[HN Gopher] Friends are under-clustered. Why?
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       Friends are under-clustered. Why?
        
       Author : jger15
       Score  : 9 points
       Date   : 2022-04-23 19:20 UTC (3 hours ago)
        
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       | bluefirebrand wrote:
       | It's not too weird that people move to places where they have
       | opportunities, and individuals will have different opportunities
       | in different places.
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       | After university, I moved to a new city where a bunch of my
       | friends had moved after graduating as well. For a couple of years
       | things were really good, but it was a city with a crazy high
       | housing and rental market and my salary was not really keeping
       | up. I also wasn't having any luck dating and just felt out of
       | place in the city.
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       | I made the hard decision to move away for a cheaper housing
       | market and better salaries, even if it meant leaving my friends
       | behind. It's been five years since then and I have a longterm
       | girlfriend, a house of my own, and double the salary I was
       | making. The only thing missing is my friends, and I haven't made
       | many friends here. Certainly not a consistent group to gather
       | with for board games or whatnot.
       | 
       | I keep in touch with some of my old friends online but mostly
       | don't. I think something this article doesn't mention is that
       | sometimes people are just friends because of proximity, out of
       | convenience. It's the ones who don't live nearby but you still
       | want to visit and spend time with, those are your real friends.
        
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