[HN Gopher] Cash Amnesia
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       Cash Amnesia
        
       Author : giuliomagnifico
       Score  : 73 points
       Date   : 2023-07-24 14:11 UTC (8 hours ago)
        
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       | superdug wrote:
       | Meh. Come out with the hard truth, most expenditures we make are
       | not fulfilling. The idea that we are spending money to gain
       | something is a bullshit lie we convince ourselves of.
       | Unfortunately non-tangible investments are the most terrifying
       | expenditures. You physically have nothing to show for the money
       | you no longer have and you question its validity and go so far as
       | to course correct and buy something you can hold onto forever.
       | What are these expenditures? Donations, endowments, and just
       | using some of your means to give to someone who can benefit more
       | than you could ever imagine. You know your neighbor who could use
       | a night off, deliver dinner to them and their family. Your cousin
       | who just got out on his own, deliver a weeks worth of essentials
       | from Walmart. I could go on and on, but my personal way of
       | expending my disposable income now a days is to do a free to
       | sub-$100 favor for someone I know would appreciate help, but is
       | too proud to ever ask for something that they weren't deathly
       | desperate of needing. You come off as an empathetic and generous
       | human being and you don't ever feel taken advantage of because
       | you're the one who initiated it.
        
       | bbstats wrote:
       | If you don't have a lot of money this is true. I think the
       | opposite happens if you are rich.
        
       | MyNameIsRansom wrote:
       | Lots of small businesses do "cash no tax". It's not forgotten
       | when it's spent. I've fixed my car in cash (primarily to save on
       | tax; and to not have it known by insurance). It's hard for one to
       | "amnesia" $5000 in cash. It's a tool, just like a credit card.
        
         | KomoD wrote:
         | Is that legal?
        
           | hammock wrote:
           | Yes, and recently legal/not penalized for all credit cards in
           | the US to advertise cash price and automatically add a fee
           | for credit card purchases that is lightly advertised at point
           | of sale
           | 
           | Someone else can come behind me and cite the court
           | case/credit card guidance
        
             | chaorace wrote:
             | Yes, it's generally legal to apply an additional surcharge
             | on card transactions beyond the cash price, thus making it
             | _appear_ as if the sales tax is being removed. It 's all
             | above board as long as the full value of the sale is
             | reported and taxed (exact details vary by tax code, of
             | course).
             | 
             | It's generally illegal, however, for a business to evade
             | taxes by failing to report the full value of cash sales.
             | It's also legally dubious as a customer to _knowingly_ help
             | facilitate such transactions (e.g.: anti-laundering
             | laws)... but I don 't think it's common to catch heat for
             | this if you're an otherwise law-abiding person.
        
         | AlanSE wrote:
         | As in, they use tax to avoid reporting the earnings? That works
         | fine for the scale of a lemonade stand.
        
         | chrismcb wrote:
         | I've never seen anyone do this. But, unless the small business
         | is committing fraud, they are then eating the tax. I don't a
         | small business is going to willing pay 10% (or whatever the tax
         | is)
        
           | Symbiote wrote:
           | I sometimes saw my dad doing this in Britain, where it is
           | certainly tax evasion. He'd ask the price of a service, then
           | ask if there was a discount for "cash in hand". Occasionally,
           | I think tradesmen would offer both prices upfront, or say
           | "will you be needing a receipt?".
           | 
           | It would have been a 15% discount for my dad (VAT was 17.5%),
           | and probably a slightly larger saving for the tradesman,
           | although they have a higher penalty if somehow caught. I
           | think it was usually done for small jobs, like minor plumbing
           | fixes.
           | 
           | I have no idea how common this was in the 1990s, or how
           | common it is now.
        
           | kevinmchugh wrote:
           | I haven't either but I regularly see 3-5% cash discounts. Tax
           | is 10% in my locality, in lower tax places it makes sense
        
       | 1970-01-01 wrote:
       | I use cash at small businesses to get a 1%-5% discount. The study
       | seems to skip this use case.
        
       | hot_gril wrote:
       | Nah. Nothing induces guilt more than finding my wallet is empty
       | again.
        
       | malfist wrote:
       | This goes against everything I'm familiar with around budgeting.
       | 
       | One of the big tricks to getting your budget in check is to pay
       | cash so you can see the money leaving your wallet. Swiping a
       | credit card makes that all invisible
        
         | CalRobert wrote:
         | How strange - if I use my card it stings, I know I'll see it
         | later (and I tend to tally up monthly expenses from CC
         | statements). Cash in my wallet feels almost like free money by
         | comparison.
        
           | rob74 wrote:
           | Looks like people are divided on this - I would say, when
           | paying by card, it only stings once (if you even bother to go
           | through the list regularly); when paying with cash, it stings
           | twice: once when you have to fork out the actual money, and a
           | second time when you realize you are out of cash ( _again_ )
           | and have to get more from an ATM.
        
             | CalRobert wrote:
             | It depends on the person I suppose. I use cash rarely
             | (mostly for tradespeople who are evading taxes) and when I
             | "run out of cash" I don't really think more of it than when
             | I run out of toilet paper.
        
         | __MatrixMan__ wrote:
         | I've heard that said, but it doesn't feel right.
         | 
         | When I pay by card I have to ask myself: is there enough money
         | in my spending account? Is this transaction going to fail? (I
         | keep that balance low on purpose).
         | 
         | Cash lets me sidestep the accounting: if I have it here at all
         | it's pre-approved for spending. Lower cognitive burden there at
         | the POS = easier to part with.
         | 
         | Maybe that would be different if I did anything important in
         | cash.
        
         | von_lohengramm wrote:
         | This is more about hiding/perpetuating bad habits vs enabling
         | stupid purchases. Not about impulsively buying something just
         | because it was on sale, but rather buying something you know
         | you shouldn't... but it's just this once, I promise! No more
         | after just this last one...
        
         | tekla wrote:
         | Uhhh what. Credit gives you a literal list of all the dumb
         | purchase you made.
         | 
         | Cash is just pieces of paper.
        
         | wussboy wrote:
         | The research is on your side. Spending cash makes you spend
         | less. Most respondents to your comment are making a category of
         | error that is common in our Internet age: "I have more
         | information, therefore I am making better decisions."
        
           | electroly wrote:
           | This article is also a summary of research and it offers a
           | disagreement. Just saying "I have research" isn't persuasive
           | when the article at hand is newer research.
           | 
           | This is the paper being discussed:
           | https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/faculty-
           | research/publications/p...
        
         | mingus88 wrote:
         | "I spent $100 on incidentals"
         | 
         | Vs
         | 
         | "I spent $100 on pizza and beer"
         | 
         | Cash doesn't sit there in your ledger month after month
         | reminding you of your weakness. Instead you have a generic
         | line-item that doesn't threaten your ego; it could be anything.
         | 
         | You will never know you spent $1200 a year on junk food and
         | booze. It's just some vague category you can safely manage.
        
           | brewdad wrote:
           | About the only place I spend cash regularly is the farmers
           | market. I typically take out 80-120 dollars on my way to the
           | market and come home with anywhere from 0-60 dollars and a
           | pile of produce. I also probably bought coffee and something
           | for breakfast. As far as spending goes, I know the money
           | probably went towards food (or was it flowers or some crafty
           | thing?) but it's really just a black hole where I ultimately
           | end up categorizing it as "cash spending" in my budget
           | software rather than trying to rebuild where exactly it went.
           | 
           | Credit cards work much better _for me_.
        
         | rkangel wrote:
         | I think this is ignoring that different approaches to budgeting
         | are needed for different people.
         | 
         | For me, I have a Monzo account that I put my monthly
         | "disposable" income in. Monzo is a (mostly) UK digital bank
         | with a good app that gives instant feedback on transactions.
         | This means that after every transaction, Monzo tells me "you
         | have PSX left this month". This allows me to regulate my
         | spending (e.g. not buy X until next month) if I've spent a lot
         | of my budget half way through the month. It also means that
         | when I'm spending a lot I can go and look at my transaction
         | history for the last few months and work out where it's going
         | so I know _what_ spending to moderate. With cash that 's just a
         | black hole.
         | 
         | Also, I just find cash to be a pain to deal with and have
         | basically eliminated it from my life. You have to regularly
         | visit machines to make sure you've got some, you have to carry
         | it around (notes are fine, coins are annoying), you have to
         | faff when paying to give and receive the correct change.
        
         | davchana wrote:
         | My personal experiment in 2013 exactly matches your comment. I
         | spent less when I used cash. I withdraw the same amount if
         | monwy every month once a month, but the action of giving that
         | money to cashier & checking the change and sorting out the
         | notes in wallet made it real impact.
        
         | r4indeer wrote:
         | For me, I need to have it the other way around. Regular
         | withdrawals of similar amounts on my bank statement tell me
         | nothing about how I spent my money a month from now.
         | 
         | When paying with card, I leave a paper trail for myself to
         | review later. I can also look at my banking app anytime I want
         | to check how much is left. I actually do that before most
         | purchases that go beyond a few bucks.
        
           | wussboy wrote:
           | While I could make the same reply to almost every comment in
           | this thread I have chosen yours at random.
           | 
           | I believe you are conflating the goal of "spending less"
           | (which is hard) with a simpler goal "knowing more about how I
           | spent my money" (which is easy). You claim to review your
           | paper trail to gain insights, but again, even if you truly
           | did this consistently (and knowing human nature, I doubt that
           | you do) this in no way means you spend less.
        
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         | Finnucane wrote:
         | I did this a long time ago, for a while I kept myself on a
         | strict monthly cash budget to deal with some debts. In those
         | days it was still relatively easy to get everything you needed
         | locally for cash. It did mean that it didn't really matter that
         | much what you were spending your money on, as long as the total
         | didn't exceed the budget. You just had to be conscious of the
         | choices. Even now, with the debts paid off I still live that
         | way--I don't buy things unless I know I can pay for it, and I
         | save some money every month. And I don't care that much about
         | the details. I like spending cash just so I can forget about
         | it. Do I really need an eternal record of that scone I bought
         | on the way to work last week? I do not need that.
        
         | electroly wrote:
         | IMO, that's outdated advice from the days before online
         | automatic bookkeeping, before credit card transactions were
         | immediately visible online, before your bank could auto-
         | classify your credit card purchases into spending categories,
         | before configurable spending alerts, before budgeting apps with
         | bank integration, etc.
         | 
         | If you spend cash, you don't benefit from any of that and as
         | soon as you forget about the transaction, it's like it never
         | happened. Nothing will be able to help you retrospectively see
         | where your cash is going. You can lie to yourself about it.
         | Charges on a card statement don't lie.
        
           | tiltowait wrote:
           | It really depends on the person. I found that budgeting apps
           | with bank integrations were quick and convenience, but I
           | wound up in the trap of only doing the most superficial
           | analysis. ("Yep, sure did spend that much.") For myself,
           | manually logging purchases is _far_ more effective. It 's a
           | similar observation as I had in college, where I found that
           | hand-writing my notes helped me learn better than typing
           | them.
        
           | brightball wrote:
           | It's not. The point of cash is to make you more
           | psychologically aware of what you're spending so that you're
           | less likely to buy something you don't need in the first
           | place.
           | 
           | All of the online transaction tracking only helps with
           | purchases that you've already made, so you can say "maybe I
           | shouldn't have done that"...after the fact.
           | 
           | Cash based budgeting works beautifully, but it requires a
           | change from what you're used to and there are certainly trade
           | offs. If you're looking to save money though, cash budgeting
           | is like magic.
        
             | Larrikin wrote:
             | It comes down to how you budget and pay your bills. If you
             | take out large chunks of cash at a time then
             | psychologically seeing the cash leave your wallet might
             | personally help you if you treat budgeting as a once a
             | month task. It's easy to get into trouble with a credit
             | card if you never look at your transactions until the end
             | of the month and treat the amount on your statement as a
             | big blob you just have to pay while just glancing through
             | your statement.
             | 
             | If you actually use budgeting tools like YNAB which get you
             | into the habit of spending a couple minutes every morning
             | to confirm and categorize where your money went you end up
             | with all the psychological benefits of cash, it's
             | impossible to forget a transaction, you know exactly where
             | your money went for years, and you end up with even more
             | money due to the credit card rewards. I also usually take
             | that time every morning to pay or partially pay on all my
             | cards to make it even more obvious the cash that is leaving
             | my checking account each day.
        
               | djkivi wrote:
               | If you pay with cash then once your wallet is empty
               | you're done. I could spend far more on my credit cards
               | than I actually have if I wanted to.
        
               | Larrikin wrote:
               | If you do then you can enjoy yourself the night, and
               | limit your purchases for the rest of month.
               | 
               | You also would have more money in your account if you had
               | been getting the credit card rewards for years and could
               | extend your night without spending more than you have.
        
             | electroly wrote:
             | I'm sure it does work for some people, but the popularity
             | and success of budgeting apps suggests that it's not for
             | everyone. The tradeoffs you mention are _all_ of the
             | accountability features I mentioned. The article is
             | reporting on research that suggests that unaccountable cash
             | spending is a problem for many people.
        
         | WJW wrote:
         | I can easily see both depending on how diligently people track
         | their spending. I have a budgeting system setup that adds a
         | task to my daily to-do list if my bank balance differs from
         | what is in my hledger files (ie if I have transactions in my
         | bank account that I have not yet put into hledger). The chances
         | of me not being aware of on-card spending is extremely low.
         | Cash money is not tracked nearly as accurately though, I don't
         | bother tracking it when I spend a few euro on some sandwich
         | from a roadside stall.
        
           | jfim wrote:
           | That sounds like a pretty interesting setup, how do you have
           | it work with your bank accounts?
        
             | WJW wrote:
             | It's extremely hacky and there is barely any automation at
             | all. Everyday at 0500 a cronjob uses
             | https://github.com/djc/abna to fetch the bank balance and
             | makes no effort at all to automatically parse more than the
             | balance. It then compares that with what the balance
             | "should" be according to hledger and sets up a todo item if
             | there is any difference. Somewhere during the day I
             | manually reconcile the two and check off the todo item.
             | 
             | I'm sure it could be smarter with automatic parsing and
             | whatnot, but I actually kinda like the manual action. It
             | makes sure I'm aware of everything happening to my bank
             | account. Time spent per day is actually quite low because
             | it's kept updated and there is never any big backlog of
             | transactions. I would say it takes 2-3 minutes if there are
             | any transactions, or zero ofc if I didn't spend anything.
        
           | noeontheend wrote:
           | Can I ask how you get the current balance from your bank
           | (i.e., do you have a bank that provides a nice API, or is
           | there another trick you're using)? I've spent a lot of time
           | looking for a way to automatically download transactions from
           | all my accounts but still have to either enter them by hand
           | or manually log in and download a CSV to import.
        
         | ComputerGuru wrote:
         | On the other hand, I can book keep all my electronic
         | transactions thanks to the many Yodlee-powered sites whereas
         | the effort it takes to do that for cash transactions is
         | phenomenal.
        
       | EGreg wrote:
       | How quaint. Countries around the world are gradually phasing out
       | cash, and forcing banks to report any transactions that add up to
       | more than $600. They want the tax revenue and ultimate control --
       | but they'll claim it's mostly to prevent "money laundering".
       | 
       | This is like analyzing the details of how people use vinyl
       | records to play music. It won't matter in 1-2 decades.
        
         | anamexis wrote:
         | > This is like analyzing the details of how people use vinyl
         | records to play music. It won't matter in 1-2 decades.
         | 
         | Sounds like what people were saying about vinyl records 2
         | decades ago.
        
           | EGreg wrote:
           | And they were correct
        
         | chrismcb wrote:
         | America started to do this to try to collect taxes on small
         | transactions. Not to prevent money laundering.
        
           | WirelessGigabit wrote:
           | And I don't mind it at all.
           | 
           | Unreported cash transactions create a whole separate economy
           | that is exploited.
           | 
           | Take your local AC guy. Writes receipts, reports income,
           | charges sales tax, gives the employees insurance etc...
           | 
           | Now the other guy, who doesn't do anything, and because of
           | that is able to undercut the guy above by 10%.
           | 
           | Short term? Great, your AC is 10% cheaper. Long term? You got
           | 5 people in your neighborhood who lost their job because a
           | law that's there to protect them isn't enforced.
        
             | EGreg wrote:
             | I wonder if you would mind when this happens to you:
             | https://www.theverge.com/2019/3/1/18246297/china-
             | transportat...
             | 
             | Or maybe this:
             | https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/22/world/americas/canada-
             | pro...
        
             | BeFlatXIII wrote:
             | I'm not in the business of paying higher prices to keep
             | people employed.
        
       | hunter2_ wrote:
       | > "Certain products are more guilt-inducing because they feel
       | more like impulsive purchases, like a foam hand for the sports
       | game," Huang says. "Some are more rational purchases, such as
       | books or stationery products for class." Sure enough, they found
       | that customers were more likely to pay in cash for harder-to-
       | justify items like stuffed plush mascots and Christmas ornaments.
       | 
       | Or perhaps the group of people buying harder-to-justify items
       | tend to be people who don't bother to learn the perqs of credit
       | cards or don't have enough credit, so they'd use cash regardless
       | of what they're purchasing, but they purchase junk, so they end
       | up painting this author's picture either way.
        
         | GravelRocks wrote:
         | From the article:
         | 
         | "Another study explored shoppers' preference for untraceable
         | payment methods besides cash. Half the participants were
         | informed they had a $20 bill and a debit card linked to their
         | bank account; the other half were told they had a $20 bill and
         | a prepaid debit card. The researchers found that people with
         | the debit card were more likely to use cash to make a harder-to
         | justify purchase (in this case, a party-sized bag of M&M's).
         | However, those with a prepaid card used it as often as cash to
         | buy the candy."
         | 
         | Doesn't that study control for specifically that counter claim?
        
         | JohnFen wrote:
         | I carry and use cash by default for general privacy reasons,
         | but also use a card sometimes. In looking at the two purchases,
         | it seems that I'll use a card when the amount of the purchase
         | is high enough that I am not likely to have the cash in my
         | pocket and in urgent (I wanted to say "emergency", but not just
         | actual emergencies) situations.
         | 
         | If it's a purchase of under $10 or so, I'm exceptionally
         | unlikely to use a card -- and I suspect that most of my
         | impulse/fun purchases (like a foam finger would be if that was
         | my thing) would be in cash for that reason, not because I felt
         | an guilt about them.
        
         | TheRealPomax wrote:
         | When I first moved to North America, the idea that a credit
         | card company was allowed to give people cash back, offer
         | insurance, etc. for using their cards seemed like some
         | bizarroworld "how is this legal" concept. Having lived here for
         | decades, it still is. It's like an alcohol shop rewarding its
         | most alcoholic customers by giving them free booze.
         | 
         | And then if you sign up for a new card, or you cancel a card,
         | some random private company decides to rate you and then banks
         | look at that private company's data to decide whether or not
         | you're a good little consumer worthy of their business?
         | 
         | Credit cards might have been a reasonable idea, but give me
         | direct, free, immediate digital banking and debit cards any day
         | of the week please. The US went "what if we took the worst way
         | to do banking, and made that the default?" and that's why banks
         | don't even handle affordable EFTs themselves. It's the
         | creditcard companies again.
        
           | ImPostingOnHN wrote:
           | I feel like it'd be totally normal for any restaurant or
           | store to give a discount to its best customers
        
             | TheRealPomax wrote:
             | "You're taking a lot of drugs, we're going to make sure you
             | keep taking them by giving you free drugs" is extremely
             | different from "you're buying a lot of bras, we're going to
             | give you a free bra". This should not even require pointing
             | out, but apparently it does.
        
               | saltcured wrote:
               | But, you are begging the moral question in assuming that
               | credit cards are obviously like "drugs".
               | 
               | For me, a credit card and a debit card are just different
               | accounting systems for the same thing. Either one has
               | zero interest when I manage my expenditures properly and
               | do not carry a debt. Either one could trigger penalties
               | and/or interest if I outspend my budget.
               | 
               | I still prefer the credit card because of the frequently
               | mentioned difference in consumer fraud protection. My
               | fear is that the credit card providers will eventually
               | erode their protections to match the debit card rather
               | than the converse.
               | 
               | I do NOT want to participate in a system where a chip-
               | secured/card-present transaction is now presumed to be
               | valid and I have a difficult battle to contest a charge.
               | If the card is made that valuable, I would then withdraw
               | from the casual retail marketplace and keep my card
               | locked up in a safe as others have mentioned in other
               | threads.
        
               | TheRealPomax wrote:
               | Except this isn't about you. There are plenty of folks
               | who can responsible take drugs, too, doesn't make trying
               | to keep folks hooked any less destructive and predatory.
               | All you're being is an outlier in the highly lucrative
               | debt trap that credit cards offer the average credit card
               | owner.
               | 
               | Congrats on not falling for it; for you, a thousand
               | people who do.
        
           | inconceivable wrote:
           | no, absolutely no debit cards for me. i protect my cash with
           | multiple layers of protection. if i lose my wallet or my
           | phone the person who ends up with these things will have no
           | clue where most of my money is at.
           | 
           | amex takes most if not all the risk in my financial life when
           | it comes to day to day spending. one time i had my wallet
           | stolen and the only thing they could muster was a failed gas
           | station transaction. they didn't even try the ATM card.
           | 
           | i use the free points/perks that the irresponsible idiots
           | subsidize to my own advantage. it's linked directly to my
           | amazon account and shows up as a positive cash balance.
        
             | claytonjy wrote:
             | Is your ATM card not also a debit card? Mine have always
             | been both.
        
               | toast0 wrote:
               | You can get ATM-only cards, but you have to ask for them,
               | and keep asking... at my credit union, I had an ATM-only
               | card for a while, but when it expired, they sent a debit
               | card and I didn't think it was worth the effort and waste
               | to request they make and send a new ATM-only card at that
               | point.
        
               | croutonwagon wrote:
               | mine is but I have a system very similar to the OP you
               | responded to. I do not carry my debit card unless under
               | specific circumstances (ie: When i traveled to Vietnam I
               | carried it). Also that specific debit card is tied to a
               | limited account with a minimum balance. Enough to take
               | cash out but not the main account i pay bills out of etc.
               | Its used specifically as a medium for transactions to
               | services (ie: Venmo, CashApp or ATM withdraws) with a
               | limited balance in case its comprimised.
               | 
               | My primary bank account debit card never leaves the safe
               | unless for a specific trip to the ATM etc, even then most
               | of the time i got to a branch directly.
               | 
               | Vendors (ie: Stores, Restaurants etc) will not ever swipe
               | even my debit card first discussed. That goes through
               | Amex or a backup Visa card. Those balances are paid in
               | full monthly via bill pay from the main bank account.
               | 
               | My wife also has a similar auxilliary bank account+debit
               | card with minimum balances but generally also uses Amex
               | or the Visa CC on that account.
               | 
               | So we structure our finances this way
               | 
               | 1. Primary Joint Account + Savings - Pay bills out of
               | only. No ETF allowed or ATM allowed in general.
               | 
               | 2. Secondary Joint Account + Savings (both his and hers)
               | - use for special uses, ie: Venmo, CashApp ETF, ATM
               | 
               | 3. Primary CC accounts - Amex, Visa (his and hers) - used
               | for day to day purchasing. Paid in full monthly via #1.
        
           | HWR_14 wrote:
           | > some random private company decides to rate you
           | 
           | Where did you move from that didn't have a private company
           | assess your creditworthiness before issuing you a loan? If
           | each bank/credit card company did so separately, what is the
           | issue with outsourcing it to a specialist?
        
           | cube2222 wrote:
           | This is not US-specific, you get the same thing (insurance on
           | purchases, perks for spending money, credit rating) in the
           | EU, just to a much smaller degree.
           | 
           | Credit cards also have some benefits in the case of theft
           | over debit cards, because of how they work.
        
           | nfriedly wrote:
           | I've lived in the USA my whole life, and I still think it's
           | bizarre and ought to be illegal. It's basically a bribe.
           | 
           | The worst part is, as long as it is legal, it just makes
           | sense use it - because most things are the same price either
           | way, so it's essentially a small discount on everything.
           | 
           | So, I simultaneously use it regularly and hope it becomes
           | illegal.
        
             | tracker1 wrote:
             | I definitely favor using CC, and paying off if only for the
             | 2-5% "cash back" program(s). If I pay cash, I'm effectively
             | paying extra, same for debit. It kind of sucks, and
             | definitely should be better managed. Also, if you let the
             | debt accumulate on a CC (very easy to do), then the
             | interest definitely comes out to more than the rewards in
             | that case.
        
               | nfriedly wrote:
               | Oh, yeah, CC companies love it when people carry a
               | balance and pay interest.
               | 
               | But they're still making money off of someone like me who
               | pays the full balance off each month, because when they
               | give me 2% back, they're charging the merchant 5% or
               | more.
               | 
               | It's kind of a heads-they-win, tails-you-loose situation.
        
               | CuriouslyC wrote:
               | 5% processing fees are predatory, and the only people
               | that pay them are mom and pop shops that don't have
               | leverage. Larger merchants are going to be closer to
               | ~1.5%.
        
               | tracker1 wrote:
               | Well, I know I'm getting 5% back on Amazon purchases, so
               | there's some there, there so to speak.
        
             | sanderjd wrote:
             | Without some other changes to the system, like direct
             | consumer banking and fraud protection through the fed,
             | making points illegal would just be a big windfall for
             | credit card companies, as they would remain the most
             | convenient way to pay for things, while being able to keep
             | like 2% more of what they charge merchants.
        
               | callalex wrote:
               | This is already a completely solved problem in most of
               | the world. They simply cap the fees card companies can
               | collect from merchants by law.
        
               | sanderjd wrote:
               | That sounds unlikely to me to be "solved" rather than "a
               | different local maximum". I'm very skeptical that any
               | governments know the single perfect solution to the
               | formula of the precise level of merchant fees that is the
               | best possible solution.
        
               | CuriouslyC wrote:
               | If you cap fees, all that will happen is high risk
               | businesses won't be able to accept cards and the
               | processors will find ways to nickel and dime (+pos fee,
               | paper billing fee, customer service fee, etc). It's still
               | a better world though.
        
               | sanderjd wrote:
               | Maybe? For some people? I dunno, that sounds like it
               | would mostly be worse for me, to have fewer points and
               | fewer places that take cards. But even if it's better, it
               | definitely doesn't seem "solved" to me... I think
               | "solved" would be more like, fraud protection without
               | credit, competition among card processing network driving
               | merchant costs to access a network very low, people
               | almost entirely using convenient fraud-protected debit
               | cards like cash.
        
               | nfriedly wrote:
               | Yeah, you might be right. But I'd be less inclined to use
               | a CC if I wasn't getting cash back, so they'd face more
               | competition from debit cards, cash, etc. And, if they
               | refused to lower their fees, I think some (more)
               | merchants would just stop accepting credit cards.
        
               | sanderjd wrote:
               | I think essentially everyone would keep using their
               | credit cards just as much, because debit cards are
               | significantly riskier (to the consumer) from a fraud
               | standpoint, and cash is significantly less convenient.
               | 
               | Merchants can already stop accepting credit cards due to
               | the fees. Why don't they? Because it would make their
               | customers mad. Few businesses have customers who are more
               | loyal to them than they are to their own (even minor)
               | convenience. I do have a local restaurant I go to that
               | doesn't accept credit cards and is packed nonetheless,
               | but it's a rare feat. The points have a _little bit_ to
               | do with this, but not nearly as much as the convenience.
               | 
               | What _would_ change is that credit card companies would
               | have more trouble luring people to switch away from their
               | existing card to a new one. But they 'd have a huge
               | amount of extra money to spend on advertising to make up
               | for that.
        
           | kevinmchugh wrote:
           | There's a liquor store near me that gives out a poker chip
           | for every $25 you spend. You can trade 4 poker chips for a
           | pint in their bar. Is this bad?
        
           | mindslight wrote:
           | You haven't taken into account the US ideal of a bifurcated
           | society, and are probably imagining some singular credit card
           | user archtype who relies on the credit and also benefits from
           | the rewards. I personally am able to set my credit cards to
           | autopay in full every month, so CC rewards are just a
           | straightforward discount [0]. And I'd guess anybody that
           | talks about rewards as prudent financial advice is in a
           | similar boat. Whereas for the disempowered person who can
           | only pay part of their balance, rewards are just another
           | cognitive hazard to avoid being swayed by, lest they get
           | milked even harder.
           | 
           | As for the original topic, I personally hate seeing the echo
           | of my spending in a monthly statement. It's like making the
           | decision to buy everything twice, even for things that are
           | straightforwardly necessary or prudent.
           | 
           | [0] with the tradeoff of the transaction going in more
           | surveillance databases and being solidly connected to my
           | government-issued nym, of course
        
           | kldavis4 wrote:
           | Furthermore, everyone, regardless of whether they are using a
           | credit card, is paying for this in the form of higher prices
           | (unless the vendor has separate cash prices...)
        
             | AlanSE wrote:
             | Higher cash prices are a violation of the card-holder
             | agreement.
        
               | kldavis4 wrote:
               | I think you mean the merchant agreement. There are many
               | gas stations in the area where I live that have different
               | cash prices and still take credit cards, so I'm not sure
               | if this is still a thing. And honestly the fact that they
               | would have that lends support to the fact that all of
               | these credit card "benefits" are subsidized by cash
               | payers.
        
               | AlanSE wrote:
               | Yes, I should have Googled that before using the wrong
               | word.
               | 
               | I am also operating on old information, perhaps the law
               | changed and this it varies by state now.
        
               | HWR_14 wrote:
               | AFAIK, this changed in 2010 at a federal level.
        
               | dspillett wrote:
               | kldavis4 was meaning that everyone pays the same higher
               | price to account for the fees present in card payment
               | processing, regardless of whether they are paying in
               | cash, be debit card, or by credit card.
               | 
               |  _> Higher cash prices are a violation of the card-holder
               | agreement._
               | 
               | I think what you are meaning is "higher _card_ prices are
               | a violation of the _merchant_ agreement" - so a merchant
               | can 't offer different prices for cash payments to
               | account for differences in processing costs or they risk
               | losing their merchant account with the card/payment
               | processing company.
               | 
               | In some places this is no longer legal1, you'd have to
               | check your local legislation to know what applies in that
               | regard where you are.
               | 
               | Also the reverse, offering discounts for card use rather
               | than cash2, is illegal in some places because it is
               | unfair to those without cards4.
               | 
               | --
               | 
               | [1] so card processing companies can't (legally) punish
               | merchants for offering a discount for cash
               | 
               | [2] usually because the merchant gets a kick-back from
               | the card payment processor, though sometimes these days
               | it is because cash has become the minority payment
               | method3 and vendors would rather only deal with one so
               | want to further discourage cash
               | 
               | [3] it is worth noting while discussing potential costs
               | or kick-backs for card payment processing, that for
               | businesses the act of dealing with cash has associated
               | admin and/or costs too
               | 
               | [4] which is disproportionately the disadvantaged,
               | because they find it harder to qualify for any card, or
               | can only qualify for one with a monthly charge that they
               | can ill afford
        
               | schnable wrote:
               | This hasn't been true since Dodd-Frank in 2010:
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Durbin_amendment
               | 
               | "included provisions which allow retailers to refuse to
               | use credit cards for small purchases and offer incentives
               | for using cash or another type of card."
        
             | intrasight wrote:
             | Some of my favorite restaurants give a 3% cash discount
        
           | gruez wrote:
           | > When I first moved to North America, the idea that a credit
           | card company was allowed to give people cash back, offer
           | insurance, etc. for using their cards seemed like some
           | bizarroworld "how is this legal" concept. Having lived here
           | for decades, it still is. It's like an alcohol shop rewarding
           | its most alcoholic customers by giving them free booze.
           | 
           | Should businesses not be allowed to offer perks to their
           | customers in order to get an edge over their competitors?
           | Your example involving an alcohol shop only seems weird
           | because it involves an addictive substance. I doubt people
           | would describe hotel or supermarket loyalty programs as some
           | "bizarroworld "how is this legal" concept".
        
             | hunter2_ wrote:
             | Presumably the analogy is between an addictive substance
             | (alcohol) and an addictive behavior (overspending on
             | credit). Each can be used responsibly or not.
        
           | croutonwagon wrote:
           | I straight use credit cards as insurance, especially against
           | scams.
           | 
           | I specifically dont use a debit card at all and dont carry
           | it. I only have it to pull money out and it stays locked in a
           | safe at home.
           | 
           | CC's allow me to ensure things like Amazon sellers arent
           | scamming you, or worse, random websites with awful return
           | policies. With a CC merchant that have a motivation to work
           | on your behalf (ie: to get you to pay them for the charges).
           | 
           | With a debit card that money is gone and its your
           | responsibility to recoup it or convince your bank to credit
           | you that money back..no thanks.
        
             | marssaxman wrote:
             | We all have different perceptions of risk, don't we? My
             | approach is the opposite of yours - I carry my debit card
             | everywhere, and use it for every non-cash purchase -
             | because I am far more concerned about the everyday risk of
             | getting into debt by spending more than I can afford than
             | the relatively unlikely prospect of getting scammed.
             | 
             | I did have to recoup stolen money once, but this was quick
             | and straightforward since I am a member of a credit union.
             | Leaving my debit card at home would not have helped, since
             | the thief proved to be my ex-girlfriend!
        
               | OkayPhysicist wrote:
               | The big difference between the risk profile of a credit
               | card vs a debit card is that if I willingly put myself in
               | debt by spending more than I can afford, that was an
               | action I chose to take. If my card details get stolen and
               | someone racks up a bunch of charges, I had little to no
               | input in that action. At most, I was too trusting with my
               | choice in vendors.
               | 
               | I'd rather control things within my control, e.g., my
               | spending, than those outside my control, like thieves and
               | scammers. So I use my credit card everywhere.
        
               | croutonwagon wrote:
               | We definitely do. And my intent wasnt to proselytize
               | about it. More to just explain the reasoning.
               | 
               | I have had fraud due to things outside of my control that
               | took hundreds of hours and months to recover from. Some
               | being from family of all things. But an Ebay/Paypal EFT
               | with a previous bank (Suntrust) causing recurring
               | overdrafts and a LOT of effort to get it to stop caused a
               | lot of the afformentioned structure.
               | 
               | We are both fairly stringent on spending, myself having
               | had to crawl out of CC debt, so sticking to budget and
               | keeping spending in check isnt so hard anymore. We
               | definitely still have plenty of other safeguards as well.
               | 
               | For example any loan we "reverse engineer" to design it
               | to a specific payment that sets a budget limit. And for
               | things like cars, we keep that loan to no more than
               | $300/month. And once the car is paid off we continue
               | putting that 300/month into a savings account for repairs
               | and/or down payment on the next vehicle when repairs
               | start to exceed the value of the vehicle.
               | 
               | We also do the same for the kids college funds etc,.
        
             | TheRealPomax wrote:
             | Yes, with a debit card _in North America_ that is certainly
             | true. Because banks are shit here.
        
               | gruez wrote:
               | Not really, because most banks have zero liability
               | policies even though the law doesn't mandate it[1]. That
               | said, the susceptibility to fraud is a fundamental
               | problem with debit cards. When the card gets charged,
               | it's your money that's taken out (or at least put on
               | hold). On a credit card, it's the bank's money. That's an
               | important difference, because even if you get reimbursed
               | for it at the end, you're still without money during the
               | time it takes for your bank to reimburse you. With a
               | credit card you have a few weeks from when the statement
               | is issued to pay.
               | 
               | [1] https://usa.visa.com/pay-with-visa/visa-chip-
               | technology-cons...
        
               | croutonwagon wrote:
               | Thats exactly why we are structured that way. Especially
               | for our primary accounts.
               | 
               | Its also why we use 3 banks. So if for some reason 1 bank
               | had some type of incident or the accounts do, we have 2
               | other options with cash reserves. Though that has not
               | happened to OUR accounts, we have had incidents at our
               | banks (they just didnt affect our account balances)
        
               | TheRealPomax wrote:
               | > most banks have zero liability policies even though the
               | law doesn't mandate it
               | 
               | how is that "not really"? That's "yeah, because"
        
               | hunter2_ wrote:
               | Saying "banks are shit here because they have zero
               | liability policies" isn't too sensical. Saying "banks are
               | not really shit here because they have zero liability
               | policies" makes decent sense.
        
             | Symbiote wrote:
             | (Under Danish laws...)
             | 
             | I do the opposite: my main debit card is in my wallet, and
             | is used for almost all purchases. Once it's done, I'm
             | holding the groceries and my money is spent -- I don't
             | think about it again.
             | 
             | The credit card is at home, and also in my password
             | manager. I use it for the riskier purchases, primarily
             | airline tickets from non-EU airlines and small European
             | budget airlines, and expensive concert tickets.
        
       | sneed_chucker wrote:
       | When I pay with cash, all purchases are essentially rounded up to
       | the Dollar, since I will literally never end up spending my
       | change anywhere once it enters coin form.
        
         | CaliforniaKarl wrote:
         | I'm curious: Do you go grocery-shopping yourself? If yes, do
         | you use a self-checkout option? And if yes, does it support
         | paying with cash?
         | 
         | In my case, the answer to all the above is "yes", and I found
         | paying with cash is a good way of getting rid of the change
         | that I've built up. Every self-checkout I've come across that
         | supports cash will also support splitting payments, allowing me
         | to pay the rest with credit card.
        
           | theandrewbailey wrote:
           | I started doing that a year or two ago. A self checkout won't
           | get angry with you for pulling out a bunch of change and
           | having to count it. And I'm usually shopping during off hours
           | (~9 PM), so no one else is around to get annoyed either.
        
           | brewdad wrote:
           | While that's certainly an option, it would require both that
           | I remember to grab my accumulated coins before leaving for
           | the shop and that I spend extra time feeding them into the
           | machine. These friction points will probably lead me to my
           | current path of least resistance, tossing my coins into a
           | container on my dresser and dealing with them about once a
           | decade when it fills up.
        
             | pests wrote:
             | Self checkout machines around me have just a port you dump
             | all the coins in at once and it counts them up.
        
           | OkayPhysicist wrote:
           | The time spent handling small coins is actually worth more
           | than the coins themselves. If you value your free time
           | somewhere in the ballpark of $80/hr, then you should spend no
           | more than 2 seconds acquiring, maintaining possession of, and
           | then spending, a nickel. IMO, that makes anything less than a
           | quarter worthless.
        
           | ketralnis wrote:
           | Same, I take all of my coins to the grocery store and dump
           | them in before finishing off whatever's left with my card. It
           | takes some time to get the machine to take them all so I
           | don't do it if there's a queue behind me but otherwise it's
           | great for quickly getting rid of the coins without them just
           | vanishing into the aether.
           | 
           | I also have a corner store that loves to get my coins. I
           | suspect he has to make awkward change more often than a big-
           | box store does because when I pull out my $3 in quarters
           | before breaking out the paper bills he always thanks me for
           | it
        
           | [deleted]
        
       | hooverd wrote:
       | Obviously you pay cash so it doesn't affect your social credit
       | score.
       | 
       | I always pay cash at the bar- it's an easy way to realize you're
       | spending too much compared to just opening a tab. Plus you don't
       | get stuck closing out if you wait too long.
        
         | jjice wrote:
         | Agreed. It's a good way to create a hard limit. It's also just
         | a lot faster in a setting like that and I can just hand them
         | the cash with tip included and leave, hard capping the drinks
         | for the benefit of my wallet and my health.
        
         | jollyllama wrote:
         | Basically correct. People do this to avoid detection from
         | surveillance. Including, for some, their spouse.
        
         | mdp2021 wrote:
         | "social credit score"?
        
           | hooverd wrote:
           | Ok, I live in the US, we don't have one of those. We do have
           | a bunch of companies, insurers and otherwise, that want to
           | assign some sort of risk score to you. Credit card companies
           | will happily part way with transaction data.
           | 
           | *If you're wondering: I have a credit card. I don't really
           | care if some data broker knows that I bought pants or paid my
           | water bill.
        
             | mdp2021 wrote:
             | In Europe, all electronic transactions are shared between
             | at least a dozen unclear public-private entities.
             | 
             | I am not aware of a "social credit score" around these
             | parts, but I do not have cards and I do very strictly care
             | that privacy remains respected.
        
           | adastra22 wrote:
           | [flagged]
        
             | mdp2021 wrote:
             | The poster wrote <<of course>> (taking something for
             | granted) and <<you>>, suggesting an universal context,
             | valid for "everyone". Not just places in which the practice
             | is established.
        
               | [deleted]
        
         | Larrikin wrote:
         | Or just pay as you go with your credit card as there really is
         | no upside to opening a tab or paying in cash if you have a
         | credit card. If the bar is so busy that you think you're saving
         | time by paying in cash, you're wasting that time else where by
         | going to the ATM and making sure you have the right collection
         | of bills to pay in exact change. If you're getting change even
         | once then you're making the server spend even longer on the
         | return trip to you by having to get the exact bills and change
         | needed for you, instead of tapping your card. You also don't
         | get the credit card rewards, which for someone with a good mix
         | of cards is easily thousands of dollars at the end of the year
         | added up over all the transactions. Bars and restaurants are
         | established high reward categories.
         | 
         | $20 to $50 in my wallet usually lasts me a month or more at
         | this point. There are a few well established bars and
         | restaurants that force the burden on the customer by not
         | accepting cards, but they nearly always have an on-site ATM.
         | Many of them that are not outright amazing and lived on by
         | their reputation from their longevity have started taking
         | cards. Nobody would even dream of opening a new place that was
         | cash only.
        
           | hooverd wrote:
           | I keep a good mix of ones, fives, and tens. I also use a
           | credit card for most expenses.
        
             | OkayPhysicist wrote:
             | I also use a CC for most expenses, but besides small bills,
             | I like to have a handful of large bills (1 or 2 hundreds, a
             | fifty, a handful of twenties) because large bills are a
             | great way to ask for favors. Nobody's going to remember a
             | 10 you hand them, but a 20 is going to stay in their head.
             | A fifty or hundred is going to sit in their wallet, and be
             | a recurring reminder. My rule of thumb is that asking
             | someone to commit to doing something they probably would
             | have done for free is a twenty, asking someone to bend the
             | rules a bit through inaction is a fifty, and asking someone
             | to act in my favor in exception to the rules is a hundred.
        
             | brewdad wrote:
             | I use cash so rarely that I end up at the bar (or wherever)
             | with a stack of 20s.
        
           | OkayPhysicist wrote:
           | At bars, I'll open a tab with a card, then tip on the first
           | round with cash. Then at the end of the night I'll tip for
           | subsequent rounds on the card. I don't want to do a bunch of
           | scribbling on a receipt after each order, and I want to
           | establish that I'm willing to tip well early to get quicker
           | service. It's definitely the ideal solution.
        
       | treprinum wrote:
       | Ugh, why is this an academic paper? Isn't that super obvious?
        
         | schwartzworld wrote:
         | Things that are "super obvious" aren't always true.
        
       | abtinf wrote:
       | [flagged]
        
       | Animats wrote:
       | I'm more into how likely it is someone will run up an extra
       | charge on my card, or how much of a pain their POS system is.
       | (Can it split checks? Do I have to sign on a touch screen with my
       | fingernail? Is performance so bad it acts like the credit card
       | terminal is on dialup and the line is in use? Encountered all
       | three of those in the last month.)
        
       | ComputerGuru wrote:
       | > But more detailed record-keeping may undermine financial apps'
       | usefulness. "If people know that there's going to be a record
       | every time they use Apple Pay, based on our theory, people
       | actually will use it less compared to if Apple Pay doesn't
       | automatically track and record and remind them in the statement."
       | 
       | This is so weird to me since I want to know how much I spend in
       | any category. I'm annoyed only one of my linked Apple Pay cards
       | reports transactions off Apple Pay (my AmEx).
       | 
       | The study specifically says it looked only at cases where "the
       | payment method hadn't been decided beforehand" but that strikes
       | me as really weird. Everyone I know knows how they're going to
       | pay for a purchase before they walk into a store, mostly because
       | walking into a store has become so intentional. You are either
       | carrying (sufficient) cash on you or not. You either have enough
       | credit on your card or not. And, honestly, for most people in the
       | USA of my generation (so-called "millennials") if there's any
       | thinking involved it might be "which card do I charge this to"
       | and not "cash or credit?"
       | 
       | Also as with other studies making claims like these I immediately
       | wonder about reproducibility.
        
         | JohnFen wrote:
         | > This is so weird to me since I want to know how much I spend
         | in any category.
         | 
         | So do I -- I would just prefer that Apple (or insert any other
         | company in their place) didn't have access to that information.
         | I can keep track of my own spending, I don't need a company to
         | do it for me.
        
         | GravelRocks wrote:
         | I assure you there are people that haven't decided how to pay
         | for something before they reach the register. There's also a
         | lot of people that will decide how to pay for something based
         | on how much the purchase is at the register. Both of those
         | examples are anecdotal, and come from working a register some
         | decade and a half ago. Anecdotally, I bring cash with me when I
         | go on vacation. I never really thought about it so much as
         | guilt, but you could probably characterize it somewhat as that.
         | It's at least done partially for budgetary reasons, but I'm
         | sure subconsciously I really don't want to remember spending
         | $80 at the Tiki bar.
         | 
         | As for the reproducibility it looks like, from the article,
         | that they at least constructed several simular studies to test
         | their theory:
         | 
         | 1. "In one study, the authors analyzed more than 118,000 real-
         | world purchases at the Stanford University Bookstore."
         | 
         | 2. "Another study asked participants to imagine buying a
         | 30-minute reiki session. Half read that the session was
         | recommended by their doctor and would be at a hospital..."
         | 
         | 3. "Another study explored shoppers' preference for untraceable
         | payment methods besides cash. Half the participants were
         | informed they had a $20 bill and a debit card linked to their
         | bank account; the other half were told they had a $20 bill and
         | a prepaid debit card."
         | 
         | It's at least not a single, "3 grad students did this in an
         | afternoon at the 7-11" study that tend to get picked up. I
         | don't doubt that more research into the phenomenon might help
         | get a better understanding of the underlying motivations for
         | "cash/credit", but it does look like they are getting similar
         | results from multiple experiments.
        
       | pitterpatter wrote:
       | This sorta meshes with how I tend to think of cash. I essentially
       | consider withdrawn cash as already "spent" the moment it leaves
       | my account. So when I do get around to spending that cash
       | (especially on something frivolous) there's less of a hangup over
       | it.
        
         | bamfly wrote:
         | Same--though I _didn 't_ used to do that back when 1) I had a
         | whole lot less money, and 2) I used cash way more often.
         | 
         | Now, if I have cash, it's almost always because I intend to
         | spend it, usually for some purpose or activity or over some
         | time period. It's not going back in the bank. Any left over or
         | if plans change, I'll just spend it on whatever. It's "already
         | spent". If it leaves the bank account, it's gone.
        
       | passwordoops wrote:
       | Necessary caveat on the current state of irreproducibility and
       | outright fraud in Behavioural economics. See, for example, the
       | thread a few days back about Dan Ariely:
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36684242
        
       | bern4444 wrote:
       | I've always thought the opposite.
       | 
       | When I pay for something with cash I remember it far more
       | strongly than when I pay with card. I pay with a card all the
       | time and the action is the same no matter the price. I tap it and
       | move on.
       | 
       | With cash I remember having to go get the cash, counting out the
       | right amount at the register, and physically handing it over. And
       | then I notice its absence since now I gave up all the cash I had
       | and need to go to the ATM again. I see and feel the loss more
       | strongly.
       | 
       | You actually lose something physical when you pay with cash
       | unlike with a card. Especially if its a large purchase, I feel
       | the cash loss harder and remember it longer - hard to forget
       | handing over several bills ($50+) for those expensive
       | transactions.
        
         | SN76477 wrote:
         | Yes. Some experiences need friction. For example I do not
         | automate any bills. Each of them are paid manually (with a few
         | exceptions like subscription services)
         | 
         | I want to see, feel, know and understand what is happening
         | behind the curtain when it comes to my hard earned assets.
        
         | wing-_-nuts wrote:
         | I'll say this, spending cash is harder _in the moment_. There
         | 's a real visceral feeling of loss when handing over actual
         | cash vs card.
         | 
         | However, when it comes to tracking long term? Cash always
         | seemed to just ...evaporate, out of my wallet where as I can
         | look back and see my credit card purchases and go 'why did I
         | spend that much on that?!'
         | 
         | In my experience, there are two types of people when it comes
         | to money. There are spenders, who could usually stand to cut
         | back, and savers, who could stand to loosen up. I'm definitely
         | in the 'could stand to loosen up' camp. I even went so far a
         | set aside a 'fun money' budget but it mostly goes unspent
         | because my frugality has no chill...
        
           | gochi wrote:
           | Conscious spending could help out both camps. Spenders tend
           | to spend too much on things that don't matter to them, and
           | savers spend too little on things that matter to them.
           | 
           | The problem is conscious spending requires more initial setup
           | that a lot of people don't want to do. They don't want to
           | look at their bills and tally up the monthly total,
           | automating that to be paid first, and then looking at their
           | savings/investing/donation goals and taxes/limitations and
           | dedicating certain amounts next per month. That's all too
           | much initial work for them, but once you're on the other side
           | it's glorious. I see how much is in my spending account, and
           | spend it freely if whatever it is matters to me more than
           | just the thrill of spending.
           | 
           | So many are just not honest with themselves and what actually
           | matters to them. They have a huge house not because it makes
           | them happy but because it's what they feel pressured to have.
           | But this is a trick, remaining in this state winds up burning
           | you out so much faster because you are not nourishing what
           | your soul wants. What they actually would rather be doing is
           | travelling the world, and yet they only put aside 1% monthly
           | to a travel fund, and 70% goes to a home they don't care
           | about. They wind up never travelling because they distract
           | themselves with irrelevant things, get burned out at their
           | job, feel like moving cities, etc. It happens all the time!
           | 
           | To make this clear, this isn't about downsizing. If a big
           | home does matter to you, that should obviously take a much
           | larger portion of your monthly bills. But you can't make
           | these decisions without going through that above work
           | honestly.
        
           | bombcar wrote:
           | This is it exactly - if I spend $2k on an item, I'm going to
           | remember that if it was cash or card, but only card tells me
           | "you spend $2k last month at Walmart".
        
             | em-bee wrote:
             | so the benefit is that paying by card makes tracking your
             | expenses easier.
             | 
             | but the downside is that it also makes makes profiling
             | easier for anyone who can get access to your bank
             | statements which not only includes the bank but more
             | critically also walmart or any other place where you shop
             | regularly.
             | 
             | i rather track my spending manually. there are tools that
             | can help with that too, like receipt scanners. granted,
             | it's more work, so one needs to weigh the options. for me
             | though, supermarkets are the last place that i want to be
             | able to track my shopping because most of it happens there.
        
               | majormajor wrote:
               | We can't be that far from the facial recognition in
               | stores/at registers building that same profile for cash
               | customers :(
        
               | fullspectrumdev wrote:
               | It's still socially acceptable to wear a face mask in
               | public
        
               | em-bee wrote:
               | not everywhere. at least some european countries and
               | aparently some places in the US too ban the wearing of
               | facemasks, some only on large public assemblies and some
               | ban it in general. covid of course made mockery of those
               | laws.
        
               | em-bee wrote:
               | true, but laws making that illegal are also being
               | considered at least in some places, which means awareness
               | of the dangers does exist
        
               | lazide wrote:
               | The challenge of course, is it's easy to lose or misplace
               | receipts, etc.
               | 
               | Some of us have issues with (essentially) self sabotage
               | that way. Some of us have also had issues with people in
               | our lives not so accidentally sabotaging (or stealing)
               | things that way. Come to think of it, I don't know any
               | long term married couples that didn't have one of the two
               | do SOMETHING like that at some point.
               | 
               | The nice thing (or terrible, if you're worried about
               | privacy) about credit cards is you can go back as long as
               | you need and figure out what money went where, from whom.
               | 
               | When cash is gone, it's gone. If someone has to provide
               | receipts/prove expenses to get more, that can be managed.
               | If someone can just pull it out, less so.
               | 
               | Pros and cons either way, of course.
        
               | em-bee wrote:
               | well, it depends on how you look at it, no matter how
               | much you deceive yourself (or your partner), in the end
               | it only matters if you spend above or below your means.
               | if you spent to much it doesn't really matter where the
               | money went in the past, you need to fix the spending in
               | the future. finding who or what to blame is only half the
               | problem. either you both agree to manage finances or you
               | don't. if you can, put some money aside in a locked
               | savings account that noone can touch. (i had a special
               | savings account that would only generate interest as long
               | as i didn't touch it, but kept paying into it regularly).
               | that's a good way to prevent money from disappearing.
        
               | lazide wrote:
               | Ah, sweet summer child. The problem cases almost always
               | agree to manage finances together and be reasonable!
               | 
               | The money still disappears.
               | 
               | No records just makes it easier to be gaslit, or blamed
               | by the actual perpetrator in a court of law.
               | 
               | At least when it's recorded by a third party it's harder
               | to bullshit about. Two separate friends of mine had their
               | spouses (when under stress) nearly bankrupt both of them
               | using credit cards they signed up for without their
               | knowledge.
               | 
               | They found them on their credit reports due to something
               | unrelated, and at least was able to track down what had
               | happened. Both wives had been shredding the statements.
               | One had racked up $80k, another $70k.
               | 
               | Personally, I had a large and very vague amount of cash
               | disappear (approx $10k) through likely fake expenses just
               | before getting hit with a bunch of false accusations -
               | when I tried to get away from an abusive ex.
               | 
               | The legal chaos she created meant I never could get an
               | answer what happened. And frankly was a drop in the
               | bucket compared to the other damage she did.
        
           | OkayPhysicist wrote:
           | I definitely feel the "frugality has no chill" attitude. I
           | describe it, charitably, as being an extremely content
           | person. The downside is that there are plenty of things that
           | I could point at that would make my life somewhat better (
           | replacing my 30 year old Honda with a Tesla or something
           | would definitely save me time on maintenance, for example).
           | The upside is that when something does pass my high bar of
           | "willing to spend money on it", I rarely have to worry about
           | being able to afford it.
        
         | JumpCrisscross wrote:
         | Out of curiosity, how old are you? I'm in my thirties and think
         | the same.
        
           | Etheryte wrote:
           | I don't think it's tied that much to age, but rather local
           | culture. For example this mindset is prevalent in Germany and
           | Switzerland to the point where many locals look at you weird
           | when you ask them why they prefer cash. (There are other
           | historical reasons here too, but that doesn't take away from
           | the main point.)
        
             | JumpCrisscross wrote:
             | > _when you ask them why they prefer cash_
             | 
             | Would they also say they spend cash more loosely than card?
             | That's the phenomenon being described, not absolute
             | preference.
        
               | Etheryte wrote:
               | In the conversations I've had with people from Germany
               | and Switzerland it's the other way around, with cash
               | they're more aware and thus more frugal with their
               | spending.
        
               | JumpCrisscross wrote:
               | Right. That's what the article says. OP described an
               | opposite reaction which I share. The hypothesis of local
               | culture doesn't work because the cultures you named align
               | with the paper, which seems to be the default tendency
               | worldwide.
        
         | theodric wrote:
         | Ehh... Ok so right at the beginning of the Ukraine War I went
         | and pulled EUR9000 out of the bank (don't have to declare under
         | EUR10k at Customs) and put it in an envelope labeled "SHTF" and
         | stuck it on the pinboard. The envelope recently became empty. I
         | can't exactly tell you what we spent it on. Not "guilty
         | pleasures," of that I'm reasonably sure, but probably some shit
         | we could have lived without except hey there's this mad crazy
         | money envelope, sure why not grab a couple hundo and splurge...
        
         | tracker1 wrote:
         | That was my take as well... when I was younger and paid for
         | nearly everything in cash... I'd literally see the amount in my
         | wallet go down, and have to think twice on everything. I was so
         | much more aware of the fuel I was buying, how much I would or
         | wouldn't spend eating out, grocery shopping etc. Now it feels
         | like sticker shock each month when I pay everything off... "how
         | did I spend that much." I think the article makes a lot of
         | conclusions that my own experience would indicate the opposite.
        
           | thingification wrote:
           | I wonder if part of this is a function of time passing /
           | getting older rather than purely cash vs not.
        
             | tracker1 wrote:
             | I can't speak for all, but I came from a lower/lower-middle
             | income family... when I was in my later teens, I generally
             | didn't hold a lot of money to trust in debit purchases not
             | overdrawing. Didn't even have a CC until I was nearly 30yo.
        
         | magicalhippo wrote:
         | I'm from Norway, where cash is rare these days. But I feel
         | similar, it's a lot more obvious how much you pay when you need
         | to count bills and hand them over.
         | 
         | As a compromise I only keep a small amount of money on my debit
         | card. That way I have to keep topping it up, so I get a sense
         | of my spending that way.
        
           | matsemann wrote:
           | Also from Norway. Haven't paid cash in ~10 years. I have no
           | idea how the new currency looks like. I lost my wallet at
           | some point, and just never replaced it. I pay with my Garmin
           | watch (or phone once in a while). My driver's license is an
           | app.
        
             | mistrial9 wrote:
             | you have a "high trust" and "wealthy" country -- good for
             | you. Not everyone lives like that.
             | 
             | Here in the USA, tracking people for profit has exploded,
             | and the benefit is not for the person being tracked.
             | 
             | I advocate cash for old reasons, and new reasons. Use high-
             | tech payments if you like -- do not think they can be
             | mandatory here in the USA.
        
               | JohnFen wrote:
               | > do not think they can be mandatory here in the USA.
               | 
               | I sure hope not, but there's been quite a lot of things
               | that have been on the "could never happen here" list that
               | have in fact happened. I have no faith that eliminating
               | cash is inconceivable.
        
           | tracker1 wrote:
           | I keep two accounts for my payroll deposits... one which is
           | my day to day usage (fuel, food, entertainment, etc) and the
           | other where bills get paid from. I also keep my large bills
           | and credit cards not autopay. So I have to actually go in at
           | least once a month to pay the mortgage, car payments, and pay
           | off CC. It helps for awareness, but not actively tracking
           | sometimes makes it surprising how much gets spent in a month.
        
         | sokoloff wrote:
         | As part of teaching our kids about money, I insisted on not
         | only using physical currency for items the kids decided to
         | purchase with "their own money", but on ringing them up in a
         | separate transaction and having my kid actually hand over the
         | currency and receive the change and the item. (This doesn't
         | work for online purchasing, of course, but anything in store,
         | we'd do this way.)
        
         | pc86 wrote:
         | The point is that once your memory fades, that's it. Unless you
         | took a receipt, kept it, don't lose it, AND have a reason to
         | look at it, the purchase will essentially have never happened.
         | If it's on a card it's on that statement forever.
        
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