[HN Gopher] My awakening moment about how smartphones fragment o...
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       My awakening moment about how smartphones fragment our attention
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       Author : llui85
       Score  : 251 points
       Date   : 2022-06-25 12:45 UTC (10 hours ago)
        
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       | yandrypozo wrote:
       | Also stop reading Hacker News :)
        
       | cmrdporcupine wrote:
       | Since I haven't been commuting or going many places, my phone
       | mostly sits idle for days, unused. I watch my wife and daughter
       | constantly in front of theirs and I don't understand. I hate
       | using those little screens with terrible input and fundamentally
       | boring distracting apps.
       | 
       | The problem is though, I'm addicted to my computer. I'm not
       | actually sure it's that much better.
        
         | GekkePrutser wrote:
         | Same here. I don't understand why someone would willingly use a
         | 6" screen when they have a glorious 24" and actual input
         | devices available.
        
           | frosted-flakes wrote:
           | Because it's easier to use a 6" screen when you're laying on
           | the couch or in bed.
        
         | kkfx wrote:
         | It's much better just because your desktop it's yours. Even if
         | it run Windows or OSX it's still give you less strict cage,
         | surveil you less and give you more options.
         | 
         | Unfortunately even if you run a FLOSS OS you run on crapload of
         | proprietary fw down to the CPU but again, you have some ability
         | to move and act, on a mobile you are just free to do what the
         | OEM decide you are allowed to, with it's right to change policy
         | as it wish.
        
         | 411111111111111 wrote:
         | I love the form factor and input for reading fiction. Probably
         | 90% of my phone screen time is that, which adds up to a
         | significant time each week.
        
         | vorpalhex wrote:
         | Schedule a time where everyone agrees to not use screens.
         | Dinner is a good starting point but ultimately, whatever works.
         | 
         | Practice conversing and talking.
         | 
         | Socialising is a muscle, and smartphones (and other devices)
         | are a crutch that lets us avoid using that muscle.
        
           | downut wrote:
           | We try hard to eat at the table together for all dinners and
           | weekend breakfasts. Screens are strictly prohibited, even for
           | guests. Some guests... hahaha, think this is quite the
           | sacrifice. So what? My daughter has brought the convention to
           | her group house.
           | 
           | When we eat out we try to do the same but because of the damn
           | menus, translation app, etc. the screens still come out. We
           | still are usually doing much better than the other tables in
           | the restaurants. Helps to turn the devil device face down.
           | 
           | We think it is just so sad to see people out on a date, or
           | even a clearly married older pair, each staring at their
           | (own) screens.
        
           | thih9 wrote:
           | What about people who use smartphones for socialising?
           | 
           | Staying in touch with friends, finding new interesting
           | people, browsing local events, deciding where to meet, etc.
        
             | skydhash wrote:
             | Browsing through my distractions websites- HN, Twitter,
             | Reddit, Dilbert - only take me about 15 minutes to note
             | everything interesting. I do that thrice a day, and it's
             | more than enough.
        
             | Swizec wrote:
             | With the kind of friends who won't leave you alone for 2
             | hours to focus on something important, who needs enemies?
        
           | arkitaip wrote:
           | Boards games and card games are great too.
        
             | dumpsterlid wrote:
             | It is the golden age of board gaming and it couldnt have
             | come at a more crucial time.
        
               | mrfusion wrote:
               | What are some good ones that work for common people?
        
               | ornornor wrote:
               | Carcassonne, saboteur, splendor.
        
               | vorpalhex wrote:
               | Board games fall into a few categories:
               | https://www.gearhungry.com/types-of-board-games/
               | 
               | Then within those categories you have easier and harder
               | games (and better made or less better).
               | 
               | Try a sampler platter and see what works and is fun.
               | 
               | Some specific suggestions:
               | 
               | Love letter, Takanoko, munchkin, elder sign.
        
       | marginalia_nu wrote:
       | I do wonder how much web design contributes to the apparent
       | epidemic of attention difficulties.
       | 
       | There is very often (even some in the article) visual noise in or
       | around the text. Ads are designed to draw attention to
       | themselves, and ignoring them wears on your cognitive resources.
       | 
       | Sometimes the text is "enhanced" to fight back against the
       | surrounding noise by adding images or color or highlighting
       | portions of the text or any number of tricks. That just makes the
       | visual noise worse, and further adds to the habit of skimming.
       | 
       | It's like talking in a bar. The noisier it gets, the more the
       | communication turns into shouting short simple sentences, further
       | adding to the noise level, further imposing restrictions on
       | what's able to be communicated.
        
         | alexalx666 wrote:
         | What's scary is that having a clean distraction free layout
         | becomes an exception on the web. Most articles "regular" ppl
         | read can probably only be read via reader layout in safari
        
       | jaqalopes wrote:
       | So glad to see I'm not the only one taking drastic action after
       | falling into the phone/attention trap.
       | 
       | This won't work for everyone, but maybe 6 months ago I got a
       | phone safe (this kind of thing: <https://shorturl.at/drzMT>, I
       | refer to it as the "phone jail"), which I leave my phone in from
       | bedtime every night to ~4pm the next day. And I leave the whole
       | rig on my bedroom shelf while I go to work at the
       | library/cafe/kitchen table.
       | 
       | There are obvious drawbacks to this that I don't think most
       | people would accept (especially regarding being reachable or
       | having a way to place emergency calls). But it's been invaluable
       | for me to make the mental space I need to finish my manuscript.
       | Plus you _can_ still use the phone through the holes in the cover
       | if you need to, it 's just really annoying and not very portable.
       | 
       | In the long run, I'd like to become a fliphone guy like some
       | other commenters here, but I genuinely do get a lot of value from
       | having a smartphone. I just need to get away from it during
       | working hours.
        
         | bombcar wrote:
         | Getting an actual honest-to-goodness _landline_ isn 't terribly
         | expensive, and works as a phone for emergencies.
         | 
         | Most people wasting time on smartphones would put it down
         | almost immediately if it had no internet access.
        
           | TheFreim wrote:
           | I have a landline in my home, it's great. Can't get texts so
           | people have to call, they can leave a message if it's urgent.
           | I can leave my phone off as long as I want and still be
           | contacted when I'm at home.
        
             | bombcar wrote:
             | Yeah, and if you want to go the "hacker route" you can
             | terminate the landline in a cobbled-together Asterix PBX
             | for even more fun.
             | 
             | You could use a VOIP number but then it would go down when
             | the Internet goes down.
        
               | dragonwriter wrote:
               | Increasingly, "landlines" are VOIP with legacy
               | connections.
        
               | bombcar wrote:
               | Yeah, the trick sometimes is ask for "burglar alarm" or
               | "actual two-wire" or similar so they give you a real pair
               | to the CO.
        
           | em500 wrote:
           | You don't a landline. As you mention yourself it's very hard
           | to waste much time on a mobile phone with no internet access.
           | OTOH, a laptop with internet can be as just much of a
           | timesink as a smartphone.
           | 
           | The internet, it's a hell of a drug. Can't live with it,
           | can't live without it.
        
         | TheFreim wrote:
         | > especially regarding being reachable or having a way to place
         | emergency calls
         | 
         | I love being unreachable, it's one of the reasons I'll often
         | turn my phone off during the work day or leave it at home. This
         | means I won't have a phone to make emergency calls, but I'm not
         | really bothered by that (it's how I lived over half my life).
        
         | losteric wrote:
         | I did something similar for a while, but I still found myself
         | distracted when the phone was out of the case. I ultimately opt
         | to simply make the phone less addictive.
         | 
         | On Android, I used Digital Wellness to monitor how I was
         | spending time. Then I uninstalled all the timewasting dopamine-
         | trap apps, set limits on Firefox (10min day), disabled
         | vibration/sound notifications except for phone calls, removed
         | all app icons from the home screen, and set a complex unlock
         | passcode (disabled face unlock). I also started using the phone
         | for "harder" things, like writing long emails.
         | 
         | At this point, my ADHD brain just sees the phone as a tool...
         | because that's all it is.
         | 
         | Next step is figuring out how to apply the same lessons to my
         | laptop.
        
       | danr4 wrote:
       | Related: Anyone using Blinkist? How is it?
        
         | thenerdhead wrote:
         | The summaries are mediocre at best. If you are willing to have
         | someone you don't know summarize a book for you, then it's
         | good. There's plenty of people posting book summaries online
         | that are a bit more reputable. I personally think it's filling
         | the exact niche of people not spending more time being analog
         | to find out for themselves by reading and redeveloping their
         | attention.
        
           | alexalx666 wrote:
        
       | jacquesm wrote:
       | The addictive nature of those devices is exactly why I don't have
       | one, I'll end up with even less time in my life and that's pretty
       | much the only currency you never get more of. It's bad enough
       | with just a desktop/laptop.
       | 
       | I just stuck to my Nokia 'dumbphone' while it still worked and
       | after the last of the networks that it used went dark I switched
       | to the N800, it's not perfect (technically a smartphone, it runs
       | KaiOS), but it still has buttons and I refuse to go online with
       | it (you can't do much on that silly screen anyway). In a pinch it
       | will serve as a mobile hotspot.
        
       | sarang23592 wrote:
       | This article was describing more and more about myself. In
       | between the article I drifted off to another site without even
       | realising. I am going to do my digital detox right away...after I
       | browse through my youtube feed. I need help :(
        
       | jmfldn wrote:
       | I use focus mode on my Android phone all the time. Only have
       | phone, messages (not whats app) and a few things I need for work.
       | Basically turns it into a dumb phone. I do deactivate it
       | sometimes and sneak a peak at a website but it seems (amongst my
       | friend and colleagues at least) that noone is using these
       | features nearly enough.
        
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       | djvdq wrote:
       | Oh, it's what I started to think about today. That I use my phone
       | way too much and I have to fight it. Unfortunately, fight it
       | again, because a few months ago I tried, it worked for a few
       | weeks and then was back again even bigger :(
       | 
       | I want to read some book and play some computer games. Neither is
       | working for me because of some "problems"(?). In case of books I
       | was aware that the phone is the problem. But in case of games I
       | was pretty sure that I'm just "too old". But more and more I
       | think about it, the phone is again the cause of this.
        
         | k__ wrote:
         | I'm trying to recalibrate my dopamine receptors for a few weeks
         | to no avail.
         | 
         | Maybe, it's not the right month. Too hot to do anything
         | remotely complex.
        
           | the_only_human wrote:
           | it took your mind 2 million years to develop those receptors.
           | good luck
        
         | dumpsterlid wrote:
         | I also think that we use our phones as a way of coping with how
         | shitty our quality of life is in the modern world. Many people,
         | including myself, are so stressed and exhausted from modern
         | life that I think being able to zone out on my phone is a gift
         | in some ways.
         | 
         | Yes phones are designed to be addictive in a negative way, but
         | I think we should also recognize they are a safety blanket we
         | can take anywhere with us that costs almost nothing to use as
         | much as we need. We should partially put the blame on the
         | society around us that makes us need thar safety blanket so
         | badly.
        
         | hackernewds wrote:
         | You could try to establish Systems (instead of pure
         | motivation).
         | 
         | * Disable unnecessary notifications * Get an app like Daywise
         | to batch notifications that are necessary but not timely. * Use
         | Digital Well-being on Android or Action dash to set timer on
         | your apps (owned by a marketing company though) * Track streaks
         | of days where your usage is < x hours using a Habit tracker
         | such as Habits
        
       | helloworld11 wrote:
       | One thing I do that makes my cell phone work well for exactly the
       | opposite isto install en ebook reader app in it and use it to
       | read more books than I previously did, on the go, whenever I have
       | spare time. Some people can't handle this with their eyes,
       | granted, but in my case it's never been a problem so far.
       | 
       | Also, I don't have any chat apps in my phone except whatsapp.
       | Definitely no facebook app and even instagram, though present, is
       | completely silenced. I also silence all notifications in general
       | except phone calls.
       | 
       | All together, these things have helped keep the phone handy
       | without it turning my brain to mush.
        
       | g9yuayon wrote:
       | I forgot who, but someone influential said more than 10 years ago
       | that browsing internet is like having intellectual squirt, which
       | keeps us wanting more. I guess a phone with
       | Instagram/TikTok/Twitter just make it worse. My counter
       | measurement is surrounding myself with all kinds of books and
       | articles and courses. Whenever I have the urge to go to Twitter,
       | for instance, I'd ask myself why. Usually being aware of the urge
       | is enough for me to stop the urge. Otherwise, I'd pick a reading
       | at the moment. If I really worry that I may spend too much time
       | reading instead of going back to work, I'd take a Duolingo class,
       | which takes no more than 5 minutes.
        
       | codemonkey-zeta wrote:
       | The author must have gone to P-town in the winter. I imagine
       | going there in the summer to regain focus wouldn't pan out so
       | well...
        
       | agumonkey wrote:
       | Not to go against, it's not smartphones, it's free high speed
       | internet ..
       | 
       | I have the same issue at home with a laptop. compulsive F5,
       | serial alt-tabber ... nature wasn't ready for this amount of thin
       | stimuli and shallow emotional hooks.
        
       | spookybones wrote:
       | I agree with most of the points in this article and try to
       | practice them, but I wish the author would have waited before
       | offering his take. There are too many bloggers who read a self-
       | help book or two, get really energized, and then, before testing
       | the long-term results, suggest their readers to follow suit.
       | Often, a few entries later, the blogger will then modify their
       | take, which gives them more content for the blog, but seems like
       | a waste of the reader's time.
        
       | frereubu wrote:
       | There are some valid insights in this piece, but just a note of
       | caution about the book by Johann Hari that he cites a lot. This
       | Twitter thread unpicks a lot of issues with that book:
       | https://twitter.com/DrMatthewSweet/status/147912591089697587...
        
         | user_7832 wrote:
         | Thank you for that Twitter thread. Unfortunately quite a lot of
         | books end up with criticisms that feel like it undermines a lot
         | - Gun, germs and steel and Why we sleep both come to mind as
         | having inaccurate or misleading information.
        
           | frereubu wrote:
           | Yes, Why We Sleep seems to have been particularly egregious.
        
       | walrus01 wrote:
       | The best thing you can do is FULLY TURN OFF notifications from
       | any social media app (twitter, facebook, instagram, etc).
       | 
       | Anything that would result in a requirement to swipe down from
       | the top of the screen on android and look at a notification/popup
       | and either slide it away to dismiss it or click on it.
       | 
       | It's easy to do in android or ios.
       | 
       | You should only see content when you specifically choose to open
       | the app.
       | 
       | This is by no means a complete solution but goes a long way to
       | reducing the compulsion to check things every 5 minutes.
        
         | hackmiester wrote:
         | It improves battery life too.
        
         | gnicholas wrote:
         | Or uninstall the apps and use a browser instead.
        
       | kristianc wrote:
       | Although the attention span myth is one of those things that is
       | taken to be almost idiomatic, there's actually very little
       | empirical evidence for it.
       | 
       | There's no such thing as an 'average' attention span, and even
       | for those individual tasks it would be very much context
       | dependent (where I'm sitting, what I'm doing at the time, my
       | general opinion of the author, the mood I'm in).
       | 
       | It's a nice story, and it will invariably generate a nice stream
       | of anecdata in a comments section like this, but there's very
       | little evidence for it at all.
        
         | MrYellowP wrote:
         | There's no such thing as an average. Dividing sums isn't real.
         | 
         | We can't even measure what attracts the attention of people. We
         | can't track their eyes. We haven't been improving our
         | techniques for catching someones attention and focus for the
         | last decades+. We don't try to keep people hooked to our
         | websites by making sure they stay engaged. FarmVille is a only
         | a myth, too. "Endless scrolling" doesn't actually exist either.
         | 
         | Chatbots on websites, which try to engage you in a conversation
         | within seconds of inactivity, don't actually do so to keep your
         | attention on the site.
         | 
         | Man ...
         | 
         | If all your understanding is based solely on data other people
         | have gathered, then you not only are completely unaware of all
         | the potential data that _hasn 't been gathered yet_, you also
         | have only very little understanding of pretty much anything out
         | there.
        
         | dumpsterlid wrote:
         | This is an extremely crucial point. Though I do think social
         | media apps are designed to be addictive in a negative way, the
         | narrative that they are destroying our attention spans has
         | absolutely no backing in science and yet it is taken almost as
         | common sense.
        
           | jmt_ wrote:
           | Totally agree with both of you. I don't see this issue in
           | terms of "attention span" per se, rather we now have an ever-
           | present device that most often contains software engineered
           | to grab as much of our attention as it possibly can. I can't
           | think of anything similar past generations had that was close
           | to this in terms of magnitude and accessibility. We all know
           | the rat in a box will tap the dopamine button as many times
           | as it can and now, unprecedentedly, we carry that button in
           | our pocket every day.
        
       | darkerside wrote:
       | I will say that perhaps the reason the author couldn't get into
       | those authors is not that they lost the ability to read longer
       | material, but that they have somehow matured or evolved to a
       | point where a certain type of book that used to be entertaining
       | just isn't anymore. And that's ok. At some point, you've tapped a
       | book, TV series, or other similar content for all you're going to
       | get. It starts to get formulaic, and it's fine to move on.
        
       | sys_64738 wrote:
       | Power your phone off and don't install any garbage apps. Don't do
       | social media on your mobile phone either. This is really just
       | about will power.
        
       | codemonkey-zeta wrote:
       | > When I pulled up at a stoplight waiting for the light to
       | change, I would instinctively reached for my phone (mounted on my
       | dash) to check my email (personal + work), check ESPN, look up
       | something on Amazon, etc. While pumping gas in the car, I'd whip
       | out my phone while waiting. Stuck in line somewhere? Time for my
       | phone. Waiting in an elevator? The phone. Riding the train? The
       | phone. Going to the bathroom? Make sure to bring the phone!
       | Eating breakfast? The phone. Any spare or idle moment? The phone
       | 
       | This describes every single person I know under the age of 25,
       | and I'm in that demographic. It must be the single greatest
       | public health experiment of all time.
       | 
       | The crazy part is, not one single person I know thinks of it as a
       | bad thing. They just seem to accept it as part of life, which
       | makes me feel so alienated whenever interacting with them, since
       | I am hardly ever using my phone (the computer on the other
       | hand...)
        
         | iratewizard wrote:
         | For anyone struggling, turning the screen to black and white
         | helps. Less dopamine per hit makes it easier to break those
         | habits.
        
           | wcchandler wrote:
           | I never thought to do this and already enabled it per your
           | comment. Let's see how it goes the rest of the weekend.
        
             | Mezzie wrote:
             | I genuinely prefer greyscale displays. If I weren't
             | visually impaired and/or so much UX didn't rely on color,
             | I'd turn it off permanently except for art creation.
        
         | steve_adams_86 wrote:
         | Actually?
         | 
         | If I was in this state I would be scared for myself. Maybe I
         | wouldn't need to be, but it seems seriously concerning.
         | 
         | I think I'm bad with my phone, but I'm nowhere near that level.
         | I can still leave it at home without anxiety or choose a book
         | over Instagram, so to speak.
         | 
         | In some naive way I almost hoped younger people would see the
         | problem with phones and navigate their way around it. I felt
         | almost blindsided by how addictive they are, having acquired my
         | first smart phone around age 25. Perhaps the reality is that
         | we're all weak to the phones and being steeped in it for a
         | lifetime is a curse more than a blessing.
        
         | unethical_ban wrote:
         | >The crazy part is, not one single person I know thinks of it
         | as a bad thing
         | 
         | I bet they don't think of it at all. It's addiction. It's a
         | habit that sneaks up on you.
         | 
         | I'm not attacking you, but have you mentioned it to them as a
         | bad thing, or challenged them to not do that?
         | 
         | I say this as a 30-something that does the same, but today
         | installed minimalist.phone to work on the struggle.
        
         | dudul wrote:
         | I remember the elevator thing hitting me pretty hard back
         | around 2010/2011 when I had a job on the 9th floor of an office
         | building. I realized that almost every single person stepping
         | into the elevator would immediately pull out their phone and
         | start playing with it. Even for a 3 floor ride that would take
         | literally 5 seconds. They genuinely couldn't bare to not be
         | entertained for 5 seconds.
         | 
         | I assume things are even worse nowadays.
        
           | Gigachad wrote:
           | I pull out my phone even though I know there is no signal and
           | that nothing will load. It's more to avoid interaction with
           | anyone else than entertainment.
        
         | oifjsidjf wrote:
         | I never developed phone addiction in this way because I always
         | had mobile data disabled.
         | 
         | I only enable mobile data when I need to sync calendars.
         | 
         | That being said: on PC and too often check hacker news and
         | similar sites: I'm trying out Krishnamurti's "observation":
         | 
         | Can you catch yourself the VERY MOMENT you wish to go to some
         | website (NOT after you already did: but when you wish to go:
         | what kind of pressure/frustration is building up in you?
        
           | codemonkey-zeta wrote:
           | This is exactly the same reason I didn't develop an
           | addiction. Being forced to be disciplined about data seems to
           | have had a knock-on effect of lowering my dependence on the
           | phone in general.
        
           | codemonkey-zeta wrote:
           | Will definitely check out "observation", sound interesting!
           | 
           | I feel like the next step after recognizing and
           | slowing/stopping the problem is with filling that void with
           | meaningful work. For this I recommend "Deep Work" by Cal
           | Newport. I felt like that book gave me the tools I needed to
           | not just stop the bad habit, but replace it with constructive
           | ones
        
       | tester756 wrote:
       | When I was writing my thesis I told myself to get separate room &
       | computer without all those distractions like discord, hn blocked,
       | etc.
       | 
       | so I can perform context switch easier
       | 
       | 95% of the work was coding and it actually helped me to sit for
       | 1-3 hours per two weeks and do solid step ahead
       | 
       | Unfortunely now I do not have such privilege to have separate
       | room to learn :(
       | 
       | I believe environment may make things way easier.
       | 
       | Also I feel like I'm music addicted, very often the very first
       | thing that I do on my PC is start playing some music. I do wonder
       | how it affects e.g learning, focusing and similar.
       | 
       | I did notice that in competitive video games I play worse when
       | listening do music, and when it's "spiky music" e.g some
       | Disturbed's song, then I play riskier.
       | 
       | ___________
       | 
       | I do wonder whether there is some "distraction meter" for
       | workplace - e.g 3 meetings a day (all of them with 2h gaps) +
       | scrum + 5 emails that require at least 5 minutes of attention =
       | not much can be done
        
       | xerox13ster wrote:
       | I did a digital detox in July of 2020, I had become overwhelmed
       | with Discord and Reddit moderation and trying to Keep Up. I
       | burned out hard. I turned off all electronics for a month and
       | uninstalled the apps and restricted my phone use to calls and
       | responding to 3 close friend's texts at a set time each day--I
       | didn't keep it on me at all. No video games, no TV, no watch or
       | music streaming. I had my library of local music loaded to my
       | trusty Zune and used that exclusively for music as the only
       | device I carried with me.
       | 
       | I read through the entirety of the Percy Jackson books and the
       | Heroes sequels, the Mortal Instruments, the Seven Realms Novels,
       | and the complete unabridged HHGTG. All it took to get my book-a-
       | day self back was bringing myself back to my teen years when I
       | wasn't allowed on the computer with access to the internet and my
       | texts cost .3 minutes to read or send and I only got 100/mo. I
       | was averaging roughly 350 pages per day.
       | 
       | When I wasn't reading I was drawing or writing or outside being
       | active when it was cool enough which improved my mental health
       | even in spite of my heat based SAD.
       | 
       | At the end of the month I had the attention span when I got back
       | online to attend to a cross country move and secure a job and an
       | apartment by the end of August. I had been intending to move for
       | the 3 years prior.
       | 
       | I wonder how I could go about taking advantage of the burst of
       | creativity and focus while still being online enough to develop
       | some of the software ideas I have that I never follow through on
       | without getting overstimulated and distracted.
        
         | Rebelgecko wrote:
         | How much did the benefits continue past the end of your detox?
        
           | npteljes wrote:
           | I've heard that reading from a novel daily, with a large
           | continuous story, increases empathy. This effect is said to
           | last for 5 days after the last reading session. Unfortunately
           | I can't find the source, but I think that this is a helpful
           | data point. With the moral of the story being that it's
           | something to continuously keep up, to have the benefit.
        
         | hackernewds wrote:
         | Amazing story and anecdata. It seems almost impossible to
         | attain this today since real-life events require being online -
         | Airbnb requiring Facebook login, needing WhatsApp, Instagram
         | DM, messenger to keep in touch. And Facebook for real-life
         | events. Of course have to use instant msging now through Slack
         | (email used to set the right expectations)
        
           | nequo wrote:
           | > Airbnb requiring Facebook login
           | 
           | Hard to eliminate smartphones in day to day life but no need
           | for Facebook to use Airbnb. You can sign up with your email
           | address
        
         | winternett wrote:
         | Now that app makers have realized we're muting our phones and
         | disabling app notifications, they're doing them within the
         | apps... It creates dependency and anxiety. The best way I've
         | found to deal with the constant prodding is to simply leave my
         | phone at home or in the car nearby whenever I want to enjoy a
         | day or moment. It's a device I paid for, it shouldn't cause me
         | stress.
         | 
         | Google and Apple can easily set up reasonable standards for app
         | makers, but they chose not to, because they themselves are tied
         | to the constant financial greed of the ecosystem. There is now
         | no way to buy a highly useful device that isn't laden with
         | advertising capabilities, and robust enough for you to disable
         | tracking... The only way to limit all of that is to simply
         | leave the devices and step away from them for sanity.
         | 
         | Talking to real people creates more dopamine for me than the
         | Internet does now, it's a gift... We shouldn't ever take our
         | ability to talk in real life with people for granted, because
         | the Internet is turning fast into a distorted reality bent on
         | spamming us for profit and scams now more than ever, and no one
         | there cares about the damage they do until it shows up in their
         | own households (far too late to fix the problems they caused).
        
           | rapind wrote:
           | I recently find that anything on my phone or computer that
           | tries to grab my attention, whether it's in an app or on a
           | website, produces immediate annoyance from me. Even some
           | genuinely helpful (but unnecessary) notifications. Popups,
           | badges, dings, etc.
           | 
           | I hear about how "people" get a dopamine hit from the dings
           | or whatever, and meanwhile I'm basically the opposite.
        
         | rubicon33 wrote:
         | I know of someone who has undergone a similar detox. From what
         | I've heard it's been somewhat life changing (in a positive
         | way). I don't necessarily think it's lead to more _material_
         | success, but they seem happier and more positive generally.
         | 
         | I'm trying to do a light version of this. I'm not sure I can
         | ever completely give up the internet and video games. They're a
         | big source of enjoyment for me. How much of that enjoyment is
         | rotting away at my ability to focus and do great work for long
         | periods of time? I'm not sure... but I'm also not sure I'd want
         | to give up the things that I really enjoy, just to work more?
         | 
         | I'm trying to just find a balance in life. I don't necessarily
         | need to be producing code 24/7. I just want to enjoy myself the
         | times when I am working, and feel positive at the end of the
         | day that I wasn't ultra distracted and fragmented.
         | 
         | Regarding reading ...
         | 
         | I have been reading a lot more lately, but I'm not sure I could
         | ever reach 350 pages a day. I just get bored after a while. I'm
         | sure that's directly related to a life of internet + gaming,
         | but, I have a super hard time believing I will EVER find books
         | as interesting or engaging as the internet and video games.
         | That cat is out of the bag. So I can give about an hour or two
         | a day to a book, but then I'm pretty much disinterested and
         | find myself "reading" but not actually paying attention.
        
       | csydas wrote:
       | Articles like this are interesting for me because I have trouble
       | relating to "feed addiction" and the attention issues often
       | associated with social media. I understand how it gets the way it
       | is and I can imagine how it must feel, but I just haven't really
       | experienced it, and I don't think that it's quite the drug it's
       | made out to be.
       | 
       | My work makes me eager to throw my phone/laptop away as soon as
       | possible; I'm definitely a workaholic and rather dangerously at
       | that, so maybe I'm getting the same result via a different means;
       | but there is almost always a point at the day when I just need to
       | zone out on a dumb show I've watched a ton of times or just take
       | a run with a bit of music or a nice walk and zone out on some
       | music or even just the sounds of the city for awhile.
       | 
       | My work more or less has roped me into social media to some
       | degree for some part of the day, and I really don't like social
       | media at all; I don't dismiss it, it's just not the way I like
       | communicating and because I deal with a lot of awful customers
       | via social media (often fruitlessly) I have a very dour
       | understanding of it as the same communication mechanisms that the
       | awful customers implement are what I see elsewhere. When I do see
       | non-negative/complaining content on social media, it's just not
       | that interesting, and I'm more relieved that it's not some non-
       | sense I have to deal with than I am interested in what someone
       | has to say.
       | 
       | For me, modern social media even makes it easy for me not to get
       | into it. Instagram floods sponsored objects when I just want to
       | go and like my friend's pictures/stories. Reddit kills itself for
       | me with its comment/voting system and the efforts to make it
       | readable in a way I like just isn't worth it for the content I
       | find. Twitter is the best at keeping me out of social media as it
       | actively does its best to ensure I can't read Twitter content
       | without signing up and giving a bunch of information I don't want
       | to give, so I don't even have a chance to get hooked on something
       | before the login modal hides the content. The less said about
       | Youtube and its social media aspect, the better but it's
       | absolutely unintelligible; even trying to follow older
       | conversations (less than a month) is impossible sometimes as
       | there are so many orphaned responses that you can't follow the
       | context of a given answer as it was deleted or hidden somewhere
       | else or someone changed their username(? I'm not sure if this is
       | a thing but it's one of the only other ways I can understand what
       | I see).
       | 
       | I can at least respect TikTok in that you can access everything
       | without an account or even an app, and more or less it's the same
       | experience, but there is so much repeat content that it's just
       | not interesting.
       | 
       | When I want to check something nowadays, I just check it. If I
       | want to go for a walk and just think for awhile, the most
       | distracting thing is just that I'm processing too many
       | projects/problems from the week, and I need to physically move a
       | bit to calm down a bit. Cooking, running, reading articles,
       | taking a crack at some code project, it's calming because it's
       | easy to focus on, and the only challenge I have is just
       | exhaustion most of the time.
        
       | drewcoo wrote:
       | Tom Johnson appears to be the poster child for ADHD.
       | 
       | He's been so busy noticing everything else that he didn't bother
       | to pay attention to the hugely disruptive distraction everyone's
       | been talking about for over a decade now.
       | 
       | And then he blames his inability to focus on some externality
       | instead of realizing it's his condition.
        
         | unethical_ban wrote:
         | >He's been so busy noticing everything else that he didn't
         | bother to pay attention to the hugely disruptive distraction
         | everyone's been talking about for over a decade now.
         | 
         | What?
        
       | aliswe wrote:
       | ironically my attention span didn't let me finish the article.
        
       | kiernanmcgowan wrote:
       | One thing that I have done to help keep focus is to turn off as
       | many notifications as possible and put my phone out of sight when
       | I need to focus on something. The goal is to claim agency around
       | where I put my energy. Conversely, if I'm bored and have a few
       | minutes to kill I don't beat myself up about scrolling twitter.
       | 
       | You can control what takes your attention, but at the same time
       | everything is _designed_ to take your attention. Ad blockers are
       | an example of this sort of exercise - you can limit what tries to
       | take your attention, but it requires action.
        
       | jb1991 wrote:
       | Anyone here try switching to a flip phone?
        
       | hettygreen wrote:
       | TL;DR. Can someone summarize this for me?
        
         | karmakaze wrote:
         | I did find it ironic that this is a long form essay that would
         | be of most value to those with limited attention spans.
         | 
         | I agree with the content, though I've never had a problem with
         | mobile devices as they're for zombie content scrolling rather
         | than creating that takes a normal OS and program distribution.
         | i.e. I can forget my phone somewhere all day no problem--not
         | sure I'd easily make it through a day without my primary (or
         | secondary) personal laptop.
        
       | unethical_ban wrote:
       | This piece was written as if it had lived a year in my mind.
       | 
       | Every time I take a vacation, I spend much less time plugged into
       | the world. Each time, I come back refreshed and more in touch
       | with myself.
       | 
       | The phone and our collective reliance on them is not healthy. It
       | will take some collective effort for me, and some of my friends,
       | to try to plan events more regularly, in order that I am not
       | feeling the need to have my phone with me so much.
       | 
       | I'm also going to make a few more MP3 discs for my car, which
       | thankfully has a CD player (2014 model).
       | 
       | I can't emphasize enough how important it was for me to read this
       | article. At least I know I'm not alone.
        
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       | alexalx666 wrote:
       | Quitting Facebook and Instagram as well as getting Nokia phone
       | from 90s + iPad was the best decision of 2022
        
         | asdfqwertzxcv wrote:
         | which phone did you get? Do you tether the ipad to it when out
         | and about?
        
       | wwilim wrote:
       | Judging by the article I'm not doing terrible at all for someone
       | under 30, despite the fact that I use my phone for continuous
       | glucose monitoring, which means I can't live without it in a
       | nearly literal sense. I can't remember what it was like 3-5 years
       | ago though, it was probably worse, but after reading a few
       | articles about the attention economy I started paying much more
       | attention to what I was doing.
       | 
       | The most terrible thing for me is 2FA, especially at work. If I'm
       | focused on something and I have to open the notifications on my
       | phone in order to complete the demanding task, I'm at high risk
       | of an attention lapse. I wish there was a 2FA app that functioned
       | entirely within the lock screen or even the Always-On Display.
        
         | tempasdf wrote:
         | On Android, you can enable Do Not Disturb, then configure your
         | 2FA app to override Do Not Disturb in the global notification
         | settings. If you're getting text messages instead, you may be
         | able to override on a per-number basis as well.
        
         | schw1804 wrote:
         | I just wish organizations would quit pushing two-factor
         | authentication on people who don't want it. If I have a
         | 30-character passphrase (inspired by "correct horse battery
         | staple") that I'll never need to write down, then do I really
         | need additional protection for my accounts? (...yeah, probably
         | I do and I'm just being naive; maybe someone will look over my
         | shoulder in a coffee shop.)
         | 
         | I miss the good old days when there weren't ads between posts
         | on Instagram, and just having a password was enough, and
         | websites forced cookies on you without asking permission, and
         | the YouTube subscription button was yellow. And I'm only 24.
         | I'll make a great crotchety old man someday.
        
           | Beltalowda wrote:
           | At least the 2FA solutions are pretty much all open; it would
           | be much worse: "please install our proprietary app available
           | only for these two proprietary systems".
        
       | luxurytent wrote:
       | Had a coworker who lived life the old way, distinct online and
       | offline modes of operation. His phone was a classic flip phone.
       | During the day, he'd be online working his software engineering
       | job. Outside of that, he may stay on the computer some more, but
       | if he stepped away from the office, there was no other device in
       | his home to that'd allow him back online.
       | 
       | We discussed it a few times, and my belief is that small amount
       | of friction, entering a particular room to go online, was enough
       | to help him get more intentional about how he spends his days.
       | 
       | Needless to say, the man had a lot of interesting hobbies and was
       | well read.
        
         | milosmns wrote:
         | Similar here. Mine was also very socially challenged, so to
         | speak.
        
       | mawise wrote:
       | Another relevant book in this space is How To Break Up With Your
       | Phone [1]
       | 
       | [1]:
       | https://openlibrary.org/works/OL21618775W/How_to_Break_up_wi...
        
       | MrYellowP wrote:
       | to the author of this:
       | 
       | Well done!
       | 
       | You still have a lot ahead of you.
       | 
       | Next step: Avoid any and all background noise. Chatter and music.
       | Chatter is _worse_ than music, but music is still bad. In
       | contrast, sounds of nature are absolutely fine. If you don 't
       | like those, then there's something wrong with you.
       | 
       | Assuming you're used to background noise you _will_ hate this,
       | though, but if you can muster up the discipline and get over
       | yourself, you won 't regret the increase in your cognitive
       | abilities, once they push into your awareness.
       | 
       | Most people have no idea of what's there to explore.
       | 
       | You're welcome. :)
        
       | eikenberry wrote:
       | I went through what I'd consider my version of this with RSS blog
       | feeds back in the 00s. It wasn't a problem with notifications
       | distracting me, it was the constant feeling that I wasn't keeping
       | up with the feed (and I wasn't). Took a while to notice the
       | stress it was contributing to my life but eventually it dawned on
       | me and I had to drop the RSS feeds all together to get rid of it
       | (every feed was to important to cut). So I switched to a
       | different medium (reddit + hn) where there wasn't that feeling of
       | a feed to keep up with.
        
       | user_7832 wrote:
       | At the risk of sounding repetitive, this can also be a classic
       | case of ADHD. If you also resonate with the post, ask yourself -
       | do you have issues planning and completing long projects? Time
       | management and procrastination issues? Lacking motivation?
       | (Dis)organization problems? (Bonus: frustrated with yourself/your
       | progress!)
       | 
       | If (like me) you say "damn that's a lot of things I have to a
       | significant degree" then you should
       | 
       | a. read up on executive (dys)function, and
       | 
       | b. Ask your GP/doctor if you may have ADHD*
       | 
       | * - often CPTSD, physical brain trauma etc can also cause similar
       | symptoms, as they can also cause physical changes in the brain
       | similar to ADHD (There's a _lot_ more of nuance and stuff that
       | can be discussed, I 'll try my best if anyone has any questions)
        
         | ellopoppit wrote:
         | Could it be that smartphones and TV can cause ADHD?
         | 
         | Before such electronic media, books were the main media, and
         | inherently required and trained users to concentrate on one
         | thing at a time for extended periods.
         | 
         | TV and smartphones do the exact opposite
        
           | user_7832 wrote:
           | Unfortunately I'm not a doctor or researcher to be able to
           | give a definitive answer, but I don't think these things can
           | _cause_ ADHD - though they can likely worsen symptoms, for
           | both people who have it and those who don 't. But I suspect
           | such an effect would be reversible, unlike (genetic
           | components of) ADHD.
        
         | graeme wrote:
         | How would you distinguish between ADHD vs modern
         | distractability?
         | 
         | Especially if someone showed no ADHD symptoms before
         | smartphones
         | 
         | Everyone has some distractability so curious about threshold
        
           | user_7832 wrote:
           | To add on to the other answer, for folks with ADHD symptoms
           | it was likely there before smartphones too - you/they just
           | didn't realize it (like I didn't myself). A doctor however is
           | far more capable of this judgement.
           | 
           | Another simple test - after a week long (say) tech detox, do
           | they (permanently) improve, or are the benefits very little
           | (tending to perhaps even being distracted during that week)?
        
           | kqr wrote:
           | When it makes you effectively mentally handicapped (you
           | literally need environmental adjustments in order to
           | function) in at least two areas of life (work, relationships,
           | household), it's clinical.
        
       | thenerdhead wrote:
       | I had a similar awakening moment about 5 years ago. Felt like I
       | wasted my 20s on consuming content and only playing video games
       | outside of work.
       | 
       | I had a similar journey. I'm even writing a book on it.
       | 
       | I have found that the one thing that has helped bring
       | enlightenment to this problem is reading books and thinking each
       | day on how to apply them or just simply observing those around me
       | instead of being glued on a device.
       | 
       | I'm a bit further in that journey than the author and there are
       | some great premises out there about the damage tech and our
       | fragmented attention causes to our lives.
       | 
       | There are even great titles mentioned in this blog bringing
       | awareness to them, but some of the more old and interesting
       | perspectives are those of Thoreau(Walden) and Emerson(Self-
       | Reliance).
       | 
       | While there's a number of titles talking about internet or tech
       | addiction, all we're doing is pointing out a problem rather than
       | taking actual steps to improve our character to rid ourselves of
       | these things to begin with. This problem is only going to get
       | harder for the individual, and it's up to each one of us to
       | battle our own battles. No amount of reform will solve it for us.
        
         | TechBro8615 wrote:
         | > outside of work
         | 
         | Why did you feel this pressure to meet some self-defined
         | obligation outside of work? Were you missing something in the
         | work itself that you felt you had to recover in the time
         | outside of it?
         | 
         | In my experience, if I feel the value of my work output itself
         | is meaningful, then I don't need to worry about what I'm doing
         | outside of it. If you start a business or work for yourself,
         | then your career goals "at work" and "outside of work" are
         | equivalent, thus freeing that time "outside of work" for you to
         | make progress toward non-career goals (or to simply relax and
         | recover).
         | 
         | I've always found discussion of side-project optimization to be
         | silly, because it's missing the forest for the trees. The
         | optimization is to take the risk and work on it full time.
         | 
         | If you want to maximize the meaningful activities you do in
         | your life, then it makes sense to start with the category of
         | activity you spend the highest percentage of time performing.
        
         | TheFreim wrote:
         | > observing those around me
         | 
         | Most days within the last few weeks I've been leaving my phone
         | at home. Not having one on me makes me actually look around at
         | my surroundings more. It takes a bit of getting used to but
         | after a while it no longer feels bad during downtime, just
         | normal.
        
         | nonrandomstring wrote:
         | > I had a similar journey. I'm even writing a book on it.
         | 
         | I'd be interested to hear more. Do ping me if you have time.
         | 
         | > While there's a number of titles talking about internet or
         | tech addiction, all we're doing is pointing out a problem
         | rather than taking actual steps to improve our character to rid
         | ourselves of these things to begin with. This problem is only
         | going to get harder for the individual, and it's up to each one
         | of us to battle our own battles. No amount of reform will solve
         | it for us.
         | 
         | You might be interested to read Digital Vegan [1]. The food
         | metaphor goes quite a long way. I really see it as a public
         | health issue.
         | 
         | [1] https://digitalvegan.net (can send you a review copy of you
         | like)
        
       | Waterluvian wrote:
       | I'm developing a personal opinion that being on a phone all the
       | time is like being high all the time.
       | 
       | Eventually you look back and see thousands of hours you could
       | have spent building something or learning an instrument or
       | whatnot.
       | 
       | Instead you just kinda pissed it away on gossip and getting
       | anxious about events you have no control of.
       | 
       | My most productive time on this phone is when I'm learning new
       | stuff here on HN. But even that can probably be curbed a lot.
       | 
       | I'm thinking about how I break this cycle. One main issue is that
       | I want to create using a laptop. But I have young kids who
       | rightfully demand my attention often. That's why social media
       | fills the thousand little gaps so well.
       | 
       | I'm thinking I need to learn how to write code in short segments
       | of as little as 15 minutes. At work I need to build up context
       | and state in my mind. But I can't do that in such short bursts.
       | So I need to learn how to do "stateless programming" per se.
       | 
       | This leads me to wondering: if I had the memory of a goldfish,
       | how would I go about writing an application? Some way to spend 15
       | minutes breaking a big problem into self contained 15 minute
       | tasks. I'm convinced the software architecture will reflect this
       | and as a result I'll discover different paradigms for how to
       | write software.
        
       | swayvil wrote:
       | I think that smartphones merely illuminate a pre-existing
       | problem.
       | 
       | That problem is that people, as a rule, live in a dream-world.
       | The smartphone just provides the most convenient exterior
       | manifester of dreams that we've invented so far.
       | 
       | The cellphone is a dream-amplifier. The natural evolution from
       | books, radio and tv.
       | 
       | But the central problem isn't the phone. It's our habitual-
       | dwelling-in and preference-for the dreamworld. The phone is just
       | the enabler.
        
       | hirundo wrote:
       | I fight this with the pomodoro app on my smartphone. Starting a
       | "tomato" gives my subsconscious the permission it needs to ignore
       | distractions for a small window. I can't say that this completely
       | offsets the distraction, but it does mitigate it.
        
       | remoquete wrote:
       | Worth noting that Tom has since returned to smartphone usage
       | (with some interesting tweaks):
       | https://idratherbewriting.com/blog/returning-to-smartphones/
        
       | themadturk wrote:
       | At this point in my life, digital detox is an alien concept to
       | me, and I say that as a boomer who gets antsy when he's more than
       | ten feet away from his phone. Yet, according to my reading diary,
       | I've started over 30 books this year, finished 22 of them (a
       | couple I'm in the middle of, several I've abandoned already), and
       | I still occasionally check in on Reddit, have a bunch of email
       | newsletters and a number of RSS feeds (including some people I
       | follow on Twitter, meaning I don't have to actually open
       | Twitter).
       | 
       | I've read a lot ever since I was a kid, and a couple of years ago
       | when I felt I wasn't reading books as much as I used to I decided
       | to turn the habit around, with what I consider minimal change in
       | _what_ I followed, instead changing _how_ I followed. More than
       | anything it 's a matter of ruthless curation. I think it helps
       | that I have a Kindle and the Kindle apps on my tablet and phone.
       | I'm literally never without a book.
        
       | digitcatphd wrote:
       | This is precisely why I haven't purchased a smartwatch. These
       | devices decrease our ability to solve problems that require
       | analysis for extended periods of time.
        
         | allenu wrote:
         | I feel the same way. I found it interesting that when
         | smartwatches came out, people were excited about being able to
         | see text messages or other notifications on their wrist.
         | 
         | As someone who felt the need to be on top of things, receiving
         | notifications was slightly stressful as it meant something I'd
         | have to evaluate and make a decision on "right now".
         | (Obviously, feeling like I should react to things immediately
         | was something I had to work on in myself, but the phone didn't
         | help.) Feeling a notification buzz on my phone gave me slight
         | anxiety as I'd immediately react with, "oh, what is this that I
         | might need to take care of?" Putting the phone aside for
         | periods helped, so the idea of not being able to escape it with
         | notifications on my wrist was a little terrifying.
         | 
         | In the last few years, I've set my phone to always Do Not
         | Disturb mode, so it doesn't vibrate or even light up when a
         | notification comes in. I do the same on my Mac. It's helped
         | quite a bit with my stress levels. I just manually check
         | periodically to see if there's a notification instead of always
         | feeling like it could go off any minute.
        
         | graeme wrote:
         | I've found the opposite. The apple watch isn't distracting at
         | all if you turn off notifications
         | 
         | You can do some things quickly without sinking into the
         | infinite scroll of the phone. I.e. you can check your calendar
         | and that's it
        
         | user_7832 wrote:
         | If you are interested, watches like the Amazfit (Bip) or
         | perhaps Garmin are low-ish tech while still giving health
         | information/basic alarms etc.
        
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