[HN Gopher] Facebook has started to encrypt links to counter pri...
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       Facebook has started to encrypt links to counter privacy-improving
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       Author : ColinWright
       Score  : 185 points
       Date   : 2022-07-17 17:43 UTC (5 hours ago)
        
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       | 2-718-281-828 wrote:
       | considering that FB did and does serve a purpose beyond
       | meaninglessly scrolling through your timeline and liking pictures
       | - f.x. organising and advertising events or managing group
       | interactions. is there a new FB - something that could replace it
       | or maybe even did? I'm off FB now for about six years but
       | sometimes I wonder if I'm missing out sometimes. I really don't
       | want to move back in.
        
       | kareemsabri wrote:
       | The ideal solution here is to stop using Facebook.
        
         | krupan wrote:
         | And like all ideals, that's easier said than done
        
           | [deleted]
        
           | kareemsabri wrote:
           | Yeah most things involve tradeoffs.
        
         | Barrin92 wrote:
         | privileged solution. In many countries Facebook is the de facto
         | communication infrastructure. They own four of the five largest
         | communication platforms in the world.
         | 
         | The ideal solution is to hit them with the hammer until morale
         | improves. Regulators need to wake up and just start fining them
         | absurd amounts of money and keep it vague until Facebook et al.
         | are scared enough to comply and then some.
        
           | kareemsabri wrote:
           | Facebook is facebook.com, that's what the article is about. I
           | don't know what other communication platforms aside from
           | WhatsApp you're referring to, but they aren't relevant to the
           | discussion.
           | 
           | If you think it's necessary to caveat that if you rely on
           | facebook.com as your "communication infrastructure" (not that
           | many countries would fit that bill) then you shouldn't delete
           | it, I'm happy to do so.
        
             | Barrin92 wrote:
             | messenger, whatsapp and instagram. And of course they're
             | relevant because if Facebook employs these tactics on one
             | site there's no reason to believe they won't do equivalent
             | things anywhere else. They own the largest competitors to
             | their own products, obviously that's relevant because it
             | shows how strong their grip is and that there's no genuine
             | alternatives.
             | 
             | "delete it" isn't a solution at all. You may as well say
             | "turn the electricity off". People deserve privacy when
             | services are provided to them by private companies, that's
             | not a bonus, it ought to be a fundamental right. It's not
             | the job of individuals to take on trillion dollar
             | multinationals.
        
               | kareemsabri wrote:
               | Delete it is absolutely a solution. You may not like it,
               | but it's a solution.
               | 
               | For some reason people here seem to think I'm precluding
               | regulatory action against Facebook. I'm not. I just also
               | think it's better not to use it.
        
         | ColinWright wrote:
         | Regrettably, I have family members with whom I really must stay
         | in touch, but who think that FB _is_ the internet. No matter
         | what I 've said, what I've shown them, and what I've encouraged
         | them to do, there is nothing to replace it.
         | 
         | They can post photos, statuses, chat with friends, reply to
         | other friends' posts ... what can replace FB for them?
         | 
         | Nothing. So I'm forced to stay on FB.
         | 
         | Vile platform, no alternative.
        
           | BiteCode_dev wrote:
           | I traveled all around the world before Facebook was a thing,
           | and it never prevented me from keeping in touch with the
           | people that mattered.
           | 
           | What you realy mean is that you value more the convenience it
           | offers that the price to pay for using it.
        
             | ColinWright wrote:
             | So did I. But things have changed, and some of those people
             | with whom I remained in contact now use FB to the near
             | exclusion of everything else.
             | 
             | These people are family in their 90s, for whom well-meaning
             | children and grand-children have set up on FB. They don't
             | use email, they can't write letters because of arthritis
             | (and time delays ... international post can be _very_
             | slow), and effectively the only async comms they use at all
             | is FB.
             | 
             | I'd ask that you not try to tell me what I really mean.
        
               | ratww wrote:
               | They're 90? I wonder if it couldn't be replaced by a
               | weekly phone call.
        
               | doktorhladnjak wrote:
               | In my experience, almost everybody over 60 really prefers
               | to talk on the phone anyways
        
               | ColinWright wrote:
               | For reference, I'm 60, nearly 61, my mother is 90, nearly
               | 91, and we are a long-lived family. I phone my mother
               | three times a week.
               | 
               | For the rest, see my comment here:
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131180
        
               | ratww wrote:
               | Yeah, for your mother definitely makes sense to already
               | have more than one weekly phone call, but I was thinking
               | about other family members.
               | 
               | Reading your post, it seems Facebook is a bit of a
               | recreational activity to keep them sharp and social,
               | which is good. What I was thinking is whether you need to
               | participate in it, since the people this age I know is
               | more than willing to keeping me up to date on all
               | interesting stuff by talking. But of course each family
               | is different so I'll just assume you know what you're
               | doing!
        
             | PretzelPirate wrote:
             | > What you realy mean is that you value more the
             | convenience it offers that the price to pay for using it.
             | 
             | People should be more charitable.
             | 
             | They said that they must stay in touch with these people
             | and that these people can't seem to use other things. Often
             | times you have to stay in contact with family members
             | because they aren't able to properly care for themselves.
             | Those same people may not have the ability to easily change
             | how they interact with the digital world due to mental
             | health issues and you have no choice but to meet them where
             | they are.
        
               | kareemsabri wrote:
               | I think this is largely a straw man, or taking an extreme
               | case as representative.
               | 
               | I have friends that are not on Facebook. It requires more
               | effort to stay in touch with them (for example, calling
               | them on the phone) but it's doable. I don't see how a
               | thing that was invented 10 years ago is now the sole
               | method of communication with loved ones.
               | 
               | That said, I agree it's not without cost to delete
               | Facebook.
        
           | root_axis wrote:
           | Photos and statuses are nice, but not essential. Though
           | conversely, I'd say that getting tracked online isn't really
           | a big deal either.
        
           | jancsika wrote:
           | Your last two sentences don't pass the smell test.
           | 
           | There's even graceful degradation in your set of solutions:
           | 
           | 1. You drop FB. Now you just look on your spouse's Facebook
           | when necessary, and your family learns to tell your spouse to
           | show you stuff on FB. Annoying? Yes. Unworkable? No.
           | 
           | 2. Your entire immediate family drops Facebook. At least one
           | (if not all of you) can still communicate with the rest over
           | text. And the rest of your family knows how to send a photo
           | over text on an Iphone. Annoying to extended fam? Maybe.
           | Unworkable? Definitely not. (In fact, I'd be willing to bet
           | that it cuts out extended family spam and makes those moments
           | of connection more meaningful.)
           | 
           | 3. You attempt a quixotic adventure to switching your _entire
           | extended family_ over to some half-baked decentralized
           | alternative to Facebook that will be usable in forever minus
           | a day. Impossible? Yes. So choose #1 or #2 above.
        
             | ColinWright wrote:
             | I have 10 to 15 family members in their 80s and 90s who use
             | FB. A group has been set up for them, and they post photos
             | and comments, and they chat with each other using
             | Messenger. These are people who don't know of and honestly
             | don't care about the difference between the internet and
             | the web, and to them, "The Internet" simply _is_ Facebook.
             | 
             | Using the tech is already hard for them. Some are partially
             | sighted, some have mobility issues, some have arthritis,
             | all can easily use FB to stay in touch.
             | 
             | And they don't use anything else.
             | 
             | It's just not an option to try to get them to change, it
             | really isn't. Please, _please_ do me the courtesy of
             | accepting that I 've done the analysis. Many times. It's
             | simply not a reasonable objective.
             | 
             | And no, I won't squat on someone else's FB account so I can
             | stay in touch.
        
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           | ratww wrote:
           | My family replaced FB with WhatsApp. So have most of my
           | friends (although with friends it's mostly Signal).
           | 
           | Sure, it's a completely different kind of platform, but it
           | serves well. People post their travel pictures there, people
           | ask random stuff and the group can discuss, we can have
           | private discussions by clicking one name.
           | 
           | Sure, it's still Meta, and there's still a lot of bullshit
           | groups, but at least I don't have to be exposed by it, nor do
           | baby/kid pictures are exposed to the world, nor do I give
           | money to Meta.
           | 
           | Of course, maybe by "Facebook" you mean "Messenger", which is
           | more popular than it should in the US. Replacing FB with
           | WhatsApp or Signal is possible because my family and friends
           | are around Latin America, Europe and Asia, where nobody uses
           | Messenger anyways.
        
             | [deleted]
        
           | bastardoperator wrote:
           | So they don't understand email, phones or text messaging
           | where people have been doing what they're doing now for
           | years? I have some family that are like your, I shutdown my
           | Facebook profile, and now I just call them on the phone now
           | and we actually communicate more frequently and have better
           | conversations.
        
             | ColinWright wrote:
             | See my other replies:
             | 
             | * https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131013
             | 
             | * https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131180
        
           | kareemsabri wrote:
           | Yeah, that's fair. There's a cost. I've deleted it a couple
           | years ago. I miss out on some stuff for sure. I have an
           | iMessage group chat with my family as a replacement, but of
           | course not the extended family and certainly not the more
           | distant friends.
        
           | FrenchDevRemote wrote:
           | What about SMS and phone calls?
           | 
           | It's like saying I need alcohol to stay in touch with my
           | alcoholic friend. No you don't.
        
             | ColinWright wrote:
             | See my reply here:
             | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131180
        
           | robolange wrote:
           | I don't use Facebook. I never have and I never will. For the
           | people I care about, I use SMS and email. For the more
           | enlightened, we use Signal. You pretty quickly figure out who
           | actually cares about you, and who doesn't, and the latter
           | filters out of your life naturally and painlessly. If your
           | only interaction is a soulless "like" on Facebook every now
           | and then, are they really in your life at all? Or is it just
           | performative; a pretend relationship?
        
             | LightG wrote:
        
             | ColinWright wrote:
             | I'm going to be blunt, and I'm neither going to apologise
             | for it, nor ask your forgiveness or understanding.
             | 
             | Do you really think I haven't considered all these points?
             | Do you really think I haven't considered alternatives? I
             | have, and I have, and my conclusion is that I (a) want to
             | stay in touch with these people, and (b) have no effective
             | alternative.
             | 
             | These are people I care about, who care about me, and who
             | are, today, using FB almost to the exclusion of anything
             | else because they find it convenient and have given up
             | nearly everything else. Despite _many_ attempts they are
             | unwilling or unable to use email as effectively as they use
             | FB, and proliferating platforms would do them no favours at
             | all.
             | 
             | You, and several others in this discussion, are using what
             | you believe to be ironclad reasoning to replace _any_ sense
             | of understanding, sympathy, or empathy.
        
               | AlphaSite wrote:
               | I think there's something to be said about being
               | uncompromising and unwilling to accommodate others. It
               | shows some amount of conviction which is admirable but
               | conversely I think, accommodating others shows empathy
               | and care for them.
               | 
               | I think the argument that this filters out those who do
               | not care could also illustrate that they them self also
               | do not care (not that loosing friends to mutual apathy is
               | a terrible thing ultimately).
        
               | jancsika wrote:
               | > These are people I care about, who care about me, and
               | who are, today, using FB almost to the exclusion of
               | anything else because they find it convenient and have
               | given up nearly everything else.
               | 
               | Just to be clear-- they send and receive rich content
               | over the FB app (taking and forwarding pictures and/or
               | video, etc.), but they don't know how to send/receive
               | that content through text messages?
               | 
               | Not trying to be unsympathetic-- it's just that every
               | non-technical user of a smartphone I've ever seen
               | degrades to text messages.
        
               | ColinWright wrote:
               | Using FB to post photos is really, _really_ easy. Sending
               | photos via SMS costs money under the plans they use.
               | 
               | And you're asking people in their 90s to become familiar
               | with more than one interface when they struggle to
               | understand that "internet" is not "the web", and "the
               | web" is not "Facebook", and worse, they think FB is
               | everything.
               | 
               | And for them, it is. It's the only interface they use.
        
               | libraryatnight wrote:
               | It's not a lack of empathy or understanding it's that
               | those of us who faced the dilemma you seem stuck on found
               | the people who care and we care about still found ways to
               | communicate after we left Facebook. Calls and texts are
               | sufficient. I'm sorry you feel that trapped though.
               | Something seems off in your replies. And ultimately
               | nobody here has said anything that you have to listen to
               | but you seem pretty defensive.
        
               | ColinWright wrote:
               | > _Calls and texts are sufficient._
               | 
               | No, they're not. I refer you to my comment here:
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131180
               | 
               | > _... you seem pretty defensive._
               | 
               | I'm really rather tired of people saying "Well just stop
               | using FB" while apparently expending _zero_ effort to
               | understand the context.
               | 
               | I'll stop now.
        
               | oarsinsync wrote:
               | There was a time my entire network was on Facebook. I
               | decided I didn't want to be anymore. I reached out to
               | everyone who was important to me off Facebook. Within 12
               | months, I knew who I was actually important to too. Sure,
               | some of them I now only speak to once or twice a year,
               | compared to comments regularly on posts, but the
               | interactions are much deeper and more meaningful than
               | that superficial FB interactions.
               | 
               | It wasn't easy. It was worth it. This isn't for everyone,
               | and depends in your own stage in life. Be safe, be
               | strong, be happy.
        
               | gray_-_wolf wrote:
               | Out of curiosity, did you consider good old paper mail?
               | That is what I switched to with my relatives, we just
               | exchange letters once or twice a month. Sharing photos is
               | easy, just put it into the envelope. Seems to work fine
               | even with my grandparents (they seems to prefer it
               | honestly, feels more personal they say).
               | 
               | I'm honestly curious if you considered this and why did
               | you rule it out?
        
               | ColinWright wrote:
               | That would help with single-point-contact, but it doesn't
               | help with "The Group". It would also be a problem with
               | several of them who struggle to write physically because
               | of arthritis and poor eyesight, but who have learned to
               | use the FB app or the web interface on a laptop/desktop
               | where the tech can help.
               | 
               | But they (most of them) don't know how to use email,
               | despite my trying to coach and coax them through it
               | multiple times. Their children or niblings have set them
               | up on FB, taught them how to use it, and it's the _only_
               | thing they use.
               | 
               | I do send a monthly letter to my mother's 97 year-old
               | sister -- my aunt -- because she doesn't use a computer
               | at all, and doesn't even use SMS. But she can't write
               | back to me, so I rely on getting news from her via the
               | phone calls I have with my mother.
               | 
               | Part of the problem is that these relatives (and pseudo-
               | relatives, very close friends of my parents who were like
               | aunts and uncles) have an relatively (pardon the pun)
               | active group, posting photos and statuses (individually
               | rarely, but as a group there's a post a day on average)
               | which keeps the group connected and active. And they want
               | to know what I'm doing.
               | 
               | The many-to-many aspect of FB really makes it a winner,
               | along with the ease of posting, reading, and staying in
               | touch with the group as a whole. As a platform for
               | capabilities it's genuinely fantastic. It's the
               | underlying cesspit of scumminess that's the problem.
               | 
               | Hope that answers your question.
        
             | Macha wrote:
             | Is the inverse not true? If you interpret your family
             | member's refusal to migrate from Messenger to Signal as
             | them not caring about you, what does that say of your
             | refusal to use Messenger for them?
        
               | sieabahlpark wrote:
        
               | endorphine wrote:
               | It really isn't.
               | 
               | The reason I don't want to use Facebook is it's against
               | my principles and ethos. What's my family's reason for
               | not wanting to use Signal?
               | 
               | (I'm not the parent poster.)
        
               | robolange wrote:
               | Exactly. At some point I've had a conversation with most
               | of the people who have filtered out of my life over this.
               | I explained the reasons why I feel that Mark Zuckerberg
               | is a sociopathic scumbag and his company is a cancer upon
               | humanity, with the consequence that I won't knowingly use
               | any product made by any company he owns or controls. For
               | those who've filtered out of my life, their response was
               | mostly along the lines of, "You said words, but I wasn't
               | paying attention. I think Facebook is fun."
               | 
               | For most of the non-techie people in my life, I just
               | communicate via common open protocols like SMS and email,
               | things everyone can use easily. I do encourage people to
               | try Matrix or Signal, but I certainly don't require those
               | to communicate with me.
        
               | ColinWright wrote:
               | > _... SMS and email, things everyone can use easily._
               | 
               | I beg to differ. I have direct personal experience of a
               | number of people who find FB far, _far_ easier to use
               | than SMS or email. These are close family members in
               | their 90s who don 't know how to use email[0], and
               | struggle to use SMSs because of sight problems and
               | physical problems such as arthritis.
               | 
               | I pleased for you that you've been able to avoid people
               | who use FB. I wish you'd grant me the courtesy of
               | accepting that other people have a different experience
               | from yours. I agree with you entirely that MZ is a
               | sociopathic scumbag, but I am unwilling to lose contact
               | with close family members, even though they literally use
               | no communications method other than FB.
               | 
               | [0] Despite using FB they don't use email, because FB was
               | set up for them by others, and they don't even know how
               | to send or receive emails.
        
               | ratww wrote:
               | Oh man. I used to be up to around 2014 the last asshole
               | keeping a specific group in Facebook Messenger. It wasn't
               | much of a problem for them because my friends were using
               | FB for other stuff anyways, but they wanted to move to
               | WhatsApp (now they're on Signal), an app I didn't really
               | used.
               | 
               | What it took for me to bite the bullet and accept
               | changing platforms was all of them agreeing on moving,
               | and then one of them making a hard stance.
               | 
               | Sorry that wasn't much of an answer, but I guess my point
               | is that you (EDIT: royal you, not talking to you
               | directly) gotta find sympathetic people before you
               | declare war on the ones that don't wanna change.
        
               | robolange wrote:
               | I feel like various people are misunderstanding what I've
               | written, so I'll try to clarify here.
               | 
               | > before you declare war on the ones that don't wanna
               | change
               | 
               | I never "declared war" on anyone. I guess it's a lot
               | easier having never used Facebook or Facebook products. I
               | had a bad feeling about them from the very beginning and
               | I've only ever felt more right in that feeling.
               | 
               | What would usually happen was, I'd meet someone new at
               | some event, or maybe I'd be talking to a relative at a
               | family gathering, and they'd say something like, "What's
               | your Facebook? I'd like to add you to GroupX," and I'd
               | reply that I didn't use Facebook. Then they'd follow up
               | with, "You should join, it's <blah blah blah>," to which
               | I'd politely explain why I won't ever join Facebook. And
               | then one of two things would happen. Either they'd
               | understand, and we'd exchange phone numbers or email
               | addresses, or their eyes would glaze over and they'd find
               | some excuse to walk away.
               | 
               | For the latter group, obviously we didn't interact
               | online. For the former group, I'd text or email, and
               | maybe they'd respond, and we'd have what I consider to be
               | a normal relationship, or maybe they'd rarely or never
               | respond, and we'd have no relationship. But in either
               | case, I wasn't haranguing people not to use Facebook; I
               | just wasn't using it. If not using Facebook meant I
               | didn't have a relationship with someone, I was okay with
               | that.
        
               | ratww wrote:
               | Sorry, I didn't really assume you did anything, I was
               | just speaking in general terms from my own experience
               | being in the other side and was citing my friend's
               | strategy.
               | 
               | I should have been clearer about that in my message, as I
               | hate when people do that out of nowhere to me. Sorry.
        
               | robolange wrote:
               | I continued communicating with those I cared about via
               | standardized technologies. Those who communicated back in
               | kind I still keep up with. Those for whom this was a
               | bridge too far, are no longer in my life. Maybe they
               | weren't ever really important to me, which made it easy
               | for me to drop them? Or maybe they were, but I was never
               | important to them? It doesn't really matter; they're not
               | in my life anymore, and I'm okay with that.
        
               | bsagdiyev wrote:
               | "Hey mom stop using Facebook? No, well bye!" -- what an
               | awful way to live.
        
               | doktorhladnjak wrote:
               | More like, "I'll call you on the phone once a week to
               | catch up"
        
             | avgcorrection wrote:
             | I don't think OP is interested in naturally and painlessly
             | filtering out his family.
        
             | just_for_you wrote:
             | Can't echo this enough.
             | 
             | I've been railroaded into using Facebook 2 or 3 times by
             | friends, family and even my SO, and my experience each and
             | every time was a soulless one like yours. It was just a
             | non-stop stream of people and their friends reposting
             | shallow things they found on the Internet, inspirational
             | quotes, and political garbage. And if people did comment,
             | they were just brief quips - probably just enough effort to
             | try to manipulate others to like+comment back on their own
             | content.
             | 
             | Email and phone's all I need. If people can't put in the
             | effort to remember or catch up with me, even if it's just
             | every few months, then they're not my friend.
        
               | ratww wrote:
               | _> I 've been railroaded into using Facebook 2 or 3 times
               | by friends, family and even my SO_
               | 
               | Just out of curiosity, as long as you don't mind: what
               | was the reason (or which feature, actually) they asked
               | you to use Facebook in those cases? I haven't needed it
               | in 5 or 6 years and nobody I know really uses it (or
               | nobody admits), but that might be due to my location
               | (Germany), so I'm a bit curious what's it still good for!
        
               | just_for_you wrote:
               | The first time I used it, it was family members wanting
               | to connect with me, and the old "everyone uses it!"
               | argument (the same one applied to MySpace back in the
               | day). So I made an account, commented on stuff, posted
               | pics of my cat, but ended up deleting my account after a
               | few months because nobody was really "connecting" with
               | each other, plus I found friends-of-friends' posts
               | boring.
               | 
               | Second time was from some new friends I had made, who
               | argued that exchanging phone numbers and emails were old-
               | fashioned and awkward when meeting new people, and that
               | it was essential to have Facebook since it's easier to
               | just say "you can just look for me on Facebook; you'll
               | know it's me since I have XYZ in my profile pic". I saw
               | some validity to the argument, since recently I had met
               | and got along with a couple cute girls on a train ride,
               | but regretted not exchanging contact details with the two
               | of them because asking for numbers/emails felt like a
               | slight overreach. Though if I had a FB account at the
               | time, I thought it'd have made sense if I could've just
               | been able to casually say something like "look up John
               | Smith on FB if you wanna hang out sometime. See ya!".
               | 
               | Third time was my then-SO. She posted on Facebook a LOT,
               | and had many hundreds of followers. She begged me to make
               | an account for months, so I could bask in all the content
               | she posted.
               | 
               | Anyway, your experience with people not using Facebook
               | sounds on-par. Facebook is increasingly considered a
               | "boomer" technology, especially by the younger
               | generations. Many younger folk these days tend to keep in
               | touch via small Discord groups, or whatever dopamine-drip
               | privacy-nightmare app of the week is.
        
               | ratww wrote:
               | Gotcha! Thanks for taking the time to answer.
               | 
               | Interestingly I also met some cute girls and a friendly
               | guy in a train recently and they tried to exchange
               | Instagram handles with me. I just asked for WhatsApp and
               | we created a little group (but then again, Germany).
               | 
               | I guess a SO being there would actually make me use it. I
               | did have a Twitch account for a while because of someone
               | I dated....... (Curiously I haven't admitted this even to
               | my therapist, lol). On the other hand, it's Facebook so
               | I'd probably troll them and ask for printouts of the
               | posts.
               | 
               | About the boomer thing, interestingly I never really had
               | close family using it. But everyone under 25 I know
               | denies having it like it's some kinda plague. The ones
               | over 25 claim they forgot their password.
        
               | doktorhladnjak wrote:
               | There are a lot of people on this thread complaining
               | about the privacy implications of Facebook and how Mark
               | Zuckerberg is evil. While I don't disagree with those
               | sentiments, it's not really why I avoid Facebook. I still
               | use a lot of things that have similar problems like
               | Google or Reddit.
               | 
               | One of the most sinister things about Facebook to me is
               | that it creates the illusion that you are close with
               | friends or relatives when you're really mostly watching a
               | superficial view of peoples' lives in a passive,
               | voyeuristic way. Comments and likes make you feel
               | connected, but they are not meaningful interaction.
               | 
               | When I first deleted my account and stopped using
               | Facebook, I felt initially a lot lonelier. But was I?
               | After more time went by, I became convinced it was all
               | too superficial.
               | 
               | Interestingly, who I spent time with shifted toward other
               | people who were either not on Facebook at all or were
               | very unengaged with it personally (for example, one
               | friend only uses it to promote his business).
               | 
               | My only partial regret with any of this is that the
               | pandemic really scrambled this. Almost all of my friends
               | were purely people I saw in person, with no online
               | component to our friendship. That all got paused in 2020,
               | and has been very hard to get back to the same level
               | since.
        
             | kareemsabri wrote:
             | Absolutely. If your relationships is dependent on a single
             | medium of communication, and you cannot migrate it to
             | another one, that's a weak relationship or it's only local
             | to the medium (some people are Twitter friends, and that's
             | fine).
        
               | ColinWright wrote:
               | See my comment here:
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131180
        
               | doktorhladnjak wrote:
               | I've seen that comment too. It's unclear to me why you
               | can't just have 1:1 relationships with these relatives by
               | calling them on the phone or visiting in person
               | regularly. You seem locked into the concept of only being
               | able to interact with them using this specific group chat
               | type format.
        
             | awillen wrote:
             | This is a pretty bananas take that conflates people caring
             | with their technology-related behavior.
             | 
             | Most people don't have problems with Facebook. It's useful
             | for them, and they don't consider the bigger picture
             | because they're not in tech and they have more important
             | things taking up their attention.
             | 
             | Now you swoop in and say "Facebook is evil, and if you
             | don't get off of it, I'll cut you out of my life!" In that
             | scenario, you're the one who doesn't care about the
             | relationship, not them - you're the one that won't get off
             | your high horse. You could make a minimalistic FB profile
             | that has no information and use it to exchange messages and
             | reply to event invitations. But instead you demand that
             | they change their behaviors in order to support your moral
             | imperative. That's your prerogative, but it is ridiculous
             | to think your relationship is pretend as a result.
             | 
             | Also, to be clear, you're the only one here talking about a
             | relationship that consists of a few likes on Facebook.
             | Everyone else is talking about a broader set of
             | interactions, like using Messenger to chat and sharing
             | photos with each other.
        
               | SoftTalker wrote:
               | You don't have to get on a soapbox and pontificate about
               | the evil of Facebook. Just say "sorry, I'm not on
               | Facebook."
        
               | charcircuit wrote:
               | Signing up for a facebook account takes less than a
               | minute to do. Not having an account is a tiny hurdle to
               | get over.
        
               | SoftTalker wrote:
               | Yeah but then they are asking you to do something, rather
               | than you asking them.
        
               | robolange wrote:
               | > Now you swoop in and say "Facebook is evil, and if you
               | don't get off of it, I'll cut you out of my life!"
               | 
               | I said no such thing, and I'd thank you not to put words
               | in my mouth. As I explained in a different subthread:
               | 
               | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32131334
        
         | FabHK wrote:
         | Just like the ideal solution for climate change is to stop
         | eating meat, stop flying, stop driving, stop heating, stop air
         | conditioning, and, for good measure, stop using computers.
         | 
         | Heaven forbid that we seek a political/regulatory solution.
        
           | kareemsabri wrote:
           | Seek whatever you like. I don't think those are comparable
           | examples.
        
         | endorphine wrote:
         | I've just deleted my Messenger account. Won't lie, that felt
         | good. Good thing my friends/family from there are on the other
         | two alternatives I use.
        
         | anigbrowl wrote:
         | That's like saying 'stop being poor.' I'm not personally
         | invested in FB, but people with large extended families,
         | businesses, political campaigns etc. don't have the option of
         | just ignoring it.
         | 
         | Every HN thread about social media has one sub-thread like
         | this, and it never produces anything of value because the
         | premise is trite.
        
       | userbinator wrote:
       | IMHO this was totally expected and is an argument for "browser
       | neutrality" --- I believe a browser shouldn't be doing this or
       | many other things by default.
       | 
       | Modifying URLs and filtering page content should be the
       | responsibility of extensions and the like. I personally use a
       | filtering proxy.
        
         | AinderS wrote:
         | Since there's zero chance that websites and ad companies will
         | stop their spying and manipulation (let's call it "webpage
         | neutrality"), what you're proposing is unilateral disarmament.
         | To require a lot of know-how and tech savvy to get privacy,
         | while leaving the common user to the mercy of a hostile web.
         | 
         | This is like the argument that the Do Not Track flag was
         | illegitimate if the browser defaulted it to 'on'. An argument
         | that is never applied to tracking or the countless "by visiting
         | this webpage you consent to.."
        
         | cypress66 wrote:
         | Firefox is not doing this by default I'm pretty sure
        
         | ev1 wrote:
         | This is opt in, not enabled by default, and requires you to
         | intentionally pick 'Strict' which has a warning as its first
         | line of text that says some sites may break.
        
       | rolph wrote:
       | so instead of being able to opt out, by editing extraneous
       | commands, face book is locking you into accepting commands with
       | the link.
       | 
       | stretch that out a bit and it will fit - facebook controls your
       | browser by infiltrating commands packed into an encrypted string.
       | 
       | that looks alot like what C&C servers do, the next step would be
       | dropping a bot into users systems
        
       | googlryas wrote:
       | Has anyone checked if it is just a serialized+base64 encoded
       | swift proto with the original URL?
       | 
       | There could be other reasons for this, but evading firefox
       | rewriting links seems most likely - some gateways strip too-long
       | query strings for example, but will leave the rest of the URL
       | alone.
        
         | Volker_W wrote:
         | > some gateways strip too-long query strings for example
         | 
         | Uhm. What?
        
       | 1vuio0pswjnm7 wrote:
       | If the author edits their post and the reader then follows the
       | "View Edit History" URL, then the reader can see in the address
       | bar the story_fbid= and the (author) id= URL parameters without
       | the obfuscation.
       | 
       | If the reader follows the "People who reacted" URL, then the
       | reader can see the story_fbid= and (author) id= paramaters,
       | without obfuscation.
       | 
       | If the reader follows the "Comment" URL, then the reader can see
       | the story_fbid= and (author) id= paramaters, without obfuscation.
       | 
       | If the reader follows the "React" URL, then the reader can see
       | the story_fbid= and (author) id= paramters, without obfuscation.
       | 
       | Those are just four ways to discover the unobfuscated story_fbid
       | number. There are probably others.
       | 
       | Tested with mbasic.facebook.com.
       | 
       | I have always stripped everything but the story_fbid and (author)
       | id parameters when sharing URLs pointing to posts on Facebook.
       | Anything else in the URL is unnecessary. On the
       | desktop/laptop/RPi, this stripping can be automated using a
       | localhost forward proxy.
       | 
       | Another issue that seems to fly under the radar with Facebook
       | users is the prefixing and proxying of external URLs with
       | https://lm.facebook.com/l.php?u=.
        
         | darkstar999 wrote:
         | What about it? They end up at the same url.
        
       | plorg wrote:
       | I haven't used Facebook in quite a while, but when I did I had a
       | set of userscripts to defuse this tracking. It worked similarly
       | to Google link stripping, by defusing the JavaScript that rewrote
       | the link between the time you clicked it and when your browser
       | opened it. Initially I built it because the free wireless
       | internet in my apartment was unreliable and the redirects could
       | be enough to prevent a page from opening. My method was pretty
       | blunt - I removed element entities that held the target URL, and
       | that broke the listener function. A later iteration would
       | actually unset the listener event. This all worked because it
       | seemed important to FB that you be able to see where the link
       | would take you (e.g. by hovering). I wouldn't be surprised if
       | Facebook's paternalism (and Google's for that matter, but I
       | haven't seen it from them, though I mainly use DDG now) now led
       | them to add this "protection" directly to links as they're served
       | up. I can't tell from the article whether that's the case, and at
       | this point I'm not going to log in to FB to figure it out.
        
       | RKearney wrote:
       | Previous Discussion:
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32117489
        
         | cuteboy19 wrote:
         | Amazing that they noticed it this quickly. Most people are used
         | to see all those URLs with encoded garbage to notice this
         | change
        
       | agluszak wrote:
       | That should be illegal.
        
         | doodlesdev wrote:
         | No it shouldn't. It's unethical, sure, but the correct way to
         | fight this is to not give money (or your time) to companies
         | that engage in these behaviors.
        
           | agluszak wrote:
           | At this point it is barely possible to ignore Facebook
           | (Twitter, Instagram etc. also). I'm a great proponent of the
           | fediverse, but FB without regulation will simply eat all the
           | ethical alternatives.
        
       | nonrandomstring wrote:
       | Replace the word "facebook" with "alcohol" or "heroin" and re-
       | read every comment in this thread. We have a real problem, don't
       | we?
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | dimitrios1 wrote:
       | Easily defeated by having a secondary server access the url,
       | strip any remaining parameters, then returning the URL to the
       | user. You will have to _really_ trust your browser, however. A
       | gambit I am willing to take. It is Facebook we are talking about,
       | after all.
       | 
       | The game of cat and mouse continues.
        
         | stargrazer wrote:
         | Wouldn't it just be easier to 'not use facebook'?
        
         | camkego wrote:
         | This brings up an interesting point. If you have a secondary
         | server do this operation as opposed to the browser, the only
         | thing that has changed from the receiver's point of view is the
         | source IP.
         | 
         | So maybe privacy protecting browsers will start to do double
         | loads: 1. First to get the real URL 2. Next to do the browsing
         | with the association information stripped from the
         | URL/cookies/etc
        
         | Spivak wrote:
         | Nobody is gonna go through that effort though, and it's not
         | possible to translate the params back because only the server
         | decrypts them. This seems like the tipping point where cat wins
         | for all but like 5 people.
         | 
         | I'm actually kinda surprised this hasn't happened earlier.
        
           | dimitrios1 wrote:
           | I used to go through the effort of manually stripping
           | tracking params out of my URLs until the browsers integrated
           | it.
           | 
           | I will go through this effort until browsers integrate it, or
           | until there is a secondary service that's easily runnable.
           | This would just be pi-hole but for the internet instead of
           | your local network.
        
       | dang wrote:
       | Recent and related:
       | 
       |  _Ask HN: What is with the new URLs on facebook.com?_ -
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32117489 - July 2022 (249
       | comments)
        
       | squarefoot wrote:
       | Aside stopping the use of Facebook, which of course is the best
       | solution but not doable for many, the AdNauseam (.io, browser
       | extension) approach to pollute their tracking data might be
       | inspirational. The gist is: can't eliminate ad links? Then have
       | an app "click" all of them randomly so that counters become
       | irrelevant. So there is this link that identifies user X?, well
       | then write an extension that distributes and "clicks" it around
       | on say 1000 other machines in a p2p way so that it becomes
       | meaningless.
       | 
       | I have no idea if it's doable in this FB context, but usually
       | when links can't be anonymized, the next move is to make them
       | produce irrelevant data by adding noise.
        
         | matthewfcarlson wrote:
         | When you can't get rid of signal, add noise.
        
         | im3w1l wrote:
         | For many years I was against AdNauseam, as by my reckoning it
         | would be counterproductive and just end up hurting the the most
         | privacy and freedom oriented voices, but now that Facebook is
         | upping the stakes it's starting to seem like a reasonable
         | countermeasure.
        
         | zozbot234 wrote:
         | > Aside stopping the use of Facebook, which of course is the
         | best solution but not doable for many
         | 
         | But quite doable for a content provider like Ghacks. Users
         | should be able to share links to web content in a way that does
         | not create privacy risks, and this whole URI encryption
         | business makes that quite a bit harder.
        
         | asdfologist wrote:
         | That's unethical, to willingly use a product and yet actively
         | hurt its revenue stream.
        
           | aporetics wrote:
           | Were it so simple.
           | 
           | Unlike buying a product, like a banana, or using a service,
           | like your barber, when you "use" facebook, YOU are the
           | product. You are being sold to companies buying adds.
           | 
           | So what is ethical?
        
           | StillBored wrote:
           | Facebook is unethical, I never consented to the shadow
           | profile I'm sure they keep on me. (since I'm an antisocial
           | snob and have never used their offerings).
           | 
           | They have acquired a few products I have used (oculus for
           | one) and that fact makes it even more irritating, as far as
           | I'm concerned the sooner their business model is destroyed
           | the better off the world will be.
        
           | majormajor wrote:
           | Is it ethical to give a product away for free in order to
           | profit off ever-increasing surveillance?
           | 
           | Would it be fair to proposal an ethical position of something
           | like "if you won't offer your product in a way that uses my
           | information ethically than I have the right to safeguard my
           | information"? Yes, we _could_ all refuse to use facebook, and
           | only use an ethical (even possibly paid!) alternative, but in
           | the race-to-the-bottom everyone-else-ruins-it-for-everyone-
           | else real-world we live in, maybe there is a lot more gray
           | area than you are proposing.
           | 
           | In my view the "ever-increasing" aspect of FB's usage of data
           | is particularly relevant in this case. I deleted my account
           | because I'm aware of it. It's not easy to make everyone else
           | aware of it, or understand the full implications, though.
           | And, of course, FB tracks even those of us who don't have
           | accounts.
        
           | Nextgrid wrote:
           | Just as unethical as creating spyware that spies on users who
           | haven't given _informed_ consent or sometimes even non-users.
        
           | arthurcolle wrote:
           | Everything is fair game in asymmetric guerilla warfare
           | against well-capitalized antagonists
        
           | Calavar wrote:
           | Facebook also tracks the activity of people who have never
           | registered an account while they browse on third party
           | websites.
        
           | kareemsabri wrote:
           | You can't just _say_ something is unethical, you need to
           | provide a rationale for why people are ethically obligated to
           | preserve a company 's revenue stream in their usage of its
           | product. I don't think a consumer owes Facebook any
           | responsibility in terms of protecting its revenue.
        
             | xwdv wrote:
             | It is part of the terms of service.
             | 
             | If you do not agree, just stop using the product. What's so
             | hard to understand? Lord knows people aren't going to pay
             | subscriptions to view Facebook content, so the business is
             | supported through data collection. In return, you get to
             | view content for free. People just want to be entitled to
             | everything. Going a step further and actually costing the
             | company revenue is just being petty and malicious,
             | definitely unethical.
        
               | oarsinsync wrote:
               | > If you do not agree, just stop using the product.
               | What's so hard to understand?
               | 
               | I agree with you, and this is exactly what I've done.
               | There are a number of businesses and clubs that are
               | interesting to me, but they're exclusively on Facebook so
               | they're out of reach for me.
               | 
               | I have my ethics. I'm also the biggest loser in this
               | story. The businesses and orgs have enough other
               | participation that losing me has made no material impact
               | to them.
               | 
               | Now what? Should I continue to be a loser? Thats the
               | choice I've made for the last year. I'm starting to
               | wonder if it's the right one.
               | 
               | Meanwhile, I have to burn effort on making sure FB cant
               | track me all over the internet. So I have my ethics while
               | they demonstrate they have none.
        
               | dataflow wrote:
               | I feel like if Facebook didn't have a history of playing
               | unethical hardball then people would feel more guilty
               | about returning the favor?
        
               | _-david-_ wrote:
               | If I have a website that has a terms of service that says
               | anybody who visits my website must give me all their
               | money are you obligated to give me all your money if you
               | go to it?
        
               | Justin_K wrote:
               | What happens when FB violates their own TOS, especially
               | when it relates to privacy? Absolutely nothing. FB
               | created their own game of cat and mouse.
        
               | ls15 wrote:
               | > If you do not agree, just stop using the product.
               | What's so hard to understand?
               | 
               | We are talking about Facebook here, the company that
               | tracks unaware people as much as they can all over the
               | internet, not just on their platform, and they created
               | shadow profiles of people who never registered on their
               | platform, which is something that is clearly against _my_
               | terms of service, which they ignored. They never
               | apologized or financially compensated me for that.
               | 
               | Why would someone want to defend _that_ company?
        
               | kareemsabri wrote:
               | Nothing is hard to understand, I just don't agree with
               | your argument.
               | 
               | Facebook does not offer the ability to pay for an ad-free
               | version, so who knows whether people are going to pay. I
               | imagine many would. That said, I am not a member of
               | Facebook's board, I'm not an employee, I'm not even a
               | stockholder. I don't see how it is my ethical obligation
               | to support Facebook's revenue stream. Since the terms of
               | service are not negotiated between myself and Facebook,
               | but written by their lawyers and presented to me
               | implicitly on a "take it or leave it" basis, I do not
               | feel that I've opted into that agreement, nor any
               | obligation to abide by it.
               | 
               | Note that while I'm talking in the first person I don't
               | literally mean me, as I don't use Facebook as mentioned
               | in other comments, but any hypothetical consumer who
               | wants to block ads or otherwise undermine Facebook's
               | ability to track them.
        
               | JumpCrisscross wrote:
               | > _you do not agree, just stop using the product_
               | 
               | I don't use their product. They still negatively impact
               | me. So yes, I think I'm morally entitled to make their
               | lives difficult.
        
               | [deleted]
        
         | WheatM wrote:
        
       | neilv wrote:
       | I've had background projects working on Web privacy measures
       | since the Junkbuster days in the 1990s.
       | 
       | Pretty much any practical measures I've thought of, I think of
       | (usually obvious) ways they can be countered, and assume it's
       | only a matter of when that measure is on the adversary's radar
       | and worth their time.
        
         | userbinator wrote:
         | Junkbuster --- now that's a name that takes me back! MITM
         | proxies for filtering were far more common back then, but the
         | "security" industry managed to scare most people out of using
         | one, ironically causing them to only remain on corporate
         | networks. I still use Proxomitron for this purpose.
        
       | LightG wrote:
       | "A strange game. The only winning move is not to play."
        
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