[HN Gopher] Collaborate with kindness: Etiquette tips in Slack
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       Collaborate with kindness: Etiquette tips in Slack
        
       Author : sendilkumarn
       Score  : 36 points
       Date   : 2022-03-28 20:18 UTC (2 hours ago)
        
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       | kyleblarson wrote:
       | Another tip that vastly improves mental health as well as
       | efficiency: turn off all notifications from slack, especially
       | that damn broom sound.
        
       | enriquto wrote:
       | Basic etiquette would be to not force co-workers to use Slack at
       | all. And for that matter, any other proprietary network based on
       | closed standards that do not admit connections from third-party
       | clients. I'm forced to use Slack and Zoom from time to time for
       | important work stuff, and it is extremely annoying and
       | humiliating.
        
         | micromacrofoot wrote:
         | Curious, in what way is it humiliation?
        
         | gkoberger wrote:
         | This... is an insane take. It's "humiliating" for you to use
         | the communication platform your company has chosen?
        
           | richm31415 wrote:
           | It can be, yes. For someone who is a strong believer in and
           | advocate of FOSS, who makes her/his livelihood developing
           | FOSS for a FOSS software company, to be forced to use
           | proprietary solutions where there are reasonable FOSS
           | alternatives can be very disheartening, demoralizing, and
           | even humiliating.
        
             | Melatonic wrote:
             | I am not sure still why it is humiliating specifically -
             | disheartening sure, demoralizing makes sense. But why would
             | it be humiliating if you are not the person pushing that
             | the paid / non FLOSS app be used in the first place?
             | 
             | Isn't this also a good chance to evangelize an alternative
             | to whomever you are speaking with?
        
               | ask_b123 wrote:
               | I also thought of that as being a chance to 'evangelize'
               | FLOSS alternatives.
               | 
               | The first thing I actually thought of was this set of
               | verses talking about evangelizing in a somewhat similar
               | context: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+C
               | orinthians+9...
        
           | enriquto wrote:
           | I'm an activist for software freedom and I refuse to use non-
           | free software in my life, as a matter of principle. When I'm
           | forced to do so it's certainly very humiliating for me.
           | 
           | Besides, I don't work for a company, but in the public sector
           | (which by the way I think it should not impose non-free
           | software nor secret protocols into the citizens).
        
       | _moof wrote:
       | _> ...the recipient gets a notification on that first "hey" that
       | contains no information and potentially causes distraction. The
       | person might see the indicator that you're typing but is still
       | left waiting for your full message._
       | 
       | I would turn this around and call this a product design problem.
       | Maybe Slack shouldn't send a notification when all you've said is
       | "hey" and you're typing a follow-up message.
       | 
       | Really, if you have to publish a blog post explaining to people
       | that they're using your product wrong, I'd say your product needs
       | work.
        
         | paxys wrote:
         | Not every social problem needs to have a tech solution. Slack
         | allows sending messages between people. They don't need to
         | start policing the content of these messages.
        
       | npunt wrote:
       | Rather than just tell / hope people follow some etiquette, I'd
       | love Slack to build more etiquette enforcing features that
       | operators could enable.
       | 
       | This isn't the 19th century where the best we can do is tell
       | people to read a book on etiquette and hope for the best. Slack
       | is in a unique position in the history of interpersonal
       | communication where they have complete insight into (and design
       | of) user's and organization's preferences as well as the messages
       | themselves. And the medium is text, which is the easiest to
       | analyze and provide feedback on.
       | 
       | Some examples of what they could do, broadly captured in a
       | 'Etiquette Features' preference set by the organization:
       | 
       | 1. Never say 'hey' - if a user writes this, explain the etiquette
       | and rationale for it and suggest they write a whole ass message
       | instead, but optionally let the user just send it.
       | 
       | 2. Make long messages scan easily - not too difficult for a
       | computer to tell a long block of unformatted text. Great time to
       | introduce the etiquette scaffold.
       | 
       | 3. Use threads - a trickier one to suggest when people are
       | typing, but likely some obvious response patterns (who & when
       | messages are sent) that could trigger a etiquette scaffold asking
       | to put this message in the thread if messages are similar enough
       | to the thread's contents.
       | 
       | 4. Short followups as emojis - orgs should be able to define
       | clear meaning of response emojis that are visualized to everyone
       | in the UI when selecting them (check means complete, question
       | mark means need more info, etc). Short responses also likely have
       | a pattern that could trigger a 'do you mean 'this is done'?' kind
       | of scaffold, which would fill in emoji instead
       | 
       | 6. Channel response expectations - a tiny text label is
       | insufficient to set expectations, as are pinned messages. At the
       | very least visualize timezones of participants, and when writing
       | an @message to someone in a channel, if they're off-hours let the
       | sender know that up front.
       | 
       | All our communications tools favor low friction to send and
       | devalue the recipients time (the phenomenon mentioned in Cal
       | Newport's Deep Work), and Slack is a serious offender. There's a
       | need for a higher friction, higher awareness path to send
       | messages that better accounts for the full cost of such messages.
       | Not every org would want/need this but it should absolutely be
       | something a service like Slack offers.
        
         | thecosas wrote:
         | It would be great to see Slack put some work in here, but could
         | someone make an app (or Slackbot) to enforce/offer guidance?
         | 
         | I know Slack culture can be hugely variable over time,
         | especially for high-growth companies so there definitely needs
         | to be some flexibility.
        
           | Mandatum wrote:
           | I've seen a few orgs build their own etiquette-enforcement
           | bots for things like channel naming conventions, as well as
           | minimum "guidelines listed" in the channel description (like
           | periodically going through all channels and checking to see
           | if channel description has SLAs etc). But it's all
           | organisation or team-specific.
           | 
           | And for about 98% of orgs, building a bot to enforce
           | conventions is definitely not getting prioritised above BAU
           | or project work.
        
         | paxys wrote:
         | All of this is possible to do via custom bots. Ultimately
         | there's no single standard Slack can enforce that will work for
         | all of their users, so it's best to stay as lightweight as
         | possible when it comes to stuff like etiquette.
        
       | commandlinefan wrote:
       | > Never send a direct message that just says "hey" or "hello."
       | 
       | I first started hearing people suggest this recently (within the
       | past month or so). I never really understood why these message
       | bothered people so much - they never bothered me and always
       | actually seemed a bit more polite than just barreling forward
       | with a question. But I guess if even Slack themselves are saying
       | don't do that, it must really get on other people's nerves.
        
         | paxys wrote:
         | If you say hey and immediately follow up with your message,
         | that's fine.
         | 
         | If you say hey, wait for a reply, and only then start with your
         | actual question, that comes off as very annoying.
        
         | bmhin wrote:
         | It likely depends on the broad culture behind it. If someone
         | sends a "Hey" and then is a fast enough typer and immediately
         | can get the context going as I look, that's not a huge deal.
         | Sometimes it's an opening to a more synchronous conversation
         | and then it's less of a big deal because we're gonna be going
         | back and forth with quick messages. Part of the irritation is
         | you can still just always open a message with "Hey, something
         | something something" and keep it all in one.
         | 
         | The problem is people who send a lone "Hey" and then...
         | nothing.
         | 
         | Some will wait for you to say respond with your own greeting
         | (which is all you can respond with because you don't know what
         | you're even talking about yet). Other's don't wait but do delay
         | and the initial greeting was just a warning or something that a
         | "real" message is incoming. I've had folks ping me the "Hey"
         | and then I respond immediately with a "Hey" (to stave off the
         | above "permission to speak" people) and they get distracted and
         | say nothing else for 10 minutes.
         | 
         | Some will message you while you're busy, so you don't respond
         | to their "Hi". You then respond to it a half hour later with
         | the only thing you can say to that contextless message: "Hey,
         | what's up?". Only now maybe they are busy, and they respond
         | again to you a half hour after that. You've had a conversation
         | "opening" for an hour for what purpose?
         | 
         | Some will immediately begin typing out a gigantic block of text
         | and you are sitting there waiting while the "XX is typing"
         | message unwaveringly sits at the bottom. Bonus points here if
         | they were editing and revising as they went and you get an
         | eight word sentence after what appeared to be 3 minutes of
         | continuous typing.
         | 
         | Some will do all of those things so you end up having your
         | attention taken multiple times for minutes at a time for a
         | message that realistically might take you a couple seconds to
         | read, parse, and respond to if it had been sent all at once.
        
         | cmehdy wrote:
         | Ah, you must have stumbled upon https://nohello.net/ too. I
         | think what they mean is "don't just say hey and leave a person
         | hanging", i.e. if you have a long message to write just put it
         | all together instead of potentially attracting somebody's
         | attention to make them wait while <user is writing
         | something..>.
        
         | bombcar wrote:
         | Typing "hey commandlinefan where is your list of ssh
         | shortcuts?" is the best, as it's polite (could be politer I
         | assume but it's not just a give me), and it gets you everything
         | you need to know to answer (or if you do) right there. Maybe
         | doing military style with "most important" first would be nicer
         | "ssh shortcuts - hey commandlinefan, where's the list" but
         | that's a minor thing.
         | 
         | Typing "hey"
         | 
         | and then "where's the ssh shortcuts" in quick succession isn't
         | as great (buzzes the phone twice perhaps) but at least by the
         | time you look at it you see what's needed.
         | 
         | Typing "hey"
         | 
         | and not adding anything more until you get "hello" back - this
         | is what drives people up the wall. It's adding a SYN/ACK on top
         | of TCP/IP and greatly slows down chat communications. I've had
         | a "hello" and then immediately replied "hey" and then not heard
         | anything for hours.
        
         | ozarker wrote:
         | I have a coworker that does it constantly and it bugs me to no
         | end. I have to respond, they then ask what they were going to
         | ask seconds or minutes later. Effectively breaking my
         | concentration twice and making things take longer than they
         | should.
        
         | depaya wrote:
         | I can tell you why it bothers me personally. As soon as I see
         | "Hey" my attention has been captured by the sender. I now have
         | to sit there and wait for them to type out everything else. Or
         | they sit there and wait for me to respond before they send any
         | follow up. After waiting awhile maybe I learn that what they
         | are sending is not time urgent, but too late my attention has
         | already been completely removed from what I was working on.
         | 
         | The root of the problem is some people see Slack as more
         | synchronous than others. I personally see Slack as more async
         | (more synchronous than an email, but less than a phone call). I
         | screen messages as they come in and respond in a way that makes
         | sense to me. Likewise if I send somebody a message I don't
         | expect an immediate response. Somebody simply sending "Hey"
         | _forces_ the conversation to be synchronous.
        
         | ninkendo wrote:
         | People have to prioritize their time. If they get messages from
         | someone, they have to weigh responding to it against all of the
         | other things they may be doing with their time (other messages,
         | that ticket you're working on, etc etc.)
         | 
         | By just saying "Hey", you're leaving a message of _unknown
         | priority_. You're giving the other party zero information as to
         | what you might want. If you say that to me, you're saying "I
         | need your attention, but I'm _not going to tell you what for_."
         | If I respond, are you going to ask me a brief question? Are you
         | going to drag me into a meeting that may take tons of my time?
         | Who knows?
         | 
         | Also, I may not get your "hey" until an hour later. Now what
         | happens? I reply "hi". Then I have to sit and wait around for
         | _you_ to get my response, so that you can reply with what you
         | were going to ask me. But what if you're away? Now we're
         | playing message tag. Contrast that with what would have
         | happened if you would have just put your question in the
         | original message: Now, I can read your question, do my best to
         | find an answer, and give you a reply, and I can do so at my
         | leisure. When I respond and you're not available, the answer is
         | waiting for you when you get back.
         | 
         | I make it a personal policy to just not respond when somebody
         | just says "hey". If it's important, you'll follow up. I once
         | had a status meeting where someone said "I'm blocked on X
         | because I reached out to ninkendo for support, and he didn't
         | respond", to which my response was "You didn't reach out to me
         | for support at all, you just said 'hi'. How was I supposed to
         | know you had something important to ask? For all I know you
         | just wanted to ask about my weekend..."
        
           | Melatonic wrote:
           | I dont think it is a problem with saying "hey" but when you
           | say "hey" by itself. All the time I will say something like
           | "hey" and then a followup message with a short question or
           | asking how they are doing, etc etc.
           | 
           | But for sure it is annoying when someone sends me a message
           | that says "Hi" and then says nothing else until I respond
        
             | ninkendo wrote:
             | I'd say it would even better if you just put a couple of
             | newlines after "hey" and put your question in the same
             | message. One less notification would be appreciated by your
             | coworkers.
        
               | SketchySeaBeast wrote:
               | Yeah, I don't have to look over, give a sigh, and then
               | sit there waiting for the message to come through for the
               | next two minutes.
        
         | _moof wrote:
         | You can say hello/good morning/etc. at the beginning of your
         | message. What's annoying is when you send a greeting as a
         | separate message. The greeting itself is not annoying, and, I
         | agree, is polite. But distracting someone with a zero-
         | information message and then making them wait for what you
         | actually want to say is decidedly impolite.
        
         | DoneWithAllThat wrote:
         | The "No hello" ethos in chat goes back to at least 2005. This
         | is not a new thing at all, it's just the industry is constantly
         | being refreshed with young workers who learn anew what many
         | people understood well over a decade ago.
        
         | reggieband wrote:
         | I think it depends on the moment it happens. When I managed a
         | larger team I could get a bit of communication overload. I'm
         | trying to juggle ten requests at the same time, prioritizing
         | who/what needs answering/updating and generally making sure I
         | am unblocking anyone/everyone.
         | 
         | So when I see "Hey" I rarely see it as polite. What I'm
         | thinking is "What do you want!? Spit it out!". IMO, politeness
         | would be something like "Hey, I have a question about X, is now
         | a good time". That at least I can prioritize. All I want is a
         | tiny bit of context to the "Hey".
        
       | hamolton wrote:
       | Agree with these takes. My company's system having the channel
       | #eng-<team name>-lobby as a q/a forum for all teams has been
       | incredible for spreading information, although I could imagine
       | some cultures where it wouldn't work as well. The emojis they
       | have for "Thank you" and "I'm looking into it" seem a bit
       | ambiguous; my company has several "thank you" emotes, but nothing
       | dedicated to the latter. Not sure what we should add.
        
         | AndrewOMartin wrote:
         | At my place we use :eyes: for I'm looking at it, but feel free
         | to also look, and a custom emoji of the word "onit" for I'm
         | taking responsibility for it.
         | 
         | There are also dedicated "thank you" and "done" emojis which
         | feel great to see appear or to post, due to the unambiguous
         | positive terminal message.
        
       | renewiltord wrote:
       | Great tips. I think a reference is good for people who won't do
       | things unless they have an authority to tell them.
        
       | kkfx wrote:
       | Being polite and cooperative it's a good thing, self-censorship
       | is not and the least one who can write an "etiquette" is a
       | proprietary platform. Sorry that's just a pathetic bland and
       | casual push toward Chinese social score homogenization.
       | 
       | Usenet netiquette, mail netiquette etc are not wrote by someone
       | up front but slowly formed by a community of users out of their
       | experience. My own personal etiquette for Slack is: "sorry I do
       | not use proprietary platforms, seen no reason for them, we have
       | emails, chats, etc choosing a deliberate security risk is not a
       | good policy for a company, as a sysadmin I can't take
       | responsibility for it and so I can't even use it".
        
       | 27182818284 wrote:
       | > Never send a direct message that just says "hey" or "hello."
       | 
       | The corner of the page: "Hey friend, got a minute to chat"
       | 
       | ha!
        
       | kerblang wrote:
       | > Default to public channels for better workplace communication
       | 
       | I have tried so hard to get people to do this, but it seems like
       | a lot of my coworkers are honestly scared of "public" channels,
       | and by "public" I mean a channel with only 15 or so people on it.
       | They insist on DM'ing most things, and some just refuse to use
       | chat at all; those will only communicate via email.
        
         | forbiddenvoid wrote:
         | "Scared of public channels" often means "doesn't have the
         | psychological safety to say something out loud that might end
         | up being perceived negatively or as though they don't know what
         | they're doing."
        
       | jawns wrote:
       | Most important Slack etiquette ...
       | 
       | Don't @channel large channels after hours!
        
         | paxys wrote:
         | "After hours" means different things to different people. Just
         | set up your DnD settings and let people message when and how
         | they want, and then reply when and how _you_ want.
        
         | gkoberger wrote:
         | Slack has a really nice popup that blocks this from happening
         | by mistake, and confirms you really want to do it.
         | 
         | (Also, @here is a great alternative because it only notifies
         | people actively on Slack.)
        
           | bombcar wrote:
           | It would be nice if there was something like @eventually for
           | everyone in the channel _the next time they get on_ or
           | similar.
        
             | Macha wrote:
             | Isn't this the behaviour of @here? It puts a counter and
             | highlight on the channel.
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | maccard wrote:
       | > Write longer messages that scan quickly
       | 
       | I like this one. I'm an emoji fan, but understand that not
       | everyone else is.
       | 
       | It boils down to "spend time crafting a message that contains the
       | correct information" or even more succinctly "respect other
       | people's time".
       | 
       | There's nothing worse than a giant wall of text with all the
       | pertinent information buried in the middle of it.
        
       | ryanschneider wrote:
       | My number one Slack tip is to use the All Unreads view (which for
       | some reason needs to be enabled in preferences).
       | 
       | Bonus tip: it's not available on mobile which means I now
       | basically never check Slack from my phone. I can't decide if the
       | Slack devs are hopelessly overworked or genius for _still_ not
       | offering it on mobile. Check the time stamp:
       | https://twitter.com/slackhq/status/798631873911980032
        
       | multiplegeorges wrote:
       | > Less messages means more efficient collaboration
       | 
       | I think this should be "Fewer messages...". Good grammar improves
       | communication, as well.
        
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