiness just leads to the other
           | end of the same problem - fewer and fewer people with the
           | same "happiness units" spread among them. Thus we should
           | strictly limit breeding and kill people at age X+5 (X always
           | being my age, of course).
           | 
           | It's actually a hard problem to design a perfect moral
           | system, that's why people have been trying for literally
           | thousands of years.
        
           | oatmeal1 wrote:
           | First, the phrasing is confusing, because it's not clear
           | whether people with very low happiness measured in terms of N
           | are what we consider unhappy/sad, which is actually negative
           | utility. I believe with this measure, positive N means
           | someone is more happy than they are unhappy.
           | 
           | Second, what's "obvious to everyone" is just based on how
           | you're phrasing the question. If you suggested to people it
           | would be better if the population were just one deliriously
           | happy person with N=50, vs 5 happy people with N=10.1, people
           | would say obviously it would be better to spread the wealth
           | and increase overall happiness.
        
           | RugnirViking wrote:
           | I suggest in general, when approaching a conclusion of a
           | field that you find unintuitive or overcomplicated, to try to
           | recognise that thought pattern and swallow your pride. Its an
           | incredibly common reaction of educated people in one area to
           | see another area and be like "wow why are they
           | overcomplicating it so much they must all be blind to the
           | obvious problems" as though literally every new student in
           | that field doesn't ask the same questions they're asking.
           | Heck I do it all the time, most recently when starting
           | learning music theory.
           | 
           | You may feel _so certain_ that they 're just too wrapped up
           | in their nonsense that they can't see what you see. But at
           | the very least you will have to learn it the way they learned
           | it if you want to be effective at communicating with them to
           | articulate what you think is wrong and convince people. And
           | in doing so you'll likely realise that far from some
           | unquestioned truth, every conclusion in the field is subject
           | to vigorous debate, and hundreds and thousands of pages and
           | criticisms and rebuttals exist for any conclusion you care
           | about. And for it to get as big as it is such that you, a
           | person hearing about it from outside, there must at least be
           | something interesting and worth examining going on there.
           | 
           | For a prime example, see all the retired engineers who decide
           | that because they can't read a paper on quantum physics with
           | their calculus background, the phsyicists must be
           | overcomplicating it, and bombard them constantly with mail
           | about their own crackpot theories. You don't want to be that
           | person.
        
           | saint_fiasco wrote:
           | In this particular case, it's because the success of an ad-
           | funded service depends on the amount of users it has.
           | 
           | If you don't like the repugnant conclusion you have to change
           | something in the conditions of the environment so that you
           | make it not be true. Arguing against it and calling your
           | refutation obvious doesn't do anything.
        
             | mvdtnz wrote:
             | That is an incredibly long bow to draw. Corporations are
             | optimising for their own profits, not anyone's happiness.
        
               | saint_fiasco wrote:
               | I agree. The math that applies to corporate profits is
               | not the same that should apply for human happiness.
               | 
               | But we have to acknowledge that the weird philosophical
               | thought experiment that can't possibly convince anyone
               | except weird philosophers turned out to be convincing to
               | other entities after all.
               | 
               | Compare the trolley problem, a famous thought experiment
               | that people used to laugh at, up until a couple of years
               | when suddenly important people began to ask important
               | questions like "should we relax the safety standards for
               | potentially life-saving vaccines" and "how much larger
               | than Y does X need to be so that preventing X
               | functionally illiterate children are worth the price of Y
               | dead children"
        
           | wilg wrote:
           | It's just a question of if you value other people existing or
           | not. If you don't, focus on per-capita happiness, if you do
           | then you focus on meeting a minimum threshold of happiness
           | for everyone.
           | 
           | I don't see how you couldn't value other people existing - I
           | think they have just as much of a right to experience the
           | universe as I do.
        
             | mvdtnz wrote:
             | There's a vast chasm between "other people deserve to
             | exist" and "we should 100x our population in order to
             | increase the marginal happiness pool".
        
               | wilg wrote:
               | Alternately, there isn't.
        
             | mhb wrote:
             | Has that belief led you to a lifestyle in which you are
             | just barely happier than miserable so that you can lift as
             | many others as you can out of misery?
        
               | wilg wrote:
               | No, but doing so would be consistent with my beliefs and
               | I think it would be considered admirable to most people.
        
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           | burnished wrote:
           | They do not, thats the point. If you start with a simple and
           | reasonable sounding premise ('it is ethically correct to
           | choose the option that maximizes happiness') but it leads to
           | obviously absurd or inhuman outcomes then you might not want
           | to adopt those principles.
           | 
           | Your second sentence rankles the hell out of me, you're only
           | able to make that snap judgement to this because of your
           | exposure to academic philosophy (where do you think that
           | example that demonstrates the problem so clearly comes
           | from?), but are completely unaware of that.
           | 
           | The bullshitters aren't puzzling at seemingly simple things,
           | they're writing content free fluff.
        
         | coldtea wrote:
         | AKA the Repugnantly Ignorant in the Human-Ways Nerd's Idea of
         | Ethics conclusion!
        
         | scythe wrote:
         | The problem is that the "repugnant conclusion" is a matter of
         | definitions. A moral theory is (basically) freely chosen: you
         | can change the definitions whenever you like.
         | 
         | Not so for B2C SaaS. The utilities are always measured in
         | dollars and they always aggregate by simple addition. You _can
         | 't_ simply redefine the problem away by changing the economic
         | assumptions, because they exist in physical space and not in
         | theory space.
        
         | tyre wrote:
         | The Repugnant Conclusion is one of those silly problems in
         | philosophy that don't make much sense outside of academics.
         | 
         | Utilitarianism ought to be about maximizing the happiness
         | (total and distribution) of an existing population. Merging it
         | with natalism isn't realistic or meaningful, so we end up with
         | these population morality debates. The happiness of a
         | unconceived possible human is null (not the same as zero!)
         | 
         | Compare to Rawls's Original Position, which uses an unborn
         | person to make the hypothetical work but is ultimately about
         | optimizing for happiness in an existing population.
         | 
         | We really shouldn't get ourselves tied into knots about the
         | possibility of pumping out trillions of humans because an
         | algorithm says they'll be marginally net content. That's not
         | the end goal of any reasonable, practical, or sane system of
         | ethics.
        
           | salawat wrote:
           | >We really shouldn't get ourselves tied into knots about the
           | possibility of pumping out trillions of humans because an
           | algorithm says they'll be marginally net content. That's not
           | the end goal of any reasonable, practical, or sane system of
           | ethics.
           | 
           | Are you sure you aren't sharing the world with people who do
           | not adhere to reasonable, practical, or sane system of
           | ethics?
           | 
           | Because, ngl, lately, I'm not so sure I can offer an
           | affirmative on that one, making "Getting tied into knots
           | about the possibility of pumping out trillions of humans
           | because an algorithm says they'll be marginally net content"
           | a reasonable thing to be trying to cut a la the Gordian knot.
           | 
           | After all, that very thing, "pump out trillions of humans
           | because some algorithm (genetics, instincts, & culture taken
           | collectively) says they'll be marginally more content" is
           | modus operandi for humanity, with shockingly little
           | appreciation for the externalities therein involved.
        
           | coldtea wrote:
           | > _The Repugnant Conclusion is one of those silly problems in
           | philosophy that don't make much sense outside of academics._
           | 
           | Not even for academics. It's something for "rational"-bros.
        
             | caturopath wrote:
             | (Real, academic philosophers actually care about the case,
             | too.)
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | Only because the practice (in the US mostly) has been
               | watered down a lot to include all kinds of rational-bros
               | in the tradition of "analytical philosophy", usually also
               | involved in the same circles and arguments with the wide
               | rational-bro community.
               | 
               | Then again the opposite side has also devolved into a
               | parody of 20th century contintenal philosophical concerns
               | with no saving grace.
        
           | caturopath wrote:
           | I think you might be missing a big part of what this sort of
           | philosophy is really about.
           | 
           | > Utilitarianism ought to be about maximizing the happiness
           | (total and distribution) of an existing population
           | 
           | For those who accept your claim above, lots of stuff follows,
           | but your claim is a bold assertion that isn't accepted by
           | everyone involved, or even many people involved.
           | 
           | The repugnant conclusion is a thought experiment where one
           | starts with certain stripped-down claims not including yours
           | here and follow it to its logical conclusion. This is worth
           | doing because many people find it plausible that those axioms
           | define a good ethical system, but the fact they require the
           | repugnant conclusion causes people to say "Something in here
           | seems to be wrong or incomplete." People have proposed many
           | alternate axioms, and your take is just one which isn't
           | popular.
           | 
           | I suspect part of the reason yours isn't popular is
           | 
           | - People seek axiological answers from their ethical systems,
           | so they wish to be able to answer "Are these two unlike
           | worlds better?" -- even if they aren't asking "What action
           | should I take?" Many people want to know "What is better?" so
           | they explore questions of what are better, period, and
           | something they want is to always to have such questions be
           | answerable. Some folks have explored a concept along the
           | lines of yours, where sometimes there just isn't a comparison
           | available, but giving up on being able to compare every pair
           | isn't popular.
           | 
           | - We actually make decisions or imagine the ability to make
           | future real decisions that result in there being more or
           | fewer persons. Is it right to have kids? Is it right to
           | subsidize childbearing? Is it right to attempt to make a ton
           | of virtual persons?
           | 
           | > The happiness of a unconceived possible human is null (not
           | the same as zero!)
           | 
           | Okay, if you say "Total utilitarianism (and all similar
           | things) are wrong", then of course you don't reach the
           | repugnant conclusion via Parfit's argument. "A, B, C implies
           | D", "Well, not B" is not a very interesting argument here.
           | 
           | Your null posing also doesn't really answer how we _should_
           | handle questions of what to do that result in persons being
           | created or destroyed.
           | 
           | > We really shouldn't get ourselves tied into knots about the
           | possibility of pumping out trillions of humans because an
           | algorithm says they'll be marginally net content. That's not
           | the end goal of any reasonable, practical, or sane system of
           | ethics.
           | 
           | Okay, what is the end goal? If you'll enlighten us, then we
           | can all know.
           | 
           | Until then, folks are going to keep trying to figure it out.
           | Parfit explored a system that many people might have thought
           | sounded good on its premises, but proved it led to the
           | repugnant conclusion. The normal reaction is, "Okay, that
           | wasn't the right recipe. Let's keep looking. I want to find a
           | better recipe so I know what to do in hard, real cases."
           | Since such folks rejected the ethical system because it led
           | to the repugnant conclusion, they could be less confident in
           | its prescriptions in more practical situations -- they know
           | that the premises of the system don't reflect what they want
           | to adopt as their ethical system.
        
           | dragonwriter wrote:
           | > Utilitarianism ought to be about maximizing the happiness
           | (total and distribution) of an existing population.
           | 
           | That's a somewhat-similar alternative to utilitarianism.
           | Which has its own kind of repugnant conclusions, in part as a
           | result of the same flawed premises: that utililty experienced
           | by different people is a quantity with common objective units
           | that can meaningfully summed, and given that, morality is
           | defined by maximizing that sum across some universe of
           | analysis. It differs from by-the-book utilitarianism in
           | changing the universe of analysis, which changes the precise
           | problems the flawed premises produce, but doesn't really
           | solve anything fundamentally.
           | 
           | > Compare to Rawls's Original Position, which uses an unborn
           | person to make the hypothetical work but is ultimately about
           | optimizing for happiness in an existing population.
           | 
           | No, its not; the Original Position _neither_ deals with a
           | fixed existing population _nor_ is about optimizing for
           | happiness in the summed-utility sense. Its more about
           | optimizing the risk adjusted distribution of the opportunity
           | for happiness.
        
           | chongli wrote:
           | Rawls's original position and the veil-of-ignorance he uses
           | to support it has a major weakness: it's a time-slice theory.
           | Your whole argument rests on it. You're talking about the
           | "existing population" at some particular moment in time.
           | 
           | Here I am replying to you 3 hours later. In the mean time,
           | close to 20,000 people have died around the world [1].
           | Thousands more have been born. So if we're to move outside
           | the realm of academics, as you put it, we force ourselves to
           | contend with the fact that there is no "existing population"
           | to maximize happiness for. The population is perhaps better
           | thought of as a river of people, always flowing out to sea.
           | 
           | The Repugnant Conclusion is relevant, perhaps now more than
           | at any time in the past, because we've begun to grasp --
           | scientifically, if not politically -- the finitude of earth's
           | resources. By continuing the way we are, toward ever-
           | increasing consumption of resources and ever-growing
           | inequality, we are racing towards humanitarian disasters the
           | likes of which have never been seen before.
           | 
           | [1] https://www.medindia.net/patients/calculators/world-
           | death-cl...
        
             | astrange wrote:
             | > By continuing the way we are, toward ever-increasing
             | consumption of resources and ever-growing inequality, we
             | are racing towards humanitarian disasters the likes of
             | which have never been seen before.
             | 
             | We aren't doing that. Increasing human populations don't
             | increase resource consumption because 1. resources aren't
             | always consumed per-capita 2. we have the spare human
             | capital to invent new cleaner technology.
             | 
             | It's backwards actually - decreasing populations, making
             | for a deflating economy, encourage consumption rather than
             | productivity investment. That's how so many countries
             | managed to deforest themselves when wood fires were still
             | state of the art.
             | 
             | Also, "resources are finite" isn't an argument against
             | growth because if you don't grow /the resources are still
             | finite/. So all you're saying is we're going to die
             | someday. We know that.
        
               | eru wrote:
               | I mostly agree. However:
               | 
               | > That's how so many countries managed to deforest
               | themselves when wood fires were still state of the art.
               | 
               | It was mostly ship building that deforested eg the
               | countries around the Mediterranean and Britain. Firewood
               | was mostly harvested reasonably sustainably from managed
               | areas like coppices in many places. See
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coppicing
        
             | eru wrote:
             | > By continuing the way we are, toward ever-increasing
             | consumption of resources and ever-growing inequality, we
             | are racing towards humanitarian disasters the likes of
             | which have never been seen before.
             | 
             | What do you mean by ever growing inequality? Global
             | inequality has decreased in recent decades. (Thanks largely
             | to China and to a lesser extent India moving from abject
             | poverty to middle income status.)
             | 
             | By some measures we are also using less resources than we
             | used to. Eg peak resource usage in the US, as measured in
             | total _mass_ of stuff flowing through the economy, peaked
             | sometime in the 1930s.
             | 
             | Have a look at the amount of energy used per dollar of GDP
             | produced, too. Eg at https://yearbook.enerdata.net/total-
             | energy/world-energy-inte...
        
         | crabbone wrote:
         | One way to deal with this problem is to ask _why do we use the
         | arithmetic sum to calculate the total happiness?_. There are
         | plenty of ways this can go. Say, if you believe that two very
         | happy people are better than four half as happy people, then
         | you can define this sum function as sum(happiness_per_person)
         | / number_of_people. Of course, this isn't the only way.
         | 
         | Utilitarianism opens a lot of questions about comparability of
         | utility (or happiness) of different people as well as
         | summation. Is it a totally ordered set? Is it a partially
         | ordered set? Perhaps utility is incomparable (that'd be sad and
         | kind of defeat the whole doctrine, but still).
         | 
         | Also, can unhappiness be compensated by happiness? We
         | unthinkingly rush to treat unhappiness as we would negative
         | numbers and try to sum that with happiness, but what if it
         | doesn't work? What if the person who has no happiness or
         | unhappiness isn't in the same place as the person who is
         | equally happy and unhappy (their dog died, but they found a
         | million $ on the same day)?
         | 
         | A more typical classroom question would be about chopping up a
         | healthy person for organs to fix X unhealthy people -- is there
         | a number of unhealthy people which would justify killing a
         | healthy person for spare parts?
        
         | Ensorceled wrote:
         | Every time I've engaged in debate over this, it always comes
         | down to believing that the world is zero sum and there is a
         | limited amount of "happiness" that can be distributed.
         | 
         | That may be true for some things, but for many decisions it is
         | not true.
         | 
         | There is enough food to feed everyone if we choose to
         | distribute it properly. There is enough housing to house
         | everyone. etc. etc.
         | 
         | There may not be enough cardiologists or Dali originals ...
        
         | wilg wrote:
         | I've never understood this problem. To me, it seems that since
         | you've defined a minimum "worth living" amount of happiness and
         | unbounded population, it makes complete sense that the answer
         | would be that it is better to have lots of people whose life is
         | worth living rather than fewer. Is it not tautological?
         | 
         | Like it seems like you have to take "worth living" seriously,
         | since that is the element that is doing all the work. If it's
         | worth living, you've factored in everything that matters
         | already.
        
           | mhb wrote:
           | If you pack the whole problem into a definition of "worth
           | living", then you're right. But the premise is that there is
           | a range from extreme misery through neutral through extremely
           | happy. The repugnant conclusion is that it is better to have
           | many people in a state that is barely above neutral.
        
             | wilg wrote:
             | I'm not the one packing it, the setup of the problem does
             | it. "Barely above neutral" means you've picked an
             | acceptable state. And then we are supposed to consider that
             | acceptable state "repugnant"?
        
               | mhb wrote:
               | There's a comparison. If the scale goes from -100 to
               | +100, the conclusion is that if we have 8 billion people
               | in the world with average happiness of +10, it is better
               | to immiserate them in order to have 80 billion with
               | average happiness +1.01.
               | 
               | It's not that the acceptable state of 1.01 is repugnant,
               | it's that the conclusion seems counterintuitive and
               | ethically problematic to many people, as it suggests that
               | we should prefer creating a massive population of people
               | who are barely happy over a smaller population of people
               | who are very happy.
        
               | wilg wrote:
               | I guess I just don't understand how if your axioms are 1)
               | X is an acceptable level of happiness and 2) more people
               | are better than fewer it is in any way surprising or
               | problematic to end up with infinite people at happiness
               | X.
               | 
               | Perhaps people don't see that (2) is a part of the
               | premise?
        
               | zaphar wrote:
               | It's more that after seeing that result of starting with
               | those premises they don't like the 2 premises anymore. It
               | would be like me really liking the experience of eating
               | potator chips all day right up until the point that I
               | discovered it had a lot of adverse health effects. I
               | might no long like eating them as much.
        
               | mhb wrote:
               | Because 1 is not one of the axioms. The axioms are 1)
               | There is a range of experience between worst possible
               | misery and best possible happiness and 2) more people who
               | are just barely happy is better than fewer people who are
               | much happier.
               | 
               | I don't understand why you're insisting on a binary
               | distinction of acceptable vs. not acceptable. With that
               | assumption there is no repugnant conclusion.
        
               | wilg wrote:
               | 1 is one of the axioms because a binary cutoff is built
               | into the premise.
        
               | mhb wrote:
               | I may have taken you a little too literally when you
               | wrote that you didn't understand the problem. Perhaps
               | what you're saying is that the conclusion is not
               | repugnant to you and that the conclusion is neither
               | counterintuitive nor ethically problematic.
               | 
               | Consequently you believe that it is better for a large
               | number of people to exist in a state barely better than
               | misery than for a smaller number of people to experience
               | a greater degree of happiness.
               | 
               | Fair enough.
        
               | wilg wrote:
               | I suppose that is a fair characterization. I would say
               | that I still think it's tautological. Obviously it's a
               | synthetic situation that involves infinity, so real-world
               | applications are difficult to evaluate.
               | 
               | But I just don't get why people see it as an ethical
               | dilemma - the conclusion is a perfectly sensible outcome
               | of the setup. The conclusion is just a restatement of the
               | premise - a maximization of population over a
               | maximization of happiness. Thats why it seems
               | tautological to me, the math of it is perfunctory and
               | reveals nothing. If you cared about maximizing happiness
               | more than population you would have to modify the setup.
               | The trade-off is built into the premise.
        
       | zoogeny wrote:
       | While this is an exceptionally cynical article it contains a
       | truth that transcends app development.
       | 
       | Sometime during Covid I was in a massive supermarket that was
       | nearly empty. I was in the deodorant aisle trying to choose from
       | the approximately 100 brand and scent options. I wanted a
       | deodorant without aluminum because I had read online that
       | aluminum in deodorant causes yellow stains. This used to be hard,
       | only one or two brands used to specialize in that. But on that
       | day, my usual brand had a "new forumula!" that included aluminum.
       | While looking at the packaging I realized the brand had been
       | bought by one of the big boys, like a Unilever, Johnson&Johnson,
       | whatever.
       | 
       | I scanned the new ingredient list of the product and then scanned
       | the wall of 100+ brands and scents in front of me. I started
       | picking a few at random and taking a look at their ingredients
       | lists. Every single one was the same. I mean, they have brand
       | names that are distinct, color schemes that are distinct, scents
       | that are distinct. But it was a total illusion of choice. Those
       | 100 options were really just 1 option. The only differentiator
       | between them was packaging and scent.
       | 
       | I had a moment. The bright lights of the environment. The decor
       | of the supermarket. The just audible music. When I squinted my
       | eyes even the packaging of all of the brands blended into a
       | single object. The entire environment was perfectly tuned to keep
       | me unaware at the illusion of choice.
       | 
       | A few weeks later, basically the next time I went to buy
       | deodorant, I noticed that several of the standard brands now
       | offered a new choice, boldly printed on the deodorant caps:
       | "Aluminum Free!". Apparently I am as easily understood and
       | marketed to as anyone.
       | 
       | What I mean to say, the supermarket is just as tuned to make you
       | Marl. 99.9% of the time I don't read the ingredient list of the
       | products I buy. Whoever designs these environments knows this.
       | They don't want to compete on actual differentiators. They want
       | to lull your brain into a sleep and then present you with the one
       | precise differentiator you care about. In my case, it was
       | aluminum. When they realized that small no-name brands were
       | succeeding by solving a problem the big brands created, they just
       | bought them out and then re-packaged their existing products to
       | highlight the differentiator.
       | 
       | In that moment I saw it all. How we are turning ourselves into
       | robots. How I was not immune. In my humble opinion, tech brands
       | are behind the curve on this one. Consumer product brands have
       | been mining this space for decades, probably centuries.
        
       | renanoliveira0 wrote:
       | Worse for whom? The purpose of the absolute majority of software
       | is to make money. The means of achieving this are varied, that's
       | all.
        
       | PaulHoule wrote:
       | Totally wrong about OKCupid.
       | 
       | The whole point is that you're not supposed to find anybody but
       | keep looking because if you find somebody you're no longer a
       | customer. Match buys every dating site that gets even 2% of
       | traction because they can't stand the possibility that somebody
       | makes a dating site that works and destroys their customer pool.
       | 
       | If the government was serious about antitrust they'd break up
       | match.com
        
       | weare138 wrote:
       | Tech companies stopped making products for their users and
       | started making products for their investors instead. It's
       | devolved to the point tech companies don't even care about
       | profitability anymore, only marketability to the investor class
       | and Wall St. It's just a shell game of metrics and markets now.
        
       | Biganon wrote:
       | This reminds me of what I call the "TF1 effect". TF1 is the
       | biggest TV channel in France and, IIRC, in Europe. It's (now) a
       | private channel, operated with ads. I use it as an example, but
       | the point stands for all similar TV channels.
       | 
       | It doesn't need to satisfy its viewers a lot. It just needs to
       | satisfy N users enough that they don't switch to another channel,
       | and use their "brain availability time" (to use the words of
       | TF1's former CEO) with them instead. This creates zero incentive
       | to produce good content; only addictive, low cost, shitty content
       | that many people will choose.
        
       | menacingly wrote:
       | This is a subset of a related problem: the word "scale", in
       | nearly every context, is a euphemism for "make stuff shitty by
       | making the problems of 10% of users problems for 100% of users"
       | 
       | It applies to everything. God-awful frontend build pipelines.
       | Everyone feeling the pressure for their regular old database to
       | not make the cut. Sprawling, labyrinthine legal rules no one can
       | follow because one weasel in one meeting was able to say "but
       | what about..."
        
       | emodendroket wrote:
       | > OKCupid, like the other acquisitions of Match.com, is now just
       | another Tinder clone - see face, swipe left, see face, swipe
       | right. A digital nightclub. And I just don't expect to meet my
       | wife in a nightclub.
       | 
       | I've never used any dating app or Web site... but plenty of
       | people appear to have done just that.
        
       | pc_edwin wrote:
       | "You either die a hero or you live long enough to see yourself
       | become the villain"
       | 
       | You either die as a cool edgy app/platform or you live long
       | enough to face the innovators dilemma.
       | 
       | Surprisingly, I think its a good thing on balance. It creates
       | room for disruption from newcomers.
        
       | FridgeSeal wrote:
       | > What evil force, more powerful than Innovation and Progress, is
       | at work here?
       | 
       | Capitalism.
       | 
       | It's capitalism.
        
       | shrimpx wrote:
       | The problem is that short-term profitability isn't compatible
       | with the long-term health of society, because often the easiest
       | way to make a lot of money quickly comes as a form of societal
       | exploitation. The most direct examples being chemically addictive
       | products like painkillers and cigarettes, and now ad-based
       | attention sinks like TikTok and Instagram.
        
         | ssss11 wrote:
         | The question is how would we (and can we) change corporations
         | to value things other than short term profit?
         | 
         | I've seen B-corps - those seem good, social/environmental
         | focussed. No idea how widespread they are.
         | 
         | Are there other corporate structure models that could become
         | mainstream and solve some of these issues? At least for the
         | companies adopting them and therefore customers signed up to
         | them.
        
           | shrimpx wrote:
           | I think it's hard because we have GDP growth as the #1 KPI,
           | and VCs seeking large-multiple exits in single-digit years,
           | with no major concern for negative effects on society.
           | 
           | Veering too deeply into pure capital acquisition will destroy
           | capital though. A zombied out, addicted and unhealthy
           | population isn't a source of capital. Ad revenue and demand
           | plummets as nobody has the money or will to buy shit. But
           | there's a tragedy of the commons situation where everyone
           | passes the buck to some abstract "other" who will work on
           | keeping society healthy.
           | 
           | Traditionally, government is the balancing force that puts
           | limits on capitalism and makes sure some profits are re-
           | invested into society. But when top capital holders become
           | political power brokers, government power recedes.
           | 
           | I think the best hope is a new vision where young generations
           | are intrinsically motivated to build a healthy society, and
           | not just to push private capital acquisition as far as it can
           | go.
        
             | ssss11 wrote:
             | I agree, sad state of affairs.
        
       | sdeframond wrote:
       | While the marginal (or average) _B2C_ user is Marl, the marginal
       | _B2B_ user /customer may not be. Indeed enterprise software does
       | not follow the same pattern of enshitification.
       | 
       | Marl is the user, and Marl is the product. There is another side
       | to this: businesses trying to reach out to people in their Marl-
       | state.
        
       | smukherjee19 wrote:
       | I personally have a different name for the Marl-type of people:
       | NPCs. Every time I get on the train I see them on their phones,
       | mindlessly scrolling through TikTok and having the eyes of a dead
       | fish. It's almost as if their brains are turned off.
       | 
       | It's really sad that all software has become like the article
       | states...
        
       | Vicinity9635 wrote:
       | The question I have is why is Match Group allowed to have a
       | monopoly on online dating?
       | 
       | > _Match Group is an American internet and technology company
       | headquartered in Dallas, Texas. It owns and operates the largest
       | global portfolio of popular online dating services including
       | Tinder, Match.com, Meetic, OkCupid, Hinge, Plenty of Fish,
       | OurTime, and other dating global brands._
       | 
       | I can't even name another dating site.
        
         | genewitch wrote:
         | christianmingle, grindr, ashley madison, and then all the ones
         | for more, uh, enthusiastic relationships. But from that list
         | and the catchall at the end, Match may own all of those as
         | well, seeing as how OKC was designed for people who weren't
         | compatible with match.com, and around the same time, plenty of
         | fish was the main competitor. Match bought both.
        
         | generalizations wrote:
         | Bumble is the notable exception.
        
           | eep_social wrote:
           | I had to go fact check this because I understood the
           | opposite. And you're right! What confused me is that Whitney
           | Wolfe Herd founded Bumble and was also a Tinder co-founder.
           | Bumble is owned by Blackstone Group now so they presumably
           | have all the same incentives as Match properties under
           | different owners.
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | kinnessa60 wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | Arech wrote:
       | I've also met my wife on OkCupid at the beginning of 2016. It was
       | by far the best dating site ever existed. Basically, of "no
       | alternatives" type... I have a deep respect to everyone who have
       | made it possible. Thank you. It's extremely sad it was
       | destroyed...
        
       | epivosism wrote:
       | I would like more info on the factors hinted at in the article:
       | 
       | The effect of buying and closing innovative potential
       | competitors?
       | 
       | Product design distortion due to companies being valued by unreal
       | factors, so most of the market is acting on partly false data
       | (raw MAU rather than sophisticated analysis of likely actually
       | meaningful paying DAU)
       | 
       | Actual errors due to not measuring user sentiment: failing to
       | build long term value since the life cycle of users from new->
       | user-> advocate -> generational aligned customer is not
       | understood at all. In this thesis, most companies profit model is
       | just wrong on long term time scales. They're actually burning the
       | goodwill of potential dedicated customers in return for flat
       | growth and revenue. This is Google to me; they have no way to
       | detect that I've gone from loving to hating their products over
       | the last ten years, since I spend as much as ever. But I'm
       | looking for any way to jump to another product.
       | 
       | In the end I still don't know. Am I just wrong that Google isn't
       | suffering from me hating them? It feels so true that if they
       | respected power users more it would be so beneficial to them, but
       | in a hard to measure way. Recruiting, advocacy, lobbying, let
       | alone bug fixes, wanting to work there. It could be that the hate
       | they receive doesn't hurt them. But I think a certain type of
       | person will always exist, who wants to love and respect the
       | groups they're associated with, beyond just realized profit. I
       | would jump at the chance to associate with a company which makes
       | 50% as much money as google, but which I can still admire and
       | feel aligned with. And long term it seems people will try to form
       | societies and economies where companies can be viewed as actually
       | aligned. So day to day google does fine, but maybe they're not
       | pricing in the rare negative effects of existing in a less loved
       | state?
        
         | ivee wrote:
         | > Am I just wrong that Google isn't suffering from me hating
         | them?
         | 
         | No, I think you're right that Google is suffering in the long
         | term. It's a combination of measurement difficulty and agency
         | problems - there's no way for the VP of the product to get a
         | credible signal about whether a change was good or not other
         | than by looking at something incontrovertible like DAUs. You
         | might try to introduce a metric like "user happiness" but the
         | design space of such metrics is so large that a misaligned
         | product manager could always use it to shove a bad change
         | through.
         | 
         | Kind of like we all know GDP is a bad metric for human
         | flourishing, but everything else feels even worse.
        
       | ozim wrote:
       | Should discussion be about what people think is good for them vs
       | what is good for them.
       | 
       | Just like smoking or sugar.
        
       | iteratethis wrote:
       | Marl isn't born that way, Marl is made by the same tech you're
       | talking about. You're not a victim of Marl, you actively produce
       | new Marls.
       | 
       | Whenever you introduce convenience into the world, you reprogram
       | people. You create the short attention span and passiveness.
        
       | pickingdinner wrote:
       | You need to optimize the product for the best scenarios, and
       | guide everyone towards those scenarios.
       | 
       | What happened to OKCupid is typical. Founders envision the best
       | scenarios for their users, and build a business around that
       | product. User satisfaction drives their success.
       | 
       | Corporations aren't really good at that. So they need someone to
       | override mindless acts of profiteering in favor of a better
       | future. Someone with a vision, but also the power to enforce it.
       | But they also have to be right.
        
       | nicbou wrote:
       | That was a pleasant read. I love the writing style amd the type
       | of humour.
        
       | rendall wrote:
       | I was one of the early users of ok cupid, even before it was
       | dating and more just a kind of social media for questions and
       | tests. I met some amazing people on that site. At some point
       | something changed though and the quality plummeted.
        
       | mikpanko wrote:
       | I worked on and with growth teams in established tech companies
       | for a while (including Google) and am running an early stage
       | startup right now and my experience is very different.
       | 
       | Mature products often focus on user retention and resurrection
       | even more than attracting new users. Even VCs of early stage
       | startups constantly keep asking about retention and stickiness as
       | better metrics than new users.
       | 
       | As I am now working on a brand new product [1], I talk daily to
       | potential and early users and observe the short attention spans
       | all the time. These are smart people with college degrees. But
       | the ever increasing amounts of information hitting every person
       | on a daily basis leads to shorter and shorter attention spans of
       | everybody, not just a "marginal" user. If anything, first users
       | provide less attention to new products than later users for well-
       | established brands.
       | 
       | [1] https://motifanalytics.com
        
       | wrs wrote:
       | This is sad to see as a user, but I can tell you it's _really_
       | sad when you have to do it to your own product.
        
       | iamnotsure wrote:
       | Non-free software gets worse, not better, over time. "when a
       | measure becomes a target, it ceases to be a good measure" applied
       | to money. software is not a commodity
        
       | sublimefire wrote:
       | Article implies the subscription based model which in turn
       | contradicts the thesis that somehow people can/will use the thing
       | indefinitely. This might apply to something like Word or an email
       | provider or search, e.g., a tool that is used often to do a
       | transaction. I doubt if it applies to human relationships as they
       | are not that transactional except when thinking about porn,
       | onlyfans, etc.
       | 
       | IMO it was just a bad example because users will always stop
       | using such an app hence it is natural to focus on new users more
       | from the business side. You could equally say that the demise of
       | okcupid happened purely because the newer generation of users had
       | other expectations compared to the prior users, the model could
       | not sustain itself without significant changes and the changes
       | were not significant enough. Correlation is not a causation in
       | other words.
        
       | diegof79 wrote:
       | The article puts a lot of emphasis on Marl, the marginal user.
       | However, it's a two-way relationship: the society (culture,
       | media, and products) created Marl. If you watch YouTube since you
       | were a kid and see video recommendations all the time, it's hard
       | to develop a good attention span as there is always something
       | attractive and new in the corner of your eye. Then you read
       | online articles that are incredibly shallow and almost generated
       | by a bot, with the sole purpose of gathering clicks. Over time,
       | you get used to skimming the text contents.
       | 
       | The article is a good example; nobody wants to spend too much
       | time creating a long blog post. So, a short text and a catchy
       | title work better to attract your audience. For me, software is
       | about products like an operating system or an editor; for the
       | author, "software" is about websites like Google or Reddit. It's
       | not the same. The incentives are different, but making a
       | distinction requires more analysis, an analysis that Marl will
       | not read. Marl will complain that macOS quality seems lower on
       | each release without realizing the article is about something
       | different.
       | 
       | Most people reading HN work in the software industry. In one way
       | or another, we are also responsible for creating Marl. That's why
       | having a better education in social topics should be an essential
       | part of any engineering curriculum.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | nilslindemann wrote:
       | Just because people like simple tools, they are not tyrants. If
       | you seek for tyrants, look at the dudes who forbid people to log
       | in as root, or to open HTML files from their computers.
        
       | p0w3n3d wrote:
       | This would mean that quality and complexity of apps will
       | constantly decrease asymptotically to 0
        
       | mrcartmeneses wrote:
       | So it goes
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | darkerside wrote:
       | The problem is not metrics driven design or marginal users. It's
       | that OKCupid wasn't successful, and that it probably can't be.
       | _So far_ , there isn't a tool that has successfully matched up
       | looking term romantic partners with a high degree of success.
       | That work has to come from people, and they don't get as much
       | leverage from tools as they hoped. That's why the successful apps
       | make it a numbers game and leave it to people to solve the actual
       | problem of matchmaking.
        
       | JoeAltmaier wrote:
       | All true. But it isn't the Marginal User (Marl) that's the issue.
       | 
       | It's the dev managers that pursue him. In the quest for quarterly
       | metrics.
       | 
       | Building a use base of interested committed users is not done
       | that way. It's done by providing value, having short training
       | videos, getting word-of-mouth referrals, continuing to provide
       | value month after month.
       | 
       | Ok that isn't maybe as profitable. In a big company the pressure
       | for profitable is perhaps even more grinding and inhumane than in
       | a smaller company. At some point your entire product gets reduced
       | to a number at some executive level, and your fate is inevitably
       | sealed by metrics.
       | 
       | In a small company, a startup even, management is 1 level deep or
       | shallower and you can have goal, ambitions, a vision of your
       | product and your user that exceeds "show them another ad". And
       | you can communicate that to whomever is budgeting your group.
        
       | throwmeout123 wrote:
       | More like the tiranny of people whose job title matches
       | .*[Pp]roduct.*
       | 
       | They are the real scourge of our industry; I never met one who
       | wasnt hellbent on raising some kind of meaningless number that
       | people who don't talk to the customer decided was important for
       | the next 90 days.
       | 
       | Get them out of the industry as fast as possible, keep only the
       | good ones
        
       | bhauer wrote:
       | Great article. I personally put the blame on mobile devices and
       | the "mobilification" of every computing application. Mobile-first
       | mentality saw application designers ruthlessly culling anything
       | that caused even the slightest friction. The result: slipstreamed
       | applications that do the least necessary to appeal to the
       | broadest audience.
       | 
       | Sadly, the mobilification mindset even sometimes impacts desktop-
       | first applications, what few remain. The attack vector of choice
       | is Electron hosting a mobile-first web app with a middling
       | desktop breakpoint.
       | 
       | Ultimately, the author captures the same phenomenon, but I
       | personally think it traces more specifically to the rise of
       | mobile devices.
        
       | freedomben wrote:
       | > _Here's what I've been able to piece together about the
       | marginal user. Let's call him Marl. The first thing you need to
       | know about Marl is that he has the attention span of a goldfish
       | on acid. Once Marl opens your app, you have about 1.3 seconds to
       | catch his attention with a shiny image or triggering headline,
       | otherwise he'll swipe back to TikTok and never open your app
       | again._
       | 
       | This is hilarious and sad because it feels too accurate. Damnit
       | Marl, please for the sake of us power user minority, please
       | change.
       | 
       | Alternatively and more seriously, I do hope to see markets emerge
       | that target power users. I'm not optimistic though. Open source
       | seems like the only real hope there.
        
         | akira2501 wrote:
         | > This is hilarious and sad because it feels too accurate.
         | 
         | To me it's a disappointing effigy that the author is conjuring
         | up and then burning because they're unwilling to address the
         | fact that the corporation they work for and the ceaseless chase
         | of "social media platforms" drives this behavior more than the
         | imagined "Marl's" of the world ever did.
        
           | masukomi wrote:
           | > because they're unwilling to address the fact that the
           | corporation they work for and the ceaseless chase of "social
           | media platforms" drives this behavior more than the imagined
           | "Marl's" of the world ever did.
           | 
           | the fact that the corporations are doing that, and chasing
           | the Marls is the foundational premise of the article. He's
           | not blaming it on the Marls. He's blaming it on the companies
           | chasing them.
        
         | npsimons wrote:
         | > Open source seems like the only real hope there.
         | 
         | Pretty much, yeah.
        
         | WD40forRust wrote:
         | >Open source seems like the only real hope there.
         | 
         | You know how the saying goes: The best things in life are Free
         | Software!
        
         | titzer wrote:
         | > Alternatively and more seriously, I do hope to see markets
         | emerge that target power users. I'm not optimistic though.
         | 
         | What's crazy to me is that 25+ million people on this Earth can
         | program, and how many of them get to decide the UIs that
         | everyone else uses? I myself, suck at UI programming. But
         | that's because UI programming is labyrinthine, arcane, and
         | generally requires becoming an expert in a number of extremely
         | poorly thought-out frameworks that are often stupendously
         | complicated. (Web, I am looking at you.)
         | 
         | Why can't I rip apart the UI of an app I use every day and
         | rearrange it the way I want? And I mean, far more than toolbars
         | and rearranging drop down menus. (BTW, remember those? Those
         | were great).
         | 
         | Seriously though, I have written many hundreds of thousands of
         | lines of code in my day; I fancy myself not super bad at
         | programming, yet I cannot take apart a random GUI app and make
         | it do what I want. _Even when_ it 's open source. I feel like
         | this is an unaddressed problem; the UI cafeteria people keep
         | serving us an ever-changing menu of crap, and I feel powerless
         | to even lock in the few UIs that I do end up getting good at.
         | They'll take that away soon enough.
        
           | sirspacey wrote:
           | Try no/low code tools like WeWeb or Glide. Still more of a
           | design/dev toolkit, but a leap closer.
        
           | autoexec wrote:
           | Even if the programs you used all supported it, there'd still
           | be no getting around the fact that you'd need to learn some
           | kind of framework or system to modify the UI to your liking.
           | I guess we'd need someone to create one that was intuitive to
           | use and very easy for programs to support, then it'd have to
           | be popular enough with programmers that they'd actually use
           | it. The closest thing I've seen would be websites, since we
           | can remove elements or use customer CSS to change them. Maybe
           | GTK, and those interfaces aren't exactly pretty.
           | 
           | It'd probably have to be free, fast, secure, simple,
           | attractive, flexible, powerful, able to work with all kinds
           | of platforms/screens/inputs, and make creating GUIs easier
           | for programmers to create in general (seems like there's a
           | need there), but even then it'd have to contend with
           | companies who want control over what users see, artists who
           | think they know better than everyone else, and support teams
           | that want documentation full of meaningful screenshots.
        
           | WD40forRust wrote:
           | >Why can't I rip apart the UI of an app I use every day and
           | rearrange it the way I want? And I mean, far more than
           | toolbars and rearranging drop down menus. (BTW, remember
           | those? Those were great).
           | 
           | IMO there's no reason you can't. Just yesterday I was playing
           | with pavucontrol and thought "There needs to be a GNU Radio
           | like view, where I can drop boxes which represent sound
           | generating/taking programs/devices and draw connecting lines
           | arbitrarily," then I thought why not the same thing for video
           | treating even the contents of windows themselves as video
           | sources too!
           | 
           | Table formats are easier to implement I guess...
        
             | nyanpasu64 wrote:
             | From what I hear, PulseAudio inherently lacks the
             | architecture to create arbitrary audio routing graphs.
             | PipeWire can do it for audio with apps like Helvum and
             | QPWGraph, but not for all windows (only webcams and perhaps
             | screen sharing). The view does get confusing as the number
             | of apps/nodes increases though. One point of confusion is
             | that in Helvum, Pulse apps have a playback and monitor node
             | (and the monitor is a copy of the input), but JACK apps
             | have an input and output (where the output is the result of
             | the app applying effects to the input, or an unrelated
             | audio stream altogether). I'm not sure where native
             | PipeWire apps lie.
        
           | hutzlibu wrote:
           | "Why can't I rip apart the UI of an app I use every day and
           | rearrange it the way I want?"
           | 
           | Because it is very hard to do something like this, so common
           | people can do it. (you _can_ change every html UI in theory)
           | 
           | I tried to make something like this and basically failed
           | (though in the very long run I might get there eventually).
           | GUI editors are hard to get right and the ones I liked, like
           | Adobe Flex Builder (with Flash UI as a bonus) are gone. But
           | those were also no newb tools. But flash itself was and that
           | was the main reason for its success.
        
             | ryandrake wrote:
             | The typical Old School Unix way to do this is to provide
             | all of your application's functionality and business logic
             | through a command line app or at least an API, with the UI
             | being a thin layer on top of the command line. Then anyone
             | can build whatever UI they want on top of it. We've fallen
             | from the light and now the prevailing design is to deeply
             | integrate the business logic with the UI to the point where
             | they are codependent and inseparable.
        
               | hutzlibu wrote:
               | In some ways web apps act like this: all (most) of the
               | buisness logic and data is on the server.
               | 
               | And you get the data through API calls - so in theory one
               | can build your own UI on top of a known service. There
               | are rare examples of this done succesfully (for HN for
               | example), but usually you won't get very far in a
               | reasonable amount of time, because often it is a mess
               | behind the shiny UI. (And because this is not encouraged
               | behavior by the service provider)
        
               | genewitch wrote:
               | as sibling commented, i look at the Automatic-1111 stable
               | diffusion "webui" as being exactly like you describe,
               | where the "default" service is built in, but the API
               | seems relatively straightforward enough that people have
               | build electron apps and android apps that can talk
               | directly to the python service behind. one of these days
               | i'll actually code a useful mobile UI for my servers.
               | Until then, the reflowing webUI works "ok enough" on
               | mobile.
               | 
               | another one that i'd like to think has an open enough API
               | is mastodon/fediverse, assuming they actually adhere to
               | the activitypub spec, it should ( _should_ ) be
               | relatively straightforward to write a UI on top of the
               | API. And it seems ok, there's quite a number of mastodon
               | "apps", but less for stuff like misskey or pleroma.
               | 
               | I'm sure there are other contemporaneous examples, but
               | suffice to say that _some_ developers still care about
               | this, today!
        
         | sanderjd wrote:
         | This is why I like to pay for things. This dynamic only really
         | exists for things that are given away for free.
        
           | ncruces wrote:
           | People need to realize that the sales business model does not
           | necessarily lead to better outcomes.
           | 
           | I (pretty much single handedly) made a reasonably profitable
           | mobile app. It was my bread and butter for a decade. It has
           | millions of downloads and hundreds of thousands of monthly
           | active users. It's a "power" tool, not a game.
           | 
           | Unfortunately, it depends on servers for a lot of it's core
           | features. There are no accounts, data passes through my
           | servers and, aside from caching, gets deleted as soon as
           | feasible. I really wish I could avoid it, tried to reduce
           | this as much as possible, and made servers as cheap as
           | possible in the process. But it's still in the $100s/month,
           | which I can't justify without compensation.
           | 
           | I tried donations, and have ad free paid versions: they don't
           | cover costs. Ads are 95% of revenue.
           | 
           | People who paid $1 half a year ago will complain that I
           | killed their pet if the server is down for an hour on a
           | weekend. They've paid their hard won $1 after trialing the
           | product for a month, and feel entitled to forever support of
           | something that has running costs, in both hardware and brain
           | power. Whereas I've made my buck, and have every incentive to
           | tell them to f-off.
           | 
           | People on ads will give me a tenth of a cent everytime they
           | use the app, so I have the incentive to keep then coming
           | back. Of course I can be sleazy and trick them into clicking
           | ads, or drown them in popup hell, or whatever.
           | 
           | But the point is, if $0.001 is enough to make a nice profit
           | from each use of my app, there's no better model than ads. A
           | $1 sale means I'm loosing money on a power user after a few
           | years. A $1 yearly subscription is something users just won't
           | do, especially without fancy upgrades. And, in all models
           | I've tried, 95% of revenue is always ads. Sales don't even
           | cover the costs of the sales channels.
           | 
           | That's why ads took over the internet, and you won't be
           | turning that back.
        
             | ativzzz wrote:
             | This is why everything now is either free with ads or is a
             | SaaS
        
               | sanderjd wrote:
               | To be clear, when I say "pay for things", I mean
               | subscriptions. I don't think one time payments work at
               | all.
        
             | sanderjd wrote:
             | I get why people do ad business models!
             | 
             | But if I were a user of your app, I would personally prefer
             | to pay you $5/yr for whatever "fancy upgrades" it would
             | require for that to get you enough subscribers to be
             | workable.
             | 
             | But this is a personal preference! It's definitely the case
             | that most people prefer to use free (apologies, I don't
             | know if this applies to your app, but it usually does)
             | crap.
             | 
             | But I do think a niche of people like me totally exists,
             | and is actually not that small.
        
             | freedomben wrote:
             | You would know your market way better than me, but just
             | anecdotally I'm usually willing to pay $5 for a useful app.
             | Based on your numbers it sounds like that would still make
             | you money after 10 or so years. If the app is source
             | available, I'll go up much higher. I'm definitely not a
             | typical user, but for a "power" tool I'd think I'm in your
             | market.
        
               | ncruces wrote:
               | I know you exist. I'm actually able to find literally
               | dozens of people like you, every month.
               | 
               | OTOH, for everyone of you (users willing to pay $1 for a
               | tool that'll solve a problem they have every once in a
               | while), I'm able to find 1000 that'll just install the ad
               | supported app, use it that one time and forget about it
               | (until the next time they need it).
               | 
               | Trust me: the barrier to get even $1 from a user for an
               | app the majority uses once a week tops for a couple of
               | minutes, is immense, especially if they can run it for
               | free, in exchange for the annoyance of a single banner
               | ad, that you can dismiss (and go full screen) after 30s,
               | if you do use it longer than that.
               | 
               | But the free version must exist, for discoverablity if
               | nothing else, and experience shows that degrading it to
               | drive sales only jeopardizes total revenue. So ads it is.
        
           | mato wrote:
           | Err, nope.
           | 
           | As I commented on TFA, and will gladly repeat here:
           | 
           | Wow. Well put. The scariest thing is, this translates even to
           | domain-specific apps such as Navionics Boating. I use it
           | every time I go out, because, somehow, they've not yet
           | managed to touch the charts and rendering and it just works,
           | better than any of the competitors. But, the rest of the
           | interface is like a Fisher Price toy. You want to add a
           | waypoint based on a specific lat/long you got out of a pilot
           | book? There is no such thing as "Add waypoint" in the UI,
           | nooo, you enter the lat/long in "Search" and then tap on
           | something or other to add it as a waypoint.
           | 
           | This attitude manifests itself throughout the application's
           | UI, as if, indeed, the application is optimized for "Marl's
           | tolerance for user interface complexity is zero.".
        
             | sanderjd wrote:
             | I'm struggling to see how this is responsive to my comment.
             | Was it meant for someone else?
        
               | mato wrote:
               | I was responding to your comment, but should have used
               | less cut and paste. You wrote:
               | 
               | > This is why I like to pay for things. This dynamic only
               | really exists for things that are given away for free.
               | 
               | Navionics Boating is a paid application, and it's not
               | cheap. There is no free tier, just a 14-day trial period.
               | 
               | Despite that, it seems to have gone down the same route
               | of Marl-ifying the interface as a free app would have
               | done.
               | 
               | So, my point is, that this dynamic exists even for things
               | that you pay money for.
        
               | sanderjd wrote:
               | Ok yeah I get it now! Thanks for clarifying.
               | 
               | So, I guess it would require a lot more research to make
               | a real argument about this, but to me, this just sounds
               | like an application that isn't very good, but I don't
               | think is the same phenomenon described by the article. I
               | definitely don't think charging money is any kind of
               | guarantee of quality. Software is hard to make and lots
               | of software sucks just because it sucks.
               | 
               | But the difference I see is that I think Navionics
               | Boating has an incentive to make that app better. That if
               | they make improvements for users like you, that will
               | likely impact their bottom line positively, because
               | they'll attract and retain more users like you.
               | 
               | But free mass-market consumer apps have the opposite
               | incentive. They are incentivized to dumb things down to
               | the lowest common denominator, because there will always
               | be > 1 user that they attract with that approach for
               | every 1 user like you that they alienate.
               | 
               | Basically: I think free business models can ignore
               | retention, whereas for-pay subscription models can't, and
               | that's why I prefer them.
        
               | mato wrote:
               | > Basically: I think free business models can ignore
               | retention, whereas for-pay subscription models can't, and
               | that's why I prefer them.
               | 
               | I think that only holds if you have enough competition
               | that it starts making a real dent in your profit margin.
               | 
               | I don't have any proper data, but pretty much everyone
               | I've met in the sailing community just uses Navionics.
               | Fair enough; the company has been in the ECDIS business
               | for many many years before smartphones even existed, and
               | their electronic charts are good.
               | 
               | Their competitors, based on my subjective use of some of
               | them, more or less fall into two groups:
               | 
               | (1) Similarly big players. Basically just C-MAP (parent
               | is Navico, also in ECDIS for many years).
               | 
               | (2) Startups: savvy navvy and Orca.
               | 
               | I've only really used (1) enough to form a proper
               | opinion. I originally picked it because it was way
               | cheaper (50 EUR/year for global charts), but gave up
               | since Navionics, despite being Fisher Price, at the end
               | of the day just works, is fast, offline, and _does not
               | crash_. OTOH C-MAP feels like a neglected side-line of
               | the parent company designed to steer you into buying
               | their expensive chart plotter brands (B &G mainly).
               | 
               | To be fair, I also tried a FOSS alternative (OpenCPN),
               | but the app suffers from such a lack of UI design of any
               | kind that I don't even want to go there, so I don't count
               | it as a real competitor. And there's also Imray Navigator
               | which is _surprisingly good_ , but a different product
               | category (raster charts).
               | 
               | TL;DR: Boating is making good money for Navionics,
               | there's not really an alternative, so they don't care.
        
           | WarOnPrivacy wrote:
           | > This is why I like to pay for things. This dynamic only
           | really exists for things that are given away for free.
           | 
           | There's cable TV.
           | 
           | To be fair though, cable TV was the original Poo-To-Marl
           | Service and has been getting supplanted by free versions of
           | itself. So I guess it proves your point anyway.
        
           | autoexec wrote:
           | I think paying for something does encourage users to be more
           | invested in it, but paid software can neglect their power
           | users too if they're comfortable being "good enough for most
           | people"
        
             | mdaniel wrote:
             | 1Password has entered the chat
        
             | sanderjd wrote:
             | Yeah I guess it's more of a continuum than a binary. But I
             | do feel like there may be a discontinuity between free and
             | cheap, where the business model totally changes in a way
             | that (in my view) better aligns the incentives between the
             | business and its customers.
        
         | whoisthemachine wrote:
         | Ironically, I think the power user can be another marginal
         | user: the user who pays *top dollar* (in their mind) for your
         | product so they expect it to support marginal, niche features
         | for eternity. Somewhere in between the user who doesn't want to
         | think while using your application and the user who wants a
         | basically programmable application is, I think, the ideal.
        
         | ivee wrote:
         | "market targeting power users" is basically SaaS, right? I
         | don't understand that market as well, but it seems to have
         | similar dynamics where you only charge X$ / user / month and so
         | are incentivized to grab more users instead of giving more
         | value to existing users.
        
           | NoGravitas wrote:
           | Almost. The problem with SaaS is that it doesn't actually
           | target the power users; it targets their managers and/or
           | purchasing departments. Basic mismatch of incentives already.
        
           | autoexec wrote:
           | In my experience power users don't want SaaS. They tend to
           | want control over their data, they want control over how/when
           | the software runs, they want things to work offline, and they
           | care about their privacy. It's the people who don't know/care
           | about tech and just want a magical black box that love SaaS.
           | They want all the complicated tech stuff to be someone else's
           | problem, and they'll pay over and over and over again just so
           | that they don't have to think about or manage anything.
        
             | freedomben wrote:
             | Yes, exactly. SaaS tends to repel power users because it's
             | so depriving of control. Just my experience, but the main
             | people who pay for SaaS are usually those who don't want to
             | invest time/effort into learning/customizing something,
             | they just want to pay and be done. An exception to this is
             | platform SaaS that targets tech companies. Those can be hit
             | or miss.
        
         | myself248 wrote:
         | > I do hope to see markets emerge that target power users
         | 
         | The problem is that every group of power users has their own
         | idea of what they want, and they're _very_ stubborn about
         | providing features that they don't personally use or like.
         | 
         | I've run across these, though I can't find the link now, there
         | was a suite of "apps for power users like us", compile 'em from
         | source, if you don't like that then go fuck yourself.
         | 
         | Which is a fine way to limit who asks for tech support, but
         | it's not much of a market.
        
         | bakugo wrote:
         | > The first thing you need to know about Marl is that he has
         | the attention span of a goldfish on acid. Once Marl opens your
         | app, you have about 1.3 seconds to catch his attention with a
         | shiny image or triggering headline, otherwise he'll swipe back
         | to TikTok and never open your app again. Marl's tolerance for
         | user interface complexity is zero. As far as you can tell he
         | only has one working thumb, and the only thing that thumb can
         | do is flick upwards in a repetitive, zombielike scrolling
         | motion.
         | 
         | Whenever I express a negative sentiment about some aspect of
         | modern software that takes away power and choice from the user
         | in favor of baby-tier handholding and get the usual reply that
         | goes something like "well the average user doesn't need or care
         | about that so it shouldn't exist!", this is who I imagine
         | typing out the comment on the other side of the screen.
        
         | hutzlibu wrote:
         | "Damnit Marl, please for the sake of us power user minority,
         | please change."
         | 
         | But are you really that different? There are just too many
         | websites amd apps and new ones are getting generated every
         | moment and time and attention is limited. So I also open and
         | quickly close many of them.
         | 
         | I don't think that is the problem here.
         | 
         | But to your conclusion I agree.
        
           | freedomben wrote:
           | It's definitely harder to get my attention than to get
           | Marl's, but unless I see something really off-putting I'll
           | invest a couple of minutes into learning more about it.
           | Getting that attention is quite difficult though.
        
         | ftxbro wrote:
         | > _We've all been Marl at one time or another - half
         | consciously scrolling in bed, in line at the airport with the
         | announcements blaring, reflexively opening our phones to
         | distract ourselves from a painful memory._
        
           | marcosdumay wrote:
           | And I want to do different things when I'm this way than what
           | I want when I'm in a conscious state.
           | 
           | Why is it that every single company only wants to serve the
           | same one of those personas?
        
         | carlossouza wrote:
         | Totally agree: it's hilarious because it's true.
         | 
         | Good startups target power users. By "good" I mean companies
         | that find true PMF and grow exponentially at near-zero CAC
         | (i.e. the ones that earn - not buy - their growth).
        
           | mananaysiempre wrote:
           | > Good startups target power users.
           | 
           | Growth-oriented startups then run out of power users and
           | start targeting the wider population; when the latter
           | outnumber the former, power users fall by the wayside at best
           | and are explicitly told to fuck off as uneconomical at worst.
           | 
           | Acquisition-oriented startups sell their power user base to a
           | large company that's unlikely to care about them and proceeds
           | to tell them to fuck off (usually after some large-company-
           | scale fleeting instant, like a couple of quarters).
           | 
           | That is why, most of the time, I now preemptively fuck off
           | when I see a (VC-funded) startup targeting me as a power user
           | of whatever they're making. I've been burned too many times,
           | and with all due respect to the cuddly techies running things
           | at the moment, they don't own the company.
        
           | ahstilde wrote:
           | this would mean for many companies Marl is the power user
        
             | notpachet wrote:
             | I think for many companies, Marl is the CEO
        
               | doctor_radium wrote:
               | I worked with a Marl once and couldn't do more than look
               | on in disbelief. This was on the job (tech company), not
               | after hours or standing in a customer service queue. He
               | wasn't the CEO, but maybe had more potential than I
               | thought?
        
         | autoexec wrote:
         | > Once Marl opens your app, you have about 1.3 seconds to catch
         | his attention with a shiny image or triggering headline,
         | otherwise he'll swipe back to TikTok and never open your app
         | again.
         | 
         | If this were true, the app probably wasn't worth having in the
         | first place. An app that actually does something Marl needs, or
         | enables him to do something he wants to do doesn't need to
         | catch his attention with shiny things. The thing that will hook
         | Marl is accomplishing what he set out to do, and generally that
         | should be possible without spending a bunch of time customizing
         | settings, but having sensible defaults doesn't mean those
         | options/settings aren't valuable.
         | 
         | Marl doesn't need to change, and it'd be a shame if he (most
         | users) were forced to tinker with a bunch of settings and
         | change a bunch of defaults to do the things they want.
         | Flexibility and customization is still important for the folks
         | who need that though and useful software that does a good job
         | offering that while also having sane defaults have an
         | opportunity to be popular with everybody.
        
           | PeterisP wrote:
           | If the app actually does something Marl needs or enables him
           | to do something he wants to do, then that's great, but all
           | that means Marl simply isn't the marginal user for that app
           | that the article is talking about, he's a core user of it -
           | and there exists some _other_ user, let 's call him Narl, who
           | has slightly different needs than Marl, doesn't _really_ need
           | that app, but would use it if you catch his attention in
           | those 1.3 seconds, so he actually is the marginal user for
           | that app.
           | 
           | And if the app does the things you want for Marl, then, as
           | the article states, it makes all economic sense to make the
           | app worse for Marl to catch Narl. Marl will use it anyway
           | (since for him the app was worth having in the first place),
           | but your effort will make a difference in getting Narl.
           | 
           | And if you can make the app really good for Narl as well,
           | that doesn't change anything, because there _always_ will be
           | another marginal user, and there is a financial motivation to
           | add all the shiny bullshit (at the expense of everyone else)
           | to catch _that_ marginal user.
        
             | autoexec wrote:
             | > it makes all economic sense to make the app worse for
             | Marl to catch Narl. Marl will use it anyway (since for him
             | the app was worth having in the first place), but your
             | effort will make a difference in getting Narl.
             | 
             | I guess you're right. Marl wouldn't be a marginal user. The
             | economic sense of attracting the marginal user Narl still
             | only holds true to a point. Make the app bad enough by
             | appealing to Narl and you'll lose Marl to a competing app
             | that doesn't suck as bad. Narl is fickle, doesn't really
             | need the app, and will be easily tempted to move on to
             | other apps. Not a great long term investment. Marl needs
             | the app and as long as it does what he needs without
             | pissing him off the app has got a user they can profit
             | from. It seems very shortsighted to drive away your core
             | users to temporarily attract the less interested marginal
             | ones.
             | 
             | Thankfully, I can't think of many apps that have gotten
             | worse by aggressively targeting the Narls of the world.
             | When apps get worse, it's usually greed that gets in the
             | way. Anti-features that even narl hates, but which stuffs
             | the developer's pockets with cash.
        
       | 3cats-in-a-coat wrote:
       | That's not the tyranny of the Marginal User, that's a primitive
       | mindset of growth at all costs, which doesn't realize growth is a
       | phase of the existence of an entity, and just like teenagers stop
       | growing eventually, so should companies, once they find their
       | niche. Instead they keep overaddressing their audience, until
       | entropy takes over and destroys the company altogether, to be
       | replaced by another startup that has the same infinite growth one
       | bit mentality.
       | 
       | Our understanding of how to create systems is primitive. Our
       | understanding how to effectively maintain and refine them over
       | time is broadly speaking non-existent. Collapse and destruction
       | is not inevitable, it's plan B when the entity in question cannot
       | maintain its own constitution. Our companies, products, cultures,
       | nations, civilizations don't know how to do that. So they keep
       | collapsing and get replaced.
       | 
       | It's massively wasteful, it causes endless pain and suffering,
       | immense waste, it's the tragedy of our existence. And the hope is
       | we'll learn eventually, before our entire species collapses. But
       | so far I don't see it. We keep making the same mistakes over and
       | over, but faster and faster, at higher and higher scale. That
       | light at the end of the tunnel is not what you think it is.
        
       | 1letterunixname wrote:
       | Blaming any particular user is victim blaming and shifts
       | responsibility away from those responsible: creators. (Let's
       | assume commercial apps with paying users rather than volunteer
       | freeware.)
       | 
       | Whoever acts as the product manager or manager for UX needs to
       | concurrently field input from users as signals rather than
       | directly actionable feedback AND not be so self-absorbed with
       | coding, grand feature plans, or what they "want" that they cannot
       | prioritize use-cases of users in the real world (e.g., user-
       | centric agile-ish development).
       | 
       | Another issue is that popular apps backed by major corporations
       | tend to drift away from their roots because their developers and
       | product managers tend to be rewarded for features and appearances
       | of work than steady consistency and usability rather than fixing
       | bugs, maintaining what already exists, or improving bad UX.
        
       | YmiYugy wrote:
       | "Since most software products charge a flat per-user fee" Is
       | wonder if that is actually true for services that aren't entirely
       | ad supported. Here a non exhaustive list that defies this -
       | free2play games. It's all about those whales. - games. Preorder,
       | delux/collector editions, DLC, battle passes, micro transactions,
       | etc. - a bunch of SaaS offerings are adding new AI tiers right
       | now, e.g. Google Workspace, Microsoft 365, Dueling to name a few.
       | 
       | There was definitely a time when the name of the game in tech,
       | was expanding the user base. Right now it feels like everyone is
       | trying their hardest to increase their per user revenue or as
       | companies would put it, capture more of the value they generate.
       | 
       | One might think, that this could actually have its upsides.
       | Companies increasing the value to their existing users to entice
       | them to pay more, but by and large this isn't what I'm seeing.
       | Instead it feels like many are instead putting existing features
       | behind higher paywalls, churning out junk content, particularly
       | in games as well as adding the buzzword of the year, e.g. NFT,
       | metaverse, AI.
        
       | xkcd1963 wrote:
       | "A substantial fraction of the world's most brilliant, competent,
       | and empathetic people ... spend their lives serving Marl" that is
       | a logical fallacy because smart people don't waste their time on
       | something as useless as that.
        
         | gipp wrote:
         | That's not what a logical fallacy is
        
           | xkcd1963 wrote:
           | "A logical fallacy is an error in reasoning that occurs when
           | invalid arguments or irrelevant points are introduced without
           | any evidence to support them."
           | 
           | invalid argument => x people doing y where x is "brilliant"
           | and y is "serving Marl". Serving Marl is not brilliant. It
           | doesn't count to work for a FAANG company to be considered
           | brilliant, at least by my standards and view on how time is
           | well spend.
        
             | gipp wrote:
             | Yeah, that's cool and all, but
             | 
             | a) a logical fallacy is a particular _pattern_ of invalid
             | argument, not just an argument that is invalid. So just on
             | like a semantic level, an individual argument can 't _be_ a
             | fallacy, though it can _commit_ one.
             | 
             | b) fallacies are invalid inferences by construction. You
             | just don't agree with the premise in this case (and are
             | also implicitly proposing a second premise that doing
             | something not-brilliant means a person is not themselves
             | brilliant)
             | 
             | And most importantly c) whether or not working for a FAANG
             | company is "brilliant" is entirely a question of your
             | opinion.
        
               | xkcd1963 wrote:
               | a) I googled my description. Does it really matter if you
               | use a verb or an adjective to convey the message?
               | 
               | b) One is brilliant when doing brilliant things, and
               | stupid when doing stupid things. A chainsmoker stops
               | being a smoker until he reaches for the next cigarette.
               | 
               | c) yea I explicitly wrote "at least by my standards and
               | view on how time is well spend"
        
         | skyyler wrote:
         | Surely you understand the underlying message about perverse or
         | mis-aligned incentive?
         | 
         | Are you familiar with the fallacy fallacy?
        
           | xkcd1963 wrote:
           | Do you mean that the author meant it in a sarcastic way? My
           | impression was that the author meant it in a literal way.
           | 
           | You are saying I shouldn't describe the whole sentence as
           | fallacy because in any case, part of it is true? I don't know
           | that doesn't go well with writing sneering comments.
        
       | tippytippytango wrote:
       | The insight that we are all Marl at some point is really
       | important. People who think they are never Mark are the most
       | vulnerable.
        
       | photochemsyn wrote:
       | Tyranny of the Corporate Conglomerate is a more compelling
       | explanation for the downward spiral in product quality. Take
       | Reddit's decision to cut off API access, which destroyed
       | independent apps like Apollo as well as all the very useful
       | search tools (pushshift) - I haven't visited Reddit once since
       | that happened.
       | 
       | It's all about controlling the users as a controlled user base is
       | more easily exploited for profit. First corral the sheep so that
       | they can be more efficiently fleeced, that's the mentality of the
       | executive suite.
        
       | adhesive_wombat wrote:
       | > What evil force, more powerful than Innovation and Progress, is
       | at work here?
       | 
       | Sounds familiar:
       | https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/07/30/meditations-on-moloch/
        
       | dkarl wrote:
       | I think the author took the wrong conclusions away from his
       | experience. All the questions, all the personalization, all the
       | stuff that apps tried to add to make things _better_ actually
       | made things _worse._ All they could measure was similarity. They
       | encouraged him to double down on choosing people based on their
       | tastes in entertainment and how they answered cheesy questions,
       | ignoring three factors that perhaps should have been obvious from
       | the beginning:
       | 
       | 1. People are already effectively segregated by similarity in
       | their real and online lives, and a dating app does them a
       | disservice by doubling down on this.
       | 
       | 2. Difference is an essential part of relationships. How many
       | successful relationships do you know of where one person is
       | spontaneous but liable to do foolish things, and the other person
       | is steady and reliable but maybe a bit boring if left to
       | themselves? Or where one person is an introvert but loves to cook
       | for people and the other person is an extrovert who loves to
       | throw parties?
       | 
       | 3. People who try to get to know each other online are often
       | surprised (and disappointed) when they meet in person. Online,
       | you can only get very, very rough indicators of in-person
       | romantic capability, no matter how much time and detail you have
       | to work with. A month of getting to "know" someone online is
       | worth less than five minutes of in-person conversation.
       | 
       | If you agree with these things, why in the world would you use
       | any dating app whose basic premise runs contrary to them?
       | 
       | Tinder was _accidental genius._ A simplistic swipe left  / swipe
       | right app does exactly what you want. You show up knowing you
       | don't know anything about the person, but vaguely excited. It's
       | like glimpsing somebody from across the room and walking over to
       | talk to them, except it's not just for people who enjoy spending
       | time in crowded rooms striking up conversations with strangers
       | who might not be interested in them.
       | 
       | People bag on Tinder because it's superficial. Tinder is genius
       | _because_ it 's superficial. It sticks to the only thing that any
       | dating app has ever been good at, and it leaves everything else
       | in human hands. That's why dating apps are converging on the
       | Tinder model. When apps stop doing what apps are terrible at, and
       | stick to what apps can actually help with, there's very little
       | left, but it's extremely useful.
        
       | gz5 wrote:
       | And the tyranny extends because most of the money goes to those
       | who can (theoretically) get geometric growth - get lots of us
       | during our Marl moments.
       | 
       | If the pendulum swings the other way - meaning we each have less
       | Marl moments - more of us willing to pay for an experience with
       | dollars than time, then expect more OKCupids to start and to
       | persist. Theoretically without venture money.
       | 
       | I think LLMs may help swing the pendulum in the OkCupid direction
       | but in two very different ways - curious how others see it.
       | 
       | 1. Lots more Marl courting apps developed, faster. Causing more
       | fatigue. Less time to go to any single Marl app; reluctance to
       | try new ones. Push pendulum away from Marl apps - each of us cuts
       | our Marl moments.
       | 
       | 2. Ability to develop OkCupid apps with less investment and
       | target smaller circles (which often means i can deliver a better
       | experience to that small circle, and not need VC
       | funding/geometric growth to keep the lights on). Pull pendulum
       | towards OKCupid apps.
        
       | munificent wrote:
       | _> We've all been Marl at one time or another_
       | 
       | This, to me, is the key line in this quite good article.
       | 
       | It's not that software companies are catering to those _other
       | people_ who are infinitely stupid and deserving of our scorn. It
       | 's that they are catering to the worse impulses _in all of us_
       | and encouraging us to become those people.
        
         | andrewmg wrote:
         | As Pogo put it, "We have met the enemy, and he is us."[0]
         | 
         | [0]https://library.osu.edu/site/40stories/2020/01/05/we-have-
         | me...
        
           | waffletower wrote:
           | To Pogo: 'What do you mean "us"? Do you have a mouse in your
           | pocket?'
        
             | uoaei wrote:
             | Is it really so hard to consider? Do you believe that
             | intentions and outcomes are always aligned?
        
         | npsimons wrote:
         | > It's that they are catering to the worse impulses in all of
         | us and encouraging us to become those people.
         | 
         | That _is_ incredibly unsettling, and not just because it makes
         | me uncomfortable. Dumbing down should never be a deliberate
         | goal, _especially_ of people.
        
           | lifty wrote:
           | It's not deliberate. It's the tragedy of the commons. They
           | are tapping into a shared resource (our well being) and
           | everyone else is doing it.
        
             | Finnucane wrote:
             | There's no commons on a commercial website. This is
             | deliberate.
        
             | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
             | If you listen to Frances Haugen's testimony, you see that
             | it is very much deliberate.
             | 
             | There are probably thousands of psychology grads that went
             | to school, hoping to help people, that are, instead,
             | designing dark patterns.
             | 
             | But they are probably making a lot more money than they
             | would, helping people.
             | 
             | Evil pays cash.
        
               | lifty wrote:
               | It's as deliberate as a cow eating grass. The cow
               | deliberately eats the grass but because of the game
               | theory involved (lack of information, lack of
               | coordination, incentives etc.), the pasture disappears.
               | The point of my comment (and the article's, I think) was
               | that companies want the revenue, but don't deliberately
               | want to harm us.
        
               | titzer wrote:
               | Companies aren't cows. They know. Big companies always
               | have people studying the larger economic trends of the
               | markets they are in and looking into the future--you
               | know, people who are always ignored if they point out
               | anything or advocate anything that would be counter to
               | this quarter's profits.
        
         | rglullis wrote:
         | Now, let's find any single company/product that actually is
         | successful by encouraging us to become better versions of
         | ourselves.
        
           | robotresearcher wrote:
           | In apps: Ten Percent Happier and Headspace?
           | 
           | In meatspace: Nike, Adidas?
        
             | RugnirViking wrote:
             | these are kinda depressing. I was thinkinbg duolingo as
             | well but something I realise especially with the meditation
             | apps is how much they almost impressively manage to subvert
             | what they were origianlly. As time goes on they cater more
             | to marl and less to actually achieving anything.
             | 
             | Like the duolingo redesign.
             | 
             | It's one of the reasons I generally seek out smaller
             | companies for stuff like this. The biggest company in these
             | sorts of categories gets there by being entirely unhelpful
             | at its stated goals :(
             | 
             | Even the shoes. You'll get so much better service from a
             | mid sized distributor that actually cares than mass market
             | conglomerates. If you ask for advice it will be sincerely
             | given rather than a premade statement calibrated to tap
             | into base impulse version of you to increase your
             | likelihood of spending the most
        
             | rglullis wrote:
             | Sport gear companies? Just selling you a lifestyle and an
             | identity. Meditation apps feel more like someone exploiting
             | a fad than some with an _actual_ interest in your
             | wellbeing.
        
               | robotresearcher wrote:
               | I dunno, I think that might be overly cynical. You might
               | as well complain that a brain surgeon only removes tumors
               | because they get money for it.
               | 
               | Does Nike want me to run and jump _less_ , to participate
               | in sports _less_ , to work out less often? No, they run
               | expensive ad campaigns encouraging me to make exercise a
               | regular part of my life. To sell apparel, yes, but they
               | aren't telling me to eat more cheeseburgers or drink more
               | booze like other corporations.
        
         | sirspacey wrote:
         | Yes and no
         | 
         | 98% of Spotify users never take any action other than "press
         | play" on a radio station
         | 
         | 2% take some kind of agency (create a playlist, like a song)
         | 
         | A vanishingly small amount create personal or public curated
         | playlists
         | 
         | Yes, that very small amount may also listen passively
         | sometimes, but the difference matters. Imagine if Spotify was
         | just a radio station.
        
           | webninja wrote:
           | I hate that new Spotify radios play nearly the same songs
           | from your existing playlists and listening history. Little
           | variety and mostly an echo chamber.
        
             | kmac_ wrote:
             | It works for me: Discover weekly + song radio + similar
             | artists + genre and user playlists. I can listen to new
             | songs until I'm tired. I love Spotify.
        
           | rconti wrote:
           | Is this true, or just an invented number based on your
           | intuition?
        
         | somedude895 wrote:
         | It's a very good point that I think some commenters here should
         | take to heart. No matter how enlightened we think we are, we're
         | all part of the masses and behave this way at one point or
         | another.
        
           | npsimons wrote:
           | > No matter how enlightened we think we are, we're all part
           | of the masses and behave this way at one point or another.
           | 
           | While this is true, it stands to question: why build systems
           | to _encourage_ this? Shouldn 't we be trying to do better?
           | 
           | If nothing else, how can one avoid falling into these traps?
        
             | RugnirViking wrote:
             | > While this is true, it stands to question: why build
             | systems to encourage this? Shouldn't we be trying to do
             | better?
             | 
             | until incentives change, people will continue to encourage
             | this. The base instinct behaviors when one is stressed and
             | tired and checked out are the most profitable, the most
             | susceptible to adverts etc.
             | 
             | The way to encourage conciencousness, taking pride in
             | creation etc is to see a few (the right amount of) others
             | (who are seen by the user as peers, not unnatainable far
             | off creators) doing the same. Maybe stretched/challenged a
             | little - one or two at most people above their skill level,
             | who appear approachable and humble.
             | 
             | It's the format of most true knowledge creation, be it
             | classrooms, effective workplaces, sports programs, and
             | others
        
             | intended wrote:
             | Spitballing -
             | 
             | Perhaps due long tail effects.
             | 
             | Tech (platforms) will always be advertising focused,
             | because information systems scale with compute. marginal
             | costs are so minor, that the limit becomes human attention.
             | 
             | Which is also why apple may be able to focus on user
             | centric design better. They are product + tech.
             | 
             | Then again I can see other physical product firms delving
             | into advertising - so its most likely corporate
             | behavior/values.
        
             | airtonix wrote:
             | [dead]
        
             | rglullis wrote:
             | We have them, they exist for millennia. It's just that most
             | of them are considered too boring or are judged as a whole
             | by looking at some of its members of questionable character
             | - who ironically are there because they know they are not
             | perfect but trying to be better.
        
             | tqi wrote:
             | I think the problem is there isn't a clear delineation
             | between "traps" and "meaningful improvement."
             | 
             | Take Signal for example - early days they had a ton of
             | success with a core group of users, in spite of a number of
             | product warts. Ever since then, they've been making
             | usability improvements to lower friction and appeal to more
             | and more marginal users. Is that good or bad? Based on the
             | hn threads I've seen, it seems like the jury is pretty
             | mixed?
        
               | TeMPOraL wrote:
               | Signal is a special case because it's a generic messenger
               | app - meaning it's target audience is legitimately
               | _everyone_ , and with its philosophy and E2EE in general
               | preventing interoperability, it _has_ to capture
               | everyone. It has to be optimized towards a Marl, or else
               | it 'll fail to network effects.
               | 
               | Some software is like that. Most isn't - but the
               | enshittification culture is affecting it all the same.
        
             | spott wrote:
             | Because there is an endless amount of human time spent like
             | this, but we all have limited attention for other things.
             | 
             | If you try to appeal to someone's better parts, then there
             | is a limit to the amount of attention that they can apply
             | to your product.
             | 
             | If you try to appeal to someone's base need for dopamine,
             | then the limit of attention is much higher.
        
           | telios wrote:
           | The reason it works is because they've done the research to
           | make it work. It isn't a coincidence DAUs increase. I think
           | it is important to recognize that it can impact you, and take
           | steps to account for that, even if - or especially if - you
           | don't want it to. You are not immune to propaganda, and all
           | that.
        
             | raxxorraxor wrote:
             | In German the DAU is the "dumbest assumed user", the worst
             | case consideration when designing UI. My impression is that
             | if you try to increase DAUs, you often increase both types.
        
           | beefield wrote:
           | This is something important that people do not seem to grasp.
           | Intelligence is a really high dimensional thing. Even the
           | ones that are highly intelligent in some dimensions are dumb
           | as rock in vast majority of other dimensions. So we all are
           | basically morons with some occasional flashes of intelligence
           | in some individuals.
        
             | checkyoursudo wrote:
             | Really dumb people don't know that they are really dumb.
             | Dumb people know that they are dumb. Below average people
             | think they are average. Average people think they are
             | smart. Smart people know they are smart but not highly
             | intelligent. Highly intelligent people think they are
             | geniuses (including in all possible fields). Geniuses, real
             | honest-to-goodness geniuses, know that they are smart in
             | many ways but mostly dumb.
             | 
             | I cannot prove it, but this is how I think it is. For the
             | record, I think I am smart; however, because of the Iron
             | Rule of Intelligence above, it is equally possible that I
             | am only average.
        
         | srik wrote:
         | That is the insight I'm surprised the author didn't zero in on.
        
         | beefman wrote:
         | There are stupid people. A large percentage of the population
         | never regularly used PCs because keyboards and mice are too
         | abstract. They only began regularly computing once they could
         | touch things with their fingers. Today, Google search has more
         | fuzzing and returns more Q&A results on mobile.
         | 
         | A large percentage never used e-mail because e-mail addresses
         | are too abstract. They only began using "social media" when
         | they could address correspondence by photograph.
         | 
         | There are a billion people who can speak but not read and
         | write, and billions who can read and write but not well enough
         | to earn karma on Hacker News.
         | 
         | Though smart people are sometimes Marl, they are Marl less
         | often, or in more sophisticated ways (like wasting time on
         | Hacker News).
        
         | spott wrote:
         | This is a key point.
         | 
         | If you look at people, each of them have multiple different
         | "personas" throughout the day/week/etc.[0]
         | 
         | Some of them, sometimes, are builders or content creators.
         | 
         | Some of them, sometimes, are conscientious consumers, looking
         | to stretch their understanding or themselves and think hard
         | about something that they are consuming.
         | 
         | But all of them, sometimes, are Marl.
         | 
         | There will always be a way to find more Marls to add to your
         | user pool because Marl is the basest human need for a steady
         | effortless dopamine drip. Just about everyone has some amount
         | of time that they spend as Marl, so there is an almost
         | limitless pool of Marl time to pull new users from.
         | 
         | I'm trying to find some way to say that this isn't what you
         | actually want, but I'm struggling. If you are making a product
         | for everyone, Marl is the only persona that is in everyone, so
         | you should probably target Marl.
         | 
         | However, if you are trying to build a product for a more
         | constrained persona, you should probably be careful of using
         | metrics that measure Marls. Because there are so many of them
         | (even your users with other personas are sometimes Marls!) if
         | you aren't really careful, you will enshitify your product as
         | you continue your A/B testing gradient descent into a user base
         | of Marls, without anyone you were trying to get -- even if you
         | don't loose your content creators and conscientious consumers,
         | you have converted them into Marls, and lost what you were
         | trying to achieve.
         | 
         | Enshitification is the conversion of your target user from any
         | other kind of persona, to Marls.
         | 
         | [0] there are other personas, these were that the ones that
         | immediately came to mind.
        
           | zbentley wrote:
           | Absolutely. I think there are two business behaviors that
           | underly this phenomenon: growth culture and fear of being
           | outcompeted.
           | 
           | The culture of growth-at-all-costs has been condemned plenty
           | in other threads here, I won't restate how/why. It's the
           | problem that brings about, for example, "your A/B testing
           | gradient descent" as the gravitational pull towards
           | enshittification: the idea that robotically optimizing for
           | greater growth/income/engagement is the _right_ thing for a
           | business to do. This ignores the huge range of ethical,
           | profitable businesses that inhabit the space in the size
           | /growth spectrum between "lifestyle boutique that pays the
           | employees' bills and not much more" and "virally growing
           | global superphenomenon". The presumption that those two
           | extremes are the only inevitable outcomes for a business is
           | poison. Unfortunately, sustainably inhabiting that middle
           | ground requires a resistance to extreme greed on the part of
           | a business's leadership/leadership culture--and again, the
           | presence of _some_ greed is just fine in non-hypergrowth
           | businesses! There are loyal, lucrative, and sizable markets
           | for carefully targeted products whose focus doesn 't drift;
           | "niche" is not a pejorative, and many niches are wide enough
           | to be worth absolute shitloads of money! Unfortunately,
           | continually resisting the extremity of greed is not something
           | humans are good at.
           | 
           | There's also the fear of outcompetition: the idea that a
           | Marl-serving competitor will grow so large that they
           | extinguish your non-Marl-focused business. That's sometimes
           | true, but not inevitably so--and enduring the risk of that
           | "sometimes" is one of the grit-your-teeth-and-stick-to-your-
           | ethics behaviors that distinguishes beloved minority members
           | of a market from self-immolating enshittification chasers.
           | Remember, Apple was a beloved minority player in personal
           | computing, staying (and generally performing well) within a
           | luxury/loyalist niche, for more than a decade. Enduring risk
           | in the face of the fear of outcompetition does require
           | bravery from leaders, but can yield benefits both in the form
           | of profits/loyalty and--rarely--by _converting_ Marls into
           | non-Marls by showing an example of how much better things can
           | be.
           | 
           | Short version is a cold take: the intersection of
           | hypergrowth-legend-induced greed and outcompetition fear,
           | applied across large groups of people with communication
           | impedance, leads to crappy outcomes. As usual.
        
           | ericksoa wrote:
           | 100%. When I play video games, I am Marl. Not going into
           | menus or whatever to set things up, just using it to
           | specifically not use my brain.
        
         | titzer wrote:
         | Well put. And everyone plays along. When the big, popular apps
         | become idiocracized, then the smaller apps follow suit. It
         | really seems that there's a race-to-the-bottom effect going on.
         | 
         | Case in point: Guitar tuner apps. Back in 2005 a good friend of
         | mine had a startup that made the best-in-class guitar tuner app
         | in the feature phone / flip phone era, before Android. Back
         | then, they had to deal with all manner of constraints from
         | vendors and the hardware of the day. They figured it out and
         | shipped a featureful app that had a < 1MB binary and run at
         | realtime speeds and had an intuitive UI. They sold it for
         | something like a $6 one-time payment and were happy keeping
         | their startup chugging along at $500k-$1M annual revenue. Fast
         | forward to today, there are a zillion clones, typically
         | weighing in at 40+MB, are "free with ads" and will nag you
         | endlessly to sign up for $7, $10, even $15 _per month_. Their
         | UIs suck, too. I have no idea what their revenue aspirations
         | are, but this is totally driven by capturing consumer surplus
         | from the orders-of-magnitude larger Android market. We all
         | lose.
         | 
         | I do not pay for these apps; I would gladly have back that $6
         | app, but can't have it. The market is absolutely saturated with
         | enshittified Android apps. Instead, I _intentionally_ spend
         | significantly more than that on dedicated tuners (like the
         | excellent but somewhat fragile Snark clip-on ones).
        
         | bcrosby95 wrote:
         | It's a pretty interesting statement. I used to be fine with
         | "microboredoms" and think about other things, such as a book
         | I'm reading, a game I want to play, or even work.
         | 
         | I noticed these days that I spend more time during those
         | "microboredoms" on my phone. I have 10 seconds? Check out
         | reddit!
         | 
         | I've been trying to kick this habit, enjoy my surroundings
         | more, or get lost in my head like I used to.
        
           | MatthiasPortzel wrote:
           | Carrying around a fidget toy has helped me with this. Part of
           | the urge to scroll on my phone is just to do something with
           | my fingers. If my fingers are occupied with a bit of string
           | or a finger-trap, my mind is more free to wander.
        
             | munificent wrote:
             | I started cross-stitching again for exactly this reason.
             | Lately, I've been learning to knit, which is even better
             | for scratching this itch.
        
           | checkyoursudo wrote:
           | I sympathise. This is a really hard habit to break.
        
         | doctorpangloss wrote:
         | > to the worse impulses
         | 
         | In my experience, making stuff that provides no intrinsic value
         | like video games, only value of meaning, my games have only
         | gotten _better_ by catering to those impulses, which are really
         | not that negative or stupid.
         | 
         | Really, who needs tutorials? Why make stuff that needs a
         | tutorial? You can have complex games without tutorials and
         | FTUEs. You don't need so much UI. It's not about scrolling so
         | much as it is that so many apps obscure, rather than transmit,
         | anything meaningful, through really obnoxious UI.
         | 
         | This argument is the Malcolm Gladwell 140 character tweet
         | complaint not being enough to have a deep conversation. Easy
         | for him to say, he's got his!
        
       | TalEs wrote:
       | I always wanted to make something like OkC, that caters to power
       | users, but also to Marl. I will admit, I am Marl a lot of the
       | time, so I know what Marls' want in a product. I already have an
       | outline of my idea, but I won't give it away fully. Basically, I
       | wanted something that is simple enough for Marl, but the internal
       | features can be quite complex if you want to tweak them to find
       | the perfect someone. It has to be an app primarily, and have a
       | website as secondary. My ADHD brain is only good at ideating but
       | I can't bring myself to work on them. I am no software dev, so
       | it's always been just a dream.
       | 
       | I wanted an app, that has the question and answer capabilities of
       | OkC, to get to know a person, without actually having to type
       | anything. It would have filters for partners or personalities. It
       | can have more provocative questions to get the users desires,
       | morals and values. It would be a blind date sort of deal, to
       | prevent it becoming a beauty contest. Meeting in-person would be
       | the main goal, with safety in mind of course. Dating would not be
       | the main point of the app, meeting people would be, doing
       | activities together and such.
       | 
       | It would have a public dashboard of users, like ratio of M:F. I
       | would love the return of the OkC blogs too.
       | 
       | In terms of scaling, I don't care about infinite growth, it would
       | be like a B-Corp with a sustainable growth model. The
       | monetisation could be a 3-6 month full-feature subscription. If
       | it didn't work out, the user could just move on. The other worse
       | option would be ads. The app could be open-sourced or a freemium
       | model, I am not sure about the feasibility.
       | 
       | After going through the comments here, it seems @com2kid had
       | already made something similar but I have some ideas to make it
       | better. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=37512127
       | 
       | Would love to know what he had learnt from working on that
       | project!
        
       | lapcat wrote:
       | > OKCupid, like the other acquisitions of Match.com
       | 
       | The article seems to just glance over this crucial fact.
       | 
       | Online dating sites have gotten worse because the Match Group
       | monopolizes them. There's hardly any competition. Same with
       | Google Search. Monopolies suck. They start out good, in order to
       | attract all of the users, and then once they've acquired all of
       | the users, they turn to unchecked profit maximization and stop
       | caring about the users.
       | 
       | It should be called the tyranny of the monopoly, not the the
       | tyranny of the marginal user.
        
         | jmuguy wrote:
         | This kind of makes me want to just remake OKCupid. I met my
         | wife on there. It worked, really well, as the author describes.
         | Surely there's money to be made there without just being
         | another Tinder clone.
        
           | YouSuck2 wrote:
           | There is, you will just have zero users because everybody
           | uses the Match.com and Bumble duopoly
        
         | nostrademons wrote:
         | The two issues are related. Focus on the marginal user is much
         | heavier with monopolies, because a) these are usually built off
         | of strong network effects which often leads to monopoly and b)
         | _monopolies don't need to worry about losing their existing
         | customers to competitors_. Competitive industries often focus
         | much more heavily on churn, and minimizing churn means keeping
         | your existing customers happy.
        
         | xcdzvyn wrote:
         | Google does not have a monopoly on search engines. There is
         | abundant competition in the search engine market: DuckDuckGo,
         | Bing, Yandex, Brave, Yahoo.
         | 
         | Nobody uses Google because they have to, they use it because it
         | is the best.
        
           | shmde wrote:
           | > Nobody uses Google because they have to, they use it
           | because it is the best.
           | 
           | Oh yeah, you sure its not because its the default browser on
           | Android ?
        
             | xcdzvyn wrote:
             | Internet Explorer's market share was 65% in 2009. In 2015,
             | just before its slated deprecation to Edge, it was 19%.
             | That isn't because it wasn't the default, it's because it
             | wasn't good enough.
             | 
             | If Google Search, as the default search engine of Android,
             | wasn't good enough, nobody would use it.
        
           | lapcat wrote:
           | > There is abundant competition in the search engine market:
           | DuckDuckGo, Bing, Yandex, Brave, Yahoo.
           | 
           | DuckDuckGo and Yahoo both use Bing's search index. (Which
           | sucks whenever Bing randomly removes your website for no
           | reason.)
           | 
           | Brave Search is a very recent addition, just within the past
           | year or two.
        
             | xnx wrote:
             | Many consider OpenAI, Amazon, and TikTok to all be
             | competitors to Google Search.
        
         | RunSet wrote:
         | Agreed.
         | 
         | https://old.reddit.com/r/LokiList/comments/s0a0w6/why_i_made...
         | 
         | Also:
         | 
         | > we took pairs of bad matches (actual 30% match) and told them
         | they were exceptionally good for each other (displaying a 90%
         | match.)
         | 
         | https://archive.ph/O2AF1#selection-421.14-421.145
        
         | YouSuck2 wrote:
         | [flagged]
        
         | wiremine wrote:
         | > Online dating sites have gotten worse because the Match Group
         | monopolizes them. There's hardly any competition.
         | 
         | I recently helped a group look at launching a dating app over a
         | six month period. Here are a few take aways:
         | 
         | 1. Nobody really likes the dating app experience. Most users
         | have a few dating apps installed at any given time.
         | 
         | 2. Therefore, it's relatively easy to break into the market.
         | You start with a single geography and a single niche, and use
         | marketing to gain a pre-launch group of a few thousand
         | individuals.
         | 
         | 3. The MRR is not great, and churn is around 2 months.
         | Therefore, it's a hard market to scale into effectively without
         | a lot of money.
         | 
         | 4. Beyond the financials, the ethics are interesting. You're
         | either selling your users to advertisers, or you're you're
         | nickel-and-diming your users for low-value features.
         | 
         | Ultimately the group we were involved with decided to invest
         | their money and time into other projects.
         | 
         | That all said: Match.com has a monopoly because most startups
         | want a quick exit, and not actually solve the core problems. If
         | someone like Facebook really wanted to enter the market and
         | win, they could crush Match.com, IMHO. (Not saying that would
         | be a good thing, just pointing out it's possible.)
        
           | pc86 wrote:
           | Facebook Dating has been around for years, and I've only
           | heard it spoken of in the wild once, with derision.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | guestbest wrote:
         | [flagged]
        
         | ivee wrote:
         | (author here) I agree monopoly & market power is a big part of
         | the story here, but I feel like that is already well-
         | understood; I was trying to describe what the incentives feel
         | like from the inside.
         | 
         | I guess more anti-trust in tech would probably be good, but the
         | reality of network effects & the advertising economy mean it's
         | actually nontrivial for government to intervene in a way that's
         | clearly net good for users. Google has gifted the world amazing
         | free-to-use software that gives me probably thousands of
         | dollars of consumer surplus yearly. Had OKCupid stayed separate
         | they might have had to tinderify anyways just to survive. Same
         | with YouTube and Instagram had they not been acquired.
         | 
         | If I had to point my way to a solution it would be something at
         | the protocol or operating system level. Apple, for example,
         | mostly doesn't make money from ads and could set up their OS in
         | a way that makes apps compete to satisfy user intentions rather
         | than hijack their attention.
        
           | ghaff wrote:
           | >Had OKCupid stayed separate they might have had to tinderify
           | anyways just to survive.
           | 
           | I never used them but I did read their blog and my sense is
           | that they leaned a bit towards that demographic anyway.
           | 
           | As I wrote elsewhere, a lot of people jump to the conclusion
           | that a company was ruined by a buyer or that a company let
           | themselves stagnate. But I'd argue (agree?) it's often the
           | case that the "marginal user" (or mainstream audience) have
           | no real interest in what appealed to the early adopters.
           | 
           | And the early adopters may have moved on as well. I was
           | pretty into eBay as an auction site at one point and I mostly
           | lost interest.
        
         | canucker2016 wrote:
         | relevant link for dating startup economics for investors:
         | 
         | https://andrewchen.com/why-investors-dont-fund-dating/
         | 
         | and the HN discussion:
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=9606572
        
         | postmodest wrote:
         | It should also be noted that match.com knows that it's business
         | isn't "connecting people in stable relationships" but "luring
         | people to pay for match.com by promising them connections that
         | never work out."
         | 
         | OKCupid had a model that increases the likelihood of matching
         | with someone and ...never using OKCupid again.
         | 
         | Match.com realizes that fundamental flaw. For their business to
         | survive, they HAVE to be bad at the service they purport to
         | provide. They don't want people to have long term
         | relationships, they want people to _use a dating site_.
         | 
         | There are "societal good" functions that companies might
         | provide, for which a profit motive is wholly un-applicable
         | without destroying the function itself.
         | 
         | There are some things that you simply CANNOT express in a "free
         | market" because the measure of their success cannot be
         | expressed in market terms.
        
           | afarrell wrote:
           | A dating site could work sustainably if it was a site for
           | planning date nights. Make profiles based on activities and
           | swipe right or left on the _activities_ you want to do.
           | 
           | Revenue sources would include:
           | 
           | - Ads for local businesses, classes, and events.
           | 
           | - Annual subscription which is cheaper after the first year
           | and gives you discount codes to events and restaurants.
           | 
           | Once you get the site to work for date nights, let people be
           | open to getting matched based on similar activity interests.
           | Then you can solve the problem of two users finding a
           | specific joint activity.
           | 
           | Would this solve the problem of finding people to have sex
           | with? No, but computers are bad at sex.
           | 
           | Would this solve the problem married couples have of picking
           | a place to eat? Hopefully.
        
             | flanbiscuit wrote:
             | > Make profiles based on activities and swipe right or left
             | on the activities you want to do.
             | 
             | Back in the early 2010s there was a dating site that was
             | based around this premise. You would post a specific
             | activity and see if someone wanted to join you for it. I
             | didn't personally use it (as intended) but it was a great
             | place to get fun date night activities with my partner. I
             | think they realized that use case (date night planning) and
             | eventually added this as a feature. I don't remember the
             | name of the site unfortunately, someone else might. I would
             | be surprised if it's still around.
             | 
             | edit: Found it! it was called HowAboutWe.com.
             | 
             | https://techcrunch.com/tag/howaboutwe/
             | 
             | https://archive.nytimes.com/bits.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/07/
             | 1...
        
               | iamdbtoo wrote:
               | That's also similar to a service OkCupid had separate
               | from the main site called Crazy Blind Date.
               | 
               | With this one, however, you defined the qualities you
               | were seeking and the times and part of the city you were
               | available for a date. They would match people up based on
               | the time, location and OkCupid match rating (mostly, I
               | think) and would ask if you wanted to meet the person. It
               | gave you just their basic info and a distorted photo.
               | 
               | I used it for a while and don't remember why I stopped
               | but it was one of the best dating apps I've used. None of
               | the dates went anywhere, but it was a really simple and
               | easy way to meet new people.
        
             | com2kid wrote:
             | I ran a startup making something similar to this pre-covid,
             | it wasn't just date night, it was "find something to do in
             | under 5 minutes". Groups of 4 to 6, partnering with local
             | businesses who hosted the events. You opened the app, said
             | what you wanted to do and when, and you were automatically
             | put into a group. You could select how many people you
             | already had going with you (date, or just a group of 2
             | friends who needed a few more people for a cooking class or
             | whatnot).
             | 
             | No photos until just before the event started, because
             | photos turn things into a beauty contest and people start
             | judging on looks, which is where, IMHO, all my competition
             | in the same space went wrong.
             | 
             | Events were scheduled for as little as 4 hours out, and
             | only up to 72hrs in the future. The entire app flow was
             | designed to be as close as possible to a "I am bored,
             | entertain me now" button.
             | 
             | Investors hated it, two sided marketplaces are apparently
             | something they like to avoid due to difficulties around
             | execution.
             | 
             | People were _desperate_ for this type of service though,
             | for one marketing campaign my user acquisition cost dropped
             | as low as 15 cents per user.
             | 
             | (If any investor reading wants to throw me a million I'll
             | start it back up again. ;) Solving the loneliness epidemic
             | in America's cities is a huge chance to do some social
             | good!)
        
               | TalEs wrote:
               | Your idea is exactly what I would like to have in an app,
               | with a ML twist and also more on matchmaking people based
               | on their traits, personalities, morals and values. Below
               | is my comment on it. It an idealistic solution, but I
               | have an outline of such an app, that might need some
               | refining. I would love to talk about if its it's even
               | doable or feasible, and you seem to the the best person
               | for it. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=37520545
        
               | mighmi wrote:
               | You weren't able to scale enough initially to be
               | profitable on your own operations, I presume? At what
               | scale would you be able to support your burn rate?
               | 
               | This is a fantastic project. I also briefly worked on
               | something similar, but left when I learned more about my
               | coworkers.
        
               | com2kid wrote:
               | > You weren't able to scale enough initially to be
               | profitable on your own operations, I presume? At what
               | scale would you be able to support your burn rate?
               | 
               | Bootstrapped, COVID hit right before the launch date.
               | 
               | Infra costs were ~$200 a month to support 10k DAU. I'd
               | just come off of working on embedded, so I was used to
               | writing really efficient code. :)
               | 
               | > At what scale would you be able to support your burn
               | rate?
               | 
               | Just needed to cover my living expenses mortgage and
               | salaries!
               | 
               | Obviously to scale money was needed for ad campaigns, but
               | people are lonely and offering to solve loneliness has a
               | high conversion rate!
        
               | Numeral4072 wrote:
               | I agree the idea seems solid enough, but accommodating
               | the increased complexity of scaling it up sounds quiet
               | difficult. Out of curiosity what did you learn about your
               | coworkers? Something about their motivations for creating
               | such an app or what?
        
               | Plasmoid wrote:
               | Why did you shut it down?
        
               | com2kid wrote:
               | $ and COVID.
               | 
               | I burned through my savings and was ready to launch in
               | earl 2020.
               | 
               | Oops.
        
               | intended wrote:
               | Theres a YC video that goes over tar pit problems. If i
               | am not mistaken, this exact scenario is covered as a tar
               | pit.
        
               | com2kid wrote:
               | > Theres a YC video that goes over tar pit problems. If i
               | am not mistaken, this exact scenario is covered as a tar
               | pit.
               | 
               | Yeah the final end goal was either to make lots of deals
               | with local businesses (hard to scale) or to license an ML
               | personality matching model to companies.
               | 
               | The app had a handful of personality questions that I
               | copied over from research done at one of the Nordic
               | universities (I forget which one) on what makes people
               | get along together in a casual setting. The American
               | universities have mostly done research on group cohesion
               | in corporate settings, which maybe hints at what is wrong
               | with American society at large!
               | 
               | Cruise liners and casinos would pay a fortune to know
               | what guests would vibe together.
               | 
               | I had a partner website that allowed for self onboarding,
               | but of course b2b2c is never that simple. :)
               | 
               | The operating costs were so absurdly low (~$200 a month
               | per city it was running in) that letting people create
               | their own events for free was in the near term road map,
               | no reason not to.
        
               | afarrell wrote:
               | Perhaps then it is better run as a feature of a city's
               | local newspaper. They already have the advertising
               | department side of the marketplace. Does anyone at the
               | Boston Globe want to buy your code?
        
             | janeerie wrote:
             | There did used to be one like this and I can't for the life
             | of me remember the name of it.
             | 
             | My friend didn't meet her husband on it, but she did meet
             | her future husband's roommate.
        
             | anigbrowl wrote:
             | _Would this solve the problem of finding people to have sex
             | with? No, but computers are bad at sex._
             | 
             | Are they? I thought hookup sites like Tinder and Grindr
             | were very popular.
        
               | afarrell wrote:
               | So is alcohol.
        
           | autoexec wrote:
           | Generally, the things that are valuable to society, but can't
           | be delivered by corporations who are only interested in
           | maximizing their own wealth and power are good candidates for
           | something that would be better run by government.
           | 
           | Maybe a dating site actually would make for a good social
           | service... Assuming that what we'd gain in terms of the
           | stability and happiness of the population is worth more than
           | what it would cost to run the service it might not be a bad
           | idea. Especially in areas where dating is uniquely difficult
           | like Iceland where apps exist to make sure you're not dating
           | someone closely related.
        
           | rurp wrote:
           | While there are some perverse incentives, I think this is
           | overstating it. Millions of people enter the dating market
           | every year by aging into it or ending a previous
           | relationship. That seems like plenty of space to make a
           | profitable business. Of course there is the temptation to
           | increase the churn rate, but it doesn't _have_ to be
           | exploitative.
        
             | koromak wrote:
             | It literally does, if you're a publicly traded company.
        
               | Karunamon wrote:
               | _No it bloody well does not._ The  "maximize shareholder
               | value" thing has never been read that strictly by a court
               | of law (otherwise, Apple would have been ripe for a suit
               | when they told off an activist investor rep who was upset
               | they were pursuing environmental goals at the expense of
               | better ROI [1]).
               | 
               | Companies hollow out (or enshittify) their products
               | because it is easy and because it guarantees results at
               | least in the short term. There are other ways to grow,
               | and they tend to require imagination and long-term
               | planning. Don't blame the stock market for entirely
               | voluntary choices of taking the easy way out.
               | 
               | [1]: https://arstechnica.com/gadgets/2014/03/at-apple-
               | shareholder...
        
               | grotorea wrote:
               | Yes but it doesn't have to be upheld in a court of law.
               | It just has to be what corporate officers are ordered,
               | selected and incentivized around. It doesn't need to be
               | legally required for people to do something.
        
               | collaborative wrote:
               | For decades now bilionares have bought companies,
               | improved numbers in the short term, and sold them for a
               | profit
        
               | unmole wrote:
               | This stupid meme needs to die.
        
               | wpietri wrote:
               | It really doesn't, at least in the legal sense. Managers
               | have wide legal latitude to run the business as they
               | think best. However, in practice corporate boards tend to
               | vote the short-term numbers, which combined with
               | decreasing CEO tenure is a strong incentive for CEOs to
               | do short-term, exploitative things. That's not always the
               | case, though. Bezos, for example, built Amazon to its
               | juggernaut status by ignoring the short terms numbers and
               | doing a lot of long-term investment with a focus on
               | increasing customer value. It's only lately that it's
               | turned to exploiting its customers as well.
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | Regulations will catch up to it, maybe in 50 years. Look
               | at cars, they started out as cobbled together death
               | traps, but today they are very user friendly and safe
               | (not the software, but the machinery). Those things
               | didn't happen thanks to car companies being nice, but
               | thanks to regulations.
        
             | c0balt wrote:
             | It does when one of, if not the only, important metric is
             | growth. And for many publicly traded companies that act in
             | the social/dating space growth tends to be a key metric.
             | After some point the "natural" growth and contraction of
             | the market will be a limiter. It's also arguably easier to
             | handle a recurring user than having to spend time on
             | acquiring new users to a platform.
        
             | phkahler wrote:
             | >> That seems like plenty of space to make a profitable
             | business.
             | 
             | Sure, but VCs and big companies want to maximize profit,
             | not just be profitable. When a profitable startup sells
             | out, that's the founders also saying "profitable isn't
             | enough for me".
        
               | rbultje wrote:
               | > When a profitable startup sells out, that's the
               | founders also saying "profitable isn't enough for me".
               | 
               | Or just "I'm done with this shit". It's remarkably
               | difficult to run a small (software) business in the US.
               | Section 174, multi-state income tax filings. It's a
               | bloody pain if your goal is not just to operate the
               | business and be overhead, but to actually do stuff.
               | Regulatory/tax complexity thresholds depending on
               | business size would be a welcome improvement.
        
             | pjerem wrote:
             | The point is, even if it works, if you need 4 months for it
             | to work instead of 1 month, that is 4 times the revenue for
             | them.
             | 
             | So yes, it have to work, at least for their reputation, but
             | it also have to not work that much.
        
             | JustinVx wrote:
             | Unless it's some utopian value-based family company, the
             | goal of any company will ultimately become to maximize
             | profit and/or growth because that is what shareholders
             | want.
        
             | szundi wrote:
             | Sorry to point out that whatever you could make helping
             | your clients happily leave you forever, you can make 5x
             | that making them suffer. It is simple math.
        
               | lallysingh wrote:
               | Unless you have competition.
        
               | imbnwa wrote:
               | Also you'll be acquired by Match.com
        
               | HeyLaughingBoy wrote:
               | This is not a convincing argument. If a dating site can't
               | get people to match, they're likely to stop using it,
               | just like any other product/service you pay for that
               | doesn't work.
        
               | Miraste wrote:
               | The user won't leave simply because the product doesn't
               | work; they'll leave if they _believe_ it won 't work. For
               | dating apps, tricking users is more profitable than
               | trying to match them. Hence all the psychological
               | warfare: fake profiles, new account boosts, fake likes,
               | blurred out likes, paid boosts, swipe stack interface,
               | etc. etc.
        
               | grotorea wrote:
               | Yeah I think this is the missing part. Even if
               | enshittification is more profitable, people should still
               | be able to just change services to a better one.
        
               | skeaker wrote:
               | Change to what? Another match.com-owned service?
        
               | grotorea wrote:
               | Yeah that's the part I haven't figured out. Why isn't
               | there a offering for the market demand for something like
               | old OKCupid? A dating site doesn't seem like an
               | enterprise that needs a lot of startup capital or
               | anything.
        
               | intended wrote:
               | Casinos are very profitable.
               | 
               | A casino with no physical upkeep ?
        
               | pcthrowaway wrote:
               | > If a dating site can't get people to match, they're
               | likely to stop using it
               | 
               | And if it succeeds in getting people to match, they
               | _definitely_ stop using it.
               | 
               | "Likely to stop using it" is the better outcome for them
               | in terms of customer retention
        
               | HeyLaughingBoy wrote:
               | Most relationships don't last forever; people come back
               | to what they know worked before.
        
           | bwanab wrote:
           | I've always had the same feeling about dentists. If they
           | really fix your teeth, you wouldn't need their services
           | anymore.
           | 
           | The logic goes for a lot of service type situations like
           | auto-repair post-warranty period.
        
             | Sharlin wrote:
             | Which is, of course, an argument for single-payer
             | healthcare. (Or even semi-centralized, insurance based
             | healthcare, for that matter). A $BIGORG has both the
             | firepower and the incentives to ensure that your bodyparts
             | stay healthy at minimum expense.
             | 
             | An anecdote: Ads like "your dentist hates this simple
             | trick" don't work at all in a single-payer system. People
             | are just baffled as to why a doctor wouldn't want you to be
             | healthy!
        
               | mhb wrote:
               | It's an argument for having dentists compete, as they do,
               | and picking the one who does a good job.
        
               | Sharlin wrote:
               | It's not like a layman can have a good idea of whether a
               | dentist has done a good job, except in cases where the
               | job was clearly botched. People can't realistically make
               | an informed choice based on dentist competence, so soft
               | metrics like patient comfort and general bellyfeel
               | dominate. Moreover, people hopefully don't need dental
               | services very frequently, so gathering enough data takes
               | a long time.
        
               | mhb wrote:
               | OK. But a single payer addresses none of those issues.
        
               | Sharlin wrote:
               | Single payer has many, many more data points from which
               | to draw conclusions.
        
               | zbentley wrote:
               | Well, it tries to. Whether or not it succeeds is the
               | subject of lots and lots of debate, but single payer
               | systems I'm aware of have accountability models driven by
               | (usually public-sector) audits and quality controls that
               | try to optimize for health outcomes. The rationale being
               | that the payer (government) spends less overall, and is
               | more likely to be supported (voted for), if the
               | population has good health outcomes in areas that the
               | government can influence via the healthcare system.
        
               | mhb wrote:
               | Paying and quality assessment don't need to be coupled.
               | The government doesn't need to be paying for the
               | healthcare in order to make recommendations aimed at
               | improving health outcomes. It would probably be happy to
               | swell its ranks by starting up a dental review board.
               | 
               | Though I'm not optimistic about either its ability to
               | fund healthcare or assess its quality.
        
             | vhcr wrote:
             | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=37022911
        
             | nonameiguess wrote:
             | This type of logic doesn't really hold for healthcare
             | providers, at least not in the US. The licensing
             | restrictions is how they make their money. The demand for
             | service so far outstrips the supply of providers that they
             | don't really need individual repeat business. They'll do
             | just fine with positive word-of-mouth. In the specific case
             | of dental care, there is also the problem that "fixing" the
             | immediate problem generally can't fix the root cause, which
             | is some combination of bad genetics and people constantly
             | drinking loads of nearly pure sugar. As long as those
             | things don't change, you'll keep coming back with new
             | problems even if they fix the old ones.
        
               | saltminer wrote:
               | > They'll do just fine with positive word-of-mouth.
               | 
               | Sometimes you don't even need that.
               | 
               | If you ever want to feel depressed, go to your city's
               | subreddit and search for "what business will you never go
               | to again?" I remember one popped up on my city's sub
               | recently, and it made me incredibly thankful for my
               | dentist. The sheer amount of shit some get away with
               | (while having ritzy offices in expensive neighborhoods)
               | is incredible. And sure, such a thread is bound to
               | attract people who have had negative experiences, but the
               | sheer quantity of complaints some places had (with nobody
               | chiming in to defend them or say something to the effect
               | of "I've never had any problems like that") spoke for
               | itself.
        
             | mhb wrote:
             | That's silly. Do you also have the same feeling about
             | carpenters, electricians and plumbers? If they fix
             | something poorly you hire a different one next time.
        
             | com2kid wrote:
             | > I've always had the same feeling about dentists. If they
             | really fix your teeth, you wouldn't need their services
             | anymore.
             | 
             | Dental problems are two fold, genetic and habitual.
             | 
             | There are people who brush and floss 2x a day and have
             | miserable teeth, their personal biome and genetics have
             | screwed them.
             | 
             | Then there are people like me, I skipped the dentist for 2
             | years and when I went the dentist said my teeth looked
             | perfect. (Though being on a keto diet for that time might
             | have helped, one dentist I had said keto is the perfect
             | diet for dental health! :) )
        
               | pc86 wrote:
               | This makes sense as things like bread, if left in your
               | teeth, eventually turn to basically sugar, and start
               | working to dissolve your teeth.
        
               | com2kid wrote:
               | > This makes sense as things like bread, if left in your
               | teeth, eventually turn to basically sugar, and start
               | working to dissolve your teeth.
               | 
               | This was in the early days of keto, back when you
               | couldn't find any keto products at the store and it was
               | just a small subreddit that spread by word of mouth.
               | 
               | I described my diet to my dentist (no carbs at all, no
               | sugar, lots of green veggies, healthy meats and fats, all
               | home cooked), and she instantly approved of it.
               | 
               | IMHO Keto has gone off the rails, no true scotsman and
               | all of that. In the early days keto shared a lot of
               | dietary stuff with paleo in regards to no processed
               | ingredients, everything from scratch, and I think that
               | made a real difference in how effective it was.
               | 
               | Before if I wanted keto ice cream I had to _make_ keto
               | ice cream. Now I can just buy it at every local grocery
               | store. Well excess calories are still excess calories...
               | 
               | Also the prepackaged keto stuff isn't as satiating as
               | from scratch keto food, and half of the benefit of keto
               | is the food is supposed to be more satiating.
               | 
               | /rant
        
             | fastasucan wrote:
             | >If they really fix your teeth, you wouldn't need their
             | services anymore.
             | 
             | Not really. A dentist fixing your dental cavity doesn't
             | stop you from gettinga new one in 10 years.
        
           | pohl wrote:
           | It sounds like a build-to-flip startup idea is to create a
           | dating service geared towards creating LTRs and growing it to
           | the point where you get on Match's radar.
        
             | hooverd wrote:
             | Nationalize it. 'partner.gov' here we come.
        
               | grotorea wrote:
               | I think this is going to start in East Asia if anywhere
        
               | RugnirViking wrote:
               | given trajectory of birth rates, plumetting sex amongst
               | youth, and various governments ratcheting up incentives
               | to have children, this may be more likely than you
               | think...
        
               | failuser wrote:
               | Singapore has a government dating service, SDU, right?
               | They try to do eugenics on top of that though, so the
               | long term relations might not have the highest priority
               | as well.
        
           | amelius wrote:
           | See also doctors and medicine.
        
           | jrvarela56 wrote:
           | Would be great if you could bid: the user signs a contract
           | where they commit to pay $X if they get married.
           | 
           | The more you commit to, the more priority the algorithm gives
           | you as it wants you to get married asap.
           | 
           | This could be easily gamed as the users could just commit to
           | absurdly high amounts and never get married - while getting
           | prioritized by the site.
        
           | xapata wrote:
           | Contracts can help. Knowing that marriage is at least
           | somewhat likely for happy couples, site users could sign an
           | agreement that they'll pay the site $1k in the event that
           | they become married to someone they meet through the site. Of
           | course this could lead to freeloaders who try to avoid
           | triggering the agreement, but that just means the contract
           | may need optimization. Freemium models can work.
        
             | michaelmrose wrote:
             | Alternatively hear me out you could have people who
             | actually care about other people make a website that treats
             | people like they want to be treated charges a modest per
             | month fee to users looking to do a good job and turn a
             | profit. Unless you've already signed a deal with the devil
             | with people who don't give a fuck about other people it
             | doesn't have to be a maximal profit per user it just needs
             | to be more than the cost to run the site.
             | 
             | If you don't constantly redesign your site or feel
             | compelled to use the most expensive hosting possible, or
             | cosplay as google it doesn't even have to be that
             | expensive. A single actual physical computer could serve a
             | hell of a lot of people for a modest amount of money. The
             | $20 OK cupid charges per user could trivially pay for the
             | oh so complicated task of allowing people to find and
             | message like minded users.
             | 
             | A doctor doesn't need to work around the market economics
             | of not making people sick so you can cure them they have
             | agency they can choose just to be a good doctor and most of
             | them do.
        
               | ignite wrote:
               | I think many of the dating sites started that way. That's
               | why they were better in the beginning. But eventually,
               | they go public, or get acquired, and end up getting run
               | by people who are bottom line focused.
        
             | jstarfish wrote:
             | People are avoiding marriage these days and experimenting
             | with noncontractual arrangements like polyamory. Even
             | before the fraud materializes, the proposed system would be
             | a total failure based on societal changes.
             | 
             | Always get paid upfront. Net-anything just gives others
             | time to find a way to cheat you.
        
               | pcthrowaway wrote:
               | I think 40-60% of people are still seeking escalator-
               | style relationships that would result in marriage (even
               | if they're not seeking such relationships immediately),
               | which is an enormous number of people
        
           | oooyay wrote:
           | > OKCupid had a model that increases the likelihood of
           | matching with someone and ...never using OKCupid again.
           | 
           | That was OKCupids claim, but was this claim ever proven
           | through data that directly affirmed that as an outcome?
           | 
           | Often these websites have tiered profit schemes that can milk
           | a user for $100+/m. Sometimes they gamify it, like loot
           | boxing, to make it more lucrative. I don't remember OKCupid
           | being any different.
        
             | phonon wrote:
             | http://web.archive.org/web/20100821041938/http://blog.okcup
             | i...
        
             | jstarfish wrote:
             | Slow release may not be a bad thing. Modern dating seems so
             | dehumanizing...if the NPC you're matched with doesn't check
             | all of your preference boxes, reroll them.
             | 
             | But if OKCupid drags this process out so you only get n
             | matches per month, they maximize revenue while maybe
             | encouraging people to appreciate each other's differences.
             | 
             | Like getting a "crappy" CD from Columbia House...might as
             | well listen to it. Maybe it'll grow on you!
        
           | saint_fiasco wrote:
           | > There are some things that you simply CANNOT express in a
           | "free market" because the measure of their success cannot be
           | expressed in market terms.
           | 
           | Sure you can. If you want to measure the success of your
           | matchmaking company in market terms, you could charge users
           | for your matchmaking service and then return their money if
           | they don't get married. You put your money where your mouth
           | is by betting on the success of the couples you suggest.
           | 
           | I think companies don't try this strategy because it would be
           | too expensive for the end user. You would need to charge
           | thousands of dollars to make up for the hard work of
           | matchmaking and the risk of bad matches. Not something an
           | internet startup can do at scale.
        
             | YouSuck2 wrote:
             | And do they return the money in the case of divorce?
        
               | saint_fiasco wrote:
               | Probably not. If they got to the point of needing a
               | divorce that means the relationship looked like it was
               | going to work, so much so that the people involved agreed
               | to marry.
               | 
               | No online service can possibly promise to be more
               | thorough in their due diligence than the actual humans
               | who chose to marry each other.
        
             | petsfed wrote:
             | There's also the issue of having a bunch of cash on hand to
             | pay out. Plenty of companies do unlimited PTO or bar PTO
             | roll-over, specifically to limit the liability of payouts.
             | 
             | Also, if the relationship is abusive and the abused spouse
             | is beaten into a marriage, are they owed a refund upon
             | divorce? Death? Incentivizing speedy marriages, as opposed
             | to good matches, is unambiguously bad for individuals and
             | society at large.
             | 
             | There's not really a way to do rent-seeking on matchmaking
             | without breaking matchmaking, so maybe don't seek rent on
             | the matching itself? Just let your revenue stream be
             | advertising. It's fine.
        
               | saint_fiasco wrote:
               | > Plenty of companies do unlimited PTO or bar PTO roll-
               | over
               | 
               | That's a good idea. In this hypothetical app, if a couple
               | stays together for a couple of years they should forfeit
               | the right to get their money back even if they later
               | break up. This reduces the amount of cash the company has
               | to keep, at the cost of merely promising years-long
               | relationships instead of marriages.
               | 
               | > Incentivizing speedy marriages, as opposed to good
               | matches, is unambiguously bad for individuals and society
               | at large.
               | 
               | How is that unambiguous? It seems to me like an empirical
               | question. Are people taking too many risks with their
               | relationships, or too little? The answer is different for
               | each person, or even for the same person at different
               | stages of their life. Very ambiguous stuff.
        
               | petsfed wrote:
               | Time spent dating, or in a long-term relationship, prior
               | to marriage is positively correlated with enduring
               | marriage. That is, people who date each other for 3 years
               | or more prior to marriage are 50% less likely to get a
               | divorce than those who don't[0]. Thus, it pays societal
               | dividends to encourage people to take their time and
               | really get to know each other before getting married.
               | Saying "the sooner you get married, the sooner you get
               | your money back" or worse still "stay together without
               | getting married for too long, and you risk not getting
               | your money back" specifically discourages the behaviors
               | that prevent domestic violence (including child abuse).
               | What I believe we want is marriages that uplift their
               | members, and minimize spousal abuse. Making people feel
               | like they can't afford to _not_ get married is the exact
               | same phenomenon that drove up domestic violence during
               | the COVID lockdowns[1].
               | 
               | If you're telling me that more abusive marriages is
               | _better_ for society, I don 't think we have enough
               | common ground to discuss this.
               | 
               | 0. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-
               | and-keep/...
               | 
               | 1. https://www.ucdavis.edu/curiosity/news/covid-19-isolat
               | ion-li...
        
               | no_wizard wrote:
               | Unlimited PTO is poorly worded and always felt like a
               | scam to me
               | 
               | It's not really unlimited and people tend to take less
               | overall
        
             | amelius wrote:
             | Nope because this can easily be gamed, since getting
             | married doesn't need to cost much.
             | 
             | Also the free market still needs a central authority for
             | any proofs.
        
               | saint_fiasco wrote:
               | > this can easily be gamed
               | 
               | There are other online services like Uber and AirBnB in
               | which it is much easier to cheat by communicating with
               | your counterpart outside of the app, that way you don't
               | have to pay commissions and so on. It's a serious problem
               | for them.
               | 
               | But this hypothetical online service marries people.
               | Fraud is much riskier there, because divorce can be
               | extremely expensive if your partner-in-fraud doesn't
               | cooperate.
               | 
               | > the free market still needs a central authority for any
               | proofs
               | 
               | Isn't marriage a relatively centralized institution? The
               | central authority that marries people can easily provide
               | proof that they indeed married some people.
        
             | petsfed wrote:
             | Somehow I re-read your post like 4 times and still thought
             | you were saying "get married _AND_ your money back ", not
             | "get married _or_ your money back ".
             | 
             | So here I am, downvoting my own posts.
             | 
             | I will say that your idea is trivially gamed. What startup
             | is going to keep the legal staff on retainer to sue every
             | person who "breaks up" with their partner, gets their
             | refund check, and uses it to buy an engagement ring?
        
             | intended wrote:
             | In a free market an inefficient model loses market share
             | and gets bought out. Then it's converted to the efficient
             | model.
             | 
             | That said, firms exist with that model.
        
           | jjkaczor wrote:
           | Ding ding ding, I met my current partner on OKCupid 9 years
           | ago, don't think I will ever need to return. (fingers-
           | crossed, knock-on-wood, [insert-platitude-here)
           | 
           | Seeing as I have a "face for radio", I doubt I would ever
           | manage to date seriously on "swipe right/left" platforms.
        
           | fidotron wrote:
           | You absolutely could do market based dating where people can
           | bid how much a date with the other would be worth and you
           | match everyone every few days based on the highest sum of
           | bids, collecting the difference.
           | 
           | So if A wants to date B and bids 60 and B will pay 40 to date
           | A the match will cost A 20 plus fees.
           | 
           | This would cut to the chase amazingly fast, which isn't what
           | people want.
        
             | RugnirViking wrote:
             | or, and hear me out, we could actually not make dating into
             | a finacialized instrument?
             | 
             | Sorry but I have quite a viscerally bad reaction to such a
             | proposal. Sure it could work in some sense of finding value
             | price pairs or whatever where people's preferences aren't
             | clear.
             | 
             | But it also seems extremely dystopian and horrifying,
             | particularly applied to the dating market. It would be
             | similar with finding friends. People do this naturally and
             | normally on their own for free no problem if you put them
             | in a big room together. It neeeds no incentive
        
               | HPsquared wrote:
               | A lot of people don't seem to do it in today's society.
               | Hence the need for these sites.
        
               | jerf wrote:
               | "or, and hear me out, we could actually not make dating
               | into a finacialized instrument?"
               | 
               | I dunno. I kinda look forward to the news stories about
               | the Economic Collapse of 2035 being due to the market
               | finally realizing that too many supposedly AAA Date-
               | Backed Securities were actually Non-Investment Grade Junk
               | Dates, and the subsequent revaluation of the Date Market
               | caused the entire banking system to become insolvent
               | because all the dates they were holding on their books as
               | marked to maturity are in fact never going to be anything
               | but immature, and consequently must be marked down to
               | their actual market value of Zero.
               | 
               | I mean, it's a pretty realistic economic threat. Who
               | doesn't have a story of something they anticipated being
               | a AAA Rated Date turning out to have junk date status?
               | Definitely a lot of mismatched incentives all the way
               | around.
        
             | bawolff wrote:
             | So prostitution with extra steps?
        
             | krisoft wrote:
             | > This would cut to the chase amazingly fast, which isn't
             | what people want.
             | 
             | I think you just reinvented sex work, but somehow made it
             | more icky?
             | 
             | The main and big problem with this if anyone would consider
             | it for dating for real, which probably they wouldn't so no
             | big worry, is what is in the price? So A just paid 20
             | dollars for the pleasure of having a date with B. What did
             | A buy? Does B have to stay at the date for a set time? Is B
             | obligued to listen enthusiastically to A? Does B have to
             | laugh at A's jokes? Even if they are lame? And then of
             | course what happens when A thinks they paid for sex and B
             | thinks not?
        
               | zbentley wrote:
               | Yeah. I think the problem is with an underlying
               | assumption in GP's post: that because dating as a system
               | _sometimes behaves game-theoretically_ it is therefore
               | _equivalent to a system of economic transactions_.
               | 
               | I think that is only sometimes true, usually in
               | situations where relationships are mainly economic
               | decisions. As prosperity increases and pay/power
               | differences between genders shrink, it is becoming less
               | frequently true, and less true on a per-relationship
               | basis, over time.
        
               | ben_w wrote:
               | > I think you just reinvented sex work, but somehow made
               | it more icky?
               | 
               | Or possibly expensive engagement/wedding rings in non-
               | jewellery form.
               | 
               | On a separate point, some of my socialist (and in a few
               | cases literally communist) friends assert that the issues
               | at the intersection of sex work with consent also apply
               | to all other work under capitalism; I don't have a strong
               | counter-argument to this.
               | 
               | Money is fundamentally unnatural, so it's not surprising
               | that it feels wrong and icky in a lot of situations.
        
           | nonameiguess wrote:
           | > OKCupid had a model that increases the likelihood of
           | matching with someone and ...never using OKCupid again.
           | 
           | This wasn't necessarily true. I actually met my wife on
           | OkCupid, all the way back in 2007 originally, and she wasn't
           | even the first long-term relationship I ended up off of the
           | site, which was back in 2004. OkCupid used to have social
           | features, allowing you to maintain a personal blog and follow
           | other user's blogs. A whole lot of us had a pretty nice
           | community, couchsurfing, visiting each other when we traveled
           | for work. That was even how I met my wife, through the blogs,
           | not by direct solicitation of a date. We didn't even live on
           | the same coast when we met, but eventually moved to the same
           | city by chance and ended up together.
           | 
           | When Match Group bought the site, they killed these features
           | and there was no longer any reason to stick around, but a lot
           | of us had stuck around long after pairing off and marrying.
           | For a long time, we even stayed in touch via other means and
           | continued meeting up in person when we had the chance.
           | Unfortunately, Facebook was the main place they all settled,
           | and I did not want to stick around on Facebook, so mostly
           | I've lost touch with these people now. But we had a nice
           | community for a long time, even a nearly global community,
           | with people in the Americas, Europe, Asia, and Australia.
           | 
           | Heck, even the reason I originally joined OkCupid wasn't with
           | the intention of finding dates. It was because of an old
           | vBulletin forum I was on for Armenians in Los Angeles where a
           | bunch of people took the personality tests and compared
           | results, so I joined to do that. But things were different
           | enough in 2004 that I didn't need to seek out dates. Women
           | just messaged me and asked me out because they weren't yet
           | overloaded with spam and jaded from the Internet turning to
           | shit.
           | 
           | The Internet was different in a lot of ways back then.
           | OkCupid was founded by nerd grad students that mostly wanted
           | to prove they could apply math to romance. But then they
           | discovered math could actually make them rich, and Match
           | Group never gave a shit and only cared about money from the
           | start. I suspect much of what eventually became shit started
           | that way. Larry and Sergey were probably legitimate math
           | nerds, too. Mark Zuckerberg probably just wanted to hot-or-
           | not his classmates. But then they all discovered they could
           | get rich and investors killed the fun.
        
         | nonethewiser wrote:
         | The dynamic you describe and the dynamic the article describes
         | are completely independent. Your comment is completely beside
         | the point.
         | 
         | Its an article about the negative impact of catering to every
         | use case. Not about why OKcupid sucks. Which makes your comment
         | rather off topic.
        
       | throwaway290 wrote:
       | > Yes, if you neglect the existing users' experience for long
       | enough they will leave, but in practice apps are sticky and by
       | the time your loyal users leave everyone on the team will have
       | long been promoted.
       | 
       | This is why interoperability should be mandated, then you are not
       | locked in and they have to care!
        
       | mellosouls wrote:
       | This article seems to misdiagnose completely what is going on,
       | using an established description to boot and flipping it (without
       | explaining where he has lifted the phrase from).
       | 
       |  _The Tyranny of the Majority_ [1] for instance is a well-known
       | phrase that when applied to markets succinctly describes the
       | tendency to blandness and conformity as once-niche products
       | remove bit by bit the original and distinguishing features that
       | made them _marginally_ successful.
       | 
       | The hypothetical user described is just a representation of
       | short-attention spans; the mix of concepts apparently adding to
       | the author's confusion here.
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tyranny_of_the_majority
        
       | epivosism wrote:
       | I wonder whether the flattening of product depth is a unique
       | founder effect, or is destined to happen due to the eventual
       | formation of monopolies?
       | 
       | Take photo sharing as an example.
       | 
       | Early Flickr was amazing. It had tons of features - great varied
       | groups of all types, a huge licensed image search system, great
       | tags, etc. I joined regional groups, and also criticism groups
       | for street photos, etc. Their comment system wasn't just text, it
       | had annotations and they were doing interesting things with
       | geolocation, too.
       | 
       | Then yahoo killed it and now Instagram rules, with fewer
       | features, more addiction and less depth. Flickr had addiction
       | loops too but that wasn't the main focus.
       | 
       | What causes this shrinking of product space?
       | 
       | Is it that the first companies to get mindshare have more
       | product-exploration power than later entries? So if the early
       | companies are creative, they can expand the product space a lot,
       | and uniquely have time to do so. If so, we can just blame yahoo
       | for ruining Flickr, and they actually had a chance.
       | 
       | Alternatively, maybe at late stages competition is so high you'll
       | always get the extreme focus on the best DAU maximizing loops?
       | And eventual monopoly with a small product.
        
         | candiddevmike wrote:
         | Are products becoming less sophisticated because users are
         | getting dumber/lazier, or are users getting dumber/lazier
         | because products are becoming less sophisticated?
        
           | vsskanth wrote:
           | I think its because you need feature parity with smartphones
           | where you can't have too much UI complexity, otherwise it
           | becomes too hard to use with just your fingers, compared to a
           | desktop website where you have a keyboard and mouse to use
           | outside the screen.
        
             | fsckboy wrote:
             | > _smartphones where you can 't have too much UI
             | complexity_
             | 
             | this is a good hypothesis, except smartphone apps have much
             | less UI feature complexity than is possible on a
             | smartphone, i.e. it still seems to be a conscious choice to
             | dumb down smart phone apps beyond what the UI and users can
             | handle. A familiar example is banking apps, I have accounts
             | at a number of large US banks, and in every case the phone
             | apps leave out swaths of capabilities that their websites
             | have, things like letting me see what Zelles I've sent to a
             | particular person, "contact the bank" messaging, etc.
             | 
             | image editing apps are another example, 100's of them in
             | the app stores, but they're less feature rich than Windows
             | Paint from 30 years ago. when they do something fancy, it's
             | frequently because they are an app for doing that one
             | thing.
        
             | epivosism wrote:
             | This is an often used argument by PMs, definitely. Kind of
             | a headshot on anything sophisticated
             | 
             | The fact that it also kills known useful things like VS,
             | Photoshop isn't recognized and we continue to allow this
             | invalid argument
        
           | diego_sandoval wrote:
           | The average user used to be an 18-40 year old person with
           | post-secondary education, in a mid to high income country,
           | using a laptop.
           | 
           | Now, The average user is a 10-65 year old person using a
           | smartphone.
        
           | freedomben wrote:
           | IMHO it's both. There will always be the possiblity of
           | gaining more users by dumbing down the app, but the more
           | things dumb down in general the dumber people get. It's a
           | positive feedback loop.
        
           | bigstrat2003 wrote:
           | ?Por que no los dos?
           | 
           | Companies dumb down their products to appeal to the masses,
           | who then get dumber because they have nothing nudging them to
           | get better. It's a vicious cycle imo.
        
           | fsckboy wrote:
           | > _Are products becoming less sophisticated because users are
           | getting dumber /lazier,_
           | 
           | > _or are users getting dumber /lazier because products are
           | becoming less sophisticated?_
           | 
           | or, in search of increased customer growth, is deeper product
           | penetration into the bottom half of the sophistication bell-
           | curve continually sieving ideas through fewer synaptic
           | connections/simpler semantic nets
        
         | Groxx wrote:
         | It's probably safe to claim that _part_ of it (and what likely
         | killed Flickr) is that the original owners are usually more
         | able to make _coherent_ product features and explorations. They
         | built something in the field because they knew something about
         | the field.
         | 
         | Once they're bought up by some other company, in particular any
         | conglomerate, it gets worked on by a bunch of people who are
         | experts _at building products in general_ , not experts _in
         | that product 's field_. So they naturally try stuff that is
         | less of a fit for the field it was originally targeted at...
         | and potentially a better fit for "can make any money at all",
         | I'm not trying to claim the new owners are all idiots. Just
         | that the driving interests and expertise have shifted from what
         | originally made it compelling, and that'll nearly always become
         | less coherent as a product. At least until they have fully
         | rebuilt it in their image.
         | 
         | And then purchasers in the same field can sometimes escape this
         | "now built by generalists" trap. Sometimes.
        
           | esafak wrote:
           | You raise a good point but you are too generous. The buyer
           | tends to be mercenary. I think generic "professional"
           | management only ends well in mature products and companies,
           | where the main task is to increase efficiency. I don't expect
           | the buyer to innovate the product.
        
             | Groxx wrote:
             | Conglomerates are IMO almost always mercenary and damaging,
             | yeah.
             | 
             | They're far from the only company purchases happening
             | though, e.g. many small companies that grow too quickly
             | sell to something larger to simply have the manpower and
             | money to handle the new scale, and sometimes that ends up
             | better for everyone. You just don't usually hear about
             | these because they quietly work, and they don't involve
             | globally-recognized names.
        
         | ghaff wrote:
         | >Then yahoo killed it and now Instagram rules, with fewer
         | features, more addiction and less depth. Flickr had addiction
         | loops too but that wasn't the main focus.
         | 
         | Though Flickr does exist (owned by SmugMug). No idea how their
         | finances are. I expect so so.
         | 
         | You're right that community has gone away to a large degree.
         | But I'm not sure how much power Flickr had to influence that
         | other than _becoming_ Instagram--which the prosumer crowd would
         | mostly have hated.
         | 
         | Sometimes the mainstream crowd moves on from you and your
         | choices are to more or less either let them or adapt in ways
         | that aren't true to your vision.
        
           | epivosism wrote:
           | Yes, in this case I don't know. Flickr originally was
           | developed by Stuart Butterfeld (among others) and he for one
           | went on to do another amazing job at Slack. So clearly
           | product was awesome there. Personally for me flickr got super
           | slow and crappy for me, and also deleted my dad's 40k photo
           | archive w/no warning and ignored appeal messages from
           | multiple people on BS charges (He'd scanned an old newspaper
           | article mentioning his father which tripped an auto-copyright
           | system). Prior to that it was the clear market leader. But it
           | basically stopped ever being linked to or showing up later
           | on. So I think Yahoo effectively sped up the decline. It's
           | not clear whether something like insta would always have won.
           | Or even whether instagram is actually even economically ideal
           | right now.
        
       | epolanski wrote:
       | > And I just don't expect to meet my wife in a nightclub.
       | 
       | I did?
       | 
       | I mean, you can meet a significant other or friend in any kind of
       | place. I kind of get what the author is trying to say but it's
       | ill phrased.
        
       | efitz wrote:
       | The article doesn't mention a number of contributing problems
       | such as monopoly power. I want to highlight growth as such a
       | problem.
       | 
       | Perhaps Ycombinator is the wrong place to bring up such a point,
       | but the idea of constant growth in user base as the source of
       | value in a company almost certainly contributes significantly to
       | the problems discussed in the article.
       | 
       | What happened to community? The businesses I like to deal with
       | are rooted in my area, owned and operated by local people with
       | faces, and I willingly go interact with them.
       | 
       | I have no such loyalty to large faceless internet companies, and
       | negative loyalty to companies that enshittify everything as a way
       | to eke out profit when bound to forever growth fantasies.
        
         | npsimons wrote:
         | > I have no such loyalty to large faceless internet companies,
         | and negative loyalty to companies that enshittify everything as
         | a way to eke out profit when bound to forever growth fantasies.
         | 
         | You do, sure. But you're not a marginal user.
         | 
         | A lot of the fine article reads to me as a sort of elitism,
         | albeit one I find myself falling prey to: the tyranny of the
         | masses, the normies, the filthy casuals, that ruin everything.
         | 
         | I'm not sure where I'm going with this train of thought
         | (possibly derailed, or just no steam), but I'd like to throw in
         | that elitism is not _always_ a bad thing.
        
         | seizethecheese wrote:
         | > the idea of constant growth in user base as the source of
         | value in a company
         | 
         | This is a straw man. The primary source of value is the future
         | cash flow. Since a long future is considered, growth is highly
         | prized. I consider this a major achievement of mankind, to be
         | able to value the future, today. Without this reasoning,
         | financing for new businesses would cease to exist.
        
           | bsenftner wrote:
           | That's a good point. I think you're referencing a Present
           | Value calculation? My big issue with a lot of valuation
           | techniques is they are based on exponential growth. That
           | strikes me as overly optimistic, leading to decisions that
           | overlook profitable businesses that do not grow
           | exponentially.
        
             | selectodude wrote:
             | They're based on constant growth. I guess over a long
             | enough time frame, constant growth is exponential, but not
             | in the windows that an investor expects to be paid back.
             | 
             | Exponential growth is only expected in software because the
             | development costs are so high and the marginal costs are so
             | low. There's zero cost to growth, which makes it a winner-
             | take-all market.
        
               | seizethecheese wrote:
               | Both of these points are wrong.
               | 
               | A business that's shrinking but throwing off cash is with
               | a lot still. Only the valuation multiple is based on
               | growth.
               | 
               | Exponential growth is expected in startups of all
               | industries, software only makes the margins and
               | distribution easier.
        
               | bsenftner wrote:
               | Exponential growth is also expected within new businesses
               | within an established corporation. Similar to software's
               | margins and distribution advantage, an existing
               | corporation can often pursue new businesses with an
               | existing infrastructure that approaches minimal
               | additional expense beyond human salaries. The reference
               | to "hurdle rate" is an often used term by corporate MBAs
               | evaluating the worth of a new line of business.
        
         | AlbertCory wrote:
         | As I said, my anti-growth example is the local family
         | restaurant, that's hugely successful and profitable, popular,
         | provides steady employment to new family members, and is not
         | trying to take over the world.
         | 
         | If it throws off profits, those can be invested in _other_
         | businesses, not in growing the restaurant.
        
           | raisedbyninjas wrote:
           | If local familiy restaurants worked like apps and had no
           | virtually no marginal costs to feed another user or serve a
           | new entree, then it would stop being an anti-growth example.
           | Cheesecake Factory+ would scale up and then the market would
           | clone and chase them.
        
             | AlbertCory wrote:
             | I don't even understand the point of this. If my
             | grandmother had wheels she'd be a bus.
        
           | astrange wrote:
           | Your local family restaurant is a low-value-added frontend
           | for Sysco. Or in Marxist terms, they're petit-bourgeois
           | feudalists, which isn't even as good as being a capitalist
           | because it doesn't increase prosperity.
        
             | AlbertCory wrote:
             | Marxist insults: those should work /s
        
         | hyggetrold wrote:
         | If you read the writing of Yvon Chouinard, the founder of
         | Patagonia, he calls out growth as the underlying cause of these
         | issues. Our current economic system is oriented around growth
         | and the assumption that it can continue indefinitely.
        
           | bad_user wrote:
           | Growth means prosperity.
           | 
           | Also, the idea that the economy requires growth is BS, it's
           | just that economic stagnation or recession currently means
           | some people are going to be starving. And if you actually
           | look at the world, with its still growing population in some
           | countries, or an aging population in others, it's pretty
           | clear why people starve when growth stops, and it has nothing
           | to do with capitalism, or The Man.
        
             | AlbertCory wrote:
             | Granting that for the sake of argument:
             | 
             | That applies to the economy _as a whole._ It doesn 't mean
             | that every single corporation in the economy has to grow,
             | beyond the general rate of GDP growth.
        
             | kridsdale3 wrote:
             | Sustainable growth means prosperity. Unsustainable growth
             | is taking out a loan against the future without any certain
             | plan that it can be paid.
        
             | nequo wrote:
             | Japan hasn't had much GDP growth since 1990. You could say
             | that its economy is stagnating. Yet starvation is hardly a
             | defining phenomenon for its population. They have one of
             | the highest life expectancies. Healthcare is widely
             | available. Technological progress did not stop. And wealth
             | inequality in this economy is among the lowest in the
             | world.
        
               | bsenftner wrote:
               | I'm a N. American developer who worked in Tokyo for 6
               | months back in '94. The most striking aspect of Japanese
               | culture that is not present in N. America is a shared
               | identity that everyone collaborates to make Japan and
               | Japanese culture better. The common everyone, it seemed,
               | held that value. Which is 100% absent from N. American
               | culture; here our cultural value is "get mine, from you
               | if possible, f everyone else" it seems.
        
               | tick_tock_tick wrote:
               | > Yet starvation is hardly a defining phenomenon for its
               | population.
               | 
               | Isn't malnutrition a huge issue in Japan? That and
               | massive increases in poverty especially for the elderly?
        
           | kridsdale3 wrote:
           | There is a reason Patagonia is consistently rated as the most
           | favorable brand in America.
        
           | pxc wrote:
           | > Our current economic system is oriented around growth and
           | the assumption that it can continue indefinitely.
           | 
           | It's worse than that. For the present system to function
           | correctly, growth _must_ continue indefinitely. Even just a
           | _slower pace_ of growth constitutes a crisis under our
           | current economic system.
        
             | charlie0 wrote:
             | Embedded debt obligations
        
         | joe_the_user wrote:
         | Yeah, this certainly isn't on the users. The change is
         | monopolies but perhaps even more, the end to the growth of the
         | Internet. Both of these imply that each company needs to
         | leverage each user it has. And that basically means pushing the
         | users to make choices in every single situation where the user
         | can be pushed.
         | 
         | Here, you have various ideologies of user interface. One is
         | approach that users are idiots/"easily confused" and need to be
         | treated-as-such/"given clear direction. Another seems to this
         | reference to the marginal user - that our product is craptasm
         | of dark pattern 'cause we have to satisfy the least common
         | denominator (it's Google, so maybe we're just on dark gray
         | patterns currently).
        
         | scythe wrote:
         | > such as monopoly power.
         | 
         | The article does mention monopoly power, but it uses instead
         | the term 'network effects'. These are not exactly the same, but
         | in the realm of social media and similar platforms, they're
         | very close.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | mschuster91 wrote:
         | > The article doesn't mention a number of contributing problems
         | such as monopoly power. I want to highlight growth as such a
         | problem.
         | 
         | Indeed, and it shows when you look at how and where money is
         | invested. Transoceanic fiber cables [1]... on paper it's a Good
         | Thing that Africa and other historically piss poor regions get
         | access to fast Internet, no doubt there. Or that Facebook pays
         | many millions of dollars to regional ISPs for zero-rating,
         | which helps them build out infrastructure.
         | 
         | But IMO, this is not genuine. The priorities for the mega tech
         | companies _clearly_ are to get more users hooked to their
         | walled gardens, as the Western markets are already saturated
         | and no further growth of the MLM pyramid /snowball scam is
         | possible. Receiver nations are grasping at straws, it's obvious
         | why - they need the infrastructure and have no way to pay for
         | it - but it's going to bite them in the ass in the mid future.
         | 
         | [1] https://www.businessinsider.com/google-facebook-giant-
         | unders...
        
       | harpiaharpyja wrote:
       | This really seems to give words to a feeling that I've had, which
       | is that technology has been steadily getting worse - i.e. less
       | useful and more user-hostile - over the past decade or so.
       | 
       | It's too bad, because there was some amazing product creativity
       | going on in the past, and the future really did seem bright. But
       | I feel not that we missed out on an imagined future, but that we
       | are actually going backwards - thanks to enshittification and
       | this perverse incentive structure.
        
         | seabass-labrax wrote:
         | There's a hidden optimism even in this. If some technology
         | (often open source and hobbyist-developed) is getting better
         | despite a fraction of the funding of mainstream commercial
         | technology products, think what we could do if somehow there
         | was an enlightenment either of software users or developers to
         | eliminate the 'Marl' state.
        
       | layer8 wrote:
       | > I know this force well, and I hate it, but I do not yet know
       | how to fight it.
       | 
       | This can only be solved by company owners caring more about the
       | usefulness of their product than about profit maximization. Being
       | merely profitable should be fine. Being profitable should be a
       | vehicle for creating and maintaining a good product, and not the
       | other way around.
       | 
       | This also means that metrics like DAU and automated methods like
       | A/B testing are no substitute for having good judgement,
       | listening to users, and doing in-person usability studies.
        
       | theresistor wrote:
       | Building off of the idea in here, the margin user also underlies
       | the explosion of software scale: the software itself (how can
       | these apps be so big?) and the teams (why do they need so many
       | people?).
       | 
       | When all that counts is gaining that N+1'th user, there's a
       | strong incentive to pile on one-off features and special cases to
       | ensure that every potential new user has a tailor-made first
       | experience to hook them in. Facebook and Uber both lean heavily
       | into this, for example.
        
       | ultra-jeremyx wrote:
       | Are there any examples of _consumer_ software that has an
       | interface for the Marginal User, and a different interface for
       | others? The only example that comes to mind is something like
       | TweetDeck, but I believe that was killed off in the new Elmo/X
       | era.
        
         | BWStearns wrote:
         | gmail had a kind of hidden option for adding keyboard shortcuts
         | and their labs options. Not really a fully different interface
         | but for a long time they kept that pretty lively.
         | 
         | Unfortunately gmail has fallen off pretty hard lately. I can't
         | even reliably expect my attachments to actually send the past
         | few weeks.
        
           | TheDong wrote:
           | email still has non-marginal-interfaces available in general
           | though.
           | 
           | You can still configure some combination of mutt,
           | offlineimap, sendmail, etc to work with gmail and view your
           | emails locally in a proper viewer.
           | 
           | Or use thunderbird I guess, though thunderbird feels pretty
           | "marginal user" focused compared to mutt.
        
           | ultra-jeremyx wrote:
           | Oh yeah, and they had Inbox, which I LOVED, and sadly, they
           | killed off
        
       | lanza wrote:
       | This is also how politics works at this point. Politicians get
       | A/B tested to maximize DAUs -- e.g. Fox News viewers and thus
       | their voters.
       | 
       | Political party stances are the local maxima of AB testing
       | talking points to their userbase around engagement.
        
       | LAC-Tech wrote:
       | I found this article pretty insightful. The big successful
       | companies all focus on the marginal user, and everyone wants to
       | ape FAANG. Wonder if that's the disconnect I see in some smaller
       | SAAS based companies, aping companies who design for the marginal
       | user which is *not* their bread and butter.
        
       | can3p wrote:
       | This is not a tyranny if's marginal user, this is corporate
       | mechanics and metrics at play. Every big company has a number of
       | North Star metrics. If you move them in right direction you get
       | promotions and recognition, since the metrics are used as a proxy
       | for customer benefit
       | 
       | The problem though is that it's relatively easy to game the
       | metrics, especially in short term hence the popular sport is to
       | pump the metric, get promotion and move on to a different project
       | before the negative consequences are evident.
       | 
       | Eg if your metric is conversion you can exploit it in lots of
       | really dark ways
       | 
       | In even bigger companies like google it's possible to repeat this
       | action many times and the result is obvious. You can see how this
       | could work with acquired products - of course the first changes
       | will be to bring them to Xcorp scale, stack or standards which
       | can mean years without new features
       | 
       | It works completely differently with hobby projects because of
       | different incentives. I'm 100% sure that the best things in the
       | world are created when their authors do them just for the sake it
       | using their vision.
       | 
       | Unfortunately you cannot really grind in this way. So if you have
       | to implement a login using 100 different auth systems, the
       | approach should be different
        
       | Semaphor wrote:
       | > I'm now quite skeptical of quantification of romance and the
       | idea that similarity makes for good relationships.
       | 
       | That was part of what made OkCupid amazing: It wasn't even always
       | similarity. You could answer a Question with A, want your match
       | to answer with B or C, and assign how important that answer is.
       | 
       | This level of "complexity" seems unthinkable in modern apps.
       | 
       | I, too, met my wife on OkCupid around 2014, we both had over 1000
       | questions answered. Luckily, you could also get matches outside
       | your area, she was on another continent ;)
       | 
       | Another thing I realized is that as an average looking, slightly
       | overweight guy, you could easily get replies from "rarely
       | replies" women by actually reading their profile and writing more
       | than one sentence without being an asshole.
        
       | nullifidian wrote:
       | Why not segment user interfaces for different demographics by
       | creating several apps (or switchable app modes) -- one for the
       | "marginal" users, another for the less "marginal" "normal" users,
       | and another for "sophisticated" ones who want more options and
       | control and are prepared to pay for it by tolerating increased
       | complexity?
        
       | gunshai wrote:
       | > the attention span of a goldfish on acid
       | 
       | I happen to have quite a long attention span on acid I'll have
       | you know!
        
       | densh wrote:
       | I feel like the same idea applies to programming languages and
       | frameworks equally well: marginal users whom you want to attract
       | dictate evolution and prioritization of new developments.
       | Ultimately, those changes hurt existing users due to evergrowing
       | complexity and feature bloat. Eventually, the need arises to find
       | the next best lightweight language or framework and the wheel
       | spins one more time.
        
       | adolph wrote:
       | I like how this article doesn't mention dopamine. On the other
       | hand, I think that the key challenge is that brain activity that
       | was well suited for contexts that prevailed for a long time long
       | ago are less well adapted for things available today.
       | 
       | From Nir Eyal, author of "Hooked:"
       | 
       |  _Here, companies leverage two pulleys of human behavior -
       | motivation and ability. To increase the odds of a user taking the
       | intended action, the behavior designer makes the action as easy
       | as possible, while simultaneously boosting the user's
       | motivation._
       | 
       | [...]
       | 
       |  _Bizarrely, we perceive this trance-like state as fun. This is
       | because our brains are wired to search endlessly for the next
       | reward, never satisfied. Recent neuroscience has revealed that
       | our dopamine system works not to provide us with rewards for our
       | efforts, but to keep us searching by inducing a semi-stressful
       | response we call desire._
       | 
       | https://www.nirandfar.com/how-to-manufacture-desire/
        
         | ivee wrote:
         | yeah designing anti-dopaminergic (maybe serotonergic?) tech is
         | a class of solutions I'm especially excited about. Like browser
         | extensions that cut out the little dopamine-triggering UI
         | elements that designers keep adding in.
        
       | foxfired wrote:
       | Many years ago, I felt frustrated by this marginal user we were
       | catering to at work. I called him "The Busy Man" [1] and wrote
       | about it because no one at work would listen to me.
       | 
       | > The busy man only has 48 hours to spare to learn JavaScript.
       | The busy only has 24 hours to get more friends on your new social
       | network. Only has 12 hours to decide which shoe to buy. Only has
       | 10 minutes to wait for that email. Only has 2 minutes to read
       | that long article you wrote. Only has 30 seconds to know what
       | your product does. Only 8 seconds to register on your website.
       | The busy man has only 2 seconds to spare to like your website.
       | 
       | [1]: https://idiallo.com/blog/the-busy-man (2015)
        
       | par wrote:
       | The problem with this article is that I'm trying to read it
       | during a meeting and I can't stop laughing out loud. Love hearing
       | about Marl the every user.
        
       | Kapura wrote:
       | Feels like this is tyranny of easily measured metrics. If your
       | north star metric is something more focused (number of fun
       | dates!) that incentivizes features and experiments that push that
       | number up, but if the number is DAU, suddenly you've decoupled
       | "success" from the actual intention of the website or app.
       | 
       | Obviously, "number of fun dates" is a lot harder to measure,
       | relying as it would on surveys with low response % and a variety
       | of circumstantial factors. Whereas you can easily measure DAU,
       | and put them on nice charts that point up and to the right to
       | justify a bonus for some executive. Such is life.
       | 
       | Finally, there's a level of personal responsibility. Code doesn't
       | get worse without developers making it that way. If you think
       | your job is bullshit, making things worse, say something, and
       | leave. Do your best to not be part of the problem.
        
         | makeitdouble wrote:
         | The active user metrics doesn't come from the company though,
         | it's what the advertisers and investers will look at first
         | glance, before going deeper and check what they really care
         | about.
         | 
         | Let's face it: in general we're not good at nuance and that has
         | downstream effects in many places.
         | 
         | The escape hatch is probably to have businesses that mostly
         | stand on their own, sustained by their users and don't need to
         | convince random marketers and crypto bros that they're worth
         | paying attention to.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | malfist wrote:
         | > say something, and leave
         | 
         | So you want me to give up my mid-six figures job so your dates
         | go a little bit better?
        
           | vimax wrote:
           | Do you really want to spend your life adding dark patterns to
           | a dating website?
        
             | manicennui wrote:
             | Most things you can work on are equally bad, so why not? We
             | all want to survive, and survival in America is expensive.
        
               | allarm wrote:
               | Mid-six figures have absolutely nothing to do with
               | survival.
        
               | ryandrake wrote:
               | Sadly, I've worked with software engineers who had
               | absolutely no ethical qualm with implementing basically
               | anything their boss wanted them to implement. Dark
               | patterns, Benchmark cheating, Excessive user data
               | collection, I'm sure they wouldn't even balk at writing
               | Malware or Ransomware. This is why ethical engineers
               | opting out of the project or job will never work: There's
               | always someone lined up willing to write the unethical
               | code.
        
               | sneak wrote:
               | I recommend that everyone read Stanley Milgram's book
               | Obedience to Authority about his fake shock experiments.
               | 
               | Some people simply suspend moral judgement entirely in
               | circumstances where someone else is calling the shots.
               | They no more regard themselves as culpable for the bad
               | outcomes as they do an automobile operated by a drunk
               | driver. At a certain point, many people just switch off
               | the moralizing, automatically assigning all of the
               | responsibility to the order-giver.
               | 
               | It's an interesting phenomenon. A side effect, I find, is
               | that people get very very upset when you name and shame
               | individual employees doing unethical things at work that
               | are legal and fall under the umbrella of "corporate
               | initiatives" such as implementing antipatterns. The guilt
               | for such seems to be perceived to fall with management or
               | "product people", not developers, even though the
               | developers are the ones who wrote the code.
               | 
               | Same for, say, warfighters. People don't regard the
               | conscripted infantrymen at fault for the deaths, even
               | though it is often literally their hand on the trigger.
        
               | csomar wrote:
               | I think, the reason for that, is that
               | management/leadership gets compensated fairly well for
               | it. If this management doesn't have any particular talent
               | or skills that can justify their compensation, then it's
               | the responsibility that they are holding.
        
               | SpookyChoice wrote:
               | I recommend the the article about the infantry men who
               | did not shoot https://www.americanheritage.com/secret-
               | soldiers-who-didnt-s... Or better yet the book humankind
               | from rutger bregman. Who wrote a whole chapter about why
               | this experiment does not support this conclusion
        
               | uoaei wrote:
               | Useless, maybe. Bullshit, likely. There's definitely
               | worse things, but that's not a sound argument.
        
           | dsm4ck wrote:
           | hey in this instance does this mean you are making ~150,000
           | or ~500,000?
        
           | Kapura wrote:
           | I want you to have some amount of self respect, and
           | appreciation for your craft.
        
             | vsareto wrote:
             | It's hard to take that seriously for a few reasons:
             | 
             | - the gatekeepers of the craft are random and inconsistent
             | and the competency standards are suspect
             | 
             | - the people on the other side of your employment
             | relationship won't do the same
             | 
             | - leaving for self respect may not look good into getting
             | you your next position. It may even harm your chances if
             | you quit too soon
             | 
             | - For the US, losing healthcare benefits for the love of
             | the craft seems just like shooting yourself in the foot for
             | no good reason
             | 
             | We should strive to be better, but criticism about not
             | living up to the craft often involves just a difference of
             | opinion or preferences
        
             | ahstilde wrote:
             | His craft may be writing software that maximizes profit.
        
         | volkk wrote:
         | i work at a dating app and number of fun dates (worded slightly
         | differently) is our north star metric! it's one of the major
         | ones, and it has helped it stay relatively non predatory :)
        
           | Nimitz14 wrote:
           | Comeon tell us what the app is!
        
             | volkk wrote:
             | i would, but i don't want to dox myself
        
           | hbn wrote:
           | But doesn't that inherently imply you try to keep users from
           | making long-term connections? Users having lots of fun dates
           | are not doing them with the same person and continuing to use
           | your app. It's a bunch of dates that ultimately went nowhere.
           | 
           | That's the thing with dating apps/sites. If you succeed too
           | well, you've lost 2 users.
        
             | genewitch wrote:
             | this is usually where i get frustrated with capitalism. Not
             | everything has to be about retaining customers. If i hire
             | someone to build a brick outbuilding, i probably won't need
             | another brick outbuilding.
             | 
             | I'd rather a "pay for 3-6 months of full access upfront, a
             | 3 day trial option" than a subscription model for anything
             | where there's a chance i won't be using it in 3-6 months.
             | when i see a dating site ask for a year upfront i know
             | they're not going to actually help me.
             | 
             | I met my wife (and two close friends) on OKCupid over 15
             | years ago, so i remember what it was, and what a site
             | _could be again_ , just not OKC
        
               | volkk wrote:
               | > when i see a dating site ask for a year upfront i know
               | they're not going to actually help me.
               | 
               | the longest i've seen is 6mo (at least thats OUR longest)
               | and while fewer people use this, it captures the
               | demographic that is either self aware and think they'll
               | need it for a long time, or folks that are happier with
               | dating around. the point of these longer subs isn't
               | because we're willingly creating dark patterns to avoid
               | helping our users, i promise
        
             | volkk wrote:
             | i won't speak on behalf of my company, but as someone who
             | was on dating apps for a while until i found my current
             | fiancee, I will say that a lot of it is a numbers game.
             | 
             | also, the company i work for is focused on more serious
             | relationships. we are focusing heavily on reducing
             | ghosting, lowering treating people like they're disposable,
             | etc.
        
         | LorenPechtel wrote:
         | And note that the incentives for the user and the company are
         | at cross purposes with dating apps.
         | 
         | Users use dating apps with the intent of not needing dating
         | apps. A dating app that works well destroys it's user base.
         | Their desired user base is people looking for hookups. Is it
         | any wonder the apps have degraded into stuff pretty much only
         | useful for hookups?
        
           | s0rce wrote:
           | That's true for a lot of business that still can be a good
           | business model, lots in medicine, for example: lifetime
           | vaccinations, and cures for diseases like HepC.
        
             | Miraste wrote:
             | There are plenty of vaccines and treatments you can't get
             | because they're not profitable to manufacture.
        
           | kube-system wrote:
           | Yep, the ideal dating app in terms of profitability is one
           | that makes users think they're going to meet the person of
           | their dreams (so they are motivated to use it), but
           | continually falls short (so they are retained). Which is
           | _exactly_ what the market has optimized for.
        
           | astrange wrote:
           | If you can't find a long-term relationship on a hookup app
           | that's an attractiveness issue on your part. How's the app
           | going to stop you from going on a second date?
        
             | fragmede wrote:
             | Nothing, but an app can do plenty to string you along while
             | you pay for a membership hoping to get to a first one. And
             | yeah, ugly people want long term relationships and need
             | love too!
        
           | memefrog wrote:
           | [dead]
        
       | wbobeirne wrote:
       | I worked at OkCupid from 2013-2017 and totally resonate with the
       | author that mid-2010s OkCupid was a really special product, and
       | that it took a steep decline as the decade went on. It's not
       | entirely fair to say that the Match acquisition immediately
       | caused that decline; I started a couple years after Match got the
       | company in its hands, and only two of the original founders were
       | still focused on OkCupid full time. But the product continued to
       | improve and grow for years after that. There was very little top-
       | down directives about how to develop the product during that
       | time.
       | 
       | OkCupid had excellent growth in the first half of the 2010s, but
       | as that growth started to plateau, it was pretty clear that the
       | focus moved to following Tinder's trends in an effort to match
       | their level of growth. But OkCupid was a really healthy company
       | with great profits and low burn, being only a team of 30-40
       | people. It could have stayed the way it was and continued to turn
       | a profit. But Tinder had shown that the market size for mobile
       | was way bigger than the desktop-focused product that OkCupid used
       | to be. The focus towards acquiring more mobile users meant
       | stripping down and simplifying a product that previously demanded
       | hundreds of words of essay writing, and answering hundreds of
       | questions. The essay prompts became simpler, multiple choice
       | asymmetric questions got deprioritized over reciprocal yes / no
       | questions. And as a user, I felt the quality of conversations I
       | had went down as most messages were sent on the go from people
       | just trying to line up their weekend plans, instead of a deeply
       | invested audience trying to form meaningful connections first.
       | 
       | I really miss working on the product OkCupid was when I started,
       | and often day-dream about starting another dating app closer to
       | its original long-form vision. But the worst part of trying to do
       | that is bootstrapping users, and seems like the only ways to do
       | that are either have a lot of capital, or shadier methods like
       | fake profiles or scraping data off of other sites. Not really
       | interested in raising or setting my morals aside to do it.
        
         | wvenable wrote:
         | I don't understand why so many companies are against simply
         | developing a new product with a new brand instead of
         | lobotomizing their own product.
         | 
         | It seems to have over and over where a product and brand that
         | makes decent profit is utterly destroyed in an attempt to
         | acquire a new market.
        
           | Cthulhu_ wrote:
           | Well, the existing product already has critical mass, a new
           | product - like the various Instagram clones, then the various
           | Tiktok clones, then the various Twitter clones - all have to
           | acquire their own customer base.
           | 
           | That said, other point: Why not just accept you're no longer
           | growing? The company would've stayed solvent for years yet,
           | with a steady group of users coming in and out over time as
           | the brand becomes synonymous with thoughtful dating profiles
           | instead of the rapid fire hot-or-not that is Tinder.
        
             | wvenable wrote:
             | The endless pursuit of growth is incredibly destructive. A
             | consistent profitable business is considered a failure.
             | 
             | Instragram was able to pull their users into Threads pretty
             | easily without making Threads a direct part of Instragram.
             | It is still it's own thing with it's own brand.
        
           | bc11hn wrote:
           | Because creating a new product is harder and more expensive
           | than changing an existing one, even if it does destroy it.
           | 
           | Advertising, novel technical infrastructure, new branding,
           | etc... all of this needs to be done for a new brand -- and
           | then who knows if any one will come visit?
           | 
           | Or, you can just make whatever short-term changes to your
           | existing successful product, juice the metric you're looking
           | to juice, and (in theory) cashout before the long term
           | repercussions take affect.
        
             | wvenable wrote:
             | New branding isn't necessarily bad; it can make a new
             | product seem fresh. Technical infrastructure, both hardware
             | and software, can be reused. You don't have destroy one
             | software product to make another.
             | 
             | Take this OkCupid example; they had their website model.
             | They could have just created "OkCupid Nights" as a separate
             | Tinder-like product reusing as much of their tech as
             | possible.
        
         | Iulioh wrote:
         | Thanks for sharing
         | 
         | Another thing destroyed by the infinite growth model
        
           | pif wrote:
           | You mean: another thing destroyed that a few people used to
           | enjoy when the developers had no chance to have it
           | economically better!
        
             | Iulioh wrote:
             | Man, you can have a profitable thing and just..have that?
             | 
             | Like if you have the same let's say 20% profit in the world
             | of business is not enough, you want the RATE of your return
             | to go higher even if the product allowed you to stay
             | stupidity rich.
             | 
             | Economically better is a good pair of words that leads to
             | enshittification via greed
        
               | pif wrote:
               | Enshittification is only a problem from the point of view
               | of the non-paying user. But the on-paying user has no say
               | in what happens to the app.
               | 
               | As they say, if you are not paying for the product, you
               | _are_ the product.
               | 
               | Enjoying the generosity of other people is fine, but it
               | gives you no right to expect it to last indefinitely.
        
               | Iulioh wrote:
               | That's not even remotely the point.
               | 
               | Have you read the post or seen how the things go?
               | 
               | The paying user get fucked too, just give it time.
        
               | pif wrote:
               | > enshittification via greed
               | 
               | You are right. The greed of affectionate users who refuse
               | to pay has destroyed many a service!
        
         | Brajeshwar wrote:
         | The best thing about OKCupid was the data-backed articles. It
         | was our source of inspiration and data point to continue on a
         | dating website we built. We started as a side project in 2006
         | but got shelved after my company was acquired. I returned to it
         | in 2010-2011, and OKCupid was our constant fodder for data and
         | inspiration.
        
         | Angostura wrote:
         | You raise a really interesting point that I hadn't really
         | thought about before - the possibility that the move to mobile
         | first is directly responsible for making things worse, dumber,
         | simpler with less functionality.
        
         | doctorpangloss wrote:
         | > OkCupid had excellent growth in the first half of the 2010s,
         | but as that growth started to plateau, it was pretty clear that
         | the focus moved to following Tinder's trends in an effort to
         | match their level of growth.
         | 
         | Okay... what was the ratio of active men to women on OkCupid
         | each year? How about on Tinder? You worked there, and that's an
         | unfair assessment of Tinder.
         | 
         | The fundamental trend in these dating apps is that ratio, and
         | the relative growth (or decline!) of that gender's active user
         | base. And it's not something Match, or for that matter
         | Dataclysm ever discussed, even though it's kind of the most
         | important single metric for a dating app.
         | 
         | I mean ask demographers, they talk about 3m:2f being a crisis
         | ratio [1]. And on Tinder it's probably closer to 10:1-20:1, I'm
         | sure they pay AppAnnie (or whatever they're called now) to push
         | out some fake ass numbers here and there. If it wasn't a
         | horrible number - anything worse than 3m:2f is pretty horrible!
         | - they would write about it, and they simply won't.
         | 
         | On the one hand I really liked Dataclysm, and I was bought into
         | the ideas it put forward. There's this post from 2018 by the
         | author that used to say, oh well the reply rate to black women
         | was 20 percentage points lower, which is the same in 2008.
         | Well, trends showed about 18 percentage points more interracial
         | marriages, the data was totally counter to trend: that
         | indicated a problem in OkCupid, not in the user base as the
         | author claimed. The Tinder PR team kind of put the kibosh on
         | that kind of transparency for the wrong reasons, but it was the
         | _right_ idea.
         | 
         | So this big essay prompt format that the app used to use, I
         | don't know if it was part of the problem where OkCupid was
         | fundamentally against trend. In some respects, clearly, the
         | essays versus swiping didn't matter. It certainly seems
         | intuitive that the essays matter, it appeals to a sense of
         | superiority in a particular audience's way of believing how
         | online dating should work, but those guys are operating in the
         | vacuum of the single most important data point (the actual
         | ratio) and are forced to essentially generate fictions for why
         | the apps work the way they do and why it worked _for them._
         | 
         | I appreciate that from your point of view, 2013-2017 was a
         | focus on "mobile" and that in your opinion that was "bad." But
         | c'mon, show me a category of free app that didn't have a focus
         | on "mobile." I personally think the apps are doing the best
         | given the circumstances - the ratio! - and that everything else
         | is dancing around this because, if people knew, you know,
         | they'd stop using them.
         | 
         | [1]
         | https://www.google.com/books/edition/Date_onomics/7GDVBgAAQB...
         | (page 22)
        
         | sirspacey wrote:
         | A somewhat natural conclusion is that mobile killed the
         | thoughtful internet. Ouch.
        
           | kshahkshah wrote:
           | Adding to this, the thought I've heard is that mobile/pad
           | devices are great for consumption but terrible for
           | contribution.
        
           | fiddlerwoaroof wrote:
           | I find I comment and write much less on mobile than on a
           | computer, because the writing experience on mobile is still
           | very sub-par.
        
             | bookofjoe wrote:
             | Yes. Spot-on. The only thing I input on my phone is YouTube
             | Shorts because it's much easier/faster than on a computer.
             | Of course, that is inherent in its design.
        
             | wvenable wrote:
             | This is very true. And now think of all the people who's
             | only Internet experience is on mobile. They exist entirely
             | within that sub-par writing universe.
        
               | bigstrat2003 wrote:
               | I actually feel really bad for the younger generation,
               | actually. There's a whole bunch of teenagers who have no
               | idea how good and useful computers can actually be,
               | because all they ever have known is the shitty watered
               | down mobile version of computing. Even desktops aren't as
               | good as they used to be (thanks, Electron), but they're
               | still a damn sight better than mobile. But if one grew up
               | thinking that a phone/tablet is the end-all of computing,
               | they have no idea what they're even missing.
        
               | vore wrote:
               | This is a ridiculous out of touch take. Of course young
               | people know what desktop computing is like: they use it
               | at school for class and use it at home for gaming. Have
               | you considered that people might prefer mobile is
               | preferable because it's, well, mobile and you don't have
               | to lug a big ol' machine around?
        
               | _Algernon_ wrote:
               | Most schools use tablets or Chromebooks, especially in
               | the early years. Neither gives access to a system which
               | has desktop level capabilities. Both are locked down
               | consumption platforms.
        
               | checkyoursudo wrote:
               | I did not get my own laptop until I started at my
               | university. I am now doing a Ph.D. in informatics
               | (European meaning of the term). I had access to my dad's
               | workstation at home, but just to play around on and I
               | certainly did not have root or the ability to install my
               | own software. There were computers in my computer lab at
               | high school, but I rarely used them. They were locked
               | down as much as any smartphone I have ever had.
               | 
               | At what age does someone need root access to become
               | interested in a career in CS/IT/web dev/whatever?
               | 
               | Or, if not root access, like what kind of "desktop level
               | capabilities" should I have had that I did not have,
               | given that I did not have a desktop as a teenager or
               | younger?
               | 
               | I am Gen X. I can think of exactly 0 friends who had
               | their own desktops as teenagers. (Their own, as in were
               | not really their parents' work computer, did not have to
               | share with the family, could do whatever they wanted
               | with, etc.)
        
               | _Algernon_ wrote:
               | I'm at the lower end of the millennial range and have
               | personally experienced people who were a couple of years
               | younger than me having to have folder hierarchies
               | explained to them because they haven't encountered them
               | before. This was in an introductory R course at the
               | beginning of a master's degree at university.
               | 
               | https://www.theverge.com/22684730/students-file-folder-
               | direc...
               | 
               | You do not need root access necessarily, but you do need
               | to get familiarity with the platforms you will actually
               | be using when working, ie. Windows and maybe macOS.
               | 
               | For Gen X and most of millennials, that platform was the
               | only platform that existed. Using computers necessitated
               | becoming familiar with "real" computers. That is no
               | longer the case which is why gen Z are digital natives
               | that have the digital literacy on a similar level to baby
               | boomers.
        
               | bigstrat2003 wrote:
               | I'm skeptical of your claim that young people are
               | actually using desktops in those situations. As far as
               | I've seen, young people are primarily gaming on consoles
               | and are using stripped down devices like Chromebooks at
               | school. It's also been noted that computer skills have
               | gotten markedly worse among young people in recent years,
               | which suggests they are not in fact being exposed to
               | desktops regularly.
               | 
               | And I _definitely_ think you 're off base about mobile
               | devices being popular because they're mobile. People will
               | sit at home and use a phone that is an incredibly worse
               | experience than using an actual computer, and think it's
               | an adequate substitute. They don't need the mobility in
               | that situation, but they really think there's nothing
               | wrong with the user experience.
        
           | Karrot_Kream wrote:
           | Mobile onboarded a different demographic of user. Pre-mobile,
           | not many people really used computers or the internet outside
           | of work or gaming. I grew up in a poor part of the US and
           | lots of people did not have desktop computers at home; most
           | kids begged their parents for access to computers for gaming.
           | Parents in our area could never figure me out. I liked using
           | computers (I would dumpster dive for parts since as a poor
           | kid, I had much more time than money) but I didn't game much,
           | and I'm a kid so I'm definitely not doing work. (I learned to
           | code as a kid because I wanted to make games and then I found
           | the coding part much more fun than the gaming part.) My
           | parents were flummoxed how a kid who liked spending so much
           | time reading was also so weird about wanting to use something
           | as expensive as a computer.
           | 
           | That's the root of this blog post, the rise of Tinder, and
           | the big shift to mobile in general. Nerds aren't the only
           | people on the internet anymore. The average person is now on
           | the internet. OKCupid was very much the dating site of us
           | thoughtful nerds, those who thought text and personality
           | tests would help them find a better match. Most singles in
           | the West at the time just went to the bar, got intoxicated,
           | then made base conversation with whomever engaged their base
           | interests. That demographic moved to Tinder.
           | 
           | Unless you're specifically targeting a nerd-heavy demographic
           | (e.g. academics, devs, hackers, etc) with a high margin
           | product, if the goal is to create a mass appeal product then
           | making nerds happy just isn't profitable. We're too small in
           | number and too picky.
        
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         | lr4444lr wrote:
         | I met my wife on OkCupid.
         | 
         | The original format attracted a much smarter and more worldly
         | crowd of women, to put it bluntly, than the other services. I
         | exited the dating game before Tinder, but if OkCupid lost that
         | quirky, artsy, college educated crowd in the chase to compete,
         | that's a real shame.
        
           | tanepiper wrote:
           | Same here (second wife) and the thing is once OKCupid did
           | it's job you didn't need it anymore - and that was a good
           | thing.
           | 
           | The problem is that when you choose eternally needing
           | customers you have to switch to the types of people who will
           | never have a long term relationship - which Tinder style apps
           | work better for.
           | 
           | But those kind of people also drive away the ones looking for
           | a long-term partner.
           | 
           | Really sounds like poisoning the well.
        
           | sneak wrote:
           | A big thing to consider is the fact that everyone got online
           | all the time during the enshittification phase of OKC - it
           | wasn't just OKC's userbase, but it was the median of the
           | whole internet that got dumber and less sophisticated/more
           | basic.
           | 
           | When OKC was great, the random median many-hours-on-the-
           | internet-every-day user was a lot better than it is today.
           | Now that's just a median member of the general public, thanks
           | to the ubiquity of social media.
        
             | yencabulator wrote:
             | OKC even early on had lots of new users that didn't
             | necessarily fit well in the site culture (/formed different
             | subcultures). Those people had more visually-oriented
             | profiles, focused less on funny writing, would largely not
             | use the quizzes, and if they did they'd answer quizzes very
             | differently from you, and you'd still get your great >90%
             | match dates filtering them out, and it didn't really
             | matter! The filter worked!
             | 
             | (I found my literal 99% match before OKCupid went too
             | wrong, so I don't really know how it fell. I'm assuming
             | overt monetization poisoned the well.)
        
             | johntiger1 wrote:
             | The internet really took a turn for the worse once they let
             | people like me on to it.
             | 
             | /s
        
               | red-iron-pine wrote:
               | to paraphrase a director: "any club that would let me be
               | in it is a club that I probably shouldn't be in"
        
               | trelane wrote:
               | It's never gauche to quote Marx.[1] Especially Groucho.
               | He wasn't a _director_ , though, as far as I can tell.[2]
               | 
               | [1] https://m.imdb.com/name/nm0000050/quotes
               | 
               | [2] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groucho_Marx
        
             | User23 wrote:
             | When I first got online the average user's IQ was no joke
             | north of 120. Now of course it's around 100.
             | 
             | Someone needs to come up with a pithy term for how a
             | subpopulation's average value for any attribute approaches
             | the population's average value for same as the
             | subpopulation's size approaches that of the population.
             | It's conceptually a simple, even trivial, notion, but it's
             | cumbersome to talk about.
             | 
             | That's also why undergraduate degrees are no longer a
             | particularly good signal. And I expect if it were easier to
             | talk about many more cases would become apparent.
        
               | cto_of_antifa wrote:
               | [dead]
        
               | tsss wrote:
               | Law of large numbers?
        
               | addcommitpush wrote:
               | Chebyshev's inequality:
               | 
               | > for a wide class of probability distributions, no more
               | than a certain fraction of values can be more than a
               | certain distance from the mean. Specifically, no more
               | than 1/k^2 of the distribution's values can be k or more
               | standard deviations away from the mean.
               | 
               | IQ is (if I recall correctly) normally distributed with a
               | standard deviation of 15. So for a distance of 1.3...
               | standard deviation (i.e. a distance of 20), you can't
               | have more than 1/1.3...^2 = 56.25% of the population so
               | far from the mean (below 80 or above 120), or 28.125%
               | _above_ 120.
        
               | theresistor wrote:
               | Regression to the mean
        
               | Retric wrote:
               | Undergraduate degrees are becoming a stronger signal just
               | not in the same way.
               | 
               | It's even more obvious with high school degrees. Most
               | people cross that threshold, so the people who didn't now
               | represent a usual group of under achievers. The threshold
               | is far below what FAANG's are looking for, but requiring
               | a HS/collage degree can effectively presort applicants
               | for jobs with lower thresholds.
               | 
               | Unfortunately, such methods consistently exclude many
               | worthwhile applicants from a wide range of jobs the same
               | way asking for a criminal background check. But that then
               | sets up a stronger feedback loop as people have stronger
               | incentives to cross that threshold.
        
               | antonjs wrote:
               | I'm assuming it's a typo but "collage degree" is great as
               | either a baseline inapplicable bachelor's for a tech job
               | or a cynical view of the value a high school diploma.
               | 
               | Thinking about it I bet someone somewhere has a MA
               | focusing on collage and produces incredible art, so no
               | hard feelings here.
        
               | fingerlocks wrote:
               | Paradoxically, if you have an undergraduate degree but
               | don't have a high school degree, it can be even stronger
               | signal than having both. "I actually dropped out of high
               | school and went straight to college.", sounds impressive.
               | 
               | Of course you have to omit the part about taking a gap
               | year and being a community college transfer student.
        
               | cdogl wrote:
               | I can't even imagine being asked about this part of my
               | life in a career context. I'm 35 and for the better part
               | of a decade I've just been asked about my previous roles.
               | Seems like most organisations simply couldn't care less
               | where I've come from. Maybe it's an Australian cultural
               | thing.
        
               | shaftoe wrote:
               | No, this is pretty typical (I'm American).
               | 
               | The only time people who are more than a few years into
               | their career are asked about degrees (and grades) in an
               | interview is at very bureaucratic organizations or when
               | being interviewed by someone themselves barely out of
               | school who lacks awareness.
        
               | lovich wrote:
               | Isn't that just Eternal September? At least in the
               | internet
        
               | opsimist wrote:
               | Can we reverse Eternal Eptember? Can we create IQnet just
               | for nerds?
        
               | gwd wrote:
               | Sure, just make something that has a barrier to entry
               | that will filter out non-nerds. From what I can tell Ham
               | radio is basically just a chatroom with an entrance exam,
               | for instance. Anything done in a constructed language
               | like Esperanto would be another filter.
               | 
               | There's nothing stopping anyone from making a website
               | duplicating the original OKCupid method. It's just that
               | it requires someone willing to say "no" to the Marginal
               | User and stay niche.
               | 
               | And from what I can tell, Mastodon _is_ duplicating the
               | original, pre-value-extraction Twitter experience. But
               | the main filter it has at the moment is the network
               | effects from Twitter and Facebook; as it grows that
               | filter effect will be reduced.
        
               | opsimist wrote:
               | Can we use separate root DNS server as technical barrier
               | to entry? Or NNTP protocol. Or client side SSL
               | certificate, which must be won in a complex game.
               | 
               | There are plenty of options to separate smart people from
               | regular crowd. IMHO, a separate DNS server, which unlocks
               | alternative Internet, is the easiest way to move away
               | from regular people, because it's a bit complicated to
               | switch DNS on a mobile device.
        
               | gwd wrote:
               | The thing is, that won't duplicate the original Internet,
               | because the Internet exists. This new filtered internet
               | won't contain all the smart tech people; it will contain
               | all the smart tech people _who wanted to join an
               | alternate internet of smart tech people_. Those are
               | different sets of people.
        
               | opsimist wrote:
               | Early Internet was place for people with similar
               | background, which were small part of all smart people.
               | 
               | IMHO, we need a bait. Something, that will bring in smart
               | people, and only smart people. HN detracts regular
               | people, because it looks boring and doesn't help to
               | continue discussions. This is good for HN, but bad for
               | discussions (and spamers).
               | 
               | I'm thinking about mix of a court and wikipedia.
               | Something, where we can play our game (who is right? who
               | is the smarter?) on steroids, something where we can
               | layout our arguments, facts, ideas, and then discuss them
               | (flame all night long), until someone else, an arbiter,
               | will read all that and declare a winner. IMHO, a topic
               | and number of win/lost/unfinished discussions will be a
               | good indication of smartiness and expertise in a domain.
        
               | Workaccount2 wrote:
               | Someone will quickly monetize the idiots with a simple
               | ad-ridden subscription based app that "Unlocks the
               | Alternet!"
        
               | jimbokun wrote:
               | I doubt the non-nerds will want to join.
        
               | tremon wrote:
               | They will want to join once it reaches a certain
               | size/notoriety. Same with reddit, gmail and twitter, and
               | same with open source in general.
        
               | suslik wrote:
               | What is Ham radio?
        
               | PeterisP wrote:
               | Amateur radio, public (by law - unencrypted, anyone can
               | listen) long-distance communications over certain bands
               | where people are allowed to transmit after a certain
               | barrier of entry of licensing and equipment.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | A place to talk about what radio you own.
        
               | xattt wrote:
               | A hobby some people pig up when they're boar-ed and go
               | hog-wild on spending for equipment.
               | 
               | /s
        
               | jimbokun wrote:
               | Welp, you're out of the club now.
        
               | account42 wrote:
               | Something that someone who didn't get filtered would be
               | able to look up on their own.
        
               | suslik wrote:
               | I did look it up, but the way the OP was formed I thought
               | that is some secret underground forum I just am not able
               | to find.
        
               | danielheath wrote:
               | I think it's called Gemini
        
               | jimbokun wrote:
               | Has anyone invented a captcha that filters for high IQ
               | humans?
               | 
               | Of course then it would be mostly bots as it would
               | probably be trivial for modern LLMs to solve.
        
               | fifticon wrote:
               | You can. Just find an online forum for Rick&Morty show.
        
               | cto_of_antifa wrote:
               | [dead]
        
               | Jensson wrote:
               | Smartphones was the final nail, after that close to 100%
               | of young adults are active online participants.
               | 
               | The good thing is that things aren't getting worse at
               | least, all the idiots are already online.
        
               | checkyoursudo wrote:
               | Check out the Flynn Effect. It is possible that all of us
               | online idiots and the cohorts coming after are getting
               | stupider every generation. I wouldn't be so hasty with
               | the "things aren't getting worse" part just yet. It could
               | get much worse!
        
               | sneak wrote:
               | Only about half the humans are on the internet.
        
               | ebcode wrote:
               | Then there's still hope!
        
               | dredmorbius wrote:
               | You're telling us it's going to get worse then?
        
               | eastbound wrote:
               | But OKCupid joining the race to the bottom was a choice.
               | They _decided_ to drop the high-IQ  / literary customers.
               | 
               | They could have remained as the high-end of dating. 90%
               | of men don't enjoy using Tinder, and for women it's just
               | a utility service when being bachelor.
        
               | dredmorbius wrote:
               | I suspect smartphones affect this in two ways.
               | 
               | One is that they put the Internet in _everybody 's_
               | hands, literally.
               | 
               | The other, though, is that by virtue of the interface,
               | both display (tiny) and input (shitty, to put it mildly),
               | _the effective IQ of those participating, regardless of
               | whatever it was initially_ , is severely penalised.
               | 
               | When I'm typing at a keyboard, I can look at the words
               | I'm typing, or the source I'm typing from, or just off
               | into space as I'm thinking my thoughts ... and be
               | reasonably assured that what I _think_ I 'm typing is
               | what's actually appearing on screen. And if not, editing
               | to correct and fix issues is reasonably straightforward.
               | If necessary I'll switch to a Real Editor (that is, vim,
               | Vale Bram Moolenaar) which is another quantum leap beyond
               | in-browser textbox editing.
               | 
               | When I'm typing at a virtual touchscreen keyboard, _I am
               | staring at the keys themselves and trying to hit the the
               | keys I 'm actually intending to hit_. I'm not monitoring
               | the output (which invariably has errors), I'm not looking
               | at source text, I'm not thinking and composing my
               | thoughts.
               | 
               | And then _editing_ what I 've written is _also_ painful.
               | 
               | The resulting typos, losses of thought, and general
               | incoherence _in my own writing_ absolutely _pains_ me to
               | look at. From what I can tell, other people seem to
               | suffer similarly.
               | 
               | I've given up using mobile devices for input (unless I
               | can use a hardware keyboard, and even that rarely), and
               | ... frankly it's a much improved situation.
               | 
               | Smartphones shallow the mind in many ways.
        
               | narag wrote:
               | Everything you said + progressing hypermetropia for the
               | last 25 years. When mobile screens got half decent sizes,
               | I already hated the medium.
               | 
               | When people said that those text pages, around 2000, what
               | was the name? WAP? were going to get everybody online, I
               | was very skeptical. But of course, that was pre-iPhone.
        
               | dredmorbius wrote:
               | I remember WAP, and had an early-phase smartphone with
               | limited Web support (Palm Treo/Centro) which ... remains
               | one of the better phones that I've had (hard keyboard
               | among other features). You wouldn't want to read much on
               | that, but as a quick on-the-go reference, particularly
               | when travelling, it was handy.
               | 
               | One of my daily drivers is a large (13.3") e-ink tablet.
               | Reading on that is actually a pleasure, though it's led
               | me to another conclusion: _scrolling sucks_.
               | 
               | I _much_ prefer reading paginated media, and if at all
               | possible, fixed-layout media (e.g., PDFs rather than
               | ePub) both because the same material stays in the same
               | place on the same page regardless of other settings (I
               | have a strongly spatial memory), _and_ because the layout
               | is _usually_ just simply much better than what fluid-
               | layouts achieve.
               | 
               | What really drives me nuts though is having to scroll on
               | webpages. It's imprecise, half the time I'm clicking on
               | something I'd not intended to, and it's much harder and
               | less pleasing to read.
               | 
               | But size and print clarity alone make this a huge
               | improvement over smartphone displays.
               | 
               | Sorry to hear about the eyesight issues.
        
               | narag wrote:
               | The eyesight I wouldn't complain at all. Until recently I
               | didn't need glasses, except for reading. Hypermetropia is
               | also called far-sightness for a reason. Worst period is
               | when I only used glasses for the screen. Someone would
               | come to interrupt and talk, I took the glasses off, then
               | we were commenting on the screen contents, I put it on
               | again, then back to talk and glasses off...
               | 
               | At home I use a 27'' screen with the regular glasses. I
               | fear that if for a next job at some office they don't
               | provide a similar one, the situation will repeat, now
               | with regular glasses vs reading glasses :-m
               | 
               |  _I much prefer reading paginated media, and if at all
               | possible, fixed-layout media (e.g., PDFs rather than
               | ePub)_
               | 
               | ePub didn't grow on me and I couldn't put my finger on
               | why, I guess that's the reason.
               | 
               | About WAP phones, this was the one the company provided:
               | 
               | https://www.reddit.com/r/vintagemobilephones/comments/gef
               | gsm...
               | 
               | Not bad, but not much I could do with it and they took
               | away when I resigned.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | I write much longer comments on my laptop and desktop
               | computers than on my phone. The pains you mention make me
               | write less even when I want to write more. Do not confuse
               | this with "I have made this longer than usual because I
               | have not time to make it shorter." (Pascal, 1657, though
               | others have said something similar and folklore
               | attributes the idea to many more) - I do often revise
               | long comments on my computer to be shorter, but they are
               | still much longer than what I'd write on my phone. If I
               | spent more time on them on my computer I'd write them
               | even shorter, but still much longer because what I want
               | to say is normally long and complex and a phone just
               | makes the complexity too hard to write.
               | 
               | You won't be surprised I've never got the point of
               | limited space places like twitter...
        
               | dredmorbius wrote:
               | Dittos ;-)
        
               | intelVISA wrote:
               | All the idiots already were, unless bikeshedding category
               | theory in IRC while m$ and friends pulled the rug under
               | general computing was The Thinking Man's Choice.
        
               | jeffreygoesto wrote:
               | Just imagine how high it must have been when there were
               | only hundreds of users? =;-}
               | 
               | Bitnet Relay in 1992 had some, not even all universities
               | connected and I know of marriages that originated in the
               | IRL(!) relay parties. We actually drove across Europe to
               | meet our online friends.
        
           | switchbak wrote:
           | As did I! OkCupid was a shining star of a product that
           | treated its users with respect and provided a really valuable
           | service.
           | 
           | I didn't realize that it's no longer. I feel old pining for
           | the internet of yesteryear. As is obvious only in retrospect,
           | you don't realize when the golden years are!
        
             | geraldwhen wrote:
             | I also met my wife on okcupid. I wonder how many of us
             | their are.
        
               | dghughes wrote:
               | I'd be curious if you're all over 6' tall. I never had
               | any luck on OKCupid.
        
               | astrange wrote:
               | That height fetish stuff is the domain of 5'0" white
               | women. Basically message taller women and it doesn't
               | matter.
        
               | seoulmetro wrote:
               | Nope. It's not specific to their height and obviously not
               | specific to their race.
               | 
               | The same way men on average prefer big boobs, women on
               | average will prefer taller men. Both can't really be
               | changed by the person but exist as attractiveness scores
               | against a person.
               | 
               | It matters to people who it matters to. Not many in the
               | grand scheme and definitely not related to race.
        
               | astrange wrote:
               | > It's not specific to their height
               | 
               | Of course it is because it's relative to how tall they
               | are. But taller women already don't expect you to tower
               | over them, because that's hard to find, so it's ok if you
               | don't.
               | 
               | > and obviously not specific to their race.
               | 
               | It is within a specific ethnicity and generation. If
               | you're in a country where the men in a specific age are
               | short because food was scarce 2-3 decades ago, they're
               | not all single because their women aren't attracted to
               | them.
               | 
               | And depending on culture and economic class, it matters
               | more what impresses their parents, which is being a
               | doctor-lawyer-astronaut who owns a house.
        
               | roel_v wrote:
               | I have literally not once in my entire life heard a woman
               | in real life say 'oh he's so tall, that's so attractive'.
               | That's only an internet thing. Or an outside-Western
               | Europe thing, maybe.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | How people act is often different from how they say they
               | act. Women can be attracted to taller men without knowing
               | that is a factor much less admitting it.
               | 
               | I have no idea if women really are attracted to taller
               | men, but I know what you hear people say isn't the whole
               | truth either.
        
               | TimPC wrote:
               | No but, I've seen plenty of women say: I want to wear
               | heels and still have my man be taller than me when we are
               | dancing.
        
               | gnicholas wrote:
               | I remember hearing the founder of The League dating app
               | talk about her platform, back when she was first starting
               | out. She said it was made so that women could be assured
               | they were dating men who were verifiably (1) well-
               | educated (the name is a nod to the Ivy League), (2) made
               | good money, and (3) were tall. The way she talked about
               | the latter sounded a bit anti-Asian, to be honest.
        
               | whynotminot wrote:
               | As a short man, I have heard height directly or
               | indirectly referenced as a point of attraction more times
               | than I can count. I've even had women say literally to my
               | face I wasn't tall enough for them.
               | 
               | I'm glad you haven't had that experience. Doesn't
               | discount that it's a real thing.
        
               | jimbokun wrote:
               | This is where we could really use some empirical data to
               | better understand these topics.
               | 
               | Comments already devolving into "Yes it matters!" "No it
               | doesn't!" only citing anecdotal personal experience.
        
               | gnicholas wrote:
               | I'm 5'4" and met my wife (5'1") on OKC.
               | 
               | I will say that all the women I dated on OKC were shorter
               | than me, likely because it's common for women to filter
               | by height.
               | 
               | I dated women who were not shorter than me, but met them
               | IRL.
        
               | glorioushubris wrote:
               | I met my wife on OKCupid (back when it was, according to
               | this article, good). I'm 5'6".
        
               | geraldwhen wrote:
               | Yup
        
               | bbu wrote:
               | me too :)
        
               | semiquaver wrote:
               | Me too!
        
             | raisedbyninjas wrote:
             | Anybody else remember the data blog posts? Those were
             | interesting and satisfying. It was another confirmation
             | that I'd found the right dating site and probably a like-
             | minded userbase.
        
               | lr4444lr wrote:
               | I fondly remember the one that showed men's rating of
               | women approaching almost a perfect normal distribution,
               | and then the men messaging mostly the hot ones anyway,
               | whereas the women rated most men as ugly and then sloping
               | downward toward very few as good looking, kind of like an
               | exponential distribution, but that they also messaged the
               | men almost exactly in tandem - uglier getting the most,
               | with a steady drop as men's ranking rose.
        
               | throwaway2037 wrote:
               | This is basically the foundation of modern, online dating
               | -- aka red pill. Roughly, the top 20% of men get 80% of
               | the attention from women. (I'm pretty sure that figure
               | comes from Tinder data.) It makes sense from an
               | evolutionary perspective, but is brutal in the real
               | world. What do you do if you are average (or less) in
               | looks and income (potential)? Prepare for a lonely
               | existance.
        
               | barrysteve wrote:
               | Online dating isn't a real world thing.
               | 
               | You want easy women? Go get a working class job that is
               | predominantley women. Date foreigners. Go to a festival,
               | hang out with hippies, ect.
               | 
               | I have no idea why men put themselves online and then
               | complain it's a stacked deck. One of the greatest facts
               | about real world dating is, you don't have to be the
               | hottest guy on tinder, just the hottest guy in the room
               | (or her mind) that night.
               | 
               | If Tinder sucks, get off it, women will follow when they
               | realise the top 20% of guys dont service 80% of women.
               | 
               | Walk away.
               | 
               | Frankly the bit about dating that bothers me is that
               | women are way too forward and pushy. Instant 'attention'
               | is such a turn off, I cannot wait until women are more
               | demoralized.
               | 
               | I was raised to pursue women, to hunt/chase for something
               | worth getting. Women are constantly ready-to-go, a
               | repetitive temptation and it's a constant turn off. Give
               | me something to imagine, a skirt to chase, an air of
               | mystery, or try and get to know me before it's "straight
               | to the bedroom".
               | 
               | I don't like women as they commonly are in my experience,
               | right now. I don't recognize them as the women I grew up
               | with. They're just sex bots.
        
               | whynotminot wrote:
               | Well this is the most toxic thing I've read today.
        
               | tspike wrote:
               | Isn't the parent comment saying the opposite of this?
               | That despite rating most men as ugly, it didn't affect
               | their messaging behavior nearly as much?
        
               | friendzis wrote:
               | No, they are saying a bit tangential things.
               | 
               | Tinder's data shows "chance of approach", which is brutal
               | for men who are not too good looking.
               | 
               | IIRC, OkCupid's data shows a bit different thing. The
               | distribution of ratings determines chance of
               | messages/likes - the larger stddev the better chances.
               | IIRC, the most messaged men were ones with ratings
               | characterized by _bimodal_ distribution. Therefore, the
               | most messaged men were not the ones with highest visual
               | rating. I do not recall the distribution of messages, so
               | can 't comment much on that.
        
               | lr4444lr wrote:
               | Just read the original article[0]. I apologize if I
               | misstated anything in it.
               | 
               | [0]http://web.archive.org/web/20100725135309/http://blog.
               | okcupi...
        
               | Roark66 wrote:
               | >What do you do if you are average (or less) in looks and
               | income (potential)? Prepare for a lonely existance.
               | 
               | You try to improve these things. Going to the gym etc, or
               | focusing on one's career is a start.
        
               | FearNotDaniel wrote:
               | There's a lot about redpill culture that is inexcusably
               | execrable, but it does offer a true and practical answer
               | to the question you have posed: do everything in your
               | power to make yourself more attractive. Work out, get a
               | good haircut, improve your wardrobe, develop your career,
               | improve your social/conversation skills, have interesting
               | hobbies. Become the best version of yourself and you will
               | get more attention from others.
        
               | flangola7 wrote:
               | That data had poor epistemology, and was only really true
               | if you're only looking at cishet monogamous men and
               | cishet monogamous women.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | Online dating is skewed because you have no way to know
               | what someone is really like. All you get is a picture
               | (which may have been photoshopped), and profile data
               | (they might be lieing. If you do date someone you want
               | them to look good because at least if the night was a
               | bust you got to look at someone hot.
        
               | slashdev wrote:
               | You're being downvoted, but that's pretty well supported
               | with data. In fact it's more skewed than 20/80. Closer to
               | 10/90.
        
               | deanCommie wrote:
               | They're being downvoted because the very comment they're
               | replying to contradicts it: "but that they also messaged
               | the men almost exactly in tandem - uglier getting the
               | most, with a steady drop as men's ranking rose.
               | 
               | OKCupid's own data showed that women rate men is ugly but
               | message them anyway.
        
               | astrange wrote:
               | The main effect of those data posts seems to have been to
               | cause people to spread a lot of misinfo like "women
               | aren't attracted to 80% of men".
               | 
               | (What they actually said was that women rate men much
               | lower than men rate women, but the women still respond
               | the same way despite rating them lower, so it doesn't
               | mean anything.)
        
               | isolli wrote:
               | This was a good one [0]:
               | 
               | > When men message women, women tend to respond most
               | often to men around their own ages. But when women
               | message men, they're actually more likely to get a
               | response from younger men than they are from older ones.
               | A 40-year-old woman will have better luck messaging a
               | 25-year-old man than a 55-year-old one, according to the
               | data. And a 30-year-old man is more likely to respond to
               | a message from a 50-year-old woman than a message from
               | any other age group. When women make the first move, the
               | age gap dating norm is reversed.
               | 
               | [0] https://theblog.okcupid.com/undressed-whats-the-deal-
               | with-th...
        
               | dspillett wrote:
               | Particularly the one that was a tare-down of why paid
               | dating sites like match.com where a mug's game for almost
               | everyone. That somehow went AWOL fairly soon after the
               | match.com take-over...
        
               | lolinder wrote:
               | This one, _Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating_ :
               | 
               | http://web.archive.org/web/20100725135309/http://blog.okc
               | upi...
        
               | dspillett wrote:
               | Very much sounds like the one. Can't double-check ATM as
               | network I'm on blocks archive.org.
        
               | Noumenon72 wrote:
               | Information has gotten harder and harder to come by as
               | the Internet has matured. Think how much Tinder, Twitter,
               | and Hinge know about human flirting and attraction. I
               | believe it's just too black pilled to see the light of
               | day.
        
           | bboygravity wrote:
           | The best dates I ever had came from a language exchange site
           | that doesn't exist anymore.
           | 
           | Seems to resonate with the "filter for brainy people" filter
           | OKC seems to once have had.
        
             | jimbokun wrote:
             | Crazy idea: dating site that forces all users to
             | communicate through a second language. How to ascertain
             | it's legitimately a second language, and not their native
             | language, would be the tricky part.
        
               | bookofjoe wrote:
               | Especially now that there's this:
               | https://kottke.org/23/09/ai-assisted-language-
               | translation-of...
        
               | smrq wrote:
               | Well, as long as we're talking crazy, might as well make
               | the language Toki Pona or similar. (Now that would be a
               | _really_ self-selecting dating pool.)
        
           | crazygringo wrote:
           | Yup. It basically started as a dating site by Brooklyn grad
           | students, for Brooklyn grad students.
           | 
           | Grad students love writing essays. But if you want to expand,
           | you have to face the fact that most people aren't grad
           | students and don't love writing (or reading) essays.
           | 
           | The trajectory to "just another dating app" was inevitable.
        
             | garciasn wrote:
             | The great thing was that women saw men (and vv) who aren't
             | only a handful of Gram-worthy photos and a couple of stolen
             | clever pickup lines.
             | 
             | It allowed folks a direct avenue to those they found
             | attractive and could use skills other than paying, stellar
             | photography, and quotes from highly upvoted r/Tinder
             | comments as a way to convince others to go on dates.
             | 
             | People have been either really successful with the way
             | dating apps operate now (they're incredibly attractive
             | males or just about all females) or they're incredibly
             | frustrated because the algorithms have taken so much
             | control away.
             | 
             | It's a sad reality. RIP OKC.
        
             | carabiner wrote:
             | Well they started off in Boston and were MIT/Harvard grad
             | students. And the backend was a DARPA project. So not
             | really Brooklyn at heart, though some millennial New
             | Yorkers pretended it was. They even had a personality trait
             | for how much a user reminded them of Harvard girls. Like
             | many "only in New York!" things it was really something
             | that had mass appeal and gave a sense of quirkiness that
             | was actually widespread in our generation.
             | 
             | "New Yorkers will say 'only in New York!' and it's the most
             | normal shit ever."
        
               | a-dub wrote:
               | > And the backend was a DARPA project.
               | 
               | the similarity/CF stuff? what was the DARPA project?
               | other than that it seemed a rather ordinary consumer
               | webapp?
        
               | fader wrote:
               | I think they're referring to the Internet.
        
               | carabiner wrote:
               | https://pdos.csail.mit.edu/papers/okws-usenix04.pdf
        
             | Fripplebubby wrote:
             | Look at us here on HN - we're discussing an essay we read
             | about the decline of online dating. We're a self-selecting
             | group too. Tonight's top story: a group of people who like
             | reading essays decry that online dating no longer involves
             | reading essays.
             | 
             | I was nodding my head very hard at this essay, but this has
             | given me something to chew on.
        
               | jimbokun wrote:
               | It means nerds (male and female) are now an underserved
               | dating market, compared to when dating sites were in
               | their infancy.
        
             | DarknessFalls wrote:
             | I think there was a happy medium somewhere along the way.
             | The minimum word counts on the bios were just high enough
             | to filter people that had no sincerity for the approach.
             | You had to pantomime something of yourself to have a
             | presence. What exists now is just a gallery of faces that
             | could be the result of stable diffusion algorithms.
        
           | Roark66 wrote:
           | These were different times... I met my partner of 25+ years
           | on my town's IRC channel. Imagine that happening now.
        
           | superbiome wrote:
           | I would agree. I too met my wife on OkCupid and she happens
           | to be the smartest woman I know. Her whole family is
           | incredibly smart.
           | 
           | I had another OKC date from that era where the woman had a
           | very high IQ, her father was a prolific author and her late
           | 20's brother was VP of ask.com at the time.
           | 
           | I had just assumed it was the Silicon Valley bubble clientele
           | (and still just might've been). But only 3 years later I
           | recall younger male coworkers describing how much dating apps
           | declined and how terrible the dating scene had become with
           | "swipe culture".
        
           | bookofjoe wrote:
           | OT: My daughter (40 next month, just celebrated 10th wedding
           | anniversary) met her husband on JDate in 2008. One day I
           | reminded her that in the late 1990s when she was in high
           | school, she asked me if I was doing online dating (in fact I
           | was: Yahoo Personals, though I never met anyone of interest).
           | She told me NOT to sign up for it because "It's for losers."
           | Nevertheless, I persisted in stealth mode.
        
         | scoofy wrote:
         | OkCupid had the best damn blog on the internet. They were
         | obviously _extremely_ thoughtful folks. I was genuinely sad
         | when it was discontinued.
        
           | bunabhucan wrote:
           | Founder wrote a book. Blog is still at archive.org
        
         | cbeach wrote:
         | Met my wife of 13 years on OkCupid. Data-driven matching works
         | and I just want to say thank you for helping design such a
         | great product.
         | 
         | I'm sad to read that it's gone downhill since it moved into new
         | ownership.
        
         | throwaway2037 wrote:
         | This post reads like Eternal September[1], and I write that
         | without any cynicism or snark. It makes good sense that text-
         | heavy web apps would fall prey to image-heavy mobile apps. I
         | still think there is potential for dating apps that target
         | higher intellect users. Most of the dominant apps today are
         | mobile-first, largely visual, and disappointing for both sides.
         | One idea: Could speech-to-text technology help to allow users
         | to create OkCupid-style essays from a mobile phone? Maybe.
         | Although, a few discussions here on HN said that speech-to-text
         | is still a super hard problem in 2023.
         | 
         | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eternal_September
        
           | pif wrote:
           | > I still think there is potential for dating apps that
           | target higher intellect users.
           | 
           | Apps are not developed for the sake of the users. Apps are
           | developed in order to make a profit.
           | 
           | If your higher intellect users are not ready to pay good
           | money for your product, it can only be one of two things:
           | either they are cheap, or your product is not that great.
           | Considering that there is no correlation between intellect
           | and cheapness, I would exclude the first hypothesis.
           | 
           | Then you end up with a crappy product (and it was your
           | _higher intellect_ users who voted it crappy) and a bunch of
           | advertisers ready to pay you bread crumbs for your users '
           | attention, and you suddenly realise that you need a lot of
           | crumbles to get a sandwich.
        
             | Kretinsky wrote:
             | It really depends on how you frame your app.
             | 
             | In the case of OkCupid, I did buy the premium offer, and
             | used the possibilities (mainly see the answers to the
             | quizz, and filter people) to make a profile that would show
             | 99% match score with the kind of women I was looking for.
             | 
             | At some point, it got close to a game, which was very fun
             | and satisfying as I could meet nice girls as a result ;-)
        
           | lelanthran wrote:
           | I think that there is a reason that dating apps, dating sites
           | and dating services all converge on a model which downranks
           | intellect: the few humans who care about that characteristic
           | are not enough to build a sustainable business.
           | 
           | Literally everyone says that _they_ are different and want a
           | smart partner, but when they actually hook up they aren 't
           | ranking high intellect.
           | 
           | I liked okcupids blogs. The maintakeaway I had from reading
           | all of them was:
           | 
           | 1. How much appearance played a role in being attractive.
           | 
           | 2. 90+% of women attempted to hook up with the same 10% of
           | men, while men were much more open to women not in the top
           | 10%.
           | 
           | 3. What people claimed they wanted in a partner had almost no
           | relation to what they actually wanted, when looking at who
           | they messaged, who they viewed, and who they responded to.
           | 
           | All apps now are very aggressively tracking everything, so
           | they have a much better idea of what makes people open their
           | wallets, and intellect apparently isn't one of those things.
        
             | uoaei wrote:
             | http://web.archive.org/web/20100725135317/http://blog.okcup
             | i...
             | 
             | I don't think you're characterizing the results accurately,
             | particularly point #2. I don't think they really had a way
             | to measure #3. #1 is just obviously true but doesn't add
             | much.
        
               | lelanthran wrote:
               | > I don't think you're characterizing the results
               | accurately, particularly point #2. I don't think they
               | really had a way to measure #3. #1 is just obviously true
               | but doesn't add much.
               | 
               | Maybe not, but #2 was from a blog that specifically
               | looked at the data of messaging: how many men received
               | messages, how many women received messages.
               | 
               | IIRC, nearly all the women received messages and sent
               | messages, while only about 10% of the men received
               | messages while all of the men sent messages. I don't
               | really see any other way to interpret data showing that
               | both men and women sent messages at about the same rate,
               | but only about 10% of men received any messages.
               | 
               | Now I don't have the blog handy (and I rather wished I
               | did), but my takeaway #3 was from reading _all_ the blogs
               | available, in basically one marathon sitting, not from
               | one particular blog.
        
               | strken wrote:
               | It strikes me that if women and men sent messages in
               | exactly the same long-tail shape of distribution, and you
               | had a knob that controlled how frequently each sent
               | messages, you'd be able to turn each knob until 100% of
               | women and 10% of men received messages.
               | 
               | This is not to say you're wrong or right, but I don't
               | think the numbers tell us much without seeing the full
               | distribution.
        
         | carabiner wrote:
         | I would pay $100/month for a site like the original okcupid,
         | but I want Max Krohn, Christian Rudder and the rest of the
         | original team running it.
        
           | genewitch wrote:
           | you're in luck! OKCupid costs ~$44 a month, and you can add
           | on "read receipts" for about $0.50 each, superboosts for
           | $1-$3 each, the privacy (hidden) profile for $10/month. with
           | some creativity you can have 0 real matches for ~$100!
        
             | webninja wrote:
             | The matches are real. It's just that you have to get on an
             | airplane and fly to a new country to meet them. I've met my
             | matches in person. One of the girls paid for almost
             | everything too.
        
               | genewitch wrote:
               | is that where you disappeared to for 3 years?
        
           | pif wrote:
           | > I would pay $100/month for a site like the original
           | okcupid, but ...
           | 
           | That you would _not_ pay $100 /month for a site like the
           | original OkCupid.
        
         | phkahler wrote:
         | >> The focus towards acquiring more mobile users meant
         | stripping down and simplifying a product that previously
         | demanded hundreds of words of essay writing, and answering
         | hundreds of questions. The essay prompts became simpler,
         | multiple choice asymmetric questions got deprioritized over
         | reciprocal yes / no questions.
         | 
         | A voice interface might help. By default in the app of course,
         | not a phone feature the user has to use to TTS into the app.
        
         | OkayPhysicist wrote:
         | The upside of dating app bootstrapping is that it's an
         | inherently local phenomenon. People want to meet people near
         | them, which means you can gain traction one locale at a time.
         | Maybe some kind of promotion where you cut deals with some
         | local bars or restaurants to get some kind of discount /
         | freebie if you match with someone (with the implication being
         | that they'll use it for the date). Still takes capital, just
         | not "nation-wide aggressive advertising push" levels of
         | capital.
        
           | JCharante wrote:
           | Nationwide is much easier in countries with a large primacy
           | index, for example Thailand where Bangkok has 9x the
           | population of Thailand's second largest city, and Moscow
           | where it has 4x the population of St Petersburg.
           | 
           | Everybody is nearby when you have subway trains connecting
           | half the people in your country together in under an hour.
        
         | oxfordmale wrote:
         | Almost all internet algorithms seem to converge around
         | maximising time spend on the app in question. A dating website
         | simply doesn't want to be too effective, as you would lose two
         | customers every successful match. Similar to the approach used
         | in slot machines, you want to give the illusion of winning, but
         | I'm reality only provide moderately succesful matches rather
         | than perfect ones.
         | 
         | Of course there is a human element too. Dating sites give the
         | illusion of choice, and a result a lot of potential matches
         | aren't realised on, as the partner is good looking enough.
        
           | wbobeirne wrote:
           | I always push back on this argument, because it came up a
           | lot. As someone higher up at the company once put it, if
           | people are sufficiently convinced that you can find them what
           | they're looking for in a dating app, there's almost no amount
           | of money they wouldn't spend. People churn after not getting
           | what they want out of an app. And relationships end, and
           | people will return to apps they felt they had success with.
           | Word of mouth successes were the ultimate marketing tool,
           | OkCupid didn't have really any ad spend for the first year or
           | two I was there (and apparently the hadn't in the years
           | past.)
        
             | oasisaimlessly wrote:
             | > people will return to apps they felt they had success
             | with
             | 
             | So then the trick is to provide the _illusion_ of
             | successful relationships (but of course not ones that
             | actually pan out in the long term).
        
               | oxfordmale wrote:
               | Long lasting relationships are based on common values.
               | However, you can have succesful medium term relationships
               | based on common interests and good looks.
               | 
               | OkCupid, in its heydays, indeed managed to match people
               | on common values by asking detailed questions. A lot of
               | modern dating apps are far more focus on looks and common
               | interests.
               | 
               | Yes they look cute, and love rock climbing too, but hate
               | children, and never want any. It will result in a good
               | match in your mid twenties, but likely going to result in
               | irreconcilable differences when you approach 30. Unless
               | of course you both hate children :-)
        
         | kromem wrote:
         | I feel a twinge of guilt whenever I see things about how OKC
         | got crappy.
         | 
         | Not that long before the acquisition a certain jackass brought
         | in as a consultant ( _ahem_ ) happened to point to OkC as the
         | leading competitor against the acquiring company's properties
         | specifically for mobile.
         | 
         | Sorry everyone...
         | 
         | If it makes it any better, I've had to use the product since
         | then too, and suffered alongside all the rest of you.
        
           | boxed wrote:
           | If match didn't understand this already they were pretty
           | stupid. I think the blame lies 100% on the people at OKC who
           | sold out.
        
           | snerbles wrote:
           | Hey, at least you can say you had a direct role in how
           | couples meet and their resulting progeny.
           | 
           | Our personal misery and loneliness aside, the long-term
           | societal effects as generations wear on will be
           | _fascinating._
        
           | uoaei wrote:
           | I appreciate your candor. Though I am upset, I realize this
           | is the kind of thing that would be hard to see coming.
        
             | sambazi wrote:
             | huh?
             | 
             | the top point is that more users usually lead to a worse
             | product, no?
        
               | dredds wrote:
               | The perfect matching service would lose 2 new users every
               | login. No different to selling an everlasting lightbulb.
               | The only salvation of such a perfect product would be a
               | "de-networking effect" whereby newly-happy couples would
               | auto-evangelize the site for bringing them together in
               | the first place, but that wouldn't grow the site much.
               | 
               | The success of the "nightclub app" is that people feel
               | they are a match only as long as they "drink", and by
               | morning they are thirsty for more. Growth comes from the
               | heartache of loneliness, failed relationships, and
               | divorce. A worse product (poor matching, and stifled
               | communication) is the actual goal of a more profitable
               | dating app, not simply being a consequence of having more
               | users.
        
               | uoaei wrote:
               | Speaking specifically to the short-sighted nature of
               | business objectives and the enshittification of good
               | services via acquisition and repurposing.
        
         | talldatethrow wrote:
         | I remember being on SparkMatch when I was a 14-15 year old. A
         | dating site meant for teens, from the makers of Spark Notes.
         | 
         | I always had this weird vague hunch that spark match become
         | OKCupid. Any info on this?
        
           | qingcharles wrote:
           | The biggest online dating site in the 90s had a minimum age
           | of 13 o_O. I thought that was weird, even back then.
           | 
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matchmaker.com
        
             | talldatethrow wrote:
             | I remember I was 14-15 on SparkMatch because I had to
             | convince my mom to drive me 30 miles to a mall so I could
             | meet a girl from SparkMatch. To this day I was the most out
             | of my league girl I ever 'dated' (only kissed a few times).
             | I soon acted too sweet and too lame and lost her. But it
             | taught me a lot to always be cooler and I cleaned up in the
             | coming OkCupid/PlentyofFish revolution, and doubly so by
             | the time Tinder came around. I still think about that girl
             | sometimes, which makes sense, because she was somewhat
             | unique to be online constantly back in 1999-2000.
        
           | martey wrote:
           | from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/OkCupid
           | 
           | > _SparkMatch debuted as a beta experiment of allowing
           | registered users who had taken the Match Test to search for
           | and contact each other based on their Match Test types. The
           | popularity of SparkMatch took off and it was launched as its
           | own site, later renamed OkCupid._
        
       | unconed wrote:
       | If you want to complain about software getting worse, maybe don't
       | post it on a website that forces a pop-up on readers after they
       | have already started reading and scroll down...
        
       | nonrandomstring wrote:
       | The margins are always where the interesting stuff happens. The
       | interesting people gather there. The interesting ideas are
       | shared. The new fashions. Think of Haight-Ashbury, Carnaby
       | Street, Notting Hill, Bloomsbury, Mercer New York....
       | 
       | Sure, Capitalism always devours it, but by then the party has
       | moved on somewhere new.
       | 
       | Marginals know how to find each other. By the books we read. By
       | the fact that we're the only ones not staring at phones in
       | public. Spotting another vaguely attractive person with a dumb
       | phone or interesting book is good enough reason to strike up a
       | conversation.
       | 
       | Oh, and in case you we're feeling all "mainstream"... Hacker
       | News? WaaaaaaaaaaaaY out marginal! We're practically on another
       | planet here ;)
        
         | footy wrote:
         | Unlike you, the article is using "marginal" in the economic
         | sense.
        
           | nonrandomstring wrote:
           | different dialect
        
       | xorcist wrote:
       | Thoughtful article that doesn't even mention Youtube Shorts,
       | perhaps the most glaring example of the trend.
       | 
       | When online services maximizes the number of daily users, perhaps
       | in the hundreds of millions, the vast majority of them won't be
       | very interested. So of course any data driven service will
       | optimize keeping uninterested users occupied. That does explain a
       | lot actually.
        
         | MattGaiser wrote:
         | Youtube doesn't gain extra from very interested users though,
         | as long as everyone keeps watching.
        
         | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
         | The other thing I find amusing about things like Shorts (as
         | well as things like Reels or Tok Tok) is that it is the
         | _perfect_ example of Goodhart 's Law.
         | 
         | Basically all these platforms use dwell time as an indication
         | that you liked (or at least were interested in) a video. So
         | then these sites got flooded with completely inane videos of
         | the "Just wait for it!!!" variety that last for 5 minutes,
         | always making it seem like something is going to happen, but
         | it's just video of an intersection or people at the grocery
         | store or whatever.
        
         | davio wrote:
         | I'm mixed on the shorts. I like it when they do a "you fix this
         | by pushing this button here" in 15 seconds instead of it being
         | 8+ minutes so they can get mid roll ads.
        
           | Gigachad wrote:
           | Tbh half of the instructional shorts are just flat out wrong
           | and even dangerous. So many electrical advice videos showing
           | awful tips and techniques. Comments full of people pointing
           | out the problems but most people won't read them.
           | 
           | They are created more for entertainment and to blast out as
           | many videos as possible without any concern to accuracy.
        
           | robert_tweed wrote:
           | I'd be fine with shorts if they didn't disable the normal
           | player controls.
        
             | NoGravitas wrote:
             | Yet another reason to use NewPipe or SmartTube rather than
             | the YouTube app or the browser.
        
               | bakugo wrote:
               | The Youtube app (on android at least) now lets you use
               | more of the normal controls (particularly seeking and
               | adding to playlists) on shorts as of a few months ago. I
               | thought the lack of those controls was intentionally
               | permanent but I was relieved to find out it wasn't.
        
             | davio wrote:
             | Agreed. It's like a different video playing application
             | popped up in the middle of YouTube. Also weird when you
             | exits shorts, the previously watched long video starts
             | playing.
        
             | worble wrote:
             | Every time I view one I think to myself "I really should
             | make a userscript that changes the '/short/' to '/v/' in
             | the url" but I never view them often enough that this
             | annoyance has manifested itself in action.
        
               | jabroni_salad wrote:
               | https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/452282-youtube-shorts-
               | use-...
        
       | soorya3 wrote:
       | This is a broader issue, I feel like tech has have marginalized
       | the very people. By looking at the amount of technology we have
       | built in the past 25 years, most of the technology is built (in
       | terms of time and cost) for wrong purpose like social apps, chat
       | apps, games, video streaming, all those non essential physical
       | products built because of desire to have everything. Only some of
       | the technology is used for solving real problems like healthcare,
       | education, food, shelter. Just think about it, did our
       | parents/grand parents had problems with communication?
       | entertainment? no they needed good health care, good education,
       | easy to farm and get fresh food delivered to the customer.
        
       | adasdasdas wrote:
       | This is how Lyft and Uber works too, they build their incentives
       | to buy the marginal driver/user. So if you are a reliable Uber-
       | only or Lyft-only driver, you get screwed out of incentives.
       | However, if you switch around, Uber/Lyft will bid for your next
       | ride.
        
       | WD40forRust wrote:
       | At risk of an avalanche of knee-jerk downvotes, I will suggest
       | this angle:
       | 
       | 'Inclusivity' is in vogue. It's a meme (Dawkins) which is so deep
       | into the psyches of normies today it integrates into everything.
       | Normie is the fish and inclusivity is the water.
       | 
       | What I think is being left on the side lines is 'exclusivity' not
       | in class of product, but in intended customer. "KDE 3.5 is an
       | advanced product, it was not meant for average users like you. Go
       | check out $LATEST_GNOME, it also comes at a more affordable price
       | too!" Sure you're going to turn off some customers, but what
       | you're really saying is "you're not good enough to be within the
       | set of intended users" and I think this dynamic can drive some
       | users into saying "nuh uh I'm not some normie goy, gimmie gimmie
       | gimmie!"
       | 
       | Well that's my shitter thought away, time to flush this turd!
        
         | AshamedCaptain wrote:
         | This article is precisely pointing that behind this
         | "inclusivity" trend there is a pervasive _economic_ reason ,
         | which directly contradicts what you are implying (that it's a
         | "meme in the psyches of normies").
        
       | MichaelMoser123 wrote:
       | UI design didn't get more consistent since the start of the
       | century, if you ask me. Once upon a time every major platform had
       | its UI guidelines, you knew what to expect and where The
       | 'Settings' dialog was expected to be in a program, and how it
       | would look like (Now 'Settings' it is sometimes called
       | 'Preferences')
       | 
       | Now it's a major endeavor to find 'that setting' and how to
       | interpret the meaning of 'that setting'. i often need to google
       | for it, and then it may turn out that the info found on 'the
       | internet' is already outdated (especially true with this shiny
       | Mac thing)
       | 
       | i suspect that UI design turned to postmodernism, now there is
       | 'no one right way' to do things, in other words: things are
       | messy.
       | 
       | This mess was likely inevitable with the advent of the Web and
       | later the mobile UI. Now you have both these native apps, and the
       | web apps - and you can't have everything subject to the same
       | guidelines. So the answer is: get rid of the guidelines.
       | 
       | Also you got devices with a big screen and devices with a small
       | screen, who wins? Now that's an easy one: the most common
       | denominator. So I guess that user interfaces are being dumbed
       | down due to a combination of both business and technical factors.
       | 
       | Another factor is imitation: nowadays TikTok is king, so everyone
       | is trying to be like them - regardless if a model like this is
       | appropriate or not.
        
       | throwaway128128 wrote:
       | I hate that I love this article. It's so true.
        
       | s0rce wrote:
       | I think Youtube is a counter example. There is absolutely amazing
       | content and it hasn't turned into a feed, although it does have
       | that stuff (personally, I find TikTok more enjoyable for that
       | type of content/experience).
        
       | oconnor663 wrote:
       | > Of course, "Marl" isn't always a person. Marl can also be a
       | state of mind. We've all been Marl at one time or another
       | 
       | This is an incredibly useful and healthy way of thinking. I think
       | this is how we fight the actor-observer bias in practice.
        
       | varelse wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | hn_throwaway_99 wrote:
       | I felt this article was so spot on. Everything feels optimized
       | for those who are semi-lobotomized.
       | 
       | I recall years ago (maybe this was late '00s or early 2010s) when
       | Facebook changed their interface to be much more "Twitter like",
       | i.e. a semi-random list of items in your feed. Before that, for
       | me it was much easier to actually follow conversations with my
       | real friends. After that it was just a sea of posts - and by the
       | way if you scrolled past a post and wanted to find it again, good
       | luck. After all everything must be new and fresh to keep you
       | engaged!!
       | 
       | This type of architecture has helped to lower the value of online
       | relationships, and has continued to destroy our attention spans.
       | I guess the only good news is that I feel like it's gotten so bad
       | I can hardly use apps like FB or Instagram anymore, which is
       | probably a good thing.
        
       | tristanMatthias wrote:
       | As other people have commented, seems like the West's addiction
       | to never ending growth at all costs could be a strong driver of
       | this. Reminds me of this TED talk, A healthy economy should be
       | designed to thrive not grow:
       | https://www.ted.com/talks/kate_raworth_a_healthy_economy_sho...
        
       | davidthewatson wrote:
       | User agency is a good way to think about this but like any real,
       | useful metric, it's difficult to measure real impact, and this
       | leaves you needing a proxy.
       | 
       | The other problem is that David Foster Wallace said over a decade
       | ago:
       | 
       | "As VR pornography becomes a reality, we will have to develop
       | some real machinery inside our guts to turn off pure unalloyed
       | pleasure,"
       | 
       | the implication for dating apps in particular, but I fear this
       | extends more generally, is that a major part of dating, physical
       | interaction, has been replaced with mediated experience for a
       | significant part of the population.
       | 
       | The question that arises is whether a better alternative exists
       | in the real world absent technology?
        
       | hedora wrote:
       | I often wonder what the average lifetime value of these marginal
       | users is.
       | 
       | When services are dumbed down in ways that chase off power users,
       | they're explicitly optimizing for users that churn rapidly. After
       | all, today's new user is either a customer and tomorrow's power
       | user, or they've stopped using the the product.
       | 
       | If you're trying to raise a round, and the VC blindly looks at
       | user count, then I guess this makes sense, but I'd bet VC funds
       | that use onboarding rates (to the exclusion of churn and
       | sustainability of the offering) have lower average returns than
       | ones that apply basic common sense when vetting their
       | investments.
        
       | whack wrote:
       | This is a hilarious read but I think the author is too optimistic
       | about the state of humanity. Marl isn't the "marginal" user, Marl
       | is the "average" user. If the average user actually cared about
       | deep and meaningful content, then any A/B test that throws her
       | under the bus in order to please Marl will show bad data, and the
       | proposed change would be killed.
       | 
       | Yes, the author tries to hand-wave this away as "product is
       | sticky", but I really doubt this is the main reason.
       | 
       | No, the truth is far more scary. The average user doesn't want
       | deep and meaningful content. The average user is Marl. That is
       | why every product, no matter how noble it starts off, eventually
       | degenerate into Marl-fodder. Because that's where the money is.
       | The only way to escape this is to take on a huge pay cut and work
       | at a company that doesn't care about growing profits. Go ahead,
       | you first.
       | 
       | Finally, let's be honest. Marl isn't some obnoxious bozo. You and
       | I are both Marl. That's why we're here in the HN comments. You
       | are Marl, I am Marl, the world is Marl, and it's getting Marlier
       | every day.
        
         | grishka wrote:
         | > The only way to escape this is to take on a huge pay cut and
         | work at a company that doesn't care about growing profits. Go
         | ahead, you first.
         | 
         | Gladly! Where do I sign up?
        
           | jefftk wrote:
           | What's your background, and what are your skills?
           | 
           | I did this in 2022 [1] and have really liked my new work.
           | There are a lot of nonprofits doing important things, and I
           | think it's likely you could switch to one.
           | 
           | [1] https://www.jefftk.com/p/leaving-google-joining-the-
           | nucleic-...
        
             | dredmorbius wrote:
             | OT: what's your blog based on?
             | 
             | I looked for a colophon / about site page with no joy.
             | 
             | Source suggests it's simply hand-coded HTML?
             | 
             | Hrm... Apparently, plus some webscripts?
             | 
             | <https://www.jefftk.com/p/designing-low-upkeep-software>
             | 
             | <https://github.com/jeffkaufman/webscripts/blob/master/make
             | rs...>
        
               | jefftk wrote:
               | That's right: I draft each post in HTML, then have some
               | scripts which add indexes, headers, footers, and css, and
               | make an RSS feed.
        
               | dredmorbius wrote:
               | Thanks, pretty cool.
               | 
               | I also like the article preview hack.
        
               | jefftk wrote:
               | Thanks! Implementation details:
               | https://www.jefftk.com/p/preview-on-hover
        
           | zachthewf wrote:
           | there are lots of swe jobs with the government.
        
             | grishka wrote:
             | I would rather not involve myself with the government of my
             | country.
        
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         | ivee wrote:
         | I completely disagree. If you walked up to Marl, built trust
         | with him, and asked him whether he wanted more meaningful
         | content in his life (for a definition of meaningful which made
         | sense to him) I think he would say yes. So it's not really
         | about Marl's preferences but about the way those preferences
         | are collected and Marl's (sadly mostly justified) lack of
         | trust.
        
           | wk_end wrote:
           | If you walked up to me, built trust with me, and asked me if
           | I wanted more exercise in my life I'd say yes. And yet.
        
             | RugnirViking wrote:
             | and yet if you became friends with someone that encouraged
             | you in the right way, or found a routine that let you get
             | exercise in a way that didn't suck, you'd probably feel
             | really good about yourself and want to keep doing it.
             | 
             | It's not that its impossible to work with people to raise
             | them to a higher stanardard. It's harder, sure. But not
             | impossible. And the result is usually worth its weight in
             | gold
        
         | mbwgh wrote:
         | I think you may both be right. Assume you start off with a
         | small niche product and keep increasing your userbase.
         | 
         | Then the characteristics of the users at the fringes will
         | change the more you grow. That is to say, the former Marls in
         | the middle are different (and likely not so shallow) from the
         | next-generation Marls on the outside. Eventually, your notion
         | of what is the average user, and OP's notion of what is the
         | Marl that finally kills the UX, will align.
        
         | timdumol wrote:
         | "Marginal" in the blogpost is used in the economic sense, as in
         | the next incremental user -- not "marginal" as in minority.
        
           | thaumasiotes wrote:
           | That is the way whack is using it. whack is correct that if
           | there is a negative effect on the average user, a test will
           | show that negative effect. That's what "average" means.
           | 
           | To perceive an effect in new users without getting the same
           | effect in existing users, you'd need to show different
           | content to those two groups.
        
             | lyjackal wrote:
             | Hmm, I think the authors point is more towards attention
             | addiction, rather than specific average types of people.
             | It's more a matter of setting a low bar to encourage more
             | people to be distracted by your app when they really
             | shouldn't be using it. Basically increasing the number of
             | apps that people check in on, especially when those users
             | are in their marginal time (before bed, while cooking,
             | etc.).
        
         | callalex wrote:
         | A/B tests, as they are run by current software companies, are
         | inherently flawed. I have never, in my entire career, ever
         | heard of an A/B test that ran for a year, let alone 3-5 years.
         | That's where the true power of statistics comes alive, and
         | nobody is financially incentivized to even consider that fact.
        
           | eternal_braid wrote:
           | Have you heard of long running holdbacks? Even if not, rest
           | assured that for major features, they are very commonly run.
        
           | eru wrote:
           | Gwern runs tests that long.
        
           | makeitdouble wrote:
           | I've seen one A/B test in the wild run for a full year.
           | 
           | It was on a small part (test of a product name + description
           | across the site), and the most interesting aspect was that it
           | only made a small but measureable difference. Because of that
           | there was no strong incentive to delete the AB test (not much
           | harm to the user) nor make the B side permanent (too low of
           | an effect).
           | 
           | In that respect, AB Tests that end early aren't a bad thing
           | IMO: either there's a clear improvement or it's really bad,
           | and the choice is obvious enough to not have to wait much
           | longer.
        
             | mlyle wrote:
             | What I think the grandparent is getting at:
             | 
             | You can measure the direct effect of a change now on
             | something like conversions. But you can't measure the
             | second order effects: things like trust from your users, or
             | the effects on community quality and composition, etc.
             | 
             | This is a good part of why enshittification happens: lots
             | of changes with immediate "good" impact that can be
             | measured quantifiably, but there's also readily foreseeable
             | negative consequences to them.
             | 
             | Of course, just running the test longer doesn't really
             | address this for most possible changes.
        
               | disgruntledphd2 wrote:
               | Generally you'll have a quarterly holdout to measure
               | total impacts but I agree that yearly would be better.
        
               | mlyle wrote:
               | But even this doesn't work: if you are continually making
               | choices that erode your users' trust in you, there will
               | eventually be an impact. It happens outside of the
               | experiment (e.g. communications between users, general
               | sliding changes in sentiment, etc). And you can't just
               | spot in the time series whether you're going too far or
               | not.
        
           | bonniemuffin wrote:
           | You're certainly correct that software companies should do a
           | lot more year+ A/B tests. You can learn really interesting
           | things from it that a shorter test won't capture. I know of
           | this one: https://medium.com/@AnalyticsAtMeta/notifications-
           | why-less-i...
        
           | broguinn wrote:
           | Your point is a good one - what you're describing I've heard
           | referred to as "the novelty effect". In fact, a lot in this
           | article reminds me of another essay critical of the short-
           | sightedness of many A/B tests:
           | 
           | https://www.zumsteg.net/2022/07/05/unchecked-ab-testing-
           | dest...
        
           | jefftk wrote:
           | When I worked on ads at Google we had many A/B tests that had
           | been running that long, generally holdbacks where a feature
           | was almost entirely but not 100% launched.
           | 
           | It was relatively rare that the holdback would show markedly
           | different results than the initial A/B test we used in
           | deciding to launch. If that had happened more often we would
           | have run more long tests and been slower to move to launch.
        
         | carlosjobim wrote:
         | > That is why every product, no matter how noble it starts off,
         | eventually degenerate into Marl-fodder.
         | 
         | The big reason for that is that people do not want to pay for
         | quality content or services. Ask any HN commenter if you doubt
         | me. So companies instead focus on growth to get the ad cents
         | from the millions of impressions, or trick "whales" by
         | manipulating their addiction in the same manner as casinos.
         | 
         | As long as people call anybody a fool for paying for online
         | services, don't expect things to improve.
        
         | hackerlight wrote:
         | You're using a different definition of the world "marginal".
         | _Marginal_ in context doesn 't mean rare or unusual. It just
         | means the next user.
        
         | cwkoss wrote:
         | The penultimate paragraph of the article says almost exactly
         | this
        
       | throwawaymaths wrote:
       | The good news is, if this becomes too much of a problem, we can
       | always give software feature and purchasing decisions to a
       | nonuser!
        
       | AlbertCory wrote:
       | A great article.
       | 
       | "Growth" is the culprit. "What if we just acted like the
       | successful restaurant: packed every night, very profitable, solid
       | employment for my kids?"
       | 
       | Nah. We have to keep growing.
        
         | epx wrote:
         | +1. Software companies should accept that there is a ceiling to
         | their revenue, and this ceiling won't need that many engineers
         | to maintain the software. But many actors are benefied by
         | believing in infinite growth. It is a collective illusion.
        
         | evouga wrote:
         | It's not so easy for several reasons:
         | 
         | 1. It's easy enough for a lone entrepreneur with no investors
         | to make principled long-term decisions. It's not so trivial
         | when you owe a fiduciary duty to a board of venture
         | capitalists.
         | 
         | 2. Your team of engineers (which has grown steadily as you've
         | scaled up) have built The Thing and everyone loves it. Now
         | what? You only need 5% of the team to maintain the software.
         | You could fire 95% of the team, which will make your company
         | mighty unpopular to future hires, and moreover your best
         | developers won't want to stay and do maintenance for the next
         | decade. Easier to have them work on gratuitous frontend
         | redesigns, bloated features that increase engagement metrics,
         | etc. In a restaurant the contractors who build and furnish the
         | place aren't your employees.
        
       | kazinator wrote:
       | I wrote a comment about this recently:
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=37457753
       | 
       | "Marl" is an interesting angle on it.
        
       | scoofy wrote:
       | I honestly see the tyranny of Marl is part of the original sin of
       | the internet, zero-sum online consolidation of existing business
       | models. If that's the model, Marl is the only user who matters.
       | If you're bootstrapping something for an intended and limited
       | audience, Marl can fuck off.
       | 
       | My personal project, https://golfcourse.wiki is basically founded
       | on my attempt to stop Marl from making golf-on-the-internet
       | shitty.
       | 
       | My religion is basically that Wikipedia is the only website that
       | I don't hate after 20 years of internet growth, so that's my
       | model. I've attempted to do this by having nearly no expectations
       | for the site for 5 years (we are in late-year 2, with a year of
       | causal development before that). I do this by running on the
       | thinnest budget I possibly can. There is no handy interface
       | (yet), if you want to add your course, it isn't too hard, but it
       | isn't too easy. The site is ugly simplicity.
       | 
       | Anyone who doesn't understand or care that I'm trying to build a
       | database to then give it away for free will tell me the site
       | sucks, and they're not wrong. It sucks because I am not paying
       | for the data, so I don't have to charge for it. Still, I'm
       | slowly-but-surely growing my google imprint, and increasing my
       | (consumptive) user base.
       | 
       | Anyone who has spent the time to add to the project I'm extremely
       | thankful for. I will never focus on Marl, because the consumption
       | side of the site is not the target audience for me, it's the
       | contribution side. It's a hobby, and at a few dozen dollars a
       | month to operate, if the side doesn't snowball, it's no big loss.
        
       | mrshoe wrote:
       | The real problem is industry-wide adoption of metrics-driven
       | design.
       | 
       | When I studied cognitive science, the method we employed for HCI
       | was User Centered System Design. Granted, this was a backronym
       | for UCSD, but the point remains -- design should be user-
       | centered, not metrics-driven.
       | 
       | When I launch Netflix, it is abundantly clear to me that their
       | design is driven by their metrics. What I want to see at the top
       | is my "continue watching" shows -- 99% of the time I just want to
       | watch the next episode of a show that I'm already watching.
       | Instead, they show me row upon row of shows that I have never
       | watched. Their metrics prove to them that getting me hooked on
       | new shows will increase my engagement and increase the amount of
       | time I spend in their app. Guess what? As a user, those are not
       | my goals! Their UI is effectively one big advertisement for
       | Netflix itself. Wonderful.
       | 
       | Unfortunately, virtually all tech companies have accepted
       | metrics-driven design as conventional wisdom at this point. Run
       | an A/B test and see which button treatment performs better, based
       | on the metrics the company cares about -- not what the user cares
       | about.
       | 
       | One outlier here is Apple. They do not design based on
       | experiments and metrics. And the Apple TV app does in fact
       | display the shows I am already watching as the top row. Go
       | figure.
        
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         | gnyman wrote:
         | Yes, and not only design, it's metrics-driven everything.
         | 
         | And often the metrics can be counter productive in the long
         | term, but by then people have collected their bonuses,
         | promotions or left the company.
         | 
         | Here is a example I encountered from few years back where
         | Google Ads was loading slower then the search and ended up
         | replacing the first result just when you were about to click
         | it. https://twitter.com/gnyman/status/1257239940309622784
         | 
         | If it was intentional or not I don't know, but I recall that
         | this persisted for many months before being fixed.
         | 
         | I think it's obvious (but maybe I'm wrong) that accidentally
         | clicking on ads is not what google wants, long term. As that
         | won't get any real results for the advertiser. Which in turn
         | reduces their interest to spend. But short term I bet Google
         | made a lot of buck on this.
         | 
         | Either way, maybe it's unavoidable in a capitalistic world,
         | it's not like non-software companies were driven by a consumer
         | happiness score before either. The reason it feels so bad is
         | just that a lot of us have been here during the growth phase
         | when end-user happiness is a more important metric.
        
         | egonschiele wrote:
         | I agree with everything except the last bit. I have purchases
         | on Apple TV, and I'm not a subscriber, but when I launch the
         | app, all I see is subscriber-only content. Apple Music is
         | similar.
        
         | Wowfunhappy wrote:
         | > Their metrics prove to them that getting me hooked on new
         | shows will increase my engagement and increase the amount of
         | time I spend in their app. Guess what? As a user, those are not
         | my goals!
         | 
         | But here's what I find odd about Netflix. Up until extremely
         | recently--and even now for most customers--Netflix did not and
         | does not display ads. Netflix makes money from subscription
         | fees, which means they get the same amount of money whether you
         | spend zero, 10, 50, or 100 hours per month in their app, as
         | long as you keep paying for your subscription.
         | 
         | Netflix has apparently concluded that users who spend more time
         | in their app are more likely to remain subscribed. I wonder why
         | that is, or if Netflix is even correct. I would think that for
         | most users, the quality of their time matters more than the
         | quantity.
        
           | beisner wrote:
           | I think it's probably because it's extremely hard to
           | understand what * _content*_ keeps users subscribing, and
           | "hours spent watching this content" is maybe the lowest-
           | hanging (or only?) "clean" metric you can use to determine
           | what content to keep, how much to spend on content, etc. I
           | watch a smattering of shows on netflix and so keep a
           | subscription, but I don't watch very much. How the heck are
           | they supposed to know whether a piece of content will keep me
           | subscribing? And how much should they spend to
           | produce/acquire that content? It's a very difficult supply-
           | side question.
        
           | apetresc wrote:
           | Indeed, given the relatively high cost of streaming high-
           | quality video, you'd think Netflix makes substantially _more_
           | money from the 0-hour viewer compared to the 100-hour viewer.
        
             | quickthrower2 wrote:
             | Maybe they prefer dominance over profit. Make less money
             | but maximise revenue. They want you to spend 100 hours a
             | month not 50 even if you pay the same so that you are not
             | spending time at a competitor such as Disney or hanging out
             | with friends at a bar.
             | 
             | Eventually they may go like Amazon with infinite upsells
             | and hunt for whales.
        
               | Wowfunhappy wrote:
               | How could this be good business?
        
               | quickthrower2 wrote:
               | Maybe the LTV is higher. Or it attracts more shows to
               | Netflix than competitors. Ot it secures a moat.
        
             | revscat wrote:
             | Unless they're selling user data.
        
             | Clamchop wrote:
             | There do seem to be "churners" out there subscribing to
             | services only for as long as they need to watch the show
             | they want to see, and I'd guess a wide middle of customers
             | who are at least prepared to cancel if they feel that
             | they're not using the service enough or that they will get
             | better value from an alternative.
             | 
             | To keep these customers, you need to keep them continuously
             | hooked on your programming.
        
               | Wowfunhappy wrote:
               | If I was Netflix, and I was optimizing for this type of
               | customer, I would want to have them moving through my
               | content as _slowly_ as possible! My goal would be 2-4
               | hours of Netflix per week, preferably spread across
               | different days--just enough to ensure they haven 't lost
               | interest! Autoplay Next Episode would not be a thing, and
               | I certainly wouldn't release new seasons all at once.
        
         | brap wrote:
         | You assume that your goals are aligned with the company's
         | goals. They're not. There is no "problem", it's all working as
         | intended.
         | 
         | From the company's point of view, they actually _are_ doing the
         | right thing. They're making money (which, I'd argue, is
         | ultimately a good thing for everyone involved).
         | 
         | Netflix and Apple are no different, the goal is always $$,
         | Apple just sells different things.
        
           | JohnMakin wrote:
           | No, he's saying the exact opposite - that the company's
           | revenue-driven goals and the user's goals are not in
           | alignment. It is definitely possible for those things to be
           | in alignment, that's how products have worked for the
           | majority of modern human history.
        
             | ibbih wrote:
             | It's a bit more complex than that right? If no part of the
             | user wanted this, it wouldn't drive up engagement. Clearly
             | it causes me to use the product more. Companies can try to
             | optimize for stuff like "satisfaction after using the
             | product" but it's genuinely much harder -- and not tying
             | work to business outcomes is not scalable.
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | Most drug addicts don't want to be addicted, they just
               | want the high. Most video watchers want to continue their
               | current shows, but if you make it easy they will get
               | addicted to shows they didn't know they liked yet. People
               | get on facebook for their friends, and then the infinite
               | scrolling keeps them on long past when they have seen
               | almost everything their friends have done.
        
             | mastema wrote:
             | I think the broader point is that the User's goals and
             | Capitalism's goals are not in alignment and the company,
             | who is caught in the middle, has an obvious and legally
             | required option to choose if they are shareholder owned.
             | The user loses this fight every time.
        
         | JohnMakin wrote:
         | This brings to mind my experience as an early facebook adopter
         | (when it was still college email invite-only), to some point a
         | while ago when they went from a chronological timeline/feed to
         | a "curated" one. Users overwhelmingly did not want or like
         | this, because the main use of facebook at that time was to
         | connect and chat with people you knew in real life. However,
         | that does not drive ads as well as what exists currently, so
         | here we go.
         | 
         | If users were pickier about what they consume things would
         | probably be better - that's also an issue (and I admit I am
         | part of the problem). I can't even remember the last time I saw
         | a close friend's post on my feed.
        
           | hinkley wrote:
           | Welcome to enshitification.
        
             | revscat wrote:
             | This seems to be almost synonymous with metrics-driven
             | design.
        
           | lowbloodsugar wrote:
           | >I can't even remember the last time I saw a close friend's
           | post on my feed.
           | 
           | It's probably because they aren't on Facebook any more.
        
           | bluGill wrote:
           | I have found a hack around facebook that partially works:
           | remove yourself from all groups. So only friends are in your
           | feed. Then every time a friend shares something from one of
           | their group go hit "block all from [group]". Facebook now has
           | less junk to show me as I've blocked most of it, and so I see
           | my friends. I've also set a rule that when I block two groups
           | I'm done for the session. Anytime I share something on
           | Facebook I make sure the privacy settings is "friends of
           | those tags only" - if I'd want more or less than that it is
           | either too private to share at all, or it should be on a
           | better public forum.
           | 
           | I hope more of you start doing the same. There is value in a
           | Facebook type private place to communicate with friends and
           | family (this need not be facebook, but that is where my
           | friends are), and everything else clutters it. The more
           | people who follow similar rules to me the more likely
           | Facebook is to notice in their metrics that people only want
           | Facebook for personal friends, hopefully they adjust to
           | enable that better.
        
             | Crusoe123 wrote:
             | You can filter your feed to only show friends stuff (and
             | it's chronological)
             | 
             | https://www.facebook.com/?filter=friends
        
               | JohnMakin wrote:
               | not on mobile
        
         | nelblu wrote:
         | For netflix : I only watch it on my browser (my TV is basically
         | a monitor connected to a PC), and the way I work around is by
         | having a bookmark : https://www.netflix.com/browse/continue-
         | watching Problem solved! (well until netflix starts blocking
         | that too, in that case I might as well delete their membership)
        
           | Hizonner wrote:
           | That kind of criminal behavior on your part is why Netflix
           | wants you to use the app, you lowlife. How dare you?
        
         | agumonkey wrote:
         | Do these fields care about depth and worth-done efforts from a
         | user ? this decade is about giving everything for free,
         | consumption flow effortlessly, which is obvious a good point to
         | aim, but I remember the things I liked the most are those which
         | made me work a little to make complex things. And I can't find
         | recent advances on this terrain.
        
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         | pwatsonwailes wrote:
         | Apple absolutely does do this. I have first hand knowledge of
         | doing it for them.
        
           | 9dev wrote:
           | Sounds like something you probably should not be talking
           | about on the internet with your real name?
        
             | pwatsonwailes wrote:
             | I'm allowed to say that much. I know my NDAs very well.
        
         | iaaan wrote:
         | Notably, Plex (a free media server) also displays "continue
         | watching" stuff at the top.
        
         | cyanydeez wrote:
         | What you describe is the capitalist perpetual September.
         | 
         | Long term you is less valuable than short term you.
        
         | dgudkov wrote:
         | The real problem is big-money-driven design. Big-money
         | stakeholders don't care about non-measurable things like user
         | experience or user well-being. Big money thinks finance, and
         | finance is always metrics, so everything else becomes metrics
         | too.
         | 
         | A brilliant essay.
        
         | hinkley wrote:
         | Worse, they loop through when you scroll horizontally and
         | replace the thumbnails with new icons for the same shows, so
         | you lose track of whether you've wrapped around or not.
         | 
         | I've been waiting for the day when we wake up and realize how
         | cynical and impersonal the world of A/B testing is and
         | consumers insist on better treatment.
        
       | avip wrote:
       | I'd like to give a shoutout to the one app in my life which
       | actually gets _better_ overtime - whatsapp.
       | 
       | The only app, to my goldfish-like limited knowledge, which always
       | delivers.
        
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