[HN Gopher] The past is not true
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       The past is not true
        
       Author : swah
       Score  : 345 points
       Date   : 2023-07-20 10:52 UTC (12 hours ago)
        
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       | quickthrower2 wrote:
       | The moral of the story: drive safely, pay attention always!
        
         | JanNash wrote:
         | Well put.
        
       | denton-scratch wrote:
       | Corny:
       | 
       | "The past is history, the future's a mystery, the present's a
       | gift".
       | 
       | My memory has been getting worse for years. People can take
       | advantage of me by insisting confidently that I've misremembered
       | something.
       | 
       | Crime witnesses often confabulate; they don't know what they saw,
       | so they "enrich" their memory by adding spurious information.
       | 
       | The title's wrong, though; the past _is_ true, it 's just that we
       | can't remember it.
        
       | weare138 wrote:
       | The past is real. Your memories, feelings and interpretations of
       | it may not be. Reality is not subjective. You are.
        
         | nathan_compton wrote:
         | Because of quantum mechanics this is a genuinely open
         | philosophical question. The equations which time evolve the
         | wave function are time-symmetric, which means that even if you
         | know the current state of the universe's wave function somehow,
         | you still only get a probabilistic projection for the state in
         | the past. I think this leaves open the genuine physical
         | possibility that the past does not exist in the same way that
         | the present exists. A lot comes down to what you think about
         | the ontology of quantum mechanics.
        
           | hef19898 wrote:
           | We are not living in a Star Trek / MCU multi-verse so.
        
       | libraryatnight wrote:
       | This reeks of bullshit.
        
       | azubinski wrote:
       | It is too convenient wisdom to be real wisdom.
        
       | youssefabdelm wrote:
       | "What then is truth? A movable host of metaphors, metonymies, and
       | anthropomorphisms: in short, a sum of human relations which have
       | been poetically and rhetorically intensified, transferred, and
       | embellished, and which, after long usage, seem to a people to be
       | fixed, canonical, and binding. Truths are illusions which we have
       | forgotten are illusions -- they are metaphors that have become
       | worn out and have been drained of sensuous force, coins which
       | have lost their embossing and are now considered as metal and no
       | longer as coins." - Nietzsche
        
       | drewcoo wrote:
       | The past is not true . . . but self-help author Derek Sivers is?
       | 
       | Somehow I'm not as convinced as he is that it was a really good
       | thing to break someone's spine years ago because he was a
       | teenager who didn't follow road signs.
        
         | tombert wrote:
         | I am not a fan of self help stuff, but I think that's a
         | somewhat uncharitable reading of the article; I don't think he
         | was implying that it was "good" to break someone's spine.
         | 
         | I think it was saying that it's very easy to convince yourself
         | of something much worse than reality. He felt guilty because he
         | thought he ruined a woman's life forever, he felt immense guilt
         | over that, when in reality the woman mostly recovered, not that
         | it was good the accident happened.
         | 
         | I thought The idea is that a slight misunderstanding of the can
         | have a severe "compound interest rate".
        
       | UncleMeat wrote:
       | If you are interested in this topic but would like to understand
       | how historians think about things, look into writing about
       | Historiography and Historical Memory. This person appears to just
       | be some guy who describes himself as an entrepreneur and TED
       | speaker.
       | 
       | The way we understand the past is a deep topic that is analyzed
       | and discussed by actual professionals _constantly_. Better to
       | read their writing than this kind of stuff, IMO.
        
         | sanderjd wrote:
         | This comment reminds me a lot of XKCD "Ten Thousand"
         | (https://xkcd.com/1053/). You don't need to denigrate the
         | author's credibility to write about their personal experience
         | and insight from it in order to provide a reference to the much
         | deeper field of study on this to those who are interested.
         | Personally, I had heard of "historiography" but had no idea
         | this is what it meant. And now I do! And that wouldn't have
         | happened today if this author hadn't published their little
         | anecdote.
        
           | rTX5CMRXIfFG wrote:
           | The author's claim "history is not true" is a huge one and
           | it's reasonable to look up his background to understand where
           | he might be coming from.
           | 
           | Unfortunately for him (the author) he's not coming from an
           | expert's position, and whatever perceptions that creates in
           | people is not fault of the commenter you're replying to.
        
           | UncleMeat wrote:
           | I'm less denigrating the author and more encouraging people
           | who found this idea interesting to seek out experts. I'm glad
           | that this person is thinking about this topic. I _also_ see a
           | frankly huge number of absolute amateurs having their ideas
           | about history distributed all over the world while
           | professionals are doing everything they can to communicate
           | effectively.
        
             | sanderjd wrote:
             | I think you're doing both things. And I applaud you for the
             | encouragement and useful information! I also don't begrudge
             | you your frustration about this. But I also find the "ten
             | thousand" idea to be a useful re-framing of how to respond
             | to this phenomenon where something seems obvious to you
             | because you know all about it, but it's actually not
             | obvious to most people at all. Maybe you'll find this to be
             | a useful re-framing too, I dunno.
             | 
             | I will push back a bit on "professionals are doing
             | everything they can to communicate effectively". I don't
             | think that's really true. In my experience, it seems like
             | most professionals and academics prefer to write and speak
             | within their own bubbles. Some few make a concerted effort
             | to communicate effectively to the masses, but more often
             | they look down their noses at the kinds of communication
             | that entails. For instance, my interpretation of your "TED
             | speaker" comment is that TED talks are not a suitable way
             | to communicate about this topic. But a compelling TED talk
             | or blog post or op-ed in a mainstream publication would be
             | a great way for a professional to communicate about this
             | with a large audience. I think this has a lot to do with
             | the way academia is set up. "Publish or perish" provides
             | little incentive structure for effectively communicating
             | your work for amateurs.
             | 
             | Or in more concrete terms: What professionals do you know
             | of in this field who are out there doing everything they
             | can to communicate effectively about this to a non-
             | professional non-academic audience? What is it that they're
             | doing?
        
               | UncleMeat wrote:
               | > I will push back a bit on "professionals are doing
               | everything they can to communicate effectively". I don't
               | think that's really true.
               | 
               | For personal reasons, I am very good friends with an
               | unusually large number of history faculty. I do not agree
               | with your assessment at all. My experience is that
               | historians are desperately trying to communicate their
               | expertise in the face of an increasingly hostile culture
               | that either does not value their expertise or considers
               | them to be propagandists. Public History in particular is
               | having a renaissance right now and Digital History (which
               | is often tightly associated with widespread distribution
               | of tools and interactive systems) is comparatively well
               | funded.
               | 
               | History doesn't have the same "publish or perish" model
               | as say CS because individual journal articles don't
               | actually provide much professional clout. You do have the
               | publish the book (which are increasingly distributed
               | open-access) but there is ample time for communication
               | with laypeople (and teaching).
        
       | lacrimacida wrote:
       | Is this story made up though?
        
         | zzzeek wrote:
         | It does feel a little made up right ? Could be true. Could be
         | maybe a little bit dramatized. Derek Sivers seems to have _so
         | many_ stories like this
        
           | manuelmoreale wrote:
           | Had the same feeling. The man is a writer after all and he
           | has just way too many stories at this point that I'm
           | wondering if they're all true or if he's just using made up
           | stories as a tool to convey messages.
        
           | hef19898 wrote:
           | Then he should be more careful in public spaces and around
           | other people, shouldn't he? Assuming it is true, that is,
           | otherwise he should switch to fiction books.
        
             | zzzeek wrote:
             | careful about what, that he makes shit up? I think you'd be
             | surprised how many people operate at that level by default.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | Backing up your point by making up a bullshit story is
               | called "lying" and "disinformation" and should be
               | rejected outright by anyone who wants a high trust
               | society. We should not build policy, intentions, or any
               | ideologies based on a single lie from some dude trying to
               | push a "nobody is ever guilty of anything" agenda.
               | 
               | This post adds nothing to the world, especially with the
               | horrific conclusion it is encouraging you to accept. "The
               | past is not real" is utter horseshit, and does not follow
               | from "I did something I thought was really bad but was
               | only kinda bad actually" in the first place.
        
       | voidhorse wrote:
       | Memory is a process. We do not have fixed objects we could call
       | representations stored in our brains. Someone asks "what did you
       | have for breakfast" and I respond with a word "pancakes" -- a
       | process and action occurs and we call it memory, I don't go
       | looking up some representation of "the facts" and wheel it out
       | before them, nor do I produce an actual pancake.
       | 
       | In other words, of course memory is an interpretation, and
       | historical thought is basically a collective form of these kinds
       | of processes.
       | 
       | What's fascinating, and what powers the drama of the article is
       | that even if we know this scientifically and philosophically, we
       | often can't help but act as though our memories were objects,
       | were these concrete things that we have at hand. A person can
       | remember, but no person actually _possesses_ memories (unless you
       | want to talk about the dynamic and constantly changing states of
       | a neuronal system).
        
       | benjaminwootton wrote:
       | Would there not be some police investigation and possibly prison
       | time if you recklessly caused such a serious accident?
       | 
       | I'm not sure how this misunderstanding could occur for so many
       | years.
        
         | hef19898 wrote:
         | Because history is true, stories on the other hand can be
         | totally made up.
        
         | n6h6 wrote:
         | Police aren't known for their investigation skills.
        
         | astura wrote:
         | No, even if you kill someone while driving, if you're not drunk
         | and don't leave the scene then you don't get more than a
         | traffic ticket.
         | 
         | https://www.vice.com/en/article/9bzdpv/you-can-kill-anyone-y...
        
           | PcChip wrote:
           | Manslaughter is a traffic ticket these days?
        
             | astura wrote:
             | Manslaughter charges only happen if the driver is drunk or
             | flees. Otherwise it's a traffic ticket AT MOST.
             | 
             | My friend's teenaged son, while biking, was run over by a
             | driver who did it completely intentionally. Zero charges or
             | tickets.
             | 
             | From my link above
             | 
             | >Leah Shahum from the San Francisco Bike Coalition told the
             | New York Times last year that her organization does "not
             | know of a single case of a cyclist fatality in which the
             | driver was prosecuted, except for DUI or hit-and-run."
             | Kristin Smith, also of the SF Coalition, says that "Last
             | year, four people were hit and killed in San Francisco and
             | no charges were ever brought," including for a collision
             | captured on video that showed the driver was at fault.
             | 
             | >But if the public is at a loss, so are prosecutors.
             | Portland, Oregon, attorney Ray Thomas explains that DAs
             | don't like to go after "some soccer dad who made a
             | mistake... The police, prosecutors, and courts don't feel
             | it's a mistake that should net someone jail time... There
             | are criminally negligent homicide laws. But [a crash] has
             | got to be really, really bad."
        
               | hef19898 wrote:
               | Well, accidents do happen, don't they? Thing is so, if
               | one party was reckless it amounts, usually, to some
               | charges of hurting / injuring someone.
               | 
               | But you show nicely the differemce between history /
               | facts (number of accidents from official statistics
               | matched against charges and results of analysis of each
               | accident) and feelings / story / narrative (someone says
               | something to a journalists who then reports on it).
        
               | rob74 wrote:
               | Ok, this article shocked me more than the post this
               | thread is about. What has manslaughter have to do with
               | whether you are drunk or not? Does that make the person
               | you killed any less dead? Is this a consequence of DAs
               | being elected officials in most of the US? So, as long as
               | there are more drivers who could see themselves in this
               | situation than cyclists who could get mad about this in
               | the electorate, drivers killing cyclists will be off the
               | hook?
        
               | mowse_winded wrote:
               | The definition of vehicular manslaughter is unlawful or
               | negligent operation of a vehicle resulting in a death. If
               | the driver was not driving unlawfully, such as DUI, then
               | it is not manslaughter. Fleeing the scene of an accident
               | is unlawful so that also makes it meet the definition.
               | Other reasons could include speeding or running a red
               | light.
               | 
               | https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/vehicular_manslaughter
        
               | rob74 wrote:
               | That still leaves us with the second part - "...or
               | negligent". I find it a bit hard to believe that in all
               | those cases the cyclists were at fault? Unless you
               | consider that they were already acting recklessly because
               | they tried to use a bicycle on a public street (I know a
               | lot of people subscribe to this opinion, but I don't).
        
               | hef19898 wrote:
               | You can have accidents, even deadly ones, without being
               | negligent. Hard to swallow sometimes, but true.
        
               | rob74 wrote:
               | I don't want to be too insistent, but: if you get hit by
               | lightning or a falling rock while cycling or driving
               | along, that's no-ones fault. But as long as two vehicles
               | are involved, there is a set of well-defined rules that
               | are designed to make sure that these vehicles don't
               | collide, and if they do collide, in the overwhelming
               | majority of cases one (or both) of the parties involved
               | has failed to follow these rules, i.e. negligence.
        
           | chmod775 wrote:
           | > What makes Cann's story notable among the 700 or so
           | bicyclists who are hit and killed in America each year is
           | that San Hamel faces charges in Cann's death.
           | 
           | In the end he got 10 days in jail, 4 years probation, and had
           | to pay the cyclist's funeral expenses - for plowing him over
           | from behind while driving home drunk from a bar.
           | 
           | So apparently even if you hit someone while DUI nothing
           | really happens.
        
         | jsight wrote:
         | Look at it this way, officers see car accidents every day. The
         | majority are cases where someone ran directly into the car in
         | front of them due to inattention.
         | 
         | Humans make a lot of mistakes and unless there were extenuating
         | factors (DUI, for example), they are very unlikely to become
         | criminal. In many cases, they wouldn't even be ticketed.
         | 
         | Given that there was a yield sign involved, it also may be a
         | known problematic intersection. Sadly, we have a lot of those
         | in the US too. Yield signs in places with low traffic and poor
         | visibility are way more common than they should be.
        
           | benjaminwootton wrote:
           | That's very surprising to me. Here in the UK, a serious
           | accident where someone broke their spine would be
           | investigated without a shadow of a doubt. They would want to
           | rule out any criminal culpability.
        
             | pharrington wrote:
             | Yeah, the US in general is extremely cavalier with our car
             | culture. Usually the only police involvement when an
             | accident occurs is when they're called to the scene to take
             | a report of the incident. Afterwards, the parties usually
             | just deal with the aftermath themselves and through
             | insurance companies.
             | 
             | Even if you have to show up to court, people almost always
             | walk away after pleading "not guilty," because again, the
             | officer who reported the incident can rarely be bothered to
             | show up on the court date.
        
               | benjaminwootton wrote:
               | It's probably outsourced to the civil system knowing the
               | US.
               | 
               | It's a huge contrast between the US and European approach
               | though.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | It's really just another example of cops in the US
               | choosing to not do their job. We have plenty of laws on
               | the books that could punish inattentive or reckless
               | driving especially when it results in a severe outcome,
               | but that would require a cop to open an investigation and
               | all that noise so they just write up a report for your
               | insurance and try to get you to believe there's nothing
               | else they can do.
               | 
               | The complete inefficacy and refusal to do any work of
               | most american police departments is absurd. It's like
               | they still believe their primary mission to be slave
               | retrieval and violently suppressing strikes, as if it's
               | still 1890.
        
             | jsight wrote:
             | In some states in the US, if one party was even 1% at fault
             | (like, for example, being distracted like in the story),
             | they may not even be able to collect damages from the other
             | party.
             | 
             | Our system is really weird.
        
       | cortesoft wrote:
       | I feel like the internet has really made the fault ones of our
       | memories very apparent. I have a lot of old memories that I will
       | think about and then try to research the event online and realize
       | a lot of my memories are impossible because of the actual
       | timeline of events.
        
       | miiiiiike wrote:
       | He did the right thing by seeking her out to apologize.
       | 
       | The rest doesn't hold water.
       | 
       | "There's a small chance that the chaos and ruin I've visited upon
       | others may not be as bad as as those people made me think.
       | Thanks, I knew my negligence/malice wasn't that big a deal."
       | 
       | The worst people that I've ever met would love for that to be
       | true.
       | 
       | They'll stab people in the back or work to damage people's
       | careers and when you call them out on it it's always something
       | like "We'll if I could damage their career anyone could have." or
       | "It's been ten years, why don't they just get over it?"
       | 
       | Basically: "Yes, I stabbed them. But they didn't/couldn't stop
       | me, so it's their fault that they're dead, really."
       | 
       | Negative equity is a real and it compounds over time.
       | 
       | Most people who have been told that they've caused actual harm,
       | probably did. Telling yourself that the facts of your story don't
       | matter or that the people you hurt may even be better off for it
       | won't mend the people you've broken.
       | 
       | Just apologize (for real) and attempt to make amends.
        
         | e40 wrote:
         | _> Negative equity is a real and it compounds over time._
         | 
         | I don't think this is always true. For me and you, yeah. For
         | good people. But, there are a significant percentage of humans
         | (I have no idea what the number is) where this is completely
         | false. They can move forward in time without a scintilla of
         | guilt or negative repercussions. I fact, for some people, it
         | seems to be fuel for them. They enjoy it. The percentage of
         | those folks is much smaller, I believe. Thankfully.
        
           | miiiiiike wrote:
           | I see what you're saying but I think we're using the phrase
           | "negative equity" slightly differently.
           | 
           | When I say negative equity I'm talking about the compounding
           | opportunity costs of something happening to you. One missed
           | opportunity could lead to another and another.
        
         | avgcorrection wrote:
         | > "There's a small chance that the chaos and ruin I've visited
         | upon others may not be as bad as as those people made me think.
         | Thanks, I knew my negligence/malice wasn't that big a deal."
         | 
         | > The worst people that I've ever met would love for that to be
         | true.
         | 
         | It's worse than that:
         | 
         | > > She said "that little accident" helped her pay more
         | attention to her fitness, lose weight, and since then has been
         | in better health than ever.
        
         | metacritic12 wrote:
         | I think misanthropes aren't being enabled by articles like the
         | above.
         | 
         | Many of them honestly don't care deep down about the damage
         | they do.
         | 
         | Others like Mark Wahlberg just "forgive themselves" for
         | blinding a neighbor as a teen, even if their actual victim
         | doesn't forgive them, so they can feel better about themselves
         | mentally. https://time.com/3623630/mark-wahlberg-pardon/
        
           | miiiiiike wrote:
           | Didn't call it enabling, more of a retroactive salve.
           | Responded to a similar comment here:
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36802843
        
           | amp108 wrote:
           | I don't know what's inside Mark Wahlberg's heart, but let's
           | suppose it's someone whom, for the sake of argument, we know
           | truly regrets their actions: what are they supposed to do if
           | another person doesn't forgive them?
        
             | miiiiiike wrote:
             | If they can't or won't forgive you: Try not to make the
             | same mistake twice.
             | 
             | You can't control what other people do, only how you react
             | to it.
        
             | pmarreck wrote:
             | As the article says, they should be pushing for redemption
             | opportunities for all convicted felons (based on a
             | humanistic perspective), not just themselves (based on some
             | confused notion of an "I have become successful enough to
             | buy high-priced lawyers to retcon my rap sheet since I have
             | redeemed myself" perspective)
        
             | pharrington wrote:
             | He did real harm that his victim did not forgive, so he's
             | supposed to hold that. You're not supposed to ask the
             | governor for an official pardon, erasing his crime from the
             | criminal record.
             | 
             | edit: ""My hope is that, if I receive a pardon, troubled
             | youths will see this as an inspiration and motivation that
             | they too can turn their lives around," he writes." Yeah, I
             | DO NOT believe the world famous multimillionaire needs a
             | governor's pardon to help kids.
             | 
             | edit2: given the wikipedia article
             | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36805073's links to,
             | it seems like Wahlberg himself now doesn't believe he
             | should have tried to obtain a pardon.
        
             | mrguyorama wrote:
             | Accept that sometimes when you do a bad thing that
             | permanently harms someone else you don't deserve
             | forgiveness (not everyone is christian FFS) and it's not
             | wrong for that to follow you around forever. If that makes
             | you uncomfortable, too fucking bad, don't irreversibly
             | blind someone.
        
               | stronglikedan wrote:
               | Accepting those things seems like a miserable way to
               | live. No thanks. I prefer to move on with my life, even
               | when I was wronged.
        
               | Jiro wrote:
               | This is about if you have wronged someone else, not if
               | you are wronged,
               | 
               | If you've wronged someone else, maybe you _should_ live
               | miserably if you can 't possibly make up for the wrong.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | Eh, not that harshly. Not that you should be miserable
               | but that such a large event SHOULD have a large impact on
               | you as a person and SHOULD maybe cause changes in how you
               | live your life. You should still be treated with dignity
               | and basic human decency unless and until you show
               | yourself to continually harm others for selfish or
               | negligent reasons. One bad action doesn't make you a bad
               | person but it is still a bad action and that should be
               | remembered.
               | 
               | Actions have consequences and we shouldn't try to hand
               | wave those away because some people seem uninterested in
               | going to therapy and dealing with the guilt they have.
               | You can always do better, but that doesn't invalidate the
               | bad.
               | 
               | People are complex, the world is not black and white,
               | everyone is a huge story with complex rationalizations.
               | Reflect on why you do things, reflect on how you affect
               | those around you.
        
               | progmetaldev wrote:
               | There is also power in discovering how to forgive
               | yourself, especially if your wrong was unintentional, or
               | you made a mistake that you deeply regret. It's too easy
               | to walk around with guilt in your life, and maybe you
               | don't ever get to speak to the one you wronged. Should
               | you take that to your grave? Does that help anyone?
        
               | superb_dev wrote:
               | Are some accidents truly unforgivable?
               | 
               | No one should be punished for the rest of their life
               | because they wronged someone in their childhood. If
               | they've grown, feel remorse and regret, then they've done
               | their time and need to forgive themselves.
               | 
               | There no point in carrying around such a burden. Very few
               | people deserve to be miserable.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | This post does not limit itself to true accidents.
               | Indeed, both people involved were negligent. Preventable
               | harm that you do not prevent through your own choices can
               | very well be unforgivable. Pretending that everything
               | should be forgivable is a heinous thing to do to victims,
               | and they have every right to not forgive or forget if you
               | have caused them irreversible harm through negligence or
               | accident. A victim has the right to never forget how you
               | changed their life.
               | 
               | You do not have a right to be free from the burden you
               | have caused someone else.
        
               | progmetaldev wrote:
               | I can't necessarily agree with this. Some people are hurt
               | over extremely minor offenses, which may or may not have
               | been an accident. What if the perpetrator of the offense
               | has grown and tried to make amends for the wrong they've
               | done? Do they need to carry the burden of guilt forever?
               | I think there is room for forgiveness of oneself, even if
               | those you have burdened do not forgive you. Maybe it's
               | not the same, but everyone is different. I would hate to
               | think that someone in their early teen years did
               | something selfish and stupid (like most of us do), and
               | they were not forgiven by the victim, and they had to
               | carry that with them to the end of their life. Society
               | does not grow with an overwhelming sense of guilt (now,
               | this is very different if you intentionally cause malice
               | and are truly not sorry, and do nothing to make things
               | right).
        
               | cayblood wrote:
               | One of the profound contributions of Christianity,
               | corroborated in other wisdom traditions, is the assertion
               | that every single one of us ignorantly does irreparable
               | harm to others in the course of our lifetimes.
               | Recognizing this is the beginning of wisdom, and figuring
               | out how to live life in light of this reality has been
               | the driving force behind many different philosophies and
               | religious traditions passed down over the ages.
               | Pretending other people are the problem is the problem.
               | Of course, that doesn't justify gross negligence, but the
               | human ego is very good at dismissing selfish, entropy-
               | increasing behavior as harmless. May I humbly submit that
               | the approach you suggest here is incomplete.
        
               | tracerbulletx wrote:
               | Great system for people who want to do a disproportionate
               | amount of harm and not be held accountable in this life.
        
               | kelnos wrote:
               | > _One of the profound contributions of Christianity,
               | corroborated in other wisdom traditions, is the assertion
               | that every single one of us ignorantly does irreparable
               | harm to others in the course of our lifetimes._
               | 
               | The problem, though, with Christianity's take on it (or
               | at least what some Christians take from it), is that they
               | push the idea that all you need to do to achieve
               | salvation is to believe in Jesus as savior, and all is
               | fine and dandy. Doesn't matter what sins you've
               | committed, or if you're even truly repentant. Just
               | believe Jesus died for your sins, and you're good.
               | 
               | On one hand I agree that this could promote acceptance
               | that we are all flawed beings, and will all end up doing
               | bad things here and there, and that it's pretty much
               | unavoidable. But I worry that this also can promote a
               | sense of invulnerability and unaccountability. "Doesn't
               | matter what I do, Jesus will take care of me."
        
               | macksd wrote:
               | > or at least what some Christians take from it > Doesn't
               | matter what I do, Jesus will take care of me
               | 
               | Well yes let's be clear that only a very selective
               | reading of the New Testament allows you to conclude Jesus
               | doesn't think it matters what you do. It's the same kind
               | of logic that leads one to preach the "prosperity
               | gospel". It's very clear that loving Jesus goes hand in
               | hand with loving others and living his commandments as
               | best you can.
        
               | aodonnell2536 wrote:
               | This is a line of thinking that really intrigues me, are
               | there any external resources you would suggest to further
               | read about it? Other than the Bible, of course
        
               | ImaCake wrote:
               | I think this is common theme in eastern religions. I feel
               | like I've also seen aspects of this in western
               | philosophy. My disclaimer here is I am not well read in
               | any of these topics!
               | 
               | My more general insight is that humans have put a lot of
               | work into trying to seperate themselves from the
               | complications of our obligate social brains. We will
               | always feel bad, but maybe it can be ameliorated.
        
               | macksd wrote:
               | You Are Here by Thich Nhat Hanh explores this idea a lot.
               | To the extent you consider Buddhist philosophy religious,
               | it is still religious, but it is not the Bible. However
               | the philisophy is similar enough that the author actually
               | references both in harmony. That said it's also a very
               | well received book among secular audiences so if you're
               | intrigued by the idea and don't care much for the Bible,
               | I think you'd like it.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | JackFr wrote:
               | Well that's the thing. No one _deserves_ forgiveness
               | (Christians especially should know that forgiveness is
               | not earned with merit, but distributed with grace.) But
               | genuine forgiveness is a powerful thing, though it's very
               | hard.
        
               | bittercynic wrote:
               | If you make a mistake like this, where you owe a debt
               | that can never be repaid, I think we need some social
               | mechanism where you can do your best to make amends and
               | get some measure of closure. This probably should follow
               | you around forever, but maybe it shouldn't dominate every
               | moment of the rest of your life.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | No, victims are not obligated to forgive you and neither
               | is society. Sometimes people do bad things that cannot be
               | undone and should not be forgotten. Sometimes that person
               | doing the bad thing is you. Even if you didn't intend to
               | harm someone, even if you did nothing wrong, even if you
               | followed best known procedures and were fully attentive,
               | you can still cause irreparable harm to someone else, and
               | we shouldn't just pretend that's okay as some coping
               | strategy.
               | 
               | Sometimes you hurt someone and you should feel bad about
               | that. Deal with it. It's a part of life to be an
               | imperfect human and this should help you keep in mind
               | that EVERYONE IS AN IMPERFECT HUMAN.
        
               | bittercynic wrote:
               | Maybe I'm misunderstanding you, but it seems like we're
               | in agreement, no?
        
               | bittercynic wrote:
               | Replying to myself - I didn't understand the context of
               | this conversation before, but I just read Mark Wahlberg's
               | wikipedia page. Yikes. Seems like the guy was (and is?) a
               | violent, hateful, lunatic. Something smells very off
               | about one of his victims releasing a public statement
               | that he has forgiven Mark.
               | 
               | I was not intending to argue that he should be pardoned.
        
               | blq10 wrote:
               | We do that, it's called imprisoning people for a very
               | long time.
               | 
               | This is generally unpopular among liberal and left
               | leaning spaces, and is only marginally popular in right
               | leaning ones.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | My stance says nothing about punishment, imprisonment, or
               | retribution, and is more about recognizing that there are
               | things humans can do to each other that are irreversibly
               | damaging, and that is not an okay thing to do, and
               | recognizing that you have caused someone irreparable harm
               | that will never be "fixed" is the emotionally mature
               | stance. I'm not even saying you should wake up every day
               | with a weight on your shoulders for killing someone, but
               | rather it's something you should keep in mind, and
               | victims owe nothing to the people that harmed them, and I
               | do not believe expecting victims to tell people doing bad
               | things "everything is okay" is beneficial to society.
               | Being without forgiveness from those you harmed is not
               | equivalent in any way to being in prison for life.
        
               | civilitty wrote:
               | He's an A-list actor who makes tens of millions of
               | dollars per film. He can make what most of us would
               | consider "fuck you money" in the span of a few months. By
               | no means does it dominate his life.
               | 
               | I dont think he shows real contrition either. After that
               | Times article he backpedaled on the pardon request and
               | told an interviewer months later that he was "pushed into
               | it."
        
               | brightlancer wrote:
               | > I think we need some social mechanism where you can do
               | your best to make amends and get some measure of closure.
               | 
               | It's called prison.
               | 
               | > This probably should follow you around forever, but
               | maybe it shouldn't dominate every moment of the rest of
               | your life.
               | 
               | Prison (and convictions generally) shouldn't follow folks
               | forever because it disincentivizes rehabilitation, it
               | incentivizes recidivism, it labels someone based upon
               | behavior 20 years ago but not necessarily since, etc.
               | 
               | The victims are not morally obligated to forgive anyone.
               | As a society, it's more beneficial to legally and morally
               | treat offenders as having paid their sentence.
        
               | WolfeReader wrote:
               | >> I think we need some social mechanism where you can do
               | your best to make amends and get some measure of closure.
               | > It's called prison.
               | 
               | Please explain how prison enables someone to make amends
               | and get a sense of closure.
        
               | mike_hock wrote:
               | I'm gonna be a bitter cynic here and say that blindness
               | also dominates every moment of the rest of the victim's
               | life, so why shouldn't the perpetrator suffer the same
               | fate?
        
               | norir wrote:
               | Judge not, lest ye be judged.
        
               | hiatus wrote:
               | As if that were the case. If only those that did not
               | judge were spared judgement themselves.
        
               | femiagbabiaka wrote:
               | This is basically the raison d'etre of the American
               | justice system today. Of course, I also think it would be
               | nice if someone who committed hate crimes was justly
               | punished for it, but stepping back from this specific
               | example, I think the bloodlust around what constitutes a
               | "just punishment" goes too far in most cases.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | My stance says nothing about punishment. Punishment has
               | nothing to do with lack of forgiveness. Forgiveness is
               | also not a necessity to treat other people, including
               | those who have harmed you, as inherently flawed humans
               | that deserve basic things like dignity.
               | 
               | Forgiveness is a broken concept. Just because you can be
               | a better person later in life should not absolve you of
               | bad things you did before. This isn't a call for everyone
               | to carry grudges, but a call that we should stop trying
               | to play this dumb "just keep pretending everything is
               | always and will always be 'okay' in some way" ideology.
               | People sometimes do bad things because they are bad
               | people or do not care about others, and it's okay to not
               | forgive that. People sometimes do bad things through no
               | real fault of their own and it's okay to still not
               | forgive that.
        
               | femiagbabiaka wrote:
               | It's an interesting idea. Law, justice systems, were all
               | created in order to adjudicate that level of animosity
               | and prevent it passing on to future generations. Holding
               | on to a grudge, not even out of a sense of justice, but
               | purely out of hate, seems like a path towards poor mental
               | health. But I'm lucky enough to not have any hate that
               | strong -- those I've chosen not to forgive I've instead
               | chosen to forget, which is a privilege relative to the
               | level of wrongs done.
        
               | progmetaldev wrote:
               | The American justice system seems to be based upon
               | profit, and keeping people reoffending in order to
               | continue keeping the justice system in place. There is no
               | incentive to reform as the system currently stands. It is
               | a major failure of society that recidivism is an expected
               | consequence of being "in the system."
        
               | femiagbabiaka wrote:
               | I used to think that it was biased towards profit, but
               | after the last 5 or so years, I think that's just a side
               | effect. American society believes strict and long
               | punishment for wrongdoing is the solution to crime. We
               | had a wave of progressive AD's elected into office and
               | they barely lasted 3 years, they're all getting booted.
        
           | allturtles wrote:
           | Wikipedia says he didn't actually blind the victim[0].
           | 
           | If true, this is fitting given the context of the OP.
           | 
           | [0]:
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mark_Wahlberg#Legal_issues.
        
             | metacritic12 wrote:
             | Ah, that Wikipedia article changed since last time. Which
             | does illustrate the OP's point. Thanks for the correction.
             | 
             | Still, Wahlberg did some terrible stuff and basically just
             | said "forgiving myself is enough".
        
           | archon1410 wrote:
           | Tangential: those who couldn't care less would be nihilists,
           | or sadists. "Misanthrope" is better reserved for something
           | else. I guess it all just blends together from certain
           | standpoints... it shouldn't.
        
             | gary_0 wrote:
             | Supertangential: Nihilists just don't believe existence is
             | intrinsically meaningful, and sadists take _pleasure_ in
             | inflicting suffering. A more correct term for someone who
             | is indifferent to the suffering they cause might be a
             | "narcissist" or "sociopath".
        
         | m463 wrote:
         | I'm sort of reminded of some of those alcoholics anonymous
         | folks who apologize to the people who they have wronged, and
         | are dumbfounded to find they are met with anger, or even being
         | arrested.
        
         | jstummbillig wrote:
         | > Most people who have been told that they've caused actual
         | harm, probably did.
         | 
         | I think you might be missing the point of the story. To my
         | understanding it could have easily have turned from a rosy past
         | to a grim presence and it would have worked all the same.
         | 
         | The point of the story is that, supposedly, the difference in
         | perception is the entire difference. Something is not true,
         | just because it's in the past. The act of reinterpreting is the
         | act of reshaping, what is true.
         | 
         | Personally, I don't know how true that is :) But it's a
         | somewhat interesting thought.
        
           | miiiiiike wrote:
           | No I got it.
           | 
           | Parables are supposed to be stories that teach us something
           | about ourselves, the world, and how we engage with it.
           | 
           | I fundamentally disagree with the moral of this story as
           | written.
           | 
           | Make it about something other than thinking that you
           | paralyzed someone through negligence and it's a different
           | ballgame.
        
           | brightlancer wrote:
           | > I think you might be missing the point of the story. To my
           | understanding it could have easily have turned from a rosy
           | past to a grim presence and it would have worked all the
           | same.
           | 
           | I think _you_ might be missing the point of the story.
           | 
           | It "could have" but it didn't: the story was about he'd been
           | punishing himself for 18 years but Really It Wasn't My Fault.
           | 
           | If it was about a situation where he found out 18 years ago a
           | benign situation wasn't, that could teach a lesson about
           | misunderstanding history. Here, everything else is
           | overshadowed by the fact that "You can change history", where
           | history is how he paralyzed a women by driving recklessly.
        
         | miiiiiike wrote:
         | More here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36803982
        
         | gochi wrote:
         | >They'll stab people in the back or work to damage people's
         | careers
         | 
         | Why didn't you stop them?
         | 
         | I think your comment was well intended, but it actually comes
         | from the same place that causes a lot of the hurt: a lack of
         | reflection. Even right there, you are trying to qualify harm
         | without recognizing it. "Actual harm" as somehow being far
         | greater and more deserving of consequences than regular harm,
         | but there isn't. This is another narrative we tell ourselves to
         | make ourselves feel better.
         | 
         | So I hope you do take your own advice seriously. Most of the
         | time, it's not the "worst people that I've ever met" - it's our
         | own image.
        
         | FrustratedMonky wrote:
         | Some people are generally good and end up living with Guilt.
         | 
         | Most sad stories do NOT have a healing resolution like this.
         | The few times it does happen, then good for them.
        
         | brudgers wrote:
         | Everyone is not among the worst people you (or I) have ever
         | met.
         | 
         | Not needing to be told that they caused harm is one of the
         | things that makes them not among the worst people you (or I)
         | have ever met.
         | 
         | Sivers' parable is about his (and our) interpretations of the
         | past -- Sive.rs publishes parables not facts. Context is
         | relevant, here.
         | 
         | Yes, worst people gonna' worst people. Sociopaths are not
         | Sive.rs audience. His point is that we can't change the past
         | and only act in the present. What the worst people you (or I)
         | ever met did can't be changed. How it affects are behavior can.
         | 
         | Particularly when the worst person you (or I) have ever met is
         | you (or I). Biss-ninny 101 stuff. Which Sive.rs (and I) study.
        
           | miiiiiike wrote:
           | The people I'm referencing are normal people doing things
           | that are accepted as a normal part of doing business. They do
           | it because there are no consequences and may even been an
           | advantage to engaging in light anti-social behavior.
           | 
           | That lady just had a baby and needs to go home at 5:00 PM
           | says one NPR reporter/podcaster/host early in their career?
           | Sound like she's not committed, I'll take on her work as I,
           | for one, am committed. True story. Told on a podcast.
           | 
           | Or how about the kind of person who takes credit for
           | another's work because they can.
           | 
           | I'm not talking about murderers here, I'm talking about
           | normal people doing shitty things and making the world just a
           | little bit worse for everyone (and a lot worse for some in
           | particular) and use whatever to justify their behavior as
           | part of their personal story.
        
             | brudgers wrote:
             | Those may be the worst people you ever met. I have met
             | rather worse people.
        
         | 999900000999 wrote:
         | Agreed. This seems to almost rationalize being a sociopath. You
         | can't change the past. The world has no shortage of extremely
         | shitty people who have no regard for others.
        
         | corry wrote:
         | Ehhh that seems a bit uncharitable and leading into a slippery-
         | slope fallacy.
         | 
         | "Well, because some misanthrope might misinterpret this as
         | permission to be terrible means it's bad advice".
         | 
         | Dealing with things directly, as close in time to the event as
         | possible, is probably a great idea.
         | 
         | But you'll never get a pure ground-truth on every event in your
         | life... so learning that your narrative of the past can act as
         | a tyrant in your life (if you let it) seems like a good insight
         | to me.
        
           | miiiiiike wrote:
           | Didn't say it could be interpreted as giving people license.
           | 
           | I'm talking about the people who already do the things -- and
           | not giving them a Tums and Tylenol for the indigestion and
           | headaches it's causing them.
           | 
           | Stop doing the thing to stop suffering the consequences.
           | 
           | The people also tend to be really brittle. Once someone
           | points out that they're running around stabbing people
           | they'll get all offended: "See! It's not fair! Everyone I've
           | stabbed is out to get me. I'm the victim!"
        
         | confoundcofound wrote:
         | This type of mentality is readily observed amongst abusive
         | parents. "That was a long time ago, why can't you move on?"
         | "You were a sensitive child."
         | 
         | I will never understand people who seem to lack the ability to
         | see that their actions may have a rippling effect throughout
         | someone's life. One can meaningfully and negatively alter the
         | trajectory of someone's life with one action.
         | 
         | I'm not advocating that we live in neurotic paralysis wrecked
         | with the fear of unknowingly hurting others, but we should
         | accept that whatever hurt we do inflict can have long-lasting
         | implications, and when others shed light on ways we may have
         | hurt them, that we lean in, understand, and make amends if
         | possible.
         | 
         | We are all connected.
        
           | vacuity wrote:
           | I think this gap in understanding is more of an underlying
           | psychological phenomenon, that those people struggle to grasp
           | the concept you're describing because they just don't get it.
           | Like how people learn, say, math differently. If they had the
           | capacity to understand then they might've already and this
           | wouldn't apply. How to deal with this in a society is a
           | complicated matter.
        
       | kangalioo wrote:
       | This story brought me to tears within two paragraphs, wow
        
       | badrequest wrote:
       | Reminds me of The Necklace by Guy de Maupassant:
       | https://americanliterature.com/author/guy-de-maupassant/shor...
        
         | vacuity wrote:
         | While it's a thought-provoking short story, it's somewhat
         | orthogonal to this article.
        
       | stared wrote:
       | There is a common conception that we don't know the future, but
       | we know the past.
       | 
       | In our heads, we have models of the past and models of the
       | future. Sure, there is an asymmetry between knowing the past and
       | the future - due to thermodynamics. Still, in both cases, it is
       | good to think of these as probabilistic models, far from any
       | certainty.
        
         | pyinstallwoes wrote:
         | Consciousness as a solution to Maxwell's demon?
         | 
         | Makes sense to me. Consciousness forms a closure over a
         | deletion mechanism towards less and less paths over time.
         | Eventually inconsistent architecture. It's exactly what the
         | universe needs.
        
         | qwnp wrote:
         | > there is an asymmetry between knowing the past and the future
         | - due to thermodynamics
         | 
         | Would you please elaborate on this?
        
           | bamfly wrote:
           | It's physics-enthusiast for "time goes one way".
        
           | yakcyll wrote:
           | I think this may refer to the second law of thermodynamics -
           | entropy cannot decrease over time in an isolated system. One
           | could argue the entire universe is one.
        
             | ChrisSD wrote:
             | But our local "system" has a gigantic miasma of
             | incandescent plasma on our doorstep. The Earth itself
             | should not need to worry about entropy for a long while
             | yet...
        
               | nobody9999 wrote:
               | >But our local "system" has a gigantic miasma of
               | incandescent plasma on our doorstep. The Earth itself
               | should not need to worry about entropy for a long while
               | yet...
               | 
               | I interpret GP's reference to thermodynamics/entropy as
               | generating the "arrow (asymmetry) of time,"[0]
               | 
               | Which exists (at least for us matter-based beings) as
               | remembering the "past," but not the "future," and local
               | fluctuations in entropy don't affect that at all.
               | 
               | [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arrow_of_time
        
               | high_priest wrote:
               | What @stared means with the entropy quote is that in a
               | world tending from organised to disorganised, it is
               | impossible to KNOW the future, but also very hard to
               | TRULY KNOW the past. As each step into the future causes
               | the remnants of past to decay.
        
         | speak_plainly wrote:
         | And neither of those models have any reality, they're a product
         | of imagination.
        
           | kelseyfrog wrote:
           | Yep, and the utility of a model doesn't imply its accuracy.
           | To think that it does is our collective greatest blindspot.
        
         | abirch wrote:
         | The past also suffers from survivorship bias. Although there's
         | a 1 in 8 chance of flipping 3 consecutive heads, in the future
         | after flipping 3 consecutive heads you forget about the other
         | possibilities. E.g., there was a 1 in 8 chance that Hitler,
         | Stalin, and Mao could have all been born women before they were
         | conceived.
        
           | firebirdn99 wrote:
           | > Although there's a 1 in 8 chance of flipping 3 consecutive
           | heads, in the future after flipping 3 consecutive heads you
           | forget about the other possibilities.
           | 
           | In other contexts, also known as the gambler's fallacy if I
           | recall.
        
             | mitchdoogle wrote:
             | If you are specifically looking for a result of 3 coin
             | flips, then it's 1 in 8 chance of getting 3 of the same.
             | The gambler's fallacy is seeing 2 coin flips come up heads
             | and thinking there's only a 1 in 8 chance that the last one
             | will come up heads.
        
         | bluetomcat wrote:
         | We have partial impressions of the past. We have seen, felt,
         | thought something at various points in time and then we
         | construct a sequential story of what happened, often employing
         | abstract cause-effect reasoning. Two different observers might
         | come up with different stories. To reach a consensus, they have
         | to exchange their points of view.
         | 
         | Once all the observers forget their story or they disappear,
         | the past "fact" disappears from collective memory, unless that
         | story was passed to newer generations by speech, writing, etc.
        
       | pstuart wrote:
       | Ugh. Of course we should be mindful that "history" is created by
       | people and people are fallible (and worse, e.g., intentionally
       | biased), so caveat emptor.
       | 
       | But it doesn't mean that historical facts don't exist (shit
       | happens - those are facts), but the recounting of such should be
       | consumed knowing that there are likely inaccuracies.
       | 
       | This is not license to only take in the history we like or
       | rewrite it to suit our agendas.
       | 
       | I'm technically a Boomer and my education on the history of the
       | US was amazingly light on any details that would today seem
       | unsavory (e.g., the expansion to the West was not simply moving
       | into uninhabited territory, etc.).
       | 
       | A People's History of the United States was eye opening and a
       | welcome revisiting of the "official story". Some might say that
       | Zinn had an agenda to shit on White Men, but I saw it as a
       | heartfelt attempt to correct the record.
       | 
       | I didn't learn about the Tulsa Race Massacre until about 10 years
       | ago, and already there are attempts to squash that because, and I
       | kid you not, "it makes white people feel bad".
        
       | atleastoptimal wrote:
       | I don't always fully agree with anecdotal feel good stories that
       | seem to imply a greater universal point due to a by-chance
       | outcome. What if the author _had_ paralyzed the woman? What if he
       | was solely and entirely at fault?
       | 
       | It's nicely written, but it speaks to most people's general
       | positivity bias: our yearning for a benign truth underlying all
       | things that are bad, or more specifically, that bad things aren't
       | really real, that they're a mirage over the real state of all
       | things which are actually good and wholesome and better than you
       | could have even guessed. This is the kind of thinking that
       | inexorably draws miserable people to religions that offer eternal
       | salvation.
        
         | sbob wrote:
         | > What if the author had paralyzed the woman? What if he was
         | solely and entirely at fault?
         | 
         | In this case his story would have never been written. Thus we
         | get a big survivorship bias to hear only about unlikely events
         | and get some kind of wisdom tidbits from those.
        
           | nobody9999 wrote:
           | >> What if the author had paralyzed the woman? What if he was
           | solely and entirely at fault?
           | 
           | >In this case his story would have never been written. Thus
           | we get a big survivorship bias to hear only about unlikely
           | events and get some kind of wisdom tidbits from those.
           | 
           | That's not _necessarily_ true. Many years ago, I _killed_ a
           | 77 year-old woman by striking her with my bicycle. Her skull
           | fractured when she hit the pavement. I _heard_ her skull
           | being crushed, but I didn 't realize it at the time -- after
           | I realized what that sound was, it's haunted me to this day.
           | 
           | I was completely at fault (I blew through a red light and hit
           | her after avoiding someone else) and while I don't think
           | about it every day _any more_ , I bear the responsibility for
           | her injury, eventual death and the grief it caused her
           | family.
           | 
           | While I don't consider myself a bad or evil person, I made a
           | really bad decision that cost someone their life. And I will
           | bear the guilt of that bad decision forever.
           | 
           | I don't give myself a pass because it wasn't a _malicious_
           | act, mostly because that poor woman is still dead regardless
           | of my motivations.
           | 
           | I can't go back and change the past, but I've tried to make
           | better decisions since then. That's not enough, but it's all
           | I can do to avoid such things moving forward.
        
         | kritiko wrote:
         | I think magical, positive thinking is protective even in the
         | most dire times or atrocities. This is an intuition that's
         | based on anecdotes from watching the documentary Shoah and
         | reading Man's Search for Meaning, both of which cover how
         | survivors dealt with the Holocaust.
        
           | atleastoptimal wrote:
           | True. If humans didn't have a positivity bias our own
           | intelligence would be unbearable. We have to be able to
           | viscerally imagine and reckon with the worst possible
           | realities while keeping our heads above water. It's also why
           | I believe humor exists: it provides a psychological and
           | social reward for effectively navigating negative
           | circumstances.
        
             | vacuity wrote:
             | I think that people tend to mix emotion and reason too
             | readily. To an extent we are governed by our emotions, but
             | we shouldn't let them consume us. Negativity bias is
             | definitely detrimental but so is positivity bias. That's
             | different from being compassionate. Compassion is a
             | principle, a moral axiom that many people hold, but
             | positivity bias is saying we should feel blindly feel good.
             | We should have a tempered view of our principles and
             | personalities.
             | 
             | Your explanation of humor seems woefully inadequate. What
             | is the corresponding solution to a negative solution in
             | making a dad joke?
        
       | user8501 wrote:
       | This is quite profound. Consider a sentence. Every additional
       | word has the ability to completely change the meaning of the
       | whole sentence. In the same way, every passing moment is an
       | opportunity to completely change the preceding moments. Sure
       | facts are "real" in the sense that atoms are real. Atoms might be
       | the building blocks of "reality" but it is up to the individual
       | how clusters of atoms are interpreted, used, etc. Facts in the
       | same way are surely the building blocks for the universe of
       | emotion and dynamic interaction, but when you zoom in on them, as
       | with atoms, they vanish. Even if this woman had answered the door
       | in a wheelchair, an interaction filled with love and forgiveness
       | would've left the author with the same feeling.
        
       | neilv wrote:
       | > _Seems we had both been told the accident was our fault, and
       | had spent eighteen years feeling bad about it._
       | 
       | Did they both have the same insurance company?
        
       | avgcorrection wrote:
       | Rubbish. You can't extrapolate anything from this.
        
         | keepamovin wrote:
         | So sad that you missed the point. Open up to it man
        
           | mrguyorama wrote:
           | What point? That this person is saying "I believed I did a
           | bad thing and it turned out to be wrong so I exclaim that
           | there is no objective reality and you shouldn't beat yourself
           | up over bad things you think you did because maybe they
           | weren't really that bad"?
           | 
           | Come on, this fails even basic logic. One event being
           | misremembered is not valid proof that all or even many events
           | are misremembered to your advantage.
        
           | avgcorrection wrote:
           | Thanks for the concern, but I didn't miss the point. There is
           | no wisdom in extrapolating absolute statements from fringe
           | coincidences.
        
             | mistermann wrote:
             | > There is no wisdom in extrapolating absolute statements
             | from fringe coincidences.
             | 
             | What method did you use to determine this is
             | comprehensively true, _in fact_ , rather than simply
             | intuition?
        
               | avgcorrection wrote:
               | Just save us both the time and call me a
               | hypocrite/inconsistent based on whatever figment you have
               | in your mind.
        
             | keepamovin wrote:
             | I stand by my comment, your interpretation misses a lot :(
             | 
             | But, maybe I'm the one missing your view here--could you
             | explain more what you mean specifically?
        
       | swombat wrote:
       | A saying that's stayed with me recently is:
       | 
       | > You can only change the past. The future is unchangeable.
       | 
       | Which is an interesting reversal of the usual perspective, I
       | think. You can change how you perceive the past. You can learn
       | new things about the past. You can change your stories about it.
       | You can even assist others in doing that.
       | 
       | But the future? That is always out of reach, and already
       | encompasses all your attempts to change it.
        
       | polyterative wrote:
       | expected more from Sivers
        
       | dandanua wrote:
       | Wrong. The human knowledge is subjective, but we believe (for
       | good reasons!) that there exists an objective past, which is true
       | for everyone.
        
       | bmacho wrote:
       | Do you know the concept of space-time, block universe, B-theory
       | of time, etc? How physics assumes that the laws of physics don't
       | know the notion of "now"? And how physicists usually start every
       | calculation with "let X denote the set of events", all the past
       | and future events?
       | 
       | Isn't that depressing? The future is true, even if we can't
       | _know_ it. (Even in a finite, discrete and deterministic
       | universe, which we can compute on computers, habitants of the
       | universe can 't _know_ the future. A software can 't compute its
       | future. A similar reasoning to the halting problem can show
       | this.)
       | 
       | May I interest you in an other view? Slice Universe to the
       | rescue! There is only now, and the now is true. There is matter,
       | in a particular, ever changing spatial configuration. In 3d. The
       | now is _true_ , also it changes. Only the _real_ people, made out
       | of matter can experience things, simulated people, or the people
       | that are not even simulated don 't have real experiences. The
       | past is not _true_ , but we have some information about it, what
       | the past can possibly be. So is the future, it is not true, but
       | we have some information about it. There is no ontological or
       | qualitative difference between the past and the future, only
       | quantitative (which comes from the ridiculous amount of
       | negentropy at the beginning of our universe).
        
         | abiro wrote:
         | What to read on the slice universe?
        
           | zogrodea wrote:
           | It sounds similar to (but possibly different from since I
           | never heard the term "slice universe") the theory of
           | presentism in the philosophy of time.
           | 
           | That's the view that all that exists is the present. What we
           | call the past is what used to be present and what we call the
           | future is what one day will be present, but neither the past
           | or future exist so long as they are not the present.
           | 
           | https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/presentism/
        
           | hef19898 wrote:
           | https://starwars.fandom.com/wiki/The_Slice/Legends
        
         | seba_dos1 wrote:
         | > Isn't that depressing?
         | 
         | No? Why would it be?
        
         | sobellian wrote:
         | How could that possibly support the relativity of simultaneity?
         | Different reference frames disagree on what is happening "now."
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | pseudocomposer wrote:
           | I mean, relativity already means everything depends on
           | location, so this should just fit right in, right? The
           | contents of your "slice" are from right now at your location,
           | from 20 years ago at locations 20ly from you, 30 years ago at
           | 30ly, etc. We literally _can't_ know what's happening at any
           | time other than 20 years ago at locations 20ly from us, after
           | all. So I'd say this jives well with the various "curves"
           | relativity implies exist in spacetime. (Note: I am not a
           | physicist so I'm happy to learn why /if I'm wrong here!)
        
             | notjoemama wrote:
             | How do you think this conceptual model fits at the
             | subatomic scale; everything being a warping of fields? At
             | first glance I can't tell if it works because there is no
             | such thing as a slice at the quantum level. Well, depending
             | on which theoretical model you're looking at. I suppose
             | either way it's might be considered true if mathematically
             | we're talking about the properties of a particle. But even
             | then no one alive today can say for certain why those
             | properties exist, conclusively I mean, outside of theory.
             | We barely have a grasp on the manor in which they exist,
             | which is the theory. For example, based on what we know
             | about the proposed axion particle, how does this slicing
             | concept affect the nature of it warping spacetime? Bringing
             | something new to the table there would be quite the
             | accomplishment here!
             | 
             | edit: typo
        
           | thfuran wrote:
           | The people in other reference frames must just be
           | simulations, so their experiences are invalid.
        
             | bmacho wrote:
             | Lol.
             | 
             | Nah, if we allow virtual experiences, than any model
             | naturally becomes the block universe.
             | 
             | I believe, that question of experience is still unsolved.
             | Why do we seem to live in a world made of matter and
             | governed by physics? Is it the same for people that are
             | simulated in a computer? Is it the same for people that are
             | not simulated by a computer (because it is plugged out)?
             | How do they perceive if the data is mangled? Etc. BTW the
             | block universe also needs to solve this problem. But in
             | order to not to be in a block universe, we need the answer
             | that being material based is _different_ than being
             | simulated on a material based simulator, or not even being
             | simulated, just the possibility of it.
             | 
             | @sobellian: relativity doesn't _need_ the block universe.
             | It works perfectly fine if people just get shorter when
             | they speed up. Then the simultaneity of events in a frame
             | is not the same as being in a slice.
        
               | mistermann wrote:
               | Maybe I misunderstand, but could an alternate theory be
               | that reality and the universe are not the same thing?
        
         | keepamovin wrote:
         | This is interesting! What do you make of retrocausal effects in
         | "image exposure" experiments, and other psi related phenomena.
         | I'm curious if you have ideas for a physical theory that speaks
         | to precognition and remove viewing?
        
           | throwaway290 wrote:
           | What are these image exposure experiments?
        
             | keepamovin wrote:
             | I'm no scholar, so I may be missing crucial papers, but
             | here are some:
             | 
             | -
             | https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/features/psp-a0021524.pdf
             | (original experiments)
             | 
             | - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4706048/
             | (replications review)
             | 
             | - https://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/document?repid=rep1&type=pd
             | f&d... (review of related evidence)
             | 
             | Here's something more far out I just found trying to
             | connect physical theories to some of this:
             | https://old.hessdalen.org/sse/program/Antonella.pdf
             | 
             | Some related light discussion of similar issues and
             | intersection of physics and consciousness:
             | https://quantumphysics-
             | consciousness.eu/index.php/en/2022/06...
             | 
             | And a few other ones:
             | 
             | - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4141237/
             | (review of many experiments)
             | 
             | - https://arxiv.org/pdf/1111.6584.pdf (discussion of
             | possibly physics)
        
         | nathan_compton wrote:
         | There is no fixed way to slice up the universe into 3d slices.
        
         | doodlebugging wrote:
         | We live in a set of time slices that we are able to control
         | through the choices that we make as we slide through the deck.
         | The past is done and locked up, carved in stone and can be
         | recalled with high fidelity if we choose to dwell there. The
         | future is always in your face - another decision to make, lives
         | to influence, bullets to dodge - all presented as you color the
         | current time slice with the events your choices allow. Choices
         | are filters on possible paths for your future, some can be
         | looped many times while others permanently exclude specific
         | outcomes. As we color the time slice we can know parts of the
         | future by understanding consequences of the choices we are
         | making though we can't know it will all fit far into the
         | future. The past is left as an exercise in recollection to
         | serve up reminders of all the unpleasant loops we threw in our
         | life path and most importantly, to help us choose a better,
         | more productive path when we find ourselves at a similar node
         | in the future.
        
       | narag wrote:
       | I love HN but, let's be honest, we are often tone-deaf. Very
       | much.
       | 
       | When the author writes "the past is not true", he's not trying to
       | make a Physics or Epistemology point of any kind.
       | 
       | He's just telling that we torture and limit ourselves with things
       | that no longer matter or, in this case, never happened. The
       | anecdote might not be what you wanted to read or what would have
       | fit the "message" best, but real world stories seldom do.
       | 
       | Let me ask you something: do you have something in your past
       | that's holding you back?
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | mrguyorama wrote:
         | Then his example is so garbage as to be worthless. He DID DO
         | SOMETHING OBJECTIVELY BAD by driving recklessly and harming
         | someone else. It doesn't matter after that point what narrative
         | is spun by who, that reality happened. You don't get to absolve
         | yourself of guilt by pretending actually it usually ends up
         | better than you remember"
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | ngvrnd wrote:
       | Celebrity death match: Olin Shivers vs. Derek Sivers
        
       | FigurativeVoid wrote:
       | This reminds me of the "second arrow." A buddhist idea.
       | 
       | What happened in the story, the ground truth, is real. There was
       | an accident, people were injured.
       | 
       | That this story really highlights is the danger of a second arrow
       | that is not that we tell ourselves stories about the past. The
       | danger is that we tell ourselves stories so false they cause
       | undue suffering.
       | 
       | The point isn't that the past isn't true. The issue is the story.
        
         | nightpool wrote:
         | ("undue" suffering, in the sense of "unwarranted",
         | "disproportionate" or "more than your due". "undo" suffering
         | would be removing it or undoing it.)
        
       | csours wrote:
       | Every history book is a narrative.
       | 
       | Do you listen to:
       | 
       | The generals and presidents and industrialists?
       | 
       | or
       | 
       | The privates and citizens and workers?
       | 
       | Most of the narrative of WWII I learned in high school is built
       | off of grains of truth, but other grains of truth are much more
       | important, depending on where you live.
       | 
       | You learn that Japan surrendered because of the atom bombs, then
       | you learn that they surrendered because the Soviets invaded
       | Korea, then you learn that it's a combination of factors.
       | 
       | People want to hold a complete story in their heads, with a
       | satisfying conclusion. If you can find someone or something to
       | blame, that is a very satisfying conclusion. If you are fighting
       | a fight, you will read that fight into all of the history you
       | encounter.
        
       | anbende wrote:
       | I think the article is sending a pretty problematic overall
       | message.
       | 
       | The underlying story is somewhat interesting. The author went
       | through life with a lot of unnecessary guilt and suffering
       | because he was carrying around a false narrative, and it is true
       | that false narratives happen. But the larger conclusion he tries
       | to draw from it seems really problematic:
       | 
       | >History is not true. You can change history. The actual factual
       | events are such a small part of the story. Everything else is
       | interpretation.
       | 
       | But this is NOT the moral of the story in my view. The moral is
       | that one can have an erroneous _belief_ about what happened, and
       | THAT can cause a lot of problems. The author even experienced
       | feeling better when he learned what ACTUALLY happened, not when
       | he decided on a new interpretation of events. Because his
       | original belief about the event was NOT an interpretation of
       | events, it was an erroneous belief about what the events were.
       | 
       | And in fact, in the anecdote, learning the "factual events" was
       | everything.
       | 
       | In general, I struggle with the idea that calling something
       | that's just factually wrong "an interpretation". That seems to
       | stretch the word "interpretation" to the point where it stops
       | being useful. If I am convinced that Napoleon was, in fact, a
       | black man, do we really want to call that an "interpretation of
       | events". What events am I interpreting? None, I would argue. I'm
       | just making things up. Just like someone made up that the woman
       | in the story broke her spine. It just never happened. It's not an
       | interpretation of anything.
        
         | mmusson wrote:
         | I think the point is that interpretation is all we really have.
         | We believe that memories are these absolute things, but
         | rigorous studies show that no human being remembers things
         | perfectly, even when they believe they do.
         | 
         | For many years as a kid, I knew Santa Claus was real because I
         | had seen him come to my house. My faith was unshakable, because
         | I had observed it with my own eyes. Years later, I found out
         | that on Christmas morning. My dad had left the room changed
         | into the Santa outfit, snuck outside and came to the back door
         | to surprise me with my mom. I was too young to realize that my
         | dad had snuck away and wasn't there at the same time as Santa.
         | 
         | If we could look back in time and see things just as they were
         | I think it would be disconcerting how many little details we
         | remember wrong that our mind fills in, without us realizing it.
        
           | simonh wrote:
           | I did that once. After I snuck back into the house I heard
           | our 3 year old say to my wife "Mummy, did you know that Santa
           | Clause looks like my Daddy?"
        
           | denton-scratch wrote:
           | As a parent-governor, the headmaster shanghai'ed me into
           | performing as Father Christmas; I had to put on the costume,
           | and go round all the classrooms going "ho ho ho".
           | 
           | When I got to my daughter's classroom, she didn't recognize
           | me. But some other kids did; they told her "That's your
           | Dad!". She was mortified, and burst into tears.
           | 
           | I always despised the Father Christmas lie, and I should have
           | refused; but the headmaster was very dominant and
           | manipulative.
        
           | anbende wrote:
           | Yes, I agree that "interpretation is all we have" is the
           | point they are trying to make. I also agree that there is an
           | important point there. Memories are often not what we think
           | they are.
           | 
           | However, in the story, the author did NOT have a memory of
           | breaking a woman's back. He had a memory of getting in an
           | accident. He interpreted it as his fault. He was _told_ that
           | he broke her back. Not his interpretation. It was a belief
           | about events that he wasn't present to (what happened in the
           | woman's car and inside the woman's body) not really any
           | different than anything else we're told but don't witness
           | firsthand. It sounds like it may even have been a lie the
           | police told him to scare him.
           | 
           | Your story is different because you did have an actual
           | experience and misinterpreted it's meaning (man in red suit =
           | real Santa Claus).
        
             | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
             | I am not sure that differentiating between "that which I
             | physically sensed with my own body" and "information I
             | received from others" leads to particularly good place.
             | Yes, we should probably put a little more weight on things
             | we experienced, but even they are subject to massive
             | differences of interpretation based on prior experience and
             | knowledge. Humanity has made enormous strides by being able
             | to believe in information we obtained from others, and
             | discarding that is something I am convinced does not lead
             | to positive outcomes.
             | 
             | I acknowledge that not discarding it can also lead to
             | negative outcomes, as in TFA.
        
               | anbende wrote:
               | I agree with this point. I hadn't meant to suggest that
               | we should discard information received from others.
               | 
               | But I think it would be crazy to not to differentiate
               | between immediate experience and what we've been told.
               | Not even because immediate experience is always more
               | accurate. Sometimes it is NOT, but it's a different
               | source of information subject to different problems.
               | Often more trustworthy but not always, though the "not
               | always" can be ameliorated a bit by understanding some of
               | the limits of personal experience.
               | 
               | I was really only taking issue with "interpretation is
               | all we have" applying in the original story - that there
               | is a difference between "my interpretation about
               | something I experienced" and "my beliefs about a thing I
               | did not experience".
               | 
               | Yes the author's story changed, but it changed because he
               | found out that he was lied to by the police (or perhaps,
               | if we want to be generous, "unintentionally misled") not
               | because his memory was fallible.
               | 
               | To get back to the point I took issue with, in the story
               | "the facts" mattered an awful lot. It was a lack of
               | access to the facts that caused the problem not "an
               | incorrect interpretation" of what the author experienced.
               | The latter happens all the time, but interpreting our
               | experience differently (e.g., reprocessing a traumatic
               | memory with self-compassion and seeing it as unfortunate
               | and something to learn from) is a different thing than
               | finding out what we were told was a lie. Both change our
               | story, but one is indeed a reinterpretation and the other
               | is a change in belief or knowledge.
               | 
               | I think it's important to separate those two things. I
               | think some want to treat them as the same. I think that
               | can cause problems.
        
               | javert wrote:
               | I am impressed with the clarity of your thinking on this.
               | Since you value epistemological hygiene, you might like
               | Ayn Rand's work in metaphysics and epistemology.
        
         | travisjungroth wrote:
         | This story made me realize a common pattern. A story in your
         | life may lead to an insight. This does not mean the series of
         | events make a good argument, like the conclusion is supported
         | by the events that lead up to it.
         | 
         | I think that's what happened here. Author carries guilt about
         | an event. Finds out the guilt was unfounded. This makes them
         | realize a story can change at any moment. So _you_ can change a
         | story at any moment, change the narrative around a situation.
         | 
         | Is this conclusion supported by the story? To your point, no,
         | not really. That doesn't mean it's wrong or absurd, either.
         | There may have been a ton of other information in the author's
         | head and this event unlocked it. Maybe it will for some
         | readers, to. But it's not something that will stand up to
         | scrutiny.
        
       | yakshaving_jgt wrote:
       | Fair point. Indeed, Oceania has always been at war with Eastasia.
        
       | hnmullany wrote:
       | "The Sense of an Ending" is a good book (then movie) with this
       | theme (although in the opposite way)
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Sense_of_an_Ending
        
       | dmje wrote:
       | There's certainly a lot of baggage carried by almost everyone
       | almost all the time. We spend a big chunk of our lives worrying
       | that X thing will happen, and another big chunk of our lives
       | worrying that Y thing did happen.
       | 
       | And yet we only ever live in now, so the baggage that we carry
       | can be adapted. For some of this - eg in the case of trauma -
       | it's severe, and difficult, and requires lots of working through
       | with therapy and drugs etc, and sometimes you just can't escape
       | the fear or the past. But sometimes if you spend time examining
       | what the fear or regret or guilt or whatever actually is, what it
       | actually feels like, you can come to understand it much better -
       | and it is possible to make peace with these feelings.
       | 
       | MBSR / meditation / psychedelics / etc are all about providing
       | new forms of perspective to help manage and come to understand
       | these different angles.
        
       | WA wrote:
       | In an alternate universe: the lady couldn't walk, got obese and
       | died of a heart attack 10 years ago.
       | 
       | So, the past isn't true until it is and then, maybe, it's even
       | worse.
       | 
       | Not sure what to make of this story.
        
         | libraryatnight wrote:
         | It reads more like someone wrote it at 17 imagining what it'd
         | be like to cripple someone and have this elaborate 'moment'
         | where all is forgiven because nothing is real.
        
         | dubeye wrote:
         | My exact response too. I guess the point of the story stands
         | either way, so you might as well pick the positive outcome.
        
         | keepamovin wrote:
         | Reminds me of: https://thedailyzen.org/2015/03/20/zen-story-
         | maybe/
         | 
         |  _There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his
         | crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing
         | the news, his neighbors came to visit. "Such bad luck," they
         | said sympathetically. "Maybe," the farmer replied._
         | 
         |  _The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three
         | other wild horses. "How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed.
         | "Maybe," replied the old man._
         | 
         |  _The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed
         | horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came
         | to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. "Maybe," answered
         | the farmer._
         | 
         |  _The day after, military officials came to the village to
         | draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was
         | broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the
         | farmer on how well things had turned out. "Maybe," said the
         | farmer._
        
           | bze12 wrote:
           | this story is in Charlie Wilson's War
           | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e2cjVhUrmII
        
           | BatFastard wrote:
           | This is a rip off of the story "Ed" told in the TV show
           | "Northern Exposure", but it has always been one of my
           | favorites from that show.
        
             | sharkjacobs wrote:
             | I don't know exactly when that episode of Northern Exposure
             | aired but this story dates back to 2nd century BCE[1]
             | 
             | [1]https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_old_man_lost_his_horse
        
               | tivert wrote:
               | > I don't know exactly when that episode of Northern
               | Exposure aired but this story dates back to 2nd century
               | BCE[1]
               | 
               | > [1]https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_old_man_lost_his_h
               | orse
               | 
               | That Wikipedia page was created in 2020. Northern
               | Exposure predates that.
               | 
               | Going with the OP's theme: if we repeat the GP's comment
               | enough times, over a long enough period, we can change
               | history and then history would _really_ show it to have
               | originated from the  "story "Ed" told in the TV show
               | 'Northern Exposure.'"
        
               | wpietri wrote:
               | That only shows how wily the Chinese are about IP theft,
               | building time-viewing technology 2,000 years ago so that
               | they could rip off American pop culture. Especially
               | clever of them to steal things that sound like ancient
               | parables and plant them in ancient times.
        
             | Etheryte wrote:
             | Taoism has its root run back to at least the 4th century
             | BCE, and quite possibly earlier. Even though this specific
             | telling is probably considerably newer, it carries motives
             | that are very common in Taoism in general. Claiming that
             | the story is then a rip-off from a TV show from the 90s
             | is... Well, it's possible, but not very likely.
        
             | notacoward wrote:
             | Maybe you shouldn't have used "rip off" unless you were
             | _absolutely_ sure that you had the relationship the right
             | way around. And it seems you didn 't. There's a lesson to
             | be learned there.
        
               | mega_dingus wrote:
               | Maybe
        
           | thieving_magpie wrote:
           | Complete tangent here. My favorite book to read my kids is
           | Zen Shorts by Jon J Muth.
           | 
           | It features a panda named Stillwater who tells this story
           | (among others) in it.
        
             | javert wrote:
             | I would highly recommend "The Parent's Tao Te Ching" by
             | William Martin.
             | 
             | It's a retelling of the Tao Te Ching into plain English,
             | using parent/child relationships to make the points.
             | 
             | I recommend this both to parents, and to children. Which is
             | all of us. We never stop being children of our parents.
             | 
             | I don't have children, nor do I plan to, yet this is one of
             | the most powerful books I've read.
        
       | none_to_remain wrote:
       | This is a versatile trick, it works for cars with one victim and
       | it works for camps with millions of victims
        
       | chad1n wrote:
       | Once, my physics teacher from high school told the class that the
       | only history we should "trust" is the one that we rationally felt
       | and maybe, the one that was told by our parents, while the other
       | historical "facts" are just the result of tons and tons of
       | interpretations of random people that you end up taking as
       | universal "truths".
        
         | vacuity wrote:
         | By that model I wouldn't be able to say anything about the
         | Holocaust (extreme example, I know) or its implications.
        
       | electrondood wrote:
       | Not only the past, but all thoughts of the future, all
       | interpretations about present events, all religions, all
       | expressions in any language, even the seemingly separate self
       | "you" take yourself to be... the very center of the narrative,
       | are all only stories.
       | 
       | They are only conceptual representations made of thought.
        
       | lo_zamoyski wrote:
       | A couple things are being confused by the author. Correcting bad
       | memories is one thing. That occurs when we receive new evidence
       | or knowledge that contradicts the memory. This is simply your
       | every day revision of beliefs in practice. Nothing new to see
       | here. But note: there is a justification here. There is knowledge
       | that motivates the revision. There is also good will, a desire to
       | submit to the truth. Willfulness, on the other hand, puts what we
       | _want_ to be the case _above_ what _is_ the case. This is at the
       | core of pride, queen of the vices, and delusion.
       | 
       | "History is not true. You can change history. The actual factual
       | events are such a small part of the story."
       | 
       | Well...no. Facts are a huge page of the story. They're kind of
       | the whole point, if by facts we mean that which is true (the word
       | "fact" is problematic, but the quotation, as well as the title of
       | the article, draw an equivalence between fact and truth). We may
       | not have all the facts, we may be mistaken about them, or we may
       | not yet have inferred some truth. And where we can't reasonable
       | know the truth, we will simply lack that knowledge, leaving us
       | capable of only speculating about possibilities. But there is a
       | truth of the matter. It's not whatever you want it to be.
       | 
       | Once in the past, facts are immutable, as it were. That the past
       | only exists as a memory does not give you license to toy with
       | that memory in one direction or the other, in your (ostensible)
       | favor. I say "ostensible" because willful self-deception (which
       | is what attempts to tweak memories is) does a few things that are
       | harmful. First, it destroys our connection with reality. I don't
       | think I need to explain why that's bad. Second, denial is
       | repression of uncomfortable truths (or at least what we hold to
       | be true), and not like overwriting a file on disk. It's more like
       | sweeping a dangerous animal under the rug. It reach out from
       | under and bite you, you will trip over it even when it is
       | sleeping. Occasionally, it will lash out from under the rug and
       | cause terror. There will always be a lingering anxiety about the
       | ever present possibility that it will escape from under our
       | control and attack us or something we care about. A repressed
       | truth introduces all sorts of weird tensions into the psyche,
       | perverting our perception of reality, enslaving us to fear.
       | That's the paradox: caging uncomfortable truths makes them our
       | greatest enemy and gives them power over us. Acknowledging them
       | sets us free. Repression is only something we use to suppress
       | inappropriate impulses or desires (the basis for self-discipline
       | and the moral life), not the truth; indeed, failing to repress
       | inappropriate impulses alienates us from the truth, not least of
       | all because it entails a repression of the truth to enable the
       | indulgence of that desire and a weakening of the intellectual
       | faculties. Repressing guilt always leads to self-destruction.
       | It's why human history is full of human and animal sacrifice.
       | (It's also why, in Christianity, God provides Himself as the
       | perfect sacrifice, _as the Lamb of God_ , bloodlessly offered at
       | each Catholic mass on the _altar_ , and why the sacrament of
       | penance exists: to accuse oneself before God and receive
       | absolution.) Guilt will destroy you, but denial only doubles its
       | power, not to mention the added guilt of having repressed the
       | guilt. The psychotherapy industry is funded by the guilty
       | conscience. But if you think denial is some kind of escape hatch,
       | sorry. That ways lies madness.
        
       | sirodoht wrote:
       | "Who controls the past controls the future. Who controls the
       | present controls the past."
       | 
       | -- George Orwell
        
         | cortesoft wrote:
         | I never knew this was the source of the Rage Against the
         | Machine lyric.
        
       | philipov wrote:
       | I think this story is meant to be uplifting to those who are
       | troubled by their past, but to me, I just see all the politicians
       | and grifters looking on hungrily like "Yeaaaaaah?"
        
         | dandanua wrote:
         | Yeah, many corrupt politicians, fascists, murderers and other
         | criminals would love the idea that "the past is not true". I'd
         | bet that the story is fake because of the conclusion "you can
         | change history". Both of them didn't change the history, they
         | have changed their knowledge about history, which was given to
         | them by third parties.
        
       | keepamovin wrote:
       | He's saying what happened, happened. What you make it mean, is up
       | to you. The story you tell yourself, is a story you can rewrite.
       | 
       | This beautiful story is one of the truest things I've read on HN
       | in 8 years.
       | 
       | This guy lived crippled by what the story he told himself about
       | what happened for half his life. Then with a new story, a new
       | encounter, he set himself free. Incredibly brave to tell this
       | tale. Some people live in their story about something for their
       | whole lives. They never do rewrite what they make it mean into
       | one that works better for them. People live imprisoned by things
       | that happened 40 years in the past. It's so sad to see, but so
       | common.
       | 
       | It's true that you can revisit the trauma of the past, and
       | transform it and yourself. It will probably sound like woo, but
       | it's not. Lots of protocols now being tested in studies that
       | combine guided traumatic memory replay, with an adjuvant, like
       | inderol (to create emotional distance), or psylocybin (to help
       | shift perspective), all with the goal of producing a
       | transformative reorientation of your relationship to the past
       | trauma. Powerful stuff. "Plant medicine" retreats run in the
       | Caribbean, the Netherlands, and Central America (iboga,
       | ayahuasca) have similar aims: re-experiencing the traumatic
       | memory through an altered state aids you in rewriting your story
       | about it, and helps you get new liberating perspective and
       | transform what you make what happened mean for you.
       | 
       | If you think you suffer from that kind of traumatic memory, you
       | probably already know what I'm talking about. If not, I encourage
       | you to investigate it for yourself. :)
        
         | carapace wrote:
         | Just wanted to add that you don't need external chemicals to do
         | this sort of thing. It's pretty easy to learn to enter trance
         | at will and then do things like, e.g. "Parental Timeline Re-
         | imprinting" where you go back in time, give your parents
         | resources to be better, then live forward a whole new life with
         | the new, resourceful parents. Afterward your nervous system
         | will respond as if the fictional, imaginary life was real. (The
         | brain is an evolved organ, it always chooses the best available
         | options. There isn't really any free will, because evolution.)
         | Of course, this only really helps if lousy parenting was a
         | source of your current problems.
        
       | pdonis wrote:
       | The article's main point is that you can change the story, but
       | the actual example he gives is a change in the _facts_ --the
       | actual facts weren't what he thought they were. _That_ is why the
       | story changed--because he found out that the actual facts weren
       | 't as bad as the "facts" he had previously believed were true.
       | 
       | So it's not true that "the actual facts are a small part of the
       | story". They _are_ the story; you can 't change the story unless
       | you find out the facts were different. At least, not if you're
       | being honest.
        
         | gochi wrote:
         | >actual facts
         | 
         | You see how quickly you are to believe these are the "actual
         | facts"? That's how quickly they were to believe their "actual
         | facts" as well.
         | 
         | That is the story. Not the facts. What we tell ourselves, what
         | we tell others. This is why they brought up memories, an
         | unstable collection of flashes in our mind, and we use these to
         | craft a story. The story has changed, and will continue to
         | change, you're in the process of writing it right now.
         | 
         | Unless you don't believe in free will and that your
         | story/stories are already written. That's a very fun thought!
         | 
         | This is why "facts" is misleading here. We aren't talking about
         | observed realities (she is going to the park, I am eating an
         | ice cream), we're talking about our feelings, thoughts,
         | memories, perceived consequences, ambitions, projections,
         | assumptions. None of these are objective. Despite our best
         | attempt to come together and make it so.
        
           | gtirloni wrote:
           | So both of them based their story on flimsy/incomplete
           | evidence and they keep reshaping their stories.
           | 
           | If only there were an objective reality to know which car was
           | in the wrong. /s
        
             | pdonis wrote:
             | _> If only there were an objective reality to know which
             | car was in the wrong._
             | 
             | That's not what I was referring to as a change in facts.
             | The change I was referring to is that he thought the woman
             | was permanently disabled, but then found out she wasn't.
             | That's the key fact that enabled both of them to change
             | their stories about what happened. The fact that the woman
             | also believed the accident was her fault was a nice bit of
             | icing on the cake, but it wasn't the key fact.
        
             | function_seven wrote:
             | Sorry if I'm misinterpreting the /s here, but:
             | 
             | > _If only there were an objective reality to know which
             | car was in the wrong /s_
             | 
             | This, but sincerely! Problem is there isn't an objective
             | reality to know which car was in the wrong. There's only
             | each participants' recollection of the event--both flawed.
             | She thought her inattention was the cause of the wreck, he
             | thought his failing to yield was the cause. Who is right?
             | Both of them? Just her? Just him? 80% him, 20% her?
             | 
             | There is no objective way to answer any of this. What
             | happened during that accident only exists today in the
             | minds of the drivers. Sure, you can look at photos of the
             | aftermath and determine that this fender was bent, or that
             | airbag deployed. But you can't get a similar (objective)
             | level of understanding about the actions of the drivers
             | leading up to the wreck.
             | 
             | When they met, he learned that she was not paralyzed (and
             | that his understanding of the past was wrong in that
             | aspect), and she learned that he blamed himself rather than
             | blaming her. By comparing notes, they both got a better
             | version of "the past" in their minds, but there's still
             | room for more variances and disagreements on what exactly
             | happened.
             | 
             | There may be an objective reality. But there's no way we
             | can completely understand it. We can only know what our
             | limited senses tell us. As time marches on, those senses
             | get recorded in memories, and further distorted. For the
             | tiny slice of events that get recorded in audio, video,
             | contemporaneous notes, etc.; we have even better
             | understanding. But those methods of capturing events still
             | leave a lot out. You can hear the words, but not the
             | thoughts. You can see the actions, but not the motivations.
             | You can read the written diary, but there are no entries
             | there for things considered irrelevant by the author.
             | 
             | There are untold numbers of events that occurred millennia
             | ago that we know absolutely nothing about. But they
             | contribute to how the world works today just the same. Long
             | after the cause is lost to time, the effect chain keeps
             | adding links.
        
           | antisthenes wrote:
           | > You see how quickly you are to believe these are the
           | "actual facts"?
           | 
           | The actual facts is that a person who is walking is certainly
           | not a person who "has irreversible spine damage and can't
           | walk as a result".
           | 
           | The rest is absolutely irrelevant and philosophical bike-
           | shedding.
        
           | pdonis wrote:
           | _> You see how quickly you are to believe these are the
           | "actual facts"?_
           | 
           | I am taking the author at his word that when he reports
           | something as fact, he is not lying. If you think he's lying,
           | then obviously we're not going to find any common ground
           | here.
           | 
           |  _> We aren 't talking about observed realities (she is going
           | to the park, I am eating an ice cream)_
           | 
           | Um, yes, we are. The woman was _not_ permanently disabled,
           | although he previously thought she was. That 's not a
           | "feeling", "thought", "flash in the mind". It's a fact.
           | Unless you think the author was lying.
        
       | aristofun wrote:
       | The story is not about past, but about how many middlemen there
       | these days.
       | 
       | And how people got used to not taking responsibility for their
       | own actions, communication etc.
       | 
       | People are not speaking directly anymore, only through layers of
       | unnecessary, corrupted, stupid and ignorant lawyers, insurance
       | companies, agents and other meaningless units.
        
       | thenerdhead wrote:
       | > The actual factual events are such a small part of the story.
       | Everything else is interpretation.
       | 
       | This is why it is important to forgive your parents. They
       | interpret events differently and it usually isn't until you
       | become a parent yourself do you develop enough empathy to see how
       | those interpretations came to be.
        
         | anbende wrote:
         | Oof, as a psychologist that deals a lot with people who were
         | abused and mistreated, this is a pretty big generalization.
         | 
         | Yes, as we age we come to see things from a more experienced
         | perspective and the perspectives of the adults we grew up with
         | and change, but going all the way to "that is why it is
         | important to forgive your parents" is a big big step.
         | 
         | It is typically a good idea to try to get to forgiveness,
         | you're right, but there's a lot of very indefensible behavior
         | out there.
        
           | thanksbucko wrote:
           | You may have a skewed view of the frequency of that level of
           | abuse, due to the (very important) work you do. When it comes
           | to humans there are exceptions to every rule, but not every
           | single exception needs be called out. Not everything is
           | "problematic" nor worth an "oof".
        
             | anbende wrote:
             | It's simply an example, though a somewhat extreme one, of
             | the problem with the GP's generalization.
             | 
             | I think it actually relates to the original article.
             | There's a difference between mere interpretation and what
             | actually happened.
             | 
             | "You should forgive your parents, because one day you'll be
             | older and see their perspective" collapses "interpretations
             | develop and mature" with "some events are a problem".
             | 
             | Both can be forgiven and it's probably a good idea to do
             | so. I think it's not helpful to generalize in that way.
             | 
             | Also abuse happens a lot. It may not be the majority but it
             | is NOT rare.
             | 
             | I stand by my objection in this case
        
             | mrguyorama wrote:
             | We have statistics and they are not pretty. The CDC reports
             | that 1 out of every 7 children have experienced child abuse
             | or neglect in the last year. That doesn't even include
             | stuff that technically isn't abuse or neglect but rather
             | just damaging parenting: Plenty of kids had their parents
             | impress upon them some personal neurosis out of their own
             | traumatized problems, and now you start another cycle of
             | that person causing issues in their kids unless they get
             | help for that or find ways to avoid it.
             | 
             | I would consider one out of seven to be "problematic" and
             | "oof" worthy
        
           | simonh wrote:
           | I think it's fair to say it's something we should all strive
           | for if we're able.
        
           | thenerdhead wrote:
           | Forgiveness is a loaded word.
           | 
           | I am not talking about forgiveness as an act, but as an
           | attitude here. You probably know better than most of us what
           | that means.
           | 
           | The attitude can be generalized as you just did in even your
           | response. The act however, shouldn't.
        
         | simonh wrote:
         | Yep, flaws I saw in how my parents brought me up definitely
         | informed the way I approached bringing up my kids. But then I
         | look at the childhoods my parents had, and honestly they did a
         | heck of a lot better job than I could have had any right to
         | expect. So I think overall I did pretty well, with lessons to
         | learn for sure, but it's only fair to think of it as an
         | iterative process.
        
           | thenerdhead wrote:
           | It is surely a humbling experience. Thank you for sharing!
        
           | Goronmon wrote:
           | I've had the opposite experience where as I've grown older
           | and had kids of my own, I've began to judge my parent's even
           | more harshly than I had when I was younger.
        
         | mike_ivanov wrote:
         | That sounds as understanding, not forgiving. I think that when
         | it comes to parents, understanding makes forgiving unnecessary,
         | as there is actually nothing to forgive. Except for the cases
         | of actual, malicious abuse, of course.
        
       | foobarbecue wrote:
       | The conclusion to this article should have been: it's important
       | to study the past, and find out what the truth is. Memory is
       | fallible, and people often misunderstand or lie. But by
       | investigating -- going to more people, consulting more sources,
       | you can get closer to knowing what really happened.
       | 
       | Finding and preserving the truth about the past is more important
       | than ever. Truth is under attack from all sides, with politicians
       | moving the Overton window on lying, LLMs, the decline of
       | centralized news, fake reviews and comment farms.
       | 
       | If the author meant to say "History is often wrong and
       | surprisingly easy to set right with a bit of investigation,"
       | great, but "The past is not true" is an absurd and harmful
       | statement. How would you feel if I hit you with my car and ran,
       | or tried to overturn an election and then said "I'm not guilty
       | because the past is not true"?
        
         | mmusson wrote:
         | The question is what you really believe to be true. If your car
         | hit me and you truly didn't remember it that way then you are
         | proving the author's point.
         | 
         | Maybe you do remember hitting me. There will still be
         | innumerable questions that you couldn't answer because they
         | were out of your perception in the moment. What if it turns out
         | that in hitting me you stopped me from running over an old
         | lady.
         | 
         | Whether or not you learn of that detail will have a big effect
         | on how you remember the accident.
        
           | foobarbecue wrote:
           | Right. The past is true, but your memories are flawed, and
           | your experience is incomplete. You have to make an effort to
           | get the facts right. To get a full understanding of any
           | situation, a good start is to talk to anyone you can who was
           | there when it happened.
        
             | mistermann wrote:
             | The tricky part is: that's also often a good way to get a
             | _misunderstanding_.
             | 
             | Above you say "tried to overturn an election" - I'm not
             | sure who it is you are referring to here, but that charge
             | was laid at the feet of thousands of January 6th protesters
             | by thousands of journalists and armchair experts, _few of
             | whom even ever considered if that was the actual intent of
             | the people_.
             | 
             | People often don't wonder what is true, because they are
             | not able to even try.
        
       | b450 wrote:
       | Anytime some even vaguely anti-realist claim shows up in a HN
       | headline, such as "the past is not true", a bunch of predictable
       | and dull comments inevitably show up to perform some table
       | thumping about reality being factual and objective, likely paired
       | with some sanctimonious moral panic about the dangers of
       | relativism (normally with a political slant one way or another).
       | 
       | I think these comments are sincere and well-intentioned in their
       | concern for the truth, but I also think that they speak to the
       | impoverished state of anything like public philosophical
       | discourse today. Lest I waste too much time and emotional energy
       | on an internet comment, I'll wrap up by stating my endorsement of
       | the seemingly forgotten, and distinctly American philosophical
       | tradition of pragmatism. It is a picture in which truth and
       | falsity exists, but being products of inquiry, experience,
       | adversarial disagreement, and experiment, remain permanently open
       | to revision. The pragmatist statement of the author's (fine)
       | thesis might be "the past is never finished", since the past
       | exists and is real, but our discoveries, experiences, interests,
       | etc. in the future might demand a revision or reinterpretation of
       | it.
        
         | 50 wrote:
         | worth looking into c.s. peirce's[1][2] pragmatism material
         | 
         | 1: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/John-
         | Sowa-2/publication...
         | 
         | 2: https://newcriterion.com/issues/1997/11/vulgar-rortyism
        
         | jajag wrote:
         | > "the past is never finished"
         | 
         | Very well said.
        
       | brudgers wrote:
       | It's not even past.
        
       | whispersnow wrote:
       | There's also a chance he went to apologize and never get a relief
       | or forgiveness as the person was really paralyzed. It is not fair
       | to judge based on the result. Mistake made, apologize
       | immediately, don't wait. And take the consequences whether it is
       | good or bad - that's a true move on from the past.
        
       | BSEdlMMldESB wrote:
       | history doesn't exist. at most we have "historiography": the made
       | up mythical tale of the past[3]. why? it's easier to
       | remember[2,4]
       | 
       | in oral cultures people just re-adjust their memory,
       | subconsciously[1]
       | 
       | in written culture, people burn books, driven by their
       | leaders.[2]
       | 
       | in transitional cultures, 'bad' comments are donwvoted, or
       | moderated away, or the users get shadowbanned[2]
       | 
       | [1] "Orality and Literacy" by Walter J. Ong, An american jesuit
       | monk and academic.
       | 
       | [2] I made this up just now
       | 
       | [3] my highschool history teacher taught me this
       | 
       | [4] arguably, [1] also says this
        
         | denton-scratch wrote:
         | I think you're wrong about historiography (and your highschool
         | history teacher too).
         | 
         | "History" is accounts (stories) about the past.
         | 
         | "Historiography" isn't about the past; it's an account of how
         | historians "do" history. I mean, historiography would include
         | accounts of how past historians used to do history.
        
           | BSEdlMMldESB wrote:
           | > I think you're wrong about historiography (and your
           | highschool history teacher too).
           | 
           | you're wrong about me being wrong. I remembered a little
           | better now:
           | 
           | "there is no history, the proper name of this subject is
           | historiography" he taught us this
           | 
           | but also, your reply suggests you missed the point (and my
           | teacher's) that there is no history, it's all accounts by
           | some "historian"
           | 
           | I would use the name meta-history, or 'philosophy of history'
           | for what you describe as 'historiography'.
           | 
           | then again, maybe you're just being nitpicky about things and
           | are focusing on what I said wrong instead of on the point i
           | was trying to make
           | 
           | further again, I cannot help but notice how going forwards
           | "metahistory" may even be understood as the story behind Mark
           | Zuckerberg's giant coorporation
        
             | denton-scratch wrote:
             | Well, I said that history consists of accounts (stories).
             | 
             | I agree that what I (and most historians) call
             | "historiography" could be called "meta-history". But that
             | activity already has a name; we don't need to construct a
             | new term (with a Greek prefix and a Latin suffix) to stand-
             | in for a word that already works fine.
             | 
             | Historiography isn't some handwavey version of the past;
             | it's the study of how historians do their work. That's the
             | word historians use. Honestly, I think your history teacher
             | got the wrong end of the stick.
             | 
             | Like, Humpty Dumpty had a point: you can use words to mean
             | whatever you want. But it's not helpful for intelligent
             | discourse to redefine commonly-understood terms.
        
               | BSEdlMMldESB wrote:
               | yes, it's usually the end of the stick they give to
               | people in countries other than 1st world
               | 
               | it is in a sense poetic that the stick is sourced in the
               | 3rd world
               | 
               | but I get it, you're both, correctly nitpicking and I'm
               | wrong. this is the hierarchy of the "worlds". I feel
               | really bad now, highly recommended.
               | 
               | nonetheless, you refuse the deeper point. may somebody
               | form the 0th world help you
        
       | zacksiri wrote:
       | It's not that the past is not true. The past is true, what was
       | reported is not. We know very clearly where the problem lies. The
       | media is a lie. Headlines like "she'll never walk again" sells
       | more than "she'll be fine".
        
         | rob74 wrote:
         | Your statement is only partly true. The article just says "I
         | found out that I broke the other driver's spine, and she'll
         | never walk again" - so you're reading into it that he read it
         | in a newspaper, but maybe it was just hearsay from someone who
         | talked to someone who worked at the hospital who had talked to
         | the doctor who may have treated her (or maybe someone else who
         | also had a car accident that day)? I think the vague
         | formulation is intentional to make it apply more widely.
         | 
         | But I agree with the point that it's not "the past" that's at
         | fault here, it's unreliable sources of information.
        
           | zacksiri wrote:
           | Yes I did assume the "news" being local news media covering
           | the case. I guess this is a prime example of what could have
           | also happened. Sweet irony.
        
         | tivert wrote:
         | > It's not that the past is not true. The past is true, what
         | was reported is not.
         | 
         | How do you know the past even exists? All you have is memory
         | and reports, which are unreliable. You can only make the
         | _assumption_ that  "the past is true."
         | 
         | > We know very clearly where the problem lies. The media is a
         | lie.
         | 
         | You're understating that. It's not just "the media" boogeyman,
         | it's memory and records that are the problem. They're never
         | complete and always get stuff wrong.
        
           | QuadmasterXLII wrote:
           | https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/X3HpE8tMXz4m4w6Rz/the-
           | simple...
        
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       | athenot wrote:
       | This touches on Narrative Therapy. Events happened, yes. Facts
       | are immutable and can't be changed or wished away simply because
       | they are inconvenient.
       | 
       | Rather, _how_ we make sense of them--and internalize them--
       | affects our lives in significant ways, especially if the
       | prevaling narrative we believe about ourselves prevents us from
       | thriving.
       | 
       | https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/narrative-t...
        
         | frankthedog wrote:
         | Similar message, among many other valuable bits, in the book
         | The Courage to be Disliked. Very good read, no fluff like a lot
         | of psychology books. The title is misleading, there's a strong
         | element of being helpful to others rather than being disliked.
         | I'd recommend it to anyone.
        
           | akkad33 wrote:
           | I've read this book and many others like it. I completely
           | agree with your assessment. I felt really good when I read
           | this book and others. But afterwards I go back to feeling bad
           | about myself as always
        
       | rodelrod wrote:
       | "History is not true. You can change history. The actual factual
       | events are such a small part of the story. Everything else is
       | interpretation."
       | 
       | OK, you've discovered post-modernism.
       | 
       | Next step is to avoid its pitfalls.
       | 
       | The actual factual events are infinite and one is exposed to a
       | small subset to interpret. That does not mean you're allowed to
       | make up, distort, and selectively ignore facts to suit whatever
       | narrative you'd like to push. You need to construct the narrative
       | in good faith, based on the best possible set of facts you're
       | exposed to, and adjusting it when you're exposed to new facts.
       | 
       | Unless you want to organize a cult or a totalitarian regime, in
       | which case go as crazy as possible with the narrative. People
       | love it.
        
         | hef19898 wrote:
         | History is absolutely true, factually true at that. Facts are
         | sometimes hard to come by, heck some facks of modern history
         | are still classified, but that does not give people carte
         | blanche to make up stuff as they go...
         | 
         | Like yeah, he was in an accident, media misreported it. Thing
         | is so, how comes he, and the women, never knew who was at
         | fault? Insuramce sure did some investigation as did police. Not
         | knowing the facts, and coming to conclusions based on feelings,
         | is the problem. But it doesn't mean history is wrong...
        
           | rgrieselhuber wrote:
           | And if he was driving recklessly that fact doesn't change
           | simply because the other driver also wasn't paying attention
           | and didn't blame him for it. Past mistakes are also painful
           | to remember but the best way to deal with them is to
           | acknowledge the reality and then change what you need to in
           | your character to make sure we don't repeat them.
        
           | ttonkytonk wrote:
           | History is true, but the history anyone knows is selective, a
           | mental model, often guessed or interpreted, and usually
           | secondhand information.
        
             | pixl97 wrote:
             | Thermodynamics is true, everything else is an
             | interpretation.
        
             | jvm___ wrote:
             | Reality is true, but the reality anyone knows is selective,
             | a mental model, often guessed or interpreted, and usually
             | secondhand information.
        
               | mistermann wrote:
               | Is "the reality anyone knows" not also part of greater
               | aggregate reality though (conflicting with reality is
               | true), or is it an ontological component of something
               | else?
        
             | hef19898 wrote:
             | The worst historical accounts, if lookrd at without
             | context, are _first hand_ ones... Those are the most
             | selective and subjective takes you can have.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | Which is why nobody considers it good practice to do
               | anything with a SINGLE first hand source.
        
           | rhaway84773 wrote:
           | To some extent what you're disagreeing about is linguistics.
           | Is history the actual events that took place or our knowledge
           | of events that took place. And to be honest, there's also a
           | question of whether there'sa difference because what we don't
           | know about the past might as will not have happened.
        
       | jklinger410 wrote:
       | I hate hyperbole. The correct title is that your memory of the
       | past is incorrect.
        
       | ideamotor wrote:
       | We lose this when everything is recorded forever.
       | 
       | Stated more eloquently:
       | https://twitter.com/BrianRoemmele/status/1681340407857422336...:
       | 
       | "I need to say this, even if it does not make sense until decades
       | ahead:
       | 
       | Human intelligence and a foundation of consciousness is just as
       | much the ability to forget somethings as it is to remember.
       | 
       | We will have to face eternal memories with AI technologies and
       | this will be hard."
       | 
       | I'd replace AI with just IT in general. Relatedly, I used to
       | believe in digital rot but now I'm not sure. I can for example
       | search all the photos on my phone instantly to return images with
       | a given text string. So the technology is improving to comprehend
       | any data format and effectively retain its data.
        
         | wbobeirne wrote:
         | > We lose this when everything is recorded forever.
         | 
         | I'd argue the opposite, we've amplified this affect. Off-hand
         | statements from the past recorded forever get re-examined
         | through a new lens in the present. What previously might have
         | been totally innocuous become a scandal later. Whenever someone
         | rockets into being main character for the day on the internet,
         | their entire history is pulled up and re-assessed.
         | 
         | So like many things, it's amplified by the internet, but
         | largely for the negative.
        
         | 0xCMP wrote:
         | Data, information, doesn't rot, but code does because it relies
         | on the implicit promises of the underlying system(s) it runs on
         | top of, the systems it interacts with, and the expectations of
         | it's users.
         | 
         | Information on the other hand usually only gets more useful
         | with time with very minimal relative-cost to maintaining code
         | even though they're both digital.
         | 
         | And, like we're seeing, a lot of the "usefulness" of the
         | information over time is new methods and tools for
         | understanding that information.
        
           | pyinstallwoes wrote:
           | That distinction is not rigorous. To be rigorous the
           | distinction must not be made.
        
           | polygotdomain wrote:
           | >Data, information, doesn't rot...
           | 
           | Can you tell me what hieroglyphics mean? What about a phrase
           | of latin or another dead language? Information is only as
           | "fresh" as our ability to interpret and understand it. Dead
           | languagues are the same as a file who's format we no longer
           | have the spec for. Yes, the ones and zeros may still be
           | there, but without the ability to understand what they mean,
           | there's little we can do with that information. We're still
           | at risk of losing those capabilities for data.
        
         | rcoveson wrote:
         | > Human intelligence and a foundation of consciousness is just
         | as much the ability to forget somethings as it is to remember.
         | 
         | What's the word for something that's phrased like wisdom but
         | doesn't hold up at all to mild scrutiny?
         | 
         | " _Just as much_ the ability to _forget_ as to _remember_ ",
         | feh. One of those things is a bit more important, isn't it?
        
           | ambicapter wrote:
           | The entire point of the quote is that the answer to your
           | question is "No".
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | Jun8 wrote:
       | For an excellent story on this theme you can read Ted Chiang's "
       | The Merchant and the Alchemist's Gate"
       | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Merchant_and_the_Alchemi....
       | 
       | I think it's one his best.
        
       | 123sereusername wrote:
       | why is this even worth talking about?
        
       | bookofjoe wrote:
       | >The past is never dead. It's not even past.
       | 
       | -- William Faulkner, 'Requiem for a Nun' (1951)
        
       | signa11 wrote:
       | check out the movie 'rashomon' by kurosawa, one incident recalled
       | from different folks and it is all colored by their own
       | perspective, Truth, is hard to glean.
        
       | tppiotrowski wrote:
       | I had this moment during the Covid pandemic. I read a lot of
       | history and I saw pictures of the Spanish influenza and was told
       | it killed more people than WW1. Somehow I pictured the world in
       | the late 1910s with everyone sick and in hospital but now I think
       | it was more like Covid. People got sick and died but life went on
       | and some people were completely unaffected. The world doesn't
       | grind to a halt for world wars and pandemics. People still have
       | kids and get married and start businesses and hike and play the
       | guitar, etc. History is just what we decide to deem important or
       | not.
        
         | nostrebored wrote:
         | The historical context also misses a lot of what we know about
         | the impact of malnutrition and stress on the immune system. Was
         | the spanish flu actually that bad, or was it actually a fairly
         | bad flu that wreaked havoc on a war-torn population?
         | 
         | Reconciling modern information with historical events is hard.
         | But I think it's completely necessary if we're going to make
         | policy decisions based on history.
        
           | gmarx wrote:
           | The Spanish flu really was very bad but would not have killed
           | as many people if it occurred today. Malnutrition might have
           | been a factor (though today's obesity rate might also be a
           | problem) but the bigger thing was lack of antibiotics. Flu
           | almost never kills you directly- it's the bacterial pneumonia
           | you develop on top of it that does. Without antibiotics back
           | then there would have been little they could do
        
             | mrguyorama wrote:
             | Bacterial Pneumonia was not the novel danger of the
             | "Spanish" flu; They cytokine storm it caused in perfectly
             | healthy people was horrifying, with perfectly healthy
             | people who would normally fight off any flu dying from this
             | one. A lot of young twenty somethings, strong people who
             | were not malnourished died from it.
             | 
             | Hell, people got cytokine storms from COVID-19 and we still
             | can only treat it if we catch it really early, otherwise
             | it's still a great way to die for a normal person.
        
               | gmarx wrote:
               | That's a hypothesis. It is known that (supposedly) that
               | strain can cause cytokine storm more than other flus do.
               | I would not assume that means cytokine storm was the
               | primary cause of death or even the primary cause of death
               | in young adults. Based on my experience my guess is that
               | the pneumonia was a much bigger cause of death than the
               | storm
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | Right I wasn't expressing the cytokine storm as the
               | primary cause of death but rather a phenomenon that
               | definitely pushed it above a normal flu, especially for
               | healthy young adults.
        
           | munificent wrote:
           | _> Was the spanish flu actually that bad_
           | 
           | Yes.
           | 
           |  _> was it actually a fairly bad flu that wreaked havoc on a
           | war-torn population?_
           | 
           | No, because those affected worst by it were young adults in
           | relatively good health. Small children and the elderly were
           | proportionally spared. The prevailing theory for why Spanish
           | flu killed more healthy young adults was because it was an
           | over-reaction of the immune system itself that was most
           | harmful:
           | 
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cytokine_storm
           | 
           | It is definitely the case that the war led to many young
           | adults being moved around the world and kept in close
           | quarters, which certainly exacerbated the spread and effect
           | of the pandemic.
        
         | agumonkey wrote:
         | This is important, history will remember emotionally charged
         | comments but indeed a lot of what happens is "normal" and
         | forgotten. We could see that in syria or even ukraine.. the
         | geopolitical tension level was completely removed from most day
         | to day stream we could see.
         | 
         | I wonder if this bias/memory-capacity is studied, I assume so
         | but I don't know the name :)
        
         | sanderjd wrote:
         | I think this is an important lesson for folks struggling with
         | anxiety about what will happen with climate change as well. It
         | is already awful for lots of people and will continue to be,
         | increasingly so to some degree and up to some point, but like
         | it did during Covid and the Cold War and the world wars and the
         | flu pandemic, in aggregate, life will also go on.
         | 
         | But I think it's also important to remember that that's only
         | the case in aggregate. For many many individual people, life
         | did not go on during all these events (and all the other
         | tragedies that are constantly happening), they lost their own
         | lives, or their parents, or their children, or their friends.
         | 
         | I personally find it really hard to hold both of these truths
         | in my head at once.
        
         | TheAceOfHearts wrote:
         | Images play a big role in how events are perceived. Whenever
         | there's a natural disaster you tend to see all of the worst
         | examples, even if they're not fully representative of the
         | event. But I think it's sometimes necessary in order to get
         | people to take these events seriously, since they can
         | negatively affect so many people. Otherwise people might look
         | at images where some things look normal and think that those
         | who were most affected are overstating the impact of the event.
         | 
         | Another example that comes to mind is the 2020 protests. If I
         | looked at how conservative news was reporting on events, it
         | seemed utterly chaotic. But I had multiple friends that were
         | present at many local events, and they were all perfectly safe.
        
           | rexpop wrote:
           | If you are interested in images' role in public perception of
           | events--particularly suffering and tragedy--you might look to
           | read Susan Sontag's essay collection "Regarding the Pain of
           | Others," published in 2003:
           | 
           | > To the militant, identity is everything. And all
           | photographs wait to be explained or falsified by their
           | captions. During the fighting between Serbs and Croats at the
           | beginning of the recent Balkan wars, the same photographs of
           | children killed in the shelling of a village were passed
           | around at both Serb and Croat propaganda briefings. Alter the
           | caption, and the children's deaths could be used and reused.
           | 
           | > a single photograph or filmstrip claims to represent
           | exactly what was before the camera's lens. A photograph is
           | supposed not to evoke but to show. That is why photographs,
           | unlike handmade images, can count as evidence. But evidence
           | of what?
           | 
           | > Indeed, the very notion of atrocity, of war crime, is
           | associated with the expectation of photographic evidence.
           | Such evidence is, usually, of something posthumous.
           | 
           | > And, of course, atrocities that are not secured in our
           | minds by well-known photographic images, or of which we
           | simply have had very few images--the total extermination of
           | the Herero people in Namibia decreed by the German colonial
           | administration in 1904; the Japanese onslaught in China,
           | notably the massacre of nearly four hundred thousand, and the
           | rape of eighty thousand, Chinese in December 1937, the so-
           | called Rape of Nanking; the rape of some one hundred and
           | thirty thousand women and girls (ten thousand of whom
           | committed suicide) by victorious Soviet soldiers unleashed by
           | their commanding officers in Berlin in 1945--seem more
           | remote. These are memories that few have cared to claim.
           | 
           | > Shock can become familiar. Shock can wear off. Even if it
           | doesn't, one can not look. People have means to defend
           | themselves against what is upsetting--in this instance,
           | unpleasant information for those wishing to continue to
           | smoke. This seems normal, that is, adaptive. As one can
           | become habituated to horror in real life, one can become
           | habituated to the horror of certain images.
        
             | dragonwriter wrote:
             | > A photograph is supposed not to evoke but to show. That
             | is why photographs, unlike handmade images, can count as
             | evidence.
             | 
             | While this is mostly a good piece of writing, in the real
             | world handmade images (and handwritten notes) are, like
             | photographs, potentially evidence, and the issues raised
             | with photographs are the reasons both photographs and hand-
             | written/hand-drawn items (and all other physical items) as
             | evidence tend to demand supporting (and admit opposing)
             | testimonial and physical evidence of provenance (and, the
             | physical evidence offered for this purpose has the same
             | features, such that ultimately, it all rests on testimonial
             | evidence of provenance.)
             | 
             | I also don't think the first parr of the sentence is true:
             | pictures may be supposed to show, but pictures have been
             | noted for their evocative power long before this piece was
             | written--pictures are in certaim circumstances understood
             | to show, and under other and frequently overlapping
             | circumstances to evoke; there is certainly a common danger
             | in mistaking evocative power for also indicating
             | informative power, but few anywhere have denied the
             | existence of the evocative power of photography.
        
           | yeetyoteyoten wrote:
           | > But I think it's sometimes necessary in order to get people
           | to take these events seriously, since they can negatively
           | affect so many people.
           | 
           | Overreacting can have equally bad outcomes, I think. Social
           | isolation sanctioned by pandemic era school lockdowns left me
           | with depression, social anxiety and suicidal ideations - none
           | of which I have managed to fix so far. And I know I'm not
           | alone with this in my age group (in high-school at the start
           | of the pandemic).
           | 
           | Now, I think the resulting number of suicides does not reach
           | the amount of people saved by the countermeasures in total,
           | but it's nevertheless something to consider. (Well, but it's
           | much harder to find a direct correlation in the first place,
           | so really who knows.)
           | 
           | (Re-reading your comment, I now realize that maybe I was
           | completely missing your point, in which case I'm sorry.)
        
           | munificent wrote:
           | As someone who has experienced several serious floods, this
           | is my favorite example of imagery's ability to craft a
           | reality:
           | 
           | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cgm3_jzcNm4
           | 
           | Floodwaters tend to stir up a lot of dirt and mud, so the
           | water is usually totally opaque. That makes it very hard to
           | tell how deep it is. A lot of overhead views of flooded
           | neighborhoods look completely disastrous, but in reality it's
           | just a foot or two of water that will just go away once the
           | drains can handle it.
           | 
           | But, sometimes, flooding really is severe and the damage is
           | monumental. But it can be hard to distinguish those from
           | imagery. Every picture of a flood looks biblical.
        
             | lesuorac wrote:
             | > Is your oar hitting ground
             | 
             | I thought it was really weird the way she was paddling but
             | that line at the end of the video is probably the
             | explanation.
        
             | Goronmon wrote:
             | A couple feet of water is still disastrous though. You're
             | insurance most likely doesn't cover it and you could be
             | left with tens of thousands of dollars worth of damage
             | easily.
        
               | munificent wrote:
               | It really depends. In my neighborhood in Louisiana, most
               | yards sloped down to the street. So when the flood was a
               | couple of feet at its deepest, most houses were still
               | fully above the waterline. It's just that the streets
               | were impassable and you needed a boat to get around.
        
             | MisterBastahrd wrote:
             | People also completely underestimate how much force flowing
             | water has. It's hard enough to walk in waist-deep water
             | when it's still. Somehow they see a few feet of rushing
             | water and they think "hey, I'm gonna drive my car through
             | that"
        
               | UncleEntity wrote:
               | Arizona has a law, aptly titled "stupid motorist law" or
               | "idiot's law", which specifically addresses this.
               | 
               | Yet people still drive into flooded roads and get swept
               | downstream on a regular basis because "it's just a couple
               | inches of water".
        
           | hammock wrote:
           | Why have you been downvoted?
        
           | jrpt wrote:
           | The 2020 protests were either dangerous or ok depending on
           | where you were and the time of day. Minneapolis had a lot of
           | damage and someone was even burned to death in their store.
           | US insurance costs were over $1B.
        
         | rout39574 wrote:
         | COVID is not a good model for the Spanish influenza.
         | 
         | I highly recommend The Great Influenza:
         | 
         | https://www.amazon.com/Great-Influenza-Deadliest-Pandemic-Hi...
         | 
         | We were so desperately lucky. It was not "like covid".
        
         | pharrington wrote:
         | Having an incomplete understanding of history goes both ways.
         | Consider the myriad of diseases that were widespread then, but
         | have practically vanished in modern countries with modern
         | healthcare. Getting brutally-to-fatally sick was common in the
         | early 1900s, and day-to-day life was alot worse because of it.
         | 
         | Life in general is better now, and we can keep doing better!
         | And to do better, we have to be honest about history.
        
         | throwaway106382 wrote:
         | It doesn't help that a lot of "history" is actually just
         | propaganda, for example the infamous "iron lungs in the gym"
         | photo during the polio pandemic.
        
           | MisterBastahrd wrote:
           | On the flip side, if you're a Gen Xer, you almost certainly
           | grew up knowing an adult whose health was directly impacted
           | by polio. And if you don't, Mitch McConnell is sitting up
           | there in Congress. One of the reasons he didn't push back so
           | much when they were passing COVID legislation was because of
           | his own experiences as a child.
        
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