[HN Gopher] The original "Bambi"
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       The original "Bambi"
        
       Author : Thevet
       Score  : 166 points
       Date   : 2022-05-04 04:39 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | bradlys wrote:
       | A lot of weird people in here basically arguing for goatse to be
       | shown to children.
       | 
       | There's no good reason to show children traumatic events. A lot
       | of them _do_ internalize it. Just because you didn't doesn't mean
       | others won't. This has little to do with bad parenting or other
       | such things. Some children are just able to take what is in a
       | film and vividly imagine it towards their own life or have too
       | much sympathy.
       | 
       | HN obviously isn't a great place to get advice about how to raise
       | children from people who are known to be chronic over workers and
       | absentee parents...
        
       | fennecfoxen wrote:
       | If we're talking about bleaker topics in older Disney works, I'll
       | ask you to take a moment and consider the entire premise of
       | _Dumbo_ (1939). Why are the other elephants scandalized by the
       | baby elephant with the big ears, asking what Mr. Jumbo would
       | think? Why did they mean, just a few moments earlier when they
       | said elephants are "a proud _race_ "? Why would they shun him,
       | declaring that he is not one of their kind? ... What kind of
       | elephant has big ears?
        
         | WorldMaker wrote:
         | With all of the elements in Dumbo directly from Minstrel Shows
         | (black face, white face/Irish stereotypes) I think it's
         | incredible that Dumbo isn't already in the same "Never to
         | Reopen" Vault with Song of the South.
        
           | fennecfoxen wrote:
           | Oh, and Song of the Roustabouts is something too.
           | 
           | "We work all day, we work all night / we never learn to read
           | or write / we're happy hearted roustabouts!!"
           | 
           | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P75mur1xF7U
           | 
           | But the whole premise of "the mixed race kid gets all the
           | bullying" is a reflection of a pretty bleak society, beyond
           | any of these specific depictions.
        
         | ginko wrote:
         | >What kind of elephant has big ears?
         | 
         | African elephants? But the original Jumbo[1] was also an
         | African elephant.
         | 
         | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jumbo
        
         | chasd00 wrote:
         | The tear jerking properties of the treatment of Dumbo's mother
         | doesn't get enough attention. There really is no greater love
         | than that of a mother for her child.
         | 
         | / notice I said "greater" leaving space for an equal ie a
         | father's love
        
           | nemo44x wrote:
           | > There really is no greater love than that of a mother for
           | her child.
           | 
           | You don't really know the intensity and unconditionality of
           | the love your own mother has/had for you until you have kids
           | yourself and see how your wife loves your child. I always
           | appreciated my mother, but I was only able to fully
           | appreciate her after I had kids myself.
        
             | mberning wrote:
             | Totally agree. I go pretty far out of my way to make sure
             | my mom gets plenty of time with her grandson, which she
             | loves.
             | 
             | It also burns my ass to hear my wife say "I couldn't have
             | imagined how much I would like being a mom". Society and
             | culture is so screwed up around children and raising a
             | family.
        
               | ehejdud wrote:
               | burns my ass is quite an image
        
       | wara23arish wrote:
       | One folklore story we grew up with as kids was as simple as,
       | 
       | you misbehave -> some stranger called "Bag man" will come take
       | you in a big bag
       | 
       | I don't remember ever being actually scared of it but remember it
       | since ever my memory had formed.
        
         | brewdad wrote:
         | Did you grow up in the Mob?
        
       | sandGorgon wrote:
       | has anyone ever seen Saturday Night Live's take on Bambi ? With
       | "The Rock" ?
       | 
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFJz2IMUeDE
        
       | TheRealNGenius wrote:
       | yawn. too long and no pictures. it's no wonder no one here
       | actually read it.
        
       | greggman3 wrote:
       | It actually upsets me there aren't more harsh stories for kids.
       | 
       | I'm a huge One Piece fan (on of Japan's most popular manga and
       | anime for the last 22 years). In the first season, one of the
       | main characters has her adopted mother murdered right in front of
       | her when she's like 7 years old.
       | 
       | And, if that's not bad enough, her town is taken over by thugs,
       | she spends the next 10 years working on a plan to get rid of the
       | thugs while basically being a slave to them. Only to have them
       | discover and ruin her plan making all the sacrifies she made
       | those 10 years in vain.
       | 
       | The show at a basic level is kind of silly and definitely for
       | kids at some level but these heart wrenching moments are what
       | made the show.
       | 
       | Unfortunately, 2-3 seasons later they started pulling their
       | punches. Characters would sacrifice themselves (so heart strings
       | tugged) and then a few episodes later they'd show up with a few
       | bandages recovering.
       | 
       | Fortunately there's still been a few major un-pulled gut punches
       | later in the series.
        
       | westcort wrote:
       | My key takeaways:
       | 
       | 1. This year, "Bambi: A Life in the Woods" has entered the public
       | domain, and the Chambers version has been joined by a new one:
       | "The Original Bambi: The Story of a Life in the Forest"
       | (Princeton), translated by Jack Zipes, with wonderful black-and-
       | white illustrations by Alenka Sottler
       | 
       | 2. Stephen King called "Bambi" the first horror movie he ever
       | saw, and Pauline Kael, the longtime film critic for this
       | magazine, claimed that she had ever known children to be as
       | frightened by supposedly scary grownup movies as they were by
       | "Bambi."
       | 
       | 3. The film in question is, of course, the 1942 Walt Disney
       | classic "Bambi." Perhaps more than any other movie made for
       | children, it is remembered chiefly for its moments of terror: not
       | only the killing of the hero's mother but the forest fire that
       | threatens all the main characters with annihilation
       | 
       | 4. With the old Prince's prompting, Bambi concludes from this
       | experience not that we humans are a danger even unto one another
       | but, rather, that other animals are foolish for imagining that we
       | are gods merely because we are powerful
       | 
       | 5. It was adapted from "Bambi: A Life in the Woods," a 1922 novel
       | by the Austro-Hungarian writer and critic Felix Salten
       | 
       | 6. What makes it such a startling source for a beloved children's
       | classic is ultimately not its violence or its sadness but its
       | bleakness
       | 
       | 7. The implicit moral is not so much that killing animals is
       | wicked as that people are wicked and wild animals are innocent
       | 
       | 8. Salten insisted that he wrote "Bambi" to educate naive readers
       | about nature as it really is: a place where life is always
       | contingent on death, where starvation, competition, and predation
       | are the norm
       | 
       | 9. What purpose are scenes like that one serving in this book?
       | Salten maintained that, despite his own affinity for hunting, he
       | was trying to dissuade others from killing animals except when it
       | was necessary for the health of a species or an ecosystem
       | 
       | 10. What are we to make of this muddy, many-minded story? Zipes,
       | in his introduction, blames some of the confusion on Chambers,
       | contending that he mistranslated Salten, flattening both the
       | political and the metaphysical dimensions of the work and paving
       | the way for Disney to turn it into a children's story
       | 
       | Other works of Felix Salten:
       | https://www.locserendipity.com/TitleSearch.html?q=Salten
        
       | tunesmith wrote:
       | I grew up with this book. I absolutely loved it, and spent
       | several years not thinking about it, until I remembered the
       | chapter of the two leaves, which was my favorite chapter. I dug
       | it up again and read it aloud to my wife. Just a wonderful book.
       | I didn't really come away with half the interpretations that the
       | author of this piece had, but that's okay. I didn't see it as an
       | allegory for anything. I just loved how unromantic and poetic it
       | was at the same time. I could analyze the book any which way, but
       | the overall feeling it left me with is cohesive, strong, and
       | original.
       | 
       | As for this piece, I wish he had gone more into the difference
       | between the translations. That's how the piece started, and it
       | ended with him simply saying the Chambers translation (the pre-
       | existing one) is better. Didn't even include a comparison
       | example.
        
       | chasd00 wrote:
       | To me Bambi's mom being killed is much milder than the death of
       | Mufasa in The Lion King. In The Lion King you see the violence
       | first hand and then the betrayal of a family member leading to a
       | child's self inflicted exile.
        
         | washadjeffmad wrote:
         | I resonated with the fear and pain of those moments of not
         | knowing after the shot and subsequent feeling of loss in Bambi
         | much more acutely than the dramatized witnessing of the fall in
         | TLK.
         | 
         | The conflict between Scar and Mufasa had a song and jaunty lead
         | up, so the betrayal wasn't much of a surprise. The death of
         | Bambi's mother felt senseless and shocking. What gain could her
         | death have served her killer? Why did she have to die? Who
         | would care for the innocent and vulnerable Bambi?
        
           | mrwh wrote:
           | Exactly! Why did she die? So someone could have a moment of
           | pleasure, someone who then never gave her another thought.
        
       | sbate1987 wrote:
        
       | Johnny555 wrote:
       | As jarring as Bambi was as a child, as an adult, the opening to
       | Pixar's "Up" is far more heart wrenching.
        
         | aidenn0 wrote:
         | A large fraction of Pixar's output includes scenes that prompt
         | a small child to ask "Why are you crying mommy/daddy?"
        
       | boredumb wrote:
       | This is the most insufferable thing I've ever read in my entire
       | life. This reads like chocolate cake with chocolate icing
       | drizzled in chocolate syrup for smug individuals to read from the
       | backseat of a private car service. The amount of faux insights
       | and pop politic buzzwords while ending this with questions of
       | whether bambi is a parable for jewish existence is astonishing
       | and I found myself wondering if this was a parody paper submitted
       | to the New Yorker to trick an editor into publishing it.
        
         | nemo44x wrote:
         | Did you even read it or finish it? It explicitly makes the case
         | it is NOT a parable for Jews, as it is often interpreted, but
         | rather the human condition in general. From the article:
         | 
         | ""Bambi" is not a parable about the plight of the Jews, but
         | Salten sometimes regards the plight of the Jews as a parable
         | about the human condition. The omnipresence and inevitability
         | of danger, the need to act for oneself and seize control of
         | one's fate, the threat posed by intimates and strangers alike:
         | this is Salten's assessment of our existence."
         | 
         | That was the case the author was building up to the entire
         | time. To each their own, but I thought it was an incredibly
         | well written article.
        
         | s1artibartfast wrote:
         | welcome to the newyorker.
        
       | gumby wrote:
       | The same gruesome scene begins the Babar odyssey, though unlike
       | Bambi, it's all on the page.
        
         | earthboundkid wrote:
         | There's a Barbar cartoon (by Nelvana, which is Canadian, so now
         | it's on YouTube because Canadian media companies haven't all
         | been gobbled up yet), so your kids can have the horror of
         | watching young Babar see the hunters attack his family. My 3YO
         | loved it.
        
       | Ralfp wrote:
       | I've grown watching ,,The Animals of Farthing Wood" (1993
       | cartoon).
       | 
       | It has episode showing family of mice struggling to survive and
       | worried about future for their babies. In following episode we
       | get shot of same mice family impaled on needles by birds going to
       | eat them.
       | 
       | https://www.wykop.pl/cdn/c3201142/comment_EkpfJKfyX8WRKQnr7H...
       | 
       | Entire story is told around forest dying out and animals
       | struggling to survive in it. It was once called ,,that animals
       | cartoon that traumatised generations".
        
         | Cthulhu_ wrote:
         | I loved a cartoon growing up as a child, called Alfred J. Kwak
         | [0], a Dutch / Japanese series about a duck and his adventures;
         | I believe a lot of it is on youtube if you want.
         | 
         | The first two episodes are about two anthropomorphised ducks
         | that meet, fall in love, move into a clog and have a spawn of
         | babies, happily ever after until the whole family but Alfred
         | get killed by a car. That was err. a pretty brutal thing for a
         | four year old to see.
         | 
         | The show goes on to depict things like nazis, racism (waterfowl
         | aren't real birds like us!), apartheid, classism, alcoholism,
         | even transgenderism / gender fluidity (the stork Ollie), etc.
         | In hindsight, it was A Lot, and most of it probably escaped me.
         | 
         | [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alfred_J._Kwak
        
           | vanderZwan wrote:
           | > etc.
           | 
           | This "etc." includes the aids epidemic, North/South Korea-
           | like country, and environmental topics like whaling and the
           | seas being overfished, acid rain, the destruction of the
           | Amazon rainforest.
           | 
           | Yeah the show was A Lot and I love it for that.
        
           | micheljansen wrote:
           | Alfred J Kwak was surprisingly adult about a lot of these
           | topics. It didn't beat around the bush at all!
        
           | jeroenhd wrote:
           | Never thought I'd say this, but I really need to rewatch
           | Alfred J. Kwak. I remember it as "that weird duck show from
           | my childhood"...
           | 
           | It doesn't seem to be available on any streaming platforms,
           | though.
        
             | radicalbyte wrote:
             | I've watched pretty much every episode at least 50 times,
             | my wife also watched it as a kid and got our oldest
             | addicted to it.
             | 
             | Fantastic cartoon, impressive how they handled facisme.
             | Guess certain Dutch politicians either didn't see it or did
             | and got inspired by Dolf.
             | 
             | In related news, I've also seen every episode of True and
             | Nijnje (90s, 00s and specials) a similar number of times
             | for kid #2 and kid #3 :)
             | 
             | I grew up in the UK so as a kid I was traumatised by Yellow
             | Submarine, Tottie (dollhouse burns down killing everyone),
             | Watership Down and the aforementioned Animals of Farthing
             | Wood.
        
             | bytehowl wrote:
             | There's a bunch of playlists on YT as mentioned in one of
             | the other posts. Here's the first one that came up for me
             | (AI upscaled, apparently):
             | https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLqSaUrah-
             | p_nqNYjF3iM7...
        
           | munificent wrote:
           | Gotta love the idea of a dude named "Kwak" making a show
           | about ducks. Talk about nominative determinism.
        
             | cristoperb wrote:
             | Kwak is the name of the duck, not of the creator of the
             | show.
        
               | munificent wrote:
               | :(
        
           | 0des wrote:
           | According to Redwall: Raven > Crow > Rook > Magpie, in that
           | order.
        
         | gonzo41 wrote:
         | That's wild, and really heavy. I'm so glad I didn't see that
         | when I was a kid.
        
         | brobdingnagians wrote:
         | I've been split on this. On the one hand it is a bit unpleasant
         | and can be traumatizing, and we tend to shy away from
         | unpleasant things, but on the other hand lots of generations
         | grew up on Grimm's Fairy Tales and Hans Christian Andersen
         | fairy tales and learned a bit about how difficult life can be
         | and the consequences of moral failings or lack of hard work. It
         | is important to prepare children for the fact that life is not
         | all rainbows and unicorns, but still important to protect them
         | from the depravity of the world so that childhood is pleasant
         | and magical with healthy emotional development. I guess there
         | is a right way to do it, and a wrong way to do it, and that's
         | part of the complexity of life/the universe/everything.
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | I don't mind scary stories for children, especially when told
           | by people who know those kids and can easily judge the
           | effect. But, the generations growing up on that and them
           | taking deep moral lessons from it point is overstated.
           | 
           | They were collected or written and then popular collections
           | of folklore in some part of last century. They are not
           | exactly bible, many of those stories don't even have some
           | kind of moral lesson in them.
        
             | bashmelek wrote:
             | This is something I wish was brought up more. It is almost
             | a meme that "the originals were darker," but really the
             | famous tales of the Grimms and Perrault et al are just
             | local snapshots of a living tradition of the common people
             | telling stories. I suppose the focus on the older recorded
             | versions is a reaction against Disney and modified versions
             | of stories marketed to children (e.g. Lang perhaps). And to
             | be clear, I think all these, including Disney, are
             | important culturally and present fine variants of the
             | stories. Still, I don't want us to forget the others.
             | 
             | Digging a little deeper, you find tons of variants of
             | stories, and discover all sorts of new ones, hybrids,
             | seemingly incomplete ones, different levels of
             | embellishment, darker and lighter. And some do have morals,
             | but a lot of them are just things happening. Some motifs
             | just seem to stick. And folk tales were not primarily meant
             | for children either--we tell kids campfire ghost stories
             | all the time, and don't think so much on what they teach.
             | We just like them.
        
           | nicoburns wrote:
           | I feel like part of the problem is the medium. I read a lot
           | of books as a kid. And there were many stories that I had no
           | problem reading, but I really struggled watching on screen,
           | even if I already knew what happened. Lord of the Rings being
           | an example that comes to mind.
        
           | BeFlatXIII wrote:
           | IIRC, many of the most popular fairy tales give happy endings
           | by pure luck and happenstance. Catch a fish with a magic
           | ring, etc.... The ones with moral lessons are too on-the-nose
           | to be enjoyable.
        
             | jeroenhd wrote:
             | The most popular fairy tales also have been modified to be
             | more kid friendly. Nobody saved Little Red Riding Hood.
             | Sleeping Beauty wasn't kissed, she was raped in her sleep
             | and gave birth; it was her child sucking the needle out of
             | her finger that woke her up.
             | 
             | These used to be more than just stories for kids, but
             | modern fairy tales are rarely ever told to an adult
             | audience anymore. For many fairy tales, the happy ending
             | was added centuries after they spread.
        
               | stickfigure wrote:
               | Try looking on youtube for a version of "The Boy Who
               | Cried Wolf" that ends with the boy being properly eaten.
               | They've all been changed to have narrow-escape happy
               | endings, wholly destroying the point of the narrative.
        
               | selimthegrim wrote:
               | One could argue that Abraham and his son was the original
               | narrow escape happy ending
        
               | fennecfoxen wrote:
               | One could argue that in the original, he didn't escape
               | either. "The text bears no specific mark of being a
               | polemic against child sacrifice."
               | 
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Binding_of_Isaac#Possible_c
               | hil...
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | I think the popular mistake is to assume that every story
               | in folklore collection must be for children and we must
               | be able to derive some moral message out of it. This was
               | time before TV and youtube. Adults told each other
               | stories meant for adults and kids might or might not
               | listen.
        
           | sentrysapper wrote:
           | Life will give those hard lessons out for free - why build a
           | curriculum for it?
        
             | pjc50 wrote:
             | The problem with the university of life is it gives the
             | test first and the curriculum afterwards.
        
             | easytiger wrote:
             | > Life will give those hard lessons out for free
             | 
             | Does it?
        
               | simonh wrote:
               | In the world as it was when these stories were first
               | told, yes.
        
               | easytiger wrote:
               | I don't follow. Human history until recently was
               | sustained largely by oral tradition and story telling;
               | superseded by written story telling. What's the problem
               | with telling stories that confer some wisdom or some
               | sense of history or for fun?
               | 
               | Many of these stories are embedded idiomatically in many
               | languages? Let each parent decide at what age they should
               | read Rapunzel, when they are ready.
        
               | simonh wrote:
               | I think I misunderstood the comment. You're quite right,
               | these stories served a valuable function.
        
               | mdp2021 wrote:
               | > _Life will give those hard lessons out for free_
               | 
               | Free of cost for the teacher, not for the student
        
               | bigDinosaur wrote:
               | Eventually. Other commenters have made note that you can
               | coast for decades without encountering any though, so
               | best be somewhat prepared by reading and listening to
               | others.
        
             | PeterisP wrote:
             | Quite on the contrary, life may make you pay a very
             | horrific cost for learning that lesson on your own instead
             | of from the mistakes of others.
        
             | christophilus wrote:
             | That seems to be a key reason for fairy tales and such
             | things-- gentle preparation for life. It's better to be
             | equipped before battle rather than being tossed into the
             | fray wholly unawares.
        
               | watwut wrote:
               | Imo, key reason for fairy tales is that both adults and
               | children want to have fun. I watch movies and read books
               | to have fun. Some of what my kids watch is written with
               | proper moral lessons in it, but plenty of it is pure fun
               | or with anti-lessons.
               | 
               | The people in the past had no youtube and no tv. They
               | still wanted to have some fun.
        
             | lm28469 wrote:
             | Because you can go decades without any kind of serious
             | events in your life, living in a perfect bubble until shit
             | hits the fan. That's when you learn nothing prepared you
             | for that and no one cares or knows how to behave.
             | 
             | That's kind of the main reason we started to write stuff
             | down, to learn things from the past through other's
             | experiences, so that you don't have to feel alone going
             | through every traumatising events as if you were the first
             | human to do so.
             | 
             | We have empathy, better use it than wait for the hardest
             | part of life to "give us a lesson", most of the really hard
             | parts only happen once so you won't learn much, but you'll
             | suffer a lot.
        
               | fellowniusmonk wrote:
               | The hardest part about being involved in a life altering
               | event/catastrophe is that even having the preperation
               | you're often blindsided by someone's or some groups
               | avarice.
               | 
               | My father who was financially devastated by people close
               | to him passed on one insanely strong piece of advice that
               | is superior to any fairy tale and saved me.
               | 
               | 1. Always have a legal agreement at the start
               | even/especially if it's friends and family.
               | 
               | 2. Always have that legal agreement reviewed by your own
               | attorney.
               | 
               | Years later I'm finally getting over the sudden violence
               | and the hostility, but the law made sure their plans to
               | intimidate, force, steal and defraud came to nothing.
        
               | david38 wrote:
               | My father would have done well to follow your father's
               | advice
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | I operate on the assumption that any sort of loan could
               | end up as a "gift". If I'm going to loan friends or
               | family money I ask myself if I'm OK not getting it back.
        
               | chipsa wrote:
               | Don't lend more than you can claw back in small claims
               | court. And have a written agreement. The small claims
               | court size limits the potential downside, and the written
               | agreement is proof of intent enough to stand up in small
               | claims, so long as it's SMART (just like goals: specific,
               | measurable, attainable, realistic, and time bound).
        
           | circlefavshape wrote:
           | > learned a bit about how difficult life can be and the
           | consequences of moral failings or lack of hard work
           | 
           | I don't remember anything about consequences of moral
           | failings in the old fairy tales, just random violence and
           | chaos. In Sleeping Beauty the prince's mother turns out to be
           | an ogre who tries to eat Beauty's children, but luckily the
           | prince returns in time and kills her. Where's the moral
           | lesson there? Don't move in with your mother-in-law?
        
             | kstenerud wrote:
             | The same thing most poor kids learn growing up: Just
             | because someone looks and speaks nicely or is nice to you
             | doesn't tell you anything meaningful about them. And it can
             | be a fatal mistake to not be careful.
             | 
             | The old stories were designed to help prepare children for
             | the hostile world they lived in.
        
             | klik99 wrote:
             | I forget who said it, but one theory I've heard is that
             | kids are naturally afraid of their parents and haven't
             | built the ability to hold opposing views at the same time,
             | so they have trouble reconciling these loving god-like
             | figures they depend on 100% for survival and the total fear
             | they have when the same figures are angry or disappointed
             | in them.
             | 
             | Stories like Sleeping Beauty or ones with monsters allow
             | kids to transfer those feelings of all encompassing fear to
             | these bad guys, until they outgrow it and they're able to
             | handle ambiguity.
             | 
             | That doesn't explain why the stories were originally told,
             | but could explain their stickiness.
        
             | dijit wrote:
             | > Where's the moral lesson there?
             | 
             | The moral of the story is that monsters live deep inside
             | even the people we trust most.
        
             | ineedasername wrote:
             | Well, off the top of my head from Grimm:
             | 
             | --Cinderella: mean deceptive people might get their feat
             | chopped off & eyes pecked out. (In short, Karma. though
             | unfortunately the world doesn't quite work that way, but
             | there's still a bit of "the world can be ugly" too)
             | 
             | --Cat & The Mouse: Never forget that the nature of a
             | predator is predation
             | 
             | --Hansel & Gretel: Don't take candy from strangers. Also,
             | if something looks to good to be true, it probably is. And
             | also that maybe little children are delicious? I mean, the
             | witch had to have her reasons.
             | 
             | --Rumpelstiltskin: Okay, there's some mixed messages here.
             | Lying father, malicious greedy king, deceptive girl...
             | Rumpelstiltskin comes out looking like a hero, saving the
             | girl's life 3 times but then get's cheated out of his last
             | payment & kills himself. But he also wanted her baby. She
             | agreed, but still... anyway no one really comes off
             | smelling of roses but Rumpelstiltskin is the only one dead.
             | 
             | --The Peasant in Heaven: Truly good rich people are very
             | rare
             | 
             | --Snow White: Alright, maybe this one shouldn't on the
             | list. Could be there's a lesson about jealousy in there,
             | and also that maybe you should try the Heimlich maneuver on
             | someone that keels over while eating, but in the end it
             | kind of boils down to some fairly creepy borderline
             | necrophilia.
        
               | anthk wrote:
               | >Hansel & Gretel:
               | 
               | Beware from the child rapists as an analogy. Kinda
               | similar to The Little Red Hood.
        
               | [deleted]
        
         | david38 wrote:
         | That bird is a shrike. Pretty rough for a cartoon.
        
         | vanderZwan wrote:
         | > _It was once called ,,that animals cartoon that traumatised
         | generations"._
         | 
         | Although I can imagine this being quite horrific, I also don't
         | recall that this cartoon was all that upsetting me when I
         | watched it as a child. Then again I grew up in the countryside
         | so maybe it was less shocking to me because I already knew what
         | nature was like. When it comes to animal cartoons I think
         | _Watership Down_ and _The Plague Dogs_ were much worse
         | experiences.
         | 
         | Still, kind of makes me wonder what's up with the UK and
         | depressing animal cartoons.
        
           | mariodiana wrote:
           | I'm traumatized merely from reading the Wikipedia entry!
        
           | pram wrote:
           | The Plague Dogs is so unrelentingly bleak, few films have the
           | spine to just be utterly hopeless. It's like a "children's"
           | version of something like Threads or The Lighthouse lol
        
             | mrob wrote:
             | I recently read an interpretation of the ending that seems
             | plausible and makes it slightly less bleak. Rot13 for
             | spoilers:
             | 
             | Va gur crahygvzngr fprar, lbh frr gur ohyyrgf fgevxr gur
             | jngre, naq gura gur uryvpbcgre snqrf bhg. Guvf pbhyq vzcyl
             | gung gurl uvg gurve gnetrgf naq erghearq gb onfr, juvpu
             | zrnaf gur svany fprar vf fbzr xvaq bs nsgreyvsr, naq abg
             | gur qbtf' qlvat qryhfvbaf nf gurl qebja nf V svefg nffhzrq.
             | Gur zlgubybtvpny fprarf va Jngrefuvc Qbja ner n cerprqrag
             | gb guvf xvaq bs guvat, fb vg qbrfa'g fbhaq haernfbanoyr.
        
           | youngNed wrote:
           | > The Plague Dogs
           | 
           | I think a _LOT_ of UK school kids were truamatised by this, a
           | lot of teachers, saw it thought  'oh, same author (Richard
           | Adams) and director (Martin Rosen) as Watership Down, lets
           | stick the kids in front of this while we do something else.
           | 
           | Man, that film was harrowing.
        
           | DocTomoe wrote:
           | Watership Down is mostly traumatising as a cartoon. I've read
           | the book last year, and it feels a lot more as a deeply
           | mythologic piece than a psychedelic horror. It's essentially
           | a shorter Lord of the Rings, with bunnies. Highly
           | recommended.
           | 
           | (Also, the recent Netflix adaption of the material is a lot
           | closer to the source material than the 1980s-era cartoon).
        
       | dimensionc132 wrote:
       | In Germany it is not uncommon, or it was not uncommon when i was
       | a child, for parents to read horror stories to their children;
       | Der Struwelpeter
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Struwwelpeter
       | 
       | Scared the living crap out of me, especially the story of Die gar
       | traurige Geschichte mit dem Feuerzeug ("The Very Sad Tale with
       | the Matches"): A girl plays with matches, accidentally ignites
       | herself and burns to death.
        
       | davidkuennen wrote:
       | I've watched "Watership Down" as a child. It's one of my more
       | vivid memories from back then to put it mildly.
        
         | teh_klev wrote:
         | I read the book as a kid in the 70's, the same decade that all
         | the fun stuff like Mutually Assured Destruction was an ongoing
         | thing. I seem to remember being fairly distressed and mentally
         | exhausted by the end of it. However the upside was becoming
         | aware of how humans were slowly and inexorably ruining our
         | planet.
        
           | davidkuennen wrote:
           | Agreed. It was a great lesson and if anything affected my
           | development in a positive way.
        
         | lqet wrote:
         | I am still at a loss why my parents thought that a movie about
         | bloodthirsty killer-rabits was good entertainment for an 8 year
         | old.
         | 
         | To renew your trauma:
         | 
         | https://static.kino.de/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/watership-...
        
         | hackeraccount wrote:
         | Or The Plague Dogs. I didn't read the book but saw the movie.
         | Just a touch grim.
        
         | kstenerud wrote:
         | Watership Down and the Secret of Nimh were my two favorite
         | movies as a young child in the early 80s, followed closely by
         | the Dark Crystal and maybe Aristocats and the Black Hole.
         | 
         | Other movies of the time like the Rescuers and the Fox and the
         | Hound and Labyrinth and such were a disappointment compared to
         | these...
        
           | onei wrote:
           | I've been curious about the Dark Crystal - was it
           | particularly groundbreaking when it came out? I watched it
           | after watching the more recent Netflix series and found the
           | story pretty dreary.
           | 
           | Similarly, I've heard Tron was almost revolutionary by the
           | standards of the day, but the CGI is almost comical to watch
           | now.
        
             | kstenerud wrote:
             | Both were groundbreaking and revolutionary. They were very
             | ambitious projects due to the technology limitations of the
             | time, and crossed well into the "labour of love" realm, in
             | the same vein as Pinnochio (for example the animated
             | bubbles in the crashing waves).
        
             | mbreese wrote:
             | (Not the OP)
             | 
             | I can't say it was ground breaking, as I was a kid at the
             | time, but it was one of the great movies of my childhood. I
             | remember watching it many times over. I do remember the
             | characters seeming less real, and I still knew they were
             | puppets. But this was also the era of Sesame Street, so a
             | movie by Jim Henson that had puppets was kinda normal. I
             | think the fact that my parents talked about it so highly
             | probably answers your question more -- it was something
             | adults appreciated. Ultimately, to me, the Dark Crystal
             | wasn't a great movie because I feel the story was there to
             | service the technique, even if the technique was
             | masterfully used. Maybe I was too young to fully appreciate
             | it.
             | 
             | Tron was much the same. At the time, you knew it wasn't
             | great, but it was still new. Like the targeting computer
             | CGI for the Star Wars trench run, the effects weren't
             | great. Even at the time, it was a little spartan. But the
             | effects moved the story, and worked well enough to not be a
             | distraction (and you had never seen anything like it
             | before). Tron was just as much about what it foretold as
             | much as the CGI that was available at the time. But in
             | contrast to the Dark Crystal, I liked the story behind Tron
             | more.
             | 
             | I would say that both were groundbreaking for how they
             | pushed techniques of movie making forward. The world
             | creation in both were amazing and they both set a new bar
             | for future movies to meet.
        
       | tehnub wrote:
       | I recall something Stanley Kubrick said about Bambi being
       | traumatizing:                   I saw Mary Poppins three times,
       | because of my children, and I like Julie Andrews so much that I
       | enjoyed seeing it three times. I thought it was a charming film.
       | I wouldn't want to make it, but ... Children's films are an area
       | that should not just be left to the Disney Studios, who I don't
       | think really make very good children's films. I'm talking about
       | his cartoon features, which always seemed to me to have shocking
       | and brutal elements in them that really upset children. I could
       | never understand why they were thought to be so suitable. When
       | Bambi's mother dies this has got to be one of the most traumatic
       | experiences a five-year-old could encounter. I think that there
       | should be censorship for children on films of violence. I mean,
       | if I didn't know what Psycho was, and my children went to see it
       | when they were six or seven, thinking they were going to see a
       | mystery story, I would have been very angry, and I think they'd
       | have been terribly upset. I don't see how this would interfere
       | with freedom of artistic expression. If films are overly violent
       | or shocking, children under twelve should not be allowed to see
       | them. I think that would be a very useful form of censorship.
        
         | hinkley wrote:
         | I think as adults we downplay how difficult first experiences
         | can be, and so I don't think we get that the stories of loss
         | and struggle in kids movies are speaking to them about real
         | problems they either already have or will soon.
         | 
         | Miyazaki has for some people become an alternative to Disney,
         | but his work is full of Dumbo and Bambi moments. The difference
         | is that in his work, the girl (and it is almost always a girl
         | protagonist) is often substantially responsible for saving
         | themselves, by reasonable means. They are not rescued by a boy
         | or by deux ex machina.
         | 
         | Even in My Neighbor Totoro, which is almost but not quite an
         | exception to this rule, the youngest (who is a main character,
         | but not _the_ main character) is saved by a magic bus. However,
         | the main character initiates this rescue by digging deep and
         | calling on resources she might not have thought to exploit. She
         | asks for help from the most powerful person she knows and she
         | gets it. She has to ask, and the terms of the rescue are very
         | defined. Nobody white-knights her, nobody swoops in and reads
         | her mind.
         | 
         | But the main struggle in that story is not a lost child. It is
         | Death. And this resolves itself rather than being resolved by
         | the characters, not through a miracle, but by discovering that
         | the children don't know the situation and have invented a story
         | that is much scarier than reality. In the end most of their
         | fears are unfounded, and while life won't be everything they
         | hoped, it's going to be much better than their internal
         | catastrophizing.
        
         | slibhb wrote:
         | Don't know -- I saw The Shining when I was 11 or 12 and it
         | freaked me out pretty badly but I don't think it left any
         | scars. It's a lot scarier than Psycho at any rate which mostly
         | holds up but seems incredibly tame today.
         | 
         | 11-12 is different than 6-7 but besides some nightmares, I
         | don't think seeing scary movies have a negative impact on kids.
        
         | vlunkr wrote:
         | I think conflating violent or frightening scenes with tragic
         | scenes is a mistake here.
         | 
         | As a young kid I watched Lion King and Land Before Time, which
         | both feature dramatic depictions of the death of a parental
         | figures, which both lead to kids fending for themselves. I
         | don't remember being traumatized by this at all, and watched
         | them repeatedly. As an adult I see the tragedy and it's kind of
         | shocking, but I think as a kid it was just make-believe and I
         | wasn't relating to the characters in that way. And obviously
         | tons of other kids watched and loved these movies too.
         | 
         | On the other hand the more intense scenes from Indiana Jones
         | were terrifying and burned deep into my brain.
        
       | senko wrote:
       | Yes, Bambi is an utterly depressing story.
       | 
       | Most original material Disney adapted was bleakier and more
       | grisly than the adaptation.
       | 
       | Most of the tales collected by brothers Grimm would today be
       | horror stories. (Did you know that Cinderella's evil stepsisters
       | had their toes and heels cut off so they could fit in the
       | slippers? Or that the ravens pecked their eyes as punishment? Or
       | that Maleficent ends up in a boiling cauldron full of vipers?)
       | 
       | I bet Disney would be able to adapt even something like "Requiem
       | for a Dream" into a happy hero-coming-of-age story.
       | 
       | You lose a lot if the only version of these classics you've seen
       | (or read, or heard) is Disney's sweet & shiny simulacra.
        
         | Semaphor wrote:
         | The Brothers Grimm already toned the horror down. Sleeping
         | Beauty was based on a tale called Sun, Moon, and Talia [0]
         | which has the prince having sex and impregnating her while she
         | sleeps, and she only wakes up from her newborns sucking the
         | splint out of her finger when she can't find the breast.
         | 
         | [0]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sun,_Moon,_and_Talia
        
           | dimensionc132 wrote:
           | Sun, Moon, and Talia (Italian: Sole, Luna, e Talia) is an
           | Italian literary fairy tale written by Giambattista Basile in
           | his 1634
           | 
           | Guy was high on some drugs when he wrote this sh%t. Talk
           | about messed up.
        
           | ropapcpr wrote:
           | It goes farther than that.
           | 
           | "Early contributions to the tale include the medieval courtly
           | romance Perceforest (published in 1528).[4] In this tale, a
           | princess named Zellandine falls in love with a man named
           | Troylus. Her father sends him to perform tasks to prove
           | himself worthy of her, and while he is gone, Zellandine falls
           | into an enchanted sleep. Troylus finds her and rapes her in
           | her sleep; when their child is born, the child draws from her
           | finger the flax that caused her sleep. She realizes from the
           | ring Troylus left her that he was the father, and Troylus
           | later returns to marry her.[5]"
        
           | shrikant wrote:
           | My mind is blown -- that is quite some story (all of it, not
           | just the bits in your comment!), thanks for the link! :-O
        
         | goto11 wrote:
         | > Did you know that Cinderella's evil stepsisters had their
         | toes and heels cut off
         | 
         | The Disney version of Cinderella is based on Charles Perraults
         | version, which is significantly different. An Perrault is older
         | than Grimm, although both are based on older traditions.
        
         | baud147258 wrote:
         | For Cinderella, the story also existed in an older version told
         | by Perrault, which is way less bleak than Grimm's tale.
         | Especially as the Disney adaptation is closer to Perrault's
         | tale (cf https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cinderella#Cendrillon_ou
         | _la_pe...)
        
         | tut-urut-utut wrote:
         | That's why Germans refuse to refer to Disney movies by the
         | names of the original Grimm stories.
         | 
         | Disney/Hollywood version is always Cinderella, and German that
         | closely adheres to the original is called Aschenputtel. The
         | same goes for Snowwhite and Schneewitchen, Sleeping Beauty and
         | Dornroschen.
        
           | ginko wrote:
           | I wouldn't say this applies as a rule. Both Snow White
           | (Schneewittchen und die sieben Zwerge) and Sleeping Beauty
           | (Dornroschen) kept their original titles in German.
           | Cinderella is really the only exception which makes sense
           | since it's more based on the Perrault version.
           | 
           | There's even a counter example. The 2010 film Tangled is
           | called Rapunzel like the original fairy tale in German.
        
             | tut-urut-utut wrote:
             | "Snowwhite and the Huntsman" kept its original Hollywood
             | name, it was never translated as "Schneewitchen und der
             | Jagger". But you're right, it's "based on" a Grimm story,
             | not a literal story adaptation.
        
               | ginko wrote:
               | I had to look that film up[1]. It's not a Disney movie so
               | I don't see how that would apply here.
               | 
               | [1]
               | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snow_White_and_the_Huntsman
        
         | DocTomoe wrote:
         | > (Did you know that Cinderella's evil stepsisters had their
         | toes and heels cut off so they could fit in the slippers? Or
         | that the ravens pecked their eyes as punishment? Or that
         | Maleficent ends up in a boiling cauldron full of vipers?)
         | 
         | That's the variant I got told in my childhood (1980s West
         | Germany). It always amuses me that these simple facts seem to
         | be cruel and horrific to Americans.
         | 
         | Also, "Hansel and Gretel" is a tale about parental abandonment,
         | stranger danger, cannibalism, and burning old women alive, then
         | forgiving said parental abandonment (but only after the kids
         | bring back treasure).
         | 
         | And "Red Riding Hood" is essentially about sexual child abuse.
        
         | mattl wrote:
         | I prefer the sequel, "Bambi Goes Crazy Ape Bonkers With His
         | Drill and Sex"
        
         | jihadjihad wrote:
         | Don't forget about Pinocchio, who in the original Italian
         | children's book is tortured and hanged for being such a "bad
         | boy" [0][1].
         | 
         | 0:
         | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pinocchio#Fictional_character_...
         | 
         | 1: https://slate.com/culture/2011/10/carlo-collodi-s-
         | pinocchio-...
         | 
         | The part of the movie where all of the boys on Pleasure Island
         | begin to turn into donkeys always freaked me out as a kid.
        
           | buro9 wrote:
           | Ah, this reminds me of a review of the book I stumbled upon
           | recently that is eye opening... eye opening as it shows how
           | the context of the reader is imprinted on their experience of
           | the reading.
           | 
           | https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/customer-
           | reviews/R1JOT49B5OUAL0/...
           | 
           | Even the opening of the review is... something:
           | 
           | > To be honest, I struggled with this book. I found the main
           | character incredibly frustrating. He almost always did the
           | wrong thing. I mean, almost ALWAYS. Well, people sometimes do
           | (including me!), but what he does is also almost always
           | incredibly stupid. Well, again, people do stupid things
           | (including me!), and the main character is, after all, a
           | puppet who is only moments old at the beginning of the book,
           | so how is he to know better? Fair question, but still, I
           | found the book hard work. He just did not seem to learn from
           | his mistakes.
        
           | tablespoon wrote:
           | >> Don't forget about Pinocchio, who in the original Italian
           | children's book is tortured and hanged for being such a "bad
           | boy" [0][1].
           | 
           | >> 0: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pinocchio#Fictional_chara
           | cter_...:
           | 
           | > Pinocchio's bad behavior, rather than being charming or
           | endearing, is meant to serve as a warning.
           | 
           | That reminds me something I read about "Inuit parenting."
           | They live in a dangerous and difficult environment, so they'd
           | tell kids all kinds of scary stories designed to get them to
           | do the correct thing before they could understood the actual
           | danger.
        
           | spacechild1 wrote:
           | Judging from the plot summary (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/
           | The_Adventures_of_Pinocchio#Pl...), the original Pinocchio
           | book is pretty messed up as a whole!
        
             | mdp2021 wrote:
             | I'm not sure "messed up" is the most appropriate
             | expression, if it may refer to a shaky mental status. It's
             | all probably very intentional and lucid. Benedetto Croce -
             | one of the greatest Italian philosophers - would not had
             | taken that book in such high regard otherwise.
             | 
             | It's just about life, explained through metaphors from
             | somebody who had lived it a bit to some who may have lived
             | it less, and could benefit from a few warnings.
             | 
             | Collodi was a gambler: one night he lost an especially
             | large amount of money, then happened to meet a friend, who
             | commissioned him a literary work so as to help with the
             | payment of his debts. "Le Avventure di Pinocchio" was in a
             | way born out of deeds, to warn against deeds.
        
             | selimthegrim wrote:
             | Wait until you see the Roberto Benigni film co-starring his
             | wife.
        
         | ineedasername wrote:
         | > _" Requiem for a Dream"_
         | 
         | Well, if we're thinking about the moral messages of some of
         | these old tales, I've always thought Requiem could be a good
         | movie to show tweens+ as a cautionary against drug abuse. If
         | Disney threw in an evil witch selling smack, a few catchy
         | songs, a handful of dead parents, and a handsome prince to kiss
         | Harry's arm back to life then I bet they'd have... well, maybe
         | not a hit. But it would be something, and I'd watch it.
        
           | at_a_remove wrote:
           | Tween-me would have been wondering what the adult showing me
           | the film was thinking right around the time a grinning man
           | suggested for the crowd "Ass to ass."
        
             | vt240 wrote:
             | The section of the book where he sends Marion off to get
             | money from Arnold, is some of the most haunting writing
             | I've ever come across. The book is truly amazing. I've
             | never come across another novel to so aptly relate the
             | feelings of addiction.
        
           | senko wrote:
           | This description totally reminds me of Trainspotting!
           | 
           | Those two, along with Kids (1995) could definitely be used as
           | cautionary tales for t(w)eenagers.
        
             | drooogs wrote:
             | kids is a cool film, but not much of a cautionary tale.
             | it's more like a 90s urban euphoria, in that the message is
             | really more to adults: "this is what teenagers are actually
             | doing right now".
             | 
             | what (imo) would make requiem for a dream really effective
             | is that it shows the transition from the "honeymoon phase"
             | of drug use to the "consequences phase" really well. I
             | think this is the part that teenagers really don't
             | understand (or at least I didn't). when you're starting
             | out, it can seem like a lot of the anti-drug messaging is
             | just fear mongering (and it is, to an extent). but most
             | people that age don't yet have the perspective to
             | distinguish between harmless fun and a slow motion crisis.
             | 
             | trainspotting is also great, and a bit more realistic than
             | requiem for a dream. but if I had to pick one of the two to
             | show to teens, I'd probably pick the former.
        
         | MichaelMoser123 wrote:
         | I think that Bambi is something of a war movie; look at the
         | forest fire scene, there is fire everywhere, it must have been
         | inspired by bombing raids during the battle of Britain. I
         | wonder if some of the artists had first hand experience of
         | these events.
         | 
         | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQrqhdU99Ws
         | 
         | Also the father commands his son 'you must get up'; he acts
         | like a commander.
        
         | russellbeattie wrote:
         | Trying to imagine the boiling cauldron full of vipers. Were
         | they magical vipers that could live in boiling water? Would
         | Maleficent really be able to feel any snake bites as she was
         | being boiled alive? Huge plot hole. 17th century writers didn't
         | think this through.
        
           | SV_BubbleTime wrote:
           | Yea, I wasn't sure if this was water or oil with resistant
           | high temperature vipers. Or someone smashed up vipers and
           | boiled it, to be painful and extra gross?
           | 
           | Or both, where vipers were boiled, and new vipers were
           | constantly being added to bite, then turn into boiling viper
           | soup themselves.
           | 
           | IDK about plot hole, I assume the both method will get the
           | job done. But, I do question the efficiency and practicality.
        
         | derbOac wrote:
         | Many of the Grimm tales in their original form were also
         | somewhat bizarre or surreal. I agree with you, but sometimes
         | think the Disney versions were crafted as they were in part
         | just to make sense as much as anything.
        
           | dc-programmer wrote:
           | The stories were probably much more coherent to the folks
           | living in the cultures they were conceived. At least at an
           | intuitive and visceral level.
           | 
           | There's a theory that Hansel and Grettel represents a
           | cultural memory of a time of famine where children were
           | abandoned, left to starve.
        
         | isolli wrote:
         | Children's songs are also often cruel. "Il etait un petit
         | navire" tells the story of a young sailor about to be eaten
         | because the ship ran out of food. "Sur le pont du Nord" tells
         | the story of a brother and a sister who ran off to a ball
         | without their parents' approval and die when the bridge
         | collapses. "Il etait une bergere" tells the story of a young
         | shepherd who kills her mischievous cat in anger. These are
         | examples from French folklore, but I would be surprised if it
         | was different in other cultures.
        
           | anthk wrote:
           | Spaniard here. You could be scared if you paid attention to
           | what little girls actually sang in those songs made to play
           | with hands and such.
           | 
           | Killing depictions, mild sexual jokes... as nothing.
        
           | kmote00 wrote:
           | "London bridges falling down."
           | 
           | "Ring around the Rosie... and we all fall down" (refers to
           | the Great Plague of London in 1665)
           | 
           | "Rockabye baby in the treetops" (eventually sent crashing to
           | the ground by storm winds).
        
             | leobabauta wrote:
             | Snopes disagrees with the plague theory:
             | https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/ring-around-rosie/
        
         | s1artibartfast wrote:
         | Many children's stories of old had an entirely different moral
         | sentiment than today.
         | 
         | They exposed children to the idea that the chaotic world is
         | outside your ability to control, but you must live in it and
         | navigate it to the extent you can nonetheless. This will not
         | always end well for you, despite your best efforts.
         | 
         | In contrast, the message of modern fairy tales is that life has
         | challenges, but they can all be overcome. If you are noble,
         | persistent and hard working, you can achieve anything.
         | Characters nearly always end up royalty or some variation of
         | happily ever after.
        
         | JKCalhoun wrote:
         | I know Disney pretends that "Song of the South" never existed,
         | but Joel Chandler Harris' "The Tales of Uncle Remus" etc.,
         | includes a few stories where the animals meet their ends.
         | Disney passed on those tales of course (leaving them as well
         | out of the Disney book that followed the film and included
         | additional Harris tales).
         | 
         | Like the suggestion that "Bambi" is a parable, it has been also
         | suggested that Brer Rabbit represents the slave of the
         | Antebellum South surviving against the toothed and clawed Brer
         | Fox and Brer Bear only by his wits (though in fact Brer Wolf
         | meets his own end at the hands of Brer Rabbit's "wit" ... or
         | boiling water in his specific case).
        
       | amelius wrote:
       | The saddest part is that the greatest idea-thief of all is the
       | one who extended the copyright term.
        
       | drno123 wrote:
       | Finding Nemo also has a sad beginning. And the beginning of Up is
       | both sad and sobering. But none of those I see as traumatising.
       | On the other hand, The little prince basically sells suicide to
       | kids. And all the teachers always praise this book and force kids
       | to read it while obviously the book is not written for children.
        
       | geocrasher wrote:
       | Bambi was actually a favorite of mine growing up, but The
       | Princess Bride scared the living daylights out of me.
        
       | drakonka wrote:
       | I have just realized that I may not have seen the Bambi movie I
       | thought I saw as a child, because I could swear I remember seeing
       | some of the scenes this article claims never made it into the
       | film. I remember the oak leaf conversation from somewhere, as
       | well as some of the harsher scenes they said were cut from the
       | Disney version. I wonder if I read the book and forgot about it.
        
       | spanktheuser wrote:
       | It wasn't the first horror film my children saw (they watched
       | Jaws, Alien, and Stranger Things) but the most terrifying and
       | traumatic experience they've seen was the shipwreck scene in the
       | Black Stallion. If you want to frighten children, murder what
       | they love while they watch: their parents and animals.
       | 
       | Coincidence both Bambi and the Black Stallion were written during
       | or in the immediate aftermath of world wars?
        
         | masklinn wrote:
         | > Coincidence both Bambi and the Black Stallion were written
         | during or in the immediate aftermath of world wars?
         | 
         | Meh. Every generation has its angsts, and writers putting it
         | down to paper.
         | 
         | Watership down was written in the very late 60s / very early
         | 70s.
        
           | anthk wrote:
           | Bambi was a movie for war kids who lost a parent (or both) in
           | the war.
        
         | Cthulhu_ wrote:
         | One thing I've really noticed is that a lot of people -
         | children and adults both - have no qualms about depictions of
         | violence and murder of people in media, but they get really
         | squeamish when it's (cute) animals. I wonder what causes that,
         | is it just a kind of desensitization? Or a built-in kind of
         | justice that bad people dying is fine but innocent animals
         | isn't?
        
           | kumarsw wrote:
           | This is a pretty well-observed phenomenon that the relative
           | sadness of humans and cute animals dying in movies and real
           | life is (presumably) reversed. Someone had even coined a term
           | for it - "dog-dying-in-movie sad." I'm at a loss to explain
           | why, but it feels like Peak Internet Discussion so hopefully
           | someone here will feel like expanding on it.
        
             | selimthegrim wrote:
             | See also - John Wick
        
           | watwut wrote:
           | There are movies that show violence against people in a way
           | that hits and in a way that people react to. However, not in
           | typical action/war/thriller story.
           | 
           | The context matters. The depictions of violence of people in
           | media if typically very intentionally written in a way that
           | does not make you feel too bad. The killed people rarely have
           | personalities or matter. Modern media rarely kills characters
           | that people had a chance to know or relate to. They are not
           | cute and their deaths are sort of "clean".
           | 
           | The cute animals people are squeamish about are played up for
           | cuteness, the owner is played up to be sad. It is all very
           | intentionally made up to make you feel sad.
        
         | whywhywhywhy wrote:
         | Parents being murdered is in plenty of kids movies. I don't
         | think it has much to do with war I think it's more just you're
         | writing a story with kids as the protagonists. How do you build
         | a plot where they can overcome things if their parents are
         | still in the picture.
         | 
         | Don't think its much deeper than that.
        
       | thomaspark wrote:
       | I made a browser extension called No Scary Parts that skips
       | traumatic scenes on Disney+ while trying to hold together a
       | cohesive plot. Mainly for young kids who enjoy the music and
       | other scenes, but aren't ready for the full story yet.
       | 
       | https://thomaspark.co/projects/no-scary-parts/
       | 
       | Fantasia was easy. Managed to do The Lion King. Haven't been able
       | to pull off Bambi yet...
        
         | copperx wrote:
         | > Fantasia was easy
         | 
         | You no need an extension for that one. As a kid, I tried to
         | watch it multiple times and I always fell asleep. And I was a
         | very patient kid.
        
           | micheljansen wrote:
           | "Night on bald mountain" with Czernobog and his creepy fire
           | slave demon things gave me nightmares for months.
        
       | emmelaich wrote:
       | Live kids movies used to be pretty savage too. I showed my young
       | kids _Born Free_ and _Old Yeller_.
       | 
       | Well, in the first, lions eat some people in the first scene. In
       | the second movie, the wild pigs attack is terrifying. Never mind
       | the rabid animals.
       | 
       | They didn't want to see my recommendations after those two.
        
       | rendall wrote:
       | Bambi meets Godzilla
       | 
       | https://youtu.be/8s3UogfAGg0
        
       | photochemsyn wrote:
       | For some reason I got my hands on George Orwell's "Animal Farm"
       | at a very young age, as it looked like a kid's book. That's a
       | fairly bleak book, for example when the pigs sell the draft horse
       | to the glue factory, but only the goat (whose only friend is the
       | horse) knows what's going on.
       | 
       | Watership Down is another good one, the character of the Black
       | Rabbit of Inle (the Grim Reaper of rabbitkind) was memorable.
       | 
       | However I disagree with claims that these kind of works
       | 'traumatize' young readers. It's just an introduction to life's
       | realities - everyone has to die, nature is beautiful but also
       | violent, and humans can be crueler to each other than any animal
       | ever could. Kids aren't traumatized by reading, or by playing
       | video games - if trauma occurs, it's due to things like war and
       | poverty and neglect and abuse.
        
         | kndjckt wrote:
         | As a kid I watched the film a bunch. It was scary but I liked
         | it. Worth checking out. Amazing that it's from 1954
         | https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0047834/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0
        
         | bsenftner wrote:
         | I was a fat, stuttering early elementary kid, so I read a lot
         | to avoid the cruel other kids. To the degree my 4th grade
         | teacher would no longer allow me to do book reports for a grade
         | using children's or teen books any longer. She pointed me at
         | the literature classics and said only those were grade worthy
         | at my reading skill.
         | 
         | The right there was on of the most instrumental decisions of my
         | life.
         | 
         | By 5th grade I'd read the entire high school literature
         | section. I joined an adult book readers club to better
         | understand what I was reading. Even the adults in my club
         | agreed an adult life is continual situational ignorance,
         | misunderstood tragedy, betrayal by those close to you, and
         | servitude to the powerful. I no longer believe adult life is
         | quite so harsh, but that attitude prepared me far better than
         | my peers. I've spent a good amount of time talking down people
         | ready to quit everything. Thankfully, I can reference some
         | fantastic hopeful passages, and they have not failed such
         | situations yet.
        
           | NortySpock wrote:
           | Can you share some hopeful passages, or some recommendations
           | on what to read? I could use a bit of positivity in my life
           | this month.
        
             | bsenftner wrote:
             | Without your personal context, recommendations are
             | difficult. If you like science fiction, check out "Stories
             | of your Life" by Ted Chang; if you like historical
             | strategies for success, check out "The 48 Laws of Power" by
             | Robert Greene; if you like grand philosophical views of an
             | entire life well lived and how to have one "The Glass Bead
             | Game" by Hesse; if you're interested in extremely practical
             | advice in how to be successful today read (believe it or
             | not) Harvard Business Review - it is far more down to earth
             | than should be possible. If you like cynical SciFi, read
             | Philip K Dick's Valis trilogy - it's a failed 2nd coming of
             | god, wreaked by modern brand marketing.
        
               | krferriter wrote:
               | Thanks for giving some recommendations, these sound
               | interesting.
        
               | js2 wrote:
               | Have you read _Klara and the Sun_ yet?
        
           | paulmd wrote:
           | haha, high-five. My parents read with us every night as a
           | kid, and that got me going on my own. At the start of third
           | grade I did a book report on a junior textbook about the
           | allied air campaigns during ww2 and the teacher didn't really
           | know what to do with that.
           | 
           | (I'm a smart guy but reading with my parents made a _huge_
           | difference imo, it is probably the single biggest thing you
           | can do to give your kids a head-start in life. Give your kids
           | the ability to sponge up as much information as possible
           | during those critical years of childhood brain plasticity!)
           | 
           | I've always been a sensitive person (until cruel kids taught
           | me to hide it) and Watership Down and Where The Red Fern
           | Grows got me bad as a kid... but not like lifelong trauma or
           | anything, just baby's first exposure to death.
        
             | bcrosby95 wrote:
             | I'm curious what sort of books they would read. I like to
             | read to our kids, but it's mostly books targeted at a bit
             | above their reading level, not adult-level stuff.
        
               | paulmd wrote:
               | (other readers: sorry, I know this post is going to be a
               | bit obnoxiously long, but I didn't want to put it on a
               | pastebin or some other external service and potentially
               | have it disappear if someone wanted to reference it in
               | the future. If you're not interested please feel free to
               | collapse this!)
               | 
               | I actually asked my mom to compile a list of books she
               | could remember, because a friend had kids and was getting
               | to the age where they were starting to read too. Here's
               | what she came up with (note, no particular order of
               | difficulty or maturity here):
               | 
               | My Father's dragon series
               | 
               | Where the sidewalk ends, Shel Silverstein
               | 
               | A pizza the size of the Sun
               | 
               | Choose your own adventure books
               | 
               | The Great Brain
               | 
               | The Boxcar Children series
               | 
               | Captain Underpants
               | 
               | Roald Dahl books: The BFG, James and the Giant Peach,
               | Matilda, The Twits, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory/The
               | Great Glass Elevator (not as good)
               | 
               | My Side of the Mountain
               | 
               | No More Dead Dogs
               | 
               | The Secret Garden
               | 
               | Bridge to Terabithia (Deals with death, a little older)
               | 
               | The Lion, the witch, and the wardrobe
               | 
               | Across five Aprils (civil war historical fiction, older)
               | 
               | The Broken Blade (Voyageur) & Sequel
               | 
               | Island of the blue dolphins
               | 
               | The witch of blackbird pond
               | 
               | Johnny Tremaine (a bit older)
               | 
               | The sign of the Beaver
               | 
               | Charlotte's Web
               | 
               | Because of Winn Dixie
               | 
               | Tuck Everlasting (sad at end)
               | 
               | Ruby Holler
               | 
               | The Adventures of Tom Sawyer
               | 
               | Treasure Island
               | 
               | The Pushcart War
               | 
               | Maniac Magee
               | 
               | Rascal
               | 
               | Frindle
               | 
               | Hatchet (Gary Paulsen)
               | 
               | Mr. Popper's Penguins (young)
               | 
               | Tales of a 4th Grade Nothing (Juy Blume)
               | 
               | Pippi Longstocking
               | 
               | Mrs. Piggle-Wiggle (young)
               | 
               | A Wrinkle in Time
               | 
               | Moccasin Trail
               | 
               | Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH
               | 
               | From the Mixed Up files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler
               | 
               | The Egypt Game
               | 
               | The Phantom Tollbooth (young)
               | 
               | Holes (little older)
               | 
               | Sideways Stories from Wayside School (young)
               | 
               | The Wonderful Wizard of Oz
               | 
               | Homer Price (easy reading)
               | 
               | The Indian in the Cupboard
               | 
               | Misty of Chincoteague (series)
               | 
               | Aesop's Fables (young)
               | 
               | The Eye, the Ear, and the Arm
               | 
               | Redwall series
               | 
               | Watership Down
               | 
               | (I'll throw in the Discworld series too for kids that are
               | getting a bit older! It's probably very readable for,
               | say, an advanced 5th grader. I was tearing through all
               | the redwall books and the Golden Compass series at that
               | point and Discworld is probably comparable. Golden
               | Compass wasn't finished then and The Amber Spyglass ended
               | up being kind of a disappointment. I know I was reading
               | Discworld by 7th grade for sure.)
        
         | idleproc wrote:
         | I remember watching the Watership Down film as a young child
         | and being rather disturbed. I think it set me up well for
         | watching Nightmare on Elm Street when I was about 9 though.
         | 
         | However, I've turned into a fairly well rounded individual (I
         | don't try to murder rabbits or children in their dreams at
         | least). The only downside is that I don't find horror films or
         | rabbits particularly interesting.
         | 
         | Something recently made me think of Moses the raven though.
        
         | fsloth wrote:
         | I read the Animal Farm to my below K12 kids on one sitting and
         | they were hooked.
         | 
         | Kids needs scary stories in a safe environment. This will help
         | them process these thoughts and prepare them for the inevitable
         | trauma they will face at some point in their life.
         | 
         | Animal Farm is also not a bleak read but also fun as you can do
         | all the animal voices with their characteristic animal sounds.
        
           | TaupeRanger wrote:
           | Stories don't prepare kids for trauma, and I don't think
           | there's any real evidence in support of that idea. I would
           | wager a large sum that a child who has heard scary stories is
           | not more likely to better handle, say, the loss of an
           | immediate family member, than a child who has only heard
           | happy stories about unicorns, rainbows, and friendly
           | interactions.
        
             | ohreallyhmmm wrote:
             | I see that you are talking about exposure to negative
             | stimuli (bad stories) having no demonstrable positive
             | impact to individuals. Perhaps this helps: Psychology has
             | examined the impact of lots of praise (the absence of
             | negative stimuli - e.g not allowing criticism of others,
             | getting a 14th place ribbon) on an individual, vs those
             | that are given critical feedback (negative stimuli is
             | provided and/or no positive stimuli is provided e.g no
             | ribbon or "good job" for 14th place; being excluded from
             | the running team due to poor performance etc) for at least
             | the past 30 years. The overall conclusion of this research
             | is that lots of praise is a problem, and fosters the
             | development of narcissism and leads to poor outcomes when
             | the individual experiences "real" results (e.g they got a
             | high five for getting a "c grade" in high school, but in
             | their workplace performance review they get a "meets
             | expectations" and a verbal warning from their boss that if
             | they don't improve they will be put on a Performance
             | Improvement Plan).
             | 
             | Lots of this research can be read if you look for the
             | impact of developing high self-esteem in individuals
             | (typically this is done as described above), and measuring
             | the impact of these actions.
             | 
             | Example paper here: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/1
             | 0.1111/1529-1006.0143...
        
             | r3trohack3r wrote:
             | Not commenting on whether you're right or wrong, but that's
             | a bit of an apples and oranges comparison there - nearly to
             | the point of arguing in bad faith.
             | 
             | A more apt comparison might be a story about urban war
             | where the main character looses many immediate family
             | members (and explores the grieving process against the
             | backdrop of the war) - and how that would help a kid
             | process the loss of an immediate family member.
        
               | tragictrash wrote:
               | Don't be afraid, they're wrong.
        
               | TaupeRanger wrote:
               | List a single shred of scientific evidence showing that
               | kids who are exposed to stories with similar themes to
               | traumatic events they experience in real life are more
               | likely the have better outcomes. Be afraid to call
               | someone wrong without more than just-so stories and
               | anecdotes.
        
               | hervature wrote:
               | This is a form of McNamara's fallacy. In reality, the
               | data you are looking for is impossible to obtain. In
               | practice, causing traumatic events is obviously
               | unethical. Then, even if you had a proper study, there
               | would be so many confounding factors that basically any
               | conclusion is worthless. For instance, listening to an
               | e-book on the subway is obviously different than
               | discussing your emotions and response to the book. From
               | first principles, it seems rather intuitive that if you
               | expose anyone to a story of a trauma and discuss possible
               | coping mechanisms, then that person is better prepared to
               | cope with that trauma. Of course, being exposed to the
               | thought might be traumatic itself (a kid might come to
               | the realization that their dog is actually going to die)
               | but if they react so poorly to the thought, how would
               | they have reacted to the actual event? Intuitively, much
               | worse. I'm all for data driven decisions, but our shared
               | human experience can be a tremendous guiding light for
               | things that are difficult to quantify.
        
               | ravi-delia wrote:
               | Eh, in psychology the default is "nothing ever happens
               | ever". No one ever changes, no effect lasts, and nothing
               | ever replicates. There are all sorts of "intuitive"
               | results which utterly fail to replicate, so I'd be
               | surprised if things are better when you can't do a real
               | study even in principle. I suppose I might just be jaded
               | from the replication crisis, but my expectation is that
               | things mostly just kind of happen. It's why I left for
               | the gentle shores of math, where things work exactly as
               | much as any pure math can be said to work.
        
               | tablespoon wrote:
               | Exactly. If you have an intuitive and common-sense take
               | (exposure to stories with difficult themes can help kids
               | cope with similar things in real life) and an unintuitive
               | contrarian take (they don't, so let the kids get
               | blindsided), the onus is on the contrarian to "list a
               | single shred of scientific evidence."
               | 
               | Sure, it would be great if everyone could offer
               | "evidence" for every position, but that's obviously
               | unrealistic and impractical.
        
               | TaupeRanger wrote:
               | It's not contrarian...there's simply no evidence either
               | way, that's all I'm saying. For every anecdote you can
               | come up with showing a kid doing well after hearing scary
               | stories, I'll come up with another of a kid doing without
               | without hearing them. That's it.
        
               | slowmovintarget wrote:
               | Except that's not it. We have a whole generation of
               | adults that can't handle rejection, can't handle
               | difficulty, need emotional support peacocks on planes...
               | because they were taught (repeatedly told the story,
               | a.k.a. narrative) that they were special and would always
               | win if they felt good enough about themselves.
               | 
               | In other words, we told stories that specifically set
               | them up for disillusionment and disorder. Telling stories
               | has been the way one generation prepares the next _since
               | the telling of stories began._
               | 
               | Oral tradition, religious texts, myth, legend, fables,
               | fairy tales... all of these had purposes beyond
               | entertainment. Don't go in the woods by yourself, it's
               | dangerous. Don't swim in that river, it's dangerous.
               | Don't be mean to other people, because you don't want to
               | live in that society. Don't lie, because people won't
               | believe you when you need them to.
               | 
               | We've always told these kinds of stories... until
               | recently. The kids that did get these kinds of stories
               | built the modern world. The kinds of kids that aren't
               | getting these kinds of stories are the ones going on
               | shooting sprees or rioting because they didn't get that
               | raise or someone was mean to them on social media.
               | 
               | We do have evidence, it just isn't organized into a
               | formal longitudinal study for you. Here's the thing. It
               | is possible for people to discuss an idea and even draw
               | conclusions of efficacy without a longitudinal study.
        
               | upsidesinclude wrote:
               | Thank you.
               | 
               | That is a more apt response than I could muster and
               | encapsulates my thoughts on the matter.
               | 
               | I feel like everywhere today we are beset with scientism.
               | As if defending your own position is unnecessary as long
               | as you can call into question the rigor of your
               | opponent's. History has taught us well the value of myth
        
               | tablespoon wrote:
               | > It's not contrarian...there's simply no evidence either
               | way, that's all I'm saying. For every anecdote...
               | 
               | This isn't dueling anecdotes, it is the application of
               | common sense and reason. You're taking a contrarian
               | position against that, and lack of evidence (if that is
               | indeed the case) doesn't create an "anything goes"
               | situation where that take is on even footing with what
               | you're arguing against.
        
               | TaupeRanger wrote:
               | What you call "intuitive" I call "not at all obvious or
               | even remotely expected". There's simply no evidence
               | either way that can't be contradicted by opposing
               | anecdotes. That's really all I'm saying. It's not related
               | to The McNamara Fallacy at all, because there's no
               | obvious observation that supports the initial notion. It
               | simply isn't common sense, even if you want it to be.
        
               | iinnPP wrote:
               | I think you can prove his point to a degree if you take
               | the dog example. Specifically when said child doesn't
               | already own a dog.
               | 
               | They could use the knowledge to either not get into the
               | situation entirely or to embrace the situation
               | regardless.
               | 
               | The former will always result in less trauma over time.
               | Unless I am missing something. The latter is open to
               | debate.
               | 
               | Thinking like this is regards to past relationships, I
               | have prevented a lot of self trauma through experience
               | with trauma.
        
               | unethical_ban wrote:
               | Your assertion is that reading or hearing about life
               | experiences does not prepare a person for a similar life
               | experience.
               | 
               | This is absurd on its face. I'm sorry I don't have a
               | journal article to substantiate my claim.
        
               | TaupeRanger wrote:
               | Pretty obvious strawman. I'm saying I'm skeptical that
               | kids who've been told scary stories actually handle real-
               | life trauma better than kids who weren't told scary
               | stories.
        
               | tragictrash wrote:
               | Unapologetically, no
        
               | ubercore wrote:
               | Do you have a source to claim the opposite?
        
               | TaupeRanger wrote:
               | Of course not. I'm simply saying that I'm very skeptical
               | of the claim and would bet actual money that the opposite
               | (or null result) was actually true.
        
               | shiryel wrote:
               | I don't know how much scientific is the references on
               | this article [1], but it's a good read about the topic
               | 
               | [1] - http://web.archive.org/web/20190423155359/https://m
               | edium.com...
        
               | smaddox wrote:
               | I don't know if there are any controlled studies, but
               | there's plenty of informal evidence that naive people
               | cope poorly with traumatic events. Resilience is a
               | product (though admittedly not a guaranteed product) of
               | experience.
        
               | TaupeRanger wrote:
               | Life experience, yes. Scary stories told to
               | children...that's what I'm very skeptical of.
        
               | iinnPP wrote:
               | The story in full will contain pieces of information that
               | would help a child avoid said trauma entirely.
               | 
               | Don't go into the random abandoned house alone.
        
               | diehunde wrote:
               | I'm actually with you on this. I've been reading articles
               | about the trauma the war and displacement are causing
               | Ukrainian children. I remember one mentioning older kids
               | who knew about war already (because of stories or TV) had
               | practically the same behavioral symptoms as younger kids
               | who didn't understand what was happening. And this came
               | from psychologists assessing hundreds if not thousands of
               | kids.
        
             | inanutshellus wrote:
             | Stories create plans and set expectations.
             | 
             | Take the "story" of "if we get separated at the mall, meet
             | at the fountain and wait there until we all arrive."
             | 
             | That's a story. You can imagine how it goes.
             | 
             | 1. Imagine getting lost. Oh no, oh dear, sweaty palms! But
             | hey, I'm not actually lost. No need to panic. Ok, now what?
             | 
             | 2. I should actively work to remember the path back to the
             | fountain.
             | 
             | Now, when your five-year-old brain realizes you got
             | separated from daddy, you're not FREAKING OUT you're
             | backtracking to the fountain and thumb-twiddling.
             | 
             | Your turn - all you have to do is come up with an edge case
             | ("I'm sure there are some kids that'd forget where the
             | fountain was") and pretend that "some" is statistically
             | more relevant than the idea that making a plan makes a
             | positive difference.
        
             | tragictrash wrote:
             | Stories definitely do help kids and adults process trauma.
             | 
             | I'm not going to go searching for it because you can cherry
             | pick anything off the internet, but it's well documented
             | that scary stories in a safe space assist children with
             | processing traumatic events.
        
               | TaupeRanger wrote:
               | It's not well documented. It is simply assumed by adults
               | who likely don't know whether it's true or not.
        
             | fsloth wrote:
             | I was generally chasing the thought that reading to your
             | kids is always good for them. Even scary stories, as long
             | as they are don't cause too much anxiety.
             | 
             | By trauma I was not implying "the worst thing that can
             | happen to a person" - just bad things in general which will
             | happen anyway. From my personal experience strategies and
             | coping mechanisms inspired by stories may provide true
             | insights and help in formulating actionable strategies in
             | novel situations. But I can't _prove it_ as other pointed
             | out.
             | 
             | My intent was not to claim terrifying stories will
             | inoculate a person from terror, despair, loss or anguish.
        
         | colechristensen wrote:
         | Quite a lot of adult mental illness can be attributed to being
         | overly sheltered as a child... your brain wires itself to
         | expect the environment it grew up in and when the adult world
         | is substantially different the result is often mental illness.
        
         | billfruit wrote:
         | Another one might be "Lord of the Flies", it really has spine
         | chilling moments.
        
         | WalterBright wrote:
         | I once asked my dad why people who committed treason against
         | the king in medieval times were treated so cruelly.
         | 
         | He said that live was nasty, brutish and short in those days,
         | and to make an impact and a deterrence the king had to be over
         | the top cruel.
         | 
         | I don't know how true that is, as I suspect there's a large
         | element of people just liking to be cruel if they have the
         | opportunity.
         | 
         | I have a couple books on the cruelties done by armies in WW2,
         | and in the American west, and could not finish reading them.
        
         | dimitrios1 wrote:
         | This is only true if the young ones in question are in a
         | psychologically safe and emotionally supportive environment.
         | 
         | I read things as a young child, without having the support to
         | talk and parse them out, and additionally on top of the chaotic
         | environment I was already in, where reading things like Animal
         | Farm, or, specifically in my case, being introduced to the
         | concept of destructive extinction events in books, movies, and
         | magazines caused much trauma. I had a year where I didn't sleep
         | well, until I could finally convince myself that aliens weren't
         | going to get me in the shower, and that a giant meteor wasn't
         | going to collide with earth any time soon (yet, at least).
        
           | r00fus wrote:
           | I remember clearly as a kid scrubbing my head furiously for
           | weeks after a local spelunking adventure where the guide
           | jokingly told me that, after a stalactite dripped on me
           | repeatedly, that a stalagmite would grow from my head.
           | 
           | As a kid with a lot of anxieties (nuclear holocaust,
           | overpopulation, etc) I really didn't need to be growing
           | stalagmites from my head.
           | 
           | Up to about seven years old, kids take things very literally.
           | Understanding metaphorical speech comes only after that
           | period, and not everyone fully understands even as an adult.
        
           | renewiltord wrote:
           | I was 11 when I read _All Quiet on the Western Front_ and
           | maybe 13 when I read _Innocent Erendira_. I don't remember
           | talking to anyone about these, though I did feel terrible for
           | a few days after. Honestly, no lasting effects.
           | 
           | This is probably the same as the fact that 70% of soldiers
           | experiencing combat stress do not get PTSD and 30%
           | experiencing severe combat stress don't either. This means
           | human variability is significant.
           | 
           | So it's a question of whether you want to roll the dice. I
           | think I'll want to permit the autonomy for my children but
           | it's entirely possible they'll be in the susceptible set and
           | be damaged.
        
             | michaelmrose wrote:
             | Do you have any evidence that there is a susceptible set?
             | Books especially fiction come with two fundamental safety
             | features. Firstly the book never subjects itself upon its
             | reader. The reader is always in absolute control. Secondly
             | the fundamental unreality of the setting allows one to
             | dismiss it.
             | 
             | I recall observing with morbid curiosity a video of someone
             | losing their life to a terrorist many years ago thinking it
             | would be no different than a gory movie. I was very very
             | wrong. It isn't the realism of the simulation that matters
             | its the inability to dismiss what one knows is in fact
             | real.
        
         | boringg wrote:
         | Should also lump in Metamorphosis into this category of bleak
         | but fascinating stories.
        
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         | nsomaru wrote:
         | Small nitpick, cynical old Benjamin was a donkey not a goat.
         | 
         | "He would say that God had given him a tail to keep the flies
         | off, but that he would sooner have had no tail and no flies."
        
         | hemloc_io wrote:
         | Yep read animal farm in middle school and it was dope. (Along
         | with Brave New World + Naked lunch which IMO is a bit racier)
         | 
         | One of my favorite things about the internet when I was younger
         | was that it let me find books I couldn't get without begging my
         | parents haha.
         | 
         | Adults really underestimate how resilient kids are, and how
         | much media isn't able to approximate the real world (yet).
         | Modern ppl really don't realize how dark lots of older child
         | stories are, like the brother's grimm etc, and that kids used
         | to be taken to executions.
         | 
         | EDIT: over -> under.
        
           | Digit-Al wrote:
           | I think you mean they underestimate how resilient kids are.
        
             | hemloc_io wrote:
             | Fixed thanks :)
        
         | irrational wrote:
         | Reminds me of all the adults freaking out about kids being
         | traumatized by wearing masks. Kids don't care. For them it was
         | like putting on pants. Not a big deal unless the adults around
         | them make it into a big deal.
        
         | verisimi wrote:
         | > However I disagree with claims that these kind of works
         | 'traumatize' young readers.
         | 
         | Yes, the trauma occurs when you realise how misled you were
         | about the nature of reality, that you were sold a lie.
        
           | 6510 wrote:
           | I'm still traumatized by animal farm.
        
         | AlphaOne1 wrote:
         | I wonder if there is a difference between oral stories and
         | movies. My kids started to cry while watching the Little
         | Dinosaur (ages 5 and under) several months ago. I recently
         | bought a copy of the uncensored Brother Grim stories. Taking
         | into account how sensitive they have been in the past with G
         | rated cartoons, I decided I would edit the stories in real time
         | (leaving out words like 'blood') and sometimes modify the
         | ending slightly. Recently, I stopped editing the stories. My
         | kids still love the stories and ask me to read them more right
         | before bed time. They even asked me to re-read them Hansel and
         | Gretel, which is quite a brutal tale in my opinion. Show them a
         | single clip of a 'sad/scary' cartoon and they still freak out
         | to this day; however.
         | 
         | I think there is something to be said about Disney cartoons use
         | of music and visual images that sort of forces viewers into a
         | certain emotional mindset. Oral stories/books on the other hand
         | leave it up to the imagination of the listener to conger up the
         | emotions and images. Not sure if this makes sense, but at least
         | in the case of my kids it does.
        
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