[HN Gopher] Show HN: Slow Social, a social network built for fri...
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       Show HN: Slow Social, a social network built for friends, not
       influencers
        
       Author : CitrusFruits
       Score  : 702 points
       Date   : 2022-04-16 17:09 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | d-us-vb wrote:
       | Seeing a bit of debate concerning the most defining feature: one
       | post a week.
       | 
       | This is my favorite aspect of the site!
       | 
       | What this really brings up is the distinction made ages ago about
       | _policy_ vs _mechanism_. Every social media platform out there
       | has or basically uses the same mechanisms: interactive, submit
       | text /photos/video, add "friends", and so on. You'll notice that
       | Slow Social implements the mechanism of a social network.
       | 
       | So... what makes every social networking site different? It's the
       | _Policy_! Most platforms had a few defining policies.
       | 
       | - Twitter: "tweets" must be quite short, originally emulating
       | SMS, all tweets show up in your feed (not sure if this is true
       | anymore).
       | 
       | - Facebook: add friends, must use your real name
       | 
       | - Quora: must use your real name, posts must take the form of
       | either a question or an answer to a question (but comments may
       | also be made)
       | 
       | - Reddit: Upvotes and Downvotes are first class citizens, users
       | submit an idea, and the interface encourages lively discussion in
       | the comments (this isn't technically policy, but more like
       | culture).
       | 
       | And so we add Slow Social to the mix: must add a friend to your
       | list for them to see your post or add their email, may only post
       | once per week.
       | 
       | It's also just cool to experiment with new policies and see if
       | they work.
       | 
       | So, Slow Social adds a new, perhaps daring policy so as to make
       | things more enjoyable overall. As an aside, if I'm only allowed
       | to post one thing per week for my friends, I can't help but think
       | that that would encourage my writing to be more impactful,
       | thoughtful, and polite. It would encourage good habits in written
       | communication.
       | 
       | So needless to say, I'm signed up and looking forward to where
       | this goes!
        
       | Aeolun wrote:
       | Hmm, I feel like I would trust this project more if the first
       | email I saw didn't immediately come from a non-slowsocial.us
       | domain.
        
       | jdrc wrote:
       | this is more like a journal than a social network then
        
       | gtirloni wrote:
       | FAQ: How do I export my data?
        
       | gchamonlive wrote:
       | Social Networks should be like email providers. You choose one
       | that fits you best, or deploy your own, without having to worry
       | not being able to communicate with others.
       | 
       | Maybe we are long overdue for an open standard protocol for
       | social interactions on the web. If you come to think of it, when
       | the personal data itself isn't the property of the company behind
       | the social network, there should be no reason not to share that
       | information, so we can access it from a provider of convenience.
       | 
       | This is what locks people into harmful platforms. I can't go to
       | slow social without all my friends coming with me, so I'm stuck
       | with Instagram/whatsapp.
        
         | riffic wrote:
         | > Maybe we are long overdue for an open standard protocol for
         | social interactions on the web
         | 
         | This exists as a W3C recommendation (ActivityPub), and before
         | that you had pioneers working on things like StatusNet and GNU
         | Social, way back in 2008.
        
         | mabbo wrote:
         | > Maybe we are long overdue for an open standard protocol for
         | social interactions on the web
         | 
         | We have those. They are called websites and emails.
        
           | pozol wrote:
           | Yeah but most websites don't directly talk to each other. And
           | email only covers some of what social media platforms have.
           | It's difficult to make and plan an event over email. But if I
           | could make an event on a discord-like client, and my grandma
           | can get updates on facebook, and so on, that would be an
           | improvement from what we have now
        
             | attilaperez wrote:
             | > ActivityPub
             | 
             | Problem is that platforms don't see any incentive in
             | letting their APIs loose like this.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | > I can't go to slow social without all my friends coming with
         | me, so I'm stuck with Instagram/whatsapp.
         | 
         | This is partially correct. Slow Social would be a lot better if
         | all your friends joined. However, my accommodation for this is
         | that any post can be sent as en email as well. This lets you
         | loop in people that aren't part of the network, and maybe never
         | will be. It's not a perfect solution, but I hope it's better
         | than nothing.
        
           | jethro_tell wrote:
           | Well, the people that I know don't read their personal email
           | unless they are looking for a password reset or a one time
           | code.
           | 
           | once everyone started requiring an email as a user name,
           | inboxes of normal people are just spam that's part of the
           | deal for signing up for something.
           | 
           | It's basically useless these days, but it's not technically
           | spam because they made you click the link when you signed up.
           | 
           | Sure you could unsubscribe, and I do, and my technical
           | friends do, but the rest just ignore it unless they need it
           | for a specific action. I'd have to call or text all my
           | friends to let them know I'd sent them an email with a link
           | to a post, and at that point, I could just text them the post
           | and at that point, it's kinda . . . idk, not great.
        
             | lukasb wrote:
             | I dunno, Substack is doing pretty well.
        
           | ibejoeb wrote:
           | Maybe instead of a new "slow" network that enforces these
           | rules, the consumer might want slow mode. Something that
           | digests the fast-paced stuff. Maybe using heuristics to pare
           | down the noisy, frivolous, or contentious stuff.
           | 
           | Or maybe this model and its intentional limitations is key.
        
         | jsemrau wrote:
         | >I can't go to slow social without all my friends coming with
         | me, so I'm stuck with Instagram/whatsapp.
         | 
         | That's the problem if these new social networks have nothing to
         | add in terms of functionality. There are many examples for
         | come-for-the-tool-stay-for-the-network strategies that work.
        
         | Tmpod wrote:
         | You should give ActivityPub[1] a look. There are plenty of
         | platforms based on this already.
         | 
         | [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ActivityPub
        
         | Gollapalli wrote:
         | ActivityPub exists, it's just niche.
         | 
         | Maybe Elon will let mastodon instances interact with twitter or
         | something. It'd be unlikely, but very cool
        
         | gone35 wrote:
         | There is (was) Patchwork [1].
         | 
         | [1] https://github.com/ssbc/patchwork
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | _greim_ wrote:
       | Upon following the magic link I got this:                   500
       | Cannot find module '/var/task/node_modules/party-js/lib'
       | Error: Cannot find module '/var/task/node_modules/party-js/lib'
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | :(
         | 
         | That's happened before, but I thought I fixed it. I guess I'll
         | just take out the party.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | If you reload and go to /onboard it might work, otherwise you
           | can just go to `/`, you'll just have to find your way around
           | by yourself.
        
       | SmallBets wrote:
       | Constraints can be liberating and increase focus and creativity.
       | See limited budget films vs formulaic blockbusters, or even
       | twitters orignal 140 limit and how it led to the platform
       | flourishing.
       | 
       | I think there is definitely room for a product like this, and
       | maybe even some kind of max follower limit could also skew more
       | to connection over influencers.
        
         | riffic wrote:
         | I love this segment of an interview with Charles Eames
         | regarding design's need for constraints:                 Q:
         | Does the creation of Design admit constraint?       A: Design
         | depends largely on constraints.            Q: What constraints?
         | 
         | A: The sum of all constraints. Here is one of the few effective
         | keys to the Design problem: the ability of the Designer to
         | recognize as many of the constraints as possible; his
         | willingness and enthusiasm for working within these
         | constraints. Constraints of price, of size, of strength, of
         | balance, of surface, of time, and so forth. Each problem has
         | its own peculiar list.
         | 
         | https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Charles_Eames
         | 
         | https://www.vitra.com/en-us/magazine/details/what-is-your-de...
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | skoczko wrote:
       | Constrained social networks don't work, look at Google+. You
       | don't need a social network to stay in touch with your friends
       | and family as messaging apps and e-mail fulfil that purpose
       | completely. Algorithms are not the only reason why all social
       | networks drift towards celebrity/influencer/news following --
       | they are channels for consuming media, the "social" is in the
       | name only.
        
         | onion2k wrote:
         | The first tranch of social networks (Friendster, Friends
         | Reunited, MySpace, etc) were very much based on people keeping
         | up to date with their friends. They worked quite well _for
         | users_ , but were hard to monetize succeasfully. There was
         | value there, but not much in the way of ideas about how to
         | extract it besides sticking a skyscraper ad down the side. I
         | don't see any reason not to try that model again. Maybe it'll
         | work now people are seemingly a bit disenchanted with things
         | like Facebook.
        
           | baq wrote:
           | I've found long running chats like WhatsApp, telegram or
           | signal fulfill that role.
        
             | DrSiemer wrote:
             | Posting in a chat demands immediate attention from the
             | participants. It feels "pushy"; I don't want to disturb my
             | friends with my random ramblings.
             | 
             | It's also not really possible to compose a single, long,
             | properly formatted story, interspersed with images, in
             | chat. Every separate post will be a call for attention, if
             | they have not muted you yet.
             | 
             | Ignored push messages can easily turn into forgotten
             | messages. There is no "mark as unread".
             | 
             | Chat does not provide you with an experience of reading
             | carefully crafted posts, on a moment you choose to spend
             | reading only about what your connections have been up to.
             | 
             | Knowing what is happening in the lives of friends and
             | family living in other countries is the only thing I really
             | miss since I stopped using post style social media. Sure,
             | we can chat, and sometimes we do. But usually we don't.
             | You're just not going to chat about random little things in
             | your life with people you don't see with some regularity.
        
             | onion2k wrote:
             | Chat works well for close friends, but now I'm middle-aged
             | I have lots friends from school, previous jobs, etc that I
             | still want to know and I'm interested in significant events
             | in their lives (having kids, changing job, getting married,
             | moving house, etc) but who I'd have nothing to say to on a
             | regular basis. If I rely on anything that requires active
             | participation that just means I won't talk to them. I want
             | to passively read about their lives, and maybe comment if I
             | feel like it. Most of the time I don't.
             | 
             | This is a problem that you don't really start to understand
             | until you're getting on a bit. When you're young you
             | usually have a close group of friends from school or
             | college, and maybe a job or two, and your extended family,
             | and that's pretty much it. Fast forward 25 years and there
             | loads of people who you've met and consider people you'd
             | like to keep in touch with but who aren't friendly enough
             | to want in a chat app. Social networks fill that gap really
             | neatly.
        
           | TulliusCicero wrote:
           | Facebook started out that way too and seemed...okay? But
           | certainly you can make more money by appealing to influencers
           | and whatnot.
        
         | [deleted]
        
           | [deleted]
        
       | engineer_22 wrote:
       | You need an android app.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I need an iOS app too.
        
       | darawk wrote:
       | As other people have mentioned but I think not quite nailed
       | perfectly, restrictions on behavior aren't quite the right
       | solution to the problems that plague social media. Some people
       | think that the right move is to eliminate engagement optimization
       | algorithms, and I think that's not quite exactly right either.
       | 
       | IMO the right solution is personal executive autonomy over
       | content presentation and algorithmic optimization. By which I
       | mean, I want to be able to make an "executive" choice over what
       | kind of experience I want to have on a social platform. By
       | "executive" I mean, I want to be able to make that choice
       | explicitly, not implicitly by my behavior. For instance, an
       | implicit choice is walking by a beautiful chocolate cake and
       | being unable to resist eating it. An explicit choice is being
       | able to architect my environment in advance, such that there are
       | no beautiful chocolate cakes to tempt me.
       | 
       | The biggest problem with social media right now is that the
       | incentives of the existing platforms do not allow people to make
       | these choices explicitly. They do not allow us to craft our
       | information environment using our higher order executive
       | functions, they force us to do it using our reptillian brains,
       | one moment at a time. Essentially, they force us to choose:
       | either you get none of what social media has to offer, or you
       | take every aspect of it, whether you like it or not.
       | 
       | Being able to explicitly say "for the next hour I want to be fed
       | thirst traps and rage bait, but then I want that turned off"
       | would be an amazing feature. People have a right to that kind of
       | content if they want it. But they equally have a right to engage
       | their higher cognitive functions and choose not to be expose to
       | it if they don't want it, or choose to be able to architect the
       | manner in which they are exposed to it.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | mhink wrote:
         | I mean, for what it's worth there's an aspect of this on
         | Reddit, in the sense that you can choose which subreddits to
         | join (and can maintain multiple accounts to keep your
         | experiences separate).
         | 
         | Although I'm sure it's not perfect, it's not terrible either.
         | Especially if you follow the perennial Reddit advice and
         | unsubscribe from the massive default subs.
        
           | alephaleph wrote:
           | I kind of disagree about this: maybe it's different if you're
           | more mature but reddit was my first social media platform, I
           | used it a lot in middle school, and in my experience rage
           | bait was a huge problem. Rage bait subreddits become more and
           | more extreme over time, losing the ability to distinguish the
           | people they hate from parodies of the people they hate and
           | effectively building up an effigy/totem of "the other side"
           | to concentrate that hate onto. When all you have is a hammer,
           | everything looks like a nail. I eventually realized I had to
           | quit reddit because the extent to which I engaged in rage
           | bait made me a worse person.
        
             | mountainriver wrote:
             | Yeah I agree, had the same experience. I found I literally
             | couldn't get away from the rage bait either. They keep
             | putting things in your feed even if your aren't subscribed.
             | 
             | Reddit is also just an awful hive mind.
        
               | alephaleph wrote:
               | oof it's probably worse now than it was for me lol, when
               | I used it I don't think they even had an algorithmic
               | feed, just a subscribed and /r/all.
               | 
               | and yeah the hivemind stuff is pretty bad. I'm reminded
               | of a talk that ViHart of all people did where they argued
               | that in a McLuhanist "the medium is the message" way,
               | reddit's focus on up and down votes and karma creates an
               | extremely judgy and kind of adversarial experience that
               | eventually breeds hiveminds. I'd also argue that reddit's
               | focus on small communities managed individually by
               | specific moderators creates an undercurrent of site drama
               | that reliably rears its ugly head every few months or so,
               | but I guess that's neither here nor there.
        
         | idealmedtech wrote:
         | I think such a network, while great in theory, would mostly be
         | filled with techies like us, because by design, it favors
         | intentional interaction over mindless swiping, giving
         | advertisers less incentive to fund you and thus eventually
         | struggling to remain solvent.
         | 
         | Now, if we put some regulation on dopamine loop limitations,
         | such a network might absolutely THRIVE!
         | 
         | Just my personal take! Do I wish people engaged more actively
         | with the idea that these products can be living breathing
         | things that we also can exhibit influence over? Absolutely. Do
         | I think the critical mass of such users exists today? Sadly
         | not, but I hope one day to be proven wrong!
        
         | solstice wrote:
         | This sounds like https://fraidyc.at which is delightfully weird
         | and really functional at the same time
        
           | attilaperez wrote:
           | That early 2010s tumblr-esque UI is wonderful. Reminds me of
           | MLKSHK. Good times.
        
         | distantsounds wrote:
         | It's called RSS. and a feed reader.
         | 
         | I swear, people are too busy re-inventing the wheel when it
         | already exists. use one of the literal hundreds of free
         | services to write what you want and syndicate it. and use the
         | same system to ingest exactly what you want.
         | 
         | We hit the nail on the head 2 decades ago. It's been rusting
         | since.
        
           | hk__2 wrote:
           | Are there some readers that do some content curation for you
           | _on top of your subscriptions_? The biggest issue I had with
           | RSS (besides content discovery) is that some people blog
           | multiple times a week while others only once in a while. I
           | would like something that limits the amount of content I get
           | based on how much they post: posts from people who blog only
           | once in a while should be more prominently visible than
           | others. Some way to mark posts as  "I want more of that" or
           | "I don't want more of that" would also be helpful to improve
           | the curation without having to manually tweak parameters.
        
           | jimkleiber wrote:
           | That works for the consumption side, but at least from what
           | I've seen (it's been a while), the feed readers don't have so
           | much share/comment/like side to them. Frankly, they seem to
           | miss the social side. Again, maybe I'm just not using the
           | right feed readers, but when I use some these days, they feel
           | somewhat isolated, just receiving info, not also sending it.
        
             | d110af5ccf wrote:
             | Many sites including HN (https://news.ycombinator.com/rss)
             | provide RSS feeds, so you could presumably navigate to the
             | relevant page for the share/comment/like functionality. I
             | realize that's not ideal but it seems well within reason to
             | me.
             | 
             | Software exists to translate RSS feeds to ActivityPub
             | actors (ex https://github.com/dariusk/rss-to-activitypub).
             | Going the other direction, Pleroma provides RSS feeds. Not
             | sure about Mastodon or Misskey.
        
             | derekzhouzhen wrote:
             | Shameless plug: Airss does that. https://airss.roastidio.us
             | 
             | The reader can be used without login. To comment and share,
             | you need to login to https://roastidio.us (free open
             | registration)
             | 
             | Warning: I have very few users. So you will still feel
             | isolated, unless you can gather a community yourself.
        
         | sacrosancty wrote:
         | Your ideas and the OPs sound like solving drug addiction by
         | offering a new less addictive drug. Obviously the addicts will
         | continue using the addictive ones! I think the social problems
         | can only be solved by legislation because the existence of even
         | one Facebook is already the problem.
        
           | darawk wrote:
           | As a former opiate addict myself, I don't think that's true
           | at all. Moving the choices of addiction from the simple parts
           | of the brain to the higher parts is the whole game. If at any
           | time while I was an addict, you had told me "I'll give you a
           | week's supply, but after that, you can never use again", i'd
           | have made that deal every time, even if I knew it would be
           | enforced.
           | 
           | The problem of addiction is the problem of inter-temporal
           | choice, and a broken discount function. Most addicts don't
           | want to keep using in the executive part of their brain. They
           | know it's self destructive, but they keep doing it anyway,
           | because _the next hit_ is always, in a very local sense,
           | rational. The ability to bind your own hands is the way out.
        
             | sacrosancty wrote:
             | While your example deal might work, that's not what new
             | social media services are doing. They aren't preventing
             | users from using the existing ones whenever they feel the
             | urge.
        
         | tejtm wrote:
         | Ahhh the original web vision and promise of the Semantic Web.
         | Snippets of machine readable datum everywhere fetched and
         | assembled for you by your own "intelligent agent".
         | 
         | The competition would be innovating better personal agents and
         | data tagging.
         | 
         | I think TBL found the mother of all misunderestimations when
         | they made http servers and browsers as step zero.
        
         | a-dub wrote:
         | so, basically blogs and rss readers... with privacy features
         | and channels for subscriptions.
         | 
         | sounds good to me.
        
         | pandesmos wrote:
         | > _Being able to explicitly say "for the next hour I want to be
         | fed thirst traps and rage bait, but then I want that turned
         | off" would be an amazing feature._
         | 
         | Did you use Google Plus? I found the circle system to be so
         | good for this. I like following artists, and sometimes they can
         | be exceedingly political/depressed/self destructive and I can't
         | take them in my "main feed". With G+ I could drop those people
         | into a circle and then "dip into" the madness for a bit and
         | hunt for gems, then leave before becoming overwhelmed.
         | 
         | Being able to "sort people" into groups on social media (using
         | a single account) was just excellent. Here are my programmers,
         | here are my RPG people, here are my RPG people that have a
         | different core belief than the previous group of RPG people,
         | here are my Artists, here are my Writers, here are my Sad But
         | Brilliant people.
         | 
         | Then when they added collections so I could present the
         | different "facets" of my interests and allow my followers to
         | unsubscribe from those facets was excellent. I'll tag this post
         | as gaming, this one as music, this one as bullshit hot takes,
         | and you, my follower can say "I hate his taste in music" and
         | never see it.
         | 
         | I miss it so much.
        
           | pandesmos wrote:
           | Also, the original ability to "circle share" was exceptional
           | (and it's truly sad it was apparently abused into the ground
           | by spammers). It allowed "real people" to curate groups of
           | other real people around a certain topic, and then a new user
           | (assuming they could find the curator) could then mass
           | follow/watch those people.
           | 
           | "Here is a group of people who are creating things and having
           | great conversations with each other. Check it out."
           | 
           | It was like someone opening a hidden door to a very nice
           | party.
           | 
           | Don't know how to make something like that non-abusable or
           | how to mitigate the abuse that killed it, but then I never
           | saw it because I wasn't following spam circle shares.
        
             | blondin wrote:
             | google+ loss was a true tragedy.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | I think Google+ was just ahead of its time. Now a huge chunk
           | of people are ready for a different platform.
        
           | rogual wrote:
           | Wow, Google+ sounds like it was actually pretty good. These
           | are all features I've wished Twitter had.
           | 
           | When Google+ came out, I do remember avoiding it mostly out
           | of spite, because Google were so overwhelmingly aggressive in
           | trying to make me use it. And these days I'd probably never
           | type my personal info into any Google property. Still, sounds
           | like a shame it failed.
        
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         | grumple wrote:
         | When Facebook was first created, there was no feed. We flocked
         | to it because it was useful for a few important reasons: 1)
         | communicating with friends, 2) finding events to go to, 3)
         | organizing groups, 4) storing and sharing photos, and 5)
         | meeting new people (sometimes). It was great as a tool to
         | supplement your social life.
         | 
         | When they introduced the feed, Facebook gradually became worse
         | at all of those things. Facebook became less about being a
         | useful tool and instead became a media sharing instrument for
         | serving advertisements. Your entire post is about that aspect
         | of it though, and really it's the problem with all social
         | media. The feed design is fundamentally incompatable with
         | providing the utility that was initially offered by Facebook.
         | The feed is purely a tool for distribution and consumption, not
         | forging connections or otherwise improving the lives of users.
        
           | scarface74 wrote:
           | The feed was introduced in 2006. Facebook was founded in
           | 2004. Not many people "flocked" to Facebook before the feed.
        
             | jimkleiber wrote:
             | I think the feed was chronological for a while. Did it
             | switch to being non-chronological in 2006? I thought it was
             | later than that.
        
               | scarface74 wrote:
               | The algorithmically generated feed was introduced in
               | 2011.
        
         | judge2020 wrote:
         | While I think this helps, Twitter has their 'lists' feature
         | that effectively allows you to choose what timeline you want to
         | view at any point; the only difference with your post is that
         | it's not forced upon you, and perhaps you envision platform
         | uses some ML model to classify posts from people you never
         | follow. As it stands, people don't like the friction that comes
         | with needing to hand-pick people to put into different twitter
         | lists, so the feature is largely unused.
        
         | alephaleph wrote:
         | the first social media platform I used was Reddit where you
         | really _can_ choose to be fed thirst traps or rage bait for the
         | next hour by exclusively browsing one or two specific
         | subreddits and I 'm not sure I'd say that's much more healthy
         | than fully algorithmic social media, it just has different
         | problems.
         | 
         | Particularly the rage bait: I basically had to quit reddit
         | because I realized the extent to which I engaged in rage bait
         | made me a worse person.
        
           | DennisP wrote:
           | It can have that problem if you make that choice. I use
           | reddit extensively, mainly subscribed to a bunch of mostly
           | small subs for my own set of narrow interests, and it works
           | great.
        
             | alephaleph wrote:
             | yeah, that's fair. I was also in middle school at the time
             | which is probably a bit too young to be using reddit, but I
             | think that it's important to recognize that a social media
             | platform that gives you high level control of the kind of
             | content you see won't completely solve the problem of
             | unhealthy social media usage, it will just make it easy for
             | your usage to be either very healthy or very unhealthy. And
             | that those unhealthy users will end up causing problems for
             | the healthy users.
             | 
             | In a weird way I actually think that the weird stuff
             | twitter has been doing to try to make it look like they're
             | doing something about unhealthy social media usage (all the
             | "remember the human" stuff) would probably be more
             | effective on a reddit-type social media platform.
        
               | Karrot_Kream wrote:
               | I think this is a good example of the folk wisdom that
               | kids don't have the best decisionmaking skills. I spent
               | time in many an IRC flamewar as a middle schooler myself,
               | so I'm not judging :) of course. Reddit first came out
               | while I was in high school and subreddits became a
               | feature near the end of my time in HS. I definitely was
               | making better choices about the content I consumed as a
               | high schooler and I've gotten better as I've gotten
               | older!
               | 
               | I deeply appreciate Reddit's openness to customizing the
               | experience. The defaults suck, I agree, but you can
               | choose to curate the experience how you like. Moreover
               | despite lots of jaw clenching over financial incentives,
               | Reddit still offers the Old Reddit interface _and_ an API
               | which lets power users consume Reddit however they like.
               | These values were pretty common among other fora/BBSes at
               | the time. The experience one got on 4chan's /a/ or /jp/
               | was very different than /b/ or /pol/ or /soc/ (and most
               | of 4chan's famed toxicity came from the latter 3 boards.)
               | Forums were usually partitioned by topic.
               | 
               | > In a weird way I actually think that the weird stuff
               | twitter has been doing to try to make it look like
               | they're doing something about unhealthy social media
               | usage (all the "remember the human" stuff) would probably
               | be more effective on a reddit-type social media platform.
               | 
               | I don't think the algorithmic feed as-is is compatible
               | with healthy usage, no matter what rhetoric a company
               | uses. ML models need to not only take engagement as input
               | but also some sort of personal toxicity input. I need to
               | be able to say "content X is addictive to me but not for
               | a good reason." The model also needs to offer as much
               | transparency as possible to the user, offering things
               | like partial dependence plots for auditing by the user.
               | I'm not sure whether a ranking model trained that way can
               | still provide good ad targeting performance. Moreover
               | knobs like this are probably just too complex for a
               | layperson to interact with. Many engineers don't
               | understand how a partial dependence plot works let alone
               | laypeople.
               | 
               | My problem with social media is about the lack of choice.
               | I have no qualms that the majority will continue to use
               | social media the way most people in the past would spend
               | time mindlessly flipping TV channels or window shopping
               | at malls and boutiques. But there was always
               | alternatives. People that didn't want to spend time
               | window shopping could be found in libraries, bookstores,
               | bars, playing sports, or outdoors. Once you became an
               | adult this was expected. That didn't mean I was
               | ostracized from them. I encountered people in college who
               | hung out in very different places than me but still
               | connected with me over shared interests.
               | 
               | In the social media age every form of social media is
               | siloed. If you're not on Twitter you can't engage with
               | people on Twitter. If you're not on Facebook you can't
               | see people's Facebook content. You _have_ to join the
               | platform to reach people on the platform. I'd love to see
               | a world of federated social media where we can all talk
               | to each other no matter our hobbies and third places.
        
         | jimkleiber wrote:
         | Yes, I've been yearning for platforms really to just let me
         | control the database query, basically. I want to be able to
         | create custom filters/sorts/queries, or even choose some from
         | an algorithm store, that lets me control how I view things.
         | 
         | For example, on Twitter, I love having the "latest tweets"
         | option. But maybe I want to also have "only tweets from
         | verified people with over 100 retweets from other verified
         | people." This is somewhat possible on Tweetdeck, but not
         | possible directly within Twitter itself.
         | 
         | It reminds me of the Facebook Graph Search, which I loved--"my
         | friends of friends who speak Spanish who live in San
         | Francisco." But FB shut that down a few years ago.
         | 
         | Makes me wonder what are the main reasons they don't implement
         | such options to help us better choose how we see the data--is
         | it technically difficult to implement? Does it run counter to
         | the business model of placed advertisements? Does it really
         | just unleash too much power in the hands of the users and make
         | these companies afraid what might happen?
         | 
         | I'd love if they did implement the changes you suggest and I
         | wonder why they haven't.
        
           | thr0wawayf00 wrote:
           | > Does it really just unleash too much power in the hands of
           | the users and make these companies afraid what might happen?
           | 
           | Social media companies spend incredible resources trying to
           | continuously improve the stickiness of the app so users keep
           | coming back to it. Giving users total control over curation
           | creates two big problems for this.
           | 
           | 1) if I can cut out all of the BS in the feed, I can utilize
           | the app more passively which likely reduces overall usage. I
           | would try to get my social media into a weekly feed, which is
           | not compatible with the business social media companies are
           | trying to run. It's all about DAU's.
           | 
           | 2) total curation makes researching and optimizing the UX for
           | eyeballs more difficult because you introduce an entirely new
           | set of variables into the equation. This increases the
           | likelihood that behavioral research draws erroneous
           | conclusions based on the patterns being observed. By
           | controlling the drip of the content to the users, the company
           | can control for this much more easily.
        
           | hannofcart wrote:
           | > Makes me wonder what are the main reasons they don't
           | implement such options to help us better choose how we see
           | the data...
           | 
           | Rather than anything nefarious, I think it might simply be
           | down to the fact that it doesn't justify the engineering
           | effort it would take to create a feed algo store or repo like
           | you suggest considering how few people might actually use
           | that feature.
           | 
           | The vast majority of people out there likely don't have the
           | wherewithal, time nor inclination to carefully pick and tune
           | the algo for their friend feed.
        
             | jimkleiber wrote:
             | Maybe I overestimate how many people would use even simple
             | sorting and filtering options if given the option.
             | 
             | Makes me wonder, how many people do you think have
             | filters/rules/folders on their Gmail or other email
             | inboxes? I assume a majority have some but maybe not.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I agree, it's not perfect. Maybe, just maybe though, it's
         | better than other alternatives out there.
         | 
         | Your suggestions for being able to apply our "higher order
         | executive function" to our social networks is honestly a great
         | take, and a great suggestion. Unfortunately though, that's not
         | something I can really build, even if I had the time,
         | resources, and personnel. That sort of social network requires
         | critical mass of content and would by definition almost, have
         | to be a competitor or aggregator of other social networks.
         | However, that's not the sort of social network I personally am
         | interested in building either.
         | 
         | I think what you're describing definitely falls into our modern
         | definition of a social network, but I also think that
         | definition falls very short of the potential for technology to
         | facilitate relationships. In my opinion, the "thirst traps and
         | rage baits" totally have there place (they're a lot of fun!),
         | but I don't think their place is in the same app as your best
         | friend sharing about their mixed feelings of loss and euphoria
         | as they move from one job to another.
         | 
         | That all being said, I think you bring up a really good talking
         | point, one that I hope the people at Instagram, Snap, TikTok,
         | etc. all pay attention to. As for me though, there's nothing I
         | can really do about it other than start discussion.
        
           | darawk wrote:
           | Totally get that, and to be clear I think what you're doing
           | is super cool. I should have given a more relevant example to
           | you. I think the general category of "user autonomy" over
           | how/what kinds of content they see or don't see is a better
           | abstraction than restrictions on behavior.
           | 
           | So, for something like your network, that might mean rather
           | than limiting how frequently people can post, give users the
           | option to aggregate content from frequent posters in their
           | feed. So, maybe I have a switch I can toggle that says, "show
           | a unit of content from one person no more than once per day",
           | where that single block of content is expandable, and gives
           | some aggregated summary of how many things they posted / what
           | its content was, that I can drill into if I want to, or
           | quickly skim over if I don't care.
        
         | civilized wrote:
         | This is exactly what I was trying to say in my other post.
         | 
         | Currently I suspect the logic behind social media engagement
         | algorithms is something like "feed the user more of what they
         | have clicked on in the past". But in real life, I don't just do
         | more of what I did in the past. Sometimes I choose to do
         | different things. But in legacy social media like FB I can't
         | choose to be offered anything different than what I clicked on
         | in the past. I can't ask for the culture wars and political hot
         | takes to fuck off so I can see normal friends and family posts
         | (or vice versa).
         | 
         | This lack of choice in what we're offered is what's essentially
         | inhuman about legacy social media.
        
         | alar44 wrote:
         | Neat idea but literally no one wants that. You think the
         | average Joe wants to explicitly configure his social media
         | algorithms?
         | 
         | Get real.
        
           | tacocataco wrote:
           | Does everyone in Path of Exile create their own loot filters?
           | 
           | You could, but most people download neversinks or someone
           | else's custom filter.
        
       | ChicagoDave wrote:
       | Crippling frequency isn't the answer. North sure there's anything
       | else to say here.
        
       | Elll wrote:
       | Heyy,I think we all need something "almost' like that social
       | network. Tired of all instafacebook/Tik Tok, they are just an
       | annoying buzz. But once a week?!!! Why post just once a week?
       | Honestly I think ppl need to post more than once a week. Well...
       | I need ...
        
       | rbrbr wrote:
        
       | xtracto wrote:
       | Way back in the day there was a great social platform called
       | Multiply.com. it allowed you to post videos, pics and blog posts.
       | I felt it was better than Myspace or Facebook. Unfortunately it
       | didn't survive, but I hope this SlowSocial gets better traction!
        
       | omoikane wrote:
       | The "new friends do not get to see old posts" seems very
       | limiting, I would certainly want the option of being able to
       | share some of my old posts with new friends, given that often new
       | friends are made because of some overlap in real life history.
       | 
       | I understand that this platform is perhaps deliberately not
       | trying to attract strangers, but other platforms that had taken
       | this stance eventually all faded away because all my friends want
       | to play at where the parties are at, and those tend not to be
       | private networks of this sort. It might be possible to avoid this
       | demise if this network grows to be sufficiently large, but it's
       | hard to grow when all existing contents are invisible to new
       | users.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | You can share old posts with new friends, it's just on a post
         | by post basis. But yeah, more fine grained control would be a
         | nice feature.
        
           | moffkalast wrote:
           | > Posts are shared with all of your confirmed friends once
           | published (let the people in your life know what you've been
           | up to)
           | 
           | That part also seems weird to me, and also why I never really
           | post anything to facebook these days (even if I used it more
           | than once a month). Unless the things you're writing are
           | stupidly generic they won't appeal to all your friends,
           | especially since "social media friends" these days also means
           | family, coworkers, acquaintences, that one guy you did a
           | college project with and never talked to again, etc. Not
           | actual friends.
           | 
           | I know which of my friends are interested in what, and I can
           | share what I know they'll be interested in hearing via DMs,
           | leading to more productive discussions. I'm not sure what the
           | appeal of friend-only self posts even is these days, unless
           | you're planning a get together of some sort.
           | 
           | If you're making a self post, there must be people that you
           | don't know about that can see it, so there is some chance
           | that you'll find someone new that's interested in what you
           | posted. E.g. posting in fb or discord groups or in public
           | like on reddit or here.
        
       | p5v wrote:
       | It makes me so happy to see projects like this one get developed.
       | A few months back, we started working on a pet project with a
       | similar idea - to help people dissociate the good and honest
       | writing on Twitter from all the links, threads, mentions,
       | hashtags, and other engagement tactics. We called it BARE
       | (https://bare.tw) and it offers an extremely spartan look over
       | one's Twitter timeline. As TWiT's Leo Laporte called it "it shows
       | you all the boring stuff."
       | 
       | I believe that with projects like SlowSocial and ours, we will
       | help people find hidden gems among the "boring stuff."
       | 
       | Kudos, and will be happy to collaborate on further ideas.
        
       | riffic wrote:
       | really dig the "slow" idea. Will you federate? There's a good
       | argument for this here (you would have a built-in audience of at
       | least 5m accounts):
       | 
       | https://www.michellelim.org/writing/into-the-fediverse/
       | 
       | Federation could be your "moat" to avoid joining the _Club of
       | Abandoned Social Apps_ (it 's a harsh ecosystem, ask Clubhouse or
       | App.Net).
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Probably won't federate. TBH, federation doesn't appeal to me
         | that much. I recognize it has benefits, but it also introduces
         | significant complexity.
         | 
         | Plus, Slow Social is already designed to work with the most
         | widely adopted federated platform: email. Posts can be sent as
         | emails, and there is no comment system other than opening up an
         | email and starting a conversation with them that way.
        
       | trungdq88 wrote:
       | For a long time, I encouraged my IRL friends to set up their
       | personal newsletter and write once or twice a month so I can
       | subscribe to. Quite similar to this social media idea.
       | 
       | I think it's a very good way of getting updates from people I
       | care about. Social media is just too noisy.
       | 
       | The plan hasn't been working very well unfortunately.
        
         | jsemrau wrote:
         | Could I have a chat with you about this? I am working on
         | finclout which helps irregular posters earn.
        
       | gverrilla wrote:
       | No innovation whatsoever.
        
       | aleken wrote:
       | This looks nice. If I were to use it, I would rely mostly on the
       | mail-feature as none of my family/friends have signed up. That's
       | a nice feature!
       | 
       | But there's one thing I reacted to, @citrusfruits. If I click the
       | "start private conversation"-button, the email address of the
       | user is revealed. That's not bad in itself if the user is
       | informed about it. But I didn't see any information in the
       | otherwise user friendly onboarding about revealing my email
       | address.
        
       | stevenicr wrote:
       | facebook some time ago added a way to export your posts (is that
       | what they are called?) - to wordpress - it's really hard to find
       | -
       | 
       | but if it's still working - I'd suggest showing folks how to
       | export thier posts to slow social - and have them saved - then
       | weekly published - give people options to re-order blocks / sort
       | by time/date .. sort by drag and drop or number ordering or
       | something..
       | 
       | offer a way to have that weekly post sent by email for fam /
       | whoever could opt in reply to get it that way.. also rss..
       | 
       | could be a thing.
       | 
       | I could see this useful for both pro and non-pro folks in
       | different ways.
        
       | anarchogeek wrote:
       | Closed source and no information about who's making it.... this
       | is better how?
        
       | fastball wrote:
       | In this vein, an app I've been using with some friends is
       | BeReal[1]. It is intended to be more of an Instagram substitute
       | rather than this which feels a bit more like a substitute for
       | Facebook.
       | 
       | The idea with BeReal is that every day you get a notification at
       | some random time (it changes every day). When you get the
       | notification, you have 2 minutes to post what you're doing at the
       | time. The app takes one picture of your environment with the main
       | camera and one of you with the front-facing camera.
       | 
       | It's not perfect and if I was developing it there are a couple
       | things I would probably change to keep a little more in the
       | spirit of "being real", but it's a fun thing to be on with
       | friends.
       | 
       | [1] https://bere.al
        
       | yosito wrote:
       | Love this idea, and love that it supports email updates. I think
       | that makes it useful even if most (all) of my friends don't use
       | it yet. That's something a lot of attempts at doing social
       | networks differently miss: it needs to be useful even without all
       | my friends being on it, or I'll just stop using it. I submitted
       | my email and I'll check this out more in the coming days.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I'm glad someone else is a fan of the email updates. I think it
         | makes gradual adoption much more feasible.
        
       | bananamerica wrote:
       | The only thing I dislike is not allowing everyone to see my
       | preview posts. If I write something cool that remains relevant,
       | I'd be sad to see it go. I might end up just posting in a more
       | permanent place instead.
        
       | tonymet wrote:
       | It's a great prototype of features, but features don't build an
       | audience. To Draw in customers, there has to be growth marketing
       | features like friend recommendations, push notifications,
       | syndicating updates to existing networks.
       | 
       | It's the network that brings in consumers, not the features.
        
       | danamit wrote:
       | Want a social network that's for friends only? simply make
       | registering and adding others possible by phone numbers only, and
       | make phone numbers always visible to friends.
        
       | shlurpy wrote:
       | It sounds like a great idea. I did notice a carveout in the
       | privacy policy for "if we get acquired, they can do whatever they
       | want with any information" which seems... undermining, given how
       | getting acquired by one of the worst data brokers is generally
       | assumed for any successful social media startup.
        
         | sundarurfriend wrote:
         | Are you referring to this part:
         | 
         | > Business Transfers. We may share or transfer your information
         | in connection with, or during negotiations of, any merger, sale
         | of company assets, financing, or acquisition of all or a
         | portion of our business to another company.
         | 
         | ? It doesn't mention the "they can do whatever they want with
         | any information" explicitly, but given that the parallel
         | "Affiliates" section says they'll have to adhere to this
         | privacy policy and this section doesn't, I suppose it's
         | implied.
         | 
         | To be clear, this is always the case whether or not it's
         | explicitly mentioned in the policy, unless the opposite is
         | mentioned - some kind of "any merger contact will require our
         | acquirer to adhere this same policy", which I've never seen
         | from any company. And it'll be an unlikely (albeit very
         | welcome) addition given that it'll affect the acquisition
         | potential and the $$$ bottom-line.
        
           | 2arrs2ells wrote:
           | At Clever we include this in our privacy policy. It caused no
           | problems when we sold our company last year:
           | 
           | > In the event of a change of control: If we sell, divest or
           | transfer our business, we will not transfer personal
           | information of our customers unless the new owner intends to
           | maintain and provide the Service as a going concern, and
           | provided that the new owner has agreed to data privacy
           | standards no less stringent than our own. In such case we
           | will provide you with notice and an opportunity to opt-out of
           | the transfer of personally identifiable Student Data.
        
         | after_care wrote:
         | I will not sign up for a service with a clause like this.
        
           | karaterobot wrote:
           | What are the chances that you haven't already? Sounds like
           | pretty low, unless you habitually read the entire privacy
           | policy for every website before signing up.
        
           | lolinder wrote:
           | You're posting on such a service right now. From Y
           | Combinator's privacy policy, which applies to HN:
           | 
           | > Business Transfers: If we are involved in a merger,
           | acquisition, financing due diligence, reorganization,
           | bankruptcy, receivership, sale of all or a portion of our
           | assets, or transition of service to another provider
           | (collectively a "Transaction"), your Personal Information and
           | other information may be shared in the diligence process with
           | counterparties and others assisting with the Transaction and
           | transferred to a successor or affiliate as part of that
           | Transaction along with other assets.
        
           | sushid wrote:
           | I bet you have already done so many times before.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | lolinder wrote:
         | I wouldn't assume malicious intent here, as this exact clause
         | shows up word for word in dozens of privacy policies. It
         | appears to just be a stock part of a generic privacy policy
         | that made it past their initial edits.
         | 
         | I'm also unsure if its absence would really change anything. If
         | a data broker acquires the company, what's to stop them from
         | just changing the privacy policy to be compatible with their
         | uses?
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Thanks for the benefit of the doubt. Yeah, this is part of a
           | stock privacy policy. Slow Social is a hobby and experimental
           | social network, not a startup. I fully intend to support any
           | users on the platform and hopefully make it into a really
           | nice experience, but there are no investors or stakeholders
           | to incentivize me to do anything other than my original goal,
           | which is to make a Social Network for friends, not
           | influencers.
        
             | [deleted]
        
       | slater wrote:
       | Not sure if it's your site, but the sign-up and magic link went
       | straight to my GMail's spam folder, with the link removed.
        
         | riffic wrote:
         | curious who they're using for transactional email. there are
         | unfortunately a few hoops to jump through to ensure
         | deliverability.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Supabase does the auth emails. If you make a post and have
           | the service email it for you, it uses Sendgrid which seems to
           | make it past the spam folder most of the time.
        
             | aaaaaaaaata wrote:
             | Can you update here what you learn?
             | 
             | This is a huge sticking point for new projects and
             | businesses.
        
             | riffic wrote:
             | make sure you got the right dns records in place as well. I
             | haven't looked at your mail headers yet[0] but you probably
             | want to send from a separate subdomain than the one you use
             | for everyday use (like for team@slowsocial.us).
             | 
             | [0] This may be seen as a back-handed way of saying I have
             | no intention of signing up, but I didn't intend for it to
             | be.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Yeah, sadly I couldn't figure out how to not make it happen.
         | The SSO OAuth providers tend to work better.
         | 
         | If you mark it as "Not spam" it will fix it on a case by case
         | basis.
        
           | formerkrogemp wrote:
           | If enough people start marking it as "Not Spam," would that
           | make things better?
        
             | CitrusFruits wrote:
             | I'd hope so! Ideally I'd be able to send the Magic Link
             | from my own domain, but I haven't found a way to do that
             | yet through Supabase.
        
       | ricardobayes wrote:
       | I think it's irrelevant, most friend groups are using something
       | for this already. Whatsapp group, private discord etc.
        
       | NanoWar wrote:
       | Missed opportunity to call it "Slowcial" ;)
        
         | jsemrau wrote:
         | glacial ? or slocial?
        
         | deltille wrote:
         | I had the same thought and had been holding my tongue. I think
         | the more literal name probably suits the intent of the service
         | better but my impulse to terrible portmanteau is screaming. :)
        
       | rglullis wrote:
       | The one question I have is: what can I do here that I can not do
       | with a messaging group?
        
       | TekMol wrote:
       | It's cool. A bit rough around the edges. I see a lot of "NULL"
       | and "UNDEFINED" in the interface.
       | 
       | What is your stack?
       | 
       | For how long have you been coding?
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Yes, definitely rough around the edges.
         | 
         | The DB, Auth, and File Storage is all Supabase. The web
         | framework is SvelteKit, and I'm using Sendgrid to send emails.
         | Also using Tailwind.
         | 
         | I've been coding for a long time, but have been working on this
         | mostly in off hours so I haven't been able to give this the
         | polish I'd like to. If you have any screenshots of the nulls or
         | undefineds I'd be happy to fix them.
        
           | TekMol wrote:
           | Thanks for the info!
           | 
           | "A long time" is very relative. I sometimes meet coders who
           | have been coding for 3 years and call it a long time. But for
           | me, "a long time" means 20+ years. So I am still curious :)
           | 
           | The "NULLs" and "UNDEFINEDs" went away after I set my user
           | name.
        
       | ivanhoe wrote:
       | IMHO this is doing completely the opposite of the intended
       | effect, because the concept is focused only on pleasing the
       | content consumers, but it completely misses the point of what the
       | content creators need and want out of it. And without content
       | creators you have nothing.
       | 
       | The influencers are the ones who post in regular periods because
       | it's a job for them, while ordinary people post whenever they
       | find something interesting to say/share because their motivation
       | is purely emotional - they're looking to channel their MOMENTARY
       | excitement or frustrations about something. It has to happen
       | immediately or it will not happen. Limiting them to a single post
       | per week kinda kills all the fun, because you can't share what
       | you feel when you feel it. System forces you to postpone the
       | reaction until the next weekend, which means it breaks this
       | emotional cycle and the reward of venting online. This would
       | certainly make for a higher quality of reactions, but frankly
       | what would be the motivation for me to sit on some thoughts for a
       | whole week and then login to this service to post a single post,
       | and then again be forced to wait a whole week for the next chance
       | to say something? I can see myself doing something like that only
       | if there's some personal gain in it, so IMHO in a long-term only
       | influencers and self-promoters would be motivated to participate.
        
         | dejw wrote:
         | What? Opposite of intended effect for who? Platform owners or
         | users? Most of us, users, want to get less but more relevant
         | information.
        
       | stefanv wrote:
       | My first thought after reading the frontpage: this is my
       | "liberation" from Facebook and all the things that FB is doing
       | wrong. I click on "join today" and I see "continue with
       | Facebook". Why?
        
         | x86_64Ubuntu wrote:
         | Because for them to even think of approaching a userbase size
         | that can enjoy network effects, they will need to make signing-
         | up as easy as possible. Using some of the other OAuths is a
         | smart business decision in my opinion.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | Method-X wrote:
         | To minimize the friction of switching over for most regular
         | folks. It doesn't force you to use Facebook. You can use your
         | email, Google and GitHub too.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Yup, this is exactly right. Facebook was the last OAuth
           | provider I added because I don't love being tied to them, but
           | at the end of the day some people just want the easiest way
           | to authenticate possible, and Facebook is one of the largest
           | authentication providers available in the world.
           | 
           | And to put it into perspective, yes Facebook is able to
           | collect information about you when you use them as an
           | authentication provider (like when you log in, how often, how
           | long your sessions are), but beyond that it's a pretty narrow
           | interaction.
        
             | privatdozent wrote:
             | Question: Does encouraging people to sign up with FB (bc it
             | is faster/easier) also have the unwanted consequence of
             | preventing them from leaving FB in the future? If they are
             | signed up through to Slow Social via FB, can they still log
             | in manually if their FB account has been deleted?
        
               | loceng wrote:
               | I see it as more of providing a false signal of adoption
               | or success: if people need the friction to be as little
               | as clicking a single button to "sign up" then they're not
               | very convinced or committed to trying something new and
               | likely not willing to invest time actually engaging with
               | the system; all major platforms today used tricks or
               | first mover mechanics for engagement to keep enough
               | people on the platform long enough to make it sticky,
               | rather than adding or creating or providing a wide
               | breadth of usefulness/function to a wide variety of
               | demographics - providing candy to the 80% at very low
               | cost of ingredients vs. creating something of quality
               | (product and service); dumb inflammatory sugary candy vs.
               | quality nutrients that is trying to milk clicks and time
               | engaging on a platform attempting to control and retain a
               | user every moment.
        
               | judge2020 wrote:
               | A lot of human time is sacrificed to maintain passwords
               | for different websites; having a one-click sign in option
               | saves a lot of people the time and headache of having to
               | deal with a compromised account or forgotten password
               | years in the future.
        
               | loceng wrote:
               | Who you give the gatekeeping keys to has importance and
               | value.
        
               | judge2020 wrote:
               | The only other option is passwordless webauthn which has
               | a lot of downsides compared to social sign in. Allowing
               | people to sign in with social is a personal choice that
               | i'm happy many sites give the option of using.
        
               | loceng wrote:
               | I'm not saying it shouldn't be an option but we should be
               | conscious of who we give that login data to and how
               | they're use/benefit from it and then misuse or waste the
               | value they extract from it; be conscious of who we reward
               | with our actions.
        
               | CitrusFruits wrote:
               | It's really about reducing friction, not pumping up
               | numbers. This is bootstrapped, not investor backed so
               | there's no reason to skew the numbers.
               | 
               | As for the candy analogy, I think that's a bit cynical if
               | all you're critiquing is the login system without looking
               | at the actual application. Lots of quality applications
               | provide login via Facebook: Spotify, Notion, Airbnb, etc.
               | It has nothing to do with the actual apps itself, it's
               | just the doorway.
        
               | loceng wrote:
               | Hey there. I didn't mean to insinuate that your intent
               | was to do so - but I suppose the caution is to perhaps
               | take that signal (# of signups) with at least a bit of a
               | grain of salt; you likewise, as other commenters stated,
               | could be turning off a set of demographics who want
               | nothing to do with Facebook et al, and who may be your
               | most passionated, motivated userbase you'd perhaps want
               | to start off with. Pros and cons either way, it seems.
               | 
               | And to further clarify: I also wasn't criticizing your
               | platform as part of my comment, I was referring to the
               | status quo platforms - citing specifically all major
               | platforms.
               | 
               | I do greatly appreciate anyone genuinely attempting to
               | solve the problem - it's a very serious problem; obesity,
               | literally, is a big problem in North America and growing
               | globally (no pun intended) - and in big part is the
               | capture of our information systems (including MSM/legacy
               | media and platforms that have reached popularity and are
               | ad funded/driven) by industrial complexes; with a
               | sprinkling of foreign interests and bad actors
               | interfering.
        
         | Jugurtha wrote:
         | You can also sign up with GitHub, Google, and email.
        
       | derekzhouzhen wrote:
       | How is it any different than old style blogging?
       | 
       | The whole social network thing is a attention grabbing game.
       | Blogging, on the other hand, is talking into the void: I don't
       | need anyone. All past attempts to combined the best parts of both
       | has been combining the worst part of both: no freedom of speech
       | and no audience.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I'd argue it's different because it has better privacy
         | controls. Instead of all your content being public, it's all
         | private and you can share it to a non Slow Social member via
         | email. Additionally, it's a more focused, concentrated
         | experience.
         | 
         | Otherwise, feel free to make blog posts. I think blogs are
         | great.
        
           | markstos wrote:
           | Email has privacy controls and is decentralized. Just send
           | HTML emails to the friends you want to get it.
        
             | janfoeh wrote:
             | Email is push, this is pull. For stuff below the threshold
             | of breaking news ("grandma has passed"), it would feel
             | awfully presumptuous to email people.
        
               | derekzhouzhen wrote:
               | It is a sad world when marketers boldly blast emails to
               | us but we feel presumptuous to send emails to each other.
        
               | janfoeh wrote:
               | What marketers do is between them and their conscience.
               | If I want to write about the dozen breakfast dishes from
               | around the world I made during Corona, I do not want to
               | have to wonder if this is worth asking for peoples
               | attention. In a pull model, that point is moot.
        
           | derekzhouzhen wrote:
           | Privacy is great; however requiring everyone to login adds
           | frictions, which kill engagement.
           | 
           | Anyway, it is always good to see someone challenging the
           | status quo. Good luck.
        
             | CitrusFruits wrote:
             | Yeah, and perhaps it will too much friction in the end. Or
             | maybe it won't be. Either way, time will tell. Thanks for
             | your feedback!
        
       | zaik wrote:
       | Does this built on existing Internet standards like ActivityPub
       | or XMPP?
        
       | olah_1 wrote:
       | This is awesome, but I'd like to see it built on top of something
       | like https://Manyver.se (SSB) where the content lives on user
       | devices!
        
       | ryanschneider wrote:
       | Honestly if this was geared towards teams inside a company I
       | would probably lobby for it at my job. Have you considered an
       | "enterprise option"? :)
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Something I hadn't considered. I'm not sure I'd go in that
         | direction but I'm curious what this would look like. Are you
         | thinking of something like a weekly status update on
         | projects/etc?
        
           | ryanschneider wrote:
           | Ya exactly. Basically to replace daily status updates in
           | slack or scrum or tickets or where ever.
        
       | theplumber wrote:
       | So it's a blogging app, right?
        
       | NoImmatureAdHom wrote:
       | I like the idea, but I won't bite unless the network has an open
       | protocol and some mechanism of guaranteeing it stays open at
       | minimum.
       | 
       | No more walled gardens.
        
       | jedberg wrote:
       | I think your magic link is broken. I put in my email addy and got
       | an email that said "click here to confirm your email" but there
       | was no link.
        
       | dollop43 wrote:
       | My thought is that one post per week, seems like a blog platform
       | rather than a social app. Social media is too vague. Maybe you
       | could remove the concept of being a social media, but a diary
       | sharing platform. Define the task as to share a weekly diary
       | among friends, it could gives more commitment for people to
       | write.
        
       | faraaz98 wrote:
       | How long until this too succumbs to influencers or dies out?
        
         | formerkrogemp wrote:
         | Buy my new book to find out! Or something along those lines.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | If I'm running it, I have no intentions of letting it become
         | that way. The whole point of the product is that it's about
         | friends and not influencers. People, not money. This is
         | something for myself, my friends, and people like them more
         | than.
         | 
         | If Slow Social had any measure of great success I'd love to
         | make it a B-Corp.
        
       | civilized wrote:
       | Respect the effort, but I think it's not going in quite the right
       | direction. I don't think people need paternalistic restrictions
       | on post frequency. People need to be liberated from engagement-
       | optimizing algorithms and allowed to choose which activity is
       | presented to them and in what order.
        
         | chrischen wrote:
         | I agree. What I'd like is to be given control so that I can at
         | least work on _improving_ my social life and interactions. I
         | want _pro software_ but for socializing. Something like my
         | calendar app, email app, Photoshop, etc.
         | 
         | Imagine if our email app changed their goal from empowering
         | users to engaging users. We'd have email apps that surfaced
         | only engaging emails you received and buried the rest. It would
         | maximize our short term app usage engagement to the detriment
         | of long term goals (getting work done). Gmail shows it's
         | possible to meld good algorithms (spam detection) with good
         | user empowering features, while also being an ad-supported
         | model!
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I don't think your first and second sentence are necessarily in
         | conflict with each other. In fact, Slow Social has no
         | algorithms for engagement-optimizing, it's part of the design
         | of the application.
         | 
         | That being said, you absolutely _could_ be right on the
         | restrictions on post frequency. Perhaps its not something any
         | sort of large user base might not want. However, as far as I
         | know it hasn't been tried before, and I think that makes it
         | worth a shot.
         | 
         | Lastly, it's possible that restrictions on post frequency serve
         | a segment of the population that might be underserved by
         | current social media, and its something those people would
         | thrive one. At this point we can't say for sure, but I'd love
         | to find out.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | Slowing things down has the virtue of being a much easier
           | means of social engineering than figuring out how to empower
           | users to control the flow of content that comes to them. I
           | only have some sketchy ideas of how exactly it would work.
           | 
           | Definitely the starting point is to let users have a simple
           | chronological option.
        
             | linuxdude314 wrote:
             | How does slowing things down make social engineering
             | easier?
             | 
             | That's a security term, and I'm not quite sure how it's
             | relevant to the OP.
        
               | civilized wrote:
               | Social engineering isn't just a security term. The use in
               | security is inherited from a broader and pre-existing
               | concept. It's about setting up conditions that influence
               | people to behave in a desired way.
        
               | psyc wrote:
               | I assume they mean herding cats.
        
         | Barrin92 wrote:
         | I think 'the algorithm' truly is the bogeyman of our time. Have
         | you considered that it is precisely people themselves who crave
         | engagement and that it is the often reviled paternalism which
         | liberates people from following their worst instincts?
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | Paternalism isn't categorically bad but I see it as a last
           | resort. People have never had the _option_ to filter out
           | garbage from their feeds. If they did, there might be little
           | _need_ for paternalism.
        
           | moffkalast wrote:
           | People crave engagement as much as they crave unhealthy food.
           | Having a person stand behind you at all times with an
           | infinite amount of the exact kind of burger you like isn't
           | gonna help make you get thinner lol. And that's like the
           | whole point of personalization algorithms.
        
             | Barrin92 wrote:
             | > isn't gonna help make you get thinner lol.
             | 
             | sure as hell isn't but do you actually think the reason 65%
             | of the American population is overweight is burger ads,
             | rather than the simple fact that people unless very
             | explicitly told not to will stuff their faces with cheap
             | and delicious fast food? Do you think that requires
             | coercion? Like in a world where McDonalds doesn't run ads,
             | they all start working out and eat salads?
             | 
             | The algorithm itself only exists to satisfy a never-ending
             | demand by people, it's nothing else than an internet
             | conveyor belt.
             | 
             | When you walk into Twitter HQ and turn the algorithms off
             | you think the people will greet you in the streets as
             | liberators with flowers and open arms? You'll have a riot
             | because Instagram and TikTok don't work any more
        
               | moffkalast wrote:
               | Nah I'm saying that some things have a level of healthy
               | natural scarcity to them. That scarcity can be removed
               | artificially to not always beneficial ends.
               | 
               | Would I want an unlimited supply of free chocolate? Sure.
               | Would I trust myself with it? Definitely not. Same
               | applies here.
               | 
               | I'm aware that for example Tiktok owes its entire
               | popularity to its smart filtering and suggestions, but
               | that's also why I've never tried it myself. It's like
               | going out of your way to try heroin or something. You
               | know it's not gonna end well.
        
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         | dansiemens wrote:
         | I agree to some extent. The "medium is the message"; let the
         | outcomes of post frequency be determined by the structure of
         | the platform. Whether that structure should be more
         | prescriptive than descriptive though is certainly up for
         | debate.
        
         | whatshisface wrote:
         | I think the idea of paternalism comes from seeing people harm
         | themselves by undertaking actions they were manipulated into
         | taking, and confusing that with actions they'd have done on
         | their own, independently.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | What I object to is we skipped straight from exploitation to
           | paternalism. Freedom was never an option on offer.
        
         | lotsofpulp wrote:
         | I have WhatsApp/iMessage groups for immediate friends and
         | family who I don't mind getting real time updates from.
         | Everyone else, I am okay with periodically contacting as
         | desired via text/audio/video call.
         | 
         | It seems pretty liberated, and I am not sure what more a social
         | network website could offer. Outside of about 5 people, I have
         | no interest in real time updates...I can wait to see photo
         | albums next time I call or visit, like in the times before
         | broadband. In fact I prefer it, so that there is a jumping off
         | point for things to talk about.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | I have the family SMS group as well.
           | 
           | I can't imagine having much use for a social network after
           | all these years of social networks being awful, but maybe a
           | truly different and more liberated one would offer some
           | possibilities.
        
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         | mrweasel wrote:
         | Personally I believe that the era of Facebook style social
         | media networks have come and gone. It's on the road to becoming
         | a niche product, like family newsletters, not completely dead,
         | but also not completely alive.
         | 
         | I can respect the work and the idea, but not many are going to
         | sign up, the first mover types have been burned so badly by
         | Facebook that they're going to pass.
        
         | TameAntelope wrote:
         | You say that, but what if they choose paternalistic
         | restrictions on post frequency?
         | 
         | "You _must_ make all your choices yourself, and you _must_
         | prefer that! " <- doesn't actually seem all that free, to me.
         | 
         | People act like any one website must support all use cases, all
         | the time, when in reality, opting in to the site is also a
         | choice; literally nothing on the Internet is required, you can
         | choose not to participate (and all of the consequences, good or
         | bad, that come with that choice).
        
         | skippyboxedhero wrote:
         | One way to look at it is a restriction on post frequency, but
         | the reason why modern social is so harmful is because unlimited
         | post frequency means unlimited read frequency.
         | 
         | It isn't restricted post frequency, it is restricted read
         | frequency.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Yeah, I definitely thought of this. It's kindof a chicken or
           | the egg thing. Some of my friends had the suggestion of a
           | weekly digest or something like that.
           | 
           | In the end, I opted for this since, from my perspective,
           | there's a sort of solace knowing that I'm only "expected" to
           | write at most once a week.
        
             | civilized wrote:
             | I must be some sort of freak libertarian. People are always
             | talking about how they want or need their lifestyle to
             | force them to do this and that. I would always rather have
             | the choice.
        
               | skippyboxedhero wrote:
               | It is a choice. The choice is: I will only write/read
               | once a week, that is you making a choice about how you
               | want to allocate time.
        
       | sunshi23 wrote:
       | What value does this provide at all? This reminds me of Chinese
       | online games will block teenagers at night. (Fang Chen Mi )
       | Except that the government forced all online games to do so.
       | Because if some does some does not, teenagers just play the one
       | that does not block them.
       | 
       | Maybe we should build a system that have user's actual password
       | to FB IG TWTR TIKTOK, and user only has password to that system
       | and when they post go through that system as a proxy. Then the
       | system can truly restrict the frequency of post.
       | 
       | But this violates the term of service of all the social network
       | listed above
        
       | willio58 wrote:
       | This whole page could do with a little padding/margin work.
        
       | unkulunkulu wrote:
       | From article by the op:
       | 
       | > ...products owned by publicly traded companies who have a
       | legally binding responsibility to maximize financial return on
       | investment to their shareholders.
       | 
       | Can someone enlighten me to this particular detail? How come
       | legally? I believed it was free market?
        
         | vhiremath4 wrote:
         | board members of publicly traded companies have a fiduciary
         | responsibility to their shareholders to make decisions that
         | maximize shareholder value
        
       | DreamFlasher wrote:
       | Great work! Wish it were built on Mastodon and e2e encrypted.
        
       | vmception wrote:
       | Minutiae seems to do this decently
       | 
       | Lets you use the app for one minute a day at a random time, and
       | during that minute you get to see a random users old feed
       | 
       | You might think it's a different use case, but i think it's
       | tackling the same problem and in a more succinct and simpler way
       | 
       | https://minutiae-app.org/faqs
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | This is a really interesting concept!
         | 
         | I'm trying to solve the problem of creating space for people to
         | share more thoughtful, potentially longer form content, while
         | this seems to be solving for transient "what are you doing
         | right now" type content. I'd say they're different enough, but
         | both seem to be a reaction to similar concepts.
        
           | vmception wrote:
           | Try it out! Maybe you can incorporate it into your sentiment
           | of solving this goal for a broader population
           | 
           | I know some people whose lives it changed by not being able
           | to curate their images they post during their 1 minute (a
           | prerequisite to viewing others images in the 1 minute). They
           | realized they were sitting at a desk every time and didnt
           | want their life to be that way so it was a catalyst to taking
           | more drastic steps to doing something else.
        
             | martinadolfsson wrote:
             | Hey, Martin here, the co-founder of minutiae - saw a spike
             | in traffic from Hackernews and got curious where it came
             | from.
             | 
             | Thanks for sharing the project.
             | 
             | Feel free to reach out if you have any questions
             | info@minutiae-app.org
        
       | RajT88 wrote:
       | I love it.
       | 
       | But my friends all use Facebook.
        
       | CitrusFruits wrote:
       | Hey everyone, OP here.
       | 
       | I, like many others tend to waffle between loving and hating
       | social media, so this is my take on what I think a better
       | solution looks like. This is something I've been working on for
       | the past couple of months and a concept that I think will be
       | though provoking, if nothing else, to the HN community. If you
       | want to read more on my thoughts and the story behind this, you
       | can check out my blog post here:
       | https://dev.to/duensing/introducing-slow-social-4a90
       | 
       | Besides that, I'm happy to answer questions and take criticism.
        
         | crossroadsguy wrote:
         | I've not used your service because I don't know anyone who's on
         | it and I won't invite anyone to a new social network right
         | away. Too many burnt fingers. So what I am sharing is my social
         | network wish list.
         | 
         | Give a minimum characters/words post and same for photo posts.
         | 
         | Do not show amount of reshares/likes (if at all you allow that;
         | you should not - just let people reply to posts). Definitely
         | add minimum words limits to comments/responses. Let the low
         | effort appreciations or disagreements propagate heart to heart.
         | 
         | Have an idea of a non-searchable ID (I like that from
         | https://slowly.app/ - very similar names as well :)) that one
         | can have - it's unique and decently readable and completely
         | avoids "reserve the username as a real estate" bullshit of many
         | social networks. You have one to but it isn't apparent it can
         | be used that way.
         | 
         | And I know it may not sound reasonable or even feasible but I
         | wouldn't mind some kind of federation. I am slowly tending to
         | hate the walled gardens more and more.
         | 
         | As a general social network it may not take off and if it
         | doesn't then one wouldn't want to just post in a circle of 3.5
         | people (that two and half being people who just opened accounts
         | but are not active).
         | 
         | Once a week seems too less and too limiting. Will the weeks
         | when one didn't post be accumulated to a max accumulation (and
         | even these can't be used more than once a day, or once in a two
         | days maybe)?
         | 
         | There's no way to delete the old posts, or I can't see one.
         | 
         | Clicking start conversation shares the other person's email and
         | intimates an email compose. Is that intentional? Or is it pre-
         | alpha build?
         | 
         | Anyway, there was an old submission
         | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25731419. I don't really
         | remember a lot from it (definitely nothing from the post) but
         | maybe give it a look.
        
         | mind-blight wrote:
         | I'm really curious what your business model is and how you make
         | money. I looked under those sections on the about page, but
         | they don't actually answer the question.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | The app is just launching, and it's a side hustle. Everything
           | right now can run on a free tier, and I'm fairly certain I
           | can support a _very_ sizeable amount of users for < $100 of
           | operating overhead, which is cash I'd totally be willing to
           | spare if I had thousands of users enjoying the app.
           | 
           | But, if I get there, the plan would be to explore charging
           | something reasonable for a plus tier which would offer more
           | formatting options, more pictures per post, and a couple
           | other things, for something nominal like $3 of a month. That
           | could help cover the overhead, and maybe would result in some
           | cash on the side.
        
             | and0 wrote:
             | I think there's a lot of honesty and practicality in your
             | response but not the transparency or clarity needed for
             | this to scale. These networks require buy-in / critical
             | mass to function as intended, and not knowing if I (or my
             | friends) will agree to the pricing terms after I get my
             | network on board is a hard stop for me.
             | 
             | I do like the idea. Well designed limitations can add a lot
             | of appeal, and in social spaces especially they can be fun
             | to play within.
        
               | ada1981 wrote:
               | None of the other social networks you were an early
               | adopter of told your their future monetization plans did
               | they?
        
               | and0 wrote:
               | The two that I used to maintain personal connections and
               | communicate in ways worth archiving were Myspace and
               | Facebook. For Myspace I was a teen. Same with Facebook.
               | My connections were from school so if either disappeared
               | I'd just have to talk to them the next day. Also both had
               | attained critical mass at some sort of scale by the time
               | they popped up on my radar, and were fairly new ideas so
               | it's not like I was able to shop around. I just went
               | where my friends were.
        
               | Aeolun wrote:
               | Exactly. They've learned from experience what happens.
        
         | typeofhuman wrote:
         | If it hasn't been mentioned, you should learn from the social
         | media app Path.
         | 
         | It limited the amount of friends you could have. As a result,
         | people didn't add friends because they didn't want to give up a
         | space for a potential future connection. The scarcity worked
         | against Path.
         | 
         | You might find the same result where people won't post because
         | they'll be afraid of using up their allotment when they may
         | have a better one later.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Thanks, that's a good tip! I'll definitely check them out.
           | 
           | And yup, definitely a concern. Makes me think that perhaps
           | there's a possibility to not cap the posts, but rather have
           | any posts outside of the first one in a week have something
           | like a "secondary" tag. Then again, you might run into the
           | problem that Instagram has where everyone stopped posting as
           | soon as stories caught on.
           | 
           | Alas, it's a tricky problem.
        
             | nicoburns wrote:
             | I feel like you could achieve your aim by just cutting out
             | the content that isn't even posted by your friends (or is
             | lazily shared by a friend, but originates with a commercial
             | entity).
        
             | adfm wrote:
             | Attenuate with a temporal component. Share short bursty
             | material with the people you frequently interact with and
             | dither out over time. Pin things you want your infrequent
             | contacts to see. You keep your "free" speech while slowing
             | the spread of batshit insane brain worms naturally.
        
             | pjerem wrote:
             | Why not just allow your users to write their weekly post
             | during all the week (and saving it while not publishing it)
             | but just allowing to publish once a week ?
             | 
             | In doing so, there would be no real scarcity for the writer
             | (the post can be edited to the infinity) and you encourage
             | writing long prose.
             | 
             | Your UX should show that editing the post is the default
             | option and publishing it should be some ritual (maybe send
             | a notification when it is possible?)
        
               | ivan_gammel wrote:
               | I just tested, it works exactly this way. You start
               | editing and do it over time until you publish it. It is
               | not obvious from UX though.
        
             | rad88 wrote:
             | Allow edits to the post, or allow the author to append
             | short updates to it, or something else, but I think the
             | rate limit is an interesting thing and worth sticking with
             | at this stage. It's a principle that once you break would
             | be hard to reestablish. The main risk is that slow posting
             | probably means slow growth, and that is a reason to add
             | some kind of exception -- but try to make it limited it,
             | imo.
             | 
             | Maybe new users can make secondary posts, and as they post
             | more and connect with people, you guide them somehow
             | towards 1/week. Sort of reversing the traditional pattern
             | that new users might need to be rate limited when they
             | first sign up, instead what you want is for established
             | users to post slowly.
        
             | Husafan wrote:
             | I think the weekly post idea really applies to the reader,
             | not the writer. Perhaps you could get around this with a
             | "digest" style of posting. I.e. I can write as many posts
             | as I want, but it will only be published once a week as a
             | digest of posts. This might fit better with human behavior
             | too as it lowers the cost of a single post while still
             | achieving the goal of updating friends on what's happening
             | at a spaced interval.
             | 
             | Anyway, love the idea. Good luck!
        
               | prismatix wrote:
               | Maybe you can only see one post per friend per week in
               | the feed, but then you can click into their profile to
               | see the whole of their posts.
        
               | brewtide wrote:
               | I have nothing to add except I fully second this. Perhaps
               | a counter icon indicating 'other posts exist'
        
             | bornfreddy wrote:
             | I would definitely not cap the posts, nor would I limit in
             | any way their consumption. If I have something to say, why
             | should I not be able to? And if I am interested in what
             | someone does, I don't want to wait for a week to read it.
             | 
             | That said, it is important how the posts are presented. A
             | person who posts all the time about each plate of food...
             | might not be as interesting as another friend who writes
             | only once a month, but usually about really interesting
             | things. A good UI which puts control in the hands of the
             | consumer (but easy to use - convenience matters) is the
             | most important thing here imho.
             | 
             | Best of luck!
        
             | metamet wrote:
             | The ability to edit the weekly post seems like it could
             | remedy this. Would probably see folks embrace the
             | journaling approach by using headers to timestamp them.
        
               | typeofhuman wrote:
               | That would be great!
               | 
               | I'm sick of articles needing follow ups or corrections
               | instead get a separate, unlinked post.
               | 
               | Articles become stale but they get shared and referenced
               | as if they're the final point on the subject.
        
             | philosopher1234 wrote:
             | Everyone should get a post refresh at the exact same time.
             | So if you don't use your post that week, you lose it.
        
               | Tepix wrote:
               | That seems like a bad idea, i want to post shortly after
               | an event, not wait for a week
        
               | philosopher1234 wrote:
               | Then use twitter
        
           | Siira wrote:
           | People should be afraid to post. Erring on the side of less
           | content is better, as the content isn't all that valuable in
           | the best of times.
           | 
           | It might very well be that the best social media is simple
           | private messaging.
        
           | twobitshifter wrote:
           | The app BeReal is getting press lately. The one post a day is
           | a photo and they solve the holding back problem by making it
           | an impulsive post at a preset time. It's not supposed to
           | communicate everything you did in a day only what you are
           | doing in the scheduled moment.
           | 
           | https://text.npr.org/1092814566
        
         | lasagna_coder wrote:
         | Typo on the welcome - onboarding page: "get updates from thos
         | close to you." /thos/those
        
         | simonjgreen wrote:
         | Does the .us TLD mean you are only interested in US users?
        
           | csilverman wrote:
           | I'm guessing it's "us" as in "something for all of us."
        
         | jack_riminton wrote:
         | Just a word of caution on soliciting product feedback on here,
         | HN users are a notoriously unrepresentative bunch (with a lot
         | of bad ideas). Better to try ways to get it into the hands of
         | more normal people and see what makes it go 'viral'
        
         | subpixel wrote:
         | This is exactly the app idea I pitched my wife with the working
         | title "What's Happening". Which she had turned into a joke at
         | my expense. I wish you luck!
        
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         | ivan_gammel wrote:
         | Looks like this may work for older generations where the pace
         | of life is different and things are less spontaneous. I'm
         | looking forward to see where it will go.
        
           | ricardobayes wrote:
           | older folk seem to have zero issues with facebook though. All
           | over my feed and groups is 60+ people posting. Younger people
           | have largely abandoned ship
        
             | ivan_gammel wrote:
             | I mean 35-40 and older, not the retirement age. 90% of my
             | friends in this age have gone offline or keep their old
             | blogs for posting. They may keep the accounts or even read
             | some stuff sometimes, but social networks of 2010s are dead
             | for them. This is in Europe though, maybe in other parts of
             | the world it is different.
        
         | EdgarVerona wrote:
         | This is great!
         | 
         | Coincidentally I've been working on a prototype that is
         | _almost_ the exact same idea. I had very similar motivations
         | and a feeling that  "slow social" (I was calling it the same
         | thing even!) is something that can potentially break some
         | people free from cycles of nonstop engagement and the
         | unexpected downsides of always on, public and sharable social
         | networks.
         | 
         | I hope you have success with it! Know that you're not alone in
         | feeling like we need a solution like this. I think I'm far
         | enough along with my prototype that I might as well see it
         | through to completion anyways, but either way it's heartening
         | to see that folks are feeling the same way I am about social
         | networks.
        
         | murphyslab wrote:
         | The rate limitation sounds good for a general audience of one's
         | connections, but there are a lot of times when life calls for
         | more frequent updates, particularly in times of emergency and
         | medical crisis where the changes to one's life circumstances
         | change by the day, if not by the hour. Posting, "Andy is in the
         | hospital", then needing to wait a week to post, "Andy died 1
         | hour after being admitted to the hospital". One suggestion
         | might be to allow posts to be threaded, so that updates to an
         | initial post can be added without waiting an entire week.
        
           | noduerme wrote:
           | I think there's a case to be made that whatever you write
           | after a week of reflection will be of more value or at least
           | higher quality than what you'd be able to send off
           | immediately when someone dies. Certainly there's a need for a
           | space that puts quality over immediacy. There are already a
           | dozen channels by which you can update people with short
           | bursts of information, but by their nature those channels are
           | not well suited to more thoughtful posting.
        
           | bityard wrote:
           | Not the OP but I think the answer for this is that
           | communication of medical/health issues is best handled by a
           | more private form of media.
        
             | murphyslab wrote:
             | For medical issues, I agree that private is usually best;
             | or at least restricted to close friends and family.
             | Imminent death often has an adjacent position, where people
             | commonly wish to share with a broader audience.
             | 
             | However it was just an example of an emergency where one
             | might strongly desire to update a broad range of friends
             | and family quickly. Other situations might be natural
             | disasters or a house fire where one "We're alive!" post
             | might require a follow-up the next day with more details,
             | needs, or grief.
             | 
             | It's just to say that an unyielding, global rate limit
             | would not serve peoples' interests well.
        
               | FFRefresh wrote:
               | I sometimes wonder whether our goal of making everything
               | as convenient & frictionless as possible is part of our
               | problem. By serving _some_ of our short-term interests,
               | are we jeopardizing our long-term interests?
               | 
               | I'm personally okay with seeing products that have well-
               | intended friction built into them.
        
             | nightski wrote:
             | I don't have skin in this game and will probably never use
             | it anyways, but to me that is a non starter for this whole
             | project. Why would I want to limit how often my friends can
             | post? The problem with FB isn't that my friends post to
             | much, it's that I never see what my _friends_ post.
        
               | newsclues wrote:
               | Why would I want to limit my speed in my own car?
               | 
               | Because others exist
        
               | nightski wrote:
               | This argument makes sense to me in a public space, like
               | twitter. But among a close knit group of friends? Not one
               | bit. They are directly advertising this as a space built
               | for "friends", not influencers. Having to time-filter
               | your friends sounds like a really negative friendship
               | dynamic.
        
               | ricardobayes wrote:
               | If there was anything that we learned from the pandemic
               | is people are not in any way considerate of others needs.
        
               | Siira wrote:
               | Then you can already use a Telegram channel. (Or an RSS
               | feed if your friends can bother.) It fits your needs
               | pretty well. You don't need a new social media app.
        
             | Jeff_Brown wrote:
             | I'd want to use both. Using private media is more reliable
             | if you remember everyone relevant but that's hard.
        
           | Guest19023892 wrote:
           | I don't agree here. This social network is a tool for one
           | method of communication. It doesn't need to be a platform for
           | all types of communication. By trying to excel at everything,
           | it would do nothing particularly well.
           | 
           | You choose the right tool for the job. If a friend is in
           | critical care at the hospital with life threatening injuries,
           | do you really think "slow social" is the appropriate service
           | to use? That's just being silly. As the name suggests, this
           | service is designed for the opposite type of communication.
           | It's like complaining that Sharpie markers should make
           | thinner lines because sometimes you need to write complex
           | notes. Or, that Ferrari should modify their cars because
           | sometimes you need to tow a boat.
        
         | FollowingTheDao wrote:
         | Sorry, but why not just send an email to all your friends once
         | a week?
         | 
         | I have no idea why we think we need to complicate our
         | relationships with any third party...
         | 
         | The only reason why social media works is because it is
         | horrible and addictive, Your product is neither of those, so it
         | will never work.
        
           | Spivak wrote:
           | 3rd parties like email hosting providers or messaging
           | services?
           | 
           | Pull works better for stories/updates because then the reader
           | has control over how often they want to check in an see what
           | their friends are doing.
           | 
           | "Oh but if you wanted that you could just something something
           | with e-mail rules something something Dropbox curl ftpfs."
        
         | headsoup wrote:
         | I think perhaps an option is not to limit how often people can
         | post, but limit _how little_ they post, i.e. there is a
         | _minimum_ word limit for each post. Add the  'like' options for
         | any general short response (agree, like, love, sad, angry, +1,
         | haha, shock, thanks, etc), but having a minimum demands at
         | least some effort into posting.
         | 
         | The obvious problem is people just posting /10char type
         | responses to hit the character limit, but if it's a word limit
         | with some AI that can recognise 'bad' patterns in structure it
         | could be mitigated to an extent.
         | 
         | You could add a grammar checker and advise corrections or
         | perhaps prompt to improve the message if particularly poor.
         | This would be implemented for public posts only, because for
         | private conversations it is not so relevant to positive
         | discourse.
        
         | sujal wrote:
         | This is great, and I really appreciate the time you took to
         | explain your thinking. I have similar feelings about the social
         | networks out there, and I'm working on my own take on what I
         | want. It's very different than what you did, so I'm curious to
         | try yours out and see what everyone has to say. We need more
         | experiments like this - unabashedly anti-engagement and pro-
         | utility.
         | 
         | Good luck with this!
        
         | Lamad123 wrote:
         | One post per week is too limiting!! There are days when I want
         | to talk to or mention 10 friends!
        
           | manmal wrote:
           | Why not IM those friends?
        
             | [deleted]
        
         | hamoid wrote:
         | For years I've thought that dating sites could benefit from
         | such post limits. If one could write 3 posts per day I think
         | one would be more careful about what is posted and success
         | might be shifted a bit from quantity of posts to their quality
         | instead.
         | 
         | I like the idea. I think it would be nice to read in SlowSocial
         | how will posts be treated. Will the company's algorithms read
         | them? parse them? Put users into categories? I assume not, but
         | it might be nice to display this in the front page.
         | 
         | And maybe there are useful ideas in
         | https://www.humanetech.com/technologists ?
        
         | mabbo wrote:
         | FYI: when I gave my email address to sign up, the very bare
         | email that hit my gmail inbox went straight to spam.
         | 
         | You're going to need to do more to keep it on the 'not spam'
         | list, I think.
        
           | alxndr wrote:
           | The link to follow 404s for me... perhaps because I put a
           | plus sign in my email?
        
         | ccorcos wrote:
         | Have you talked to Joe Edelman? He would have all kinds of good
         | ideas for you.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Who is Joe Edelman?
        
             | basic612 wrote:
             | http://nxhx.org/
        
           | ada1981 wrote:
           | Def talk to Joe Edelman.
        
         | TulliusCicero wrote:
         | I think your general vibe is good here, but I don't think you
         | need the posting limit, necessarily. Compared to Facebook, to
         | make it less about re-sharing spam and the like, and more like
         | a conversation, what you need is:
         | 
         | * More emphasis on text (which you already have, great)
         | 
         | * Less emphasis on photos. I hate how when you create a post on
         | FB with a lot of text and photos, photos get much more space
         | within the post layout, it should be reversed if you want a
         | conversation, and if people want to see a bigger version they
         | can always click them to blow them up.
         | 
         | * Links aren't treated as special. You can include them in your
         | posts and people can click them, but they shouldn't result in
         | including a photo+description on the post.
         | 
         | * No sharing other people's posts. You can copy+paste and link
         | to their post (which will only work for other friends of them),
         | but no re-sharing.
         | 
         | Especially those last two mean that you don't get the 'spam' of
         | people sharing content from other people or websites.
         | 
         | Anyway, overall great job, this is definitely something I wanna
         | see. Facebook is full of news spam/hot takes and the like,
         | Instagram is largely just photos and videos, I really want
         | something that's focused on what my immediate friends and
         | families wanna talk about (not just share photos of).
        
         | lvl102 wrote:
         | Looks great and love the concept. What's the tech stack behind
         | it?
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | I'm using Supabase, Sveltekit, Tailwind, SendGrid, and
           | Netlify.
           | 
           | SvelteKit has been a lot of fun but definitely has a few
           | rough edges. Supabase has been awesome, but as you can
           | probably see, from the comments elsewhere, has some kinks
           | around magic link based authentication.
        
             | starfoxmulder wrote:
             | Do you understand the underlying technologies of Supabase
             | and these other frameworks? Just curious.
             | 
             | And how are you liking supabase as opposed to other quick
             | start solutions?
        
             | gnicholas wrote:
             | FYI my magic link went to spam. Dunno if it's the gmail
             | spam filter or the one in Apple Mail. But that's where it
             | ended up. There was also a typo in the onboarding process
             | ("from thos[e] close to you").
        
             | alxndr wrote:
             | The email-based create-an-account link is 404ing for me,
             | using an iPhone and Brave browser.
        
       | saos wrote:
       | Could get behind this.
        
       | throwaway892238 wrote:
       | Facebook without comments or statuses or groups or likes would be
       | a pretty good social network. I'd also only show mutual friends.
        
       | hrdwdmrbl wrote:
       | Anyone interested building a social network should read:
       | https://www.eugenewei.com/blog/2019/2/19/status-as-a-service
       | 
       | tl;dr - There is a specific reason that we like to use social
       | networks, and it's the receiving of status or accumulate capital.
       | From this theory, a network like Slow Social cannot succeed
       | because there isn't enough social capital that can be consumed.
        
       | charcircuit wrote:
       | One big issue with this model is that you can't build an
       | audience. You can't make friends. What's the point of using the
       | site when all of your posts go to the void. Even if you add a
       | friend all of those posts you worked hard on are gone.
       | 
       | If it takes a long time before there is new content to see, why
       | would people visit the site instead of forgetting about it? How
       | are you going to make it a rabbit for people to go there?
        
         | xixixao wrote:
         | This is true for messaging social networks and they thrive. I
         | don't think this is necessarily a huge blocker.
        
           | charcircuit wrote:
           | No, take for example Discord. It's easy to find servers with
           | people who share your interests.
        
         | tsuujin wrote:
         | You make friends in real life and then include them in this
         | platform, not the other way around. Not building an audience
         | seems to be a feature.
         | 
         | I view this as a great way to keep in touch with people you
         | actually know.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Yeah, this is basically my take. Not everyone will feel like
           | this, but I often find I have enough friends, but not great
           | ways to connect with them in online spaces. In other words,
           | I'd rather build a tool that helps people understand and
           | relate to each other, not a tool that connects people to
           | others who have the capacity to understand and relate to them
           | but might not necessarily already be in their lives.
        
       | flipdot wrote:
       | I tried to sign up, but the confirmation email got automarked as
       | spam by Gmail and didn't contain any links.
        
         | walterclifford wrote:
         | Same, you have to not only tell gmail it looks safe but also
         | mark it as not phishing (from the three dot dropdown), then it
         | will be in your inbox AND have a link to click.
        
           | flipdot wrote:
           | Thanks! First time dealing with this Gmail's "feature".
           | (deg[?]deg`)
        
       | aabbcc1241 wrote:
       | This sounds good fit for researchers to share their work / teens
       | to share their growth / hikers to share their journey
        
       | lobstey wrote:
       | just like the WeChat way of dealing moments.
        
       | samarama wrote:
       | The issue is you have built in a mechanism to prevent the site
       | from gaining critical mass.
       | 
       | In order for a user to check the site, there would need to be 50
       | posts from their friends that they can read through.
       | 
       | For that to happen, they would need 500 friends for them to make
       | 50 posts a week.
       | 
       | In order to reach 500 friends, you would need 100 million users,
       | before that the network would be empty with nothing happening.
       | 
       | It's better to limit the number of posts to 1 per day.
       | 
       | This way, you would be able to have some stuff going with 50
       | friends in some areas and 3 million users.
       | 
       | However, you need to get to 3 million users somehow with no value
       | in your network, maybe you can get this through posts like this,
       | but very difficult.
       | 
       | You also need to let users upload their contact list otherwise
       | you won't be able to build your social graph.
        
         | bartread wrote:
         | > You also need to let users upload their contact list
         | otherwise you won't be able to build your social graph.
         | 
         | In the context of legislation like GDPR and CCPA is this even
         | legal in some jurisdictions any more? Genuinely not sure so any
         | insight gratefully received.
        
         | smaudet wrote:
         | This seems a bit arbitrary?
         | 
         | I would be happy with one, or two posts a day...I only need 5
         | friends to post a week, at 10 I always have something to read,
         | at 50 friends I am positively awash...
         | 
         | Introverts are a big crowd - a fact the socialites like
         | Zuckerberg tend to forget. This will easily grow...
        
           | spoils19 wrote:
           | Agreed. I'll be looking forward to quoting your post when
           | this social network grows and takes off over the next few
           | years.
        
         | aleken wrote:
         | Isn't one of the points about "slow" social that you don't need
         | to read 50 posts a day? I would be happy checking in once a
         | week, the same day I am going to post my update.
        
         | jmcgough wrote:
         | I feel like you could make a similar argument against Wordle:
         | 
         | You can only play one game a day! How are you going to get
         | revenue if someone can only spend a few minutes a day on it?
        
           | bigthymer wrote:
           | People can play Wordle alone and get value. Not true for a
           | social network
        
       | spullara wrote:
       | Just make it a $1/min like it was in the old days and people will
       | limit their communication to folks they don't see regularly for
       | only important things.
        
       | dnndev wrote:
       | This seems odd to me (I am considered a Millennial). Social media
       | for friends, are they really friends? I text, call, see in person
       | my friends. A person does not have that many true friends in my
       | experience.
       | 
       | Facebook should not exist for friends- mostly people bragging
       | about something or another.
       | 
       | Facebook groups are extremely helpful. That as a social network
       | makes more sense to me. For example, I can find a group of
       | experts that have to do with carpet cleaning to answer questions.
       | 
       | So my two cents, your solving the wrong problem. Social networks
       | are not for friends. I also understand I am most likely an
       | outcast odd ball who feels this way.
        
       | kqr wrote:
       | > The goal of the company is to equally value the customer,
       | environment, and profits. In other words, the model isn't to
       | maximize profit like an investor backed startup, but rather to
       | create a lean, useful piece of software that grows with its users
       | and can sustain itself from every angle from day one.
       | 
       | If the owners are separate from the users, it's not set up for
       | sustainability. If someone other than the users bear the risk of
       | loss and upside of profits, it creates weird incentives whether
       | you want it to or not.
       | 
       | Have you considered running it as a co-op? Every user has an
       | equal stake in costs and profits and an equal voice in decisions.
       | This model literally grows with its users, and it's the only one
       | that does so.
       | 
       | I like this but it sounds like you've chosen the wrong model for
       | running it. If I was going to use something like this (which I
       | would like to, I think, if nothing else to share updates with
       | families/close friends) I would want to own it equally with the
       | other users.
        
         | simulate-me wrote:
         | Has any technical product ever organized as a co op and been
         | successful? Such a weird criticism...
        
           | beaconstudios wrote:
           | Quite a few!
           | 
           | https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Platform_cooperative
           | 
           | I think it's a valid concern to ask about incentive alignment
           | - if you're wanting to do a tech-for-good project, you
           | probably want to make sure that profiteering doesn't become
           | the primary driver at a later date by making a Ulysses pact
           | [1].
           | 
           | 1: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ulysses_pact
        
           | longtimelistnr wrote:
           | It's not a weird criticism. May not be unrealistic to be a
           | co-op, fine that's difficult. But don't lie and say there's
           | no profit incentive to be had when there clearly is if owners
           | of the platform are separate from individual users
        
           | itslennysfault wrote:
           | The jury is obviously still out, but I think The Drivers
           | Cooperative is pretty successful, and I'm optimistic that it
           | will continue to be.
           | 
           | https://drivers.coop/
        
           | planb wrote:
           | Has any social network ever focused on users well-being and
           | been successful? I think it's not criticism but an
           | interesting idea.
        
             | CitrusFruits wrote:
             | I too, am curious. It seems like Mastodon and other
             | federated networks definitely have user well being and
             | autonomy as a goal. However, for whatever reason, most of
             | the more popular federated networks seem to aspire to be
             | "X, but federated" instead of having drastically different
             | user experiences.
        
         | mr90210 wrote:
         | What an idea!
        
         | nsomaru wrote:
         | I'm not sure how this works in the US but I would be worried
         | about attracting liability for what happens on the platform.
         | 
         | How does that work?
        
           | gglon wrote:
           | That is exactly why I think one post per week and lack of
           | global space is a great solution for a startup; it massively
           | simplifies spam and other hostile content early detection and
           | removal.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | That's an interesting idea! No I haven't considered that.
         | B-Corp is what I was imagining, but a co-op is a great idea as
         | well.
        
           | Biologist123 wrote:
           | Lovely concept. Have a look at the work Commonwealth have
           | done on digital platform cooperatives. https://www.common-
           | wealth.co.uk/reports/digital-co-ops-and-t...
        
           | throwaway892238 wrote:
           | Couchsurfing converted to a B-corp, but that didn't work out
           | well (for the members). I think co-op would put the emphasis
           | back on the member experience and would have prevented
           | Couchsurfing from killing its community and ruining its
           | brand. CS also claimed that the B-corp meant it couldn't
           | accept donations or do open source development, though I have
           | no idea if that was true.
           | 
           | If you go for co-op, you could go one further and try for a
           | non-profit co-op: https://smallbusiness.chron.com/nonprofit-
           | coop-66008.html
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | RStudio, in my opinion one of the greatest companies in the
           | world today, is a public benefit corp.
        
           | fabianhjr wrote:
           | There are several advocacy groups that could help out:
           | 
           | https://ioo.coop (Internet of Ownership Coop) (Edit:
           | currently down, a snapshot is available at
           | https://web.archive.org/web/20211207224925/http://ioo.coop/ )
           | 
           | https://platform.coop (Platform Cooperativism site)
           | 
           | A good short read on the topic could be Nick Srnicek's
           | Platform Capitalism; it covers concisely a lot of the
           | economics involved.
        
       | severak_cz wrote:
       | I like the idea of experimenting with a different styled social
       | network.
       | 
       | I have built one such network myself. It's called Kyselo and it's
       | for refugees from now-defunct social network Soup.io.
       | 
       | It's very different from today's social network in these things:
       | 
       | - it has strictly chronological timeline
       | 
       | - everything (except DM) is public (this makes leaks from
       | seemingly private spaces impossible)
       | 
       | - but it encourages pseudonyms
       | 
       | - you can colour/style your profile page as you like - see for
       | example my page - https://kyselo.eu/severak
       | 
       | - it's small and mostly meme based
       | 
       | Small userbase size and chronological timeline makes it very time
       | saving (except when you are trying to find a right meme in your
       | collection :-D).
       | 
       | It works fine for me but it will need some polishing before it's
       | open to wide public. Now it's in semi-open beta (you have to ask
       | me for invitation code).
        
       | movedx wrote:
       | Oooooh! So it's like email, but worse? Worse because:
       | 
       | It doesn't scale to infinity like email does.
       | 
       | Someone else centralises the data and you have to trust them to
       | keep it safe. Email doesn't have this problem because I can take
       | my emails elsewhere and/or change my address, something I've done
       | plenty of times.
       | 
       | You don't know what they're doing with the data and you don't now
       | who can access it. The same applies with email, except I know who
       | Google are and I know they're "reading" it. I accept this cost. I
       | don't know who "Slow Social" are.
       | 
       | It's a whole new system for elderly (and even not-so-elderly)
       | relatives to get to grips with. They get email today. They use
       | email right now.
       | 
       | It's another website that needs another login for my mum to
       | remember, except she'll just use the same password again (and
       | again), until one day it's breached.
       | 
       | I think growth, innovation, and ideas are important, but I also
       | wish we'd focus on building on and improving the systems we
       | already have.
       | 
       | So I guess I have to ask: why not (better) email? Why not a new
       | email system that's interoperable with the existing system, but
       | offers a better UI focused on sharing stories with each other?
        
         | reidrac wrote:
         | > Someone else centralises the data and you have to trust them
         | to keep it safe. Email doesn't have this problem because I can
         | take my emails elsewhere and/or change my address, something
         | I've done plenty of times.
         | 
         | I'm not going to defend any social network, and I think that
         | _in essence_ you are right; but using email is a terrible idea.
         | 
         | Is just that people don't understand email any more
         | 
         | When I've been added to a email chain (last time at the end of
         | the 2010s), it was an awful experience: you can't get out,
         | people including addresses in "To" so they get added to all
         | recipients address book (they keep a copy of each email,
         | security depends on each user of the chain!), windows users get
         | infected with viruses and you start getting those as well,
         | nobody will remove _anything_ from the emails so you get huge
         | emails with top-posts without context on what they are replying
         | to, ... it was a mess!
         | 
         | I have no reasons to think things have improved.
         | 
         | So perhaps a better email is needed, and I wonder if it may
         | look like a social network.
        
         | DrSiemer wrote:
         | > It doesn't scale to infinity like email does. The article
         | clearly states you can turn your posts into e-mails
         | 
         | > Someone else centralises the data and you have to trust them
         | to keep it safe. That goes for any public medium. At least
         | these guys have a clearly stated mission not to harvest,
         | package and sell your data. Also, see above for your email
         | remark.
         | 
         | > You don't know what they're doing with the data and you don't
         | now who can access it. See both replies above
         | 
         | > It's a whole new system for elderly Again, it can be turned
         | into emails
         | 
         | > It's another website that needs another login for my mum to
         | remember, except she'll just use the same password again (and
         | again), until one day it's breached. See above + unrelated
         | issue
         | 
         | > Why not (better) email? Because rebuilding email and
         | convincing everyone to use that is a lot harder than trying to
         | launch a new, experimental social media platform.
        
       | EdgarVerona wrote:
       | How do you get around the CAN-SPAM act and GDPR for the sending
       | of emails in response to posts, when the people being sent them
       | haven't already signed up on the site?
       | 
       | I had to bend over backwards to try and make a workaround for
       | that issue, basically by letting people manually send invite
       | links if they weren't already registered for the site because of
       | the restrictions around who you are allowed to send emails to,
       | when, and for what purpose. It's a real pain in the butt, but
       | maybe I didn't have to go that far?
       | 
       | It was articles like this one that got me paranoid about it,
       | really set back my prototype as I went around trying to change
       | features related to email as a result:
       | 
       | https://privacyvox.com/news/social-media-inviting-non-user-f...
        
         | EdgarVerona wrote:
         | (for context though, I love your site! I just would love tips
         | as someone thinking in this area who ran into what he thought
         | was trouble in this area... I might have just been overly
         | paranoid)
        
       | chetanbhasin wrote:
       | Tried to sign up but got the rate limit error.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Oh, fascinating. Was it a Supabase thing? I haven't run into
         | that before. If you have any more details, I'd love to hear.
         | You could comment here or email team@slowsocial.us
        
           | kiwicopple wrote:
           | supabase ceo here. Did you set up a custom SMTP? We have
           | rate-limiting on the signup emails by default to protect
           | against malicious users.
           | 
           | We also have some DDoS protection (via cloudflare), but it
           | don't think this would have triggered it. Feel free to reach
           | out to support if you need any assistance
           | (https://app.supabase.io/support/new)
        
       | cryptozeus wrote:
       | Screen shots, need more screen shots please.
        
       | quijoteuniv wrote:
       | Good stuff! Keep going!
        
       | hanspeter wrote:
       | It's an interesting idea, however the slow part of this social
       | network doesn't make it built more for friends than an
       | unrestricted network. It seems to solve the noise and lack of
       | depth part, but that has just as much value outside of your close
       | friends network. So I would focus the messaging around that part
       | - slow and deep - rather than the friendship part.
       | 
       | And then there's the inherit issue of a restricted social network
       | being disadvantaged in competition with other networks. If you
       | limit the use or the reach of a social network, other networks
       | who have more use and reach will grow faster. The reason the
       | current major social networks are full of noise and over-
       | engagement is not because people necessarily like that more or
       | that other alternatives hasn't existed. It's because they won in
       | the inevitable darwinistic battle a social network will join,
       | where maximum reach and volume of content are key advantages.
        
       | crawsome wrote:
        
       | didip wrote:
       | Is there a need for another social media app? Isn't the need
       | covered with chat app?
        
       | hypertele-Xii wrote:
       | "Frequently asked questions
       | 
       | What's your business model?
       | 
       | The goal of the company is to equally value the customer,
       | environment, and profits. In other words, [...]
       | 
       | How do you make money?
       | 
       | The goal of the company is to equally value the customer,
       | environment, and profits. In other words, [...]"
       | 
       | What?
       | 
       | https://slowsocial.us/about#business-model
        
         | davesque wrote:
         | I'm assuming that was a typo?
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | Qahlel wrote:
         | As the world becomes a more digital place, we cannot forget
         | about the human connection.
         | 
         | If you're going to build a business that's based on community,
         | your business has to have community in it.
         | 
         | If your business is the right business, then money will never
         | be an issue.
        
           | amelius wrote:
           | Market has been spoiled, everybody thinks social media should
           | be free as in beer.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Yeah, there's a bad copypasta there. I'll see if I can update
         | that real quick.
         | 
         | EDIT: The FAQ has been updated.
        
       | bfrog wrote:
       | I kind of love it, but it sort of feels like the burn of social
       | networks at this point is less about the bite sized crap stream
       | and more that some entity now has my social network and interests
       | saved for the purpose of targeting ads. Ads are the evil that
       | drives the crap to keep us doom scrolling. Has this somehow found
       | another revenue stream? Ads as a revenue stream is the issue, not
       | the size or rate of posting.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Low overhead costs and charging users something like $3/mo
         | would be the target for sustainability if the network ever
         | starts to have significant operating expenses. Until then, it's
         | really cheap to keep running.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | gmanis wrote:
       | OP, you should charge users a small amount ($24-50 a year), after
       | a trial period. Keep it simple, free of ads and keep the timeline
       | algorithm free.
       | 
       | I'm sure there are many who would love something like this and be
       | willing to pay enough to cover costs and maybe generate a full
       | time income for you. Good luck!!
        
         | 88840-8855 wrote:
         | This is not a small amount. 3 USD is a small amount.
        
         | mayankkaizen wrote:
         | If target userbase is HN like crowd, charging a small fee is
         | fine. However, I feel this model won't be scalable to general
         | public. Hybrid model (make payments or see ads) might also be
         | worth exploring.
        
         | csilverman wrote:
         | I wouldn't pay that much for what this is. I'm sure most of my
         | friends wouldn't. It's a neat enough idea that I'd try the free
         | tier, but it doesn't offer anything compelling enough to make
         | me want to pay for it. I'm not trying to be mean or dismissive;
         | it's a genuinely cool experiment, and I'd honestly love to see
         | a social network where people actually said longer substantive
         | things rather than low-effort shitposts (or, more and more,
         | just sharing somebody else's low-effort shitposts).
         | 
         | I don't like the idea that people can't see my earlier
         | writings. That's important to me, especially if I don't share
         | stuff often and I put effort into it. I don't see the benefit
         | in hiding that from my friends.
         | 
         | What I'm looking for these days is actual community,
         | conversation, and connection. I think the effortless posting on
         | Facebook/Twitter encourages kneejerk garbage (and blogs, sadly,
         | have fallen into decline) so I really like the more "slow down
         | and make something meaningful" philosophy here. If you can turn
         | that into an actual community--one that offers something Reddit
         | doesn't--I'd pay for that.
        
           | quambene wrote:
           | IMO, building a social network is quite difficult nowadays
           | because you can't monetize it right away. So you either have
           | to bootstrap as a side project and build a community for
           | years or getting paid by VC money early on.
           | 
           | We tried something similar [1] a few years ago. The limit is
           | 5 posts per day. Our approach was minimalistic in a sense as
           | you could post links only and no text, pictures, or videos.
           | 
           | We named it Turtle, symbolizing the opposite of the chatty
           | twitter bird. It wasn't so clever from an SEO point of view
           | though.
           | 
           | [1] https://turtle.community
        
         | TulliusCicero wrote:
         | > OP, you should charge users a small amount ($24-50 a year)
         | 
         | This is a great way to ensure that the website fails by never
         | hitting critical mass.
        
       | ghiculescu wrote:
       | Great to see more ideas in this space! A few years back my wife
       | and I tried something kinda similar, Sundayy. We even launched on
       | HN - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25848793
       | 
       | Some people still use Sundayy but it didn't really take off. I am
       | really glad we did it, but I'll admit it got less exciting to
       | work on when most users would fizzle out after a few weeks. My
       | gut feel on why is that we didn't do enough to compete with the
       | dopamine drip feeding of typical social networks. Social networks
       | are (amongst other things) a way to kill time and we didn't offer
       | that. This made it hard for users to make Sundayy core to their
       | lives unless they were really committed, and then even if they
       | did that it wasn't very rewarding if none of their friends were
       | equally committed.
       | 
       | For me personally I stopped using the product when I had some big
       | personal news I needed to keep secret for a few months. It was
       | very hard to write about other stuff on Sundayy because it was
       | all I thought about. So I ended up writing nothing and broke the
       | habit. That sucked - maybe I'll pick it up again now I think
       | about it.
       | 
       | Good luck OP. I hope this gives insight into some challenges you
       | might face. I don't have solutions to these challenges but
       | hopefully you find some :) If you want to chat more on the topic
       | feel free to reach out by email.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | This is really cool! And those are some great insights. I just
         | might send you an email.
        
       | wilbur-larch wrote:
       | I was building a social media network about 6 years ago. I failed
       | to get enough users since the native apps were just web views
       | that had a lack of notifications. @CitrusFruit How did you get so
       | much attraction to slowsocial?
        
       | noobermin wrote:
       | Sorry for the nitpick but the f in the typeface they chose is
       | unfortunately distracting for normal text.
        
       | felipemesquita wrote:
       | Nice to see what I think is a trix[0] editor for the rich text
       | posts.
       | 
       | [0] https://trix-editor.org/
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | Yup! It's Trix alright. I was pretty amazed out how heavy and
         | complicated most rich text editors are. But then again, it's a
         | pretty complex interaction they have to design around.
        
       | ubicomp wrote:
       | Re-doing social networks based on one size fits all social
       | activity streams seems like it's going in the wrong direction.
       | Especially since these social shapes typically necessitate
       | funding requirements like ads or pay to play.
       | 
       | I wonder when we'll go back to forums to connect. Earlier "slow
       | social" methods (mailing lists / message boards). Forums can be
       | free. People can self-host. They can run for years and years and
       | years. Folks can organize around a single subject or a series of
       | subjects and grow together over time at various levels of
       | engagement without resorting to a one size fits all model that
       | social networks force on users.
       | 
       | I really enjoyed running forums for my friends. I never had to
       | pay giant server fees because it was just a few of us. We had
       | 100K page views per month. We never had to have ads. We had forum
       | permissions and mods and a lot of fun times.
       | 
       | I see Discord being similar to this vs. social media, where you
       | can slowly join communities and get nearer to the core. More of
       | an onion model of community. I'm looking forward to seeing what
       | happens in this space.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | > Especially since these social shapes typically necessitate
         | funding
         | 
         | I would actually argue, that with today's technologies and
         | cloud offerings, this isn't necessarily true. The operating
         | costs for a high availability sites aren't all that high. You
         | can easily support a million users for under $1000 a month. The
         | real cost to most other social networks is the need to generate
         | infrastructure and growth engines around returning investment
         | to venture capitalists and other stakeholders.
         | 
         | But regarding your other points, I definitely sympathize. I've
         | actually tried to get my friends onto forums, and thoroughly
         | enjoy Discord. Slow Social, however, is for a niche that I
         | don't think those other options fully serve.
        
       | Simon_O_Rourke wrote:
       | What a fabulous idea! I'll bet Zuckerberg hates it, which makes
       | it even better.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I'd be amazed if the Zuck ever heard about it.
         | 
         | Also, I think this is something that could co-exist with Insta,
         | Facebook, and WhatsApp.
        
       | AndrewSChapman wrote:
       | "4. WHEN AND WITH WHOM DO WE SHARE YOUR PERSONAL INFORMATION?
       | 
       | Affiliates. We may share your information with our affiliates, in
       | which case we will require those affiliates to honor this privacy
       | notice. Affiliates include our parent company and any
       | subsidiaries, joint venture partners, or other companies that we
       | control or that are under common control with us."
       | 
       | I would much prefer that this simply read: We do not share your
       | information with anyone.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I don't plan on sharing personal information with any sort of
         | entity, certainly not for profit. But, the personal information
         | is stored on machines and manipulated by other companies,
         | namely Supabase and SendGrid since its necessary for the site
         | to function.
        
           | javajosh wrote:
           | It's admirable that you're aware of the risk you're placing
           | on your users, and willing to assuage them. If you're
           | audience is HN, you might want to simply list the 3rd party
           | runtime components you're using (and to go one better, review
           | _their_ privacy notices, recursively -- I can imagine a
           | malefactor doing a backroom deal with a component provider to
           | get kickbacks on data being shared down the line.) I would
           | also include any front end components in this notice, like
           | Cloudflare or GA.
           | 
           | Last but not least, it would be nice to know who's behind
           | this, because none of these assurances mean anything if
           | you're _really_ a malefactor. I would recommend putting a
           | real name or two in your  "About" page.
        
             | spullara wrote:
             | For it to be available in EU at all I think they will have
             | to list all of them anyway.
        
           | hn_user2 wrote:
           | If this is the case, I would recommend a stronger word than
           | "affiliate". My data is always being sold to marketing
           | affiliates.
        
       | fridental wrote:
       | Never ever I would sign up into a social network that doesn't
       | publish any real-world contacts. Who are you, guys? Americans?
       | Russians? Chinese? Why should I trust you with my online life, if
       | I don't even know, where you live, what are your names and how
       | your faces looks like?
       | 
       | And, in Germany, publishing of the real-world information is
       | mandatory.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | throwaway0x7E6 wrote:
         | >And, in Germany, publishing of the real-world information is
         | mandatory.
         | 
         | thankfully, nobody outside Germany has to give a fuck about
         | German laws
        
         | glerk wrote:
         | > Who are you, guys? Americans? Russians? Chinese?
         | 
         | We are all free citizens of the cyberspace here. Take your
         | nationalism back to meatspace :)
        
         | aaaaaaaaata wrote:
         | Safe to assume they're not Germans, then! ;]
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I mean, there's an email address and, if your really curious,
         | you could have read the blog post linked in the main site that
         | has my name associated with it.
         | 
         | https://dev.to/duensing/introducing-slow-social-4a90
         | 
         | But I see the larger point, there's trust that needs to be
         | built, but I think the standards are going to be different for
         | different people. The German legal requirements are also
         | something I didn't know about. I do my best to protect and
         | guard the personal information, and only request what's
         | directly relevant for the app.
        
           | CitrusFruits wrote:
           | Also, I'm American and all the data is being stored
           | stateside.
        
             | sandworm101 wrote:
             | >> all the data is being stored stateside.
             | 
             | Which brings up all manner of privacy issues for those not
             | stateside.
        
       | lloydatkinson wrote:
       | Having .us implies it's only for Americans
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | waveywaves wrote:
       | If rich text formatting is your feature proposal for a social
       | media network should I even care about it. Users care about a
       | larger abstracted view about what you can do differently with
       | what you can do with the smn interface. Flaunting rich text
       | formatting feels like a core developer's achivement rather than a
       | technology achievement. Do correct me if I am wrong.
        
         | CitrusFruits wrote:
         | I think what I was trying to get across is that you can do
         | things more in a blog post styles as opposed to Twitter style
         | quick bites. But maybe you're right it's not worth mentioning.
         | The copy for the site hasn't gone through any focus group
         | testing or anything like that.
        
           | LadyCoconut wrote:
           | Rich text formatting definitely is a plus for me in a social
           | media app! I think it's better to specify such things,
           | especially for users coming from Facebook/Twitter/etc with
           | Facebook/Twitter-like expectations.
        
           | civilized wrote:
           | I think it's a good feature. The FB text box is almost
           | insulting in its lack of features and options.
        
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