[HN Gopher] Ask HN: Has anyone switched from a professional job ...
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       Ask HN: Has anyone switched from a professional job to a more
       manual one?
        
       I'm considering a big career change. Early 30s, male, Physics
       degree and I have a good job in sales in finance in the UK. Earn
       100k GBP in a good year and I had a startup before were a more a
       good cash lump sum.  I think like many people I find more work
       uninspiring, pointless and eroding. However, it's well paid, high
       status and hard to break into.  I have an interview next week for a
       coffee engineer role which pays around a third of what I currently
       earn and would involve being on the road four out of five days.
       Has anyone else made a change like this? How did you find it? Did
       you miss the money and status?  I know that office work is
       desirable for a reason (people like to sit down!!) but I think
       there might be something inspiring and rewarding about working with
       me hands. Am I being naive because I've never really had to work
       with my hand?  Thanks for your help and honest feedback.  W
        
       Author : flave
       Score  : 153 points
       Date   : 2023-05-24 13:23 UTC (9 hours ago)
        
       | pubkeypvtkey wrote:
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       | jacknews wrote:
       | Just think of the kind of boss, and your relationship to them,
       | you might have in that new role, and also the colleagues and
       | customers.
       | 
       | Of course some of that depends on the actual company, even
       | branch, but a surprising amount is endemic, uh, inherent to
       | particular industries.
       | 
       | In my experience a large part of the job experience is 'other
       | people'. The most fulfilling work can be made a hell by a bad
       | boss, and the most mundane tasks elevated by interesting
       | colleagues, etc.
       | 
       | And also, about people you work with; you will become them, in
       | some small (or large) way.
        
       | dingosity wrote:
       | A long time ago I was a software engineer. And I am now again a
       | software person.
       | 
       | In 1990, after the murder of a close friend, participating in the
       | invasion of a small Latin American country and contracting for a
       | national government on the edge of a war zone, I looked forward
       | to a stable job as a software engineer. No one would shoot at me,
       | I figured, so it must be a better gig.
       | 
       | It was, however, quite boring. I don't think I had real PTSD, but
       | after a while in the sterile cube farm, I started imagining what
       | I would do if opposing forces broke down our front door and
       | attempted to claim our office park for the glory of Upper
       | Kraznovistan. Apparently there are things worse than being in
       | battle: the mindless drudgery and impossibly poor management of a
       | telephony equipment manufacturer in the early 90s.
       | 
       | So I dropped my last dose of purple microdot and drove to NYC
       | where I hung out with some old friends. I wasn't really paying
       | attention and wound up with a part time job delivering scenic
       | backdrops to Broadway. This was back when Times Square was
       | somewhat crime-ridden (not peak crime, but still a lot rougher
       | than it is today.) No one shot at me while driving my delivery
       | van, but I did get guns pointed at me from time to time. And then
       | the Teamsters would try to punch me for unloading the van. Turns
       | out all the Teamsters didn't get the memo that we were supposed
       | to unload items in the van, staging them in a designated area.
       | Then the Teamsters pick them up and move them. I have no beef w/
       | Teamsters and get it they thought they were protecting their jobs
       | against management scabs.
       | 
       | Was getting guns pointed at me and almost punched by Teamsters
       | enough for me to return to the loving embrace of software? No.
       | But I wasn't making nearly enough money to live in NYC or the
       | surrounding areas, so I wound up as the VP of A&R for a small
       | record label in Dallas while living in an artists' commune in
       | what we might call "Midtown" today.
       | 
       | I eventually saw a print job ad in the Dallas Morning News with
       | several lines of 8086 assembly with the comment "if you know what
       | this does, give us a call." The siren call of working with crazy
       | people trying to make a dent in the universe was hard to ignore
       | and I once again returned to a career in the ontological arts and
       | crafts.
       | 
       | I am now a nameless drone in sector 47 of the underground
       | software mines. But it's totally fine, I have long since made
       | peace with the fact I'll never put a dent in the universe. Or
       | rather... that I had for a long time been building software with
       | the idea that it would dent the universe. My outlook now is to
       | focus on the software, let the universe dent itself.
       | 
       | This is a long way around of saying... Yes, software is largely
       | soul eroding. The music business, which it has been observed by
       | my betters as a cruel and shallow money trench in which pimps and
       | thieves are rewarded is still less corrosive than software.
       | 
       | If you got into software just for the money, then I would say
       | "yes, fly! be free!" But if you do personal projects on the
       | weekend just 'cause you like it, then maybe not. Maybe just find
       | a better environment to express your design pattern addiction.
       | 
       | You're always going to have to work with idiots. (Often you find
       | that they're only really mildly less informed than you are and
       | not real idiots.) There are always going to be people who will
       | rejoice in thwarting your best laid plans. If the reason you
       | don't like software is you've always worked with idiots or people
       | who wouldn't know an agile process if it turned into a snake and
       | bit them on the ass, even though agile processes seem to
       | repeatedly turn into metaphorical ass-biting reptiles. If you
       | work with people who are irritating, maybe first try to find a
       | less-well-paying job in software first? It'll probably still pay
       | better than a coffee industry lackey.
       | 
       | But you mention working with your hands so maybe it's the
       | abstract nature of work you've had 'til now? Maybe try working on
       | an IIoT or robotics project?
       | 
       | I think my advice is to consider other types of jobs with other
       | types of teams/people, probably at smaller organizations before
       | prostrating yourself to big coffee. Or not. I kept coming back to
       | software, maybe you'll be happy to keep it far behind.
        
       | dangwhy wrote:
       | Peter in officespace did.
        
       | brianwawok wrote:
       | Have you seen the ending to the movie office space? If not - I
       | highly suggest watching this lovely movie before making this
       | move.
       | 
       | But yes, your future job could give you a more happy life
       | balance. Or it could be worse. Or the same.
        
         | somedude895 wrote:
         | > I highly suggest watching this lovely movie before making
         | this move.
         | 
         | I love Office Space to death, but that ending paints a very
         | rosy picture. How Peter might feel about his choice two years
         | down the line is a different story.
        
           | claytongulick wrote:
           | Is someone having a case of the Mondays?
        
           | PM_me_your_math wrote:
           | Especially after Peter experiences trench foot and back
           | problems. Funny enough you can still get back problems from
           | sitting on your posterior all day.
        
         | kovacs wrote:
         | Uh yeah, Peter, I'm gonna need you to stop commenting on Hacker
         | News and get back to work... mmmkay?
        
       | ryandrake wrote:
       | For me, a career change seems drastic and unnecessary. If you
       | want to do work with your hands, pick up a hobby that lets you do
       | that, and use your finance salary to fund it. If you want to be
       | traveling all the time, find a high-paying sales job that lets
       | you work from the road to financially support all that travel. If
       | you want to do good for the world, volunteer--but keep doing the
       | uninspiring pointless work to support yourself. You're probably
       | going to see a lot of survivor bias in the replies here--nobody
       | ever wants to talk about how they burned out, tried becoming a
       | janitor or whatever and failed and went broke.
        
       | Grustaf wrote:
       | That's my dream, to take a normal job. I hope to one day be able
       | to afford working on construction sites, laying railroad or
       | something meaningful. Or even going back to washing dishes in a
       | crazy Tokyo restaurant.
       | 
       | Status wise, I'm not sure there's much difference, being a
       | software engineer is not something I'm proud of. When you talk to
       | people, they can immediately tell if you're intellectual anyway.
       | 
       | If a highly educated person works with something manual, I think
       | most people will assume that they do that because they like it,
       | and not look down on them. But then I do live in Scandinavia
       | where people are far less obsessed with financial status. I think
       | most people here are more impressed if someone is a struggling
       | actor or professional juggler, than if they're a management
       | consultant making 10 times more.
        
         | returningfory2 wrote:
         | > Status wise, I'm not sure there's much difference
         | 
         | OP is from the UK where status is...complicated. Having a
         | physics PhD from Harvard is potentially lower status than
         | having gone to the right British high school and then done PPE
         | at Oxford...
        
           | flave wrote:
           | 'Status' is jokes here but yeah I certainly have been getting
           | a lot of my identity from having money and earning good
           | money. Not something I'm proud of.
        
           | Grustaf wrote:
           | Sure, obviously PPE is the gold standard. But we're not
           | talking about education here, but occupation.
        
             | returningfory2 wrote:
             | My point was that, looking from the outside in, it can be
             | hard to guess what leads to status in the UK. Your comment
             | in a sense reinforces that: to an outsider, why would one
             | specific humanities undergraduate in one specific
             | university be the "gold standard" of status? It doesn't
             | make sense unless you know about status in the UK, IMO.
             | 
             | As opposed to the US where status is simpler IMO and more
             | strongly correlated with money.
        
               | Grustaf wrote:
               | Of course it makes sense, if you know anything about that
               | program, or society. If you don't, well then it doesn't,
               | hut that seems pretty obvious.
        
       | Delphiza wrote:
       | First understand what you find about your work that is
       | "uninspiring, pointless, and eroding". The answer may lie in the
       | markets that you work in rather than doing something with your
       | hands. (City-based (finance) products can seem pointless once you
       | realise how and why it all works). You can do sales in an
       | industry that is meaningful to you - like coffee machines.
       | 
       | I work in tech and am currently trying to build stuff that
       | addresses energy efficiency in manufacturing (my small bit to
       | help climate change). I have to go on site in safety boots and a
       | hard hat - looking up at a massive plant that burns dead
       | dinosaurs. It is not pointless, but it is frikkin' hard. It is
       | also a much better use of my abilities and experience in tech to
       | try and optimise their plant with data than dig a ditch or man
       | the food truck outside the factory gates. No offense to those
       | useful skills, but mine are better applied (and more valuable)
       | elsewhere.
        
       | samrocksc wrote:
       | :/ i think the first step is disregarding the thought process
       | that a "Professional job" is not a manual job....that's kind of
       | an insulting thing to say.
       | 
       | Army, Marine Corps, Wildland Firefighting, Owning 3x Coffee
       | Shops, and now Software Dev for 10 years.....
       | 
       | just saying.
        
         | flave wrote:
         | You're the second person to pick up on this. I don't really
         | even understand what you're saying.
         | 
         | In the UK (and British English) there are professions. Those
         | professions are things like Doctor, Banker, Salesperson,
         | Teacher etc. I didn't write the rules of how British English
         | works.
        
       | qbasic_forever wrote:
       | If you actually mean manual labor then make sure to think through
       | how you'll save and plan for retirement. My cousin did
       | construction most of his adult life and realized in his 40s that
       | there was no way he could keep it up into his 60s and beyond--the
       | toll on your body is high and everyone else in the field is
       | younger and more able-bodied. He realized plumbing (at least for
       | residential homes) was something that didn't require as much hard
       | labor and he saw older guys doing it all the time. So he started
       | apprenticing and made the switch to plumbing late in his career.
       | 
       | Not sure what coffee engineer is exactly but the same basic idea
       | applies. If you're doing manual labor make sure it's something
       | you can do into your sixties. If not, look for some
       | specialization or related field you can move into--be sure you
       | see older people actually working those jobs to know it's
       | realistic or even apprentice with them.
        
         | hacoo wrote:
         | This is very true. Having worked in trades, nearly everyone
         | develops back or other physical problems.
        
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         | bradfa wrote:
         | For doing manual labor like construction, look into joining a
         | union. The better unions provide a LOT of services and benefits
         | for laborers. A friend works for a local union's benefits
         | group, they have very good health insurance, unemployment add-
         | ons (construction is very seasonal here), and a pension plan.
         | From what I understand they try very hard to take care of their
         | union members. My understanding is that this union's dues are
         | extremely reasonable given the benefits offered.
        
       | jamal-kumar wrote:
       | I took a few gigs with a roommate who is a gastro chef doing
       | catering a few years ago for the hell of it. Was really quite the
       | experience. I love to cook but never had done it for like 80+
       | people on a level of expectation of a certain high quality before
       | then. Made Spanish Paella for one event, Brazilian steak at
       | another... Everyone thought I was some special professional
       | foreign chef flown in from Canada which is the funniest part. We
       | just rolled with it because while we didn't even intend for
       | anyone to think that, they just loved it. They even invited me
       | for doing their Christmas dinner but I figured working over those
       | days was a bit much and politely declined.
       | 
       | One of the things it helped me realize is that I need to be in
       | better shape. Felt like I got in a fight or something after each
       | gig, spending all day and night preparing a ton of food is NOT
       | easy, it is extremely demanding and you need to make sure of a
       | bunch of stuff that matters less if you're just a programmer like
       | kitchen hygiene.
        
         | peteradio wrote:
         | Did it pay well?
        
           | jamal-kumar wrote:
           | Not as much as I make doing software engineering for sure,
           | but the money was really good relatively speaking especially
           | considering this wasn't in some typical Anglosphere country.
           | It was otherwise super rewarding though. Made for some cool
           | videos to share on Instagram
        
         | krageon wrote:
         | > I need to be in better shape
         | 
         | When I still worked in kitchens I used to cycle long distances
         | (40+ km) in relatively short average times (approximately one
         | hour) almost every day, and a busy shift in the kitchen still
         | wiped me out. Sometimes I was even sore the next day (it
         | depends on what needed to be done). I guess I'm trying to say
         | I'm wondering what sort of herculean fitness would not have
         | difficulty with the work.
        
           | jamal-kumar wrote:
           | You don't really get a chance to sit down. A lot of it is
           | kinda leaning into or towards whatever you're doing which is
           | a laborious posture to hold.
        
       | TrueGeek wrote:
       | A friend of mine switched from IT work (roll outs of retail
       | systems) to driving a fork lift. He was able to stay with the
       | same company and kept his seniority and vacation time (they give
       | an extra week per 5 years so he's up to 6 weeks PTO). He's making
       | less money of course, but he's far happier. No more time on the
       | road and he says he loves that when his shift ends, it ends.
       | 
       | One downside for me is we have to plan further ahead to hang out
       | since he is almost always scheduled to work weekends. But between
       | us we've got plenty of PTO to make it work. We're doing a full
       | week of bikepacking in July!
        
       | Neil44 wrote:
       | I would say yes you're being a little naive. You'll be sitting in
       | traffic, setting out early and getting back late, dealing with
       | parking tickets and difficult end users. You will ache from
       | driving and working in strange positions. It will get old
       | quickly.
        
       | zopper wrote:
       | My cousin worked in finance but then due to a health issues he
       | was not able to look at screens (or artificial light in general)
       | for extended periods of time.
       | 
       | He was forced to switch to another profession which had to be
       | outdoor based to avoid artificial light and doesn't use any
       | screens.
       | 
       | He decided to train dogs. Initially it was a bit rough (working
       | long hours a day Monday to Saturday) but fast forward 2 years
       | later he is now considered to be one of the best dog trainers in
       | his area. This allowed him to triple his prices and reduce his
       | working hours. He now earns more than he did in his finance job
       | working shorter hours.
       | 
       | If you find your niche and become an expert in that area, I think
       | you can earn a good living no matter what that niche is. But some
       | niches make it easier than others as the base earnings are
       | higher.
        
         | canadapups wrote:
         | My wife has a masters degree in marketing. She ditched the desk
         | job to become a dog breeder. She's never going to have desk job
         | ever again. After a few years she asked me to build online
         | business related to it (https://www.canadapups.com). I think
         | the key is to mix expertise. Marketing + dogs, technology +
         | dogs, technology + coffee. If someone feels like they need to
         | switch careers, it's probably a great idea - good chance of
         | success in the next career due to bringing the previous careers
         | skills to the new one.
        
         | ericmcer wrote:
         | Same thing, my friends fiance somehow became known as a very
         | good and reliable dog walker. He would walk dogs around some
         | very expensive parts of SF. Was making close to 200k and
         | looking at homes last I heard.
         | 
         | I feel like this must have a huge luck component, he must have
         | just gotten in with one person in this community and then met
         | clients by referral until he took over that area.
        
           | gentleman11 wrote:
           | How much does a client pay for dog walking per day?
        
         | codethief wrote:
         | > he was not able to look at screens (or artificial light in
         | general) for extended periods of time.
         | 
         | That sounds scary! What exactly was the issue?
        
           | dangwhy wrote:
           | i had cervical disk hernia them prevented me from looking at
           | sceens for over a year.
        
           | notdang wrote:
           | not the op, but one I know of is epilepsy, screens can
           | trigger seizures in some people.
        
         | NickM wrote:
         | Sounds like everything ended up great for your cousin, but in
         | case he'd still like to be able to use a screen occasionally, I
         | wonder if something like this might help:
         | https://www.sunvisiondisplay.com/reflective-lcd-monitor
         | 
         | I have no personal experience or affiliation with that company,
         | but I read about them the other day and it seems like a cool
         | concept that could help a lot of people that have issues with
         | normal LCD screens.
        
         | VoodooJuJu wrote:
         | Earning more as a dog trainer of two years than he did in
         | finance?
         | 
         | I'm skeptical.
         | 
         | Can you expand? Was it finance or "finance"? Was it a low-end
         | finance position? Did he already have prior experience training
         | dogs? Something's fishy here.
        
       | elliotpo wrote:
       | I had generous doctoral funding in the humanities with a very
       | light teaching load and left to be a stable-hand, mucking stalls
       | and throwing breakfast and lunchbhay to the horses. (So this
       | kinda sorta counts, since I was still in school, and the labor
       | job was always going to be temporary. Having said that I loved it
       | and still miss it). In the end I worked at the stable for about a
       | year.
       | 
       | It paid almost nothing. I rented a room and was broke. But the
       | work was cathartic and interesting and completely altered my
       | world-- or dropped the world I'd known away, leaving this really
       | interesting (again temporary) moment of peace in its place.
       | Status wise, when you do something like that, you meet new
       | people. There are different ways of comparing status-- and of not
       | even caring at all about it.
       | 
       | It took me a while to adjust away from academic thinking, which
       | manifested largely as an extreme lack of confidence if I wasn't
       | quoting someone else's argument or surrounded by piles of books.
       | The stable was a great place to sort some of that and to like
       | regain a sense of self (and people in the world, more broadly
       | than in the university) in a really tangible way.
       | 
       | I wound up doing a bunch of different work over time. A mix seems
       | to me ideal at this point. Ha still trying to figure it out.
        
       | CrispyKerosene wrote:
       | I spent a decade or so in geospatial, moved country and struggled
       | to find work (moved just as covid hit).
       | 
       | I picked up a job doing construction, specifically windows and
       | doors. I've always been pretty handy and know my way around the
       | tools, but had never worked this kind of job.
       | 
       | Its satisfying work no doubt. I lost a ton of weight and was in
       | the best shape i had been in years with no effort outside of
       | work. I learned a bunch of new skills and my confidence to
       | complete most home repairs has increased exponentially.
       | 
       | Downsides are the wear and tear it puts on your body. After 12
       | months i had more small scars than i could count, i broke my foot
       | on my last day there. You come home filthy everyday.
       | 
       | For the first few weeks i was wrecked after everyday, got home
       | and basically passed out on the lounge.
       | 
       | My biggest pet peeve was probably a factor of the specific
       | company i worked at, but i found the lack of basic organization
       | and communication infuriating. Suggestions to implement simple
       | procedures that would reduce the number of misquotes, scheduling
       | and general chaos are ignored because it would require change.
       | 
       | I'd do it again, but for a more organized and professional
       | company.
        
       | chasd00 wrote:
       | "Pays a third and on the road 4 out of 5 days"
       | 
       | That doesn't sound very nice to me. If working with your hands
       | seems rewarding then maybe find a hobby or something to get that
       | reward without putting your livelihood at risk.
        
       | DANmode wrote:
       | Anyone _trying_ to make this change now?
       | 
       | I came across a great, well-paced, well-paid1 outdoor role that
       | still involves a small amount of tech.
       | 
       | 1Better paid than a lot of tech roles, actually.
       | 
       | I would need a teammate to break in. Get in touch!
        
       | keiferski wrote:
       | I am in the middle of reading William Gibson's _Virtual Light_
       | and seriously considering a career change to bike messenger.
       | Unfortunately it doesn't pay much more than minimum wage.
       | 
       | More seriously, though, I have had similar feelings many times.
       | However, I spent a decade from high school through post-college
       | working manual and food service jobs, so I have no illusions that
       | they provide some kind of fulfillment not found in computer jobs.
       | 
       | My solution was to spend as much non-work time as possible doing
       | outdoors/manual things. And if there's something related to your
       | job which can be done while riding a bike, or walking, or
       | repairing a motorcycle, or whatever your preferred physical
       | activity, rather than sitting at a desk, then do it that way.
       | Listen to an audio version of a report instead of reading it, do
       | meetings while walking, etc.
       | 
       | Finally I'd also recommend a book related to this topic: _Shop
       | Class as Soulcraft,_ which is about a philosopher that became a
       | motorcycle mechanic, and I believe later became a philosopher
       | again.
        
         | jiscariot wrote:
         | I know a lot of people like Shop Class as Soulcraft, but I
         | found the author's rosy glasses and philosophy about the
         | "dignity" in manual labor to be extremely tiresome. There is an
         | irony that really didn't transition to crappy m/c mechanic like
         | the book would have you believe, but rather to an author with a
         | best selling book. Granted I also think Zen and the Art of
         | Motorcycle Maintenance is one of the most overrated books ever,
         | so take what I say with a grain of salt.
        
           | keiferski wrote:
           | Sure, it is a little overblown, but I think for the intended
           | white-collar audience, somewhat necessary. The typical reader
           | of his book has probably always considered manual labor to be
           | something "other people" do.
        
       | Omroth wrote:
       | If you haven't already, I would consider some less committal
       | steps to find out more about the problem you're experiencing.
       | 
       | 1. Take an unusually long time off - double whatever the most is
       | you've taken in recent years. If you don't have the leave, call
       | off sick. Keep a note of how you feel about work each day when
       | you get up and when you go to bed.
       | 
       | 2. Try to list what makes an unusually good day at work. Even in
       | a very samey job there are days you travel; days you have
       | meetings with specific kinds of people; days you work on
       | something a bit unusual.
       | 
       | 3. Consider finding a good (not always easy, but if you can
       | afford it you'll have a much better hit rate if you go for min.
       | PS75 an hour) psycho-dynamics therapist. When "interviewing"
       | them, say that your initial goal is to find out if moving jobs
       | will make you happy.
       | 
       | What you do in your early thirties when you have the freedom and
       | desire to instigate a big change could be very important, and
       | it's worth finding out more about yourself to help make the right
       | choice.
        
       | leesec wrote:
       | I went the other way, from a manual laborer ("able seaman") on a
       | cement tugboat to an engineer. I would never go back for any
       | reason. Parts of working with your hands or working outdoors can
       | be rewarding, but it was extremely brutal and backbreaking work.
       | Aside from the physical demands it was also very unhealthy
       | breathing in powdered cement all the time. IMO if you want to use
       | your hands more start a garden, fix up a house or a car, or get
       | some productive physical hobby. Don't quit your day job until
       | you're very sure you want to do the thing day in day out for a
       | living. Just my two cents.
        
       | fallingfrog wrote:
       | I wish I could be a musician. I have the necessary talent but
       | haven't put in the work. To be honest, I'd rather be a musician
       | and eat Ramen noodles than keep writing accounting software and
       | live in a mansion. Hell, even if it meant being alone forever and
       | being poor as dirt vs having a relationship and living in luxury,
       | I'd still take rather be a musician in a heartbeat. Every time I
       | do a job interview it gets harder to smile and say this is my
       | dream job when I know I will spend every moment in misery feeling
       | like I was wasting my life. I got into programming as a creative
       | outlet, and now I'm competent at it, and I have to survive. I bet
       | a lot of other people are in a similar boat.
        
       | rodolphoarruda wrote:
       | After 16 years implementing business applications I switched to
       | managing family business, including a wedding dress shop. That
       | gave me a steady level of income that allowed me to bootstrap a
       | handful of SaaS products since 2018 (and still have time for the
       | kids while they are young and see me as relevant to them).
        
       | douglaswlance wrote:
       | Just go work a day in manual labor. You don't need to take a big
       | risk to try it out.
        
         | the_only_law wrote:
         | Which jobs are hiring day-long tourists?
        
           | swader999 wrote:
           | Volunteer ones, sometimes cities have a work corner where
           | people go to hire people for a day of random physical work.
        
           | giraffe_lady wrote:
           | Eh there's plenty of work that needs to be done no one is
           | going to give you shit for doing. Buy a shovel & hi-vis vest
           | and dredge a neglected ditch or something. Getting paid the
           | $110 isn't the important part of this exercise.
        
           | cfn wrote:
           | In the UK, picking fruit might be an option.
        
       | smarri wrote:
       | I continue in my office job, but get my fix of physical-type work
       | through gardening, cooking, golf, and driving.
        
       | kemiller2002 wrote:
       | If you want my honest feedback don't do it. It depends on what
       | you want to do exactly, but most of the outcomes of manual labor
       | is the same. I'm in my mid 40's and my girlfriend is in her early
       | 50's. I worked with chocolate and ran the family candy store when
       | my dad couldn't. She's been a chef for 20+ years. The thing no
       | one tells you is that it's brutal on your body. It'll break down
       | after a time. The pay is bad, and it won't cover the cost of what
       | you're doing to yourself in the long term.
       | 
       | You also have to be prepared for a major culture shift from what
       | you're used to. The food industry at least is different than what
       | you're probably used to. It's rough. You have to be comfortable
       | with things not being above board, heavy drug use and heavy
       | alcohol.
       | 
       | Our jobs in tech are so easy compared to what other people go
       | through. The pay is good, and the freedom is amazing.
       | Unfulfilling is really a complaint well off people get to talk
       | about that aren't struggling to survive.
        
         | bityard wrote:
         | > The thing no one tells you is that it's brutal on your body.
         | It'll break down after a time.
         | 
         | I hear surprisingly often here on HN that manual labor and
         | working in the trades ruins your body over decades due to over-
         | exertion. But I also read that sitting in a chair staring at a
         | screen for 8-10 hours a day ruins your body over decades due to
         | under-exertion.
         | 
         | So I am left wondering who is right.
        
           | navbaker wrote:
           | The difference is that there are small things and changes in
           | your routine you can do to counteract those negative effects
           | of sitting at a desk. You can't do the same with a manual
           | labor job.
        
           | michaelt wrote:
           | A programmer who wants more physical exertion can drop by the
           | gym or go for a run a few times a week, to keep healthy.
           | 
           | A bathroom fitter who wants less physical exertion, though?
           | Ain't nobody else going to haul that 700 lbs pallet of tiles
           | or that awkward ass bathtub up that staircase.
        
             | tomjakubowski wrote:
             | the bathroom fitter's problem may be imbalanced exertion,
             | emphasizing the same movements over time without
             | complementary moves can cause injury as well
        
               | sixstringtheory wrote:
               | Probably, but a problem here is that a bathroom fitter
               | might not have the time or energy to do that. Especially
               | if they're still trying to live a life outside of work
               | with family and friends and hobbies. And getting injured
               | at the gym doesn't help you get to work the next day.
               | 
               | I worked in kitchens for years and as much as I also
               | wanted to hit the gym I didn't have it in me after 12+
               | hour shifts. I had several family members in older
               | generations who did various types of manual labor and saw
               | what it did to their bodies.
               | 
               | As much as I bitch about the state of the software
               | industry and some of my coworkers, I know better than to
               | throw that baby out with the bathwater. We have it really
               | good.
               | 
               | Then again, if someone doesn't have any first hand
               | experience with any of this, maybe it would be good to go
               | get some perspective.
        
           | c37d8bc wrote:
           | The distribution in manual labor includes major catastrophic
           | injury. I'm 28, work in landscaping: the second day of this
           | season I fell through a metal grate and was lucky to not snap
           | my leg. I passed out at work last year due to
           | dehydration/exhaustion after nicking my leg with a pair of
           | electric hedge trimmers; it could have been much worse.
           | 
           | There's quite a few engineers I know that are fat and
           | unshapely, and that likely takes a toll on their health, but
           | I doubt any of them encounter daily situations where they're
           | at decent chance of being maimed.
        
           | hacoo wrote:
           | Both are right, they just mess you up in different ways.
        
           | yourapostasy wrote:
           | _> So I am left wondering who is right._
           | 
           | They're both right.
           | 
           | However, "sitting in a chair staring at a screen for 8-10
           | hours a day" in this conversation stands in for "classic HN
           | programming job". In that context, it still gives you a
           | choice to take bodyweight exercise breaks in brief moments
           | during the day and over noontime lunch (if you follow
           | Huberman Lab's "don't start eating until 2 pm" advice), and
           | working out afterwards.
           | 
           | The other part overlooked in this thread about manual labor
           | beyond the over-exertion already touched upon is many people
           | build overtime into their assumed lifestyle and pay
           | expectations. It is part of the culture, and it accelerates
           | the wear and tear on bodies. Also perniciously schedule traps
           | people into not enough time to work out even assuming they
           | had the energy to do so.
           | 
           | Also, in many industries it is still somewhat uncommon to
           | find employers _and employees_ who take PPE seriously.
           | Welding is notorious for such a culture if you find yourself
           | in a shop that specializes in welding (independents get to
           | set their own standards, but a distressingly high number of
           | them still don 't take it seriously). There is even a
           | perverse machismo associated with cavalier PPE attitudes in
           | some shops.
           | 
           | You _can_ work manual labor, get paid a lot, and not wreck
           | your body. In both cases, you have to be very discerning
           | about what to accept is  "normal" for your industry and
           | yourself, and accordingly set your boundaries.
        
         | digging wrote:
         | I worked in food service for ~5 years before getting into tech
         | and I think this is valuable advice. I was younger then but I
         | still knew I was beating up my body (I did a lot of large
         | deliveries, so moving heavy stuff). As much as I miss the
         | guaranteed exercise and worry about my knees, I know it'd be
         | worse if I was forced to wake up at 4am and do all that shit
         | again for 6-9 hours a day.
         | 
         | I also miss the social aspect terribly. I would love to have
         | friends around me during the day (although coding would be
         | impossible if they were there all the time). But I don't miss
         | getting off work and drinking for hours, being too tired to do
         | any hobbies. I don't miss watching my friends smoke cigarettes
         | for hours until I gave in and bummed one.
         | 
         | And I _definitely_ don 't miss the helplessness and lack of
         | respect I felt in those jobs. The most urgent push I had for
         | learning to program was that I was just so tied of not being
         | able to solve problems, manage my own time, and avoid people
         | just being rude as hell.
         | 
         | All that said, my job is unfulfilling. I think that's a valid
         | complaint. If I had some of the social and physical aspects, I
         | don't know if I'd worry so much about that, but I don't so I
         | do.
        
         | philote wrote:
         | On the flip side, having a desk job can also ruin your body
         | unless you make a good effort to get up and move or exercise
         | frequently. For some of us it's easier to get exercise if you
         | have to for your job.
        
       | lumb63 wrote:
       | I'm a software engineer now. In my past I worked as a landscaper.
       | I prefer my current job because of the money, but I found an
       | incredible calm in spreading mulch. It was hard work and I'd
       | return home exhausted every day, but it was a great experience.
       | Hard physical labor shuts off the mind, in my experience, in a
       | way that most activities today don't, and that produces a unique
       | satisfaction.
        
       | aidenn0 wrote:
       | Whatever you do, make sure you are on a path where you aren't
       | relying on your body working right in your mid-40s to keep a roof
       | over your head. People's health varies, but as a rule: 40+ hours
       | a week of manual labor feels good in your 20s, okay in your 30s,
       | brutal in your 40s and unsustainable in your 50s.
       | 
       | My father-in-law wanted to go into construction, but picked up a
       | civil engineering degree upon hearing this advice from a foreman,
       | and said it was the best advice he ever got. Plus, working as a
       | surveyor meant he wasn't stuck behind "a damn desk" all day.
        
       | MAMAMassakali wrote:
       | Start volunteering at a farm on weekends if possible. If you like
       | it, get your own land and start a small hobby farm. You can even
       | start associated processing business or shop.
        
         | poo-yie wrote:
         | This would be me if I could figure out a way to make it happen.
         | A good friend of mine has a tiny farm but he is in poor health.
         | I go out to his farm fairly often to help him. I absolutely
         | love it (being outdoors and the peacefulness).
        
         | kyrofa wrote:
         | This ^. I still work in tech, but I have cattle and chickens
         | and a tractor and endless outdoor projects now. That plus a
         | family puts work solidly in its place: a way to make money so
         | that I can do what I enjoy. I do of course enjoy work here and
         | there, but I enjoy my life outside of work more. My farm isn't
         | a business, so there's no extra pressure there, but it gave me
         | a way to dive into permaculture and try to pave a path toward
         | self-sufficiency, which has given me and my family a lot of joy
         | and stability. And I can do that AND save for retirement thanks
         | to the tech job.
        
           | poo-yie wrote:
           | Sounds like you're on a great path! Did you buy the land or
           | did you already have it?
        
             | kyrofa wrote:
             | I bought it right before COVID. Only ten acres, nothing
             | crazy. I don't think I could afford it now, so I'm really
             | grateful for that timing!
        
       | moltar wrote:
       | I knew a guy from rural Canada who'd stop software engineering
       | work for the winter and would do snow plowing (contracts, for
       | money). Then back to software when the winter was over.
        
       | ibarrajo wrote:
       | Coffee engineer? You'll still be working with Java I bet
        
       | bachmeier wrote:
       | I moved in the other direction. Helped my father run a business
       | that could roughly be classified as "sewer and water
       | installation", among other things.
       | 
       | The term "manual" varies a ton. The work I was doing was
       | extremely physical, requiring long hours (12 hours on a reduced
       | day, six days a week) during the main work season. Friends
       | working in a grocery store had very different working conditions
       | and pay.
       | 
       | The first thing to keep in mind is that it's hard to do a job
       | with a heavy physical component after 50. There's a good chance
       | you'll end up managing other workers, and it's not the same as
       | managing office workers. And finally, as is the case with many of
       | these types of jobs, mine required considerable intellectual
       | effort in addition to the physical effort (solving problems,
       | dealing with regulations, etc.) and I had to deal with customers
       | all the time.
        
         | throwaway1492 wrote:
         | I had a similar background. Grew up doing manual labor on a
         | family farm, then college then active duty military for several
         | years. There's a huge difference between "manual labor indoors
         | normal hours" and "manual labor outdoors all hours all
         | weather". For the first 15 years of my software career I
         | couldn't believe my good fortune; awesome pay, intereting work,
         | smart coworkers, dry and warm! Heaven!
         | 
         | Now at 20+ years in software I'm so fried I can barely push a
         | key a lot of days. My body is wrecked because I haven't kept
         | fitness up. I need to make some changes for sure. Looking at
         | possible hardware start up now.
        
       | paulusthe wrote:
       | You're being naive. The grass looks greener because you're used
       | to your present day existence. If you actually took a 2/3 pay cut
       | you'd see just how little money you really have at the end of the
       | day.
       | 
       | It's far better to be bored and rich than engaged and poor.
       | Especially in a field which has rapid pay increase potential like
       | finance.
       | 
       | Stay in your job, save a few million pounds, then play barista
        
         | helloplanets wrote:
         | This is patronizing advice imo.
         | 
         | It's possible that the grass just looks greener, or that the OP
         | is just burnt out. But it's also true that it can sometimes be
         | a good move to change what you're doing, even if your current
         | job pays a ton of money. Of course, it'd definitely be
         | beneficial to explore which one is the case before committing
         | to the change.
        
         | dukeyukey wrote:
         | Although it's not hard to find stories of people who worked a
         | high-powered professional job, burned out, and now works in
         | something much "lower" down and loves it.
         | 
         | Obv doing that would be a mistake for a lot of people for money
         | reasons, but still.
        
         | camdenreslink wrote:
         | It really depends on your personal circumstances. If you have
         | no dependents and live in a medium-low cost of living area then
         | you have a lot more freedom.
        
       | rocket_surgeron wrote:
       | I was a software engineer for just long enough to realize that it
       | was killing my soul and so I scammed my way into being an
       | engineer in aerospace.
       | 
       | Protip: if you do some solidworks tutorials on your off-time to
       | get some experience with it and have basic electronics knowledge
       | from a lifetime of dicking around with amateur radio and
       | electronics kits, managers are willing to overlook a LOT.
       | 
       | Before I sat in a nightmarish hellscape of an open office staring
       | at IntelliJ all day between Agile cultist gatherings.
       | 
       | Now I have an office and a typical week has me working with
       | hardware prototypes, building test apparatus, writing a little
       | code but just a little, working with MechEs, developers, EEs, and
       | piling schematic printouts up on my desk into precarious stacks
       | like I'm a stereotype of a wizard hoarding esoteric knowledge or
       | something.
       | 
       | 4-5 times a year I go out to remote test ranges two weeks at a
       | time to do a little R&D in the field which involves crawling
       | around inside test aircraft to wire up instrumentation and flying
       | around in circles for hours on end. For space stuff we have
       | launch parties.
       | 
       | Also, my workspace is an office with windows and a door that
       | closes and seating and a whiteboard for ad-hoc meetings and I
       | have not had to wear my noise-cancelling headphones just to
       | remain sane as everyone around me slurps their soup and has
       | conversations on the phone in years!
       | 
       | If I had continued on my previous career path, today would see me
       | trying to figure out how to get AI to get you to watch an ad
       | about dickpills or something so that my employer could stripmine
       | your personal data and now I build cool stuff that flies in the
       | air and in space.
       | 
       | There are options, though I'm not sure about the UK, for well-
       | compensated tech work that isn't just sitting staring at a screen
       | for 8 hours a day.
        
       | charlie0 wrote:
       | I like to do the oil change on my car, not because I love it, but
       | because it's a good reminder to myself what life is like for
       | those less fortunate who didn't have the same choice. Not to say
       | there aren't any people who don't love that, but physical labor
       | is plenty though as well.
        
       | frithsun wrote:
       | "every form of refuge has its price"
       | 
       | Every lifestyle has its own pain and perks. Heck, Kato Kaelin
       | found out the hard way that even living in a celebrity's pool
       | house comes with its risks and problems. A lot of it boils down
       | to deciding what kind of suffering you are least uncomfortable
       | with.
        
       | nlh wrote:
       | _Raises hand_ (...halfway...)
       | 
       | I'd been solidly in tech for the past ~9 years - DevOps software,
       | eCommerce company, sales enablement software, etc.
       | 
       | I also re-picked up my hobby/passion of coin & currency
       | collecting a few years ago and started buying and selling for
       | fun.
       | 
       | The stars aligned in such a way that fairly recently I've been
       | able to focus purely on the numismatic world, and I'm now doing
       | that full time (and then some).
       | 
       | My life now consists of about 50% time on the road at physical,
       | in-person coin & currency shows all over the country. I stand at
       | my booth and buy & sell, run around the floor making deals, hunt
       | other dealers cases for treasure in plain sight, and all that
       | fun. So I wouldn't exactly call this "manual", but show days are
       | very much in-person and 12+ hours of being on your feet brain
       | fully-engaged.
       | 
       | (I spend the other 50% of my time at home working on the software
       | that powers my operation, buying & selling on eBay, going to and
       | from the post office, etc.)
       | 
       | But man, this is SO MUCH FUN. I describe my former life as
       | "arguing with people on Zoom all day" and my current life as
       | absolute heaven indulging in a super fun hobby that actually
       | makes money. There's also an incredibly cool social aspect to it
       | wherein you kind of see the same dealers at all the big shows, so
       | it's a bit of a traveling circus ("see you next week in
       | Phoenix?")
        
         | benkoller wrote:
         | This sounds like a great story, congrats! Having the
         | opportunity to go "all in" on a hobby in this way is enticing
         | for sure. Would you mind telling more about how the opportunity
         | came up to go full-time? Was it being in the right place at the
         | right time, or what type of risk did you step into?
        
           | nlh wrote:
           | For sure. A bit of luck in several places: I'd been buying
           | and selling casually during my off-hours for the past few
           | years, mostly as a way to keep my brain moving in other areas
           | (some people watched movies in their free time - I bought and
           | sold coins on the internet and went to shows during my
           | vacation time). I'd kinda sorta proven to myself that it
           | could make money, but wasn't sure how much and if it could
           | sustain a full-time income.
           | 
           | Lucky bit #1: My "normal" gig, co-founder at a software
           | startup with some great wonderful friends, needed to cut
           | costs, so my salary there went to $0 :) More time for coins
           | now! (All is very amicable there - they were worried I'd be
           | mad. Quite the opposite).
           | 
           | Lucky bit #2: The rare coin market is super hot right now, so
           | it's easier than it might otherwise be to turn a profit as a
           | relative newbie. That won't last of course, but I'm using
           | this as a chance to learn from the guys who have been doing
           | this for 30+ years how to succeed in all types of
           | environments. It's lucky and I'm grateful that while my
           | training wheels are stil on I can actually sustain a full-
           | time living.
           | 
           | Onward!
        
       | cloudyporpoise wrote:
       | I'm similar to you in that I work in tech and love being outdoors
       | and doing physical activities. What I'm realizing though, is my
       | biggest chance at "making it big" is by doing the work I'm really
       | good at.. which right now is tech work. Personally I have plenty
       | of hobbies, but my long-term earning potential at those hobbies
       | would be pretty low.
       | 
       | That being said, I also know people that have had tremendous
       | success by making a business out of their hobby. Whether it be
       | photography, bike repair, mechanic. It's cliche to say but the
       | advice I'd give is stick to what you like, or what you're good
       | at, or ideally both - and then pursue your hobbies part-time. If
       | your full-time workload doesn't allow you to pick something up
       | part-time. Find a slower paced environment that'll let you keep a
       | salary you're used too, and afford you more time to play around
       | with some part-time jobs and see if any of them could become a
       | full-time gig for you.
        
       | crashbunny wrote:
       | I've had a few career breaks from IT.
       | 
       | One time was a job in the construction industry for 6 months. It
       | was the happiest I'd ever been. I went from struggling to get to
       | sleep, struggling to wake up before midday in IT, to bouncing out
       | of bed at 4am for a 6am start. I could have woken up later but I
       | wanted an hour to relax and have a coffee before work.
       | 
       | I was outside all day, saw the sunrise and the sunset, my mood
       | was amazing, my feet were sooo sore. I liked the people I was
       | working with, about half the foremen were total pricks and I
       | enjoyed dealing with them too.
       | 
       | I ended the shift physically worn out and ready to go home. I got
       | home around 7pm, put my work clothes in the washing machine, had
       | a shower, had dinner, put my clothes in the drier and was in bed
       | before 9. I'd try to watch something but I'd fall asleep very
       | quickly.
       | 
       | wake up 5 minute before my 4am alarm and hit my head on the
       | ceiling bouncing out of bed looking forward to the day.
       | 
       | I did that for 6 months, I was thinking I would start looking for
       | another job in IT when I was contacted by someone filling a role
       | and got it.
       | 
       | So, I would say if you're serious about leaving, talk to your
       | boss and ask for 6 months leave without pay, and go do something
       | different. You then have the option of going back. Or, just quit,
       | do something else for 6-12 months and if you feel the urge to go
       | back to your old field, start applying for roles.
        
         | pcthrowaway wrote:
         | > I did that for 6 months, I was thinking I would start looking
         | for another job in IT when I was contacted by someone filling a
         | role and got it.
         | 
         | Why did you end up going back?
        
           | crashbunny wrote:
           | I like IT, but I needed a break from it, I needed to refresh,
           | I was always planning on going back.
        
         | charlie0 wrote:
         | This. If going back into SWE was easy, I'd take 6 months off
         | that, go into construction, get paid to get fit and learn new
         | skills, and then come back to SWE. Much better than just going
         | to the gym.
        
       | gspencley wrote:
       | I've been a software engineer for 25 years. I'm currently at the
       | Principal level and I'm thinking about retiring from tech. I'm
       | "only" 41.
       | 
       | I'm not sure how valuable my input will be, since I haven't
       | actually done it, and what I'm thinking about leaving the tech
       | sector for is not exactly "manual labour" even though it is way
       | more physical.
       | 
       | My wife and I are semi-professional performing magicians. We've
       | been developing our act on and off for the last 7 years or so and
       | do weekend gigs. And we're thinking about giving up a cushy >
       | 200k / year base salary to become starving artists.
       | 
       | Why? The obvious one is that we're extremely passionate about our
       | act and love it.
       | 
       | But I'm also tired of the tech industry. I don't have the
       | enthusiasm for technology that I used to. I never jumped on the
       | smart phone bandwagon. I'm sick of the direction the industry has
       | gone in with cloud and SaaS. I'm a tinkerer, a maker at my core.
       | That's not only why I love magic (the prop building, problem
       | solving, script writing... producing something that is MINE) but
       | it's what got me into technology in the first place: being the
       | master of the machine. Building and creating something tangible
       | that has a real effect on the user. That factor seems to be
       | eroding more and more as specialization takes hold in the
       | industry and the machine we're programming is some virtual
       | computer in a data centre.
        
       | kiviuq wrote:
       | I find the juxtaposition between professional and manual jobs to
       | be quite odd ;D
        
       | roland35 wrote:
       | What I recommend, and plan on doing unless I just retire early
       | outright, is to downshift to a less stressful software job. I've
       | worked at quite a few places where I was bored and the pay was
       | low. This was a problem early in my career when I was trying to
       | advance and earn more for my family+retirement, but sounds pretty
       | good now honestly!
       | 
       | I think us software engineers don't realize how good we have it.
       | I've worked factory jobs, manual restaurant jobs, and other ad-
       | hoc outdoor work for neighbors and family growing up and trust
       | me, software engineering is a job most other people dream about
       | having. Try to find a job where you can maintain your fitness in
       | your own time, downshift to an easier job or just scale back your
       | workload at your current company if you're not trying for a
       | promotion.
        
       | 71a54xd wrote:
       | I've transitioned to consulting - I make more money and have more
       | freedom to work out during the day which is great, but I can't
       | help but feel I'm well behind my peers and have a stagnating
       | career. Since I basically resorted to consulting since the job
       | market for engineers is so dire at the moment / maybe my resume
       | is just a red flag?
        
         | ilikerashers wrote:
         | This is the job path that the market forces people down (in UK
         | IT at least).
         | 
         | Bad permanent salaries push people to contracts/consulting.
         | That just doesn't go many places.
         | 
         | My version of "manual labour" is thinking about going back into
         | the industry with a more output/reward-driven role. IT roles
         | feel kinda dead end.
        
           | 71a54xd wrote:
           | I feel badly because it seems like I've sort of wasted the
           | potential of my education - but I'm only 4 years in so we'll
           | see what happens.
           | 
           | Worst case, I'll just schlep it as an electrician or some
           | kind of consultant.
           | 
           | $200k jobs seem hopelessly out of reach and I have no real
           | idea how to rectify what is seemingly wrong with my track
           | record.
        
             | ilikerashers wrote:
             | Don't know where you live but $200k as a consultant should
             | be achievable with the right skill set.
        
               | 71a54xd wrote:
               | I'm in the US
        
       | sBqQu3U0wH wrote:
       | >I know that office work is desirable for a reason (people like
       | to sit down!!) but I think there might be something inspiring and
       | rewarding about working with me hands.
       | 
       | Before I became a programmer I worker various odd jobs during
       | summer holidays and some time during my first years in
       | university. It was mostly unqualified job at construction sites,
       | delivery of household appliances, farm work, etc. Of course, you
       | are not aiming at that kind of work but I just wanted to share my
       | experience of "working with me hands" - it absolutely sucks.
       | Cold, exhausted, wet, dirty or any combination of these, I didn't
       | earn much and sometimes I worked for >14 hours just for a little
       | bit of more pay, I also often had to wake up very early. Office
       | job is soul-rotting but at least it's physically comfortable and
       | I am really happy I have one now.
        
       | htatche wrote:
       | Yes, twice. I tried starting a career as a guide in the
       | mountains, but after passing my certs realised that it would take
       | me too long (years) to achieve any kind of financial stability,
       | all of that whilst being away from my family a lot of the time.
       | In the end, the pay would still be significantly lower and
       | volatile compared to a dev job.
       | 
       | Also worked as a plumber for nearly a year. You do get the
       | satisfaction of not being glued to the screen every day of the
       | year, and actually seeing the job you did at the end of the day.
       | Again though, you need to put up with some kind of people with
       | whom you may not have the same conversations you're used to, plus
       | the low pay, plus the constant labor. It was freeing to do it for
       | a year, but not any longer.
       | 
       | I'm now in a very boring job which pays pretty well, and my
       | thinking now is how can I become less dependent on my dev salary,
       | so if I burnout again (and I know it will happen), I can take an
       | extended breather again before going back to my desk.
        
       | aaron695 wrote:
       | IT -> Manual laborer gas industry.
       | 
       | It's rewarding, been to beautiful places, met whole other (blue
       | collar) subcultures. But it's really hard to know if it's life
       | positive. It's certainly not for life, screw that. Manual work
       | keeps you fit but it breaks the body more. It's also dangerous
       | which is an ok price to pay for experiences but not for living
       | life.
       | 
       | Volunteering in IT in a developing country (1 year turned to 2.5
       | years) unconditionally positive, travel, different people,
       | different challenges, different parts of the brain used.
       | 
       | > Did you miss the money and status?
       | 
       | Money yes, but if I got my tickets I could be on similar to
       | before. Status, that's a UK thing. I literally lol on the idea
       | people in IT have status.
        
       | mboperator wrote:
       | I was a staff software engineer (front end lol so take that for
       | what it is) at a medium sized B2B SaaS company that turned into a
       | unicorn during my time there.
       | 
       | I quit in 2019 to start a company. In 2020 my time was split
       | 80/20 between building a company and working alongside brothers
       | and sisters in my local church.
       | 
       | In the past couple of years I've degreased kitchens, demolished
       | walls, hauled concrete, done some electrical, metal work,
       | automotive, woodworking, janitorial, hauled bags of salt and
       | piled em up two stories high in a metal warehouse during a
       | thunderstorm. Dirt under your nails work.
       | 
       | Yes 80% of my time was still tech (working on hardware though,
       | which is a nice change) but I wouldn't give the 20% for the
       | world.
       | 
       | There's a deep satisfaction in putting forth real effort -
       | mentally and physically with sweat and sometimes blood - doing
       | something that's taxing, alongside and for the people in your
       | community you know and love.
       | 
       | The things that separate and seem so large - cultural background,
       | socioeconomic status, upbringing - they melt away when you're in
       | the dirt laboring together.
       | 
       | And I understand that this is coming from a privileged viewpoint.
       | And that I had the choice to take on these things while others
       | don't. But in a way that makes it more meaningful.
       | 
       | Jesus didn't have to empty Himself of His power. God Himself
       | chose to humble Himself taking the form of a man and instead of
       | being a ruler over the humanity while He was here, He chose to
       | live among the lowest of the low. To love and care for the folks
       | that society tried to pretend didn't exist without any gain, self
       | aggrandization, or virtue signaling. To die for us in order that
       | if we turn away from the world and towards Him in faith we would
       | be saved from the sin inside of us that separates us from God and
       | warrants His judgment.
       | 
       | Jesus' love makes me want to be like Him. I'm nowhere close --
       | often foolish and more often still selfish. But in His presence
       | there's fullness of joy and an abundance of life that's only
       | found in sacrificing one's self to Him.
        
         | gabereiser wrote:
         | Jesus was outcast by the temple for speaking against Jewish
         | law. That kind made him "of the people". Anyway, giving back to
         | one's community - either through church or a volunteer
         | organization like Habitat for Humanity or Food Banks are very
         | purposeful when money is taken out of the equation.
        
           | IKLOL wrote:
           | [dead]
        
         | paulcole wrote:
         | > There's a deep satisfaction in putting forth real effort -
         | mentally and physically with sweat and sometimes blood - doing
         | something that's taxing, alongside and for the people in your
         | community you know and love.
         | 
         | I don't know if I'm alone in this, but I've never felt this. I
         | have no interest in this and take no satisfaction from it. If
         | somebody wants something from me I'll give my money. Obviously
         | I give my time for my job so I get money but that's only
         | because I have to work.
         | 
         | If I didn't have to work, I wouldn't. I took 3 years off once
         | and kept to myself and loved it. Didn't contribute to society
         | besides spending money.
        
           | HeyLaughingBoy wrote:
           | I don't get it either. I'm a very senior engineer and I also
           | live on a horse sanctuary. Taking care of horses is hard,
           | very physical work that _has_ to be done every day,
           | regardless of weather or how deathly ill you feel.
           | 
           | It's a pain in the ass. People ask if it's rewarding. No,
           | it's just pain in the ass labor that has to get done. The
           | only reason I do it is so my wife doesn't have to do all the
           | work by herself.
        
           | padobson wrote:
           | _I took 3 years off once and kept to myself and loved it._
           | 
           | Were you stoned the whole time?
           | 
           | I only ask because if you're loving what you're doing, then
           | there's usually some modus operandi or Summum bonum driving
           | you.
           | 
           | A really good high is pretty straightforward.
           | 
           | Most others I know about tend to require something that
           | contributes to a community, but certainly study or meditation
           | can be lonely yet meaningful pursuits.
        
             | paulcole wrote:
             | Nope! Took molly once during those 3 years, but other than
             | that I've abstained from drugs, alcohol, and soda pop my
             | entire life (I'm 100% non-religious though).
             | 
             | I read books, went to the gym, went on walks, rode my bike,
             | hung out with friends, went on dates, went to the movies,
             | went on the internet, and that was it. Absolute best time
             | of my life.
        
         | travisporter wrote:
         | I was with you until "only" in the very last sentence.
        
         | iknowstuff wrote:
         | Ah yes god
        
           | bazmattaz wrote:
           | The man himself
        
         | windexh8er wrote:
         | > Dirt under your nails work.
         | 
         | I feel like this is important, at least for me, to maintain a
         | balance. I have a small bit of land. I'm often building with
         | wood or metal. I'm lucky enough to have a shop/outbuilding
         | where I can do those things like machine, weld, paint, cut,
         | etc.
         | 
         | I grew up in a small town (less than 3500 people) and I was a
         | pretty fanatical gear head. I thought, at around 10, I had my
         | mind made up and I was going to be a mechanical engineer. It
         | was a way to combine two things I loved: computers and
         | machines. But then I stumbled across a new undergrad program at
         | one of our state universities focusing on networking,
         | programming and *nix OSes and fell down that rabbit hole. On
         | one hand I'm glad I did, on the other hand I'm still tinkering
         | with things like Fusion 360 and vCarve. Maybe it's that it's
         | not my professional life but building real things has a
         | different reward. I've built, extended and upgraded countless
         | corporate networks and have mostly specialized in network
         | security over the years. But it's really good to physically
         | build or fix something. I've got dirt and grease under my nails
         | often.
        
         | joenot443 wrote:
         | That's a really refreshing and admirable career story, thank
         | you for sharing. I think so many people's problems with their
         | mental wellbeing would dramatically improve if they had a
         | community which fosters the type of 20% work you're describing.
         | Great stuff.
        
         | idiotsecant wrote:
         | Anyone romanticizing physical work based on doing it as an
         | unpaid hobby is not experiencing what it's like to _actually
         | rely on that kind of work to survive_. You aren 't 'living like
         | the common people do' because you do some work for your church
         | sometimes. You're an otherwise rich tech worker who also likes
         | to do physical things sometimes as part of a community.
         | 
         | Working as a shift engineer at an industrial facility is not
         | even remotely the same thing.
        
           | dzhiurgis wrote:
           | This does distort the market for everyone who actually try to
           | get paid for cleaning and mechanical work...
        
           | screwturner68 wrote:
           | I equate this to the people working with habitat for humanity
           | (no offense it's a great program) but these people are for
           | the most part cos playing construction workers. But there's
           | no foreman busting your ass because you are moving too slow
           | or the general disregard for safety because you only have 3
           | days to frame out the house and it rained yesterday. It's no
           | different than when the CEO works the register at some coffee
           | place or fast food joint -look at me I work hard just like
           | the little people. It's a show, in the end they go back to
           | their rarefied positions and their outrageous salary not
           | understanding that somebody has to do that back breaking work
           | every day and for a wage a lot people wouldn't get out of bed
           | for. I'd also add that they likely did a shit job that would
           | gt you fired if you weren't working for free.
           | 
           | Do it everyday and live off the low wages for a year and then
           | come back and tell me how fulfilling it is.
        
             | 6510 wrote:
             | > Do it everyday and live off the low wages for a year and
             | then come back and tell me how fulfilling it is.
             | 
             | That makes no difference, it is still a choice. As soon as
             | you've figured out you can rub 2 stones together and make
             | fire you will never [again] get to experience the cold
             | nights as something unavoidable.
             | 
             | Why do we work at all? Why not travel the world and enjoy
             | ourselves? The only reason I can think of is that
             | insecurity is terrifying. Then the next guy pulls his
             | guitar out of its bag and people start throwing money in
             | his hat.
             | 
             | Escape velocity right there!
        
             | mahogany wrote:
             | Huh, what an interesting and specific rant toward Habitat
             | for Humanity volunteers. Is it your experience that those
             | volunteers pretend to be "real" construction workers?
        
           | ransom1538 wrote:
           | "Anyone romanticizing physical work based on doing it as an
           | unpaid hobby"
           | 
           | Exactly. Being homeless is different than camping. One is a
           | mental hell hole of despair. The other is fishing and
           | laughing with friends.
        
             | explaininjs wrote:
             | Homelessness is not a mental hell hole of despair, and
             | claiming it is does more to dehumanize the homeless than
             | anything.
             | 
             | Being in a mental hell hole of disparity is a mental hell
             | hole of despair, but that can come with any profession at
             | any position on the socioeconomic ladder.
             | 
             | (am homeless)
        
               | nerdchum wrote:
               | [flagged]
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | throwaway675309 wrote:
               | [flagged]
        
               | evilos wrote:
               | "Being homeless is not always bad!" is not a take I was
               | expecting to see today.
               | 
               | I'd bet 99.99% of homeless people would extremely prefer
               | not to be.
        
               | norgie wrote:
               | Where is that in the parent comment?
        
               | explaininjs wrote:
               | Thanks for this. All I said is we don't live in a deep
               | hole of despair. Sure parts are bad, but I don't know of
               | anyone who lives with absolutely no bad in their life.
        
               | aatd86 wrote:
               | Yes, strange. Homeless yet posting on hackernews is not
               | what the vast majority of homeless people are doing I
               | bet.
               | 
               | I've seen some people struggle and they didn't have that
               | kind of leisure time.
               | 
               | Perhaps it's homeless as in not owning an address? Don't
               | know. Can happen given rent prices... Been there.
        
               | CogitoCogito wrote:
               | > I'd bet 99.99% of homeless people would extremely
               | prefer not to be.
               | 
               | I'm curious what /u/explaininjs would have to say about
               | this given he/she claims to be homeless.
        
               | explaininjs wrote:
               | The real percentage is far smaller. I suspect the parent
               | has only encountered homeless beggars, in the context of
               | being begged at. If that's all you knew I could see how
               | you might think they hate it.
               | 
               | In reality homeless place a higher value on personal
               | freedom than most, and the absolute happiest people I've
               | ever met were all homeless with no intention of being
               | otherwise. For these, possessions often come from
               | donations they receive from people they meet and develop
               | real connections with.
        
             | 6510 wrote:
             | It is different in that you get to fish and laugh with
             | friends the year round in stead of just 14 days recovery
             | from that to-fast moving conveyor belt in that noisy
             | stinking factory for that boss who hates you.
        
         | padobson wrote:
         | Didn't think I'd see camels going through needle eyes on HN
         | today, but here we are!
        
           | LeFantome wrote:
           | Big assumption that people are going to get that reference
        
             | joenot443 wrote:
             | It's among the most famous of Christian metaphors, I'd
             | actually be surprised if it went over the head of a well-
             | read individual.
        
               | meetingthrower wrote:
               | Did you know "needles eye" does not refer to sewing
               | needle? I'm told it actually referred to something like a
               | cattle gate. So the message is actually "hard but not
               | impossible..."
        
               | krapp wrote:
               | According to Wikipedia, there's no actual evidence for
               | such a gate, so this seems like apocrypha meant to soften
               | the message.
               | 
               | But given that we're talking about the man who preached
               | "give up everything you have and follow me" and "let the
               | dead bury their own dead" I'd favor the more radical
               | interpretation being the most likely.
               | 
               | edit: Oh yeah, parable of the talents, too.
        
             | the_only_law wrote:
             | [flagged]
        
             | ratsimihah wrote:
             | i google it and it worked out
        
               | jasonladuke0311 wrote:
               | Crazy huh? Almost like a peculiar arrangement of words
               | might be referenced elsewhere.
        
       | ramesh31 wrote:
       | God no. I crawled out of that dirt to make a life for myself. You
       | don't wanna go back there. Every single morning I wake up and
       | thank God, Buhdda, Krishna, Zeus, Allah, whoever, for my career
       | and job. You have no idea the misery that 90% of the human
       | population is trapped in for life.
        
         | flave wrote:
         | I feel you man.
         | 
         | Don't want to be a selfish bastard but equally don't want to be
         | a sad bastard.
        
       | charlie0 wrote:
       | What's a Coffee Engineer? Are you engineering coffee plants, or
       | is that a euphemism for a barista? I've started seeing the word
       | engineer get appended to a lot more job roles these past few
       | years; Sales Engineer, Technical Support Engineer, etc.
        
         | Jarmsy wrote:
         | Since they mention being on the road, I'm guessing
         | repair/maintenance of coffee machines? I know what you mean
         | though - I remember a time when the coffee machine was broken
         | with a sign on it saying "an engineer is on the way to fix it",
         | which some of the chartered civil engineers in the office found
         | mildly offensive!
        
         | yamtaddle wrote:
         | I'd assumed something to do with roasters, but yeah, maybe it's
         | more mundane than that.
        
         | 0x445442 wrote:
         | I was a Hydro-Porcelain Engineer while in college.
        
         | flave wrote:
         | Yeah lol. Sometimes called Espresso Machine Engineer.
         | Basically, the people who provide commercial espresso machines
         | (usually a roaster) offer the cafes (and offices etc)
         | installation, service and repairs. The Coffee Engineer goes out
         | and goes that work.
         | 
         | Medium and long term, you would likely go self employed and
         | then the roasters contract work out to you.
        
         | HPsquared wrote:
         | "job title engineering"
        
       | tootie wrote:
       | No. I think it's a "grass is always greener" fallacy. Working
       | behind a cash register is likely going to be far more frustrating
       | than working with tech stakeholders and be a lot more physically
       | fatiguing. You really just can't attach so much of your self-
       | worth to your job ever. If you have a hole in your life, then
       | picking up a hammer or paintbrush doesn't seem likely to fill it.
       | Maybe finding a job in your area of expertise working for a
       | company that has more of a positive mission can add a little
       | extra satisfaction without forcing you to give up too much. But
       | really making personal connections is what's going to give you
       | the most. If not with co-workers, then falling in love works
       | pretty well. So does having kids.
        
       | david422 wrote:
       | I can tell you that prior to working in the professional industry
       | I took some lower paid manual jobs.
       | 
       | There is a big quality of life difference by being able to "buy
       | whatever you want" - whether that be the latest watch, or fixing
       | your boiler that just broke - without worrying about if you can
       | afford your rent that month.
       | 
       | I think there is also a big mental difference between - I don't
       | have a choice with my job and this is what I'm stuck doing at
       | this pay grade "forever" - vs - I'm doing this by choice and if I
       | really need to I can go do something better.
       | 
       | Whenever I think I have it tough in software I look back and
       | think - well, at least I'm not in those other jobs. Those other
       | jobs did have upsides, but a lot of downsides.
        
       | kvnnews wrote:
       | Don't do it. You have good circumstances you should not throw
       | away. If you're really that bored all day, find a job in the same
       | field that is more challenging. Just know that in a few short
       | years that greener pasture you tricked yourself into will become
       | boring again or worse. There's nothing new under the sun. My
       | honest advice, seek Jesus.
        
       | johnny99k wrote:
       | Most manual jobs are going to pay less and hurt your body more. I
       | think your best bet is to save tons of money and then retire
       | early, so you can do what you want.
       | 
       | Most jobs (manual or office work) are not rewarding and don't
       | provide meaning.
        
         | baremetal wrote:
         | Pay is worse, and it is harder on your body.
         | 
         | But I can tell you have never done a manual job because you
         | would understand the sense of satisfaction at the end of the
         | day when you gaze upon the fruits of your labors.
         | 
         | Everyday I drive past houses I built and people now live in.
         | Very rewarding.
        
           | pawelmurias wrote:
           | Not in every manual job you are building something cool and
           | tangible like a house.
        
             | baremetal wrote:
             | Even ditch digging is satisfying after the fact.
        
       | andjd wrote:
       | I'm reading between the lines here, but my guess is that you're
       | interested in the coffee role because you're passionate about
       | coffee. It also sounds like you've looked at the pay cut, and
       | decided you can live with it. (Take the long view ... if you make
       | a career of this job, will you be able to afford to live where
       | you want to? Will you be able to comfortably retire?
       | 
       | I suspect that if after a year or two you decide that this more
       | manual work isn't the life improver you expect, you should still
       | be able to get another job in your current field. It might be a
       | little harder than if you were to look for a new job without the
       | gap, but will be much easier than breaking into it in the first
       | place.
       | 
       | You can also talk to your manager -- they might be able to offer
       | you an unpaid leave of absence for a while which would give you
       | the space to try the new job while keeping your options open.
       | 
       | I'm familiar with the finance industry in NY which has a heavy
       | work-hard-play-hard culture; or put another way, they have
       | demanding expectations, but pay you enough for you to tolerate
       | it. I assume London is similar. Switching to a similar sales role
       | in a different industry might be an alternative that could work
       | for you as well. It might be less of a pay cut, but give you more
       | capacity to pursue things you're passionate outside of work.
        
       | meigwilym wrote:
       | Before software I worked a number of blue collar jobs. Despite
       | sharing the same feelings as you, there's no way I'm taking a pay
       | cut and going back to how I lived before.
       | 
       | I would remind you that the grass is always greener.
       | 
       | Here's a thread that was on the /r/bestOf subreddit the other day
       | about finding meaning in one's work:
       | 
       | https://www.reddit.com/r/ExperiencedDevs/comments/13ohn5b/is...
        
       | zeku wrote:
       | You can do whatever you want. As long as you're employed enough
       | to meet your bills and retire one day.
       | 
       | I also haven't done the switch, but consider getting into a
       | physical hobby AND also perhaps switching to a lower hours less
       | stress role in your current field that will free you up to spend
       | more time on your hobby.
       | 
       | I worked manual labor through high school and most of college. Be
       | careful of a job that has repetitive motions that can cause you
       | overuse injures. They're very common in the 50+ crowd in the blue
       | collar area I'm from.
       | 
       | Good luck!
        
       | baremetal wrote:
       | I was in tech for more than a decade. I would go back _if_ I
       | could find a well run company with a good team rather than the
       | corporate bureaucracy that sucks the fun out of coding.
       | 
       | I am currently building out my farm.
       | 
       | I am also a general contractor.
       | 
       | And the end of the day you feel a profound sense of
       | accomplishment when you gaze upon your the fruits of your labors.
       | Everyday I drive past houses and businesses that I framed and now
       | people live and work in them.
       | 
       | Pretty soon I will be petting my cows and swimming in my pond.
       | Also there is nothing like a spring morning outside, sun on your
       | face, birds chirping. Good for mental health.
        
       | tokyolights2 wrote:
       | I spent two years during the pandemic working at a hand-made
       | beeswax candle factory. I spent most of my day either running the
       | wax filtering machine or dipping taper candles.
       | 
       | When I received an email saying that my job was going to be work-
       | from-home for the forseeable future, I knew that I had to quit.
       | At the time I had really been relying on office friendships and
       | work for too much of my socialization and self-image, so moving
       | to a remote environment took too much away from me.
       | 
       | I found the light factory work really enjoyable. It was so
       | rewarding to make simple, high quality products wit my hands. It
       | was also nice to have a job where I was interacting with a wider
       | cross-section of people, as I tend to not really enjoy tech
       | culture very much. I had forgotten what it was like to work in an
       | environment where there is comradery among the staff and a
       | healthy distrust of management. I feel like in tech people are
       | always grovelling to their bosses and the C-suite, which rubs me
       | the wrong way. A bunch of temporarily-embarrassed billionaires I
       | guess.
       | 
       | I'm back in tech now, but with the perspective that I am working
       | to achieve some mid-term monetary goals. After I pay down my
       | mortgage considerably so I can cut down my monthly expenses, I
       | will highly consider going back to a crafting job of some sort.
       | Life is too short to spend it on the computer.
        
       | yboris wrote:
       | A book that has been useful thinking about jobs:
       | 
       |  _Bullshit Jobs: A Theory_ by David Graeber
       | 
       | https://www.amazon.com/Bullshit-Jobs-Theory-David-Graeber/dp...
       | 
       | One thing from it that has been stuck in my mind: a common
       | occurrence of people hating their jobs despite being paid to do
       | quite-literally nothing. Part of the reason is that people
       | generally want to be useful to society, and when they see their
       | job as not doing that, it's hard to care or find satisfaction.
        
       | aynyc wrote:
       | I did manual labor (construction, gas station, etc.) work thru
       | high school and college. For me, I would never ever go back to
       | that life. But maybe your job is different than just pure manual
       | labor. So good luck to you.
        
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       | witchesindublin wrote:
       | I think it also depends on your social background, the social
       | life that you would lead, and what you want to be in the future?
       | 
       | If you are from the UK, then you would need to consider how the
       | change in social status would affect how you are perceived by
       | your possible friends and family. Would you be happy having to
       | deal with people who have a different mindset, different cultural
       | pursuits, etc... than you?
       | 
       | I think money is less of an issue as long as you make a nice
       | middle class salary for where you live. A lot of the tech
       | community seems to be obsessed with money making, but that is
       | more of a trait shared by Americans, and not widely found in
       | Europe nor Asia. The main issue is whether you are physically
       | capable of manual labour.
        
       | AshleysBrain wrote:
       | Someone I know pulled off some pretty big career changes: from a
       | sound engineer working in windowless rooms, to a professional
       | gardener, then to a software engineer. After several years
       | working full time mainly outdoors as a gardener - including
       | through the winters - they were looking forwards to working
       | indoors again. And the pay was much better in software. So while
       | some of us stuck in the office might gaze out the window on a
       | sunny day and daydream about having a job out there in the fresh
       | air, it can go the other way too.
       | 
       | There's several people here commenting that physical work can be
       | refreshing and rewarding compared to office jobs, but often
       | that's only in a part-time or volunteer capacity. I can attest to
       | it being a nice change, but only ever as a part-time project. I
       | would guess anything you do full time long-term will some time or
       | another feel a bit of a grind. Manual work in particular can take
       | a serious physical toll over the years, and being mostly sat down
       | indoors for your job can end up being tempting too. I also know a
       | couple of musicians who are perpetually on the road, and it's not
       | always a glamorous globetrotting lifestyle - one said they mostly
       | see highways and airports. But then there are great gigs too.
       | 
       | I think there's probably no such thing as a perfect job. That's
       | not to say a change can't be refreshing or worthwhile though!
       | Perhaps it's just that after many years most people eventually
       | get a bit tired of whatever they're doing, and then the grass can
       | look greener on the other side.
        
       | cm2012 wrote:
       | I'd probably rather die if I had to work any physical job the
       | rest of my life. Realms of the mind and thinking are so much more
       | comfortable to me. Even hanging up picture frames gives me
       | anxiety.
        
       | jasonshen wrote:
       | You might enjoy the interview I did with a 20 year software
       | engineer veteran who did stint(albeit short) as an Amazon
       | warehouse worker to get through burnout
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33072083
        
       | 6510 wrote:
       | exercise the brain -> better brain using your hands -> better
       | hand coordination physical activity - > better endurance hurl
       | heavy objects -> more strength etc each can be split up into more
       | specific things like learning a new programming language or
       | framework will come with similar but also different conditioning
       | from filling taxes or writing a business plan. Just like drywall,
       | Boxing and deadlift.
       | 
       | If I rent out my thoughts to an employer there will be few
       | thoughts left to use in my spare time. Same with tiring physical
       | work. Memory and fine motor skills are available all day, every
       | day but watch maker by day and watch maker by night might get
       | really boring.
       | 
       | Motivation is a bitch, doing something as a job is so much easier
       | to stick with. If the job has you run up a mountain every day you
       | will do it, if it's suppose to be a fitness goal or hobby you do
       | have to show up.
       | 
       | Each of the challenges in life has its perfect portion for the
       | day, week, month, year. Say, run up the mountain twice 3
       | days/week. You might write better books if you do it 24/7 for 4
       | months/year.
       | 
       | You have to figuring out the ideal amount of money to burn, how
       | much to earn and the ideal number of hours per week per project.
       | 
       | Thankfully life is completely pointless, there are no real goals.
       | It's all about the journey. (Life could be sitting down all day,
       | exploring the various foods of the world.) Every turn you make,
       | every step along the way will take you further away from other
       | things. When eventually the coffee comes out of your nose there
       | are always other places to explore.
        
       | davidbanham wrote:
       | The biggest difference to my mind is that at end of a day you
       | have something concrete to look at and say "I done that".
       | 
       | In software or business we spend so much time on intangibles.
       | Often worthwhile, but just not viscerally satisfying. "I am
       | mentally fatigued because I refactored the whole controller layer
       | of this app. It turned out the proposed redesign wasn't worth
       | pursuing so we reverted the commit, but the knowledge gained from
       | this spike was very valuable!"
       | 
       | Hits very different to "All my muscles hurt. I dug that hole.
       | That one right there."
       | 
       | The line between being fulfilled by manual labour versus being
       | crushed by it is flexibility. If you're choosing when to work and
       | what to work on, you'll probably love it. When you're working
       | through an injury on the hottest day of the year and the aircon
       | on the truck is broken and all the fire in the area was put out
       | days ago anyway... you'll wish you were refactoring.
        
       | neilv wrote:
       | I don't know what kind of work with your hands you mean, but for
       | lighter working with hands, just be aware of risks like:
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Repetitive_strain_injury
       | 
       | If you mean hard labor, even if you're an active athlete, maybe
       | talk with an expert on how that affects your body (doctor?
       | physiotherapist?). I'd guess they might be able to advise on what
       | to expect physically, how to condition yourself to help avoid
       | serious injuries, the top 10 unfortunate moments that turn into
       | permanent regret (e.g., lifting with back), what your time
       | horizon should be before moving to supervisor or an easier field,
       | etc.
       | 
       | If you already have enough money stashed away to live
       | comfortably, that helps: not only don't you get trapped in
       | physical labor jobs if you stop enjoying it, but you'll avoid
       | money-related stress (which adversely affects your health
       | multiple ways, including making you more susceptible to injury).
        
       | imadethis wrote:
       | Right now I'm about 50/50 between software engineering and EMS.
       | The value of the work I do as an EMT is obviously much greater,
       | but the pay disparity is so vast it's hard to commit to the jump.
       | Aside from what other comments have already noted, I'd get ready
       | for work being much much harder on you and your body on a daily
       | basis. You may not have to think about the job outside of working
       | hours, but there's a new level of physical exhaustion that comes
       | from being on your feet working 12 hours a day then doing the
       | same the next day. And the next, and the next.
       | 
       | Additionally, you may find the new rules and regs of your
       | position to be grating. Since you're in sales, you can set your
       | own schedule to some degree. That flips to needing to get
       | permission to leave work for the slightest reason. This extends
       | to relationships between you and your bosses as well. At my
       | software job I tend to collaborate with management, in EMS I take
       | orders.
        
       | czbond wrote:
       | You sound burnt out. Don't make large changes until you've first
       | sought to take a longer vacation or sabbatical equivalent. Many
       | companies offer some version of that.
       | 
       | Really - figure out a rough sketch of what your PLAN is for the
       | future.... not 1 year, not 5 but 10 and see how whatever your
       | next step is fits into that to complement it. Ideally, take some
       | trusted mates and run it by them too for a reality check.
        
         | the_only_law wrote:
         | > Really - figure out a rough sketch of what your PLAN is for
         | the future.... not 1 year, not 5 but 10 and see how whatever
         | your next step is fits into that to complement it.
         | 
         | How the fuck can you reasonably plan for that. Even my short
         | term plans were obliterated by shit like Covid and it's
         | aftermath.
        
           | czbond wrote:
           | I'm not a Marine, but if their saying "Improvise, Adapt and
           | Overcome" works in war, it can work anywhere.
        
           | mschild wrote:
           | Realistically, only to a small extent. The idea is more to
           | run through what you're aiming for and give it a sanity
           | check. Plans are adaptable and if they change that's
           | perfectly fine, but you need to know what and why you're
           | adapting. Making stuff up on the go with no goal in sight
           | isn't really going to work.
        
           | dukeyukey wrote:
           | Plans are useless.
           | 
           | Plannning is essential.
        
             | the_only_law wrote:
             | GP pretty clearly used the noun-form "plan(s)".
        
               | dukeyukey wrote:
               | Dunno who GP is but I was paraphrasing Eisenhower, in
               | that any individual plan can be made useless very easily
               | by stuff out of your control, but the planning process is
               | essential.
        
           | htag wrote:
           | I agree. I've had five and ten year plans. Some of my five
           | year plans even panned out. The vast majority of my one and
           | five year plans fail as reality is too unpredictable.
           | 
           | * Be careful to not fall into a local maximum. As years
           | progress in a long plan you might find better opportunities
           | by adapting. Think of the opportunity cost of sticking to
           | your plan
           | 
           | * As you execute the plan, you'll gain more knowledge and
           | experience. This very frequently includes information that
           | would have been useful in forming the plan. Try to anticipate
           | what will give you this information and gain it as early in
           | the plan as possible.
           | 
           | * Change happens. You change. The world changes. Reevaluate
           | your plans frequently.
           | 
           | * Be careful of sunk cost fallacies. Even if you worked
           | really hard to progress, sometimes the best corse of action
           | is to walk away.
        
       | PragmaticPulp wrote:
       | > I have an interview next week for a coffee engineer role which
       | pays around a third of what I currently earn and would involve
       | being on the road four out of five days.
       | 
       | The most poignant tip I can give you: Do not jump straight into
       | drastic career changes as a solution.
       | 
       | You sound dissatisfied with your job or recent jobs, but you're
       | projecting that dissatisfaction on to the entire career. It is a
       | mistake to assume that all software engineering jobs are going to
       | be as equally uninspiring as your current one. You've notified a
       | job that is so completely different from your current work that
       | you assume it must be better, but I assure you it comes with many
       | downsides you haven't learned about yet. The grass is greener on
       | the other side of the fence because you're less familiar with it.
       | 
       | I've done a lot of career mentoring. Frequently, people come to
       | the mentoring program dissatisfied with their current job and
       | under the belief that they'll be happier if they abandon it all
       | and do something different. My sample size is small, but for what
       | it's worth I've only seen this work out once: The person hated
       | software from the start, had only gotten into software because
       | they thought it would pay well, and they weren't able to keep up
       | with basic software tasks. Basically, they chose the wrong job
       | for the wrong reasons and couldn't do it.
       | 
       | For everyone else, drastic changes usually result in some hard-
       | learned lessons that they miss their old career and the money
       | that came with it.
       | 
       | Taking 1/3 the pay to travel 4/5 the time might sound refreshing
       | to someone who is tired of sitting at a computer right now, but I
       | doubt you'll be excited about it after 1000 days of grinding
       | through travel delays, missing events at home, layovers, and a
       | retirement account that isn't growing any more.
       | 
       | Pick a less disruptive and less permanent way to change up your
       | life first. Do manual labor on the weekends. Volunteer somewhere.
       | Take an extended vacation. Landscape your yard. Help your elderly
       | neighbors clean up their yard. Anything to start adding some
       | variety to your life without detailing your career to try it.
        
         | flave wrote:
         | I really appreciate your comment.
         | 
         | I left this out of the OP because I didn't want to to be too
         | verbose but this decision is a long time coming for me.
         | 
         | In the last two years I've started volunteering, I repair and
         | sell coffee machines as a hobby and I row and play rugby three
         | to five times a week.
         | 
         | I've really considered this deeply and I think I'm like the
         | example you gave - I was never suited for the world of offices.
         | I was good at school but hated that, and good at university and
         | I hated that too. Then I just got jobs in the highest paying
         | fields I could find and went from there.
         | 
         | I think you give good advice but I can't help thinking that
         | life is short and if I had a heart attack and was being wheeled
         | into A&E, I would think that I was fucking moron for having
         | spent so many days sat behind a PC.
        
       | flyingshoes wrote:
       | Oh hey -- this is me.
       | 
       | I was a software engineer for close to 6 years, and now I'm a
       | barista (read more here:
       | https://thoughtfulcoffeenyc.substack.com/p/roast-24-the-bari...
       | ). The change in role isn't permanent, as I intend to go back to
       | tech to save money and then leave it to try and open a cafe in a
       | few years.
       | 
       | But my thoughts on your questions:
       | 
       | > How did you find it (assuming the job)?
       | 
       | At the moment, I enjoy it! I do think... I'd likely get bored
       | after a year or two since there really isn't a lot of variety to
       | the barista job. I'm able to practice and develop my social
       | skills which wasn't something I was able to do as an engineer,
       | and it's kinda exciting waking up knowing you'll get to interact
       | with new people. In tech, it was just the same people over and
       | over again -- which isn't bad, but I remember always wishing that
       | I could interact with more/new people.
       | 
       | > Did you miss the money and status?
       | 
       | Yes. Lol. Also a reason why I intend to return to tech... I can't
       | really live my current lifestyle off a barista salary. I don't
       | care much for the status, but I do miss the freedom that money
       | brings. I also miss the flexibility that tech has.
       | 
       | Anyways, hopefully my answers were helpful to you!
        
         | yourapostasy wrote:
         | _> ...practice and develop my social skills which wasn 't
         | something I was able to do as an engineer..._
         | 
         | An affiliated note to junior engineers out there reading this.
         | The more senior your role in software development
         | organizations, the more you rely upon your social skills to
         | demonstrate value. OP's six years would only have exposed them
         | to the very beginnings of that effect that are often subtle at
         | that stage.
         | 
         | Also, if you go into any client-facing software role like sales
         | engineering, your value is tied directly into your social skill
         | development from Day 0.
         | 
         | Dale Carnegie's classic _How to Win Friends and Influence
         | People_ is a decent place to start if you are interested but
         | don 't have a network or a mentor to lean upon (classic chicken
         | and egg problem for introverts who want to learn to "pass" as
         | extroverts or even become extroverts).
        
         | draw_down wrote:
         | [dead]
        
         | czbond wrote:
         | Barista and opening cafe? My suggestion is to learn the
         | economics of those businesses rather than the operations. You
         | can hire the operational side - and those businesses are
         | economically margin tight.
        
           | vector_spaces wrote:
           | I spent about a decade running purchasing teams for food
           | companies and startups before changing careers. People with
           | tech or academic business operations backgrounds tend to
           | approach food businesses like this, whether well capitalized
           | startups or less ambitious pet projects to start, say, a pie
           | company or a coffee shop, and consequently go to zero very
           | quickly. The people I've seen have the most lasting success
           | in this space are, perhaps unsurprisingly, non-tech people
           | who have simply worked in the business from the ground up,
           | often without much formal training.
           | 
           | The short of it is that food business is different and
           | extremely difficult in that, aside from the razor-thin
           | margins, culture and relationships are absolutely critical,
           | moreso than in any other industry. In other words, you won't
           | get far treating your employees and vendors (and by
           | extension, your customers) like fungible APIs, because word
           | that you're kind of a jerk will spread quickly, and they'll
           | all end up killing you.
           | 
           | Anyway, all that said, the parent has the right intuition
           | about this. Work on the ground floor, because doing that will
           | give you much better intuitions and insights about the
           | economics and cadence of the business and you'll probably end
           | up interacting with employees, vendors, and customers. Then
           | learn the economics more formally. Ideally find a mentor in
           | the industry, and remember to humanize everyone at every
           | step, no matter who they are.
        
             | debatem1 wrote:
             | This is excellent advice for arts businesses as well. If
             | you have the relationships you have a business, even if
             | it's subcritical for you. If you don't have the
             | relationships you just have debt in disguise.
        
           | flyingshoes wrote:
           | Thanks for the advice!
           | 
           | I agree the economics are important, and I definitely intend
           | to learn them. I just also want to know how to barista and be
           | able to operate the cafe!
           | 
           | I enjoy serving coffee, and I want to be interacting with my
           | customers/staff/etc. :)
           | 
           | I'm friendly with a few local small cafes (one shop only),
           | and the owners all involved with service.
        
           | appleiigs wrote:
           | I think your advice of not learning the operations is really
           | bad advice, especially for a small business. If it's a low
           | margin business, hiring people when you should be doing the
           | work yourself isn't going to help. Small business owner
           | definitely need to get their hands dirty. While I'm not
           | totally convinced, Elon Musk thinks owners should get their
           | hands dirty even when in a large corporation.
        
           | piker wrote:
           | > and those businesses are economically margin tight
           | 
           | Read: terrible, mostly just labor-intensive real estate
           | plays.
        
             | czbond wrote:
             | ^ This. I have a tendency to abrasively be emotionally
             | insensitive to people's dreams and am trying to be
             | supportively realistic.
        
               | somenameforme wrote:
               | It depends on how you look at things. In many ways the
               | point of dreams is more about the pursuit of them, than
               | the achievement of such. Because it's not like you
               | achieve something and finally you're there - it's done,
               | you've made it. Well it might be that way for a brief
               | period. But in short order you'll be onto the next dream.
               | 
               | It's human nature. We're not content, which is probably a
               | really great evolutionary driver, but not really a great
               | driver for things like stability. And it's not all
               | material. Even something like e.g. stoicism is largely a
               | dream. It's a never-ending battle which you'll never win,
               | but the point isn't about winning it, but about finding
               | fulfillment in the journey along the way.
        
               | rubicon33 wrote:
               | > which is probably a really great evolutionary driver
               | 
               | While true, I find this ironic since this constant drive
               | for new things is a huge source of dissatisfaction,
               | unhappiness, and general lack of desire to procreate.
               | 
               | You can tell me all day to find fulfillment in the
               | journey, but life isn't setup that way. Most often the
               | highest paying work is devoid of novelty and is mostly an
               | exercise in focus and repetition.
               | 
               | We spend our most healthy and youthful years, sitting a
               | chair staring at a monitor for the majority of our days
               | and the worst part is we're payed so incredibly well that
               | you'd be a fool to do anything else.
               | 
               | "Enjoy the journey" I hear everyone say. What journey?
        
               | patching-trowel wrote:
               | I admire your impulse to be more sensitive to people's
               | dreams.
        
               | dml2135 wrote:
               | Lol, well put. I feel you there.
        
       | mark_l_watson wrote:
       | Well, not really a job, but I enjoy volunteering at my local food
       | bank. Career wise I am all in on tech (written 20+ AI books, have
       | 50+ patents) but it is refreshing and personally rewarding to do
       | something useful that is non-tech.
       | 
       | I am in my 70s, but when I was a 25 year old computer programmer
       | I looked into having two part time jobs, one programming and one
       | something like working on a fishing boat. I ended up not going
       | the working in a fishing boat route, settling for working in tech
       | an average of 30 hours a week, and bought a sailboat.
        
       | mywittyname wrote:
       | > would involve being on the road four out of five days.
       | 
       | This is bad for your health. Being stuck in a vehicle is worse
       | than being in an office chair. And no matter what you say now,
       | you're going to end up eating a lot of take out and not really
       | exercising.
       | 
       | Something to consider.
        
       | pk-protect-ai wrote:
       | I would die from boredom if I chose this job. Have you thought
       | about being a plumber? You'll probably earn the same amount as
       | now, but you'll get more diverse communications with it, and this
       | job will not be replaced by AI within the next 20 years (IMHO, I
       | might be wrong though).
        
         | the_only_law wrote:
         | > You'll probably earn the same amount as now
         | 
         | Sure you will...
         | 
         | https://www.bls.gov/oes/current/oes472152.htm
         | 
         | https://www.bls.gov/oes/current/oes151252.htm
        
       | liamtuohyff wrote:
       | Software engineer for 12 years then got depressed about the job.
       | Got into firefighting because I want to go to heaven and figured
       | that with the 1 day on 2 days off schedule I can continue
       | software on the side anyway.
       | 
       | Turns out just because you are a good software engineer, it
       | doesnt mean you will be a good firefighter, and I need to
       | dedicate a huge amount of time learning the job because software
       | is a creativity focued job and Fire/EMS is a memory based one,
       | and i have a bad memory.
       | 
       | The sleep is terrible, im an introvert and have a hard time
       | getting along with others at the firehouse, but will say without
       | a doubt it was absolute best decision ive ever made in my life.
       | You will never see the facial expressions behind a computer you
       | see in this job.
       | 
       | Im doing creative data analytics for fire depts to see how to
       | save more lives, and thinking about making the swap to law
       | enforcement just because i think my past as a software engineer
       | can save more lives there. One example of my analytics is posting
       | cops in areas where statistically it isnt likely for fire/EMS to
       | show up in time, if the cop gets on sceane sooner, they can begin
       | patient care sooner, and unltimaly increase rosc rare. You gotta
       | be the change you want to see in the world you know?
        
         | poo-yie wrote:
         | That's awesome! Since you mention data analytics and being able
         | to get to people quickly, have a look at 'set covering problem'
         | for ways to find optimal solutions.
        
         | bazzert wrote:
         | Inspiring!
        
         | rubicon33 wrote:
         | > Got into firefighting because I want to go to heaven
         | 
         | Can you explain what you mean by this?
        
           | whamlastxmas wrote:
           | Maybe he wants to build a ladder to heaven
        
           | recursive wrote:
           | Seems clear to me. Paraphrase as "want to do good", as
           | opposed to doing well.
        
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           | screwturner68 wrote:
           | The firefights that I know are dead. Most left their wives
           | with small children. I had the opportunity but I knew too
           | many men who went to work and never came home.
        
         | joseda-hg wrote:
         | Isn't doing good because you want a reward the opposite of the
         | pious good you're supposed to enact to get to heaven?
         | 
         | I've been wrestling with this line of thought for a while,
         | having recently rewatched The Good Place brought it back
        
           | liamtuohyff wrote:
           | That is a good question, I live way below my means - One day
           | i would like to have a wife and kids and as long as we are
           | all fed our daily bread then thats all i ask for. The data
           | analytics part was all volenteered and unpaid. If i stopped
           | getting paid tomorrow, i would still volenteer to do it, i
           | dont know where that puts me. Jesus healed people, hospitals
           | heal people, i dont know of any hospitals that will train you
           | how to heal over a long period of time without also wanting
           | you on thier payroll
        
       | dahwolf wrote:
       | I haven't yet, but it's in my future.
       | 
       | It's not realistic for me to retire early and I suspect I will be
       | obsolete in the tech industry long before the age of 70.
       | 
       | My plan is to work on lowering my living expenses to the point
       | that as of the age of 50-55, I can switch to a job that is local,
       | not in tech, lower paid, in the physical world, connected to real
       | people. It's obviously not going to be very hard labor at that
       | age.
       | 
       | The idea is to pay down the entire mortgage, optimize the home
       | for energy use, and reduce to just one small cheap car, or maybe
       | even none at all. There's plenty smaller items to save on, but
       | that's the bulk of it. Funny thing is that it's barely even a
       | lifestyle downgrade.
       | 
       | It should add that this is our plan. My wife is in. She has an
       | office job, not in tech, but is equally done with it. A massive
       | waste of life, it drains the soul. We estimate that by that time,
       | it requires as little as 1.5 x minimum wage to keep things going.
       | Which is an absolute joke compared to our current combined
       | earning power.
       | 
       | I'm under no illusion that our potential new jobs are going to be
       | terribly exciting. It doesn't have to be.
       | 
       | Our plan isn't just driven by a disgust for the modern office or
       | fear of becoming obsolete, it's also because we realized that
       | retirement is a scam. We both have a large family and the general
       | pattern we observe is that around the age of 70, most people are
       | broken, exhausted, dead or have lost their partner. They do not
       | thrive in magical new freedoms, travel, or hobbies for some 2
       | decades. They perish. They sit, talk and complain and slowly see
       | their peers fall apart.
       | 
       | Brutal, but the lesson is to not delay gratification that long.
       | Work with the assumption that retirement sucks and that you're on
       | the clock to improve your life during your good years.
       | 
       | Anyway, what was the question again?
        
       | bodhi_mind wrote:
       | I've learned recently that you'll never find long lasting
       | happiness by chasing it. You have everything you need already
       | inside you to find happiness and joy in whatever you're doing :)
       | Good luck!
        
       | Brulaap wrote:
       | I'm pretty sure there's a lot more to life than being really,
       | really, ridiculously good-looking. And I plan on finding out what
       | that is. - Derek Zoolander.
        
       | gotrythis wrote:
       | I took a summer job as a painter and did some other contracting
       | stuff in my 30s after being in tech my whole life. I went from
       | setting my hours to getting up at 5 am to be picked up to go to a
       | job site, working hard all day, coming home, and going to yoga
       | for body repair.
       | 
       | By the end of the summer, I was ripped. Best shape of my life,
       | and I got paid to do it. I was very tempted to keep doing that
       | for a living and probably would have had a more consistent
       | income.
        
       | weinzierl wrote:
       | I switched in the opposite direction, from an engineering role to
       | software development. My engineering role wasn't exactly manual
       | labour, but at least I had to deal with real hardware sometimes,
       | the joy of which I wrote about in another thread recently [1].
       | 
       | Overall I believe the amount of manual labour had little to do
       | with my job satisfaction ever. For me it is more about building
       | stuff that others find useful and I need to be involved in much
       | of the process. If you never see the outcome of your work it's
       | probably inevitable to find it pointless at some point. If you
       | only ever deal with the outcome of others (like in sales) you
       | might find it pointless as well (at least I did).
       | 
       | Coming back to your question: I think it is generally believed
       | that jobs with manual labour often enable one to build things
       | from start to finish or at least be responsible for a closed
       | tangible process (like maybe being a coffee engineer) while
       | information work rarely does.
       | 
       | I, for one, am not convinced that is the case and I would like to
       | encourage you to at least look into possibilities that give you
       | satisfaction while still being adequately paid (which manual
       | labour is very rarely). As a physicist you have the best
       | prerequisites one can imagine.
       | 
       | [1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36055688
        
       | ravedave5 wrote:
       | I suggest working out instead. With manual jobs your back hurts?
       | too bad - you have to go in. If you want to be physical be
       | physical, you don't need a job to tell you to do it.
        
         | Grustaf wrote:
         | Going to the gym is pretty different from doing manual labour,
         | it's not really a solution.
        
           | sixstringtheory wrote:
           | Sure, of course it's different. It's much safer, you can get
           | much more variety of motions and routines, you can take a day
           | off or stop early if you need to, you can listen to a
           | podcast, read a book or watch tv.
        
             | Grustaf wrote:
             | Manual labor is not just about getting physical exercise.
             | 
             | I go to the gym every day and take it very seriously, but
             | it's a different thing. Just like doing sudoku can't take
             | the place of an intellectually stimulating job.
        
           | poo-yie wrote:
           | That's true! I think the idea is more along the lines of 'do
           | it on your own terms'.
        
         | poo-yie wrote:
         | A lot of wisdom here! I'm in my mid 50s and sometimes have
         | lower back trouble. If I thought my lower back could take it, I
         | would seriously consider leaving software engineering and
         | switch to a trade.
        
       | jacquesm wrote:
       | Why would a manual job not be professional?
       | 
       | I have massive respect for the trades people, waitstaff etc, they
       | do much if not all of the actual work on this planet if you
       | discount automation and DIY. A lot of my time has been spent on
       | getting proficient at DIY and every time I look at the end result
       | I know for a fact that even a junior schooled in the art would
       | have done a better job than I did. It still gives me
       | satisfaction, but it also shows me that there is no such thing as
       | a job that isn't worth doing and doing well.
       | 
       | I'm not sure what a 'coffee engineer' is though.
        
         | flave wrote:
         | Install, maintain and repair commercial espresso machines.
         | 
         | I don't really understand your question. In the UK there are
         | professions and none of them (apart from maybe Surgeon) are
         | manual.
         | 
         | You can split hairs about terminology and how it's 'telling' -
         | but it's just words.
        
         | neom wrote:
         | In the UK white collar work is often referred to as
         | "professional work" vs a trade.
        
           | jacquesm wrote:
           | Yes, and it's quite telling in its own right.
        
       | 1MachineElf wrote:
       | If you're smart enough for a physics degree, a sales/finance job,
       | and your own start up, then you are likely smart enough to make
       | it as a coffee engineer too.
        
       | geff82 wrote:
       | While I still love my IT work which consumes most of my time, my
       | wife and I actually decided to "make" more stuff and possibly
       | make money with it: crafting photos on real film in our darkroom,
       | doing electronics, invent wood kits, etcetcetc.
        
       | roundandround wrote:
       | I've known a quite few people who dropped out of tech around the
       | dotcom bust and I've not really had a very normal continuous
       | career..
       | 
       | As afar as manual labor and car(?) travel, I would recommend
       | against doing that without a specific trajectory in mind that
       | you've already been working on. For example if you will be
       | transitioning to more of a lifestyle as an owner of coffee shops.
       | 
       | Most people I know who went into the trades and stayed had pretty
       | good advantages compared to ones that were really looking for
       | anything open to an entry level worker.
        
       | thorin wrote:
       | You are living the dream, I suspect, from a UK perspective. I
       | have a similar background. Not sure what you mean by coffee
       | engineer? I have friends who are plumbers (gas safe) or builders
       | etc. They can make the same money as me, or more, but it's hard
       | work and you have a lot of liability on you. You also need to
       | manage the business side as well as the work, if you want to be
       | self employed and hence make decent money.
       | 
       | Despite being very sporty, I'm now finding in my mid 40s that I'm
       | hitting various physical issues. Nothing serious, but would
       | prevent me from doing hard manual work every day. As it is I
       | haven't lost a days work due to pandemic, or illness for years
       | now as the work I do is so low impact and from home. I imagine
       | this would be much more challenging into 50s and 60s whereas in
       | tech you can work almost indefinitely (I have a friend about 75
       | who is working).
       | 
       | You also need to consider the training and certification time
       | that might be required. Also being out on the road wouldn't work
       | for me, I'm used to being close to home now.
        
         | flave wrote:
         | Coffee engineers (at the entry level end) basically install,
         | service and repair commercial espresso machines. It's probably
         | less manual than a plumber or electrician and more manual a
         | desk job.
         | 
         | You work for a roaster to start with and I have some background
         | with repair coffee machines as a hobby. Once you're good at
         | what you do, people tend to become independent but my goal
         | would be to open a shop where we repair and sell machines.
         | 
         | You're right that from any reasonable standpoint I'm absolutely
         | living the dream. I'm debt free, have a good income in a
         | country where incomes are a bit fucker and I do a pretty cushy
         | work from home job. But, I hate it 90% of the time.
         | 
         | There's been a lot of good advice here but the overwhelming
         | thing all day at work is just how excited I am at the idea of
         | not having to do this bs anymore.
         | 
         | I like being on the road - it's a bit like going on an
         | adventure.
        
       | kornhole wrote:
       | If only our jobs were not so specialized and all consuming we
       | could have better balance of the physical, social, and technical
       | skills we desire. I like to tell this story which immediately
       | gets a rise out of people. One of the things the [name revealed
       | at end] did that I liked was to require everybody in the country
       | to do some manual labor. Scientists, bureaucrats, doctors and the
       | like were all required to be outside for a few hours a day doing
       | manual labor alongside others from various backgrounds. This not
       | only made a physically healthy population but improved society.
       | The government that did this was the Nazis. Of course much of
       | what they did was horrible, but I think this great experiment was
       | lost in history due to the branding.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | 1letterunixname wrote:
       | _This isn 't so bad, huh? Making bucks, getting exercise, working
       | outside._
       | 
       |  _Fuckin ' A._
       | 
       |  _Fuckin ' A..._
       | 
       | The problem is fundamental: monetizing business value. Is there a
       | particular, defensible, specialized manual skill worth as much as
       | the most niche knowledge work you can do? Perhaps some sort of
       | nuclear-rated welder? A professional engineer who happens to be
       | an expert witness and subject matter expert for the
       | interpretation of civil or mechanical engineering building codes
       | can command 50k GBP for writing an opinion report that takes 1-2
       | hours of effort.
        
       | geocrasher wrote:
       | You don't need a career change. You need a hobby.
        
         | flave wrote:
         | My hobby is repairing coffee machines...
        
           | geocrasher wrote:
           | In that case, stop looking to your job for fulfillment.
           | There's so much more to life than work. Fulfillment, joy,
           | it's all there if you look hard enough, but if you rely on
           | your job for it, then what happens when the job goes away?
           | You lose the joy and fulfillment? I don't want anything
           | having that much control over me personally.
           | 
           | Now, if you have an active distaste for the work you do,
           | that's another story. I used to say I wanted to leave the
           | business I was in and go work at the local mini mart selling
           | slurpees and hot dogs. I was only partly kidding. Turns out I
           | just needed out of that _that employer_. I love the industry
           | though. But my true fulfillment comes from elsewhere.
        
             | flave wrote:
             | Appreciate your feedback.
             | 
             | For me, the tell-tale sign that I need to make a big change
             | is because I've never liked any job I've ever had which
             | involves being sat behind a desk. Although my employer is
             | _challenging_, I've felt like that about five or so
             | different employers and even working for myself.
             | 
             | On your first comment about not looking for your job to
             | fulfil your life. I agree and disagree. I think that's
             | fundamentally right and you need more in your life than
             | your job and, honestly, right now I get a lot of my
             | identity from my job and money and all that. Which I'm not
             | proud of.
             | 
             | But the 'no' part is that I work hard and I always have
             | done. 40 hours minimum and usually more like 50. And I work
             | in the best part of the day when it's sunny and light. To
             | squander all that time through my working life just seems
             | horrendous. It's not like a couple of hours a day, it's the
             | best hours in the best days in the best years of my life
             | being spent switching pixels off and on in a grid using
             | little buttons.
        
               | geocrasher wrote:
               | it's the best hours in the best days in the best years of
               | my life being spent switching pixels off and on in a grid
               | using little buttons.
               | 
               | Oh, this thought has crossed my mind so, so many times.
               | It's usually a sign that I need to get out more. I now
               | live where it's beautiful and sunny all the time, and yet
               | I still find myself holing up like I did when I lived in
               | the Pacific NorthWet.
               | 
               | At the end of the day, I'd say work on building your
               | identity outside of work. Work a little bit less,
               | schedule more time to be outdoors, and see after a few
               | months if you still feel the way you do now. If so, then
               | you know what you need to do. At that point, cut down
               | your income to the level you'd be at otherwise, and see
               | how it feels. If it's fine, then... do your thang.
        
       | Zach_the_Lizard wrote:
       | I haven't quit, and have no plans of quitting, but I scratch the
       | manual labor itch by, well, manually laboring at home.
       | 
       | I've dug hundreds of feet of trenches to move around sprinkler
       | and water lines to account for a new patio and fence. Added walls
       | to my home to add an extra bedroom and office. New trim, new
       | solid core doors, etc.
       | 
       | I've painted rooms, ran Ethernet to all the bedrooms, added some
       | outlets, replaced all outlets with tamper resistant ones, and the
       | list goes on and on.
       | 
       | To top it off, I have a project car that I've been working on.
       | They constantly require some small amount of maintenance and
       | something can always be made better. You can be in
       | troubleshooting mode, tracing electrical gremlins, or you can
       | just be mindlessly sanding off rust from the frame.
       | 
       | Once my kids are older, I hope to get them involved somewhat just
       | to teach them some skills. I cherish the memory of my grandfather
       | teaching me some of this stuff and hold on to some things he made
       | for me.
       | 
       | I structure things so that I can have two or so small projects
       | running that I can pick up and set down without fuss, since life
       | and kids often get in the way.
       | 
       | I've definitely saved thousands on some of the work I've done
        
         | kiliantics wrote:
         | I've also done this kind of thing in my spare time. It's
         | definitely rewarding in many ways: you get to enjoy the fruit
         | of your labour in your lived environment, you know you did a
         | more detailed job than someone you paid would have done, you
         | make all the decisions about the work where a contractor may
         | have done it differently, you save some money on the labour
         | costs of the work.
         | 
         | One thing I've learned through doing this though is that I
         | would have a very hard time doing this to make a living. Unless
         | you are somehow in a position to do custom bespoke works for
         | high payers, where you keep a lot of control over the process
         | and don't have to operate on tight margins, I just don't see
         | how it could be any more rewarding than office work. On top of
         | this it will take a physical toll on your body and pay less.
         | 
         | Despite that, I do hope to make this transition myself but it
         | will be a long time till I will be in a position to make it
         | work. I think it can make sense for someone if they are able to
         | make niche items, like by becoming a luthier say, and can
         | afford to do it for poverty wages because they are basically
         | semi-retired. I wish more people had the freedom to do this
         | kind of work, and that society placed more value on well-
         | crafted things over mass-produced rubbish.
        
         | screwturner68 wrote:
         | I come from a family of master plumbers and I was my uncles
         | helper as soon as I was old enough to hold a 5 gallon bucket
         | and bring back the right tool. Over the course of growing up I
         | did all sorts of different trades, I banged nails, tore off
         | roofs, I bent conduit and I've tiled thousands of square feet
         | of flooring and walls and I hated almost every minute of it.
         | Working in shitty conditions, getting screamed at because you
         | don't move fast enough, low wages and permanent damage to your
         | body is not something I'd sign up for long term
        
         | dzhiurgis wrote:
         | > I've definitely saved thousands on some of the work I've done
         | 
         | Was that a necessary work tho?
        
           | Zach_the_Lizard wrote:
           | Some of it was. For example, the sprinkler system that came
           | with the house was blasting my house and fence with water.
           | 
           | Doing so causes fences to decay more quickly and can damage
           | the foundation of the house.
           | 
           | By digging up and moving the sprinklers, I prevented that
           | from happening.
           | 
           | I also swapped a bunch of it for subsurface drip irrigation,
           | which conserves significant amounts of water. That not only
           | saves me money, but is better for the environment.
        
         | SoftTalker wrote:
         | > Once my kids are older, I hope to get them involved somewhat
         | just to teach them some skills. I cherish the memory of my
         | grandfather teaching me some of this stuff and hold on to some
         | things he made for me.
         | 
         | They may or they may not. I do all the sorts of things you do
         | and have tried to get any of my kids interested and none of
         | them really are. So don't be too disappointed if that happens.
         | Kids are not clones of yourself in every detail.
        
           | Zach_the_Lizard wrote:
           | My goal is not to turn my kids into mechanics, but teach them
           | to troubleshoot and learn a few basic things. My hobbies are
           | my own and they don't have to enjoy them.
           | 
           | I don't want my daughter, for example, to give up and call me
           | if she gets a flat tire. I want her to know how to put on the
           | spare tire and do it if needed.
           | 
           | Beyond that it's gravy.
        
         | great_psy wrote:
         | Just curious about the car maintenance, do you think it is
         | something younger people will not get to experience as much?
         | 
         | I am not super familiar with newer cars, but it seems there is
         | a lot more software in there, and I am wondering if that makes
         | it much harder or impossible to fix some of the newer cars.
        
           | Zach_the_Lizard wrote:
           | > Just curious about the car maintenance, do you think it is
           | something younger people will not get to experience as much?
           | 
           | Yes and no.
           | 
           | Even with electric cars, stuff like brakes won't go away.
           | Some even have drum brakes as I recall.
           | 
           | But gone are the days of using a few screwdrivers, wrenches,
           | and odds and ends to fix most problems. But most of those
           | problems are solved by software.
           | 
           | I'm not hoping to get my kids into this, just teach them some
           | basic skills.
        
           | UniverseHacker wrote:
           | No, mostly the software makes working on modern cars easier
           | and more rewarding. Everything has built in diagnostics so
           | it's a lot easier to pinpoint what is wrong and fix it. Old
           | cars would often never quite run correctly and there was no
           | straightforward path to figure out why except tediously
           | swapping parts out.
        
             | atentaten wrote:
             | I have a different perspective. I'd rather work on cars
             | with less software. Just spent months working on a car full
             | of computers, had to use an old windows laptop to run a GM
             | Tech II emulator and other bits of hacky tools to reprogram
             | different modules after replacing one. Ultimately, I was
             | able to get the car to start, but that victory was soon
             | lost because the next day the new and old modules went
             | offline after attempting to put the car in gear, and of
             | course the car won't start any longer. Could be faulty
             | wiring or faulty modules... This is why I like to work on
             | simpler cars where every function does not need a computer
             | module.
        
           | charlie0 wrote:
           | I don't think software gets in the way of getting some
           | experience working on cars. Cars still need their tires
           | rotated, alternators swapped out for new ones, new brake
           | pads, oil changes, refilling liquids and occasionally
           | troubleshooting issues with OBD II. These are are all fairly
           | basic things that don't require an armoir full of tools and
           | can be done on a weekend.
        
       | johnhess wrote:
       | I haven't switched. I still mostly do software engineering. But I
       | did burn out on my job in a toxic workplace and quit with nothing
       | quite so formal as a plan.
       | 
       | Before picking up more software work ~6mo later, I got certified
       | as an EMT and started volunteering on the ambulance at a local
       | service. It has been a really great choice. I work with excellent
       | people in a job very different from my remote software one. I
       | wouldn't call it manual labor by any stretch, but it has a very
       | different physicality and interpersonal nature than engineering
       | that makes it very rewarding for me.
       | 
       | There's no reason on paper to spend whole days volunteering doing
       | something you're not the best at. Doesn't matter.
        
       | selflesssieve wrote:
       | It seems like you're trying to get the tail to wag the dog. Ask
       | yourself what your greatest good is, and order your life towards
       | that.
        
       | not_your_vase wrote:
       | This classic thread is relevant:
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=24541964
        
       | KurtMueller wrote:
       | If you're getting paid for a job, it's a professional job.
        
       | jvanillaaaa wrote:
       | "someday" is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave -
       | Tim Farris / Rolf Potts
        
         | poo-yie wrote:
         | Very true! A few years ago my brother-in-law died unexpectedly
         | of a heart attack at age 53. This event was a real eye opener
         | for me. It made me realize that my 'one of these days I'd like
         | to...' plans have an expiration date and will never happen
         | unless I make them happen. Since then, I've made progress on
         | some of those plans.
        
         | ramesh31 wrote:
         | >"someday" is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave
         | - Tim Farris / Rolf Potts
         | 
         | "Buy my eBook"
         | 
         | - Tim Ferris
        
       | nlnn wrote:
       | It probably doesn't apply here (and might well be country/region
       | specific), but one thing I've heard from friends who've done
       | similar has been some resentment/hostility related to jobs that
       | are only people with previous money can afford to take.
       | 
       | I've got several friends that made a lot of money in tech/law
       | before switching to more fullfilling jobs (things like furniture
       | maker, barista, something music-related, plumber, museum curator,
       | librarian).
       | 
       | One argument they've heard is that by taking jobs that aren't
       | economically feasible to do without money, they're encouraging
       | low pay for others in that field who don't have any other choice.
       | One or two volunteer for free, and have heard complaints that
       | volunteers have destroyed careers in certain sectors.
        
       | elif wrote:
       | I've been a sw engineer for 12 years, from intern to junior to
       | engineer to senior. About 4 years ago it had taken so large of a
       | toll on my mental health I quit with no plans other than hiking
       | some bucket list thru hikes with my wife.
       | 
       | After the time off, really looking at what matters to me, I find
       | myself looking to careers that will provide me with personal
       | enrichment rather than another one that is "easy," high paying,
       | and providing "skill development".
       | 
       | Right now I'm looking at starting very low paying trail angel
       | services that would let me meet a lot of Appalachian trail thru
       | hikers. And taking a job as a flight attendant so that I can
       | travel the world for free. Both would give me complete control
       | over my schedule so I wouldn't find myself trapped in the same
       | cage that destroyed my mental health before.
        
         | roland35 wrote:
         | Be careful with the flight attendant career - good routes are
         | seniority based, you are only on the clock during flights, and
         | the pay is not great. I think it's one of those things that
         | sounds more glamorous than it is (at least for a while)
        
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