[HN Gopher] Connecticut parents arrested for letting kids walk t...
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       Connecticut parents arrested for letting kids walk to Dunkin'
       Donuts
        
       Author : jseliger
       Score  : 734 points
       Date   : 2023-02-02 12:59 UTC (10 hours ago)
        
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       | ejb999 wrote:
       | >>"They told us that it wasn't safe for kids to walk down the
       | street, that there are registered sex offenders all over town
       | that could take them, that drug dealers were going to give them
       | drugs, and that it was 'a different world now,'" says Rivers.
       | 
       | So, of course, you arrest the parents and leave the sex-offenders
       | and drug dealers roaming the street. Makes perfect sense.
        
         | eftychis wrote:
         | It is easier to arrest the parents of course. The other classes
         | might fight back and have lawyers.
         | 
         | (End of sarcasm towards these "cops.")
        
         | Zak wrote:
         | 'a different world now', implying a more dangerous one than
         | when these parents and police officers were kids. That's
         | objectively false in the US; despite a modest increase in crime
         | over the past five or so years, crime is much lower than 30-40
         | years ago. I am frustrated that a great many people seem to
         | believe otherwise.
        
         | nemo44x wrote:
         | If you arrest drug dealers today you end up with riots in the
         | streets.
        
           | standardUser wrote:
           | Name one riot OR name the imaginary world you live in where
           | these fantastical events occur.
        
         | JackC wrote:
         | There's one more layer, though: making you believe the streets
         | aren't safe and we're not arresting enough people is the actual
         | point of all this. America already locks up four times as many
         | people as most countries, to little purpose besides control and
         | profit.
        
           | dfxm12 wrote:
           | Convincing people the streets aren't safe also helps ensure
           | police budgets keep going up year after year.
           | 
           | https://abcnews.go.com/US/defunding-claims-police-funding-
           | in...
        
           | seanmcdirmid wrote:
           | > to little purpose besides control and profit.
           | 
           | It only takes a few times getting mugged, being subject to a
           | car smash and grab, or being porch pirated to go from "we
           | lock too many people up!" to "why aren't we locking these
           | crazy people up?".
           | 
           | We are obviously messing up somewhere else before we throw
           | people in jail.
        
             | Aeolun wrote:
             | Locking more people up only helps if you lock the _right_
             | people up.
             | 
             | Otherwise you might as well randomly pick them off the
             | streets (but maybe that's already what is happening).
        
               | seanmcdirmid wrote:
               | It is kind of obvious that the guy who beat an Amazon
               | employee in Beltown with a bat should be in jail right
               | now, but they are considering releasing him [1]. You can
               | walk out of a Target with a 65" TV and get bail with
               | outstanding warrants [2]. I don't think Seattle is
               | locking anyone up right now, to be honest, unless murder
               | is involved.
               | 
               | [1] https://mynorthwest.com/3777835/rantz-brutal-bat-
               | attack-susp...
               | 
               | [2] https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10447987/Pro
               | lific-s...
        
               | ninjagoo wrote:
               | Conservative Talk Radio and the Daily Mail? Really? Do
               | you have any better sourcing (a.k.a more reliable
               | sourcing) for these examples?
        
               | seanmcdirmid wrote:
               | You could just read the Seattle times, no secrets here,
               | but it is pay walled.
               | 
               | Definitely conservatives pointing out these problems is
               | the best way to get votes in ultra liberal Seattle, and
               | they don't need to make anything up. It isn't going to
               | change us into Trump voters, but it can sway local
               | elections.
        
               | overrun11 wrote:
               | Have you ever been to a prison? It's not a randomly
               | selected group. The majority of prisoners are in for
               | serious violent offenses, easily confirmed by looking at
               | the data or speaking to anyone who works in a prison.
        
           | laweijfmvo wrote:
           | Imagine if the streets were safe and we didn't need to keep
           | funding so many insanely powerful police! Yikes!
           | 
           | /s
        
             | MSFT_Edging wrote:
             | We'd suddenly have a lot more gangs with firearm training
             | roaming the streets after layoffs. That'll show us.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | Firearm training of police is laughable and probably
               | worse than the casual shooter who goes to a range once a
               | month.
               | 
               | The average cop probably quals once a year with his glock
               | 19 and spends the rest of the year stroking it thinking
               | about how he's billy badass because he has a badge. You
               | can watch the videos, any real resistance and they go
               | back screaming asking for 10 of their buddies to do the
               | spray and pray. When they were hunting Dorner they were
               | even unloading full standard mags on random trucks just
               | loosely fitting the description and still not managing to
               | incapacitate the occupants.                 LAPD officers
               | were guarding one of the officers on Dorner's manifesto
               | hit list on Feb. 7, 2013 when a blue Toyota pickup truck
               | allegedly matching the suspect's vehicle drove up to the
               | scene. Police opened fire and aimed at least 100 rounds
               | at the occupants of the truck who they mistakenly
               | believed to be Dorner's.                 Two women were
               | delivering newspapers on Feb. 7, 2013, when LAPD officers
               | guarding the Torrance home of a target named in an online
               | manifesto blasted at least 100 rounds. Margie Carranza
               | and her mother, Emma Hernandez, were wounded and rushed
               | to local hospitals. Carranza suffered a minor bullet
               | wound, and Hernandez was shot twice in the back and
               | reported in stable condition.
        
               | MSFT_Edging wrote:
               | Sorry, I meant in comparison to teenagers with switches
               | on their glocks.
               | 
               | Cops are crap with their guns, but generally better than
               | someone who has never trained at all and is waiting for a
               | chance to shoot at something for the first time.
               | 
               | I'm well aware of the American hero, Chris Dorner, who
               | exposed LAPD and genuinely made them feel fear that they
               | may see consequence for the first time. His methods are
               | up for debate but he's done something only lies about
               | fentanyl has been able to do.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | Ah lol point taken.
        
           | projektfu wrote:
           | The subtext is that the police don't do anything to prevent
           | crime. You alone are responsible for what happens to you. And
           | if you would choose willingly to do something the police
           | officers think you shouldn't do, you deserve arrest.
        
           | overrun11 wrote:
           | I think you'd see substantially more crime if the US
           | incarcerated less people. The evidence is clear, released
           | prisoners have a much higher rate of violent crime than the
           | average person. I'm sort of confused where this meme that
           | prisons don't keep us safe comes from.
           | 
           | Removing people who commit violent crimes from the public
           | should obviously decrease crime and I've never really heard a
           | convincing counter argument. Usually when people make this
           | claim they're just badly misinformed and believe most
           | prisoners are in jail for marijuana possession.
        
         | ubermonkey wrote:
         | Plus, if you just arrest innocent people, you're way less
         | likely to get shot.
        
         | jollyllama wrote:
         | The only correct response to the quote is "It sounds like
         | you're not doing your job."
        
         | ceejayoz wrote:
         | "Registered sex offenders" have already been arrested,
         | convicted, and sentenced. That's how they get on the
         | registration list.
         | 
         | I'm under the impression cops tend to arrest drug dealers
         | regularly.
         | 
         | "More arrests, just for other things" isn't the fix here.
        
         | SapporoChris wrote:
         | An ambivalent counter point. When I was growing up, I walked to
         | school. Elementary school was just ten minutes away walking.
         | There was a park also within ten minutes from our house and I
         | was allowed to go alone even at the age of six.
         | 
         | I am totally for this. I don't like the idea of restricting
         | children, I think it inhibits growth.
         | 
         | Still, I had my near miss, and I know others of my age that had
         | near misses too. I walked to park alone after school. I got
         | tired of swinging on the swing set and went to sit on the park
         | bench. Soon a man came and sat right next to me. I was
         | uncomfortable, I slid down the park bench away from him. He
         | soon slid right next to me again, his leg and torso against
         | mine. I remember him being warm and sweaty and I thought him
         | weird. I got up and went back to the swings and from the swing
         | set stared at him. He eventually got up and left.
         | 
         | As an adult, I'm fairly freaked out by what could have been a
         | bad experience. I don't condone arresting parents that give
         | their children free reign. I do understand the perspective just
         | a little bit.
        
       | eftychis wrote:
       | a) don't talk without a lawyer (including to the child
       | services...) b) the road to hell is the high speed interstate of
       | "I am just doing my job."
       | 
       | A lot of us have bad experiences and the history books are also
       | filled. Let's stop these recurring mistakes.
       | 
       | (Edit.) P.S. Here is one of those lawyer articles about why not
       | to talk to... CPS https://mayerlegal.com/f/dont-talk-to-cps
       | 
       | (Who knows, the way things go in a few years one will need a
       | lawyer to pay their water bill...)
        
       | schwarzrules wrote:
       | Just going to state the obvious: this wouldn't have happened if
       | they were walking to starbucks. blatant classism.
        
       | tantalor wrote:
       | Article is about events 4 years ago, with tiny update buried
       | towards the end. Lazy journalism.
        
         | Finnucane wrote:
         | It's Reason, so that's basically assumed.
        
       | locococo wrote:
       | It is interesting that parents are not granted the autonomy to
       | make these decisions by the law. If the police have such a great
       | concern about the safety in the neighborhood to the degree that
       | children can't be outside someone has failed at their job.
       | Arresting people for letting their kids walk outside just to
       | spread fear is shameful.
        
       | alkonaut wrote:
       | If police really believe kids shouldn't walk alone outside, they
       | should perhaps ask themselves who is doing a bad job: parents or
       | themselves.
        
       | Scubabear68 wrote:
       | A few years ago at a baseball tournament my son's team did
       | phenomenally well, and ended up beating a really great team from
       | out of state.
       | 
       | A few days later we get a knock on the door from our state's
       | version of DCF. Someone had complained that they didn't like the
       | way my wife had walked our daughter to the bathroom. After an
       | interview the state worker said it sounded like retaliation for
       | our son and his team doing so well, and all but hinted it was an
       | opposing team's parent who called in the complaint. Sadly the law
       | says they have to investigate every complaint, no matter how
       | trivial, so we had to go through a couple interviews and they
       | apparently interviewed others as well.
       | 
       | Just annoying for us, but other workers have told us about horror
       | stories (our kids are adopted and we got to know that arm of the
       | agency well).
       | 
       | Obviously these agencies are vital, but they need well balanced
       | laws and regulations and some common sense injected into them so
       | stupid complaints don't end up sucking up resources and
       | potentially disrupting lives for nothing.
        
         | rashkov wrote:
         | I'm glad it worked out for you. If anyone finds themselves in
         | this situation, please do not talk to protective services
         | without a lawyer. Treat it like you're talking to the cops who
         | are investigating you.
         | 
         | They can make your life hell and take your children away. They
         | do it for things as minor as possessing marijuana in your home,
         | and they do it every day to people who are poor. You just don't
         | hear about it because those stories don't make it into the
         | news.
        
         | locustous wrote:
         | > Obviously these agencies are vital
         | 
         | Are they? Seems that they do more harm than good.
        
           | blooalien wrote:
           | Sometimes they do indeed do more harm than good. I know this
           | for certain first-hand...
        
           | ninjagoo wrote:
           | > Are they? Seems that they do more harm than good.
           | 
           | Do you have any evidence to back this statement?
        
             | OJFord wrote:
             | Evidence to back what 'seems'? GP was effectively asking
             | for evidence; your response is to ask for evidence that
             | it's not 'obvious' and that they need evidence?
        
             | locustous wrote:
             | Society tends to observe almost any mistake of parents as
             | reasons to remove children.
             | 
             | 24/7 surveillance of children is an unreasonable
             | expectation. Yet if there is any lapse observed, no matter
             | how minor, it's an investigative offense. There is little
             | understanding for parents. Not many people are parents
             | these days, and if they are frequently they only have
             | experience with one or two children in a world where every
             | child can be quite different.
             | 
             | When CFS shows up, you are mostly at the mercy of the org.
             | I've called attorneys and they kind of throw their hands up
             | with a "not much they can do attitude". There isn't much
             | due process except what exists internally to the org. When
             | they make mistakes there is effectively no recourse except
             | going public and shaming them in the media - which is not
             | generally effective BTW.
             | 
             | Which brings is to harm. Removing a child from a home can
             | be life altering dramatic. Yet they can do it without
             | judicial oversight. The places they put them aren't
             | guaranteed to be superior. Even if a child experiences some
             | abuse they may also experience love in a home. Foster homes
             | are also actually more likely to be places of abuse -
             | https://www.focusforhealth.org/sex-abuse-and-the-foster-
             | care...
             | 
             | So the metaphor that comes to mind is you are potentially
             | removing a child from a pan, maybe not even a hot pan, and
             | likely throwing them into a fire. To make that step you had
             | better make 100% certain in triplicate that you are
             | correct. And that bar is not met by the current system.
             | 
             | I'm not really sure how to convey a lifetime of experience
             | as a parent and personal dealings DCFS and what is and
             | isn't good for children. Children are, nearly universally,
             | better off with their actual parents if those parents want
             | them. Even when those parents demonstrate pretty egregious
             | failings. Unless there is really solid proof of physical
             | danger to their life directly from the parents or sexual
             | abuse, it should be hands off.
             | 
             | The foster system just isn't good enough to justify
             | anything else.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | Yeah 99% of people that complain about other peoples
               | child. If you actually turn around and tell them you'll
               | sign over the adoption to them and you just need the
               | countersignature, they would shit bricks. They want all
               | the veto rights with none of the personal responsibility
               | -- the essence of entitlement.
        
             | zosima wrote:
             | Whether they create more harm than good, I don't know. I'm
             | on the fence.
             | 
             | But they definitely cause a lot of harm, and it shouldn't
             | be a secret that foster homes are the most dangerous homes
             | for kids.
             | 
             | Here is some statistics and links to more:
             | 
             | https://ritholzlaw.com/horrors-foster-care-abuse/
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | > it shouldn't be a secret that foster homes are the most
               | dangerous homes for kids.
               | 
               | Most families are good to their children. Foster homes
               | only get the worst: most kids never go to a foster home.
               | That means kids that are harder than normal to care for
               | and thus their parents are also also going to get
               | frustrated (in fact they often have: many kids in foster
               | homes the parents just need a break), and in turn means
               | the foster parents will face the situations where they
               | are more likely to lose their temper in a bad way - but
               | the real parents have likely done the same. There are
               | also kids who are abused by their parents, and that abuse
               | is likely to make those kids worse than normal kids.
               | 
               | As a parent I can assure you that taking care of normal
               | kids is hard. I know other foster parents: enough to know
               | that foster kids are even harder. Most foster parents are
               | doing the best they can, but the job is a lot harder than
               | normal kids.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | Most foster families are loving, but it's interesting to
               | note in these situations where the parent/guardian is
               | paid from outside the household for the children (foster
               | or child support) we see increased rates of abuse.
               | Correlation does not imply causation but there seems to
               | be a heavy correlation between being paid for the child
               | and abuse.
        
             | MichaelDickens wrote:
             | OP asserted without evidence: "Obviously these agencies are
             | vital."
             | 
             | GP questioned, and made a contrary assertion without
             | evidence: "Are they? Seems that they do more harm than
             | good."
             | 
             | Seems unfair to call out GP for not providing evidence, but
             | not OP, especially since GP's claim was more moderate).
        
               | Scubabear68 wrote:
               | Anecdotal, but I think I mentioned our kids were adopted.
               | We adopted through the State, and underwent 6 months of
               | training before being approved.
               | 
               | The stories of abuse and neglect were hair raising, and
               | our kids had their own fair share before they came to us.
               | 
               | CPS exists as an alternative to cops doing this kind of
               | work. When done right, they are compassionate and
               | understand how to deal with kids in a variety of sm high
               | stress situations. They do evaluations. They take kids
               | out of homes safely. They do transport to foster care or
               | elsewhere. They evaluate potential adoptive families.
               | 
               | When all done right. We know some fabulous workers doing
               | incredibly hard work here.
               | 
               | We also know it's easy to abuse the system, and they
               | could use a lot more checks and balances.
        
               | ninjagoo wrote:
               | These agencies were instituted on public demand to reduce
               | abuse at a societal level, and their missions were
               | constituted with those harms in mind - hence the
               | obviousness of those agencies being vital, at least at
               | the time when they were instituted, with plenty of
               | evidence back then for their necessity [1]. If they are
               | no longer meeting those mission parameters and causing
               | more harm than good, then we should demand evidence for
               | that as well, should we not?
               | 
               | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_protective_servic
               | es#Hist...
        
               | bluGill wrote:
               | They are not causing more harm than good on balance.
               | However they are causing a lot of harm. they need to be
               | reformed, but we need them.
        
           | vorpalhex wrote:
           | I listen to the police scanner frequently.
           | 
           | A few days ago, CPS had to get involved because somehow an
           | eight year old ended up in the middle of a highway. Cops
           | showed up first and shut down the highway to safely extract
           | the kid. CPS got to bring the kid back to the parents.
           | 
           | People abuse kids all the time.
        
             | dsfyu404ed wrote:
             | What value did CPS add there?
        
               | lcnPylGDnU4H9OF wrote:
               | They're extra bodies with more specific responsibilities
               | and, ostensibly (read: ideally), with specialized
               | training.
        
               | genderwhy wrote:
               | Have you _seen_ cops? Cops know one thing -- doing
               | violence. They are already terrible at handling folks
               | with mental health needs, folks who aren 't neurotypical,
               | folks from other countries or cultures... I don't want
               | them anywhere near kids.
        
               | AussieWog93 wrote:
               | I'm guessing you're American?
               | 
               | Cops over here receive specific psychological training
               | and profiling to deal with all kinds of different people.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | vorpalhex wrote:
               | Cops are plumbers. They mostly fill out paperwork and
               | look at things (and fill out more paperwork).
               | 
               | Listen to the police scanner sometime. It is mostly
               | boring.
               | 
               | "Dispatch, my arrestee just swallowed a bag of cocaine.
               | Moving to meet EMS" is about as exciting things get.
        
               | xydinesh wrote:
               | I think CPS doesn't add value to the road closing.
               | However, they (CPS) are the one need to provide care for
               | the kids after that.
        
         | temporallobe wrote:
         | The insidious aspect of doing something like this is that
         | there's no way of knowing who made the report, and there seems
         | to be no repercussion for making frivolous or false claims,
         | otherwise you could retaliate against them in the same way.
        
           | ranger_danger wrote:
           | >otherwise
           | 
           | but having no consequences means they CAN retaliate the same
           | way
        
             | temporallobe wrote:
             | Right, but whom would you make the report about? All of the
             | parents on the opposing team?
        
         | Octokiddie wrote:
         | This sounds like the parental version of swatting someone.
         | Hideous.
        
         | williamcotton wrote:
         | The problem with trying to punish people for false complaints
         | is that disincentives to reporting child abuse is probably not
         | worth the annoyances. By the time it transitions from a mere
         | annoyance (having to talk to someone from the CPS for an hour
         | and that's it) to something much more impactful (someone
         | producing enough fraudulent evidence that you are arrested and
         | put on trial) they've moved away from merely abusing a
         | reporting system and into full-blown felonious behavior that
         | will not be ignored!
         | 
         | Kudos to my wife for explaining this to me after she told how a
         | coworker teacher of hers was being harassed by a parent who had
         | called CPS in retaliation for some nonsensical disagreement
         | about (is there a pattern here?) kids on a school sports team.
         | I was angry! I wanted that parent to be punished! But my wife
         | is right.
         | 
         | Cue Will Ferrell yelling at kids:
         | 
         | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=junIx1T8A5I
        
           | williamcotton wrote:
           | Are the downvotes for the SNL skit? Or?
        
             | pc86 wrote:
             | Probably for the insane suggestion that we shouldn't punish
             | false reporting because it will somehow disincentive
             | reporting actual abuse. Initiating a CPS investigation can
             | be incredibly traumatizing for both the parents and the
             | children, and due process can take months or years in the
             | event the initial investigation ends in an incorrect
             | decision to remove the children. This story is proof that
             | even if the police aren't involved (or drop their
             | involvement) CPS is its own entity and their investigations
             | are not just having a chat for an hour. Multiple meetings,
             | interviews, over the course of weeks or months.
             | 
             | False reports, especially those used for retaliation,
             | should be a felony and result in jail time.
        
               | pessimizer wrote:
               | > Initiating a CPS investigation can be incredibly
               | traumatizing for both the parents and the children, and
               | due process can take months or years in the event the
               | initial investigation ends in an incorrect decision to
               | remove the children.
               | 
               | The actual problem, with the responsibility being
               | laundered by placing it on random busybodies. Maybe have
               | a system where anonymous denunciation doesn't lead to
               | trauma and misery.
        
               | OJFord wrote:
               | > insane suggestion that we shouldn't punish false
               | reporting because it will somehow disincentive reporting
               | [...] False reports, especially those used for
               | retaliation, should be a felony and result in jail time.
               | 
               | Jesus, jail time! I can tell you right off the bat that
               | that would _absolutely_ disincentivise me from reporting
               | anything - some process I 'm not privy to decides it was
               | a 'false' report and I get jail? That makes for a _very_
               | high bar for me not to wind my neck back in - and if that
               | 's what you want, only something that's too heinous to
               | ignore gets reported, fine. But it's certainly not an
               | insane suggestion that there's a link there.
        
               | pc86 wrote:
               | I'm pretty sure the bar for proving a report was made in
               | bad faith would be much higher than the bar for proving
               | there is abuse happening.
               | 
               | I'm not arguing that people who are wrong in good faith
               | be punished, just that we punish people who we can prove
               | lied in order to retaliate against people they don't
               | like.
        
               | pessimizer wrote:
               | > I'm pretty sure the bar for proving a report was made
               | in bad faith would be much higher than the bar for
               | proving there is abuse happening.
               | 
               | Why in the world would you be sure of that?
        
               | notryan wrote:
               | Not really. The bar (at least in the US) for convicting
               | someone of false accusations is just the same as any
               | other crime.
               | 
               | The difference is the police won't go after false
               | reporting often, probably because they are worried it
               | will have a chilling effect on people talking to them.
               | 
               | If 10% of murder convictions are mistaken it would stand
               | to reason that the false accusation conviction error rate
               | would be equally high or higher.
               | 
               | It's fun to say, punish everyone that does crime X. But
               | you have to accept a false positive rate.
        
               | s1artibartfast wrote:
               | It shouldn't stop you from from reporting the bare fax as
               | you saw them. It should deter you from lies
        
               | williamcotton wrote:
               | Ok, so this is just a case of something that a primarily
               | male demographic between 19-35 and a background in STEM
               | agree with... which was also my initial, emotionally
               | charged reaction!
               | 
               | Meanwhile, the conversation amongst the staff at the
               | public school my wife works at came to a different
               | conclusion. They seem to be a better representation of
               | society in general.
               | 
               | So I guess it all works out!
        
               | rootusrootus wrote:
               | > the conversation amongst the staff at the public school
               | my wife works at came to a different conclusion. They
               | seem to be a better representation of society in general.
               | 
               | That's the saddest thing I've read this morning, assuming
               | it is accurate. For every great staff member at school,
               | I've met at least one other than was barely able to
               | function in adult society. I don't know which direction
               | the causal effect is going, but there's a correlation
               | between working all day with young children and being
               | able to relate to other adults.
               | 
               | My son's elementary school is more like a prison now,
               | after a huge transformation in the last two years, and I
               | can't wait for him to move up to the middle school. Which
               | thankfully isn't quite so authoritarian. Yet. I'm right
               | on the edge of pulling both kids out of school and going
               | online with it, and probably would have except my
               | daughter really didn't fare well during the pandemic
               | version of online school. My son would be quite happy
               | though. Make it self-paced and he'd have his high school
               | diploma at 12.
        
               | whythre wrote:
               | Is it an option to put your son in online courses and
               | keep your daughter going to 'regular' school?
        
               | pasquinelli wrote:
               | > That's the saddest thing I've read this morning,
               | assuming it is accurate. For every great staff member at
               | school, I've met at least one other than was barely able
               | to function in adult society. I don't know which
               | direction the causal effect is going, but there's a
               | correlation between working all day with young children
               | and being able to relate to other adults.
               | 
               | maybe i'm confused. are you saying it's sad that staff
               | members at an elementary school aren't for punishing
               | false reports to cps? i don't know what's sad about that.
               | if reports are anonymous, how could you punish a false
               | reporter? and how could you prove the report was
               | intentionally false? seems like you'd catch a tiny
               | portion of malicious reporters that for whatever reson
               | left undeniable evidence of that intention to falsely
               | report, and to do that the reporting would have to no
               | longer be anonymous, which would stop a lot of people
               | from reporting.
        
               | pjc50 wrote:
               | "Report not proven to be true" is _very_ different from
               | "Report proven to be false".
        
               | williamcotton wrote:
               | You know what, re-reading what I wrote I can see why...
               | honestly, I'm mainly parroting my wife's argument because
               | she's the one who talked me off the ledge few weeks ago.
               | 
               | Here's what she/I meant (she's also super annoyed that
               | I'm bothering her with "nerds fighting about nonsense on
               | the internet"):
               | 
               | The gist of her argument and paraphrased: "The problem is
               | that CPS is by necessity anonymous. It's not that people
               | aren't being punished for reporting false claims, it's
               | that if you really wanted to catch everyone who was
               | reporting false claims then you would have to make them
               | present some form of identification. What if this is
               | about a legitimate case of abuse from a scary
               | motherfucker? Someone might not report because they don't
               | want to realistically be murdered by said scary
               | motherfucker. Also, the communities that have the most
               | problems with child abuse also have a higher number of
               | people who do not want to interact with law enforcement
               | for a number of reasons. There is a trade-off with any
               | situation that requires anonymous reporting."
        
               | snozolli wrote:
               | _False reports, especially those used for retaliation,
               | should be a felony and result in jail time._
               | 
               | I _feel_ that what you are saying is true, but I _know_
               | that this would result in a system where the wealthy and
               | connected would then run amok while their honest accusers
               | sat in prison.
               | 
               | How about if we instead simply make the investigation
               | process less threatening and terrifying, particularly at
               | initial stages? For example, in the linked article, it's
               | insane that the investigator required that the mother
               | return to therapy because she'd been to therapy in the
               | past for a bout of depression.
        
               | pc86 wrote:
               | I get what you're saying. And what I don't mean is the
               | proverbial domestic violence situation where as soon as
               | the police are involved, _somebody_ is getting arrested
               | no matter what.
               | 
               | But in instances where someone has incontrovertibly made
               | a false report because they wanted to ruin someone's day
               | (or life), that should follow them around. There is a
               | large blurry area between reporting someone because their
               | kid has a black eye every couple months and reporting
               | someone because their kid is better at baseball than
               | yours where you can't prove bad faith, and in that
               | instance it doesn't make sense to ruin _anyone 's_ life.
        
               | snozolli wrote:
               | _But in instances where someone has incontrovertibly made
               | a false report_
               | 
               | That seems _extremely_ difficult to prove.
        
             | ninjagoo wrote:
             | It seems to me that you are being unfairly downvoted. At
             | some point there has to be a balance between punishing
             | provably false reports, punishing (or not) good-faith false
             | reports, and not discouraging true reports. This kind of
             | balance is something that folks in AI need to take into
             | consideration when deciding model performance (ROC curves),
             | but it gets a lot more complex in real life because now you
             | need resources to distinguish between false-reports, good-
             | faith-false-reports, true-reports etc which easily veer
             | into territories of determining intent and downstream harm.
             | 
             | If those resources do get allocated, there's a good chance
             | these same folks downvoting you would complain about wasted
             | government resources because the nuance in allocating those
             | resources doesn't shine through in obvious ways.
             | 
             | What's the solution to this? I don't know, unfortunately.
             | AI scientists have to take every problem that involves this
             | nuance on a per-case basis and work with their business
             | partners (or whoever the "client" is) to decide what's a
             | good point on the curve for the operational model.
             | Similarly social scientists (and politicians) influencing
             | government operations presumably have to determine where
             | that balance lies. And likely the downvoters don't have
             | those answers either. Maybe the real solution is to have a
             | not-too-complex-or-lengthy redress mechanism for those
             | caught unfairly in the "system", with the ease-of-redress
             | driven by how far to one side or other the balance tips.
        
         | eweise wrote:
         | Not as bad as your story, but my wife drove to our local
         | community center parking lot, with our infant in the back. She
         | got out of the car and started talking to a friend about 20
         | feet from the car (windows down, not hot). Another woman called
         | the police complaining that the kid was in the car unattended.
         | They came and threatened to get CPS involved. In the end
         | nothing happened, but it was scary how the situation escalated
         | so quickly.
        
         | RicoElectrico wrote:
         | > they didn't like the way my wife had walked our daughter to
         | the bathroom.
         | 
         | Sorry, this sounds so absurd you can't just leave us hanging to
         | guess what was specifically claimed ;)
         | 
         | In a similar vein, in my family we had a complaint to social
         | care worker that our Grandma (who was immobile in a bed and
         | without verbal contact because of terminal Alzheimer) was
         | improperly taken care of. But as my mom is a nurse who did all
         | the feeding, cleaning 2x a day and installed anti bedsore
         | mattress, no fucking way.
         | 
         | We know 99% that the complaint was from one of the people in
         | the family, as almost nobody else knew or cared what was going
         | on.
        
           | ad404b8a372f2b9 wrote:
           | We had a complaint like this for my dad when he was near the
           | end.
           | 
           | We got in a verbal argument with a care worker who wouldn't
           | do anything when she came to take care of him, wouldn't feed
           | him, clean him, talk or even look at him. Except for the few
           | times where she screamed at him she just waited for her time
           | to leave. After the argument she sent a complaint letter to
           | the local government claiming he was improperly taken care of
           | (even though we cared for him every day in addition to paying
           | people like her to help).
           | 
           | Here is where it gets good: He was put under care of the
           | state until the matter was resolved, with a state appointed
           | curator who received a percentage of his pension as payment
           | and had full control of all decisions related to his care as
           | well as his bank account. That meant we could no longer make
           | accommodations in his house without their approval, every
           | decision we took for him had to go through them. We had to
           | pay for the large costs of care ourselves because it's not
           | remotely realistic to go through the government to expense
           | food, hygiene supplies and everything needed to take care of
           | an elderly man near death. In addition to that we couldn't
           | get rid of the agency that provided the abusive care workers,
           | they made sure to make buddy-buddy with the curator and to
           | paint us as abusers.
           | 
           | We went to his home every day to care for him and we would
           | see the care workers just sitting there doing nothing,
           | perfectly aware we were powerless to change anything or even
           | throw them out. Eventually, after months of legal costs and
           | being treated like abusers, we got in front of a judge and we
           | were put back in charge after my dad begged for it. He was
           | very close to the end then and I will always be bitter at how
           | the state and these people conspired to take him away from us
           | and prevent us from getting him better care during his final
           | months.
        
             | ninjagoo wrote:
             | Pretty sure you were a victim of a criminal nexus that
             | formed to take advantage of the laws, the machinery of the
             | state, and private providers. Just like the (juvie) court-
             | to-prison-pipelines that we hear about every once in a
             | while.
             | 
             | What state was this in?
        
               | ad404b8a372f2b9 wrote:
               | Western Europe, sorry didn't mean to make it sound like I
               | was in the U.S.
        
               | iso1631 wrote:
               | Had a terrible problem in the UK with my grandmother, we
               | never got a lasting power of attorney for health, and by
               | the time she needed it it was of course too late. Figured
               | next of kin would be reasonable.
               | 
               | She's been incarcerated in a care home since the start of
               | covid, although rather than one near to where family
               | lived they refused to let us move her. Took 18 months of
               | going through court to get her moved, she has degraded so
               | far she barely remembers me now.
               | 
               | (And of course despite legally being kept in the car home
               | she has to pay for it. Had she broken the law and gone to
               | prison she'd have more freedom and wouldn't have to pay!)
               | 
               | We now have power of attorneys for our parents.
        
               | c22 wrote:
               | If she'd gone to prison in America she'd probably still
               | have to pay :/ [0]
               | 
               | [0]: https://apnews.com/article/crime-prisons-lawsuits-
               | connecticu...
        
               | lazyasciiart wrote:
               | This kind of predatory guardianship is what "I Care a
               | Lot" was based on
               | (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Care_a_Lot). It's
               | disturbingly frequent in a few states, I forget which,
               | that have the right combination of laws and (lack of)
               | oversight.
        
             | spiritplumber wrote:
             | Friend of mine from Bari had the same problem with their
             | old grandma. She (my friend, not the grandma) showed up
             | with a bunch of male friends and told the fake caretaker
             | "Leave by the door or you'll be leaving by the window,
             | either way do not come back". The scammer left by the door
             | and that was the end of it. The grandma died 18 months
             | later in her bed surrounded by her family.
        
             | MonkeyMalarky wrote:
             | In my province, rooms in long term care homes are
             | (apparently) on some level, legally like a place of
             | residence. Even though they exist in a public or private
             | facility. Some families have caught on to this fact and
             | installed cameras and audio recording equipment in their
             | elderly parent's rooms. The staff don't like it but there
             | isn't a whole lot they can do about it since it's the
             | private property of the residents, in their residence.
        
             | commandlinefan wrote:
             | > who received a percentage of his pension as payment
             | 
             | You should watch the movie "I care a lot" with Rosamund
             | Pike - it's terrifying how believable it is.
        
             | gowld wrote:
             | John Oliver covered this, "Guardianship" scam, theft
             | enabled by the government:
             | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nG2pEffLEJo
             | 
             | It is similar to the PACE scam, where government lets a
             | company steal someone's house with a fake "energy credit"
             | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zv8ZPFOxJEc
             | https://www.consumerfinance.gov/ask-cfpb/how-do-i-avoid-
             | risk...
             | 
             | Stuff like this turns me Anarchist in the "Government can't
             | work" sense. The criminals are always 10 steps ahead of (or
             | in cahoots with) the government, turning every attempt at
             | "promoting the general welfare" into highway robbery, and
             | no one in government is willing to prosecute and convict
             | these criminals, because white collar crime gets the "it's
             | too complicated to explain" Get Out of Jail Free card.
        
               | ad404b8a372f2b9 wrote:
               | I would be lying if I said the situation didn't inspire
               | urges of vigilantism in me at the time.
               | 
               | The government is a very, very scary thing. Because I'm
               | disabled, I've had many encounters with the faceless and
               | all powerful hand of the government, sometimes it feels
               | like they'd want a medical certificate just to allow
               | people like me to keep breathing. But paradoxically, I
               | believe in a fairly strong government, I think it's best
               | to have an organization at the top which is explicitly
               | defined to serve the need of the people, rather than
               | whatever would rise to the top in its stead. As long as
               | one remains aware of how terrifying the government can be
               | and is willing to go out and throw a few bricks at
               | government buildings. I think it's served us well,
               | comparing my country to the rest of the word.
        
               | dwallin wrote:
               | Yeah, agreed. The mistake a lot of individuals make when
               | they fall in the intellectual trap of Libertarianism is
               | that power doesn't care about labels. Sure the state "has
               | a monopoly on violence" but that is not an intrinsic
               | thing. A weak state quickly finds violence being adopted
               | by other centers of power within a society (just look at
               | Haiti). We attempt to concentrate certain powers in
               | government because it's the easiest way to keep those
               | powers in check. In the end you don't want any center of
               | power to get too powerful as it makes systems overall
               | less stable. The best counter for a strong government is
               | strong civic engagement and democratic norms as
               | government is need to act as a counter to private
               | centralized power (both legal and extralegal).
        
               | s1artibartfast wrote:
               | Sometimes the easiest way to keep the powers and check
               | are to simply not grant them to the state. Some problems
               | are better solved by decentralized power, even if it is
               | imperfect and has collateral damage.
        
               | Retric wrote:
               | Sometimes is a real weasel word here. The unfortunate
               | truth is we can't trust government, but every other
               | option tends to be vastly worse.
               | 
               | Government contractors introduce horrible conflicts of
               | interest at every level. The US used to get projects done
               | early and under budget before contracting took over, but
               | that doesn't make anyone wealthy.
               | 
               | Private individuals run into the tragedy of the commons.
               | 
               | etc etc
        
             | freedude wrote:
             | This is horrific and is caused by the pride of those who
             | are too lazy to lift a finger. Just know that bitterness
             | will only poison you from the inside out. Don't allow this
             | to fester or it will make you like them. I have seen the
             | effects of this in my own family and it ends in evil.
        
               | ad404b8a372f2b9 wrote:
               | I'm sorry about the effect it's had on your family, these
               | are hard things to bear. I've started praying again last
               | year, and generally trying to live according to the
               | kinder values of Catholicism but it's a work in progress.
        
           | bluGill wrote:
           | This is an N=1 story. There are 7-8 billion people on earth,
           | 300 some million in the US, I forget how many in Europe (you
           | can measure Europe, EU, NATO, and get different results and
           | different cultures). With that many people there will always
           | be someone doing something unbelievable stupid, and
           | hackernews is large enough that you are likely to hear about
           | it.
           | 
           | Be careful that you don't try to extrapolate a few N=1
           | stories into how normal people act.
        
             | 2muchcoffeeman wrote:
             | It makes you wonder what the appropriate level of cynicism
             | is though. I assume you mean N=1 in an order of magnitude
             | sense. But one person saw these kids and phoned it in. A
             | cop returns the kids home with a warning. 3 more cops show
             | up the next day and arrests the man only (but both parents
             | should be negligent should they not???) and then some
             | social workers appear.
             | 
             | How many people heard about this and decided to waste time
             | and resources either wilfully or unwittingly, and is that a
             | reflection of the state law enforcement and social
             | services?
        
             | ribs wrote:
             | I don't share this concern about over-estimating this bad
             | behavior. Yes, normal people don't do this. But there are a
             | lot of people who take advantage of other people, leverage
             | authority (their own, or others), and even tell themselves
             | that they're doing the right thing. That's not super
             | uncommon. And true scammers aren't super rare.
        
           | Scubabear68 wrote:
           | My daughter was having a very bad day, very pouty and whiny.
           | Around age 8 or so. My wife had put her in a timeout, and
           | then our daughter kept "needing" to go to the bathroom over
           | and over again (usually to play in the sink). Fed up with
           | this, my exasperated wife force marched her to the bathroom
           | with her hand on her back to ensure she went to the bathroom
           | and wasn't loitering about playing.
           | 
           | A parent from the other team was sitting in our group and
           | disapproved loudly of the timeout and the forced bathroom
           | match, she almost certainly was the one who complained.
        
             | wil421 wrote:
             | I have a 3 year old. She hates going to bet and was having
             | a tantrum for a while last night. She's smart and figured
             | out we will take her out of the bedroom if she says she has
             | to pee pee. After 4 times of playing around in the bathroom
             | and only one time actually using it she finally went to bed
             | after asking me to adjust the covers 30 times.
             | 
             | All of this is normal kid stuff. What kind of parent is so
             | spiteful they will call child services on an opposing teams
             | parents?
        
               | ninjagoo wrote:
               | > All of this is normal kid stuff. What kind of parent is
               | so spiteful they will call child services on an opposing
               | teams parents?
               | 
               | An ugly person.
        
               | spoils19 wrote:
               | [flagged]
        
               | callalex wrote:
               | You need a media break, identity politics is consuming
               | you.
        
               | xydinesh wrote:
               | I totally agree. If someone making a generalization,
               | chances are they may be wrong.
        
               | masklinn wrote:
               | > I have a 3 year old. She hates going to bet
               | 
               | My brother in christ 3 years old is a bit young to hit
               | the tables.
        
               | wil421 wrote:
               | Sigh. Not sure why it's so difficult to comment on my
               | phone vs a computer.
        
               | masklinn wrote:
               | Small keyboard + autocorrect is just stupid. I have the
               | same issue, and I still regularly miss typos even though
               | I try to QC before posting. Either that or mini-strokes.
               | 
               | At least this was funny and easy to understand, sometimes
               | I'm careless and it's such complete gibberish if I come
               | back to the comment an hour later I don't understand what
               | I wanted to write.
        
               | mjevans wrote:
               | Autoincorrect can be bad enough, but speech to text can
               | deliver some really concerning mistakes.
        
               | masklinn wrote:
               | I don't even try TTS, Siri is unable to grok even basic
               | commands.
        
               | throwaway8689 wrote:
               | Sooner you start logging those 10,000 hours of practice,
               | sooner you can start making real money
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | commandlinefan wrote:
               | > a bit young to hit the tables
               | 
               | I suspect it was a typo. What he meant to type was "she
               | hates betting when she loses".
        
               | Scubabear68 wrote:
               | It was a NJ/NY tournament with a lot of rivalry and
               | prestige for the winners.
               | 
               | Some parents get _very_ , ridiculously caught up in the
               | excitement of their kids' sports, and a very small number
               | go too far. I have seen parents fighting in the stands at
               | 10U football games (10 and under). I have heard parents
               | screaming at coaches threatening to sue them. I have seen
               | parents mocking and degrading the opposing team's kids. I
               | have seen parents encouraging taunts and chants from the
               | crowd to throw off a pitcher or a quarter back. I've seen
               | a nasty, abusive man ejected from a high school building
               | entirely for cursing and screaming at opposing kids. And
               | of course we had CPS called on us.
               | 
               | It's only a very small percentage, but they really ruin
               | the experience for everyone.
        
               | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
               | A 60yr old died during some incident like this in
               | Michigan during the last couple of days.
        
               | Scubabear68 wrote:
               | And sometimes coaches are bad actors too, here a coach
               | broke a 72 year old ref's jaw:
               | 
               | https://www.nj.com/news/2022/06/nj-youth-baseball-umpire-
               | vio...
        
               | ballenf wrote:
               | It's even less serious stuff than this that has me
               | thinking kids' involvement in those leagues isn't net-
               | positive. But I'm sure there are more positive
               | experiences than negative. And I'd probably think
               | differently if I was super competitive or more sports-
               | oriented.
        
               | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
               | The issue is not the kids' involvement, it's the
               | parents'.
               | 
               | (former lacrosse and then crew parent)
        
           | bpodgursky wrote:
           | The OP in this case has an idea what happened, but in general
           | CPS has no legal obligation to tell you what you are accused
           | of.
           | 
           | You're defending yourself without knowing the charge, with
           | the investigator/judge/jury CPS agent presuming you are at
           | least somewhat guilty.
        
         | lawkwok wrote:
         | Sorry you had to go through that. I am having a hard time
         | thinking of a way how someone could walk their child to the
         | bathroom wrong. Could you share some more details if you are
         | comfortable?
        
       | rpmisms wrote:
       | Surprise surprise, the cops are on a power trip again. You want
       | to avoid this? Good luck. Your best bet is to move to the middle
       | of nowhere where there are 4 police officers and they mainly care
       | about joyriders.
       | 
       | My young (5-10 y/o) in-laws can walk around town with no worries,
       | since the cops know who they are, and it's a tiny town. One of
       | the few artifacts of normal life left in this country.
       | 
       | Oh yeah, and "Posted" signs carry force of law here, unbreakable
       | by police or even federal agents without a warrant. They also
       | know better than to try.
        
         | GaryNumanVevo wrote:
         | In my experience growing up in a tiny town <3000 people, it's a
         | lot worse.
        
       | fencepost wrote:
       | Time for some local press coverage on the topic of "why is
       | Killingly so dangerous for children?" with plenty of "the
       | department denied this when asked, but multiple officers spoke to
       | us off the record about the dangers of the town and advised never
       | leaving children unsupervised."
        
       | raldi wrote:
       | At the very least, there need to be clear laws about when you can
       | legally let your kid walk outside.
        
         | tohnjitor wrote:
         | There does not need to be a law about this.
        
           | raldi wrote:
           | If the police are empowered to arrest you and child services
           | is empowered to take action against your family, there needs
           | to be a clear declaration of safe harbor.
        
             | karaterobot wrote:
             | We don't want there to be a whitelist of things we are
             | allowed to do, with anything not on that list assumed to be
             | against the law. That's a bad direction to go down. The
             | right response to this situation would be to apologize to
             | the parents, and punish the police and social worker who
             | overstepped their authority.
        
               | raldi wrote:
               | So make a list of things we're not allowed to do.
        
               | karaterobot wrote:
               | We have quite a few. Applying them correctly and
               | equitably is a challenge, which is what leads to
               | situations like this one. But, it's miles better than the
               | alternative.
        
               | raldi wrote:
               | I think the overwhelming majority believes it's okay for
               | 17yo children to roam free but not 17mo toddlers. Even if
               | the gray area in between can't be made zero-width, I'd
               | like it to be smaller.
        
       | pavlov wrote:
       | _> "She tried to dispute what the police were saying, and one of
       | them asked if she watched the news."_
       | 
       | American local TV is mostly mind poison. A lot of stations are
       | owned by Sinclair Broadcasting, a corporation with an extreme
       | right-wing agenda.
       | 
       | Europeans with their tame national broadcasters have no idea how
       | insane a large part of American TV is with its obsession on local
       | crime.
        
         | derelicta wrote:
         | Let's be honest its a terribly lucrative business model that is
         | spreading. Look at BFM TV, or worse, CNews, in France and tell
         | me whats the difference between those and FoxNews?
        
         | vidarh wrote:
         | I used to fly over to the US for work a lot, and even though I
         | was usually in California, and got what I presume is a rather
         | mild version of what you might run into elsewhere, seeing US TV
         | was always a bizarre experience. It was like entering another
         | dimension where every minor little thing was amplified ten
         | times over.
         | 
         | Makes it seem even more bizarre that Americans aren't out in
         | the streets rioting on a much more regular basis.
        
           | lizzardbraind wrote:
           | [dead]
        
       | tootie wrote:
       | This kinda reeks of /r/thathappened. Why is this posted 4 years
       | after the fact with no sources? It's just a personal story being
       | relayed by an advocacy group. I see kids roaming the streets of
       | NYC and even riding the subway unsupervised and nobody says
       | anything. This is either an isolated case or being reported by
       | biased party who is omitting a lot of salient details to avoid
       | looking bad.
        
       | fsh wrote:
       | Fun fact: The German foreign office warns about these kind of
       | laws on its travel information page for the USA. Most European
       | parents would not expect this to be a problem.
        
       | paxys wrote:
       | In Feb 2019. Why is this coming up now?
        
       | gregwtmtno wrote:
       | Any reasonable person can see that there's much greater danger in
       | allowing a child to ride in a car on a highway--which no doubt
       | would be considered perfectly acceptable by these police. Look at
       | this visualization of cause of death by age:
       | https://wisqars.cdc.gov/data/lcd/home. For those kids, the number
       | one cause of death is "unintentional injury," the biggest
       | component of which is motor vehicle crashes. Unfortunately, these
       | police wield incredible power in our legal system, and, as a
       | lawyer, I don't see any easy fix. It makes me sad that I'll be
       | raising my child in this kind of environment.
        
       | pxue wrote:
       | What does the richest do in this situation? Surely some must feel
       | the need for their kids to venture out on their own, or do they
       | live in a neighborhood where these types of policing doesn't
       | happen?
        
         | Overtonwindow wrote:
         | A large, wealthy estate is sort of like a neighborhood. Brad
         | Pitt built a skate park in his backyard for his children.
        
           | anileated wrote:
           | Yeah, it's not even a question regarding the richest, but
           | change it to upper middle class families with busy and
           | reasonably wealthy parents living somewhere in dense urban
           | NYC downtown and it's interesting how they go about it.
        
             | woodruffw wrote:
             | This is how I grew up (well, not wealthy, but a dense,
             | residential neighborhood in Manhattan): it was perfectly
             | normal for me to walk around and take the subway alone by
             | the time I was 8 or so. I don't remember ever being stopped
             | by anyone, police or otherwise. This was in the early-mid
             | 2000s, and my perception is that it hasn't changed much in
             | the city.
        
             | Karawebnetwork wrote:
             | Gated neighbourhoods and at some level suburbs that are
             | simply unwalkable for everyone.
        
       | localhost3000 wrote:
       | Grew up in a small town in Connecticut and roamed around all the
       | time as a ~9 year old. Used to go fishing with my friends at the
       | various rivers and streams around town. No cell phones, be home
       | before dark. Doors were never locked. It was a great way to grow
       | up.
        
       | jeffwask wrote:
       | Interesting way for the local PD to say they are incompetent.
       | Sorry, but the streets aren't safe for your children but here are
       | two cruisers full of cops to explain parenting to you.
        
       | 1970-01-01 wrote:
       | >She tried to dispute what the police were saying, and one of
       | them asked if she watched the news.
       | 
       | In 2023, you shut-up and close the door when the cops are done
       | talking. That's the response they deserve. Anything else is used
       | against you.
        
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       | yakubin wrote:
       | Reading the headline, I naively thought it was about teaching
       | them unhealthy eating habits. Yet the content is even more
       | bizarre.
        
       | COGlory wrote:
       | This makes my blood boil. It's obvious that Killingly cops are
       | just bored assholes on complete power trips. In general,
       | centralization of power leads to unequal society. There should be
       | quick and immediate recourse against police officers acting like
       | this. No police officer should feel safe or beyond swift reproach
       | when making comments like the ones in this article, yet there is
       | absolutely no justice available for those affected. Even in a
       | best-case scenario where charges are dropped a few days later,
       | this is the psychological equivalent of a home invasion, and
       | attempted kidnapping of their children. Dropping charges is not
       | justice. Those officers should lose their jobs (but won't,
       | because Killingly, like all of the 'Quiet Corner' is a complete
       | boys club), and everyone involved in the decision tree should be
       | heavily scrutinized. The town should issue a public apology. And
       | whoever may or may not have called 911 should be publicly
       | berated.
       | 
       | This is unacceptable. This is Eastern bloc level
       | authoritarianism. Police are out of control.
       | 
       | No police officer in the country should feel comfortable making
       | those threats. They are out of control
        
         | u801e wrote:
         | > And whoever may or may not have called 911 should be publicly
         | berated.
         | 
         | They could file a FOIA for 911 call recordings during that
         | timeframe. It's likely no calls were made.
        
         | furyg3 wrote:
         | > No police officer in the country should feel comfortable
         | making those threats. They are out of control
         | 
         | This is what gets me. Even _if_ this town is as dangerous as
         | these police claim that it is, I can think of a hundred other
         | responses that are orders of magnitude more useful than the
         | route they chose, if their priority is indeed the safety of the
         | children.
         | 
         | Follow the kids for a bit to make sure they're ok. "Hey kids,
         | your parents know you're going to the store? ok!" "Hey parents,
         | you gave your kids permission to walk to the store alone? ok!"
         | "Hey just checking in, you know that there's this sex offender
         | around the corner right? ok!" You can surveil the sex
         | offenders. You can, you know, make your town safer (you are the
         | police, right?).
         | 
         | I doubt this town is that unsafe, however. Ironically the
         | polarization, paranoia, untrusting nature, and general hysteria
         | in the US are a vicious cycle that leads to actual danger and
         | more polarization, paranoia, etc.
        
         | hosh wrote:
         | This is not necessarily a power trip. There are people who
         | genuinely feel that way, and are doing this for the public
         | good.
         | 
         | I think there has been a confusion in our society between well-
         | being and safety. There are definitely circumstances where one
         | is unsafe, but this is for their well-being (letting the
         | teenager drive by themselves for an errand), and there are
         | circumstances where one is safe, but someone's well-being is
         | degrading (helicopter parenting).
        
           | dahfizz wrote:
           | If the cops were truly worried about the kids safety, they
           | would have gone to Dunkin with them and made it into a
           | positive experience.
           | 
           | Instead, the cops left the children who were supposedly in
           | mortal peril to go harass the parents.
        
             | hosh wrote:
             | Letting an adult figure go with the kids to Dunkin Donuts
             | for their safety misses the point. The deeper issue is that
             | using "safety" as the only metric for enforcement is
             | leading to a society where the next generation of adults is
             | ill equipped to live as confident, responsible,
             | independently-thinking adults.
             | 
             | These parents are rewarding their kids to go to Dunkin
             | Donut on their own. In their judgement, it was safe enough
             | to do so. If they wanted to be sure, they could have snuck
             | behind them (but they would have to make sure they are not
             | caught doing so, otherwise it would shatter the emerging
             | confidence of the kids).
        
               | kenjackson wrote:
               | No one said safety should be the only metric. The other
               | commenters are questioning the fact that safety was
               | raised as a metric at all, despite the fact that the
               | behavior of the officers runs counter to the metric they
               | cite.
        
           | denton-scratch wrote:
           | > There are people who genuinely feel that way
           | 
           | You mean there are people who genuinely feel that it should
           | be an arrrestable offence to let an 8-year-old out on their
           | own?
           | 
           | Well, sure; that doesn't surprise me. But what some cop
           | "feels" bears no relation to what the law is.
        
           | btbuildem wrote:
           | This is police statesque, authoritarian and bureaucratic
           | nightmare overreach, a direct assault on your well-being and
           | safety.
        
             | hosh wrote:
             | That, while is an important issue, is not the most
             | important issue brought out by this article.
             | 
             | Life is uncertain, and adults are called to choices weigh
             | risk and opportunities. And there is an epidemic of
             | teenagers and young adults _right now_ , cycling in and out
             | of mental health facilities. There are otherwise healthy
             | kids who are afraid of doing normal things by themselves.
             | They go to learn to "adult" in college, but really, they
             | never have the opportunity to make their own choices and
             | learn from their own successes and failures. And that comes
             | about from a society and legal framework that values
             | "safety" to beyond a reasonable point that is healthy for
             | people.
             | 
             | These laws and the way they are interpreted has shifted
             | dramatically over the past decade or so. And it has a lot
             | to do with how our society views this. Seeing this as
             | _only_ about parental rights misses the point, and in my
             | view, short-sighted.
        
           | dahart wrote:
           | Can you elaborate on what you mean? I not certain, but I
           | don't think any U.S. police are legally allowed to demand
           | well-being without a safety concern. What laws require well-
           | being, and justify police threats?
           | 
           | Why do you think they might not have been doing this
           | capriciously in this specific case? The department admitted
           | the stop was over-reach, even before the parents found out
           | the officers had called child proctective services on the
           | parents over walking outside. Is that demonstrating a
           | reasonable concern for well-being? I surely want to have the
           | right to let my kids walk around outside, and I believe that
           | there is no U.S. law that limit this right, nor should there
           | be one.
        
             | hosh wrote:
             | I don't think people can define legal standards for "well-
             | being" distinct from "safety".
             | 
             | And yet, this is where things are headed:
             | https://www.kqed.org/mindshift/60624/young-adults-are-
             | strugg...
             | 
             | Beyond whether parents have a right to do this or not, is
             | whether or not children can grow into resilient, confident,
             | independently-thinking citizens. And what we have is a
             | whole generation ill-adapted to the uncertainty of life,
             | much less becoming the leaders, voters, and parents
             | tomorrow when we're no longer there.
        
             | standardUser wrote:
             | "I don't think any U.S. police are legally allowed"
             | 
             | Hahah, good one.
        
             | hosh wrote:
             | > Why do you think they might not have been doing this
             | capriciously in this specific case?
             | 
             | Neither of us were there. There are people who genuinely
             | believe in this kind of safety of children.
             | 
             | I've read other articles like this before, and I happen to
             | agree with this author and what this author advocating for.
             | This goes beyond whether parents have the right to let kids
             | go and walk on their own. It has a lot more to do about
             | raising kids that can gain gain the kind of resiliency,
             | grit, self-confidence, independent-thinking from being able
             | to do stuff on their own. My kids will need to be able to
             | do that when they grow into adults, because I am not always
             | going to be there to be their safety net. One day, I will
             | die, and it is their turn to make choices, to vote, to
             | navigate their own lives, and to help raise the next
             | generation.
             | 
             | So besides just advocating for changes in laws, there is a
             | lot more to this kind of parenting than being protected by
             | law to do so, including methods for parent this way when
             | the laws in ones jurisdiction are not necessarily
             | supporting this kind of parenting.
        
           | mynameisvlad wrote:
           | Did you read the article?
           | 
           | The one where the cop straight up told the husband 'If she
           | talks to me again, I'm going to arrest you both and take away
           | your kids.'
           | 
           | Yeah, _totally_ not on a power trip. Definitely. Just doing
           | it for the public good.
        
             | hosh wrote:
             | Neither of us were there, and I can't speak for his
             | motivations just from the article. He may well be power
             | tripping, but I can also see someone saying that because
             | they genuinely believe that kids should not roam around on
             | the streets on their own. There are parents, cops, and
             | state child safety folks who genuinely believe that.
             | 
             | While police overreach is an issue, I think that misses the
             | deeper problems that gave rise to this. I have linked a
             | different article in other comments here and elsewhere
             | about the current epidemic of mental health issues
             | teenagers and young adults, and the possible link to not
             | being able to have some kind of childhood independence.
             | Such young adults are not well adapted to the uncertainties
             | of life.
        
               | idontpost wrote:
               | [dead]
        
               | feoren wrote:
               | You don't have children, I can tell. He was threatening
               | to _take away their children_ if they _spoke_ to him.
               | Would it be OK if he threatened to murder them where they
               | stand if they said another word? If you had kids, you
               | wouldn 't think the two threats are so far apart. If
               | someone was writing a movie about a totalitarian state
               | and wanted you to hate a character, this is exactly a
               | line they'd use. This is an authoritarian power-tripping
               | asshole. He should absolutely, immediately, and
               | irrevocably lose his job over this threat, just as he
               | should if he threatened to murder them. I would even say
               | jail time would be appropriate; you'd face jail time if
               | you went into someone's home and threatened to kidnap
               | their children. How can you possibly defend this?
        
               | hosh wrote:
               | I have a grown daughter, a two-year old, and one on the
               | way.
               | 
               | There are lots of things you can't tell just by text.
               | 
               | Who said anything about defending this? I happen to agree
               | with the author of that article, including things she did
               | not elaborate on in the article as an advocate of free
               | range parenting.
               | 
               | It boggles my mind that people seem to read things that
               | are not said.
        
               | mynameisvlad wrote:
               | I'm sorry but that's just excusing the police at this
               | point. He said that he would arrest and take away their
               | kids if the wife dared to _speak_ to him again.
               | 
               | Whatever his intentions behind that statement, that's
               | what someone on a power trip would say. Not in any way
               | caring about the content, just the utterance of another
               | word would have caused her arrest and the kids taken
               | away.
               | 
               | Forgetting the fact that someone was already arrested as
               | is. For this.
               | 
               | This is prime epitome of a power trip and it amazes me to
               | see someone try to defend it as anything but.
        
               | hosh wrote:
               | If that is what you care about and get angry about, I
               | won't gainsay it.
               | 
               | In my view, that is the smaller issue of the bigger
               | issues at play. The author of the article, and what he is
               | advocating for, is broader than that, but hey, if people
               | are motivated to act and speak out because of this, sure,
               | why not?
        
         | epolanski wrote:
         | > This is Eastern bloc level authoritarianism.
         | 
         | Nah, my family is from eastern Europe and the stuff that
         | happens in US was never seen here, ever.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | rootusrootus wrote:
         | > This is Eastern bloc level authoritarianism
         | 
         | OTOH, you could argue the opposite. It made the news (even if
         | the source in this case is especially biased, I will assume
         | good faith). In a country the size of the US, some amount of
         | official misbehavior is going to happen with some regularity,
         | it's just a numbers game. I'll worry more when we stop hearing
         | about it.
        
         | DrThunder wrote:
         | If this is a law in the area the police officers enforcing it
         | aren't the main problem. They're a secondary issue stemming
         | from government overreach.
        
           | bentcorner wrote:
           | Whether there is a law or not doesn't matter.
           | 
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heien_v._North_Carolina
        
             | DrThunder wrote:
             | Did you even read that case? Are you under the impression a
             | traffic stop is equal to being arrested? The guy was
             | convicted of COCAINE TRAFFICKING and arrested for that.
             | Which means there's a law in place for COCAINE TRAFFICKING.
             | 
             | I feel like you just googled that and pasted what the
             | search result.
             | 
             | Even if your assumption was true it's still the fault of
             | legislators that have allowed the executive branch that
             | much leeway to act outside of the written law. You ought to
             | study the 3 branches of government.
        
         | John23832 wrote:
         | Most of our cops a no longer people who want to protect their
         | communities. They're losers who like the feeling of power. The
         | ability to impose their will on others is a rush.
        
           | notch898a wrote:
           | I'm no fan of cops but I blame the system as much or more.
           | Police are designed to arrest evict and cite, and little
           | more. Make the rewards revolve around protection rather than
           | punishment and the people currently police would go back to a
           | more suiting pursuit for their personality which is likely
           | violent crime.
        
             | jjk166 wrote:
             | The cops are the system. The people deciding in the moment
             | what to do are cops, the people deciding who is going to be
             | in those positions are cops, the people deciding the
             | consequences for the decisions are cops, the people
             | investigating abuses are cops. The people in oversight
             | positions for the entire process are cops. The civilian
             | government might be able to dismiss the top ranking
             | leadership, the DA's office can choose to prosecute
             | especially egregious behavior, but they have very little if
             | any direct influence on the incentive structures for rank
             | and file cops. Institutions like police unions typically
             | have more control of the civilian government than the
             | civilian government has on the police. This is a system
             | that the cops both individually and collectively choose to
             | participate in, and those who would seek to see it changed
             | from the inside are forced out. Of course you can't place
             | the blame on any one individual, and probably every person
             | involved would like to see some change or another, but
             | there is no shadowy cabal who designed the police to be
             | what they are, they have done it themselves.
        
           | MSFT_Edging wrote:
           | If the cops wanted to protect their communities, they would
           | have spent 15 minutes keeping an eye on the kids, see they're
           | buying donuts, and go about their day.
           | 
           | Instead they made their community less safe by creating even
           | more doubt and distrust in police, in their community, and
           | psychologically injuring the parents and children.
        
           | andrew_ wrote:
           | _Some_ , agreed. _Most_? How are you quantifying that;
           | feelings and anecdotes from your own experience or some hard
           | data?
        
             | John23832 wrote:
             | I literally said "most". Where did you see "all"?
        
             | s1artibartfast wrote:
             | I can see both sides. Anyone with a basic understanding of
             | History should know that police abuses of power are nothing
             | new. Bad cops have always existed and are well documented.
             | Just think of some cops beating up hippies and beats in the
             | proposed golden age of neighborhood policing.
             | 
             | On the flip side, there's been a definite trend in the
             | militarization of the police forces and other public facing
             | groups. The first big wave of this I personally saw came
             | from Iraq and Afghanistan veterans joining the public
             | service. Is not unreasonable to think that individuals with
             | a background occupying a country with a hostile population
             | transferred norms from that into their new job.
        
             | andrew_ wrote:
             | telling that no one has dropped any hard data in rebuttal
             | to show that "most" officers are losers lusting after
             | power.
        
             | flandish wrote:
             | If you're a "good cop" on a force with a single "bad cop"
             | and do nothing about it, in this day and age, you are also
             | a bad cop.
        
           | realworldperson wrote:
           | [dead]
        
           | hpen wrote:
           | This mentality is dangerous and only drives the thing you are
           | getting at.
        
           | Eupraxias wrote:
           | I love the idea that things were different once...
        
             | wonderwonder wrote:
             | We're they? Perhaps if you are white. Cops used to just
             | harass minorities. Now they have decided that all non
             | police must be punished and made to understand their place.
             | Not saying it was better when they just harassed
             | minorities, saying cops have always been power mad
             | narcissists. Now they just have armored cars and better
             | weapons
             | 
             | Edit: it's been pointed out to me that op was being
             | sarcastic. My fault
        
               | skc wrote:
               | I believe he is being sarcastic.
        
             | semi-extrinsic wrote:
             | They are different even today in first world countries.
             | Where I live, becoming a police officer is a three year
             | education (equivalent to a bachelor's degree) and it's not
             | easy to get accepted to the programme. Training on what the
             | law actually says, de-escalation, handling mentally ill
             | people etc. is an important part of this.
             | 
             | As a consequence, most cops are good human beings who care
             | about their community.
        
               | Eupraxias wrote:
               | This is also my personal experience, including a good
               | friend of mine who opted for policing for these reasons
               | after completing a degree in philosophy. He has been a
               | beloved small town cop for many years.
        
             | Retric wrote:
             | Being a cop in the US has become vastly less dangerous
             | which changed the dynamics around who becomes cops.
        
               | andrew_ wrote:
               | This would suggest that trend is reversing:
               | https://nleomf.org/memorial/facts-figures/officer-
               | fatality-d...
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | Retric wrote:
               | Only if you ignore the size of the US police force, and
               | more recently COVID. By far the #1 risk is the amount of
               | driving police do, but policing in the US is nowhere
               | close to as dangerous as being a truck driver.
        
               | sct202 wrote:
               | This website breaks down by cause and almost all of the
               | difference is explicitly covid.
               | https://www.odmp.org/search/year?year=2021
        
               | autoexec wrote:
               | Covid is the #1 cause of death three years running.
        
           | powertrips123 wrote:
           | My freshman year roommate at university (who was a random
           | assignment) ended up dropping out of his science major our
           | first year and decided he wanted to pursue being a cop. When
           | I asked him why he said "I just want to be able to fuck with
           | people", sort of jokingly, but also you could tell he meant
           | it.
           | 
           | He was a nice guy if he knew you, but he was also brash and
           | arrogant. If you put someone like that in an environment with
           | other people that are also there for the power trips, these
           | sorts of situations are the outcome you get.
        
             | dennis_jeeves1 wrote:
             | >He was a nice guy if he knew you, but he was also brash
             | and arrogant.
             | 
             | This is how most humans are. My tribe:friends, Everybody
             | else: enemies, let kill them.
             | 
             | It's Jekyll/Hyde.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | 3pac wrote:
         | I think that centralization of power is a spurious correlation.
         | It may be part of the equation, but there is more to it.
         | 
         | Norway has a single national police organization which extends
         | the local level. It is well-regarded by the citizens who are
         | also big on free-range parenting. In Oslo you can find
         | teenagers practicing skateboard on the steps of parliament
         | during the day. On the other hand Americans might find certain
         | means of protective services, for adults and for minors,
         | overreaching.
         | 
         | Also, didn't absolutely everybody in the US rally around James
         | Comey, during his unjust firing?
        
         | indymike wrote:
         | > Dropping charges is not justice.
         | 
         | Agreed. This is one where qualified immunity needs to go. This
         | is a rights violation all the way... against the kids civil
         | rights and against the parents. Also, I'd love to listen to the
         | 911 calls.
        
           | user3939382 wrote:
           | It's not justice at all, the parents now have an arrest
           | record. Hopefully they never have to fill out an application
           | that asks about that (e.g. pistol license).
        
             | indymike wrote:
             | A) The arrest should have never, ever happened. There needs
             | to be a line where police know they are not allowed to
             | cross. This I'm immune from everything because I'm an agent
             | of the government needs to go now.
             | 
             | B) The arrest record needs to go away forever
             | 
             | C) Arrest records should never be used by government to
             | deny rights or services, only conviction records.
        
             | noisy_boy wrote:
             | Can't they atleast push for expunging of the records? No
             | charges were pressed; if the state wants to dispute that,
             | they are opening the gate for a lawsuit.
        
               | user3939382 wrote:
               | Pistol license applications explicitly state that you
               | have to include expunged records. Also, what expunged
               | actually means (or if it's available at all) depends on
               | the state. If you wanted to work for the government, get
               | certain clearances, etc it would also come up on
               | background checks. So it's totally unfair that innocent
               | people like this have it attached to their name.
        
         | sitkack wrote:
         | > Eastern bloc level authoritarianism
         | 
         | That is uncalled for, I know a ton of people that grew up in
         | Warsaw Pact countries and they could in fact walk to Babushka's
         | Dumpling Shop and back without getting their parents arrested.
         | 
         | I'd recommend people skip the article and go directly the
         | advocacy site it links to and affect change locally. The event
         | happened in 2019, involves the typical dumb ACAB trope and then
         | is swept away.
         | 
         | They most likely dropped charges because it was an unlawful
         | arrest and the parents could have sued and most likely won.
         | When the DA found out they most likely shut the whole thing
         | down.
         | 
         | https://letgrow.org/resources/state-policy-maps/
        
           | btilly wrote:
           | You'd know what happened if you'd read the article.
           | 
           | The police did drop charges. But then a social worker got
           | involved and they had years of grief afterwards because of
           | it. Which couldn't have been reported on back when the event
           | happened, and makes it a lot more than just "stupid cops got
           | immediately corrected".
           | 
           | Honestly I would have liked to see the police sued for what
           | they did, but the whole doctrine of "qualified immunity"
           | means that that would go nowhere. Which is another can of
           | worms.
        
             | dragonwriter wrote:
             | > Honestly I would have liked to see the police sued for
             | what they did, but the whole doctrine of "qualified
             | immunity" means that that would go nowhere.
             | 
             | QI doesn't stop you from suing "the police" (as in, the
             | public agency responsible), it stops (absent clear
             | precedent eatablishing the right on which you are suing)
             | individual public officers.
        
               | btilly wrote:
               | Yes. But as soon as the charges got to the department,
               | they dropped it. The police department did nothing
               | egregiously wrong.
               | 
               | It is the individual police officers that I would like to
               | see be liable here. And if they were, then it would do a
               | whole lot more to dissuade other police officers than any
               | official department policies.
               | 
               | And that is exactly what qualified immunity keeps from
               | happening.
        
               | dragonwriter wrote:
               | > But as soon as the charges got to the department, they
               | dropped it.
               | 
               | So?
               | 
               | > The police department did nothing egregiously wrong.
               | 
               | Insofar as the officers, as agents of the department,
               | were trained and supervised in such a way that they did
               | something egregiously wrong in the conduct of their
               | duties, the police department did, in fact, due something
               | equally wrong.
               | 
               | > It is the individual police officers that I would like
               | to see be liable here.
               | 
               | Then you should favor suing the responsible department
               | because, given QI, you need a clearly established right
               | for their to be personal liability, and the only way to
               | get there is to sue someone to clearly establish the
               | right. Which can't be the individuals, because QI.
               | 
               | (Even without QI, you should favor suing the deoartment,
               | because individual officers can be disposable and
               | replaced with people selected and trained for the same
               | tendencies, but department leadership and policies that
               | keeping turning into a liability hole for the local
               | government are more likely to trigger more significant
               | changes.)
        
               | btilly wrote:
               | Your reasoning is a little dubious there.
               | 
               | I should not favor suing the department when I can find
               | no legal theory under which they should be liable. And in
               | this case it was an individual officer mistake that
               | directly did no harm, and was corrected as soon as it
               | came to the department's attention. I'm not going to find
               | anything in police training or general behavior that fits
               | with this mistake being a general pattern that is endemic
               | to the department. I see no damages or legal relief that
               | makes sense here.
               | 
               | Arguing about what good might come from the department
               | losing said lawsuit is like debating how convenient it
               | might be if pigs could fly. The whole conversation is
               | based on something that isn't going to happen, and
               | therefore isn't a real possibility. And any attempt to go
               | from discussion to reality by actually filing said
               | lawsuit is a waste of effort.
        
           | COGlory wrote:
           | >That is uncalled for, I know a ton of people that grew up in
           | Warsaw Pact countries and they could in fact walk to
           | Babushka's Dumpling Shop and back without getting their
           | parents arrested.
           | 
           | Just to clarify, the analogy I'm drawing is to how beyond
           | reproach authority is to the average citizen, not making any
           | point about whether or not Warsaw Pact children could travel
           | freely.
        
           | sasawpg wrote:
           | Fully agreed here - I grew up in ex-Yugoslavia, which while
           | it wasn't part of the Eastern bloc, it wasn't too dissimilar.
           | It was perfectly acceptable and expected for kids to be out
           | and about without direct parent supervision. Neighbours knew
           | kids from the surrounding and would take care of them as
           | needed. At 11-12, I walked to the store by myself or with
           | similar aged friends many times to buy beer for my dad. The
           | store owner happily sold it to me as he knew my dad and knew
           | if I did buy it for myself, it would take no more than a day
           | or two to find out. Police would have never questioned any
           | part of this behaviour, it was fully normalized. I'd say it
           | definitely resulted in children being more independent.
        
             | throwaway5752 wrote:
             | Nobody is making the literal comparison. Eastern bloc was a
             | totally different form of repression, the top poster in the
             | thread was just making a clumsy comparison between
             | different forms of oppressive state action. Connecticut has
             | plenty of citizens with license plates, stickers, and flags
             | on vehicles that mock or call for violence against the
             | current US president. They do so without any fear of
             | imprisonment. Try that with a Solidarity sticker in Poland
             | in the 80s. I have no doubt they had a healthier view
             | towards independence in childhood in Poland in the 1980s,
             | though.
             | 
             | As smart people, let's get a grip and realize that outlier
             | incidents happen all the time, and just question the why
             | and when they get coverage.
        
             | readthenotes1 wrote:
             | I bet the parents didn't watch the news there, either.
             | 
             | Serious question: what did the Eastern block used to do sex
             | offenders?
        
               | pjc50 wrote:
               | They probably did watch the news, but it would be very
               | different news on the state-run Jugoslavenska
               | Radiotelevizija.
               | 
               | (If this incident _had_ happened in Yugoslavia, or
               | something similar with unjust police harassment, would
               | anyone have heard about it on the news? Of course not.)
        
               | sasawpg wrote:
               | Probably not as different as one would hope compared to
               | North American news of unjust harassment/abuse by police,
               | religious/sport organization some 10-20+ years ago. I
               | didn't see major Canadian news sources overflowing with
               | content about abuse suffered in residential schools until
               | fairly recent for example. That's not to paint any sort
               | of a rosy Jugo picture, far from it.
        
               | WarOnPrivacy wrote:
               | > Serious question: what did the Eastern block used to do
               | sex offenders?
               | 
               | Unless the EB was radically different from the rest of
               | 1970s Earth, nothing.
               | 
               | In the US, pre-1980s kids knew not to take any kind of
               | abuse to the police. At best they'd be gaslit or outed to
               | their abuser (who was commonly family). For most of LEO
               | history cops (who reflected society in general) were not
               | there to protect kids. Perps certainly knew this.
               | 
               | Source: We kids talked to each other and figured out
               | reality pretty fast.
        
               | sasawpg wrote:
               | Ah yes - familiar and agree with this as well. It does
               | however depend significantly on whether the perp was
               | known to you or not. You'd be far more likely to report a
               | stranger abusing you randomly on the street than say your
               | family member, teacher, coach, etc. (see Hockey Canada
               | for a sad example of this continuing to date).
        
               | sasawpg wrote:
               | I'm not sure what you're getting at. In ex-Yu, they'd go
               | through criminal proceedings.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | Would they survive to make it to the proceedings?
        
             | timeon wrote:
             | This is maybe more about time then about the place. Before,
             | growing up in Slovakia, I walked streets of a city as kid
             | alone. Now when I mentioned it to some parents (even in
             | village) they think that I was so brave (even if they did
             | the same).
             | 
             | Only children that you can see in parks or on the streets
             | of Bratislava alone are refugees from Ukraine.
        
             | m348e912 wrote:
             | You and the parent are touching on the key difference. The
             | neighborhood was a community who knew each other and looked
             | out for each other. In the US this dichotomy is
             | exceptionally rare, so a young child walking alone is truly
             | among strangers. I am not saying that kids shouldn't have
             | freedom to roam but it's different.
             | 
             | America lacks community in many places. I don't know if
             | it's uniquely American, but it's very common. Neighbors
             | don't know neighbors, the shop owner doesn't know who kid's
             | parents are. This is in my opinion is the primary reason
             | why kids aren't allowed out alone.
        
               | friendzis wrote:
               | > This is in my opinion is the primary reason why kids
               | aren't allowed out alone.
               | 
               | I guess this is polar opposite: the situation is like
               | this _because_ kids are not allowed outside. Since kids
               | are not allowed outside, you build  "suburban sprawls":
               | rows of houses with literally nowhere for those kids to
               | go even if they wanted. And then you transport them
               | directly to school and sports with a personal car. So the
               | kids do not have interaction with other kids, because
               | they are neither allowed to nor there is a field to play
               | in. Naturally the other parents don't know the kids
               | further than immediate neighbors.
               | 
               | The twist is that now the infrastructure is suddenly
               | lone-kid-hostile.
        
               | denton-scratch wrote:
               | > the situation is like this because kids are not allowed
               | outside.
               | 
               | Imagine if the street-scene was crowded with kids. They
               | would witness vandalism and bad behaviour, and wrongdoers
               | would be much more cautious. I wish kids would play
               | outside on the estate where I live.
        
               | whitemary wrote:
               | >America lacks community in many places.
               | 
               | Arguably the most painful aspect of survival in our late-
               | stage capitalist society.
        
               | locofocos wrote:
               | How do we find places that still value and foster this
               | kind of community?
               | 
               | And how do we contribute to it ourselves? Lately I've
               | been wanting to be intentional about getting involved,
               | getting to know people, etc. I came across this blog post
               | on the topic from HN a few months ago:
               | https://www.seanblanda.com/its-time-for-localism-in-
               | america/
        
               | m348e912 wrote:
               | It's just my own theory but perhaps there is some
               | relationship between loss community and a few things:
               | 
               | * A two parent working household meant that there were
               | less stay-at-home moms around to network in the community
               | and build familiarity with other moms and neighboring
               | families.
               | 
               | * The use of cars meant that there was less opportunity
               | for interaction while walking in the neighborhood.
               | 
               | * Local church where people built a community through
               | faith.
        
               | bundze wrote:
               | I grew up in the former Eastern bloc (Poland) in a small
               | town and we had this sort of free-range parenting there.
               | When I was around 9 or 10 I would spend my whole days
               | playing outside with the other kids from the
               | neighborhood, especially in the summer. Sort of like the
               | "Bullerbyn children" in Astrid Lindgren's book. Sometimes
               | one of us was sent on an errand (like to a local shop)
               | and others went along to keep company. There were 5 of us
               | hanging out regularly and most of us lived in two working
               | parent households except one who had a SAH mother and
               | another who was raised by a working single mother. So I
               | don't think the lack of SAH moms is a factor here. Also,
               | my parents are not religious and there definitely was no
               | faith-based community. My parents actually didn't know
               | that well the parents of other kids, we kids just met
               | each other somehow in the area or were introduced by
               | other kids that we knew. I think it was rather a
               | combination of living in a safe neighborhood - suburb
               | with low traffic (even now Poland has less cars per
               | capita than US https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_co
               | untries_by_vehicle...) and people being just less
               | paranoid back then. Also, the societal expectations
               | towards children have shifted in the recent years, now
               | people often try to micromanage their children's time and
               | provide them with too many after-school activities so
               | kids don't have time to just hang around.
        
             | SamBam wrote:
             | Regardless of Eastern bloc vs West, or anywhere else, I
             | think the biggest issue might simply be era.
             | 
             | Parents in the States were much more permissive in the 80s,
             | and to a certain extent the 90s. That started to change in
             | the 2000s, with far greater "helicopter parenting."
             | 
             | So are these descriptions of idyllic life in ex-Yugoslavia
             | five years ago, or twenty?
             | 
             | I grew up in central Europe in the 80s and was given plenty
             | of freedom, but I don't know whether kids there have the
             | same amount as before, or if it has been changed like in
             | the US.
        
               | mcv wrote:
               | There are plenty of countries where kids can still live
               | in freedom. I can let my 8 year old son play outside with
               | his 7 year old friend, and trust they'll be alright. I
               | see lots of kids around their age go to their judo
               | lessons on their own. This should be completely normal.
               | 
               | For police to come and arrest parents for trusting their
               | children with some basic freedom is unbelievably
               | oppressive. It's bizarre to hear this coming from a
               | country that once claimed to be the "land of the free".
               | And this is hardly the first story like this.
        
               | mgarfias wrote:
               | I was just thinking about my childhood and how much
               | freedom I had at that age. Car rides from parents for
               | when the weather sucked
        
               | BitwiseFool wrote:
               | I feel like the fear around "stranger danger" played a
               | huge role in normalizing the idea that children shouldn't
               | be unsupervised and that the police needed to enforce
               | truancy laws with more urgency.
        
               | marton78 wrote:
               | My 7yo daughter goes to school alone, by subway. Not
               | every day, and it's only two stations, but still. Nobody
               | bats an eye. This is in Berlin, though not in a dangerous
               | area.
        
               | sasawpg wrote:
               | My experience ends in mid-90s, but from what I understand
               | it is still far more permissive than US/Canada. In
               | Finland for example, kids go to school alone starting in
               | grade 1 (walk or public transport). That is definitely
               | not something you will see often in Canada. I do
               | absolutely agree though - anecdotally speaking of course,
               | parents today are far less permissive than "back in the
               | day".
               | 
               | I have no issue with my kids (8 and 9) playing outside
               | alone provided they don't venture out onto the
               | thoroughfare street. My concern is with irresponsible and
               | inattentive drivers, including residential construction
               | traffic.
        
               | greedo wrote:
               | I walked to school for Kindergarten and 1st grade.
               | Roughly a mile each way. This was in the early 70s, and
               | though I see some kids walk to the nearby elementary
               | school, the majority are dropped off by their parents in
               | their huge SUVs...
        
           | petre wrote:
           | > Babushka's Dumpling Shop
           | 
           | Except babushka didn't have a dumpling shop because private
           | enterprise was outlawed. You probably mean the Pastry
           | Workers' Cooperative, an organization that didn't actually
           | make dumplings because flour and vegetable oil was
           | ratoinalized. The state was exporting those ingredients to
           | the West at a loss in order to obtain dollars and pay back
           | the IMF loans. Instead, the PWC shop had lots of vinegar and
           | pickled cucumbers for sale. Which was too bad, because nobody
           | wanted to buy those things.
        
             | LarryMullins wrote:
             | Come now, everybody likes a pickled cucumber.
        
             | bundze wrote:
             | Funnily enough, I'm from the Eastern bloc (Poland) and
             | apparently my grandma used to run a grocery store for some
             | time in the 1980's. It could have been technically
             | government owned, I never inquired. Whatever was the legal
             | status, it was called "Grandma's store" in my family.
        
           | NikolaNovak wrote:
           | Agreed. I am from ex Yugoslavia and for many... interesting
           | things that growing up there entailed, my childhood was free.
           | I walked to school starting grade 1! In a city of half a
           | million I and all my classmates safely crossed intersections
           | and walled to school every day.
           | 
           | Now I'm in Ontario and statuary limit for leaving child alone
           | is... _sixteen years_ :O
           | 
           | We can see school from out house but do not dare let our
           | (independent safe and bright) child walk, not due to fear of
           | crime, but the real fear of some overzealous bored neighbour
           | calling it in.
           | 
           | Boo.
        
             | COGlory wrote:
             | Pasting what I wrote above:
             | 
             | >Just to clarify, the analogy I'm drawing is to how beyond
             | reproach authority is to the average citizen, not making
             | any point about whether or not Warsaw Pact children could
             | travel freely.
        
             | eptcyka wrote:
             | I think the legal penalties for being _negligent_ towards
             | children stem from rich people making up laws as a response
             | to narratives about rare occurences that take places in
             | environments lawmakers have 0 experience with (low-income
             | neighbourhoods). They feel as though less children would be
             | harmed if they always had an adult present with them, which
             | is feels like a solid assertion if you have the means to
             | provide adult supervision at all times, ignoring the
             | alternative costs of letting children experience
             | independence and completely misunderstanding the every day
             | reality of low-income parents.
        
               | LarryMullins wrote:
               | > _as a response to narratives about rare occurences_
               | 
               | I think this is the root of it. Before the advent of mass
               | media, you would hear about crimes if those crimes
               | happened to people you personally know, but probably not
               | otherwise. Rare crimes were rarely heard about and
               | therefore people had an intuitive understanding that
               | those crimes were rare. Mass media changed all of this.
               | The most rare sort of crime is the most newsworthy
               | because novelty sells newspapers. So the media has people
               | fixated, worrying, about very rare sorts of crimes and
               | this has made the general population much more irrational
               | about rare crimes than it ever was before. Journalists
               | may sometimes say that their job is to inform the public,
               | but very often they induce a perception of reality that
               | is less accurate than what people would have formed on
               | their own with no journalist around to make a huge deal
               | out of freak rare occurrences.
        
           | yamtaddle wrote:
           | I think a lot of folks in the US don't realize that even some
           | (some!) countries we think of as authoritarian _feel freer_ ,
           | day to day, than the US does, let alone other liberal
           | democracies.
           | 
           | We have elections... but having some wine at your picnic in
           | the park may get you a citation.
           | 
           | We have elections... but, this article.
           | 
           | We have elections... but civil forfeiture.
           | 
           | We have elections... but you'll spend tons of your "free"
           | time fighting with our healthcare system, should you ever
           | actually need to use it. Ditto the time and contortions
           | required to navigate our benefits systems if you ever hit our
           | "social safety net". In either case, you're not gonna be
           | feeling all that "freedom".
           | 
           | We have elections... but an LOLWTF-high incarceration rate.
           | 
           | We have elections... but are constantly scared shitless of
           | civil litigation and liability and there are rules and
           | disclaimers posted on every flat surface.
           | 
           | We have elections... but no mandatory annual leave, with the
           | result that for most people 2 weeks off a year is considered
           | decent. How many people feel "free" at their job?
           | 
           | But at least we have the 2nd, to protect our freedom. Seems
           | to be working great. (I actually also think folks here
           | overestimate how hard it is to get guns in some countries
           | with effective gun control--it doesn't have to mean "no
           | guns", and often doesn't)
        
             | Nitramp wrote:
             | Without commenting on the other issues, but something that
             | struck me as very odd living in the USA, was how people in
             | California appeared fully disenfranchised during
             | presidential elections.
             | 
             | Yes, as a Californian you can vote, but your vote is near
             | guaranteed to have no effect, and as a result, neither of
             | the sides cares to address your interests, solicit your
             | opinion, advertise for your vote.
             | 
             | It struck me as really bizarre.
        
               | 1123581321 wrote:
               | The solid red and blue states influence what kinds of
               | candidates can make it to the general election at all.
               | California and the other large, blue states also have
               | significant influence in Washington between elections.
        
               | thereddaikon wrote:
               | They aren't disenfranchised. Everyone knows which way
               | California will go so they don't spend a lot of time
               | campaigning there. Candidates have a limited amount of
               | time and money. So they focus on the swing states. My
               | state also votes pretty consistently and therefore
               | doesn't get much campaigning. I don't feel like I am
               | disenfranchised for it.
               | 
               | And for everyone who is crying about the popular vote,
               | there is a very good reason we don't do that. It was
               | recognized from the start that if you do a strict popular
               | vote. the more populous and wealthy areas would always
               | call the shots and would dictate politics to the rest of
               | the nation. At the time that meant Virginia. But it
               | doesn't really matter who, the principle still holds.
               | This was a compromise between populous areas and rural
               | areas in order to get the union formed.
               | 
               | If you switch to a pure popular vote then the nation
               | would be run by a handful of mega cities like NYC, LA
               | etc. That's not democracy. The system we have prevents
               | that while still allowing for populous areas to matter.
               | Getting rid of the electoral college would remove one of
               | the main compromises our federal system is built on and
               | in my opinion would be fair grounds for any state to
               | secede. It would be comparable to throwing away parts of
               | the Bill of Rights.
        
               | neura wrote:
               | Yeah, I guess it's as black and white as you state.
               | There's no in-between like keeping the per state
               | allotments while still having that allotment be chosen by
               | the people instead of adding another layer in between
               | that is "voting for the people", which I provide in
               | quotes because who actually believes that is happening?
               | "voting on behalf of their supporters", at best.
        
               | hexane360 wrote:
               | The electoral college wasn't created to restrict the
               | power of large states like Virginia.
               | 
               | The electoral college was created because it was expected
               | that state governments would elect the president, _not
               | citizens_. In the presence of direct election of the
               | president, it 's an anachronism at best. It was never
               | about "tyranny of the majority", and in a two-party
               | system, trying to prevent the tyranny of the majority is
               | just a tyranny of the minority.
               | 
               | If you want, weight the votes so votes in small states
               | count more, or votes in rural areas count more. It'll
               | still be a much more fair and equitable system than the
               | electoral college, which effectively means that anyone
               | outside a swing state has _no_ representation.
               | 
               | Of course, doing it that way would make it much more
               | obvious that there's no credible reason we should give
               | 1,000 suburbanites Wyoming more voting power than 1,000
               | farmers in rural California, or 1,000 voters in Columbus
               | more power than 1,000 voters in Brooklyn.
        
               | cycomanic wrote:
               | Even though that gets brought up as a reason very often
               | it is not true. Firstly the US (like many other
               | democracies) has a two house system. The senate is
               | designed to counter balance the power of high population
               | states. Even if the US went to a popular vote system now
               | it would not be governed by california and NY, because
               | the senate gives disproportionate power to smaller
               | states.
               | 
               | If you read historians opinions there are several
               | reasons, the "big States get all the power" is typically
               | not cited [1], however one important reason which does
               | get cited is slavery. The southern states wanted a way to
               | count slaves as population without actually letting them
               | vote. The three fifth rule was the compromise [2 - 4]
               | 
               | [1] https://uselectionatlas.org/INFORMATION/INFORMATION/e
               | lectcol...
               | 
               | [2] https://historyofyesterday.com/the-racist-origins-of-
               | america... [3]
               | https://www.npr.org/2020/10/30/929609038/how-electoral-
               | colle... [4] https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/20
               | 19/11/electoral-...
        
               | amanaplanacanal wrote:
               | I've heard this take before and it makes no sense to me.
               | _Areas_ don't dictate anything. It's people. Why should
               | it matter where the people live? As it stands, people who
               | live in smaller states have more say in national politics
               | than people who live in bigger states.
        
               | masklinn wrote:
               | > As it stands, people who live in smaller states have
               | more say in national politics than people who live in
               | bigger states.
               | 
               | Not for presidential elections, nobody cares about
               | Delaware or Wyoming's 3 electors. Small-population states
               | matter for the Senate where they're way over-represented.
               | 
               | Not that they're not over-represented for the EC mind,
               | but e.g. for their 0.2% of the national population
               | Wyoming has 0.55% of the Electoral College, versus 2% of
               | the Senate. By comparison California's 11.75% of the
               | national population gives them 10% of the EC and... 2% of
               | the Senate.
               | 
               | States which have a say (or are heard really) during
               | presidential elections are states with large enough
               | populations (and thus EC) that it's worth spending time
               | and dumping money there for campaigns, yet purple enough
               | that there's a chance to swing them.
        
               | cduzz wrote:
               | As things stand, where every state votes as a block, the
               | ones where the whole population lands within the 50/50
               | range is heavily contested. If North Dakota were 50/50
               | the Bismark media market would be flooded by advertising.
               | Every electoral college vote matters.
               | 
               | The actual number of potentially contested states is
               | quite low; states not in contention aren't contested.
               | 
               | There are many "within the constitution" ways of
               | adjusting this -- states chose electoral college reps as
               | chosen by nation wide popular vote, as chosen by state
               | election ratio, etc. But as things stand, no individual
               | state would do this by itself because an inconsistent
               | implementation would (IE if california or texas stop
               | sending all or nothing electoral college reps) tip the
               | balance to one or the other party for forever.
               | 
               | There's some indications that the republicans won the
               | house in this current election cycle because new york
               | didn't aggressively gerrymander, allowing several
               | republicans to be elected when the absolute math would
               | have made it trivial to exclude them.
               | 
               | Politics is hard. It's better than mass murder, though,
               | which is the typical alternative.
        
               | moate wrote:
               | >> Politics is hard. It's better than mass murder,
               | though, which is the typical alternative.
               | 
               | Weird thing that politics does is convince you that it's
               | not in control of the mass murder. I promise you we have
               | hundreds of thousands of state sanctioned or willfully
               | negligent deaths annually in <country name of your
               | choice>.
               | 
               | Modern politics isn't about stopping the deaths, it's
               | just better at hiding how the sausage is made.
        
               | masklinn wrote:
               | > As things stand, where every state votes as a block
               | 
               | Not every state. Two states (Maine and Nevada) have
               | district voting, so they allocate one elector per
               | congressional district (based on that district's vote),
               | plus two statewide. Tough they only account for 9
               | electors combined. And it's still far from proportional
               | representation.
        
               | moate wrote:
               | >>I've heard this take before and it makes no sense to
               | me.
               | 
               | I'm assuming that's because you're not trying to vote in
               | candidates who consistently support a small group of
               | loudly aggrieved people to inflict their will on the vast
               | majority of the country.
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | > And for everyone who is crying about the popular vote,
               | there is a very good reason we don't do that. It was
               | recognized from the start that if you do a strict popular
               | vote. the more populous and wealthy areas would always
               | call the shots and would dictate politics to the rest of
               | the nation. At the time that meant Virginia. But it
               | doesn't really matter who, the principle still holds.
               | This was a compromise between populous areas and rural
               | areas in order to get the union formed.
               | 
               | The original intention was not this bloc-voting crap. The
               | idea was that a state would select some trusted, wise,
               | and ideally educated, locals to go get a look at the
               | candidates and vote on their behalf, since expecting
               | everyone in a whole country the size of the US to get any
               | meaningful sense of the candidates, or to understand many
               | of the relevant issues in order to make an informed
               | choice, was obviously crazy in a time before broadcast
               | (and still is, actually; broadcast barely even helped
               | with the core problem of most folks--justifiably!--
               | knowing almost nothing about the things a head of state
               | deals with).
               | 
               | This broke down instantly, as electors began pre-
               | declaring for candidates. But we kept the system, which,
               | while a half-decent (if hopelessly poorly-implemented)
               | idea originally, is now simply very bad--we get all the
               | noisy, absurd national campaigning but most of us don't
               | get a meaningful say in the election, anyway.
        
               | thewebcount wrote:
               | This is the exact opposite of my experience. It's the
               | only place where my elected officials were actually
               | engaged. I received regular updates from my
               | representatives without even asking for them. They just
               | mailed all of their constituents flyers explaining the
               | current issues and how it affects the community. I've
               | lived in 5 different states and never saw anything like
               | this in any of them except California. Go figure.
        
               | inetknght wrote:
               | > _I 've lived in 5 different states and never saw
               | anything like this in any of them except California._
               | 
               | I live in Texas, around Houston. Here we certainly _do_
               | have representatives (but not members of the Senate) who
               | send mail to constituents with information. Our Senators
               | send emails once in a while, if you sign up for them.
               | 
               | But good luck ever figuring out the real information from
               | the spam and ~~malicious dis~~incorrect information and
               | opinions.
        
               | hollerith wrote:
               | You missed the word "presidential".
        
               | dantheman wrote:
               | The federal government does far too many things, and
               | that's really the problem. The constitution spelled out
               | what the government was allowed to do and that limitation
               | died in the progressive era.
        
               | themitigating wrote:
               | Can you provide an example of something the federal
               | government is doing that should be up to the states?
        
               | yywwbbn wrote:
               | Yes well the progressive era was truly terrible. Food
               | safety, environmental protection, monopolies etc. are
               | really not something the Federal government should have
               | any right to intervene in. After all the states had no
               | issues handling all the before.. obviously...
        
               | cpurdy wrote:
               | California has already passed the National Popular Vote
               | bill. https://www.nationalpopularvote.com/written-
               | explanation
               | 
               | Republican controlled states don't want people's votes to
               | count, so none of them have passed the bill.
        
               | starkd wrote:
               | Not the point of this thread. Popular vote has nothing to
               | do with how responsive or attentive a government is to
               | voter's interests. You vote for a candidate as a whole,
               | but there are likely still issues you disagree with.
               | Voters' interests are largely unaddressed or ignored
               | altogether.
        
               | dragonwriter wrote:
               | > Not the point of this thread. Popular vote has nothing
               | to do with how responsive or attentive a government is to
               | voter's interests
               | 
               | Actually, it does: more specifically, degree of
               | _proportionality_ does, and antimajoritarianism (systems
               | in which an absolute majority-preferred option can lose
               | to a minority option) are an extreme case of
               | nonproportionality. Having a powerful central executive
               | elected by nonmajoritarian election itself weights the
               | government to nonresponsiveness (though the US has _many_
               | other factors reinforcing that.)
        
               | lazyasciiart wrote:
               | It is completely the point of 'voters in specific states
               | are largely disenfranchised during presidential
               | elections'.
        
               | yellowapple wrote:
               | In other words: California has promised to disenfranchise
               | its own voters even more than is already the case. I can
               | already see this backfiring _spectacularly_ with a
               | solidly-blue state like California being on the hook to
               | put its electors toward a Republican popular vote winner.
        
               | cpurdy wrote:
               | That's a weird way to look at it.
               | 
               | The many states that have agreed to this (have passed the
               | bill) have simply accepted that the votes of the people
               | is worth more than the feelings of the billionaires who
               | have sponsored the Republican gerrymandering movement.
               | 
               | Right now, effectively, the land votes, and the people's
               | vote is often ignored. Wisconsin is a good example, where
               | the Republicans keep losing the vote, but yet with less
               | than 50% of the vote, they somehow have a super-majority
               | in the legislature.
        
               | scythe wrote:
               | That's true recently. But only recently have political
               | alignments been so rigid and predictable in the United
               | States. California went for the Republicans from 1968-92,
               | and before that was somewhat swingy.
               | 
               | More generally, any single-winner election system is
               | prone to a "Rawlsian compromise": something that works
               | out well for 51% of people and poorly for the other 49%.
               | This still isn't so bad if things are changing now and
               | then. But we've been stuck with Clintonist "preachy"
               | Democrats and Gingrichite "edgy" Republicans for nearly
               | my whole life.
        
               | masklinn wrote:
               | > Without commenting on the other issues, but something
               | that struck me as very odd living in the USA, was how
               | people in California appeared fully disenfranchised
               | during presidential elections.
               | 
               | That's the case of every state which is away enough from
               | swing. Only "purple" states[0] matter during presidential
               | elections.
               | 
               | Then again, swing states only get pandered to for a few
               | months every 4 years.
               | 
               | [0] and Maine and Nebraska which use district voting, but
               | at 4 and 5 electors they're to small to really matter
        
               | terr-dav wrote:
               | This is true for the vast majority of states, and the
               | vast majority of people's interests. The political
               | systems in this country have been shaped by -- and
               | frankly, designed by -- by wealthy interests to make the
               | US an oligarchy with various performances of democratic
               | representation.
        
               | yywwbbn wrote:
               | I'm not sure that's the reason why it's only worth
               | campaigning in Georgia, Wisconsin, Arizona and some other
               | states during presidential elections.
               | 
               | Also it is the system that was designed over 100-200
               | years ago. The problem is the lack of meaningful reform
               | because the people in power are there only because of the
               | current system.
               | 
               | That's the reason why is it so hard to change electoral
               | system without some external/internal shock. And
               | "unfortunately" US has been way too stable politically
               | during the 20th century compared to most other countries.
        
               | gruez wrote:
               | >Yes, as a Californian you can vote, but your vote is
               | near guaranteed to have no effect, and as a result,
               | neither of the sides cares to address your interests,
               | solicit your opinion, advertise for your vote.
               | 
               | Isn't that partly their fault? If you're always going to
               | vote for one party regardless of what they or the other
               | party does, of course neither party is going to bother
               | catering to you. It's kind of like declaring that you
               | will always buy apple products, then complaining that
               | apple doesn't address your grievances.
        
               | bigfudge wrote:
               | That doesn't follow. A similar proportion of electors in
               | swing and non swing states could have fixed voting
               | patterns. The only difference in California is that the
               | proportion of fixed electors for each party is further
               | from 50%. That is, it might be the case that only 10% of
               | electors in any state are ever prepared to change their
               | mind, but the ones in Ohio get more say than the ones in
               | Cali.
        
             | 1024core wrote:
             | We have elections... but offering water to a voter standing
             | in line to vote on a hot sunny day may get you arrested in
             | some states (like Georgia).
        
               | ranger_danger wrote:
               | That law is prefaced with "No person shall solicit votes
               | in any manner"... clearly making it more about stopping
               | political influence at the polls by giving things away.
               | Also it only applies within 150 feet of the building
               | anyway.
        
             | timeon wrote:
             | > We have elections... but
             | 
             | two parties. (Still better then one.)
        
             | notch898a wrote:
             | As backwards as it sounds my time in near-autocratic 3rd
             | world I've felt the most free. Worst case scenario the
             | police can be bribed for a crisp $20. As long as someone
             | isn't doing some horrible shit (like real violence) a lot
             | can be overlooked.
             | 
             | >(I actually also think folks here overestimate how hard it
             | is to get guns
             | 
             | Yeah I often imagine myself in the scenario of what to do
             | if I ended up in Schengen or something and without arms. I
             | calculated it would take me about 2 weeks to print an FGC-9
             | and source the various ammo components (by doing things
             | like using primers from nail gun ammo etc this can be done
             | all from unregulated sources).
        
               | pjc50 wrote:
               | > what to do if I ended up in Schengen or something and
               | without arms
               | 
               | I don't mean to be rude, but this phrasing makes you
               | sound like an addict trying to work out if you can smoke
               | banana peel to get high. You can just .. not have a gun
               | for a bit on holiday? Rather than engaging in illegal
               | activities? Heck, several countries have tourist hunting
               | industries! (The tourists do the hunting, not hunting the
               | tourists)
        
               | scrose wrote:
               | > As backwards as it sounds my time in near-autocratic
               | 3rd world I've felt the most free. Worst case scenario
               | the police can be bribed for a crisp $20. As long as
               | someone isn't doing some horrible shit (like real
               | violence) a lot can be overlooked.
               | 
               | In the US, flashing a PBA card[0] or the fire
               | department/ambulance alternative will get you out of most
               | of what police consider 'low-level' infractions(ie.
               | Covering a license plate, speeding, etc...).
               | 
               | Or in less corrupt cases(like the ones I unfortunately
               | have used mine for), it gets the cops to leave you alone
               | or listen to you when you get profiled for no good
               | reason.
               | 
               | I guess it's technically not a bribe since no money is
               | exchanging hands, but last I checked, each PBA card
               | raises ~$150/year for the police union.
               | 
               | [0] https://www.the-sun.com/news/4212777/what-is-a-pba-
               | card/
        
               | giggles_01 wrote:
               | You should try to live there as an average local person
               | with average income and without "connections". "Crisp
               | $20" in some countries might be quite a lot.
               | 
               | Also: I've seen this many times, foreigners from rich
               | countries get completely different treatment.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | Absolutely.
               | 
               | I'm aware of my privilege, but since I have it does it
               | not make sense to use it for my maximum liberty? At the
               | end of the day I have to act with the resources I have,
               | not the resources someone else has.
        
               | giggles_01 wrote:
               | What are we talking about here? You can power trip
               | (literally and figuratively) as much as you are able.
               | Some countries are good for that. That doesn't make those
               | countries "freer" as parent comment suggests.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | I'm not interested in power-tripping, I'm interested in
               | the people power tripping having the least interest in
               | putting me in jail. Maybe that's because the judicial
               | system allows freedom, maybe it's because the police are
               | lazy or understaffed, maybe it's because they want my
               | money. I'm a pragmatic man.
               | 
               | As for freedom, it's going to be relative. Each person
               | has unique resources and abilities that dictate where
               | they will find the most freedom. You don't have to
               | victimize others to improve your own freedom.
        
               | zirgs wrote:
               | And what would you do with that gun? Commit crimes? Even
               | simple possession of it would be a crime. You would not
               | be able to use it to defend yourself without getting
               | prosecuted yourself.
               | 
               | It's not that it's impossible for me to manufacture an
               | illegal gun for myself. What's the point of doing that?
               | I'm not a criminal. I don't plan to overthrow the
               | government or anything like that. Why risk getting a
               | criminal record for no gain?
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | I'm not pulling out a gun anywhere populated unless the
               | choice is that or I end up dead. In which case prison is
               | an upgrade. I would consider european jail a great chance
               | to read up on the classics while I enjoy not being dead.
               | 
               | Even where I live now (constitutional carry state,
               | extremely lax on guns) pulling from the holster without a
               | threat is gonna get you tossed in prison. Nobody knows
               | you have it until you do that.
        
               | zirgs wrote:
               | Why not go the legal route and get a gun permit? Seems to
               | be a much better option if you believe that you need a
               | gun for self defence.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | Totally, if that's an option that would be a rational
               | choice. For instance, if I ended up in Poland I would buy
               | a black powder revolver and carry that (legal) and if I
               | ended up in Czech Republic or Austria I think the permit
               | is very easy. The pure hypothetical is ending up
               | someplace where it isn't practical to get the permit.
               | 
               | In practice I just live in a place that does not even
               | require a permit.
        
               | dukeofdoom wrote:
               | so basically you get treated like rich person in the US.
        
               | kragen wrote:
               | Did your old account get banned, man? I forget the name
               | but you posted a lot of great comments.
        
             | slowhadoken wrote:
             | Folks in the US are aware of this, it's all they ever talk
             | about.
        
             | pjc50 wrote:
             | > We have elections... but
             | 
             | Maybe the real enemy of the American people is ... the
             | American electorate?
        
             | giggles_01 wrote:
             | I think a lot of folks in US over-romanticize those "feel
             | freer" authoritarian countries. In some cases like this it
             | might be better but I don't think systematic cases of:
             | "inconvenient" people disappearing, being at complete mercy
             | of local oligarch/overlord, inability to leave your country
             | are such rampant in US as in those countries. Usually
             | people who write something like this never lived in an
             | authoritarian country as a local but were there on a 2
             | weeks trip or heard it from someone who was on a trip or
             | someone who moved to US (why moving if it is such a great
             | place to live?).
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | I'm not claiming authoritarian states are sunshine and
               | roses, just that freedom is a lot more complex and
               | fuzzier than is sometimes appreciated, and that in some
               | regards we're noticeably _less free_ than some (some!) of
               | those states, despite their being authoritarian. I 'm not
               | saying we should switch to being authoritarian in the
               | name of freedom--most other liberal democracies also
               | manage to be freer on several of these issues than we
               | are, though, sure, some are less-free by other measures
               | (but, on balance, I think we're pretty far on the less-
               | free-as-felt-day-to-day-by-most-people side, as liberal
               | democracies go).
        
               | BeetleB wrote:
               | I'll bite. I lived in an authoritarian country.
               | 
               | People occasionally did disappear (usually temporarily).
               | 
               | A lot of things were worse, but a lot were better. You're
               | definitely not going to be arrested or harassed for
               | letting your kids walk alone. Not sure how good their
               | record is for actual child abuse (bad cases would make
               | the news, so there was _some_ enforcement).
               | 
               | While they could prevent you from leaving the country,
               | they didn't have no fly lists, and I believe many more
               | were impacted from the latter than prevented from leaving
               | that country.
               | 
               | No one is disputing things can get really bad in those
               | countries. It's more about _probabilities_. One thing
               | that becomes very clear in the US if you poke around: It
               | 's _ridiculously_ easy to end up with felony charges, and
               | I know plenty who faced them (some convicted). The number
               | of people I knew in the authoritarian country who had a
               | criminal record? Miniscule. Raising my kid here, the
               | chances of him getting a criminal record is significantly
               | higher here than there and is a source of worry.
               | 
               | And typically no one has to worry whether they'll find an
               | apartment due to some crime they committed a decade ago.
               | 
               | And sorry, but no. No local oligarch/overlord. That's
               | orthogonal to authoritarian governments (and is often
               | more about ineffective governments).
               | 
               | > someone who moved to US (why moving if it is such a
               | great place to live?).
               | 
               | Classic false dichotomy.
        
             | Wowfunhappy wrote:
             | The difference, of course, is that in the US you could
             | start a campaign to change all those things.
        
               | SQueeeeeL wrote:
               | This man literally is doing the exact same thing the
               | comment above is describing. Incredible.
        
               | ahtihn wrote:
               | How did that work out for communists in the US in the
               | 20th century?
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | They scared business owners enough that some of them
               | started planning a fascist coup :-/
               | 
               | OTOH they also scared them enough that we got The New
               | Deal. So. Mixed bag?
        
               | hd95489 wrote:
               | Could you though? I mean in theory it's possible but the
               | barriers are basically insurmountable for creating a
               | viable 3rd party. It's like trying to remove Putin by
               | voting him out.
        
               | zirgs wrote:
               | The UK has the same bullshit FPTP system as the USA, but
               | they have more successful 3rd parties. The SNP dominates
               | in Scotland. LibDems were even able to participate in a
               | govt coalition. And both Conservatives and Labour are
               | completely irrelevant in Northern Ireland - which has
               | completely different parties than the rest of the UK.
               | 
               | So what prevents parties similar to the SNP and LibDems
               | to get elected in the USA?
        
               | Clubber wrote:
               | >Could you though?
               | 
               | Highly unlikely in one election cycle. The parties
               | control both houses, the presidency, the states and the
               | locals almost completely.
               | 
               | Step one is stop voting for incumbents and seriously
               | consider voting out incumbents unless they are _really,
               | really_ good; exceptional. The longer someone stays in
               | power, the more power they get, the more deals they make,
               | the less accountable they feel. It 's good to get fresh
               | blood and a fresh outlook every term too. Really the
               | bottom line is we expect change, but we keep voting the
               | same people in and those people serve for _decades_. It
               | 's almost an insanity.
               | 
               | Once the existing political parties are weakened by
               | turnover, you can start placing third party people in
               | there. Now is a good time too, the mainstream media's
               | credibility is on it's heels and has less influence over
               | elections than traditionally.
        
               | xtian wrote:
               | If you go beyond the level of shouting on a street corner
               | and start building real power, you will be dragged
               | through the mud by the combined force of corporate media
               | smears and social media discourse swarm influence
               | operations. If you go further you will be murdered by the
               | state. Ask Fred Hampton and others.
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | People do, and they fail. Often, bad policies and laws
               | stick around _even when most people don 't like them_. I
               | will live my whole life seeing few or none of those
               | issues solved, no matter what I personally do--that's
               | just a fact. I could, today, devote the rest of my life
               | to this, and if I moved the needle at all on even one of
               | them it'd be a miracle.
               | 
               | We have a uniquely-bad electoral system, which is why so
               | much of this day-to-day stuff ends up so insanely
               | dysfunctional compared to most other developed
               | democracies, and we've had mass-media special interest
               | propaganda running rampant in a way it doesn't elsewhere,
               | since the 80s (loss of the fairness doctrine--which,
               | admitted ickiness aside, did seem to keep things _on the
               | rails_ a bit--and deregulation of media outlet ownership
               | leading to unprecedented, extreme levels of
               | consolidation; hard to tell which of those is most
               | responsible, since they both happened around the same
               | time) and that propaganda 's able to be unusually
               | effective in part because of our bad electoral system.
               | 
               | The result is that as long as factions in favor of these
               | shitty things can stay under one of the two big tents,
               | they get the tacit support of all the rest of the
               | factions under those tents, even if most of them don't
               | like that first group of factions. "Of course civil
               | forfeiture's bullshit, obviously it is... but I can't
               | vote for a pro-choicer/communist/whatever!" et c. (and,
               | yes, the effect is on "both sides"--it's why we hear a
               | ton of noise from "no abortion ever!" and "zero
               | restrictions until the baby takes its first breath!"
               | while the majority of voters, who just want more-or-less
               | what Roe guaranteed, get little attention)
               | 
               | So, our freedom to vote is even, arguably, quite a bit
               | less-free than for a fair proportion of our peers, since
               | our ability, in practice, to express our actual desires
               | through the electoral process is much more curtailed than
               | in most of them--though, obviously, that part doesn't
               | apply to authoritarians states.
        
             | nhchris wrote:
             | You have elections.. but which party can you vote for if
             | you want a stop to Middle East wars?
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | LOL, literally an example I thought of after my post. How
               | much of the population dislikes foreign adventurism?
               | That's a semi-common position _across the aisle_ , among
               | actual voters! Hell, _Trump_ ran on it and it worked for
               | him (once, anyway)! But typically this position has
               | almost zero representation in our legislature, because
               | our electoral system is _really, really bad_.
        
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               | pjc50 wrote:
               | The Iraq war was _overwhelmingly_ popular with the US
               | electorate when it started. It had far more approval than
               | almost any other policy at the time.
        
               | yterdy wrote:
               | The US was overwhelmingly propagandized toward, but all
               | you had to do to find resistance was to open the funny
               | pages:
               | 
               | https://www.gocomics.com/boondocks/2003/01/15
               | https://www.gocomics.com/boondocks/2003/01/09
               | 
               | (I HIGHLY suggest reading at least a few weeks forward,
               | starting from the second link.)
               | 
               | I'm sure Doonesbury got in on it, too. Eventually. After
               | the Napster arc.
        
               | roywiggins wrote:
               | The US did end one foreign war quite recently. It was
               | pretty messy, since it was definitely not a victory, and
               | cratered the president's approval ratings. It turns out
               | there is almost no political constituency for visibly
               | losing a war.
               | 
               | Additionally, the US' kinetic operations in the Middle
               | East have shrunk substantially as the drone strikes have
               | been substantially curtailed, again under the same
               | president that recently extracted the US from a long-
               | running foreign war. He got no credit for that either; it
               | turns out nobody in the US really cares very much, and
               | even the people who generally disapprove of US foreign
               | military involvements don't seem excited to give credit
               | to the current guy.
               | 
               | The US has always ping-ponged between loving foreign wars
               | and hating foreign wars. Not having a reliably anti-war
               | party is not great, but that's at least as much the fault
               | of the voters.
        
               | xtian wrote:
               | They ended the occupation of Afghanistan abruptly in
               | order to redirect resources to a certain other conflict,
               | more critical to US elite interests.
        
               | AnnikaL wrote:
               | Which conflict would that be? I'm not aware of any wars
               | that started in 2020/early 2021, when the US was
               | preparing to withdraw from Afghanistan.
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | It's _possible_ US intelligence agencies were aware
               | Russia was preparing to escalate their invasion of
               | Ukraine in early 2021, so I assume that 's what's being
               | alluded to. Preparations and plans _were_ most likely
               | starting in Russia by then, that 's true (even limited
               | mobilization is a pretty big undertaking--it's hard to
               | hide supply-dump preparation and heavy equipment movement
               | and shifting soldier concentrations). Though IIRC the US
               | government didn't start saying that publicly until late
               | 2021/early 2022.
               | 
               | If they knew about it in late 2020, that info must not
               | have made it to the upper levels of the military, given
               | how much crying and foot-dragging they engaged in when
               | Trump tried for his (IIRC) 90-day withdrawal. One wonders
               | how ready our military actually is if they act like
               | moving low-thousands troops and some equipment _out_ of--
               | not into!--a theater in which we control the airspace,
               | within in a couple months, is a crazy thing to ask of
               | them. It may have been a _bad idea_ to withdraw that
               | fast, sure, but some of their spokespeople they had on
               | the circuits whining about how hard it was weren 't
               | saying it was a bad idea, but that it literally couldn't
               | be done. Sure, Jan. Certainly, if The Shadowy Figures
               | That Control Everything (riffing on the vibe of GP's
               | post) had already decided we needed to shift to Ukraine,
               | that was still a closely-kept secret in late 2020.
               | 
               | And I'm not as sure as GP that Biden's following through
               | on the withdrawal was because of Ukraine, but I'd also
               | not rule it out as extremely-unlikely--the timeline is
               | such that it's possible.
        
               | yterdy wrote:
               | Oh, this one's easy. Trump's withdrawal is as much of a
               | clusterf*ck as Biden's, it sours American appetites for
               | more military adventure, scuttling a Ukraine campaign.
               | 
               | Another fun exercise is to ponder how much - if any -
               | influence Trump's supposed ties with Russia have on these
               | hypotheticals. There was some other issue, recently,
               | whose details have since slipped my mind, that made me
               | think, "Oh, this 100% makes sense if you assume that
               | Trump is being told to do Thing by a party who is trying
               | to weaken America's position ahead of a
               | resumption/escalation of 2014's hostilities." I believe
               | it was something that Democrats uncharacteristically
               | reversed course on, which, again, would lend credence to
               | the notion that this was something of a clandestine
               | pitched battle from the start. I wouldn't rule it out.
               | Not from a Secret Society Ruling The World standpoint,
               | more like Leaders In A Desperate Position Pulling Out All
               | The Stops.
        
               | xtian wrote:
               | https://www.rand.org/pubs/research_briefs/RB10014.html
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | God I love policy-wonk shit. I got to get back into
               | reading this stuff semi-regularly, it's a blast. Thanks
               | for the link.
        
               | xtian wrote:
               | Yeah it's fun to watch it fail as the empire collapses.
        
               | starkd wrote:
               | Remember Code Pink that was so active protesting the Iraq
               | and Afghanistan wars? They are protesting the war in
               | Ukraine, but notice how the media is not giving them
               | hardly any attention now. These grassroots activist
               | movements are just as much provoked into activity as they
               | are genuine organicly driven.
        
             | themitigating wrote:
             | You don't like some park regulation vote for someone who
             | will change it. If no one running is willing to do that
             | then you can run for office. If no one votes for you that
             | sucks.
             | 
             | Democracy isn't about getting what you want. This reminds
             | me of people who say "not my president " or "I didn't vote
             | for that"
        
             | ryanackley wrote:
             | Valid points but a lot of frustrations and injustices you
             | hear about in the USA are told by our own press because
             | freedom of press. We are a very transparent people. This is
             | not the case for other places.
             | 
             | My brother lived and worked in China for many years as a
             | professional photographer and basically made the same
             | points as you when we would ask him about what life is like
             | over there. That was until he fell under suspicion at some
             | point because he was in the wrong place at the wrong time
             | taking pictures. He was under house arrest for over a year.
             | They confiscated his passport but eventually let him leave
             | because of Covid. He had zero due process. It was decided
             | by the local police that he should be under house arrest.
             | My family hired a lawyer but he had to present the lawyer
             | to the police as a "concerned family friend who lives in
             | China".
             | 
             | That anecdote is relatively tame compared to what some
             | people go through in authoritarian countries. If the
             | government targets you in one of those countries, your life
             | is over with near zero chance of getting out of trouble.
        
               | pessimizer wrote:
               | There's no element of this story that couldn't have
               | happened in the US, and no reason presented to believe
               | that your brother wasn't involved in something shady
               | under Chinese law, other than the fact that _the
               | situation was resolved in his favor._
               | 
               | > He had zero due process.
               | 
               | Are you saying that Chinese law wasn't followed?
        
               | foobarian wrote:
               | That might sound worse than US but is it? If the
               | government here targets you, you end up with a felony
               | record and at that point your life is effectively over as
               | well even if you don't go to prison.
        
               | Laaas wrote:
               | What did your embassy in China say? Did they not try to
               | help?
        
               | ryanackley wrote:
               | Yes, they helped us find the "lawyer" and told us based
               | on their experience that it was very likely he would
               | spend time in a Chinese prison regardless of guilt or
               | innocence. He got lucky in one sense because this was
               | right before Covid hit. When everything started going a
               | little crazy over there because Covid was spreading, they
               | decided to let him leave for whatever reason.
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | Sure, I wasn't trying to be all "rah, rah,
               | authoritarianism!" in my post (though several posters
               | seem to have taken it that way, so maybe I wasn't clear
               | enough). My point was more that our notions of freedom
               | can sometimes be rather myopic, and miss the forest for
               | the trees, such that we can become so _un-free_ that even
               | (some!) authoritarian states can feel much freer (until,
               | as you note, you piss off the wrong people, which is
               | obviously a huge problem--or you happen to be of the
               | wrong ethnicity, or wrong religion, et c.--I _am not_
               | trying to defend authoritarianism).
        
               | themitigating wrote:
               | How do authoritarian states feel more free?
               | 
               | They have rules as well. Your list of grievances has some
               | small issuss. Why do you think an authoritarian state
               | would better. For example in Sir Lanka chewing gum is
               | banned. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chewing_gum_sales
               | _ban_in_Sin...
               | 
               | That's a easy one because it's mentioned often but I
               | guess my question is how do you know the US is less free
               | than other countries? What if you are being manipulated
               | to feel anger at the government?
        
               | Laaas wrote:
               | You probably meant to say Singapore.
        
             | vkou wrote:
             | The 2nd will also happily get you killed during a no-knock
             | raid (that, for bonus points, was for the wrong house), or
             | a traffic stop, or a cop hallucinating that he saw you
             | reaching for a nonexistent gun on your waistband.
        
               | yamtaddle wrote:
               | I've, further, got some _strong_ suspicions that a look
               | at history and whatever limited and noisy data are
               | available, is more likely to support the notion that our
               | kind of gun laws are at least as much a _risk_ to the
               | maintenance of liberal democracy, as a protector of it.
               | Yet, that 's a common justification for why we _mustn 't_
               | question the 2nd. AFAIK they've contributed at least as
               | often to imposing oppression as to resisting oppression,
               | on the local scale in the US. Then there's revolutions in
               | other countries, where they seem at least as often to aid
               | overthrowing a democracy as to play a pivotal role in
               | defending it (though, from what I can tell, they hardly
               | matter in either case--foreign aid and gaining the
               | support of elements of the military are usually far, far
               | more effective in actually forcing an outcome).
               | 
               | That's in addition to the hard-to-quantify harm to
               | freedom from having to worry about terrified, trigger-
               | happy cops.
               | 
               | Got half a mind to research it and write a book about
               | whatever I find....
        
             | umvi wrote:
             | America has a lot of quirks and problems, but in not many
             | other countries can you flagrantly criticize/insult the
             | government/leaders/policy without repercussion. USA has
             | arguably the greatest freedom of speech protections on
             | earth which is one liberty that is not worth trading for
             | the freedom to drink wine more easily when picnicking in
             | certain places - hence why people are not flocking to
             | authoritarian states that "feel freer" than USA.
        
               | beepbooptheory wrote:
               | You are so right. In America you can lead protests and
               | bring to light uncomfortable truths about the government
               | and they can't do anything about it. They do tend to find
               | you dead in your car a few months later... but I'm sure
               | that's just a coincidence though. The important thing is
               | that there are laws that are there to protect you, unlike
               | other countries which aren't as free as the USA.
        
               | jmyeet wrote:
               | Go look at the extent of anti-BDS legislation and how
               | appeals courts have upheld it in spite of 40 year old
               | precedents to the contrary then talk about "free speech".
        
               | ceejayoz wrote:
               | > America has a lot of quirks and problems, but in not
               | many other countries can you flagrantly criticize/insult
               | the government/leaders without repercussion.
               | 
               | This is possible in most of the developed world. You
               | don't have to have the peculiarities of the American
               | concept of "freedom" to have this one. Someone in Norway
               | gets to enjoy _both_ healthcare and being able to make
               | mean comments about the Prime Minister.
        
               | umvi wrote:
               | Not so. UK, Germany, and indeed most of the EU have
               | significant speech restrictions accompanied by censorship
               | or jail time if you violate them.
               | 
               | I'm not super familiar with Norway's speech protections,
               | but it has a smaller population than the US state of
               | Maryland, so it seems to be the exception more than the
               | rule or at least not an easily scalable solution to
               | America's problems. Saying "[Insert Scandinavian country
               | proves it's possible]" is like saying "Look at how well
               | Hacker News is moderated! Facebook and Twitter should
               | take notes on how to do it right and fix the moderation
               | issues with their services."
        
               | ceejayoz wrote:
               | They have very _specific_ speech restrictions around
               | things like Holocaust denial, not  "flagrantly
               | criticizing the government". I'll happily give up freedom
               | to publicly be a neo-Nazi if it gives me freedom from
               | "out of network" healthcare bills.
               | 
               | Neither society is 100% free; that's the point, really.
               | The trade-offs like this that the American system has
               | selected seem insane.
        
               | umvi wrote:
               | America is like a union of 50 countries, yet the things
               | you chose to criticize were for the most part not federal
               | level restrictions, but rather cherry-picked quirks of
               | individual states.
               | 
               | > They have very specific speech restrictions around
               | things like Holocaust denial, not "flagrantly criticizing
               | the government".
               | 
               | Germany, maybe. In UK a scottish man was arrested for
               | tweeting "The only good brit soldier is a deed one, burn
               | auld fella, buuuurrn." about the late Tom Moore.
               | Apparently being arrested for offensive tweets is not
               | uncommon in the UK. Lots of arrested around the time of
               | the queen's death for making fun of the monarchy/dead
               | queen.
        
               | ceejayoz wrote:
               | That happens in the US, too.
               | 
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Novak_v._City_of_Parma
               | 
               | > Novak v. City of Parma, No. 21-3290, is a 2022 decision
               | of the United States Court of Appeals for the Sixth
               | Circuit granting qualified immunity to the city of Parma,
               | Ohio, and its officials for prosecuting Anthony Novak
               | over a Facebook page parodying the Parma Police
               | Department's page. As of December 2022, the case is
               | pending certiorari before the Supreme Court of the United
               | States.
               | 
               | > cherry-picked quirks of individual states
               | 
               | Civil forfeiture? Healthcare? Incarceration? Paid leave?
               | These are each widespread _national_ problems in the US.
        
               | polski-g wrote:
               | Germany criminalizes opposition to war:
               | https://www.wsws.org/en/articles/2023/02/01/qqln-f01.html
        
               | ceejayoz wrote:
               | Any reporting on this from a _reputable_ source?
               | 
               | Googling Heinrich Bucker doesn't turn up much other than
               | "World Socialist Web Site", and it appears Germany
               | permits opposition to war just fine;
               | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xa0PevmD6EI
        
               | wonderwonder wrote:
               | Isn't a woman in Norway facing jail time for saying that
               | trans men can't be lesbians? Doesn't sound very much like
               | free speech.
        
               | ceejayoz wrote:
               | No, not that statement on its own, and no one's seen jail
               | time in Norway for hate speech alone. The post
               | specifically targeted an individual for harassment.
               | 
               | And, again, these tend to be matter of perspective;
               | balancing the right of free speech against the right to
               | be free of discrimination. Each country is picking in
               | these scenarios where rights conflict; I tend to prefer
               | Norway's selections.
        
               | teolandon wrote:
               | Not what she said and not the core reason she's being
               | investigated.
        
               | cpurdy wrote:
               | But I heard Alex Jones say something different ...
        
               | kyleblarson wrote:
               | Ten thousand or so Canadians who lost access to their
               | bank accounts for criticizing their government would like
               | to have a chat with you.
        
               | bregma wrote:
               | It was dozens of Canadians, it was a transaction freeze
               | by certain banks for a few days, and it was because there
               | was a suspicion of contributing to terrorist
               | organizations. It was not an action by the government and
               | the freeze was lifted quite quickly once the facts were
               | established.
        
               | katmannthree wrote:
               | > for criticizing their government
               | 
               | No. Here's a protip which applies to every country across
               | the globe: if you're donating money to people doing
               | things your government decided is illegal with the
               | express purpose of enabling continued illegal acts,
               | you're gonna have a bad time.
        
             | ashwagary wrote:
             | >We have elections... but, this article.
             | 
             | >We have elections... but civil forfeiture.
             | 
             | We have elections... but once in a while a shadowy
             | organization within the government assassinates the
             | President if he becomes too much of a threat to the
             | establishment, allegedly.
        
             | AtlasBarfed wrote:
             | "But at least we have the 2nd, to protect our freedom.
             | Seems to be working great. (I actually also think folks
             | here overestimate how hard it is to get guns in some
             | countries with effective gun control--it doesn't have to
             | mean "no guns", and often doesn't)"
             | 
             | We have elections... but everyone is so terrified of the
             | LOLWTF numbers of guns in society that we never leave the
             | house
        
             | curun1r wrote:
             | The other part of authoritarianism that's less popular to
             | talk about is that, in many ways, it works very well. In
             | many parts of the "free" US, you can't leave a visible bag
             | in your vehicle for more than a few minutes because you'll
             | return to a smashed window. In places where that kind of
             | petty crime is dealt with harshly, it's almost non-
             | existent. As trite as it sounds, Mussolini made the trains
             | run on time.
             | 
             | So authoritarianism often gets a lot of the small stuff
             | right at the cost of the big stuff while freedom often
             | means sacrificing a lot of those small things to get the
             | big stuff right. Having a society where you've got the best
             | of both worlds is a really hard balance to strike.
             | 
             | And while it's really easy to say that the big stuff is
             | more important, the subjective feeling of freedom can be
             | more affected by the small stuff because it's much more a
             | part of daily life. I don't need to criticize my government
             | on a daily basis, I only need to do that at critical
             | moments. But I have to park my car multiple times a day,
             | and needing to keep it safe becomes a front-of-mind concern
             | that makes me feel less free.
        
               | cycomanic wrote:
               | > The other part of authoritarianism that's less popular
               | to talk about is that, in many ways, it works very well.
               | In many parts of the "free" US, you can't leave a visible
               | bag in your vehicle for more than a few minutes because
               | you'll return to a smashed window. In places where that
               | kind of petty crime is dealt with harshly, it's almost
               | non-existent. As trite as it sounds, Mussolini made the
               | trains run on time.
               | 
               | Actually that semi quote is typically used in relation to
               | the Spanish civil war and it's an old lady saying "the
               | anarchists were certainly a weird bunch, but they did
               | make the trains run on time).
               | 
               | Also the correlation between harsh punishment and lower
               | crime rates is dubious at best. The US has harsher
               | penalties than most other Western democracies, but higher
               | crime rates. This applies in particular to murder, where
               | the rates are higher despite the death penalty. To add
               | some anecdotal evidence, the only place I was ever
               | pickpocketed was in Shanghai (where punishment is
               | extremely harsh) and I have visited places like Nigeria
               | which has a much less functioning law enforcement system.
        
           | ninjagoo wrote:
           | >> Eastern bloc level authoritarianism
           | 
           | > That is uncalled for, I know a ton of people that grew up
           | in Warsaw Pact countries and they could in fact walk to
           | Babushka's Dumpling Shop and back without getting their
           | parents arrested.
           | 
           | I gently suggest that you might be missing the forest for the
           | trees here. OP is referring to the well documented (Eastern
           | block level authoritarianism) practices of bringing the
           | machinery of the state down on the head of the average
           | citizen for minor infractions (whether or not they are really
           | infractions) with consequences (arrests, professional and
           | social consequences, disappearance, torture, gulags) out of
           | all proportion to the crime (whether or not an actual crime
           | rooted in principles of natural justice is involved).
        
             | Clubber wrote:
             | >practices of bringing the machinery of the state down on
             | the head of the average citizen for minor infractions
             | (whether or not they are really infractions) with
             | consequences (arrests, professional and social
             | consequences, disappearance, torture, gulags) out of all
             | proportion to the crime (whether or not an actual crime
             | rooted in principles of natural justice is involved).
             | 
             | That happens here, it's just not coordinated before the
             | fact. If you piss a policeman off by taking too long to
             | pull over, they will beat you and get away with it. There
             | are many examples of this on YouTube, here is a relatively
             | minor one. This poor woman will be forever traumatized by
             | this event. Those police won't get fired and it's pretty
             | obvious they have some serious anger issues.
             | 
             | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vFupklNSs0
             | 
             | I feel policing and the overall justice system is the
             | single largest threat to our country right now and if it
             | isn't rectified will lead to massive civil unrest. This
             | channel covers a lot of it.
             | 
             | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMCSd9ZNL0nshOhXwtfIJBA
             | 
             | This is a more recent channel that covers quite a bit as
             | well.
             | 
             | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9bMcW0MFzOAgfQ-7et47zw
        
           | ch4s3 wrote:
           | You're leaving out the part where the police got COS involved
           | who then harassed the family for months. As others have
           | mentioned, they'd have no ability to sue for the actions of
           | the officers unless there was existing case law about almost
           | the exact situation. Qualified immunity protects officers who
           | do stupid shit like this.
        
             | thatfrenchguy wrote:
             | I think the main issue in this story is that most Americans
             | wouldn't feel comfortable leaving their kids outside by
             | themselves, even though it's really safe outside. It's a
             | real issue.
        
               | WarOnPrivacy wrote:
               | > I think the main issue in this story is that most
               | Americans wouldn't feel comfortable leaving their kids
               | outside by themselves
               | 
               | Father of 5 here and you are fully correct. Our kids are
               | not meaningfully safer with constant supervision - and by
               | mandating it, we're knee-capping their ability to develop
               | problem solving skills.
        
               | UtopiaPunk wrote:
               | It's silly to pretend that there are no people who might
               | want to do harm to children, but as a father, I'm not
               | really worried about them. I am, however, worried about
               | the police hassling my kids and my family for the reasons
               | presented in the article.
               | 
               | My kids are very very little now, but it's something my
               | partner and I discuss how to handle in the future. We
               | live in a typical suburb now, but we're planning a move
               | to the city for several reasons. Counterintuitively, we
               | think this will provide our children more freedom to
               | grow. Our impression is that police authority goes
               | unchecked in the suburbs, while the city resists police
               | overreach (sometimes).
        
               | matwood wrote:
               | Conversely, some neighbors just moved in from Seattle
               | (I'm in an east coast suburb). They are ecstatic they can
               | just let their kids play outside now. Something they said
               | they couldn't do when living back in the city.
        
               | UtopiaPunk wrote:
               | Hope it works out better for them than the family in the
               | article
        
               | idontpost wrote:
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             | bradleyjg wrote:
             | Qualified immunity does not protect officers, it protects
             | municipalities.
             | 
             | Indemnification protects officers, but no one ever talks
             | about it.
        
               | burkaman wrote:
               | Why do you say this? Qualified immunity explicitly only
               | applies to individuals, not if you're suing the
               | government as a whole.
        
               | bradleyjg wrote:
               | Police officers in the United States are universally
               | indemnified by their employers. There's no constitutional
               | or case law which requires this it's just the rule
               | everywhere.
               | 
               | Indemnification means that their employer (i.e.
               | municipalities) must pay for their legal defense in a
               | civil suit and any judgment that arises under it.
               | 
               | 1983 cases are technically against individuals but not at
               | all in a practical sense.
               | 
               | For some reason activists have zero interest in tackling
               | this issue even though it could be done on a divide and
               | conquer basis and even though it would provide much more
               | deterrence than eliminating QI. I almost suspect the
               | influence of the plaintiffs' bar is at play.
        
               | burkaman wrote:
               | Ok I see what you mean. I think you underestimate how
               | hard this would be though. You'd probably have to
               | basically eliminate police unions somehow.
        
               | technothrasher wrote:
               | I'm still confused on what your saying. If a public
               | official wins a SS 1983 suit under a qualified immunity
               | defense, there are no monetary damages to be indemnified
               | against. Their employers only have to indemnify them if
               | it is found they did _not_ have qualified immunity and
               | then had a judgement against them.
               | 
               | Are you saying that, for practical purposes, qualified
               | immunity doesn't matter to the individual as they will
               | almost always be indemnified anyway? I suppose this is
               | true in a pragmatic way, but not in theory. As you say,
               | there's no law that says the government agency has to
               | indemnify. While I'd be surprised to find a case where
               | the official ended up paying anything out of their own
               | pocket, there are plenty of cases where the official has
               | lost their job over a judgement against them and none
               | that I could find where they won the case due to being
               | covered under qualified immunity but still lost their job
               | over it.
        
               | bradleyjg wrote:
               | _I 'm still confused on what your saying.
               | 
               | ...
               | 
               | Are you saying that, for practical purposes, qualified
               | immunity doesn't matter to the individual as they will
               | almost always be indemnified anyway?_
               | 
               | Yep, except the almost part.
        
               | ch4s3 wrote:
               | Sure I'm glossing over that, but for practical purposes
               | you have no redress because the officers were acting in
               | their official capacity.
        
               | bradleyjg wrote:
               | They key difference here is whether you care more about
               | bad officers facing consequences or the victims getting
               | compensation.
               | 
               | Eliminating qualified immunity only helps with the second
               | part and does zero with respect to the first, but
               | advocates of reform never make that clear.
               | 
               | Even with qualified immunity sometimes victims win
               | judgments. On the other hand indemnification is 100%
               | universal and effective at protecting cops. No cop ever
               | pays anything out of his own pocket, period.
        
               | landemva wrote:
               | Same with judges and court clerks. 'Because government'.
        
               | bradleyjg wrote:
               | They have absolute immunity. That's a separate issue.
        
               | ch4s3 wrote:
               | I have a feeling that if municipalities start having to
               | pay out lots of settlements for civil rights abuses by
               | police, they'll start reconsidering the limits of
               | indemnification.
        
               | bradleyjg wrote:
               | It hasn't happened in practice. NYC's is way up this
               | year, Adams is doubling down on supporting the police.
               | 
               | Instead of hoping for trickle down to work why not attack
               | the problem directly?
        
               | landemva wrote:
               | Practically speaking there is no effective recourse. For
               | things to change, need USSC to remove the qualified
               | immunity doctrine which USSC basically created on their
               | own in 1970s. State law could put in a few fixes, but
               | generally few people are really interested.
               | 
               | A couple years ago BLM had energy yet was distracted and
               | diverted from the enabling problem - USSC qualified
               | immunity.
        
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           | EGreg wrote:
           | Throughout most of the USSR at the time, there was actually
           | comparatively very little violent crime, including child
           | kidnapping. Kids roamed freely.
           | 
           | It is just as well, because USSR preceded USA and Europe by a
           | few decades to have BOTH parents work and thus the _actual_
           | neglect of the kids began. Under socialism this was
           | "emancipation of women" and proceeded also in Muslim
           | countries like Uzbekistan, where women now worked all day in
           | the same professions as men. Socialists were far ahead by
           | decades in this regard.
           | 
           | But of course, this leads to a generation of kids who grow up
           | without any parents most of the time, and raised by the state
           | and the street -- it is also what we have in the USA now too.
           | The only difference is that most people work for large
           | corporations instead of socialist cooperatives or government
           | jobs:
           | 
           | https://magarshak.com/blog/?p=286
        
           | roywiggins wrote:
           | Not obvious to me that they could have sued and won, people
           | sue for much worse things and lose under "qualified
           | immunity." The bar is very high.
        
           | oldsklgdfth wrote:
           | Tangent here. I grew up in Greece. Policing, but the culture
           | of government in general is don't sweat the little things,
           | but you better get the important stuff right.
           | 
           | I went to a hospital and the building looked in rough shape
           | not really clean. The examination room had a leak in the
           | corner. But you bet the doc knew what she was doing, was
           | thorough and sterilized everything. It's not pretty, but gets
           | the job done.
           | 
           | In the 2000s we used to pirate like there was no tomorrow.
           | But cp is taken seriously.
        
         | nosianu wrote:
         | > _This is Eastern bloc level authoritarianism._
         | 
         | I know several other people already commented, but still I want
         | to add my own view because this pains me.
         | 
         | I grew up in the 1970s/80s in an area of two 35 thousand people
         | towns (plus lots and lots of smaller towns and villages - rural
         | but it's still all densely populated).
         | 
         | We had all the freedoms to go anywhere except doing school
         | hours - as long as we didn't drive (pretty far) to the German-
         | German border area. Which I would not even have been able to
         | point out the direction. I was in the forests and out alone ALL
         | THE TIME, and so was everybody else. I also was a "key child",
         | this too was very common, I had a house key and was left alone
         | in our house all afternoon, and again, that was common.
         | 
         | Independence, education, sports - the East did not want to
         | raise feeble people. Daily life was NOT some dystopian thing.
         | Youth life was full of biking around in the afternoons,
         | visiting friends all over the place or into the fields and
         | woods, weekend parties, and we were mostly left alone, by
         | parents too.
         | 
         | When I visited the US for two months, driving around in an old
         | car I had bought (~20 - rental car was too expensive for that
         | long, surcharge for being young too) - and sleeping in it most
         | of the time. My impression afterwards was that the US was quite
         | the police state. Sleeping in the care alone, never mind
         | driving in an old car near the Mexican border once, got me
         | _lots_ of friendly meetings with ne police friends... never had
         | any problems and it was all friendly, with my German passport
         | and my story of driving from New York to Alaska to San Diego to
         | Key West to Washington D.C. and lots of loops for scenery and
         | NPs on the way, but I don 't think I had a SINGLE encounter
         | with East German police in all my life. Okay once, visiting the
         | East Berlin airport, when I was with a friend who looked "non-
         | standard", they only checked his ID and nothing from me.
         | 
         | And when I saw "Employee of the Month" parking at the very
         | first McDonals I drove by in my new (old) car I could not stop
         | laughing. THIS was sooooo East German! And we even had jokes
         | about it, assuming such a thing would _never_ exist in the
         | West! And here I was in the capitalist mother country and saw a
         | key component of  "socialist" worker life.
        
           | COGlory wrote:
           | Just to clarify, I will paste what I wrote above:
           | 
           | >Just to clarify, the analogy I'm drawing is to how beyond
           | reproach authority is to the average citizen, not making any
           | point about whether or not Warsaw Pact children could travel
           | freely.
           | 
           | You could even extend this and say that the level of
           | authoritarianism on display _is what I was told_ Eastern bloc
           | countries were like (and why they were bad).
        
             | bundze wrote:
             | This analogy is a huge hyperbole and the sole number of
             | people addressing that suggests that many people might
             | consider it to be misinformation that should be corrected
             | before it spreads.
             | 
             | Even if you meant authoritarian approach towards citizen in
             | general (not regarding parenting), this is also incorrect.
             | People who stayed out of politics weren't really persecuted
             | here in Poland. Activists, independent journalists and
             | priests were persecuted by the police but ordinary people
             | just went on with their lives (although it is true that the
             | regime used to be very oppresive in the 1940s-50s before
             | Stalin died in 1956).
        
           | vxNsr wrote:
           | As a counter to your story I grew up in the US, in a largish
           | city, my friends and I also had basically total freedom to
           | wander around, we mostly spent time in the nearby
           | parks/playgrounds (of which there were 3), but we had quiet a
           | bit of autonomy.
           | 
           | I'm sure there were children in Moscow, Kyiv or Cracow who
           | had very different experiences from you. Whose parents did
           | something that caught the KGB's attention and then they were
           | in for a world of pain.
           | 
           | I think it's very accurate to say that for most people living
           | in a relatively rural area anywhere in the world, they'll be
           | pretty safe from this sorta attention. The big difference is
           | the degree to which your life is ruined. In China (or USSR)
           | any sort of individual disagreement with the police would
           | virtually guarantee a trip to an undisclosed location, bribes
           | and probably torture. Here in the US you still have to deal
           | with people and their egos but many of the laws will protect
           | you from the worst of other peoples' power trips.
        
           | jmnicolas wrote:
           | I don't think OP referred to authoritarianism about children,
           | but authoritarianism in general.
           | 
           | If you had tried to get over the wall you'd been shot and
           | your family questioned. And they probably would have been
           | suspects for the rest of their life.
           | 
           | I'm pretty sure you can find happy kids in North Korea too,
           | it doesn't mean they're not living in an authoritarian
           | society.
        
             | thwayunion wrote:
             | _> If you had tried to get over the wall you 'd been shot
             | and your family questioned._
             | 
             | Although I agree with aspects o your general point, this is
             | a bad take.
             | 
             | Pretty sure this is also true of the US-Mexico border wall.
             | It's just much longer so it's easier to get away with, but
             | if you tried to cross illegally in front of a law
             | enforcement official and ignored their orders to stop, odds
             | are very good you'd be shot. And your family would
             | definitely be questions during the ensuing investigation.
        
               | LarryMullins wrote:
               | Maybe the Mexican border guards would shoot you for
               | trying to illegally enter their country. But East German
               | border guards were shooting East Germans who were
               | welcomed by West German guards. Pretending that this is a
               | typical state of border affairs is gross revisionism.
        
               | thwayunion wrote:
               | _> Maybe the Mexican border guards_
               | 
               | I think there's a good chance that you'd be shot at by US
               | law enforcement if you tried to make an end-run through a
               | border checkpoint, regardless of which direction you're
               | going. In fact, they might even be more aggressive in the
               | US -> Mexico direction (because follow-and-detain is less
               | of an option and the presumption that anyone heading that
               | direction illegally is either smuggling or evading
               | arrest).
               | 
               |  _> But East German border guards were shooting East
               | Germans who were welcomed by West German guards.
               | Pretending that this is a typical state of border affairs
               | is gross revisionism._
               | 
               | Of course. I think the point still stands.
        
               | ahtihn wrote:
               | > if you tried to cross illegally in front of a law
               | enforcement official and ignored their orders to stop,
               | odds are very good you'd be shot.
               | 
               | How is shooting at someone crossing a border illegally
               | reasonable use of force? It's a nonviolent offense that
               | doesn't harm anyone directly.
        
               | thwayunion wrote:
               | _> How_
               | 
               | By force of law, which is my point :)
        
             | dogleash wrote:
             | > I don't think OP referred to authoritarianism about
             | children, but authoritarianism in general.
             | 
             | Thank you. I can't believe I had to scroll as far as I did
             | to see your comment.
             | 
             | I'm not saying the comparison is or isn't apt, but what a
             | side-track to bother arguing that the policy wasn't 1:1
             | identical.
        
               | mynameisvlad wrote:
               | Who is arguing other than you? What is there to side-
               | track? People are providing their anecdotes about the
               | Eastern bloc and growing up in it, and how it differs
               | from the western stereotype.
               | 
               | A curious mind would encourage learning more about
               | something you likely have had no real world experience
               | with.
        
             | nosianu wrote:
             | OP wrote in response to a very specific incident, and he
             | wrote exactly about that specific incident before he wrote
             | 
             | > This is unacceptable. This is Eastern bloc level
             | authoritarianism. Police are out of control.
             | 
             | So I would say my assumption that he was talking about
             | exactly that incident are quite justified, and this was
             | specifically about children walking around on their own.
             | 
             | I have no idea how in that very specific text and context
             | of OPs comment some general statement about Eastern Bloc
             | authoritarianism can be deduced, or if it can, how it would
             | make any sense to suddenly bring that up in that very
             | specific context, which OPs comment maintains. As far as I
             | can tell it's always within this frame of the story.
             | 
             | I see no reason why my response would not fit perfectly.
             | The Eastern Bloc did _not_ have that problem, it makes no
             | sense to try to reframe it. How does it matter that they
             | (we) had lots of _other_ problems? ones not the subject of
             | the current discussion?
        
         | sasattack wrote:
         | > This is unacceptable. This is Eastern bloc level
         | authoritarianism.
         | 
         | Nope it's just good old fashioned American police state
         | activities. Once again people on this website love this subtle
         | form of American Exceptionalism where they Pretend that America
         | is not the most oppressive and destructive racist country in
         | history.
         | 
         | If you were a A person of color fighting for your rights, a
         | Communist, or any other ideological enemy of the United States
         | you would realize that this activity from the police is nothing
         | more than a generalization of the official policies of police
         | towards "undesirables" in the 20th century.
        
         | confidantlake wrote:
         | My parents are from an eastern block country. This never
         | happened.
        
           | MSFT_Edging wrote:
           | Its like that classic tweet that went something like
           | _American 's seeing something happen that's uniquely
           | American_: "What are we, a bunch of _Asians_?? "
           | 
           | It's amazing how effective propaganda can be.
        
           | COGlory wrote:
           | Again, to clarify, I was not saying children in Eastern bloc
           | countries were arrested for exploring. I was saying that
           | authority was (at least viewed as by Western countries)
           | beyond reproach.
           | 
           | The infuriating thing isn't that the police made mistakes or
           | were jerks. It's that the family can do nothing to achieve
           | justice against the state/the state has no consequences.
        
             | confidantlake wrote:
             | For sure I understand, I was not trying to say you were
             | wrong. My point was in some ways our system is worse than
             | what we consider dystopian authoritarian systems.
        
         | mikrl wrote:
         | >This is Eastern bloc level authoritarianism. Police are out of
         | control
         | 
         | Outside of the Polish martial law I don't think my family ever
         | risked arrest for walking to a cake shop as kids.
         | 
         | Cannot comment on the USSR, but I highly doubt the authorities
         | did that kind of thing either outside of, perhaps, the
         | holodomor.
        
           | COGlory wrote:
           | I was more drawing analogy between how above reproach
           | authority was (or at least how it was portrayed to me) than
           | about whether or not children could freely explore.
        
         | dheera wrote:
         | > It's obvious that Killingly cops are just bored assholes on
         | complete power trips.
         | 
         | Yep. TFA: "that there are registered sex offenders all over
         | town that could take them" -- Police should be arresting the
         | shit out of those criminals, not innocent people.
         | 
         | Congratulations, police, by arresting innocent parents you just
         | traumatized some kids, and if they become criminals because
         | they grew up in foster care missing their actually good
         | parents, you have blood on your hands. (I know they dropped
         | charges, but in the shitty slow legal system we have, it's a
         | real possibility this could have played out differently.)
         | 
         | Fix the town so innocent people can live sane lives in it.
        
           | friend_and_foe wrote:
           | This is a very good point. Our society is more dangerous
           | (giving them the premise, this might not be the case in
           | actuality) _because_ of their ineptitude and corruption.
           | 
           | They asked us to disarm ourselves, they asked us to trust
           | them, to give them the power to police our behavior, then we
           | do and our societies become less safe. Then they use this as
           | a justification to tell us how to raise our kids.
           | 
           | If society is less safe it's their fault. So they either need
           | to fix the problem or go get a job at McDonalds, either way
           | leave me the fuck alone and don't tell me how to raise my
           | kids.
        
         | RGamma wrote:
         | > In general, centralization of power leads to unequal society
         | (*)
         | 
         | (*) when not matched by appropriate safe guards.
        
           | WaxProlix wrote:
           | If it's matched with safeguards that are themselves
           | empowered, then it's not centralization of power.
        
         | droopyEyelids wrote:
         | > In general, centralization of power leads to unequal society.
         | 
         | Your axe grinding doesnt make sense here. Police powers are one
         | of the most federated types of power in the country! And these
         | sound like they were the smallest unit of police, town police.
         | 
         | In fact, its difficult to imagine the more centralized police
         | causing this type of trouble. Can you imagine a state trooper
         | wasting time with this? Or the FBI investigating a child
         | walking alone?
        
           | yamtaddle wrote:
           | France has "federalized" police in most of the country and
           | they don't have this problem. I'm with you, that doesn't seem
           | to be the causal factor.
           | 
           | I don't have great insight into police, but I've had a
           | _little_ into a few county governments and school districts,
           | and the impression I 've gotten is the opposite: the more
           | local interested are insulated from state or federal
           | oversight (de facto, if not de jure) the more wildly-corrupt
           | and tyrannical they get.
        
         | CoastalCoder wrote:
         | > This makes my blood boil. It's obvious that Killingly cops
         | are just bored assholes on complete power trips.
         | 
         | Without talking to them, I'm not sure that's a fair conclusion.
         | 
         | Regardless, IMHO the real culprit is vagueness / ambiguity in
         | the applicable laws. Which means the legislators are at fault.
         | And in a democracy, ultimately the voters.
        
           | colpabar wrote:
           | Bullshit. Police in america are able to exercise discretion,
           | which means they could (and should) have laughed at the order
           | to arrest these parents and not carried it out, or at least
           | just went and talked to them instead. They decided to arrest
           | them instead, in all likelihood because it makes them feel
           | powerful.
           | 
           | How can you seriously think this is anyone's fault but the
           | cops? Blaming politicians is one thing and they absolutely
           | are to blame for a lot of our policing problems, but blaming
           | "voters" for cops being assholes is just ridiculous.
        
             | DrThunder wrote:
             | It's not an either or bud, it's both. IF you are allowing
             | laws in place that these police officers are able to use as
             | justification then your government is just as at fault as
             | the officers. It's pure idiocy not to blame both. Where do
             | you think the officers get their power from? It's like
             | you're failing to reach the logical conclusion and blunting
             | your own thought process because you hate cops.
             | 
             | Cops AND the government giving them the power to do stuff
             | like this are both to blame.
        
               | colpabar wrote:
               | I'm not your bud, guy.
        
               | DrThunder wrote:
               | Oh ok, that upset you but yelling bullshit in your
               | comments with no objective data to back your statements
               | up is fine? You need to chill. Maybe use your anger vote
               | in someone who doesn't allow your police officers to act
               | this way?
        
               | wonderwonder wrote:
               | The laws don't actually have to exist. Cops can arrest
               | you if they just say they thought it was the law and that
               | the believed they had the right to enforce it. They can
               | totally make it up. So while you may not be convicted of
               | violating a made up law you still have to deal with all
               | the consequences of the arrest. No ramifications for the
               | cops at all. They have virtually unlimited power.
        
               | DrThunder wrote:
               | They don't hold up in court if that's the case and they
               | get sued out of existence or imprisoned in many cases.
               | This is just a flat out false assumption especially in
               | today's climate.
               | 
               | The city government can remove powers from these officers
               | as well. The legislative branch is responsible for
               | writing laws in a way that don't allow the executive
               | branch (leo's) that much leeway. They are just as at
               | fault for letting this exist. YOU are electing the wrong
               | people to your local government office if officer's are
               | able to function that far outside of the law with no
               | repercussions.
               | 
               | I think you'd have a pretty hard case arguing that police
               | officer's are just getting away with acting outside the
               | law over the past couple years.
        
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           | kelipso wrote:
           | Saying vote better is the I will pray that things get better
           | of our times.
        
             | CoastalCoder wrote:
             | > Saying vote better is the I will pray that things get
             | better of our times.
             | 
             | Please see my other comments about there being _two_
             | necessary conditions for this arrest to have occurred.
        
           | spamizbad wrote:
           | You're getting downvoted but what you're saying is kinda
           | true. What typically spurned these laws was an actual
           | tragedy: a parent had their child run to the store to buy
           | something, child was abducted, family was devastated, and
           | then worked to pass some law that makes it illegal for
           | children under a certain age to be unaccompanied by an adult.
           | Well-meaning but ultimately way too restrictive: what
           | happened to their child was a freak tragedy, not a common
           | occurrence.
           | 
           | Personally, as a parent, I hate these laws. I want my son to
           | be able to explore the neighborhood, have fun, do outside
           | chores etc without myself or my wife monitoring him. Imo
           | forcing parents to be glued to their kids 24/7 makes life
           | more stressful for everyone.
        
             | epistemer wrote:
             | There is no going back though. No politician is going to
             | risk repealing this type of law and then have their career
             | destroyed when a single crime happens against a kid that
             | this law would have "prevented".
             | 
             | People bashing the cops for this is bullshit too. The cops
             | are the bad guys either way. They enforce the law and they
             | are the bad guys. Something happens to a kid with this law
             | in place and then they are also the bad guy for not doing
             | their job.
             | 
             | The solution to all this is simply to not have children. It
             | is just another of the near daily reminders of how great it
             | is to be child free.
        
             | avisser wrote:
             | Bad laws notwithstanding, I think GP getting downvoted for
             | giving police the benefit of the doubt. In today's America,
             | I think it's fair to be a skeptic first when it comes to
             | the cops.
        
               | andrew_ wrote:
               | Skeptic yes, but OP passed hard judgement. If OP would
               | have speculated or suggested a possible cause, that would
               | be healthy skepticism. OP is dripping with bias and
               | preconceived notion.
        
               | CoastalCoder wrote:
               | > I think GP getting downvoted for giving police the
               | benefit of the doubt.
               | 
               | FWIW, I'm not giving anyone the benefit of the doubt. I'm
               | simply withholding judgment, which (hopefully) is more
               | neutral.
        
           | ShrimpHawk wrote:
           | The police (executive branch) are the ones who decide what
           | and how to enforce as evidence by the fact they dropped the
           | charges. We live in a very vague world and have to use our
           | own judgement on things as laws cannot contain the full
           | context necessary to make those judgements. Do you truly
           | expect an elected official from a city across the state or
           | across the country to understand the relationship between you
           | and your neighbors or the structure of your town? If there is
           | truly so much crime that it is unsafe for children to walk to
           | a store unsupervised than that points more at a failing of
           | the police but we know that police do not prevent crime[1].
           | 
           | https://www.npr.org/sections/money/2021/04/20/988769793/when.
           | ..
        
             | CoastalCoder wrote:
             | > The police (executive branch) are the ones who decide
             | what and how to enforce as evidence by the fact they
             | dropped the charges. We live in a very vague world and have
             | to use our own judgement on things as laws cannot contain
             | the full context necessary to make those judgements.
             | 
             | I have two counterpoints.
             | 
             | 1) We haven't heard the police officer's side of things.
             | All we're going on is _one_ news story, which didn 't even
             | interview them. So we simply have no idea what additional
             | factors they may have considered. I think it's
             | irresponsible to pass judgment on them until getting more
             | info.
             | 
             | 2) I agree that laws need to be written with some
             | discretion left to the judiciary. However, there's been
             | enough media coverage on this general topic over the years,
             | that Connecticut voters _have_ had a chance to refine the
             | laws. E.g., to modify the laws to clarify that kids are
             | permitted to roam free in public places. But they didn 't.
        
             | landemva wrote:
             | > they [police] dropped the charges.
             | 
             | Are you sure the police dropped the charges? Usually
             | criminal charges are brought by a prosecuting attorney, not
             | police.
        
           | jacquesm wrote:
           | Sorry, but no. Common sense is enough to realize that this is
           | a ridiculous situation, no matter what the law says. You
           | can't lay the acts of specific police officers at the door of
           | legislators and voters. And if their concerns were real
           | rather than just a pretext for a powertrip they'd keep an eye
           | out instead of making it impossible for children to lead a
           | normal life.
        
             | CoastalCoder wrote:
             | > You can't lay the acts of specific police officers at the
             | door of legislators and voters.
             | 
             | I'm not. In this situation, there were (at least) _two_
             | necessary conditions for the arrest to happen:
             | 
             | (1) The law was written in a way that led the police to
             | believe a crime had occurred.
             | 
             | (2) The police _chose_ to perform the arrest.
             | 
             | If _either_ of those conditions weren 't true, then I don't
             | think this incident would have happened.
             | 
             | It's entirely possible that the police exercised lousy
             | judgment in this case. I'm simply reserving judgment until
             | I hear their side of the story.
             | 
             | I brought up (2) for several reasons. First, I think it's
             | BS to create politically sticky situations for police, and
             | then skapegoat them things turn out badly. (Imagine the
             | news coverage if they _didn 't_ arrest the parents in a
             | situation like this, and then the kids were abducted.)
             | Second, I don't see how, in a democratic form of
             | government, citizens can avoid responsibility for the state
             | of their laws. If the laws are outside their control, it's
             | not a democracy.
        
               | jjk166 wrote:
               | > (1) The law was written in a way that led the police to
               | believe a crime had occurred.
               | 
               | The fact that charges were never brought means that the
               | law very likely wasn't written in a way that a reasonable
               | person would believe a crime had occurred. Certainly the
               | DA's office did not believe a crime worth indicting had
               | occurred.
        
               | jacquesm wrote:
               | Again. No. Police officers have their own brains and make
               | their own decisions on a case-by-case basis, not every
               | weird interpretation of a law needs to lead to an arrest.
               | 
               | 'Imagine' is a nice pre-amble to a strawman: that didn't
               | happen.
               | 
               | What did happen is ridiculous, and regardless of the
               | citizens having a very indirect say in the laws that get
               | made to make them first cause rather than the police
               | officers (and their immediate superiors) is - frankly -
               | ridiculous.
               | 
               | I really wonder why you would bend over backwards to find
               | excuses for something like this, it doesn't pass the
               | beginnings of a common sense test. Having your parents
               | arrested because you're walking on the streets as a child
               | makes zero sense, no matter what the law says and no
               | police officer with half a brain should make that arrest.
               | Arrests are for criminals, worst case if they really
               | wanted to test the law they could have simply cited the
               | parents and then they'd have their day in court, this is
               | simply a power play of the very worst kind.
               | 
               | Oh, and it is 'scapegoat'.
        
           | thebooktocome wrote:
           | Police still have very broad discretion in what laws they
           | enforce.
        
         | luxuryballs wrote:
         | They should hang in the public square on the very next Sunday,
         | it's the only thing that will truly change anything at this
         | point. You might think this is extreme but I welcome you to
         | come back in 5-10 years and read it again and see what you
         | think.
        
         | mindslight wrote:
         | It's even worse when you think about just how many Dunkin'
         | Donuts there are. It's likely the kids didn't even have to
         | cross a major intersection.
         | 
         | I wholeheartedly agree that the fundamental issue is the
         | complete lack of judicial accountability. These people are
         | getting paid a salary while they harass you, clock out at 5,
         | and their morning routine is to get right back at it. Meanwhile
         | your entire life is personally disrupted due to their power
         | trip and/or malicious mistake, and the best case you can hope
         | for is to be able to walk away?
         | 
         | Whether or not these officers' actions were in line with
         | official department policy, there should be automatic
         | compensation to the victims for their arrest and imprisonment,
         | emotional distress, hiring attorneys and other expenses
         | incurred. And if these officers' actions were not in line with
         | written department policy, then they need to be treated as
         | private citizens harassing people under the color of law, and
         | be held personally criminally liable for the false
         | imprisonment, etc.
        
           | ceejayoz wrote:
           | > And if these officers' actions were not in line with
           | written department policy, then they need to be treated as
           | private citizens harassing people under the color of law, and
           | be held personally criminally liable for the false
           | imprisonment, etc.
           | 
           | Have to get rid of qualified immunity first, which we
           | invented (in a total coincidence) at the same time cops
           | really wanted to be thumping civil rights protesters without
           | consequencews.
           | 
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pierson_v._Ray
        
             | overrun11 wrote:
             | Qualified immunity pertains to civil liability and
             | therefore wouldn't be relevant to the parent comment's
             | suggestion.
        
               | ceejayoz wrote:
               | Qualified immunity prevents civil recourse when police,
               | their unions, and friendly/reliant prosecutors
               | successfully prevent criminal liability from being an
               | option (https://www.washingtonpost.com/crime-
               | law/2020/05/29/charging...).
        
             | mindslight wrote:
             | I agree that qualified immunity is a harmful and bogus
             | precedent that needs to be eliminated. But my point is that
             | if they are acting outside written department policy, then
             | they're no longer acting as an agent of the state in the
             | first place. Like when a cop beats their spouse, they can't
             | claim qualified immunity as if it were part of their
             | policing duties. The same standard should apply during
             | daylight hours when they depart from the mandate of their
             | employment.
        
               | ceejayoz wrote:
               | > But my point is that if they are acting outside written
               | department policy, then they're no longer acting as an
               | agent of the state in the first place.
               | 
               | That's not how the courts have treated it.
               | 
               | https://www.npr.org/2021/10/18/1047085626/supreme-court-
               | poli...
               | 
               | > In practice, the doctrine has shielded officers from
               | liability in hundreds of civil cases, even when accused
               | of destroying property, killing innocent people they
               | mistook for suspects or stealing thousands of dollars.
               | 
               | (I would presume stealing thousands of dollars is
               | forbidden by most department policies.)
        
               | mindslight wrote:
               | I responded in the qualified immunity context, but
               | qualified immunity is actually somewhat of a red herring.
               | It certainly does need to be eliminated, but it is not
               | the main problem. In fact the focus on it smells a bit
               | like the common pattern of hoping that occasional extreme
               | penalties on individuals will reform a situation that has
               | poor diffuse incentives.
               | 
               | The main problem is extending blanket _sovereign
               | immunity_ to these actions /positions in the first place.
               | Let's say someone is arrested, even on a good faith
               | suspicion of a bona fide crime, and is then later
               | acquitted or the charges are dropped. From the victim's
               | perspective, what has actually taken place is a
               | kidnapping and false imprisonment. But the current
               | framework just writes off what happened to them as
               | collateral damage, leaving the unlucky individual to bear
               | it themselves. But really they've suffered an
               | _externality_ of policing which they should be reimbursed
               | for. The damages should be rolled into the overall police
               | budget so that it reflects the true cost of the police
               | department.
               | 
               | Right now these externalities are being covered by a
               | perverse reverse lottery of unlucky citizens, which is
               | not right. Reform this perverse incentive and correctly
               | attribute blame (economic blame, at least), and many
               | resulting incentives will fall out from that.
        
           | briffle wrote:
           | > It's even worse when you think about just how many Dunkin'
           | Donuts there are. It's likely the kids didn't even have to
           | cross a major intersection.
           | 
           | Interesting how that works. My state has zero dunkin donuts.
           | But I live 3 miles from downtown, and pass 5 starbucks, 4
           | dutch brothers, and a few other independant coffee shops :)
           | but sadly, only one donut shop
        
           | spywaregorilla wrote:
           | > It's even worse when you think about just how many Dunkin'
           | Donuts there are. It's likely the kids didn't even have to
           | cross a major intersection.
           | 
           | Maybe in Boston. They're not THAT common in CT and other
           | states.
        
             | ziml77 wrote:
             | Connecticut has approximately the same number of Dunkins by
             | land area as Massachussetts.
        
               | cpurdy wrote:
               | Yes, but less of an obnoxious accent
               | 
               | (I live in Boston. The accent is crazy.)
        
               | denton-scratch wrote:
               | It is a strange accent! (Brit here). Bawston?
        
           | COGlory wrote:
           | I don't know which Dunkin they were going to, but the Dunkin
           | I've been to the most in Killingly was near a major
           | intersection. Depending on what side, they may not have had
           | to cross one.
           | 
           | Growing up, I was allowed to freely travel within my
           | neighborhood, but not cross the main roads. There was a
           | Dunkin I could safely get to without crossing any big
           | streets.
        
         | _a_a_a_ wrote:
         | Christ, calm down a bit. Stupid shit happens, but the article
         | not about that - they stimulus'd and you response'd exactly as
         | intended. Get some insight into them and yourself or you're
         | going to be easily manipulable forever.
        
         | ajross wrote:
         | > This makes my blood boil.
         | 
         | It's supposed to. This is Reason's schtick, publishing click
         | magnets about terrible overreach by our evil Big Government
         | Overlords, and you need to give this publication a ton of salt
         | if you read it.
         | 
         | Like start out by noticing that this isn't journalism. It's
         | written by Lenore Skenazy "president of Let Grow, a nonprofit
         | promoting childhood independence and resilience, and founder of
         | the Free-Range Kids movement." Quite literally this is an
         | evangelism and fundraising piece by a charity that benefits
         | from exactly the outrage it's trying to drive.
         | 
         | If the guy was arrested, where's a link to the records? Where
         | are the statements from police? This apparently happened four
         | years ago. Where's the contemporary coverage? Why does a Google
         | search for "Killingly CT parent arrested 2019" return a bunch
         | of SEO cross links to the same story by the same person?
         | 
         | I'm not saying this is wrong. I'm saying we need to be a little
         | more careful with what we get upset about.
        
           | tomcam wrote:
           | Mostly good points, but would you point me to a major
           | publication that links to arrest records when an arrest is
           | mentioned?
        
             | juve1996 wrote:
             | Plenty would if it supports the narrative.
        
             | ajross wrote:
             | Virtually all of them? Here's the Times covering SBF's
             | arrest: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/12/12/business/ftx-
             | sam-bankman-...
             | 
             | Note all the quotes from law enforcement and details about
             | the event.
        
               | tomcam wrote:
               | I was probably taking you too literally. I thought you
               | were talking about links to arrest records, which I
               | pretty much never see. I may be not looking closely
               | enough for those links.
        
               | ajross wrote:
               | Right, just verification is all that's needed. "Killingly
               | police records confirm Rivers was arrested on January
               | 77th" or whatever. Or maybe "Killingly police confirm
               | Rivers was detained briefly, but note that he was never
               | arrested". Anything like that would be great. Even
               | "Reached for comment, Killingly police were unable to
               | confirm Rivers' arrest, but would not deny the arrest
               | occurred" would at least be something.
               | 
               | But failing to even get that far tells me that either the
               | author doesn't care about whether this is true (not
               | unlikely given her day job), or that they're deliberately
               | hiding something (maybe "Killingly police deny the arrest
               | and have no record of the interaction with Rivers").
        
             | kritiko wrote:
             | Most major publications would at least pursue statements
             | from the police & child protective services about their
             | side of the story.
        
           | ch4s3 wrote:
           | Oh please. They publish a lot of journalism and have been
           | covering police abuse for decades including work by Radley
           | Balko back in 2017 when no one cared. Senior editor Jacob
           | Sullum has won awards for his journalism on drug policy.
           | Elizabeth Nolan Brown does great investigative work around
           | sex workers. It isn't a click bait farm, even if YOU disagree
           | with their politics.
        
             | ajross wrote:
             | That may all be true, but it remains the case that _every
             | time_ I see a Reason link being thrown around it 's one of
             | these kinda suspect things. You know this is a junk piece.
             | They ran it anyway. Again: how much work does it take to
             | assign a journalist and call the police department to
             | verify the arrest records?
        
               | noisy_boy wrote:
               | I didn't believe you (because my blood boiled too) but
               | then I decided to search for this story in Google
               | (without using names but just the incident and location)
               | and didn't find any reputed news organization reporting
               | it, which admittedly surprised me. I found a similar case
               | where parents got in trouble for letting kids walk around
               | alone[0], but not this case (and considering the
               | specifics here are bound to touch the nerves of parents
               | and practically guarantee viewership, I would think that
               | it would be pretty attractive piece to print for them
               | assuming it was found to be genuine).
               | 
               | Not trying to agree/disagree but just sharing what I
               | noticed.
               | 
               | [0]: https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/free-
               | range-pa...
        
               | CogitoCogito wrote:
               | The fact that you couldn't find it reported in another
               | "reputed news organization" doesn't mean it didn't
               | happen. News organizations only have limited bandwidth
               | and the extreme power that police and CPS has in these
               | kinds of situations isn't exactly a secret nationally.
               | Maybe the reputed news organizations simply don't
               | consider it news? Or maybe the organizations aren't as
               | reputed as you believe? There are many explanations for
               | the lack of corroborating reporting here that don't imply
               | the original story isn't true.
        
               | ajross wrote:
               | > The fact that you couldn't find it reported in another
               | "reputed news organization" doesn't mean it didn't
               | happen.
               | 
               | But that's not the standard for good journalism! You
               | appear to be saying we should _believe_ this story in
               | Reason despite the long delay from the events,
               | uncorroborated evidence, and clear bias of the author...
               | because we can 't prove it's false?
               | 
               | No, that's wrong. The correct way to interpret the data
               | is that this is a suspect piece of writing that someone
               | should try to verify before trusting.
        
               | CogitoCogito wrote:
               | > But that's not the standard for good journalism! You
               | appear to be saying we should believe this story in
               | Reason despite the long delay from the events,
               | uncorroborated evidence, and clear bias of the author...
               | because we can't prove it's false?
               | 
               | I never said that.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | noisy_boy wrote:
               | Maybe - however, we are expected to do our own due
               | diligence for trustworthiness of news and considering
               | that we have limited time and resources at our disposal,
               | one has to set some sort of an approach to do so - in my
               | case, reputed news organisation it is (and people are
               | free to disagree with that approach).
               | 
               | Using this approach doesn't mean that whatever doesn't
               | get printed in NYT or WaPo or doesn't get covered on CNN
               | didn't happen but considering police overreach is a hot
               | topic in recent times with prevalent extensive coverage,
               | it is possible but not probable that something like this
               | (involving kids, which makes it a more "newsworthy"
               | story) hasn't been reported, in any of the major news
               | outlets, just because of undue influence of Police/CPS.
        
               | ch4s3 wrote:
               | I can't really speak to this article, and as they've
               | changed the family's name(s) for privacy reasons it's
               | hard to fact check, but other stuff published by Lenore
               | Skenazy about similar cases seems more readily
               | verifiable. That said I don't really pay much attention
               | to this type of story so I'm not well versed on the issue
               | or who is credible in reporting on it. But for issues I
               | do follow, I usually find their reporting to be
               | excellent.
        
             | jghn wrote:
             | > for decades
             | 
             | At some point they went deep Tea Party/MAGA type, but seem
             | to have come back to their roots over the last few years.
             | However the commenters are consistently still MAGA types.
        
               | ch4s3 wrote:
               | When were they ever publishing MAGA content? Yeah, the
               | comments have always been trash and they openly joke
               | about it.
        
           | shrikant wrote:
           | Unsure why you've been downvoted.
           | 
           | I haven't been able to find any reporting about this story[0]
           | till this Reason piece, so I'd be curious to understand their
           | journalistic process in putting this together.
           | 
           | [0] https://www.google.com/search?q=Killingly+parent+arrested
           | +20...
           | 
           |  _Edited to remove flamebait swipe at Reason_ -- I 'm better
           | than that. For now.
        
           | COGlory wrote:
           | These are all good points, but I spent many years living in
           | the town in question, so I am perhaps already biased.
        
         | pjc50 wrote:
         | > It's obvious that Killingly cops are just bored assholes on
         | complete power trips
         | 
         | I thought this was going to be about various killings by cops,
         | but it turns out to be a place name.
         | 
         | Anyway, this is the hugely attenuated white version of what
         | confrontational policing gives America. I suspect if you went
         | looking for anecdotes involving black children you might find
         | far worse outcomes. Nobody in this story spent even a whole
         | night in jail! Nobody was injured! Nobody had to pay bail fees!
         | No property damage by police! They didn't even shoot the dog.
        
           | COGlory wrote:
           | >Anyway, this is the hugely attenuated white version of what
           | confrontational policing gives America.
           | 
           | I mean, I'm not a huge fan of that stuff either, but I lived
           | in Killingly for a number of years, so perhaps this one
           | caught my attention for that reason?
        
       | Waterluvian wrote:
       | America needs a party representing the public interest of
       | ensuring small government.
       | 
       | Stop centralizing parental authority.
        
       | srj wrote:
       | I used to walk or ride my bike to Dunkin Donuts at that age and
       | it's likely farther than the one in this story. I imagine the
       | officers are DCF workers will bear no accountability for this.
        
       | mdp2021 wrote:
       | "Your job is to keep streets safe, you claim to be unable to, and
       | your idea is to lock people out of danger".
        
       | francisofascii wrote:
       | If you ever had to volunteer at a school, and have to go through
       | all the trainings, you can see how this nonsense can happen. The
       | message is when you see something even remotely suspicious,
       | report it. And all reports have to be followed up on. Because God
       | forbid something bad happens to a kid, you will be blamed for not
       | reporting or following up on something.
        
       | mjw_byrne wrote:
       | "If she talks to me again, I'm going to arrest you both and take
       | away your kids"
       | 
       | That part, at least, sounds like a power trip to me.
        
       | ianmcgowan wrote:
       | There's a lot of criticism in this post of CPS (not just in the
       | US), with comments like "they do more harm than good", etc.
       | 
       | As someone who was fostered and ultimately adopted, I want to
       | reject the characterization that CPS is a useless organization -
       | they are typically made up of underpaid people who genuinely care
       | about the welfare of children.
       | 
       | Before dismissing them think about what kind of organization
       | would you create to handle the distressingly common scenario of a
       | drunk/drugged parent doing terrible things to themselves and
       | their children in the middle of the night. CPS shows up in this
       | case and takes care of the children. That is a routine event that
       | doesn't make the news, it probably happened in your city last
       | night. An insane response like TFA describes cannot be defended,
       | but that is not the typical case at all.
        
       | tflinton wrote:
       | The amount of power CPS has in our state is somewhat
       | unbelievable. A friend documented on instagram how during an
       | X-ray of their daughters arm (as she had complained about a dull
       | pain) that they found that she had at one point fractured it. She
       | was 4 when she finally verbalized the discomfort but the injury
       | was probably when she was 2. Her parents explained they didn't
       | know how it happened and like most parents of 2 years old know
       | it's sometimes impossible to know why your child is upset unless
       | you see them injured.
       | 
       | CPS came later that evening and took both of their kids. The
       | parents being Mormon had no drug or substance abuse issues, but
       | her mom mentioned she was on antidepressants and the state
       | decided to put them into a 1-year foster care for both of their
       | kids until she an complete a mandated psych review.
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | dsfyu404ed wrote:
       | You know where this problem is? In the mirror.
       | 
       | The kind of people who think it's reasonable to call the cops
       | over a nothing-burger like this are simply a part the extremist
       | long tail that is a product of middle/upper middle class culture
       | that condones and encourages bucking everything to some external
       | party whenever possible. When you exist in a bubble where
       | everyone is patting each other on the back for calling the city
       | over disputes that should at least be initially handled between
       | neighbors, reporting petty business disputes to the state AG,
       | calling a plumber to replace a toilet flapper, getting engineered
       | drawings for a garden shed, etc, etc, it should come as no
       | surprise that some people take this sort of responsibility to
       | think for yourself outsourcing too far and call the cops on some
       | kids walking down the street.
       | 
       | Of course dispatch and the police were behaving like idiots here
       | too but they are clearly serving a community where responding to
       | frivolous calls like this is the norm because if this one case
       | was so outside of their normal purview it wouldn't have been
       | handled the way it was.
       | 
       | And the DCF part, well that fact pattern just looks like a boring
       | old case of bureaucratic incentives and ass covering. They were
       | fishing for something to make the rest of the fact pattern look
       | less unreasonable. And then when they found it they jumped right
       | to some sort of remediable action so they could say "there, we
       | did something, case closed".
        
       | nashashmi wrote:
       | > The DCF caseworker visited the family twice and interviewed
       | everyone about their complete history.
       | 
       | > "She was looking for problems," says Rivers.
        
       | Overtonwindow wrote:
       | When I was six years old, my best friend and I rode our bicycle 2
       | miles to RadioShack. On the way back, his grandmother found us
       | and said go home! So we did. No one got arrested.
       | 
       | Your parents should start suing. The people who are reporting
       | this kind of crap. Custodial interference, I don't know I'm not a
       | lawyer, but maybe a lawsuit will teach people to mind their own
       | business.
        
       | preinheimer wrote:
       | In Canada we had something of a long running case against a
       | father who let his kids ride the bus on their own:
       | https://globalnews.ca/video/7151336/court-rules-against-b-c-...
       | 
       | People used to talk about "The Popsicle Index"[1] which is the
       | percentage of families in an area comfortable with letting an
       | elementary school aged child walk to the nearest store and buy a
       | popsicle on their own. These days parents don't get to make that
       | decision, the entire community makes it for them. Any dissenting
       | opinion can result in losing your kids.
       | 
       | [1] https://home.solari.com/the-popsicle-index/
        
       | exabrial wrote:
       | This just sounds like taxes are way too high in that area. Cut
       | them by 75% and we'll see if the government has anything stupid
       | to do after that.
        
         | pjc50 wrote:
         | "Defund the police"?
        
           | exabrial wrote:
           | Defund the everything.
        
       | lumb63 wrote:
       | I grew up in Connecticut. Killingly is not an unsafe area by any
       | stretch of the imagination. It's quaint by all my measures.
       | 
       | This is absurd. I'd have been very quick to retort to the
       | officers, upon being informed that there were sex offenders all
       | throughout the neighborhood, that it was their job to fix that
       | and they failed.
        
         | throwawaysleep wrote:
         | Police have no power to put convicted sex offenders back in
         | jail.
         | 
         | > Indeed, they pressed the Rivers to search the sex offender
         | registry to learn which of their neighbors were on it.
        
       | libpcap wrote:
       | Meanwhile in Japan...
        
       | GaryNumanVevo wrote:
       | Literal police state. My elderly parents recently had police in
       | their upper middle class neighborhood start POUNDING on their
       | door at 3am. What was the cause? Had they caught someone breaking
       | into their house? Was their house on fire? No.
       | 
       | They had left their garage door open over night, and the "kind"
       | police officers decided to nearly give my father a heart attack
       | to let him know that leaving open your garage door could draw in
       | a "criminal element"
       | 
       | I don't want to live anywhere where police can feel "empowered"
       | to terrorize regular people because of "crime" that may or may
       | not be happening.
        
       | MarkusWandel wrote:
       | These aren't real numbers. But as someone over a certain age, I
       | always say that during my childhood, you had about a 99.99 chance
       | of surviving it to adulthood (discounting unpreventable causes
       | such as inherited defects). And I know of at least one child who
       | did perish in an incident which back then was a mere tragedy, but
       | might today be considered criminal negligence (lack of
       | supervision) by adults.
       | 
       | I believe that today's society, at least in North America, has
       | added at least one nine to this statistic. Wonderful! For every
       | 100,000 kids born, nine deaths prevented. That's a measurable
       | success. But the reduction in "childhood experience" - the free
       | roaming - for example, when as kids we received - and this dates
       | me - our first 3-channel CB walkie talkies, with all their
       | glorious 100mW of transmit power, 3 channel switch but only one
       | set of crystals installed (channel 14) - it was completely
       | natural that we'd fan out all over the countryside, testing the
       | range - including a relay on a hilltop when we found that
       | schoolmates had compatible walkie-talkies too.
       | 
       | But more seriously. Kids that can socialize unsupervised learn by
       | experience how social structures are established, how to act
       | responsibly and the consequences of not doing so and so forth,
       | and also that the majority of people are good, nice folks who'll
       | let you use your phone or have a glass of water or whatever. Now,
       | instead, it's drilled into them that the world is a bad place and
       | safety is at home with your gadgets.
        
       | air7 wrote:
       | Whenever I hear a story about a police encounter that went sour
       | (which is often) I have to remind myself that this is probably
       | pure sensationalism.
       | 
       | In the US about 30 million adults have a police initialed
       | encounter per year[1]. It seems obvious to me that the vast, vast
       | majority of these encounters end in the way common-sense would
       | dictate, and that only very few have the shocking, blood-boiling
       | finale that can make you angry enough to demand reform. But
       | equally obvious is that these are the exact stories that are
       | attention grabbing and therefor news worthy (at least in the
       | click-through sense). I remind myself of this prevalence
       | perception skewing effect that the news has whenever I read it
       | and I try to actively resist it.
       | 
       | This reminds me of an 20yo comedy skit (that probably wouldn't be
       | made today) by Chris Rock called "How not to get your ass kicked
       | by the police!" which seems to say the same thing. [2]
       | 
       | Of course I might be mistaken. I wonder if people here have data
       | to prove otherwise?
       | 
       | ---
       | 
       | [1] https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/cbpp18st.pdf [2]
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uj0mtxXEGE8
        
         | orf wrote:
         | 15% of the population having a police initiated encounter per
         | year is ridiculously high.
        
       | zebnyc wrote:
       | As a parent, I feel for them and this is definitely a situation
       | where cops overstepped their bounds.
       | 
       | To play devil's advocate: I am wondering if we have created a
       | system where the cost of being wrong is too high. Imagine what
       | would happen if the police didn't investigate and something had
       | gone wrong? Or look at Gabby Petito's parents who are trying to
       | sue the Moab police.
        
         | tflinton wrote:
         | Yeah, I do think we've overstepped on what we expect police to
         | do for us. It might also correlate with the seemingly endless
         | stories of police overstep and abuse.
        
       | 93po wrote:
       | Another great example of why you should never talk to the police.
       | They would have been fine if they just didn't talk to them.
        
       | freedude wrote:
       | It reminded me of when I was about 9 my younger brother and I
       | were allowed to ride our bikes from our house 3.5 miles to the
       | corner store, crossing under the freeway. We went many times
       | during the summer. For several years. We read comic books, bought
       | candy and soda pop and had a great time.
       | 
       | My folks were are conservative and taught us the value of hard
       | work. I did plenty of it growing up. It is how we had the money
       | for the comic books and junk food. During that time period I also
       | remember hearing of someone who was murdered and the body was
       | dumped in a ditch on a road about a mile away as the crow flies.
       | There were rapists nearby and children stolen only a few miles
       | away in the next town. I am sure my mom was worried and perhaps
       | my dad too. I remember my dad looking at my little brother once
       | and asking him what do you do if someone tries to take you? He
       | said, "I fight and scream as loud as I can!" He would do it too.
       | He was a scrapper. There is a reason my dad asked him and not me.
       | He knew the response he would get. My parents are conservative
       | Christians. They knew they couldn't protect us everywhere, all
       | the time. I am sure they were praying about it often as we spread
       | our wings and gradually flew out of the nest.
        
       | mcguire wrote:
       | " _Lenore Skenazy is president of Let Grow, a nonprofit promoting
       | childhood independence and resilience, and founder of the Free-
       | Range Kids movement._ "
        
       | manojlds wrote:
       | So the police were sure there were culprits around and their
       | focus is on harassing the parents rather than make the place
       | safe?
        
       | wonderwonder wrote:
       | They did not endanger their kids, the illegally dared to argue
       | with the police. That level of arrogance is not tolerated by our
       | betters in the elevated class of police officers. If they had
       | simply apologized, thanked the officers and perhaps knelt before
       | them there would have been no problem. /S
       | 
       | This is what happens when you create an insane concept like
       | qualified immunity and give it to people that have absolute
       | power. Society treats cops like they are a special privileged
       | class so they act like it and treat everyone else like serfs.
       | 
       | I let my 11 year old ride his bike to 7-11 the other day for the
       | first time. I can't imagine how I would react if the gestapo
       | showed up telling me I was a bad parent and endangering my child.
       | I would absolutely sue if they arrested me for it, especially
       | after threatening my wife as in the article and then dropping
       | charges.
        
       | kloch wrote:
       | When I was a kid in the 70's/80's we weren't just allowed to play
       | outside unsupervised until dark - we were _required_ to!
       | 
       | There was an arrangement where the older neighborhood kids would
       | look after the younger ones.
        
       | luxuryballs wrote:
       | Those cops are lucky they didn't pick the wrong family to mess
       | with.
        
       | indigodaddy wrote:
       | Absolute insanity
        
       | shanebellone wrote:
       | Finally, Connecticut made it on HN. Go Nutmeggers.
        
       | miguelazo wrote:
       | Sounds like these cops have been spending way too much time on
       | social media-- sex offenders lurking around every corner.
       | 
       | Glad to see that "free range" parenting movement has taken root
       | the last few years.
        
       | throwawaysleep wrote:
       | I am really curious if we had an up or down vote whether people
       | would pass a law saying that everyone 12 and under must be
       | supervised. I think it would pass.
       | 
       | I certainly wasn't permitted to walk anywhere by myself at that
       | age, nor were any of the non-immigrant friends that I know. My
       | sister wasn't permitted to do that until around 15.
        
         | gregw2 wrote:
         | As a boy in the early 80s age 10 in an American suburb, I rode
         | my bike to school one mile and back. It was fairly safe.
         | 
         | I also walked half a mile to a school bus stop when I was 12
         | and waited there (on a pretty busy street - not sure if that
         | makes it safer or more dangerous but I would guess actually
         | safer.)
         | 
         | I don't think the risks were high then, nor are they now. But
         | the culture of what is considered acceptable for your kids to
         | do by themselves outside the home is definitely way different.
         | 
         | If I had to pick one factor that is different and driving the
         | difference, I think it's that the society now keeps (public)
         | databases of where sexual offenders live so the awareness of
         | the threat is much more concrete, even if it is not
         | particularly elevated. We are over-managing/weighting what we
         | can measure.
         | 
         | But also feeding the changing dynamic is bureaucracy and
         | funding and legislation reflecting both the wealth and fears of
         | our society -- today I learned) Child Protective Services
         | wasn't really created until certain 1974 federal funding was
         | given to the states, and other legislation around this didn't
         | come till the 1988 Child Abuse Prevention, Adoption, and Family
         | Services Act.
        
       | bg4 wrote:
       | My sister had the police called when her school age kids were
       | playing/riding scooters in her front yard and driveway. In that
       | case though, the police were just as confused as she was.
        
       | baidifnaoxi wrote:
       | Cases like this are all too common across the country.
        
       | m3kw9 wrote:
       | Lmao at the risk of the road collapsing to middle earth, you
       | won't be allowed out, that's self endangerment
        
       | asah wrote:
       | Setting aside the outrage-inducing headline, in fact there's
       | numerous registered sex offenders in that town: https://www.city-
       | data.com/so/so-Killingly-Connecticut.html https://www.city-
       | data.com/so/so-Danielson-Connecticut.html
       | 
       | and there does seem to be a substantial amount of violent crime:
       | https://crimegrade.org/violent-crime-east-killingly-ct/
       | 
       | https://www.google.com/search?q=crime+map+killingly+ct
       | 
       | I have no comment about whether the arrest or social worker were
       | appropriate in this situation - we're only hearing one side.
        
         | educaysean wrote:
         | Both the police and the DFC dropped their charges. What
         | information could there be that we still need to hear from the
         | other side?
        
         | thwayunion wrote:
         | I've been to Killingly several times and find it completely
         | non-credible that it's unsafe for kids to walk there.
         | 
         | The raw number of sex offenders / violent crime rates don't
         | tell us much about the safety of a kid walking in a particular
         | neighborhood at a particular point in time.
         | 
         | Additionally, I'm not sure how arresting a kid's parents is
         | supposed to make anyone safer...
        
         | standardUser wrote:
         | We're hearing the side of the parents. They live there. It's
         | their kids. What other side do you need to hear?
        
         | mdp2021 wrote:
         | So the inhabitants lose the right to go for a walk?
         | 
         | Enforced by the same who did not manage to prevent the
         | circumstances?
        
         | anoonmoose wrote:
         | Not sure how you can look at that second link and conclude it
         | has a "substantial" amount of violent crime. The overall crime
         | rate, and the violent crime rate, are both rated at "A-"
         | levels, which is on the good end of the scale, not the bad end.
         | 
         | I mean, ffs, this is from the link:
         | 
         | "By a simple count ignoring population, more crimes occur in
         | the northwest parts of East Killingly, CT: about 0 per year.
         | The north part of East Killingly has fewer cases of violent
         | crime with only 0 in a typical year."
        
       | rootusrootus wrote:
       | This particular incident has been recycled often enough that it
       | actually makes me feel a little better about policing when I read
       | it again. I keep wondering 'oh shit, is this becoming a thing
       | now?' and then I see 'no, it's the same one as last time.'
        
       | mdp2021 wrote:
       | Real time coincidences:
       | 
       | an article just came out on the FT:
       | 
       | > "US police receive less training than plumbers"
       | 
       | https://www.ft.com/content/0ec78d2e-9a3b-403b-9d5a-fc68c2804...
       | 
       | Edit: that was the RSS title; the webpage title is _" US police:
       | is a lack of training behind the violence? // Officers require
       | fewer hours to qualify than plumbers and cosmetologists_". Which
       | again elicits a reaction in the lines of: "suspicion of that
       | correlation being causal is the farthest from novel".
        
       | colpabar wrote:
       | _Rivers tried to explain to the caseworker that the police had
       | overreacted, but the caseworker maintained that the parents had
       | somehow jeopardized their kids safety. When Rivers revealed that
       | she had received therapy for depression some years before, the
       | caseworker weaponized this information--and insisted she return
       | to therapy._
       | 
       | Fuck the police, but if these are the social workers I keep
       | hearing about who are supposed to make everything better, we're
       | never going to have competent policing in america. What the fuck
       | is it with government employees and trying to ruin people's lives
       | over nothing?
        
         | maerF0x0 wrote:
         | Funny enough part of the Defund the police push essentially was
         | implying social workers were the answer (granted more about
         | mental health than child protection services). Still, the point
         | is it seems every agency has their knee to the neck of
         | americans so to speak.
         | 
         | Kinda reminds me of the song Dystopia Now by Mental Minority[1]
         | which quotes George Orwell's 1984 "If You Want a Picture of the
         | Future, Imagine a Boot Stamping on a Human Face - for Ever"
         | 
         | [1]: https://open.spotify.com/track/5stJEL2X1WkqAFz4kTq8hV
        
         | codexb wrote:
         | The problem is that making the government responsible (and
         | liable) creates an incentive for government employees and
         | departments to overreact and treat every situation as harshly
         | as possible, because if they were ever to be reasonable and
         | lenient, and a child were to be abused later, they would then
         | be blamed.
         | 
         | The only real solution is to take that sort of administrative
         | discretion out of the hands of as many government employees as
         | possible. Leave that discretion to judges.
         | 
         | The problem is that whenever these types of abuses go to court,
         | the judicial branch has consistently given wide amounts of
         | discretion to the executive branch of government unless the
         | legislature has explicitly limited it. We need more legislators
         | that are willing to dictate the limits of power to the
         | executive, but that just hasn't happened in a long time.
        
         | hgsgm wrote:
         | Unfortunately the social workers are just police without guns.
         | They have the same law enforcement problem: the people who
         | apply for the jobs are the ones who _want_ to abuse people.
         | They aren 't servants of the law, they want to use the law as a
         | weapon. The good social workers are in private clinics and
         | schools.
         | 
         | Law Enforcment social workers should be drafted from the
         | general practice pool like jury duty.
        
           | krolden wrote:
           | >Law Enforcment social workers should be drafted from the
           | general practice pool like jury duty.
           | 
           | Why stop there? Do that for all law enforcement jobs.
        
         | roboscides wrote:
         | > Fuck the police
         | 
         | Haha nice one dude, very edgy.
        
         | nullc wrote:
         | I felt like I learned something when I saw a list of average
         | GRE scores by fields of study and social workers were at the
         | absolute bottom, well below others.
         | 
         | While I'm sure that many have genuine compassion for others,
         | this doesn't change the fact that many are literal morons who
         | have been given incredible authority to interfere with the
         | lives of others. What could possibly go wrong?
        
           | burkaman wrote:
           | Can you please at least find and link to this list before you
           | call hundreds of thousands of low-paid highly educated
           | essential workers "literal morons"?
           | 
           | I'm asking because I don't believe you. Here's a list I
           | found, see page 28 for Social and Behavioral Sciences' above
           | average scores: https://www.ets.org/pdfs/gre/snapshot-test-
           | taker-data-2016.p...
        
             | dahfizz wrote:
             | Let me google that for you...
             | 
             | https://www.prepscholar.com/gre/blog/average-gre-scores/
             | 
             | Social workers scored well below the median percentile in
             | all categories.
        
               | burkaman wrote:
               | Thanks. Looking at the numbers, Verbal is a bit below
               | average but above other fields that you might not
               | consider filled with morons, like CS and electrical
               | engineering. Quant is indeed the lowest but also the
               | least important for the field. Maybe that's the only one
               | you were looking at? Writing is above average.
               | 
               | Going by the percentiles here
               | https://www.ets.org/pdfs/gre/snapshot-test-taker-
               | data-2016.p... they are indeed below the Verbal and Quant
               | medians, Writing is unclear. Overall it does not come
               | close to the "literal moron" bar, especially since they
               | are presumably aware that Quant skills are unimportant
               | for the field so they don't need to focus on it much.
        
               | dahfizz wrote:
               | I agree that "literal moron" is inflammatory. I
               | definitely would not trust the communication skills of
               | the average software engineer to navigate a situation
               | where a child's life is potentially at stake either! This
               | is supposed to be what a social worker excels at.
        
               | nullc wrote:
               | Social workers also score poorly on communication skills,
               | in aggregate.
               | 
               | I'll happily agree that my description was extremely
               | critical-- more than it needed to be--, but we should
               | hold anyone whit the authority to invade our lives with
               | minimal oversight or accountability to an extremely high
               | standard. What what I've seen, we've often failed to do
               | so.
               | 
               | We don't send our best out to become law enforcement or
               | social workers. These are extremely difficult, even
               | dangerous jobs, and we fantastically underpay them.
        
         | tboyd47 wrote:
         | It's because they aren't accountable to anyone.
        
           | giantg2 wrote:
           | Also, most of what they do is under _threat_ of authority,
           | not actual authority. For the most part, they need a court
           | order to enter your home, question your children without your
           | permission, etc. Hopefully if more people realize they have
           | the right to say no, then the worker will be a little more
           | reasonable. Right now they know that everyone they meet bends
           | to their threats and nobody challenges them, so they are
           | emboldened.
        
             | oh_sigh wrote:
             | Right. I don't want to blame the parents, but all they had
             | to do was deny the case workers entry and an interview, and
             | say come back with a warrant or when my attorney is
             | present. That would have saved a lot of headache and been
             | well within their rights.
        
             | nullc wrote:
             | Demanding that court order can work out extremely poorly
             | for you.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | I mean maybe? I had a court order served against me for
               | something non-child related. The order was obvious
               | bullshit. The drones involved in executing it were
               | gnashing at the teeth to do what it said but by the time
               | they were delayed hours getting the judge to approve it,
               | their gusto was gone and they started pondering their own
               | precarious legal situation when they would inevitably
               | find what they did was bullshit and unjustified and
               | they'd be looking at a massive lawsuit. They were smart
               | not to too, because I'm quite certain they would have
               | found nothing and counsel I would later invoke would
               | uncover the warrant was not obtained in a legal manner.
               | 
               | It got them to back off even though they had the order in
               | hand with the judge's signature.
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | It goes one of two ways. One is that they don't have
               | probable cause that abuse has occurred and nothing
               | happens. Police dropping the charges seem to support this
               | for this scenario. The other is that they do get the
               | order and you have the same situation of visits and
               | questions.
        
               | nullc wrote:
               | I had a friend who had a false report made against her by
               | her husbands ex-wife to Florida DCF after they refused to
               | babysit the ex-wifes' profoundly disabled child (by her
               | new husband) while the ex-wife went out partying.
               | 
               | A social worker showed up demanding to enter my friends
               | home. My friend was a paralegal and was aware of her
               | rights and told the social worker to come back with a
               | warrant if she wanted to enter the home. No doubt
               | extremely offended about the false report, I'm sure she
               | was not polite about it.
               | 
               | The worker contacted the sheriffs office and they got a
               | judge to sign off on an emergency order by saying the
               | lives of the children were at risk. The social worker
               | returned with multiple law enforcement officers who broke
               | down the door of the home, entered with with guns drawn,
               | terrorizing her children, cuffed and arrested her. No
               | charges were filed.
               | 
               | The worker continually harassed my friend for most of a
               | year with numerous additional incidents before the friend
               | was able to obtain a court order barring Florida DCF from
               | contacting her or her family, and restraining the worker
               | from contact specifically. You could say that eventually
               | she "won", but it's was a hollow victory in that it came
               | at a cost she couldn't really afford and caused harm for
               | which there could be no compensation.
               | 
               | There are rights you have on paper and then there are the
               | actual consequences in reality if you try to stand up for
               | them. When you're facing a petty dictator with almost
               | complete power over your life and almost no
               | accountability for their actions it can be pragmatic to
               | play along and not risk inspiring a vendetta.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | Your friend saved a lot of other parents during that
               | time.
               | 
               | Thankfully I have not been terrorized by DCS but having
               | been terrorized by police, I at least knew standing up
               | for my rights meant those police were tied up with me for
               | hours to days on end rather than terrorizing dozens of
               | push-overs in the same time. I had a scenario recently
               | where two tyrants were forced to babysit me for almost a
               | full day, which meant that probably 200 push-overs who
               | could be worked over in 15 minutes each were saved thanks
               | to my standing up for my rights. When everyone invokes
               | their rights the system locks up.
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | This sounds like notch556. Is there a reason you're using
               | a different name? Did your previous account get banned by
               | @dang?
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | I have a habit of speaking with a bit too much liberty
               | for the taste of HN :P
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | Did the social worker lose their job? It sounds like if
               | they had multiple issues and there was a restraining
               | order, then they should have. If so, they removed one
               | abusive social worker. Without that, that social worker
               | would continue to do similar things to others. I'm
               | guessing the emergency order was granted without
               | supporting evidence (ie illegally by the social worker
               | made things up).
               | 
               | Also, there's a big difference in _how_ you invoke those
               | rights. If you get aggressive, that can be a problem.
               | Probably the best thing to do is ask for their card, say
               | that you want to help and that you 'll have your attorney
               | contact them. If there's a claim of immediate danger, a
               | quick show of your kids being happy and unharmed should
               | suffice.
               | 
               | The main point is, if everyone just rolls over, these
               | abuses and terrible bureaucrats will not be uncovered.
               | The system will never improve unless people hear about
               | these abuses. That itself is highly valuable, even if the
               | personal cost is high.
        
               | nullc wrote:
               | > Did the social worker lose their job?
               | 
               | Certainly not initially, DCF backed them up. Maybe
               | eventually? I'd ask but the friend passed away a number
               | of years ago. This happened just pre-internet enough that
               | it's not well documented online.
               | 
               | > The main point is, if everyone just rolls over, these
               | abuses and terrible bureaucrats will not be uncovered.
               | 
               | That's true but it doesn't mean that standing up works
               | out for the betterment of you and your family.
               | 
               | Not everyone has the freedom to make a martyr of
               | themselves. I'm grateful for those who do.
               | 
               | > Also, there's a big difference in how you invoke those
               | rights. If you get aggressive, that can be a problem.
               | 
               | More precisely, if you're _perceived_ as being aggressive
               | it 's a problem. The distinction is important because we
               | have less control over how we're perceived than how we
               | act-- particularly because an important characteristic
               | (perhaps even defining) of abusive bureaucrats is
               | perceiving anything short of complete submission as an
               | attack.
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | "Not everyone has the freedom to make a martyr of
               | themselves."
               | 
               | True, but without knowledge that saying no is an option,
               | those people effectively don't have a choice, and you end
               | up with few people volunteering to stand up.
               | 
               | "More precisely, if you're perceived as being aggressive
               | it's a problem."
               | 
               | Also true, but with today's technology it's fairly easy
               | to document the interaction. If the official's account is
               | a lie, then you've got them. If it's not an outright lie,
               | you have a record for an object 3rd party to rule on
               | (although there are plenty of bad judges too).
        
         | MonkeyMalarky wrote:
         | And people wonder why there is a stigma and general reluctance
         | to get help like therapy. Even if it were completely free, it
         | can still have a cost and be used against you.
        
           | glenstein wrote:
           | Exactly. I think that for some folks out there who are
           | struggling, they're not necessarily hesitating to get help
           | they need out of shame or wounded sense of pride. But because
           | they've correctly assessed the risks of it being weaponized
           | against them.
           | 
           | I can imagine a world where culture gets better in 20, 30
           | years and we look back at the 2020s and say "yikes, good
           | thing it's not like _that_ anymore. "
        
       | yieldcrv wrote:
       | > When Rivers revealed that she had received therapy for
       | depression some years before, the caseworker weaponized this
       | information--and insisted she return to therapy.
       | 
       | Why are we "normalizing therapy" if nothing has changed about it
       | being used against you?
        
       | terminatornet wrote:
       | cops are terrified babies and credulous morons who will believe
       | anything
        
       | bdw5204 wrote:
       | There are 2 possibilities here:
       | 
       | 1) The police have no real criminals to arrest but need to do
       | something to justify their existence. So they're harassing people
       | over things that not only aren't crimes but are examples of good
       | parenting that teaches kids to be independent. In this case,
       | "defund the police" would genuinely be justified as they're
       | clearly overfunded.
       | 
       | 2) The police are refusing to do their job and arrest real
       | criminals. Instead, they are harassing people over things that
       | aren't crimes because those things are "unsafe" due to the
       | refusal of police to do their job. In this case, the police need
       | to be reformed so that they do what they're supposed to do.
       | 
       | Either way, the police should stick to arresting murderers,
       | rapists and thieves to protect the fundamental freedom of decent
       | people who respect the rights of others to use a public street
       | whenever they want without fear of becoming a victim of violent
       | criminals or of the police. Since this is literally why the
       | government exists according to social contract theory (which the
       | US was founded upon), the refusal of the government's police to
       | do their job or the choice of the government's police to oppress
       | others out of boredom is a breach of the social contract that
       | makes said government illegitimate and no better morally than a
       | street gang or mafia.
       | 
       | Even if the laws are vague, enforcing a vague law in a way that
       | is clearly evil and oppressive is unacceptable because the core
       | principle of the American legal system is that our fundamental
       | rights are the supreme law and supersede any laws that infringe
       | upon them. The right to walk on a public street is clearly
       | protected by the 9th Amendment as it is so obviously a basic
       | right that there was no need for the 1st Congress to enumerate
       | it. Thus infringing on such a right in the name of "safety" is
       | flagrantly unconstitutional.
        
       | acegopher wrote:
       | Not claiming it's not true, but according to the article, the
       | author is "president of Let Grow, a nonprofit promoting childhood
       | independence and resilience, and founder of the Free-Range Kids
       | movement".
       | 
       | So could the story have been embellished or made up to push a
       | narrative and stir upset and outrage to get exposure? There
       | doesn't seem to be any authoritative third-party evidence (public
       | records) supporting this story.
        
         | trgn wrote:
         | If you want to make the connection, the less accusative, more
         | simple interpretation is that because of their activism with
         | Let Grow, they have the energy and commitment to actually push
         | this story. Most people would just eat the humiliation and
         | harassment to avoid more trouble.
        
         | suddenclarity wrote:
         | I was sceptical reading it but I found the smoking gun to be
         | the following: "she waited three years to let her go for
         | another walk unsupervised". So not only is it anonymised with
         | no information from police/social, but it's supposedly also a
         | several years old case which makes it nearly impossible to
         | verify. But I guess it will get people going.
        
       | MrRiddle wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | stirlo wrote:
       | The insane part is that those police officers and neighbours
       | likely grew up in a community where they were able to have the
       | freedom to go outside unsupervised. They all survived to
       | adulthood and are now trying to snatch away those freedoms from
       | the young. Disgraceful.
        
         | aceazzameen wrote:
         | "Because it's not like it used to be," is the excuse I hear.
         | Meanwhile crime is lower than it was 30+ years ago, or whatever
         | generation these cops grew up in.
        
           | ravenstine wrote:
           | The common perception of "stranger danger" is a load of
           | nonsense thanks to 90s infotainment, as well as John Walsh
           | (of _America 's Most Wanted_) for making up bullshit about
           | tens of thousands of children being abducted by strangers
           | (hint: it's not even in the thousands); the vast majority of
           | child abuse and abductions are committed by familial
           | connections, by far.
        
             | api wrote:
             | It likely continues today via things like true crime
             | podcasts. Listening to a long string of awful stories can
             | leave one with the false sense that these things are
             | common.
        
               | ravenstine wrote:
               | Even though I have an appreciation for some true crime
               | content, I've come to really loathe most of it. Long ago,
               | I was obsessed with Forensic Files, Unsolved Mysteries,
               | etc. This was of course back before true crime podcasts
               | and Netflix documentaries. I also got interested in
               | forensics, criminal psychology, and helping to try and
               | identify and locate decedents/missing people. My heart
               | genuinely goes out to victims. But witnessing from afar
               | the worst aspects of humanity eventually took a toll on
               | me. That combined with the absolute state of the news
               | media convinced me to quit consuming that stuff all
               | together. I truly think it should be microdosed only, if
               | at all.
               | 
               | What makes me loathe it now is I can see the
               | psychological impact it has on others. I won't name
               | names, but I've known a fair share of women who got into
               | the new wave of true crime content and have significantly
               | skewed views on men as a result. Women should be well
               | aware of what a man is capable of and what to do to
               | mitigate risk, but true crime content can create this
               | picture that more men are criminally capable than is
               | actually the case. Simultaneously, entirely from the
               | women I know who watch true crime, I hear views
               | suggesting that the common man is too weak or incompetent
               | to intervene and stop bad men, which is also not
               | representative. I'm only being vague here because if any
               | of these people happen to read my comments, they'll know
               | I'm talking about _them_ , but others won't know.
               | 
               | Some may disagree with my perspective, but it's my honest
               | impression. I've seen women in my life who are family
               | members and colleagues get into true crime content and
               | notice their views shift as a result. If it's said that
               | porn can damage the views that men have of women, surely
               | it's not such a large leap to believe that watching women
               | get victimized over and over again by a small minority
               | can impact one's views on men without even realizing it.
        
             | nullc wrote:
             | The media is still constantly pumping out a deceptive
             | narrative about the dangers of child abduction, it has
             | people genuinely afraid.
        
             | spywaregorilla wrote:
             | I don't think you need to go that far. Mainstream news like
             | 60 Minutes will always feature some sort of terror porn.
        
             | lawkwok wrote:
             | I hate that this is a self-perpetuating fear. The more
             | people fear, the less people walk on the streets, which
             | makes the neighbourhood appear less safe and vibrant.
        
           | thechao wrote:
           | Right!? I went out, by myself, walking through suburban and
           | semiurban (Houston) as a young child in the 80s and 90s --
           | easily far more dangerous in a practical sense: more crime,
           | less ubiquitous cell phones, ...
           | 
           | This helicoptering is nuts. It's something my family does,
           | which is especially weird from my _parents_ : humans I
           | wouldn't see for days due to their long work schedules and my
           | boredom in the summer.
        
           | qball wrote:
           | >"Because it's not like it used to be," is the excuse I hear.
           | 
           | Well, they're right.
           | 
           | We used to treat concern trolls like laughingstock, now they
           | set national policy.
           | 
           | Karenism is an existential threat, and it should have been
           | treated as such before it got this bad.
        
           | jehb wrote:
           | Fear is the mind-killer.
        
             | ceejayoz wrote:
             | Yep, and police training deliberately cultivates it.
             | 
             | https://www.insider.com/bulletproof-dave-grossman-police-
             | tra...
             | 
             | > His overly aggressive style prepares law enforcement
             | officers for a job under siege, where they're front line
             | troops who are "at war" with the streets. Officers need to
             | be prepared to battle the communities they're told to
             | protect, Grossman has said. And ideally in Grossman's eyes,
             | officers need to learn to kill less hesitantly.
        
               | mrguyorama wrote:
               | My friend married a guy who ended up becoming a cop.
               | Within weeks of him starting training she sends me a
               | snapchat about how "When we go places he always wants to
               | sit facing the exit" and another of him quite literally
               | _playing_ with one of his service weapons, like a damn
               | nerf toy.
               | 
               | Police training is garbage, and the police community is
               | pathetic.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | > "When we go places he always wants to sit facing the
               | exit"
               | 
               | I mean this isn't bad advice. I was cornered by a large
               | man once as a child and ever since I've tried to always
               | be aware of an exit and ideally be in view of it.
        
               | jehb wrote:
               | Yep. What I left unstated, which I now realize the lack
               | of leaves my comment ambiguous, was "and that's why they
               | use it."
        
               | derelicta wrote:
               | "But why do ppl hate cops??"
        
       | CalRobert wrote:
       | Yet again this video on how there is something deeply,
       | horrifyingly wrong with raising kids in American suburbs is apt.
       | 
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHlpmxLTxpw
       | 
       | Visited Utrecht in December and visiting Freiburg in April to
       | decide where to live.
        
       | anm89 wrote:
       | God damn this is fucking insane.
       | 
       | Our society is broken
        
         | matt123456789 wrote:
         | Ah, I see you're somewhat disillusioned by the legal system.
         | Allow me to introduce you to the healthcare system.
        
           | manojlds wrote:
           | They said society is broken. Broken healthcare is within that
           | already.
        
           | Lapsa wrote:
           | it's like paying taxes. even when able to afford them -
           | effort, struggle, time, irrational fear. whole thing suddenly
           | requires so much that it's just not worth it and you end up
           | sailing to thepiratebay
        
       | MarvinYork wrote:
       | As a European "The Land of the Free" is the funniest
       | contradiction I've ever seen. As a teenager and young adult I
       | loved to visit the US (NYC & LA) and everything seemed amazing.
       | These days, I avoid the USA like I avoid North Korea and Russia.
       | Of course, we have also huge problems here, but we seem to be
       | more aware of them. And that helps immensely to bring about
       | improvements.
        
         | foobarian wrote:
         | That label was invented hundreds of years ago when the
         | unincorporated land here was larger than continental Europe.
         | But it's a different story now, the gas has expanded to fill
         | all available space and there is no more freedom.
        
       | someonewhocar3s wrote:
       | [dead]
        
       | bastardoperator wrote:
       | What a waste of time and taxpayer dollars. If we want to fix
       | policing in the US we need to do three things immediately:
       | 
       | 1. Revoke qualified immunity
       | 
       | 2. Educational requirements beyond a HS diploma
       | 
       | 3. Internal Affairs should not be managed by the people they're
       | investigating, it should be a citizen led committee that has no
       | involvement with the department but can fire officers at will
       | pending an actual investigation.
        
       | EVa5I7bHFq9mnYK wrote:
       | "Arrested for child endangerment", and the mug shot will stay in
       | his record forever. Also fingerprints and possibly DNA record in
       | the database forever.
        
       | truesy wrote:
       | These comments are mainly condemning the police. While they are
       | definitely at fault here, so is society in the US as a whole.
       | It's become pretty common in the states to not allow children to
       | go outside without supervision. You just don't see kids biking
       | down the road alone anymore. These cops have taken it too far,
       | and made up reasons to arrest the parents, but in general the
       | idea of children having any sort of freedom or responsibility is
       | pretty much dead in this country.
        
       | maerF0x0 wrote:
       | > Then mom, dad, and the kids faced a barrage of questions
       | 
       | In America, you should essentially never speak to the police w/o
       | a lawyer[1]
       | 
       | > They told us that it wasn't safe for kids to walk down the
       | street
       | 
       | Isn't that stark admittance that the police themselves are the
       | ones failing in this scenario?
       | 
       | PS: highly recommend reaons's reporting, I find them quite
       | interesting not just covering the same run of the mill topics.
       | 
       | PPS: I'm sure they should arrest all of Japan for being complicit
       | in the making of this show (jk)
       | https://www.netflix.com/title/81506279
       | 
       | [1]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IO7z4cHrcuY
        
       | woodruffw wrote:
       | I'll note this every time this kind of story comes up: it's good
       | and correct to direct ire at the police here, but it's also not
       | the end of the story. The story also continues through America's
       | isolationist and atavistic car culture: you simply don't see this
       | kind of _bloodthirst_ for "protecting children" in countries (or
       | even areas within the US) with sensible urban design and
       | correspondingly shifted expectations about the public.
       | 
       | This should not be read as an excuse, but as an analysis of how
       | we prevent these kinds of absurd individual violations at their
       | root: the police in so many parts of the US derive power from the
       | latent fear of strangers that comes with car-dependent living.
       | Remove that source of fear and power, and the public becomes less
       | tolerant of state kidnappings.
        
         | wyager wrote:
         | America has had a robust car culture for over 80 years. The
         | obsession over safety is more recent. Stop trying to make
         | everything about cars.
        
           | woodruffw wrote:
           | I think you missed the point: the claim was that the
           | obsession over safety (partially the kind that manifests in
           | cases like this) is the _culmination_ of a robust car
           | culture. Things like this obviously don 't happen overnight;
           | they require decades of normalization (and, for car culture
           | in particular, alienation).
        
             | wyager wrote:
             | I can think of a lot of (historically) recent changes in
             | the American environment that are more alienating than
             | cars.
        
               | woodruffw wrote:
               | So can I, but I can't think of many that share the
               | magnitude and ubiquity of cars!
               | 
               | (You shouldn't read this as a fixation or totem: there
               | are plenty of other problems in this country. But it
               | isn't a coincidence that aggressive
               | deurbanization/suburbanization is closely tracked by
               | increases in isolation, which in turn is tracked by a
               | decline in personal trust[1].)
               | 
               | [1]: https://www.pewresearch.org/politics/2019/07/22/the-
               | state-of...
        
               | wyager wrote:
               | I can: the destruction of religion as a civic activity in
               | the US. I'm not even religious but that's a _huge_ one.
               | 
               | Another is the effort (by HUD and others) to eliminate
               | regions of ethno-cultural homogeneity.
               | 
               | Both of these are A) much more numerically significant
               | (on a per-capita basis) than changes in vehicle use
               | since, say, 1950 and B) well-understood to reduce social
               | factors like trust and cohesion.
        
             | hgsgm wrote:
             | Fear of "Drug dealers and sex offenders" isn't a car
             | culture problem.
             | 
             | A rapist can follow you to your apartment door.
        
               | woodruffw wrote:
               | This is exactly my point: "drug dealers and sex
               | offenders" are on your mind, despite the US being an
               | _overwhelmingly_ safe and criminally uneventful place.
               | Car culture encourages fixation on crime and risk, even
               | when all available evidence points to the US being a
               | _radically_ safer place than it was even 30 years ago[1].
               | 
               | We're still not a safe country on an absolute scale
               | (relative to our economic and social peers), but our
               | cultural histrionics around crime are unsupported by the
               | actual trendline.
               | 
               | [1]: https://www.bbc.com/news/57581270
        
               | insane_dreamer wrote:
               | I agree our social histronics around crime are quite
               | irrational. But I think the problem is primarily rooted
               | in the media, not car culture.
        
               | woodruffw wrote:
               | The two are intertwined! "If it bleeds, it leads" works
               | _especially_ well on low-trust societies, and car culture
               | enables and enforces low-trust social growth.
               | 
               | Put another way: the media might be a primary driver of
               | the problem, but American culture is uniquely
               | _susceptible_ to it because of car dependence and the
               | cultural /demographic structures that dependence
               | incentivizes.
        
               | Tade0 wrote:
               | > US being an overwhelmingly safe and criminally
               | uneventful place.
               | 
               | Just the homicide rate in the US is unbecoming of a
               | developed country.
        
               | wyager wrote:
               | Worth noting that US homicide is highly localized.
               | Certain cities/regions represent a vastly
               | disproportionate fraction.
        
         | dfxm12 wrote:
         | "Think of the children" is an excuse used to pass too much poor
         | legislation, not just relating to cars, but also infosec. It's
         | one of the Four horsemen of the infocalypse!
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_Horsemen_of_the_Infocalyp...
        
         | brailsafe wrote:
         | This was my first thought. Didn't even think about the cops,
         | they do what they do, but they're operating in a culture, not
         | that they're not wrong, but it's stupid all the way down. If I
         | lived in Berlin and my kid wanted to ride their bike to the
         | Dunkin Doughnuts in fucking Amsterdam, I'd tell them to update
         | me every so often over the next couple days, and let me know if
         | you quit and need to get the train home, but I'd wish them well
         | and send them on their way.
         | 
         | That's also not to say that there's no car dependency there,
         | but it's not as ruthless and overbearing.
        
         | trgn wrote:
         | This is really it.
         | 
         | I'd go a step further, which technologists will fail to accept,
         | since it's essentially an animistic argument. Cars, very
         | specifically, the actual physical _thing_ are evil technology.
         | In absolute terms, in absence of their application.
         | 
         | Americans don't recognize it as such. We see it just as a tool.
         | It is not. Cars have their own force field and it has changed
         | our minds, our bodies, our relationships to other, our
         | dispositions.
         | 
         | Once americans recognize it as such, we can see change. It's
         | not impossible. From my visits to Europe, the difference is
         | already night and day in so many places compared to just 10-15
         | years ago. If they can, we can. But it will be such a hard
         | slog.
        
           | fnimick wrote:
           | It's called "motornormativity", and it's measurable. https://
           | www.sciencetimes.com/articles/42160/20230201/breakin...
        
           | ironmagma wrote:
           | While we're on the topic, I would add TVs to the list of evil
           | objects. With a book, if you don't like the content, you can
           | stop reading at any time. But with a TV, anyone in the
           | vicinity is coerced into keep listening and turning the TV
           | off, even when the content is extremely disturbing, while
           | others are watching is considered faux pas.
        
             | trgn wrote:
             | Yes, 100% agreed.
        
           | balfirevic wrote:
           | > We see it just as a tool
           | 
           | I'm European and basically everyone I know sees them like
           | that, and great tools as well.
           | 
           | I won't even comment on the woo stuff.
        
           | woodruffw wrote:
           | Excellently put!
           | 
           | I've been reading a collection of Tom Wolfe's journalism from
           | the 1960s[1], and it's fascinating to see how the car has
           | warped from a liberating force (in the sense of propelling
           | countercultures and shrinking the rural divide) to a
           | domineering one (in terms of suburban fear culture and
           | dependence).
           | 
           | These phenomena could be seen as incompatible on face value,
           | but they're really just two phases in the same arc: the
           | children of these articles' subjects grew up in a culture
           | that confuses the mechanism of liberation (the car) with
           | liberation itself, and built systems to enshrine it.
           | 
           | [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kandy-
           | Kolored_Tangerine-Fl...
        
             | ninjagoo wrote:
             | This is a fascinating discussion. Maybe something to
             | consider is that American society is a lot more
             | individualistic than other cultures. And that individualism
             | is facilitated by distance - after all, proximity forces
             | interaction: even if no on talks or communicates your brain
             | is still processing the other presence(s), it's a cognitive
             | load.
             | 
             | And the car is a consequence of that culture, not the
             | cause. In present day and age, that tension between less
             | and more interaction doesn't go away - it simply
             | precipitates into cities and rural areas. The car may be
             | unsuitable in the former, and a necessity in the latter.
             | Tier 3 and 4 cities or communities, like the one in
             | question, are in a constant tug of war between these
             | opposing forces. Sure, the car itself, like any other tool,
             | may change the society it operates within in fundamental
             | ways, but when has that not been true for any society
             | anywhere in place and time? And at the end of the day, has
             | any society, of significant size, been able to eliminate a
             | significant tool altogether from use?
             | 
             | Even European cities don't ban vehicles, they
             | disincentivize their use through a combination of factors,
             | starting with making them unnecessary. The only time a
             | significant tool has been eliminated from use is when it
             | has been supplanted by another - horse & buggy comes to
             | mind.
             | 
             | So it goes with cars. Maybe those will be supplanted by
             | public self-driving/flying on-demand transport in both
             | urban and rural areas. But that won't change the tension
             | between less and more interaction that determines how
             | people spread out - that comes from a more fundamental
             | property of living beings interacting with one another and
             | the natural variation in biology/brains of people.
             | 
             | That brings us around to the original point - the root
             | cause of "bloodthirst for protecting children". As many
             | other commenters have noted - this lack of kids roaming is
             | a recent phenomenon in the US over the past 2-3 decades,
             | while cars have been around for 10 or so, and in widespread
             | use for 7 or more. And the pendulum appears to be swinging
             | in the other direction with many legislatures taking up the
             | right to let kids roam.
             | 
             | Looking at the combination of those 2 factors - cars'
             | lengthy history at the interplay of human interaction, and
             | kids not roaming' being a transitory phenomenon, I'm having
             | a really hard time drawing a connection between the "latent
             | fear of strangers" coming from "car-dependent living". In
             | fact, I would argue that the fear of losing a child in an
             | urban setting with more strangers around would be far
             | stronger than a stranger driving in from outside and making
             | off with a child.
             | 
             | And police brutality has also been around much longer than
             | has the lack of kids roaming. In fact, kids roaming is just
             | another in a long litany of excuses for projection of power
             | from police or any kind of uniformed service.
             | 
             | This makes me think that the connections between
             | "bloodthirst for protecting children" and "latent fear of
             | strangers" coming from "car-dependent living" might be a
             | bit tenous. I would like to see more actual evidence for
             | that before accepting it at face value.
             | 
             | I could even argue that the bloodthirst for protecting
             | children is likely more related to the declining birth rate
             | - fewer children means each individual one is valued more
             | in nuclear families - split attention is a real phenomenon.
             | Another factor could be greater awareness and depiction in
             | popular US media of crime and the horrors that taken
             | children undergo.
        
             | trgn wrote:
             | Thank you for the recommendation. Looking forward to read
             | it!
             | 
             | > in a culture that confuses the mechanism of liberation
             | (the car) with liberation itself,
             | 
             | It's essentially reification. I often think modernity is
             | fully characterized by it. The inability to divorce
             | aspirational visions from its material implementation. It's
             | essentially the disappearance of imagination. We no longer
             | can imagine because we are tethered to a material anchors.
             | This is why something like a flying car can be imagined,
             | but not something vague like virtuous personal mobility.
             | The first is tangible, the latter is a diffuse
             | constellation of technologies, mindset, systems, behaviors.
             | 
             | Pulling down that threat, (just going down the rabbit hole
             | here), but this process has been playing out for 150 years
             | now. Commoditization of everything. Making tangible the
             | wealth of human experience. If it cannot be made as a
             | marketable object, it cannot exist, cannot be imagined.
        
           | maerF0x0 wrote:
           | kind of agree, but there are ways to improve it. Public
           | transit can be an example where it (in some places and
           | countries) mixes socio economic classes, maybe save for the
           | highest wealth...
           | 
           | Additionally things like Cruise's driverless car can make
           | driving more social again. Imagine being able to play a game
           | or have a casual cup of coffee with a friend over a commute.
        
         | H4ZB7 wrote:
         | uhh no the blatant problem here is american mentality where
         | everything is illegal by default including breathing and
         | walking. breathing is only legal because it's necessary to
         | survive. walking is legal but only on certain areas of land.
         | you HNers display this mentality every single day with your
         | latest "oh cookies should be illegal" and "oh AI should be
         | illegal" nonsense. your narrative about car culture (the first
         | time i heard this one) is insane and probably some left wing
         | talking point or something, i don't read the news. normies have
         | that pathetic mentality you describe regardless of cars. call
         | it american mentality, not car mentality, although it's
         | actually the same in all countries (including whatever "well
         | designed" city like oslo or whatever you have in mind), but
         | america invented it. tl;dr the disease is statism, not car
         | culture.
        
           | jaccarmac wrote:
           | Leaving aside the parts of this argument not worth dealing
           | with (that is, most of them), you make the fundamental
           | carbrain error. How do you think interstates, suburban
           | development, and countless square miles of public roads and
           | public parking came to be? The answer (and it's an extremely
           | easy one to find because it's less than a hundred years old)
           | is massive amounts of public investment. There's no universe
           | in which virtuously libertarian (TM) private money would have
           | done the same thing. So while the midwit impulse is to
           | bifurcate "statism" and "car culture" and call one a "left
           | wing talking point", they are at the very least not
           | exclusive. There's mutual causation, of course, but I have no
           | desire to open that chapter under this comment.
        
         | insane_dreamer wrote:
         | It's not just a matter of car-dependent living. Suburbs have
         | been around since the 50s and yet, 20-30 years ago, we didn't
         | live in this constant fear of danger lurking on every suburb
         | sidewalk. Media (regular media and social media) amplification
         | of every single tragedy that ever happens to anyone anywhere
         | has created this culture of fear. When I was a kid, we walked
         | or rode our bike to school, or to the ice cream shop, without
         | everyone being up in arms about it. It's no more dangerous now
         | than it was then -- in fact, it's probably safer -- but our
         | perception of society as a dangerous place has grown
         | tremendously. It's a horrible way to live. I want my kids to be
         | smart street and not naive, but I don't want them to live in
         | fear.
        
           | berniedurfee wrote:
           | Agreed. I probably put 100k miles on my sneakers as a kid and
           | I don't imagine this was ever a problem for anyone.
           | 
           | Our hyper-focus on fear these days is pretty apparent. I do
           | think the media and the scale of information that abounds is
           | a likely culprit.
           | 
           | I cynically think that the media advertising complex which is
           | fueled by attention is to blame. Danger grabs eyeballs for
           | advertisers.
        
       | 1over137 wrote:
       | As a non-USian, this headline made me think "What?! They are
       | literally policing unhealthy food choices?!" The fact that it's
       | about just letting kids walk to a nearby store is so much more
       | mind boggling, it did not occur to me at all.
        
       | rsaarsoo wrote:
       | At the same time in Japan: parents are not pleased when the
       | toddler they sent to do shopping forgets to buy some of the
       | requested items.
       | 
       | https://slate.com/business/2022/04/old-enough-netflix-do-jap...
        
         | spywaregorilla wrote:
         | Toddlers do not do this in Japan. People deeply misunderstand
         | this show.
         | 
         | It's carefully monitored and setup. The kids don't know it.
         | They are genuinely doing the things on their own. But it's not
         | like the parents then rely on the kids to go do those things
         | independently after the show.
         | 
         | They are more independent at a young age. But you don't see
         | toddlers walking around Japan unattended to shops.
        
           | Aeolun wrote:
           | To be fair, when I send my 4 year old to the closest shop, my
           | concerns have absolutely nothing to do with the safety of the
           | environment (e.g. actions of others), and everything with how
           | much I trust him not to be an idiot.
           | 
           | If we had a shop only two streets over it would be doable at
           | that age.
        
             | ajmurmann wrote:
             | Is traffic an issue at that age?
        
           | ensignavenger wrote:
           | The article says this much too. While I never saw any actual
           | toddlers running errands on their own in Japan, I did see
           | children 5-6 years old doing it.
        
           | [deleted]
        
         | vidarh wrote:
         | It's well worth a watch to see how small kids act when they
         | think they're not being observed. And also for the hilarious
         | footage of how oblivious they (mostly) are of the swarms of
         | camera people running in front of and after them...
        
         | hgsgm wrote:
         | In the US we have Avengers protecting us and/or endangering us.
         | 
         | You shouldn't get your "news" from entertainment TV shows.
        
       | mordae wrote:
       | Have you watched Old Enough yet?
       | 
       | https://www.netflix.com/title/81506279
        
       | sircastor wrote:
       | This sort of thing is on every American parent's radar. There's a
       | mild concern that some overeager police officer, or concerned
       | citizen is going to decide that you're not parenting correctly.
       | At the top of the list of things to avoid is being noticed by the
       | state.
       | 
       | I understand why child protection services exist, but it freaks
       | me out that someone can arbitrarily decide that my wife and I
       | aren't good enough parents and take my kids.
        
       | hosh wrote:
       | This is why we have this:
       | https://www.kqed.org/mindshift/60624/young-adults-are-strugg...
       | 
       | Instead of this:
       | https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2018/06/09/6169288...
       | 
       | For whatever reason, our society has confused well-being with
       | safety. Those are not one and the same.
       | 
       | There will be a time when an adult has to assess risks and
       | opportunity, and make choices. There are things in one's life
       | where they have to face the unknown and decide actions without
       | having safety nets. A life cowering from the possibilities is
       | small, with the illusion of safety.
       | 
       | And that's for navigating one's own life. What happens when these
       | risk-adverse kids are raising their own kids?
       | 
       | What happen when these kids are the adults who have to vote and
       | make decisions on things that affect the whole society?
        
       | hpen wrote:
       | To all those who believe that "one bad apples spoils the bunch",
       | I do question what your proposed solution to that is.
        
       | gnicholas wrote:
       | I saw this article the other day and thought it was odd that it
       | doesn't mention how far away the Dunkin is. It does say the cops
       | picked up the kids two blocks from their house, but it doesn't
       | say how far the destination was. Seems kind of relevant, and it's
       | usually mentioned in Reason pieces like this. Does anyone know
       | the details of the distance or route?
        
       | vogt wrote:
       | Heh. I grew up in a town nearly identical to the one mentioned in
       | the article (not far, either - probably only a 45 minute drive).
       | 
       | My bus stop was like a half mile/three quarters of a mile away so
       | in the mornings my dad would drop me off on his way into work.
       | One morning I realized we made it too late, and I had missed the
       | bus.
       | 
       | On the walk home I got approached by a police officer who pulled
       | up next to me. Thankfully, we had some history as he was my DARE
       | officer in fifth grade.
       | 
       | He told me 3 different people called the police about a 15 year
       | old walking by himself with a bag and large jacket on. People can
       | never resist being busybodies.
        
       | snozolli wrote:
       | _I found out later from my husband that after I went inside, the
       | arresting officer said to him, 'If she talks to me again, I'm
       | going to arrest you both and take away your kids.'"_
       | 
       | Any cop who threatens retaliatory arrest because his feelings are
       | hurt should be severely reprimanded, then fired and barred from
       | police work if the behavior continues.
       | 
       | Same goes for airport security who casually threaten to add
       | passengers to the no-fly list if they push back. Retaliatory
       | abuse of power isn't acceptable.
        
         | user3939382 wrote:
         | It's a crime to threaten to hurt someone with a weapon, I don't
         | see how this is any different. The culture of zero
         | accountability for law enforcement is a symptom of a government
         | that is systemically corrupt and has thrown out even the
         | pretense of consent of the governed.
        
       | agotterer wrote:
       | There's a great book called The Coddling of the American Mind. It
       | talks about play grounds safety, cancel culture, and many of the
       | topics covered in this article and thread. It tried to use data
       | to back up its claims and identify the causes for America's
       | shifting mindset. One interesting takeaway from the book was how
       | the creation of the Americas Most Wanted tv show may be
       | responsible for some of todays parental fears. However,
       | statistically this is the safest time to be an American child. I
       | recommend the book to everyone, but especially parents.
        
       | insane_dreamer wrote:
       | As a parent, the overreach by child protective services and the
       | like is terrifying.
        
       | roboscides wrote:
       | This comment thread is what happens when politics is allowed on
       | HN, just utter trash. I wish dang was a competent moderator.
        
       | ElfinTrousers wrote:
       | > "They told us that it wasn't safe for kids to walk down the
       | street, that there are registered sex offenders all over town
       | that could take them, that drug dealers were going to give them
       | drugs, and that it was 'a different world now,'"
       | 
       | It's even worse. There are paranoid conspiracy theorists roaming
       | the streets of Killingly, armed to the teeth. You can recognize
       | them by the blue uniforms.
        
         | confidantlake wrote:
         | Absolutely. The problem is the sane individuals don't become
         | police. The ones convinced the quiet suburb is an evil
         | dangerous place in need of constant vigilance do.
        
         | ElfinTrousers wrote:
         | Also, sorry to reply to my own comment, but "drug dealers are
         | going to give your kids drugs" is a trope dating back to the
         | "Just Say No" days of the 1980s. It was bullshit then, and it's
         | bullshit now. Kids have no money, and they have no idea that
         | drugs are supposed to be kept discreet, so they're likely to
         | tell the first authority figure they see.
        
       | Willish42 wrote:
       | This is really bad and I'm generally a pretty politically minded
       | person, but is there a policy for what is and isn't discussed on
       | hacker news? This one seems completely unrelated to technology.
       | 
       | I don't _mind_ talking about politics in circles such as this but
       | it seems a bit arbitrary that this particular news story blew up
       | on HN. Does anybody know  / could speculate why?
        
         | timerol wrote:
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
         | 
         | > If you had to reduce it to a sentence, the answer might be:
         | anything that gratifies one's intellectual curiosity.
         | 
         | No comment on the applicability to the current article
        
       | kunalgupta wrote:
       | In my hometown of Easton, CT, the cops were the sex offenders on
       | my block. I never reported it. The first half of this story makes
       | me wonder how common that is in CT.
        
       | chung8123 wrote:
       | Somewhat similar to this story:
       | https://www.iheart.com/content/2022-11-18-texas-mom-wrongful...
        
       | evgeniysharapov wrote:
       | Haha, what did America become! Country built by pioneers
       | venturing into unknown danger, the whole ethos of the country is
       | "exploration and endeavor". Now, one would be questioned for
       | having kids outside.
        
       | VyseofArcadia wrote:
       | My mom has a funny story about how my grandfather surprisingly
       | didn't get arrested.
       | 
       | Back in West Germany, they had lived across from a bar, and every
       | night my grandfather would send my mom and her older sister
       | across the street to get some beer for him.
       | 
       | Then they moved to Ohio and rented an apartment down the block
       | from the bar. And my grandfather sent two little girls who didn't
       | speak any English to the bar for some beer.
       | 
       | Well, they came back with cops, who then had to fetch a neighbor
       | who spoke more English than my grandparents to translate and
       | explain the whole situation. The cops then left with a, "don't do
       | that again" and that was the end of it.
       | 
       | The mind boggles at how quickly Opa would have been behind bars
       | in 2023.
        
         | TrueGeek wrote:
         | In Southern California in the late 80s / early 90s I had a few
         | friends that were regularly sent to the corner store for
         | cigarettes. They had to bring a note, but otherwise the store
         | seemed to think this was normal.
        
         | Symbiote wrote:
         | I was in a small village pub in England one Boxing Day.
         | 
         | A man at the table next to ours handed a PS10 note to his sons,
         | who were about 8-10 years old. They went to the bar and asked
         | for two Fantas or something like that. The bartender said "I
         | can't serve you, you need to be 16".
         | 
         | Silence fell. It was a small room, and we'd all heard the boys
         | ask.
         | 
         | The old man at the end of the bar said, "You'll serve the boys,
         | John, or else you won't be seeing me in here again."
         | 
         | The boys got their Fantas.
         | 
         | (Checking the law now, the boys were clearly accompanied, and I
         | see no reason the bartender shouldn't have served them. I think
         | it may have been forbidden before 2003, when the rules
         | distinguished between children "at the bar" or not, rather than
         | the current rules which distinguish between accompanied and
         | unaccompanied children. But even then, the bartender would have
         | been applying a 'rough city bar' approach to a posh village
         | pub.)
        
         | confidantlake wrote:
         | Nice story! My father did the same thing as a kid, going to the
         | bar to get beer for his father.
        
       | vxNsr wrote:
       | The most worrisome part of about this is the amount of power we
       | give young clueless social workers who usually have never
       | actually parented a child. Many of whom have never been in real
       | relationships. All their knowledge comes from college classes
       | dealing in theory. Same exact thing can be said about teachers.
       | 
       | There should be very serious pushback against allowing people
       | like that near any levers of power.
        
       | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
       | I grew up in Africa.
       | 
       | We had some of the deadliest snakes in the world, slithering
       | through our backyard (mambas, gaboon vipers, cobras, etc.
       | -Nigeria, in the 60s), and we had brown scorpions, scuttling
       | around the schoolyard, in Morocco.
       | 
       | I have had the ... _pleasure_ ... of a rabies vaccination series,
       | because of rabid rodents.
       | 
       | I used to pass a police fort, with a .50 caliber machine gun
       | pointed at me (Uganda, in the early 70s -fun times), on my way to
       | the candy store.
       | 
       | Coming to the US was a bit of a culture shock.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | taylodl wrote:
       | _Some of those who work forces, are the same that burn crosses_
       | 
       | Every American should understand that _the police are not your
       | friends._ They exist to  "protect and serve" those in power, and
       | you're not that person. That's what being a police state is all
       | about. A seven and nine year-old walking together to Dunkin'
       | Donuts resulting the in the arrest of their father is a _symptom_
       | of our police state. The fact that neighbors can  "sic the law"
       | on one another and the fact that "swatting" has become a verb is
       | a _symptom_ of our police state.
       | 
       | Getting back to this story and adding my own "get off my lawn"
       | anecdote, when I was a kid _every kid in the neighborhood_ walked
       | to school. Even the five year-old kindergartners, like I was at
       | one time. Oh sure my mom walked me the first couple of times to
       | ensure I knew the route and that was it. Some kids had to walk
       | two miles! We didn 't even get a break for inclement weather! We
       | had to walk in rain, snow and ice. We also had to cross a four-
       | lane arterial thoroughfare! The horrors! And all this was in a
       | big city! In all those years not a single kid was grabbed.
        
         | dfxm12 wrote:
         | Kids in cities tend to be safer in general than suburbs. Not
         | only from strangers, but especially from cars.
        
           | p1esk wrote:
           | Link to the source of your data?
        
             | piperswe wrote:
             | Found this with a little Googling:
             | 
             | Probst, J., Zahnd, W., & Breneman, C. (2019). Declines In
             | Pediatric Mortality Fall Short For Rural US Children. In
             | Health Affairs (Vol. 38, Issue 12, pp. 2069-2076). Health
             | Affairs (Project Hope).
             | https://doi.org/10.1377/hlthaff.2019.00892
        
           | wan23 wrote:
           | The safety models of cities is just different from that of
           | suburbs. If you live in a walkable urban area, there's safety
           | in numbers. It's not uncommon to see children walking down
           | the block to their corner store or going to school or
           | whatever. If a random adult approaches a child, there are
           | plenty of people around to see it, and if they call out for
           | help it's very likely that someone will intervene. In the
           | suburbs, it's a bit different. The safety model depends more
           | on things being "normal" - people are suspicious of anything
           | out of the ordinary. In a community where everyone drives
           | their kids to wherever they need to go, seeing children
           | walking down the street might be unusual enough to get
           | someone to call the police. because they'd want other parents
           | to do the same if their own children somehow escaped and
           | started wandering the neighborhood. It all depends on the
           | norms of the particular community.
        
           | hpen wrote:
           | Need Data to back this
        
             | piperswe wrote:
             | Found this with a little Googling:
             | 
             | Probst, J., Zahnd, W., & Breneman, C. (2019). Declines In
             | Pediatric Mortality Fall Short For Rural US Children. In
             | Health Affairs (Vol. 38, Issue 12, pp. 2069-2076). Health
             | Affairs (Project Hope).
             | https://doi.org/10.1377/hlthaff.2019.00892
        
               | hpen wrote:
               | Interesting. I do wonder though if the environment is
               | actually safer, or if kids in urban areas just stay
               | inside more. (Aware of threats, the homeless, etc) I
               | never lived in an urban area as a child, but can tell you
               | that I was allowed to (and did) roam freely in the rural
               | areas, the woods, etc.
        
               | kibwen wrote:
               | I grew up in a rural area, small town in western PA.
               | Woods existed, but you couldn't use them. Firstly, how
               | could I get there? There were no sidewalks, and riding a
               | bike anywhere on the road with all the hills and blind
               | corners would be suicide. Any fields nearby were fenced
               | off. Any woods nearby were forbidden by great big NO
               | TRESPASSING notices every 50 feet, and I didn't put it
               | past them to shoot a child for trespassing. Every other
               | property had an unleashed dog waiting to pounce on you
               | for getting within sniffing distance of the property
               | line. Thus I spent all of my time indoors playing Civ 4.
               | In my experience, rural areas are designed for cars and
               | are populated by people who wish they didn't have
               | neighbors.
        
               | hpen wrote:
               | Good response. Definitely had a different experience down
               | in rural Tennessee. Lived in several different towns but
               | always had access to the woods through some mechanism
               | (friends house, neighbors land, etc) never had more than
               | a half acre ourselves but sure spent most of my free time
               | outside. I appreciate your point, but obviously, we are
               | both just spewing anecdotes, which still makes me wonder
               | which environment outside of the home is actually safer.
        
               | technothrasher wrote:
               | I don't know if it is because you were in a different
               | area than I, or if it was because you grew up 20 years
               | after I did (based on your Civ 4 comment. I was playing a
               | lot of Ultima 3 in my day.) But my growing up in a rural
               | area, small town in central MA, I spend almost all of my
               | time outside, often in the woods. Nobody was going to
               | shoot me for trespassing, as all us kids knew all the
               | local farmers and land owners. We went to church with
               | them, and we all pitched in at harvest times to help on
               | the farms and make a few bucks to spend at the local
               | general store, which we got to by riding our bikes
               | through trails we'd made in the woods. And traffic on the
               | roads was always pretty light, so we never much worried
               | about getting hit.
        
               | hpen wrote:
               | Not sure it's the time difference. Born in '93 and my
               | experience is much closer to yours.
        
         | rootusrootus wrote:
         | > Every American should understand that the police are not your
         | friends.
         | 
         | But they should also understand that policy are rarely the
         | enemy, either, and treating them as such will result in a worse
         | outcome on average. Don't let the evening news distort reality
         | so much.
         | 
         | Also, in the interest of sharing anecdotal get off my lawn
         | moments, all the kids in my neighborhood walk to school too, in
         | 2023. All weather, all the time, safely, nobody calls the cops,
         | nobody gets grabbed, it's fine. The world is in fact
         | objectively safer than it was when I was growing up in the 80s.
         | There's a good reason I don't routinely watch the news or read
         | partisan political media.
        
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           | LarryMullins wrote:
           | My general approach is to be as polite as can be while saying
           | virtually nothing. If the first words out of your mouth after
           | getting pulled over are _" AM I BEING DETAINED?!?"_ then the
           | police are going to make you have a very bad day. My brother
           | had to learn this the hard way, he learned that 'tactic' from
           | reddit I think, and it got him face down on the pavement for
           | what should have been a speeding ticket. Just stay calm and
           | never say anything more than the most vague pleasantries. If
           | they ask where I'm going then it's either _" to home"_, _" to
           | work"_ or _" to the store"_; they aren't owed answers to
           | these questions and reddit will tell you to sperg out and
           | start ranting about your rights, but if you stay calm and
           | pleasant albeit distant, then the police will be more
           | inclined to treat you the same. But if you antagonize them
           | within the bounds of the law, they'll step outside the law to
           | get you back. You're just setting yourself up for failure in
           | the common case when you follow popular internet advice about
           | cops.
        
             | laristine wrote:
             | Very good points. I've used this same strategy for decades
             | and my interactions with the police have been nothing short
             | of overwhelmingly positive. Of course, I remain wary at all
             | times, maintain situational awareness, and always try to
             | remember the police officer's name and badge in case I need
             | to have redress later with their department or the court.
        
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             | pstuart wrote:
             | Good advice. Also helps to be white.
        
               | LarryMullins wrote:
               | That may be true, but it's not actionable advice on an
               | individual level.
               | 
               | I think there's a tendency, particularly on reddit, to
               | let perfect be the enemy of good in situations like this.
               | Reddit will tell people that if you're not white then
               | there's nothing you can do to get better behavior from
               | cops and that advice such as mine above is therefore
               | invalid. Being black in America changes the baseline
               | interaction you can expect on average, but I think my
               | advice will still do most people more good than harm most
               | of the time.
               | 
               | If you want to have a boring incident free traffic stop,
               | the best you can do is play your role in such an exchange
               | and hope the cop reciprocates. Conform to the pattern of
               | a mundane traffic stop so that the cop falls into the
               | same pattern. If instead you play the role of some sort
               | of agitated sovereign citizen, the cops will almost
               | certainly reciprocate. In the first case, nothing is ever
               | guaranteed but in the second case a negative outcome of
               | some sort is virtually certain.
               | 
               | BTW I think this advice applies generally to almost all
               | encounters with strangers, not just cops. Superficial
               | politeness is a superpower. It works on anyone from
               | troublesome new neighbors, crazy threatening people you
               | encounter on the street at night, even stiff indifferent
               | bureaucrats. Superficial politeness gets better outcomes
               | from almost everybody, most of the time.
        
               | air7 wrote:
               | This reminds me of this skit by Chris Rock:
               | https://youtu.be/uj0mtxXEGE8
        
             | taylodl wrote:
             | These are all symptoms of living in a police state. We've
             | normalized this behavior so much while living in a police
             | state that we no longer see it, much in the same way
             | proverbial fish are unaware of water.
        
               | LarryMullins wrote:
               | I completely agree. In this case, it's about the fish
               | being aware that he's in the water and which direction
               | the currents flow. If you don't know how the water flows,
               | you'll get smashed against the reef.
        
             | fnimick wrote:
             | > if you antagonize them within the bounds of the law,
             | they'll step outside the law to get you back.
             | 
             | This is exactly the problem. Police shouldn't be allowed to
             | mete out extrajudicial punishment for being offended.
        
               | LarryMullins wrote:
               | Exactly the problem, yes. On a societal level it's a
               | problem that we should strive to correct. But on an
               | individual level on a case by case basis, it's the
               | reality you have to protect yourself from.
        
           | jjk166 wrote:
           | > But they should also understand that policy are rarely the
           | enemy, either, and treating them as such will result in a
           | worse outcome on average.
           | 
           | If you are afraid of what will happen to you if you don't
           | comply with everything someone says, they are your enemy.
        
           | MSFT_Edging wrote:
           | The point of "police are not your friends", is you can't know
           | which cop has a chip on their shoulder until its too late and
           | you're three teeth short of a smile. The nature of policing
           | and the logic behind "ACAB" is that because police don't keep
           | their peers in line, you cannot trust any cop.
           | 
           | "One bad apple" has been corrupted just like "Pick yourself
           | up by your bootstraps". The former cuts off "spoils the
           | bunch", the latter being a satire for something obviously
           | impossible.
        
         | dsfyu404ed wrote:
         | >They exist to "protect and serve" those in power, and you're
         | not that person. That's what being a police state is all about
         | 
         | So who are the police serving in this case? It's not like Big
         | Karen(TM) has a trade group that hires lobbyists. It's not like
         | The System(TM) really cares if your kids walk to wherever.
         | 
         | The police in this case are enforcing the morals of some subset
         | of the local population. Some nobody called them up and they
         | dutifully got right on it.
         | 
         | HN is angry because the morals enforced in this case are
         | excessive and the amount of enforcement is disproportionate but
         | the fact of the matter is that the person/people who's morals
         | the cops are backing up with state violence is probably not
         | that different from them.
        
           | TheFattestNinja wrote:
           | > The police in this case are enforcing the morals of some
           | subset of the local population. Some nobody called them up
           | and they dutifully got right on it.
           | 
           | I don't think the problem is so much about them checking on
           | the kids' family after being called by some neighbour (which
           | is prob. legitimate to avoid any risk of neglect etc.).
           | 
           | As you said t he problem is that they arrested a parent who,
           | for all intents and purposes, was complying with their
           | questioning. In front of their children. And threatened the
           | second parent with arrest. And taking away the children.
           | 
           | I don't see how you can make the jump from "response was
           | disproportionate" to "commentators are not that different
           | from the person who reported the incident" though.
        
             | dsfyu404ed wrote:
             | >I don't see how you can make the jump from "response was
             | disproportionate" to "commentators are not that different
             | from the person who reported the incident" though.
             | 
             | The point is that the call didn't come in from one of the
             | "more equal animals". Any one of us could have made the
             | same call and got the same response. It's not like the cops
             | were doing someone a favor by responding.
        
         | quacked wrote:
         | > They exist to "protect and serve" those in power
         | 
         | While this is technically correct, this phrase sets up a
         | simplistic model of society where there's the Powerful on top,
         | the Police right under them serving them, and the Oppressed
         | under that. I don't think this is the best way to understand
         | what the Police are and what they do.
         | 
         | I've heard many left-leaning people claim something along the
         | lines of "the Police do whatever the Powerful want by taking it
         | out on the Oppressed". This doesn't accurately reflect the
         | behavior or mindset of the individuals who collectively make up
         | the Police. There are thousands of stories of rich and
         | "powerful" individuals being harassed by police officers when
         | their actions or beliefs clashed with the beliefs of the
         | responding officers.
         | 
         | In fact, in America the definition of "power" is almost
         | tautological when it comes to police. You are a "powerful"
         | person when the police will either look the other way or help
         | you when you break the law. I would go as far as to say that in
         | America it is impossible to be "powerful" unless you have the
         | police on your side. (A possible exception is for gang leaders
         | with their own outlaw police forces.) Without the police you do
         | not have meaningful power, and so saying "the police exist to
         | serve the powerful" incorrectly separates the relationship
         | between the "Powerful" and the "Police".
         | 
         | The Police _are_ the power. I like to call them the  "Martial
         | Caste", in order to draw connections between them, medieval
         | knights, samurai, cartel sicarios, the KGB, etc. It's all the
         | same thing: they are the muscle behind the societal ownership
         | claims of the local warlords. Without them the warlords are
         | nothing, and without the warlords they are nothing.
         | 
         | A more accurate statement is "the Police exist to protect and
         | serve whatever system perpetuates the Police". If you're a rich
         | and you donate to police causes, suck up to their members,
         | agree with their politics, and generally support police
         | proliferation, they will bend their enforcement tactics to your
         | favor. This makes you "powerful". If you rail against police
         | behavior and try to reform them, they will bend their
         | enforcement tactics against your favor. This makes you
         | "powerless".
        
           | ninjagoo wrote:
           | > A more accurate statement is "the Police exist to protect
           | and serve whatever system perpetuates the Police". If you're
           | a rich and you donate to police causes, suck up to their
           | members, agree with their politics, and generally support
           | police proliferation, they will bend their enforcement
           | tactics to your favor. This makes you "powerful". If you rail
           | against police behavior and try to reform them, they will
           | bend their enforcement tactics against your favor. This makes
           | you "powerless".
           | 
           | Reminds me of this joke from the other day about the
           | "system":
           | 
           | A CEO, a Politician, a Supreme Court justice, a Cop, a
           | Laborer and an Immigrant are at a table. The table has 20
           | cookies. The CEO takes 19 cookies, and passes one cookie to
           | the Politician's PAC. The Politician says to the Laborer
           | "look out, the Immigrant is trying to take your cookie!" and
           | allocates a few crumbs from the table cookie to the Cop. The
           | Cop beats the Laborer and shoots the Immigrant. The Supreme
           | Court justice rules that the PAC is legal, the shooting is
           | justified, and the Cop has qualified immunity for beating the
           | Laborer.
        
             | PenguinCoder wrote:
             | Jokes are supposed to induce laughter. That paragraph does
             | not.
        
               | ninjagoo wrote:
               | Maybe "joke" should be in air-quotes too, just like
               | "system" !
        
           | s1artibartfast wrote:
           | Yep, the police serve the themselves. The same can be said
           | about basically every other group of humans. Police have
           | significant power and leeway because the service has provides
           | a lot of value to others.
           | 
           | I like your martial metaphor.
           | 
           | Poor and marginalized communities usually want _more_ police,
           | not less. Not because the police come at no cost, but because
           | the alternative is worse.
           | 
           | It is like hiring one knight errant to keep other
           | knights/bandits at bay.
           | 
           | This is basically the origin of all governments and power
           | structure.
        
         | jcfrei wrote:
         | All these terrible experiences people vent about the American
         | police force largely have to do with the fact that it's
         | completely underfunded and poorly trained. In the US the
         | average time to become a police officer is around 600 hours, in
         | Germany 3500 and Finland 5500 hours [0]. If you pay police
         | officers a shitty wage and let them do long, strenuous shifts -
         | the only people who sign up for that kind of job are those with
         | some external motivator other than money. In the best case they
         | wanna help their community out but in many cases it's power
         | hungry people who feel empowered carrying a gun and stopping
         | traffic at will. The solution to fight that is simple: Pay
         | higher salaries, have more competition among the applicants and
         | only select those that pass a thorough barrage of physical and
         | psychological tests.
         | 
         | [0]: https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-56834733
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | KennyBlanken wrote:
           | It's a bit strange to point to 4 officers spending hours
           | "investigating" a nothingburger as being evidence they're
           | underfunded and overworked.
           | 
           | I guarantee that if that family had their house broken into
           | and a bunch of stuff stolen...one cop would have shown up
           | hours later, told them it wasn't worth filing a report as
           | "nothing ever comes of it anyway", and then ignored phone
           | calls from them when they discovered they did, in fact, need
           | a report for insurance.
           | 
           | 40% of the town general fund in Uvalde went to the police
           | department. A tiny town with nearly zero crime had a large
           | police department geared up to the gills _and a separate
           | school police department_...and it got them...a police
           | department that stood around (with county police and a
           | federal border patrol tactical team) while their children and
           | teachers were slaughtered.
           | 
           | Police aren't underfunded. They're lazy, entitled bullies.
           | 
           | They're also not undertrained - most police get huge training
           | budgets for all sorts of stuff. It's just stuff that is
           | fucking useless. There's lots of time and money for SWAT,
           | anti-terror, and drug operations training, and it's way
           | sexier than training on how to handle a domestic violence
           | case or sexual assault or home invasion.
        
             | ezconnect wrote:
             | Hollywood is the culprit for all this militarized police in
             | the USA and the arms industry.
        
           | nerdponx wrote:
           | Police officers in cities like Boston and New York can make
           | well into 6 figures after overtime pay. They also can retire
           | relatively young, with generous pensions. Their departments
           | are also well-stocked with capable vehicles and equipment.
           | Funding is not the issue in those cases.
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | bcrosby95 wrote:
           | I have a couple cop friends and they make about as much as
           | me. And that's ignoring benefits. How much do we need to pay
           | them? $300k? $500k?
        
           | lovehashbrowns wrote:
           | Underfunded lmao. This is some grade-school level of
           | bullying. "We will stop the beatings and murders if you give
           | us more money."
           | 
           | LAPD got 1.9 billion in 2022 by the way:
           | https://ktla.com/news/local-news/police-commission-votes-
           | to-...
           | 
           | Various cities can spend over 30% of their budget on police
           | btw.
           | 
           | Maybe it should be even closer to 100% huh. Why live with
           | iPhones, flat screen TVs, computers, when all of our spare
           | cash can just go to the police.
        
             | jcfrei wrote:
             | Police budget for Berlin (similar in size to LA, at 3.5M
             | inhabitants) is about [0] $2 billion per year - that's for
             | a region with much lower salaries than the US. They employ
             | more than twice the number of police officers (26k vs 12k
             | in LA).
             | 
             | And that's comparing a well funded and prestigious police
             | force in the US - the comparison would look much worse in
             | some poorer cities.
             | 
             | [0]: https://haushaltsdaten.odis-
             | berlin.de/share?modus=Funktionen
        
           | [deleted]
        
         | secondcoming wrote:
         | Until now I thought the lyric was
         | 
         | > Some of those that law enforce us, are the same that burn
         | crosses
        
         | willcipriano wrote:
         | The trouble with "The police aren't your friends" crowd is they
         | always seem to think the the police's boss is their friend when
         | in reality, the government isn't your friend in general and the
         | police are merely the enforcement arm of said government. Elect
         | the same people for 50 years and let them get away with blaming
         | their underlings if you want, but you are just being a useful
         | idiot. The much lauded "social services" also played a role in
         | making this happen, so "defunding the police" probably results
         | in exactly the same outcome.
        
           | kritiko wrote:
           | "The government" isn't a monolith, and I'd argue it largely
           | isn't "the police's boss."
           | 
           | For instance, the NYPD leaked Mayor Bill de Blasio's
           | daughter's arrest information, in a move that was widely
           | criticized as an attempt at intimidation.
           | 
           | There's a great documentary about war from the 80s or 90s,
           | and I remember a quote from it about how in an all volunteer
           | military, soldiers are afforded special privileges in
           | society. I think police in the US basically function in the
           | same way.
        
             | willcipriano wrote:
             | The government isn't a monolith but the tens of thousands
             | of police departments, containing what, tens of millions of
             | officers are?
             | 
             | Here are the facts, a large proportion, if not the vast
             | majority of violent police interaction in the United States
             | is a direct result of the war on drugs. The people who
             | voted those laws in are currently still in power, one is
             | the president, and generally they blame the police for this
             | state of affairs while making no effort to correct their
             | lethal mistake. How many young men would run or resist
             | arrest if that bag in their backpack resulted in a small
             | fine vs a few decades in prison like today?
        
               | kritiko wrote:
               | >The government isn't a monolith but the tens of
               | thousands of police departments, containing what, tens of
               | millions of officers are?
               | 
               | I think the metaphor "the government is the boss of the
               | police" is not very accurate. The police are a political
               | force that receives a huge % of most municipal budgets,
               | with their own PR team/media relations, etc.
               | 
               | I oppose the war on drugs. However, I don't think
               | decriminalization of all drugs solves this issue.
        
               | willcipriano wrote:
               | We could say the same thing about the armed forces or
               | teachers. I would agree if we were to call them factions
               | within a larger entity, they certainly are distinct
               | enough from one another, there is some degree of
               | infighting, but I feel that in general a member of the
               | governmental caste feels greater affinity for other caste
               | members than they do the public at large, and that is why
               | it makes sense to look at them as a single unit. At the
               | end of the day, individual police officers aren't
               | elected, the only form of redress we really have in our
               | system is the remove the leadership that allows these
               | things to happen, we haven't done that and nothing has
               | changed, that shouldn't be surprising.
        
             | quacked wrote:
             | If you reference my comment in this same GP thread I
             | completely agree with you. If you want to take control of a
             | local society, you need a cast of hitmen willing to do what
             | you want. Conversely, if you try to take control of a local
             | society and you don't have a cast of hitmen willing to do
             | what you want, you will not gain control.
        
       | dsq wrote:
       | These kind of stories coming out of the US make me feel like I'm
       | reading something insane and Kafkaesque. I therefore want to be
       | skeptical at first.
       | 
       | Does anyone have direct, first hand experiences of this kind? Not
       | from the media. First hand or someone you personally know.
        
         | philliphaydon wrote:
         | Not related to kids but while living in Singapore. My friend
         | and I lived in a 2 bedroom apartment block, most apartments
         | have a gate on them, and in 2 years we had over a dozen visits
         | from neighbours and police because different families were
         | ringing up our neighbours or the police to tell them our door
         | was open (even tho the gate was closed and locked, we just
         | wanted fresh air).
         | 
         | While living in Australia I used to have our front desk remind
         | me to not leave the door open on the deck because "your
         | annoying neighbour keeps calling us to say you left the door
         | open while you were at work".
         | 
         | I don't know why people can be so... annoying like that. Like
         | they just sit in their window looking for things to complain
         | about.
        
         | confidantlake wrote:
         | Not super interesting and not quite the same thing, but as a
         | teen multiple different parents would not let us walk to local
         | shops or events, insisting on driving us. The reason were the
         | "cops would pick us up" if we were walking somewhere without an
         | adult as teens.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | ceejayoz wrote:
         | > Does anyone have direct, first hand experiences of this kind?
         | Not from the media. First hand or someone you personally know.
         | 
         | Yes; a family member's friend is currently dealing with
         | potential prosecution for briefly leaving their kid in the car.
        
           | throwawaysleep wrote:
           | Kids can cook unsupervised in cars, so that makes sense.
        
             | ceejayoz wrote:
             | Kids can die walking unsupervised to Dunkin, too.
             | 
             | Five minutes in a car during mild weather isn't going to
             | cook a kid; cops should use their broad discretion and some
             | common sense in both scenarios.
        
       | John23832 wrote:
       | When I was a kid, I spent 3 hours outside with the neighbors kids
       | every weekday after finishing my homework. On weekends it was
       | more like 8 at the park. I consider it a forming experience for
       | me as a person. I was safe but also was able to explore and get
       | exercise.
       | 
       | Society's urge to make everything indoor and sedentary is
       | detrimental. It has negative health effects. It also removes any
       | idea of community when you can't go out and explore what is
       | around you. That's even before you think about freedom of
       | movement.
        
         | cjrp wrote:
         | > Society's urge to make everything indoor and sedentary is
         | detrimental
         | 
         | Indoor, sedentary and with a price in general.
        
         | Lapsa wrote:
         | forming experience, idea of community - those seem to be
         | overlooked arguments [citation needed]
        
         | vidarh wrote:
         | I don't know how old you are, but I did much the same quite
         | often and want to add: For me at least, it was _without a
         | cellphone_.
         | 
         | I think even a lot of people old enough to have kids these days
         | don't realise how many of us spent hours not just roaming
         | around freely, but roaming around freely with _no way for our
         | parents to contact us or know where we were_.
        
           | nullc wrote:
           | > I think even a lot of people old enough to have kids these
           | days don't realise how many of us spent hours not just
           | roaming around freely, but roaming around freely with no way
           | for our parents to contact us or know where we were.
           | 
           | How so? they would have grown up that way themselves? -- I
           | don't think it was common for children to have cell phones
           | until after 2000, no? Median age for first time mothers in
           | the US is 30.
        
             | vidarh wrote:
             | Note that I said "a lot", not a majority.
             | 
             | Combination of the freedom to run around like those of us
             | who grew up a decade or two earlier being given to them
             | later with that freedom more likely to coincide with
             | getting a phone or at least being near in time.
             | 
             | E.g. someone getting a phone at 10 in 2003 would be 30 this
             | year already had a substantial likelihood of having had
             | less freedom to run around at 10 in 2003 than I had at 8 in
             | 1983, or indeed at 6-7. (I'm by no means suggesting every
             | 10 year old in 2003 were getting phones).
             | 
             | It's very possible that the number is smaller than I'm
             | imagining. It was merely a casual observation that we're
             | now _also_ increasingly starting to come across parents who
             | grew up _either_ being watched _or_ being reachable, so the
             | notion of kids being able to not just roam freely but roam
             | freely without at least being able to call to say where
             | they were is getting stranger to more and more people.
        
               | notch898a wrote:
               | Cellphones were used to make it extraordinarily
               | convenient for busybodies to snitch at all moments. Any
               | increased freedom of the child to roam by virtue of
               | having emergency communication was nixed by the ability
               | for any passer by to immediately call police for
               | unsupervised children without even the inconvenience of
               | driving to a pay phone.
               | 
               | All the places I played alone as a kid: the playground,
               | the rural creek, the open fields. It was inconvenient for
               | adults to snitch me out from there. Not so anymore.
        
               | nullc wrote:
               | Fair enough. I wonder when the change happened, as
               | someone born in 1979 in Ft. Lauderdale I had the same
               | freedom (even requirement!) to go out on my own as a
               | child that many posters have mentioned here.
        
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           | insane_dreamer wrote:
           | I used to take the train to another town and then a bus, just
           | to get to school every day, as a kid (i.e. 10-12). This was
           | before cellphones, and I doubt I even had money for a
           | payphone on me. I was fine and it was perfectly normal. Of
           | course this was in France, not the U.S. so quite different in
           | terms of cultural acceptance. It was before the concept of
           | sex offenders (and a host of other dangers) really exploded
           | in the media, which I believe was the big shift in everyone's
           | minds (this idea of a pervert or kidnapper lurking behind
           | every corner).
        
         | lotsofpulp wrote:
         | This specter of unlimited liability must make the idea of
         | becoming a parent quite daunting.
         | 
         | You need to secure not only housing, food, and energy, but also
         | 24/7 supervision, in the form of daycare, after daycare
         | activities, after school activities, or one parent being with
         | the kids at all times. Which means you are especially screwed
         | if there is a divorce, so you probably want backup grandparents
         | and aunts/uncles, if they can afford to be available and near
         | you.
        
           | zaroth wrote:
           | So true and very well put.
           | 
           | I often tell people that a child takes up an _infinite_
           | amount of time and resources.
           | 
           | But one counterpoint on divorce. If you can manage to do it
           | well, split custody, and continue to co-parent effectively,
           | then you get to be a devoted parent spending every waking
           | moment and spare penny taking care of your kids... for _half_
           | of the time. And then you get to spend the other half of your
           | time as a single adult.
           | 
           | It's not a sales pitch, and I think in most cases it doesn't
           | work out so well, but getting divorced and equally sharing
           | the children has been world-changing for me in terms of
           | balance and getting time to focus on myself and fulfill my
           | own dreams in terms of travel, hobbies, bucket list, etc.
           | 
           | In our case there was never any extended family who would
           | ever take the kids, which is another thing that's becoming
           | more common. So basically from Day 1 until off to college you
           | are providing full-time child rearing, which can be quite the
           | crucible.
        
             | maerF0x0 wrote:
             | > I often tell people that a child takes up an infinite
             | amount of time and resources.
             | 
             | In so far as the resource(s) is marginally beneficial, why
             | not? They have a much greater remaining expectancy and
             | future value.
             | 
             | That being said sometimes telling a child/teen "no"
             | actually has a higher marginal value than saying "yes".
        
           | eftychis wrote:
           | I agree this is detrimental for current and future
           | generations.
           | 
           | Also stupid (my opinion).
        
       | jsz0 wrote:
       | I live near this area and am very familiar with the exact DD
       | location in question. Obviously arresting the parents was a huge
       | overreaction but the one thing I will say in defense of the
       | police is the roads in this area are not pedestrian friendly at
       | all. Portions of the road in question are 4 lanes including
       | highway on/off ramps and dozens of businesses driveways and
       | parking lots. Sections of the road have sidewalks that abruptly
       | end and turn into guardrails forcing people to walk on the
       | shoulder 1ft away from traffic moving at 45-60mph. I rarely see
       | people walking these roads and as a result drivers are certainly
       | less likely to be watching out for pedestrians. If I had kid I
       | would not let them walk these roads. I would be on very high
       | alert walking them myself as an adult.
        
         | COGlory wrote:
         | I lived in Killingly for some years. You probably are thinking
         | of the wrong Dunkin. The article states they live near the
         | Troop D barracks, so it's not the Dunkins in Killingly Commons,
         | and the Dunkin closest to the troop D barracks is not on a
         | difficult road at all. It's quite possible the children did not
         | have to cross any main roads to get there.
         | 
         | If it's the Dunkins in Killingly Commons, I'd agree, that's
         | tough to get to on foot and that intersection is awful.
        
       | jefftk wrote:
       | My kids are 7 and 9 and walk to the corner store together
       | (Somerville MA). They also walk to and from school, the park, and
       | to friends' houses. The more kids do this the more normal it will
       | seem to others, and we can slowly get society's sense of how old
       | you need to be to walk places back to somewhere reasonable.
        
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         | stephencanon wrote:
         | Similar up here in Hanover NH. All the neighborhood kids just
         | walk where they want to, and it's totally fine.
        
         | scld wrote:
         | Just wanted to pop in to say I love your blog!
        
           | jefftk wrote:
           | Thanks!
        
         | 0_____0 wrote:
         | Somerville is basically as perfect a city as I've seen in the
         | US for walking, for anyone! And thus the perfect beachhead to
         | take back childhood independence.
        
         | lawkwok wrote:
         | Unfortunately, city design alters people's perceptions of where
         | it is acceptable to walk. I moved from walkable Vancouver to
         | car-centric Mississippi, and I already look at people with
         | suspicion when they are walking on the road in the middle of
         | nowhere. I wonder where their car is and why they are walking
         | there.
         | 
         | > This was in Killingly, Connecticut, a suburban town in the
         | northeast part of the state. The Rivers' lived near an
         | elementary school, library, state police barracks, sidewalks,
         | crosswalks, many Victorian-style homes, and the aforementioned
         | donut shop. The kids gathered $7, and off they went.
         | 
         | Street View shows that the town looks quite walkable especially
         | for suburban America. It just boggles my mind that people would
         | consider calling the police on a 7 and 9 year old for walking
         | on those streets.
        
       | bleepblipbloop wrote:
       | It's a good thing they were white, otherwise, the cops would
       | probably have shot the parents for resisting
        
       | drunkenmagician wrote:
       | The death of common sense, not 100% dead yet, but terminal with
       | untreatable stage 4 cancer
        
       | wtcactus wrote:
       | The all story is a scary tale about the state's intromission on
       | people's lives.
       | 
       | But this part is a constant reminder of how misandric present
       | society is:
       | 
       | "...the officers proceeded to charge Rivers' husband with risk of
       | injury to a minor. They charged Rivers separately for the same
       | thing. Then they arrested her husband and took him away."
        
       | ape4 wrote:
       | I guess the cops have never seen Old Enough
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Old_Enough!
        
       | phkahler wrote:
       | "They told us that it wasn't safe for kids to walk down the
       | street, that there are registered sex offenders all over town
       | that could take them, that drug dealers were going to give them
       | drugs, and that it was 'a different world now,'"
       | 
       | Isn't it _your_ job to protect people from all that?
        
       | wkat4242 wrote:
       | If the cops come over and tell me "it's a different world now"
       | and the streets are not safe for kids I'll ask them what they're
       | doing about it because they're obviously neglecting their duties
       | :P
       | 
       | Yes I'm sure I'd find myself in the back of a squad car like this
       | dad. But it's worth it
        
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       | neilv wrote:
       | First, I don't take anything in Reason magazine at face value,
       | because the pieces I've seen have always seemed published for
       | appeal and to convey a "we are the people of 'reason'" image,
       | rather than the issue itself.
       | 
       | That said, assuming at least partial truth to this article, I
       | hope the kids didn't see their parent arrested, and weren't
       | interrogated by anyone. I'd find a really gentle Mr. Rogers-type
       | counselor to help talk with them about it.
        
         | jefftk wrote:
         | Reason, like most outlets, is mostly untrustworthy in what they
         | choose to cover: they're not going to put time into writing a
         | piece about something that happened unless they can tie it back
         | to their preferred policies. But, like most outlets, what they
         | write about each particular instance is technically true and
         | usually not misleading.
        
       | epolanski wrote:
       | Every time I read something about the United States, I am so
       | happy to have been born on the other side of the Atlantic ocean.
        
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