[HN Gopher] Social media decline: Users are shifting to messagin...
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       Social media decline: Users are shifting to messaging apps and
       group chats
        
       Author : thunderbong
       Score  : 307 points
       Date   : 2023-08-31 09:57 UTC (13 hours ago)
        
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       | michaelt wrote:
       | A few years ago I heard an interesting description of social
       | behaviour on a radio program interviewing a sociologist.
       | 
       | They compared human social interaction to the way an actor can be
       | on stage or back stage, and would behave very differently in the
       | two situations, even though we wouldn't consider it dishonesty.
       | Likewise, it's completely normal that a food service worker
       | interacting with customers would behave very differently to how
       | they do in the staff break room or outside of work.
       | 
       | In the back stage context, for example, you can try on new ideas
       | and then discard them after discussion, secure in the knowledge
       | it'll soon be forgotten. Or you can speak plainly about topics
       | where opinions differ, knowing how the people you're talking to
       | will feel. Or you can be a bit boring, a bit derivative, a bit
       | cringe. And of course, how public the discussion is doesn't just
       | impact you - it also impacts who'll reply, and with what.
       | 
       | I can well believe people have found there's much more
       | authenticity in group chats than there is on the major social
       | media platforms.
        
         | kaycebasques wrote:
         | The trust of a small, private group goes a long way, but I also
         | wonder whether we've internalized the idea that things you say
         | on the internet can last a long time. Even if the UI claims to
         | be ephemeral, someone in your close group can screenshot what
         | you posted and distribute it anonymously.
        
       | jt2190 wrote:
       | The title I see:
       | 
       | > Social media is dead: Group chats and messaging apps killed it
       | 
       | Which I'd edit down to:
       | 
       | > Group chats and messaging apps killed social media
        
       | lolive wrote:
       | I have an addiction to Twitter, but I am the first to admit that
       | top-quality tweets are one in a million in my timeline. The big
       | advantage is that I follow so many different kind of people at
       | once that there is a HUGE diversity of infos.
       | 
       | On the contrary, I follow very specific topics on Reddit. And as
       | far as I am concerned, the quality of info is top-level, and the
       | signal/noise ratio is VERY good.
       | 
       | Regarding Facebook, I mostly only follow [dedicated] groups now.
       | And once again, the signal/noise ratio is much better.
       | 
       | Conclusion: apart from Twitter, social media are all back to
       | being fancy Usenet clones :)
        
         | tomrod wrote:
         | I took a 2 year break from Facebook. It just got to be too
         | much. I just rejoined, as kids' schools send messaging and
         | announcements regularly there and other groups of local
         | interest use it to coordinate. Outside of that, no one is
         | posting anything but meme reshares that echo 1990s email
         | forwards.
        
       | morkalork wrote:
       | I think nobody posting anymore is an overcorrection or reaction
       | to the days of over sharing and posting about every little bit of
       | drama.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | c4mpute wrote:
       | I think this is an eternal cycle. Maybe related to what has been
       | called "enshittification", but not the same:
       | 
       | Users will flock to a platform, make it their own. The platform
       | will grow. Then the advertisers, professionals, and hucksters
       | will swoop in, do their thing, and slowly overshadow the old
       | "normal" users. Then old users will leave, leaving a wasteland of
       | ads and glossy shiny.
       | 
       | I'd like to call it "glossification".
        
         | aleph_minus_one wrote:
         | > Users will flock to a platform, make it their own.
         | 
         | As a user (in particular as a non-paying one), you _never_ make
         | the platform your own. This feeling is pure entitlement.
         | 
         | If you want to make a platform your own, set up your own web
         | platform.
        
         | Etrnl_President wrote:
         | I left when I realized the platform is controlling what I see,
         | is pitting me against my friends and aquaintances to generate
         | negative interactions, and is filled with bots and fake users
         | pushing politics.
         | 
         | https://www.freedomsphoenix.com/News/225933-2017-09-22-faceb...
        
         | romusha wrote:
         | Would this be like gentrification?
        
           | morkalork wrote:
           | Sure. Like how a neighbourhood with low rent, cheap cultural
           | non-corporate restaurants (pho, tacos, gyros), full of
           | students, young professionals, immigrants and all the
           | character those things have is like a young platform. Then
           | because it's a cool place to be, brands move in (hello
           | Starbucks), rent goes up, and the people that made it
           | interesting in the first place are pushed out.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | quchen wrote:
         | How is this not the same? It sounds exactly like I understand
         | enshittification. Literally:
         | 
         | > First, they are good to their users; then they abuse their
         | users to make things better for their business customers;
         | finally, they abuse those business customers to claw back all
         | the value for themselves. Then, they die.
         | 
         | (Source: https://www.wired.com/story/tiktok-platforms-cory-
         | doctorow/)
         | 
         | Do you mean that the context here is not user/business, but
         | personal/curated?
        
           | c4mpute wrote:
           | I see the difference in that "enshittification" is what the
           | platform owner does. "Glossification" is what the users do.
           | Of course both are closely related.
           | 
           | To elaborate, with an example: ebay has once been a platform
           | to find things non-professional people would sell from their
           | attic on the cheap, as an auction. Then professional sellers
           | came in, first with auctions (either more expensive ones, or
           | by using sockpuppet accounts to drive up the bid). That was
           | glossification. ebay then of course went through
           | enshittification, with fixed-price offers, selling preferred
           | spots, etc. But interestingly, they currently seem to try to
           | revert some of that, because glossification and
           | enshittification affect their bottom line, so now non-
           | commercial sellers get zero fees and their own classifieds'
           | platform
        
             | CM30 wrote:
             | Yeah, they're two related yet distinct issues. Take Medium
             | or Quora for example. The whole 'login to view any content
             | at all' issue would be enshittification, since its the
             | platform owners trying to screw over users for their own
             | benefit. The flood of low quality, crappy articles and
             | answers by people trying to make a quick buck would be this
             | other phenomenon, since its the users trying to make a buck
             | at everyone else's expense.
        
           | FrustratedMonky wrote:
           | They are definitely related. The social media
           | 'enshitification' is a subset of all tech/industry
           | 'enshitification'
           | 
           | Think the Doctorow 'Enshitification' was more broader than
           | just social media, and was all technology, even non-social
           | apps eventually turn bad as the goals switch from being
           | focused on the user and providing value, to corporate greed
           | trying to extract money from the user.
        
             | philipov wrote:
             | Isn't enshittification simply the business cycle? It's
             | describing in detail the why of the bust portion of the
             | cycle.
        
               | dahwolf wrote:
               | It's an annoying word in itself, and yes, it's simply
               | business as usual in startup land. Invest aggressively at
               | a loss to accelerate growth, then later monetize, if you
               | get that far.
               | 
               | Can't we do better? Have a stable business, organically
               | growing and profitable from the start?
               | 
               | No. Tech is winner takes all. You need to be first and
               | grow the fastest or somebody else will.
        
           | Frost1x wrote:
           | I'd say in one case it's a strategic corporate tactic: you
           | intentionally build something to attract people with the
           | understanding that you'll slowly boil and eventually gouge
           | them if you're successful, peeling away freedoms and adding
           | fees in some form.
           | 
           | In the other case, it seems like something is a victim of its
           | own success. A product or service becomes so successful it
           | draws attention of the lifeless leeches of society who swoop
           | in to try and acquire and/or exploit it knowing there's
           | opportunity there. There was no strategic plan to do this
           | (other than the fact all leeches are drawn to blood as an
           | inevitability). Also, in many cases, exploitation occurs from
           | user space: we don't own this thing, only have the abilities
           | of everyone else using this thing, but there's a lot of
           | potential money there so how do we grab some?
        
           | ben_w wrote:
           | My understanding is that enshittification is much more
           | general (though perhaps this is just linguistic drift); an
           | organisation that has done a hard thing, but now has to
           | justify its continuing existence and expense coming up with
           | things nobody needs and which add zero or negative value.
           | 
           | This can be rent extraction (literal or metaphorical, no
           | matter where on that spectrum advertising goes); and also it
           | can be feature creep, mission creep, scope creep,
           | bureaucratic bloat.
        
             | john-radio wrote:
             | Yeah, I used to call enshittification "Black and
             | Deckering".
        
               | jack_riminton wrote:
               | Interesting comparison, do you mean this because B&D now
               | come up with things people don't need?
        
               | Angostura wrote:
               | I think they were a brand known for fairly high quality
               | equipment that had a good reputation. They capitalised on
               | their brand by producing increasingly inferior products
        
               | salawat wrote:
               | This is called "cashing out the goodwill of the brand". A
               | steady decrease in quality of output while optimizing for
               | minimum inputs in seek of alpha.
               | 
               | A.k.a Welching. Gettin' the juice out.
        
               | everybodyknows wrote:
               | IIRC the private equity operators prefer the phrase
               | "maximizing brand value". Such a nicely positive ring
               | about it, yes?
        
               | gnu8 wrote:
               | What we need is a way to objectively quantify the
               | reduction of quality over time so that people will have a
               | clear idea of what they're actually buying rather than
               | relying on a hazy and outdated idea of the brand's
               | reputation. People would know that the drill B&D is
               | selling in 2023 is a 40% drill, not the 80% drill they
               | were selling in 1993.
               | 
               | Reducing quality and coasting on goodwill isn't really
               | alpha, it's actually just stealing. They used information
               | asymmetry to sell the customer less drill than they
               | thought they were getting and it shouldn't be allowed.
        
               | jack_riminton wrote:
               | Reminds me of the interview with Steve Jobs where he
               | talks about large companies not caring about product
               | because of their market position. Soon all that really
               | matters is sales and marketing, so all the people that
               | were good at making good products leave or get drowned
               | out by bad decisions
               | 
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4VBqTViEx4
        
             | Gibbon1 wrote:
             | My accountant mom introduced me to the term goodwill which
             | is an intangible asset. It's basically the extra value over
             | assets minus liabilities. It's based on brand loyalty,
             | established customer relations, etc.
             | 
             | MBA culture promotes the idea that it's advantageous to
             | burn a companies goodwill to boost a couple of quarters
             | earnings. MBA's love to do that because it's easy and MBA's
             | are fundamentally lazy and incurious and will jump ship
             | before it plays out.
        
         | wodenokoto wrote:
         | It's not advertisers that keeps users from posting. Plenty of
         | people doom scroll on Facebook and instagram. ads hasn't scared
         | users away all that much.
         | 
         | It's that the platforms have been invaded by professionals
         | coupled with an expanded "suggested for you" posts with a
         | little bit of platforms pushing users to grow their graphs
         | endlessly.
         | 
         | This creates a combination where posting isn't really for your
         | friends, it's for everyone and do you really want to share with
         | everyone? While at the same time the platforms are pushing
         | towards being a content delivery platform and not a content
         | creation platform.
        
           | TheRealPomax wrote:
           | You don't have to be scared away. It just needs to be shit
           | enough that you're going to use a second social medium
           | alongside. Then it's just a normal "use the fun one more, use
           | the shit one less" until you realise the shit one just makes
           | you feel like shit and you stop using it entirely.
           | 
           | And of course, there'll always be a segment that never gets
           | to that realization, keeping the corpse animated.
        
           | A4ET8a8uTh0 wrote:
           | It is not just that. At this point, most people know that
           | their online presence is scoured by entities that may be
           | unfriendly for one reason or another, or maybe is gathering
           | information about you ( say HR people looking at your recent
           | Linkedin posts ).
           | 
           | Honestly, if that is true ( and I have no real way of knowing
           | ), I think that is a good thing. People are finally
           | adjusting.
        
           | the_snooze wrote:
           | >It's that the platforms have been invaded by professionals
           | coupled with an expanded "suggested for you" posts with a
           | little bit of platforms pushing users to grow their graphs
           | endlessly.
           | 
           | It really shows the hubris and lack of humanity in social
           | media platforms. Instead of letting people naturally figure
           | out who they want to talk to and hear from, social media
           | empowers randos to butt in on private interactions, by
           | design.
        
             | [deleted]
        
         | FrustratedMonky wrote:
         | Yes
         | 
         | Early Digg was pretty good.
         | 
         | Early Reddit had a lot of good help guides and interesting
         | perspectives.
         | 
         | Now on HN. And crossing fingers.
         | 
         | (Slashdot seemed to go through the cycle, bottom out, and is ok
         | again?)
        
           | ModernMech wrote:
           | Slashdot will never be okay again. I go there every so often
           | to check, and it's still a dumpster fire.
        
             | queuebert wrote:
             | And R.I.P. kuro5hin.
        
             | sumtechguy wrote:
             | I tried soylent for awhile. But then realized the people
             | who lit the dumpster fire at SD were there too.
        
           | zirgs wrote:
           | Most niche subreddits are still good. Just avoid big/default
           | subs and anything related to politics and culture wars.
           | 
           | That's what disappointed me when I tried reddit alternatives.
           | Politics and culture wars were there too, but niche subs were
           | nowhere to be found. They don't seem to understand what made
           | reddit worse in the first place.
           | 
           | So I went back to reddit.
        
             | bluetwo wrote:
             | The problem I have with Reddit is every subreddit seems
             | filled with amateurs posting the same starter questions
             | daily, never looking at the feed to see these questions
             | have been asked and answered daily.
        
             | pclmulqdq wrote:
             | The niches basically succeed because they aren't worth it
             | to marketers and "influencers" to shit up with "content."
             | It's awful when a nice community gets too big, because once
             | it does it's now worth money to do that.
             | 
             | I also think this is the magic that forums used to have,
             | and Reddit is basically a convenient platform for forum
             | hosting.
        
             | lynx23 wrote:
             | s,subreddits,events, and s,/default subs, festivals, in
             | your first paragraph and it is still valid.
             | 
             | Saying that because I noticed this effect as a young
             | festival goer. As the size of the event grew, the number of
             | people I'd much rather not be around also increased. I am
             | suspecting something similar is also at play here, in
             | addition to the bot-effect...
        
             | yelling_cat wrote:
             | A niche sub equivalent succeeding on, say, Lemmy would
             | either require the existing reddit sub to close and migrate
             | there or for the Lemmy active user count to grow to the
             | point where a critical mass of users interested in that
             | niche want to discuss it there. There needs to be some way
             | on Lemmy to promote those forums as well. A couple of niche
             | forums I'm subscribed to are gaining a little traction, but
             | I only found out they existed when they were mentioned on
             | the reddit subs they're based on.
        
         | ModernMech wrote:
         | I don't remember the correct term, maybe someone can help, but
         | this is what happens to "scenes".
         | 
         | Cool kids do their own thing (art, music, whatever), some
         | people notice and like what they're doing and enjoy it
         | genuinely. They spread the word and more people join the scene.
         | Then posers come in and try to imitate the cool kids, but can't
         | really capture the same spark.
         | 
         | Scene grows and an eternal September commences where the
         | original intent of the cool kids and genuine interest of the
         | original fans is lost, as newcomers are there just to be part
         | of the scene. Eventually they dominate the scene.
         | 
         | Finally advertisers and capitalists see a money making
         | opportunity and they monetize the whole thing, ruining it for
         | everyone.
        
         | steveBK123 wrote:
         | It is also an age/generation thing. FB was cool until your aunt
         | was there. Then IG was cool until the same. TikTok probably
         | well through that cycle. etc.
        
           | dahwolf wrote:
           | I think my aunt is great and much cooler than my peers.
           | 
           | I object to this weird anti-family culture. I don't give a
           | shit what is "cool". It's a made-up concept, unlike family.
           | Family has my back, and I have theirs. But I guess on
           | "social" media being social isn't cool.
           | 
           | There's nothing more natural and important than socializing
           | with your family.
        
           | cvhashim04 wrote:
           | All the cool kids are on Locket
        
             | queuebert wrote:
             | All the really cool kids never left EFnet.
        
         | pjc50 wrote:
         | Someone deeper in the comments posted
         | https://meaningness.com/geeks-mops-sociopaths , which describes
         | the phenomenon well. Many years ago a similar lifecycle issue
         | was noticed with "MUDs", the ancestor of MMOs: they lasted for
         | a couple of years then users would gradually migrate elsewhere
         | as the old place became "stale".
         | 
         | Social media is both a platform and a set of communities using
         | it. If the health of public communities is not good, people
         | will migrate away. I do think that the past decade of
         | intensification of the "culture war" on social media has
         | contributed to its destruction; people are simply exhausted,
         | and new users (kids) who've grown up in a high-surveillance
         | environment are less keen to post about themselves because it's
         | an attack surface.
        
         | Buttons840 wrote:
         | HN loves to complain about Discord (with good reason), but
         | Discord is anti-gloss.
         | 
         | Small Discord communities can generate a lot of discussion, a
         | lot of user generated content. Discord is also a poor place to
         | do stealth advertising; if you post fake messages about how
         | good your product is, those messages will just get buried and
         | will never show up in a search result; it's not very effective.
         | 
         | Things changed this year. We saw the rise of LLMs and the fall
         | of Twitter and Reddit and the rise of federated social
         | networks. I think the Twitter / Mastodon format is more robust
         | for both small and large user bases; the Reddit format is
         | dying. Real-time chat rooms still have a place, especially with
         | the right tooling / notifications. LLMs threaten to replace all
         | of them and end the online network effect altogether.
        
           | Root_Denied wrote:
           | My biggest problem with Discord is still more related to
           | support communities (what would have previously been a
           | focused forum or subreddit) moving there, and the subsequent
           | lack of archival of topics and answers for future reference.
        
             | Xunxi wrote:
             | On android, as soon as your display timeout it will auto
             | scroll to new messages. It is also very tedious to go and
             | stay in the first post of threads.
             | 
             | Quite infuriating especially on a lengthy thread. There's a
             | 5 year old feature request that nobody ever bothered to
             | respond to.
             | 
             | https://support.discord.com/hc/en-
             | us/community/posts/3600320...
        
             | margalabargala wrote:
             | This has actually been fixed in the past ~6 months, and
             | quite nicely.
             | 
             | They added the concept of a "forum" channel, where you can
             | have individual support questions, and each one has its own
             | thread that addresses that specific question.
             | 
             | Better yet; the search box and the "make a new post" box
             | _are the same box_. So if you 're starting to ask your
             | question, as you type, it's filtering previous questions
             | based on the words in the question you're trying to ask.
        
               | cdcarter wrote:
               | The Zig programming language community has a very active
               | Discord, and they use the forum mode. I've searched for
               | questions I feel "certain" someone else would have asked
               | (like how to convert a `[]const u8` to a `[255]const u8`)
               | and rarely can get Discord's search to find something
               | relevant. Thankfully, the community answers quickly
               | anyway.
        
           | Zetobal wrote:
           | Discord is the windows 11 of chat apps. Ads and subscription
           | begging behind every third click.
        
             | cfeduke wrote:
             | As I type a message in Discord, a pop up appears next to my
             | cursor with some disabled Emoticons, prompting me to pony
             | up my credit card and upgrade to Nitro... so I can include
             | these in my message.
             | 
             | This is the forum replacement. Right. :\
        
             | Buttons840 wrote:
             | I've never seen an ad on Discord, but I have seen them
             | trying to sell premium features. When I talk about Discord
             | being "anti-gloss", I mean all live-chat formats, Discord,
             | Matrix, IRC, etc.
        
               | ngc6677 wrote:
               | Using matrix.org to post in public/private chat rooms is
               | practical, and can chose any client to CRUD content, or
               | subscribe to rooms (feeds). Element allows export of room
               | contents (with attachments) to JSON or XML.
               | https://libli.org/libli-news:matrix.org
        
         | Madmallard wrote:
         | My brother told me there was an FBI study concluded about
         | Reddit over some recent foreign policy related matter that the
         | percentage of botted posts on the site exceeded 60% in total
         | volume. Seems pretty insane. I wonder what percentage of them
         | cluster in the politically charged subreddits.
        
         | layer8 wrote:
         | The problem is engagement-driven algorithmic feeds. Without
         | them, none of that would happen. Enshittification doesn't
         | happen with traditional web forums. It's entirely a function of
         | how the platforms are set up.
        
         | meroes wrote:
         | Also some stack exchanges I frequent were absolutely bombarded
         | with ChatGPT for a few weeks.
        
         | goodbyesf wrote:
         | Yep. It's how 'you'tube became 'corp'tube. Remember when the
         | selling point of youtube was 'you'?
         | 
         | > Then the advertisers, professionals, and hucksters will swoop
         | in, do their thing, and slowly overshadow the old "normal"
         | users.
         | 
         | It's more insidious than that. Corporations demand special
         | treatment, favorable algorithms and censorship. In the past,
         | when breaking news occurred, I checked youtube, reddit, etc to
         | get more raw news from ordinary people. Now it's all censored
         | on these platforms. Similar to how 'you' can't use bad words on
         | youtube, but corporate entities can. The scales have been
         | tipped overwhelmingly to one side. But I guess that was
         | inevitable.
        
         | tfgg wrote:
         | What was remarkable is how Facebook's Threads app jumped
         | straight to being full of advertisers and hucksters - they
         | didn't think that maybe the right way to bootstrap a social
         | network would be to make it full of authentic conversations, at
         | least to start with.
        
           | delfinom wrote:
           | Lol, I think their plan is to still federate with Mastodon
           | specifically to pad out their vapid platform with content.
           | They were just too much of a self imposed rush to capitalize
           | on Musk and his stupidity, to do it before launch.
        
             | dahwolf wrote:
             | Facebook doesn't care about the tiny amount of content on
             | Mastodon. And it's the wrong type of content anyway.
             | Mastodon is for misfits, nerds, anarchists, Tumblr-style
             | far-left politics, doomers, weirdos and very bad artists.
             | 
             | Instagram and Threads couldn't be more different. It's
             | commerce. Beautiful people. Beautiful places. Shopping.
             | Mainstream pop idols. Grifting influencers. Celebrity
             | gossip. Lifestyle. Fashion. Interior design.
             | 
             | Facebook prefers the latter group as this is where
             | advertisers thrive. The typical Mastodon user would have an
             | anxiety attack when they see an ad.
        
           | listenallyall wrote:
           | Because it was seeded from Instagram, a platform which
           | promotes people who look good (like myself, of course) not
           | necessarily people with anything interesting to say.
           | "Authentic conversations" was never a possibility.
        
             | dylan604 wrote:
             | Also possible that they were given early access?
        
           | aleph_minus_one wrote:
           | > they didn't think that maybe the right way to bootstrap a
           | social network would be to make it full of authentic
           | conversations, at least to start with.
           | 
           | I doubt that _any_ social media platform owner wants
           | authentic conversations - even initially.
           | 
           | Instead of giving arguments, I refer to Paul Graham's essay
           | "What you can't say":
           | 
           | > http://www.paulgraham.com/say.html
           | 
           | If people were really authentic in their conversations, they
           | would be in real trouble quite soon - and the social media
           | platform on which these really authentic conversations are
           | posted would be, too.
           | 
           | So, what social media companies do is enforce some kind of
           | "editorial policy" (moderation) which makes the conversations
           | that don't become censored still feel "somewhat authentic" to
           | many visitors, so that this bluff only gets busted after some
           | time in which the platform's owners can make sufficient
           | money.
        
             | SoftTalker wrote:
             | I had forgotten about that essay. Quite appropos in these
             | times (probably in all times, but there are a few current
             | topics that immediately spring to mind).
        
       | nitwit005 wrote:
       | If social media means a way to communicate with friends, family,
       | and extended community online, it's pretty clear Meta and Tiktok
       | don't want their products to be that. They've made sure you can't
       | get a feed of just your friends.
       | 
       | It's natural the people who want that sort of thing will go
       | elsewhere.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | hot_gril wrote:
         | I think they saw engagement dipping as people got bored with
         | it, so they started filling it with algo stuff instead. If they
         | went back to pure friends, I'll bet it wouldn't work.
        
         | jarjoura wrote:
         | Meta and I'm sure TikTok as well, would be MORE than happy to
         | follow wherever users want to take the platform. The problem
         | is, time and time again, users do not want what they say they
         | want.
        
           | soerxpso wrote:
           | What you mean to say is that time and time again, users do
           | not want what causes them to maximize engagement levels and
           | click on the most ads. "Users said they wanted this feature,
           | but we implemented it and engagement didn't go up," doesn't
           | mean that the users lied about what they wanted, it just
           | means that they don't want to use the product in a way that
           | requires a lot of wasted time.
           | 
           | TikTok users say all the time that they want the option to
           | see a feed of videos from people they're following, in
           | reverse-chronological order. They're not lying. The issue is
           | that the reason they want that is so that they can use TikTok
           | for a short (30 minutes or less) session to check for updates
           | on things they actually care about and then close the app,
           | which would be entirely contrary to TikTok's fiscal goals.
        
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       | WXLCKNO wrote:
       | Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Tiktok are all basically Tiktok
       | now.
       | 
       | Reels, Stories, Shorts etc are all just a doom scroll inducing
       | version of the same content posted across networks.
        
       | rpastuszak wrote:
       | 0. It's been 15 years and I still don't know how to use Twitter.
       | 
       | 1. Most of my online social interactions come from people
       | interacting with my work (writing, code, drawings) through:
       | 
       | - my say hi calls (https://sonnet.io/posts/hi) - Mastodon
       | 
       | Quality > quantity ("the Internet is big. Really big. You just
       | won't believe how vastly hugely mindboggingly big it is.", i.e.
       | small niches are big enough)
       | 
       | Not every company needs to be a unicorn, and you don't get closer
       | to people with 10000s of followers vs. 100s who genuinely care.
       | 
       | 2. When I started moving my content from instagram to
       | potato.horse I noticed that suddenly content selection and adding
       | captions to images became so much easier. It's so hard to escape
       | the performative/"screaming into the void" frame of mind when
       | using algo driven social media. Now, I still syndicate to IG and
       | Reddit, but I have templates with comments redirecting users to
       | potato.horse, where I can do whatever the f*ck I want with my
       | content.
        
         | nicbou wrote:
         | Our personal websites are so similar!
         | (https://nicolasbouliane.com) I thought "wow that font is
         | beautiful" then realised that it was also EB Garamond. The art
         | really brings it together. I wish I sketched as often or as
         | well as you do.
         | 
         | Potato.horse is a work of art. How do you syndicate to
         | Instagram and Twitter? I'd love to do something similar. I like
         | your art and the way you chose to present it.
         | 
         | I also met a lot of people through my work, including close
         | friends. I love when people reach out and I try to reward it
         | whenever it happens. What you describe seems like being a
         | participant in a small community, instead of a person on a
         | soapbox.
        
           | rpastuszak wrote:
           | Wow, that's uncanny. Your site looks lovely. Random remarks:
           | I also used a fleuron as a decoration on my site before I
           | replaced it with a little doodle (I call him Janusz). And,
           | I'm even working on a recipes section for my own site at the
           | moment! Also, hope the little subheader with the
           | pronunciation of your name works.
           | 
           | (psst just checking out your carbonara recipe, here's my
           | cacio e pepe with black garlic: https://docs.google.com/docum
           | ent/d/1OUytE9oUnmnwf5BPqt79vqi_...)
           | 
           | > it was also EB Garamond.
           | 
           | Yeah, EB Garamond does the heavy lifting for me design-wise.
           | I use it in Enso (enso.sonnet.io) and Sit. (sit.sonnet.io). I
           | also have an alternative "brutalist" font stack (e.g.
           | butter.sonnet.io), which I use in less serious/"louder"
           | projects. I think I picked it up from a Germany based writer
           | IIRC.
           | 
           | > How do you syndicate to Instagram and Twitter?
           | 
           | Instagram is hard. I don't know if even Buffer supports it
           | without any manual steps. For Twitter I used their API. A GH
           | Actions CRON job would query Contentful for the most recent
           | posts, then push them to Twitter using the twitter NPM
           | package. Recently it's been quite janky.
           | 
           | > I also met a lot of people through my work, including close
           | friends. I love when people reach out and I try to reward it
           | whenever it happens. What you describe seems like being a
           | participant in a small community, instead of a person on a
           | soapbox.
           | 
           | It does feel like this. Sometimes I manage connect some of
           | the people I meet this way, but it happens rarely. I
           | entertained the idea of having a small forum (like
           | ponder.us).
           | 
           | Let's talk some time! (https://calendly.com/hey_hey)
        
           | romesc wrote:
           | I also love it and am interested in hearing more about how
           | you approach syndication!
        
         | SeanAnderson wrote:
         | Hello :) I just wanted to let you know that I intend to reach
         | out and say hi to you soon. Your website resonated with me and
         | I think we'll click in our conversation.
         | 
         | I'm travelling for a week come tomorrow, but when I am back in
         | town I'll book something.
         | 
         | Cheers
        
           | rpastuszak wrote:
           | Roger that, speak soon!
        
         | muhammadusman wrote:
         | I love the domain potato.horse
        
         | jmrm wrote:
         | I had Twitter around ten years ago to talk with content
         | creators, like youtubers or writters. Outside that is mostly a
         | politics and celebrities echo chamber.
        
         | jiofj wrote:
         | You don't know how to use twitter but you know how to use
         | mastodon? Aren't they basically the same thing?
        
           | CharlieDigital wrote:
           | There is a bit of nuance in how these two are different and
           | I'd say Mastodon feels more like early Twitter or early
           | Facebook. On the consume side, that means your home feed has
           | no algorithm.
           | 
           | Practically, it means you only see what you want and you only
           | see it linearly. You never wonder "why am I seeing this and
           | how do I make it go away?" (e.g. Elon constantly in my feed
           | for some reason) Content can only enter your home feed via
           | your followed tags or handles. The home feed is linear like
           | the early days of FB.
           | 
           | Early FB was great; I used it as a news feed as I only
           | "liked" sources I wanted news from. Today? The feed is
           | algorithmically assembled and full of content that is
           | indistinguishable from ads (because of course, both FB and X
           | make their money from ads and algorithmically enhanced
           | engagement). Am I seeing this because someone paid to boost
           | the views? How do I get this feed to behave? (Hypothetical
           | question; maybe it's possible with a lot of tuning and config
           | -- Mastodon just does exactly what I want/expect out of the
           | box: follow these tags + follow these people = see this
           | content in a linear flow)
           | 
           | To me, this simplicity makes it much more approachable on the
           | consume side.
           | 
           | On the publish side, it lets you see the activity level of
           | tags in the past week. This makes it easier to decide "how
           | should I tag this content?".
           | 
           | One other aspect that I think the HN crowd can appreciate is
           | that you don't have to figure out the platform settings for
           | privacy and opt out of ads, tracking, and so on. Yes, there
           | are still some privacy settings to toggle, but Mastodon isn't
           | an ad platform and doesn't make money from being able to
           | track you across the web and feeding you ads.
           | 
           | More intuitive on both the pub and sub sides, IMO. If you
           | liked early FB and early Twitter, you'll instantly find
           | Mastodon more pleasant and intuitive to use.
        
             | queuebert wrote:
             | I also found that Elon was always in my feed even though I
             | don't follow him, so I blocked him and now he's gone.
        
               | abathur wrote:
               | So _you 're_ the reason he wants to remove the block
               | button :)
        
               | klardotsh wrote:
               | If I recall from the algo weighting dump they did last
               | year, Elon is hard-coded to be basically the absolute
               | most important thing to the sorting algo with a pretty
               | long decay time. When he posts, it's effectively
               | guaranteed to be in all Twitter users' feeds, and that's
               | how he wants it.
               | 
               | Then again, I don't know first-hand; I quit Twitter many
               | months before it got this version of Billionaire
               | Buffoonery as an owner.
        
               | rpastuszak wrote:
               | Same here:
               | 
               | 1) block the brain parasite,
               | 
               | 2) disable half of the UI using an ad blocker,
               | 
               | 3) condition yourself to click the "Following" tab
               | without noticing it, and
               | 
               | 4) voila, now you have a semi-pleasant Twitter
               | experience.
        
               | Rustwerks wrote:
               | This is the reason that Twitter is removing the block
               | button...
        
           | sznio wrote:
           | I never figured out how to find something interesting on
           | Twitter. The algo feed doesn't surface anything interesting
           | anyway. On Mastodon, since I picked an instance that fits my
           | interests I can actually browse the local instance
           | feed/trending and see things that do interest me.
        
             | b800h wrote:
             | I'm pretty sold on Mastodon now, but I am wondering what
             | it's failure mode looks like. Everything eventually gets
             | worse - how might this happen with Mastodon?
        
           | rpastuszak wrote:
           | The other comments explain this better than I could.
           | 
           | In short:
           | 
           | I can post the same message on Twitter and Mastodon and get a
           | thoughtful comment on the latter vs. no engagement/shitpost
           | on the former.
           | 
           | Twitter feels like a bunch of angry people screaming into the
           | void, whereas Mastodon is like screaming in a small cave
           | filled with friendly weirdos. I like that. Eventually you
           | lower your voice and start chatting.
        
       | nicbou wrote:
       | An online community should feel like an online pub. It should
       | have a vibe, some regulars, inside jokes, and a decorum that is
       | somewhat well enforced. They're cosy places where a sense of
       | belonging encourages participation and good behaviour.
       | 
       | HN is like that. Small subreddits are like that. Group chats are
       | like that.
       | 
       | But now every social media website became like that one
       | pedestrian street with the H&M and the McDonalds: a generic
       | commercial space built around spending money. It has no
       | personality, it's not safe, and no one feels at home there. Why
       | would you invest yourself in a space like that?
        
         | jwells89 wrote:
         | Much of this has to do with scale. In small communities,
         | interactions are more likely to skew positive, meaningful, and
         | desired. The discussions that rise to the top are those that
         | are most interesting and relevant to the community.
         | 
         | In giga-networks like Twitter, you might get some vague sense
         | of a belonged-to community, but the boundaries are fuzzy at
         | best and when posts find their way beyond those boundaries,
         | context is lost and you end up with scores of randos whose
         | full-time job is seemingly to surf the service searching for
         | posts to clout farm with by either replying to them with their
         | entirely uninformed (often inflammatory) opinion or quote-tweet
         | with similarly uninformed ridicule, which can turn disastrous
         | for the quoted poster if it goes viral. The posts that rise to
         | the top are the ones that are the most flame-baity and
         | controversial. It's a much more negative experience overall.
        
         | bmacho wrote:
         | > An online community should feel like an online pub. It should
         | have a vibe, some regulars, inside jokes, and a decorum that is
         | somewhat well enforced. They're cosy places where a sense of
         | belonging encourages participation and good behaviour.
         | 
         | > HN is like that.
         | 
         | HN is the only place that is not a pub: jokes are frowned upon,
         | and even moderated out. Post Valuable Content, or GTFO. You can
         | joke and feel belonging literally everywhere else, catpost half
         | drunk and high, noone cares really, from the small subreddits
         | and discord servers and fb groups to the big subreddits,
         | discord servers, fb groups.
         | 
         | > But now every social media website became like that one
         | pedestrian street with the H&M and the McDonalds: a generic
         | commercial space built around spending money.
         | 
         | We must have a different internet, every other place I know is
         | full of personality and total unique, people repeat the same
         | sets of inside jokes over and over. HN is way the driest and
         | most soulless.
        
           | paganel wrote:
           | There are no jokes in here, but HN definitely has a
           | posting/comment "culture", a vibe, as the OP calls it, that's
           | for sure.
           | 
           | For example I could never understood how come the rationalist
           | thing was not derided to the moon and the back, especially
           | after that crypto debacle with the Bahamas guy. But while
           | there was a slight reaction shorlty after the fact that
           | rationalist mindset has returned here in full force.
        
           | logdap wrote:
           | [dead]
        
           | r00fus wrote:
           | > HN is way the driest and most soulless.
           | 
           | Well if you are looking for memes and catposts, yeah, the S/N
           | ratio here is quite low.
           | 
           | Honestly I think of those things as noise, so I see S/N of HN
           | as much higher. I can always go elsewhere for the vibes.
        
             | markjonsona989 wrote:
             | My instinct was to agree with the comment above, but after
             | giving it a few minutes I think I'd rather have a moderated
             | "soulless" HN.
             | 
             | It seems to me that there is a fine line between innocent
             | jokes and full-blown juvenile behaviour. The amount of
             | effort you would need to invest into sustaining such a
             | place is not worth it, best to just not allow it at all.
             | There are plenty of places where you can get your dose of
             | jokes and fun. One thing that keeps immature and rude
             | people away is precisely the "dullness" that the post above
             | speaks of. People get tired and move on, leaving the place
             | clean and tidy for others to use.
             | 
             | HN has problems of course; downvote bullying is one of
             | them. I'm not saying HN is perfect, but I'd rather not turn
             | it into Reddit or Youtube. So I don't know where this
             | leaves HN between the "pub" and "commercial street".
        
               | soerxpso wrote:
               | I prefer it this way. I would love to see original jokes
               | on HN, but the issue is that if you allow "jokes" in
               | general, there's a flood of low-effort repetition of
               | popular phrases or comments where the only "comedic"
               | value is that they've forced something into a cliche
               | sentence structure. That feels more soulless than the way
               | HN is, because comments get so samey. You see the same
               | effect sort of start to creep in on certain political
               | posts, where people feel that they can achieve a cheap
               | sense of attention and comradery for expressing a trite
               | idea instead of a joke (comments that mostly amount to
               | "Elon Musk is a mean man! Who else agrees???")
        
               | epolanski wrote:
               | I think HN is fine as it is.
               | 
               | I come here because it is one of the very few places
               | where you can have interesting discussions and read
               | interesting comments from people with a similar intent
               | and interest.
        
         | A_Venom_Roll wrote:
         | I really like this metaphor
        
         | rchaud wrote:
         | My soccer club's message board is exactly like this. Old school
         | phpBB, lots of cantankerous regulars and useless back and forth
         | chatter, just like a pub. Design wise it's completely unchanged
         | from the 00s look except for a mobile friendly stylesheet
         | introduced some years ago.
        
         | epolanski wrote:
         | vBulletin/phpBB forums and IRC were for me peak internet.
         | 
         | I would maybe add early Facebook for the social, but not
         | funniest part.
         | 
         | Some discord servers do a good job at recreating the vacuum of
         | IRC (albeit every single one of them has always way too many
         | channels) but the vacuum of forums is just not well replaced.
        
         | VancouverMan wrote:
         | I don't see any real difference between your "online pub" and
         | globalized-entity "pedestrian street" examples.
         | 
         | They're both highly-controlled and highly-curated venues.
         | 
         | Environments like those just encourage conformity. That, in
         | turn, results in interaction/discussion that's rather bland,
         | homogeneous, and sterile.
         | 
         | I definitely find this site to be like that. The "showdead"
         | setting very slightly mitigates it, but even then, I almost
         | never find any sort of truly thought-provoking discussion here.
         | 
         | Those venues seem to exhibit a false sense of community to me.
         | There's interaction, but the participants are either ruthlessly
         | conforming, or they're walking on eggshells.
        
         | VoodooJuJu wrote:
         | I think online communities aren't. A pub is a healthy, proper,
         | community experience. Any human interaction that isn't face-to-
         | face is injurious to your health.
        
           | lambic wrote:
           | I very strongly disagree, without online interactions I
           | probably would've gone crazy during lockdown. Even now that's
           | all (mostly) over, I still rely on online interaction for
           | communicating with most of my family.
        
         | chromakode wrote:
         | This is often termed a "Third Place"
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place
        
           | Jeff_Brown wrote:
           | I love having a word for this.
        
           | nicbou wrote:
           | It's very similar now that you mention it. It should feel the
           | same and achieve roughly the same goals.
        
           | Tarsul wrote:
           | Thank you for posting this. Now I finally understand the
           | PlayStation 3 (?) marketing... :)
        
         | Sebastian_09 wrote:
         | Although not exactly generic shopping streets you describe, but
         | "anonymous" places also have been theorized and dubbed a "non-
         | place" (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-place)
        
         | vntx wrote:
         | > Why would you invest yourself in a space like that?
         | 
         | Low barrier to entry. Convenience. Ease of use. Sign-up and now
         | you can talk to your friends from across the world!
         | 
         | Now, you have to be force-fed shit ads along the way.
         | 
         | I don't think anyone who values their social life would like it
         | if you put it like that, but inertia and the gravity of network
         | effects are a bitch.
         | 
         | The real problem is these private platforms have the power of
         | public utilities, and we treat them like public utilities until
         | they pull the rug from under us, and siphon our data to profit
         | psychopathic overlords.
         | 
         | Furthermore, these companies don't just throw ads at you, they
         | also aid the surveillance state which can compromise your basic
         | rights to privacy and fair elections. Malicious foreign
         | governments use it to influence elections with false
         | information and propaganda. Malicious domestic government can
         | use it as a easy spying tool by buying or scraping data.
         | 
         | No one will be safe on these things until we get proper
         | government regulation. The EU's GDPR is a step in the right
         | direction but more work needs to be done.
        
       | nirvael wrote:
       | Seems like one solution could be to limit the transition from
       | everyday users using for social reasons to brand/content creator
       | users using it for monetisation by capping or limiting the social
       | graph (e.g. a cap at 150 followers/following/friends/whatever you
       | call them). Brands and content creators would have no incentive
       | to join and devalue the network with constant marketing and high-
       | effort posts when they can only reach a maximum of 150 people.
       | 
       | I thought I vaguely remembered a similar idea, and a quick Google
       | search only returns a brand called Path (no longer operational).
       | Maybe there would be renewed interest in the idea.
        
       | thefz wrote:
       | Best definition of "content" I ever heard:
       | https://youtu.be/kHe4wwF9O6Q?t=149
       | 
       | "content is a commodity that fills social media feeds so we can
       | be sold as a collection of preferences [...] attention but not
       | understanding, engagement but not exploration"
       | 
       | Every time I hear "content creator" I perceive it as Styrofoam.
       | Filler used to convey a product.
        
         | googlryas wrote:
         | I've heard content creators either say explicitly in videos, or
         | in text under videos, things along the line of "Sorry I made a
         | mistake here but I need to get this video out". Imagine reading
         | an essay where the author tried to pull something like that.
        
         | chooma wrote:
         | "TV programs are interruptions of commercial blocks" was the
         | quote that stuck with me back in the day.
        
         | cfeduke wrote:
         | > Every time I hear "content creator" I perceive it as
         | Styrofoam. Filler used to convey a product.
         | 
         | This is so good. Perfect. I love it.
        
       | iamflimflam1 wrote:
       | There are a number of reasons. One big one is that a lot of
       | content is now generated by professional outfits.
       | 
       | Why would you post something you've made yourself when you are
       | competing with big budget production companies or well funded
       | creative marketing teams?
        
         | TjZkxkxeky wrote:
         | But..... marking teams don't have interesting things to say..
         | "competing", perhaps, but they aren't winning.
        
       | hackermatic wrote:
       | I've seen a lot less engagement with my Facebook posts in the
       | last couple years, and been shown a lot fewer posts from my
       | friends compared to groups, ads, and "suggested" posts. I used to
       | wonder if it was primarily because Facebook was openly
       | downranking news and politics, and my friends and I posted about
       | those things a lot more than your average users.
       | 
       | Now I think it's just because most of them have silently stopped
       | using the platform -- but I think a big reason for that is we
       | figured that if no one is going to see our stuff, then why post
       | it at all? In other words, anticipating the algorithm led to a
       | kind of chilling effect on our usage in general, at least for my
       | own behavior.
       | 
       | Not that Internet political arguments have gone great with the
       | current platforms and their incentives, but I don't like the idea
       | that they might not happen at all, especially at a time that
       | seems as important to discuss as this one.
        
       | happytiger wrote:
       | Users are shifting away from social media, not towards messaging
       | and group apps. It's an important distinction.
       | 
       | Enshitification at work imo.
        
       | jacobwilliamroy wrote:
       | I stopped posting frequently when I realized I was putting my
       | name on a thing in a public database, and that most hiring
       | processes these days involve putting my real name in google and
       | looking at whatever pops out. I still post nowadays, but it's
       | usually under a pseudonym, from a VM, through a VPN, over HTTPS.
       | I should probably look into encrypting my DNS too.
       | 
       | Nowadays when I'm posting in the clear with my real name I
       | usually stop and think "Would someone hire me if they read this?"
       | and then delete everything I wrote and just move on with my life.
        
         | dahwolf wrote:
         | Good thinking and it's a rule I live by.
         | 
         | I do not share anything digitally that would backlash if
         | revealed. Also not in private digital spaces. Not in work chat.
         | Not even on a private device in a note. Nowhere.
         | 
         | Digitally, I do not gossip. I have no political opinion on
         | divisive topics. I have no nudes. I don't swear in game chat.
         | There is no smoking gun to be found at all even if you get full
         | access to my entire digital life.
        
       | c7DJTLrn wrote:
       | Massive thanks to Reddit for going ahead with their API changes
       | and killing Apollo. Since then, I waste probably no more than 10
       | minutes a day on there, and I don't doomscroll anymore.
        
       | andrewgioia wrote:
       | > "How does a brand show up in somebody's DMs or Discord server
       | if they're not invited?" Haberman said. But in many ways, that's
       | the point. People can still go on Instagram to check on their
       | favorite celebrities and influencers, but young people don't want
       | brands and marketers infiltrating the closed communities where
       | they spend most of their time.
       | 
       |  _All_ people don't want brands in their closed communities!
       | 
       | Anecdotally I strongly agree with the article. I pretty much only
       | use Discord and group texts anymore among friends and family
       | (though I do self host and share on Mastodon/Pixelfed/Lemmy it's
       | a fraction). Any time I poke around on traditional social media
       | it just feels like a wasteland, 90% ads/curated content. Fine if
       | you want to go read a magazine for a bit I guess but a shell of
       | what it was like a decade ago.
        
         | Double_a_92 wrote:
         | The main thing for me is that I don't want everything I share
         | with my friends and family to be public.
         | 
         | If I e.g. comment on a photo that my brother posted, I
         | absolutely don't want any of his other random acquaintances to
         | also see that. And also the other way around, if my friends
         | comment something on my photo I don't want my brother to see
         | that.
         | 
         | Private groups are the only way to avoid that. Or maybe a
         | system like G+ had with the Circles, so I could e.g. share tech
         | things _only_ with my techie friends without bothering my aunt
         | with it.
        
         | aleph_minus_one wrote:
         | > _All_ people don't want brands in their closed communities!
         | 
         | Since you can't avoid having these ads/brand placed in your
         | preferred social media platform (the users are the _product_
         | (to be sold to advertisers) and not the customers), the next
         | best thing that you can do as a user is to _subvert_ the
         | undesired brands that you see in your social media stream (e.g.
         | by posting something that makes fun of an ad that you see) to
         | make the social media platform a less desirable place for the
         | respective undesired advertiser.
        
       | brap wrote:
       | My Facebook feed is about 40% sponsored posts, 30% suggested
       | posts, 30% group posts (usually from very large groups), and then
       | maybe 1% actual friends (and it's usually just something that
       | they've shared or commented on, almost never actual content).
       | 
       | If we could go back to the days when 80% of the stuff you see is
       | from friends with the remaining being ads, I would happily use FB
       | more frequently and I'm sure most of my friends would too. Surely
       | FB would make more money this way.
       | 
       | How did we end up like this?
       | 
       | I think once engagement dipped a bit, they started adding filler
       | content just to keep us scrolling and seeing more ads. But that
       | made things worse so they had to add more filler. Which made
       | things worse. Repeat until it's all just filler and ads and
       | people don't use it anymore.
        
         | dcsommer wrote:
         | FB has a friends-specific feed, but it is buried a bit. EDIT:
         | just browsed it a bit and I was refreshed to see things that
         | are at my scale and about the people I care for. I wish this
         | was still the main thing with FB.
        
         | hgomersall wrote:
         | If we could go back to the days when there was no feed and
         | Facebook was just a way of keeping track of your friends and
         | sending a message, I might use it at all.
        
           | ToucanLoucan wrote:
           | The problem is the incentives for any ad-supported profit-
           | driven social network and the incentives on "what makes a
           | social network good for users" are basically a venn diagram
           | that's two circles that touch about 2% in the center.
        
             | happytiger wrote:
             | Spot on. It's ironic because a social network that stayed
             | true to users will presumably ultimately crush those that
             | wander off into profit-chasing, as ultimately their
             | currency is user engagement.
             | 
             | But it seems impossible given the incentives you touch on.
             | They can only come up from a startup apparently.
        
         | timeon wrote:
         | > How did we end up like this?
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gresham's_law
        
         | johnnyanmac wrote:
         | If it's anything like my friend groups, the reality of the
         | matter is that small groups aren't chatting 24/7. But a social
         | media site never wants to look "empty". Gotta always keep them
         | scrolling.
         | 
         | - Part of that is age, of course 20's people will have less
         | time to microblog than their teenage counterpart.
         | 
         | - Part of it is novelty. We're far past the point where sending
         | messages to people everywhere is a hot new thing. So we simply
         | won't talk as much once that wears off
         | 
         | - And lastly, part of it is societal. We are also far past the
         | point where people WANT to post everything for the internet's
         | view forever. Hearing about job opportunities lost because of
         | FB posts made over a decade ago or being cancelled online over
         | some twitter flame war means that talking is dangerous. You
         | don't want to leave everything in your mind out to the public.
         | So you either close down your privacy settings, or talk less.
         | Why take unnecessary risk on stuff you may not even stand by
         | later on?
        
         | kelseyfrog wrote:
         | My mastodon feed is 100% actual friends. That reality exists;
         | it's just not evenly distributed yet.
        
           | zeta0134 wrote:
           | Probably the nicest bonus feature of Mastodon is that I can
           | subscribe to a friend's original posts but unsubscribe to
           | their "boosts," which is Mastodon's way to quickly share
           | content. This way I can follow artists that make cool stuff I
           | want to keep up with, but I don't have to see their political
           | reblogs and other interactions, which helps to cut down
           | considerably on the noise.
           | 
           | It's great because it's granular at the friend level. Some of
           | my follows do legitimately act as curators, infrequently
           | boosting cool content that I do want to see. Some are more
           | noisy, and I can pick and choose and tailor my own feed
           | accordingly. It's a nice happy medium, one I'd like to see
           | other platforms emulate if possible, but I suspect they won't
           | because the algorithmic feed is much easier for advertisers
           | to pay to manipulate.
        
             | CameronNemo wrote:
             | I wish SoundCloud supported this.
        
               | toomuchtodo wrote:
               | Someone should make SoundCloud for the Fediverse.
        
               | kelseyfrog wrote:
               | Does Funkwhale count?
               | 
               | https://funkwhale.audio/
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | CameronNemo wrote:
               | While it is a cool piece of software, it doesn't really
               | work like Mastodon or SoundCloud.
               | 
               | That said, you can post audio clips on Mastodon quite
               | easily.
        
             | epolanski wrote:
             | This is what made me delete my Twitter account.
             | 
             | I may follow a software engineer that writes books on
             | functional programming but I just don't care about his
             | stupid dogs or his alt right political ideas.
        
           | markdown wrote:
           | > 100% actual friends
           | 
           | But no family because they'd never figure out how to use the
           | damned thing, amirite?
        
             | soderfoo wrote:
             | And if they do join, there is the implicit SLA of ongoing
             | support anytime issues arise.
        
           | dahwolf wrote:
           | It is. On Facebook you can sort your feed that way and also
           | on Twitter. Not sure about Instagram.
           | 
           | In my opinion, people are bored out of their mind also on a
           | chronological feed from their friends. Not because they
           | dislike their friends, it's just all very repetitive and
           | time-consuming with very little to show for it.
        
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           | Zambyte wrote:
           | My Pleroma feed is not 100% actual friends of mine, but
           | that's because I choose to follow certain organizations or
           | public figures. The Fediverse is great because it's exactly
           | what you make of it.
        
         | gumballindie wrote:
         | > How did we end up like this?
         | 
         | Shareholders, product managers, business people. Unlimited
         | growth.
         | 
         | That's how these companies become shells of their former selfs.
        
         | kamma4434 wrote:
         | Same for me. Lately my feed is full of Formula One and Debbie
         | Harris of Blondie fame, neither of which is an actual interest
         | of mine. And basically no content from people I care about.
        
           | brap wrote:
           | Oh yeah, this is definitely a great observation. Once in a
           | while FB decides I have a new interest and shoves A TON of
           | suggested content in my face, as if it's all I ever cared
           | about.
           | 
           | And it's usually the most random things. Dragon Ball Z.
           | Gangsta rap. NBA. Race cars. Marvel. None of these things
           | interest me yet for WEEKS they only showed me those very
           | specific things.
        
             | brewtide wrote:
             | Maybe they have tuned into your hn username -- would
             | explain the race cars and gangsta rap...
        
           | mavamaarten wrote:
           | This is my biggest frustration! For some reason, Facebook
           | stubbornly thinks I'm into cars, into Hollywood drama and
           | some other weirdly specific topics. I cannot for the life of
           | me figure out how to indicate that I'm absolutely not
           | interested in any of those topics.
           | 
           | Deep into the ad topics I managed to find a place where I
           | could search for topics and indicate that I would not like to
           | be targeted for those, and that seemed to have done
           | something. But it replaced one topic with another.
           | 
           | It's crazy how they managed to ruin their own product.
           | They're rapidly bleeding real users and it's totally their
           | own fault. Facebook used to thrive with close social
           | interaction mixed with some suggested content that seemed to
           | be actually relevant. Now it's just anonymous filler content
           | and they don't even show relevant posts anymore.
           | 
           | The only reason I'm still on Facebook is because our local
           | town's official communication is through Facebook (sad, I
           | know) and the neighborhood is active there as well. Otherwise
           | I would have happily deleted my account a long time ago.
        
         | hot_gril wrote:
         | The non-friend posts on social media are the root of all
         | problems here. Once your engagement is with people you don't
         | know IRL, bad things like ragebait and bots tend to win the
         | global popularity contests. The simple "algorithms = bad,
         | chronological = good" mentality was right all along. Explicit
         | sharing is fine too.
         | 
         | How'd we get here, well the inflection point was removing the
         | timeline and putting algo feed instead, which was probably a
         | response to dipping engagement as social media became less
         | cool. The cool places nowadays are group chats.
        
           | happytiger wrote:
           | Social media companies focus more on investors than users
           | these days, and the negative effects for users are painful.
           | Crazy ad loads, totally irrelevant and vapid but popular
           | posts to boost time-on-site and engagement metrics, and every
           | other trick of the trade to keep those investors happy make
           | users seek alternatives at scale.
        
         | paganel wrote:
         | > How did we end up like this?
         | 
         | Because sharing personal stuff privately, on group chats,
         | groups made up of close friends, family etc., is the normal
         | thing to do, sharing our personal stuff on FB, IG and the like
         | was the exception. No, it was definitely not ok to share photos
         | of one's unborn baby on FB/IG for almost anyone to see, that
         | was creepy.
         | 
         | Glad that things are returning to a sort of normal.
        
           | acjacobson wrote:
           | For a long time Facebook was friends only - so what you
           | posted was only visible to people you knew. They slowly
           | changed the default to friend of friends and then public and
           | that changed the whole feel.
        
             | paganel wrote:
             | Nobody in their real mind has more than 10, let's say 15
             | close-ish friends (with whom to share photos of your unborn
             | baby, for example), as such Facebook was never really about
             | friends, it was more about acquaintances.
        
               | satvikpendem wrote:
               | Sure, however I want to follow what acquaintances are
               | doing too. It's especially useful if they are in my city
               | and I see that on social media and want to catch up with
               | them.
        
               | screwturner68 wrote:
               | It was for college kids, it was for hooking up.
        
               | SeanAnderson wrote:
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number Just in
               | case you weren't aware :)
        
       | neovialogistics wrote:
       | I think it might just be the corollary of the aphorism: "If you
       | build it, they will come."
        
       | shmde wrote:
       | I loved Facebook during 2010-2014. Everyone would post their
       | silly photos or some super inside joke that only people in our
       | classroom could relate to. It was soo refreshing. Crush liking
       | your photo etc. Now I don't even remember my Facebook password
       | and the last time I logged in I remember it was just some shitty
       | hyper local meme/news page with crass content. And I dont have an
       | instagram account. Feels good to just connect one on one with
       | people directly on Whatsapp nowadays.
        
       | 1vuio0pswjnm7 wrote:
       | ""How does a brand show up in somebody's DMs or Discord server if
       | they're not invited?" Haberman said. But in many ways, that's the
       | point. People can still go on Instagram to check on their
       | favorite celebrities and influencers, but young people don't want
       | brands and marketers infiltrating the closed communities where
       | they spend most of their time."
       | 
       | For some reason, it takes people a long time to figure this out.
       | There is no room for advertising in peer-to-peer networks which
       | is the OG design for the internet. I have been experimenting with
       | running private L2 overlay networks since 2008, pre-Wireguard.
       | The networks are small, managaeable, there are no strangers, no
       | large audiences. If marketers, advertisers and so-called "tech"
       | companies want to try to hack into each and every one of these
       | private networks, then let them. It will be a ton of effort to do
       | on a mass scale, and for little reward. If they are caught I
       | think we can sue them.
       | 
       | The open web, walled gardens and "app stores" will always be
       | around for marketers, advertisers and so-called "tech" companies.
       | If anyone wants to communicate person to person or person to
       | small group through a third party's website/server, say, "Mark
       | Zuckerberg" or some other person they don't know, they certainly
       | can. Unless it's HN, advertisers, "creators" and "influencers"
       | will all be there.
        
       | sdfghswe wrote:
       | > "It's really bizarre to me that everyone's gone to this place
       | in their mind that content has to be so curated," Bruening told
       | us. "So curated that you can't show what you're cooking for
       | dinner, because that's not cool enough."
       | 
       | Uuuuuh what? Everyone is doing the thing you want to do, but
       | everyone else is doing it better, so you're complaining. If you
       | were number 1, would you be complaining as well? Sounds like
       | you're just a bitter loser.
        
       | AlbertCory wrote:
       | Even in the very earliest days of the Web, there was PointCast,
       | where things came to you. So there was some demand for that
       | mode,even then.
        
       | ergocoder wrote:
       | Zuckerberg is really damn good. He really positions Facebook to
       | take advantages of this.
        
         | dahwolf wrote:
         | He predicted the privatization of social networks 5 years ago.
         | Which isn't that brilliant, the trend can be casually observed.
        
       | nickdothutton wrote:
       | When thinking about Internet platforms, the lens I like to view
       | things through is one of power. As a user what power do I have if
       | any, to control my experience? To control what I see when and
       | from whom. If I have little or no power, or the power is only
       | shallow or superficial, if the power isn't very granular, then
       | this all counts against the platform. It may surprise some
       | (younger) members of HN, quite how much power the individual user
       | had on early "primitive" platforms like USENET or closed user
       | groups or chat systems, compared to the big, modern social
       | networks of today.
        
       | Zaskoda wrote:
       | "If you're not the customer, you're the product."
        
       | madrox wrote:
       | I've been predicting this trend for years, and it's validating to
       | see someone else say it. It isn't even just messaging apps.
       | Discord and Twitch are also killing social media usage. It's any
       | walled community where people within the community get to decide
       | who is in and who is out, and the reach of casual sharing is
       | limited. Social media can't counter this trend, because it's not
       | in line with their incentives (massive sharing and virality).
       | 
       | Social media companies are going to have to react to this
       | eventually. If I had to guess, they're going to go harder into
       | content production.
        
       | daft_pink wrote:
       | I just wish there was a good and decent messaging app. All the
       | high security E2E encryption apps not run by tech companies that
       | are spying on me have no usable chat history.
        
       | nightowl_games wrote:
       | Social Media started it's down fall ~2008 when the teachers and
       | parents joined facebook.
       | 
       | I remember when facebook was _only_ the fellow kids you knew.
       | There were inside jokes, offensive stuff, lots of pure text
       | posts. It was _way_ different.
       | 
       | Parents and teachers joined, a couple kids got in trouble for
       | what they posted on facebook, and everyone stopped using it
       | freely.
        
         | 89vision wrote:
         | I remember when this happened. It felt like everybody's parents
         | joined at the same time almost overnight
        
           | lifefeed wrote:
           | I remember the exact moment that happened to me. I was
           | sitting with an old friend, and we were looking at Facebook
           | friend requests from my mom, and we looked at each other
           | silently, and realized that everything was about to change.
        
         | pizzafeelsright wrote:
         | We call that "the public" and it's why restricted spaces with
         | barriers to entry exist.
         | 
         | Allowing Z people to keep X people out of their groups and vice
         | versa.
        
       | aaron695 wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | seydor wrote:
       | They went full circle and now they are back to passive TV zapping
       | , but now it's called doomscrolling on tiktok and watching mr
       | beast
       | 
       | It wasn't good while it lasted, in fact in retrospect we will see
       | it was one of the most insane, narcissistic periods of modernity.
       | good riddance
       | 
       | I really hope people re-re-discover forums
        
         | ddingus wrote:
         | Me too. The value captured in forums is very high. It is
         | relevant for years.
        
           | dahwolf wrote:
           | [flagged]
        
       | bediger4000 wrote:
       | I predict this trend to accelerate if "freedom of speech
       | absolutism" gains more adherents, or the Netchoice vs Paxton case
       | gets decided for Paxton.
       | 
       | People want topical forums, without getting dogpiled/brigaded.
       | Both trend and case degrade the ability to enforce topicality and
       | manners.
        
       | matsemann wrote:
       | I posted a lot on facebook in high school. Had maybe 50 friends
       | there, like my classmates, soccer team etc. Posted at least once
       | a day what I was doing, same did everyone else, and we discussed
       | in during lunch next day. Or I would post a general "going to the
       | soccer field, just join in", and we'll be a group there. Then
       | joining university and getting new groups of friends, it didn't
       | feel relevant to "spam" everyone with these things anymore. And
       | then friends and family joined. Then I got a job and new groups,
       | and suddenly there's 500+ friends on there I don't want to tell
       | everything to...
       | 
       | And the opposite problem with people I follow on social media. I
       | care about your tech writings, or your sport performances or
       | whatever. But not everything else you post. I want a slice of
       | you, not everything.
       | 
       | Hence, silence.
        
         | dahwolf wrote:
         | Relatable.
         | 
         | My idea is that a profile should indeed be sliced. Personal,
         | professional, specific niches (cooking, tech, whatever) and
         | that we have a reliable labeling system that accurately detects
         | the "channel", preferably fully automated. The signal to noise
         | ratio would improve drastically and you could once again get
         | value out of a social network.
         | 
         | Likewise I propose the same for moderation. Let me pick my
         | comfort level. Ranging from "give it to me raw" to "I need to
         | call my therapist because I saw a micro aggression" and
         | everything in between.
        
         | jonahrd wrote:
         | This makes me wonder if something like Google+ "circles" or the
         | idea of maintaining a finsta could translate into a way to
         | bring back posting on social media.
         | 
         | I think what Google+ got wrong is that connections are a 2-way
         | street, you may not realize your new friend _wants_ the day-to-
         | day updates and soccer game invites, because to you they may
         | just be someone you met at work.
         | 
         | Imagine if you could have a list of feeds to follow, personal,
         | professional, etc. And when adding someone you could follow
         | whichever feeds you wanted, and unfollow certain ones at any
         | point. Some could be private, so you'd have to be approved to
         | follow.
         | 
         | Then I wouldn't feel the need to remove old acquaintances from
         | fb, I would just unfollow their feeds. I would feel comfortable
         | posting stuff related to my job/networking because I know only
         | people following my professional feed would see it. And I'd be
         | comfortable posting personal stuff to my personal feed if it
         | was locked and I was the maintainer of who could follow it.
         | 
         | They could pretty easily implement this in facebook and I could
         | imagine it breathing life back into the platform.
        
           | dahwolf wrote:
           | I remember the circles concept working for about 2 weeks.
           | 
           | I'm into photography and people started creating "best
           | photographers" circles, one of them had 700 posters in it.
           | You could follow the entire circle with a single click after
           | which your feed is pretty much done.
           | 
           | A handful of circles would be massively followed which means
           | whoever was lucky to get in early, ruled the platform or
           | niche.
        
         | bazmattaz wrote:
         | This is why I love subreddits on Reddit. I want a slice of you,
         | like say I was to discuss topics like cloud hosting or vinyl
         | records. I don't really care what else you're into I want to
         | connect on these topics we have in common.
         | 
         | As much as the Reddit website and app and overall experience is
         | garbage the communities can be good
        
         | navaati wrote:
         | Why not remove these persons you don't feel close to from your
         | friends list ? When I was using facebook, after I moved in
         | life, say going from highschool to university and my list grew
         | with my new university acquaintances there, I pruned it from
         | the acquaintances of the past life, high school people I knew
         | didn't matter so much to me once they were not part of my life
         | anymore.
         | 
         | So my friend list organically went through cycles of growth and
         | shrink and probably stayed roughly constant, with the only long
         | term growth being people that "sticked around" in my life.
        
           | matsemann wrote:
           | Because I kinda want to keep up with their big events. Like
           | kids, marriages, jobs, a new house or whatever. And I see
           | some of them occasionally when "back home" and then it's nice
           | to have kept somewhat superficially in touch. And fb works
           | for that. It's just all the day-to-day stuff no one posts
           | anymore.
        
             | navaati wrote:
             | Makes sense, thanks for your answer.
        
             | kaycebasques wrote:
             | There's also the unspoken norm that un-friending someone is
             | rude. I frequently prune my following lists and then I run
             | into someone I've met and imagine them getting slightly
             | upset that I have unfollowed them. Maybe that sounds silly,
             | but I'm pretty sure that a lot of my peers would say similr
             | things.
             | 
             | The way that we describe the action, "un-friending",
             | probably influences the notion that it's a serious / rude
             | thing to do. We need some kind of UI that emphasizes that
             | it's not a big deal whatsoever and is not a rude thing.
        
       | archo wrote:
       | https://archive.is/wXMp5
        
       | gumby wrote:
       | The funny thing for me is that my FB feed is nothing but user-
       | generated -- no glossy productions. While I've tried instagram at
       | the instigation of my partner and the opposite appears to be
       | true.
       | 
       | And twitter, which I've never really liked, is still for me at
       | least small things written by humans.
        
       | DueDilligence wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | reportgunner wrote:
       | I revived my instagram account that was dormant for 5 years and
       | I'm surprised how little my network posts. With ~100 followed I
       | see about 3-5 posts per day before "I'm all caught up". I see
       | about 10 "stories" per day.
       | 
       | The rest is just a sea of ads and public posts that I absolutely
       | don't care about.
        
       | dathinab wrote:
       | IMHO this article shows a clear misunderstanding of what social
       | media is.
       | 
       | Humans are culturally used to interacting with limited sized
       | communities, probably even evolutionary idk.
       | 
       | When social media was new it was still limited sized, even
       | through it was global, due to filter and it not yet having been
       | adapted everywhere. (note: the term "limited sized" is a bit
       | oversimplified, through I think most people will know what I
       | mean)
       | 
       | Then it tried to add many more ways to uphold the illusion, e.g.
       | by adding better filters and similar.
       | 
       | Then people moved to mainly consume social media platforms which
       | do not create the dynamics of a more limited sized community,
       | sure.
       | 
       | But they never did stop posting on social media which did have
       | that property!
       | 
       | For example discord, which was fundamentally build around the
       | idea of having limited sized communities with only some limited
       | degree of cross community features.
       | 
       | Similar that family group you might have on WhatsApp, Telegram,
       | Threema or similar _is still social media_. Sure it might be a
       | bit more private but that doesn't make it not social media. And
       | it can be semi public, too. And people post there "social media
       | content" all the time.
       | 
       | Facebook is also still in use a lot, even through more in the
       | background by older people.
       | 
       | In the end platforms like TickTock and Instagram focused on
       | making people consume media, instead of creation of more natural
       | feeling social cycles, but jumping from there to "no one is
       | posting on social media anymore" just misses the core of the
       | issue: There are many different kinds of social media with
       | different dynamic.
        
         | philipov wrote:
         | Social Media is a word that means less than the sum of its
         | parts. It is not just the word Media modified by being Social;
         | it was invented to describe algorithmic feeds like Facebook and
         | Twitter. Discord is not social media. Discord is a forum, a
         | type of thing that existed before social media.
         | 
         | Social Media's organizational principle is the user page, while
         | Forums are organized by community and discussion topic. Reddit
         | is also not social media, despite having some algorithmic
         | features, because it is organized by community/thread, not by
         | social network. You go to a subreddit to read the posts there,
         | not to a user page to follow them.
        
           | dathinab wrote:
           | what you describe is not the definition of social media which
           | I see commonly used, especially in a legal context
           | 
           | technical details like weather it uses threads in the end
           | IMHO doesn't matter for weather is social medi
           | 
           | social media is internet media used is used for socializing
           | 
           | which means that while classical forums are most times not
           | social media but they can be
           | 
           | discord is not a form, it gained forum functionality somewhat
           | recently, but the most common use case people have for
           | discord is to socialize, hangout and chat in small
           | communities. Does't mean it doesn't also get used as a forum,
           | still it's more used for social interactions then anything
           | else.
           | 
           | Reddit on the other hand is in between a classical forum and
           | social media, though increasingly more social media in recent
           | years and saying it's not social media just IMHO isn't right.
        
             | philipov wrote:
             | So you think that even IRC and text messages on your phone
             | are social media? Can't agree. Being a chat room is not
             | enough. The social in "social media" stands for _social
             | network_ , not just any kind of social interaction at all.
             | The key innovation with social media is using technology to
             | leverage your social network for discovery and
             | recommendation systems. You can't have social media without
             | a social network platform through which it gets
             | distributed.
             | 
             | EDIT: On reflection, the key point is that social media is
             | an alternative to traditional media, like newspapers and
             | magazines. The term refers to a way of publishing and
             | distributing content. So I change my position that Reddit
             | is indeed part of social media, not because you socialize
             | on it, but because it is a platform primarily used for
             | publishing/distributing content. Places where you just hang
             | out with your friends on the internet are not content
             | distribution platforms, however. (Unless the only
             | interaction you have with your friends is sharing and
             | discussing internet media.)
             | 
             | I propose this definition: Social Media is the _practice_
             | of leveraging social network and community platforms to
             | publish and distribute _media_.
             | 
             | While communication platforms like Discord might get roped
             | into the social media ecosystem, sharing liking and
             | subscribing is not its primary purpose. For something like
             | Reddit and HN, it's easier to say that media distribution
             | is the primary purpose, but not 100%. Going a step further,
             | platforms like Youtube and Twitter are used for both
             | publishing and distribution, so they're not just
             | communication platforms, they're the end-to-end social
             | media platforms.
        
       | sylware wrote:
       | Will social media use AI to post content in order to keep
       | attracting advertisers, showing that "stuff" is happening on
       | their platform? Advertisers who should only trust One Metric: the
       | correlation of the actual sales with an online advertisement
       | campaign.
        
         | collaborative wrote:
         | That metric is never important. Brands have always lost money
         | advertising. Spending on ads is seen as burning extra budget to
         | stay ahead of the curve and remain relevant
         | 
         | They are simply digging trenches for survival and domination.
         | That is why I believe brands with profits above average should
         | be banned from spending on ads. They polute the market and
         | decrease competition
        
           | sylware wrote:
           | I disagree, this metric is the only one which matter, and
           | this is not related to loss or not of money on advertisement
           | from brands.
        
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       | mrkramer wrote:
       | I kinda understand this because in the first 10 to 15 years of
       | the commercial internet people were eager and hyped to get
       | connected and share everything what they do and think. Later on
       | this backfired with security and privacy issues like numerous
       | hacks, leaks and privacy fiascos and now they seek more private
       | space to get connected. Nowadays only influencers, content
       | creators and "public personas" want get as much exposure as they
       | can plus private businesses and public institutions.
       | 
       | Ordinary people "hide" behind pseudonyms or rarely post with
       | their real names unless I will say it again, they are aspiring
       | content creators/influencers or whatever they want to become in
       | their professional life.
        
         | dahwolf wrote:
         | Even the public personas are having a rough time. Twitter is
         | falling apart and then there is Mastodon, Bluesky, Threads and
         | just generally a very fractured yet crowded space where you're
         | up against dirty tactics of your peer influencers.
         | 
         | I don't feel sorry at all for commercial grifters, but there's
         | also genuine publishers. Institutes that just want to share a
         | message and get it out to the public, as a service. That model
         | is now quite broken.
        
       | kaycebasques wrote:
       | An alternative worth pondering: maybe social media just has a
       | shelf-life of 5-10 years. You get into it during your hyper-
       | social teen years, and then you get bored of it. That doesn't
       | mean it will die. So long as we keep having young people there
       | will be a market. But the social media apps are definitely
       | delusional if they keep projecting that the entire human
       | population will keep using social media all the time.
       | 
       | I know that this doesn't align with the article, because the
       | article says that Gen Alpha prefers private messaging apps, but I
       | still think there is something to this idea.
       | 
       | A lot of us here are the first generation of mass computer and
       | internet usage and I think that clouds our long-term perspective
       | about what computer usage will be like for future generations
       | born into a world where computers always existed.
        
         | HDThoreaun wrote:
         | There are tons of old people on social media though
        
           | kaycebasques wrote:
           | They are also part of the first generation of mass
           | computer/internet usage, like us. And they were often slower
           | to adopt a smartphone. So they could very well be going
           | through their "first 5-10 years of internet" experience. The
           | fact that they're old right now might just be a distracting
           | factor.
           | 
           | Or maybe it is indeed a hint that social media is more likely
           | to be used by certain age brackets and we can think of it in
           | waves:
           | 
           | * During teen years you use it for 5-20 years
           | 
           | * You get sick of it for 10-20 years
           | 
           | * You enjoy it again in the 50-70 age bracket
           | 
           | * You stop caring again after 70+
        
         | jraph wrote:
         | Using social media seems common for people around 50 years old.
         | Isn't it?
        
       | mancerayder wrote:
       | I've been observing a pattern that I've been trying to articulate
       | here and I can best describe as a framework where stuff 'comes to
       | you' whereas the Internet for a long time was an enabler of 'you
       | go to stuff'. The pendulum swung back, thanks to ad tech, and
       | centralization, that have or are trying to orchestrate a culture
       | shift. Okay, here are some concrete examples.
       | 
       | 1. Television/cable (absent a TiVo type device), things come to
       | you (ads and programming were fixed and you had to conform to
       | their schedule back in the not-so-old days). Early 2000s, we
       | could download content (illegally), we could pay for Netflix to
       | send us DVDs of our choosing, and the algorithm was benevolent:
       | its recommendations were superb. Russian and French directors I
       | positively rated -- ratings 1 through 5 stars plus a written
       | review were permitted back then -- opened my world to suggestions
       | for other movies that I got to select. Today, Netflix/HBO/etc
       | display a limited UI set of options, highly hyped shows and
       | movies shown repeatedly, and it now Comes To You. You have a tiny
       | bit of choice, but not much.
       | 
       | 2. Google search. Before, it was a resource for you to customize
       | and find what you wanted: information about medicine, a product,
       | or a store. Now, it Comes To You. You search for thing X, you end
       | up in a rabbit hole of Y and Z topics or things, and a lot of
       | things seem algorithmically generated or manufactured to steer
       | you rather than help you.
       | 
       | There are many many patterns like this, from news searches to
       | even tech problem searches and articles. Don't even get started
       | on product comparisons. It's scary I can't even search on
       | medicine interactions (I add reddit to the search field).
       | 
       | I should add, web sites all have their own mobile app so you get
       | trapped, they can steer you, and you can't control ads, the UI,
       | cut and paste, and so on. Thanks, world in which Things Come to
       | Us now.
       | 
       | Such as it is: a heavy weight on pulling and steering us, and new
       | generations growing up on phones not knowing it could be
       | different.
       | 
       | Phones are an extension of our organ senses now. How will a world
       | in which Things Come to Us and We Dont Go to Things anymore
       | affect us cognitively long-term?
        
         | dahwolf wrote:
         | The article touches upon this. You can phrase it as social
         | media becoming just "media" again. A small group of heavy
         | posters is responsible for the content backed by an algorithm
         | that broadcasts it.
         | 
         | I think the cognitive effects are already visible. We become
         | lazy, addicted, complacent, distracted and anxious.
        
         | usea wrote:
         | A similar concept is whether something is a "tool" or not.
         | 
         | Tools are things that you use to accomplish tasks. They behave
         | predictably, and you can become skilled in using it more
         | effectively.
         | 
         | Non-tools are things that try to adapt to you. They're
         | optimized for first-time users, or to create an "experience".
         | You cannot go fast with them, even with familiarity. They don't
         | act in your best interests.
         | 
         | A hammer is a tool. Excel is a tool. Google search used to be a
         | tool, but it's been more non-tool for the better part of a
         | decade.
         | 
         | Sometimes people want non-tools. It varies with person and
         | task. But in general, long-term users tend to prefer tool-like
         | uses.
        
           | screwturner68 wrote:
           | But a tool for the most part is open source, a screw driver
           | is a screw driver, if you turn a screwdriver to the right it
           | pushes a screw into the wood. It doesn't take notes of the
           | type of wood you are using and then strongly suggest that you
           | buy walnut from Home Depot.
        
             | SoKamil wrote:
             | [flagged]
        
         | mrkramer wrote:
         | >Google search. Before, it was a resource for you to customize
         | and find what you wanted: information about medicine, a
         | product, or a store. Now, it Comes To You. You search for thing
         | X, you end up in a rabbit hole of Y and Z topics or things, and
         | a lot of things seem algorithmically generated or manufactured
         | to steer you rather than help you.
         | 
         | This is because "recommendations" are a big business. For
         | example YouTube generates billions of views from recommended
         | videos and God knows how much revenue. But I think
         | recommendation algorithms are counterproductive from the
         | business point of view because you will sell less ads if your
         | platform content creators figured out how to get recommended by
         | recommendation algorithms.
         | 
         | On the other hand recommendations are good for users because
         | they will hopefully discover new content that they like.
         | Platforms just need to be more flexible and offer their users
         | tools to tweak recommendation algorithms according to their
         | preferences.
        
         | incongruity wrote:
         | FWIW, I've always seen it best described as push vs. pull.
         | You've expanded the idea a bit but I think it's still a good
         | distinction and useful for what you're getting at.
        
         | AtlasBarfed wrote:
         | Content you go to has to be good enough to justify your effort.
         | Or advertised to make it good enough.
         | 
         | Content they feed you just has to be enough to keep you from
         | leaving.
         | 
         | The first category is what every "channel" invests in but hates
         | to do so. It's expensive, the creators get expensive, and diva-
         | ish. The second category is what all the execs love to
         | successfully get away with making.
         | 
         | Comic book movies are perfect second-category content.
         | 
         | It's strange that TV / Streaming seems to produce better
         | content high points than movies these days, considering you
         | have to physically go to the initial screening of movies.
        
         | koofdoof wrote:
         | Walter Benjamin wrote about this all the way back in the 1930s.
         | He observed that early art like frescos painted on walls and
         | sculptures in temples require the viewer to travel to them, but
         | they gave way to paintings on canvas and busts that could
         | travel to cities to meet audiences where they were.
         | 
         | Technology continued to push this trend, reproducing art
         | through photography and printing in books and newspapers let it
         | move even further to meet people in their own homes.
         | 
         | These current patterns you are seeing are an extension of this,
         | the relationship between art and viewer has inverted, art is
         | now expected to come to us, the focus has moved to within
         | ourselves.
         | 
         | Marshall McLuhan also expanded on this and the idea of
         | technology as extensions of us with his work "Understanding
         | Media: The Extension of Man" if you'd like to read more.
        
           | mulberry_seas wrote:
           | Do you have a reference for where Benjamin wrote about this?
           | I found this excerpt from "Art in the Age of Mechanical
           | Reproduction": "With the emancipation of the various art
           | practices from ritual go increasing opportunities for the
           | exhibition of their products. It is easier to exhibit a
           | portrait bust that can be sent here and there than to exhibit
           | the statue of a divinity that has its fixed place in the
           | interior of a temple. The same holds for the painting as
           | against the mosaic or fresco that preceded it."
           | 
           | But wasn't sure if this was exactly what you were
           | referencing, or some other piece.
        
         | mcshicks wrote:
         | There are some places where I still experience "Things Come to
         | Us". The open library on the internet archive is one. Worldcat
         | is another although I still have to reserve/pick up the items.
         | Using RSS and w3m to read news is another. You can use
         | something like UserLand to run w3m on a phone, and the terminal
         | program is pretty slick.
         | 
         | I've been reading older books on computing on open library,
         | like "The Second Self: Computers and the Human Spirit" written
         | in 1984 by Sherry Turkle and it's fascinating to see the
         | questions people were asking back them. My favorite quote from
         | that so far is this:
         | 
         | "That question is not what will the computer be like in the
         | future, but instead, what will we be like? What kind of people
         | are we becoming?"
        
         | kouru225 wrote:
         | There was an early art collective called the videofreex that
         | defined what you're talking about in terms of channel
         | direction. Basically they defined media in the 1980s as being
         | one-way channels where there was no response from the audience
         | whatsoever, and they saw this as a form of control that
         | strengthened class divides. They were excited about creating a
         | two-way channel communication network because they thought it
         | would break down the social hierarchy.
         | 
         | I think what you're talking about is sort of like the
         | recreation of the one-way channel within a two-way channel.
         | Technically we can respond, but the amount of power our voice
         | has has been lessened dramatically over the years.
         | 
         | I talked to one of the members of the videofreex recently
         | (which is how I know about them), and his attitude was the
         | classic "bittersweet nostalgia for my overly idealistic youth"
         | attitude. He still thought he had a point, but he also felt
         | like he underestimated A) the amount of problems that would
         | come from disinformation and B) the amount of control that the
         | old powers would still retain. I think he saw the structure of
         | the media as reinforcing the social hierarchy, but now it's
         | looking like the structure of the social hierarchy was what was
         | reinforcing the structure of the media... or maybe just a
         | little feedback loop between the two... anyway the point I'm
         | making is that just cause the media changed doesn't mean the
         | social hierarchy has.
        
           | LawTalkingGuy wrote:
           | > the amount of problems that would come from disinformation
           | 
           | When we used to say disinformation I imagined deep webs of
           | false references, faking critical data.
           | 
           | Now I can lookup most "fake news" and find the truth of it,
           | generally a too-broad take on quoting someone, within
           | minutes. It's just that for partisan reasons people don't
           | look, and when they have it pointed out they tend to say
           | "yeah, that might be wrong but it's still mostly right in
           | spirit" and keep on going.
           | 
           | It seems like hyper-partisanship or tribalism instead of
           | being primarily based on bad data because the data so rarely
           | comes into question.
        
         | stinos wrote:
         | Good points, and I've made/discussed/seen these elsewhere as
         | well, but one thing to add explicitly: it is still possible to
         | get 'you go to stuff'. I don't have the impression I changed
         | how I do that. But: it does seem to get harder and harder and
         | I'm actually not sure it will remain doable in the future
         | (except perhaps by a small subset of hacker-ish people) because
         | it gets indeed not pushed at all.
         | 
         | Examples are things like LineageOS on your phone and/or not
         | actevily using it as an extension but as a tool, illegally
         | downloading content (still thrives), it actually seems a lot
         | easier these days to download music from lesser known to
         | virtually unknown bands (even if it's just via YouTube) and I
         | still find this like I used to i.e. mainly by going to shows or
         | looking at who's playing and finding related bands like that,
         | choosing anything but Google/Bing/... as principal search
         | provider and using multiple search engines, ...
         | 
         | So, I'm personally not heavily affected by that steering but I
         | do indeed fear that it might become a lot harder in the future.
         | On the other hand we shouldn't forget that for a lot of
         | humanity out there the previous decades they just got their
         | information from 1 or 2 TV channels, radio, cinema, and a
         | newspaper. If they wouldn't actively seek value they'd be
         | basically in almost the same boat. Except that today's boat is
         | a lot more pushy.
        
         | neogodless wrote:
         | Overall I think this is related to a personal choice to consume
         | or create. Of course with DVDs/streaming or social media, a lot
         | of it is naturally going to be consumption no matter what. But
         | the medium kind of steers you towards one or the other. Social
         | media seemed like a way for you to express yourself, to create
         | and share, but the algorithms nudged everyone into endless
         | consumption scrolling. Creativity is only rewarded if it helps
         | the money-making machines.
         | 
         | I don't want to push a value judgement upon creativity vs
         | consumption, but I do think people should take it upon
         | themselves to look critically at their own values, and what
         | they want to spend their life doing - particularly how much of
         | a balance they want between bringing something into this world
         | vs. taking what they can get from it.
         | 
         | In creative pursuits, you want to "go" to the stuff that will
         | be a tool or enabler of what you aspire to do. (And sure,
         | you'll want some inspiration to "come to you".) You have to
         | decide for yourself if you value "the machine" bringing
         | everything to you more than you might value some individual
         | pursuit.
        
           | CharlesW wrote:
           | > _Overall I think this is related to a personal choice to
           | consume or create._
           | 
           | Or maybe "consume" vs. "create/curate", the former being
           | passive and the latter being proactive to different degrees.
        
         | fooker wrote:
         | Facebook's VR bet was exactly this.
         | 
         | Experiences come to you instead of you going to experiences.
        
           | shpx wrote:
           | How? You have to deliberately search for and buy stuff in
           | their app store.
        
         | nonameiguess wrote:
         | Some of this is knowing where to look. If you want medicine
         | interactions, examine.com has everything there is to know about
         | the published scientific data on dietary supplements, and the
         | FDA itself publishes all of the drug inserts for actual
         | pharmaceuticals with every know interaction and side effect
         | discovered during clinical testing. Great video content still
         | exists, too. I recently watched most of the Kurosawa back
         | catalog recently, which I should have done years ago, but now
         | most of it is on HBO Max. Every studio having its own streaming
         | platform now at least means virtually every great film ever
         | filmed is at your fingertips now, but you have to put up with
         | the reality that you still need to explicitly look for it.
         | They're never going to put this stuff in the trending
         | recommendations or whatever.
         | 
         | It's like the world needs librarians again and maybe all the
         | nerds who used to staff video and record stores, poorly paid
         | but passionate purveyors of information who had no incentive to
         | sell you anything because they were going to get the same shit
         | wage no matter what. Except I guess we need to figure out a way
         | to also pay them.
        
           | mancerayder wrote:
           | Maybe the key is bypassing what we (rightly or wrongly) view
           | as 'Guardians' like the Googles of the world
        
         | briffle wrote:
         | I miss pointcast, back in the day when T-1 lines were crazy,
         | that downloaded full web sites of your favorite sites for you
         | to look at later. Similarly, I miss Google Reader. I used
         | feedly for a few years after readers' demise, and it worked
         | okay, but many sites have gone to a super small summary in the
         | rss feed, and you have to go click the link to read the
         | article, so they can show you ads...
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PointCast
        
         | kypro wrote:
         | Interesting. You describe something I've noticed myself, but
         | haven't thought about in terms of the push / pull dynamics of
         | tech products.
         | 
         | > How will a world in which Things Come to Us and We Dont Go to
         | Things anymore affect us cognitively long-term?
         | 
         | As you touched on your yourself this was probably the default
         | before the last couple of decades. There was a short period
         | around 2010 where people (especially the youth) were quite
         | divergent in interests and political views.
         | 
         | Today it seems people increasingly have shared opinions and
         | interests. This is is a shift that's been quite alien to me
         | since I grew up during the early internet when it was the norm
         | for people to play different games, watch different films and
         | listen to different music. There was no social media network
         | effects and little to no recommendation algorithms or ads
         | online.
         | 
         | Today this seems to have changed. Try finding a Gen Z who
         | doesn't have an iPhone and isn't wear a pair of Nikes, for
         | example. They are the result of the trend you describe, I
         | believe. They like things not because they sought them out
         | neutral platforms but because these things were pushed on them
         | either by the network effects of social media or the
         | recommendation algorithms and ads that litter the internet
         | today.
        
         | Liquix wrote:
         | Excellently written. A nitpick on your final point:
         | 
         | > Phones are an extension of our organ senses now. How will a
         | world in which Things Come to Us and We Dont Go to Things
         | anymore affect us cognitively long-term?
         | 
         | This may be looking at it backwards. Rampant smartphone
         | addiction and overuse begins to shape all things in a "medium
         | is the message" type of effect. The less need there is to
         | physically "Go to the Thing" - whether the thing is the
         | television room, office, movie theater, mailbox, rental store,
         | newsstand, grocer, etc - the more natural it becomes to sit in
         | place and let Things Come to You. If we accept everyone using
         | their phone all the time as "the way things are now", the
         | vicious cycle will continue.
        
           | mancerayder wrote:
           | So you're saying we're allowing ourselves to be victimized by
           | it via laziness ?
           | 
           | That's certainly true, if that is what you mean.
           | 
           | I guess the part I didn't speak about was: some people value
           | independent thought more than others, and I think for those
           | that do, the Things Come to You paradigm is even more
           | frustrating.
           | 
           | My concern is that children are growing up in the Come to You
           | dynamic. Flip side: they can generate content and release it
           | in the wild, something that couldn't be done even in the 90's
           | prior to IG, TikTok, YouTube, etc.
        
             | systems_glitch wrote:
             | Maps. We had FPS maps.
        
             | rchaud wrote:
             | I've watched Nirvana perform on local public access TV
             | (ironically on Youtube) in 1989, so some level of public
             | distribution was possible.
             | 
             | Similarly 50 Cent sold mixtapes of his music out of his car
             | trunk to get the word out in the pre-Soundcloud era.
             | 
             | In the mid-00s, Kevin Hart (comedian) would maintain his
             | own email lists when he toured, and would send out email
             | blasts when he returned to those towns College bands used
             | to do this as well, especially as email was adopted earlier
             | there.
        
             | nkjnlknlk wrote:
             | Laziness is poor framing. Can the masses be "lazy" or is it
             | pointless moralizing in the face of unfettered propaganda
             | and behaviour manipulation?
        
               | MichaelZuo wrote:
               | That's a pretty interesting question, the tough as nails
               | salesman closing deals everyday would consider nearly the
               | entire population is lazy as all heck, whereas the hermit
               | fisherman would consider the opposite, that nearly all
               | are needlessly agitated.
               | 
               | Placing the bar at the 50th percentile isn't very
               | inspiring for the passing reader though.
        
               | pixl97 wrote:
               | Is this not the nature of all social problems?
               | 
               | If you have X problem, that is your problem.
               | 
               | If Y% of population has X problem, as X grows large
               | enough, eventually everybody is affected by the side
               | effects of said problem.
        
               | MichaelZuo wrote:
               | Yes but roughly half the population will always be below
               | average in terms of laziness, assuming it's normally
               | distributed. So saying that is just a tautology.
        
             | irrational wrote:
             | >they can generate content and release it in the wild,
             | something that couldn't be done even in the 90's prior to
             | IG, TikTok, YouTube, etc.
             | 
             | In the mid-90s I was creating content and releasing it to
             | the wild on my own website that was hosted for free on one
             | of the myriad free website hosting platforms back then.
             | Frankly, the website sucked, but it was my content.
        
         | JKCalhoun wrote:
         | > How will a world in which Things Come to Us and We Dont Go to
         | Things anymore affect us cognitively long-term?
         | 
         | Goodbye serendipity.
         | 
         | Probably goodbye creativity.
        
       | onetokeoverthe wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | gitowiec wrote:
       | I and my friends 3 years ago switched to closed group on Signal.
       | We switched from our makeshift mail group we used for 10 years
       | (we all were just using "reply to all" to the infinity). Thanks
       | god Signal has mute option. The emails always waited for me not
       | knocking on the doors like Jehovah's witnesses!
        
       | dahwolf wrote:
       | Hardly a new insight, Zuckerberg acknowledged that the future of
       | the public square is private, about 5 years ago.
        
       | dzonga wrote:
       | that's why tik-tok has grown. there's a sense of authenticity
       | with it. no fake posturing.
       | 
       | disclaimer - i'm not on tik-tok. just based on videos I see
       | shared and posted everyn now and then
        
         | meroes wrote:
         | If you watch any food videos you'll see the advertising soon
         | enough though, usually in the form of rage bait or similar.
         | Like using fast food as ingredients to recipes or way too much
         | Velveeta in their recipe.
        
         | neilalexander wrote:
         | I'm not really sure on your definition of "authenticity" but it
         | seems to me that TikTok users are optimising for the algorithm,
         | for engagement and for advertising revenue just like on every
         | other platform. If anything, TikTok seems to give users the
         | power to be even more annoying and repetitive, between the
         | computer-generated voiceovers and the same few songs being used
         | over and over again ("oh no, oh no, oh no no no no no").
        
       | azangru wrote:
       | > no one is posting on social media anymore
       | 
       | "Nobody comes here anymore, its too crowded".
        
         | mandmandam wrote:
         | Yeah but who's in the crowd?
         | 
         | It used to be my friends. Now it's a bunch of **s trying to
         | piss me off for engagement clicks, or scam me.
         | 
         | I feel worst for the vulnerable - older or less cynical people,
         | who get caught in the layers and layers of bullshit that
         | constitute the poisoned well. There are people who live and die
         | warped by it.
        
         | dade_ wrote:
         | Too crowded with robots designed to piss me off.
         | 
         | The bots are like tourists. The population of Venice is in
         | steep decline, but the streets are congested.
        
         | piva00 wrote:
         | I feel this misses just one adjective: "nobody _interesting_
         | comes here anymore, it 's too crowded". A similar feeling I get
         | from overtouristed places, initially they are interesting
         | because of some attraction: the nightlife, the art scene, the
         | food scene, or any combination of these (and other factors I'm
         | too lazy to list) with some quirkiness that attracts people who
         | are interested in the twist. Over time it becomes attractive to
         | more people because they hear about it from others who
         | experienced it, then it goes downhill where people will flock
         | to a place but nothing that made it initially interesting is
         | there anymore, it just becomes a self-perpetuating meme.
         | 
         | It feels it's a pattern that develops in social media, tourism,
         | products, etc., something fresh appears which gets overextended
         | and bores us out in the end, the laggards missed the magic.
         | Rinse and repeat.
        
           | tmikaeld wrote:
           | I can resonate with this, the same applies to cities that are
           | small and friendly. As they grow bigger, crime and scams
           | rise, people are not friendly and more, stores that where
           | quirky and odd close due to competition from low-cost big-
           | store brands..
        
             | buildsjets wrote:
             | RIP Seattle.
        
           | lotsofpulp wrote:
           | https://meaningness.com/geeks-mops-sociopaths
        
             | piva00 wrote:
             | Woah. I had never crossed paths with this, it's great. It
             | describes really well an experience I had with a few
             | subcultures... And it hurts I can see it happening in real
             | time to a subculture I've been part of since the early
             | 2000s.
             | 
             | Thanks a lot for sharing.
        
               | rightbyte wrote:
               | You care to namedrop them? I have never experienced this,
               | but maybe that is because I am too late to the party each
               | time to realize.
        
       | tracker1 wrote:
       | Social media seems to be pushing a bunch of content that isn't
       | the people that I actively follow. Twitter, I mean X keeps
       | switching me back to the "For You" tab, and Facebook changed
       | their page/group interface that switches my profile out every
       | time I don't pay attention for a second and I see a feed of
       | random. I can't speak for any of the rest as I generally don't
       | use much else.
       | 
       | Given that case, of course I'm less likely to engage on social
       | media. I'm much less there to interact with random strangers. Of
       | course so many people don't go out and do anything anymore, don't
       | engage with people around them when they do, and may be put off
       | if on the other side. It's a really weird time to be alive to say
       | the least. And that doesn't even get into culture issues that
       | most people don't care about, but those that are active in social
       | media are nearly obsessed about (including myself at times).
        
       | dutchCourage wrote:
       | Social networks put engagement before everything else and
       | alienate their products. I moved away from Facebook to Instagram
       | when it stopped being about my friends, and did the same when
       | Instagram tried too hard to be TikTok.
       | 
       | And I like these services independently. I watch short content, I
       | like following what my friends do and I follow(ed) strangers on
       | Twitter. But the moment everything is crammed into one app the
       | experience becomes dull.
       | 
       | I wish they'd spin up new apps instead of adding more and more
       | layers to the existing ones.
        
       | ZacnyLos wrote:
       | Interestingly both X (TT) and Instagram are trying to popularise
       | their group functions, but it's not popular enough.
        
       | datavirtue wrote:
       | ""How does a brand show up in somebody's DMs or Discord server if
       | they're not invited?" Haberman said. But in many ways, that's the
       | point. People can still go on Instagram to check on their
       | favorite celebrities and influencers, but young people don't want
       | brands and marketers infiltrating the closed communities where
       | they spend most of their time."
       | 
       | Young people? That's why I left Facebook. Your brain getting
       | chewed up by ads and alt-right trash.
        
       | nottorp wrote:
       | Hmm the article title implies they're talking about all social
       | media but most of it is about Instagram.
       | 
       | Also, it smells of a marketer's perspective. Of course if most
       | posts are fake people will stop being interested in the platform.
        
       | lifefeed wrote:
       | Social media companies can get some of the people all of the
       | time, or all of the people for some of the time. For a while
       | Facebook and Twitter managed to be in the second group, which is
       | an hugely profitable group to be in, and they both thought it
       | would last forever.
        
       | nwoli wrote:
       | Simultaneously twitter is breaking records in number of users (if
       | Elon is to be believed)
        
         | miduil wrote:
         | Simply not true
         | https://www.similarweb.com/blog/insights/social-media-news/t...
        
           | lefstathiou wrote:
           | The link you provided is from April. When I click on the
           | article, then click on the cited Twitter stats "visits to
           | Twitter.com", then scroll to "Total visits in last 3 months"
           | (for Twitter of course), the report appears to indicate that
           | traffic is up 1% MoM and currently at a high for the trailing
           | 3 month period (which is all they provide). It is just shy of
           | Instagram (which I was surprised to see).
        
         | redserk wrote:
         | The number of users is a different metric than amount of
         | (interesting) content created by those users.
        
         | zer0tonin wrote:
         | I don't see how that's possible, I have been a Twitter users
         | for years and last time I checked my feed was basically a ghost
         | town. I don't even bother logging in because I know the people
         | I liked talking to are now either on mastodon or left social
         | medias entirely.
        
         | quickthrower2 wrote:
         | Both can be true
        
           | tomrod wrote:
           | Aye, logically it could be, but Elon lies and it is false.
        
       | ChumpGPT wrote:
       | Still relevant today...
       | 
       | -Post on 4Chan from a few years ago. I cleaned it up a little
       | (removed retarded and autist).
       | 
       | The crux of Social media....
       | 
       | The need for attention, validation, to fit in, and be seen
       | fitting it. Its encourages the worst traits of old internet
       | forums. The upvote/downvote system is a compounding factor on all
       | of this because it gives direct feedback. Violating the group
       | think is instantly punished. Conforming to the group think is
       | instantly rewarded. They are thereby programmed to attempt to
       | appease the group constantly. They live for the rush of
       | validation and dopamine when the upvotes start ticking.This shit
       | becomes such a powerful feedback loop that they really have grasp
       | on reality at all.
       | 
       | I've had the misfortune of talking to some IRL hardcore "social
       | media people" face to face. They're socially inept in an entirely
       | unique way. They're capable of basic social graces that an actual
       | crazy/freak isn't, but they still lack critical self awareness.
       | They don't know how to differentiate between the internet b.s and
       | real life b.s. They're gullible and will believe anything from
       | another person who is even half way agreeable to them. Its
       | tragic. They're virtually lobotomized. Genuine NPCs.
        
       | dinckelman wrote:
       | The moment social media became mostly corporate, I lost interest
       | in it. We're supposed to socialize between each other, not
       | between ourselves and the ads that abuse us
        
       | inopinatus wrote:
       | The only winning move is not to play.
        
       | orwin wrote:
       | That's why I think Twitter would've died anyway (or deflated).
       | 
       | It was quite hard to consume niche information without posts from
       | outside the community to pop out. The solution to this was to
       | only read tweets with hashtag you wanted to follow, and not what
       | was 'trending', but Twitter interface got a bit in the way. The
       | new Twitter version have a sightly better interface, but much
       | worse content imho (on the hashtags I followed). Also I can't
       | read discussions without login in, and that's just a killer
       | point.
        
       | 1-6 wrote:
       | After a certain point, social media has become a source for
       | recycled garbage. It's costly to create original content and
       | content creators aren't being properly compensated for their
       | efforts. AI will only further this decline as content creators
       | will have a cheap source of unoriginal content.
        
       | pmontra wrote:
       | I've been using WhatsApp groups for sharing with my friends and
       | some Telegram groups too. Everybody has WhatsApp and actively
       | uses it here anyway, so there is no extra app to install. No need
       | to use Instagram, Discord, TikTok or whatever. It crosses all age
       | groups.
        
       | buro9 wrote:
       | It might not be for everyone, but I'm posting more on social
       | media than ever and seeing more engagement than ever... it's on
       | the fediverse where smaller and safer communities are leading to
       | much higher valuable engagement.
       | 
       | I'm also finding it a lot more common for people to have multiple
       | profiles / personas... the social one, the work one, the furry
       | one, whatever is how you want to present yourself and to whom,
       | without needing to try and contort yourself to be everything to
       | everyone.
        
         | anonzzzies wrote:
         | Where are you posting? I find so little quality content.
        
           | orwin wrote:
           | One feed I used to use Twitter for:
           | https://infosec.exchange/public/local
           | 
           | (I never was a fan of Twitter, and I use mastodon like I use
           | Twitter : only when I'm bored, every months or so).
           | 
           | You have to find a feed/subreddit that interest you.
           | 
           | Hell, I even spend more time on stackexchange than I do on
           | YouTube now. It's about niche, and small communities, where
           | read is free but write not so much.
        
           | lexicality wrote:
           | If they post it publicly then it won't be small and close-
           | knit any more
        
         | pxmpxm wrote:
         | Seems like the majority of mastodon content is mastodon
         | enthusiasts posting about how good it is to post on mastodon...
         | 
         | https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Rembrandt-Wolpert/publi...
        
           | CM30 wrote:
           | Nah that's more like Threads now. Though that's quietened
           | down enough that the 'this is so much nicer/better than
           | Twitter' talk has at least calmed down a tad.
        
           | dahwolf wrote:
           | [flagged]
        
           | rsolva wrote:
           | This was true for a couple of years, but lately, at least in
           | my little part of the Fediverse, we have moved past the meta-
           | talk.
        
         | rpastuszak wrote:
         | >I'm posting more on social media than ever and seeing more
         | engagement than ever... it's on the fediverse where smaller and
         | safer communities are leading to much higher valuable
         | engagement.
         | 
         | Precisely, it's signal vs. noise imo. There's an illusion that
         | with more viewers you're more likely to find interesting
         | people, but in practice it's mostly a distraction.
        
         | BrotherBisquick wrote:
         | [dead]
        
         | seydor wrote:
         | TBH i don't get the point of mastodon. Social media is
         | primarily "media", broadcasting, so they must be megaphones,
         | which by necessity includes large scale commercial and
         | entertainment activity. Mastodon's purpose of small cozy chats
         | is better served by ... chat which is more self-selective and
         | fit for the niches or countercultures
        
           | dahwolf wrote:
           | True. And Mastodon's paranoid safety culture is why they
           | could have just used chat.
        
             | Double_a_92 wrote:
             | I think this is why Discord is doing great. You can easily
             | find communities about specific topics where you can chat
             | in real-time with people... and whatever you write in there
             | feels somewhat ephemeral, instead of being permanently
             | stored on the public internet.
        
               | dahwolf wrote:
               | True. Chat feels alive. Quite different from posting on
               | social media where next you have to wait whether anybody
               | even saw it at all (usually not) and can be bothered to
               | like it (which does nothing) or respond to it.
        
           | NikkiA wrote:
           | A full on chat program is more of an active pastime, whereas
           | mastodon I choose to browse now and then throughout the day,
           | and don't expect replies or reactions to be necessarily the
           | same day, just 'whenever'. Perhaps that's why it skews so
           | Gen-X older.
        
           | neogodless wrote:
           | > large scale commercial and entertainment activity
           | 
           | I think you're redefining "social media" (which I think was
           | previously called "social networking" once upon a time) as
           | "broadcasting" and "megaphones" so naturally your definition
           | doesn't fit.
           | 
           | But socializing online is about sharing information,
           | interests, and building a (small, or the size you prefer)
           | network of people you consider online friends.
           | 
           | Discord does seem to work well for chatting about those same
           | things with the people I know, and I can easily see how
           | others use it for the same usage but with online-only
           | friends. But whenever I visit my corner of the fediverse, I
           | see lots of like-minded people sharing content that's
           | relevant to me (the hashtags I follow), and I've engaged and
           | enjoyed the experience.
           | 
           | There was and is no reason why any of that _requires_ "large
           | scale commercial and entertainment activity", and, in fact,
           | those things seem antithetical to building up a community of
           | people you want to communicate with online about your
           | interests.
        
             | seydor wrote:
             | Whatever starts as 'social networking' i think it is
             | inevitable that it will end up becoming 'social media',
             | because people add friends but don't delete, and by the
             | central limit theorem users will become average, that can
             | easily be substituted by an ML model. Even if mastodon is
             | OK now, it will end up with the same situation as it grows.
             | 
             | I still prefer when the world was divided in forums, not
             | friend groups.
        
         | jug wrote:
         | Yes it's striking how much smaller user base Mastodon has yet
         | better engagement than Twitter.
        
       | bluetomcat wrote:
       | It's not social media anymore. In their feed, people are
       | bombarded with ads, news, jokes as regular "content creation" and
       | group posts where strangers with a narrow interest in, say,
       | collectible figurines are posting pictures of their new purchase.
        
         | agent008t wrote:
         | It all went to shit the moment 'timeline' became 'feed'.
        
           | pxmpxm wrote:
           | This. All people want is to be able to see pics of their
           | friends and kids from whatever vacation they're on,
           | preferably in chronological order.
        
             | sznio wrote:
             | But then you'd just come in for 10 minutes a day and be
             | done. Can't earn money on such healthy engagement.
        
               | rpjt wrote:
               | People say they want this but I'm not actually sure that
               | they do. Didn't FB do some study about this?
        
               | dahwolf wrote:
               | People don't want this. They say they do but they don't.
               | 
               | Social media is 15 years old now. Watching what your
               | friend had for dinner or some other mundane non-event is
               | just not that exciting anymore.
        
         | p0nce wrote:
         | Twitter doesn't show me the people I follow, and instead show
         | people I "might like", in no particular time order. When I do
         | interact, almost noone of my followers can see my post because
         | I'm not an advertiser / paid user. Same from Facebook. So it's
         | not worth "building an audience" if you can't communicate with
         | it, and your audience can be taken from you at will.
        
       | kwhitefoot wrote:
       | I post something almost everyday.
       | 
       | When I see a headline making an absolute statement like this I
       | immediately dismiss it as an exaggeration. A variation on
       | Betteridge's law [1] perhaps. Their are other social media than
       | the big ones.
       | 
       | [1]
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Betteridge%27s_law_of_headline...
        
       | th0ma5 wrote:
       | I know there's a lot of Musk stans in here, but he really did
       | destroy Twitter, possibly at the behest of the Saudis, and it is
       | now a late night Fox News like ads space full of scams.
        
       | falcor84 wrote:
       | I wonder whether Google+ and its Circles would have seen better
       | success if it was launched now.
        
         | c4mpute wrote:
         | Circles was a great idea. But not really good enough. I'd have
         | liked an "ignore" circle, like banning users on other
         | platforms, just quietly, like the shadowbans some implement on
         | a personal feed level.
         | 
         | Also, Circles was the only good thing about Google+. The rest
         | was average to bad, and the forced integration into all kinds
         | of Google services, the forced realnames, and the lack of
         | third-party integrations killed any kind of goodwill/benefit-
         | of-doubt anyone might have had.
        
           | everdrive wrote:
           | I think what people sometimes miss is that circles was a good
           | feature for users, but a bad feature for the platform. They
           | interrupt vitality and outrage, since all messages are
           | potentially more contained.
        
         | mekoka wrote:
         | If Gmail was launched today would you bother?
        
           | hightrix wrote:
           | Absolutely not. It used to be a great email service that
           | didn't let any spam hit my inbox. Now, it's basically only
           | spam.
        
           | queuebert wrote:
           | In its current form, it would look pretty pathetic compared
           | to other offerings. But that's because they haven't had to
           | innovate due to their virtual monopoly status. If they
           | launched a new Gmail with modern tech and design, however, it
           | could be pretty attractive.
        
         | politelemon wrote:
         | I think its reputation of killing products would still have
         | been a factor in avoiding using it. Maybe not a factor for
         | everyone but at least in some... uh, circles.
        
       | pmarreck wrote:
       | Anecdotal data of 1 but I still post to FB and Twitter (uh, X)
       | fairly often. I never got into IG (too superficial, and I
       | actually prefer discussion). Tried Threads for a couple days and
       | it never latched. Reddit (arguably accidentally) permabanned me
       | across all my accounts after I accidentally used a different
       | login to post to a sub I had been (debatably, mods can be jerks)
       | banned on 1 of my accounts in a long while back (this literally
       | flags all of your accounts, which they determine via ML
       | fingerprinting, as "ban evasion accounts" which leads to a
       | permaban across ALL of them... I wish I was joking), so mostly
       | out of pure disgust I haven't been back even to view the read-
       | only bits on a multireddit, and there's no one I can contact
       | there who will respond fairly, so f**** Reddit (which is saying a
       | lot, especially since I've had an account there since it was
       | brand new!)
       | 
       | I've started checking out https://lobste.rs/ since I finally got
       | an account there, but they literally make you wait 90 days before
       | you can invite anyone else (I guess this is "anti-hockey-stick"
       | development?)
        
         | MockObject wrote:
         | Reddit completely deleted all your accounts for this accident?
        
           | JohnMakin wrote:
           | It's extremely difficult to get reddit banned, let alone this
           | - OP is telling on themselves
        
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