[HN Gopher] What has kept you going during a personal crisis?
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       What has kept you going during a personal crisis?
        
       I've been struggling immensely and I'm wondering what has helped
       you guys keep going in life when all hope is lost?
        
       Author : mrdespair
       Score  : 7 points
       Date   : 2022-09-25 21:45 UTC (1 hours ago)
        
       | grebulon wrote:
       | I'm going to assume here, that suicidal thoughts or depression
       | are not involved. If any of that is in play, please ignore
       | Internet forums and get some professional help and support. But
       | if that's not the case, and you are indeed faced with a crisis--
       | professional challenges, bereavement, financial loss or crisis,
       | etc.--read on.
       | 
       | A few things: find something short term to focus on; try and get
       | that done. Something as simple as chores around the house. Or
       | maybe a movie or book franchise you want to work your way
       | through. Might be inane, but you need a bit of that.
       | 
       | Don't be afraid to be alone, and to face your thoughts and
       | feelings. It's doesn't feel great, but it's a necessary part of
       | the journey.
       | 
       | Don't put yourself under pressure to get back on your feet, and
       | be social and productive immediately. Stick to the routine, but
       | don't be hard on yourself if you're not doing your best.
       | 
       | Most importantly, for the long term, just try and remember that
       | things change. Your crisis may feel overpowering and all
       | encompassing now, but it WILL NOT last. All you need is time.
       | You'll benefit from other things along the way--hobby, support,
       | friendship, etc.--but you WILL need time, no matter what else you
       | get, support-wise.
        
       | giantg2 wrote:
       | Depends on what you mean by going.
       | 
       | Just think of all the people who have survived worse and lived to
       | enjoy life later - POWs, prisoners, holocaust/gulag survivors,
       | etc.
       | 
       | Others might derive drive from knowing someone depends on them,
       | or will.
       | 
       | Some of us endure jobs we hate and more just because. What else
       | would we do? This might be as good as it gets, and that's OK.
        
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