[HN Gopher] How to live near your friends
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How to live near your friends
Author : vwoolf
Score : 21 points
Date : 2023-02-05 15:21 UTC (7 hours ago)
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| moralestapia wrote:
| This is one of the nicest things about studying abroad as its
| very common for all students to live together and/or in the same
| neghborhoods. There's always something happening within walking
| distance. Good times!
| legerdemain wrote:
| It really sounds like the author is female, has many female
| friends, and leads some kind of "Sex and the City" New York
| lifestyle.
|
| Like, maybe this works in NYC for some dedicated people, but in
| less dense, less hip, less young, less trendy settings, _none of
| these things work_ , or at least they're not very relevant.
|
| Like, maybe it would work if I moved to a very posh place in
| SoMa, and I had a bunch of girlfriends who I could tantalize with
| the location and the decor and the rooftop nightclub. But I
| don't, won't, and almost no one does, either.
|
| The coolest event at my neighborhood cafe is homework club and
| it's a couple doors down from a fraternal Eagles Lounge with a
| pool table and a jukebox. There are plenty of places to live
| listed on Zillow, although they're neither cheap nor necessarily
| very nice. Most people I know work from home, rarely leave home,
| and lead lives of Netflix.
| legerdemain wrote:
| OK, I lied. The coolest event at my neighborhood cafe is a 6am
| motorcycle club meetup before their group ride, but I don't
| have a hawg and have no intent to buy one.
| vostok wrote:
| > Like, maybe this works in NYC
|
| It sounds like the author deliberately moved to NYC. They
| didn't just accidentally end up in a place where this is
| possible.
| legerdemain wrote:
| Where in the blog post do you see that?
| mark_l_watson wrote:
| While I agree with what the author says, there is another
| strategy also: frequently walk around your neighborhood, be
| friendly, attend local events, etc. I am a tech-person who lives
| in a small town in the mountains. There are people to make
| friends with everywhere - but they may not share your exact job
| skills, technical interests, etc.
| daveevad wrote:
| The first two tips: host dinner parties and sublet your apartment
| are not widely applicable.
| newaccount74 wrote:
| I agree on the subletting part, but why is hosting dinner
| parties "not widely applicable"?
| legerdemain wrote:
| Not the same person, but in my case:
|
| - I don't have friends nearby, so I'd be mostly having a
| "come one, come all" potluck with strangers in my building.
|
| - All the units in my building are the same, so no one is
| curious to come over.
|
| - About half the units are corporate apartments rented by
| Google for visiting employees and applicants.
|
| - No one uses the online message board, except the leasing
| office employees.
| daveevad wrote:
| from my perspective, both require way more disposable income
| and time than is reasonably available. perhaps i'm not being
| charitable and full disclosure: i don't live near many
| friends.
| vostok wrote:
| Those tips sound really useful and actionable to me.
|
| Hosting dinner parties regularly even if you're tired is a
| great idea. I'm going to try doing this.
|
| I probably don't want to co-sign an apartment, but letting
| people stay with me for a long-ish period of time sounds good.
| That seems doable for someone on a typical Facebook / Google /
| etc income.
| Aicy wrote:
| Neither are possible for me. I live in a small bedroom flat.
| The biggest dinner party I could have is two guests and I
| can't sublet a room when there is only one.
| FoomFries wrote:
| My spouse and I regularly do a Wednesday night dinner. One
| person cooks, everyone eats, and the cook rotates. People get
| a small break from the weekly grind while leaving early
| enough to work the next day. People get a nice social
| conversation, and most of them get a night off of cooking. It
| works quite well if you can get your friends to commit to it.
| testybesty2 wrote:
| It definitely helps living in a city as dense as new york...
| Eumenes wrote:
| nyc is prob the easiest place to make friends on the planet
| jshaqaw wrote:
| This is why people pay the rent to live here
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