[HN Gopher] You are not your name (2015)
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       You are not your name (2015)
        
       Author : bobbiechen
       Score  : 42 points
       Date   : 2022-03-07 05:17 UTC (17 hours ago)
        
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       | verisimi wrote:
       | Its actually illegal to use your legal name.
       | 
       | If you look at your birth certificate, it will say something like
       | 'not to be used for id'.
       | 
       | So, what is the thing that we all use the birth certificate for?
       | 
       | We are actually committing fraud to use the birth certificate.
        
         | woodruffw wrote:
         | This is a confusing comment: your birth name is _on_ your birth
         | certificate, but it isn 't the same _thing as_ your birth
         | certificate. Even if it were illegal to  "use your birth
         | certificate" (for what?), why in the world would it be illegal
         | to use your name?
         | 
         | Also, for the record: my birth certificate doesn't say anything
         | like that on it. My social security card does, however. But
         | that doesn't actually make it illegal to use as an ID.
        
         | dwighttk wrote:
         | Ha ha... made me look
        
       | technothrasher wrote:
       | I thought this was going to be the sovereign citizen attempt to
       | avoid the court system.
        
       | causi wrote:
       | I'm not sure this article has any real meaning besides being a
       | strained excuse to string a bunch of interesting tidbits
       | together. Names mean different things to different people. Your
       | name is your label. It's through your words and deeds you
       | determine what meaning that label has.
       | 
       |  _So when someone asks, "Who are you," don't tell them "Bud
       | Baker," or "Larry Watterworth," or even your legal name. Tell
       | them who you really are, and if they stick around, then tell them
       | your human label._
       | 
       | I don't know if this is symbolic advice or just naive advice.
       | That's obviously not a practical course of action.
        
         | SllX wrote:
         | "My name is my name!" --Marlo Stanfield
        
         | imdvayn wrote:
         | The terminology used and author conclusions are questionable
         | but the idea the article presents (using a pseudonym or
         | 'pseudopseudonym' that is like a more concise version of your
         | name) is a solid approach to marketing yourself and making a
         | more significant impression on others is true. People have been
         | aware of this since Positioning was first published in the 80s.
         | 
         | Whether or not you want to is up to you, but for someone like
         | me I'd prefer not to use my whole unique and cumbersome name.
        
         | bobthepanda wrote:
         | do articles have to have real meaning to be worthy of writing?
         | the arts and philosophy are rarely a dry instruction booklet to
         | do X, Y and Z.
        
         | phdelightful wrote:
         | Doubly so because when someone says "who are you," usually they
         | mean "what's your name?"
        
       | subpixel wrote:
       | I changed my name when I got married but kept my pre-marriage
       | name professionally and I can't recommend the strategy more
       | highly.
       | 
       | I have multiple numbers and emails so I can be who I want with a
       | given audience.
       | 
       | Having recently relocated I decide whom to let on to my work
       | name. For everyone else it's as if I have almost no no digital
       | presence, which is frankly a relief.
        
       | phdelightful wrote:
       | I'm a new parent, so I just got to (had to?) name someone for the
       | first time. In my jurisdiction you actually have quite a while
       | before you have to make that choice, but you do eventually need
       | to make it. It speaks to lots of point in this essay:
       | 
       | My son certainly doesn't know his name yet, but it's how everyone
       | addresses him. So it is definitely not an integral part of his
       | identity, at least as he experiences it.
       | 
       | The name doesn't have any meaning for me nor my wife. It is
       | normal enough to be familiar, stands out enough to not disappear,
       | is nice to abbreviate, sounds pleasing to our ears. But it also
       | has nothing to do with him or his ancestry at all, except it's
       | ethnically congruous I guess.
       | 
       | So my son is not at all his name, probably for the only time in
       | his life. It is a bit odd.
        
         | ftlio wrote:
         | I went through this as well and kept throwing out "Sharper
         | Image" as a name, one for the homage to the Simpsons' "Max
         | Power", and two because it'd be hard not to confront that name
         | as "not my identity". It's hardly even the identity of the
         | products distributed by the now defunct company.
         | 
         | Thankfully I would never get my way on this. My first born's
         | name fits the criteria you listed almost exactly. The idea of
         | naming them after an older family member is growing on me for
         | similar reasons - it's fun to say "oh you're just like Grandpa
         | <name> in this way, but not in this other way" I guess.
        
       | Supermancho wrote:
       | When I was 12 I selected an online name. Many people refer to me
       | by that name and have nearly forgotten my real name (my last name
       | for sure). Over high school, I had many names and developed a
       | full-blown alias. This disturbed my father at the time.
       | 
       | A couple people I know live by these new names that we chose,
       | even at work where they use their alias everywhere but on their
       | taxes/employment record.
        
         | fouc wrote:
         | > even at work where they use their alias everywhere but on
         | their taxes/employment record.
         | 
         | I basically do this, but it was by accident. I think it's a
         | nice idea to have this kind of separation.
        
         | _dain_ wrote:
         | This could have been far more common but Facebook snuffed it
         | out with their maniacal insistence that everyone use their
         | "real" name online.
        
         | Ancapistani wrote:
         | Around 2015 I worked with someone who used a "handle" for most
         | things. It was their GitHub username and their "@" in Slack.
         | 
         | I remember thinking it was interesting how I had developed
         | something of a disconnect between "the person" and "the
         | person's communications". It was almost (but not quite) like
         | they were completely different identities to me.
        
       | kodah wrote:
       | This article is incredibly low quality and I don't say that
       | lightly.
       | 
       | I agree that names don't mean much. This username is linked to a
       | single GitHub account. The pseudonym I write under is entirely
       | made up. I have no interest in brand recognition or getting hired
       | because people recognize my name. In many ways, I think
       | provenance is a cancer to the proliferation and building of truly
       | _good ideas_. Instead, I 'd rather people focus on the ideas I've
       | presented and debate those - they, with hope, will live on a lot
       | longer than my name will.
       | 
       | Lastly, since it brought up Jane Fonda and characterized her
       | involvement in the war as a "visit":
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jane_Fonda#Visit_to_Hanoi
       | 
       | Jane Fonda actively participated in the propagation of propaganda
       | for her own entertainment and brand. She's quite well known in
       | most veteran circles for calling people who had visible signs of
       | torture and abuse "hypocrites and liars and pawns" when they told
       | their stories, then tried to walk that back to, "I'm quite sure
       | that there were incidents of torture ... but the pilots who were
       | saying it was the policy of the Vietnamese and that it was
       | systematic, I believe that's a lie." History now shows us it
       | _was_ systemic and that Jane Fonda is simply an awful person.
        
       | scarmig wrote:
       | The fish trap exists because of the fish; once you've gotten the
       | fish, you can forget the trap.            The rabbit snare exists
       | because of the rabbit; once you've gotten the rabbit, you can
       | forget the snare.            Words exist because of meaning; once
       | you've gotten the meaning, you can forget the words.
       | Where can I find a man who has forgotten words so I can have a
       | word with him?
        
       | teddyh wrote:
       | I wrote here 7 months ago:
       | 
       | "Other people use your name, not you, so the name belongs to
       | other people. Render unto Caesar, etc.
       | 
       | Your name refers to, not your identity (whatever that is), but
       | _the idea of you in the heads of other people._ "
       | 
       | -- https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28008263
        
       | bregma wrote:
       | The map is not the territory. Ceci n'est pas une pipe.
        
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