[HN Gopher] Ask HN: I want to be an expert in many things but my...
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       Ask HN: I want to be an expert in many things but my lifetime won't
       be enough
        
       If you are this kind, how do you decide which things to work on?
        
       Author : kbns
       Score  : 286 points
       Date   : 2022-08-28 14:10 UTC (8 hours ago)
        
       | greenthrow wrote:
       | Prioritize. Pick one thing and start there.
       | 
       | I'd also ask yourself "Why do I want to be an expert
       | specifcially?" Is this really just a manifestation of narcissism?
       | Are you really after admiration and respect? Work on yourself.
       | That's the best advice I can give you.
        
       | screye wrote:
       | Sometimes being an expert is not as hard as you think. If by
       | expert, you mean competent enough to contribute then it is
       | doable. It is hard to get acclaim in multiple fields. Building
       | that status is a life long endeavor. But doing something self-
       | actualizing in multiple fields with competence is totally
       | achievable.
       | 
       | I personally want to write a book, record an album, publish as
       | first author in a tier 1 research conference and patent it,
       | create a useful product with real commercial appeal, perform a
       | standup special and be a great educator. As long as I don't care
       | about citations, billboards or best seller lists it is all
       | achievable.
       | 
       | I got the paper/patent out and am on my way to building a useful
       | product of my own. I am getting better at the drums and jamming,
       | have performed short skit comedy on stage and make sure to write
       | long form stuff on useless internet forums. My educational
       | pursuits are lagging, but I do try to mentor half a dozen people
       | at any given point in time.
       | 
       | I didn't start with most until I was an adult too. As of now, it
       | feels achievable. But my ability to achieve it is a purely
       | internal pursuit, which helps. My natural ADHDness also helps.
       | Ask me again in 30 years, maybe it'll be a good time to write
       | about how I tried to do 20 things and succeeded/failed.
       | 
       | The key is to put yourself within easy access of these activities
       | and be content with little wins. I wrote skit comedy when i was
       | with fellow drama kids. I play drums now that i have a garage. I
       | taught when my prof needed summer volunteers. I stubnornly seeked
       | a role at the intersection of research and industry to find easy
       | opportunities for novel applied research. The fun is in the
       | journey. A healthy dose of self-delusion saying you don't care
       | about the outcome also helps. I could go into a long tangent on
       | the powers of self-delusion....but I'll leave that for another
       | day.
        
       | blockwriter wrote:
       | The project of your soul is more immense and more important than
       | expertise.
        
       | stntrnr wrote:
       | Maybe...
       | 
       | ...your ability to appreciate one pursuit or subject will be
       | forever impaired by the existential urgency to "catch 'em all".
       | 
       | I realized long ago that I'm addicted to novelty. And I've
       | accepted that and I'm okay with it - I love ideas and starting
       | things high on the inspiration and vision for the future, only to
       | lose steam and switch to something else (lack of higher purpose
       | and discipline).
       | 
       | For me, I think it's all about a drive for significance. So I do
       | a lot cuz I want to matter and be important, make an impact, dent
       | the universe, etc. I don't want to be an expert in terms of
       | knowledge, but instead in execution and realizing the initial
       | vision. To decide what to go with right now, I've come up with
       | the following priority scheme:
       | 
       | 0) things where I have passion, highest excitement, engagement,
       | you will not be the best or be an expert if this is not true -
       | non-negotiable step 0 1) youth and time advantage - things that
       | need me you look younger or be unrestricted by family, mortage,
       | energy 2) risk appetite/tolerance advantage - which things are
       | higher risk that I can surely accept now but maybe not in the
       | future when I have more responsibility 3) unlocking other
       | freedoms or opportunities - which things will unlock everything
       | else and make them effortless to start - like exiting a startup
       | with major $$ so you can put it all into ungodly expensive
       | hobbies like becoming an expert rally car racer. I can't do that
       | financially right now :( 4) what will help myself and my family,
       | friends, tribe in a meaningful way 5) what will help the world in
       | a meaningful way, end suffering 6) discover new truths and
       | scientific knowledge for the benefit of humanity.
       | 
       | It's essentially a tie-breaking algorithm , shameless hacker plug
       | ;).
       | 
       | I'll close with a few quotes/ideas:
       | 
       | - with the strategy above you need to set a clear, achievable
       | short term goal with explicit success criteria so you can be
       | honest with yourself if discipline wavers and want to switch to
       | something else. Trace it to the root cause!
       | 
       | - you should go all-in on it. prioritize, but make it short term
       | so you can course correct, do a personal check-in on how it's
       | going. Give it at least a week, never more than 90 days. Bite
       | sized goals are better because you can have a tighter iteration
       | on your process and see if you're happy.
       | 
       | - C's make CEOS because they are smart enough to execute but dumb
       | enough to not doubt themselves, enumerate the ways for failure,
       | be distracted by exciting new ideas, etc.
       | 
       | - people saying "life is short" made me anxious and stressed for
       | a while, and one day my girlfriend said "relax, life is actually
       | pretty long". I'm having a better time thinking like that.
       | 
       | - the most important part of life is other people. I heard some
       | obscure YouTuber say that about 4 years ago, and I thought it had
       | to be more complex than that. I'm increasingly believing he's
       | right.
        
       | bitxbitxbitcoin wrote:
       | Of the many things, can you rank them?
        
       | edpichler wrote:
       | After doing some camping I started to see life differently. You
       | need to choose carefully what you will carry in your backpack.
       | Yes, we enjoy to do and learn a lot of things, but we need to
       | prioritize what is the most important for us.
        
       | Aeolun wrote:
       | Well, I figured it'd make most sense to work on eternal life
       | first.
       | 
       | But I've found that to be tangential to what I'm actually
       | interested in, so I'm still procrastinating.
        
       | litver wrote:
       | Maior pars mortalium, Pauline, ...
        
       | AviationAtom wrote:
       | The premise that one must be an expert in a singular field is
       | interesting, as I have found being a jack of many can be just as
       | useful. No less, it can be tough separating the WANT to be an
       | expert, versus the NEED to.
       | 
       | I can assure you you're not alone, our brains are just wired a
       | certain way. There's silver lining in all things, if you try to
       | dig a bit.
        
       | boredemployee wrote:
       | If you have the privilege of not having a shit day job I'd say to
       | follow your instincts. My love and my passion is producing a
       | niched genre of music, I'm very good at it, but it doesnt pay my
       | bills so unfortonately I have to have a daily job. So I'm
       | accepting that's my destiny as I get older and I don't really
       | care about being an expert at it anymore.
        
       | jongjong wrote:
       | Somehow I don't think that time is the bottleneck here... The
       | problem is that as you become an expert in a new area, you soon
       | cease to be an expert in the old area. It's difficult to stay up
       | to date and also to keep your skills fresh. If you don't practice
       | a skill for a long time, it tends to decline.
        
       | lcall wrote:
       | This can be guided by knowing one's purpose in life, and by
       | knowing that life does not end when this mortal lifetime ends,
       | but we will actually continue to exist; and it is possible, based
       | on our individual choices, that our learning, service, and growth
       | can continue. For me, this helps take the pressure off. I wrote
       | how I know this, at my simple web site (in profile).
       | 
       | There are ways to use our time that brings happiness in things
       | that last and are not transient. A scripture says: men are that
       | that they might have joy. Another says that what we learn by our
       | diligence in this life will remain with us in the world to come.
       | So it's definitely not a waste, to learn, and serve others with
       | our time.
        
         | asd wrote:
         | > knowing that life does not end when this mortal lifetime
         | ends.
         | 
         | Citation needed.
        
           | lcall wrote:
           | My simple web site (in profile) has many links and
           | references, answers to questions, and details. Be sure to
           | read the top part about ~ "how to read this site", as I have
           | really tried to make the site both readily skimmable, and
           | detailed.
           | 
           | I have also learned some of these things for myself, not
           | depending only on what others, or books, say. Again, details
           | in the site and nothing for sale there, no JS currently
           | either.
        
       | groffee wrote:
       | "It is a painful thing to say to oneself: by choosing one road I
       | am turning my back on a thousand others. Everything is
       | interesting; everything might be useful; everything attracts and
       | charms a noble mind; but death is before us; mind and matter make
       | their demands; willy-nilly we must submit and rest content as to
       | things that time and wisdom deny us, with a glance of sympathy
       | which is another act of our homage to the truth." - Antonin
       | Sertillanges, The Intellectual Life: Its Spirit, Conditions,
       | Methods
        
       | erikig wrote:
       | I used to get this with books until I came across the Japanese
       | concept of Tsundoku which helped identify and calm the anxiety.
       | Tsundoku (Ji nDu ) is the acquisition of reading materials and
       | letting them pile up without reading them.
        
         | Bakary wrote:
         | Reminds me of the concept of antilibrary inspired by Umberto
         | Eco.
         | 
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antilibrary
        
       | qatanah wrote:
       | Ars longa, vita brevis
       | 
       | "skilfulness takes time and life is short"
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ars_longa,_vita_brevis
        
       | ultra_nick wrote:
       | Still everything, but, faster! I just applied to YC with a
       | learning accelerator that integrates many subjects into an
       | optimized learning plan. The MVP should become useful in the next
       | 6 months.
       | 
       | https://www.linkedin.com/company/conceptionary/
        
       | 0x20cowboy wrote:
       | You might want to examine the _expert_ part of that statement.
       | What exactly does that mean to you?
       | 
       | I have a great many interests, and I shift to focusing between
       | them pretty regularly (and have for many years).
       | 
       | I enjoy all of them, but I likely won't make any meaningful
       | impact or win an award or have people ask my opinion in any of
       | them. I only do them because I enjoy them.
       | 
       | If you're truely honest, your lifetime isn't enough to truly know
       | anything - one subject or many subjects. You'll pass away, and
       | all your work will be forgotten in time eventually - no matter
       | what. Life is impermanent.
       | 
       | So, my random internet advice: if you find one subject you really
       | like, go deep. If you have a lot of interests, go wide. If you
       | want a fancy job and people to fawn over how intelligent you are,
       | be born rich.
        
       | ale_jacques wrote:
       | Passion
        
       | elorant wrote:
       | I'm curious about a lot of things, and always eager to learn
       | something new, but at no point have the desire to become an
       | expert. I'm hardly an expert in my every day job. I'm content
       | with exploring. I can fix my bicycle if it's broken, but I can't
       | fix any bicycle. I can also fix my plumbing up to a point, or
       | make general home fixes like paint a room, or maintain the wooden
       | shutters, but I can't compete with a professional painter. I just
       | don't see the point of investing the extra time to go in all the
       | way. It's not like I'll change career any time soon.
        
       | pfkurtz wrote:
       | A lot of people here are going to talk negatives and
       | prioritization and purpose, but I personally also want to be
       | practically omniscient, and you should strive for it too. You
       | need strategies if you want to know a lot. Certainly focused
       | things like classes and intensive study are necessary from time
       | to time (and especially early in life), but we can't do that our
       | whole lives, nor do we want to.
       | 
       | What we need is to develop habits of constant learning.
       | 
       | Here is one essential thing you can do to start learning a lot:
       | 
       | Fill your home with dual-language books, and keep opening them.
       | Put a stack on your toilet.
       | 
       | By dual-language books, I mean books with the original language
       | on one side, and your native language on the other. You'll find
       | that the entirely of the classical pantheon, as well as much
       | great literature and philosophy from many cultures is available
       | in this form.
       | 
       | Spreading math books around your house helps too, of course,
       | along with those on the other topics you want to master.
       | 
       | Keep opening them. Life is long, each day you can learn a bit
       | more.
       | 
       | "Every life is many days, day after day. We walk through
       | ourselves, meeting ghosts, giants, old men, young men, wives,
       | widows, brothers-in-love. But always meeting ourselves."
        
         | nudpiedo wrote:
         | Then the pages of the books will become dusty and humid, for
         | sure deteriorated. Let alone the other beings living in the
         | house will also somehow interact with the books in other ways
         | than the romantic fantasy setup you proposed.
        
           | pfkurtz wrote:
           | What the heck are you even talking about? I gotta say, Hacker
           | News is probably one of the least welcoming communities on
           | the internet.
        
         | echelon wrote:
         | Back in college, I wanted this too. I triple majored in CS,
         | biology, and chemistry. But when I looked at the impact I
         | wanted to have and the resources I wanted at my disposal and
         | compared them to an academic lifestyle, I saw a pretty glaring
         | disparity.
         | 
         | The best way to actually command subjects is to work on them.
         | Spend some time at companies doing the things you want -
         | preferably in high paying jobs - and then start something on
         | your own where you have to wear all the hats and submerge
         | yourself in the technical details.
         | 
         | It's not as deep as academia, but it's certainly broad. This
         | tactic might be what you're looking for.
         | 
         | And if you get exceedingly lucky, you might wind up with the
         | capital and stumble upon the kind of unexplored areas ripe for
         | growth that Elon Musk did. That's probably the ideal scenario -
         | you get to work on incredibly interesting subject matters
         | through hiring the best talent in the world. Use your team as a
         | high level search and filter algorithm, and be present to learn
         | and enjoy the process.
         | 
         | I'm nowhere near as successful but have employed people to do
         | exactly that. It's not a bad alternative.
        
           | pfkurtz wrote:
           | If you triple majored in 3 technical subjects, I submit that
           | your aim was not what I am talking about.
           | 
           | I am talking about how you fit in learning the real knowledge
           | of our collective culture over a lifetime, no matter what
           | else you do.
        
         | mattlondon wrote:
         | Do you want to be "book smart" and only know a lot about what
         | someone else thinks and tells you, or actually learn something
         | yourself and gain the intuition and detailed understanding that
         | you get from forming your own knowledge?
         | 
         | You can read books till the cows come home, but don't expect to
         | become an expert from reading alone. I can't imagine anyone on
         | their deathbed wishing they'd spent more time reading on the
         | toilet Vs actually _practicing_ a skill.
        
           | pfkurtz wrote:
           | Lol. Read my first line.
           | 
           | I'm a software engineer posting on Hacker news. I know how to
           | learn a skill.
           | 
           | This is something else, that you can have, if you read lots
           | of books and learn more languages.
           | 
           | Becoming smart is, in part, about being exposed to lots of
           | others thoughts, and lots of facts, and discussing those
           | things and thinking through them yourself.
        
             | mattlondon wrote:
             | I think you are conflating knowledge with being
             | "smart"/intelligent.
             | 
             | One does not beget the other.
        
               | pfkurtz wrote:
               | Not even close.
        
           | Ken_At_EM wrote:
           | Every time I hear someone bring up the "book smart" versus
           | "street smart" false dichotomy it often comes off as someone
           | trying to justify their own inadequacies.
           | 
           | I am not calling out the previous reply.
        
             | droobles wrote:
             | You are right of course, I experienced that growing up, but
             | a good mix of both doesn't hurt!
        
               | Ken_At_EM wrote:
               | What's another good label for these types of knowledge so
               | that we can avoid the cliche?
               | 
               | Is it as simple as having information and experience?
               | 
               | I have read everything on being a carpenter but I have
               | never practiced, so therefore I am "book smart" when it
               | comes to carpentry?
               | 
               | I guess this doesn't really cut it because when someone
               | claims their "steet smart" as a way to combat feeling
               | inferior to someone else they have credited as "book
               | smart" what they're really trying to say is that they
               | have knowledge that's more useful in different
               | situations? Or more practical situations?
               | 
               | The more I think about this the more it seems like
               | claiming to be "street smart" is just saying "hey, I'm
               | smart too, just in a different way" when you're feeling a
               | bit less than someone.
        
               | pfkurtz wrote:
               | There's an obvious example in programming: one might read
               | a lot about machine learning, without becoming a
               | practitioner. Without actually doing some work, one's
               | opinions about building AIs wouldn't be worth much.
               | 
               | What breaks down is thinking this dichotomy captures the
               | state of play wrt knowing lots of things. One of course
               | has to practice knowledge, if that knowledge involves
               | practicable skills, if one wants mastery.
               | 
               | If one wants to know history, or philosophy, or... many
               | of the actual large bodies of knowledge that exist... one
               | needs to get comfortable very regularly opening books.
               | That doesn't mean it's all that's required!
        
       | enduser wrote:
       | I think about what forms of expertise will be meaningful when I
       | am dying.
        
       | ilaksh wrote:
       | Wait 10-40 years for more progress with AI and brain-computer-
       | interfaces.
       | 
       | The good news is that it will likely be completely possible to
       | effectively be an expert in all of those things. The bad news is
       | that everyone else will be an expert also.
       | 
       | It will probably be kind of like what has happened now with
       | Google and arguments over trivia. Just 10 or 100 times more
       | integrated and in-depth.
        
       | markus_zhang wrote:
       | Don't worry, life will sort it out. Eventually you will realize
       | that you cannot even be an expert of a niche field.
        
       | slmjkdbtl wrote:
       | Pick one field and start practicing everyday, you'll be amazed
       | what you can achieve on one thing in one year with even only 2hr
       | daily practice.
        
         | testcase_delta wrote:
         | I second this. It's really stunning what you can learn by
         | logging an hour or two a day. I really like to add Anki to my
         | daily practice routine. I take advantage of screenshotting and
         | jot my notes in Anki in a questions/answer format instead of in
         | a notebook. It's great for learning the core concepts or
         | vocabulary of a new skill.
        
       | rodolphoarruda wrote:
       | Be an expert in happiness. It's very rewarding.
        
       | freediver wrote:
       | Wanting something is easy, doing is hard. Get past wanting to
       | doing and it will automatically filter to a manageable set of
       | goals.
        
       | lisper wrote:
       | You need to make your peace with the fact that there will always
       | be vastly more things you don't know than things that you do.
       | That would be true even if your life were 10x longer or 100x
       | longer. Your life span is not the limiting factor. The size of
       | your brain is the limiting factor. At the very least, there are 8
       | billion other brains out there, and your brain cannot contain all
       | of the knowledge contained in those 8 billion others.
       | 
       | But there are some fields of knowledge that give you more
       | leverage towards obtaining expertise than others. Being an expert
       | in Lisp, for example, will not make you an expert in C++. But it
       | _will_ let you realize that becoming an expert in C++ is very
       | likely to be a waste of time, because being an expert in C++
       | means knowing a lot of random and mostly arbitrary trivia that
       | has accumulated over many decades of bad decision-making.
       | 
       | There are a lot of examples of subjects that give you similar
       | kinds of leverage. There are probably a dozen core topics that
       | allow you to cut vast swathes through most of human knowledge:
       | basic physics (GR and QM), the theory of computation and
       | complexity theory, game theory and the theory of evolution (and
       | how these are related) is probably the 80/20 list. So if you
       | really want to maximize your expertise I would start by focusing
       | on a few of those topics.
       | 
       | But, as others have pointed out, you really should take a step
       | back and ask yourself _why_ you want to become an expert in many
       | things. Do you want expertise for its own sake, or do you want
       | the prestige that comes from having others perceive you as an
       | expert? Because those are two very different goals.
        
       | ilaksh wrote:
       | One thing to realize is that the most relevant skills and
       | knowledge are changing rapidly. So maybe it's better to be an
       | expert in adapting to and adopting new approaches.
       | 
       | Because being an expert in less practical subjects that are
       | slightly dated can still be useful and interesting but may tend a
       | little more towards vanity.
        
       | droobles wrote:
       | I just go with whatever my jack-of-all trades wants to do that
       | day. Right now it's mastering French, before it was playing drums
       | and bass in a hardcore punk band, and before that it was finance
       | and the market, and before that using a new XPen tablet to draw
       | panels for a graphic novel concept my brother wrote as well as
       | some F/64-meets-Cezanne style landscapes. All while working on a
       | startup, and trying to maintain a social life. I rotate through
       | these and others throughout the years.
       | 
       | I know I most likely won't be the best at any of them in my
       | lifetime, but really it's not a competition for me and I'm having
       | fun.
       | 
       | Only piece of advice is avoid content mills like Tiktok and
       | Instagram that are designed to get you addicted and keep you from
       | doing the things you love - although on the other hand those
       | things can spark inspiration!
        
       | carapace wrote:
       | I was this kind in my youth. I felt like my brain was this
       | incredibly powerful cannon, floating in a force cradle, swiveling
       | wildly in all directions, "targeting... targeting...
       | targeting..." all I had to do was locate the target and fire, but
       | I could never locate the target.
       | 
       | What happened was interesting, but perhaps not applicable to you.
       | The best advice I can give you is to find ways to benefit others.
       | That's the open secret of life: one's own happiness flows from
       | bringing happiness to others (self and other are ultimately
       | illusions, All are One.)
        
       | chillpenguin wrote:
       | I would say you should work on things that will have a bigger
       | impact. Some things might be fun/interesting but the impact will
       | be extremely low (or none at all).
       | 
       | Another tip is to vigilantly avoid time wasting traps like
       | instagram, facebook, video games, pointless youtube videos, etc.
       | This will give you a LOT more time to pursue other things.
       | 
       | But yeah, this is a tough burden for us to bear. I mean, it is
       | literally the oldest problem in human existence: our short time
       | on this earth. It reminds me of a song from ancient Greece
       | (literally the oldest surviving complete musical composition)[1]:
       | While you live, shine       have no grief at all       life
       | exists only for a short while       and Time demands his due.
       | 
       | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seikilos_epitaph
        
         | musha68k wrote:
         | I bet computer and video games are an extra hard trap to
         | uncover for many (in here).
         | 
         | For me personally they often have been and still are a much
         | needed way to escape plus a conduit to a multitude of other
         | interests and my professional career (not directly related).
         | 
         | OTOH and more often than I would like to admit these days its
         | meaningless, consumerist time wasting at best and an addiction
         | at worst.
         | 
         | Taking away from other things and relationships even.
         | 
         | Yet even with the same old games and principles and all the
         | addictive aspects I'd still love it as a hobby (in low doses)
         | but I'm probably also not the only one still fooling themselves
         | that it's more than that.
         | 
         | Maybe it's time to finally move on again (feels very hard
         | though).
        
       | h2odragon wrote:
       | Before you have family: what's fun and will improve the state of
       | the world (not necessarily the _whole_ world, just bits you can
       | reach).
       | 
       | After having family, what benefits them may reasonably be the
       | higher priority.
        
       | csh0 wrote:
       | I can appreciate how you feel because, I, along with many others
       | here (as illustrated by the responses to this post) feel the same
       | way.
       | 
       | What has been particularity important for me in dealing with this
       | is to not let this desire to be versed in a wide array of
       | subjects lend itself to a state of thrashing. It is my goal to
       | possess a range of knowledge, but I know that it will not be
       | perfectly all encompassing, but good or some is better than none.
       | 
       | When I say thrashing I am referring to precisely the same sort of
       | thrashing which computers might endure, process thrashing,
       | wherein "when the process working set cannot be coscheduled - so
       | not all interacting processes are scheduled to run at the same
       | time - they experience 'process thrashing' due to being
       | repeatedly scheduled and unscheduled, progressing only
       | slowly."[0] I was first introduced to this idea and it's
       | application to human life through the book Algorithms to Live By,
       | by Brian Christian and Thomas L. Griffiths and I try to keep it
       | in mind.
       | 
       | I couple this idea with some advice from Donald Knuth which he
       | extols in the form of an anecdote about his mother (shared by
       | Shuvomoy Das Gupta): "My mother is amazing to watch because she
       | doesn't do anything efficiently, really: She puts about three
       | times as much energy as necessary into everything she does. But
       | she never spends any time wondering what to do next or how to
       | optimize anything; she just keeps working. Her strategy, slightly
       | simplified, is, "See something that needs to be done and do it."
       | All day long. And at the end of the day, she's accomplished a
       | huge amount."
       | 
       | This second bit of advice is useful because it reminds me not to
       | get hung up on optimization or identifying the best possible
       | learning pathway. When you aspire to learn many different things,
       | there's nearly an infinite number of places you can get stuck,
       | you can get so stuck in fact, that you fail to learn very much at
       | all.
       | 
       | The last bit of advice is a general one: pick the subjects which
       | are most fundamental. For example, say I would like to learn
       | about Zoology, Botany, and Marine Biology. It is most
       | advantageous to choose to study Biology first, as it underpins
       | the three. Then, down the line, should I take the time to dig
       | into each subject in particular, my rate of learning will be
       | accelerated. This isn't anything special, and is in fact the
       | basis of most modern STEM education, learn the fundamentals
       | (math, physics, chemistry, biology) etc. and then the later in-
       | depth topics are built upon that foundation.
       | 
       | So, to summarize:
       | 
       | Pick a subject (the more fundamental the better), think (a little
       | bit, but not too much) about how you will approach learning it,
       | and simply begin. If something else comes along and piques your
       | interest, feel free to switch gears and follow that interest, but
       | be sure to avoid thrashing, hopping from subject to subject or
       | task to task so rapidly that you aren't picking up anything at
       | all. Just as the other commenters here said, you will be amazed
       | at just how much knowledge you accumulate over time.
       | 
       | [0]
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thrashing_(computer_science)#:...
       | 
       | [1] https://shuvomoy.github.io/blogs/posts/Knuth-on-work-
       | habits-....
        
       | vbezhenar wrote:
       | My perspective is that I probably won't be an expert in a single
       | field (though there's still time). I spent enough time with Java
       | to be fairly proficient with it. Other than that, I call myself
       | full stack developer and that means that I touched a lot of areas
       | in IT. I'm good Linux user, I can administer Linux servers, I can
       | tinker with OpenBSD, I know quite a lot of languages, I think
       | that I touched every popular language and I'm pretty fluent at JS
       | and C. I'm good enough with databases, I'm know few things about
       | hardware. This year I learned how to provision a k8s cluster and
       | install some things there. This year I tried to get hold on
       | microelectronics and microcontrollers but somewhat failed because
       | of lack of time, though I'll get there eventually.
       | 
       | I'm absolutely not an expert in any of those fields and I'm not
       | going to be. But my knowledge is enough to get things running and
       | to tinker with it until it works if necessary.
       | 
       | I like it this way because I just get bored pretty quickly
       | working on a single thing. Doing different things prevent be from
       | burning out and keeps IT fun. And I think that this kind of guy
       | is very helpful for small companies which can't hire experts for
       | every thing. You can temporarily hire contractors but in my
       | experience that often leads to subpar solutions as they want to
       | get money and run away, doing as little work as possible instead
       | of building solid foundation and writing lots of docs.
       | 
       | So how do I decide which things to work on? Well, whatever I need
       | and whatever makes me want to stay at work. Many things.
        
         | tharkun__ wrote:
         | I'm like that too. I don't think I could actually become a
         | 'real' expert at something that tiny. Way too boring.
         | 
         | I think of myself as an expert at software development. I have
         | broad knowledge I can apply towards lots of 'problems'. I have
         | a past of Linux and network administration which has always
         | helped with bridging the gap of talking to and building for our
         | actual admins and nowadays interfacing with SREs and knowing
         | enough about k8s, I know how to read and diagnose error
         | messages from tools and libraries and stacks I have never seen
         | or built stuff in etc. I can write software in many a language
         | you throw at me though I have ones I use regularly and actually
         | know stuff about. I won't jump on building you a highly
         | optimized trading platform using only Java primitive types as
         | an 'expert' in that might because I'd find that very tedious
         | and boring. Reading about it is very fun though!
         | 
         | Becoming an expert at just one thing in software to me sounds
         | like being a carpenter and all you do every single day is to
         | build walls. Nothing else (i.e. be a framer) or doing dry wall.
         | Sure I'd probably get super fast and efficient at it. But it's
         | gonna be boring as hell. I'd rather learn how to do many if not
         | most of the jobs needed to build a wall, finish a basement,
         | build a shed and roof it etc.
         | 
         | I guess what I am trying to say is that I scratch my itch by
         | just doing the bits of everything I find interesting to some
         | degree. Some I go into more deeply because they are interesting
         | to me for a longer period of time. Others get boring fast and
         | it's fine not to become an 'expert' in. Breadth first search
         | for interesting stuff. If I did depth first I'd only get like 3
         | things into my lifetime and never know what I might have missed
         | somewhere else.
        
       | pkrotich wrote:
       | Mastery is often encouraged - even with tropes like "Jack of
       | trades master of none" used to deliver insults to some of us -
       | but saying used in full phrase is "a jack of all trades is a
       | master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one." ~
       | Shakespeare
       | 
       | Most of us won't be polymaths per se but we now live in a world
       | where information and knowledge are in abundance in whatever
       | field of interest and for the most part it's almost "free".
       | 
       | With abundance and accessibility (regardless of your class to
       | some extend) can create anxiety and depression or even paralysis
       | since prioritizing shifts entirely on you - mentally as opposed
       | to life's circumstances forcing you to a particular path because
       | that's or was the only option. I believe this is a major source
       | of anxiety and even depression in the internet age.
       | 
       | My point is, unlike many commenters, I see your point and even
       | share what you're feeling to some extend. Most people assume it's
       | just a matter of priorities, killing FOMO and perhaps being
       | content with life you have now or whatever life has handed you,
       | but it's not that simple. It's much deeper.
       | 
       | Perhaps you're dealing with Chronophobia [0] of some sort that
       | need to be addressed. For me it manifested itself as fear of not
       | having enough time to read all the books that interests me - even
       | if I start reading 24/7 now! My wishlist is insanely long and
       | growing, yet I'm hoarding books and magazines I bought years ago
       | because I simply don't have time! With help of an expert, I was
       | able to trace my fear to growing up in third-word county in a
       | village setting; curious about everything but with zero access to
       | books / library or entertainment for that matter. I read
       | everything I got my hands to kill time and quench my curiosity
       | and now I have access to all books in the word but no time!
       | 
       | [0] -
       | https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22579-chronop...
        
       | imtemplain wrote:
        
       | imtemplain wrote:
        
       | mathgeek wrote:
       | I'd recommend reading
       | https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/41795733-range if only to see
       | why being a generalist is another option. You should feel free to
       | allow yourself the flexibility to switch your interests as you
       | change throughout your life.
        
       | wespiser_2018 wrote:
       | I try to work on what I find most interesting, and am capable of
       | doing. Stuff like single photon path distance stuff and LIDAR is
       | really cool, and no doubt I could spend the whole weekend reading
       | about it, but that's not easily within reach given my background
       | (could be wrong). However, there are topics that are closely
       | related to my job skills, and if I push hard on them I should be
       | able to move my career in that direction. I'm a backend engineer,
       | so topics like compilers, distributed systems, or databases are
       | what I'm most interested in. All really cool tech that have deep
       | academic domains and rich histories and very technical
       | implementations.
       | 
       | My general approach is to take tiny steps in the direction I want
       | to go everyday, ie, use the power of habit. This has several
       | advantages, but mostly it's just easier for me if studying is a
       | habit. Right now, that means doing a LeetCode problem every day
       | to stay sharp for job interviews, reading about databases, and
       | starting a new project where I implement a database myself,
       | probably in Rust, so I need to learn Rust as well.
       | 
       | I do generally agree that there isn't enough time to spend on
       | what you want, and work takes up way too much time, but in my
       | experience accepting your limitations and learning to live a
       | balanced life with devotion to tech interests and hobbies has
       | been essential to staying healthy. Put another way, I don't want
       | a crazy job where I grind it out for 65+ hours a week and burn
       | out in 11 months, burn out is very unhealthy for me. Instead, my
       | philosophy is one of sustainable daily movement, setting myself
       | up for working not 2 more years, but 20.
        
       | larve wrote:
       | I had the same problem, and I rephrased the "problem". If
       | everyday I do things that make me feel I get better at becoming
       | an expert in things that interest me, and I do that consistently
       | my whole life, then that will be a life well-lived. Doing that
       | gives me purpose and satisfaction every single day.
       | 
       | "Expertise" is not something that exists per se, so as a goal, it
       | is unreachable. In fact, the more I have put this approach to
       | use, the more I realize how many things exist that I will never
       | become an expert on. It also makes me realize that whatever I
       | have the most actual expertise on is but a tiny tiny grain in the
       | vast sea of knowledge in that one specific field!
        
       | newaccount2021 wrote:
        
       | sbfeibish wrote:
       | Find a problem you are capable of solving. Make sure the problem
       | has a paying audience and is worth your while. Work on the
       | solution to that problem. Focus! Learn what you have to learn to
       | come up with the solution and sell it.
       | 
       | (Put off learning all you need to know about investing, health,
       | and science. You can spend the entire day without getting any
       | work done. Once you're independently wealthy you can spend your
       | time as you wish.)
        
       | SoftTalker wrote:
       | _Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for
       | there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the
       | grave, whither thou goest._
       | 
       | Ecclesiastes 9:10
       | 
       | Basically, do the best work you can at whatever it is you need to
       | do. In the end none of it matters.
        
         | jasonkester wrote:
         | Good advice, and it can be quoted from dozens of places
         | throughout history. A few...
         | 
         | Confucius: "Wherever you go, go with all your heart"
         | 
         | Sinatra: "If you're going to do it, it's no good unless you do
         | it all the way"
         | 
         | Snowboarder: "Go Big."
        
       | gduzan wrote:
       | First, have you asked yourself why you want to be an expert in
       | many things? If it is just to know things, then it doesn't
       | matter; just keep learning until you can't anymore. If it is to
       | apply the knowledge to something, then you can use that fact to
       | determine how much utility over time the knowledge of each thing
       | would have, and focus on the greatest first.
        
         | Victerius wrote:
         | > First, have you asked yourself why you want to be an expert
         | in many things?
         | 
         | Not the OP, but here's my answer. I want to be able to win
         | arguments. If I debate the merits of an economic proposal with
         | you, and you say, "Sure, and what are your qualifications,
         | exactly? Do you have a PhD in economics?", I want to be able to
         | say, "Yes, I do have a PhD in economics, actually", or "I have
         | read over 490 books about economics, including graduate-level
         | texts. What are YOUR qualifications?". I want to be able to
         | stand my ground with credentialed experts without necessarily
         | having the same degrees.
        
           | SoftTalker wrote:
           | Arguments are seldom "won" outside of something like a formal
           | debate with point scoring.
           | 
           | Arguing with most people is like mud-wrestling with a pig.
           | You both get dirty and the pig enjoys it.
        
           | dixie_land wrote:
           | If being an expert wins you arguments we wouldn't have flat
           | earthers
        
           | sockaddr wrote:
           | Realistically a lot of people who you'd otherwise learn from
           | will avoid discussing things with you because of this
           | behavior. Meanwhile those willing to listen and who aren't as
           | concerned with winning arguments will learn much more than
           | you.
           | 
           | EDIT: to expand on this, the smartest person I ever knew (the
           | late Justin Corwin. Maybe someone here also knew him) would
           | sit quietly during arguments until someone asked his opinion.
           | Even if you got something wrong he wouldn't correct you
           | unless he knew it would help you. He didn't lord shallow
           | facts over people like many others do and his knowledge went
           | deeper than you could explore with mere discussion. After
           | knowing someone like this It has forever changed how I
           | evaluate people's intelligence. Some intelligent people are
           | not at all concerned about winning arguments and it's
           | extremely refreshing.
        
             | Victerius wrote:
             | > his knowledge went deeper than you could explore with
             | mere discussion.
             | 
             | Another principle of mine: There are no oracles. There is
             | no individual, past, present, or future, who cannot be
             | surpassed. No one is a knowledge god. If I learned
             | everything Justin knew, and that wouldn't be too difficult,
             | I imagine, then I, too, could gain a level of knowledge
             | that goes deeper than one could explore with mere
             | discussion, according to you.
        
               | sockaddr wrote:
               | > I imagine, then I, too, could gain a level of knowledge
               | that goes deeper than one could explore with mere
               | discussion, according to you.
               | 
               | Yes, you could. Your point is?
        
               | Victerius wrote:
               | My point is: Let's not put anyone on a pedestal because
               | of their cerebral skills.
               | 
               | Great athletes, great artists, sure.
        
               | sockaddr wrote:
               | No one is doing that. I'm trying to explain to you that
               | you might get more milage (learning more) by using a
               | different approach and then giving you an example from my
               | life. If that doesn't work for you that's fine. Have a
               | great day and good luck.
        
               | pdntspa wrote:
               | Ok but... why?
        
           | aintmeit wrote:
        
           | paulcole wrote:
           | > I want to be able to win arguments.
           | 
           | The easier route to this is to talk loudly and confidently
           | until the other person gives up.
        
           | pdntspa wrote:
           | That is an awful lot of effort just to be able to prove a
           | point, which may or may not actually come up. Choose wisely!
        
           | olddustytrail wrote:
           | Give up on that ambition. There are a lot of very intelligent
           | people in the world. They will know more about their subject
           | than you.
           | 
           | Learn instead to recognize expertise.
        
           | gchamonlive wrote:
           | > I want to be able to win arguments.
           | 
           | You just need to master rhetoric. No need to be a master of a
           | specific subject to be able to twist arguments in your favor.
        
       | psyc wrote:
       | I am this kind. Jeez, how old are you and how many life-shorting
       | conditions do you have stacked against you? My strategy has
       | always been to visit each hobby round robin. I'll spend x weeks
       | on music until I'm not feeling it or I finish something, then
       | switch to animation and do the same, then game programming, etc,
       | etc. I've always felt like there's way, way, way, way too much
       | time in a life time but that's because I spend half of it
       | suffering crippling depression. I'm supposed to be working on
       | animation today but I'm here. Imagine how many planets I'd have
       | conquered single handedly if Eliezer Yudkowsky had never started
       | mentioning this frikkin site. Time to go make some use of that
       | freedom.to subscription.
        
       | zackmorris wrote:
       | I struggle with this too, as I have many hundreds of inventions
       | scattered across my notes that I'll never get to make. The
       | interesting thing is that many of them have manifested through
       | the work of others over the last 20-30 years, although some are
       | so fringe that I don't expect them to come into being without
       | effort on my part.
       | 
       | The thought of never being able to make what's in my heart sent
       | me to a dark place a few years ago and coincided with a profound
       | burnout and breakdown in my physical health just before the
       | pandemic.
       | 
       | As I've healed, I've come to believe in reincarnation. Not some
       | woo woo metaphysical thing that can never be proven (it can't),
       | but more like, having chapters or past lives within lives,
       | usually transitioned through major life events and trauma. As in,
       | my daily lived experience and worldview no longer align with the
       | ones I had growing up, going off to school, entering my career,
       | losing friends and family along the way, etc. This is maybe my
       | 7th chapter?
       | 
       | Not only that, but we experience being ourselves in different
       | lives when we dream. It's not a stretch for me to imagine waking
       | up tomorrow in someone else's life, with no memory of my own.
       | Which brings me peace, as it takes some of the pressure off of
       | performing in my own life if my lived experience is just as
       | sacred with the same dignity as everyone else's.
       | 
       | Where this matters is how I think about success and failure.
       | Imagine if every risk we take is a coin flip that determines the
       | next chapter of our lives in our next reality. Heads: we succeed
       | and build upon that success. Tails: we fail and find ourselves
       | deeper in the hole we've dug for ourselves.
       | 
       | Most of my heroes are successful people like Steve Wozniak and
       | John Carmack. They enjoyed early success and found backing by
       | benefactors who helped them stay on course and make the
       | contributions in their hearts.
       | 
       | But I also feel a kinship with failures like Vincent van Gogh and
       | Oscar Wilde. They worked in relative obscurity, never feeling
       | like they accomplished what they wanted to do, all the way until
       | the day they died.
       | 
       | My own life feels like a series of say 10 coin flips that all
       | came up tails. In some ways I'm in the most wretched reality, the
       | 1 of 1024 possible that most acutely exacerbates my suffering.
       | 
       | But that's not quite right, because my life is an equal balance
       | of good and bad, in which serendipity gave me the most amazing
       | experiences and opportunities. Almost like the universe was
       | listening and went out of its way to lay the path for me to
       | travel. I just didn't notice, because I was so wrapped up in
       | external measures of success that I forgot that the important
       | part is being alive and conscious to experience it all.
       | 
       | Now I have a pragmatic view of success and failure. I'm happy
       | when people make it. But that's their experience, their life,
       | their reality. What it really comes down to is, what to do with
       | the time that is given to us, quoting Gandalf.
       | 
       | I think of reality now like a video game where we popped in a
       | quarter to get an extra life. We do our best, we make our mark,
       | then we find ourselves doing it all over again. I try to help
       | people who have that fire in their belly to make the world a
       | better place. But I'm concerned about people who haven't woken up
       | to these sorts of ideas, who chase extreme wealth and power, in
       | the end hurting an aspect of themselves in another life.
       | 
       | At the end of the day, my mantra is whatever it takes. I do
       | whatever I can from moment to moment to shift into the reality I
       | wish to exist in, through mindfulness meditation and daily
       | practice to form habits which get me closer to my goals. As I've
       | become more aware of concepts like co-creation, I've found that
       | life opens up with new possibilities I hadn't conceived of, which
       | has helped me find meaning and reaffirmed my belief in free will
       | and freedom itself.
       | 
       | Practically, that means that I take care of my body's health, I
       | go to work, but I define my own boundaries now. I take time for
       | my own projects regardless of consequence, confident in my
       | ability to handle what creation throws at me. I don't let others'
       | lived experience overshadow my own anymore. I've gotten to
       | experience the feeling of success lately,
       | physically/mentally/spiritually, and it feels wonderful after so
       | many years of struggling.
       | 
       | Basically, choose the one thing most dear to your heart, and go
       | do that.
       | 
       | But these are my views through my filter. Please take them as
       | leads, not conclusions. Apologies that this got so long again,
       | but hey, it's Sunday.
        
       | kazinator wrote:
       | Once can be an expert in things that are complete crap, or that
       | are of no consequence, or both. Have some personal way of
       | identifying those topics and shun them.
        
       | pella wrote:
       | > I want to be an expert in many things but my lifetime won't be
       | enough
       | 
       | > If you are this kind, how do you decide which things to work
       | on?
       | 
       | First step:
       | 
       | - You need to be an expert in prioritisation!
        
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       | giomasce wrote:
       | Believe in a religion that postulates an infinite life after the
       | current one. If you're right, big win: you're going to have all
       | the time you want; of not, by the time you know you don't care
       | any more.
        
       | emrah wrote:
       | Do you know the story of the donkey in the middle between a
       | bucket of water and a pile of hay? https://sive.rs/donkey
       | 
       | So the answer is: one at a time
       | 
       | If you can't decide, say, if all subjects are the same level of
       | interest to you, pick one at random and spend 5 years on it. See
       | where that gets you. If you are satisfied or bored, pick the next
       | subject.
        
       | tekinosman wrote:
       | Don't decide which things to work on and risk analysis paralysis
       | along with a string of other negative feelings.
       | 
       | Let curiosity guide you, explore as many domains as you're able
       | and willing to and become competent with most of them. The more
       | domains you weave into the web of knowledge, notwithstanding the
       | lack of expertise, the higher the probability you'll find links
       | across the ever expanding network. Maybe delve deep into the
       | foundation, occasionally or frequently, for you could stumble
       | into something new. Consider teaching or talking about your
       | knowledge; open a blog, write a book, whatever. It'll help others
       | as well as you, now and later.
       | 
       | In the end, whether through our descendants, works or knowledge,
       | we're all child of that instinct to leave something after our
       | death, of which your post is yet another manifestation.
        
       | itsmemattchung wrote:
       | I let my natural curiosity guide me. I used to beat myself up
       | about not being one of those people who have a singular purpose,
       | someone who focuses deeply in one area, but found solace in Susan
       | Fowler's blog post:
       | 
       | "All of the really great people of the past and of the present
       | always have some singular destiny. Somehow they know exactly what
       | they love, they find it when they're young, and they spend their
       | entire lives doing that one thing. Their destiny, their singular
       | passion becomes their entire life, and they love every minute of
       | it. It's their calling, it's what they were born to do, and it's
       | beautiful."
       | 
       | ...
       | 
       | "People tell me I can't do all the things I want to do, and they
       | are of course wrong, because I can and I do and I will. But I
       | still can't ever reach my greatest, deepest, most secret goal,
       | the goal I left off that list: to have a singular passion. Maybe
       | that's ok. Maybe my life will always be about running toward that
       | unattainable goal, trying and loving everything I find along the
       | way. And maybe at the end, when I have to give an account of my
       | life, I'll say that I never was anything, but I was everything."
       | 
       | Source: https://www.susanjfowler.com/blog/2017/5/21/life-without-
       | a-d...
        
         | yla92 wrote:
         | I was about to post the same link from Susan! I found myself a
         | lot in the post and made me felt like I was not alone feeling
         | that way.
        
         | droobles wrote:
         | Thank you for this, I remember hearing about this article but
         | didn't bookmark it myself.
        
       | weregiraffe wrote:
       | You should work on life extension. If you succeed, you'll have
       | more time to work on other things.
        
         | Aeolun wrote:
         | I'm glad so many of us see the obvious solution :)
        
       | vfinn wrote:
       | You do something and see whether it sticks. If it does, you
       | continue; if it doesn't you switch. Then later on you might come
       | back to the previous thing.
        
       | robg wrote:
       | What kind(s) of expertise do you want to realize? You could
       | pursue expertise in a trade, starting as an apprentice then
       | working your way with experience into master status (software,
       | plumbing, electrical, etc). The advanced degrees are relative,
       | but costly, shortcuts to specific domains of expertise (MBA, PhD,
       | MD, etc). Then there's expertise that can be pursued as hobbies -
       | gardening, woodworking, cooking, sewing, etc.
       | 
       | Have you made a list of how you'd like to spend your time each
       | week? Over years and decades, the time devoted to learning adds
       | up!
        
       | bergenty wrote:
       | Life isn't enough for anything, I want to spend decades on so
       | many interesting things but all I can assign to them are
       | weekends.
        
       | bhedgeoser wrote:
       | Marketing and public relations. Raise as much money for anti-
       | aging research as possible.
        
       | jvanderbot wrote:
       | There's and old book "On the shortness of life" that you might
       | want to read as part of your journey.
       | 
       | Ultimately, finding one's focus is the hardest and most rewarding
       | part of life.
        
       | dennis_jeeves1 wrote:
       | Extending life. Subjects to looks at:
       | 
       | https://www.sens.org/
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cryonics
       | 
       | Of course, even with a long enough life span you run into issues
       | of brain capacity, but that is another discussion.
        
       | ummonk wrote:
       | The first thing you should focus on working on is longevity /
       | life extension research.
        
       | mrrobot900 wrote:
       | I see a lot of answers that revolve around the question of "how
       | to make the most effective use of the limited time I have". A
       | very rationalistic point of view (no surprise since it's HN).
       | 
       | I'll give a different perspective: trust your gut feelings! In
       | Emotional Intelligence, the author Daniel Goleman[1] writes
       | 
       | > [Some of life's big decisions] cannot be made well through
       | sheer rationality; they require gut feeling, and the emotional
       | wisdom garnered through past experiences. Formal logic alone can
       | never work as the basis for deciding whom to marry or trust or
       | even what job to take; these are realms where reason without
       | feeling is blind.
       | 
       | It seems like you are already aware that you don't have enough
       | time to learn everything, there's just too much options to choose
       | from! Perhaps a better approach is to rely on your experience,
       | trust that you will make a good enough decision, and learn how to
       | be comfortable with making choices that are not necessarily
       | optimal, but close. There's a reason for the saying: perfect is
       | the enemy of good!
       | 
       | [1] https://www.danielgoleman.info/
        
         | SergeAx wrote:
         | According to several sources, both scientific and esoteric,
         | intuition (AKA gut feeling) is just underrealized experience.
         | E.g. for intuition to work one have to get a lot experience.
         | Which, in turn, requires time.
        
           | LelouBil wrote:
           | True, but going "Yolo gut feeling" can also be a way to stop
           | being stuck and forcing to make a decision.
           | 
           | I think OP will be happy with whatever they choose to do, as
           | long as they choose it and being worried before making any
           | choice prevents them from truly trying to do something.
        
       | prhn wrote:
       | Even if you had unlimited time it's unlikely you'd become an
       | expert in many things, even if many only means 3-5.
       | 
       | I know this isn't very scientific, but as someone who's struggled
       | with this same question I would suggest just diving into any one
       | of the things that you're interested in. From there let your
       | instincts and intuition naturally decide what you continue doing
       | and what you abandon.
       | 
       | I've learned that it's hard to force continued work in any area
       | that feels like a slog. Our personalities are tuned to prefer
       | certain activities or fields of study over others.
       | 
       | Find what feels natural and go, go, go.
        
       | thenerdhead wrote:
       | "I know that I know nothing" - Socrates
       | 
       | "The wise man is one who, knows, what he does not know." -- Lao
       | Tzu
       | 
       | This is not to say "give up". But it is saying that you need to
       | "give up" the idea and you will find peace.
        
       | proboy wrote:
       | You can't be an expert in many things.
       | 
       | Be an expert in one thing + know a little of more other things
        
         | vfinn wrote:
         | If subject A's and subject B's synthesis created a new thing C,
         | wouldn't he then be considered an expert in C, solely because
         | there's no-one else doing what he's doing? In this way you
         | could be an expert in many things you yourself pioneered... Or
         | you could just create a new game and be expert at that.
        
       | dylanwenzlau wrote:
       | Ah yes. I phrase this as wanting to duplicate myself many times
       | over. Much to do, little time.
       | 
       | I'm attempting to put a dent into increasing our timelines
       | (longevity) with my current project, Guava. The other way to get
       | more time is to experience more in the same time, and for this we
       | need improved brains and interfaces. I'll be ambitious and put my
       | effort into these things because it will allow me to do more if
       | successful.
        
       | udasitharani wrote:
       | I can completely relate to you. Curiosity, fun of education and
       | adventure of building cool things is what I live by too.
       | 
       | What I personally do for this is I go by what I call chaotic
       | learning. Spending chunks of my time in different things based
       | whatever interest me at that moment. For example, I am currently
       | only trying to gain expertise in software engineering. I am super
       | interested in math, philosophy, history, science etc too. But
       | currently, I want to focus specifically on software and then
       | after a certain point (idk when that point will be, maybe after
       | I've financial freedom, maybe not), I will explore other fields
       | too. But in software itself, there are so many things to do and
       | learn too. So what I do is, today I am working on a side project
       | to do with the terminal. After a few days, once I publish a v0.1,
       | I will work a bit on an open source project I'm interested in.
       | Post that, I might do some DSA. Post that, maybe back to my side
       | project adding another new feature. Then maybe read one of the
       | many books I want to read. Then maybe try to learn and build my
       | own language and so on. You learn/build different things from
       | time to time, based on what you really want to pick. That works
       | the best for me. Chaos.
        
       | Centigonal wrote:
       | _Four Thousand Weeks_ is a good book that touches on this. It
       | begins with the premise that most people have infinite desires,
       | and all people have finite time, and it 's unlikely you will
       | accomplish even 1% of all of your dreams in your finite life. It
       | then talks about how that's okay, because what we choose to spend
       | our time and attention on is what makes us unique and
       | interesting, and explores some ways to prioritize the things that
       | are most important to youm so that you actually do those things.
        
         | saulpw wrote:
         | Humans have the appetites of gods and the stomachs of mortals.
        
           | animesh wrote:
           | Great quote, where is this from? Certainly true for me, it
           | seems so far.
        
       | rmetzler wrote:
       | I'm a generalist. I know I don't have time to be an expert in
       | everything. I buy a lot of books about a lot of subjects I'm
       | interested in, but I don't have the time to read all of them.
       | 
       | But when some work comes my way, the large bookshelf comes in
       | handy, because the books' authors knew more than I do.
       | 
       | Sometimes I just buy a book to see if some technology would fit
       | my use case or not. I think it's faster and cheaper than to dig
       | into online documentation.
        
       | reality_inspctr wrote:
       | I built an app to model this out. It forecasts your future down
       | to the millisecond. It's super simple right now, but has a "time
       | machine" function to see where you'll be in 5 / 10 / 30 years --
       | and whole life. i.e. You might spend 20,000 hours in the bathroom
       | and 10,000 hours writing novels.
       | 
       | What's valuable to me and the people who have used it is to
       | compare how much time you'll spend on type 1 hedonistic fun vs.
       | type 2 accretive fun.
       | 
       | Free / easy. https://app.sundialcalendar.com/
        
         | fezfight wrote:
         | I enjoyed messing around with that. I'm very old and your app
         | helped reinforce that. I have a stupid question that is likely
         | due to my age. Please feel free to ignore me. Why is this
         | called an app and not a webpage? Is it just modern parlance or
         | is there some functional difference?
        
           | davchana wrote:
           | I have not opened the link above poster shared, but in my
           | mind, a webpage is linear, like a page, where I read, and get
           | info. It does not change state significantly if it even
           | offers any interaction with user. There might be a new oage
           | loading, or images load dynamically, but it does not get or
           | ask information from user, process it & then spit out some
           | data about it.
           | 
           | An app usually displays something on a page, but most of the
           | data is asked from me, app processes it, stores it, displays
           | it.
        
           | rmetzler wrote:
           | It's a website, because it has a URL, you use a browser to
           | access it and it's written in html, css and JavaScript.
           | 
           | It's an app, because it's interactive. App means application,
           | program, etc. but it doesn't necessarily needs to be
           | downloaded.
        
       | prox wrote:
       | Prioritize what you love to do, love to work on. You will
       | naturally become an expert in the areas you like to do.
       | 
       | Also good ideas aren't vague, "I want to be an expert in many
       | things" is too vague for an attainable goal.
        
       | possiblydrunk wrote:
       | If you want to master many things, you must first master one.
       | Pick a personal or professional interest and start learning. Do
       | it now and don't waste time choosing, for the choice will
       | ultimately not matter.
        
       | closedloop129 wrote:
       | Is your lifetime not enough or could the resources to become an
       | expert be better?
       | 
       | Looking at sports, it becomes obvious how much can be achieved
       | with the right training. Unfortunately, right now, only the most
       | promising talent in a field receives the best training. If we can
       | automate that, it would be much easier to become an expert in
       | many fields.
       | 
       | So, if you don't want to decide, you could also improve the
       | infrastructure for becoming an expert.
        
         | pitsnatch wrote:
         | >Looking at sports, it becomes obvious how much can be achieved
         | with the right training.
         | 
         | Could you elaborate? I wasn't aware of this.
        
           | closedloop129 wrote:
           | In general, times get better. Where does that come from if
           | humans don't mutate that fast? It's also visible in
           | gymnastics and similar sports where routines become more
           | advanced.
           | 
           | There are other factors, like a bigger global population and
           | drugs. But that's secondary for sports where participants
           | show off complex movements.
        
       | lizardactivist wrote:
       | Whatever you decide on, don't "fake it 'til you make it", even if
       | that has proved to be a working strategy in certain countries and
       | cultures.
        
       | throwyawayyyy wrote:
       | Is expertise the means, or the end? How would be an expert in x
       | or y improve your day-to-day life?
       | 
       | Counterpoint: on a whim over Christmas I bought a flute. I don't
       | play a musical instrument, I've no particular musical talents,
       | but I've been working at it consistently if not deeply, half an
       | hour a day, every day, since. I will never, ever be an expert at
       | the flute. I will be better at it though; there are pieces I can
       | play in August which I couldn't play in July. It adds to my life.
       | If the goal were to become an _expert_ flautist then a) I would
       | be delusional but b) it would no longer be a nice little
       | interlude in the day. Were I to magically mature into a concert-
       | level flautist, _would I enjoy giving concerts?_ Pretty sure the
       | answer is no. Expertise is neither a realistic nor desirable
       | goal.
        
       | coffeefirst wrote:
       | The best advice I ever got on this was to notice the things that
       | nobody else wants to deal with that seem important. Those are
       | opportunities. It turns out, some of them are pretty fun.
       | 
       | And after that have hobbies that have as little to do with your
       | job as possible.
        
       | rayiner wrote:
       | What makes you think you can be an expert in even one thing?
        
         | fuzzfactor wrote:
         | >What makes you think you can be an expert in even one thing?
         | 
         | That's what I was thinking.
         | 
         | For an interesting approach, pick things which are unusual in
         | the way you can clearly see that the established experts are
         | wrong.
         | 
         | Then you would be misguided if you tried to do it like they do
         | anyway.
        
       | jodrellblank wrote:
       | If that idea of your lifetime not being enough is stressing you
       | out, Dr David Burns' work on cognitive behavioural therapy might
       | help. Saying you want to be an expert in many things because you
       | are interested in many things could be papering over some deeper
       | anxiety-driven motivations around 'not being good enough' or 'not
       | being worthy of respect' or 'needing to prove yourself to
       | someone' or 'not wanting to be a nobody' or 'wanting to avoid the
       | bullying you used to get' or etc. The Feeling Good podcast[1] is
       | a good audio introduction and has many examples, his book Feeling
       | Great is more of a self-help style written introduction.
       | 
       | The important question is not "what should I work on?" or "how
       | should I decide and prioritise?", it is something more like "I
       | have thought processes, they model imaginary futures and guide me
       | away from predicted harm. Why do I have an imaginary future of
       | not being enough of an expert and feel suffering in the present?
       | Where did that thought come from and what is it doing for me, and
       | do I want to keep it?".
       | 
       | You can go with the desire for expertise part, "why do I need to
       | be an expert in many things?" - whose respect are you trying to
       | earn? Whose criticism are you trying to avoid? Who are you trying
       | to avoid being like? What emotional disaster is that trying to
       | protect you from? Or the other side, "what is so bad if I am not
       | an expert in many things on my deathbed?", what's imagined social
       | or emotional harm is that warning me of?
       | 
       | [1] https://feelinggood.com/list-of-feeling-good-podcasts/
        
         | mark_round wrote:
         | Thank you for posting that. It came at a surprisingly opportune
         | moment and I needed to read that. I'll be checking it out later
         | tonight.
        
         | mylons wrote:
         | what an excellent reply. i've been working through a lot of
         | these things in therapy, and hadn't thought of wanting to be an
         | expert as a potential masking of the litany of feelings you
         | mentioned. and thanks for the podcast recommendation
        
         | carso wrote:
         | You don't actually have to be an expert in everything that
         | interests you: For example, you can enjoy music without ever
         | becoming an expert musician. Many people are fascinated by the
         | images coming from the JWST without becoming PhD level
         | astronomers.
         | 
         | If you think about it -- expertise isn't what makes a lifetime
         | worth living. It's a sense that what you're doing has meaning:
         | A meaningful life is what gives you that sense of
         | "enough"-ness.
         | 
         | Meaning can unfold in different ways, but part of it is about
         | being "in the moment" -- While you're learning music, you have
         | to find meaning in that journey without wishing you were
         | findign time for astronomy (or being frustrated that you're not
         | actually Mozart).
         | 
         | I recommend the book "Why Smart People Hurt" which deals
         | specifically with the challenges of smart people and finding
         | meaning.
        
         | rubslopes wrote:
         | +1 for Dr. David Burns work. His book "Feeling Good" was the
         | start of the cure of my anxiety; it was immensely helpful.
        
         | jimmaswell wrote:
         | I can appreciate that it might be like that for some, but
         | absolutely not for me.
         | 
         | Deeper mathematics is meaningful to me for its beauty and the
         | way it feels like arriving at some fundamental truth, for
         | whatever value that can exist. Similar for deeper physics, it's
         | very appealing to me to try to understand the world on some
         | fundamental level, as much as we're capable. And I find it very
         | satisfying solving a good math problem just on the cusp of my
         | limits.
         | 
         | Then higher up the chain is chemistry, electronics, robotics,
         | software. I love seeing how we can put these things together
         | for practical or just fun purposes, and I love when I put
         | something together and get to see the end result working and
         | doing something fun or useful. Doing the little lab experiments
         | in my physics classes in college, it was really cool seeing the
         | math on paper describe what was going on right in front of me,
         | that I made predictions for. Something more practical to put my
         | skills to use a while ago was the light setup I made with turn
         | signals and some other safety features with an Arduino for my
         | ebike. Admittedly I also enjoy when someone sees what I did and
         | appreciates it but I also do it for myself. Then there's AI
         | which brings up all kinds of philosophical questions.
         | 
         | And on another plane I'm getting into the things that go along
         | with homesteading like plant science and animal husbandry. Home
         | grown food tastes better and it's another thing I just think is
         | cool/fun.
         | 
         | This all comes from some combination of appreciation, awe, fun,
         | practicality, or just finding things cool - not seeking
         | validation or running away from something. But I can still
         | heavily sympathize with wishing I had a hundred lives to live,
         | or got to live a thousand years in some kind of university, so
         | I could fully appreciate all of these things. Right now I'm
         | getting out of a long depressive slump and feeling like I've
         | wasted too much time letting myself go intellectually, and
         | wishing I'd dived even deeper on some of them in the past, but
         | I'm feeling good about the future now.
        
           | feet wrote:
           | Plant science and husbandry builds upon
           | chemistry/biochemistry
           | 
           | While you may not be an expert in all of the fields you can
           | definitely understand the basic rules that govern all of
           | these things and build upon that. Mathematics describes all
           | of it
        
           | saltcured wrote:
           | If you were standing at the entrance of a grand amusement
           | park, would you feel despair that you have to choose which
           | ride to take or excitement at having options? If the park
           | were fantastically more grand, so you have no hope of
           | sampling every amusement, does this somehow change your
           | response? Your emotional valence here is your choice, not
           | something intrinsic to the setting. That is what those
           | cognitive behavioral therapists are trying to help with. But,
           | they have to come up with some actionable instruction to
           | convey it to us. I think you are arguing against the chosen
           | rhetorical device rather than an actual principle.
           | 
           | Whether it is rarefied academic pursuits, music and arts
           | appreciation, friendships, love, delicious food, sex, or ...
           | we have to decline a world of countless possibilities to
           | engage what is in front of us. And even then, we need rest
           | periods in order to fully appreciate those rare few branches
           | we do take. You can't enjoy or pursue anything 24x7. The
           | nature of our experience is inexorably tied to the exclusion
           | of other non-experiences.
           | 
           | In other words, life is a constant stream of decisions and
           | branching points. The underlying angst of "not enough
           | lifetime" is rooted, I think, in grief for these other paths
           | not taken, for the loss of imagined alternatives. This is
           | supported by the delusional idea that we could defer and
           | return to every branch (given enough time). It ignores the
           | ephemeral and limited nature of most opportunities and
           | potential experiences, the necessity of closing one door to
           | open another, and that most doors are never open to us
           | (individually) to begin with.
           | 
           | You wouldn't just need a hundred lives or a thousand years
           | but some kind of combinatoric explosion of a Multiverse You,
           | where you could explore every choice of collapsing decision
           | point. But what does that even mean? I think it's another
           | delusion about identity and the self to think that "you" can
           | experience the different paths. You'd be many someones else.
           | If you could somehow fuse them together into an experience,
           | you've just added some kind of sci-fi "hive mind" to your
           | experience. But wouldn't you wish you could have experienced
           | those things as an individual...?
           | 
           | To get stuck with this frustration is a failure to mourn. A
           | failure to accept a finite life and get on with it. That
           | leaves the grief stuck in the back of the mind. This is where
           | philosophers of mind might tell you about desires as the
           | source of suffering, etc. Where practitioners might propose
           | moderation or the so-called middle path. Where the CBT folks
           | might say you are on the path so you might as well learn to
           | enjoy it, and offer a grab bag of tricks to help achieve
           | that.
        
           | wellpast wrote:
           | I agree that it can be like this.
           | 
           | Acquiring expertise is like climbing a mountain. There are
           | revelations in the process, and it is like reaching a
           | beautiful vista and the joy of seeing things expansively,
           | from a height.
           | 
           | I wish I could have this experience in other domains, and
           | feel the constraint is just the physical and temporal bounds
           | of life.
           | 
           | Still, I recognize it as a fantasy to want these things. It's
           | just simply not possible.
           | 
           | I also recognize that there is something to the Eastern ideas
           | of awareness and consciousness and that you perhaps you don't
           | need to labor toward material expertise to experience life
           | with expansive revelation?
        
         | jmfldn wrote:
         | This is a great and wise reply. I too suffer from what you're
         | describing sometimes and I attribute it partly to these sorts
         | of underlying emotional factors.
         | 
         | The real key for me now is feeling that I am enough just as I
         | am. I still strive in my career and in a few hobbies, that's
         | still important, but I try hard not to identify too much with
         | them. I fail quite often but it's liberating. I try to frame my
         | passions as things with intrinsic rewards and not things that
         | bolster my ego.
        
         | rcornea wrote:
         | Indeed, I am feeling that my lifetime may not be enough to
         | learn all the things I am required to. The general feeling I
         | have is that if I do not do this effort of gaining expertise, I
         | am not fit for life.
         | 
         | As a bit of context, I have been applying for work for about a
         | year now as a software developer in the DACH (german-speaking
         | EU), to be able to eke out a proper living and so far, every
         | job inquiry, every human contact I have made boils down to "me
         | not being good enough" in some respect. Even though I am sure
         | to perform well, given standard compensation and a reasonable
         | work environment.
         | 
         | Everything starting from my education, my life, to my work
         | experience has come under scrutiny and has become more
         | fragmented and harder to coagulate as a coherent story as a
         | result of this constant requirement for me needing "higher
         | expertise to qualify".
         | 
         | Over the course of my life, I have encountered hundreds of
         | situations where as a result of my own lack of expertise in
         | some domain, I was oblivious and even sometimes happy to accept
         | completely unacceptable results, bad products/workmanship or
         | horrible relationships. As a result of bad experiences
         | thereafter, I found myself studying how to manage things on my
         | own, as consistently endangering my very own life didn't appeal
         | to me.
         | 
         | So I feel myself pressured into studying more JS frameworks,
         | more foreign languages, more programming languages, more
         | engineering, more medicine, more chemistry, more psychology,
         | more design science, more product science, more construction
         | science, more _everything_ until I achieve a level of reliable
         | expertise.
         | 
         | At the same time, I am painfully aware of the fact that on my
         | deathbed I will heavily resent the fact I had to spend all this
         | time on personal expertise when probably "we could have had
         | nice things" instead. To be honest, I feel resentment over the
         | fact right now.
        
           | scarecrowbob wrote:
           | "The general feeling I have is that if I do not do this
           | effort of gaining expertise, I am not fit for life."
           | 
           | That's really the more pressing issues that you need to work
           | on.
           | 
           | We all have blind spots about how things or people work, and
           | we're all in a condition where "good enough" is almost always
           | "good enough."
           | 
           | If it helps, the slow process of remaining curious and caring
           | about the people and work you encounter that will build
           | expertise, and that's a thing that takes decades to show
           | itself.
           | 
           | And while we can do many things quite expertly in life, we
           | can only do a few of these at a time.
           | 
           | What you might understand is that, to take just one domain,
           | people looking to hire programmers are looking for is someone
           | who knows about a certain domain, so anything that you're
           | doing outside of whatever narrow field you're discussing with
           | a single person doesn't really matter as far as many people
           | are concerned. T0 the person hiring a junior JS front-end
           | developer, the chemistry skills isn't often relevant.
           | 
           | Further, there is very little learning that a person can do
           | outside of a job. That is a problem, but the way I personally
           | solved it was to lower my expectations for jobs until I got
           | one, and then keep looking for new ones until I found a
           | position I have been quite happy in.
           | 
           | However, all that is outside of the problem you are
           | describing: simply being a person is enough to make you "fit
           | for life".
           | 
           | You don't need to be consistently grinding on learning new
           | things if that's not an end-in-itself for you.
           | 
           | Simply being good enough at one or two things is what almost
           | all of us have to be okay with, and so what you might
           | consider is which specific issues leading you to feeling this
           | resentment.
           | 
           | Are your expectations unreasonable? Are the people you're
           | dealing with assholes?
           | 
           | I suspect that answer to either or both of those questions my
           | be yes; the fortunate thing is that either of those are
           | easier and more useful to deal with than, say, becoming an
           | expert physicist.
        
           | sdwr wrote:
           | I'm looking for a dev job now after a few years off... it's
           | painful! I put my hope into each application, hearing nothing
           | back most of the time stings. And all the while time is
           | ticking.
           | 
           | My instinct is to go learn more, make another project, stall
           | it out and come back when I'm better prepared. I can't really
           | see what one more project is going to do for me though.
           | 
           | What feedback are you getting? Is it ghosting that you're
           | interpreting as not being good enough?
        
         | abvdasker wrote:
         | What a great and thoughtful response. I really believe too many
         | people -- some very ambitious and successful -- are being
         | driven by unexamined pathology. I've seen too many examples of
         | people who achieve their goals in terms of money or career or
         | prestige or knowledge and remain miserable because they never
         | took the time to ask themselves these questions.
        
           | alfor wrote:
           | It's almost a required condition.
           | 
           | Without some kind of urge we could be happy doing nothing,
           | coasting on what the previous generation did until our
           | society collapse.
           | 
           | "Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times.
           | Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times."
           | 
           | -- G. Michael Hopf, Those Who Remain
        
           | vasco wrote:
           | As opposed to the rest that are miserable without getting the
           | prestige? Everyone is motivated by fears, insecurities,
           | wanting respect of peers, etc. Painting this all as mental
           | illness is a bit stretched.
           | 
           | People do stuff and then they die, so try to have fun, do
           | stuff that you want to do and don't worry so much about what
           | mysterious voodoo motivates what you do, who cares?
           | 
           | If you make 10 people's lives better throughout your life,
           | and you did that because of some childhood trauma that
           | motivates you to be a savior or to get approval, who gives a
           | shit? You still helped them.
        
           | what-imright wrote:
           | Sure all that money and respect and sex is just another
           | burden you're better off without. You should just let go of
           | the bad thoughts that make you desire expertise, that you
           | could become a valued member of society, and instead find the
           | happiness and love from within yourself and go get an ice
           | cream cone at McDonalds. Cum-by-ya. Hallelujah. Whatever.
           | 
           | It's amazing the cheap cop outs people settle for faced with
           | failure at the most superficial level. The anxiety and fear
           | of failure ties them up and eventually they give in having
           | earned nothing from toiling and suffering as much or more
           | than their successful peers. Ending jealous for the utmost
           | irony.
           | 
           | If only you could sit down and focus and complete one thing.
        
         | magicroot75 wrote:
         | In the past 6 months I've been struggling with a lot of anxiety
         | and OCD. I've read 4 of his books. He's great.
        
       | komadori wrote:
       | In that case, first become an expert in life-span extension!
        
         | charliewallace wrote:
         | Immortality isn't happening, but you can significantly increase
         | your health-span, to give you more time to keep learning cool
         | fascinating stuff. There are steps you can take now to delay
         | aging, based on well-run clinical trials, including
         | supplementation with metformin (the TAME trial). Other measures
         | are looking hopeful but are still being researched, including
         | use of rapamycin (PEARL trial). Here's a good resource: a
         | podcast by Dr. Peter Attia, also good for nerding out on lots
         | of interesting topics. https://peterattiamd.com/podcast/
        
         | dahart wrote:
         | Are there any experts in life-span extension? Or, maybe what
         | you meant was longevity extension - are there any experts in
         | longevity extension? (Life-span extension means avoiding early
         | death, longevity means being able to live longer than any
         | humans have ever lived, say, 200 years or whatever.)
         | 
         | I've read a bunch of pseudo-science and heard about so-called
         | "experts" claiming it's possible and coming, but the field
         | seems to attract charlatans promising immortality...
        
         | maire wrote:
         | If new things to be expert in proliferate faster than you can
         | become an expert then life-span extension will not work. You
         | would need to duplicate yourself each time there is a new thing
         | you want to pursue. One you would be a concert violinist and
         | the other you could cure the common cold.
        
           | Aeolun wrote:
           | That is a problem best solved _after_ you don't have to worry
           | about the time involved any more.
        
           | jodrellblank wrote:
           | > " _you would need to duplicate yourself each time there is
           | a new thing you want to pursue_ "
           | 
           | Much easier than inventing a duplicator is to imagine you
           | have done this already, and the duplicates are all the other
           | people in the world, busy being concert violinists and
           | working on cold vaccines. What a relief to find that you no
           | longer have to bother with such things.
        
       | Bakary wrote:
       | Relevant XKCD: https://xkcd.com/863
       | 
       | Honestly I would drop the ego that fuels this mindset and make an
       | inventory of the topics you've actually pursued in life so far.
       | That can be a good indication of the things you truly find
       | valuable, and it can lead to uncomfortable realizations.
        
       | Cameri wrote:
       | I like being a jack-of-all-trades too, but it is taxing. My way
       | of dealing with my insatiable thirst for knowledge is to pick a
       | topic/problem/project or two at a time. It's hard but without
       | focus I don't get anywhere.
        
       | taylorius wrote:
       | To quote my favourite poet, Tomas Transtromer, from his poem "The
       | Blue House"
       | 
       | ------
       | 
       | "Thank you for this life! Still, I miss the alternatives. The
       | sketches, all of them, want to become real."
       | 
       | "Without really knowing it, we divine. Our life has a sister
       | ship, following quite a different route".
        
       | Jach wrote:
       | Some decent advice here already, so I'll provide something from
       | another angle by just picking something for you. That is, if you
       | continue to be bothered by this, and think you have the actual
       | capability to become an expert in multiple things (rather than a
       | fanciful desire), first become an expert in longevity therapy
       | research and help bootstrap yourself and the rest of the species
       | into having enough time to pursue whatever you/others want.
        
       | madiator wrote:
       | Do you want to become an expert in very many different things?
       | Just becoming an expert in one field can take a good fraction of
       | your lifetime, so you may want to consider that.
       | 
       | A useful mental model is to already see what you are good at, and
       | draw (mentally) curves of your competence (I wrote about it in
       | https://newsletter.smarter.blog/p/curves-of-competence). And then
       | use it to figure out where to amplify.
       | 
       | Also note that becoming an expert is a lot of hard work.
        
       | aspyct wrote:
       | I'm planning to live for 1000 years.
       | 
       | Never been very good at planning, tho.
        
       | mizzao wrote:
       | I feel like the more things I learn, the faster I get at learning
       | new things, and so the number of things I am able to get good at
       | increases at a superlinear rate.
       | 
       | So, I don't think it's really an either get good at A or get good
       | at B. It feels more like either get good at A and B, or neither.
       | 
       | This is my thesis, anyhow, for how polymaths emerge.
        
       | rvba wrote:
       | You can use money and fun to judge.
        
       | bufferoverflow wrote:
       | Obvious solution: become an expert in life extension.
        
       | Zealotux wrote:
       | Look into Oliver Burkeman's Time Management for Mortals, I
       | personally listen to his audio series on the Waking Up app which
       | you can try for free[1] (I'm not affiliated with them). You are a
       | finite mortal, you can't do everything you want, but you have the
       | power to choose.
       | 
       | [1] https://dynamic.wakingup.com/pack/PKDAFBB
        
       | philomathdan wrote:
       | Becoming an expert in one thing takes a lot of time and effort,
       | and this must be maintained even after reaching the goal. But
       | getting a reasonable understanding of many things is not too bad.
       | E.g. working through a freshman level physics text will give you
       | a pretty good (or above average, at least) understanding of the
       | field of physics, and this could be done in a span of months.
       | Maybe try something like this for one subject after another. It
       | could be that this amount of knowledge satisfies you for a given
       | subject and you don't need to go further. But if it doesn't
       | satisfy you, move on to more material. If there really are things
       | you want to spend the time and energy on to reach expert level,
       | you will naturally find them this way. And I suspect that list of
       | things will be a lot smaller than when you started.
        
       | barkingcat wrote:
       | I am an expert in procrastination and I intend to grow myself to
       | become the absolute best procrastinator in the world! I am not
       | just an expert, but will be a world leading expert.
       | 
       | I have 262,980 hours in actively practicing procrastination in my
       | lifetime (30 solid years of procrastinating)
       | 
       | This is my life goal and I am doing very well in my progress at
       | the moment.
        
       | wahnfrieden wrote:
       | First step after finding inspiration was to stop doing wage labor
        
       | kkfx wrote:
       | I follow needs and desires... For needs well, priority is
       | needed... For desires since I have no specific time goal I can
       | follow momentary willingness, stop and restart as much as I like.
        
       | luplex wrote:
       | I think this is an unhealthy desire, as it's impossible to
       | achieve. You should replace it with its source, like "I want to
       | provide wisdom to my community", and then let that guide you in
       | prioritizing your time
        
         | srvmshr wrote:
         | I think the OP knows this and thats why he has asked the
         | community. So brushing off by a casual "duh, grow up" isn't the
         | way to go
         | 
         | A few people I talked to in life, have this love for learning
         | everything to the point they feel "afraid to die" before
         | mastering something. They aren't Einsteins - they know that.
         | But having that insatiable curiosity to learn something through
         | & through. It is sad to be empathetic but also a revelation how
         | passionate some folks are. And although its a terrible plan by
         | design, it personally keeps them going on & on. I think what
         | they need to understand is "how much expertise" is good enough.
         | Finding inner balance is as important as finding expertise.
        
           | pitsnatch wrote:
           | "A few people I talked to in life, have this love for
           | learning everything to the point they feel "afraid to die"
           | before mastering something."
           | 
           | Damn, that describes me pretty much. Though I just feel sad
           | that I'll die because I can't learn everything that I'm
           | curious about. I felt this much stronger in college. Now not
           | so much. Just trying to survive now.
        
             | srvmshr wrote:
             | Trust me. You aren't alone. And there is nothing to feel
             | bad about it. I have it to some degree (although a bit
             | unidimensional - I just want to finish all my purchased
             | math & engineering books). That brought me to the
             | conversation with others in the first place. Keep the
             | curiosity alive. Its a powerful, motivating force. Just
             | don't get too anxious.
             | 
             | One way I think about it, is that someone will pick up the
             | torch - someone who follows my work, blog, maybe my
             | children. I did that for my father's dreams. If not, you
             | are long dead already & it won't matter. That gives a sense
             | of closure
        
               | pitsnatch wrote:
               | That's very insightful.
               | 
               | "Keep the curiosity alive. Its a powerful, motivating
               | force. Just don't get too anxious."
               | 
               | You're so right about that. I just realized I had much
               | more zest for life when I was more curious. I should try
               | to cultivate more curiosity.
        
         | wccrawford wrote:
         | Yeah, my first thought what that it would be better to focus on
         | what you want to do, rather than what you want to know.
        
           | charliewallace wrote:
           | Focusing on doing something is like having a goal, which is
           | known to be good for mental health. It's OK if the goal
           | changes from time to time. There's a really great book about
           | how having a goal helped people survive the concentration
           | camps in WW2, called "Man's search for meaning", highly
           | recommended reading.
           | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man%27s_Search_for_Meaning
        
       | hprotagonist wrote:
       | depth first search is a perfectly cromulent way to live.
       | 
       | my heuristic: does this work serve others? do i have to struggle
       | at wanting to do it or do i struggle to stop working?
        
       | orasis wrote:
       | What brings you joy on a daily basis? I'm a black belt in Jiu
       | Jitsu and as my mastery continues to deepen it just becomes even
       | more fun and rewarding and I now have a global network of
       | extraordinary people. It's been well with the thousands of hours.
        
       | emerged wrote:
       | Embrace the concept of a talent stack. List the things you love
       | and/or are talented in. Enumerate subsets of this list to find
       | things which combine as many of these things as possible.
       | 
       | This maximizes the amount of what you love that you get to do,
       | and it puts you in a niche where you are uniquely well suited.
        
       | oumua_don17 wrote:
       | Most people overestimate what they can do in one year, and
       | underestimate what they can do in ten years. - Derek Sivers [1]
       | 
       | [1] https://sive.rs/donkey
        
       | hutrdvnj wrote:
       | I had this feeling during my 20s, but now in my 30s I just relax
       | and live my life without such thought. I have kids that add value
       | to my life and I work as SRE on k8s clusters. Just relax and do
       | whatever you want to do, even if you just do it for a few days,
       | weeks or months, you gain experience that can be useful for all
       | sorts of things. No need to become an absolute super nerd in just
       | one tiny topic.
        
       | bitcurious wrote:
       | Assuming "expert" is a comparative scale, look for intersections.
       | You might be a decent rock climber and a decent data scientist,
       | but the world authority on data science applied to route planning
       | on a mountainside.
        
       | rc_mob wrote:
       | I don't lol. I just try know my physical and mental limits (know
       | thyself). then I try to do things one at a time, and go until I'm
       | satisfied or tired or hit my limits. Its just life you do what
       | you want on your 80 years.
       | 
       | Annoying thing is that my limits have changed as I got older and
       | had children. So I often had to reassess the time that I can put
       | into my interests. And ok that is life we all get old.
        
       | exabrial wrote:
       | I'm the same way. My only piece of advice: don't let 'sucking at'
       | at a hobby preclude you from garnering enjoyment from it!
       | 
       | Truly the journey is the destination in the human experience.
        
       | nonoesp wrote:
       | "Be so good they can't ignore you."
        
       | barrysteve wrote:
       | Grace
        
       | aputsiak wrote:
       | Get a paid job with experts who enjoy sharing their knowledge and
       | thought processes. Work hard and gain expertise, then share it
       | yourself. Transition from one domain to a related, or step up a
       | higher level. That's the money part. Make sure to have a few,
       | true hobbies with fun, dedicated, and serious folks. But most
       | importantly, be an expert in living a fulfilling, wholesome life
       | with people where love and friendship is the main theme.
        
       | abeppu wrote:
       | The threads in here about honestly confronting the finite time
       | available and defining goals and understanding why you want
       | expertise are both reasonable and important to think through.
       | 
       | But in terms of actually picking what to focus on, I'd suggest
       | looking for under-explored intersections of domains that are
       | interesting to you. This is for two reasons:
       | 
       | - If the particular intersection is not field with a large number
       | of people doing real work in it, the "bar" for being an "expert"
       | is lower. In a well-developed area, even after doing quite a lot
       | of learning, one might not be an "expert".
       | 
       | - The intersection can give you a view on those adjacent fields
       | which may reveal other interesting opportunities, and may make
       | you at least fluent or productive in those areas.
        
         | iRomain wrote:
         | Great advice
        
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