[HN Gopher] Kris Nova has died
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       Kris Nova has died
        
       Author : chrkl
       Score  : 638 points
       Date   : 2023-08-20 14:30 UTC (8 hours ago)
        
 (HTM) web link (nivenly.org)
 (TXT) w3m dump (nivenly.org)
        
       | turntabler46 wrote:
       | Flip. I am actually gutted, at the moment. We have never crossed
       | paths but I remember watching her ECHO episode with Liz Rice a
       | few days ago. Listened to her on Hanslemann's podcast too. Seemed
       | like such a great soul
        
       | donutshop wrote:
       | Nooo :(
        
       | hnarayanan wrote:
       | I had only begun following her and her work since the creation of
       | Hachyderm, and so sad to hear about this.
        
       | ewindisch wrote:
       | Wow. I'm not sure what to say. She and I had a lot in common,
       | both personally and in our interests. I hope she's at rest.
        
       | holoway wrote:
       | Awful news. RIP Kris.
        
       | brador wrote:
       | [flagged]
        
       | replwoacause wrote:
       | She looks like a cool fucking person. I just watched 10 minutes
       | of her Twitch stream and can tell she is smart and interesting
       | just from that alone. I'll have to take some time to learn more
       | about her.
       | 
       | What a terrible loss indeed.
        
       | mgerdts wrote:
       | Some context from someone close:
       | 
       | https://hachyderm.io/@quintessence/110922746691596046
       | 
       | > The person I cherished more than any other, @nova , died
       | unexpectedly late Wednesday in a climbing accident.
       | 
       | > I have no words, only despair. The light in my soul is gone.
       | 
       | > Joe Beda @jbeda and Nivenly are posting announcements. Others
       | will also.
        
         | de6u99er wrote:
         | That's brutal because it was unexpected, and her loved ones
         | could not say good bye.
        
       | blstech wrote:
       | Kris was a friend, Inspirer and all around great human being. She
       | taught me so much and was loved by everyone in the community. Her
       | contributions will not be forgotten or missed.
       | 
       | -- Brian S.
        
       | yewenjie wrote:
       | Her recent project - https://github.com/aurae-runtime/aurae
        
         | de6u99er wrote:
         | I hope this will continue somehow!
        
       | pimeys wrote:
       | Oh no! I never used their server, but I followed them and was
       | very impressed about the work they did and the community they
       | created. All the best to their family.
        
       | MagaMuffin wrote:
       | [flagged]
        
       | leetrout wrote:
       | I think this should get a HN black bar
        
         | altairprime wrote:
         | You can email the mods at the Footer link and ask them to do
         | so.
        
       | RA_Fisher wrote:
       | So sorry to read this. I'm thankful for the positive example she
       | set for all of us. Gone but not forgotten.
        
       | 0ct4via wrote:
       | Kris was a talented engineer and an amazing person. She was doing
       | something that she loved.
       | 
       | Kris recently said how she was feeling the healthiest and
       | happiest she had ever been.
       | 
       | The loss is gutting to those that know her, or only know of her.
       | 
       | For those that don't know, Kris created Hachyderm[1], which had
       | incredible growth[2] after Elon Musk's Twitter takeover. She also
       | created the Aurae runtime[3], and went on to create the Nivenly
       | Foundation[4].
       | 
       | In Kris' own words,
       | 
       | "Fuck the internet, I'm gonna go climb mountains. If you can - if
       | you're lucky enough - please also get outside, if you can."
       | 
       | If you can, take a break. Get outside, and just... take a moment
       | to just /be/ outside.
       | 
       | RIP Kris <3
       | 
       | [1] https://hachyderm.io/
       | 
       | [2] https://thenewstack.io/how-hashyderm-scaled-up-after-elon-
       | mu...
       | 
       | [3] https://aurae.io
       | 
       | [4] https://nivenly.org
        
       | zegl wrote:
       | This really saddens me, RIP.
        
       | jaylittle wrote:
       | I only recently became aware of her, but she was awesome. She'll
       | be missed.
        
       | the-rc wrote:
       | So incredibly sad. No more arguments over the pronunciation of
       | "kubectl". RIP.
        
         | minedwiz wrote:
         | I find myself unable to think of "systemctl" pronounced as
         | anything but "system-cuddle" since watching her stream.
        
       | MadAitcH wrote:
       | I used to watch some of her streams. RIP
        
       | cbm-vic-20 wrote:
       | This is sad news. Her most recent Twitch stream, from a few weeks
       | ago. https://www.twitch.tv/videos/1884973353
        
       | jcastro wrote:
       | I was lucky enough to work with Kris Nova. I was gutted when I
       | heard this and I'm still in shock. She was in the middle of doing
       | the hachyderm thing and I was struggling with some other stuff
       | and we ended up just happening to meet at a restaurant. "Fuck
       | what people say and think, do you what you want, that's what I'm
       | going to do."
       | 
       | Here's a segment from one of her recent streams. This is how I
       | will remember her:
       | 
       | https://www.twitch.tv/videos/1884973353?t=1238s
       | 
       | Nova was a great friend and an asskicker, she loved being a
       | hacker.
        
         | kmbannerman wrote:
         | Well said <3
        
         | CharlesW wrote:
         | Heartbreaking. That is a person who is living her best life.
        
           | dzogchen wrote:
           | [flagged]
        
             | weaksauce wrote:
             | how do you know that? it's a common route that can be lead
             | with a rope and it is about 5.4 and she had a partner with
             | her.
        
               | PathfinderBot wrote:
               | I'm not a mod, but I think it might be best not to
               | continue this discussion right now out of respect for
               | Kris.
        
       | winstonSmithy wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | leetrout wrote:
       | Joe Beda posted more info ~20 mins ago
       | 
       | Last Wednesday evening Kris Nova had a climbing accident and
       | died.
       | 
       | All of us that loved her are heart broken and stunned. She was an
       | amazing person that lived out loud and built connection and
       | community wherever she went. She will be horribly missed.
       | 
       | https://twitter.com/jbeda/status/1693290822370787697
        
       | dijit wrote:
       | [flagged]
        
         | argiopetech wrote:
         | To steelman your point, I believe you're saying that an
         | Autistic person may have difficulty not "being an asshole" due
         | to lack of understanding or awareness of how you're
         | interactions with others may be perceived. Therefore, while the
         | rules try to be inclusive of autistic people, they are
         | simultaneously exclusive by requiring a level of social
         | awareness that may be impossible.
         | 
         | Is that correct?
        
           | dijit wrote:
           | That is exactly my position, thank you for articulating it so
           | eloquently.
        
             | argiopetech wrote:
             | I'm glad. I appreciate and understand (viscerally) your
             | point, and I don't believe it is deserving of the backlash
             | that you have received. Hopefully my restating will support
             | a more intelligent conversation, or at least earn you a
             | fake internet point or two back.
        
             | CoastalCoder wrote:
             | You might want to update your original comment to clarify.
             | 
             | It seems to be getting downvoted by people who
             | misunderstanding the comment.
        
               | dijit wrote:
               | Unfortunately I cannot edit it, but downvotes are ok.
               | 
               | as others have mentioned, this topic is probably not a
               | worthwhile one to bring up as the focus is on mourning
               | one of our own.
        
         | KomoD wrote:
         | > I pointed out on twitter that the rules for her mastodon
         | server were incompatible (IE; "Don't be an asshole" and being
         | welcoming to Autistic people)
         | 
         | Calling all autistic people assholes is very worthy of being
         | blocked and banned
        
           | serf wrote:
           | That's not what was said. What was said was implying that
           | autistic folks need the ability to have their actions judged
           | from the perspective of their trouble rather than just
           | blindly judged 'asshole' when they make a social miss-step.
           | 
           | Regardless, this isn't the time or place for moderation chat;
           | one of our own had suffered a tragically early demise, and I
           | mourn. My condolences to everyone affected.
        
           | dijit wrote:
           | Apologies, that's not what I intended to say, and not what I
           | said to her either.
           | 
           | It's unfortunately true that my behaviour (and the behaviour
           | of many autistic people) can be easily characterised as being
           | an asshole, and vague rules do not help us function.
           | 
           | The condition is very much characterised by being unable to
           | understand social cues.
           | 
           | I really was trying only to be helpful and got quite hurt in
           | the interaction.
        
             | deanCommie wrote:
             | Dijjt, I do have some empathy for you. I'm on the spectrum
             | but only mildly.
             | 
             | You're right that social cues are complex and inconsistent.
             | 
             | But it's not helpful to the autistic community to suggest
             | that they are unable to learn how not to be an asshole - in
             | online, or irl communities. I know many that started with
             | struggles, but learned how to handle it.
             | 
             | The trick was wanting to try. To decide that the empty
             | annoying irritating things that allstics do are not
             | malicious either. And that social interaction is like the
             | rules of a very complex game.
             | 
             | It takes time, it takes effort, it takes humility.
             | 
             | I don't know you so I would never presume what your
             | situation is. But I know of several people in my life who
             | are on the spectrum that I got close to before I realized
             | that they genuinely have no interest in self improvement,
             | and they use their autistic diagnostic as a cover to see
             | themselves as above petty human social squabbles, and that
             | their assholishness is a mark of pride that they use to
             | refuse to better themselves. I hope that's not where you
             | are at.
        
         | Retr0id wrote:
         | [flagged]
        
         | 0ct4via wrote:
         | Sounds like your message implied that being autistic meant
         | being an asshole, which categorically isn't true.
         | 
         | You can be accused of being an asshole, it doesn't mean it's
         | because of your autism though - and going "autistic = asshole"
         | is absolutely worthy of a ban.
         | 
         | Maybe don't be so quick to portray your own experiences onto
         | autistic people as whole. If you wanted more specifics about
         | what Kris meant by "don't be an asshole," you could've asked
         | her (or any Hachyderm staffer).
         | 
         | You are not every autistic person, and not every autistic
         | person is an asshole.
         | 
         | Portraying all autistic people as assholes - or implying that
         | by virtue of being autistic, they can't _not_ be an asshole -
         | is incredibly ignorant and ableist.
         | 
         | While I sympathise with your struggle with intent or clarity,
         | it does seem that you were an asshole, and your projected
         | assumptions about autistic people because of your own
         | experiences are harmful, not helpful.
        
           | CoastalCoder wrote:
           | I think you may have misunderstood. (See sibling comments in
           | this thread.)
        
             | 0ct4via wrote:
             | I understood it fine, but thanks for the assumption.
             | 
             | It was put across in an asshole way, and bringing it up
             | when it has no relevance to commiserating the loss of a
             | great person and engineer, is an asshole move - autistic or
             | not.
        
         | fumeux_fume wrote:
         | Would like to politely point out that this is not really the
         | time or place to be posting your petty gripes with a person who
         | just passed.
        
           | dijit wrote:
           | Pardon, I was merely lamenting that I didn't know her better.
           | 
           | It was not my intention to air a gripe.
        
         | CoastalCoder wrote:
         | I'm sorry you experienced that.
         | 
         | I'm on the spectrum, and my son even more so. It's painful when
         | my heart is in the right place, but neuro-typicals mistake my
         | intent and refuse to believe me.
         | 
         | It's taken a lot of effort for me to adjust my communication
         | style to avoid those situations. Happily it's mostly paid off,
         | but I'm sad that my son will likely need to walk the same path
         | somewhat.
        
           | ahelwer wrote:
           | (am also on the spectrum)
           | 
           | > neuro-typicals mistake my intent and refuse to believe me
           | 
           | This is an idea I had to unlearn. We struggle as much
           | understanding ourselves as understanding other people. When
           | people react negatively to our behavior often times we
           | immediately jump to extending unlimited benefit of the doubt
           | to our own intentions. In reality, our perception of our own
           | intentions are often post-hoc fabrications to preserve our
           | self-image as a nice person. Letting go of this assumption
           | was helpful to a better understanding of interpersonal
           | interaction.
        
       | jxf wrote:
       | This absolutely sucks.
       | 
       | Kris and I worked together only briefly on a small hack project,
       | but everything about them was exactly what you'd imagine in a
       | forward-thinking community leader and technologist.
       | 
       | I'm deeply saddened for those who knew Kris well, and hope some
       | solace is found in knowing that their contributions left the
       | world a brighter place.
        
       | bcantrill wrote:
       | Gutted to hear this. We had the privilege to speak with her late
       | last year on the work she had done on Hachyderm -- and to get her
       | perspective on the Mastodon and the Fediverse more generally.[0]
       | She was a great presence and technologist, and inspiring to many
       | people. It is tragic to have lost someone so young; RIP.
       | 
       | [0] https://oxide-and-friends.transistor.fm/episodes/mastodon-
       | wi...
        
         | aberoham wrote:
         | Tragic news. I had the privilege to catch Kris at FOSDEM
         | 2020[0][1]. Such a force. RIP Kris.
         | 
         | [0]
         | https://mirror.as35701.net/video.fosdem.org/2020/K.1.105/kub...
         | [1] https://archive.fosdem.org/2020/schedule/event/kubernetes/
        
       | kraig911 wrote:
       | What from :(
        
         | ec109685 wrote:
         | https://twitter.com/jbeda/status/1693290822370787697?s=20
        
         | abathur wrote:
         | I don't _know_ , but she did enjoy mountain climbing, and she's
         | seemed to be in good spirits lately
         | (https://krisnova.net/posts/ego-death/) so I'm guessing a
         | climbing accident until we hear more.
        
           | SideburnsOfDoom wrote:
           | Climbing accident has been mentioned:
           | https://hachyderm.io/@quintessence/110922746691596046
           | 
           | > "@nova died unexpectedly late Wednesday in a climbing
           | accident."
        
           | barathr wrote:
           | It appears it was a climbing accident:
           | https://hachyderm.io/@quintessence/110922746691596046
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | kraig911 wrote:
         | I know it's insensitive to ask but from her recent streams she
         | was so full of life. I've really enjoyed listening to her these
         | past few years.
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | oaf357 wrote:
       | I am deeply saddened by this news.
        
       | danhon wrote:
       | .
        
       | hobo_mark wrote:
       | I lost colleagues and an acquaintance to mountaineering accidents
       | and I do not understand what makes people risk their life doing
       | that.
        
         | j45 wrote:
         | It doesn't have to make sense to others.
         | 
         | If I was to imagine what I didn't know about mountaineering, it
         | might be about working to see views that I couldn't have
         | imagined.
        
         | dijit wrote:
         | To be perfectly fair with you, it's less dangerous than
         | driving.
         | 
         | https://www.summitpost.org/mountaineering-accident-statistic...
        
           | kelnos wrote:
           | I don't think those statistics mean what you think they mean.
           | And those two activities are not directly comparable in that
           | way.
        
           | ghaff wrote:
           | Raw numbers don't mean much unless you normalize to the
           | number of participants in some way and, really, to the level
           | of the activity. Not a lot of people are killed flying in
           | wing suits but that's not because it's such a safe activity.
           | 
           | To be clear, I think mountaineering is a perfectly rational
           | activity for people to pursue so long as they're going into
           | it with their eyes wide open. I've certainly done activities
           | in that vein that some reasonable percentage of people would
           | probably consider excessively dangerous for various reasons.
           | 
           | I wouldn't personally do many of them but I'd hesitate to
           | criticize people in general for pursuing activities that have
           | greater than typical day-to-day danger associated with them.
        
             | hobo_mark wrote:
             | I'm not criticizing. I'd like to understand what might make
             | climbing a tall rock worth losing my life.
        
               | outside1234 wrote:
               | Sitting in front of a computer will claim a lot of lives
               | through inactivity but manny people still do it because
               | it brings meaning / relaxation / connection to other
               | people to their lives.
               | 
               | Its the same with mountaineering.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | There's risk in all manner of things. Some I would
               | _personally_ consider as high risk for relatively low
               | personal reward--or I 'm not physically capable of doing
               | them anyway (which alas covers more things than used to
               | be the case).
               | 
               | But people like challenges, experiences, etc. some of
               | which are never going to be wholly risk free. I'm not
               | going to pressure someone to get out of their comfort
               | zone in a way that puts them in potential physical danger
               | but I fully understand people who pressure themselves.
               | I've certainly gotten into some dicey situations now and
               | then. Nothing serious happened--I was generally prepared
               | --but it wouldn't have taken a lot for things to go
               | sideways.
               | 
               | Or maybe you get distracted and forget to look both ways
               | before crossing the street.
        
             | dijit wrote:
             | FWIW the article I linked says exactly the same thing as
             | you.
             | 
             | It's _essentially_ impossible to properly normalise across
             | hours of doing the activity.
             | 
             | Those stats, are at best, an estimate but it's
             | _exceptionally_ favourable to mountaineering.
        
               | ghaff wrote:
               | I clicked through the link and looked at what data was
               | available--looked like a lot of broken links. But,
               | depending on your definition of mountaineering, as
               | someone with a fair bit of experience in the area, I
               | simply don't believe that mountaineering at any
               | significant level is safer than driving whatever sort of
               | normalization you settle on. The latest fatality stats
               | for US roads is something like one per 100 million miles.
               | 
               | However, as both you and the link suggest, it's
               | essentially impossible to normalize. I don't know how I'd
               | even draw a hard line between a "walk in the woods" and
               | "mountaineering." But do whatever works for you.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | ocdtrekkie wrote:
         | Simply put: They enjoyed doing it. I wouldn't do it. But I
         | would say I definitely see why someone would rather leave this
         | world doing something that brought them joy over something like
         | cancer.
        
       | ldehaan wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | jonahhorowitz wrote:
       | RIP Kris. I only met her a few times but she was *ing amazing.
        
       | dredmorbius wrote:
       | A self-authored bio of Kris for those unfamiliar with her, here:
       | 
       | <https://krisnova.net/bio/>
        
       | eddie_31003 wrote:
       | Rest In Paradise friend.
        
       | johnklos wrote:
       | I was supposed to climb a mountain with her. There really aren't
       | that many people in this world to whom you can say, "let's do a
       | (slightly out there) thing", to which they say "yes" without
       | hesitation and with 100% certainty.
       | 
       | RIP. I'll be thinking of you on the mountains.
        
       | slimsag wrote:
       | I didn't know Kris, but we had bumped into each-other at various
       | times through open source work. I recall her being a very kind
       | and also deeply technical. Once she was supposed to give a talk
       | in Phoenix, and I was stoked to get to meet her in person
       | finally, unfortunately it got cancelled due to COVID and so I
       | never had the chance.
       | 
       | Rest in peace. I hope her loved ones are able to take the time to
       | grieve and find solice
        
       | jaydestro wrote:
       | Rest in peace. Best wishes to Kris's friends and loved ones.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | bbgm wrote:
       | Kris and I got to know each other a bit over the years. I still
       | remember our first meeting vividly. We met for dinner at a
       | Mexican restaurant in Capitol Hill and spent the evening talking
       | containers, Linux, Kubernetes, and Open Source. This is a tough
       | loss. I will take small in the fact that it happened doing the
       | thing she loved.
        
       | sp332 wrote:
       | I don't think anyone has mentioned her self-published book,
       | Hacking Capitalism. I haven't even finished it because I keep
       | having to set it down and think. It's not only insightful about
       | how tech workers fit into big companies, but specifically gives
       | advice about how to get ahead in the system without losing
       | yourself.
        
       | mbStavola wrote:
       | This is incredibly depressing news. Kris Nova will be missed
       | dearly and remembered fondly.
        
       | joaquin2023 wrote:
       | I first came across her words in the book Cloud Native
       | Infrastructure, and she had a way to say things concisely, things
       | I had always wanted to express, but never had the words. I was an
       | instant fan. I ran into once at Salesforce Park in SF, and told
       | her about how I followed her and loved her works. It so happened
       | she was talking to a VP at the time, explaining the importance of
       | social media in tech, to that worked perfectly for her. I'll
       | never forget her, and cherish her forever.
        
       | djhworld wrote:
       | RIP Kris.
       | 
       | She was one of my favourite people to follow on Twitter, and for
       | understandable reasons she left there to start the mastodon
       | instance but I didn't really use it much.
       | 
       | Really shocked to hear the news, she was very influential.
        
       | sabin1001 wrote:
       | She helped me get my current job. Thank you Kris for helping me
       | and please rest in peace.
        
       | voidfunc wrote:
       | [flagged]
        
         | bhouston wrote:
         | It was a climbing accident on Wednesday.
        
           | voidfunc wrote:
           | Ugh. Terrible
        
       | bhouston wrote:
       | Damn that sucks. She was running the mastodon instance with
       | competency and openness and low drama. Seems like what all great
       | engineers should embody.
        
         | sp332 wrote:
         | She created the Nivenly Foundation to run it, and removed
         | herself from the admin position a few months ago.
         | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRxRNe6yeg0&t=1237
        
           | de6u99er wrote:
           | https://nivenly.org/projects/
        
       | ashleymcnamara wrote:
       | Kris was more than just a prominent figure in our industry; she
       | was a beacon of inspiration in open-source. Her passion wasn't
       | just about writing code, but about bringing people together,
       | breaking barriers, and making technology accessible to all.
       | Kris's vibrant personality and dedication to collaboration will
       | be deeply missed, but her impact on the world of open-source
       | won't be forgotten. She has left a personal imprint on many of
       | us, and her spirit will continue to inspire those who believe in
       | the power of community-driven innovation. I will miss her so
       | much. She was truly one of a kind.
        
         | jasoneckert wrote:
         | Beautiful tribute! And when those entering the industry explore
         | the open source world, they'll see her front and centre among
         | the other greats at https://www.facesofopensource.com/kris-
         | nova-2/
        
         | theacodes wrote:
         | I only ever directly interacted with Kris once, and that's all
         | I needed. She was so kind to me when I reached out for advice
         | and support during an extremely difficult time in my life.
         | 
         | She will be missed so much.
        
           | efm wrote:
           | I also only spoke with Nova once. She was kind and helpful
           | beyond what I could have hoped for.
           | 
           | Her energy and enthusiasm for life shone like a bright star.
           | 
           | She will be missed.
        
       | milesward wrote:
       | Oh no :(
        
       | a_hoglund wrote:
       | I worked with Kris on a project at GitHub this past year. She was
       | always a pleasure to work with, this is such shocking and sad
       | news. Will be praying for those closest.
        
       | predictabl3 wrote:
       | I always figured I'd bump into her again and reconnect. Kris was
       | unlike anyone I've met before. "infectious energy" exemplified.
       | Big ideas and the determination to chase them. I still remember
       | some words of encouragement she gave me, seemingly so easily. :(
       | RIP Kris
        
       | zan5hin wrote:
       | Truly stunned and saddened to learn of her death. By happy
       | accident I discovered Hachyderm soon after I started really using
       | Mastodon. I was very impressed with the space Kris created and
       | the community she fostered there.
       | 
       | My heart breaks for those who knew her personally, and for her
       | family and loved ones.
       | 
       | RIP Kris
        
       | zapdrive wrote:
       | [flagged]
        
         | zapdrive wrote:
         | [flagged]
        
       | mongol wrote:
       | I have seen her name but I don't know what she is well known for.
       | My condolences, it is always sad when people pass away much too
       | early.
        
       | voigt wrote:
       | I'm really sorry to hear this. She did so much for the community
       | and was an inspiring personality. All the best to her family.
        
       | toomuchtodo wrote:
       | https://krisnova.net/
        
         | bhouston wrote:
         | [deleted]
        
           | leetrout wrote:
           | I read that this morning. She said she was pretty happy at
           | the start of her most recent stream
           | 
           | https://www.twitch.tv/videos/1884973353
           | 
           | Said she was running and climbing and the happiest she's been
           | in her life.
        
       | Djle wrote:
       | I'm very sorry to hear this. My she rest in peace.
        
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