[HN Gopher] Please don't ask founders existential questions
       ___________________________________________________________________
        
       Please don't ask founders existential questions
        
       Author : arunsivadasan
       Score  : 48 points
       Date   : 2022-03-15 20:14 UTC (2 hours ago)
        
 (HTM) web link (david.ae)
 (TXT) w3m dump (david.ae)
        
       | hungryhobo wrote:
       | As a founder, if you don't even have the mental maturity to deal
       | with criticism then start up is probably not for you
        
         | marcosdumay wrote:
         | The message I get is that if you are a founder's friend, it's
         | not your job to do the heavy criticism. He will get criticism
         | all around the entire day anyway, you don't want to add into
         | it.
         | 
         | But I bet there are reasonable exceptions everywhere. It's way
         | too complex an issue to have such a simple answer.
        
           | JumpCrisscross wrote:
           | > _if you are a founder 's friend, it's not your job to do
           | the heavy criticism_
           | 
           | What will your product do that Google doesn't and why can't
           | (aren't) they do(ing) it isn't heavy criticism. It's reality
           | checking.
           | 
           | The article posits questions asked in bad faith. ("You, for
           | some reason, do not really believe in his idea. You, with
           | some self-righteous zeal, also want to save your friend from
           | some tragic failure.") The questions aren't the problem. The
           | motivations of the person asking them are.
           | 
           | The takeaway isn't "don't ask founders existential
           | questions." It's don't surround yourself with "friends" who
           | don't believe in you, won't tell you that to your face and
           | whose conversation consists of backhanded criticism.
        
       | raviparikh wrote:
       | I disagree with this post (personally). As a founder, being asked
       | by a friend, "why do you believe you can do better than Google"
       | if I'm working on a search engine is _exactly_ what I want to be
       | asked. If I 'm founding a search engine startup, that's probably
       | the single question I have the best answer to, and it tees me up
       | really well to give a strong pitch of my core differentiation.
       | 
       | At my previous startup (Heap) I loved answering "how are you
       | different than Mixpanel?" and at my current startup
       | (Airplane.dev) I love answering "how are you different than
       | Retool / Rundeck?"
       | 
       | By contrast, the proposed alternative questions, e.g. "How will
       | you get your first x users?" are much more annoying. I'm happy to
       | answer that kind of question for a VC or a prospective hire, but
       | if a friend asked me this casually I'd find it somewhat tedious
       | to go through our growth strategy.
       | 
       | Just my 2 cents-I'm sure every founder is a bit different in
       | terms of what they like/dislike being asked in a social setting.
        
       | Traster wrote:
       | >Let's say your friend is obsessed with building a new search-
       | engine. When you ask them why do they believe they can do better
       | than Google, you are literally telling them that they shouldn't
       | be doing this since if it was 'correct' or possible or
       | profitable, then Google would have already done that. This is
       | bad.
       | 
       | I don't think the author is really thinking about what that
       | question means. If you say you're building a search engine and I
       | ask you why you can do better than Google it's because I want to
       | _know_ why you 're going to do better than Google. Clearly if
       | you're building a search engine then you have some idea of what
       | you're going to do better than google. And if not.... well,
       | that's pretty ballsy. Fine, maybe you just think it's an
       | underserved market (it is!), but founders should have an idea of
       | why they will beat the competition, and asking the question isn't
       | dismissive, it's inquisitive.
        
       | salawat wrote:
       | Sorry. Existential questions will be asked until they get
       | answered. Because is an okay answer, but it doesn't say anything
       | flattering about you.
       | 
       | Also, if someone is so lost that they think the question needs
       | asking... You may already have gone too deep down the path of
       | burning investor dollars on what may ultimately end up as churn.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | vannevar wrote:
       | The questions described don't sound so much like existential
       | questions as rhetorical ones. They are not asked to get an answer
       | but to make a point, that point being that the questioner
       | believes their friend's startup idea is a poor one. So yes, it's
       | generally better to engage with someone you want to persuade by
       | asking actual questions, rather than talking at them with
       | rhetorical ones.
        
       | code_runner wrote:
       | I don't think we should have to play w/ kid gloves around
       | founders. They aren't different from the rest of us.
       | 
       | I imagine there is a correlation between failed founders and
       | "number of question categories deemed askable" that the founder
       | has dreamed up.
        
       | blurri wrote:
       | I see people saying "you're gonna need to answer those
       | questions", "brush it off", "you should be able to accept
       | critique". If you're soliciting feedback or making a a pitch, all
       | valid.
       | 
       | If it's just rando's? Nah, those founders should not just accept
       | a high level of noise out there. A lot of people are happy to
       | share their pessimism. That's tiring.
        
       | bspear wrote:
       | Actually think founders need to look existential questions in the
       | eye, and figure out reasonable answers to them. Yes the questions
       | are better framed in an open-ended non-demeaning way, but asking
       | them will save you from locking yourself up for years building
       | something nobody wants.
       | 
       | Also, building a better version of X is usually less promising
       | than building the first version of Y. Especially when X is pretty
       | well-executed.
       | 
       | Most top startups I see are carving out their own niche:
       | https://topstartups.io/
        
       | marginalia_nu wrote:
       | Well, as someone who has literally built a search engine and paid
       | for it out of pocket, I'll argue the profit question is deeply
       | relevant, it's _the_ question you should have an answer for
       | before even considering investing actual money into this field.
       | Most search engines just aren 't profitable.
       | 
       | Me, I've chosen to simply reduce burn rate so much it isn't much
       | of a problem. I can do this non-profit because I think the world
       | needs it. But if that isn't you, if you actually want to live off
       | your work, you need an answer to this.
       | 
       | Google makes it work through being a major player in
       | advertisement. If you had Google's search service, but not their
       | advertisement-ability, you would struggle to make ends meet.
       | Maybe you could do like Kagi intends and offer a subscription
       | service. Maybe that will work. Who knows.
       | 
       | How you will compete with Google is a far less tricky question.
       | There are several niches they rather visibly flounder in. I'd
       | estimate their biggest problem is they are trying to do too much
       | at once, making their service not quite great at any given thing.
       | It's reasonably easy to build something that's superior at just
       | one thing.
        
         | the_common_man wrote:
         | If people are not paying you and you cannot self sustain why
         | would you think world needs it? In fact, the world is clearly
         | giving you a signal it doesn't need it.
         | 
         | (I am being rhetorical here. It's very easy to break down
         | things this way imo and I think it's the point of the article.
         | talk with your founder friends with compassion and trust)
        
           | marginalia_nu wrote:
           | Well even this I have an answer to: Because _I_ find it
           | useful. That 's the entire reason I built my search engine.
           | I'm sharing it with others as a service for others to use if
           | they want. If they do not want to use it, that's also fine.
           | It is a niche service for a niche audience.
        
       | timoth3y wrote:
       | I don't agree with this article. Being supportive is not being
       | nice. Being supportive can be cruel.
       | 
       | I do a lot of mentoring for startup founders. I usually get asked
       | to help with pricing and positioning strategy because it's hard
       | to find mentors with that expertise.
       | 
       | In particular, there are two SDG-focused programs I mentor at
       | every year. The founders are very early stage. Some have products
       | and customers, but most just have MVPs and customer interviews.
       | 
       | It's kind of heartbreaking. These new founders have had so much
       | validation. The program and other mentors have told them how they
       | should be admired for following their dreams and how they are the
       | future and will be saving the planet.
       | 
       | Aad I come along and say "OK. How do you know people will buy
       | this? No, sadly, people don't buy things because it's the right
       | thing to do. OK people have said this is 'fun', but how much are
       | they willing to pay?"
       | 
       | My evaluations at the end of these programs tend to be an extreme
       | split between founders who write things like "This was the best
       | 45 minutes of the entire program." and those who write tings like
       | "This mentor just didn't care about me or my startup."
       | 
       |  _Sigh_
       | 
       | You are not doing your friends any favors by simply smiling and
       | and telling them how clever they are. You might be making their
       | lives worse.
        
         | CPLX wrote:
         | It's possible to hold your view and the view in the article
         | simultaneously. Your role was to critique them. A friend's role
         | is to be friendly. It's possible that sometimes someone will
         | want detailed advice and course correction and sometimes
         | emotional support.
         | 
         | For example you might have a different opinion of the phrase
         | "run faster stop being lazy" coming from your spouse rather
         | than your personal trainer.
        
         | scyzoryk_xyz wrote:
         | Yeah this doesn't sound like a friendship type relationship
         | though. I'd expect my friends to be supportive and mostly not
         | clued in on all the details.
         | 
         | In productivity oriented organizations and relationships there
         | are many roles which are more about what you describe - sober,
         | sceptic, detailed, harsh, realistic etc.
        
         | waylandsmithers wrote:
         | I think you are describing is what the radical candor crowd
         | would call "ruinous empathy", ie lying to avoid hurting their
         | feelings.
         | 
         | There is a difference though between a conversation among
         | friends and a founder seeking advice from a mentor. Telling a
         | friend that their startup is dumb won't stop them from seeing
         | the idea through anyway, so I think the article is questioning
         | what one hopes to accomplish by being generally negative.
        
         | the_common_man wrote:
         | You sound like a mentor here and not like a friend. Friends are
         | required to be supportive, mentors give advise and direction.
         | Very different relationship
        
       | palijer wrote:
       | Robin Williams had a quote that was along the lines of
       | 
       | "whenever people ask me for advice on how to become a successful
       | comedian, I tell them they won't make it and they should give up.
       | Anyone who listens to me and gives up wouldn't have made it
       | anyways, and that saves them hardship down the road. Anyone who
       | has the determination to make it along the hard path wouldn't
       | listen to me anyways"
        
       | ALittleLight wrote:
       | In highschool I was friends with a Mormon kid. After graduation I
       | was headed for college and he was headed out on his two year
       | mission trip to Brazil.
       | 
       | Personally, I thought it was a very foolish decision to spend two
       | years going door to door in Brazil. I also thought it was a net
       | negative as I don't believe in Mormonism and don't think it's a
       | good thing to recruit more people to believe in it.
       | 
       | I was conflicted about what to do. Should I try to convince my
       | friend he was wrong to go? Just stay quiet, like this article
       | recommends or ask some politely phrased question?
       | 
       | I wound up splitting the difference and tried gently making the
       | case to him that he wasting his time. I didn't come at the
       | argument as hard or often as I might have and I didn't leave it
       | entirely alone. We had one awkward conversation about it, that I
       | could tell he found off-putting or offensive, and that was that.
       | He went off to Brazil and I never saw nor spoke to him again.
       | 
       | I still don't know what the right thing to do then was and I have
       | the same conflict about the advice in this article. If I
       | genuinely think my friend is making a mistake I shouldn't
       | directly confront them about it? I don't think I buy that, even
       | if it makes things less awkward.
       | 
       | I see the polite rephrase advice as being generally good
       | probably. I'd just say that it's probably different by person.
       | Some people prefer direct challenges. "You'll never do it without
       | a great UI!"
        
         | HeyLaughingBoy wrote:
         | I find that as a general rule, it's best to assume that people
         | know what they're doing and what's best _for them_. So in this
         | case I 'd ask why he was doing it, what his motivations were,
         | etc.
         | 
         | Aside: I'd assume that as his friend, you'd already know that
         | it is common for Mormons to do this!
         | 
         | In any event, if it's a life choice like this (or marriage, or
         | a new career), then telling him that he's doing the wrong thing
         | is not likely to result in anything positive, other than you
         | feeling better (?) about yourself.
        
         | rocqua wrote:
         | If you doubt your friend's plans. Don't go at it trying to
         | convince him he's wrong. Go at it trying to understand why he
         | thinks it's a good plan. If you want to be direct 'I don't
         | believe this will work without a great UI, am I missing
         | something? ' is much better than 'you'll never do it without a
         | great UI'.
         | 
         | Both are direct and confronting. The first is aggressive, the
         | second is dialogue.
        
           | Remnant44 wrote:
           | This.
           | 
           | Turn the situation around. How often do you enjoy hearing
           | someone's opinion on something where they haven't even tried
           | to understand your goals, motivations, and values? And
           | instead just spouted off what they think?
        
           | krisoft wrote:
           | > If you want to be direct 'I don't believe this will work
           | without a great UI, am I missing something? ' is much better
           | than 'you'll never do it without a great UI'.
           | 
           | If someone is unable to turn one into the other in their head
           | probably they shouldn't be doing a startup really. I
           | understand that one shouldn't be a jerk, but we also don't
           | have to go around like other people are made of eggshells.
           | "You will never do it without a great UI" is a perfectly fine
           | thing to say if you believe that. A healthy, well adjusted
           | human being can say to that "you are right and this is how we
           | will get a great UI" or tell you "you might think that, but
           | actually" or they might shrug and ignore you or any other
           | variation. If their world collapses from a tinny bit of
           | adversity, and they fold like a wet napkin they should do
           | something less stressfull.
        
       | throwra620 wrote:
        
       | nudpiedo wrote:
       | I disagree with the article. Also existential questions are
       | something different than what the article author believes to be.
       | 
       | And somehow agree with not being mean, but if a person is going
       | to be discourage by such _very common and non evil meanly
       | formulated_ comments, how are they going to survive in the wild?
       | 
       | Still constructive critique is more useful.
        
       | gunfighthacksaw wrote:
       | "Why should I read your article?"
        
       | davehcker wrote:
       | Author of the post here. Trying to respond to some of the
       | comments. Firstly, apologies- I didn't intend to make anything
       | click-baity. As a matter of fact, I didn't even post it here. I
       | realized that I could have titled my post like "How to ask
       | founders good questions".
       | 
       | But, and in all honesty, as a founder, it did/does feel such
       | questions are existential. I used _search-engine_ as a mask, I'm
       | actually building a deep-tech (I've commented/posted on HN
       | before).
       | 
       | When you put everything on the line to build a startup for a
       | mission you believe in to the extent that you can't even separate
       | your existence from your startups 90% of the awake hours, then
       | when such questions come from (this is important) "a specific set
       | of stakeholders", it does become existential. I love being asked
       | all these things from a random person or at a random pitch event.
       | But when you're my colleague, co-founder, or my hero, or a
       | potential investor who I've been in the loop with for weeks, then
       | when you ask such questions, it does get hard.
       | 
       | Someone below suggested that such people probably shouldn't start
       | a startup, but on the contrary, I wrote it not to whine about
       | myself, but only with the sincere hope that if there's someone
       | who is less tougher than I am, he/she would be more cared for (in
       | the odd chance that someone reads it).
       | 
       | The true origin of this post was in my experience with building
       | my indoor farming startup that will grow the best quality
       | produce, cheaper, and way more resource efficiently than
       | traditional agriculture. Ofc I've done my homework and I am
       | actually taking a risk and doing the very uncomfortable by
       | deciding to work on it. Imagine jumping back and forth between
       | research-papers, circuit diagrams, dying-plants, finance, etc.
       | etc., and then someone very relevant asks/tells you "you can't
       | beat the oldest industry known to humankind", or "why can Infarm
       | (a unicorn in the vertical) not do this?", "maybe just work on
       | indoor grow lights (since it fits more into the standard lean
       | startup model". In that moment, it seems existential. Maybe I
       | interpret it wrong, but I interpret it as if you're telling me
       | that my startup shouldn't (can't exist) and yes I'm so obsessed
       | with my startup that I take it personally (again, only when it
       | comes from specific stakeholders). I can give them the numbers,
       | but if they say it can't be done or if it could have been done,
       | it would have been done, then that's same as saying that I should
       | shut up.
        
         | bombcar wrote:
         | "It needed a week's answer, or none."
         | 
         | It's hard because some of the "easy questions" require a long
         | answer - and sometimes you really _ARE_ in a startup that
         | shouldn 't exist (or can't exist yet) - and your friends might
         | be the people who need to pull you out.
         | 
         | But often, if it's someone who is "involved" or interested or
         | even a co-founder, they _really do have_ the question and want
         | to know the answer - or at least be reassured that you 've
         | thought about it.
         | 
         | A startup is always in the strange place of trying to do
         | something easy enough that a startup can do it, and hard enough
         | that nobody has done it yet.
        
         | MrJohz wrote:
         | > But when your my colleague, co-founder, or my hero, or a
         | potential investor who I've been in the loop with got weeks,
         | then when you ask such questions, it does get hard.
         | 
         | I'm not a founder of anything, so I understand if this is just
         | part of an experience that I've not had, but those are exactly
         | the sorts of people who I would absolutely want to ask these
         | sorts of questions. At least in my life, if I want to do
         | something crazy, it's my close friends, my heroes, and my
         | mentors that I go to first to get advice, and if I'm doing
         | something that they don't see as sensible, I truly hope they
         | tell me. I mean, they have done plenty of times already! And
         | either I can give them a good answer and we can talk it over,
         | or I can't give them a good answer, and then I know I need to
         | think things over - either coming up with a better answer, or
         | realising that what I was doing wasn't as sensible as I
         | thought.
         | 
         | Likewise, I have friends where I hope I can be that person to
         | them as well, and try and offer a critical perspective when I
         | think they're viewing things in a rosier light than they
         | realise. Obviously how you say that is always important, and in
         | moments like that I try hard to frame my own perspective
         | helpfully (and accept that my perspective may be missing
         | something that they're seeing), but if there is a deep enough
         | trust in a relationship, I think those sorts of things are
         | possible and healthy.
        
       | nwsm wrote:
       | I got click baited :(
       | 
       | The title says `Please don't ask founders existential questions`,
       | but the article tells me not to berate my friends with pessimism
       | about their startup ideas. Thanks for the tip!
        
         | CPLX wrote:
         | Indeed. I was curious to discover why founders should not be
         | queried about the existence of God and the nature of reality.
         | Oh well.
        
       | contingencies wrote:
       | Personally I love questions. Especially from people with no
       | background whatsoever in business, tech or the field in question.
       | The interest clusters of responses help to attune to public
       | perception.
       | 
       | Amazingly, the main one I get (seven years and counting) is
       | "don't they have that in Japan already?". So on our timeline,
       | entry #3 or something is "Research in Japan". Total waste of
       | money, but a memorable trip!
        
       | dasil003 wrote:
       | As a founder you are fighting an uphill battle every step of the
       | way. I'm not sure trying to convince the world to stop with the
       | middlebrow dismissals en masse will bear much fruit. If the
       | naysayers are getting you down you need to find coping strategies
       | like spending time with more positive people, or just not talking
       | about your startup with people who aren't helpful. There's a
       | reason incubators are a thing.
        
       | at_a_remove wrote:
       | I agree, but for entirely different reasons.
       | 
       | Yes, someone ought to ask those questions; no, it should not be
       | you. Sadly, most of the time someone gets really fired up about
       | an idea, you can't really stop them, even if it is a terrible
       | idea on the face of it. All you can really do is be around to
       | pick up the pieces after they slam headfirst into one of the many
       | obstacles.
        
       | vincentmarle wrote:
       | As a founder you have to be a little bit delusional in order to
       | balance out all the naysayers in your life (especially the ones
       | who are closest to you!). It's a lonely game until you "make it"
       | - and then everyone suddenly wants to be your friend / family
       | member.
        
       | GauntletWizard wrote:
       | Founders need to be asked those questions. Those are important
       | questions, that the founders should be asking themselves, but
       | also are going to have gaps in asking themselves. The same
       | enthusiasm that causes them to want to work on these problems
       | also causes them to miss vital questions.
       | 
       | Be mindful when asking that type of question. Not every founder
       | needs to hear every question from you. But if they come to you
       | for council, do ask those questions, because a ton of them they'd
       | better have immediate answers to, and the rest they probably
       | should have thought of already. But one of the most valuable
       | services you can provide, as a friend, is to be a sounding board
       | and to make certain they have iterated across all of those
       | questions. That does mean a substantial mental investment from
       | you in maintaining that checklist.
        
       | gaze wrote:
       | Don't be a jerk but _someone_ is gonna ask these questions. Might
       | as well ask them before they make big sacrifices.
        
       | icehawk wrote:
       | It seems really weird not to as ask the question "why would
       | someone use your engine over Google," as a friend because "Why
       | would I use your search engine over Google?" is _exactly_ what
       | every single customer is going to ask, prospective employees and
       | founders aside.
       | 
       | If that's not something they have a cogent answer for, they
       | should probably look into some other line of business.
        
       | victorbojica wrote:
       | I'm a founder and I've gotten all lot of these. I usually don't
       | take them to the heart, but at some point you start questioning
       | yourself and they might shine a new perspective on it. They might
       | be right, or they might be wrong, but the answer and the actions
       | are mostly on you.
       | 
       | My take after all this is that you should question your friend,
       | but if the drive is there, there's no point in arguing or being
       | the "rational" one. The best way forward is support.
        
       | duxup wrote:
       | I feel like if you're a founder... you gotta be able to brush
       | that off / have answers (granted you don't have to get into the
       | weeds with everyone).
       | 
       | Rando existential question guy is going to do his thing
       | regardless.
        
         | holler wrote:
         | You're correct that it requires thick skin, but there is such
         | thing as pushing too hard, and I've dealt with that personally
         | when a close friend became almost aggressive in their
         | viewpoint.
        
       | randrews wrote:
       | Could not disagree more. If your plan is to build a search engine
       | and you _can't_ answer such a basic question as "why would
       | someone use your engine over Google," then your plan is going to
       | fail.
       | 
       | If you're a founder you should anticipate these kinds of
       | questions and have answers for them that make sense; if you ask
       | these kinds of questions you should expect an actual answer, even
       | if you don't agree with it.
       | 
       | Edit, to hopefully avoid some predictable replies:
       | 
       | - If the point is "don't be a jerk" then fine, there's a way to
       | ask these basic questions without being discouraging.
       | 
       | - The author is right if the project isn't supposed to be a
       | business. "Why would someone use your hobby language instead of
       | C++" is a stupid question because the point of writing a hobby
       | language is the fun of writing it.
       | 
       | But if someone is putting their life savings into a business idea
       | and can't answer the most basic questions about it... Maybe they
       | need a little discouragement.
       | 
       | Edit, again:
       | 
       | Also, I'm not a founder, but I have a side project, and I've
       | gotten these sorts of questions about it... and I love them!
       | Because it's a starting point into talking about my side project,
       | which I love doing with people! I'm not discouraged by someone
       | questioning why I'm building my thing, because I know perfectly
       | well why I'm building my thing and I enjoy sharing that with
       | people.
        
         | nickff wrote:
         | The OP is 'begging the question', by not explicitly stating the
         | purpose of such conversations, and the fundamental reasons for
         | avoiding these questions. Here is the critical paragraph:
         | 
         | > _" It is almost certain that if someone is smart enough to
         | build a search engine while living off of ramen, they also know
         | more about what Google is capable of. Your attempt to question
         | them is not helpful to anyone. If anything, you're totally
         | denying the fundamental aspect of innovation and entrepreneurs
         | throughout history who have established that one or ten person
         | team can conquer many a Goliaths, or bring to the world
         | something entirely new."_
         | 
         | Notice how the author says: _" [y]our attempt to question them
         | is not helpful to anyone"_. They also say imply that non-
         | technical conversations about start-ups are basically useless:
         | _" [t]here is already enough knowledge about startups"_.
        
           | notahacker wrote:
           | I think the key part is less that and more the _way of
           | phrasing it_. So you 're encouraged to ask non-technical
           | questions how they're supposed to be better than the
           | competition but not allowed to say "but Google dominates that
           | space, doesn't it?" to imply they don't necessarily need to
           | exist. (though the author also says "I think your UI is not
           | good" is 'constructive' feedback, so they don't think you
           | have to be nice!)
           | 
           | I think there's a point to that especially if it's a business
           | you don't know and you're not a VC or angel, but I also think
           | there's a surprisingly large number of entrepreneurs out
           | there who are smart enough to live off ramen and program
           | something complex like a search engine who do have a massive
           | blind spot about routes to market or the complexity required
           | for the software to actually be viable rather than just
           | minimum. Sometimes the blunt approach "doesn't the network
           | effect of $dominantplayer create a massive lockin" is more
           | helpful than a general "so how are you going to get
           | customers?" which is easy to answer with a generic
           | "sales/marketing/referrals/affiliates". The entrepreneur
           | ought to be able to give a more interesting answer to the
           | first question, and if they aren't able to they're going to
           | need to figure it out...
        
           | randrews wrote:
           | > who have established that one or ten person team can
           | conquer many a Goliaths, or bring to the world something
           | entirely new.
           | 
           | I wonder how many of those teams couldn't answer what was
           | better about their product than the one they were replacing?
           | I'll bet Google themselves could have answered that question,
           | comparing themselves to Yahoo, back in the day.
        
         | felipellrocha wrote:
         | I don't know if I agree with you. The point of the article is
         | that those questions are not only unhelpful, they're
         | distracting, and you shouldn't be trying to distract a founder.
         | The reason why people are asking those questions is because
         | they themselves are nervous and they're projecting their nerves
         | onto you.
        
         | kazinator wrote:
         | But the article's author would probably regard "why would
         | someone use your engine over Google" as a reasonably good
         | question, as opposed to "nobody is going to use your engine
         | over Google because it's a household verb".
         | 
         | It's not the same as the author's example "what makes you
         | believe you can do better than Google" because that question
         | assumes you are doing exactly the same thing as Google: that
         | all the prospective users of the idea are fully satisfied with
         | Google, and have to be convinced to use something else for no
         | reason at all. Your "why would someone use your search engine
         | over Google" is better; it's more closely in line with "how
         | will you get your first users".
        
           | randrews wrote:
           | > "why would someone use your engine over Google" as a
           | reasonably good question, as opposed to "nobody is going to
           | use your engine over Google because it's a household verb".
           | 
           | Well, one of these is a question, the other is a statement...
           | Actually I noticed that if you look at his examples of what
           | not to say, none of them are questions. So maybe a better
           | idea is "don't say discouraging things to your founder
           | friends, ask them questions instead."
        
           | LordDragonfang wrote:
           | GP picked that example because the article explicitly calls
           | it a bad question. The third paragraph of the article:
           | 
           | >Let's say your friend is obsessed with building a new
           | search-engine. When you ask them why do they believe they can
           | do better than Google, you are literally telling them that
           | they shouldn't be doing this since if it was 'correct' or
           | possible or profitable, then Google would have already done
           | that. This is bad.
        
         | Animats wrote:
         | I had just that conversation with one of the founders of Cuil.
         | Anyone remember Cuil? Search engine company, 2008-2010. They
         | actually got it running, but not very well. I asked what the
         | revenue model was. They didn't have a good answer. They ran out
         | of runway before finding more investors or revenue.
         | 
         | Cuil was a nice demo, though. With under 100 people, they got a
         | search engine going that did its own crawls and was roughly
         | comparable to early Google. But this was before Google started
         | to really suck, and there wasn't a market.
         | 
         | Google hired their key people to keep them off the market.
        
           | the_common_man wrote:
           | Is your point here that cuil should not have been started
           | because they failed to answer your question about revenue
           | model?
        
             | horsawlarway wrote:
             | I think the point is
             | 
             | "If you cannot espouse the benefits and possible market of
             | the product you yourself are building - why are you
             | building it?"
             | 
             | Basically - be your own advocate. If you can't handle
             | someone asking about your product (even in a negative
             | fashion) how the hell can you hope to have the conviction
             | and drive to actually sell it?
             | 
             | You don't need to "convince" every critic - but you sure as
             | hell need to be able to step into the ring and talk to
             | their points.
             | 
             | This is the same reason debate teams often explicitly spend
             | time reviewing the problem from their opponents perspective
             | - you _must_ be able to understand and counter arguments
             | from your detractors.
        
             | Animats wrote:
             | Well, lack of a revenue model killed them.
             | 
             | There was more pressure back then to build a profitable
             | business. Today there are companies growing by funding
             | round after funding round without reaching profitability.
        
           | syzygyhack wrote:
           | > You awake as a hamburger. You start screaming only to have
           | special sauce fly from your lips. The world is in sepia.
        
             | mdonahoe wrote:
             | I was very confused by this response, but searching Google
             | for this text returns the following page on "Cuil Theory"
             | 
             | http://cuiltheory.wikidot.com/what-is-cuil-theory
        
             | function_seven wrote:
             | Holy shit. I had completely forgotten about that until just
             | now. Reading your comment, I was struck by the most intense
             | deja vu. Took me a few seconds to place it.
             | 
             | 3!?, might as well start looking up those old rage comics.
        
         | productceo wrote:
         | This comment is correct.
        
         | rzzzt wrote:
         | Just frame it as the author recommends: "How will you get your
         | first billion users?"
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | pavon wrote:
         | This article makes me very curious about what the author
         | considers an existential question. I don't disagree with the
         | content of the article, but the title is throwing me. None of
         | the examples he gave of unproductive things to say are
         | questions at all, and I would consider one of his recommended
         | questions (What is the competition missing that you think you
         | got?) to be pretty close to an existential question for a
         | startup.
        
           | randrews wrote:
           | I took it to mean any question that, if you don't have a good
           | answer, means your startup shouldn't exist. Like if the
           | answer to "why would someone use you instead of Google" is
           | null, then you are probably not going to successfully compete
           | with Google. Or, you could come up with the best tool that
           | ever existed for converting WEBP images to PCX, and if you
           | don't have an answer for "who on earth has used the PCX
           | format in the past thirty years" then you're probably not
           | gonna sell many copies of that tool.
        
         | hgomersall wrote:
         | It's more the point that sometimes you don't want to have to
         | justify yourself to all and sundry, especially when the person
         | you're talking to has no real insight and wants to appear
         | smart. I've been to loads of events where you just want to have
         | a nice chat and before you know it you're getting a lecture on
         | all the ways in which you're going to fail. One time, I didn't
         | even want to talk about my stuff but was basically forced to
         | have to justify myself.
         | 
         | Do this a few times and it gets exhausting. It's got nothing to
         | do with whether you can answer the questions, and everything to
         | do with the fact that sometimes you just don't want to answer
         | the questions.
        
           | randrews wrote:
           | "Yeah, that's the kind of thing I spend all day working on,
           | but right now I just want to hang out with you guys and have
           | dinner / play this game / enjoy the party / whatever."
        
       | natch wrote:
       | This is such a defeatist line of thought.
       | 
       | 1) Delusion is a real thing. Some would-be startup founders are
       | deluded and could use help from their friends. Some are not
       | deluded. But, again, some are.
       | 
       | 2) Curiosity is a real thing. Asking questions about a startup
       | idea and wondering how it gets around the obvious objections does
       | not equate to saying the idea is worthless.
        
       | brandonhorst wrote:
       | > It is almost certain that if someone is smart enough to build a
       | search engine while living off of ramen, they also know more
       | about what Google is capable of.
       | 
       | I'm not sure this is a given. Tons of brilliant developers
       | (myself included) build complex products without having ever
       | considered the market, or just assuming that users will come out
       | of the woodwork if it's technically awesome enough.
       | 
       | Seems to me that if a founder doesn't have immediate answers to
       | some of these "existential questions", that's a red flag right
       | there.
        
         | titanomachy wrote:
         | Also the only information you really have in this example is
         | that they're smart enough to say the words "I'm building a
         | search engine".
        
         | stathibus wrote:
         | Yeah the premise is clearly untrue. People build useless stuff
         | all the time. If you're going to build something without having
         | answers to these questions you need to be honest with yourself
         | that you're doing it for fun, and for many that moment will not
         | come unless they are challenged on it.
        
       | Invictus0 wrote:
       | Does anyone have an example of a useful, interesting post that
       | started with "please don't"? (Rhetorical question)
        
       | dkarl wrote:
       | How about this: go ahead and ask, but without the rhetorical
       | intent of proving that your milliseconds-in-the-making gut
       | reaction contains insights they haven't yet considered.
        
       | halfdeadcat wrote:
       | Perhaps if a founder is too delicate to be asked questions
       | grounded in reality, they should consider a different profession.
        
       | motohagiography wrote:
       | I made things because I legit thought, "these people are stupid,
       | they haven't leveraged this brilliant insight, I can do this
       | better," and then find out that none of that is true. Dead demos
       | include a protocol for encoding hashes in QR codes for tokenizing
       | all the things in a supply chain, a marketplace for anonymously
       | referring non-fit employees and coworkers out to recruiters to
       | get them hired away, a collaboration tool for producing security
       | features of a product using threat modelling, etc. The conceit
       | beneath each of them was they weren't _for_ anyone, they were in
       | reaction to a situation, and a kind of expression of thwarted
       | nerd revenge on the world. Maybe it 's a great impetus for
       | writing pop songs, (though perhaps more emo), but not for making
       | tools for people. They were un-buyable and un-investable for all
       | the reasons.
       | 
       | The question I've learned to ask is, "is there a specific person
       | you have talked to in the last 6 months who this is for and who
       | wants this?" Can't say I always live by that advice, as I still
       | have another troubled-loner-ware project in me, as the creative
       | urge is merciless, but the one thing I would never do is
       | discourage a friend, I would only accelerate them to their next
       | conclusion. The best you can do is help them forward faster, and
       | if they find a dealbreaker, it's better they find it fast and
       | move on to the next one.
        
       | eternityforest wrote:
       | If your business skill is good enough to sell your probably-
       | useless thing(Which it may well be), then you'll probably have no
       | problem answering a casual question, right?
       | 
       | Just say it's a privacy preserving deep learning homeomorphic
       | blockchain to end war and famine with a novel proof scheme for
       | your digital legacy and we'll be like "Yep that's some buzzwords,
       | I bet someone will buy it" and move on.
       | 
       | If you don't have an answer at all what will you tell customers?
        
       | joshstrange wrote:
       | Well I expected this blog post to be about something completely
       | different. Really the title should just be "Don't ask founder how
       | their idea is supposed to work". Asking how they are going to
       | complete with <insert competitor here> is 100% valid. That's not
       | an "existential question".
        
       | AussieWog93 wrote:
       | >Individuals obsessed with working on hard problems are very
       | rare, so please don't be a jerk to them.
       | 
       | Is this guy for real? "Obsessed with working on hard problems"
       | describes basically every single university grad. And it's almost
       | always a bad idea.
        
       ___________________________________________________________________
       (page generated 2022-03-15 23:01 UTC)