[HN Gopher] On mindsets, mind shifts and wins
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       On mindsets, mind shifts and wins
        
       Author : davestewart
       Score  : 28 points
       Date   : 2023-03-11 19:40 UTC (3 hours ago)
        
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       | pedalpete wrote:
       | This is very similar to the journey I've been on over the last
       | 10+ years.
       | 
       | Daily routines, stopped drinking (though I've mostly stuck with
       | it aside from maybe 2-3 times a year I'll have alcohol), therapy,
       | etc.
       | 
       | Nobody would call me minimalist, but what I think people who know
       | me don't realize is that I just buy things that last a REALLY
       | long time.
       | 
       | It was surprising to remove myself from "consumerism". As a
       | cyclist, I would always be buying the new thing, the newest gear,
       | until I bought an old touring frame and built it up with old
       | parts. That became my main bike. I was no longer in the mode of
       | upgrading components to the latest thing, or getting the fastest,
       | lightest gear, etc. It's running components I've had for more
       | than 20 years, and it's still a ton of fun!
       | 
       | I'm about to upgrade, but it was that one act with my bike, which
       | made me recognize we do the same with many other things. Fashion
       | obviously, but cars too. Always having to have the latest and
       | greatest, but once you break the cycle it is surprising how
       | quickly you realize those things never mattered.
        
       | darkerside wrote:
       | This is a really nice writeup. I've learned a lot of these
       | lessons as well, since I know how life changing it can be.
       | Congrats, and thanks for putting it all down on paper.
        
         | davestewart wrote:
         | That's kind of you to comment! Thank you. FWIW it's a really
         | fun exercise to log your own wins; I suggest you have a go!
        
       | rawacre wrote:
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       | andsoitis wrote:
       | This bit is particularly wise:
       | 
       |  _Perhaps I could phrase this better, but I've become hyper-aware
       | that folks rarely change their minds (opens new window). The
       | level of polarisation around Brexit, BLM, Covid 19, politics,
       | climate change, trans rights, etc is huge, and to put a dog in
       | each and every fight is exhausting. Rather than stumble clumsily
       | in, I'll take the time to learn about something privately, and
       | consider the various views. I try to replace reaction with
       | reflection, frustration with patience, and opinions with
       | questions; it's genuinely useful to see something from another's
       | perspective. The downside is I engage far less, but life is
       | infinitely more peaceful._
        
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