[HN Gopher] The teen mental illness epidemic began around 2012
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       The teen mental illness epidemic began around 2012
        
       Author : Dowwie
       Score  : 334 points
       Date   : 2023-02-08 13:32 UTC (9 hours ago)
        
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       | password54321 wrote:
       | It doesn't help the fact that less teens now believe in God [1].
       | Whether or not God is real, the belief of one gives more purpose
       | to more people with religious text helping you think beyond what
       | the limbic system wants but on your character and the people
       | around you. And not people as objects but as other sacred beings
       | also with a purpose.
       | 
       | To degenerate a society, strip off traditions that have been
       | formed over centuries collectively, including people with far
       | greater minds than most of us and make everyone more
       | individualistic.
       | 
       | [1] https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2020/09/10/religious-
       | be...
        
         | DubiousPusher wrote:
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thirty_Years%27_War
        
       | marginalia_nu wrote:
       | Looking at the graphs in the article, they just sort of have a
       | line drawn at 2012, but I don't think there's an obvious change
       | in trend in almost any of them, not that sticks out from the rest
       | of the noise-level in the data at least.
       | 
       | If anything, judging from the graphs (all of which have been
       | cropped very close to the beginning of the span so as to not give
       | much of a baseline), the change, if there is such a thing, seems
       | to have happened at about 2006-2009?
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | pmontra wrote:
       | > What is the evidence that the loss of free play and risky play
       | contributed to the epidemic?
       | 
       | And not being able to walk around alone. No freedom can't be
       | good, even for children.
        
       | karaterobot wrote:
       | The dismissive statement "people have made similar claims before,
       | therefore this claim isn't true" is one of my pet peeves. You see
       | it a lot around issues like this as a way to not engage with an
       | argument.
       | 
       | It's an obvious fallacy: it doesn't matter if something was said
       | in the past, or whether or not it was true when said before. The
       | only thing that matters is whether it is true in this case.
        
       | nimbius wrote:
       | Perhaps related: the Affordable Care Act was passed by US
       | President Obama in 2010. the US prior to 2010 had also
       | experienced nearly seventy school shootings.
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_school_shootings_in_th...
       | 
       | Since Mr. Haidt reports from the US statistics of the CDC:
       | 
       | 1. could it be reasonable then to suggest the prevalence of
       | mental illness in teens is evidence of more cogent detection
       | systems coming online?
       | 
       | 2. Could it also be reasonable to consider this detection to be
       | in response to the epidemic of mass shootings in schools?
        
         | verteu wrote:
         | Not likely. The pattern holds for suicide rates, which are not
         | very affected by ACA "more cogent detection systems."
        
       | briantakita wrote:
       | I wonder what the trend is since the concept of "teenager" was
       | coined, which I believe J Edgar Hoover used & Edward Bernays
       | encouraged...
        
       | nluken wrote:
       | While I don't doubt that social media can drive some of these
       | mental health issues, I think most teenagers are simply stressed
       | from the constant work that's necessary for the college
       | admissions process.
       | 
       | I'm 24, so I would have been a teenager in 2012, but I didn't
       | have a smartphone until I was 16 or so. My high school experience
       | consisted almost entirely of school, studying, and running (my
       | primary extracurricular). Most of the little extra time I had
       | remaining would go to additional extracurricular activities that
       | had the potential to enhance my college application. I only
       | really got to socialize by talking to my teammates on our runs.
       | 
       | As a result, even when I had extra time I was so burnt out and
       | stressed from everything else that I felt consumed by anxiety. I
       | would sometimes start crying spontaneously after I got home in
       | the evenings. Things only started getting better when I started
       | seeing a therapist and worked on my issues over the second half
       | of my high school experience. Not everyone is so lucky.
       | 
       | If we want a healthier society, we need to take a step back and
       | give teenagers a chance to actually live life. Sure, less social
       | media would help, but it won't solve the root of the problem.
       | Today's society demands so much from adolescents for so little in
       | return. It's very easy to think that you're a failure if you
       | don't know exactly who you are and what you want to be at age 17,
       | and that's not a fair expectation for any 17 year old. We
       | shouldn't be surprised that many break under this kind of
       | pressure.
        
         | ok_dad wrote:
         | > If we want a healthier society, we need to take a step back
         | and give teenagers a chance to actually live life.
         | 
         | We (American here) need to take a step back and let _everyone_
         | enjoy life. That means providing healthcare, food, and shelter
         | to _every single person_ so that they can live their life and
         | work in a non-anxiety-inducing way. Every therapist I 've
         | talked to in the past few years has told me that they think the
         | number one thing that would reduce their workload is if people
         | weren't so stressed about paying for the most basic things for
         | their family. Most of the people they see would still have
         | issues they need to deal with, but wouldn't be on the precipice
         | of suicide and taking loads of pills. That's an anecdote, but
         | to me it's clear that the "hustle culture" and lack of social
         | support have combined in the USA to make things very hard for
         | the average American. This applies to kids directly, too,
         | because that hustle has to start pre-college!
        
           | 1234letshaveatw wrote:
           | right, teen kids are so worried about healthcare costs!
           | Gimmie a break, your comment has nothing to do with the
           | article, it's low effort and a better fit for reddit
        
             | romeoblade wrote:
             | I'm not yet 40 but I am a male single parent. With the
             | closest family being 1300 miles away. Last year between
             | March-May my health deteriorated so bad that I went from
             | being fine to walking with a cane in less than 2 months.
             | Once finally diagnosed, I went from diagnoses to major
             | surgery in less than 12 days.
             | 
             | My daughter (just turned 16), picked up the slack as I
             | become pretty much bed ridden.
             | 
             | I can attest that this had a very destermental effect on
             | her health. Not only having to manage the house, school,
             | etc but also without any support from anyone. At the same
             | time watching me go from someone who use to be able to
             | squat 500lbs to someone who couldn't be trusted to wash
             | dishes without breaking a few because I had lost all
             | feeling, balance, and depth perception.
             | 
             | Go one night, hearing your daughter sob in her room because
             | she doesn't want you to see she's hurting and scared from
             | what YOU are going through and then come back and comment
             | because right now you are a very ignorant human to think it
             | doesn't. Especially since see already lost one parent.
        
               | 1234letshaveatw wrote:
               | I am sorry that you (and your daughter) went through
               | that. Would socialized medicine in the US have prevented
               | your health issue?
        
             | lazyasciiart wrote:
             | Teen kids are worried about _having enough to eat_. https:/
             | /www.urban.org/sites/default/files/publication/83971/...
        
             | commandlinefan wrote:
             | Well, in fairness, OP is _right_ : everybody would be under
             | a lot less stress if all of their needs were met for the
             | entirety of their lives with no expectation to ever
             | contribute anything. He's missing the realization that
             | somebody has to contribute something to meet the needs of
             | all the people whose needs are being met regardless of
             | their contribution, which is why communism always fails in
             | practice.
        
               | nocoolnametom wrote:
               | Everybody would be under a lot less stress if [a basic
               | level] of their needs were met [to avoid at the very
               | least bankruptcy and preventable life-long injury or even
               | death] for the entirety of their lives with no
               | expectation to ever contribute anything. He's missing the
               | realization that [everyone] has to contribute something
               | [via progressive taxation] to meet the [basic level of]
               | needs of all the people whose [basic level of] needs are
               | being met regardless of their contribution, which is why
               | [every other industrialized nation, even with failures
               | and economic issues in parts of their systems, is able to
               | provide at least this basic level for their citizens,
               | except for the US because of for-profit healthcare
               | lobbyists].
        
             | snozolli wrote:
             | _teen kids are so worried about healthcare costs!_
             | 
             |  _a better fit for reddit_
             | 
             | Funny you should say that, since Reddit is packed with
             | teens and the front page subs are pretty full of anxiety
             | over healthcare and the environment.
             | 
             | Teens today are absolutely flooded with horror stories that
             | they have zero authority or meaningful ability to change.
        
             | tasspeed wrote:
             | you're ignorant or extremely privileged if you think kids
             | dont worry. have you ever had a parent be ill and your
             | family has no money for their treatment?
        
               | 1234letshaveatw wrote:
               | OK, you got me. A lack of socialized everything that
               | started in 2012 is the cause of the teen mental illness
               | epidemic. Get out and vote everyone!!!
        
               | idontpost wrote:
               | [dead]
        
               | tasspeed wrote:
               | are you an idiot? its not a "lack of socialized
               | everything that started in 2012". Things have never been
               | socialized in America and as wealth is hoarded more and
               | more by the 1%, plus the effects of the 2008 recession,
               | the economic situation for most Americans is becoming cut
               | throat with a lack of socialized resources. As a result,
               | parents struggle, which makes their kids struggle. Kids
               | have little freedom nowadays because of how suburban +
               | capitalist America has evolved to kill communities.
        
               | NateEag wrote:
               | OP is sarcastically pointing out that since the US has
               | never had socialized health care, that cannot be the
               | explanation for a sudden uptick in mental health issues
               | circa 2012.
        
               | 1234letshaveatw wrote:
               | [flagged]
        
             | [deleted]
        
             | mrguyorama wrote:
             | I was being affected by household money problems when I was
             | 8. That shit rubs off on your kids no matter what.
        
           | tasspeed wrote:
           | I agree wholeheartedly. I was working a part time job in
           | highschool to pay for my gas and other expenses, when I
           | should have been doing kid things. Also as an early teenager
           | I turned to online communities because there was no other way
           | to interact with irl friends outside of school. It was too
           | dangerous to ride a bike to a friends house (cars), I
           | couldn't drive, and my parents were always working so they
           | couldn't give me rides. I still needed some sort of social
           | interaction though, so of course I turned to the internet.
        
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         | nicoburns wrote:
         | That only works in the US though. Colleges outside the US don't
         | tend to care about extra-curriculars, etc.
        
           | nluken wrote:
           | Agreed: the data in this article only discusses the US, so I
           | was only discussing the US here. I'm not sure if there's a
           | similar crisis in other countries. Some in this thread have
           | indicated yes, others no.
        
           | sylens wrote:
           | Unless you're really pushing for Ivy League, I don't think
           | colleges in the US care either. Who is calling your high
           | school to verify that they even had an Open Source Club and
           | that you were the treasurer of it?
        
         | Loughla wrote:
         | >I think most teenagers are simply stressed from the constant
         | work that's necessary for the college admissions process.
         | 
         | I am 100% behind this, and a lot of my professional career has
         | been spent in higher education, specifically working with
         | college access programs for pre-college students.
         | 
         | The amount of pressure kids are under today is just astounding.
         | When I was looking at colleges, the pressure started slightly
         | in 10th or 11th grade. Now, it's in the grade schools. Colleges
         | are trying to get into 6th grade classes to "offer services"
         | (read: recruit those kids under the pretense of supplementing
         | underfunded school classrooms).
         | 
         | This may come off as a "things were better in my day" but hear
         | me out:
         | 
         | I played baseball starting in kindergarten. There were summer
         | YMCA leagues, and a couple of kids played baseball on travel
         | teams in junior high and high school. The really good ones got
         | scouted in college, but 99% of us were in it because we liked
         | the game and liked playing. No matter what our parents may have
         | dreamed, we knew it was a fun way to be part of something we
         | liked.
         | 
         | My oldest plays baseball, he started in kindergarten, and has
         | played all the way to high school now. He loves the game, but
         | we also made sure it was a game, not a job. All kids in his
         | class who could afford it were on travel teams, starting in
         | first grade. All but three have private coaches for whatever
         | position they specialize in. . . starting in _first grade_. The
         | parents sponsored tournaments. The parents made sure their
         | travel team attended tournaments that college scouts or
         | colleges sponsored. _Starting in first grade_. The kids on his
         | school team (town population of around 1000, school k-12
         | enrollment is around 400) have literally played or practiced
         | baseball every weekend, barring some holiday weekends, since
         | they were 5 years old. That is not an exaggeration, it is a
         | statement of fact.
         | 
         | I actually got cornered by other parents asking why out child
         | (left handed) wasn't going to be on the travel team when they
         | were little, because he'd be a great pitcher. In first grade.
         | They were absolutely astounded that I said I just couldn't get
         | behind putting that much pressure on a child.
         | 
         | I don't think that people over the age of about 32 understand
         | just how unbelievable the pressure is on kids these days.
         | They're expected to be ON all the time, and their future is at
         | risk if they're not. Parents see it as just trying to set their
         | kids up for the best future possible. But it's so much
         | pressure.
         | 
         | It's astounding. I live in a poor, rural area. I have to
         | imagine it's much worse in urban/affluent areas.
         | 
         | And that's not even touching on the fact that social media and
         | technology means the students literally cannot get away from
         | social issues and bullying. That's a whole other thing.
        
           | yamtaddle wrote:
           | > My oldest plays baseball, he started in kindergarten, and
           | has played all the way to high school now. He loves the game,
           | but we also made sure it was a game, not a job. All kids in
           | his class who could afford it were on travel teams, starting
           | in first grade. All but three have private coaches for
           | whatever position they specialize in. . . starting in first
           | grade. The parents sponsored tournaments. The parents made
           | sure their travel team attended tournaments that college
           | scouts or colleges sponsored. Starting in first grade. The
           | kids on his school team (town population of around 1000,
           | school k-12 enrollment is around 400) have literally played
           | or practiced baseball every weekend, barring some holiday
           | weekends, since they were 5 years old. That is not an
           | exaggeration, it is a statement of fact.
           | 
           | This is one thing I've noticed about kids' sports, too, now
           | that I have (youngish) kids and I'm trying to find sports for
           | them. What used to be the low-end leagues--which were a _bit_
           | serious, but not too much--seem to mostly be gone, with a new
           | ultra-casual tier that didn 't exist before replacing it, and
           | then... nothing, until you're looking at _really_ serious
           | leagues with lots of travel and a huge time-commitment
           | ([EDIT] yes, even for like 1st-graders).
           | 
           | All I can figure is parents' preferences changed--more of the
           | half-serious players are pushed into the very-serious leagues
           | now, for whatever reason, and the kinds of kids/parents who
           | were always kinda unreliable and didn't seem to really have
           | their hearts in it in the old-style somewhat-serious leagues
           | are happier with the more-casual, even-lower-time-commitment
           | replacement, leaving insufficient demand for what used to be
           | just _standard_ youth sports leagues.
        
             | monknomo wrote:
             | Parks & rec funding has also cratered so the "little
             | league" that you think of as a way of putting together
             | local kids of all abilities to play a sport is less common
             | that it used to be. The privatized equivalents are usually
             | more competitive or religiously focused or both
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | Oh man--is _that_ part of it? Now that you mention it,
               | all the leagues I used to play on were either city-run
               | leagues or YMCA (which seems to have shifted toward the
               | very-casual end, too, but maybe that 's just our local
               | ones) I think.
        
         | yodsanklai wrote:
         | > I think most teenagers are simply stressed from the constant
         | work that's necessary for the college admissions process.
         | 
         | Spoiler: it won't get easier :)
         | 
         | I'm sure everyone has a different experience, but I find
         | professional life to be much harder than being a student, even
         | a student preparing for very selective admission process. You
         | often work as hard as an adult (if not harder), plus have more
         | responsibilities.
        
         | srcreigh wrote:
         | Grade inflation could be part of this. Look at canadian
         | university admission averages. [1] What percentage of students
         | had 95% or higher grade in high school?
         | 
         | Waterloo: 8.1% (2010) vs 38.0% (2020)
         | 
         | Western: 4.8% (2010) vs 25.0% (2020)
         | 
         | [1]: https://uwaterloo.ca/performance-
         | indicators/students/enterin...
         | 
         | I got into Waterloo CS in 2012 with a 92% high school average.
         | Pretty lucky.
        
         | xg15 wrote:
         | Meanwhile the comments below the article have already
         | determined the unmistakable cause of the epidemic: Today's
         | youth is just too coddled and the school environment is just
         | not violent enough anymore.
         | 
         | No further questions...
        
         | commandlinefan wrote:
         | > give teenagers a chance to actually live life
         | 
         | You'd have to do it worldwide, though. Part of the reason my
         | own teenage years were so (relatively) peaceful is because they
         | took place in the late 80's, before globalization. I empathize
         | with my own kids who've been on this treadmill since
         | _kindergarten_ , but it's there because they're competing with
         | kids from countries that have never had childhoods.
        
         | e40 wrote:
         | And the deteriorating job market when they get out. My son has
         | struggled/struggles with this. I 100% understand and I would,
         | too, if I were in his position. I compare his situation to mine
         | and they are night and day. The prevailing sentiment when I was
         | in college: get a degree (in anything) and you'll be OK if you
         | want to work hard.
        
           | nradov wrote:
           | What deteriorating job market? Despite some recent high
           | profile tech industry layoffs, the US unemployment rate is
           | 3.4%. There are jobs available for those who want to work.
           | They may have to move.
           | 
           | https://www.reuters.com/markets/us/yellen-you-dont-have-
           | rece...
           | 
           | A recent survey showed that most college students seriously
           | overestimate their earnings potential. There is a mismatch in
           | expectations. Students graduating with low-value degrees need
           | to take whatever job they can get and work their way up.
           | 
           | https://www.realestatewitch.com/college-graduate-
           | salary-2022...
        
             | e40 wrote:
             | Yeah, that was badly phrased. I was replying too quickly.
             | 
             | Yes, the job market has roared back in the last couple of
             | years, but before that it was cooler. But, I should have
             | mentioned other things besides jobs. The world is a pretty
             | bleak place, in a lot of ways. Yeah, the cold war was
             | always hovering about, but it was not really something that
             | my peers really worried about.
        
               | nradov wrote:
               | The world is less bleak now than it has ever been in
               | human history. If you zoom out and look beyond the news
               | headlines we as a species are doing pretty well. Rates of
               | extreme poverty are down worldwide and relatively few
               | people are starving to death or being killed in wars.
               | 
               | The world still has a lot of problems but let's be
               | objective about the data instead of succumbing to
               | defeatist narratives.
        
         | browningstreet wrote:
         | So many people here want to say, "That's not it, it's
         | {something else}."
         | 
         | Might be more fruitful to argue about a stack-rank of the
         | things.
         | 
         | But, as the father of a son who is a freshman in college at a
         | Research 1 university, I'll say that his college experience so
         | closely mirrors my enterprise organization work bullshit
         | experience it's shocking. And he doesn't have a social media
         | account or a mobile phone.
         | 
         | So, my humble counter is: it's all of it. We've entered a peak
         | bullshit culture moment in time. We throw a million negative
         | and spurious cultural and professional expectations at young
         | people and then couple that with the death of a reasonable
         | middle class end-game, and then are shocked that so many of
         | them, and the rest of us, are angry and unhealthy and
         | impoverished in various "whole person" ways.
         | 
         | (Not to mention climate change...)
        
           | strangattractor wrote:
           | IMHO peak BS is yet to come. Humans want to believe there is
           | only one problem responsible for complex outcomes. Life seems
           | simpler and understandable. Solutions consist of doing this
           | or stopping that. The reality is much more complex and
           | potential solutions always have consequences in addition to
           | the ones desired. For me it always comes back to population.
           | The population of the US (and planet) have more than doubled
           | during my life time. Out psychological and social
           | infrastructure that worked well for smaller groups of people
           | has not scaled well.
        
           | lotsofpulp wrote:
           | You have an 18 year old son without a mobile phone?
           | 
           | I would think it is at least needed for all the logins
           | requiring SMS 2FA.
        
             | browningstreet wrote:
             | Yes.
             | 
             | They gave him an iPad, but none of their systems use SSO of
             | any kind.
             | 
             | He doesn't really care for the iPad, doesn't have a mobile
             | phone, and doesn't do social.
             | 
             | He _does_ do Minecraft, KSP, and Davinci Resolve.
        
               | officeplant wrote:
               | I would assume at that point he's on other platforms like
               | Discord/Telegram instead of the usual social networks.
               | 
               | Or has a cheap prepaid plan and smart phone the parents
               | will never know about.
        
               | barking_biscuit wrote:
               | Well then it must be Minecraft.
        
         | Jun8 wrote:
         | I have a son who's a sophomore (15 yo, second year in HS) and
         | this comment absolutely rings true. He fences competitively (2
         | HR training four times a week plus a few hrs with physical
         | therapist) and his life pretty much consists of school,
         | homework and sports.
         | 
         | He has to be at school at 7:45am so gets up around 6am, goes to
         | bed around 11am usually, so much for the 8 hrs of sleep per
         | night!
         | 
         | And he hasn't even started the college death March yet.
        
           | BeetleB wrote:
           | Serious question(s):
           | 
           | 1. Why does he have to fence competitively? Is it not merely
           | a choice/preference?
           | 
           | 2. Same question but for any sports.
           | 
           | As for college, what is he/you aspiring to? Is it some
           | average university like Oklahoma State University or
           | something like UCLA?
           | 
           | I've yet to see evidence that it is hard/competitive to get
           | into the former. And while people who go to highly ranked
           | schools do have a minor advantage, it is fairly slight. I've
           | been to both types of schools, so I have an idea.
        
           | zabzonk wrote:
           | 11 pm to 7 am (say) looks like 8 hours sleep to me.
           | 
           | why does he _have_ to do anything you say he _has_ to do?
        
             | commandlinefan wrote:
             | Not OP, but I think I get what you mean - my own son, who
             | just started college, went through the same grind and
             | honestly had been on it since elementary school. So
             | technically, no, nobody _has_ to do this stuff, and in
             | reality there 's a low ROI for most of it. My son (chose
             | to) do a lot of extracurriculars to fluff up his college
             | application in the hopes of getting into an MIT or a
             | Stanford... and still didn't get in. He could have gotten
             | away with doing a lot less than he did and still would have
             | ended up in the same (good) state school he ended up in.
             | But kids in affluent areas are surrounded by suggestions
             | that you _do_ have to do this stuff to get into a  "good"
             | school, so they get caught up in it.
        
           | PantaloonFlames wrote:
           | > around 11am usually
           | 
           | presumably 11pm.
           | 
           | School, homework, and sports. But what is he missing? Are you
           | saying there is zero time for - hanging out with friends -
           | going on outings with the family (skiing or to the movies) -
           | self-directed activities - walking, photography, church
           | groups, getting a job
           | 
           | ?
           | 
           | If you're saying there's ZERO time for those things, I find
           | it hard to believe. Weekends there is no school. The days are
           | not consumed with training and homework, I guess.
           | 
           | When I was in HS, my mother strongly encouraged me to engage
           | in competitive sports to keep me away from the neighborhood
           | crew. Most days that meant a 530am alarm clock, 615am in the
           | pool, and after-school workouts too. So more like 3.5 hrs
           | daily. Then a nap before dinner, then homework. Keeping busy
           | with structured activities kept me out of trouble. The
           | control group, my brother, got in lots more trouble than I
           | did.
           | 
           | I had time for friends and self-directed activities,
           | especially off season.
        
         | nineplay wrote:
         | I agree that this is a serious issue. I know 3 kids who
         | graduated in 2019 and got into top universities. Three years
         | later
         | 
         | -- One flatly refused to leave home despite a lot of pushing
         | from their parents. They are working at the local theater and
         | taking community college courses here and there with no real
         | future plans or goals
         | 
         | -- One also decided to go to CC, with her parent's support this
         | time. She's 21, just got married, and has decided to be a vet
         | tech with the anticipation of being a SAH wife and mother.[0]
         | 
         | -- One went to a top university and had a mental breakdown
         | earlier this year - going back home and almost refusing to get
         | out of bed or eat. Fortunately(?) this happened over a 4 week
         | winter break, and with support from her parents and a
         | prescription for anti-depressants she is back in school.
         | 
         | Not very inspiring outcomes. I personally think that the
         | pressure from high school really ended up convincing them that
         | they never wanted to work that hard again.
         | 
         | [0] I don't want to look down on women who wish to become
         | SAHMs, but I think it's terribly short-sighted to make that
         | decision at 21 and give up on pursuing a "real" career.
        
           | ndriscoll wrote:
           | > I don't want to look down on women who wish to become
           | SAHMs, but I think it's terribly short-sighted to make that
           | decision at 21 and give up on pursuing a "real" career.
           | 
           | Certainly it requires a lot of trust and commitment, but I
           | wouldn't call it short-sighted. It's risky, but if you do
           | find a good spouse, it's not like you're missing out on
           | anything (my wife is a SAHM and has never had nor wanted a
           | career).
           | 
           | To me people that go to grad school and take on tons of debt,
           | only to be in a position to try to start having kids in their
           | late 30s/early 40s seem a lot more short-sighted. I watched
           | some consumer interviews while I was at my last employer. The
           | market segment we were interviewing were very high achieving
           | people, but some of them were 38+ and saying they're thinking
           | about having kids soon; there's like a 25% chance that ship
           | has already sailed, even ignoring the reality of being almost
           | 60 when they graduate from high school.
           | 
           | I suppose it comes down to knowing what you want out of life
           | and what will bring you satisfaction with the time you've
           | got.
        
             | nineplay wrote:
             | I don't trust a 21 year old to know if they've found a good
             | spouse. I don't trust anyone to know if they've found a
             | good spouse which is why I'd tell everyone, male or female,
             | to have a career they can fall back to if something happens
             | to their marriage. It might not just be a bad spouse, it
             | might be a spouse who dies young and then a woman with
             | multiple kids and a 10 year old vet tech degree has to
             | figure out how on earth she's going to support herself.
             | Life insurance only lasts so long.
             | 
             | I'm old enough to have seen a lot of young happy couples
             | turn into divorced bitter singles and I can't speak to the
             | average experience but in my circle, the women end up
             | screwed. They've got the kids, ( the ex wanted nothing to
             | do with the kids ) they've got no income ( the ex either
             | has no money or is fighting tooth and nail to avoid sending
             | any money ) and they are living off of parents, friends,
             | and social services trying to find some job they can do
             | part time ( no daycare ) that has a hope of supporting
             | them.
             | 
             | Some of these women stayed in bad circumstances for a long
             | time because they knew how hard it would be to manage
             | without their spouse. Some women are still in terrible
             | circumstances because they can't afford to leave.
             | 
             | > some of them were 38+ and saying they're thinking about
             | having kids soon; there's like a 25% chance that ship has
             | already sailed,
             | 
             | 25% is nonsense.
        
         | kitsune_ wrote:
         | You're making the mistake of extrapolating from your own
         | personal experience.
        
           | BoorishBears wrote:
           | Yeah... there's nothing wrong with growing up with a bit of a
           | bubble, but yikes by 24 you'd think this person would start
           | to be aware that their experience wasn't exactly universal
           | 
           | As other comments pointed out, a large portion of society
           | doesn't go to college, let alone "stress out about
           | extracurriculars to make sure my app looks extra good"
        
         | WalterBright wrote:
         | > break under this kind of pressure
         | 
         | They aren't being drafted to go fight in Vietnam. The Russians
         | aren't bombing our cities. The main health problem is eating
         | too much food, not too little. Teens aren't even expected to
         | have jobs anymore. (In my day, teens got jobs at 16.)
         | 
         | My dad volunteered in WW2. He expected to die in combat, as his
         | cohort had an 80% casualty rate. 4 out of 5. Every mission
         | meant holes in the airplane, and you stayed on course and took
         | it. When he returned home, he thought the concerns on the home
         | front were trivial. After all, they were going to live another
         | day.
         | 
         | We live in a golden age in America.
        
         | jackmott42 wrote:
         | The vast majority of kids are not focused on college like you
         | were, while that might have been a problem for you, that
         | doesn't mean it is the problem.
        
         | xeromal wrote:
         | > I think most teenagers are simply stressed from the constant
         | work that's necessary for the college admissions process.
         | 
         | I have absolutely no data to back this up but a difficult
         | college admission process isn't novel to 2012+. This is also
         | ignores the plenty of kids/young adults that never went to
         | college and still suffer from whatever this epidemic is.
         | 
         | We'd need to review data for people who didn't go to
         | undergrad/grad to see if your idea still holds truth.
        
           | RangerScience wrote:
           | * people who didn't try to go
           | 
           | If stress from college prep is an issue, it's only people
           | that weren't going through that who you'd want in the other
           | bucket.
        
         | carabiner wrote:
         | 40% of high school students don't go to college (of any type).
         | Of those, only a tiny portion are focused on elite
         | universities. Many are just going to Long Beach State,
         | University of Redlands and other 4 year schools that you've
         | never heard of. They have lax admissions. Among adult
         | Americans, only a third have bachelors degrees. Certainly the
         | high pressure scholastic environment of certain high schools is
         | not common.
        
           | marmetio wrote:
           | You can probably generalize and say that most teens stress
           | about competing or despair about their prospects. I'd nitpick
           | your use of stats, but I don't want to miss the forest for
           | the trees.
        
           | magicalist wrote:
           | > _40% of high school students don 't go to college (of any
           | type)._
           | 
           | > _Among adult Americans, only a third have bachelors
           | degrees_
           | 
           | So clearly things _have_ been changing in recent decades. I
           | wouldn 't be so quick to dismiss this as a factor.
        
             | meragrin_ wrote:
             | Having a bachelors degree and going to college are
             | different things. You can go to college and not get a
             | bachelors degree.
        
             | LarryMullins wrote:
             | Going to college is not the same as graduating with a
             | degree. A ton of people go to college for a time and leave
             | with little more than a mountain of debt. Also, a bachelors
             | degree is not even the least degree you can get from a
             | university.
        
               | magicalist wrote:
               | Fair point, but that's not an argument that things aren't
               | changing, just that they might not be.
               | 
               | From a quick search:
               | 
               | Between 2011 and 2021, the percentage of people age 25
               | and older who had completed a bachelor's degree or higher
               | increased by 7.5 percentage points from 30.4% to
               | 37.9%[1].
               | 
               | It would be helpful to get an attainment by age by year
               | breakdown.
               | 
               | And this still doesn't address the OP's hypothesis that
               | part of the increase in mental health issues is due to
               | increasing admissions pressure over the years, which many
               | people have brought up anecdotally. Whether or not the
               | majority of high schoolers experience that pressure
               | doesn't imply that it still couldn't be part of the
               | problem (which also, incidentally, isn't experienced by a
               | majority of high schoolers).
               | 
               | [1] https://www.census.gov/newsroom/press-
               | releases/2022/educatio...
        
               | [deleted]
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | eikenberry wrote:
           | You forget the cost of "just" those state universities still
           | requires many students to get scholarships to afford. So the
           | pressure is not just about getting into a good university,
           | for many it is being able to go at all.
        
           | sizzle wrote:
           | Most Cal States fit this criteria, but a lot end up at top
           | companies. It's really all on the student and going to get
           | advanced degrees helps.
        
           | nebula8804 wrote:
           | Where did this 40% come from and is it lumping in all
           | generations or just Gen-Z?
           | 
           | I found this source that may or many not be authoritative
           | that says 57% of Gen-Z is attending college, furthermore I
           | have heard from the grapevine that Gen Z has been pushed more
           | into STEM than any other generation.
           | 
           | [1]:https://timely.md/blog/generation-z-college-
           | students/#:~:tex....
           | 
           | [2]:https://thejournal.com/articles/2022/06/21/stem-fields-
           | are-t...
           | 
           | Personally as a developer that is overseeing hiring, I see
           | more and more Gen-Z people coming into the pipeline in
           | greater numbers. Looking at my alma mater(public state level
           | engineering college) the CS dept is exploding. When I
           | attended in 06, it was more of a snoozefest.
           | 
           | But this is one datapoint and probably biased. It just seems
           | like every Gen-Z I encounter(im a millenial) seems very
           | pragmatic and cynical in their choices and that may be
           | leading to more practical career choices like STEM.
        
           | bachmeier wrote:
           | Hate to be that guy[1], but this does not refute the comment
           | you're replying to.
           | 
           | 1. There may be more than one important explanation.
           | 
           | 2. Your data doesn't provide any information relevant to the
           | evaluation of the hypothesis.
           | 
           | 3. Many of the students at non-elite universities, however
           | you define that term, are the ones that were not successful
           | in their quest to go to an elite university. That's why the
           | acceptance rate is so low. Those students would be the most
           | likely to be affected by changes in the competitiveness of
           | college admissions in the wake of the Great Recession, not
           | the ones that were successful.
           | 
           | 4. "Certainly the high pressure scholastic environment of
           | certain high schools is not common." This is conjecture. It
           | does not seem plausible that it is "not common".
           | 
           | [1] Not really, but I'm supposed to say that.
        
           | harimau777 wrote:
           | Even if someone isn't going to an elite university, they may
           | need to compete for scholarships, admission to selective
           | programs (e.g. nursing), etc.
           | 
           | It is also possible that some people competed for selective
           | programs but failed to get in.
           | 
           | Finally, it's possible that even people who didn't
           | realistically need or want to get into a selective program
           | still feel a social expectation that they keep up with those
           | who do.
        
           | loeg wrote:
           | > Among adult Americans, only a third have bachelors degrees
           | 
           | Sure, but this is very skewed by older Americans having low
           | rates of degrees. A lot more than 33% of current American 24
           | year-olds have Bachelors degrees. And that more accurately
           | reflects the expectations on teenagers than low rates of
           | degrees among Boomers.
        
             | MisterPea wrote:
             | For 4-year college, the enrollment number is 31% for 2020.
             | Total enrollment including 2-year is 40%. The total number
             | of actual graduates is probably slightly less than this.
             | 
             | https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/indicator/cpb/college-
             | enrol...
        
             | hector_vasquez wrote:
             | In the U.S., around 86% of kids graduate high school[1],
             | around 63% of high school graduates go to 4-year
             | colleges[2], and around 64% of them graduate within 6
             | years[3].
             | 
             | By that logic around 35% of 24-year-old Americans have
             | bachelor degrees. More than a third, but not by much.
             | 
             | [1] https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/indicator/coi/high-
             | school-g... [2] https://educationdata.org/college-
             | enrollment-statistics [3]
             | https://nces.ed.gov/fastfacts/display.asp?id=40
        
               | loeg wrote:
               | You don't have to reverse engineer it from first
               | principles; the rate is rising over time: https://en.wiki
               | pedia.org/wiki/File:Educational_Attainment_in...
        
           | TuringNYC wrote:
           | Difference groups in the US face different pressures. Few
           | people have it easy. I think it would be difficult to come to
           | one answers. Some thoughts:
           | 
           | GROUP A - growing population, roughly same number of "top"
           | universities, resulting in ridiculous competition and
           | pressure to succeed. Getting into Harvard 2012 <> Getting
           | into Harvard 1972.
           | 
           | GROUP B - working class. super hard. income barely grows but
           | rents and costs grow faster. You're squeezed between two
           | walls and it gets tighter each year. You work more only to
           | stay afloat. Eventually you can only work 24hrs a day. Feels
           | like my parents' life in 1980.
           | 
           | GROUP C - already doing well because dad is a CEO. But
           | because of income earning potential inequality, the top 0.01%
           | makes 20x as much as 0.1%, hence brutal pressure to make it
           | into upper-upper-echelon. Cry me a river, i get it.
           | 
           | GROUP D - Immigrant. immigration is harder. lines are longer.
           | there is nationalism and racism. You work hard, but feel
           | trapped by the system, even if you're doing OK income-wise.
           | 
           | GROUP E...F...G...
        
           | thatfrenchguy wrote:
           | You're going to get a bias in here because a lot of folks are
           | STEM focused / high achieving high anxiety types :)
        
             | [deleted]
        
             | carabiner wrote:
             | Yeah, exactly. There are tons of schools outside of this
             | that still shape kids into productive members of society,
             | even if non-elite. Places like University of New Haven
             | (acceptance rate 94%, founded 1920), Central Washington
             | University (88%, 1891), Western Washington University (96%,
             | 1886), Stetson University in Florida... The list goes on.
             | The vast of US college students attend these decent and
             | non-selective schools.
        
             | mouse_ wrote:
             | I guarantee most of these "high achieving high anxiety
             | types" live with significantly less anxiety than customer
             | service reps/bag handlers/food service workers.
        
               | tanseydavid wrote:
               | You are talking in terms of externalities.
               | 
               | Anxiety is an internal response that can be expected to
               | be different for different individuals under the same
               | circumstances.
               | 
               | Trying to judge whether or not another individual "ought
               | to" experience anxiety in a given situation is a matter
               | of opinion and it has no bearing on what the other person
               | is experiencing.
        
               | matwood wrote:
               | I've done waiting/service type jobs. For me, the stress
               | during the work period was way higher than anything in my
               | software/business jobs. But, every night when I got off
               | work, the stress was immediately gone. That shift was
               | over, and the tomorrow really was new day. With my office
               | jobs the max stress is lower, but it also never really
               | goes away.
        
               | officeplant wrote:
               | This is it. I never took home stress from any previous
               | job until I got an office job. (AutoCAD Draftsman for
               | Fire/Gas Industrial systems).
               | 
               | My life as a radioshack wage slave began and ended when I
               | clocked in and out. If something was fucked when we left
               | the previous night that was tomorrows problem. It's
               | retail, no one is being paid enough to truly care.
               | 
               | Doing contract work for engineers who are willfully
               | ignorant of fire code causes me lasting stress in my
               | soul.
               | 
               | Either way the biggest stress is still financial and I'll
               | stop stressing about that when I'm dead.
        
               | tdesilva wrote:
               | Why do you think that?
        
               | rfrey wrote:
               | Because most of us can afford food for our families, even
               | in the last week of the month.
        
               | WarOnPrivacy wrote:
               | Yeah. I did a decade where that wasn't the case. Poverty
               | is longer and harder in southern states.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | None of them make six figures while browsing HN
        
               | ipaddr wrote:
               | Those browsing HN still have sprint deadlines. Browsing
               | HN creates more stress.
               | 
               | Or keep online 24 hours or spend the night mentally
               | trying to solve an abstract issue. At 5pm they are done.
               | 
               | Different stresses / pressures. How many are learning a
               | new language in their freetime just to keep employed. How
               | many people create side projects to land employment at a
               | coffee shop?
               | 
               | To compare employment how many coffee shops test if an
               | employee can make a cup during the interview? How many
               | people are excluded from an interview because they only
               | made starbucks coffee at a previous position.. no way
               | they can figure out McDonalds coffee machines.. How many
               | are asked to go through a take home coffee making task?
               | None..
        
               | panzagl wrote:
               | How many developers clock out then go to the second job
               | they need to make rent?
        
               | api wrote:
               | Nurses. Lots of people around here would be in tears
               | after attempting that job for a day.
        
               | jahsome wrote:
               | Do you honestly see value in comparing scars? Does that
               | matter in any meaningful way?
               | 
               | The worst stress of someone's life is the worst stress of
               | their life. It's unproductive and petty to bicker about
               | who has it worse.
               | 
               | If life is stressful for anyone, regardless of status,
               | title, age, etc. there's a good chance it's undeserved.
               | 
               | The takeaway is to treat people better, not dismiss their
               | stressors as less significant.
        
               | nradov wrote:
               | I honestly see value in having scars, both the physical
               | and mental varieties. Scars create resilience. We saw
               | this during the recent pandemic. The upper-middle class
               | "high achieving, high anxiety" types who had never faced
               | any real danger or hardship were the most likely to panic
               | and demand all sorts of ridiculous lockdowns and
               | mandates, even though the vast majority of them were
               | never at any significant risk. Whereas blue-collar
               | workers and those accustomed to engaging in physically
               | dangerous activities were generally much more sanguine
               | and level-headed about the whole thing.
               | 
               | Some people just need to harden the f*** up and quit
               | catastrophizing every little thing.
        
               | wonderwonder wrote:
               | I don't think that's why the upper middle class demanded
               | lock downs and blue collar didn't. I think the driver was
               | financial stability. Upper middle class likely has a nice
               | emergency fund and could do their job from home.
               | Essentially a nice vacation. Blue collar workers got to
               | choose between welfare and starving.
        
               | nradov wrote:
               | The blue-collar construction workers and farmers that I
               | know all thought the lockdowns were stupid and ignored
               | the rules. Financial stability or lack thereof was not
               | the reason.
        
               | wonderwonder wrote:
               | The blue collar workers reward for their scar induced
               | mindset was to go back to work. White collar workers in
               | large part were able to parlay the lock down into
               | permanent work from home.
               | 
               | Perhaps it's not scars and just the ability to make
               | lemonade when given lemons?
        
               | Damogran6 wrote:
               | Oddly, I think the population density will turn out to be
               | a factor. Son was in Laramie for most of it and the early
               | strains of Covid didn't do much there, I suspect because
               | people were farther apart over unit of time.
               | 
               | Rather than being in a cube farm with the A/C recycling
               | the air over and over.
        
               | tanseydavid wrote:
               | >> Some people just need to harden the f** up and quit
               | catastrophizing every little thing.
               | 
               | You assume that this is simply a matter a making a
               | decision and acting on it -- which for you may be true.
               | 
               | There are others that will find this difficult-to-
               | impossible to achieve regardless of their intellectual
               | desire to change. Their experience of anxiety may not be
               | a result of "catastrophizing" or "being soft."
        
               | wara23arish wrote:
               | Im not trying to be argumentative, but at that point is
               | this behavior worth encouraging?
               | 
               | I guess whose fault is it but their own? We can all blame
               | our upbringing and it definitely does affect us, but how
               | else can you change the cycle without telling someone to
               | snap out of it ?
        
               | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
               | There is no evidence that scars are an inherently better
               | tissue than non injured tissue. Torn ligaments, cut
               | tendons, skin marring from burns, etc... these don't
               | bounce back 110% from their original.
        
               | Apocryphon wrote:
               | Scars innately look different from healthy tissue. The
               | lessons learned in response of trauma can likewise be
               | maladaptive. Certainly people, especially those most
               | self-isolated during the pandemic, could use more contact
               | with the so-called "real world." But not everything
               | formed as part of resilience is as it should be.
        
               | brookst wrote:
               | The parent comment was asserting that STEM types are
               | "high anxiety" and implicitly dismissing non-STEM people
               | as somehow having less anxiety. I think it is fair and
               | healthy to acknowledge that, as you say, everyone has
               | "the worst stress of their life", regardless of STEM-
               | ness.
        
               | LeroyRaz wrote:
               | I interpreted the comment differently. I thought it was
               | saying that the pressures and anxieties of 'high anxiety'
               | STEM people are not necessarily representative of the
               | average person's experience. I.e. saying that the readers
               | of hacker news are more likely to feel the stresses of
               | feeling the need to be hyper successful, whereas others
               | migh on average be more well adjusted
        
               | jibe wrote:
               | I don't think it dismissed non-stem people, but there is
               | plenty of data supporting anxiety correlates with
               | intelligence. It is not surprising that HN is an anxious
               | group.
               | 
               | https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3269637/
        
               | mensetmanusman wrote:
               | Our new cultural leaders have convinced everyone to out-
               | victim everyone else. The more of a victim you are the
               | better.
        
               | mouse_ wrote:
               | Do you honestly not see how your own narrative could be
               | seen as dismissive to the vast majority of the world? And
               | yes, I do see value in comparing scars, as do most people
               | who do not reside in the high tower. I understand the
               | social rift between you and I is comparable to living on
               | a different planet, and I forgive you for not getting
               | that, but others may not. Please just understand that our
               | current situation is particularly perilous and likely
               | will not last long. I hope you are prepared and able to
               | cope with greater stressors.
        
               | fjdiemsloien wrote:
               | What's the worst stress you've ever experienced?
               | 
               | What's the worst stress the person you're replying to has
               | ever experienced?
               | 
               | I'm very curious about how you know so much about the
               | parent commenter's life compared to your own.
        
               | antihipocrat wrote:
               | The physical experience and effects of enduring a
               | stressful environment is the same for everyone regardless
               | of who they are, where they're from, or what they are
               | doing.
               | 
               | An equivalent high stress environment can occur whether
               | working in an executive office, working in a call center
               | or selling bracelets on the street.
               | 
               | Learning to overcome high stress experiences is a
               | transferrable skill regardless of the context in which it
               | was learned.
        
               | lcnPylGDnU4H9OF wrote:
               | > An equivalent high stress environment can occur whether
               | working in an executive office, working in a call center
               | or selling bracelets on the street.
               | 
               | This doesn't necessarily mean an equivalent high-stress
               | life. The call center employee has fewer or worse options
               | for dealing with stressors outside their job which they
               | share with the executive.
               | 
               | > I need to eat.
               | 
               | > I need to travel.
               | 
               | > I need somewhere to live.
               | 
               | By and large these things cost money and the person who
               | doesn't have to worry about having enough money for such
               | things is going to have less stress in their life.
        
               | WalterBright wrote:
               | > our current situation is particularly perilous
               | 
               | How so?
        
               | derefr wrote:
               | Taboo the word "anxiety" here -- you're using it to mean
               | "environmental stressors" while the GP is using it to
               | mean "a psychological trait of not dealing well with such
               | stressors, due to a higher baseline feeling of stress,
               | and/or a magnified experience of stressors."
               | 
               | Compare/contrast: "living in exurban Detroit is
               | _depressing_ " (= has many environmental depressors) vs
               | "poets are usually _depressives_ " (= depressive
               | disorders being common among people who choose to become
               | poets.)
               | 
               | We use different words (most of the time) for these two
               | things when speaking of depression, but often aren't so
               | careful with anxiety.
        
               | atlgator wrote:
               | As someone who got started as a bag handler at Winn
               | Dixie, I can tell you I'm a lot more stressed out now
               | managing a career than I ever was working a "job."
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | lubesGordi wrote:
               | As this sort of argument always boils down to privilege,
               | I'll throw my two cents in and say probably the biggest
               | privilege (for a regular ass middle class person) is
               | having a parent who knows math.
        
           | nluken wrote:
           | A good point that exposes some major bias behind my anecdote.
           | With that said, if these expectations start at elite schools
           | and slowly trickle down, would that not cause a rise in the
           | aggregate across all teenagers over time?
        
             | fshbbdssbbgdd wrote:
             | "Trickle down" isn't necessarily a good mental model here.
             | Maybe the high achieving types from across the country and
             | world are increasingly concentrating their attention into
             | admission to a few top universities. So the max effort
             | expended by the top students may be increasing, but the
             | median effort could be unchanged or dropping.
        
             | imbnwa wrote:
             | > and slowly trickle down
             | 
             | Seems like a strong assumption that it _necessarily_ does
             | splash damage beyond a certain cohort. I went to a public
             | HS of 4K in the 00s only AP Juniors /Seniors were concerned
             | with this kind of thing and AP kids were only friends with
             | other AP kids (for obvious reasons); I'd doubt that've
             | changed by 2012.
        
               | Khelavaster wrote:
               | Many badly-envisioned schools restrict access to AP
               | classes or even AP tests, instead of letting kids follow
               | their passions and meeting demand.
        
               | asdffdsa wrote:
               | I think this is mistaken; there was a lot of pressure in
               | the 10s for AP classes
        
               | Matticus_Rex wrote:
               | At your school, sure. Not at the one I taught at in the
               | 10s. And from knowing other teachers then, I'd guess the
               | pressure was high at only one, _maybe_ two, of the six
               | high schools in the area.
        
         | nabakin wrote:
         | > I think most teenagers are simply stressed from the constant
         | work that's necessary for the college admissions process.
         | 
         | If this was true, you'd expect there to be a similar trend
         | between Major Depression and college admissions. The data
         | doesn't seem to show that[1][2]
         | 
         | [1] https://educationdata.org/wp-
         | content/uploads/74/Historical-C...
         | 
         | [2] http://substack-post-
         | media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/a6...
         | 
         | Most teenagers don't stress over college admissions in my
         | experience. The top like 30% academically successful teens
         | probably do, but I believe this effect is seen across teenagers
         | of all groups
        
           | ethanbond wrote:
           | Presuming people who aren't stressed about college admissions
           | aren't instead stressed about _not_ going to college and
           | having extremely stunted career prospects.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | psychlops wrote:
         | Here we go, everyone gets to share their stress story. Time to
         | filter all comments that start with "I..."
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | partiallypro wrote:
         | I think this is your personal anecdote and there isn't much to
         | support it, but I do think, separate from college, that kids
         | simply just can't be kids today. There is social, political and
         | academic pressure that just didn't exist when most of us were
         | growing up. I think the pandemic made it much worse.
        
         | purpleblue wrote:
         | My son is 10 and is naturally accelerated across many subjects
         | (12th grade proficiency in ELA, 9th grade proficiency in Math,
         | talented in music, writing, etc).
         | 
         | We have been actively indoctrinating our kids with the idea
         | that college is not the be-all-end-all, that they should NOT
         | apply for Ivy schools, 3rd tier schools are very good and if
         | they want to go abroad or even eschew college altogether, we
         | will support them. I've seen the effects that college
         | admissions have on kids, especially in schools like Gunn and
         | Palo Alto high in the Bay Area. Children committing suicide
         | because they screw up a test is disgusting.
         | 
         | There is NO WAY I'm letting my kids go through that mental
         | hell. And from some of the TikTok videos I've seen, you can
         | dedicate your entire life to having a top application (sports,
         | grades, extra curricular activities) and still get completely
         | rejected by all Tier 1 schools. I won't allow my children to go
         | through that just to be subjected to the whims of a racist,
         | capricious admissions board.
        
           | shrimp_emoji wrote:
           | To be a good parent is to sacrifice your child's future like
           | a pawn to save the queen of your own moral grandstanding.
        
           | zabzonk wrote:
           | you do know that "indoctrinating" is not a positive thing to
           | do?
        
           | tom_ wrote:
           | I hope you remind your children not to believe everything
           | they see on social media.
        
         | rychco wrote:
         | Completely agree with this opinion. Teens expected to attend
         | college are under tremendous admissions pressure. You don't
         | even realize how much more difficult it gets every year for
         | them. For some students, nearly every waking moment is spent on
         | something to fill an application/study/practice. While this
         | itself isn't new, I'd wager that the number of students having
         | this experience has grown tremendously.
         | 
         | However, as someone who was in high school right when
         | Facebook/Instagram became ubiquitous amongst teens, I can't
         | emphasize enough how horrible the pressure of appealing to your
         | peers was. There is a constant, deeply unsettling fear of being
         | publicly shamed/embarrassed online at any time & for any
         | reason. I am confident that this is still present & stronger
         | than ever.
        
           | waboremo wrote:
           | Part of the distinction between why this process has been
           | made harder is primarily due to finances. If you do not get a
           | scholarship, you are expected to have a job. Not a good job
           | either specifically crafted for 18 year olds so they can get
           | used to work and also handle school properly. No, we throw
           | them into the depths of dealing with ghoulish customers with
           | no way to climb so of course they feel they have to go to
           | school to get out. It's a self reinforcing cycle of pressure.
        
         | yamtaddle wrote:
         | You're in a bubble. It's nowhere near that hard to get into
         | non-elite universities, which the vast majority of college-
         | bound students attend. Just keeping your grades up and doing
         | well on a standardized test will get you into a good (well-
         | regarded in at least some fields, very well-known at least
         | regionally) state school--and the ones in the next couple tiers
         | under that are even more lax. Then there are community colleges
         | --ask nicely and they'll probably let you in at least on a
         | probational basis, even if your grades were incredibly bad in
         | high school and you don't have much else going for you.
         | 
         | And that's for the students that go at all.
         | 
         | [EDIT] Incidentally, from tales told by my various teacher
         | friends, the students who genuinely have _crazy-busy_ schedules
         | are almost always the ones who are extremely into playing two
         | or more sports. Even half-serious participation (so, maaaaybe
         | gunning to play college ball, plus the mostly-delusional but
         | fairly-common parental aspirations of having a pro-league kid)
         | means being in a league that makes you travel a lot, and lots
         | and lots of practice, _for each sport_ , plus extra training
         | camps and shit like that. I believe tales of some schools where
         | the students are stressed over academics and non-sports
         | extracurriculars (plus the single requisite sport to keep
         | Harvard from binning your application) but out in the vast
         | reaches of non-elite America, only a few students have very-
         | high schedule pressure, and most (not all, but most) of those
         | are because of a strong focus on sports.
        
           | nluken wrote:
           | > You're in a bubble
           | 
           | Yeah that seems evident from the breadth of replies I've
           | gotten. Perhaps it's just one factor among many.
        
           | wara23arish wrote:
           | Im an immigrant that attended a community college,
           | transferred to a "top 10 CS Uni".
           | 
           | the CC didn't even acknowledge the school I went to exists so
           | i just took some placement tests that landed me at Calc 1 etc
           | 
           | most americans dont know how good they have it, sure things
           | could be better but you're literally better off than most of
           | the world no matter what class you're born in here
        
             | yamtaddle wrote:
             | I think community colleges are one of those under-
             | appreciated _excellent_ institutions the US has (in
             | addition to our institutions and systems that actually do
             | kinda suck, compared to our peers, that get a lot more
             | attention). They 're available just about everywhere that
             | many people live, it's pretty easy to get them to give you
             | a chance unless you have a _very_ recent history of being a
             | committed academic screw-up--even if your history 's a bit
             | unusual, or you've had some screw-ups farther in the past--
             | and in a couple years you can establish a record that
             | represents a big step toward achieving an at-least middling
             | life outcome, while opening up access to the next steps.
             | 
             | I hope the admissions process and the rest of it was still
             | relatively painless, despite their not recognizing your
             | school. I'm sure immigration itself was pretty unpleasant--
             | sorry about that :-/
        
         | woah wrote:
         | Did you get into a good college or whatever?
        
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         | johnfn wrote:
         | I agree that the college admissions process is quite stressful,
         | and we should take a critical look at it. But did it really
         | only begin happening around 2012? Across all demographics? I
         | don't think that this explanation really fits the data.
        
         | waboremo wrote:
         | It's also important to note that social media doesn't operate
         | in isolation. We can blame social media all we want, but when
         | we keep preferring candidates in the hiring process who have
         | presentable social media, it's just amplified for teens. Now
         | they have to keep up a grand social media presence, good
         | grades, stay in physical shape, manage their changing family
         | dynamics, get and hold a job, and their own internal systems
         | changing on them.
         | 
         | It's no wonder stress levels are peaking. We demand they carry
         | immense burdens the second they're able to hold a full
         | conversation, but without any of the freedoms associated with
         | responsibility. Can't move out, can't afford help, so what do
         | we really expect to happen when people are placed into such
         | conditions?
         | 
         | We place them under constant pressure, and act surprised that
         | this pressure hurts. Why can't you be more like your sister
         | who's doing good in school? Look at your cousin he got a job
         | already and he's only 16. When you turn 18 you need to have
         | your act together because I'm kicking you out. Endless pressure
         | because we are unable to process our own feelings of
         | insignificance, we just project it on kids all without the help
         | of social media.
         | 
         | The rising wealth inquality amplifies these problems more in
         | every way.
         | 
         | Social media gets a lot of negative attention but there's also
         | a huge positive here. You can connect with others who get you
         | and can maybe help you get through those unbearable days - they
         | make it feel tolerable. And so for people to pin the blame
         | entirely on social media, we're just going to cause so much
         | more harm when we realize how many teens are out there that are
         | only avoiding suicide marginally because of social media.
        
           | tasspeed wrote:
           | I only avoided suicide because of social media. I had no way
           | to hang out with friends because my parents were always too
           | busy working to take me places so I talked with my online
           | friends to numb the pain.
        
             | PantaloonFlames wrote:
             | It's sad that you depended on your parents for transport to
             | your friends. Ideally a teenager would be able to walk or
             | ride a bicycle to hang out with peers. Or take a bus. Did
             | you live in a place where homes were very far apart?
        
               | candiodari wrote:
               | Societal acceptance of such dangerous activity has been
               | dropping lately:
               | 
               | https://reason.com/2023/01/30/dunkin-donuts-parents-
               | arrested...
        
         | iueotnmunto wrote:
         | > Things only started getting better when I started seeing a
         | therapist and worked on my issues over the second half of my
         | high school experience.
         | 
         | I'm curious, would you mind sharing how a therapist helped you?
         | I'm in a similar (but not the same) space mentally, and put
         | everything down to environmental issues (high pressure job,
         | etc) and disregard the thought that a therapist could help with
         | this (unless they had a time machine, etc).
        
           | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
           | therapy helps you develop efficient thinking ime. This is
           | evaluating your emotions without added judgement, addressing
           | problems without the added emotional burden of shame, and
           | rapidly and genuinely accepting things (like past harm) that
           | can't be inherently changed without the added agony of
           | fighting yourself over it
        
         | HEmanZ wrote:
         | I understand your point, because I was the same. But I'm not
         | sure our experience is a super common one among teens.
         | 
         | Reason I think this now, is that I have volunteered at large
         | local high schools for college admission help. There just
         | aren't that many students who get pushed or push themselves
         | like this. The majority in the US don't go to college, and the
         | vast majority don't put in a stressful amount of effort into
         | college/career prep and extra-curricular activities.
         | 
         | I don't know what theory to replace it with, but I don't think
         | the majority of the students in the US are overworked like
         | this.
        
         | codeslave13 wrote:
         | Having a child that hit teens then and hindsight being 20/20.
         | Crazy parents and social media i feel can be the root of the
         | majority of. Really location specific and not the deciding
         | factor but it laid a solid foundation for mental health issues
         | even today.
         | 
         | No citations or anything just my exp as a Dad.
        
         | eecc wrote:
         | very well said, although allow me to make a minor correction.
         | Where you wrote
         | 
         | "Today's society demands so much from adolescents for so little
         | in return. "
         | 
         | I would simply generalize to
         | 
         | "Today's society demands so much from anyone for so little in
         | return."
         | 
         | There, perfect
        
           | nradov wrote:
           | Society doesn't demand anything. You're free to drop out and
           | live in a van down by the river if you want.
        
             | Apocryphon wrote:
             | And many, many do.
        
           | roundandround wrote:
           | I don't agree. If you past the point where you are rising new
           | potential and you have any income or some kind of right to
           | income virtually nothing is expected of you. Kids in the
           | mandatory school years face a fair amount of expectations in
           | return for nothing tangible and only receive a smaller
           | portion of the modern ultra conveniences.
        
         | jimmaswell wrote:
         | Public school schoolwork is so easy. So is applying to a
         | college. How is anyone stressed by it?
        
           | neuronic wrote:
           | This is a tad bit insensitive. I have excelled at public
           | school for the first years, then there was a rough patch in
           | life caused by parents which TANKED my grades and social life
           | for years.
           | 
           | I recovered and eventually got an excellent Master's degree
           | in Bioinformatics but it is condescending to assume that
           | everyone was dealt the same hand as you in life and that
           | anything at all is fair.
           | 
           | Maybe schoolwork isn't so easy if you're being abused by a
           | parent once a week?
        
             | candiodari wrote:
             | I had some serious incidents in High School, mostly with
             | other kids, and while my grades dropped, I never lost the
             | ability to make up for weeks, sometimes months of doing
             | nothing for school in a matter of hours.
             | 
             | Didn't stop me from getting bad grades for those
             | weeks/months and making stupid mistakes like not completing
             | assignments and the like.
             | 
             | It's _very_ easy. It 's just that in a
             | depressed/anxious/... state people aren't capable of
             | sustaining even the most basic levels of effort after a
             | while. Frankly, I bet that if it was a lot harder, that
             | would have helped me.
        
         | Matticus_Rex wrote:
         | For about 2.5 years starting in 2015 I was a high school
         | teacher at a Title I (low income area) school. There was a lot
         | of anxiety and depression -- obviously not far outside trends
         | around that. Very, very few kids were doing extracurriculars
         | beyond maybe one sport, or a part-time job for a minority of
         | the juniors and seniors. The (very) few kids who were
         | oversubscribed the way you were didn't seem to have a rate of
         | anxiety or depression greater than their peers, and the
         | greatest incidence seemed to be in the lowest-achieving
         | students.
         | 
         | Obviously this is anecdotal, and there can be multiple causes,
         | but teaching gives you a lot of anecdotes and they don't seem
         | to fit this narrative.
        
           | nabakin wrote:
           | This is my experience as well, having multiple relatives who
           | have worked at Title 1 schools and going to public school
           | myself which was on the poverty side of things.
        
         | wirrbel wrote:
         | Coincidentally 2012 is IIRC the year I bought (then a
         | university student) my first smart phone. IIRC when doing my
         | abroad term overseas the american students all had smartphones
         | in like 2010, I think most where on plans that provided
         | smartphones eventually.
         | 
         | So I would not be surprised if smartphones are part of the
         | reason for a poor state of mental heath.
        
         | nixass wrote:
         | I feel like this is because school, especially college, and
         | particularly exams, is about as high-stakes as most people's
         | lives ever get, so they look back at that time as peak-anxiety.
         | Think about it: you're being evaluated and the result of that
         | evaluation shapes the next step in the pipeline, and ultimately
         | the trajectory of the rest of your life! Well, at least that's
         | what the university officials, professors, your peers and
         | parents all tell you. You pretty much have a series of "one
         | chance" events that you must pass or you're done for. Failure
         | of any step is permanent, and affects your average (seemingly)
         | forever.
         | 
         | The whole path from elementary school through to college
         | graduation feels like a career development game where the
         | stakes are raised every year. Fail once off the path, and it's
         | Walmart Greeter for you, forever! It's no wonder I still wake
         | up in a cold sweat over it, 30 years on.
        
           | pasquinelli wrote:
           | sounds like the process of becoming a civil servant in
           | imperial china.
           | 
           | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imperial_examination
           | 
           | > During the Ming dynasty (1368-1644), authorities narrowed
           | the content down to mostly texts on Neo-Confucian orthodoxy;
           | the highest degree, the jinshi (Chinese: Jin Shi ), became
           | essential for the highest offices. On the other hand, holders
           | of the basic degree, the shengyuan (Sheng Yuan ), became
           | vastly oversupplied, resulting in holders who could not hope
           | for office. Wealthy families, especially from the merchant
           | class, could opt into the system by educating their sons or
           | by purchasing degrees. During the late 19th century, some
           | critics within Qing China blamed the examination system for
           | stifling scientific and technical knowledge, and urged for
           | some reforms. At the time, China had about one civil
           | licentiate per 1000 people. Due to the stringent
           | requirements, there was only a 1% passing rate among the two
           | or three million annual applicants who took the exams.[3]
        
           | coredog64 wrote:
           | Something to consider is that many European countries
           | aggressively track students in conjunction with that
           | free/cheap college. As a consequence, failing during early
           | education can put them onto the vocational track much earlier
           | than you'd see for a U.S. student.
        
             | strangattractor wrote:
             | We need to stop knocking vocational programs in the US IMO.
             | College has a learning modality that is not well suited for
             | everyone. I wish I could find the Youtube video but there
             | is a German Manufacturer of CNC machines in the US. Their
             | apprentice program looked excellent/fun. The students were
             | building electric bikes and motors - learning undergraduate
             | level electronics in a hands one fashion - using CAD - then
             | milling the parts out on a multimillion dollar machines.
             | Mostly learning by doing. Getting paid to do so and would
             | likely have a job when finished.
             | 
             | In the US there is a perception that the vocational or
             | trades route mean failure. We tend to think of trades as an
             | expense, dangerous or someone that works on an assembly
             | line. Some people just get bored sitting in a classroom.
        
               | brewtide wrote:
               | 100%. Stuff that needs done, will still need done and a
               | lot of it is going to be difficult to robot away.
               | 
               | The trades have never been busier, and all the different
               | trades I see at different job sites have the 30 whatever
               | being the young person.
               | 
               | Not only are they in demand, but can pay pretty decently
               | as well, plus have directly applicable individual life
               | uses, causing most of us tradesmen to spend very little $
               | maintaining our own things (cars, houses, etc).
               | 
               | Go to college, awesome. Or learn to use your hands and do
               | something well, awesome.
               | 
               | The stuck in retail / service middle ground seems to be
               | the hardest path in life, and obviously so very
               | subjective, but I'd find that long term path not very
               | internally rewarding, either.
        
             | itronitron wrote:
             | Yeah, probably the main reason that US high schools seem to
             | perform worse than other countries is that the US doesn't
             | kick students out in middle school.
        
         | stanford_labrat wrote:
         | > It's very easy to think that you're a failure if you don't
         | know exactly who you are and what you want to be at age 17
         | 
         | I'm 26 (almost 27, so let's say 27) and I think this echoes my
         | experience fairly well. I felt like a failure because I didn't
         | get into the top schools for undergrad even though I struggled
         | so hard and objectively had good stats that I (at the time)
         | thought would've made me a compelling/competitive applicant.
         | Varsity athlete, played instrument, loads of APs and top of my
         | class, yadayadayadayadayada.
         | 
         | I think the evolution of the college application process and
         | the perpetual rising bar has definitely affected teens mental
         | health. Anecdotal but I experienced pressure to do well from
         | peers, the school, and my own family.
        
       | vkk8 wrote:
       | Anecdotally, I was (as probably many here were) ahead of the
       | curve in digital devices usage when I started hanging out in IRC
       | and various web forums as a teenager in early 2000s. At some
       | point I noticed that just using computers induced some amount of
       | anxiety compared to "old tech"; whenever there was some period of
       | time when I used my computer less (like christmas, vacations,
       | etc.) and joined back to the "world of the normal people", I felt
       | much calmer and happier. Even though I noticed this, it was
       | difficult to log off during normal times since most of my life
       | was in the internet.
       | 
       | Now everyone is using digital devices all the time and the
       | "normal people world" has ceased to exist. Also almost everyone
       | is anxious and/or depressed. I think this is not a coincidence.
       | However, I do not think that this is due to social media per se,
       | but using digital devices for anything (social media being just
       | the reason why most people use them).
       | 
       | My theory is that just using digital devices for _anything_ is
       | somewhat stressful; you have to keep the eyes focused all the
       | time (Can you think of other activities that require this? There
       | aren 't many and they are all somewhat stressful), you have to
       | navigate all the various applications and menus, you have to
       | occasionally solve minor problems that you run into when using
       | the devices, etc.
       | 
       | Using digital devices is the same for your brain as heavy,
       | repetitive physical labour is to your body; in small amounts it
       | might even be healthy, but several hours every day is going to
       | destroy your body/mind.
        
         | thatfrenchguy wrote:
         | > My theory is that just using digital devices for anything is
         | somewhat stressful
         | 
         | I don't know, talking to the government and figuring out stuff
         | about your taxes or health coverage over the internet is soooo
         | much less stressful than if I have to call, or worse, go there
         | in person, wait an hour, and have to talk to someone who really
         | doesn't want to solve my problem.
         | 
         | I can now pay my property taxes online and know it's done,
         | instead of sending them a letter and hoping for the best,
         | that's such an improvement.
        
         | narag wrote:
         | I have another hunch: that working as a programmer, and maybe
         | with computers in general, is anxiety-inducing. As Campbell put
         | it, computers are like old testament gods: lots of rules and no
         | mercy.
        
           | dkn775 wrote:
           | Exactly, everything (outside some probability (which is still
           | a discrete decision point) comes to 0 and 1. I am a big
           | believer of the core assumptions in any system having
           | outsized effects in practice
        
         | gnramires wrote:
         | > Can you think of other activities that require this?
         | 
         | Well, reading books (and other documents). I also am suspicious
         | of screens (and specially spending too much time on them... I'm
         | certainly guilty), but the existence of books is somewhat
         | confusing in this regard. However, I really don't think the
         | population as a whole was reading quite as many books/documents
         | as we today use digital devices or social media. That could be
         | cutting into other things, like sun exposure, exercising,
         | perhaps face-to-face social relationships, social support
         | networks.
         | 
         | Something I've noticed since about that time as well is a
         | growing unease and pessimism with our collective future (and
         | even present!). Some things are bleak (like climate change,
         | uncertainty with technologies, etc.), but there's a sense of
         | little hope that definitely should have an impact on the youth.
         | I remember the 90s as a quite hopeful time and that definitely
         | had an impact on my mood. My personal contribution would be
         | spreading more hope about life.
         | 
         | My favorite author w.r.t. this right now that I recommend is
         | Jane Goodall:
         | 
         | https://bookwyrm.social/book/391141/s/the-book-of-hope
        
           | MetaWhirledPeas wrote:
           | > Something I've noticed since about that time as well is a
           | growing unease and pessimism with our collective future (and
           | even present!).
           | 
           | This is why I like movies and stories about the world coming
           | together to overcome great difficulties. Like Pacific Rim,
           | for instance. I'd love to hear more stories like that, no
           | matter how far-fetched. I'd especially like to get some of
           | the pariah states (North Korea, Iran) to be welcomed in for
           | some more team high-fives. We really do need optimistic
           | visions of the future to keep us going.
        
           | andai wrote:
           | Growing up in the 2000s I remember there was much more
           | excitement and optimism for the future. Now it seems to range
           | from cynicism to dread to abject paranoia. Or perhaps my
           | liberal use of cannabis in my younger years shifted me into a
           | more paranoid timeline... alas!
           | 
           | Re: books being less stressful, I think e-ink is a great
           | example. It feels more solid, more permanent, even though the
           | text changes when you swipe the page. It seems to be a
           | combination of the "paper" look making it seem less virtual
           | (than the blinkenlights matrix), and the impossibility of
           | scrolling on e-ink making it by necessity a more calming
           | medium.
           | 
           | Real books are even better, of course, in both regards, but
           | can't compete on price / delivery time.
        
         | LarryMullins wrote:
         | I think it's the connectivity of the digital devices that is
         | specifically at fault, and that offline-only digital devices
         | wouldn't cause this. At any moment, my phone or computer may
         | deliver unwelcome news to me. My boss asking me about some work
         | shit, my family with some sort of unwelcome sad news, or
         | whatever. In the past these would have been relatively mundane
         | stresses, but now there is a social expectation that everybody
         | be attentive to incoming communications at all times. You get
         | at most a few hours a night where people don't expect you to
         | respond, but even then sometimes they forget about timezones
         | and freak out when they don't get a prompt response. There is
         | never any real reprieve and it's starting to seem like this
         | represents a permanent cultural shift.
        
         | scotty79 wrote:
         | Ugh, I guess it varies from person but for me (nearly?) every
         | human contact is somewhat stressful, even watching humans
         | interact can be very stressful. Using devices is downright
         | bliss and calmness in comparison. I'm so happy when I see
         | people interacting with their devices. I feel they are more
         | like me and I feel safer with them than with people who don't.
        
       | macspoofing wrote:
       | Social media, and smart phones are partially (or even largely
       | responsible) ... However I wouldn't discount 'social contagion'
       | as a contributing factor since 2012 was around the time focus on
       | "mental health" (specifically focusing on 'mental health' and
       | related issues) came into wide prominence, especially amongst the
       | younger crowd.
        
       | renewiltord wrote:
       | Right around when Obama was elected again and the Mayan calendar
       | predicted.
       | 
       | But I am partial to his conclusion. For what it's worth, I am
       | diagnosed with a half dozen mental illnesses, but if I'm being
       | honest I just memorized the DSM-V criteria and appropriately
       | played along and I have a bunch of prescriptions. I never use
       | them, but it's nice to know I can get amphetamine and ketamine
       | whenever I want.
       | 
       | America requires you to play sick to do certain things. So I can
       | play sick. I wonder if the kids have found this loophole too.
       | They're usually smarter than us adults and have less wisdom, so
       | probably.
       | 
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_8JtnUpkP0s
        
       | kderbyma wrote:
       | 2012 was a major shift in culture. Major hacks, social media,
       | phone culture, the beginning of the 'scandals', globalisation was
       | on full tilt, people had never really moved along from occupy
       | movement, and this was when corporations decided to just feign
       | support to avoid getting targetted. I think this was the wokening
       | across the culture which came hand in hand with mental health
       | crisis.
        
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         | kneebonian wrote:
         | Interestingly enough there was another major shift that
         | happened in 2012, some say in reaction to the Occupy Wall
         | Street movement.
         | 
         | https://tablet-mag-images.b-cdn.net/production/ca8d4b10f55ed...
        
       | kpennell wrote:
       | If you're interested in learning more about Jon Haidt's work -
       | Tim Ferriss and Malcolm Gladwell both have great interviews with
       | him.
       | 
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=elo89pPREYE
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rGTS9vZFV2o
        
       | zug_zug wrote:
       | This article is great because it looks at the self-harm and
       | suicide data, which is pretty compelling.
       | 
       | Obviously everybody's willingness to talk about their issues has
       | gone up, but perhaps something else is happening too.
       | 
       | It's already scientifically concluded that sperm counts and
       | testosterone is down (for better or worse) [just google scholar
       | it for journal articles], and one correlate of low testosterone
       | is worse mood. So there would be precedent and reason to look for
       | environmental causes.
        
         | drivebyhooting wrote:
         | > sperm counts and testosterone is down (for better or worse)
         | 
         | Sorry to nitpick but why did you qualify it "for better or
         | worse"? It struck me as misandry. The implication being that
         | masculine traits are bad and perhaps low sperm and testosterone
         | is a good thing!
        
           | frozenport wrote:
           | Rather misanthropy?
        
             | QuercusMax wrote:
             | Misandry - from andro, meaning man (male)
             | 
             | Misanthropy - from anthropos, meaning human
        
           | AlexandrB wrote:
           | I think you're reading too much into that statement. The
           | connection between masculine traits and t/sperm count is not
           | 1:1. I think the obsession over testosterone levels and the
           | implicit association between t levels and masculinity is far
           | more damaging to men than the low t itself. See also:
           | https://youtu.be/C8dfiDeJeDU?t=729
        
             | hcurtiss wrote:
             | The role of testosterone in the behavior of cattle or
             | monkeys is obvious to any casual observer. I don't know why
             | we try so hard to overlook it in humans. Like the GP, I
             | don't view it as an objective negative, but there's
             | definitely a reason 90+% of the humans in prison are males.
             | And that's true in every culture across the entire planet.
        
       | photochemsyn wrote:
       | Poverty is correlated with suicide rates, for obvious reasons:
       | 
       | https://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/poverty-may-have-a-greate...
       | 
       | There was a notable increase in poverty rates after the 2008
       | economic collapse, along with a decrease in home ownership and
       | increased unemployment.
       | 
       | https://poverty.ucdavis.edu/faq/what-current-poverty-rate-un...
       | 
       | The fact that this article doesn't even mention this obvious
       | contributing factor certainly undermines its thesis.
        
         | anikan_vader wrote:
         | Child poverty has declined significantly since both 2007 and
         | 2012 (although they did rise momentarily after 2008).
        
         | marcusverus wrote:
         | The increase in poverty was pretty small (<5% over the recent
         | average), disappeared by 2015 and the poverty rate has been
         | generally trending down ever since.
         | 
         | [0]
         | https://www.census.gov/content/dam/Census/library/visualizat...
        
         | scythe wrote:
         | If poverty were a major contributing factor, it should be
         | immediately obvious in terms of who's affected. The children of
         | the professional-managerial class should be roughly exempt.
         | What we see is in fact the opposite.
        
       | anigbrowl wrote:
       | This is a good piece, with the author consciously examining their
       | own biases and assumptions. I do think underdiagnosis is _an_
       | issue; when I sought mental health treatment in an earlier
       | period, there was a veritable line of people telling me I couldn
       | 't be mentally ill because my clothes were clean and my sentences
       | coherent.
       | 
       | I think the author errs in not projecting his data far back
       | enough into the past and looking for correlations with previous
       | rises or falls. I agree that social media is probably a main
       | driver; the ability to _receive_ mass communication at scale is
       | not something the brain evolved for, and there 's a lot of
       | maladaptive online behavior that doesn't show in these statistics
       | but is nonetheless problematic. I'm honestly appalled by the
       | pervasive tendency to rely on repetition of cliches in favor of
       | original communication, for example.
       | 
       | But I think there are other factors in play, like the 24-7 news
       | cycle and deep political polarizations, both of which have a huge
       | impact on adult behavior and create an unhealthy psychological
       | environment in which kids have to operate.
        
         | paulmd wrote:
         | > I'm honestly appalled by the pervasive tendency to rely on
         | repetition of cliches in favor of original communication, for
         | example.
         | 
         | Shaka, when the walls fell ;)
         | 
         | honestly there's an interesting argument to be made there that
         | memes and cliches provide a higher symbol density to our
         | communications via shared context/subtext. A meme has
         | additional layers of context and nuance that are implicitly
         | carried along with the actual words themselves, it has higher
         | "meaning-density".
         | 
         | Whether or not you like them, this is how human communications
         | are evolving, and have been for a long time, particularly as we
         | reshape language around our new technologies. "lol" as an
         | interjective is a tonality carrier, just like vocal tone.
         | Emojis are short textual-form memes. Etc etc. Image memes as
         | high-density multilayered communication are just another form.
         | 
         | I mean half the time when I write out a longform comment, the
         | response I get is "I ain't reading all that shit" even here on
         | HN. ;). People just want higher symbol density, it's the same
         | reason they don't read the article or watch the video. The
         | human brain is a meaning-density machine and we inherently seek
         | ways to increase the amount and preciseness of meaning-
         | interchange. Higher meaning-density per symbol is a great way
         | to do that given our physical limitations at processing more
         | symbols.
         | 
         | In ironic contrast to the rise of youtube-driven content
         | production - I think people inherently crave symbol density and
         | meaning. But since we've monetized attention, there's a
         | perverse incentive to decrease symbol density/meaning-density
         | to allow greater time for monetization... but I think that also
         | rubs against what our brains want to do.
         | 
         | In the aggregate, the way memes bounce around communities
         | nowadays is also not dissimilar to a neural network working
         | with higher-order objects instead of zeros and ones or floats.
         | Memes that don't get passed between groups are the ones that
         | are less relevant - so we have activation energy in some form,
         | short-term storage, and cross-group linkage between neurons.
         | And the memes are symbolic encodings of some groups of features
         | (concepts). They are an emergent cluster of features that
         | activates various groups reliably.
         | 
         | Higher meaning-density is also the reason some people prefer
         | face-to-face communication or phone calls. Things like facial
         | expressions and tone of voice also increase meaning-density as
         | well. People say things like "it's less ambiguous/more
         | immediate" but I think that's _because of_ those sub-channels
         | increasing the meaningfulness. And while meme culture /emojis
         | isn't all good, maybe it's best viewed as replacing some of
         | those sub-channels we lost in the shift from verbal to written
         | communication rather than a regression to repetitive
         | communication.
        
           | anigbrowl wrote:
           | Temba; his arms wide.
           | 
           | I agree with all of this, and I'm fond of memes myself. They
           | are definitely an important sense-making tool. But there's a
           | distinction that I can't quite articulate, between memes as
           | shared shorthand, and cliches that are actually reflexes or
           | performative gestures, but are meant to be processed by the
           | recipient as original communication.
           | 
           | As an extreme example, I used to know someone who was quite
           | brilliant and would regularly make profound statements on a
           | wide variety of topics, which he could explain in depth if
           | needed. Some years after getting to be friends with this
           | person, I wound up living with him for a few months and had
           | access to his extensive library. I was surprised to discover
           | how many of his profundities were actually quotations from
           | books, but were uttered without any attribution or reference
           | to the book. It would be like a HN commenter systematically
           | lifting vc quotes but never mentioning their originators by
           | name.
        
             | monknomo wrote:
             | maybe the difference between a meme and a thought
             | terminating cliche?
        
       | golemiprague wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | leashless wrote:
       | Impact of the 2008 financial collapse on their lifestyles and
       | career prospects? How's the data from the 1929 financial collapse
       | impacting teen mental health?
       | 
       | (not that we have that data, I am sure)
        
       | ever1337 wrote:
       | The author of this piece is responsible for lobbying Congress to
       | pass legislation that I think the HN community would be opposed
       | to:
       | https://www.judiciary.senate.gov/imo/media/doc/Haidt%20Testi...
       | 
       | One of the author's suggestions is a strengthening of COPPA:
       | 
       | > Second, Congress should toughen the 1998 Children's Online
       | Privacy Protection Act. An early version of the legislation
       | proposed 16 as the age at which children should legally be
       | allowed to give away their data and their privacy. Unfortunately,
       | e-commerce companies lobbied successfully to have the age of
       | "internet adulthood" set instead at 13. Now, more than two
       | decades later, today's 13-year-olds are not doing well. Federal
       | law is outdated and inadequate. The age should be raised. More
       | power should be given to parents, less to companies.
       | 
       | I don't think it takes a genius to see that this suggestion would
       | have virtually no effect on the problems the author is trying to
       | address. These COPPA age limits are impossible to enforce,
       | raising it would only mean more kids lying about their age when
       | making accounts on websites, or just getting parental consent.
       | And even if it were possible to enforce, how does it address
       | social media causing mental illness?
       | 
       | One of the author's other suggestions is to pass a version of the
       | UK's Age Appropriate Design Code(!!!!)
       | 
       | California passed its own version of this law in September 2022.
       | It has already been commented on and critiqued extensively on HN:
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32587592 Dear California:
       | How Can I Comply with Your New Age-Appropriate Design Code?
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32646043 Age Verification
       | Providers Say Don't Worry About California Design Code; You'll
       | Just Have To Scan Your Face For Every Website You Visit
       | 
       | Putting aside the main subject of the OP, it is important to
       | remain vigilant and watchful for legislation that will hamper
       | privacy on the internet in the name of "saving the children". I
       | myself can agree that "social media" is a contributor to
       | increased social discord and depression, but these problems
       | affect everyone, not just teenagers. And I think the root cause
       | is, of course, the design of these sites; the way they crudely
       | attempt to quantify "likes", the way they use metrics like the
       | "like" and the "view" as the sole guiding principle behind their
       | design philosophy, rather than productive and humanistic
       | conversation. It is the way these platforms lie to the user,
       | presenting content as if it is the user's hidden inner desires
       | discovered by an external algorithm, when in reality it is the
       | user being shaped by the platform, not the other way around. The
       | way these platforms prioritize content meant to inflame, to
       | provoke, to get "engagement".
       | 
       | This is the real problem of social media, the product itself, the
       | structure of it. But those with power in our society are addicted
       | to it, and instead propose all kinds of useless "safeguards" like
       | age gates and ID checks that only serve to increase the power of
       | these platforms as surveillance tools. The mantra of each side of
       | the aisle is, "if only we were the ones in charge of moderation."
       | I think it is clear to see that this is a naive and unconsidered
       | approach.
        
       | jasmer wrote:
       | Social media, and more controversially a public orientation
       | towards their 'values' defining their identities, which maybe has
       | roots in some nice thinking and especially in trying to get kids
       | with non-standard identities to not feel bad about it - but which
       | ultimately causes a morass of confusion for all the kids.
       | 
       | I think kids need at least some structure and guidance on social
       | development and this 'chose your own identity' thing is leaving
       | them listless.
       | 
       | We don't become men and women arbitrarily, we grow into those
       | roles with guidance. Given a new 'social convention' towards
       | basically not defining those things, we're seeing a lot of kids
       | fall off the side of the boat.
       | 
       | When you add constant social media into the mix, which reinforces
       | all of these things from peers, other toxic things, life
       | pressures it's all too much. You used to have to 'compete'
       | against kids from HS, now it's a national competition.
       | 
       | I can't fathom how hard it is just to be a regular kid.
        
       | deafpolygon wrote:
       | Smartphones + Social Media
        
         | bluescrn wrote:
         | This should be incredibly obvious, especially to adults who've
         | realised (particularly during the pandemic) the effect that
         | social media use can have on themselves.
         | 
         | Smartphones should be banned from schools entirely, and parents
         | should be much more careful about keeping track of what their
         | kids are up to online.
         | 
         | (But it's probably too late, we've got a generation of young
         | teachers who've grown up hooked on this technology, and who see
         | the world through the distorting lens of social media)
        
           | brg wrote:
           | Another data point that should point out the obvious, is this
           | coincides with the unexpected rise in traffic fatalities in
           | 2012-2013. It is the societal effect of smart phones.
        
           | deafpolygon wrote:
           | Yep but the canary was how all of the big IT CEOs didn't let
           | their kids even have a phone.
        
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       | somecompanyguy wrote:
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         | somecompanyguy wrote:
         | [flagged]
        
           | maxbond wrote:
           | Saying a bunch of conspiratorial nonsense and then predicting
           | downvotes doesn't prove you right, it proves you ought to
           | know better.
        
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           | briantakita wrote:
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       | vatotemking wrote:
       | We didnt know when it happened, but we are now at the mercy of
       | AI. Scary times. Everything we do is controlled by algorithms.
        
       | faeriechangling wrote:
       | A lot of the stats cited are ultimately subjective assessments of
       | things like mental health. Calling more people "bipolar" or
       | "depressed" or "anxious" can just as easily be a change in
       | language as to what those words mean, as easily as they can
       | reflect a change in the underlying language and how people
       | express things. Notably the definition of most mental illnesses
       | in the country Haidt is pulling his data from changed in 2013 due
       | to the release of the DSM-V, so I don't really think pre-2013
       | data is comparable to post-2013 data at all, as these words in
       | question are not medically or socially defined in the same way
       | that they were before. In fact one of the most common criticisms
       | of the DSM-V when it was being drafted to the present day is the
       | allegation that it leads to more mental illness diagnosis's.
       | 
       | Attempted suicide is one of the few stats I treat as grounded
       | relatively firmly in reality because it's not nearly as
       | subjective, but this measure seems to have started skyrocketing
       | in the mid 2000's not in 2012.
       | 
       | If the conclusion is that the rise of the internet has caused
       | more and more teens to label themselves as mentally ill, I would
       | say that's a conclusion I'm firmly convinced of. The conclusion
       | that mental illness is actually increasing population wide, I'm
       | very very sceptical of. I could imagine that it's happening to an
       | extent due to things like economic pressures and increased
       | inequality, we are seeing things like declines in lifespans and
       | increases in suicide, but I don't think mental illness is
       | increasingly nearly as much as the stats would lead you to
       | believe at face value.
       | 
       | Plus quite simply, using time series data about when mental
       | illness increased in society doesn't really shed much light on
       | WHAT caused the mental illness to rise even if you can establish
       | such a rise was happening, but I'm not even convinced by the date
       | "2012".
        
         | strawpeople wrote:
         | > we are seeing things like declines in lifespans and increases
         | in suicide, but I don't think mental illness is increasingly
         | nearly as much as the stats would lead you to believe at face
         | value.
         | 
         | This just seems like a flat out contradiction. How would
         | suicides 'skyrocket' if mental illness is not increasing.
         | 
         | Agreed that 2012 may be irrelevant and we may not know the
         | cause.
        
           | faeriechangling wrote:
           | It's not a contradiction, I'm saying that an underlying
           | increase in mental illness plausibly explains some of the
           | effect, but I'm unconvinced it explains the entire effect.
        
             | strawpeople wrote:
             | What could explain the increase in suicides if not mental
             | illness?
        
               | faeriechangling wrote:
               | I'm drawing a distinction between "mental illness" and
               | "mental illness diagnosis" that I maybe didn't make
               | entirely clear. I think the former is increasing, but the
               | latter is increasing faster than the former.
        
               | monknomo wrote:
               | I'm not sure suicides strictly are the result of mental
               | illness. I, for example, have an uncle that killed
               | himself. He may have been clinically depressed, but
               | mainly, he was an alcoholic. I think it's likely what
               | depression he had would have resolved if he successfully
               | dealt with his substance abuse problem.
               | 
               | Did he die because he was mentally ill, or because
               | drinking can be a pretty bad problem?
        
       | MisterBastahrd wrote:
       | So 2 years after Instagram was created, and a few years after
       | touchscreen cell phones became commodity devices.
        
         | ch4s3 wrote:
         | I don't recall anyone I knew using Instagram very much in 2012,
         | people still used facebook a lot back then and Instagram felt
         | really niche. It hit 110 million users in 2013, which is around
         | when I recall people I knew starting to use it, but rally it
         | blew up in 2014.
        
           | treis wrote:
           | Yeah, Facebook started in 2004 and it was much more Instagram
           | like in its early days before everyone's parents joined and
           | started ranting about politics.
        
       | munificent wrote:
       | One of the core dilemmas of raising the next generation:
       | 
       | 1. We base much of our own sense of self-worth on difficulties we
       | have overcome and our ability to take care of others.
       | 
       | 2. We fairly extend that same metric to others and judge others
       | by the difficulties they've overcome and what they do for others.
       | 
       | 3. Therefore, the better we are at living up to our own values
       | and improving the lives of the next generation, the less we
       | respect them for it.
       | 
       | If kids had it as hard as us, it would indicate a failure on our
       | part to provide for them. If they don't have it as hard us, we
       | see them as soft.
       | 
       | (The current generation has tackled this dilemma both by
       | destroying the climate and functioning economic and institutional
       | systems they had the luxury of growing up under thus making it
       | worse for the next generation, _and_ still calling them weak for,
       | unsurprisingly, wanting to tune out of the horror show that is
       | the world by staring at their phone.)
        
         | mattgreenrocks wrote:
         | I think adults forget how much time and opportunities they
         | frittered away. Heaven knows I've done that through my teens,
         | twenties, and even some of my thirties.
         | 
         | Live and learn.
        
         | yamtaddle wrote:
         | > wanting to tune out of the horror show that is the world by
         | staring at their phone.
         | 
         | Yikes--dead wrong way to do it. About the only other way to get
         | 1/10 as much exposure to the "horror show" would be cable news.
        
           | munificent wrote:
           | A lot of people looking at their phones are just watching
           | TikToks of people dancing to 80s songs with their dog and
           | weird shit like that. They aren't all doomscrolling the news.
        
             | yamtaddle wrote:
             | Sure, fair point.
        
       | basicallybones wrote:
       | It is remarkably easy to expose yourself to truly horrifying
       | things on the Internet. Stories, images, and videos of deaths of
       | all kinds, from videos of terrorists cutting off people's heads
       | to people live streaming their suicides to Reddit stories about
       | motorcyclists having limbs ripped off in traffic accidents. News
       | sites, forums, and social feeds are a parade of horrors. You
       | cannot get away from the Internet, even if you want to, because
       | your job constantly pings you on email/chat/whatever.
       | 
       | It feels like the "learned helplessness" experiments where
       | researchers randomly shocked animals, who could not stop or do
       | anything about the shocks.
       | 
       | I wonder if we are all traumatized by what we have seen over the
       | years on Reddit, Twitter, etc.
       | 
       | There is an incredible recent song "Oh No" by Wet Leg that
       | captures some of this. Here are the lyrics (sorry about the
       | formatting):
       | 
       | I went home All alone Checked my phone Oh no Oh my God Life is
       | hard Credit card Oh no You're so woke Diet Coke I feel gross Oh
       | no I went home All alone I checked my phone And now I'm inside it
       | 
       | On my phone All alone In the zone Oh no Hours pass Pizza rat I
       | like that Oh no 3 AM I feel Zen Fucking Zen Oh no Suck the life
       | From my eyes It feels nice I'm scrolling, I'm scrolling, ah
       | 
       | If you're going to the party I heard there's gonna be some arty
       | People talking 'bout themselves Or whatever it is that you always
       | talk about, ah
       | 
       | I went home All alone I checked my phone Oh no I went home All
       | alone I checked my phone And now I'm inside it
        
         | DoItToMe81 wrote:
         | My highschool, like most of the time, was full of kids who sent
         | Iraqi beheadings and shock sites to each other. Voluntarily
         | viewing something disgusting isn't a traumatic experience. Nor
         | is being tricked into it when you can just press a big red X
         | and never have to think about it again.
        
         | rpmisms wrote:
         | Nah, gore is gore, death exists, farm kids have been doing this
         | for years. Kids deal very well with death as long as they
         | understand the concept from an early age.
        
           | jeltz wrote:
           | Yeah, I see no reason to think it is the gore. There are so
           | many other things, including social media, which are much
           | more likely candidates.
        
       | arp242 wrote:
       | Another possible explanation is that we _are_ simply diagnosing
       | these kind of mental health issues better - due to decrease in
       | stigmatization and /or more attention to it - but that our
       | treatment is worse than doing nothing, and is leading to higher
       | rates of self-harm and suicide.
       | 
       | I have no idea if that's the case - and if it is a factor at all
       | it probably doesn't account for all of it - but it seems
       | something worth exploring. Certainly in my own teen years I
       | benefited more from the occasional swift kick in the backside and
       | being told to "man up" than treatment with school counsellors and
       | such. Not that counsellors are bad, but sometimes you can take
       | things "too serious" which can make matters worse, in spite of
       | being well-intentioned.
        
         | paulpauper wrote:
         | _Another possible explanation is that we are simply diagnosing
         | these kind of mental health issues better - due to decrease in
         | stigmatization and /or more attention to it - but that our
         | treatment is worse than doing nothing, and is leading to higher
         | rates of self-harm and suicide._
         | 
         | I think this explains a lot of it, in particular in regard to
         | rising rates of autism. Doctors are looking for symptoms, hence
         | more people will be diagnosed.
        
         | 2OEH8eoCRo0 wrote:
         | If it's less stigmatized you'd expect fewer suicides right?
         | More people getting help. Perhaps it's less stigmatized because
         | a larger part of society has real mental health issues.
        
         | wakefulsales wrote:
         | i'm kind of in agreement - i think there's an extraordinarily
         | strong nocebo effect and dearth of belief in agency after being
         | diagnosed with something like that. At the same time, nearly
         | all treatments are effectively worthless. so what's even the
         | benefit? at the same time, I do believe mental health issues
         | partially exist to signal to the tribe that something is wrong
         | with that member and it's a call for help. so there should be
         | some way to triage and provide support. but idk if our current
         | transactional system that exists to pay pharma is good
        
         | brodouevencode wrote:
         | The increase in suicide rates for both genders (but especially
         | females) are astounding. I really don't believe that any
         | changes in treatment have been so radical as to cause this to
         | manifest the way it has.
        
           | NickM wrote:
           | SSRI use has skyrocketed, and multiple meta-analyses have
           | confirmed that they lead to an increase in suicidal thoughts
           | and behavior when used by children and adolescents.
           | 
           | I don't necessarily agree with the grandparent poster's point
           | of view, as I do think there are big societal changes leading
           | to decreased mental health that are unrelated to the way we
           | treat mental illness...but I do think the increase in usage
           | of psychiatric drugs is a big problem, and may at least
           | partly explain the increased suicide rates.
        
             | samtho wrote:
             | > SSRI use has skyrocketed, and multiple meta-analyses have
             | confirmed that they lead to an increase in suicidal
             | thoughts and behavior when used by children and
             | adolescents.
             | 
             | The prevailing wisdom on this is that many people suffering
             | major depression won't even have the motivation to go
             | through with suicide. Once the depression has begun to be
             | treated, certain executive functions start to amplify
             | giving sufferers newfound task salience and resolve to go
             | through with it. The problem is that all the symptoms of
             | depression take far longer to subside with consistent
             | SSRI/SNRI usage as prescribed. These drugs take on average
             | 90 days to reach their full effectiveness but not
             | everything happens at once during this adjustment. Along
             | the way, you do reach a strange state of: "well I'm still
             | depressed but I feel empowered to do something about it
             | now."
        
               | TchoBeer wrote:
               | I remember this stage when I started taking SSRIs when I
               | was an older teenager. I was warned about it and was
               | seeing a short-term therapist and so I dealt with it
               | well, but there's a short 2-4 weeks where the crushing
               | demotivation that has dominated your life is lifted but
               | you still are stuck in the life-despising thought
               | spirals. I assume that much of this can be mitigated by
               | regular consultation with mental health for the first two
               | month while trying a new medication, but it's possible
               | that isn't true.
        
           | arp242 wrote:
           | I don't mean changes in treatment, but rather that some
           | people previously went undiagnosed and "just got over it" on
           | their own. As I said, in my own case treatment _didn 't_ help
           | and actually made matters worse as I saw myself more as a
           | victim who "couldn't help myself". n=1 of course. And many
           | people of course _do_ benefit from treatment.
           | 
           | As I mentioned: even _if_ this turns out to be factor - and I
           | 'm not sure it even is - then I don't think this accounts for
           | 100% of the increase. I don't profess this is the full
           | explanation, merely a possible factor, out of several.
           | 
           | I'm also reminded by my uncle, who was born with a serious
           | and debilitating heart condition; he always said that if he
           | had listened to his doctors he'd be a "victim" in a
           | wheelchair inside all day. Of course he did need serious
           | medical attention, including a heart transplant, and he did
           | end up dying from his condition at the age of 51, but overall
           | he led a "good life" and just carried on with things without
           | seeing himself as too much of a victim. It probably would
           | have been a different life if he did. Mental feedback loops
           | can be pretty powerful.
           | 
           | It's also worth pointing out the charts look a bit less
           | drastic if you zoom out to the 70s; in fact, suicide for boys
           | especially was a lot higher in the 80s than it is now. The
           | author does address that briefly at the bottom, and provides
           | a link with more detail (which is too much to quote here, but
           | tl;dr is that they believe it's correlated to lead exposure
           | and crime rates - this link also contains the longer
           | timeframe charts).
        
             | xwolfi wrote:
             | Not sure of the value of this tidbit but I heard that in
             | the US, blacks suicided a lot less than whites (quick
             | google seems to say rate of black suicide is a third of
             | white) and it could be because they grow up explaining
             | their issues with external factors, while the whites have
             | no convenient escapes, and even are told they are
             | privileged due to their skin color... so self blame.
             | 
             | Really flimsy, I am not an expert but... fits a bit the
             | idea that just looping around yourself self introspecting
             | how much of a failure YOU are might not help.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | I would offer the really flimsy statement most blacks in
               | US are descendants of slaves, who were bred for
               | generations to be optimized for unskilled labor that was
               | given very little mental and health support which meant
               | anyone slightly suicidal just killed themselves off.
               | Slavery is pretty stressful. Society tends to want to
               | ignore the fact the colonists and early Americans
               | literally bred slaves under stressful conditions for
               | centuries and that tends to have ... effects on the
               | genetic pool particularly in remarkably stressful
               | environments where risk factors can cause rapid attrition
               | from reproductive population.
        
               | shrimp_emoji wrote:
               | I think a more plausible theory is that white people feel
               | more entitlement than black people, not because of some
               | weird genetic memory thing but because they see other
               | white people (or maybe even their parents or great-
               | grandparents) enjoy much higher success than they are.
               | Higher expectations = more pain from shitty circumstances
               | = worse reactions.
        
               | notinfuriated wrote:
               | This might be true, although I think it depends on the
               | age group of the people committing suicide.
               | 
               | I forget where I heard this, but I believe a significant
               | number of people committing suicide have a high
               | correlation with other issues like chronic pain (e.g.,
               | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24916035/) or addiction.
               | I'm suspicious that those white people have the kinds of
               | problems you're referring to because I suspect their
               | peers are less likely to be successful or affluent, as
               | people with chronic pain issues probably are more working
               | class, performing physical labor that results in their
               | issues.
               | 
               | (Granted, I suppose there is probably a racial element
               | that would account for why, if this is the case, more
               | white people with chronic pain issues kill themselves vs.
               | black people with chronic pain issues.)
               | 
               | This is obviously speculation, but so is your comment. I
               | find both to be potentially likely. The scenario you came
               | up with seems more likely for younger people (probably
               | not experiencing chronic pain), and the scenario I came
               | up with is potentially more likely for older people. But
               | we're just spitballing some hypotheses here.
        
             | justsocrateasin wrote:
             | n of 2, this has been my experience as well. I was almost
             | killed in a shooting in 2021, and in 2022 I started seeing
             | a therapist. Going into therapy made me relate to my trauma
             | more, think about my trauma more often, and self identify
             | as a "traumatized individual". I don't think any of that
             | helped. The only thing that really helped was daily
             | meditation/mindfulness, which does the opposite - it
             | teaches you that the thoughts and experiences you have are
             | fleeting and rather than hold on to them you can let them
             | go.
             | 
             | That being said, I don't think this is a strong enough
             | phenomenon that it explains the rather large trends upwards
             | in self harm/mental health. I think a good control is the
             | graph that shows Schizophrenia - a 67% uptick shows that
             | the diagnosis rates are probably a lot higher than the
             | early 2000s, since I doubt that schizophrenia is really
             | becoming more common due to social media.
        
               | beamgirl wrote:
               | Relating this back to social media, I've noticed that at
               | times younger people almost exert a social pressure to
               | link all behavior to anything remotely traumatic. I've
               | had some shitty stuff happen to me, life has had it's
               | rough points, but I've always felt pretty lucky overall.
               | I've noticed in arguments with roommates/friends/etc who
               | are younger by a few years, there is significantly more
               | forgiveness towards anything that can even be
               | tangentially linked to something that can be identified
               | as a trauma. I noticed it because over time it led me to
               | start slowly reframing experiences and actually focusing
               | more on the damage they'd done. And its funny, the most
               | traumatizing experience of my life has probably been the
               | push to open up and focus on my traumas. My mental health
               | has improved a lot since distancing myself from people
               | who are too eager to focus on trauma. I wonder how that
               | plays into the whole social mental health conversation.
               | Like when does starting a conversation and destigmatizing
               | a topic turn into feeding it and enabling it? Not to say
               | by any means mental health was handled well before, but I
               | think we might have made something of a deal with the
               | devil in how we frame mental health on social media.
        
           | willcipriano wrote:
           | Tell someone with an issue with their physical condition that
           | it is because of diet and lack of exercise and many would
           | change habits, tell them it's due to a incurable but perhaps
           | treatable cancer and some will chose suicide.
           | 
           | Tell kids that they are unhappy due to choices made in day to
           | day life and they might change those choices, tell them it's
           | due to a incurable but maybe treatable issue with their brain
           | and some will chose suicide.
           | 
           | The problem may be classifying typical human misery as
           | incurable illness.
        
             | Broken_Hippo wrote:
             | _Tell kids that they are unhappy due to choices made in day
             | to day life and they might change those choices, tell them
             | it 's due to a incurable but maybe treatable issue with
             | their brain and some will chose suicide._
             | 
             | The thing you are trying to say isn't really true, though.
             | 
             | Tell some kids that it is all their fault, and some kids
             | will commit suicide. Some of the kids already think this
             | way and someone telling them this stuff is just going to
             | intensify it.
             | 
             | Especially considering that getting treatment isn't such a
             | stigma now, a lot of the folks being told that it is the
             | cause of the disease will feel relieved and certainly not
             | choose suicide _even if_ they refuse medication.
             | 
             | So no, that probably isn't the issue.
        
             | goodpoint wrote:
             | Not at all, it's exactly the opposite. People feel
             | understood and very relieved when they are diagnosed mental
             | illness. Accepting and managing some condition give people
             | hope.
        
               | willcipriano wrote:
               | To respond I need to separate mental illness into three
               | categories.
               | 
               | The first category contains illnesses like schizophrenia,
               | with schizophrenia you can induce symptoms of the illness
               | in healthy people by giving them medicine used to treat
               | parkinsons. We can point to specific structures and
               | chemical reactions in the brain as a cause for the
               | illness, it may not be perfectly understood but we have a
               | good understanding of what is going on.
               | 
               | The second contains things like personality disorders.
               | It's not clear these are actually related to physical
               | defects, at least in the same way the first category is.
               | For example people who meet diagnostic criteria for
               | antisocial personality disorder often report no symptoms
               | and are successful in day to day life, some even thrive.
               | Borderline personality types are often distraught over
               | the state of interpersonal reletionships, that is the
               | primary source of their suffering, however they behave in
               | ways that destroy those reletionships. These behaviors
               | aren't accidental, they involve sophisticated thinking,
               | borderlines spin complex webs of lies to justify and hide
               | these behaviors.
               | 
               | The third are things that are normal human suffering.
               | Most people feel anxiety for a big date or a job
               | interview. Most people feel sad when they lose a loved
               | one. Negative emotions are a part of life. It's hard to
               | draw a line on what is normal but a nonzero number of
               | people are medicated for having normal human emotions.
               | 
               | It may not be helpful for the second and third category
               | to be enabled in the way they have been.
               | 
               | For the second group, as the root of their strife is
               | generally interpersonal, and only changing day to day
               | behavior, over a lengthy period of time will have any
               | effect in alevating the true symptoms of the illness. We
               | can pretend the problem "isn't their fault" but
               | essentially all their issues can be tied directly to
               | their own behavior, it may not be their fault but it's
               | certainly their problem.
               | 
               | For the third it isn't clear that they need to be treated
               | at all, if you are too sad to go to work because your son
               | died a month ago, nothing is wrong with you. Perhaps
               | people are sad in society in general because the society
               | in general sucks, medicating them in mass lowers the
               | collective motivation to fix the society, what's the end
               | game there?
        
             | orwin wrote:
             | Untrue, at least for functioning autists. It's incurable,
             | but knowing there is others in the same situation, reading
             | about coping mechanism and that what you feel is indeed
             | normal, albeit atypical help a lot.
        
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             | kayodelycaon wrote:
             | That's not how this works. Having a reason for why you are
             | struggling so badly is a relief.
             | 
             | Your problem now has a name and it's not your fault. Having
             | a name opens up a lot of support and treatment options.
             | This gives you hope that your suffering isn't endless and
             | infinite.
             | 
             | You may not be able to be cured, but you can have a much
             | better life.
        
               | kneebonian wrote:
               | I've found the opposite usually happens in my experience.
               | It is easy to give into the temptation to then blame all
               | problems on the condition, and start to abscond
               | responsibility for your behavior. This leads to
               | increasing feelings of helplessness, and not taking any
               | actions that could help.
               | 
               | This ultimately results in you feeling miserable
               | powerless and see no hope.
               | 
               | I think that the framing around this is very important. I
               | had a teacher that constantly used the phrase "Don't let
               | your reasons become excuses." Knowing there is an issue
               | can bring relief and be helpful only if it empowers one
               | to act.
               | 
               | An example I have seen in my life is two people that have
               | anxiety, one started using it as a reason to avoid
               | interacting with people, to avoid school, and to
               | basically hide in her room and read books all the time,
               | to the point they would have a breakdown when forced to
               | talk to a grocery store clerk, her sibling had a similar
               | struggle but forced themselves through it, to learn how
               | to interact, to push themselves to be in difficult and
               | uncomfortable situations, and eventually although still
               | struggles with social anxiety presents a pretty passable
               | facade of being able to function in society.
        
               | tweetle_beetle wrote:
               | That is a very optimistic outlook. One person's new
               | relief is another's new label, stigma and anxiety. People
               | experiencing depression-related mental health conditions
               | could lean towards the latter.
               | 
               | In addition, many diagnoses in mental health aren't
               | really tangible or helpful to think about as a layperson,
               | they're just a vague description of a symptom (this
               | applies across a lot of medicine, see IBS, etc.).
        
             | lazyasciiart wrote:
             | I think your take is totally ignorant, and your problem is
             | that you imagine people are being diagnosed with mental
             | illness and/or committing suicide because of "typical human
             | misery".
             | 
             | Physical condition is an excellent analogy. Many obese
             | people are told that _any_ physical complaint is caused by
             | their weight and told to go exercise. This includes people
             | who are later correctly diagnosed with asthma, broken
             | bones, hormone deficiencies and appendicitis. How do you
             | think they feel to be told that they are causing their own
             | problems and should stop doing that?
        
               | Spivak wrote:
               | This shit is a rabbit hole that never ends. If there is
               | anything about you that is seen as abnormal by a doctor
               | (including being a woman yikes -- and age also yikes) it
               | gets blamed for _everything_ regardless of whether it
               | makes any sense at all.
               | 
               | I swear so many doctors treat medical diagnosis like it's
               | a game of spot the difference between you and the
               | reference 25 year old white man.
        
           | notch898a wrote:
           | It could be that being diagnosed with an illness, even with
           | excellent treatment, symptoms can become a self fulfilling
           | prophecy. If you believe you are at increased risk for
           | suicide, maybe you start thinking more about that and it
           | comes to fruition. Or maybe you take some meds, which make
           | you better 99.9% of the time but that one time your flight is
           | late or whatever and miss the dose and the rebound is twice
           | as bad as never having been on them.
           | 
           | Also ultimately suicide by definition is based on _most
           | harmful decision of life event_ rather than what a doctor is
           | probably optimizing for which is best day-to-day ability to
           | function. These are two different optimizations that can be
           | at odds. Almost nobody would choose to feel worse 99.9% of
           | the time to reduce the risk in that 0.1% of the time they 're
           | suicidal.
        
         | kypro wrote:
         | I think the opposite could be true - that we're too quick to
         | diagnose mental illnesses in kids today. In the last few years
         | I've witnessed several kids in my family get referred to
         | doctors for potential mental illnesses and then end up on a
         | cocktail of drugs as a result.
         | 
         | It's something I've found really difficult because I was never
         | personally convinced they were mentally ill in the first place
         | and in many cases these drugs have really nasty side effects. I
         | don't think it's going too far to say part of that child dies
         | when they're given high doses of depressants, anxiety and ADHD
         | meds.
         | 
         | Imo we probably need to stop telling kids they're mentally ill
         | and giving them medication, while also finding a way to be
         | compassionate about their struggles. I'm constantly trying to
         | convince one teenage girl in my family at the moment that it's
         | okay to be shy and anxious sometimes. That she doesn't need
         | medication and there's nothing wrong with her. But it's a hard
         | argument to make when certain teachers and family members are
         | telling her she possibly does in an attempt to be
         | compassionate.
        
           | Myrmornis wrote:
           | This is spot-on. Over-diagnosis and over-medicalization of
           | questionable mental illnesses is a huge problem in (at least)
           | Anglophone societies. Many people know that privately, but it
           | has become a hard thing to say publicly due to the large
           | numbers of people who have received such diagnoses from
           | medical/psychology professionals who they, understandably,
           | believed.
        
           | kitsune_ wrote:
           | ADHD is underdiagnosed, especially in women.
        
             | Spivak wrote:
             | Neurodivergence in general is under-diagnosed, especially
             | women. One of my close friend struggled with OCD her whole
             | life but since it didn't present like it does in the movies
             | she nor her doctors had any idea. She didn't get diagnosed
             | until she was an adult which, while good, 20 years of
             | unnecessary struggle isn't exactly a win.
        
           | barking_biscuit wrote:
           | Well my friends weren't really convinced either when I told
           | them about my ADHD diagnosis. Luckily for me I seriously did
           | my homework on it, and finally getting treatment has helped a
           | lot.
           | 
           | In the last several years since getting diagnosed I have done
           | a lot of reading on the brain, trauma, mental illness etc.
           | I've come to learn that actually a surprisingly large number
           | of people have something going on, and whatever that
           | something happens to be is complex enough that laypeople
           | aren't in a position to understand it very well or at all.
        
           | TchoBeer wrote:
           | I understand this perspective, but I think that it's an
           | overcorrection. I grew up with depression that went untreated
           | until my late teens, and if I wasn't medicated when I was or
           | soon thereafter I would in all likelihood not be alive today.
           | My sister has really severe ADHD and she was unable to
           | function until she got medicated for ADHD before
           | teenagerhood. Saying "it's ok to be anxious and shy
           | sometimes" is all well and good, but being shy and anxious
           | can often be painful and prevent people from interacting
           | socially in ways that they want to do but are too painful. I
           | think it's probable that we are overmedicating psychological
           | ailments, but I also would be loathe to stop medications
           | without another solution.
        
           | DanHulton wrote:
           | _sigh_
           | 
           | Well, _I_ think it's going too far. Way too far.
           | 
           | Myself, for example, I had raging ADHD throughout my life and
           | only recently in my 40s started to get treatment. And
           | incidentally, treatment isn't _just_ drugs, it's also
           | counseling, to help identify coping mechanisms, work through
           | trauma, identify strategies to help you to become effective
           | despite working differently from how neurotypical people
           | work. I'm in a good place now, but it is largely due to luck.
           | It took a lot of work for me to not feel grief over how my
           | life could have been different if I had been diagnosed
           | earlier, if I had had the level of treatment available now,
           | back then.
           | 
           | And I don't want to get too far into it because it's not my
           | story to tell, but I have friends who are way worse off. They
           | dealt with far more than I ever had to, in terms of
           | depression, anxiety, etc, and they did it by themselves, with
           | no or limited medical and psychiatric support, while
           | suffering the stigma of a society that did not respect what
           | they were going through at all, with friends and family who
           | could only suggest that they "toughen up". Many of them I'm
           | not in contact with any more, for reasons related and
           | unrelated, but overall though, I _wish_ they had the options
           | and respect for their conditions that kids today have. I
           | can't even imagine the difference it could have made.
        
             | Spivak wrote:
             | > It took a lot of work for me to not feel grief over how
             | my life could have been different if I had been diagnosed
             | earlier, if I had had the level of treatment available now,
             | back then.
             | 
             | That shit is way to real.
        
         | faeriechangling wrote:
         | Why is more diagnosis better diagnosis? I hear this constantly,
         | literally every time people point out we might be calling
         | people mentally ill now that we wouldn't have called mentally
         | ill 20 years ago people go "wow we must be diagnosing people
         | better". To me better diagnosis would be reflected in things
         | like the suicide rate dropping, drug abuse falling, general
         | health metrics improving, and so on, not in simply increasing
         | the amount of people we give labels and medicalise.
         | 
         | I am so incredibly unconvinced that labelling a bunch of people
         | as mentally ill is "better" because the more we're diagnosed
         | people as mentally ill, the more things like suicide have
         | increased. Now obviously that can be due to an underlying
         | increase in mental illness driving suicide, the thing is the
         | diagnosis itself and the resulting differential treatment of
         | society and your self-perception of yourself can be the cause
         | of that mental illness. Making the diagnosis a self-fulfilling
         | prophecy.
         | 
         | So far the increase in diagnosis over time has completely
         | failed to actually improve peoples mental health. I am
         | constantly perplexed at why nobody is worried about this. It
         | seems how we diagnose people is totally unconnected from any
         | empirical data on if a culture more willing to diagnose people
         | is making people healthier on a population-wide level. To me it
         | seems like most evidence points to the population-wide trend
         | getting worse and the increase in diagnosis being a failure
         | making people sicker, and I can't help but also notice many of
         | those who advocate that the increase in diagnosis is a great
         | thing have a conflict of interest and financially benefit from
         | more people being labelled ill.
        
           | ok123456 wrote:
           | It's not. There are Physician Incentive Plans that
           | incentivize doctors to prescribe SSRIs for anyone complaining
           | about generalized anxiety or depression.
        
             | SV_BubbleTime wrote:
             | I've seen it. I've watched in my lifetime an industry and
             | doctors push SSRI and "mental health medicines" to target
             | children for lifetime use.
             | 
             | This is the real crisis, and I don't think we've peaked
             | yet.
        
           | mrj wrote:
           | True, of course labeling is only the first step before
           | treatment. Maybe the root cause of the rise is then we are
           | telling kids they're depressed and we have relatively
           | ineffective treatments for it.
           | 
           | Labelling wouldn't be a problem if we could actually help
           | everybody with the diagnosis, but they're too often stuck
           | with a "ehh. maybe this pill" approach.
        
           | LarryMullins wrote:
           | > _It seems how we diagnose people is totally unconnected
           | from any empirical data on if a culture more willing to
           | diagnose people is making people healthier on a population-
           | wide level._
           | 
           | Speaking of an absence of empirical data: People are being
           | told by doctors that their brain has a "chemical imbalance"
           | which medication can fix, despite those doctors not
           | performing any chemical tests on the patient's brain at all.
           | Supposed "chemical imbalances" for which the science of
           | chemistry can produce no empirical data. My brother lost
           | years of his life in a drug-induced haze before he questioned
           | the wisdom of doctors, got off the psyche drugs, and saw a
           | massive improvement in his outlook on life all around. Turns
           | out he had real problems to address and the drugs were only
           | helping him to ignore those problems instead of actually
           | confronting them. He never needed drugs, he needed a mature
           | mentor.
        
             | faeriechangling wrote:
             | Generally I think mental illness will remain in the dark
             | ages so long as there is a divide between neurologists and
             | psychiatrists, and so long as the ICD and DSM are the gold
             | standard of diagnosis. Mental illness is mostly defined
             | based on others perception of you, and is rarely defined
             | based on any sort of psychological testing. There are a few
             | which can be objectively tested for like Alzheimers but
             | they're in the minority.
        
         | goodpoint wrote:
         | > I benefited more from the occasional swift kick in the
         | backside and being told to "man up"
         | 
         | Practically you are saying that pedagogy and psychology are
         | wrong and harmful on a fundamental level.
         | 
         | Either you are in denial or a whole field of science is wrong.
        
           | arp242 wrote:
           | No, that is not what I said. Aside from that fact that these
           | two fields are hardly exact sciences and have different
           | schools of thought with large fundamental disagreements, I
           | never said that _all_ of psychology is bad. I specifically
           | said  "Not that counsellors are bad, but sometimes [...]".
           | 
           | In my _specific_ case it didn 't help and was more harmful
           | than helpful. For other people it _is_ helpful. n=1 but I 'm
           | probably not a very special individual, so situations similar
           | to mine probably apply to other people as well, although I
           | have no idea how many exactly, or if this number has been
           | increasing or decreasing.
        
           | mmcgaha wrote:
           | Are you suggesting that people should ignore their personal
           | experiences if they do not align with what the science tells
           | them? Why would you declare that anyone is in denial about
           | their own reality?
        
         | wtcactus wrote:
         | That would imply that suicides would at least stay the same,
         | or, most probably, decrease due to earlier phycological
         | support.
        
       | banannaise wrote:
       | All the things he cites are lagging indicators. Self-harm and
       | suicide typically follow long, long battles with mental health
       | issues; they're not the first thing that happens, or even close.
       | Diagnoses are also typically far from immediate; having
       | depression and being diagnosed with depression are two _very_
       | different things. (And without increased awareness, many people
       | never get care and are never diagnosed.)
       | 
       | As such, the inflection point, if there is one, is likely much
       | earlier than 2012.
        
         | lostlogin wrote:
         | How does that apply to children though? They haven't got a lot
         | of time that's earlier as they would be too young.
         | Additionally, a key part of a child's behaviour is that it's
         | impulsive.
        
           | banannaise wrote:
           | The cohort before would have gone undiagnosed. Time works the
           | same way whether you're looking at tranches or a rolling
           | window of the population.
        
       | kulahan wrote:
       | The very first thing that comes to mind is this is the first year
       | after the '08 housing collapse where all students in the school
       | had experienced it before entering high school. I wonder if the
       | massive housing instability had an oversized impact on mental
       | health which just... never recovered?
        
       | psychoslave wrote:
       | Mind you, the kids aren't all right was recorder in 1998
       | actually.
       | 
       | Great songs age well of course.
       | 
       | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kids_Aren%27t_Alright
       | 
       | https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7iNbnineUCI
        
       | password11 wrote:
       | _girls 15-19 that self harmed: 0.45% - > 0.7%. A 47% increase!_
       | 
       |  _boys 15-19 that died by suicide: 0.01% - > 0.016%. A 34%
       | increase!_
       | 
       | Relative increase percentages (i.e. exponentials) are misleading
       | when they are measuring linear phenomena like suicide rate. You
       | could just as easily say there was a _0.1% decrease_ in the
       | percent of boys who didn 't die by suicide.
       | 
       | It's misleading because the new 0.006% of male suicides are
       | unrelated to the existing 0.01%.
       | 
       | Suicide rate is not a ROI or conversion rate. Use absolute
       | percentages please. I get they're writing to accentuate big
       | impact -- and suicide is a big deal -- but this is disingenuous.
        
         | DubiousPusher wrote:
         | Help me out. I don't see the problem. If there are 100 suicides
         | per 100,000 people in a year amongst a cohort and the next year
         | there are 134 per 100,000, that's an increase in total suicides
         | of 34%. I don't really see why that's not useful as an
         | indicator of how much worse the problem is getting. To me, it
         | would be nice if they were clearer about what that percentage
         | represents, is it the average from 2000-2010 vs the average
         | from 2010-2020?
         | 
         | A bigger issue to me is that small window of the data. It's
         | hard to tell how bumpy this curve is over the long term. Like
         | is a suicide rate amongst teens that fluctuates 34%, decade
         | over decade typical?
        
       | benrhodesuk wrote:
       | While I don't doubt that social media can have a negative impact
       | on teens... my own experience as the parent of a teen is slightly
       | different and doesn't point to social media as being a driver. At
       | least in my case.
       | 
       | I have a teenager that struggles with anxiety, low self-esteem
       | and depression. He's incredibly smart and is an honors student in
       | high school. BUT he also thinks he's terrible and he's incapable
       | of accepting a compliment or congratulations on a good grade or
       | work which he immediately deflects and says he was lucky or he's
       | not really smart or something negative.
       | 
       | What does this have to do with the article as far as my
       | experience? He's not on social media. While he might consume some
       | social media (ex. TikTok) he doesn't have his own social media
       | accounts. He doesn't have a Facebook account, Instagram account,
       | etc. Which might sound hard to believe and you are likely
       | thinking "I bet he has burner accounts..." but actually he
       | doesn't.
       | 
       | He didn't have a smartphone until he was 13. And while he used an
       | iPad before that it was primarily for playing games and watching
       | Youtube.
       | 
       | What he is into is online gaming and Youtube. I guess you could
       | count Youtube as a form of social media but even with that he's a
       | consumer of the content and not a creator or commenter. So he's
       | not posting videos on Youtube or getting into arguments with
       | people in the Youtube comments, etc. He simply watches content.
       | 
       | So I'm only a sample size of one but I deal with a teen who
       | struggles with a lot of what is described in this article... yet
       | it isn't being driven by social media.
       | 
       | I think there are far more factors at play than simply
       | smartphones and social media. And those factors could be
       | different depending on the individual. Although some of the
       | factors are obviously going to be shared. And I have no doubt
       | social media can have a tremendous negative impact on mental
       | health. But I think there is much more going on than just that.
        
         | sublinear wrote:
         | I struggled similarly when I was in school.
         | 
         | As an adult I realized my attitude came from simply not having
         | any example or basis for what I was doing. All I had were long
         | term goals that always seemed just beyond the horizon.
         | 
         | In that situation almost any expectations will seem lofty and
         | it's just as easy to feel either pride or shame regardless of
         | what is actually accomplished.
         | 
         | This is not easy to deal with, but it is possible. As they say,
         | you should surround yourself with people you can look up to.
         | That's how you grow.
        
         | jasmer wrote:
         | That's also within the norm for teenagerdom historically.
         | 
         | Also try sports. Team sports.
        
         | gnramires wrote:
         | How much gaming does he do, and what kind of games, if you
         | don't mind?
        
         | righttoolforjob wrote:
         | Consuming is the worst. The Internet is a toxic cesspool, for
         | the most part. Having an account and interacting with friends
         | would be one of the few exceptions, and maybe learning some
         | stuff now and then.
        
           | benrhodesuk wrote:
           | Yea. I agree there is a lot of bad things to consume.
           | 
           | In general what he consumes tends to lean towards the toxic
           | end of things. A lot of learning, science and educational
           | content. And then gaming-related content (Minecraft, etc.).
           | 
           | Obviously, some of the gaming content can get toxic. But he's
           | always been pretty good about staying away from more toxic
           | gaming content. And while he will watching gaming content on
           | Youtube he's not really into watching live streamers (on
           | Youtube or Twitch) which is where a lot of toxicity can be on
           | full display (both on the stream and in the chat).
           | 
           | So overall the majority of what he consumes tends to not be
           | swimming around in the toxic cesspool end of things.
        
             | whstl wrote:
             | I think you're the first here in this topic that talked
             | about Twitch and streamers.
             | 
             | I know a few streamers and we're aware of people that spend
             | sometimes up to 5 hours a day on every single stream they
             | do. Some of those donating hundreds of dollars a month to a
             | single streamer. The stream chat is their hobby and the
             | majority of their social interaction. The streamers are
             | also burned out.
             | 
             | I'm all for people finding a community, and that's sort of
             | what we do at HN. But that's a bit extreme for me.
             | 
             | IMO things are only going to get worse from here.
        
               | smolder wrote:
               | Streamers who aren't big enough to be financially
               | successful (which is 99.999%) but have dreams of high
               | viewer counts and big advertising checks (they work hard
               | at growing their channels) are like an underfed child
               | army of influence. The desperation to be popular online
               | fuels a tremendous aggregate effort with little return
               | for the streamers, but which is very effective at drawing
               | their peers and adjacent peer groups into this unhealthy
               | viewership, all in the service of showing ads.
               | 
               | The whole culture around twitch, TikTok, and social media
               | influence generally is very exploitative of teens and
               | younger people with more time and energy than wisdom.
               | 
               | I don't think it's the technology itself that is harmful
               | to kids, not even slightly. It's the environment created
               | online by adults who act to make a profit that drives the
               | pathological use of technology. It's exploiting people's
               | psychology, their need for attention or belonging, and
               | constantly _driving engagement_ that makes the impact of
               | tech on society so ugly. The biggest danger to our youth
               | online is arguably unfettered capitalism, not child
               | predators.
               | 
               | Capitalism can and does work synergistically without the
               | kind of pathological, societal self-harm that's so
               | broadly accepted. Modern technology has just enabled
               | perverse new ways to chew up and spit out the young and
               | disadvantaged en masse while essentially looking the
               | other way, just seeing the participants as rows in a DB
               | table. From most parents' point of view, the threats
               | posed by the profiteering actors in tech are hard to
               | detect and reason about, and hard to protect from in ways
               | that aren't net harmful & draconian, so many young people
               | are left very vulnerable.
               | 
               | Further, for many tech workers, or for those that use the
               | tech to generate business, it's hard to steer away from
               | "evil technology" that is so effective in paying the
               | bills.
        
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       | NeverAnonymous wrote:
       | Interesting article.
       | 
       | FWIW, I graduated from Redwood High School in Marin County, CA in
       | 2014. Redwood had ~1600 students and many were high achievers,
       | and many came from middle-class or upper-class families. We were
       | a blue ribbon school, probably with a hefty PTA budget and a
       | myriad of AP courses and honors classes available. We had some
       | dedicated teachers too. We even had a ceramics room, a music
       | building, a beautiful gym, track, and field. There was a drama
       | program, and of course the drama room smelled of illicit
       | substances, but they did deliver impressive improv shows. Our
       | graduating class had a record number of students who had achieved
       | honor roll or higher GPAs.
       | 
       | To my knowledge, there were some bullying incidents at our
       | school, but the rate was said to be relatively low. I knew at
       | least one person who had been cyber-bullied. We had one suicide
       | that I can remember -- a girl who I didn't know very well but
       | shared maybe one or two classes with my freshman year. It was
       | tragic to hear of her family's loss when it happened, and looking
       | back at the few interactions I had with her, I would not have
       | pegged her to be at risk. She seemed like someone who would have
       | no trouble making friends or performing in school. Most of the
       | suicides we heard of came out of different schools in the Bay
       | Area that were even more academically challenging. St. Ignatius
       | or "S.I.", a private school in San Francisco was infamous for
       | their suicides.
       | 
       | In reflection, I didn't invest as much as I should have in
       | getting to know more of these individuals while in high school --
       | I was shy, but mostly bored, fixated on keeping my grades up to
       | impress a favorable profile to universities, and fatigued about
       | how fake so much of life seemed to be. During our graduation
       | ceremony I realized if that I could have and should have taken
       | more of an interest in getting to know more of my peers, and
       | participating in their lives. High school students aren't fake
       | people, even if high school feels fabricated and pointless.
       | Social media wasn't a huge problem for me, but it did have an
       | effect of making me think that some people appeared quite dull --
       | I have learned my lesson not to be deceived.
       | 
       | For me, social media amplified the feeling of being stuck -- a
       | feeling that was already exuded by the physical form of our
       | school, which was designed by the same architect who did San
       | Quentin State Prison. It also amplified a story people could
       | create about themselves or others. We saw that gave people an
       | opportunity to weave themselves into a web of negative self-image
       | or belief about others, or the world. It seems to do this
       | effortlessly, while excluding the human contact that usually
       | comes along with in-person communication. For kids who have an
       | abusive parent, I suspect that this was particularly insidious
       | because social media empowered parents to be more involved in
       | their children's social dynamic than before. While a lot of
       | people were saying that it's important to keep an eye on your
       | child's internet activity, I suspect that some parents with
       | abusive tendencies took advantage of this and misused it to the
       | detriment of their children.
       | 
       | There is the apparent option to delete one's profile, but that
       | doesn't stop others from mentioning you or posting photos that
       | you are in. And someone's absence on social media is potentially
       | a statement itself. What would you make of a job candidate has no
       | presence at all on LinkedIn? (To clarify, this last question is
       | posed to ask you to consider it and I don't mean to plant a
       | particular answer in your head).
       | 
       | Perhaps the most damning impact of it on our generation is that
       | it was a pervasive opportunity for kids to fail forever. The
       | school would undoubtedly respond in some punitive way to anyone
       | with online presence or interest that may, in any way, be deemed
       | negative, and on top of all that, the media itself has its own
       | algorithm and presumably saves all the data forever. Kids had to
       | either censor themselves more carefully in communications online,
       | or risk the consequences. This is the biggest issue I see that
       | has contributed to a whole generation of people that doesn't feel
       | safe to express a unique opinion, and perhaps fears being judged.
       | It's one thing to be surveilled by the government. It is another
       | entirely to be surveilled by people in your peer group, your
       | community, and your friends. We've been taught that if you appear
       | to think a certain way, then you are done. Period. Until then,
       | come play in school rallies and don't mind the police officer who
       | is watching you the whole time.
        
       | HL33tibCe7 wrote:
       | I suspect smartphones as a reason, but not for the "social media
       | makes people compare themselves to others/opens themselves up for
       | bullying" reason.
       | 
       | I think the constant drip feed of dopamine that smartphones give
       | you fucks up your brain chemistry, and that especially affects
       | young people.
        
       | zahrc wrote:
       | Counterpoint: as we're more open with with mental health
       | challenges in adult life, teenagers are more open as well, or at
       | least we can tell better.
       | 
       | The terms teenage angst and peer pressure existed before 2012.
       | 
       | P.S. I'm not saying that social media isn't bad or making it
       | worse, but there are other factors as well. And when I think of
       | teenagers, I think of poor young humans that are just trying to
       | find and prove themselves, and that is a lot of pressure.
        
       | codeslave13 wrote:
       | My daughter hit her teens in2012. It was a horrible couple of
       | years not just for her but from about 8th grade up.
       | 
       | Our HS had a suicide wave. Many attepts (my daughter being one)
       | and quite a few of those attempts were successful later.
       | Thankfully my child responded well to therapy.
       | 
       | This was in a high competitive HS IN NORTHERN VA.
       | 
       | My thoughts on factors:
       | 
       | Crazy parents pushing kids to try and get in TJ who had no
       | business there. (We did not)
       | 
       | Peer pressure to over perform at everything (If you did t have a
       | 4.5 gpa you were stupid)
       | 
       | And the big bad social media really started going for teens then.
       | And it was brutal
       | 
       | Over scheduling for activities. We played travel soccer. Super
       | competitive. We had girls that played travel basketbal,soccer and
       | softball. One of those is almost year round. Three? Your never
       | home
       | 
       | We balanced it all with camping. It helped so much. One weekend a
       | month minimum. No excuses.
       | 
       | Rambled a bit but from about 2011 on kids have been fucked.
        
         | germinalphrase wrote:
         | I taught at the high school level for about ten years before
         | shifting into tech. I was always astounded by the level of
         | devotion many families had toward traveling sports (notably
         | hockey up here in Minnesota). Outside of truly elite athletic
         | pipelines, I honestly believe competitive youth sports have
         | gotten completely out of hand. Here's to hoping my son grows up
         | to be a mediocre athlete.
        
       | amadeuspagel wrote:
       | Social media is global, so any effects it has should be visible
       | globally.
       | 
       | > Teenage suicides rates have, on average, declined slightly over
       | the past two decades or so. While in 1990 there were, on average
       | across the OECD, 8.5 suicides per 100 000 teenagers (15-19), by
       | 2015 this rate had fallen to 7.4. Much of this decline occurred
       | during the 2000s. Between 1990 and 1999 the OECD average teenage
       | suicide remained fairly stable at around 8.4 suicides per
       | 100,000, but this average fell across the 2000s before reaching a
       | low of 6.3 per 100,000 in 2007. With the exception of 2008, the
       | average rate remained lower than 7.0 until 2014, although it
       | increased slightly in 2014 and 2015.
       | 
       | https://www.oecd.org/els/family/CO_4_4_Teenage-Suicide.pdf
        
         | jjulius wrote:
         | >Social media is global, so any effects it has should be
         | visible globally.
         | 
         | I don't disagree, but that conversation also needs to include
         | data around how frequently teens in different countries use
         | social media/smartphones. Without that data, the data you cite
         | about global teenage suicide rates is sorta worthless.
        
         | hobom wrote:
         | Comparing against 1990 is wrong though, as we should compare
         | against the start of widespread social media use (2010 at
         | least), and it's also pretty likely that other OECD countries
         | are lagging behind with widespread adoption by a few years. If
         | we don't see an increase from 2015 to 2022 THAT would be
         | counterevidence.
        
         | mabbo wrote:
         | > Social media is global, so any effects it has should be
         | visible globally.
         | 
         | That isn't true at all.
         | 
         | There may be a hundred factors at play, which are all different
         | in different cultures, regions, countries, etc. The cultural
         | context of an individual can dramatically change how they react
         | to situations, pressures, and mental illness.
        
           | yamtaddle wrote:
           | Do schools in other countries let kids--elementary school and
           | up--take smartphones to school and (due to inability to
           | harshly police it because of reluctance to take phones, since
           | it pisses off parents) use them quite a bit in class? I was
           | shocked to find out that's a widespread policy/practice in
           | the US, these days, and I'd be surprised if other countries
           | are following us off that particular very-stupid cliff.
           | 
           | What's the median age of first smartphone for kids coming up
           | in other OECD states?
           | 
           | Social media has a much smaller effect if you have to go to
           | the family computer to use it, or whatever, than if you've
           | got it in your pocket all day and are checking it constantly
           | when the teacher's not looking....
        
           | hcurtiss wrote:
           | Agreed. As an aside, I find it interesting that people are
           | willing to attribute cultural differences to disparate
           | outcomes in this context, but not in other contexts like
           | racial income disparities.
        
           | renewiltord wrote:
           | Fascinating. It is a pity then that our culture is so
           | terrible as to make teens have mental illness at rates that
           | dwarf other nations (who have cultures that are far superior
           | at keeping teens mentally healthy). It is a shame that we
           | blame social media for this when clearly it is our culture
           | that is the difference and the cause.
        
             | selimthegrim wrote:
             | Which other nations?
        
         | jmoss20 wrote:
         | Social media may be global, but other countervailing factors
         | may be local.
        
         | ketzo wrote:
         | Social media isn't totally global, though -- I would be
         | interested to see this youth mental health data correlated with
         | smartphone uptake in a given country.
        
           | jocaal wrote:
           | For all intents and purposes, it is global. Facebook claims
           | multiple billions of users and I myself am from a pretty
           | isolated area and can say that social media definitley has a
           | big presence here.
        
             | tux2bsd wrote:
             | [dead]
        
       | slackfan wrote:
       | The Mayan end of the world actually happened, but this was
       | actually the result.
        
       | candrewlee14 wrote:
       | I can't help but feel like our brains didn't evolve to understand
       | the scale of competing against thousands of others to get
       | admitted to college slots and get jobs. Once the internet opened
       | the world to make comparisons against the hierarchy of everyone
       | online, compared to a once much smaller local community, lots of
       | mental issues have shot up. Things like body dysmorphia, imposter
       | syndrome, etc...it just doesn't seem like our brains can handle
       | the scale of the hierarchy now. That's just a personal theory of
       | course
        
       | Melatonic wrote:
       | I am so damn happy I was born at that perfect time where
       | cellphones just started to become popular in highschool and yet I
       | never had to deal with Facebook. I got to start with mixtapes and
       | end youth with my telephone as my vinyl player and the worst
       | thing that could happen to me was that I might go to my friends
       | Myspace page and accidently blast "CUT MY LIFE INTO PIECES" from
       | my family computer.
       | 
       | We definitely owe it to the future kids to figure out how to
       | replicate something similar to that in the modern era. But I have
       | no idea how.
        
       | chasd00 wrote:
       | Teens are going to therapy a lot more and there are lots of
       | mental illnesses that weren't defined earlier. Depressed,
       | anxious, and angsty teens isn't new. All the diagnoses and
       | innovative "billable events" are however.
        
         | rabuse wrote:
         | Yet suicide numbers keep skyrocketing, so much much is that
         | actually helping?
        
       | sportstuff wrote:
       | Cerebral was pushing pills using ticktock. Interesting Softbank
       | is an investor in Bytedance and Cerebral.
        
       | notacoward wrote:
       | It's a pretty good start. "Kids these days" doesn't explain
       | teens' _self reported_ problems, or objective data such as
       | suicide and self harm. Clearly something really is going on. Is
       | social media the culprit? Maybe a case will be made in subsequent
       | articles. One thing I don 't see mentioned is the fact that -
       | regardless of whether it comes through "old school" or "new
       | school" media - kids today are barraged by negative news. Incomes
       | for most have stagnated (at best). Costs have skyrocketed
       | (especially housing, health care, and education). Inflation is
       | back. The political situation is an absolute dumpster file.
       | Evidence of climate change is all around. And most of these
       | things seem to be getting _worse_. Advances in science and
       | technology are positive, but not quite as dramatic as going to
       | the moon or as life-changing as electronics and plastics a couple
       | of generations ago. If my life after ChadGPT is different than my
       | life before, it 's likely to be in negative ways.
       | 
       | Who can blame kids for feeling overwhelmed or defeated, which
       | often end up being expressed as not-obviously-related mental (or
       | even physical) health issues? They are, after all, facing a
       | bleaker future than we did, including my own GenX and the Cold
       | War. If social media is part of the problem, then we need to
       | identify how much it's a problem _itself_ vs. as an avenue for a
       | constant flood of depressing news.
        
       | Mountain_Skies wrote:
       | Another random possibility: the social aftermath of Occupy Wall
       | Street (late 2011), where global corporate interests found it
       | very useful to pit the 99% against each other through endless
       | support of smaller and smaller atomized groups that are told it's
       | the highest virtue the hate each other (but pretend it's not
       | hate... "we're against hate, honestly we are, just look at our
       | manufactured PR slogans on our websites!").
       | 
       | Children, being impressionable and the next generation, were
       | especially heavily targeted by the media and big tech. Social
       | cliques have always existed amongst the young, but those mostly
       | developed organically. Now children are being victimized by
       | companies worth hundreds of billions to ensure the kids don't
       | grow up to be a threat to the corporate dominance of society and
       | finance.
        
         | profstasiak wrote:
         | do you have any hint of evidence? Don't you think, people on HN
         | would spill the beans? We found out from Snowden what the CIA
         | is capable of, wouldn't someone working at big tech notice?
        
       | Justsignedup wrote:
       | Biggest issue I'm seeing is people in the digital ecosystems
       | (even myself) often lack in high quality friends who they
       | regularly see. I noticed how I would form bonds with people over
       | a game, but as soon as we both move on, we effectively just
       | fizzle away and lose friends.
       | 
       | Meanwhile my daughter is having similar issues. She has more
       | closer ties to people online than in the physical world, which
       | means that when we want to host parties or she just wants to do
       | things, she's unable to invite her closest friends because they
       | may live on the opposite side of the continent.
       | 
       | Now the shortcuts to social gratification are VERY easy, compared
       | to before, and because of this, it is easy to spiral into the
       | shortcut path, and not meaningful long term relationships. And so
       | now more than ever it is important to be very intentional about
       | keeping up friendships compared to before where you simply had to
       | do things to create bonds. Even the "loners" would find friends
       | in comic book stores, but now that moved online and less regular
       | or connected.
       | 
       | I don't think it is social media. I think it is just the ease of
       | remote communication. I am sure there was a similar problem when
       | the telephone came out because people could now keep in touch
       | with friends outside their neighborhoods. Hell at this point I
       | only know 1 non-family member in my neighborhood who I interact
       | with at all.
        
         | causi wrote:
         | Indeed. Real people are just so danged _inconvenient_. Even
         | just talking to them involves this degree of ritual where the
         | desired communication is bookended with wasted time on
         | introductory small talk and then a denouement you 're never
         | quite sure where it ends. If you're meeting up in person it's
         | almost guaranteed you're going to be tired of their company
         | before you actually leave, and then you have wasted time again
         | traveling home.
        
           | Justsignedup wrote:
           | in the past this was the only way, now there's an easier way,
           | but easier is not necessarily better. But easier is the way
           | most would choose.
        
       | jhoechtl wrote:
       | I think it begun with teletubbies
        
       | expazl wrote:
       | This is just complete speculation, but to me, the timing and
       | difference in ratio between male and female seems to correlate
       | extremely well with a hypothesis that much of this is driven by
       | the "sexting age" brought about with the advent of snapchat and
       | similar apps. These apps have the dangerous duality that they are
       | viewed very naively by less tech literate who see as something
       | that facilitates sending nude pictures by only letting your
       | recipient see them and deleting them after a fixed period. Of
       | cause to anyone slightly more tech literate apps like that are a
       | bombshell waiting to happen anytime anything remotely
       | compromising is sent. This fits well with a lot of the cases you
       | hear about where what would have just been hallway gossip of "did
       | you hear that XX and XY broke up and are fighting?" which now is
       | a viral package of pictures typically of XX being sent around to
       | everyone on campus.
       | 
       | This hypothesis also helps to explain why European countries
       | where snapchat and similar apps never gained huge popularity
       | before there where already campaigns warning young people never
       | to trust that something sent through them would not end up on the
       | internet forever.
       | 
       | But that's all just random speculation on my part, and I have no
       | real evidence to make the connection. All I can say is that the
       | timing and ratio makes me thing that it's worth looking into just
       | how many major depressed teenagers have had some sort of personal
       | material leak outside of the intended recipients.
        
       | d_sem wrote:
       | Having exited my teen years just before the smartphones became
       | ubiquitous in the US, I got the opportunity to watch externally
       | how social media and other similar systems effected the day-to-
       | day of my younger siblings through their teen years. It was not
       | positive. Maybe someone younger can attest to my observations:
       | 
       | - more localized isolation as kids spent a higher % of their
       | attention in internet communities - less cultural cohesion due to
       | hyper diversity in memes resulting in fewer shared experiences. -
       | a shift in perceived life value/success based on internet
       | influencers and incentive to emulate their lifestyles. - always
       | online presence increasing the stakes making embarrassing or
       | uncool mistakes permanent and detrimental to one's image.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | tarkin2 wrote:
         | Shared experiences. These help you learn to socialise: you can
         | talk about what you watched and heard last night on television
         | with a wide and local social group. You feel closer to your
         | community through having shared things to discuss and learn the
         | skills to operate within a social group. Without this you feel
         | isolated which leads to depression.
         | 
         | It seems to me, with modern technology, things are shared
         | amongst people to create shared experiences and discussions but
         | these are not people within your local physical community--
         | leading, again, to isolation and the dangers therein.
        
         | sct202 wrote:
         | The always online I think is a big issue, because now if you're
         | not invited to things or not popular it's very in your face
         | with livestreams that your friends or schoolmates are all
         | having fun together at that exact moment without you.
        
           | pipeline_peak wrote:
           | I think it's also that you and all your friends are invited
           | to completely different livestreams. No one feels left out
           | even though they physically are.
           | 
           | Like it or not, you're supposed to fit in with people around
           | you. If you can't do that then there's something either wrong
           | with you or them.
           | 
           | That inherent urge to fit in is being digitally compensated,
           | and I don't think it's healthy to avoid being challenged by
           | all these factors we take for granted, from something as
           | simple as eye contact to behavioral consequences.
        
             | SketchySeaBeast wrote:
             | Interesting take. I guess your and my high school
             | experiences were very different.
        
               | pipeline_peak wrote:
               | I was in hs from 2009 to 13 and it was a lonely, niche
               | road filled with watching youtube rants lol.
               | 
               | This comes from my experience thinking I didn't need to
               | fit in for a very long time.
        
               | SketchySeaBeast wrote:
               | I graduated in the time before YouTube. I read books
               | alone and left my small town when I could. Sometimes the
               | solution to a better life is changing the people around
               | you and not settling.
        
         | wutbrodo wrote:
         | An additional one I noticed with my female cousins was that a
         | lot of fun was sucked out of high school girls' social
         | expression/reconnaissance.
         | 
         | On the recon side, gossiping is a fun bonding activity, but
         | scrolling through snaps/reels is relative drudgery.
         | 
         | On the performance side, "be pretty and vivacious at fun social
         | events" is no longer sufficient without obsessively managing
         | your profile's brand. This doesn't only include posing for,
         | curating, and editing photos, but a bunch of arcane rules about
         | tagging etiquette, who's included in your photos, etc.
         | 
         | This is all from the horse's mouth, with a little bit of
         | editorializing. The social environment of an in-crowd high
         | school girl has always been extremely intense, but these tools
         | hage made the process simultaneously more work and less fun, to
         | hear my cousins tell it.
        
           | danenania wrote:
           | On that note, I wonder how much of these results are due to
           | social media specifically and how much is caused by addiction
           | to screens more generally, and the resulting insomnia, lack
           | of exercise/time outside, and lack of human connection.
           | 
           | I know that in some respects, social media is uniquely bad,
           | but perhaps the bulk of the problem is just being hooked on
           | _anything_ that makes you look at a phone or a screen all the
           | time and neglect other aspects of life. Social media just
           | happens to be the most popular thing currently to be hooked
           | on.
        
           | shaunxcode wrote:
           | We have distributed the spectacle. Now each of us is
           | responsible for projecting our chosen subliminal intent.
        
         | MuffinFlavored wrote:
         | > It was not positive.
         | 
         | Can you elaborate? I only ever see children like 9-14 happy
         | doing the latest Instagram or TikTok dance craze in the park/at
         | the mall/with groups of their friends.
        
           | function_seven wrote:
           | What you don't see are the kids that weren't invited to the
           | park or mall. The ones those kids are possibly making fun of.
           | Or those same kids you _did_ see, but later at night as they
           | stress about what to wear tomorrow, why Jake didn 't like
           | their post earlier today even though he liked Jasmine's post
           | and Mia's post.
           | 
           | Many characters in "Nosedive" ( _Black Mirror_ episode)
           | looked really happy as well.
        
             | MuffinFlavored wrote:
             | How does one measure whether it's a net positive (for those
             | who are laughing/dancing with their friends at the park) or
             | a net negative (for those like you described) without being
             | biased/projecting?
             | 
             | It feels a little "anarchist" to say "down with all social
             | media! it's most likely a total net negative! nobody should
             | be allowed to enjoy it because it isn't inclusive of those
             | who might be left out!"
        
               | function_seven wrote:
               | I can't answer your question, but do note that there are
               | many who are studying this and coming to some similar
               | conclusions. (But of course it's really hard to separate
               | the moral panic from the real trends!)
               | 
               | I agree that we shouldn't just ban anything that exclude
               | some users. I'm not as shrill as some people are about
               | the dangers, but I do have a generally negative opinion
               | of childhoods that are spent so online.
               | 
               | I have several young relatives--ages 9-22--that are
               | heavily online. For the most part, they're the popular
               | kids in their schools. Yet I see and hear constantly how
               | they would never dare do things because of the pile-on
               | potentials. Things _I_ (a nerd who desperately wanted to
               | be cool) would still have done.
               | 
               | When I was in elementary and middle school, I was
               | definitely in the lower quartile of popularity. I was
               | bullied occasionally, and I would sometimes dread going
               | to school because of my social standing. BUT, I had
               | friends at home! I had a life outside of school that I
               | could return to after a short day of that stress. Even in
               | school, the social pressures abated during class. If
               | Instagram or Snapchat or TikTok existed during my school
               | years, I would have found no refuge from the hierarchies
               | and drama of school. The game I was "losing" between
               | first bell and final bell would have gone 24/7.
               | 
               | My only saving grace would have been parents that refused
               | to let me play the game in the first place. I think
               | parents and schools should lean harder in this direction.
               | Kids need to learn their social skills in small settings
               | first, before they're exposed to literally the whole
               | world. An awkward 11-year-old can only do so much
               | "damage" to themselves in the limited setting of IRL.
               | Let's get the mistakes out of the way before they're
               | broadcast across space and time.
        
         | oneoff786 wrote:
         | > less cultural cohesion due to hyper diversity in memes
         | resulting in fewer shared experiences
         | 
         | People being different is bad?
        
           | retrac wrote:
           | People do need common culture. I have a friend in his mid-20s
           | and he is always "Do you know [YouTube personality]?" or
           | showing me memes that require extensive explanations. And
           | we're actually very similar people in many ways.
           | 
           | Some of this is just me not being hip with the next
           | generation's culture. But he also has not seen almost any of
           | what I would call the American film canon. So we can't even
           | discuss cheesy 80s action films. Eventually we figured out he
           | had seen Stargate. He was surprised I had seen it.
           | 
           | He can't tell what's mainstream and what's highly esoteric. I
           | do think that's a problem. I know no one will have any idea
           | what I'm talking about if I bring up my favourite synthwave
           | artists in conversation.
           | 
           | It occurs to me that the form of media often informed my
           | awareness about that. Was it on TV? Popular book at the
           | library? Or did I find it in the back of some weird 'zine?
           | 
           | It's all the same on YouTube. Though there is the view count.
           | It's often watched alone, so no social feedback. When it
           | comes to movie nights, for example, finding something that's
           | acceptable to most, not just hyper-tailored to yourself and
           | full of in-references, is an important social skill.
        
           | hosh wrote:
           | It's not. But people also need some kind of shared meaning
           | and a sense of belonging as well.
        
             | oneoff786 wrote:
             | And how did memes make that harder
        
               | hosh wrote:
               | Memes don't necessarily make it harder. However, memes
               | can be used to simultaneously include and exclude -- as
               | references to something the "tribe" gets, but others
               | outside the tribe do not. Inside jokes are an example of
               | such references.
               | 
               | When you make hyperspecialized memes, and you have many
               | of them, you're basically fragmenting a larger pool of
               | shared meaning into many smaller ones.
               | 
               | Diversity, and of itself, is not inherently a virtue --
               | although lots of people would like it to be. Rather,
               | diversity in the ecological sense, leads to more
               | resiliency. There's still have to be some kind of
               | unifying aspect (such as, unifying on humanity as a
               | whole, or better yet, the whole earth as a whole) within
               | which there is diversity. There's a sense of belonging to
               | something greater than you while simultaneously
               | participating and relating from the uniqueness of an
               | individual.
        
           | slowmovintarget wrote:
           | Teenagers having the idea reinforced through social media
           | that being different is bad, is bad. Left to their own
           | devices, that is the default social order that children
           | create.
        
             | caeril wrote:
             | What?
             | 
             | Merely _existing_ on the playground, on the field, or in
             | the cafeteria in the 80s and 90s reinforced the idea that
             | being different was bad.
             | 
             | How is this unique to post-2012? At least Instagram doesn't
             | hold you up against a chain-link fence while TikTok punches
             | you in the gut for being different.
        
             | oneoff786 wrote:
             | But come on. Diversity is not actually bad. People being
             | diverse even if they think it's bad is not bad. And memes
             | are not a meaningful driver of diversity.
        
               | mech987 wrote:
               | I don't think any of the people you are having a
               | discussion with are making the claims you think they are
               | making.
        
               | slowmovintarget wrote:
               | Intent does not an outcome make.
               | 
               | "Social media" accelerates unmoderated interaction with
               | other irresponsible people, which, generally speaking, is
               | not healthy for teenagers.
        
           | paperwasp42 wrote:
           | OP hit on a really interesting point, and if he's referring
           | to the same thing I've seen, the issue isn't "difference." I
           | think the issue is the _degree_ of difference.
           | 
           | The place I volunteer at has quite a few teen volunteers, and
           | I've noticed I can immediately spot the chronically-online
           | teens (and there's a lot of them), because it's like they're
           | from a different planet. They use language I don't
           | understand, their humor revolves around memes I don't
           | understand, they constantly reference people/events from
           | their favored internet niche, and then completely lose
           | interest in talking with people who don't understand their
           | niche.
           | 
           | I think this ends up _decreasing_ the amount of difference
           | and diversity teens are exposed to, because when there are a
           | million [insert niche here] fans online who  "totally get
           | you", there is far less incentive to make friends in the real
           | world. And if you do make real-world friends, they likely are
           | going to be part of that same niche, and have the exact same
           | language/interests/etc that has been crafted by the online
           | community. (It's honestly a bit eerie how good these niches
           | are at creating cookie-cutter teens. I've had bizarrely
           | similar conversations with kids who have never met each
           | other, but are into the same niche. And it's not just their
           | interests that are similar, it's their
           | attitudes/outlooks/political views/etc.)
           | 
           | I find this really concerning, because it's important for
           | teens to be exposed to a wide variety of people/experiences
           | and be encouraged to respect them all. And that's hard to do
           | when you're in a bubble of people who are identical to you,
           | and have very little incentive to branch outside of that
           | bubble.
           | 
           | I think back to my teen friend group, and it was a hodge-
           | podge of computer geeks, theatre kids, journalism nerds, etc.
           | I got so much benefit from having such a diverse friend
           | group, and it's concerning to see those types of friend
           | groups becoming rarer.
        
       | banannaise wrote:
       | Okay, data is great, but the conclusions at the end have almost
       | nothing to do with the data. They're a bunch of unsupported
       | assumptions about what we've changed that must have caused all of
       | this. It includes two separate links to his article about how
       | we're ruining the children by coddling them with woke bullshit.
       | Here's the tagline: "In the name of emotional well-being, college
       | students are increasingly demanding protection from words and
       | ideas they don't like. Here's why that's disastrous for education
       | --and mental health."
        
         | hobom wrote:
         | This is not an accurate reading of the Conclusion section. He
         | just sums up what has been observed and does not mention any
         | causal factors. Earlier, he explicitly says that causal factos
         | will be covered by other posts. While he indeed links to
         | another article, he claims at no point in this article that
         | coddling is a factor here.
        
         | cholantesh wrote:
         | Haidt has been flogging that particular horse since about 2012;
         | maybe there's a correlation there.
        
         | hinkley wrote:
         | Boomers are full of men white knuckling their way through lives
         | of quiet desperation (is the English way. The time is gone, the
         | song is over. Thought I'd something more to say). Their
         | children were brought up that way, and maybe only started to
         | question it in adulthood, with their own children, or before
         | grandchildren came. As long as the kids don't get parenting
         | advice from grandma and grandpa, there's more permission to ask
         | for help.
         | 
         | I'm surprised the numbers for girls are still so high relative
         | to boys, but not surprised that the rate for boys is catching
         | up.
        
           | at_a_remove wrote:
           | I don't know if it is much of a generational, ignore your
           | feelings bit. We're all so busy, never seem to find the time.
           | Plans that either come to naught or half a page of scribbled
           | lines. If anything, I think time pressure has increased,
           | we're all more "available" now. Increasing pressure to get
           | into a good (and hopelessly expensive) college, too, may be a
           | factor. I know seventeen year olds who think they've missed
           | the starting gun.
        
       | mattficke wrote:
       | This is a complex issue, but one factor not addressed in the
       | piece is the Affordable Care Act, which went into effect shortly
       | before the rise in depression diagnosis rates. Before the ACA the
       | uninsured rate among young people was dramatically higher than it
       | is today, and mental health coverage (which is an essential
       | health benefit under the ACA, and included in all health plans
       | now) was not always included in the health insurance people did
       | have. I'm not saying there hasn't been any actual change, but a
       | substantial portion of prior cohorts were likely undiagnosed
       | because they couldn't afford mental health treatment.
        
         | throwaway8582 wrote:
         | Did you actually read the article? If this was just due to
         | increased diagnosis, one would expect rates of self-harm and
         | suicide to stay the same or fall as kids are able to get better
         | treatment for mental health issues. Instead, we see the
         | opposite happening, self-harm is going up in lockstep with
         | diagnosis, which suggests that the increase in diagnosis
         | corresponds to a real increase in mental health problems among
         | teens.
        
       | justsocrateasin wrote:
       | I agree with the authors premise and argument but the data
       | visualizations are not well done, and I'm confused about the
       | conclusions he draws from them.
       | 
       | For starters, it's unclear why he draws a line at 2012, when in
       | many of the graphs the slope gets steeper at 2010 instead, and in
       | fact that's where the percentage increase calculations start from
       | as well. That vertical line at 2012 is misleading and confusing.
       | 
       | Also, in the US Teens, Suicides (Ages 10-14), the uptick clearly
       | started in 2007. I don't disagree that social media is bad and
       | I've seen firsthand people who become mentally ill because of the
       | standards and expectations supplied by a constant stream of
       | highlight rules that make you question your own worth. But I
       | think that the data provided here is not strong enough to come to
       | that conclusion.
        
         | williamcotton wrote:
         | I think if you do a moving average that the trend would adhere
         | more to 2012 being the inflection point. I'm basing that on
         | just noticing that in _US Teens, Suicides (Ages 10-14)_ chart
         | the there was a decent amount of fluctuation in the leading
         | years.
         | 
         | As for why these trends exist, one of the interesting things is
         | that these are present in all of the anglosphere. Can we think
         | of another explanation? What else has changed on a global scale
         | in the last couple of decades?
        
       | ergonaught wrote:
       | Having seen our kids pass through this timeframe into adulthood,
       | experiencing various forms of "mental illness" along the way, the
       | main "obvious" factors that were different from our childhoods
       | were ...
       | 
       | a) social media, and
       | 
       | b) schools pressuring them to commit to major life decisions
       | before they were even allowed to drive a car, and never letting
       | up, and
       | 
       | c) the magnitude of student loans necessary to comply with that
       | pressure.
       | 
       | This was all hammering them long before any sort of college
       | admissions process came into play.
        
         | thinking4real wrote:
         | [dead]
        
       | sammalloy wrote:
       | I think this idea that the teen mental illness epidemic began in
       | 2012 is probably wrong. What is far more likely is that society
       | began to open up more to these ideas, more people got diagnosed
       | than before, and more young people identified with these
       | struggles and felt more comfortable talking about them.
       | 
       | Susanna Kaysen's 1993 mental health memoir "Girl, Interrupted",
       | which recounts her experience as a young female adolescent
       | struggling with mental health in the late 1960s, for example,
       | received an enormous amount of renewed attention and interest
       | when it was adapted into a film in 1999.
       | 
       | The popularity of that film really opened up the conversation for
       | a lot of young people in the 2000s, but even before that, similar
       | struggles by teens were covered in the 1967 novel "The
       | Outsiders", which also was adapted into a film in 1983, and if
       | memory serves, there was also a similar rise in reports of an
       | epidemic in the 1980s.
       | 
       | I'm not saying that any of these books or movies led to a mental
       | health contagion, I'm saying that the struggles that today's
       | teens are going through have always been there, but in the past,
       | they were either ignored or hidden away. Today, everything is
       | shared far more widely and freely, which is why it looks like
       | teens are suffering more than the past.
       | 
       | I also think if you go back into the literature of the past,
       | you'll find these same mental health concerns expressed just
       | about everywhere. It's just that instead of talking about them,
       | they did everything possible to hide them away. Let's not forget
       | Bertha Mason, the character in the 1847 novel Jane Eyre, who was
       | locked away in a room in a house. We are no longer doing that to
       | people so it seems like there is a new epidemic at work, when
       | it's always been with us.
        
         | officeplant wrote:
         | >society began to open up more to these ideas
         | 
         | I'm a late 80s Gulf Coast America kid and any talk about
         | therapy of depression growing up in the 90s/2000s was met with
         | disbelief or family being upset that I'm not praying enough to
         | Jesus. Those same people are now gladly taking anti-anxiety
         | meds and dabbling in therapy.
         | 
         | It was obvious to me as a kid that plenty of people need some
         | form of help or therapy even if it's just being open and honest
         | about issues and feelings to those around them.
        
           | sammalloy wrote:
           | Well said. Do you follow Kitty Tait and the Orange Bakery? I
           | just bought her book "Breadsong" as a gift. Her story about
           | dealing with mental illness is incredibly inspiring. Check it
           | out.
        
             | officeplant wrote:
             | No but I'll check it out/add it to the list.
        
       | Maursault wrote:
       | I think this is only perceived because it is of recent focus and
       | more openness about feelings, as US population suicide rates are
       | within a small margin from 1950s to present.[1] I suspect close
       | to the same rate of depression in teens in the 1960's, 1970's,
       | 1980's, etc.
       | 
       | But you know what else happened in 2012? Linux took over the
       | datacenter. Probably just a coincidence.
       | 
       | [1] https://www.statista.com/statistics/187465/death-rate-
       | from-s...
        
       | 6_6_6 wrote:
       | good times (pax americana) create weak people (fat, depressed,
       | entilted, egomaniacs, etc)
       | 
       | we need a 'war' to prune the tree of life yet again
       | 
       | human is not above the nature
       | 
       | winter is comming
        
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         | FrankyHollywood wrote:
         | I much agree (not with literary having a war of course...)
         | 
         | Burnout rates are higher than ever, many people use painkillers
         | daily, 10% of today's children are diagnosed with adhd and are
         | often drugged [1]. Like drugs are a solution to everything. In
         | the old days kids spend a lot of time outdoors, nowadays
         | average screen time is around 7.5 hours [2]. That must have a
         | tremendous impact on body and mind.
         | 
         | Drug drugs drugs, to quiet the kids, to solve your headaches,
         | to feel better, to lose weight.
         | 
         | Like common sense has left us.
         | 
         | Self-help books sky rocket in number of sales, everyone has a
         | coach and/or therapist. I would argue if everyone needs a
         | therapist, people just forgot how to live. A lot can be done by
         | start living more offline again and use your body. [3]
         | 
         | Let's have more common sense! (and no war please :)
         | 
         | [1] https://www.self.com/story/adhd-diagnosis-rates-children-
         | inc...
         | 
         | [2] https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/exercise-is-
         | an-...
         | 
         | [3] https://headphonesaddict.com/teen-kids-screen-time-
         | statistic...
        
         | sophacles wrote:
         | Are you seriously suggesting it's a good idea to kill off a
         | bunch of folks? Let me guess, you are in the group that gets to
         | survive, and you just want to provide a "solution" to all the
         | people that you dislike.
         | 
         | I have a better idea: lead by example. Why don't you
         | demonstrate the effectiveness of removing a bad branch on
         | yourself first?
        
           | favaq wrote:
           | >folks
           | 
           | You illustrated his point.
        
           | rpmisms wrote:
           | Nobody needs to actually die, things just need to be hard to
           | remind us what being human is about.
        
       | ramesh31 wrote:
       | Coincidentally (or not), the same year Facebook launched the Feed
       | as the default UI and opened it up to advertisers.
       | 
       | I've been screaming this since the moment it was introduced, but
       | I don't think people will ever realize it until years from now in
       | retrospect, that the concept of the "Feed", an endless scrolling
       | ad monetized horse trough of clickbait, was one of the single
       | most destructive ideas in the history of human civilization.
        
         | dkn775 wrote:
         | Damn when you say feed in that context it really does make it
         | sound animalistic and reflexive
        
       | scotty79 wrote:
       | I wonder what other social trends started in 2012.
        
       | al2o3cr wrote:
       | Anybody else remember the whole "RAWK MUSIC IS CAUSING A TEEN
       | SUICIDE EPIDEMIC" panic in the late 80s?
       | 
       | Can really be summed up in one word: ESKIMO
        
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