[HN Gopher] The first dating app made for developers
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The first dating app made for developers
Author : wordyy
Score : 24 points
Date : 2022-07-10 17:14 UTC (5 hours ago)
(HTM) web link (meetwith.dev)
(TXT) w3m dump (meetwith.dev)
| olodus wrote:
| This might be an off topic and immature critique but the image
| under the "Start Meeting" heading places the hilt of the looking
| glass in a very... precarious location - maybe especially for a
| dating app.
| otikik wrote:
| I don't think this will work for cis folk, but maybe gay
| developers will find it useful? I don't know.
| sterlind wrote:
| you mean het? cis is a different axis.
|
| but yeah, I agree. the gender ratio is bound to be wack.
| otikik wrote:
| Yes, that's what I meant, thanks
| sgammon wrote:
| e2le wrote:
| I've always wanted to filter my potential partners by their stars
| and choice of language.
| ALittleLight wrote:
| How will you balance the genders? My guess is you'll have too
| many of one and not enough of the other.
| csilverman wrote:
| That was what I was thinking. A dating service for devs is
| going to be like 99% guys. On the up side, though, it might
| underscore the benefits of having a more diverse tech industry.
|
| I get what a few people said about not wanting to be talking
| about work all the time, but for me, it's more about shared
| passions. I'd much rather be dating somebody who understands
| why some hack I did is particularly clever, and maybe even has
| a better one. I have trouble finding any real chemistry with
| people who aren't part of my world.
| wordyy wrote:
| Dating apps are not necessarily for straight men/women only,
| but let's hope it will be diverse (ie not 99% straight guys).
| PoignardAzur wrote:
| Ha ha ha ha, but no.
|
| Regular dating app trying to appeal to women are already
| 90% men. A dating app appealing to a male-dominated
| demographic is going to have virtually no women at all.
| sgammon wrote:
| you may even have a feature for gay dating but everything on this
| page is so heteronormative, I wouldn't be signing up anyway.
|
| actual feedback: use graphics that aren't heavily implying that
| this is only a platform for strictly male persons and female
| persons to meet.
|
| it's 2022. you could also just declare that as your intent but
| you won't survive long imo.
| echan00 wrote:
| Rule one of dating apps is attract the females first
| sgammon wrote:
| so frustrating to need to explain the concept of sexual
| minorities to Silicon Valley
|
| I guess you really did mean "find people like you" as in you the
| developer?
| m348e912 wrote:
| If the author if this app happens to read this, can you perhaps
| explain the thought process behind creating this app? Are you
| expecting thousands of women to flock to try their luck matching
| with a developer (a male dominated industry)?
|
| If you're looking to develop another dating app perhaps look for
| ways to address the problems with existing ones. Here are a few
| examples: Horrible male to female ratio. Men swipe at everything,
| women are incredibly picky. F*boys. Female safety fears.
| Catfishing. Scams. Superficial decision making in matching.
| Ghosting. Lack of reputation building and tracking in the app.
| Crappy profiles. Old outdated pictures. Lack of actually wanting
| to meet.
|
| My humble suggestion: Pivot and come up with something unique
| that makes online dating a notch better than it currently is.
| planarhobbit wrote:
| Some of this can be fixed with technology - but men swiping on
| everyone, women being picky, is probably not one of the things
| in that list.
|
| What you're after is more than likely much closer to a
| traditionally arranged communion (dating, marriage, whatever).
| The filters, pre selection, etc, would be in place by design.
| As we all know, that isn't going to fly at all.
|
| What you're looking at now is what happens when we take the
| facade of civilization, society, some concept of fairness etc
| in the "dating marketplace" and the filters away, and we show
| humans as they are. Their wants, needs, desires, desperations.
| And if things look bleak to you, I assure you, it's not because
| of technology and it's not something technology will fix.
| ThinkBeat wrote:
| Given the male to female ratio among developers, this will give
| gay guys on the app a huge advantage.
| solardev wrote:
| Don't women in tech already struggle with unwanted sexual
| advances? It's hard to imagine them voluntarily signing up for a
| service to be surrounded by even more tech bros... (sorry,
| guys...)
|
| It's hard for me to even imagine "coder" as a dating persona; why
| would anyone care? Income bracket, maybe, but there are already
| matchmaking services/filters for that. Passion for technology?
| Maybe, but there are already communities for that where you can
| meet others without the overbearing expectation of romance.
|
| In general I think dating and social loneliness is already
| heavily lopsided against hetero men; women don't need a "find me
| a dev who wants to date me" app, their existence is constantly
| bombarded with that. Why would they ever sign up for something
| like this?
|
| I don't know how this would play out for queer devs, so I won't
| speculate there.
| planarhobbit wrote:
| What if this is an app for women to find a relatively well off
| (replace with intelligent, etc) partner given that this app is,
| essentially, a filter that dictates level of income/job bracket
| (location dependent, but you get the idea).
| wordyy wrote:
| It's not available yet but there's a Google form to register
| silisili wrote:
| Do people want things like this? Not just developers, I mean
| people just like them? Genuine question. Maybe I'm burned out,
| but the last thing I want to talk about outside of work is
| computers/programming.
|
| In my life dating, people like me just made for a rather boring
| relationship. My wife and I couldn't be more different of people,
| with wildly different interests, but it makes for always
| interesting conversation and learning from one another.
| Fire-Dragon-DoL wrote:
| For some people, programming is one of their main hobbies
| outside from work.
|
| I have to actively push myself to avoid talking about work, I
| enjoy it.
| jokethrowaway wrote:
| I dated developers for years and we rarely discussed work or
| tech.
|
| I dumped an ex-gf because she was going to be a doctor and
| that's not the life I wanted for my family.
|
| There are plenty of developers who are quite different from
| yourself.
|
| What being a developer seems to indicate is: making decent
| financial/career choices, willingness to automate away your job
| solardev wrote:
| > I dumped an ex-gf because she was going to be a doctor and
| that's not the life I wanted for my family.
|
| Lol, out of curiosity, what does this mean?
| yellowapple wrote:
| Medical professionals often work long hours on awkward
| schedules that are hard to plan around. Hospitals don't
| shut down on nights/weekends/holidays.
| solardev wrote:
| Ah, that makes sense. Is that automatically the case with
| most doctors, or only with like on-call surgeons?
| [deleted]
| sshine wrote:
| Doctors, nurses, wet nurses, ...
|
| Anyone who works with people whose health condition can
| change any moment.
|
| Night shifts, holiday restrictions, inflexible hours.
|
| Anyone who is married to a health professional will plan
| around their schedule.
| martin_a wrote:
| That's the case for probably all doctors, nurses etc.,
| basically everybody working in a hospital
|
| Source: Dated a nurse. :-D
|
| edit: Also they might be changing/rotating shifts, so for
| some time my date and me could only meet in the mornings
| on weekends.
| x86x87 wrote:
| didn't want someone who moved fast and broke things? :)
| netaustin wrote:
| This works well for me, too. My wife is a teacher. I appreciate
| her schedule and her outside perspective on my chunk of the
| tech industry, and the diversity of our perspectives makes us a
| better parenting team. I also appreciate the income
| diversification; I know lots of couples who have highly
| correlated salaries. Not a reason to choose a partner but
| something to try and de-risk if you're in that position.
| Lastly, it's nice to bounce product ideas off someone who is
| unimpressed by flashy features.
|
| This isn't to say that I think developers dating developers is
| a bad idea, choosing a partner is the most personal possible
| choice and I'm glad to see an interesting new angle on it.
| solardev wrote:
| Same... I've never dated another dev, but have dated people who
| were very similar in almost every way, and those never really
| worked out long term. My current partner, who I've been with
| the longest by far, is very different in all the ways except
| the ones that really matter (values, personality compatibility,
| emphasis on good communications and collaborative problem-
| solving).
|
| I appreciate the diversity and our different perspectives a
| lot, along with our ability to talk through differences
| together in a "we both win or we both lose" kinda dialogue, no
| shouting or anything, just a lot of back-and-forth sharing.
| sterlind wrote:
| for programming, I totally agree. for science, it seems like
| it's a different story. there's numbers of famous teams of
| spouses who work side by side in the same field/lab.
| universities will even find a faculty position for your spouse
| if they want you enough.
|
| I'm biased perhaps, but I think science is fundamentally more
| interesting and rewarding than doing engineering for a FAANG.
| (disclaimer: I work for a FAANG but on more and more pure math
| stuff.)
| catsarebetter wrote:
| I assumed it was a landing page test
| FrenchDevRemote wrote:
| are you trying to make a turbo tinder where women get 1000000
| likes per month and men get 1 likes every ten years?
|
| couldn't have chosen a worse demographic in my opinion, it's like
| a virtual engineering school dating scene(i.e probably not much
| fun ...)
| solardev wrote:
| I dunno, this site seems pretty sketchy. It's just a boilerplate
| dating app landing page, using stock images and styles copied
| from other sites:
|
| https://whitelabelfox.com/tinder-clone-app/
|
| https://queenmatrimony.com/
|
| https://www.blind-me.com/en
|
| It has no info about how it works, who runs it, etc. Just a
| random form. Maybe a phishing attempt? I wouldn't trust it...
|
| Edit: I think there are a lot of sites in this vein, whitelabeled
| dating sites/apps that try to rip off the big ones by forming
| their own tiny niches. It doesn't necessarily mean it's fake, but
| even if it's real, the network is probably going to be so small
| as to be worthless.
| countmora wrote:
| How did you find out that it uses stuff from other websites?
| Reverse image search?
| solardev wrote:
| Yeah, just the right-click Search with Google Lens. I think
| it's built-in to Chrome these days?
|
| Something about the "skinny vector people" just seemed really
| boilerplate to me, along with telltale signs of "someone used
| a bootstrap-like framework" like the cards not having the
| same vertical height. Nothing on the page made it seem like
| it was actually designed for a dev-centric service, it all
| just looked like it was ripped off a generic dating template.
| So I just wanted to confirm that hunch.
| wordyy wrote:
| The site hasn't even launched yet, I guess we'll see.
| solardev wrote:
| Is this your site? If so, why didn't you wait until it was
| ready and/or include more info on the landing site?
| FrenchDevRemote wrote:
| idea validation probably, good for him, not for the first
| visitors
| dane-pgp wrote:
| Seems like a great way for nation state adversaries to catfish
| their way into important repos. /s
|
| Seriously, though, what about developers who are looking for
| someone that brings other skills and interests to the
| relationship? Or people who like the idea of dating a developer,
| but aren't one themselves?
|
| Then there's the issue that people might want to keep their
| developer/professional identity separate from their romantic
| identity, for reasons of privacy, security, and staying on the
| right side of HR.
|
| If it's not too late to pivot, I would recommend using Wikipedia
| accounts as the user pool, since the site allows users to create
| their own Talk pages, on which they can add their interests and
| what they are looking for.
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