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The First Social-Media Babies Are Growing Up-and They're Horrified
Author : paulpauper
Score : 48 points
Date : 2023-05-27 19:05 UTC (3 hours ago)
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| MandieD wrote:
| When I'm not sure about something to do with my now-toddler, I
| ask myself: what would 15- and 30-year-old (insert kid's name
| here) want me to have done right now?
|
| Make him wear his detested glasses so he doesn't develop a lazy
| eye? Yes!
|
| Record and post him having a breakdown over not getting to play
| in the sink as long as he thinks he should have? No!
| spondylosaurus wrote:
| That sounds like a pretty foolproof way to approach it. In
| those specific examples, too, one is clearly for his benefit
| (unless he _wants_ to grow up with a lazy eye...) and the other
| would solely be for yours.
|
| Not that I think parents should or need to be faultless perfect
| martyrs with no needs of their own, but social media clout
| means nothing to a two-year-old and is 100% for parents'
| gratification.
| mikewarot wrote:
| I only talk about Sproutlet in mostly generic terms in public...
| on facebook when I do show photos, etc... it's to a limited
| distribution, and not the whole world
|
| I think I've taken a reasonable approach to the management of the
| 10,000+ photos/videos, of which maybe 20? have made it into the
| world.
| kevviiinn wrote:
| Its still getting shared with Facebook. Are you okay with
| having your child's photos being used for training facial
| recognition software? Is your child okay with it?
| flangola7 wrote:
| Facebook purged all their face recognition data a few years
| ago. It's not even an available feature now.
| mikewarot wrote:
| It's unavoidable in US society these days. I'm sure that
| tagging has happened on photos from other children in
| classes, parties, etc.
|
| Am I ok with it? I accept the things I cannot change.
| elbigbad wrote:
| Of course it's not. Neither of my children's faces have
| ever appeared on social media. It just requires a little
| discipline on the parents part, which seems to be in short
| supply these days.
| [deleted]
| bitlax wrote:
| https://archive.ph/XISkS
| stevespang wrote:
| [dead]
| ThrowawayTestr wrote:
| Looking forward to the first lawsuits over this stuff.
| [deleted]
| saiya-jin wrote:
| Well, if you have idiotic parents who are either greedy,
| emotionally crippled or compensating something broken in their
| lives to stream their lives from A to Z, you are in a world of
| pain and this is one way it can manifest.
|
| I have no understanding for such folks, it may be considered
| criminal in future or not, but its highly amoral anytime.
| geek_at wrote:
| An acquaintance of mine started a small "mommy" blog when she
| had her first baby and it grew so fast she was getting
| sponsorship deals. She got another kid after that and another
| .. and 7 more. She has now 10 kids and makes many hundred
| thousand euros a year with sponsorship deals.
|
| She even monetized her kids illnesses as one has ADD, another
| has autism and she made videos with them about going to doctors
| and even filming inside the offices and clinics.
|
| Her oldest is now 14 and refuses to go on camera anymore and
| some of the smaller kids got teased and bullied in school.
|
| She then started to monetize herself more, had her nose, chin,
| lips and boobs surgically altered.
|
| Truly sad to see her develop in a way that seems unhealthy for
| her kids and her own psyche (as she's also increasingly
| mentioning burnout and depression)
| pengaru wrote:
| That does seem to paint a relatively clear "child
| exploitation" picture.
|
| Frankly I'm surprised it doesn't fall under child labor laws.
| kevviiinn wrote:
| There are a ton of YouTube channels like that, where parents
| exploit their children for view and sponsorships. Its
| horrible
| engineer_22 wrote:
| Yep, and kids love watching it
| bitwize wrote:
| My sister engaged in casual oversharing of her son's early life
| on Facebook. Nothing too egregious, just lots of baby/toddler
| photos and cute widdle nicknames in the comments and stuff.
|
| I told her, "You do realize that he's going to grow up to be a
| teenager, then an adult, and resent you for life because
| everybody he knows saw you call him your 'little bean', right?"
|
| After that the cutesiness tapered off.
| apelapan wrote:
| Unless something else is going on or the baby ends up mentally
| ill as an adult, it will not resent your sister for calling it
| 'little bean' in public and posting pictures of it Wadling
| about in diapers.
|
| The baby might resent these things as a teenager, but who
| cares? Good luck organizing your own parenthood in a teenager-
| resentment-safe manner.
| kevinventullo wrote:
| Are modern teenagers really looking up old Facebook posts from
| their peers' moms to mock them for some nickname they had
| before they could speak? That seems like such a reach. If
| anything, that type of investigation would get the investigator
| labeled as a weirdo.
| AlexandrB wrote:
| Geez, that's very harsh. My mom still calls me all kinds of pet
| names, but I don't resent her for it (anymore). I guess I did
| as a teenager, but teenagers are generally idiots. An adult who
| resents his parents for having pet names for him/her as a
| toddler has some other issues to work through I think.
| Wiki39366 wrote:
| [flagged]
| BrandoElFollito wrote:
| 15% in France where this is illegal but tolerated because
| religion
| pessimizer wrote:
| If you had been raised by a society (and parents) that taught you
| that caring about privacy was elitist, and that you haven't
| really been somewhere or done something unless you have a selfie
| of you being there or doing it, you'd want to protect your
| children as much as you could from the predators that profited
| from you.
|
| Every level of government and business is actively trying to
| break down or remove your boundaries through surveillance and
| recordkeeping, and to publicly mock you as some sort of stalinist
| luddite nazi spy for complaining about it.
| EA-3167 wrote:
| In a world which has pageant moms, I don't see how this can
| surprise anyone, it's just a new expression of an old illness.
| JieJie wrote:
| I think of all the childhood actors who struggled ever after
| with the fame that many of them never got to personally
| experience, but instead, inherited from their parents. For
| instance, the Nevermind baby. [0]
|
| There are probably going to be a lot more Brittney Spears' in
| humanity's future.
|
| [0]https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-58327844
| Karellen wrote:
| Also, Wil Wheatons
|
| https://wilwheaton.net/2022/05/yes-i-was-forced-to-be-a-
| chil...
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