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       I feel hopeless, rejected, and a burden on society-one week of
       empathy training
        
       Author : willm
       Score  : 268 points
       Date   : 2023-07-30 15:53 UTC (7 hours ago)
        
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       | zmower wrote:
       | Ah, cancelling Virgin Media. I've done this recently. I got
       | upset. I shouted down the phone at them. I'm not surprised
       | they're being invetigated by OFCOM
       | https://www.theguardian.com/media/2023/jul/13/ofcom-investig...
        
       | rawland wrote:
       | This.
       | 
       | Being disabled sucks even more. Because there is no "now I opt
       | out" decision as the author could do. Kudos to doing the
       | exercise.
        
       | throwaway290 wrote:
       | > If you don't have a voice, you're locked out of Virgin's
       | upgrade and cancellation routes.
       | 
       | Can't they be sued for that alone? Pretty sure there are lawyers
       | making a living on things like this in the US...
        
       | hbrav wrote:
       | It's kinda disappointing that handling someone being unable to
       | call hadn't occurred to these companies previously. But what's
       | pretty terrible is the attitude of customer service being "you
       | just have to call, sorry".
       | 
       | This all reminds me of the advice is Patrick McKenzie's blog post
       | "Identity, Credit Reports and You." Specifically: you never want
       | to deal with customer service, they are the Department of Fobbing
       | People Off. You want to be communicating in writing with a
       | lawyer, since lawyers have the power to tell other people in the
       | business "you're creating liability, make this problem go away".
       | 
       | In this case I think you don't have the same structure as in the
       | credit report case (an act that says they must investigate and
       | respond within X days), so for credibility you probably do need a
       | lawyer writing a letter for you. But I strongly suspect that
       | something like the following will generate a response: "Dear
       | Sir/Madam,
       | 
       | I represent [user]. My client is a customer of your business but
       | is unable to access your services due to [disability]. He has
       | communicated with your customer services (see attached
       | screenshots) and requested they provide a means for him to access
       | these services. Unfortunately they have declined to do so.
       | [Relevant legislation] requires reasonable adjustments to be made
       | in serving disabled customers, and my client and I believe that
       | [adjustment] could easily be made by your business to allow
       | customers with [disability] to access these services. Please
       | advise us within [x days] what adjustments you plan to make to
       | allow my client to access these services.
       | 
       | Yours,
       | 
       | [Lawyer]"
        
         | patmcc wrote:
         | I agree with all of this, the only part I want to push back on
         | is: "But what's pretty terrible is the attitude of customer
         | service being "you just have to call, sorry"."
         | 
         | I'm pretty confident in saying it's not the CSR who's deciding
         | this - they probably have either limited access or an explicit
         | directive from above that they _cannot_ do x, y, z in email
         | /chat/whatever. In all likelihood they're an underpaid employee
         | of some outsourced subcontractor to the actual company that
         | decides that.
         | 
         | I think we need regulations on this, the same way we need "if
         | you can sign up from a website, you can cancel from a website"
         | laws. If you offer x via a phone call, you can offer x via text
         | chat too.
        
         | PaulKeeble wrote:
         | In my experience finding lawyers to represent you for these
         | injustices is very hard. Disabled people also tend to be poorer
         | and lawyers just aren't interested. Medical abuse of the
         | chronically ill is a big area which lawyers refuse to deal with
         | and it's rife with potential lawsuits. It's not this easy,
         | everyone and I mean everyone treats you like your disposable.
        
           | wombatpm wrote:
           | I believe Prenda Law had a side business in these types of
           | lawsuits when their copyright troll work hit a snag.
        
             | the_other wrote:
             | Please don't taint essential, but missing, legal support of
             | marginalised people with the tarry brush of patent trolls.
             | Doubly-so when you only "believe" the story to be true.
        
       | SirMaster wrote:
       | I'm confused.
       | 
       | Wouldn't a person with no voice simply use a text-to-speech
       | system to communicate over the phone?
       | 
       | It doesn't look like they tried any such thing.
        
       | AndrewKemendo wrote:
       | > Whether you work in tech or not - it is your duty to make sure
       | that no one feels demoralised or rejected because of the systems
       | you build.
       | 
       | Shouting into the wind
       | 
       | Until the financial incentives of investors, employees and
       | customers align this will never be a priority
        
         | lijok wrote:
         | I would argue it's actually an educational problem, not an
         | incentive problem. Most people (made up stat) would struggle to
         | name/describe any disabilities beyond immobility, blindness and
         | maybe handful of others. Then add in the lack of tools and aids
         | (in the form of popular references, guides and QA forums)
         | available and you have a problem.
        
         | CoastalCoder wrote:
         | > it is your duty to make sure that no one feels demoralised or
         | rejected because of the systems you build.
         | 
         | Making such an assertion is easy.
         | 
         | In fact, I've heard many, incompatible claims about duties that
         | supposedly apply to me. Mostly without supporting arguments.
        
           | AndrewKemendo wrote:
           | It's true, there's equal objective "support" for normative
           | ethics claims across the board. So you can prove Nazi fascism
           | is "correct" using the same process that you would to prove
           | altruistic liberalism.
           | 
           | Given that existential nihilism concludes with "it's up to
           | you to choose what is right" my question to you is:
           | 
           | Why would you actively choose a position that would be
           | considered anti-social instead of a position that would be
           | considered pro-social if they have the same objective
           | grounding?
        
             | s1artibartfast wrote:
             | >Why would you actively choose a position that would be
             | considered anti-social instead of a position that would be
             | considered pro-social if they have the same objective
             | grounding?
             | 
             | Because one positions imposes significant costs and
             | restrictions, leaving your life significantly worse off.
             | 
             | Paying taxes to support the welfare of others is pro-
             | social, but it means that I am laboring twice as much,
             | instead of relaxing with my friends an family. It means
             | that I am paying for the children of others using resources
             | I would rather devote to my children. Why should I
             | sacrifice my wellbeing for someone I don't know, and might
             | not even like if I met them.
             | 
             | Many behaviors that fall under the Pro-social labor hurt
             | the individual and benefit others.
             | 
             | If they are actually beneficial to the individual, they
             | wouldn't need to be compulsory or the pro-social rhetoric.
        
             | CoastalCoder wrote:
             | > Why would you actively choose a position that would be
             | considered anti-social instead of a position that would be
             | considered pro-social if they have the same objective
             | grounding?
             | 
             | This simplifies away some crucial details about the actual
             | situation.
             | 
             | For example, I have limited time and opportunities.
             | Spending 200 hours making a piece of software more
             | handicap-friendly may mean 200 hours less of being a good
             | parent to my kids. Or working at a homeless shelter.
             | 
             | We can probably agree that all 3 activities are "pro
             | social" in some manner. But I can't tackle all of them.
             | Part of growing up is accepting that you can't do
             | everything.
             | 
             | I'm open to changing my priorities, but not without good
             | justification.
        
             | charcircuit wrote:
             | Not everyone is social. Some people want to build what they
             | want even if that means a group of people will be excluded.
        
               | AndrewKemendo wrote:
               | This is simply saying that you do not have, and do not
               | desire to acquire, the emotional capacity to be satisfied
               | with the social trade offs of voluntary subordination of
               | a portion of your own personal desires to benefit the
               | desires of others who may also want to commune with you.
               | 
               | So if your proof claim is simply "I don't want to" then
               | it's entirely ignoring the question with the idea that
               | it's not your choice anyway - you're just born that way -
               | which is not a relativistic statement.
               | 
               | In fact it's a biological determinism argument and if you
               | would like to go down that hole I think it would yield
               | that your claimed antisocial "preference" is extremely
               | rare historically - to the extent where as an outlier
               | it's questionable if it is an evolutionary fitness trait
               | or if it's ultimately supporting a genetic brick wall.
        
             | klabb3 wrote:
             | > Why would you actively choose a position that would be
             | considered anti-social[...]
             | 
             | Isn't anti-social a very loose and subjective term? Using
             | your own example, wouldn't it be considered anti-social in
             | Nazi Germany to oppose mainstream culture like military
             | parades, Hitler-Jugend etc?
        
           | shrimp_emoji wrote:
           | The pettiest example of this is red-green colorblindness (the
           | overwhelmingly most common kind of colorblindness).
           | 
           | Many interfaces, such as git's, use red and green despite the
           | common (?) knowledge that red and blue are the preferred
           | combination for accessibility.
           | 
           | I think most people prefer red and green, though.
           | 
           | So there's incompatible concerns to cater to: do you
           | demoralize most people by switching to blue or do you
           | demoralize the colorblind minority by keeping green? :D
           | 
           | (In the limit, you're going to inevitably hit some bedrock of
           | elitism beyond which it's irrational to dig. Your interface
           | will probably not be usable by dogs, for example.)
        
             | wheybags wrote:
             | Coming at this from a gamedev perspective - imo, if you
             | can, the best solution is to never use colour _alone_ to
             | convey information. For example, you can have a blue and a
             | red thing, but the blue one also has spots. Or it 's a dark
             | blue, and the red is light. Or the blue thing is a diamond
             | and red thing is a circle, etc etc. This has the added
             | benefit that it helps everyone, not just the colourblind.
        
             | rjaco31 wrote:
             | Just add a toggle for a colorblind mode
        
             | nitwit005 wrote:
             | I assume you mean github, rather than git? It's not reliant
             | on the colors. The "Code" and "New Pull Request" buttons
             | are green, but they also have text on them. Various icons
             | also have assistive text.
             | 
             | There are quite a few variations of color blindness, so
             | ultimately you want color to just be a hint. Handling the
             | most common case is a partial fix.
        
             | AndrewKemendo wrote:
             | >So there's incompatible concerns to cater to: do you
             | demoralize most people by switching to blue or do you
             | demoralize the colorblind minority by keeping green? :D
             | 
             | I'm not sure what to say here to be honest because you're
             | comparing these two things as equal with "demoralized"
             | being the only downside somehow so lets see what the
             | implications to the people are of such a system, using your
             | own example:
             | 
             | - A disabled person not being able to functionally use a
             | system that is often required for their work
             | 
             | - A non-disabled person being able to functionally use a
             | system that is often required for their work, but the text
             | is a less preferable color
             | 
             | In the first case it will take someone with an involuntary
             | disability longer, with more difficulty, to perform the
             | same task (comprehension) as someone without the
             | involuntary disability
             | 
             | I'm not sure how you could possibly equivocate these - and
             | then further double down on lack of empathy by suggesting
             | that making a website easier to use for risks a slippery
             | slope of irrational accessibility requirements
             | 
             | Unreal that this has to be spelled out
        
         | throwawa14223 wrote:
         | Or other people don't believe it to be a deontological style
         | duty.
        
           | AndrewKemendo wrote:
           | I don't disagree with you, however we are talking about real
           | people in society, not a theoretical philosophical system.
           | I'm unaware of any wide scale explicitly adopted philosophy
           | wherein there is zero responsibility from individuals to care
           | for others or society.
           | 
           | I am curious though what you would describe as your personal
           | philosophy, or if you're not talking about yourself then what
           | ethics framework are you referring to living inside that does
           | not have a normative component.
           | 
           | Maybe a better way to ask it is: what relativistic philosophy
           | is dominant enough or otherwise adopted to such an extent
           | that people are able to functionally live underneath it
           | without any type of a-priori responsibility to others.
           | 
           | What I DO see however are people who reject responsibility
           | for others, yet accept or even demand support from others -
           | even if it's tacit - and then hold a position like you
           | describe.
           | 
           | So I remain suspect of anyone promoting some extreme version
           | of individualism, as it conflicts with not only biology, but
           | the entire history of societies and philosophies.
        
         | coffeebeqn wrote:
         | That will never happen? Ergo government regulations
        
         | lijok wrote:
         | > it is your duty to make sure that no one feels demoralised or
         | rejected because of the systems you build
         | 
         | What a beautiful quip.
         | 
         | What if I'm building driving theory testing software? That's a
         | very on the nose example. What about ticketing systems?
         | Reminder app? TODO app? Wishlist functionality?
        
           | programzeta wrote:
           | Thank you for asking this, it helped tease out and crystalize
           | some thoughts I've had about the difference in tenor between
           | computer programming and software engineering. I hope these
           | off-the-cuff answers help explain why this doesn't feel
           | quippy to me; they are specific in scope but those scopes are
           | common.
           | 
           | --
           | 
           | Write clear error messages that provide a way forward. Accept
           | your system will have bugs, and ensure the system state is
           | communicated to the user so they know if their
           | TODO/Test/Reminder/Wish was stored/updated/deleted. Do your
           | utmost to prevent data loss - even when that data hasn't been
           | formally introduced to your data storage of choice.
           | 
           | Developers should not worry about their sprints being blown
           | because they have to use your APIs. Teams trying to pass off
           | tasks or getting special commendations for dealing with your
           | software should be embarrassing. If developers are wrapping
           | your API in their API, are they doing it because they need
           | the abstraction or because abstracting it once and tracking
           | changes is easier than using it?
           | 
           | Ensure there are logs in place to assist debugging and
           | documentation catered towards end-users, operations, support,
           | and developers. Track relevant metrics to allow for automated
           | fixes and manual intervention so users aren't the ones having
           | to remind you your software is broken.
           | 
           | Every piece of software has a user - a person, an
           | organization, other code - and software that doesn't make the
           | user's life easier increases the chance they'll stop using
           | it.
           | 
           | Or worse, start using it incorrectly!
        
         | zer8k wrote:
         | > it is your duty to make sure that no one feels demoralised or
         | rejected because of the systems you build.
         | 
         | This is the most dangerous line of thinking and one of the many
         | reasons people are tiring of woke-ism. Most reasonable people
         | agree accommodations for the disabled are both smart from a
         | business perspective, and kind to patrons in general. To
         | reframe having objections to this as a "demoralization" and
         | "rejection" that needs "special training" to understand seems
         | more like the schizophrenic sociologists are off their meds
         | again.
         | 
         | Importantly, I have no duty to anyone except my family. I am
         | not obligated _by anyone_ to do anything _for you_. This is not
         | to be interpreted as me not having empathy for the disabled.
         | But it is not my obligation to do anything about it. I have
         | worked specifically in this industry helping the visually
         | impaired navigate websites better. However, I cannot afford to
         | do such a design for my own personal sites. These types of
         | prescriptive ultimatums are exhausting and when they 're
         | codified into law they have an unintended chilling effect.
        
           | AndrewKemendo wrote:
           | [flagged]
        
           | majewsky wrote:
           | > Most reasonable people agree accommodations for the
           | disabled are both smart from a business perspective, and kind
           | to patrons in general.
           | 
           | If that were true, then given the evidence presented in the
           | post and in this thread, the corollary would be that a
           | significant amount of large businesses are run by
           | unreasonable people.
        
         | josephg wrote:
         | > Until the financial incentives of investors, employees and
         | customers align this will never be a priority
         | 
         | In some parts of the world, disabled people can sue businesses
         | over accessibility issues. People complain about the
         | "disability mafia" shaking down businesses, but I think it
         | might be the only way to align incentives to actually get these
         | problems reliably addressed.
        
           | Wowfunhappy wrote:
           | > People complain about the "disability mafia" shaking down
           | businesses, but I think it might be the only way to align
           | incentives to actually get these problems reliably addressed.
           | 
           | But IMO the other side of this is also tricky, because you
           | don't want companies to respond by removing services for
           | everyone.
           | 
           | There was an article on here the other day about how a town
           | had a non-ADA-compliant crosswalk. Fearing a lawsuit, the
           | town addressed the issue... by removing the crosswalk. (You
           | could still cross the street--with a wheelchair, even--but
           | you had to walk much further to do so.)
           | 
           | I also remember the article about the California university--
           | was it Berkley?--where some professors posted their lectures
           | freely online for members of the public. Of course, they
           | didn't have the resources to go through and add subtitles--
           | these lectures were for non-students, they didn't generate
           | any revenue--and the university got sued. Obviously, they
           | responded by pulling down the lectures.
           | 
           | Situations like these just make everything worse for
           | everyone. How do we write regulations which avoid that?
        
       | Chris2048 wrote:
       | To be fair, you tried to find out "how society treats disabled
       | people", then chose cancelling an internet subscription as the
       | bellwether; This is painful and anger inducing when you _aren 't_
       | disabled.
        
       | mavili wrote:
       | "This is discrimination. I don't know sign language and I don't
       | have text relay. I can't use my voice."
       | 
       | This his reply to instructions telling him he can ask for sign
       | language or use text relay if he cannot use his voice. I hardly
       | see this as discrimination. This is in no way different from a
       | perfectly able person saying it's discrimination to expect me to
       | read and write! Sign language is the language of the voiceless.
       | 
       | Life isn't perfect. Of course we should do as much as we can to
       | make life for the disabled easier. But seriously people feel so
       | entitled and expect so much from everyone. People need to accept
       | that not everyone can accommodate 100% of needs. Governments
       | should, but not private entities.
        
         | Kye wrote:
         | It's actually not uncommon for deaf kids to be forbidden or
         | discouraged, depending on era and local pedagogy, from learning
         | and using sign language. And like any language, it's harder to
         | learn later in life. ASL isn't just English with handwaving.
         | It's a whole other language. Same with all sign languages.
        
         | kvetching wrote:
         | Hilarious that people downvoted this.
         | 
         | The writer is fooling you all. Virgin literally provided
         | solutions to his issue. A text relay service is the answer if
         | you must speak on the phone. I remember using AT&T text relay
         | as far back as early 2000s. Any person that can't speak would
         | be totally familiar with this solution.
        
         | edent wrote:
         | Let's say that tomorrow you get a really bad sore throat. Like,
         | the worst. So bad that you can't speak.
         | 
         | How much sign language do you know right now?
         | 
         | Disabilities can be temporary or situational. They can be long-
         | term or sudden.
        
           | szatkus wrote:
           | I would probably use the sign language interpreter option and
           | write down what I want to say on my phone or on paper.
           | 
           | (unless they have some weird policy to only serve customers
           | who use sign language)
        
           | mavili wrote:
           | I'd wait until my sore throat is gone. And if I have a
           | disability for longer I'd have to learn to navigate the world
           | my friend. Just like me and you have had to learn to read and
           | write. Funny enough, we also had to learn to use a phone. Oh
           | how dare companies expect us to know use a phone and dial a
           | few digits!
        
             | edent wrote:
             | And this is why it is called "empathy" training.
        
             | majewsky wrote:
             | Wow, this gas leak looks really bad. Let's hope my sore
             | throat gets better quickly so I can call for help about
             | this.
        
           | userbinator wrote:
           | No need to use sign language. Had the "can't speak"
           | experience after a dentist visit. Took out a piece of paper
           | and wrote down what I wanted to say and showed that instead.
           | These days people would probably use their phone and type it
           | out.
        
       | navjack27 wrote:
       | The biggest disability I wish people would explore in their
       | accessibility is issues with impulse control. So much of the web
       | is designed to keep us hooked and I firmly believe that people
       | that have issues with impulse control have a good handle on the
       | obvious stuff moreso than people who don't because we are aware
       | of the concept of choice more.
       | 
       | But what about when it's your credit account that is sabotaging
       | you by design? Can't cancel the account unless you call a phone
       | number and talk to somebody. But if you want to increase your
       | credit limit, you can just click a button on the website and
       | validate how much you make a year and boom, you have a $7000
       | limit when you get $900 a month.
       | 
       | So if you have a phone phobia and an issue with impulse control
       | and you maybe stress spend, you now have a system totally against
       | you by design.
       | 
       | It's great to explore the world as someone with visible
       | disabilities. Also do so with neurodivergence.
        
         | sergioisidoro wrote:
         | I'm skeptical about calling it a disability, because a lot of
         | these mechanisms and dark patterns are made to prey on
         | everyone's nature.
         | 
         | Some people may more susceptible to those stimuli, but I don't
         | see it a disability, but as natural neurodiversity.
         | 
         | These are plainly predatory and unethical marketing practices,
         | for everyone!
        
           | Retric wrote:
           | Pay to win video games really are ultimately targeting a
           | small demographic as a tiny percentage of the audience
           | results in the majority of their income.
           | 
           | The thing is they don't know who specifically is vulnerable
           | ahead of time, so they cast a wide net.
        
           | coldtea wrote:
           | Neurodiversity is a nicer sounding term, to mask the fact
           | that underneath there are certain life affecting disabilities
           | - often severely life affecting (if it was just harmless
           | "natural neurodiversity", it wouldn't translate to reduced
           | life expectancy. Not to mention millions of cases which need
           | constant assistance to make it througn everyday life).
           | 
           | That it also targets "everyone's nature" doesn't mean it's
           | not a bigger issue for people with certain neurodiversities
           | affecting impulse control more. Same way a badly maintained
           | road might also inconvenience a perfectly abled walker, but
           | it is far more burdensome to a disabled person.
        
             | adroniser wrote:
             | The reason for the low life expectancy of autism for
             | instance is suicide.
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | It's lower even accounting for suicide already.
               | 
               | There are lots of other issues, like losing supporting
               | parents and family, lack of a support network of friends,
               | lack of job opportunities and bad work careers, issues
               | with pursuing healthcare and maintaining health and lack
               | of access to healthcare, and so on.
        
               | adroniser wrote:
               | These are all systemic issues though are they not? You
               | could make all of these same arguments about gay people
               | back in the 80s. Yes even the healthcare one. That
               | doesn't mean that being gay isn't a natural variation in
               | sexual orientation just as being autistic is a natural
               | variation in brain structure.
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | > _These are all systemic issues though are they not?_
               | 
               | Only in the sense that the system doesn't provide extra
               | accomondations. Not in the sense of active purposeful
               | systemic opression (unlike say with blacks or gays).
               | 
               | > _That doesn 't mean that being gay isn't a natural
               | variation in sexual orientation just as being autistic is
               | a natural variation in brain structure._
               | 
               | I wouldn't say it's "just as". Being gay doesn'r bring
               | any special impairement in sensory processing, social
               | understanding, proprioception, speech, and so on. It only
               | affects individuals because of morality / prejudice.
               | 
               | Whereas being autistic, especially of high support needs,
               | means major sensitivity issues, issues with
               | communication, problems coping with changes to routine,
               | sometimes even inability to speak at all, meltdowns, and
               | other issues, which impact the person, and need to be
               | catered and attended, and even when perfectly catered,
               | still cause issues (a school or office can accomondate
               | for sensory issues, but we can't remove noise and light
               | and other sensations from the world).
               | 
               | Saying it's a "natural variation" begs the question.
        
             | dragonwriter wrote:
             | > if it was just harmless "natural neurodiversity", it
             | wouldn't translate to reduced life expectancy.
             | 
             | Without disagreeing that the space of neurodivergence
             | _includes_ some life affecting disabilities, this
             | generalization would also prove that race is not just
             | harmless "natural diversity" but that being of a non-
             | dominant race is also a "life affecting disability". There
             | are other explanations for correlation with reduced life
             | expectancy than individual disability.
        
               | coldtea wrote:
               | The mechanism doesn't have to be genetic/physiological.
               | Social or behavioral disavantages caused or attenuated by
               | the disability, still means the disability is not
               | harmless.
        
           | HumblyTossed wrote:
           | Respectfully, you are not trauma informed if you feel this
           | way. Plenty of kids in foster care who have been traumatized
           | by bios have impulse control issues due to their mal-
           | developed amygdala.
        
           | DoughnutHole wrote:
           | Whether or not something is considered a disability is really
           | matter of severity. I believe this applies to both physical
           | and mental conditions.
           | 
           | If someone has reduced mobility in their arm due to some past
           | injury that might not be considered a disability if its
           | impact on their life is low. If that impairment is so severe
           | that they have functionally lost use of that arm then it
           | could easily be considered such.
           | 
           | I don't consider my ADHD a disability, but it is an
           | impairment with regards to impulse control. But someone
           | else's condition could be much more severe. Someone with
           | bipolar disorder or manic depression can easily go through a
           | bout of extreme suggestibility which can wreak absolute havoc
           | on their life.
           | 
           | Categorising many mental disorders as harmless
           | "neurodiversity" feels like a form of forced positivity
           | imposed to alleviate the stigma of some disorders at the cost
           | of dismissing the serious impairments inherent to others.
        
             | kayodelycaon wrote:
             | I'm am bipolar and neurodivergent doesn't even scratch the
             | surface. Hypomanic episodes are expensive because I have
             | barely any impulse control. No amount of defense in depth
             | can stop me from getting access to money. I have to use a
             | different strategy:
             | 
             | I prepare for these episodes months in advance.
             | 
             | I needed a new car, so I set myself up to be fixated on a
             | new Prius when the episode got bad. Nothing less than new
             | would do because I wouldn't have the presence of mind to
             | vet a used one.
             | 
             | This put a hard limit on the financial damage. The highest
             | trim Prius with all of the options is cheaper that many
             | other cars I could have bought.
             | 
             | The end result was a car $10,000 over my maximum budget. It
             | has far too many buttons, but it didn't ruin me and I love
             | the car. All in all, a successfully managed episode.
             | 
             | This is one of _hundreds_ of problems I deal with and plan
             | for.
        
         | joker_minmax wrote:
         | This also ties into a problem with usability in general. I
         | don't need an impulse control issue to accidentally click ads
         | or accidentally allow notifications on websites. But clicking
         | the wrong thing could cause huge problems in anyone's life when
         | things are made near impossible to use for anyone without 20/20
         | vision and years of experience. That's why it's so difficult
         | for elderly people to use these things - even Google Chrome now
         | is a nightmare without even going onto a website. But oops now
         | you're subscribed or scammed.
        
       | Khelavaster wrote:
       | It's a little obtuse to "pretend to be deaf" and not use text
       | relay...
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | OJFord wrote:
         | He was pretending to be dumb, not deaf, but yes seems that
         | should still work and realistically what you'd do.
         | 
         | I can understand not taking pretending as far as using a
         | wheelchair though, seems you could too easily end up in
         | situations where you have to try to explain No no I'm on the
         | side of people with disabilities, I'm not taking the piss, etc.
        
         | Karunamon wrote:
         | This struck me as well. Not using the service whose entire
         | reason for existence is "sometimes you _need_ to use the phone
         | and there are no equivalent options " seems like a self-own
         | unless I am missing something.
         | 
         | At least in the United States there are various apps and sites
         | you can use that are free that will provide relay services. I
         | had to avail myself of this a few times when some respiratory
         | bug made me impossible to understand speaking but I could still
         | type.
        
           | jeroenhd wrote:
           | The UK has this app: https://www.relayuk.bt.com/
           | 
           | Seems free and easy to use, for both deaf people and people
           | who can't use their phone. Available though smartphones or
           | dedicated devices.
           | 
           | I think it's completely fair to expect someone to use this
           | service for the occasional phone call.
        
         | mistercow wrote:
         | They didn't pretend to be deaf. They pretended to have a speech
         | disorder that prevented them from using their voice.
        
           | anigbrowl wrote:
           | Correct, but such a person would normally still have/use text
           | relay.
        
             | catchnear4321 wrote:
             | like a chat widget on a web page?
             | 
             | the companies could take the burden here. it isn't that
             | difficult.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | Broken_Hippo wrote:
         | No, it really isn't.
         | 
         | I mean, I woke up one day and was half blind. Well, I could see
         | out of my left eye, but it was all a blur. "Yes, I know that's
         | a big E at the top of the eye chart, but it is a dark and light
         | blur".
         | 
         | I've had both hands go numb. I could use them, mostly, but had
         | to look at them to properly wash bread dough off of my hands. I
         | couldn't feel it.
         | 
         | These things mostly got better after some time - I have MS, you
         | see. It wouldn't be realistic to think that I could wake up and
         | not be able to use my voice effectively or have some sort of
         | hearing problem. Or not be able to walk well. Or a number of
         | different things. And at least at first, I'd not think to use
         | text relay either. I might not think about it for a few weeks -
         | it might get better, after all. In the meantime, I'd be getting
         | increasingly frustrated at society.
        
         | Rhapso wrote:
         | Wait until you find out 20% of the deaf are illiterate. Want to
         | make the world more accessible, learn ASL and see to it the
         | education and healthcare systems get real funding.
         | 
         | *Ironic typo mention below is fixed.
        
           | slater wrote:
           | illerate, ey? /s
        
           | YurgenJurgensen wrote:
           | Learning 'American' sign language won't make the 'world' more
           | accessible. Most deaf people aren't American.
        
             | Rhapso wrote:
             | Well the competitor is Chinese sign language and the
             | Chinese government claims there are 4 million fluent
             | signers of it. (Which would be the overwhelming majority of
             | people who sign on the planet if it is true) so if you want
             | to improve your raw odds of helping use that.
             | 
             | Yes, I failed to be inclusive of other sign languages.
             | Learn the sign language that makes sense for your culture
             | and environment, but learn a sign language!
        
             | joker_minmax wrote:
             | I think the obvious solution here is to have sign language
             | fluency be encouraged in whatever country you particularly
             | live in. I think that person meant "world" as a figure of
             | speech.
        
             | techsupporter wrote:
             | That's true for the entire language but, like a lot of
             | other languages, there is significant overlap. For example,
             | the American in American Sign Language means North
             | American; it is the predominant manual language in Canada
             | and the United States and has fairly wide acceptance in
             | Mexico.
             | 
             | ASL is based on LSF, or French Sign Language, because of a
             | long history (more or less involving the person with the
             | last name Gallaudet) but the main point is that a _lot_ of
             | sign languages descend from LSF. Much like how someone who
             | only knows English can go to Germany or France or Italy and
             | make out some of the basic words, the overlap between LSF
             | descendants is pretty good for basic or everyday use. I 'm
             | semi-fluent in ASL and I've successfully communicated with
             | people who use Irish Sign Language and German Sign Language
             | (DGS).
             | 
             | The big stand-out is British Sign Language, or BSL. BSL's
             | manual alphabet and root signs are dramatically different
             | from LSF. (Since a lot of ASL words are initialized
             | motions, like taking the first letter of the English or
             | French word and using that handshape sign in a motion, BSL
             | doesn't translate as quickly.)
        
           | hereforthecake2 wrote:
           | > Wait until you find out 20% of the deaf are illerate
           | 
           | Or that the average reading level of people that are deaf in
           | the US in 4th grade.
        
             | HideousKojima wrote:
             | The median US adult only reads at an 8th grade level, so
             | that's actually not terribly surprising.
        
       | throw9away6 wrote:
       | I feel like things have gotten way worse in the last 4 years.
       | Everyone has eliminated the human assistance so if your problem
       | cannot be solved by the standard flow you are out of luck. Many
       | places won't pick up the phone, there is no way to escalate to a
       | human. If you are disabled you are just a cost center and nobody
       | will bother with you at all.
        
       | Calavar wrote:
       | Maybe a minority opinion here, but I find the idea of trying to
       | see what it's like to live with a disability first hand without
       | taking a minimum effort to understand the nature of the
       | disability or how people with that disability typically deal with
       | it is at best an exercise of very limited worth and and worst
       | moderately offensive.
       | 
       | The author quotes a statistic that 10% of the UK have speech
       | difficulties. Does he believe that 1 out of 10 Brits is
       | completely unable to hold a phone conversation? If not, then why
       | is this the way he chooses to explore the disability? Assuming
       | that he specifically wants to explore aphasia/dysarthria, did he
       | ask an aphasic or dysarthric person how they approach having to
       | make a phone call? If his goal is to truly understand the
       | experience of living with their disability, how can he do that
       | without approaching things the same way they do? Did he do the
       | research to see that aphasia and dysarthria are disabilities that
       | rarely occur in isolation? Because I don't see any discussion of
       | that, and again, how can you understand the experience of an
       | aphasic or dysarthric person without understanding the other
       | disabilities that the average aphasic person also deals with?
        
         | kayodelycaon wrote:
         | I'm of the same opinion. The author has no freaking clue. I
         | broke my ankle in high school and I got zero support. All of
         | the classes were on the third floor and the cafeteria was in
         | the basement.
         | 
         | 1. There was no elevator in the building. I had to use crutches
         | to get up the stairs while carrying all of my textbooks.
         | 
         | 2. I was required to attend gym class on the second floor of
         | another building (no elevator) and change clothes in a room
         | with no chairs or benches. Then I would sit in a chair while
         | everyone did the assigned activities.
         | 
         | 3. I was required to eat lunch in the cafeteria. I wasn't given
         | extra time. Occasionally there wouldn't be enough food and I
         | would get a single peanut butter sandwich while others had gone
         | through the line twice before I got there.
         | 
         | 4. I was late to every class and everyone watched me while the
         | teacher waited for me to get to an assigned seat down a narrow
         | isle.
         | 
         | 5. I wasn't given extra time to get to the bus after school. So
         | I had to wait in detention for my mom to drive from work if I
         | missed the bus.
         | 
         | 6. Oh, I forgot, the second to last class of my day was on a
         | different floor. So I had to go down and back up the stairs.
         | 
         | I forgot how many weeks this went on until I had a walking
         | cast. The whole thing lasted 8 weeks.
         | 
         | The best part, I broke my ankle in gym class because I got
         | tripped and knocked sideways during basketball. They called my
         | mom to pick me up instead of calling an ambulance.
        
       | arp242 wrote:
       | John from Virgin Media probably isn't a bad person, or
       | unsympathetic to Terence's plight, but in his job there is almost
       | certainly nothing he's able to do: _The System(tm)_ just wasn 't
       | designed for it and he can't make an exception.
       | 
       | I feel we've lost some things by introducing computerized systems
       | everywhere. Everything is now neatly boxed off and as soon as you
       | want something nonstandard - no matter how much sense it makes -
       | it's "computer says no" everywhere.
       | 
       | It's frustrating and humiliating for Terence, but _also_ for
       | John, who has to helplessly see someone in a difficult situation.
       | Actually caring about Terence and the people like him he deals
       | with every day would destroy John emotionally, so he does the
       | only thing he can: not care. Which is  "merely" corrosive, but at
       | least doesn't destroy him.
       | 
       | ---
       | 
       | Last year I had a somewhat similar situation: after flying to
       | Amsterdam I managed to just catch a train with a bit of a sprint.
       | The bloke after me was in a wheelchair, but the train was about
       | to leave and the conductor was on his own (with me, freshly
       | arrived in the vestibule just on time).
       | 
       | There's a gap between the train and platform so wheelchair users
       | can't "just" board and the conductor couldn't lift him on board
       | on his own. I naturally offered to help, as most people would,
       | but was immediately rebuffed by the conductor. Since the train
       | was already late it couldn't wait for another employee to arrive,
       | so it just left, leaving the guy behind - the next train was an
       | hour later.
       | 
       | After the train left I chatted a bit with the conductor and he
       | explained he couldn't accept my help for insurance reasons, and
       | that it wasn't "responsible" to accept help from random
       | strangers.
       | 
       | On one hand, I can understand that, I guess... But on the other
       | hand: what the actual fuck? How is this now considered acceptable
       | in our society? I can't help but feel we've created a system
       | where our humanity has been systemically stripped from us, and
       | that this has become so normalized we don't even realize it.
       | 
       | ---
       | 
       | This affects everyone outside "the happy path"; homeless people
       | are another classic example. People say "get a job" but this
       | isn't easy without a fixed address, and renting something without
       | a job is often impossible (even IF you actually have money), and
       | you usually also can't get paid without a bank account, but
       | getting an account requires a fixed address, etc. etc. There's
       | all sorts of catch-22s - sometimes special systems exist to deal
       | with this, but they're bandaids on top of a broken system and
       | certainly in some countries "homeless" is so narrowly defined
       | that it excludes huge swaths of homeless people.
        
       | isykt wrote:
       | Accessibility seems to be a blind spot for most in tech because
       | we don't think disability will happen to us, or if it does, it
       | will be a long time from now.
       | 
       | What people often don't consider is that even if that is true,
       | the likelihood that you will care for someone with a disability
       | -- an aging parent, a spouse, or a child - increases the
       | likelihood of lack of accessibility impacting your ability to
       | enjoy your (shared) life.
       | 
       | My partner had a stroke. They can no longer walk steadily, and
       | they likely never will. The number of times a certain thing we
       | wanted to do went from idea to "guess not" is now incalculable.
       | The logistics just become too onerous... and we're lucky. We are
       | high earners in a developed city.
        
         | wintermutestwin wrote:
         | >Accessibility seems to be a blind spot for most in tech
         | because we don't think disability will happen to us
         | 
         | Which is particularly silly because 1/2 of people end up with
         | presbyopia (far-sighted). My older eyes are often frustrated
         | with tech choices made by web/app designers half my age.
        
         | hereforthecake2 wrote:
         | > What people often don't consider is that even if that is
         | true, the likelihood that you will care for someone with a
         | disability -- an aging parent, a spouse, or a child - increases
         | the likelihood of lack of accessibility impacting your ability
         | to enjoy your (shared) life.
         | 
         | Yes. Many many many people don't realize that their future
         | holds experience with disabilities.
         | 
         | And wait until they have to deal with the young tech people
         | calling all the shots on how products look, change, evolve,
         | etc. This idea that we should constantly be updating our UI,
         | workflows, and shoving new features in front of users as a way
         | to push people to expand (and spend more) of what they do has
         | created such a huge problem in our family for our aging
         | relatives. We've had to constantly shift which tech we use to
         | find stuff that's going to be the most simple and easy to help
         | through through while on the phone.
        
           | ModernMech wrote:
           | Heck, it's already catching up with me in subtle ways. For
           | instance, scroll bars constantly mess me up because they keep
           | making such low contrast between the slider and the
           | background (I don't know the technical terms). So sometimes I
           | can't even see where I am on the page without scrolling to
           | see the slider move. But lately when the slider is small
           | enough, I can't even see it when I'm moving the page! It's
           | practically invisible to me.
           | 
           | Like, why does it have to be light gray on slightly lighter
           | gray? Whose 20 year old eyeballs decided on this?
        
             | TheCowboy wrote:
             | This lack of contrast can be annoying. It can sometimes be
             | remedied on our end by playing with non-obvious graphics
             | settings or monitor settings. But it's unfortunately not
             | always as simple as adjusting the contrast.
             | 
             | You can also point out that this is an issue with photos
             | and people will act like you're using trash hardware even
             | if you aren't (had this issue with my nicest monitor, while
             | the cheaper displays were fine). And they really should be
             | also designing for non-premium displays, or displays being
             | used in extremely bright, or extremely dark settings, etc.
        
             | TheNewsIsHere wrote:
             | I'm with you. I've spent a huge amount of my time working
             | with older folks in particular, and the complaints about
             | change have essentially shifted from
             | $every_major_release_or_two to, we'll, every release. My
             | grandparents started shopping online during the pandemic
             | and every week they had a new complaint about some change
             | on the site. (I saw most of those changes and they
             | certainly weren't user-friendly!)
             | 
             | I've felt myself being able to relate more and more. I have
             | a lot more work on my plate now that requires synthesizing
             | previous experience and existing expertise, and that is
             | challenging to do when entire teams at virtually every
             | vendor seem to exist solely to implement changes for the
             | sake of changes. Software moves fast these days and that
             | can be fine, but it doesn't seem like all that velocity is
             | really genuine in the UX space.
             | 
             | My experience isn't everyone's experience of course, but
             | requiring that _everyone_ learn new ways of interacting
             | with essentially every product regularly, makes me feel
             | like it's just busy work to keep up with the proverbial
             | software UX Joneses. (And everything looks the same now, so
             | I'm not sure that's the hottest take around...)
        
             | arp242 wrote:
             | > Like, why does it have to be light gray on slightly
             | lighter gray? Whose 20 year old eyeballs decided on this?
             | 
             | "It looks fine on my 32" 8K screen in perfect light
             | conditions 60 centimetres from my face - what are you
             | complaining about?"
             | 
             | I really think lots of people should just use EUR400 low-
             | end hardware, as that's representative of what people
             | actually use, and all these kind of problems will stand out
             | much sooner.
        
           | isykt wrote:
           | The only solution, dear reader, if you make it this far, is
           | that you -- not metaphorically but literally, you, the abled
           | reader - must advocate loudly for accessibility. Even when
           | it's annoying. Even when it's more work on top of your
           | already huge pile of work. You're not advocating for an
           | abstract other. You're advocating for your future self.
        
         | giraffe_lady wrote:
         | Yeah this blows my mind when working with other tech people.
         | None of y'all ever broke a hand? Smashed a fingernail in a door
         | or burned your thumb cooking? Noticed how hard it us to use the
         | computer or shit even open a rounded doorknob sometimes?
         | 
         | Being fully able-bodied is barely even the baseline state, even
         | for "able bodied" people. Temporary changes to that state have
         | been common in my life and the lives of the people I am closest
         | too, and it's always obvious how poorly the world is suited to
         | those deviations. And also clear how small and cheap many of
         | the changes would be to improve it.
         | 
         | If all goes well, you _will_ be disabled for the final years of
         | your life, we all will, and more than a small handful of years
         | too. It is life why don 't we plan for it, build our world for
         | it?
        
         | guerrilla wrote:
         | > Accessibility seems to be a blind spot for most in tech
         | because we don't think disability will happen to us, or if it
         | does, it will be a long time from now.
         | 
         | This goes for everything. People don't realize that the golden
         | rule is in their own self-interest and they're often harming
         | themselves when they work against things like welfare and other
         | protections.
        
           | anotheruser13 wrote:
           | Helps explain MAGAts.
        
       | dheera wrote:
       | > Terence: If I want to cancel my account (without using the
       | phone) what can I do?
       | 
       | > John: the only option though is by calling .
       | 
       | Comcast told me this exact same thing but I just told them that
       | section 9(a) of their Xfinity Residential Services Agreement
       | allows for termination by e-mail and that I was providing the
       | agreed notice and will withhold payments effective immediately.
       | They shut up after that.
       | 
       | I'm not deaf but I've claimed to be on multiple occasions to
       | avoid dealing with a customer service phone call. They want me on
       | the phone? Pay me for my lost hours.
        
       | jacknews wrote:
       | No doubt there are real issues with the way society is (not)
       | designed to accommodate the less able, but this sortie seems to
       | me to involve quite a bit of provocation and 'fake outrage'. For
       | one thing, people are fairly sensitive to trolling atempts these
       | days, so merely 'pretending' is maybe not good enough.
        
       | FigurativeVoid wrote:
       | I used to date a person who needed to use a wheelchair from time
       | to time. Not only is the world inaccessible, but there are so
       | many grandfathering rules that most places don't have to change.
       | 
       | Something this article misses is that many people act totally
       | inappropriately to people using various aids. They used to have
       | people question why they needed a chair. They had people call
       | them wheels in public.
        
         | IshKebab wrote:
         | The thing I've noticed in the UK with a buggy is the insane
         | lack of dropped kerbs. Why? Does it really cost a lot more to
         | have a slightly different shaped kerb?
         | 
         | They also seem to have a terrible habit of putting them in the
         | inconvenient places that they _want_ you to walk, not where
         | people _actually_ walk. E.g. set back 10m from a t-junction. So
         | even if there _are_ dropped kerbs it 's still significantly
         | more inconvenient if you actually have to use them.
        
         | rdtsc wrote:
         | > there are so many grandfathering rules that most places don't
         | have to change.
         | 
         | Indeed. It's especially hard in a poor areas. I used to live
         | with a disabled person and things like cracks in the sidewalk,
         | or bumps from roots, or potholes, look like nothing to people
         | who can walk. To someone in a wheelchair they can prevent them
         | from going through. They city was too poor and run down to get
         | to it. Older parts of town, are also almost impossible to
         | access.
         | 
         | > They used to have people question why they needed a chair.
         | They had people call them wheels in public.
         | 
         | I noticed this is at the airport. People in a wheelchair often
         | get priority sitting. But to request a wheelchair doesn't
         | require any proof. So, people learned to take advantage of it.
         | May even get an assistant to push them around the airport. And
         | then, as soon as the flight lands, people are miraculously
         | "healed" and don't need a wheelchair any longer.
         | 
         | They think it's a harmless thing: "it's allowed anyway", "I
         | paid a lot of money for this ticket", "not breaking any rules",
         | etc but what they are doing is they are creating animosity and
         | suspicion in the general public who now feel anyone in a
         | wheelchair in the airport is "cheating" to get ahead of the
         | line and get a better spot for their carry-on luggage.
        
           | okaram wrote:
           | A lot of people cheat, but you also need to keep in mind most
           | disabilities are not binary, but have degrees.
           | 
           | Many people may be able to get up the wheelchair and walk a
           | little, but may not be able to walk a mile in the airport...
           | Or may not be able to navigate the complicated airport
           | environment.
        
             | FigurativeVoid wrote:
             | I wouldn't even say a lot of people cheat. There are a few,
             | but it is the vast minority.
        
           | oaththrowaway wrote:
           | When I was a teenager my grandmother lived with us for a few
           | years because she was unable to care for herself. Once we
           | went to a museum as a family and my parents sent me and my
           | brother to get a wheelchair for my grandma. When we found one
           | I got in and had my brother push me. As a joke he started
           | running and let go and I flew off the curb and crashed into
           | the parking lot.
           | 
           | A lot of people rushed over to help and were quite upset when
           | I hopped up and ran off with the wheelchair.
        
           | Zak wrote:
           | > _as soon as the flight lands, people are miraculously
           | "healed" and don't need a wheelchair any longer_
           | 
           | The comment you're replying to talks about someone needing a
           | wheelchair _from time to time_. Many people who use
           | wheelchairs do not need them all the time.
           | 
           | A trivial example would be someone who can walk from the
           | airport to a car when unburdened, but cannot stand in line
           | for an hour while carrying luggage. The available assistance
           | isn't necessarily individually tailored, so "I need to check
           | a bag without extra charge and skip the security and boarding
           | lines" is not an option, but a wheelchair is.
        
           | currymj wrote:
           | I know someone who did what you describe, but in her case it
           | was legitimate. She could walk, though slowly, but had great
           | difficulty with ramps and stairs, and would be in pain for a
           | couple days after standing for a long time, so genuinely
           | needs help to get through airports.
        
             | jrmg wrote:
             | Yes, me too. You should not assume someone who seems able
             | to stand and walk unaided is not in need of assistance for
             | longer periods. It can be a matter of scale, and there can
             | be sudden tipping points.
             | 
             | The person I know is perfectly able to stand for a short
             | while, or walk around a shop or food court for a couple of
             | minutes carrying items with really no obvious problems. But
             | navigating an airport all the way through, quickly making
             | it to a connecting flight on the other side of a large
             | terminal, or standing for minutes in a check-in line is
             | basically impossible without days of pain afterwards.
        
           | drewcoo wrote:
           | > they are creating animosity and suspicion in the general
           | public who now feel anyone in a wheelchair in the airport is
           | "cheating"
           | 
           | No. The faceless people who wrote the crap rules are doing
           | that. Blaming people who use the system to their advantage
           | doesn't fix the system.
        
           | robbie-c wrote:
           | I broke my toe just before flying from Portugal to London. I
           | had crutches and was given a wheelchair in the airport. I
           | technically could have walked, it just would have been
           | extremely painful. When the staff at Luton told me that it'd
           | be an hour before the passenger lift was ready, I decided
           | "fuck it" and that I would walk down the stairs instead. One
           | of the other passengers accused me of faking the whole thing,
           | but I can assure you that I was not.
        
         | joker_minmax wrote:
         | I mention this in my comment too - sexual harassment about the
         | wheelchair I've seen in person.
        
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         | omeid2 wrote:
         | As bad as it seems, without grandfathering, very few of such
         | accessibility laws would ever make it.
         | 
         | Consider that accessibility is a quality of life concern, when
         | governments have to consider the cost of everything, even the
         | "reasonable" cost of averting death.
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Value_of_life
        
       | jsnell wrote:
       | Most of the example challenges feel pretty odd.
       | 
       | > Go a couple of weeks without using the phone. Which services
       | are closed off to you?
       | 
       | I think I've called a service provider of any kind once in the
       | last five years. It didn't actually get me anything that text
       | comms would not have.
       | 
       | > Tell people you need an accessible venue for your meetings. How
       | do they respond?
       | 
       | The last time I spoke at a venue was like 8 years ago. The author
       | doing it multiple times in a random week seems like quite an
       | outlier.
       | 
       | > Switch on subtitles and mute your favourite shows. Do they even
       | have subtitles? What do you miss?
       | 
       | I always have subtitles on in any TV show, streaming show,
       | YouTube, etc. I can't even think of the last time it wasn't an
       | option. (The subtitles for the news have a 15 second delay due to
       | it being a real-time broadcast, which is a bit distracting but
       | acceptable.)
        
         | hereforthecake2 wrote:
         | > I think I've called a service provider of any kind once in
         | the last five years. It didn't actually get me anything that
         | text comms would not have.
         | 
         | It sounds like what you are implying is that because you
         | haven't experienced it in a 5 year period, someone who lives
         | their entire life like this must not experience this as well?
         | Even though you are presented with data saying otherwise?
        
           | jsnell wrote:
           | No, I'm implying nothing like that.
           | 
           | The challenge the author set was to go without a phone for a
           | "couple of weeks", not "for your entire life". For that to be
           | a useful challenge and build empathy as is the goal, the
           | people taking the challenge need to be put into a position
           | where they _must_ make a phone call at least once in those
           | two weeks. Otherwise it does nothing at all.
           | 
           | The author appears to be upgrading their internet connection,
           | moving, and arranging financing for a house in their totally
           | normal week. For them, it is a useful challenge. But for my
           | phone use patterns it is utterly useless. I'd need to run the
           | experiment for a decade.
           | 
           | But thanks a lot for telling me that my lived experience is
           | invalid and disproven by "data".
        
         | dkarl wrote:
         | I've had to use the phone quite a bit in the last year.
         | Airlines and travel companies are especially bad about only
         | supporting happy-path functionality online and then providing
         | an excruciatingly bad phone experience if something gets off-
         | track.
         | 
         | The pharmacy that I use has a very busy and probably very
         | expensive web site, but it has bugs, and any time you get off
         | the happy path, you have to call. For example, when I get a
         | prescription delivered for my brother-in-law (who has
         | disabilities and lives with us) the pharmacy only gives the
         | name on the credit card to the delivery driver (this is a known
         | bug, for over a year) so the driver shows up and asks for the
         | wrong name. Usually the pharmacist figures this out and gives
         | them the right prescription, but if they don't, the
         | prescription goes into a black hole. It can't be picked up at
         | the pharmacy, it can't be scheduled for delivery again, nothing
         | can happen until I call and get it fixed.
         | 
         | Helping my mother set up online access to her pension, the only
         | way they will grant her access is if they call her at a certain
         | number and she answers the phone.
         | 
         | I can't think of any other examples off the top of my head, but
         | I despise talking on the phone and will go to great lengths to
         | avoid it, and yet I have to do it maddeningly often.
        
           | Zak wrote:
           | > _Airlines and travel companies_
           | 
           | I actually found Twitter DM, of all things to be the most
           | effective way to get customer service from United Airlines. I
           | don't know if this is still the case given Twitter's recent
           | decline.
        
             | alex_suzuki wrote:
             | Anecdotal, but I have also found Twitter DM to be a highly
             | successful communication channel when you need support. I'm
             | assuming that a) it's the fear of being publicly shamed and
             | b) it's a channel that's not made completely unusable
             | through some kind of helpdesk software.
        
               | Zak wrote:
               | Complaining about corporations in public posts is all
               | I've ever used Twitter for. It sometimes results in
               | better support channels than the default.
        
         | edent wrote:
         | Hi, I wrote the article 4 years ago. So, slightly within your 5
         | years timeframe.
         | 
         | There are still plenty of services in the UK which are only
         | available by voice.
         | 
         | I may be "an outlier" but it was my lived reality. At the time
         | I was travelling to and speaking at multiple events per week.
         | Why should I be able to do that when others are prevented?
         | 
         | In the last 4 years the situation with subtitles has improved
         | slightly. But there are still plenty of shows on Netflix and
         | Apple+ with no subtitles or - perhaps worse - shitty subtitles.
         | 
         | I'm really pleased that you haven't experienced any of these
         | barriers. Can I please encourage you to find something that you
         | think might be a challenge and spend a few weeks building up
         | your empathy?
        
         | navjack27 wrote:
         | So just because you could argue about all of these, they are
         | all invalid?
        
           | jsnell wrote:
           | I did not use the word "invalid", or anything like that.
           | You've made that up.
           | 
           | The author seems to think that this list is compelling, and
           | that people will find it incredibly hard to do these
           | challenges. But at least half the list is describing stuff
           | that I know with certainty would be no trouble because it is
           | either stuff I already do all the time, or has boundary
           | conditions that have a <<1% chance of triggering. That's a
           | lot more than "could argue".
           | 
           | So the list seems pretty bad, and I would suggest would not
           | actually have the effect the author suggests of building
           | empathy.
        
         | mitthrowaway2 wrote:
         | For some reason Crave in Canada on AppleTV seems to have no
         | subtitles whatsoever. I can't understand why.
        
           | chronicsonic wrote:
           | This might be related to Apple, normally Apple is very good
           | for accessibility, but even the BBC has challenges with
           | subtitles on AppleTV, same with the Dutch NPO TV:
           | 
           | "Why are there no subtitles on BBC iPlayer via Apple TV?
           | 
           | There are technical challenges associated with delivering
           | subtitles to Apple TV which will require a significantly
           | different solution to that which we use on all other
           | platforms. We are working towards it but don't currently have
           | timelines associated with this support."
           | 
           | Source: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/help/questions/accessib
           | ility/a...
        
             | mitthrowaway2 wrote:
             | Makes sense, but it's clear that we still don't live in a
             | world of fully ubiquitous subtitle accessibility, which can
             | cause trouble both for the hard of hearing and for those
             | with English as a second language.
             | 
             | Likewise, subtitles usually are not available at theatres,
             | public screenings, and other venues.
        
       | joker_minmax wrote:
       | I do think this is important as an awareness exercise, however,
       | it is worth noting that a lot of the issues CANNOT be seen unless
       | you actually do bring the wheelchair. I learned this in 2018 when
       | as a student I attended a conference with a fellow disabled
       | student in Chicago. I was responsible for pushing her (she could
       | use her arms but it was faster to navigate the city if one of us
       | pushed). Not all train stations have a wide enough platform for
       | wheelchairs to roll across, so your mobility is limited by which
       | stations you can use for the train, which means walking farther
       | from the station to where you actually wanted to go. Accessible
       | hotel room with a pushbutton door shut too quickly for her to get
       | into the threshold. Thankfully one of us was there to hit the
       | button again each time she needed it reopened, but sometimes you
       | had to physically catch and push the (heavier than normal) door
       | before the button would re-open it. If you were just "thinking"
       | about being a wheelchair user, and not actually trying to
       | navigate this, you would not have a sense of the timing of this
       | door. Another complication was her foot in a cast sticking out.
       | The lovely, welcoming residents of Chicago catcalled her using
       | wheelchair-related phrases, one guy on the train pointed at her
       | and told her to kill herself, and someone kicked her cast in a
       | crowd. The general attitude toward the disabled, in that
       | environment, is unkind at best.
       | 
       | When I was a child (in the US), the science museum in my hometown
       | had an exhibit dedicated to the ADA. You got into a wheelchair
       | and tried to do tasks. It showed how payphones at a certain
       | height are too high to reach, how difficult it would be to go up
       | a ramp with an unapproved slope, etc. I wonder if it's still
       | there, because that was my first foray into thinking this way.
       | The Chicago trip however, basically radicalized me.
       | 
       | The article has a reference point of the UK and I don't know what
       | their laws are with regards to accessibility. But it's clear that
       | in both countries public attitudes toward accessibility have a
       | very long way to go. And I'm sure most other countries can say
       | this as well.
        
         | jacquesm wrote:
         | > The lovely, welcoming residents of Chicago catcalled her
         | using wheelchair-related phrases, one guy on the train pointed
         | at her and told her to kill herself, and someone kicked her
         | cast in a crowd.
         | 
         | That's beyond bad, and makes me feel sick.
        
         | vkou wrote:
         | > The lovely, welcoming residents of Chicago catcalled her
         | using wheelchair-related phrases, one guy on the train pointed
         | at her and told her to kill herself, and someone kicked her
         | cast in a crowd.
         | 
         | This is so utterly farcical and disguisting that people will
         | swear until they are black and blue that you are making this
         | up.
         | 
         | Of course, some of the people making that argument would, with
         | the shield of being a face in a crowd, without a shred of irony
         | and self-awareness, behave in _that exact same way_.
         | 
         | It's really, really bloody sad.
        
           | joker_minmax wrote:
           | The guy who told her to die was definitely on drugs and
           | absolutely wired. Which there are bound to be some characters
           | that way in a large city. The others I can't say, they were
           | basically normal passers-by with no abnormal demeanor prior
           | to being cruel.
        
             | rcme wrote:
             | I think this has nothing to do with being handicapped and
             | everything to do with the fact that the cta allows citizens
             | to be assaulted every day by allowing crazy people to squat
             | in trains. Plenty of able-bodied people have horror
             | stories.
        
               | vkou wrote:
               | It's incredibly ironic how you read the actual horror
               | story, and respond by trying to turn this into blaming a
               | pet issue. "It's the bad _others_ , it's not 'normal'[1]
               | people that are behaving poorly."
               | 
               | ---
               | 
               | [1] Despite the OP _explicitly_ stating that a
               | significant part of the abuse did not come from  'Crazies
               | squatting on trains.'
        
         | tehwebguy wrote:
         | Brutal. Referring back to this comment the next time folks here
         | are indignant about ADA private right of action.
        
         | blahedo wrote:
         | > _in Chicago. ..._
         | 
         | And the sad thing is, in this respect Chicago is less bad than
         | a lot of other towns and cities in the US and _way_ less bad
         | than many (most?) cities in other countries, including many
         | that are much more progressive than the US. Chicago has been
         | working on curb cuts for years and is in the midst of a years-
         | long quest to upgrade all El (metro /subway) platforms for
         | accessibility, and the ADA---33 years old---has much stronger
         | requirements than, as far as I can tell, even current
         | legislation elsewhere. In Canada, France, Spain, Germany I've
         | seen whole rows of storefronts that are a half-storey up or
         | down from street level, curb cuts are rare, and it's more usual
         | for stores and other business to have steps than not. In other
         | realms of accessibility, I've also noticed a lot more Braille
         | and/or headphone access on ATMs and public kiosks in the US,
         | and fire alarms that are rigged with lights as well as sound.
         | 
         | It's not a perfect mechanism, and the US gets a _lot_ of other
         | things wrong, but the ADA is something we got really, really on
         | the right track (and keep improving).
        
           | joker_minmax wrote:
           | Well the old famous pizza places are not accessible in the
           | slightest. Basically anything super freaking old is a lost
           | cause unless you magically have room to make the bathrooms
           | bigger or put an extension on the storefront, etc. I'm from
           | the South, and it also shocked me how cars in Chicago would
           | basically inch directly up to where you're walking, like
           | they're just gonna run over you if you stopped, even if
           | pedestrians technically have the green to cross. And they
           | could see we were going slower because we're pushing a
           | wheelchair! People talk crap on the South and how we drive,
           | but at least we usually slow down when someone is crossing.
           | (I can't vouch for Florida, but most of Florida doesn't count
           | as Southern anyway.)
           | 
           | It's easy to take the braille in elevators or lights on fire
           | alarms for granted, but thanks for pointing out how good it
           | is that we have them.
        
             | tssva wrote:
             | > and it also shocked me how cars in Chicago would
             | basically inch directly up to where you're walking, like
             | they're just gonna run over you if you stopped, even if
             | pedestrians technically have the green to cross.
             | 
             | I just spent the last week in downtown Chicago and in this
             | regard I didn't find it any worse than the downtown areas
             | of other major cities. Not saying it is acceptable but
             | Chicago is not an outlier.
        
           | giraffe_lady wrote:
           | A lot of this is undone by unofficially allowing parking in
           | crosswalks and other routine "transgressions". The cutouts
           | don't matter when there's a car over it. So many groups are
           | affected by this other than wheelchair users too: parents
           | with strollers, elderly or disabled with walkers or who
           | simply can't lift their foot high enough to step onto a curb,
           | young children on balance bikes or skates.
           | 
           | The enforcement mechanism of ADA being, literally, "sue us"
           | is an absolutely massive barrier that makes its practical
           | efficacy a fraction of what you'd think it is based on
           | reading the rules.
        
             | neltnerb wrote:
             | I have spent four years, typically ~2 months a year between
             | first complaint and it actually getting acted upon, getting
             | Somerville to cut overgrowth from its own construction site
             | that completely block a sidewalk that is used by hundreds
             | of people per day (there is no sidewalk at all on the other
             | side).
             | 
             | You couldn't use the sidewalk anyway as it is not ADA
             | compliant in the slightest (random light posts in the
             | middle of a half width sidewalk with tons of cracks and
             | holes). But at least it should be vaguely passable...
             | 
             | Meanwhile literally 100 feet away they managed to redesign
             | and repave an entire highway onramp without hiring a
             | groundskeeper for their own property.
             | 
             | I hate having to bring up the ADA as the reason the city
             | should respect pedestrians. They spent how much money on
             | that highway onramp but can't be bothered to make the
             | frontage on property it owns usable by pedestrians?
        
         | 13of40 wrote:
         | > The lovely, welcoming residents of Chicago catcalled her
         | using wheelchair-related phrases, one guy on the train pointed
         | at her and told her to kill herself, and someone kicked her
         | cast in a crowd.
         | 
         | Dear god. My wife broke her leg about a month ago, and I've
         | been pushing her in a wheelchair when we go out. The spectrum
         | of reactions so far has run from a quick smile to strangers
         | coming up to ask what happened and wish her well. This is in
         | the eastern Seattle suburbs. WTF, people?
        
           | wutbrodo wrote:
           | I was surprised to hear GP's story about the Midwest, but not
           | surprised to hear an anecdote of West Coasters being kinder
           | to strangers than elsewhere.
           | 
           | Any one of those stories is worse than anything I've
           | experienced in decades of living in large California cities
        
           | joker_minmax wrote:
           | As I've said in a different reply, the KYS guy was definitely
           | on drugs - his demeanor was abnormal even before he opened
           | his mouth. And every city will have characters of that type.
           | But the other people were just average run-of-the-mill folks
           | from afar who decided to make her day worse.
        
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         | ModernMech wrote:
         | Yeah I used to do research on robotic wheelchairs, and as part
         | of that I had to use them. Half of the "accessible" doors on
         | campus where not powered, so I had to open them while sitting
         | in the wheelchair. It was impossible to do without holding the
         | door with my legs. And they were these big heavy doors.
         | 
         | Then there was the elevator, which could barely fit the
         | wheelchair. You can go in at juuuuust the right angle to get on
         | the lift, then you had to reverse out because there was no room
         | to maneuver inside. I started actually getting claustrophobic.
         | 
         | I just couldn't see how an actual wheelchair-bound person could
         | get into these buildings on a daily basis.
        
           | joker_minmax wrote:
           | Why do "accessible" doors always have to weigh so much more
           | than regular doors? The powered ones are extremely difficult
           | to open if the button decides to not work.
        
         | neilv wrote:
         | I live in a high-cost-of-living (HCOLA) metro area that wins
         | national awards/rankings for walkability, but the narrow,
         | obstructed, and often poorly-maintained sidewalks are very
         | often impassable for people in wheelchairs.
         | 
         | Even _new_ renovations and widenings, where they put in new,
         | flat sidewalk that 's sufficiently wide, the concrete
         | figuratively isn't even dry before they install excessive
         | signposts and random street furniture, again blocking the
         | sidewalk.
         | 
         | Then there's the snow&ice, and the inadequate compliance with
         | the rules about who has to shovel what, when, and how. And the
         | property owners that eventually comply, are fighting the
         | plowing from the streets onto the sidewalks.
         | 
         | There's even further problems with landscaping, and sometimes
         | poison ivy/oak, growing out from a residential property, to
         | effectively block the narrow square of sidewalk that remains.
         | Not something you want brushing or scraping across your arm or
         | face as you're trying to get through and can't dodge it.
         | 
         | Even in good weather I only rarely see people on the sidewalk
         | in wheelchairs or on mobility scooters. That doesn't mean they
         | don't live in town, but that the sidewalks don't let you get
         | far. When I do see them (as a walker), they're usually
         | operating their wheelchair or scooter _in the street_. A couple
         | times, I 've had to help one who was simply stuck in the
         | street. I imagine they don't feel good about it, and feel
         | abandoned.
         | 
         | I would've thought the bicyclists would have empathy and
         | solidarity, at least against the cars, but there actually seems
         | to be a _higher_ rate of problematic behavior there, per rider
         | /driver (e.g., ignoring traffic signals at crossings, barreling
         | down narrow sidewalks). And now we're getting dedicated bike
         | paths often at the cost of sidewalks.
         | 
         | One of the people in a wheelchair who got stuck in the street,
         | after I helped push him out of it and to the nearby grocery
         | store entrance, he held some device to his neck so that he
         | could say thank you.
         | 
         | I imagine that it was implied that this situation sucks -- and
         | I'm thinking: made worse, for no good reason, in an area that
         | can afford to do better -- but he's soldiering through, and
         | doing what he can.
        
           | techsupporter wrote:
           | > I would've thought the bicyclists would have empathy and
           | solidarity, at least against the cars ... And now we're
           | getting dedicated bike paths often at the cost of sidewalks.
           | 
           | I live in another HCOL area allegedly famed for its walking
           | and biking facilities, and I hoped the same thing.
           | Unfortunately, the process here seems to have turned into
           | "each individual group vs car drivers", probably by design.
           | For example, where I live has separate pedestrian, bicycle,
           | and transit advisory boards to the city council. Never mind
           | that projects should be built to benefit all three, not just
           | one.
           | 
           | What's wound up happening is, because we "obviously cannot"
           | take space from car drivers, the precious little room given
           | over to modes that don't involve driving are forced to
           | compete with each other. A new train station was built on the
           | north end of town and the former sidewalk area on one side of
           | the train station has been repurposed as a bicycle-only lane.
           | The other side of the street is still a pedestrian
           | sidewalk...but the street itself is a four-lane thoroughfare
           | with very wide lanes and a median turn lane in spots. Of
           | course, narrowing the car space on that road to make the
           | corridor more comfortable for people on feet _and_ on bikes
           | was completely out of the question.
           | 
           | Also, the sidewalk didn't get fully rebuilt so I routinely
           | see people in wheelchairs and pushing prams on the "bicycle-
           | only" side because that's much smoother and even.
        
             | neilv wrote:
             | > _Unfortunately, the process here seems to have turned
             | into "each individual group vs car drivers ... where I live
             | has separate pedestrian, bicycle, and transit advisory
             | boards to the city council._
             | 
             | I suspect you're right; I've seen that, but didn't realize
             | at the time that it could be a barrier.
             | 
             | I could imagine how it might be organized that way in good
             | faith -- e.g., get the input from the people who really
             | care about biking, the people who really care about
             | walking, and the train/transportation buffs, and then have
             | city officials process it all, holistically -- but that's a
             | lot of heavy lifting, and also doesn't bring the advocates
             | together to learn from each other and directly reconcile
             | conflicts.
        
         | dustincoates wrote:
         | Having children and, thus, a stroller, has given me some small
         | level of insight into what it must be to try and navigate Paris
         | in a wheelchair.
         | 
         | I can only think of one, maybe two, Metro stations that I can
         | access with my youngest without carrying him. Many stores I
         | would not be able to enter if I wasn't able to tip the wheels
         | up. Curb cuts are routinely blocked by tourist scooters and
         | anyway people often take up too much of the space on the
         | sidewalk with their vehicles to get through. Add on to the fact
         | that apartment stock must be 95% inaccessible if you're in a
         | wheelchair.
         | 
         | It might be why I have only twice seen someone in a wheelchair
         | in my seven years here. My wife and I have discussed before
         | that, as much as we love it here, we'd move out right away if
         | any of us had accessibility needs.
        
           | renox wrote:
           | Yes, I'm French too and when I was on holiday in Thailand, in
           | a mall I noticed that there were people in wheelchairs
           | shopping, my first thought: in France they wouldn't be able
           | to be here because the accomodations are so bad..
           | 
           | It's not 100% true and it's improving but very, very slowly..
        
           | lostlogin wrote:
           | The quality of the pavement matters a lot too.
           | 
           | I once pushed my daughter's pram down a path and hit the
           | front of the next slab, and stopped dead. I'd not done her up
           | and she shot out and was caught by the mesh of the sun shade.
           | Lesson learned, belt them in.
        
           | gochi wrote:
           | That's a great alternative measure, especially those wide
           | strollers!
        
           | hgomersall wrote:
           | I got this too. Another thing I notice is how common it is to
           | block pavements with whatever - vehicles, bins, general
           | street furniture, whatever.
           | 
           | Normally when I suggest a driver doesn't park on a pavement I
           | get a grumpy dismissal, though I once suggested it to a DHL
           | driver who immediately got my point and moved. That was
           | refreshing.
        
           | plufz wrote:
           | Being a swede that sounds surprising. Does France not have
           | regulations for accessibility in public spaces?
        
             | jacquesm wrote:
             | Paris is ancient and built on a bunch of hills, there are
             | quite a few places where retrofitting the city to make it
             | more accessible would be easier by rebuilding the whole
             | thing than by making changes and that's not going to
             | happen. Amsterdam has an easier time of it, not quite as
             | old, though old enough that that isn't a big factor in the
             | difference, the good bit is that it is _mostly_ flat (other
             | than the canal bridges, some of which can be pretty steep).
             | Even so there are areas of the inner city that would be
             | hard to navigate in a wheelchair.
        
               | varjag wrote:
               | Stockholm wasn't exactly built last year either.
        
               | jacquesm wrote:
               | True, but like Amsterdam it is _mostly_ flat, right?
        
               | apelapan wrote:
               | Having lived in both Stockholm and Amsterdam, I can
               | assure you that Stockholm is not at all flat like
               | Amsterdam!
               | 
               | No idea about how easy either city is to get around with
               | a wheelchair. Pushing a fully loaded double-stroller is
               | no problem for an average-sized, ablebodied adult in any
               | of them.
        
           | gumby wrote:
           | There's a technology issue too: my German in laws gave us a
           | baby carriage that seemed to have been built for ascending
           | the Eiger -- though it seemed (and was) huge it made
           | navigating Paris quite easy (had to carry it up/down the
           | metro steps) and even fit in the prehistoric elevator in our
           | apartment building. Frankly, supposedly-snooty parisians are
           | quite accommodating towards people with babies (once they can
           | walk on their own though...)
           | 
           | But I never saw anything like that in the parisian baby
           | shops.
           | 
           | I agree though about unattended obstacles on the trottoir --
           | it's as if people forget they need to use them themselves.
        
           | ThePowerOfFuet wrote:
           | The RATP should be ashamed of themselves with the poor
           | accessibility of the Paris metro. Barcelona's metro isn't
           | that much older but is almost 100% accessible.
        
         | tiffanyg wrote:
         | You're hitting on some extremely key insights IMO. Insights
         | grounded in abstract fundamental principles useful all the way
         | from the "hardest" of sciences (physics and even maths,
         | arguably, as a formal science) to the much "softer" (human
         | psychology etc. - where it's far more difficult to be directly
         | quantitative for a whole host of reasons).
         | 
         | First, when it comes to engineering, the absolute best test is
         | running the actual system. The "acid test" of a rocket is the
         | launch of that rocket. And, even for all of our "computer-aided
         | engineering" progress over the decades, a wind tunnel is still
         | often a key step and can provide "better" and more reliable
         | info regarding some characteristics of, say, rocket body shape
         | performance, than Pro/ENGINEER or etc. can*. So, the best test
         | when it comes to ADA-related issues is to engineer yourself, to
         | the degree possible, into the position of someone with a
         | "disability". The best work in these areas has involved people
         | tying their limbs down etc. - because, even if you consciously
         | work to not use one arm, say, you'll still involuntarily use it
         | in many ways. For example, it'll naturally come up slightly to
         | help regain balance in some situations.
         | 
         | Second, and this is actually, I'd argue, simply a more complete
         | perspective partly covered just above - _understanding_
         | critically depends on the degree to which one can _be_ in some
         | "position". Often enough, our minds can be adequate. In
         | particular, we can "understand" abstractions that can't
         | necessarily even have obvious "instantiations" - e.g.,
         | mathematical abstractions come to mind. There may be
         | "exemplars", but, you can't literally "show" me "the number
         | 3"**. That written, there are many cases where we CAN
         | 'experience' some form of direct 'instantiation' and, for
         | reasons both experiential and even statistical / logical, such
         | an instantiation is pretty well guaranteed to do a better job
         | of producing understanding in our overgrown monkey minds than
         | any amount of sitting around and daydreaming can.
         | 
         | So, really, when it comes to the "hard(er)" (e.g., engineering)
         | and "soft(er)" (e.g., psychology - including empathy, say),
         | there's no substitute for "the actual launch" (to circle back
         | to the language of the rocket example, above).
         | 
         | * Though, there may be cases / "regimes" that are too difficult
         | [at least practically] to test, even in a wind tunnel, and
         | where, especially these days, CFD modeling can at least give
         | some info and potentially be even entirely adequate)
         | 
         | ** Can't wait to see the replies that just say "3", kek
        
           | TheOtherHobbes wrote:
           | Absence of empathy and other-experience - with some political
           | orientations being actively hostile to it - may well be our
           | single biggest cognitive handicap as a species.
           | 
           | Many humans seem to be locked inside their skulls in what is
           | - ironically - a very handicapped and limited mobility way.
        
             | specialist wrote:
             | Theory of mind (empathy) is what makes humans human. It
             | enabled our comparatively larger social groups to function
             | at all. More important than opposable thumbs, vocal cords /
             | language, walking upright, and fire.
             | 
             | (IMHO; believe but cannot prove; blah, blah, blah.)
        
       | vouaobrasil wrote:
       | This is very sad but true. Life is harsh for a lot of people. I
       | have a basic capacity to work and all my senses intact without
       | any major pains and I am very thankful for it. It makes me want
       | to find ways to improve life on this planet somehow.
        
       | moomoo11 wrote:
       | Honestly life would be way better if we just helped each other a
       | little bit without expecting anything in return.
       | 
       | I think in most capitalist circles (I'm in one, and I like
       | capitalism) people have lost their view of other people as
       | people. We look at people as customers and group them into
       | profiles.
       | 
       | If we looked at people as people, and not just automatons who
       | will purchase something from us, I think society would progress
       | quite a lot. I don't think there's a way to do this since the
       | majority just wants something that meets their effort:time spent
       | ratio. However...
       | 
       | It sucks that we put in AI chat bots that will never work as a
       | substitute for human care.
       | 
       | It sucks that we make all these horrendous UX decisions that are
       | hard to navigate for most people who aren't 20.
       | 
       | It sucks that we don't offer service for expensive products after
       | selling them. Why can't I fix my own devices easily anymore?
        
       | lijok wrote:
       | What a strange article. I want to believe the author has good
       | intentions but I can't help but feel they're virtue signalling.
       | If one really wanted to understand what disabled people are
       | dealing with, you should volunteer some time at a care home, not
       | pretend to have a disability without understanding what that
       | disability entails or being aware of existing coping strategies
       | and tools for said disabilities.
       | 
       | Most persons with disabilities the author pretended to have would
       | have been able to navigate the situations the author encountered.
       | So what insights have we gained from the authors experience?
        
         | saboot wrote:
         | >> Most persons with disabilities the author pretended to have
         | would have been able to navigate the situations the author
         | encountered
         | 
         | How do you know this?
         | 
         | Also, I downvoted your comment because 'virtue signalling' is
         | non-sense phrase.
        
         | dns_snek wrote:
         | > Most persons with disabilities the author pretended to have
         | would have been able to navigate the situations the author
         | encountered.
         | 
         | Care to elaborate? This very thread contains countless
         | anecdotes affirming author's findings.
        
       | seeknotfind wrote:
       | Text to speech and speech to text app, powered by Whisper or the
       | new tech, to allow deaf or mute to use the phone. Who's going to
       | make it?
        
         | Karunamon wrote:
         | I think you might be on to something here! The biggest problem
         | with whisper right now that kills a lot of use cases is the
         | requirement that you send discrete audio files rather than
         | streams.
         | 
         | However, if you have never had a textual relay conversation,
         | one of the conventions is that each party needs to say/type "go
         | ahead/GA" when they are done. If you can break upon catching
         | that phrase, that might be sufficient for whisper usage!
        
         | catchnear4321 wrote:
         | not long from now, when you call support, you will get to talk
         | to the same chat bot that's on the web page / in the app, but
         | it is on the phone.
         | 
         | because it can now talk and listen. with text to speech and
         | speech to text.
         | 
         | to ensure equal access.
         | 
         | enjoy.
        
           | AndrewKemendo wrote:
           | I agree, it seems like we're headed to the everybody suffers
           | equally instead of everybody is benefited equally
           | 
           | Perfect example from a link from yesterday: The removed a
           | crosswalk because it was cheaper to be in compliance by
           | removing it than fixing it [1]
           | 
           | Said another way, nobody...from the traffic engineer to the
           | city counsel...cared enough about the people impacted, that
           | they lobbied or changed the system in such a way that would
           | help the impacted person. Their inputs were ignored or
           | overruled.
           | 
           | [1] https://streets.mn/2023/07/19/if-we-want-a-shift-to-
           | walking-...
        
         | InvisibleUp wrote:
         | These services have already existed for decades, with
         | government-funded interpreters. They're known as
         | Telecommunications Relay Services and they come in a lot of
         | varieties for one's specific level of disability.
         | 
         | There are apps now that have the same service using AI
         | transcription instead of a live interpreter, which is nice, but
         | it's not world-changing.
        
         | astura wrote:
         | Typically people with speech or hearing difficulties use TTY
         | relay services.
         | 
         | https://www.nad.org/resources/technology/telephone-and-relay...
        
           | danw1979 wrote:
           | Exactly this.
           | 
           | I remember regularly taking text-to-speech calls from a non-
           | speaking Mac customer when I worked on tech support at an ISP
           | back in 1998. Must have reconfigured MacPPP a dozen times
           | before we finally got him up and running. He had the patience
           | of a saint...
           | 
           | In the UK Ofcom require telcos to provide such services to
           | their customers. https://www.ofcom.org.uk/phones-telecoms-
           | and-internet/advice...
           | 
           | This is absolutely the right solution to the problem, instead
           | of insisting that every single organisation have such an in-
           | house service.
        
       | l0b0 wrote:
       | I got into web accessibility early in my career, and would've
       | probably done a lot more work there if anyone anywhere had given
       | two shits. Trying to prioritise even basic stuff like alt text or
       | keyboard shortcuts for the most important parts of a site were
       | not interesting to any employers. Accessibility is really just an
       | afterthought even when companies claim to be doing it.
        
       | baz00 wrote:
       | Cursed with the two shittiest UK organisations in existence
       | there. Having dealt with Virgin Media and Thames Water for years
       | they are quite frankly abhorrent even if you don't have a
       | disability. From piss and rubbish filled street junction boxes
       | and outages for days at a time to poor maintenance leading to a
       | lingering smell of shit and mosquitos that actually devalued
       | property in my area, they should be utterly shafted by everyone
       | who can for every mistake they make.
       | 
       | Vote with your feet if you can.
        
       | devteambravo wrote:
       | I spent some time discussing this with my buddy, who ate an RPG
       | round in close proximity, while serving in Iraq. He gradually
       | lost his vision, all of it. It's so depressing to even think back
       | on the chats, as I cannot imagine living w/o the internet I grew
       | up on. Does anyone want to pair up and work on software that
       | treats disabled users with respect? And who know, maybe make
       | something a deaf or blind or N player can experience? I lived a
       | lot of live w/ 100% brain capacity, not really making use of it,
       | and then it was taken from me in an IED blast (Afghanistan). What
       | I lack in skills, I guarantee you I will make up with experience.
       | A frustrated Infantryman turned UX/UI/Product afficionado (and
       | $90k startup employee)
        
       | xyzelement wrote:
       | Great article and a good reminder to focus on accessibility.
       | 
       | There's good news though. Although being disabled is difficult,
       | it is less difficult now than at any other period in history. The
       | amount of awareness, accommodation, accessibility focus, etc is
       | maximum right now and it's only going to continue. It's important
       | to keep this progress in mind as we work to further improve
       | things.
       | 
       | Another point is that people living with disabilities have years
       | or decades of expertise, something that someone "cosplaying" (to
       | use the author's word) has no access to. A cosplayer wouldn't
       | know which streets are easiest with a wheel chair or which
       | companies have the most accessible websites. An actual disabled
       | person has this sort of knowledge and would navigate it far
       | better than a "tourist"
       | 
       | There's lot of work to be done but it's important to acknowledge
       | what's better than it may seem at first.
        
       | lamontcg wrote:
       | I have to actually deal with stuff like this in real life with my
       | disabled Mother, but for some reason this article just irritates
       | me.
       | 
       | Reads like its preaching to a bunch of liberals engaged in self-
       | flagellation so they feel like they have empathy, but nothing is
       | actually going to get done.
       | 
       | Anyone going to form a Union at work so that people can work
       | together to effectively push back on Management cutting support
       | budgets and implementing dark patterns and just outright
       | neglecting disabled people, or will it just be enough that we all
       | feel bad about this and nothing will happen?
        
       | fdhfdjkfhdkj wrote:
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