[HN Gopher] The linguistics of swearing explain why we substitut...
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       The linguistics of swearing explain why we substitute darn for damn
        
       Author : pseudolus
       Score  : 28 points
       Date   : 2022-12-12 02:53 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | AndrewOMartin wrote:
       | I assumed it was just poor kerning.
        
       | posterboy wrote:
       | I don't think it's a substitution. Lexicographically, there is a
       | difference between an alternative (colour / color) and a synonym
       | (hue). Now _darn_ might look like a variant if you don 't know
       | the etymology, but ignorance is no basis for etymology. The
       | substitution might abuse this fact somehow, but it isn't fooling
       | nobody, is it? I hope the article will explain, but I expect they
       | are blissfully unaware of how intricate soundchange is.
       | 
       | For example, _dang_ seems to be a cognate of _danger_ , a
       | francophone form of _damage_ , evident in _quelle domage_ "what a
       | pitty", very far away from _damnit_ "may he burn in hell", but
       | the details are hazy. So people err on the safe side of _I know
       | what you are doing_ with the minced oath. In reality, it 's
       | prudishness mixed with language racism, excuse my french.
       | 
       | > a pilot study of 100 people who spoke one of five languages
       | that are only distantly related: Hebrew, Hindi, Hungarian, Korean
       | or Russian
       | 
       | That's where I stopped reading. Because my statistics isn't up to
       | the task of engaging their methods, and not because I were a
       | militant defender of multiple language genesis. I just really
       | need an excuse to spend my time better, elsewhere.
        
         | coldtea wrote:
         | > _The substitution might abuse this fact somehow, but it isn
         | 't fooling nobody, is it?_
         | 
         | That's the whole point of the substitution. To use something
         | that sounds similar enough as to be defensively inoffensive,
         | while still alluding to the intended word as to no actually
         | fool anybody. Thus the etymology is irrelevant.
        
       | mauvehaus wrote:
       | My niece was asking about "the T-word" when I was visiting family
       | for Thanksgiving. Her mom was in favor of letting the matter go
       | undiscussed, but I'm never one to back down from being a bad
       | influence or the fun uncle (a lot of overlap there, actually).
       | Plus, I might get to learn a new swear word.
       | 
       | My niece asked about "tewkin'". (long 'u' sound, like Duke Nukem)
       | 
       | I informed her that that was a new one for me.
       | 
       | Mom, now intrigued, asked "Could the person you heard use it be
       | referring to a bird called a toucan?"
       | 
       | "I don't think so"
       | 
       | "Well, what did they say?"
       | 
       | "Aww, I forgot my tewkin mittens!"
       | 
       | At which point, I informed my niece that she had likely
       | encountered a Canadian who was underdressed for the weather and
       | was lamenting that they had forgotten their toque and mittens,
       | and we were all disappointed that she hadn't taught us all a new
       | swear. Except mom.
       | 
       | Tying this back to TFA, I find it interesting that my niece seems
       | to have (at the age of 8) intuited the relation of hard-sounding
       | consonants to swearing. Tewkin' meets the criteria of having a
       | 't' and a 'k' and seems pretty plausible.
        
         | jonsen wrote:
         | Well done! I wish there were more tewkin uncles around.
        
         | im3w1l wrote:
         | I would assume that tewkin is a substitute for fucking (like I
         | assume with hecking, freaking, frigging).
        
       | ars wrote:
       | I've heard people advocate for removing the taboo about swearing,
       | and making it socially acceptable in most (or all) circumstances.
       | 
       | What they don't realize is if we did that, the swear would lose
       | all power. "Golly" was at one point a really bad swear.
       | 
       | People who want to swear _need_ conservative people who are
       | against swearing, in order for the swears to retain their meaning
       | /shock value.
        
         | retrac wrote:
         | There's a conjecture (I hesitate to call it theory because it's
         | not very well fleshed out) that profanity tends to reflect the
         | taboo and/or sacred things of a society.
         | 
         | Quebec used to be a highly religious society heavily controlled
         | by the Catholic Church until the 1960s. Quebec profanities are
         | full of slangy modifications of terms that, translated
         | literally, mean things like "chalice" or "eucharist". English
         | used to be like that as well. Damn and Hell were harsh words.
         | With the decline in our religiosity has come a decline in the
         | severity of the words. Most societies have taboos about sex and
         | bodily waste, so little surprise that there's a profane term
         | for those things in most languages.
         | 
         | And what about today? Some of the most profane words in
         | contemporary English are slurs used against racial and sexual
         | minorities. N-word, F-word (no, not that one, the _other_
         | F-word), and so on. Speaking these words invokes transgression
         | of the most sacred values of society. Some are considered so
         | powerful or dangerous, that simply saying them aloud is
         | believed to have the ability to cause psychic harm, which is
         | more than a little reminiscent of the old beliefs about the
         | risk of supernatural destruction being inflicted on communities
         | by God that tolerate blasphemy.
         | 
         | As you note, I think this is likely a universal human tendency.
         | There's always going to be the sacred and the taboo. And taking
         | a big fat verbal shit on them will always outrage people.
        
           | fluster wrote:
        
           | benj111 wrote:
        
         | smeagull wrote:
         | Golly, I'd never have thought of that.
        
         | Eleison23 wrote:
        
         | lstodd wrote:
         | I lived for a few years in a place where no word is taboo.
         | 
         | What you don't realize is that when no word is taboo people
         | tend to invent nontrivial sequences, or entire monologues to
         | regain and further enhance the effect. Which I think is better
         | than inventing pitiful euphemisms. It's almost poetry.
        
         | saurik wrote:
         | The people I have seen advocate for that absolutely realize
         | that as they _want_ to rob these words of their power to
         | offend.
        
           | ars wrote:
           | And then people will create new offensive words, because
           | people sometimes need such words.
           | 
           | So what have they accomplished?
        
             | Teever wrote:
             | Just another revolution on the euphemism treadmill:
             | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Euphemism#Lifespan
        
               | marcosdumay wrote:
               | Well, they would accomplish a reverse revolution for
               | once.
        
         | jjulius wrote:
         | That all depends on how the word is used, no? I swear often,
         | but it's never _at_ people, rather I use them as adjectives or
         | whatnot (eg,  "Take the fucking trash out,") or during times of
         | frustration (eg, "God fucking damnit", "Jesus fucking christ").
         | That's where I think the argument can be made about removing
         | the taboo, because really, at least when I say it (and perhaps
         | that's where this argument falls apart? Because it all boils
         | down to intent...), there's no difference between, "Aww man,"
         | and "Oh for fucks sake", or, "Take the stupid trash out," and
         | "Take the fucking trash out".
        
           | ars wrote:
           | Try saying "Golly" instead. Would it work as well?
           | 
           | I suspect not. That's what will happen if you succeed in
           | removing the taboo.
        
             | benj111 wrote:
             | Bloody is pretty satisfying and Ron Weasley can say that in
             | a Pg film.
        
           | doubled112 wrote:
           | I feel the same way. Often it comes down to swearing to me vs
           | swearing at me.
        
         | vlunkr wrote:
         | I would say the taboo is gone in many places. Like podcasts or
         | youtube, where the existing moderation controls hold no power.
         | I wouldn't call it a great victory. It certainly reveals who
         | has a shallow vocabulary and leans on the f-word like a crutch.
        
       | pattisapu wrote:
       | Slurs seem to share some of this violence in expression.
       | 
       | In English, at least, many unspeakable words used to describe
       | Blacks, Asians, Jews, gay men, lesbian women, and others seem to
       | have some of these "k" (or "g" (voiced)) features, harsh
       | consonant endings, etc.
       | 
       | I wonder if it is like this in other languages too.
        
         | rahkiin wrote:
         | K and g are very regular sounds in Dutch. For any word. But
         | they do show up also in 'bad' words.
         | 
         | Our worst words are about giving other people terrible
         | diseases.
        
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