[HN Gopher] Ask HN: What is the best advice you received in 2022?
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Ask HN: What is the best advice you received in 2022?
I am a believer I can learn from anywhere and I thought I can ask
HN folks to share what they learned or received advice that had
profound impact. For me, be relentless in saying NO to things. It
came from a trusted friend when I was complaining about overworked
at my workplace.
Author : rammy1234
Score : 82 points
Date : 2022-12-17 17:16 UTC (5 hours ago)
| aaws11 wrote:
| be really good at what you do.
| sainib wrote:
| Bear with me. It may sounds little cliche, may be mildly cheesy.
|
| I had a self realization and received the advice from myself
| during one of my "zen state pondering" that - being in the best
| shape of my health with improve EVERYTHING by 10x in my life.
|
| A technologist for 24 years. Almost got my last product startup
| acquired in 2014 by a (back then) 500 million USD company. I have
| been obese for 15 years.
|
| I have lost 30 pounds in last 4 months and now lifting and
| working out 4 days a week(I try 5 days). I look forward to
| working out now. I feel so much more energetic and elevated state
| of awareness. Everything is already so much better.
| rammy1234 wrote:
| Awesome and is there anything particular you took to reduce
| weight ? Or was it a whole lifestyle change ?
| vl wrote:
| I'll add to this advice: work out every day. It's way easier to
| do it this way. If you go for few large workouts, it's easy to
| skip and easy to slip. With small workout every day you know
| you have to do it and it can't be pushed out from the schedule.
|
| Corollary to this, remove friction for starting a workout. I.e.
| get equipment to your abode/office so you can start working out
| in 2 minutes.
|
| And also: there are a lot of great work out sessions on
| YouTube. Dumbbells, yoga, stretching, etc.
|
| And also also: if you don't know where to start, just pay for
| personal trainer.
| heresjohnny wrote:
| While solid advice, working out everyday can lead to
| overtraining. Happened to me and it's not fun. Doing some
| yoga every day: yes. Heavy squats: no, please no.
| robcohen wrote:
| Overtraining is a concern, but I've previously done 7x per
| week heavy weightlifting and it's fine so long as you cycle
| through different body parts and listen to your body. In
| the Marine Corps I'd usually work out 3x a day 5 days a
| week and 1x per day on the weekends. Granted I was in my
| 20s then, but I think what matters more than "preemptively
| not overtraining" is just listening to your body. Most
| people go way too heavy for their goals. I've found that's
| really unnecessary and counterproductive, but exercising
| often is fine.
| nextlevelwizard wrote:
| Usually when people tell me they are going heavy more
| than 3 times per week they usually arent going _that_
| hard, just because it is hard to recover that fast.
| generalenvelope wrote:
| Emphasis on listen to your body. Plugging because I'm
| such a big fan, Barbell Medicine has changed my life in
| terms of understanding training/injury risk based on
| actual evidence. If you haven't tried it, highly
| recommend RPE based training. It's refreshing to realize
| that you don't need to go super hard to make serious
| progress. And like you're describing, it can often set
| you back. There's a fatigue cost to every stimulus and
| it's all about balancing those to get the desired
| adaptations.
| polishdude20 wrote:
| Another thing Ive learned from them is that if something
| hurts or I have pain that isn't caused by physical
| damage, it's most likely fine to lift. Usually lifting
| actually helps any back pain.
|
| A few weeks back I tweaked my back just while laying down
| for some reason. Hurt like hell getting up. Next day,
| still painful, did some light squats. During the squats
| the pain didn't get any worse. So I added more weight.
| Less pain. More weight, less pain. Until I got to my
| working set for the day and nailed it. The back pain got
| better and it was all fine.
|
| Now the lifting may not have had any effect on the pain.
| It could have just gone away on its own. I'll never know.
| But the point being that the pain didn't indicate a
| structural damage that was dangerous. Lifting probably
| also helped my mind make that distinction.
| vl wrote:
| My strategy is to go for variety. I do weights one day,
| cardio other day.
| VeninVidiaVicii wrote:
| It doesn't sound as cliche as you think -- in my opinion the
| problem is prioritizing yourself over your productivity.
|
| I'm a geneticist with a unique set of analytical skills that
| keeps me tied up in dozens of projects at a time, and my health
| is always the thing I let slide.
|
| Whenever I finally decide to workout, I tell myself, "I'll
| never let that much time go by between workouts again." Then
| invariably, I don't have time.
|
| How did you overcome that?
| emadabdulrahim wrote:
| They way I overcame that is by realizing that working out is
| essential to my mental health. I wanted to level up my
| baseline of overall well-being so that my worst days are not
| that bad. Which means I can bounce quickly from setbacks.
| Where in the past I'd have recurring periods where find
| myself spiraling downwards.
|
| Working out keeps me sharp at work which is cognitivly
| demanding and requires high levels of creativety and problem
| solving. From that angle, I take it seriously as core part of
| my day and my identity.
|
| Overtime I started to enjoy doing hard thing in and of
| itself. Which is changing my life beyond what I could
| imagine.
| sainib wrote:
| Thanks for your comments.
|
| Over last 15 years, I have tried to loose weight and sooner
| or later I ran into - "I dont have time" or "this customer
| proposal is more important" syndrome. Derailed my effort.
| Before I knew I was back to or worse than where I started.
|
| I feel different this time. Its almost as important as eating
| everyday to stay alive. As important as having work to earn
| bread for family.
|
| Being analytical, I have tried hard to find whats different
| this time. I dont think I have exact understanding but here
| are some factors that I came up during my pondering .
|
| - Something just triggers this mindset where working out
| becomes a part of you. Almost a necessary activity like
| taking a bath. You can skip a day or two but it starts to
| smell and feel like you MUST do it.
|
| - I feel the trigger has one or more the following components
| : 1) WHO - You do it for someone. It could be you yourself,
| family, kids, grandkids, girlfriend. 2) You have a strong
| realization that LIFE is finite & You want to have a better
| and longer life. 3) You are FED UP with _something_.
|
| - Goal setting & how your mind processes goals - In past, my
| goals had a finish line. Like - "I want to loose weight" or
| "I want to run a half marathon". I was able to achieve those
| goals and almost soon after that my mind was like: "That's it
| man. We are done. Lets go back to default mode" (busy work,
| less active life style). This time my goal is - I WILL LIVE
| REST OF MY LIFE IN A HEALTHY MANNER. There is no end date or
| finish line. The results do not matter. I dont have goals to
| loose 2 pounds every week. I just do what I need to do to
| live healthy.
|
| - There is also realization that EVERYONE must go through
| pain and pay with money and time, for your health. You do it
| in Gym or Doctor's office. You chose.
|
| - Accountability was a big factor for me. In past, I would
| start but drop off at some point. This time I hired a gym-
| owner fitness trainer (awesome guy). My net investment is
| less than 3K a year. I go to him 2 days a week. Just that
| will easily help me live at least a year longer (keeping all
| other factors same). Whats the value of one year of time for
| me? Priceless. 3K is dirt cheap.
|
| I can go on. I have been taking notes in a google doc with a
| hope to covert that into a eBook someday. I have thoughts
| from so many different perspectives, that I feel can help
| others too.
| vl wrote:
| Do a small workout every day and do it first thing in the
| morning.
|
| This way you know you have to do it every day and it takes
| priority above everything else - if you don't have health,
| how are you going to do other stuff you want to do?
| mattfields wrote:
| congrats. That's a brave admission, and it took some hard work.
|
| Thanks for sharing :-)
| cperciva wrote:
| "It gets better. Girls love their daddies eventually."
|
| As the father of a 20 month old, this year has been rough; she
| wants Mommy all the time and now that she's mobile there's not
| much I can do about it short of physically restraining her.
|
| At the end of November she finally decided that I wasn't
| completely terrible; I went to Vegas for re:Invent and she was
| going from room to room looking for me. She still wants Mommy
| more, but Daddy has moved up a step from "unwanted intruder" to
| "somebody we take for granted but miss when he's gone".
| ajonit wrote:
| Little daughters are God's way to show us mini-heaven on Earth.
| robertlagrant wrote:
| Due to Covid I was around much more during my daughter's early
| years than my son's. It's been fantastic to get closer to her
| than I could to my son due to working.
| cperciva wrote:
| I've been around all this time -- in fact, I work from home
| while my wife goes out to work -- but that doesn't change the
| fact that I'm the mean parent who doesn't give her milk.
|
| I think the big change a few weeks ago was her finally
| understanding that Daddy is something other than "Mommy who
| doesn't have milk".
| floppydiskette wrote:
| My dad did try "physically restraining me" by grabbing me
| before I could run to my mom after I would creep down the
| stairs in the morning to avoid him. It did not make things
| better so I would not recommend it, haha. I'm sure it was
| frustrating for him.
|
| Anyway, thirty years later we're good, and I would go to my dad
| way before my mom to talk about any sort of personal issue and
| such. Of course, every situation is different, hopefully it
| won't take you nearly as long as it did for us.
|
| I have found in my personal relationships in the past few years
| that the more I let go and stop trying to control things or
| take it personally when someone doesn't act the way I'd like,
| the better it all goes. Of course, for some people that means
| the relationship drops off entirely, but for the more important
| ones they got a lot better.
| cperciva wrote:
| To be clear, the only physical restraining I do is "Mommy
| needs to go to work now so Daddy is going to pick you up so
| you don't try to chase her down the stairs". She knows she
| can't walk down the stairs on her own but sometimes forgets
| when she gets excited.
| pyuser583 wrote:
| Thank you! This means a lot!
| dchuk wrote:
| I only have one child (3.5 years old), but with my own
| experience as well as what I've talked to many people about,
| Dads basically spend the first 2 years loving their child but
| primarily supporting Mom, because the kid is so dependent on
| mom (literally physically for a period of time too).
|
| Once you get to 2+ and language starts developing, your bond
| with the kid will skyrocket. Come up with good ideas for
| adventures with them and they'll love you the way you're hoping
| they will.
| logifail wrote:
| > Dads basically spend the first 2 years loving their child
| but primarily supporting Mom, because the kid is so dependent
| on mom (literally physically for a period of time too)
|
| FWIW although this might be common, it's not always true.
|
| My wife went back to work about four months after our eldest
| was born (her choice, no pressure from employer), I was
| working from home - and flexibly - and so I got a lot of
| quality time with him until he was 18 months and started at
| daycare. That including us attending the local "mother and
| baby" group (yes, it was called that) together.
|
| After we had two further kids, both of which I also took to
| "mother and baby" group, they finally renamed the group ;)
| 1auralynn wrote:
| Yeah I think it's sometimes just about time spent. I have a
| 15 month old and my husband and he have always had a strong
| bond because he's around all the time: He works from home,
| has more flexible work than me, and I have an office 10 min
| away that I go to.
| wojciii wrote:
| I recently started getting hugs and kisses from my 2 year old
| daughter when I pick her up from daycare. She still likes her
| mother more than me but at least she started tolerating me
| instead of crying as she did before. :D
|
| I had the same "issue" with my son which is older. The issues
| went away after some time after we started to communicate
| (using words).
|
| Kids are great.
| ROTMetro wrote:
| Fun thing I came up with with my daughter. Our own secret
| communication. She could hold my hand and squeeze once for yes,
| twice for no. So for example, if her mom and I were discussing
| where to eat lunch, she could squeeze once on the place she
| wanted, twice on places she didn't. She expanded on it in time.
| sideshowb wrote:
| I was advised that generic advice isn't useful
| [deleted]
| blackbear_ wrote:
| Hm, I cannot decide whether this advice is useful or not
| mejutoco wrote:
| The only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on
|
| Oscar Wilde
| aaws11 wrote:
| generic advice is useful, as long as you know how to apply it
| in the right scenarios. else it's just mental mastication
| Gatsky wrote:
| "I've given a lot of thought to the optimal use of my time, and I
| simply do best operating by myself."
|
| Just hearing someone extremely successful with effectively
| limitless resources say this, hearing that this is OK.
| tomalaci wrote:
| I used to worry a lot about my future relative to where I
| currently was. Then I noticed that the grass is always greener on
| the other side. If you are young and things just aren't working
| out in your current position - consider moving, whether it is a
| new position or even a new place, at the very least you will get
| a new perspective and experience.
| kace91 wrote:
| Every time you want to say "x is wrong", say "I think x has
| problem y" and either offer a solution for y or ask how it could
| be solved.
|
| Advice at work by a manager. It makes discussions less
| confrontational, and I found that, regardless of whether it helps
| the discussion, it helps me keep a positive mood.
| int0x80 wrote:
| I find this as being indirect and dancing around the issue.
| When I do e.g. a code review and I see a glaring defect on it -
| I point it out very clearly and directly to make sure there is
| no misunderstanding - I say, XYZ is incorrect. Because of blah-
| blah. No feelings attached to it, just a fact.
| Cyph0n wrote:
| That's fine, but only as long as "blah-blah" explains why the
| code is _objectively_ incorrect. I usually start by writing
| out the explanation to help with phrasing the review comment.
| barbarbar wrote:
| Maybe it would be better if you worked alone then. The advice
| you are responding to is much better.
| pkoird wrote:
| A productivity problem is not always psychological, often it's
| physiological (sleep, inflammation, nutrition) as well.
|
| By my PCP. Seriously, go get checked (and presumably treated) for
| Vit D/B12 deficiency, sleep issues, and inflammations and it
| might change your life.
| inetsee wrote:
| This is not something from 2022. I read it decades ago and it has
| stuck with me all this time.
|
| "Wishing without work, is like fishing without bait."
| theawless wrote:
| "The difference between try and triumph is just a little umph!"
| -Ted Jr.
| thn-gap wrote:
| "Everything has a value".
|
| Earlier this year I was drunk at a bar, using the urinal while
| staring at the wall in front of me, which was full of stickers
| and scribbles. Then I saw this message, written by who knows who,
| and it really stuck with me.
| qup wrote:
| https://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrasti...
|
| It's old, but timeless, and I found it last month.
|
| Naming these concepts has made them easier to identify and has
| put me back in the driver's seat
| floppydiskette wrote:
| Thanks for this! I've never read it. I can relate a lot. I
| immediately bought a plushie of the Panic Monster.
| SturgeonsLaw wrote:
| Nice, an article I can read instead of cleaning the house!
| llanowarelves wrote:
| One man's procrastination is another man's prioritization.
| loganc2342 wrote:
| Thank you so much for sharing this, I had never seen it before
| and it hit home more than any article I've ever read.
| qup wrote:
| Now bitch slap the monkey
| schappim wrote:
| "use Dalle-2 to create concepts of what you want and then bring
| those concepts to a designer" this saves so much time and
| communication overhead in the design process. "I want the design
| to be similar to this"
| p1nkpineapple wrote:
| "If you keep planning your whole life out like this, you're going
| to end up miserable".
|
| I spontaneously proposed to my girlfriend last night. She said
| yes :)
| schappim wrote:
| Congratulations man!
| mif wrote:
| ,,What got you to this level won't get you to the next."
|
| To me it basically means that if you want to become a better
| version of yourself you have to make changes.
| electrondood wrote:
| You have to go first. If you don't make it happen, it doesn't
| happen.
|
| This is especially true in adults relationships. If you don't put
| yourself out there and voluntarily assume the risk of going
| first, risking rejection, etc. then nothing is going to happen.
| Other people are not going to call you to hang out.
| SCUSKU wrote:
| I think you're right about this. Regarding people not calling
| you to hang out though, I do think once you achieve a certain
| critical mass of relationship building (usually within a group
| setting) you will end up getting reciprocal invitations. But
| like you said, you have to put in the work first before you get
| to reap those rewards.
| mach1ne wrote:
| That's also about how much you give to others. I find that if
| I am at my 'normal' energy level I receive few reciprocal
| invitations. But if I deliberately give off 'high-energy'
| it's like people have found a button which they can press to
| have fun, and I receive nothing but invitations. The thing
| is, it's generally not fun for me to be high-energy.
| flappyeagle wrote:
| This includes breaking up
| foruhar wrote:
| Whatever you resist persists. Thinking about not wanting to be
| overweight makes me feel bad and defeated. Thinking about wanting
| to get fit gives me a sense of hope, and agency. Put another way
| thinking about what I don't want begs the question of what do I
| want and then I can put energy into that. Of course this does not
| apply to everything e.g. certain chronic diseases.
| noloblo wrote:
| from a old saying: a bird in hand is worth two in the bush
| RyanShook wrote:
| "Your mind is prone to misinterpret situations and your thinking
| does not always reflect reality."
|
| -Rewire Your Anxious Brain https://amzn.to/3B3muZ9
| awillen wrote:
| If something needs to be done, and it takes less than two minutes
| to do, just do it right now.
| aaws11 wrote:
| the problem is when it takes way longer than you thought it
| would and then you feel regrets for why you started in the
| first place.
|
| kinda like going down the rabbit-hole of building an automated
| solution to save 15 minutes of manual data entry
| awillen wrote:
| That's why I stick to two minutes... this is about washing
| that dish instead of leaving it in the sink rather than
| problem solving.
| aaws11 wrote:
| eat that frog. gotcha!
| [deleted]
| katzgrau wrote:
| Be unapologetically authentic.
|
| Came from one of my employees.
|
| Always struggled with being who I think the world will allow me
| to be as opposed to the person I am. I flip flop between those
| two states. That said, I think many of us do.
|
| Not to be confused with allowing undesirable behaviors to run
| free, of course. I'm mindful of being the kind of person I want
| to be too.
|
| Some things just feel easier when you're just being yourself and
| you choose not to give a shit what others think. It seems more
| attractive and confident.
|
| It can feel scary because you somehow feel like you're putting
| your life situation or identity at risk. But I guess I've never
| been good at predicting the future anyway. Might as well be
| myself.
| Simon_O_Rourke wrote:
| > Be unapologetically authentic.
|
| That would have me fired within 24 to 48 hours max. I'm a
| caustic potty-mouthed cynic outside of work, but have to
| basically hide a good portion of my authentic self in order to
| continue picking up a paycheck.
| Gud wrote:
| Perhaps you are not supposed to be employed? Or perhaps you
| are not supposed to be potty-mouthed and cynical?
| Simon_O_Rourke wrote:
| Supposed to be? I don't get who's supposed to do the
| supposing?
| andrewem wrote:
| If you don't mind my asking, how has your life unfolded as a
| result of following that advice?
| muertos3 wrote:
| People have two lives. First one starts when you're born. Second
| one starts when you realize you just have one!
|
| If you cannot manage yourself, then how can you manage the world?
|
| These two are the best advices I received in 2022. To be honest,
| I gave them to me after reading something close to them in the
| same week.
| victorbojica wrote:
| Not really an advice, but this [1] completely changed the way I
| look and try so solve problems.
|
| Basically, most of the things that are put in place have a reason
| behind it. You don't have to agree with the reason, but you must
| understand it before trying to solve a problem.
|
| [1]: https://fs.blog/chestertons-fence/
| compacct27 wrote:
| Think by writing. Someone on HN said this and recommended "How to
| take smart notes", which I furiously read through and applied to
| my life.
|
| That commenter said it and I'm gonna say it too: I've been able
| to think much more deeply, thoroughly, and most importantly much
| further along than my old self before doing this (and even
| further than my coworkers in ways that has already paid off).
|
| One day I really went off on it and wrote out my thoughts for 4
| hours on some important technical ideas I've been ruminating on.
| Not in one big doc, either, but using Obsidian to connect my
| ideas to each other. I used those ideas to knock out a massive
| technical problem we were having at work with half a day's
| effort. Found a quick win swimming around in my head.
|
| It's been a game changer.
|
| Edit: I found the original comment!! Read it, there's two other
| books there that have supercharged my life. Probably the most
| influential comment I've read on HN
| https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=33594264
| mach1ne wrote:
| How much of that value derived was thanks to Obsidian? I work
| with pen-and-paper notes, is it worth the shift?
| compacct27 wrote:
| A lot more than I expected. What I liked is that I could
| easily connect thoughts written down on separate notes. Lots
| of "oh hey...I could use this approach I outlined over
| there", connecting sometimes 6 separate ideas under a new
| roof.
|
| I was skeptical bc I'm huge on pen and paper, but one morning
| I just said screw it and put Obsidian on my phone. That alone
| unleashed a torrent of thought, I think always having
| something you can take notes on is the key. Paper isn't
| always on you when an idea strikes. A phone typically is
| spai2 wrote:
| Could you provide a link to that post or comment?
| compacct27 wrote:
| Added it in an edit.
| greggarious wrote:
| Someone told me to kill myself, looking back maybe they were
| throwing me a hint of what's to come :/
|
| (I kid, I kid, but being told to read some stoic philosophy was
| useful)
| nextlevelwizard wrote:
| Work health care professional hard suggested I go to ER for a
| thing and I reluctantly went. Shit got way real only couple hours
| later to a point where I was in so much pain I hardly could walk.
| Luckily I was already in the ER and got emergency surgery done.
|
| Yeah probably not the kind of advice OP was looking for but
| definitely the best I have gotten for multiple years.
| quantail wrote:
| Don't drink alcohol, Don't buy unnecessary things, Get one thing
| done a day.
| kvu207 wrote:
| avip wrote:
| Not sure it's the best advice I got in 2022, but it is my
| favorite HN comment from 2022! And it's great, period.
| "There are no tricks, that's just a distraction. Just sit down
| and do it. Ass in chair gets you there."
|
| credit @nso95
| ChildOfChaos wrote:
| It's something I have seen from a few sources and it's
| something I really need to 'learn' in 2023.
|
| I tend to overthink a lot, to try and 'figure it out' or to
| 'make sense of it all', but really I just need to do the things
| that I already know need to be done, I always know things I
| need to do, I always have the next step, but because it doesn't
| quite feel enough or because it's not overly clear to me how
| the parts fit together or what will happen, I will go back into
| 'trying to figure it out mode'
|
| It's depressing when I stop to think how little time I actually
| spend doing the things that will actually make the difference
| and move forward and how much my mind goes in circles trying to
| figure out how I need to change to make progress, but the truth
| likely is, I just need to do the thing, do more of it and do it
| faster, everything else becomes an excuse.
|
| In some ways it's an insecurity, because you can't know the
| future ahead of time and you don't know how what you are doing
| now will fully link up to what you are hoping to achieve on a
| bigger scale, but you just have to take that leap.
| calltrak wrote:
| hprotagonist wrote:
| "Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world's grief. Do good
| now! Walk justly now! No one is expected to complete the work,
| but neither may any one desist from it."
| s1artibartfast wrote:
| "stop worrying and be happy" the advice actually made me quite
| angry when I received it as I was going through a really rough
| patch.
|
| Just taking a long time to sink in and internalize, but I think
| it's spot on. Worrying doesn't help the problems or generate
| Solutions, it only makes it worse. Everything single thing that I
| thought I needed to worry about can be better achieved without
| the anguish. You can still think, plan, and act without doing it
| from a place of fear and without the negative emotional baggage.
| samsquire wrote:
| I did receive some advice relating to the gospel about fighting
| or letting God deal with my problems.
|
| But here's my advice to you.
|
| This is my command to you: love eachother.
| aaws11 wrote:
| hugs.
| anyfactor wrote:
| "Reputation takes a lifetime to build, but only seconds to
| destroy." - Arnold Rothstein (Boardwalk Empire)
|
| I will tell myself that every day. Whether it be family, work or
| people in general, I have seen how good reputation and goodwill
| get vanished within just one act of impulsiveness.
|
| Doesn't mean I am bad. Even just a harmless tendency such as
| curiosity, attempting to impress someone or just forcing yourself
| to fit in, will sometimes cost so much trouble. I have become
| comfortable of editing and deleting my ideas from the internet,
| but that doesn't work in real life (or in emails).
|
| I remind myself that, I have saved myself from so many problems
| by restraining myself from acting. Empathy is a good technique to
| save myself, asking myself, "how my behavior is perceived by
| others? Have I truly listened before I came to a conclusion? Is
| compromise an easier solution?"
|
| Mediocrity is a survival technique, and it saves you from
| yourself. It shouldn't be ostracized. People have done more harm
| by trying to do the right thing they saw fit. Be the person who
| is generally liked, or in the worst case scenario is forgettable.
| dctoedt wrote:
| > _Reputation takes a lifetime to build, but only seconds to
| destroy._
|
| There was a saying in the nuclear Navy: _Ten thousand attaboys
| can get wiped out in a heartbeat by one awshit._
| germinalphrase wrote:
| "You're unhappy in your career; you need to commit to leaving
| rather than just talking about it"
| noud wrote:
| I'm not responsible for solving other people's problems and
| behavior.
| ipnon wrote:
| "I can fix them," famous last words ...
| rffn wrote:
| "Speak last."
|
| Meaning listening to others more often than telling. In
| particular when you lead people. Not holding back my opinion but
| let the others contribute.
|
| I particularly like the short, simple, concise statement saying
| everything.
| enduser wrote:
| From The Crown:
|
| Does it need to be said?
|
| Does it need to be said now?
|
| Does it need to be said by me?
| aaws11 wrote:
| love each other.
| juangacovas wrote:
| Rocky Linux 9
| oshirisuki wrote:
| if you truly want to do something, you do it
|
| I don't remember who I heard it from
|
| I contrast that with how some people say "I'd like to learn X
| language" (like Japanese, or Italian, not like Rust) and they
| don't, some languages are difficult (German comes to mind), but
| ultimately, if you want to learn a language, you do it
| barnacled wrote:
| That it wasn't completely insane to write a book on the linux
| memory manager.
| notesinthefield wrote:
| Ive spent a lot of time this past year becoming a community
| mediator and learned the strongest decision a person can make is
| the one in which they have agency creating. It's guided a lot of
| my own decisions and helped my relationships quite a lot.
| Ilasky wrote:
| I actually got mine from "Rocketman" (I watched it a bit late):
|
| "You gotta kill the person you were born to be to become the
| person you want to be."
|
| There's a lot wrapped in it: discomfort, uneasiness, and
| determination. It's made impact from the day-to-day life level
| (trying new things I wouldn't have before) to the large life-
| scale (quitting my job to pursue my startup).
|
| Ultimately, you just gotta go for it.
| michaelbuckbee wrote:
| Love that quote (and hadn't considered media as advice), but in
| that vein, the TV show Severance absolutely shifted how I
| perceive work and my separation from it.
| rg111 wrote:
| Why does this have to be true?
|
| My experience with life has been different.
|
| I took some elements from the person I was born to be. Only
| some elements of careful choice.
|
| This made me a better person, a better human in the long run.
|
| In the short term, it made me fit well, and also reduced
| unnecessary friction, which non-trivially helped in becoming
| the person I wanted to be.
|
| _Killing_ is kinda like burning bridges.
| SturgeonsLaw wrote:
| Depends on where you're at, and where you want to be. I'm
| also an incrementalist, however there are some people who are
| stuck in a rut and would benefit from "taking the leap",
| whatever that leap may be.
| jstx1 wrote:
| Someone else told me to be myself, now you're telling me to be
| someone else... this thread is about as helpful as one can
| expect a general advice thread to be.
| majewsky wrote:
| It depends on what your definition of "being yourself" is.
| mekoka wrote:
| No conflicts in the advices. Many (most?) people live their
| life with default settings, simply going along with and never
| questioning expectations from the world around them (the life
| they were born to live). They're simply the instrument of a
| self-fulfilling prophecy. To be who you want to be, you need
| to be willing to change those default settings, even if that
| runs counter the predictions.
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