[HN Gopher] The erasure of women from online pregnancy literature
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       The erasure of women from online pregnancy literature
        
       Author : tomohawk
       Score  : 178 points
       Date   : 2022-11-19 20:54 UTC (2 hours ago)
        
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       | andirk wrote:
        
       | rootusrootus wrote:
       | This won't ever be resolved so long as there is insistence on
       | equating biological sex with what gender someone identifies as.
       | Biological differences are real, regardless of what your brain
       | tells you to feel.
        
         | JBits wrote:
         | Biological differences are real but lots of them can be changed
         | by hormones. People caring about how they are categorised is
         | universally central to a lot of people, this article
         | illustrates that. I think ciswomen have the right to be upset
         | about changes in language but transmen deserve no less rights
         | for being a minority. How different ideas of how language
         | should be used can be reconciled is not something I know the
         | answer to, but denying the biological reality of changes
         | experienced by people who are trans is discrimination. I don't
         | think the complaints expressed by this writer are invalid,
         | quite the opposite, but her support for gender criticals makes
         | everything hypocritical.
        
         | socialismisok wrote:
         | The concept of "biological sex" is not even a binary, and it's
         | treated differently in different parts of the world. So we
         | haven't settled on definitions of biological sex outside as a
         | species yet.
        
           | dillondoyle wrote:
           | Thank you. I've made this comment three times now on the this
           | thread.
           | 
           | Why is it that those making the most 'biological fact'
           | arguments ignore actual biology.
           | 
           | ffs
        
           | cbeach wrote:
        
           | houstonn wrote:
           | Biology is crystal clear on this. There are 2 sexes, one with
           | small mobile gametes and the other with large, immobile ones.
           | It's binary.
        
             | socialismisok wrote:
             | That covers approximately 99% of cases. But are you willing
             | to write off the 1% of people that doesn't cover?
             | 
             | I'd rather make sure that the language I use includes them
             | where possible.
        
               | eddic wrote:
               | Clarifying question: are you saying that 1% of humans
               | don't produce either small mobile gametes or large,
               | immobile ones? In that case what do they produce?
               | 
               | I've noticed that in the debate around 'binary' (on
               | Twitter, I confess), some people claim that no human has
               | ever been observed who didn't produce either sperm or ova
               | (and never both). I'd like to know whether that's true.
        
               | adamsbriscoe wrote:
               | Not sure what you're referring to but it's not 1
               | percent.. it's not even 0.01 percent.
               | 
               | Cursory search:
               | https://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/news/20190503/study-
               | abo...
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | That link says 0.13%, first off, and it only includes
               | people who have visible genital differences.
               | 
               | Many, many more people have different genetic
               | configurations that can manifest well after birth.
               | 
               | I'll admit I rounded up to one percent from something
               | that was a large fractional percent.
        
               | adamsbriscoe wrote:
               | Um no it doesn't. It says 1.3 out of 1000 births, is that
               | what you thought you were referring to? I'm willing to
               | give you the benefit of the doubt.
               | 
               | "Many, many more people have different genetic
               | configurations that can manifest well after birth."
               | 
               | Do you have any references for this?
        
               | knaekhoved wrote:
               | Language ought to "cleave reality at the joints" - i.e.
               | approximate an information-theoretically optimal
               | encoding.
               | 
               | If you start screwing over the 99.9%ile case to slightly
               | improve the remaining 0.1%, you are not approximating an
               | optimal encoding.
        
               | detaro wrote:
               | How does referring to someone as "pregnant person"
               | instead of "pregnant woman" "screw them over"?
        
               | rejectfinite wrote:
               | Read the article. Its a lot of other things baked into
               | that.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | LawTalkingGuy wrote:
               | > I'd rather make sure that the language I use includes
               | them where possible.
               | 
               | Man/Woman does. As do Male/Female. Disorders of Sexual
               | Development are disorders, not new sexes. A woman without
               | breasts or with an extra X chromosome is a much a woman
               | as a man without arms or with an extra toe is still a
               | man.
               | 
               | > are you willing to write off the [people] that doesn't
               | cover
               | 
               | Those are weird made-up scare words. Nobody is writing
               | them off. What does what even mean? We just don't
               | recognize their identity or their identity terminology as
               | being meaningful, in the same way an atheist feels about
               | their religion.
               | 
               | They're just as welcome, or not, as they were without it.
        
               | ReptileMan wrote:
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | 80 million people is not a rounding error.
        
               | ReptileMan wrote:
               | When we are talking 8 billion it is exactly that
        
               | rootusrootus wrote:
               | Where do you get the 80M number from? It seems like you
               | may be off several orders of magnitude.
        
               | zmgsabst wrote:
               | Yes -- discussing a bimodal distribution as a bimodal
               | distribution is useful, even in the presence of outliers
               | and data points bridging the two peaks.
               | 
               | "Man" and "woman" are names for those nodes in the
               | bimodal distribution of traits, as correlated with sex.
               | Same as "cow" and "bull", or "hen" and "cock", or "doe"
               | and "stag", or "female" and "male".
               | 
               | I'd rather my language be able to discuss the experience
               | of the 99%+ than become incapable of discussing basic
               | facts (like apes being sexually dimorphic) because
               | reality might offend outliers.
        
               | rejectfinite wrote:
               | 1% is nothing then in the grand scheme of things.
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | 99% of the universe is hydrogen or helium. I very much
               | believe 1% is super important in the grand scheme of
               | things.
               | 
               | You are saying "80 million people is nothing". I
               | disagree, I think 80 million people is a lot of people.
        
               | LawTalkingGuy wrote:
               | > I think 80 million people is a lot of people ...
               | 
               | and thus, unasked by intersex people and without a clear
               | theory of how this would help, you would destroy the
               | concept of sex-based-rights which keep four billion
               | people and the world's children safe?
        
               | mindslight wrote:
               | > _99% of the universe is hydrogen or helium._
               | 
               | And the field where that prominence matters,
               | astrophysics, refers to anything that isn't hydrogen or
               | helium as a "metal". Definitions are fluid. Insisting
               | that everyone tediously say "people who can get pregnant"
               | rather than the simple "women" (with the more precise
               | existentially quantified meaning being clear from
               | context) is extremely intolerant.
        
               | houstonn wrote:
               | 0.018%
               | 
               | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12476264/
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | Or 1.7%, linked from that paper. I don't think there's a
               | consensus number, I picked something in the middle and
               | approximated to a whole integer.
        
             | striking wrote:
             | So people with DSD / intersex people simply no longer exist
             | now?
             | 
             | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intersex
        
               | bewaretheirs wrote:
               | My understanding is that "differences in sex development"
               | or "disorders of sex development" is now the preferred
               | terminology. See for instance:
               | 
               | "Disorders of sex development, or DSD (previously called
               | intersex), includes a range of conditions that lead to
               | abnormal development of the sex organs and atypical
               | genitalia ..."
               | 
               | https://www.ucsfbenioffchildrens.org/conditions/disorders
               | -of...
        
               | SnowHill9902 wrote:
               | They exist and are the exception that makes the rule.
        
               | homonculus1 wrote:
               | That's a birth defect, not a sex.
        
               | knaekhoved wrote:
               | Stop using intersex people (who have extremely rare
               | physiological diseases) as a political tool to justify
               | transsexual ideology, when >99% of transsexuals do not
               | have any such disease.
        
               | foldr wrote:
               | While you're right that there's no connection between
               | being trans and being intersex (except that intersex
               | people are probably more likely to be misgendered at
               | birth), it's not the case that intersex people are
               | 'extremely rare'. Depending on definition, we are talking
               | about ~1% of people. For comparison, that is e.g. around
               | the percentage of men who are 6'4 or taller (in the US).
        
               | rootusrootus wrote:
               | > Depending on definition, we are talking about ~1% of
               | people
               | 
               | You have to use an extremely expansive definition in
               | order to reach 1%. So expansive that it renders the term
               | meaningless.
        
               | ch4s3 wrote:
               | This is not an endorsement of any particular take in the
               | thread, but this seemed like an appropriate place to
               | correct a mistake regarding the frequency of intersex
               | births and link out to some articles for the curious.
               | 
               | That 1% number comes from the Fausto-Sterling survey
               | which incorrectly lumps in Klinefelter syndrome, Turner
               | syndrome, and late-onset adrenal hyperplasia. Eliminating
               | those diseases yields a rate no higher than 0.018%, 2
               | orders of magnitude lower as the upper bound[1]. Only a
               | small portion have cells for producing both types of
               | gametes, only about 5% of all intersex people[2][3].
               | 
               | [1] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12476264/
               | 
               | [2] https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/001669.htm
               | 
               | [3] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/True_hermaphroditism#
               | :~:text....
        
               | foldr wrote:
               | The controversy about what counts as 'intersex' is mostly
               | pointless, as far as I can tell, as the term neither has
               | (nor requires) a precise definition. I think in this
               | context it makes sense to include any condition that
               | blurs the edges of the gender binary as traditionally
               | understood in society. If you look at the details of e.g.
               | Klinefelter syndrome from this perspective, it's not
               | difficult to see why it might be seen as part of the
               | intersex spectrum:
               | 
               | >broad hips, poor muscle tone and slower than usual
               | muscle growth, reduced facial and body hair that starts
               | growing later than usual, a small penis and testicles,
               | and enlarged breasts (gynaecomastia)
               | 
               | It's by no means a settled matter what does or doesn't
               | count as 'intersex'. I suspect that few reputable
               | researchers would waste time engaging in such a pointless
               | debate over terminology. Some relevant points in this
               | article:
               | https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5808814/
               | 
               | All that said, one can, if one wishes, cherry pick the
               | smallest available estimate of the number of 'intersex'
               | people and thereby dismiss the issues raised by these
               | people on the grounds that they're small in number. I'm
               | not sure how much scrutiny the logic of that rhetorical
               | move would withstand.
        
               | Spooky23 wrote:
               | Intersex people are different, they have a biological
               | variance.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | houstonn wrote:
               | That argument is a fundamental misunderstanding about the
               | nature of biological sex, which is connected to the
               | distinct type of gametes (sex cells) that an organism
               | produces. As a broad concept, males are the sex that
               | produce small gametes (sperm) and females produce large
               | gametes (ova). There are no intermediate gametes, which
               | is why there is no spectrum of sex. Biological sex in
               | humans is a binary system.
        
               | eganist wrote:
               | Regardless, it misses the distinction between biological
               | sex v. a mind's gender identity, and _solely by the sheer
               | quantity of neurons and possible interconnects,_ it 's
               | impossible to say that every person's brain strictly
               | aligns with one of two modes of operation. (if anyone who
               | specializes in gender studies knows more on this topic
               | and believes I'm summarizing this--or even stating the
               | problem--incorrectly, please step in; this isn't my
               | specialty)
               | 
               | In fact, it's only appropriate to say that every brain is
               | unique in how it processes the self and the world, and
               | that while for the majority of people it's easy or even
               | innate to identify with certain characteristics, there
               | are minorities for whom this isn't the case.
               | 
               | We need to express inclusive empathy where we can, even
               | if the _only_ reason for doing so is to make sure that
               | when we fall outside societally defined structures, we
               | ourselves can also continue to be respected. Ideally we
               | 'd do so because we're trying to be good people, but my
               | point is, even a selfish person should reach the same
               | conclusion.
        
               | layer8 wrote:
               | We should also acknowledge that language more often than
               | not works in approximations and generalizations, and
               | usually everyone still understands what is meant. There
               | needs to be some flexibility on both sides.
        
               | dmix wrote:
               | This is an important point and it's lost in these
               | debates.
               | 
               | The new cool thing is to pretend context/intent doesn't
               | exist _, that words and expressions should always be
               | looked at in isolation. Even though it 's a fundamental
               | part of language and how the brain perception systems
               | work to contextualize and loosely categorize everything
               | based on the current set of information in a particular
               | scenario.
               | 
               | Words/language is messy, highly flexible, and rarely
               | strictly defined. For good reason.
               | 
               | _Mostly so people can win internet arguments and feel
               | superior/victimized.
        
               | 762236 wrote:
               | Hormones help regulate the brain and there are sex
               | differences in the hormones. I have a hard time believing
               | that someone can be in the wrong body, as the brain is a
               | part of the body.
        
               | eganist wrote:
               | > Hormones help regulate the brain and there are sex
               | differences in the hormones.
               | 
               | Does every cell in every body react to hormones etc. the
               | same way? There are differences between each and every
               | person on the planet in terms of how each cell in their
               | body reacts to things like hormones, neurotransmitters,
               | and other signaling molecules that manifest either subtly
               | or extremely. Anything from a person's height to their
               | temperament to their hunger (literally, or figuratively
               | e.g drive) can vary based on the production of and
               | reception of these transmitters, and every single
               | person's body varies in every facet of the above based on
               | environmental and genetic considerations.
               | 
               | > I have a hard time believing that someone can be in the
               | wrong body, as the brain is a part of the body.
               | 
               | That's an empathy thing.
        
               | 762236 wrote:
               | That doesn't mean that those other considerations are
               | stronger than the hormonal differences due to sex. The
               | sex differences for testosterone are large.
               | 
               | > That's an empathy thing.
               | 
               | You're welcome to empathize with my inability to believe
               | that someone can be in the wrong body.
        
           | rolobio wrote:
           | There is absolutely a consensus (well, there was until about
           | 5 years ago). People point at exceptions to prove the rule is
           | entirely false. How many arms do humans have? Two. "Well my
           | uncle was born without arms! So clearly humans have an
           | unknown amount of arms". Men and women are real, there are a
           | couple of exceptions, but not as many as people imagine.
           | 
           | I expect this to be promptly removed from the front page. I'm
           | happy to see taboo subjects being spoken of again.
        
             | socialismisok wrote:
             | Third gender people and intersex people have existed as
             | long as humans have.
             | 
             | Western cultures in the past couple decades have started
             | acknowledging this, but the concept is not foreign to all
             | countries.
             | 
             | And the changes proposed are to include as many people as
             | possible. You might say, people are _typically_ born with
             | two arms, sometimes fewer. It doesn 't remove the fact that
             | most people express as 2 armed, while including the people
             | who don't.
        
               | rolobio wrote:
               | No one is denying exceptions exist. Humans have two arms.
               | Anything else is an exception to the rule, but the rule
               | still applies.
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | Atoms are binary in your model, every atom is hydrogen or
               | helium, or an exception?
               | 
               | I believe that we can be inclusive of those exceptions
               | and treat them as unique things that are within the
               | definition, rather than placing them outside the
               | definition. I would rather spend the energy to evolve
               | definitions to include people rather than tell people
               | they are marginalia.
               | 
               | It sounds like you disagree.
        
               | rolobio wrote:
               | I don't understand what atoms have to do with gender.
               | 
               | It is not inclusive to call a woman a "birthing person"
               | it's actually excluding the women who can't give birth.
               | Are women who can't become pregnant men? Of course not.
               | 
               | We have let politeness run away with us. It's time to
               | kindly, but firmly tell people there are two genders.
               | It's not a kindness to lie to a person, even if they ask
               | for the lie.
        
               | detaro wrote:
               | > _it's actually excluding the women who can't give
               | birth_
               | 
               |  _Not_ out of the group of  "women", so "Are women who
               | can't become pregnant men?" doesn't make sense.
               | 
               | EDIT: and indeed the creepy arguments centering womanhood
               | around periods or pregnancy, which _do actually exclude_
               | women who can 't give birth from womanhood, tend to come
               | from a subset(!) of the people that also are strongly
               | against such language, not the people for it.
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | I think you might be misunderstanding the way language is
               | evolving here.
               | 
               | Woman who can't give birth are still women. Women who
               | cannot menstruate are still women. We are not removing
               | anyone from the set of women.
               | 
               | What we are saying is that, in addition to women there
               | are also people who do not recognize themselves as women,
               | but who can give birth or menstruate.
               | 
               | So, we could say "women, men, and other gendered people
               | who give birth..." or "birthing women, men, and other
               | gendered people".
               | 
               | But that's a mouthful. All genders are people, so we
               | choose "people who give birth" since it includes women
               | AND people who are not women.
               | 
               | So yes, it's inclusive because it's including women and
               | not women, rather than only women.
        
               | dmix wrote:
               | Rare exceptions to the rule doesn't make rules useless.
        
               | jasmer wrote:
               | The example you've provided actually does not support you
               | argument, just the opposite.
               | 
               | People 'typically' have two arms?
               | 
               | Well they 'typically' also have two legs, a sense of
               | smell, sight, hearing, a heart, two lungs, the ability to
               | speak.
               | 
               | What exactly can we expect all 'humans' to have? And how
               | can we refer to them without making any assumptions
               | whatsoever about their state of being so as to be
               | 'inclusive' as you say?
               | 
               | It's a Monty Python sketch of absurdity and will end up
               | with people slapping others in the face with fish.
               | 
               | Aside from probably using 'they' or 'them' in some cases
               | in which we didn't tend to before, language as we use it
               | is perfectly fine in almost all cases. It never will
               | perfectly encompass everyone and that's fine, it doesn't
               | have to.
        
               | foldr wrote:
               | >What exactly can we expect all 'humans' to have? And how
               | can we refer to them without making any assumptions
               | whatsoever about their state of being so as to be
               | 'inclusive' as you say?
               | 
               | This question answers itself, no? You can refer to them
               | as 'humans'.
        
               | ClassyJacket wrote:
               | What's the third gender?
               | 
               | What's it called? What's an example of a person of that
               | gender?
               | 
               | What gametes do they have? What chromosomes?
        
               | fleddr wrote:
               | You will never get an answer. Biological sex, gender,
               | gender identity, gender expression and even gender roles
               | are thrown into a pile to play 5D chess.
               | 
               | Fact remains, there is no third sex. Intersex is not a
               | third sex and sexual anomalies also do not introduce a
               | third sex.
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | Depends on your culture. The Dine people have four
               | genders (feminine man, masculine man, feminine woman,
               | masculine woman), hijra and fa'afafine are feminine male
               | genders, in Inuit culture a sipiniq is someone who
               | fulfills a man's role with female genitalia.
               | 
               | In mesopotamia, mesoamerica, and the Indus valley there
               | were people of unclear sex who fulfilled genders beyond
               | men and women.
               | 
               | A neologism from pan indigenous culture is Two Spirit.
               | 
               | These concepts have existed for a loooong time, however
               | they were quite rare in western countries. As westerners,
               | we're being exposed to them now, but they are hardly
               | novel on the world stage.
        
           | gedy wrote:
           | We call people "black" and "white", when there is
           | statistically almost an even spectrum between skin colors,
           | genes, etc. Your examples in between are really statistical
           | outliers, numbers-wise.
        
             | socialismisok wrote:
             | They are people. Even in small numbers, they are important.
             | 
             | Hell, nearly every atom in the universe is hydrogen and
             | helium, does that make carbon, oxygen, iron, etc
             | statistical outliers we shouldn't account for? Of course
             | not. Our science and language accounts for even marginal
             | percentages, why would it be any different when talking
             | about people?
        
               | ClassyJacket wrote:
               | By your logic, since oxygen exists, that means helium can
               | identify as hydrogen.
        
             | detaro wrote:
             | > _We call people "black" and "white",_
             | 
             | And probably do quite a big amount of damage to the
             | spectrum inbetween by doing so. Seems like an excellent
             | argument to not just focus on the binary.
        
           | knaekhoved wrote:
           | Intersex people are tired of transsexuals using them as a
           | political tool.
        
             | rootusrootus wrote:
             | Ha, I bet a fair number of transsexuals are tired of
             | transsexuals using them as a political tool.
        
             | eddic wrote:
             | Are you intersex? if not, aren't you doing the same thing?
        
         | ergonaught wrote:
         | That won't be resolved until "we" stop overloading words with
         | incompatible meanings.
         | 
         | If we are separating gender and sex, then gender references
         | need to stop using words referring to sex, because the vast and
         | overwhelming majority of English speakers understand words like
         | man/woman in sexual terms.
         | 
         | But oh well.
        
           | amanaplanacanal wrote:
           | Language changes, and plenty of words have multiple meanings.
           | I usually don't have any problem understanding what people
           | mean from context.
        
           | wnoise wrote:
           | I certainly think it is worth distinguishing sex and gender,
           | and that using different words is the necessary first step.
           | However I think that by-and-large people use "man" and
           | "woman" to describe gender -- though not gender identity, but
           | filling the role in society successfully. No one checks
           | genitals, chromosomes, or gametes. They look and eyeball it,
           | based somewhat on anatomical clues, but also a gestalt of
           | dress, hairstyles, mannerisms, etc.
           | 
           | Typically I hear "male" and "female" used to describe sex,
           | though it would be somewhat awkward to use them as nouns
           | rather than adjectives.
        
             | roenxi wrote:
             | > No one checks genitals...
             | 
             | If someone advertises as, say, "a man seeking a woman" in
             | the local paper I think they probably _are_ going to
             | checking genitals. A very key reason why we have genders is
             | specifically to advertise what genitals someone has,
             | because that is need-to-know information for pregnancy and
             | then building up a family.
        
               | dillondoyle wrote:
               | Not everyone cares.
               | 
               | and there are plenty of ways to build a family outside of
               | cis-het sex.
               | 
               | and who hides such an important part of their identity
               | from their partner? This isn't som Nip/Tuck tv drama
        
               | rootusrootus wrote:
               | This brings up another good point. While someone
               | absolutely 100% has the right to identify as whichever
               | gender feels right to them, it is also 100% unacceptable
               | to hide that when you are dating.
               | 
               | That is a good argument for not trying so hard to
               | overload the same terms.
        
               | foldr wrote:
               | >it is also 100% unacceptable to hide that when you are
               | dating.
               | 
               | If you need to know about someone's genitals, you can
               | just ask them before you meet them. No-one is hiding
               | information about their genitals by identifying as a
               | particular gender. Don't make unwarranted assumptions and
               | you won't have any problem. (That said, the false
               | conception that trans people are tricksters lying in wait
               | to ambush you with their unexpected genitals is a pretty
               | big component of trans panic transphobia.)
               | 
               | If, as GP suggests, the underlying reason behind all this
               | is pregnancy and families, then there are questions you
               | have to ask anyway. Not every cis man or woman is fertile
               | or wishes to have children.
        
             | [deleted]
        
           | eganist wrote:
           | That distinction is already there. As I understand it,
           | there's a differentiation between "male" and "female"
           | biological sex v. "man" and "woman" gender identities. Hence
           | terms like AMAB/AFAB (assigned male/female at birth).
           | 
           | I'm not at all as well versed on it as I should be and I'm
           | working to understand it better as time goes on, but the
           | distinction was made using existing language to avoid
           | overloading, and later generations already understand the
           | distinction pretty intuitively.
        
             | SoftTalker wrote:
             | These "assigned" terms don't really work IMO. It imples
             | some choice has been made, by someone. Who is doing the
             | assigning? And it happens before birth, if we want to be
             | accurate.
             | 
             | "Conceived male" or "Conceived female" (leaving out the
             | case of genetic abnormalities) seems better to me.
        
               | dillondoyle wrote:
               | assignment does not always happen before birth.
               | 
               | There are lots of kids born with ambiguous & differing
               | genitals where parents & doctors make an assignment for
               | that kid outside the womb.
               | 
               | also ignores a lot of different chromosomal and hormonal
               | differences outside the norm.
        
               | dahdum wrote:
               | > It imples some choice has been made, by someone. Who is
               | doing the assigning? And it happens before birth, if we
               | want to be accurate.
               | 
               | It's on the birth certificate, so it is assigned. There
               | are some efforts to remove it, so perhaps that will
               | change.
        
             | homonculus1 wrote:
             | "Male" and "man" are an adjective and a noun referring to
             | the same thing.
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | That's certainly one opinion. A common use of language
               | these days separates the concept of manliness from the
               | concept of maleness.
               | 
               | Bill Gates is, for example, not particularly manly, but
               | he's absolutely male.
               | 
               | I find it useful to separate the concepts, and others do
               | too. You might not find that useful, but you should be
               | aware language is evolving towards those definitions
               | recently.
        
               | homonculus1 wrote:
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | I'm sorry, but I don't see how you can be so prescriptive
               | about language.
               | 
               | People use the words in the manner I describe. People use
               | the words in the manner you describe. Both usages exist
               | and are common, albeit in different areas.
               | 
               | I'm not denying people use the language in the manner you
               | describe, I'm saying people _additionally_ use it in the
               | manner I describe. And since language is descriptive, not
               | proscriptive, we need to understand both usages exist and
               | be able to recognize both, even if we disagree with them.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | > Bill Gates is, for example, not particularly manly, but
               | he's absolutely male.
               | 
               | What does manly mean? Because Bill Gates does not seem to
               | be missing features that I find typical of males in the
               | US. Otherwise, I would say pretty much all male office
               | workers and many other males are as "manly" as Bill
               | Gates", at which point I figure the word loses utility.
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | Great question.
               | 
               | Compare, say, Brad Pitt to Bill Gates. Or The Rock to
               | Peewee Herman. There are differences between how closely
               | those people fit the archetypal mold of "manly".
               | 
               | I'm comfortable saying that Arnold Schwarzenegger is
               | manlier than I am. He ticks more of the boxes we
               | associate with "man", culturally. He's muscular,
               | successful, attractive, tough, etc. I've got a bit of a
               | spare tire, I'm pretty soft, etc.
               | 
               | He and I both are male, and about the same degree of
               | male. We both have penises, etc.
               | 
               | In this way we can use "man" to describe our features
               | that are culturally associated (ruggedness, toughness,
               | cigars and whiskey, etc.) from the biological features
               | (penis, testicles, body hair, etc.)
        
               | jasmer wrote:
               | The term 'man' infers gender while 'male' refers to sex,
               | and has nothing to do with the term 'manliness' in the
               | context you described.
               | 
               | The language is 'evolving' only among a very small subset
               | of people on earth who happen to believe they are the
               | 'social vanguard', that doesn't make them so.
               | 
               | The response to the linguistic disassociation between the
               | obviously inexorable relationship between gender and sex
               | is, I would guess, considerably bigger and I don't think
               | this argument is going to be won but the language
               | antagonists. I think society is going to accept trans
               | people, which is good ... but I suggest we're never
               | moving away from classical gender terminology.
               | 
               | The rest of the world is coming online very quickly and
               | they want nothing to do with our linguistic wars. They'll
               | change their language when they start using 'Latinx' (a
               | term invented by 'colonialist progressives') in Mexico
               | which is to say, probably never.
               | 
               | And by the way that's perfectly fine. Paradoxically, in
               | many other parts of the world trans people are far more
               | commonly accepted and have been for some time, lo and
               | behold, they use 'men and women' in the common sense,
               | without any problem at all.
               | 
               | In Canada, they fight over whether the stop signs should
               | say 'STOP' or 'ARRET' (aka English or French) because
               | that's how rich and prosperous they are, they can afford
               | to inflate ideological inanities to the level of material
               | concern.
        
             | knaekhoved wrote:
             | Your example contradicts the claim. They say "assigned male
             | at birth" rather than "male", because they believe you can
             | be a female even if you were assigned male at birth.
        
               | eganist wrote:
               | > Your example contradicts the claim. They say "assigned
               | male at birth" rather than "male", because they believe
               | you can be a female even if you were assigned male at
               | birth.
               | 
               | I'm not sure that's a contradiction so much as it's
               | trying to weave through people's own synonymizing of the
               | two terms where a distinction is being made. I hear your
               | point though.
        
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       | krastanov wrote:
        
         | alphabettsy wrote:
         | I follow a trans man on IG who got pregnant and had a child
         | long after transitioning. Interesting journey to follow.
        
         | sp332 wrote:
         | We barely even know how many trans people there are because
         | there's no funding to study it. Medical information is even
         | scarcer.
        
         | smoldesu wrote:
         | That's like asking what portion of people voting for gun
         | regulation want to own a gun. Maybe they exist, it's their
         | right as a free individual to make that choice. Why does it
         | matter?
        
           | krastanov wrote:
           | Because most literature that teaches a topic usually does not
           | expend much effort on a special case that covers 0.1% of
           | cases -- it is just too unwieldy to talk that way. Don't get
           | me wrong, I am all in favor of people changing their genders
           | and I would be beyond happy when medical technology evolves
           | enough that even more scifi changes are possible. But when I
           | am teaching a student about gravity, I do not start by
           | talking about special relativity: I start by talking about
           | the most common case of Newtonian gravity and just mention
           | "by the way, there are some special cases when speeds become
           | inhumanly great, we will discuss this next semester".
        
             | smoldesu wrote:
             | Well, trans people aren't the only ones benefiting from
             | more generalized pregnancy curriculum. Intersex folks and
             | even supportive men now have clearer literature to work
             | from.
             | 
             | In your gravity example, I think it's more akin to teaching
             | the theory of relativity on day 1 and wondering why half
             | your students are lost. People need a basis of
             | understanding for learning anything (especially complicated
             | stuff), so that's why you teach people all of Newton's laws
             | first, even if it's redundant to most of the class.
        
               | LawTalkingGuy wrote:
               | > Intersex folks [...] now have clearer literature to
               | work from.
               | 
               | Whoa! The gender spectrum is absolutely unrelated to sex.
               | Intersex _people_ already had clear literature.
               | 
               | A person with one disorder of male sexuality as _just_ as
               | male as a person with a different disorder or even none
               | at all. Sex is binary even if we have a hard time seeing
               | it or measuring it sometimes, or even if the answer is
               | different in two places (Chimerism) etc.
               | 
               | Intersex has been colonized by stuffing it into "the
               | alphabet", largely as we see here in the service of
               | transgender ideology, and this is vastly unfair to the
               | people with DSDs - as stigma and ignorance are often
               | their greatest enemies.
               | 
               | This is why LGB Alliance is trying to separate
               | homosexuality and sex-based rights issues from gender and
               | identity rights issues.
        
               | nicoburns wrote:
               | > Sex is binary even if we have a hard time seeing it or
               | measuring it sometimes, or even if the answer is
               | different in two places (Chimerism) etc.
               | 
               | Aren't intersex people the canonical example that sex is
               | not binary? If it were, there would be no intersex
               | people. I agree that we shouldn't conflate intersex with
               | transgender as they're entirely different things. But it
               | seems to me that neither is binary.
        
               | Ygg2 wrote:
               | That's like saying canonically people don't have two
               | eyes. Some are born with one less or more.
               | 
               | It's an edge case.
               | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12476264/
        
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         | scatters wrote:
         | Lots of people want to reproduce and become parents. Being
         | trans doesn't prevent that.
        
           | krastanov wrote:
           | Of course, but that is not what I asked. How many people that
           | are born female but have both physiological and social need
           | to be male desire to reproduce in a typically female manner?
           | That is what I am surprised by. I am sure that it exists, but
           | it would be informative to know how often it happens. And no,
           | I am not suggesting that these people should step forward and
           | speak for the whole group: they should be respected and
           | recognized either way.
        
             | amanaplanacanal wrote:
             | No doubt some would be grossed out by the idea. Others
             | might be fine with it. Assuming they haven't had bottom
             | surgery, stopping hrt might be all that's needed.
        
             | eganist wrote:
             | > How many people that are born female but have both
             | physiological and social need to be male desire to
             | reproduce in a typically female manner?
             | 
             | I understand the prompt, but I'll challenge it with the
             | following:
             | 
             | Until functioning testes can be synthesized (complete with
             | a chromosome swap, one X for one Y), what means of
             | biological reproduction would they have? We'll defer the
             | distinction between performing this operation rather than
             | keeping the existing set for another day, but for now this
             | question is hypothetical only, so dwelling on it yields
             | nothing.
             | 
             | With that in mind, I'd say the question is better posed as:
             | "How many people that are born female but have both
             | physiological and social need to be male desire to
             | reproduce[...]?"
             | 
             | and I'd guess the answer to this would be "a lot."
        
           | lostlogin wrote:
           | I don't think that answers the question being asked. I think
           | OP means the actual pregnancy bit.
        
           | ReptileMan wrote:
           | Transitioning does prevents reproduction or makes it harder.
           | Those are pretty invasive procedures.
        
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         | Spooky23 wrote:
         | The answer is that there's unlimited answers. The current
         | fashion in some circles is that your current expression of
         | gender is whatever you feel it to be, that that may be any
         | number of things.
        
         | tommica wrote:
         | This is a really good question, it would be good to hear trans
         | men's perspective on this, and some statistics about the topic
        
       | WalterBright wrote:
       | Words shift meaning all the time. The term "Yankee" was used by
       | the British to insult Americans, and the Americans responded by
       | making "Yankee Doodle Dandy" the first anthem of the United
       | States.
       | 
       | The origin of the word is controversial, but I note its
       | similarity to the British word "wanker" and suspect the two words
       | are the same.
       | 
       | Anyhow, this anecdote is a classic example of how to reverse an
       | insult.
        
       | joemazerino wrote:
        
       | ThrowawayTestr wrote:
        
         | bacchusracine wrote:
        
           | socialismisok wrote:
        
             | jdrek1 wrote:
        
               | malcolmgreaves wrote:
               | A good time to learn something new!
               | 
               | Gender is a pure social construct (e.g. man, woman) and
               | sex is more biologically derived social construct (e.g.
               | male is xy, female is xx). But this doesn't cover all of
               | the known sex chromosome phenotypes, hence there's still
               | a strong social component here too.
        
               | Vecr wrote:
               | I think that depends on your view of sex and what's more
               | important about it. If you view reproduction as the most
               | important (or foundational I suppose, I'm not a
               | philosopher I don't know what this stuff means) aspect of
               | what sex is, there would be two sexes, male and female.
               | If you want an exact representation of all theoretically
               | possible combinations of phenotype and genotype,
               | including everything from surgery to accidents/birth
               | defects and environmental conditions to intentional
               | genetic modification, you are going to have to create a
               | pretty sophisticated "sex" theory (in the scientific
               | sense), but that's not what most people mean.
        
             | krastanov wrote:
             | Honest question here: are there trans men that want to get
             | pregnant? What fraction of trans men want to get pregnant?
             | I get this is tangential to the discussion and I get I am
             | betraying my ignorance, but it is not particularly easy to
             | find information on this question and it seems somewhat
             | pertinent to the practicalities of this issue.
        
         | rejectfinite wrote:
        
         | reddog wrote:
        
           | smoldesu wrote:
           | George Orwell was truly known for his harsh opposition of
           | individual rights and self-recognition.
        
             | jdthedisciple wrote:
             | You can self-recognize as a donkey if you wish but that
             | doesn't mean I, too, have to consider and call you a
             | donkey.
        
               | smoldesu wrote:
               | That's fine, loathe am I to stop you from embarrassing
               | yourself in front of others.
        
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       | hindsightbias wrote:
       | Paul Graham told us to keep our identity as small as possible.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | amanaplanacanal wrote:
       | Being upset about changing language is a story as old as
       | humanity, probably. This feels a lot like "old man yelling at
       | clouds".
        
         | ClassyJacket wrote:
        
       | whateveracct wrote:
       | people who can get pregnant
       | 
       | people who menstruate
       | 
       | people with uteruses
       | 
       | these people all have commonality, but they have been stripped of
       | a unifying word for themselves
        
         | wolfendin wrote:
         | Using those first two definitions excludes any woman who's gone
         | through menopause, which is about two billion people
        
         | joe_the_user wrote:
         | "Stripped"? Really?
         | 
         | Because typical bureaucratic literature has added one more
         | abstraction?
         | 
         | Health literature and other bureaucratic literature is chock
         | full of abstraction and euphemisms. The entire edifice is
         | aesthetically unpleasant and euphemisms broadly are sometimes
         | used to let bureaucrats get away with terrible thing (see
         | George Orwell talking of "population relocation" in Politics
         | and The English Language). But I don't see the euphemisms
         | targeted here doing any real damage. I mean "not saying things
         | I think should be said" only qualifies as harm if you abuse
         | language far more than these changes do.
        
           | nicoburns wrote:
           | It's the inconsistency that gets me. If we have to say
           | "people who menstruate" and "people with uteruses" for
           | physical sex characteristics because "women" isn't precise
           | enough, then shouldn't we also say "people who feel like
           | women", "people who conform to feminine social norms" etc
           | rather than "women" for the social aspects of gender. They
           | aren't binary either, so "women" is no more accurate.
        
         | vharuck wrote:
         | Natal female
        
           | forty wrote:
           | XX-individual ?
        
         | detaro wrote:
         | Plenty cis women are not in the group of people with all these
         | characteristics (and while there attempts to deny them
         | womanhood on that basis, those are also generally considered a
         | very bad thing to do)
        
           | codefreeordie wrote:
           | And how do you know that these women identify as "cis"?
           | 
           | Just because you want to assign the word "cis" to some women
           | doesn't mean that they identify that way
        
           | nicoburns wrote:
           | It's true that binary concepts of gender are gross
           | oversimplifications. But that's just as true of binary gender
           | defined by identity as it is of binary gender defined by sex.
           | My take it that we ought to be ought be consistent and allow
           | either both or neither.
        
           | wang_li wrote:
        
       | labrador wrote:
       | I think it's interesting that Lewis Carroll described this battle
       | over language many years ago                   'When I use a
       | word,' Humpty Dumpty said in rather a scornful tone, 'it means
       | just what I choose it to mean -- neither more nor less.'
       | 'The question is,' said Alice, 'whether you can make words mean
       | so many different things.'              'The question is,' said
       | Humpty Dumpty, 'which is to be master -- that's all."
        
       | balderdash wrote:
       | Being accommodative of small minorities seems to be a kind, and
       | thoughtful thing to do.
       | 
       | However having large majorities(95%+ of the population) make
       | concessions in order to accommodate a small group imposes a cost
       | (however small) born by many to the benefit of a few. My
       | questions is how do you decide where to make that trade off?
       | What's the cost benefit analysis? At some point where do people
       | say the cost of accommodating this 1/100k/1m people by another
       | 300m+ people is not a worthwhile use of societal resources?
        
         | Mandatum wrote:
         | Consider that the next time you see a wheelchair ramp.
        
           | yunohn wrote:
           | People with physical disabilities are a massive % of the
           | population, and could potentially include any person at some
           | point of their lives.
           | 
           | Being a trans birth giver is infinitesimally less common.
        
         | Latty wrote:
         | Whenever people make this big deal about undermining the
         | meaning of biology by using gender identity as the center of
         | everyday language, all I can think is it's literally no
         | different to adoption, which we all accept.
         | 
         | An adoptive parent is a parent. We don't specify "adoptive" all
         | the time, and it'd be rude to refuse to refer to adoptive
         | parents as parents because they aren't biologically related to
         | their children in the same way.
         | 
         | We have done _exactly_ this kind of language change in schools
         | over that issue too, teachers often prefer  "guardians" to
         | "parents" in some contexts these days because some children
         | won't live with parents, things like that. To pretend this
         | hurts people is just counter to these examples we see in
         | reality, it's just trying to use the words that apply to
         | everyone, not just the most common case. The cost is so small,
         | the attempts to push back on it seem actively spiteful, because
         | there is no reason to contest it generally. The thing it brings
         | to mind is the "but marriage means a man and a woman" argument
         | from the attempts to stop marriage equality.
        
           | concordDance wrote:
           | The costs are small but so are the benefits.
        
           | erosenbe0 wrote:
           | Agreed but scale has to be a factor. Millions of American
           | children are in the custody of grandparents or the foster
           | system at any given time.
           | 
           | Secondly, there is way more friction here than with a term
           | like guardian, which represents a situation that is universal
           | thoughtout humanity, and always has been. The common language
           | only changed because of the need for accuracy and
           | inclusiveness in things like school handbooks, not because it
           | wasn't fully understood and accepted by the population as
           | being an inevitable element of human populations for anywhere
           | from 1 in 10 to 1 in 100 children.
        
         | joe_the_user wrote:
         | Using language that includes a group isn't a _cost_ that is
         | born by those not in the group. Notably, many people not in the
         | group may OK or even encouraging of the changes.
         | 
         | I'm not terribly pleased by extremely vague bureaucratic
         | language. But the arguments that try to turn such into an
         | actual harm or cost to those not in the group being protected
         | here are engaging in language that's far more deceptively
         | vague.
        
           | kurtreed wrote:
           | > Using language that includes a group isn't a cost that is
           | born by those not in the group.
           | 
           | Often it is. Simply changing from familiar terms to
           | artificial terms is a cost.
        
         | nullc wrote:
         | Sometimes there are ways to be inclusive without undertaking a
         | cost... E.g. talk about "health issues that arise during
         | pregnancy".
         | 
         | But those zero or low cost mechanisms don't achieve the
         | _advocacy_ goals that some are chasing. For advocacy purposes
         | it needs to be visible, not silently accommodating.
         | 
         | And then you end up with the crude, objectifying and
         | biologically reductive alternatives to "women" like calling
         | them "menstruators" or "breeders".
         | 
         | One doesn't need to abandon politely accommodating to reject
         | being made a tool of someone's disruptive advocacy.
        
         | JBits wrote:
         | The issue is that the costs of accomodating trans people are
         | greatly exaggerated to push for discimination. This article is
         | focused on language which is obviously of great importance to
         | everyone involved. I support the writer's hurt feeling but you
         | can't justify not accomodating people because it requires
         | looking at words differently.
        
           | ouid wrote:
           | In what way is this language accomodating trans people?
           | 
           | English has a right to a word that means, "those who can get
           | pregnant". Moreover, that word is women. You seem to want a
           | new word that means, "i want people to treat me the way
           | society treats women/men". This is not a problem with the
           | language, you might argue that its a problem with society,
           | but consider exactly what it is that you're asking for.
           | 
           | Do you really have a right to be treated differently from
           | other people? Its pretty easy to argue that men and women
           | should be treated more equitably, but theres also a fair
           | amount of structure in place to treat men and women
           | differently to further that aim. Do you really think you have
           | a right to opt into the perceived benefits of this attempt?
           | 
           | It sounds like you really value the social divisions between
           | men and women.
        
           | LightHugger wrote:
           | If you can just look at words differently... then the people
           | being "accommodated" can just do exactly the same thing, in
           | this case, and there is no reason to waste time energy or
           | resources doing any of this.
        
           | dmix wrote:
           | It's worth asking whether anyone is actually being excluded
           | merely because the words aren't generic enough.
           | 
           | We can accept that a very small portion of the population
           | doesn't fit into the definitions we commonly use without
           | having to abandon them. It's obvious with good intentions but
           | it seems like a silly hill to die on.
           | 
           | Why can't we just accept as a community that when you say
           | male/female there will always be a little [*] attached to it
           | for the exceptions?
        
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             | socialismisok wrote:
             | I am deeply uncomfortable in gendered spaces. Many places
             | offer gender neutral spaces (eg restrooms that are all
             | genders).
             | 
             | I don't require everyone to make me comfortable, but I do
             | positively notice when someone does. If I go to my office
             | and there are men's rooms, women's rooms, and all gender
             | rooms, I do feel much less excluded.
             | 
             | Not everyone is like me, but thousands or millions are. I
             | do feel excluded by gendered language, and it does impact
             | my ability to get work done, navigate social situations,
             | etc.
        
               | thethirdone wrote:
               | I think society at large can and should be much more
               | inclusive to people who don't fall cleanly into man and
               | woman, but in the specific case of pregnancy, it seems
               | trying remove all references to gender is challenging.
        
               | nadieyninguno1 wrote:
               | > I am deeply uncomfortable in gendered spaces.
               | 
               | I'm not trans or any of that sort - I'm generally
               | uncomfortable around people. What I don't understand is,
               | why impose upon others? To me, that's my cross to bear.
        
             | Latty wrote:
             | When it comes to medicine, people not realising something
             | applies to them can have negative health outcomes. Trying
             | to produce the language that ensures everyone can
             | understand if something applies to them is valuable.
             | 
             | To be clear: I don't think that _just_ means using
             | inclusive language, you may need to specify more to help
             | people understand that language if it isn 't in common use,
             | or whatever. I don't think there is a simple one-size-fits-
             | all solution, but I think just assuming gendered language
             | is good enough is clearly sub-optimal, and best terms that
             | clarify the specific group in question are the best
             | starting point.
        
           | adastra22 wrote:
           | But the gender-inclusive language is not clear. It was
           | downright confusing to be honest. If I were pregnant, anxious
           | and trying to find info online, I wouldn't want to wade
           | through that either. The purpose of language is to
           | communicate clearly, not to make you feel included.
        
             | SV_BubbleTime wrote:
             | >The purpose of language is to communicate clearly, not to
             | make you feel included.
             | 
             | My brother was mentally ill his whole life; she is trans
             | now. I showed her this comment and we both agreed.
             | 
             | It's a good way to put it. We can try and do both, but
             | clearly has to come before feelings.
        
           | concordDance wrote:
           | Note that the benefits of using the new language and terms
           | are also greatly exaggerated. Only the most fragile of people
           | are going to commit suicide because of talk of "women" in
           | pregnancy resources. And frankly with that level of fragility
           | they probably weren't long for this world anyway.
        
           | bradleyjg wrote:
           | _I support the writer 's hurt feeling but you can't justify
           | not accomodating people because it requires looking at words
           | differently._
           | 
           | You can. This is feelings all the way down. Specifically
           | whose feelings are going to be accommodated.
        
       | robot_no_421 wrote:
       | This seems to be a big hullabaloo about nothing. Language is a
       | tool for communicating meaning; as long as the other person is
       | understanding what you're saying then it's not that big a deal
       | how the message was delivered. People get so offended over
       | nothing. If some people don't want to use the words "mother" and
       | "brestfeeding", so be it. I personally still use those terms
       | because they feel right to me, and I don't plan on changing. But
       | it doesn't bother me that other people are making the change.
       | 
       | If we just learned to communicate with each other and understand
       | intent instead of getting so micro-aggrieved over how language is
       | semantically used, we'd all be better off.
        
         | Latty wrote:
         | Indeed, literally no one is saying people can't use these words
         | if they identify with them either, it's just about using the
         | most inclusive terms in the general sense by professionals
         | trying to communicate with broad groups that will include edge
         | cases.
         | 
         | This isn't even a "gender" issue, saying something like "people
         | with a uterus" when it is the most accurate term helps cis
         | women who have had hysterectomies know it isn't relevant to
         | them. Of course, we should always inspect the impact of words:
         | (e.g: maybe some people won't know their biology to know if
         | they have a uterus, so we should clarify for them if that's a
         | potential case), but the goal of being accurate rather than
         | just making assumptions based on gender is obviously reasonable
         | and beneficial as a base idea.
        
       | LeroyRaz wrote:
       | "to protect transgender men and women, a class of people who are
       | supposedly more "oppressed" than biological women. Even if this
       | were true (and I'm deeply skeptical)"
       | 
       | I thought trans people being oppressed was clear statistically
       | and unambiguous. I am surprised at her skepticism. Are the
       | statistics not clear? One can quibble over causality, but my
       | understanding is that they are a group with massively higher
       | rates of suicide and depression, and so a group that would likely
       | benefit from support.
        
         | golemiprague wrote:
        
         | lo_zamoyski wrote:
         | The higher rates of suicide and depression aren't improved
         | through enabling. What seems to be the case is that entrenching
         | gender dysphoria through social affirmation leads to still
         | greater alienation from self and therefore, unsurprisingly,
         | similar (or greater) rates of suicide and depression.
        
         | 762236 wrote:
         | "at a time in my life when I have never felt more essentially
         | female, more debilitated by a physical condition directly
         | attributable to my biological sex, more in need of clear,
         | informative language describing what I'm going through,
         | journalists and medical authorities are hard at work seeking to
         | obfuscate the differences between male and female bodies."
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | There is zero ambiguity or confusion in the changed language.
           | The bio parts are super clear.
        
             | Rebelgecko wrote:
             | I found "chestfeeding" to be pretty confusing. If you put
             | me on the spot I'd assume it was a reference to the movie
             | Alien before I guessed it referred to milking mammaries.
             | 
             | I can also see how being called a menstrator would feel
             | objectifying (kinda like how in some contexts calling
             | someone a breeder or a bleeder is derogatory)
        
           | [deleted]
        
       | renewiltord wrote:
       | Regardless of everything else, "chestfeeding" is just a hilarious
       | term. It brings to mind the middle-stage of a xenomorph.
        
       | civilized wrote:
       | > After lugging around two fetuses that won't stop kicking my
       | bladder, I have no patience left for gender activists who pretend
       | that men can give birth.
       | 
       | Why does this woman's personal experience of pregnancy make her
       | so offended by how other people who can give birth think of their
       | gender?
       | 
       | I do agree with the author that the existence of trans people
       | shouldn't mean we can't use the word breastfeeding anymore. But I
       | don't think that's the fault of people who want to say that men
       | can give birth.
       | 
       | Here's an idea - why not have resources with different language
       | for cis women and trans men? Just like pages come with different
       | language versions and you can switch in the nav bar.
       | 
       | This would also be medically helpful, as I'm sure the birthing
       | experience is not identical for the two populations.
        
         | socialismisok wrote:
         | Right? She's a woman, which awesome... Women are cool. Some
         | people who give birth aren't women. Those people are also cool,
         | whether they are men, non binary, agender, or whatever else.
         | 
         | Can we not just let people be who they are and recognize gender
         | minorities do exist? Acknowledging the existence of trans men
         | doesn't reduce the incredible experiences of any woman who
         | gives birth (or doesn't!)
        
           | lostlogin wrote:
           | > Right? She's a woman, which awesome... Women are cool. Some
           | people who give birth aren't women.
           | 
           | I'm lost, could you explain this? Are you referring to birth
           | by those who don't identify as female and were themselves
           | born biologically female?
        
             | socialismisok wrote:
             | Assuming you are asking in good faith:
             | 
             | Yes, I'm referring to several groups of people - trans men
             | who were born women, intersex people who may have been
             | assigned man or woman, non-binary/queer/agender people who
             | were born with a functional uterus.
             | 
             | All three of those groups might not be women. They may
             | identify as female, but not women. Or they may not identify
             | as female.
             | 
             | Language is evolving and not settled at all, but there's a
             | movement to separate the concepts of "man" and "male". For
             | example, we can probably agree that Bruce Willis is manlier
             | than PeeWee Herman. But they are both male. Manliness, how
             | much a "man" someone is, is a huge spectrum and it's
             | socially defined. Likewise, how "womanly" someone is is a
             | spectrum, and also cultural.
             | 
             | By separating the concepts of man from male, and woman from
             | female, we can discuss how womanly or manly someone is, and
             | what our societies expect from the roles of women and men.
             | 
             | I find it useful. Others have strong aversions to even
             | discussing the concept. I'm happy to answer further
             | questions!
        
               | skydhash wrote:
               | I was reading a science-fiction book [0], where they
               | refer to the biological sex as being a manform or a
               | womanform, but the personal articles are the indication
               | of the person gender, either man, woman, or neutral. My
               | own native language is genderless, so unless you precise
               | the sex or other biological attributes, there's no way to
               | determine if you're speaking of a male or a female.
               | 
               | [0]: The Machineries of Empire series
        
               | SoftTalker wrote:
               | > Manliness, how much a "man" someone is, is a huge
               | spectrum and it's socially defined. Likewise, how
               | "womanly" someone is is a spectrum, and also cultural.
               | 
               | This doesn't seem to be anything new. Go back 100 years,
               | or more, there were manly women and effeminate men.
        
               | n4r9 wrote:
               | It's not at all new. Many Native American cultural
               | traditions had a sophisticated gender fluidity:
               | https://www.theguardian.com/music/2010/oct/11/two-spirit-
               | peo...
               | 
               | In many ways the gender rigidity of late 20th century
               | western society is an exception in human history.
        
               | klipt wrote:
               | > For example, we can probably agree that Bruce Willis is
               | manlier than PeeWee Herman.
               | 
               | So now we're policing people's gender based on their
               | habits? "If you wear pants you're not a REAL woman"?
        
               | lostlogin wrote:
               | Thank you.
        
           | slibhb wrote:
           | > Some people who give birth aren't women. Those people are
           | also cool, whether they are men, non binary, agender, or
           | whatever else.
           | 
           | > Can we not just let people be who they are and recognize
           | gender minorities do exist? Acknowledging the existence of
           | trans men doesn't reduce the incredible experiences of any
           | woman who gives birth (or doesn't!)
           | 
           | I understand both sides of this argument, I've thought about
           | it a lot, and I've come to a different conclusion than you.
           | Being a man or a woman is a brute fact. It has nothing to do
           | with identity. Only women give birth.
           | 
           | What bothers me is not our disagreement but that my view has
           | been labeled "hateful" or "problematic".
        
             | duped wrote:
             | Because you're conflating biological sex and gender. That
             | has led to ignorance of the latter and a lot of hate, which
             | is why people will argue with you over it.
        
               | slibhb wrote:
               | I'm not conflating anything. I'm asserting that being a
               | man or a woman is a question of biological sex not a
               | question of gender.
               | 
               | You're allowed to disagree but you've already asserted
               | that my view is hateful and ignorant which was my
               | original complaint.
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | I believe your view is not keeping up with the times.
               | 
               | I think as long as you acknowledge there are people who
               | use language to disambiguate sex and gender, but you
               | choose not to use that language, then you are just
               | expressing your opinion.
               | 
               | I think it's fair for folks to probe _why_ you choose the
               | language you do, and even to suggest that the reasons you
               | supply might be considered ignorant.
               | 
               | We only improve if we all try to understand the reasoning
               | behind each other more.
        
               | chongli wrote:
               | _use language to disambiguate_
               | 
               | That's the ultimate issue here. Different groups of
               | people want to disambiguate some terms and conflate
               | others, and there is not enough overlap between these
               | groups to reach a common ground. At its core is a
               | struggle for power with the meanings of words
               | representing territory to be won or lost.
               | 
               | Orwell wrote extensively on this topic and left us with
               | some pretty stern warnings which we as a society continue
               | to ignore. And while everyone fights over this stuff we
               | are ruining the planet and risking catastrophic
               | consequences both environmental and political.
        
               | kQq9oHeAz6wLLS wrote:
               | There's this strange perception that anything new must be
               | good and right. Perhaps OPs language isn't keeping up
               | with the times, or maybe the times are just...incorrect.
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | I didn't suggest that new was correct, I suggested new
               | exists and we should acknowledge it.
               | 
               | I don't use "yeet" as a word, and I find it silly. But
               | nonetheless I'm aware some people do use it, and so it's
               | in my lexicon as a word that I just don't care for.
               | 
               | My point is that we cannot deny new usages. We can
               | disagree with them or choose not to use them, but denying
               | them is just never going to work.
        
               | dahdum wrote:
               | You're arguing definitions, but ultimately language is
               | use, and use is always changing.
               | 
               | You can carry on as you've always had, but some fraction
               | of the public will assume ignorance, some stubbornness,
               | and some malice. It's not really any different than terms
               | for ethnic minorities or those with disabilities over
               | time. How you approach it is up to you, but how people
               | perceive you is up to them.
        
               | slibhb wrote:
               | It's not quite as simple as arguing definitions. My
               | argument is that the categories "man" and "woman" really
               | exist, independent of language, and that they don't have
               | anything to do with identity.
               | 
               | Some people (you, apparently) agree with that and just
               | want to shift the definitions so "man" means "someone who
               | identifies as a man" and will be replaced by "biological
               | man". But other people don't agree, they don't believe
               | that "man" and "woman" are immanent categories that exist
               | outside language and culture.
               | 
               | As far as language changing, it certainly does, but it
               | rarely changes by fiat. I don't believe changes
               | referenced in this article represent organic change, I
               | think they're a fad that will only catch on in a few
               | enclaves. We'll see.
        
               | red_trumpet wrote:
               | > and that they don't have anything to do with identity.
               | 
               | That's absurd. It divides humans into two groups, and
               | everytime you divide humans into groups they make this
               | about their identity.
        
               | lo_zamoyski wrote:
               | Either language expresses reality, or it becomes
               | something else. Yes, meanings of utterances can change in
               | the sense that in the sign "woman", the signifier can
               | remain fixed while the signified changes. So what? That's
               | banal. The gender position is not a mere question of
               | signifier/signified correspondence shifting.
               | 
               | And that language changes doesn't mean all changes are
               | equally good. When language loses its grip on reality,
               | we've lost. We've become Orwellian.
        
               | kQq9oHeAz6wLLS wrote:
               | I would posit that OP isn't conflating biological sex and
               | gender, but rather the trend nowadays is to reuse words
               | that have had static meanings for centuries, and then get
               | unreasonably upset at folks who don't immediately agree
               | with the new definitions.
        
               | socialismisok wrote:
               | I would say I strongly believe in the new definitions,
               | have I been unreasonably upset in my responses?
               | 
               | I think I've articulated my position and held it firmly,
               | but at no point did I feel upset about people who
               | disagreed.
               | 
               | I don't believe I called anyone a bigot or was any more
               | rigid in my language than folks who hold a more
               | traditional meaning of the word in their minds.
        
               | nicoburns wrote:
               | My view is similar to yours, but I think slightly more
               | neutral:
               | 
               | It seems to me that the words in question ("man",
               | "woman", etc), were used to refer to _both_ biological
               | sex and gender for centuries under the assumption that
               | they always co-occurred. The conflict has arisen now that
               | we 've realised they don't always co-occur because
               | different people have taken different views on which of
               | part was primary or definitional. Neither view is
               | inherently wrong. But taken together they're hugely
               | problematic because we're using the same words to mean
               | different things, which is leading to lots of confusion.
               | 
               | (there is additional conflict as some people have decided
               | that we ought to not talk about one or other of
               | biological sex and gender at all - _which_ one depends on
               | who you ask of course)
               | 
               | Ultimately the solution will need to be a second (and
               | perhaps a third) set of words that are clear in their
               | meanings. I don't think it really matters too much which
               | word means what, so long as we all agree on the meanings.
               | Possibly it would be better to ditch "man" and "woman"
               | entirely so nobody feels hard done by that other people
               | can use them but they can't.
        
             | red_trumpet wrote:
             | > What bothers me is not our disagreement but that my view
             | has been labeled "hateful" or "problematic".
             | 
             | There are people that feel inherently disconnected from
             | their biological sex, and with the social construct of
             | gender associated to this. Some of them suffer. A lot. So
             | they might want to change their gender. As a society, we
             | have the option to support them, which might be a bit
             | inconvenient. Learning a new name for a person takes time
             | and training. Questioning internalized gender roles can be
             | unsettling. But ultimately, I think it is worth it, if we
             | can help trans persons suffer less. Also personally it was
             | definitely freeing.
             | 
             | So yes, if you deny trans persons this basic support, it
             | makes you look like a prick who chooses his own convenience
             | over their suffering.
             | 
             | Also I don't know if this applies to you, but hate against
             | trans persons definitely exists.
        
               | concordDance wrote:
               | I very much disagree but think this is an opinion worthy
               | of discussion, so have upvoted to counter the downvotes.
        
               | slibhb wrote:
               | I don't believe changing how we talk will help trans
               | people suffer less. But even if it did, I think it's a
               | bad idea to constantly modulate our use of language based
               | on the small probability of offending a small part of the
               | population. And I believe that if you take that view to
               | its end, you'll arrive at a tortured, humorless, jargon-
               | filled newspeak.
        
               | red_trumpet wrote:
               | > I don't believe changing how we talk will help trans
               | people suffer less.
               | 
               | Why don't you believe trans people when they ask you to
               | do this? Apparently you think that you know better than
               | trans people themselves, what will make them suffer. Just
               | for the record (because you asked above): This is exactly
               | what I consider problematic.
        
             | misnome wrote:
             | > Only women give birth
             | 
             | Right, so, by your definition, most women over 50, and
             | women incapable of having a child, are actually men?
             | 
             | Or just perhaps there is a more complicated nuance here...
        
               | slibhb wrote:
               | Saying "only women give birth" is not the same as saying
               | "if you can't give birth you aren't a woman".
        
             | civilized wrote:
             | Personally I think you can believe whatever you want, it's
             | just that if you call people something they don't want to
             | be called, they could have a problem with you. And if
             | you're in an organization where the leaders want everyone
             | to get along (most orgs) it shouldn't be surprising if they
             | see you as the cause of the disharmony.
        
           | rejectfinite wrote:
           | Why design a society after the minority?
        
             | detaro wrote:
             | How acknowledging a minority also exists "designing society
             | after a minority"?
        
               | rejectfinite wrote:
               | Because changing the sites/books/medical language that
               | EVERYONE uses is exactly that.
               | 
               | I can "acknowledge" something, but I don't have to change
               | anything.
        
               | lostlogin wrote:
               | What size minority counts?
               | 
               | Medicine has done a great job excluding groups as a large
               | as 'women' historically. Still does in many areas.
        
               | detaro wrote:
               | "designing after" would to me suggest solely focussing
               | on, not also including. The same way that we didn't
               | "design society after women" when they got voting rights.
        
               | toqy wrote:
        
               | p0pcult wrote:
               | It is quite a stretch to refer to _using the word "woman"
               | to describe someone who is pregnant_ as treating trans
               | males like shit.
        
             | stephencanon wrote:
             | Acknowledging that a minority exists is not "designing
             | society" after them. It's accepting reality.
        
             | knaekhoved wrote:
        
             | civilized wrote:
             | Why split society into a zero-sum war of factions by
             | declaring that society should be organized around the
             | majority, rather than attempting to accommodate as many
             | people as possible?
        
               | LawTalkingGuy wrote:
               | > Why split society [...] factions
               | 
               | Biology did that. Society is recognizing it, and only
               | recently at that, by giving women sex-based rights.
               | 
               | > by declaring that society should be organized around
               | the majority, rather than attempting to accommodate as
               | many people as possible?
               | 
               | The _needs_ of X vs the _needs_ of Y.
               | 
               | Females need single-sex spaces to avoid violence and
               | rape. Males do not need to be in female single-sex
               | spaces. Needs trump wants.
               | 
               | > zero-sum war of
               | 
               | Many things are zero sum. A single-sex space is only
               | useful if it remains single-sex. A single male rapist can
               | traumatize and attack an entire rape shelter of female
               | victims.
               | 
               | Women's rights don't matter if "woman" means whatever
               | anyone else wants.
        
               | chowells wrote:
               | We're not talking about biology, we're talking about
               | gender.
        
               | [deleted]
        
               | civilized wrote:
               | I think concerns about single-sex spaces are very
               | understandable. It's a sensitive topic and should be
               | handled as such. But with the language on a pregnancy
               | website I think we could accommodate everyone. In the
               | root comment I suggested different materials for cis
               | women and trans men.
        
             | paulryanrogers wrote:
             | Are societies designed? And if so why not add some
             | protections for minorities? They tend to be oppressed and
             | ignored by majorities
        
             | flowerbreeze wrote:
             | Why bother with quantum physics if classical physics works
             | for most things we need?
        
               | bequanna wrote:
               | An interesting argument. Quantum physics does a better
               | job of explaining the universe, that's why we use it.
               | 
               | Changing common language for the sole purpose of being an
               | "ally" to some ultra small minority only serves to
               | confuse. Quite a dumb thing to do when the best possible
               | effect is sparing a few hurt feelings.
               | 
               | 99% of the people who support this nonsense aren't in the
               | affected group and are simply trying to earn "cool
               | points" via virtue signaling.
        
             | eganist wrote:
             | > Why design a society after the minority?
             | 
             | We always have an obligation to design society to
             | accommodate everyone, not just the majority. Otherwise,
             | with your line of reasoning, you might as well repeal the
             | ADA, do away with ethical AI considerations to enable equal
             | processing of richer skin tones, etc.
        
               | SamPatt wrote:
               | Society isn't designed. It emerges spontaneously over
               | time due to the beliefs and behaviors of everyone, and
               | it's literally impossible to "design society to
               | accommodate everyone."
               | 
               | I'm 6'3" and I wish plane seats were designed with me in
               | mind, but they aren't. My short wife wishes countertops
               | were usually built higher, but they aren't.
               | 
               | I think children are treated very poorly in our society
               | and I've homeschooled my children to allow them to exert
               | more agency over their lives. I'm fortunate to live in
               | the US where this is legal, but in most of the world it
               | isn't. Other cultures believe that they should dictate
               | that children's time be spent according to adults'
               | wishes. How can both be accommodated?
        
               | WalterBright wrote:
               | One of the great accomplishments of industrialization is
               | that shoes became mass produced cheaply, rather than
               | expensive one-offs handmade by a cobbler. The downside,
               | of course, is that mass produced shoes come in standard
               | sizes, and too bad for you if your feet don't work in
               | them (mine don't).
        
             | socialismisok wrote:
             | It's designing after the whole, not the minority.
             | 
             | If we can make a simple change to include everyone, not
             | just a subset, why wouldn't we do that?
        
               | nicoburns wrote:
               | I agree that this is the goal. And a worthy one. However,
               | I think a lot of the controversy around self-identity
               | centric models of gender is that they don't achieve that
               | goal. They don't allow people to talk about the physical
               | aspects of sex, which is something that lots people want
               | to do. And they redefine gender in such a way that many
               | people will feel like they no longer self-identify as the
               | gender they identified as their entire lives.
        
           | joemazerino wrote:
        
             | [deleted]
        
           | briffid wrote:
           | The definition of woman is the "adult female human", and a
           | someone who gives birth is by definition female. That's the
           | female sex of mammals and other animals, including human. The
           | other sex is male (who provides the sperm for procreating
           | offspring). No third or fourth sex exists. BUT there are
           | people who cannot be clearly assigned to either, but that
           | doesn't change the definition. And unfortunately it doesn't
           | go by personal choice. Life sucks, we must accept our
           | biology.
        
             | socialismisok wrote:
             | Definitions change.
             | 
             | Language isn't static.
             | 
             | Science isn't static.
             | 
             | Woman (and man) as terms are evolving in their use to mean
             | "the roles we expect people to fill based on their sex".
             | 
             | You might disagree with this evolution of the language, by
             | all means, I am not the arbiter of how language should
             | change.
             | 
             | But I do believe saying a word has a fixed, unchanging
             | definition (and adding that your definition is the only
             | correct one) is not a useful position to hold. I believe
             | that even if you disagree with the use, you should
             | acknowledge that a significant number of people have
             | different definitions from you.
        
               | throwawaywu wrote:
               | Definitions change indeed. We also have the right to push
               | back on changing them.
               | 
               | I come from a culture that is thousands of years old, and
               | don't wish to change the definition of "Mom" just yet
               | without good reason.
        
               | Ygg2 wrote:
               | Language also needs to be useful.
               | 
               | Having to use translation/dictionary for my native
               | language means it failed in a big way.
               | 
               | And all languages are rooted on some level in reality.
        
               | nicoburns wrote:
               | I agree that you shouldn't treat word definitions as
               | fixed. That being said, I believe that people who have
               | been using "woman" to mean "adult female human" their
               | entire lives but can no longer do this while having their
               | meaning understood have a legitimate grievance.
               | 
               | > Woman (and man) as terms are evolving in their use to
               | mean "the roles we expect people to fill based on their
               | sex".
               | 
               | It is for example by no means universal that we do expect
               | people of a certain sex to fulfil a certain role. And
               | many people explicitly reject that definition of gender
               | for themselves because they have no intention of
               | fulfilling the role. For these people to then be told
               | that it is the definitional meaning of their gender
               | identity seems... no better than telling trans people
               | they aren't the gender they identify as.
        
             | dillondoyle wrote:
             | "no third or fourth sex exists"
             | 
             | if people here are using 'biological facts' to make anti-
             | trans & anti-queer arguments, then at least get the biology
             | correct.
             | 
             | there are TONs of variations in both chromosomal
             | combinations, presentation of genitals, outside the norm
             | hormone levels
             | 
             | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intersex
             | 
             | i have stopped reading HN frequently because of this crap.
             | 
             | Every month or so when I come back there is another highly
             | upvoted thread on gender, queerness, & race.
             | 
             | almost always with a lot of disconcerting and hurtful
             | language. or outright attacks.
             | 
             | I shouldn't be surprised anymore that a lot of 'smart' &
             | 'educated' people working in tech & sciences use their
             | limited understanding to perpetuate prejudice.
             | 
             | I hope it's just a vocal minority.
             | 
             | But the attacks are growing.
             | 
             | I see this as the result of a specific political agenda,
             | which is using this to gain power & win votes. At our
             | expense. Often cynically passing gross laws they know will
             | get thrown out just so they can get on Fox News and pump
             | their candidacy for president.
             | 
             | And yes, the damage cause by this rhetoric & laws is very
             | real.
        
           | concordDance wrote:
           | > Some people who give birth aren't women.
           | 
           | Note that this definition of women is either circular or
           | culture specific (depending on which of the two trans
           | inclusive definitions you are using).
           | 
           | A biological definition is more useful in most cases.
        
         | LawTalkingGuy wrote:
        
         | nicoburns wrote:
         | I think the best way to understand the sentiment behind this
         | is:
         | 
         | - This woman identifies as a woman on the basis of her physical
         | body (giving birth being an example of an experience that she
         | had in part due to the body she was born with)
         | 
         | - For this woman, that's what being a woman is: when she
         | describes herself as a woman then she means someone who has
         | breasts, gives birth, etc.
         | 
         | - If other people use "woman" to mean something different and
         | more abstract/social, then it makes it difficult for this woman
         | to describe herself as a "woman" and have it understood that by
         | saying this she is talking about her body.
         | 
         | - It may even be the case, that if "woman" means what other
         | people want it to mean then this woman would no longer identify
         | as a woman.
         | 
         | In other words, she's offended because her own identity is
         | being challenged.
        
           | SV_BubbleTime wrote:
           | >If other people use "woman" to mean something different and
           | more ephemeral
           | 
           | I have not considered it on the context of time/ephemeral. I
           | usually think of it as mutable, but your word choice brings
           | up a point about stages of life I think is worth considering.
        
             | nicoburns wrote:
             | > I have not considered it on the context of time/ephemeral
             | 
             | Hmm... having looked up the definition of ephemeral, I
             | don't think I meant ephemeral. I meant based more on the
             | social aspects or a feeling of gender
             | 
             | > I usually think of it as mutable
             | 
             | I have increasingly come to think of it multi-dimensional
             | (e.g. one can have physical sex, feelings of gender, norm
             | conformity, political gender, etc, etc) all existing
             | independently of one another. Whether those are mutable
             | (and who has the power to mutate them) depends on the
             | dimension.
        
           | the-printer wrote:
           | > she's offended because her own identity is being challenged
           | 
           | After going through the list that you've given, would she be
           | wrong for feeling like that? Or is it just a matter of her
           | feelings [1] being rendered incompatible with the
           | contemporary milieu?
           | 
           | [1]: Which per your list, sound legitimate irrespective of
           | the tone of the article or her writing itself, I'm going to
           | use your takeaways as a model for my questions.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | roenxi wrote:
         | She explains in the "possibly be a placental abruption--but
         | could also just be a fart" paragraph - her argument is that she
         | is having a risky-and-possibly-fatal biological experience and
         | thinks that the best health outcome will be reached if
         | literature explains the situation in clear, commonly used terms
         | that most people understand.
         | 
         | It could just be rationalisation though. I'd expect people to
         | be fired and/or called transphobic for making that sort of
         | argument.
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | So, how is that removed by other person having same biology
           | ... but hmalso being trans removing anything from that?
           | 
           | Cause trans men are born with sake exact biology. Same exact
           | pregnancy risks and then some additional ones.
           | 
           | And none of these articles of groups are interested in my
           | rights and possibilities as a woman. They do however take
           | issues with trans men existing and being acknowledged as
           | such.
        
             | roenxi wrote:
             | > Cause trans men are born with sake exact biology. Same
             | exact pregnancy risks and then some additional ones.
             | 
             | Can't trans men have penises though?
        
               | klipt wrote:
               | Not at birth. They might have one added later on?
        
             | bequanna wrote:
             | > They do however take issues with trans men existing and
             | being acknowledged as such.
             | 
             |  _sigh_
             | 
             | The arguments like "they are denying trans people exist!"
             | and "this is causing violence!" are so over the top and
             | tired.
             | 
             | No one is denying trans people exist. We simply think that
             | instead of changing the way we use language to fit <1% of
             | the population, maybe when a trans person goes to the
             | Doctor they can simply say: "I was born a (wo)man"
        
         | peterpost2 wrote:
        
           | rejectfinite wrote:
        
             | eganist wrote:
             | > Yes, just namecall :)
             | 
             | hey rejectfinite, it's a representative acronym, not an
             | insult.
             | 
             | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TERF
        
         | rejectfinite wrote:
        
           | eganist wrote:
        
             | rejectfinite wrote:
        
               | eganist wrote:
        
               | [deleted]
        
             | crooked-v wrote:
             | The words "many" and "plenty" are sure doing a lot of work
             | here, what with the complete lack of citations.
        
               | rejectfinite wrote:
        
             | SamPatt wrote:
             | >doesn't deserve an audience
             | 
             | Why do you get to make that determination?
             | 
             | I can see the author's perspective. You don't have to agree
             | with everything you read for it to "deserve an audience."
        
               | eganist wrote:
               | > Why do you get to make that determination?
               | 
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradox_of_tolerance
               | 
               | I'm not making the determination. It's the only logical
               | one to make if we're to live in a society that values
               | tolerance as a first class citizen.
               | 
               | Relatedly, there's a distinction between freedom of
               | speech v. freedom of reach, the latter of which nobody
               | has.
        
               | SamPatt wrote:
               | You are making the determination by declaring that this
               | article is intolerant.
               | 
               | It's a woman's opinion about how language is changing in
               | ways she disagrees with. It isn't her advocating for
               | hatred or violence.
        
               | eganist wrote:
               | > It isn't her advocating for hatred
               | 
               | Are you sure about this specifically? Her own subtitle
               | disagrees: "I have no patience left for gender activists
               | who pretend that men can give birth."
               | 
               | I struggle to understand what "no patience left" for
               | [population] means other than human intolerance, which
               | goes hand in hand with hatred.
        
               | SamPatt wrote:
               | If you read that article and came away with the idea that
               | you should hate or be violent towards trans people, then
               | you are searching for hatred where it doesn't exist.
               | 
               | A woman expressing her opinion that "chest-feeding" and
               | "birthing persons" are terms obnoxious to her is not
               | hatred.
        
         | snoot wrote:
        
           | lando2319 wrote:
           | Someone who was born a woman, but now identifies as something
           | else
        
             | snowpid wrote:
             | Identity is a bad concept to classify biological bodies.
        
               | eropple wrote:
               | Yup. That's why "pregnant person" is used instead as a
               | descriptor; it is a condition that a person experiences,
               | it does not refer to extraneous factors like gender
               | identification.
        
       | captnFwiffo wrote:
        
       | ClassyJacket wrote:
        
       | notadev wrote:
       | Does the tech field seem to be highly represented in the T part
       | of LGBT? I can't count how many times I've see a woman's name as
       | the maintainer of some software and thought, wow it's awesome to
       | see a woman working on something as low-level or esoteric or
       | whatever and it almost always ends up being a trans woman.
       | Absolutely nothing wrong with that, just an observation.
        
         | codefreeordie wrote:
         | Yes, this is a thing, and there are very significant structural
         | reasons for it.
        
         | smoldesu wrote:
         | It's more that the tech industry is recovering from centuries
         | of raising women to avoid engineering roles.
        
         | matheusmoreira wrote:
         | I share your observations. I often find trans women behind very
         | cool and interesting projects. I don't have any statistics or
         | anything but it's certainly my personal experience.
        
         | eganist wrote:
         | > Does the tech field seem to be highly represented in the T
         | part of LGBT? I can't count how many times I've see a woman's
         | name as the maintainer of some software and thought, wow it's
         | awesome to see a woman working on something as low-level or
         | esoteric or whatever and it almost always ends up being a trans
         | woman. Absolutely nothing wrong with that, just an observation.
         | 
         | Possibly, or also possibly likely that people are more likely
         | to come out when they feel less constrained to societal
         | expectations (i.e there may be more LGBTQIA+ who are closeted
         | outside of tech because of nonconformity-related fears).
         | Whether it's one or the other (or both), these populations have
         | always gravitated towards tech because tech was always the
         | outcast thing to do.
        
         | alphabettsy wrote:
         | That hasn't been my experience, but possibly the over-
         | representation of males in the industry means trans people in
         | tech are more likely to be trans women.
        
         | detaro wrote:
         | Tech has lots of places tolerant of people falling outside the
         | "mainstream normal", pays well (which is quite useful for
         | people who want to medically transition), and until quite a
         | short time ago, niche online communities were probably one of
         | the main avenues for people to understand what's going on with
         | them and what they can do about it.
        
         | Gigachad wrote:
         | You wouldn't notice if the maintainer was in the LGB part.
        
           | TheNorthman wrote:
           | That's not his point...?
        
         | golemiprague wrote:
        
         | Tsiklon wrote:
         | The field seems to have comparatively visible representation,
         | which is something I'm happy to see. An immediate question I
         | have is how much of this change is because of society becoming
         | thankfully more accepting of transpeople? Further by extension,
         | in prior generations of tech workers how many are people who
         | would have not felt able to present who they are?
        
         | JBits wrote:
         | More boys being encouraged to go into tech is a potential
         | reason. However, personally I think the biggest reason is that
         | lots of people with ASD are in tech, and there is an overlap
         | between ASD and trans. All of the times I can remember where I
         | came a across a trans women in programming, they also had ASD
         | traits.
        
           | dmix wrote:
           | ASD = Autism Spectrum Disorder (for those who didn't know)
        
         | captnFwiffo wrote:
         | People used to say this about gay men and women in tech in the
         | 1990s, so, ya know. The more things change the more they stay
         | the same.
        
         | rajin444 wrote:
         | Don't trans females tend to be autistic? Given how well
         | autistic individuals do in programming it isn't surprising.
        
         | truthwhisperer wrote:
        
         | forty wrote:
         | Your observation (which I noticed too) boils down to the under
         | representation of biological women (both cis women and trans
         | men) in the tech industry, due to cultural and societal
         | reasons.
        
         | factsarelolz wrote:
         | I have noticed the higher amount of T in the Tech Industry. I
         | also noticed that most of the individuals are MtF, and a large
         | percentage are also white.
         | 
         | A conspiracy theorist could weave this into: White men have a
         | hard time getting past HR in the industry that is now bending
         | over backwards to pull in more BIPOC and women, so they just
         | dye their hair, pick some pronouns and land that job.
        
       | davesque wrote:
       | I feel that the likelihood of a discussion about this not
       | devolving into a flame war is low.
        
         | systemvoltage wrote:
        
           | socialismisok wrote:
           | Most folks agree on biological facts, and the science is
           | fairly consistent at this point. There remains a group who
           | refuses to accept that we've improved our understanding of
           | the human condition over the past several decades,
           | unfortunately.
        
             | systemvoltage wrote:
             | I think you're talking about a minority of people. Most
             | people don't care about this topic, all they care is to
             | atleast allow acknowledging fundamental facts and reality
             | without being called a bigot.
             | 
             | Strange that my original comment was flagged. I guess, I
             | will be leaving a place that doesn't allow civil discourse.
        
               | smoldesu wrote:
               | > I guess, I will be leaving a place that doesn't allow
               | civil discourse.
               | 
               | You should buy Hacker News for $44 Billion, then you can
               | publish whatever you want!
        
               | systemvoltage wrote:
               | Yeah many good folk have left HN, it's become an
               | ideological echo-chamber. It used to be so amazing.
               | 
               | I can't imagine us discussing things like in this thread:
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12909752
               | 
               | Take care.
               | 
               | Edit: Re: I chose this example as an extreme point of
               | reference for a divisive topic. Not suggesting that we
               | should be discussing politics. I am not going to comment
               | further and address your snarks.
        
               | smoldesu wrote:
               | Truly tragic that Hacker News has moved away from
               | politics.
        
         | socialismisok wrote:
         | It's honestly a bit shocking it's even made it to the front
         | page.
        
           | alphabettsy wrote:
           | Weekend HN has more posts by the right-leaning culture
           | warriors. Has been the case for several years at least. Race
           | and Gender related topics seem to be more frequent on the
           | weekends.
        
           | contravariant wrote:
           | There's 2 times more comments than minutes since the it was
           | posted, about half of which are flagged, so I don't think
           | this thread has long left.
        
           | bavell wrote:
           | I have strong opinions on this subject but I don't think it's
           | possible to have a healthy and productive conversation about
           | it in a forum and medium such as this.
        
             | rufusroflpunch wrote:
             | There are some subjects for which it is not possible to
             | have a productive discussion at all anywhere, and this is
             | one of them. This is an ideological difference so strong
             | that it makes it difficult for the opposing views to even
             | share a society.
        
         | eganist wrote:
         | It's already there; I'm having to quote specifics from the
         | article to show just how dark this mindset is and link to
         | topics like https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TERF to fend off
         | people who are ok erasing others who are trans.
         | 
         | Lots of deaded comments calling comments in here some specific
         | political ideology when all it is is people coming together to
         | defend the _basic acknowledgment that people have a right to
         | live as they are_ without being trampled on by others.
         | 
         | Even this comment of mine, that only points out that the parent
         | link is typical of trans-exclusionary radical feminism,
         | fluctuates between as low as -5 and as much as +2 because
         | there's a strain of people offended at being called out for
         | their own hatred. It's so much easier to just _not hate people
         | for being different_ rather than stewing on that pot of evil; I
         | don 't get it. (Although I'm guessing the score fluctuation is
         | based on which other community links back to this thread lol)
        
           | ClassyJacket wrote:
        
             | eganist wrote:
        
           | rejectfinite wrote:
        
           | fleddr wrote:
        
         | joemazerino wrote:
        
           | detaro wrote:
           | What self-labeling is being denied to her? She seems to be
           | mostly complaining about labels others use, in the general
           | case.
        
           | socialismisok wrote:
           | Nobody is saying this woman isn't a woman or isn't allowed to
           | identify as a woman. (Or mother.)
        
         | Loveaway wrote:
        
       | cbeach wrote:
        
       | lo_zamoyski wrote:
       | "Are Women Adult Human Females?", Alex Byrne, MIT.
       | 
       | [0] https://philarchive.org/archive/BYRAWAv5
        
       | hobbitstan wrote:
        
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