[HN Gopher] Not everyone should meditate
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       Not everyone should meditate
        
       Author : joshcsimmons
       Score  : 58 points
       Date   : 2022-03-02 20:13 UTC (2 hours ago)
        
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       | cma wrote:
       | Hang on to your ego.
        
       | beebeepka wrote:
       | I would like to at least try to meditate but I am not calm
       | person. Not at all. Even coffee and green tea kick my nervous
       | system into overdrive, so 8 don't consume them.
       | 
       | What could possibly make meditation accessible to a person like
       | me?
        
         | heleninboodler wrote:
         | There's a lot of authoritative claims about what meditation is
         | in this thread, so there's also a good chance that what I do is
         | considered "not real meditation" but it's what I learned at a
         | meditation center, so I'm going to go ahead and tell you what
         | got me over it when I had a hard time starting:
         | 
         | Just allow yourself to be bad at it and repeatedly apply the
         | rule that when observe that your attention has wandered, you
         | just consciously bring it back to what you're supposed to be
         | focusing on. You haven't "failed at meditation", you're
         | learning it. Don't beat yourself up for your mind wandering,
         | just acknowledge that the repeated application of the
         | redirection is what it takes and it's all part of the practice.
         | At first it's non-stop, and eventually you get better at it.
         | Sometimes it's excruciatingly boring and tedious and sometimes
         | it's immensely relaxing, and occasionally you get weird
         | hallucinatory stuff out of nowhere (although that to me feels
         | like just going into a dream state, which I've always
         | interpreted as "I'm so relaxed I fell asleep and dreamt").
         | 
         | That's really all it is for me. A way to relax and slow down.
        
         | cpeterso wrote:
         | Try starting with very short meditation sessions, even just 1-2
         | minutes. Even a small first step is still beneficial. Long
         | meditation sessions are not the end goal. Self-awareness is.
         | 
         | I just finished watching two informative series that I
         | recommend: "The Science of Mindfulness: A Research-Based Path
         | to Well-being" and "Practicing Mindfulness: An Introduction to
         | Meditation". They're long (24 30-minutes episodes in each
         | series). You can watch them for free on Kanopy.com with a
         | library card from a participating library.
        
         | calculated wrote:
         | I personally use an app called Smiling Mind. It has different
         | paths you can go according to what problem you're trying to
         | solve through meditation. It's an amazing app IMO.
        
         | kragen wrote:
         | Maybe guidance from a good teacher, patience with yourself, and
         | persistence (continuing to practice even when you're frustrated
         | with your lack of progress). Meditation isn't for everyone but
         | nothing you have said suggests that it isn't for you.
        
           | beebeepka wrote:
           | Instead of me spilling tons of personal info, do you mind
           | sharing what would suggest meditation isn't for someone? Your
           | input will be appreciated
        
             | kragen wrote:
             | There's an anecdote in the Tipitaka where the Buddha
             | analogizes would-be followers who never advance in the
             | practice to farm animals that never grow, and explains what
             | the herder does with those animals: he kills them.
             | 
             | This is generally understood as a recommendation to kick
             | hopeless monks out of the monastery, not literally kill
             | them.
             | 
             | You'd have to ask a competent meditation teacher, which I
             | am very much not, how to know. I am pretty sure that the
             | answer involves spending some time trying, with good
             | guidance.
        
       | rl3 wrote:
       | Meditation may--in rare instances-- _potentially_ trigger
       | psychosis in vulnerable persons:
       | 
       | https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31668156/
        
       | janeerie wrote:
       | I started a casual meditation practice a couple of years ago and
       | was getting benefits from it, when I came across an article (on
       | Hacker News) written by a man who had developed severe
       | disassociation and other disorders from meditation.
       | 
       | The irony is that I started meditating because I struggle with
       | panic disorder. Now I was hearing that my most common panic
       | trigger (the thought that I could think myself crazy) was
       | actually real! This sent me down quite a spiral that I have had
       | to resolve by accepting the tiny odds that I might go
       | spontaneously nuts. That's not an easy one, and I wish there was
       | more reliable research on this issue.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | omnicognate wrote:
       | There are different ways of meditating. If you're hallucinating
       | blue, humming God balls you're certainly not doing what I do. I
       | think what I do would probably be beneficial for most people. I'd
       | hesitate to say all.
        
         | jvanderbot wrote:
         | I agree. Most "meditation" (mindfulness) as I've seen it
         | portrayed is really a very quiet, self-driven cognitive
         | behavioral therapy: Learn to recognize thoughts, interrogate
         | them to see where they may be false, and retrain to be detached
         | from those cycles.
         | 
         | That's a gentle practice that, in addition to taking 10-20m for
         | yourself in quiet place, is pretty much OK as a general
         | recommendation.
        
         | hombre_fatal wrote:
         | Yeah, I don't think too many people are accidentally going to
         | stumble upon the sort of meditation-induced psychosis talked
         | about in the post using Headspace or Waking Up to try and
         | reclaim some presence in their thoughts.
         | 
         | They just get you to sit there, consciously realize that
         | thoughts come from nowhere, and notice that you can merely
         | discard them. After a year of the Waking Up app, it's just a
         | practical way to reground myself. For example, maybe I realize
         | a bit of anxiety in a large place like a music festival, and I
         | take a moment to try to discard the feeling. I'd be surprised
         | if this wasn't the sort of meditation most people associate
         | with the word.
         | 
         | So the thought of that being psychedelic or dangerous to
         | people, suggested in the post, is just a reminder of how many
         | things fall under the umbrella of "meditation".
        
           | TapWaterBandit wrote:
           | I have been doing Waking up and meditating 10 minutes a day
           | and really liking it for exactly this reason. It almost feels
           | like I am "training" my mind like I train my body with
           | exercise whereas previously my thoughts and feelings would
           | just run away on me and I would be along for the ride.
           | Whereas now I am getting a bit better at realising I don't
           | just need to be dragged along by whatever pops into my head
           | moment to moment.
        
           | kragen wrote:
           | I think it's more a question of dose. If you're meditating 20
           | minutes a day for three years you probably won't see a big
           | effect. If you're meditating 12 hours for a day for 10 years,
           | you're going to encounter a _lot_ of stuff that could get
           | labeled  "psychosis" by people who don't know about it. And,
           | it may be permanent. What kind of meditation you're doing
           | will affect _what_ you encounter and how you deal with it,
           | but _none_ of the paths will remain just  "a practical way to
           | reground [your]self."
        
             | ssijak wrote:
             | If you eat one cube of sugar in a coffee per day and no
             | sweets you are good. If you eat one kilo of sugar each day
             | you'll probably get diabetes in a few months.
        
               | kragen wrote:
               | I think the picture is a little more complicated than
               | that. There have been entire monasteries full of people
               | who spend many hours a day meditating for thousands of
               | years. They don't seem to be mentally unhealthy on the
               | whole, though there are some exceptions. So it's
               | evidently not the kind of thing where a continuous
               | overdose will leave your mind or your body disabled; on
               | the contrary, the meditators tend to live longer than
               | average and be happier.
               | 
               | However, the kind of experiences described (seeing
               | visions, losing interest in mundane matters, becoming
               | certain of beliefs that turn out to be false) are a well-
               | known feature of the process. And it's at least widely
               | believed that guidance from experienced meditators is
               | very helpful, if not crucial, to navigating these
               | experiences.
        
       | kragen wrote:
       | https://hollyelmore.substack.com/p/i-believed-the-hype-and-d...
       | talks about some results of meditating seriously that are causing
       | its author considerable distress. She also talks about some
       | positive results.
        
       | skilled wrote:
       | This is a great perspective. I know what the author means with
       | it, too. I spent 5 years in daily meditation practice (twice a
       | day for 20 minutes) and it completely altered my state of mind. I
       | was a naturally introverted person when I started, though I
       | believe that meditation really stepped it up a notch for me.
       | 
       | The strange thing about meditation and the idea of living in the
       | present is that it completely transcends your life experience. It
       | is not in human nature to fight with the inner workings of your
       | own psychology, and for me - meditation really amplified all that
       | I had been trough or was going through at the time.
       | 
       | I spoke to Buddhist monks in Himalayas, and I lived with Hinduist
       | practitioners in Bali. I went quite far with my exploration of
       | meditation, and perhaps that warrants a blog post of its own. But
       | in terms of keeping up with it, in my case - the chickens came
       | home to roost.
       | 
       | I was so caught up with spirituality and meditation that I
       | overlooked anything else in my life.
       | 
       | I started working less, started losing interest in certain
       | things. I lost friendships that I later regretted. And I
       | attribute it specifically to meditation because in that "peaceful
       | state of mind" you can't help but laugh at the stupidity of this
       | world. Why should you care if everything around you is designed
       | to work against you. We live in a systematic world yet the system
       | does not provide the means to be genuinely happy human.
       | 
       | Insights like this really dominated my life at the time, and it
       | was very difficult to process it at all. So, at some point, I
       | experienced a "collapse" of sorts and stopped.
       | 
       | At some point, when I catch up with the things I neglected - I
       | would definitely like to return to the habit of daily practice.
       | Meditation is an incredible tool (even if my own report says
       | otherwise) to connect with this world on an entirely different
       | wavelength.
        
         | subpixel wrote:
         | > I was so caught up with spirituality and meditation that I
         | overlooked anything else in my life.
         | 
         | Respectfully this is not an outcome that you can lay at the
         | feet of meditation. It's like blaming the catechism for the
         | years you spent cut off from the world in a Benedictine
         | monastery.
         | 
         | Meditation is an input, it is not the program.
        
           | avindroth wrote:
           | It's a common enough effect that it should be noted. Many
           | spiritual people end up being detached from the world, for
           | better or worse.
        
         | joshcsimmons wrote:
         | Thanks for reading. You have an interesting perspective - and
         | one filled with more diverse experience than mine, I'd be very
         | interested in reading about it.
        
         | ggpsv wrote:
         | Thanks for sharing. I'm curious, did you consider at any point
         | untangling those feelings with a psychotherapist?
         | 
         | Your experience resonates with me, but I came to a different
         | conclusion. Meditation did open the doors to a more conscious
         | awareness. That sounds grandiose but it isn't. It means having
         | a practice of observing thoughts and emotions as they arise. As
         | you describe, this can lead to more clarity into the order or
         | nature of things. But meditation ends there, it is a tool to
         | bring about conscious awareness. It does not "create" those
         | thoughts or emotions.
         | 
         | I ask whether you've worked with a psychotherapist because I
         | found myself in a similar predicament. I realized that my
         | discontent had little or nothing to do with my "spiritual"
         | practice. Simply put, the hustle and bustle of daily life is a
         | sure way to keep many thoughts and emotions at bay. A
         | meditative practice lets the stream pour through. For me
         | meditation became a tool to bring those thoughts to the
         | foreground and getting to know them. Through that process I get
         | to know myself better. If necessary, I'll work with a
         | psychotherapist to go through it.
        
         | mahathu wrote:
         | What sort of meditation practice did you do?
        
           | skilled wrote:
           | I was never initiated or dedicated myself to a specific
           | practice. I can say today it was a mix of mindfulness and
           | practical Vipassana.
           | 
           | I think one of the things people complain about when it comes
           | to meditation is concentration. I was not one of those
           | people. It came extremely natural to me.
        
             | ssijak wrote:
             | Complaining about concentration is like starting to train
             | soccer and complaining that you are not on a Messi level
             | and dropping it.
        
         | iLoveOncall wrote:
         | > The strange thing about meditation and the idea of living in
         | the present is that it completely transcends your life
         | experience. It is not in human nature to fight with the inner
         | workings of your own psychology, and for me - meditation really
         | amplified all that I had been trough or was going through at
         | the time.
         | 
         | I really don't understand why the world just accepts that
         | meditation as a whole is not just another version of snake oil.
         | 
         | All this reads as absolute bullshit to me, as has done
         | everything else I've ever read about meditation.
        
           | JacobThreeThree wrote:
           | I'm in the same boat as you.
           | 
           | I think there's a lot we don't know about human psychology,
           | the brain and self-help practices, but I haven't seen
           | convincing evidence that meditation works.
           | 
           | This 2017 publication sums it up nicely:
           | https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1745691617709589
        
           | vorpalhex wrote:
           | I would read up some more on psychology.
           | 
           | The problem, at it's core, is that the human mind is not a
           | rational thing. Rational frameworks (at least the ones we
           | have currently) do not play well with real-but-irrational
           | things.
           | 
           | This is why early psychoanalysis and Gestalt works focused on
           | symbolism as an abstraction of the human mind. Of course
           | those areas are generally fraught with missteps and bad
           | theory, but progress was still made.
           | 
           | If you want a real no-fluff experimentalist view of the
           | psyche, look into psychonetics, a Soviet toolkit. To quote
           | (from memory) from it's material:
           | 
           | "You may hear the sound of God talking to you. Do not be
           | alarmed, even if you are an atheist. Remain calm and do not
           | respond to the voice."
        
           | skilled wrote:
           | Snake oil implies you're being sold something, doesn't it?
           | 
           | All I am saying is that meditation brought up a lot of things
           | that I had buried in my past. Anger (being betrayed by
           | people), hatred (being whipped with a leather belt by my
           | step-father when I was a kid) - these are all real emotions
           | that you have to process because in small little ways they do
           | have an influence on your psychological behavior. And, thus,
           | on the behavior of who you "think" you are as a person.
        
           | ggpsv wrote:
           | I've observed that sometimes "meditation" is used as a catch
           | phrase for several different practices, especially those
           | which the west adopted from eastern traditions.
           | 
           | I would not rush to dismiss all of it as disingenous just
           | because some interpretation of it does not resonate with you.
           | And it is ok if it doesn't resonate with you, we don't all
           | have to agree on it.
        
           | avindroth wrote:
           | It's not bad, but if you feel strongly against it, you're not
           | missing out on much. Overcoming the psychological resistance
           | to meditate is probably not worth it.
        
           | KerrAvon wrote:
           | There's a lot of scientific evidence for the benefits of
           | mediation. You can ignore all of the noise about higher
           | states of consciousness and suchlike and still receive
           | documented benefits:
           | 
           | https://www.nccih.nih.gov/health/meditation-in-depth
        
         | ssijak wrote:
         | My take away from your experience is that anything can be
         | abused (in a sense that it becomes more bad than good for you),
         | even meditation.
        
         | zozbot234 wrote:
         | > It is not in human nature to fight with the inner workings of
         | your own psychology
         | 
         | This is not something that meditation should ever be about.
         | Meditation is about _exploring_ the inner workings of your
         | experience, in a way that ultimately aims towards equanimity.
         | It requires some deep (and continuing!) experience in practical
         | ethics (turns out if you _really_ learn to care about other
         | sentient beings around you, it 's a lot easier to care about
         | yourself too!), as well as a kind of intellectual knowledge or
         | wisdom that's perhaps best associated today with the Stoic
         | tradition, albeit surely not exclusive to it (even a cursory
         | understanding of the Buddhist literature on vipassana should
         | familiarize you with the same concepts, albeit of course
         | phrased differently).
         | 
         | The idea of meditation as "fighting" with oneself should
         | definitely raise many alarm bells, the practice is surely
         | challenging enough on its own! (The "Dark Night of the Soul" is
         | legitimately scary, especially if you're not told in advance
         | that it might occur _and_ that there 's ways past it.)
        
         | einmaliger wrote:
         | I'm sorry, but this is such an extreme example. You should not
         | overdo anything, be it meditation, gaming, playing, reading,
         | any sport, even drugs. Drugs also give you a state of mind
         | that, when taken to the extreme, can harm your social life and
         | well-being. That is not a problem specifically of meditation.
         | 
         | You can safely do anything up to the point that it benefits
         | you. The moment your well-being suffers, or you neglect
         | important parts of life, like friendship, you should stop.
        
       | carterschonwald wrote:
       | Theres actually some evidence (or a least a lot of pubmed papers)
       | that touch on how for certain at risk populations, meditation can
       | increase the probability of an episode of psychosis! (so anyone
       | who has any family history of schizophrenia or other things in
       | the same space, really need to be careful of meditation and
       | friends)
       | 
       | see these google scholar results for more info:
       | 
       | https://scholar.google.com/scholar?q=meditation+and+psychosi...
        
         | oh_sigh wrote:
         | The first link is a single male patient who claims meditation
         | provoked his psychosis. Other people suffering from psychosis
         | have blamed, lets see, off the top of my head - wifi signals,
         | chemtrails, their gang stalkers, fluoride, the CIA, aliens,
         | lizard-men, etc. Is there any reason to believe a random
         | psychotic person when they make a claim about meditation,
         | versus when they make the claim about wifi signals?
         | 
         | The case analysis a few results later find a total of 28 people
         | in the literature who have made the claim, with 14 of them
         | having precipitating factors such as "like insomnia, lack of
         | food intake, history of mental illness, stress, and
         | psychoactive substance use", which almost certainly have a much
         | larger effect on psychosis than...sitting still and thinking a
         | certain way. If I had a heart attack while meditating, I don't
         | think I would jump to the conclusion that meditation is
         | dangerous for people with heart conditions.
        
           | james-redwood wrote:
           | Agreed. It's a weak result.
        
         | joshcsimmons wrote:
         | Wow - thanks for posting. Had seem some brief research about it
         | before but not this much. This really should be a larger part
         | of the cultural conversation around meditation.
        
         | mistrial9 wrote:
         | I believe that ' family history of schizophrenia ' is not fully
         | understood.. there is an interrelated system of health,
         | genetics, aging, stress, nutrition and extreme experiences,
         | which can go many ways.. I believe that 'schizophrenia' is real
         | and serious, but that the factors involved in leading to it,
         | and its treatments, are not fully understood..
         | 
         | with that said, I believe there is science evidence that
         | marijuana and meditation, both can be triggering to an ill
         | mental state.. along with other, stronger things of course..
         | common street methamphetamine can bring on illness rather
         | quickly and is addictive.. serious personal injury like trauma
         | can bring on illness rather quickly.. things like that..
        
       | twofornone wrote:
       | >The first odd thing I experienced was the inexplicable feeling
       | that there was someone else in the room during my meditation.
       | Luckily this didn't disturb me too much, one of the books I had
       | read at that time mentioned that this was something that could
       | happen during zazen. I now know that it is called the sensed
       | presence effect. Other sits were more pleasant - I often had a
       | sensation of uncaused joy arise. Sometimes I would see intense
       | and clear images inside my head. During one session I saw a
       | bright blue humming sphere that I knew was God (or some kind of
       | representation of) - I swear I could hear the harmonious hum of
       | it. I had previously abandoned my Christian faith but that
       | experience alone made me reconsider my stance.
       | 
       | I've been trying to meditate on and off for years, including
       | daily 30 minute sessions for months at a time, and never
       | experienced anything remotely as intense as this author. In fact
       | despite all the time I've spent trying, I can't say I feel like
       | I've gotten any better at it. At best I've developed a sensation
       | I would describe as being extremely tall, as though my head were
       | posted thousands of feet above my legs, but psychologically I
       | don't feel like I'm doing any better today than when I started
       | with respect to observing my thoughts or focusing on, say,
       | breath.
       | 
       | I suspect some people are far more predisposed, be it nature or
       | nurture, toward successful and deep meditation than others.
        
       | njacobs5074 wrote:
       | I've meditated on and off for a few decades and have only ever
       | experienced a sense of calm and clarity.
       | 
       | Is the author's experience common for other people?
        
         | yldedly wrote:
         | From personal experience and what I've read, there's a clear
         | dose response relationship. If you meditate enough, especially
         | if do a lot of insight (vipassana) meditation without doing
         | much concentration (samatha) or Metta meditation, you will
         | begin to deconstruct yourself. That's what it does. Often you
         | will find a new, and better way to relate to your conscious
         | experience, but sometimes you break things and they don't get
         | fixed.
        
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         | virtualwhys wrote:
         | Same.
         | 
         | Are you able to clearly manifest an image of anything in your
         | mind's eye? If not then you might have aphantasia (i.e. "third
         | eye blind").
         | 
         | When I was younger I sat several Vipisana and Zen retreats
         | across multiple traditions. While it changed me in the sense
         | that I became far less impulsive and more grounded, there was
         | never anything mystical about the experiences, just periods of
         | calm and quiet, like the internal world had slowed way down.
         | 
         | But that's unusual, I suspect most who seriously take up
         | meditation do indeed have full blown psychedelic experiences
         | (thus the author's reference to LSD), not long after taking up
         | practice, and certainly within the first week long retreat or
         | two.
        
         | kragen wrote:
         | It's common among people who meditate seriously. A significant
         | fraction of the Tipitaka consists of documentation and
         | interpretation of such experiences.
        
         | joshcsimmons wrote:
         | It might not be common - I'm just urging people to do some
         | self-reflection before jumping into a practice.
        
           | kragen wrote:
           | I think it might be more useful to recommend that they
           | consult a good meditation teacher, because you really need to
           | know both about meditation and about yourself to make the
           | decision--though, as you point out, _identifying_ a good
           | meditation teacher when you aren 't one is a difficult
           | problem.
        
         | xkcd-sucks wrote:
         | https://www.dharmaoverground.org/dharma-wiki/-/wiki/Main/MCT...
        
           | kragen wrote:
           | I don't think the author of the article has yet reached the
           | Dark Night of the Soul.
        
             | cbfrench wrote:
             | Or at the very least doesn't mean what St. John of the
             | Cross means by it.
             | 
             | When I took ascetical theology in seminary, my professor
             | told us that if someone comes to you and says they're
             | undergoing the Dark Night, they probably aren't. (Unless
             | you for some reason happen to be the spiritual director of
             | a contemplative order, but even then.) He wasn't being
             | flippant; it was just a recognition of the degree of
             | spiritual progress needed even to arrive at that point.
             | 
             | It can be easy to confuse aridity or even unaddressed
             | psychological issues for something like the Dark Night, but
             | it does have a precise technical meaning in the mystical
             | literature. It isn't just "prayer is difficult for me right
             | now."
        
               | zozbot234 wrote:
               | Well, vipassana meditation is just as intense as any
               | other tradition of contemplative prayer.[0] Canonically
               | the Dark Night happens soon _after_ the first loose
               | "hint" of stream entry or actual awakening/enlightenment,
               | namely the second vipassana jhana, characterized by
               | seeming effortlessness of insight (Daniel Ingram calls
               | this the "Arising and passing away") and this should be
               | enough to tell whether you're facing it.
               | 
               | [0] And yes, in case you didn't know, prayer is
               | definitely a legitimate part of meditation, even going by
               | Buddhist teachings - the typical metta/loving-kindness
               | meditation is indistinguishable from a kind of prayer.
               | 
               | Arguably, a very legitimate role can even be
               | recovered/reconstructed for outright theistic
               | contemplative worship directed at the "Ultimate Self",
               | essentially the _Brahman_ of Hinduism - although this
               | would of course reflect a very imperfect understanding of
               | the Brahman, one way too error-prone for those who would
               | seriously aim at enlightenment and unity with the
               | Ultimate Self in _this_ very lifetime. But nonetheless
               | plenty enough to look forward to what 's effectively an
               | afterlife in the Pure Abodes realm as an _anagami_ or
               | "non-returner"! Hinduists in the "dualist" tradition, for
               | all its imperfection, have of course always been aware of
               | this as a possible path.
        
               | cbfrench wrote:
               | Oh, I didn't mean to imply that vipassana isn't a serious
               | and intense contemplative discipline. If I did, that
               | certainly wasn't my intent.
               | 
               | At least in St. John's use of the term, it's a spiritual
               | and even existential desolation that leads ultimately to
               | a radical purifying of love through the apophatic way. As
               | such, it represents a fairly advanced stage in the
               | spiritual life. I'm not sure if this is the same way the
               | term is used in the vipassana tradition (making the
               | necessary accommodations for the translation needed to
               | take a Christian mystical concept and import it into that
               | tradition).
        
               | zozbot234 wrote:
               | > leads ultimately to a radical purifying of love
               | 
               | Yes, this can be directly paralleled with the jhana of
               | equanimity, which canonically follows the Dark Night.
               | ("Equanimity" itself being the fourth vipassana jhana,
               | whereas the "Dark Night" is essentially a feature of the
               | transition from the second and/or third to the fourth
               | vipassana jhana. The consistently "apophatic" character
               | is hopefully clear enough from the very fact that it is
               | understood as a transition stage between different
               | degrees of insight.) Daniel Ingram's book on _Mastering
               | the Core Teachings of the Buddha_ does a very nice job of
               | "decoding" the Buddhist tradition in very modern and
               | understandable terms, and I'm not aware of people
               | involved in the actual tradition who have raised any
               | deep, substantive objections to the understanding he
               | conveys.
               | 
               | (Note that "Dark Night" as applied to vipassana
               | meditation is a modern term, but one that does reflect
               | traditional understanding of the relevant jhanas-- the
               | Buddhist traditional name is apparently "dukkha nana", or
               | "Knowledge of Suffering", and in the Vimuttimagga it is
               | known, rather descriptively, as the stage of "fear and
               | disadvantage and disenchantment", followed by "delight in
               | deliverance and equanimity". https://en.wikipedia.org/wik
               | i/Vipassan%C4%81-%C3%B1%C4%81%E1... It was not the result
               | of forcefully "importing" something that came from
               | outside, but rather of carefully drawing empirically-
               | sensible parallels between the two traditions.)
        
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         | cardanome wrote:
         | Not exactly but I find meditation really "painful".
         | 
         | I am more of the anxious side of things and being super focused
         | on myself is very stressful. Sure I feel calmer afterwards but
         | the process feels like a cold shower in winter.
         | 
         | The only times I found meditation enjoyable is in a group
         | setting. Normally I am quite introverted and prefer to do most
         | activities alone but here it is reversed.
        
           | hutzlibu wrote:
           | "and being super focused on myself is very stressful."
           | 
           | Can you explain, what exactly is stressful to you, by
           | focusing on yourself? Or is it just that you feel you want to
           | move but you also want to be still?
        
             | cardanome wrote:
             | It's just not not having anything to distract you of your
             | mental pain. Like having a flesh wound and instead of using
             | pain killers, you put you finger on the wound and actually
             | focus on the pain. That would be quite stressful, right?
             | 
             | Have you ever had something bad happen and you try to
             | distract yourself by working or watching something?
             | Meditation feels like the reverse of that.
        
       | dj_mc_merlin wrote:
       | After a decade of practice I basically vividly hallucinate if I
       | let myself when I meditate. Focus is more useful, but the
       | hallucinations are very interesting/calming too.
       | 
       | I'm lucky to have been born naturally resilient to mental damage,
       | but I know from (friends') experience that when you're
       | genetically predisposed to schizophrenia, you're SOL. I've
       | definitely felt my sanity slip at times or delusions take hold,
       | but eventually my brain would reset to the status quo.
       | 
       | The silver lining is: unless you're willing to devote a large
       | amount of your attention and life to this, you're unlikely to
       | ever experience these kind of effects. I know people who practice
       | for years and experience nothing.
        
       | hprotagonist wrote:
       | expecting "good for me" to be "always fun and easy" is, broadly
       | speaking, going to lead to some weird and probably disappointing
       | mismatches of expectation and outcome.
       | 
       | Meditative practice, prayer, etc. are "good for you", but they
       | are _challenging_, which again, doesn't mean "a thing that is
       | hard to learn but is sunshine and rainbows once i learn it". It
       | means that you will come up against some dark shit sometimes, and
       | that's "good" but it is in no way "fun", and yeah, you need a
       | community of like-minded practitioners to help you.
       | 
       | Relatedly, therapy is "good" but usually not "fun"; and
       | therapists need therapists of their own, too.
        
       | gleenn wrote:
       | Author compares meditation to doing LSD, then states that doing
       | LSD can be helpful but super hurtful to possibly schizophrenic
       | people. Some part of me can't stop thinking that it's nuts to
       | tell people to not sit quietly and try and clear your mind
       | because it might trigger schizophrenia.
        
       | newbie789 wrote:
        
       | TapWaterBandit wrote:
       | Has anyone here ever tried Waking Up app by Sam Harris? I am
       | working through the intro course now and very much enjoying it
       | and finding it helpful, but I don't have a good base reference to
       | know if he knows his stuff. I am not interested in the spiritual
       | side of meditation so much as the learning to be in my own head a
       | bit more stably and acknowledge and understand my
       | emotions/thought more productively.
       | 
       | Any advice would be appreciated.
        
       | FastMonkey wrote:
       | It's easy to spend your entire life running from one thing to the
       | next. Meditation can just be a 10 minute break where you give
       | yourself permission to take a mental break. Like almost
       | everything, there is an unhealthy extreme. As an analogue, I
       | don't think it's unreasonable to say that fitness is generally
       | good for you, but trying to do ultra ironmans is probably not
       | going to be good for many people, and if you attempt it you have
       | to prepare in a way that's suited to your own body.
        
       | reddit_clone wrote:
       | People who suffer from severe ADHD, meditation is nearly
       | impossible.
        
         | KerrAvon wrote:
         | This is definitely not the case for everyone with severe ADHD.
         | I think you have to define "severe" and you have to define
         | "meditation." If your ADHD allows you to hold a steady
         | professional-level job, I suspect you can do TM, for example.
        
         | kragen wrote:
         | Like programming, meditation is nearly impossible for everyone.
         | At first.
        
           | 0xcde4c3db wrote:
           | Also like programming, mainstream tools and procedures
           | sometimes fail in bizarre, frustrating, and utterly
           | undocumented ways when working with unusual hardware.
        
         | cbfrench wrote:
         | This is an underappreciated point. I'm an Anglican priest, and
         | I always thought I was just really bad at prayer. (Ironic, I
         | know.) But then I got diagnosed a couple of years ago, and I
         | realized that my brain was working against me.
         | 
         | Some day I have a mind to write a book on spiritual disciplines
         | for those with ADHD and how we talk about prayer and the
         | spiritual life is often not useful for those with the disorder.
         | But, you know, I have ADHD, so I doubt that will ever get
         | written. ;)
        
       | Mo3 wrote:
       | Can confirm from personal experience. Even a lot of vipassana
       | meditation by itself can send you into psychotic states when
       | you're not ready for all the insight yet. I came very close to
       | psychosis once, experienced ego death, broke down mentally and
       | had to spend 2 months in a depression ward. Cannot recommend.
       | 
       | I don't regret the 2-3 months of active ego dissolution phase,
       | life has never been more beautiful and strangely peaceful and
       | jarring at the same time. However, I did lose my job, my
       | apartment and almost permanently lost my sanity as well, but now
       | in hindsight it looks like it was all for the better.
       | 
       | Nevertheless I don't think you should force something like this
       | (like I very much did), the consequences to internal and external
       | reality can be absolutely dramatic, I have gained insights I was
       | not supposed to have and I've preferred to live in peaceful
       | ignorance since then... save for the short moments of..
       | remembering. Everything and nothing at once. Becoming the
       | observer. Observing the observer. Being everything...
       | 
       | It's all still there if I really wanted to, and my state of mind
       | has changed permanently in drastic yet mostly unconscious ways.
       | It took years to come to terms with all of this and since I've
       | achieved stream entry back then there is no way back out now.
       | It's either managing to get out of the cycle or repeating it over
       | and over again. Meditation has become mandatory like drinking
       | water.
       | 
       | Tread carefully, reality is not as stable as you think.
        
       | razzio wrote:
       | Meditation is just a word. As an analogy you can say that driving
       | a car can hurt you. Well that depends what kind of car, your
       | driving style, the speed, whether you use the correct side of the
       | road and so on.
       | 
       | My personal experience is with 30 years of Anapana and Vipassana
       | that started under guidance in a Thai monastery. Even with
       | Anapana, which is considered quite low risk in terms of 'side
       | effects', the message was that it is always better to practice
       | with a teacher and don't mix different practices. This cannot be
       | overstated enough.
       | 
       | My own dark night lasted around 10 years, even with the guidance.
       | Sometimes my outlook so dark it was impossible to look in the
       | mirror. Over time there was a slow transformation of perspective
       | that is still ongoing today. Less clinging to ideas of good, bad,
       | and especially self. Things just happen and most of the time I
       | can now see that all emotions and ideas around that what happens
       | are created by the mind and constantly changing. What starts to
       | matter more and more is compassion for the situation of others
       | and their suffering.
       | 
       | Meditation is often a transformative process and without proper
       | support and guidance this process can indeed be risky.
        
       | palencharizard wrote:
       | Anyone else getting a 404? Seems like the article was taken down,
       | judging further from what's listed on the homepage
        
         | joshcsimmons wrote:
         | Should be back now - was doing some maintenance and brought it
         | down for a few minutes.
        
       | URfejk wrote:
       | Oh, this page does not exist. You can head back to homepage.
        
         | joshcsimmons wrote:
         | Back up now!
        
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