[HN Gopher] Anyone else feel the constant urge to leave the fiel...
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       Anyone else feel the constant urge to leave the field and become a
       plumber?
        
       Author : wallflower
       Score  : 357 points
       Date   : 2022-02-13 17:34 UTC (5 hours ago)
        
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       | spaetzleesser wrote:
       | One way to fix this urge is to leave the field and work as a
       | plumber, electrician or in factory. Unless you have enough money
       | to do it as a hobby most people will quickly see that this is not
       | as great as you may think. While in school I used to work in
       | construction and factories in the summer months. I quickly
       | realized that an engineer job is much nicer and paid way better.
       | 
       | But I have to admit that as a mechanical engineer now working in
       | software I really miss touching the result of my work. Nothing
       | better than designing something, building it and then being able
       | to touch and see it.
        
         | redisman wrote:
         | I'm glad I had a real progression unlike most people who do a
         | CS degree and then get a high paying job. I did manual min wage
         | labor as a teen, then min wage IT work, then barely above that
         | "programming" work in my small city, then finally my first real
         | programming job and now I'm in the mid-echelons of software in
         | a big tech city. Life is good! I still think work
         | philosophically sucks for me (FIRE one day..) but I wouldn't
         | trade this job for any of the earlier ones - doubly so now that
         | I get paid 20-30x more.
        
       | supernova87a wrote:
       | Navigator or maybe some kind of specialist for a cargo ship? Or
       | maybe harbor pilot (if you could break into that closed industry
       | to make bank)
       | 
       | Forest fire water bomber pilot?
       | 
       | On a side note, I always thought it would be a very cool thing if
       | there were some kind of exchange program for people with good
       | skills wanting to try them out in another field, kind of as a
       | rotation. (I originally thought this for academia -- researchers
       | who would love to see another field getting to visit for maybe 3
       | months or similar) But I guess, what company would be willing to
       | participate in such a thing and let their people do it, having to
       | pay for the cost...
        
         | Ekaros wrote:
         | In general being at sea means long shifts and being away from
         | home for long periods. The ships run 24 hours a day, apart from
         | when they are waiting or loading and unloading. And pay isn't
         | great unless you are at top as Westerner.
        
       | barbazoo wrote:
       | For me it's trying as much as possible to get my
       | happiness/satisfaction from something that's under my own control
       | as much as possible. Being in a trade is the exact opposite of
       | that because you're 100% dependent on people telling you what
       | they need done. As others have pointed out, every job sucks to
       | some degree. And unless you're truly operating in isolation
       | you'll always deal with people, most of whom you don't share any
       | common ground with. Try being in a trade as a woman, a person of
       | color, trans, etc and you'd quickly realized what a privileged
       | cushy field we're in. Not saying there isn't discrimination among
       | us but our field in my experience tends to be on the more
       | progressive, tolerant side of things.
       | 
       | None of what we're doing here matters at all in the grand scheme
       | of things. At least the vast majority. We're not contributing to
       | anything useful only a broken economic system, we're not making
       | the world a better, more sustainable, more peaceful place. It's
       | the opposite, the people that contribute more division, get paid
       | the most it seems. Once I realized that I was able to steer my
       | attention to opportunities that at least contain a sliver of
       | something positive, be it supporting movements, clean energy,
       | something that on your death bed you could argue didn't make the
       | world a worse place. Personally, that's all I think I can do
       | because at this point in my life I'm not in a position to make
       | any larger positive change by myself on a societal level.
       | 
       | I'm sorry if this is too ranty, I'm just in a very negative
       | headspace these days with everything that's going on.
        
       | julian_t wrote:
       | I once went to teach a training course to a team at some BigCo,
       | and there was one guy who'd switched to software development from
       | being a baker. He'd worked up to owning two shops, but the leases
       | expired and he couldn't afford what the landlord wanted to renew
       | them. His brother was a dev so he thought he'd give it a go.
       | 
       | He loved it - no more being in the shop at 4am getting the day's
       | bread ready and still being there at 8pm doing admin. He'd kept
       | some of his gear, though, and was the go-to man for wedding cakes
       | and fancy patisserie for the company.
        
       | 988747 wrote:
       | I'm turning forty this year. My original dream was to get rich
       | quick and retire at 30. Then I pushed that to 40. Now I think I
       | will need to push it another 3-5 years...
       | 
       | In general I agree with the sentiment: high salary is the only
       | nice thing about working in IT. It's simply too much pressure.
       | Best you can do is to make your fortune quickly (joining FAANG
       | helps, becoming a freelancer is a reasonable alternative in
       | Europe), build a house, set up a college fund for kids, and then
       | retire, or find yourself a job as a carpenter, of scubadiving
       | instructor, or whatever you like, as long as it has nothing to do
       | with computers.
        
         | thaw13579 wrote:
         | I wonder why avoid computers in early retirement? Is it burnout
         | from the grind or a lack of pleasure in the work itself? I
         | imaging there are a ton of cool and worthy charitable causes
         | that would benefit from the expertise, which they couldn't
         | afford to get otherwise.
        
       | numbsafari wrote:
       | Let me be frank:
       | 
       | That shit ain't worth it.
       | 
       | Go be an electrician instead.
        
       | kosyblysk666 wrote:
       | yes
        
       | watmough wrote:
       | No way.
       | 
       | Loving my current position(s) way too much.
       | 
       | But also, if I did leave the field with some cash, I'd probably
       | go be a backwoods flight instructor.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | lawn wrote:
       | Sometimes I feel the urge of becoming a teacher, teaching math or
       | maybe even programming.
       | 
       | But then I'm reminded of how prviliged I am and how much better
       | the working conditions are as a work from home developer is
       | compared to a teacher... And the feeling goes away.
       | 
       | Maybe the best is if I could FIRE and then just hold evening
       | classes for those who are interested, but I'm not there yet.
        
         | polishdude20 wrote:
         | I was a teacher at a local tech institute for mechanical
         | engineering. The social contact with the students and the
         | variety of things I got to teach was really fun and rewarding.
         | Unfortunately, the pay was bad and I couldn't see myself
         | staying there for long and in such a high cost of living area.
        
       | ArchitectAnon wrote:
       | If you think plumbers don't have undefined requirements and
       | random deadlines out of their control then you don't know enough
       | about the industry. Most plumbers are juggling about 20 different
       | projects plus call-outs and with the chaos in the UK construction
       | industry right now, it's very hard for any tradesperson to
       | predict where they will be working and what they will be doing
       | next week. You will have annoyed people constantly phoning you
       | all day to find out when you are going to be at their site.
       | However, plumbers are in huge demand at the moment and can
       | probably easily invoice more than PS300 per day, it's just a
       | question of the building sites being ready for them to work a few
       | consecutive days in a row to get those billable hours racked up
       | day after day. There are a lot of inefficiencies in project
       | scheduling, especially with the currently difficulties.
        
       | cjbgkagh wrote:
       | The tech domain is so expansive that there is an inability to
       | master it which is a core tenant for job satisfaction.
       | 
       | I watch machining videos on YouTube for fun knowing that I'll
       | never make the jump.
       | 
       | I occasionally build physical things just so I can have some
       | variety in frustrations that help me put my day job frustrations
       | into perspective.
        
         | andrewzah wrote:
         | So no engineers are satisfied because they can't master the
         | entire domain of engineering?
         | 
         | Of course you can attain mastery over certain sections of
         | computer science/engineering.
        
           | Apocryphon wrote:
           | Anecdotally it certainly feels like many engineers are
           | experiencing dissatisfaction, often because of lack of
           | mastery within their section (cue the "web development moves
           | too fast and cycles through too many frameworks and fads"
           | articles).
        
           | cjbgkagh wrote:
           | I think there are degrees of scope, complexity and
           | variability. A software engineer is more likely to have the
           | world constantly changing under them at a pace that is
           | difficult to keep up with.
        
       | jka wrote:
       | A lot of it depends, I think, on what it'll be like for people to
       | look back on past achievements at age 65+.
       | 
       | If it's a case of "oh, in fact most of my career was (re)building
       | things that weren't really required in order to consolidate power
       | and to reduce the strength of democratic society and
       | institutions", that could be a bad time.
       | 
       | If it's more along the lines of "I genuinely helped to improve
       | the lives of a large number of people by assisting them in doing
       | what they want to do day-to-day, extending opportunity, access
       | and freedom" that could be better.
       | 
       | Plumbing, baking, carpentry, etc seem to be more likely to
       | unambiguously fall into the latter, happy category -- although I
       | think software can, too.
       | 
       | Regardless, for many of us, a way to opt out of the moral
       | quandary is simply to say "oh, well it pays the bills well and is
       | not physically demanding".
        
       | andrewzah wrote:
       | Occasionally that thought pops up. Then I remember I'm making
       | insane amounts of money, from the comfort of my desk in my house.
       | At 25 I'm making more than my parents ever did, with a fraction
       | of the physical effort.
       | 
       | If I really hated it, I could save up for some time and do
       | something else, because again... I'm pulling insane amounts of
       | money for software work.
       | 
       | Trades like plumbing, electrical work etc are -hard- work. I
       | recognize that I have the privilege of not sacrificing my body
       | and health for my income. My biggest concerns are making sure my
       | posture is correct and that I take enough walks. Such a hard
       | life.
       | 
       | I've noticed that some programmers tend to romanticize things
       | like farming or plumbing, and generally speaking not understand
       | the hard physical work those people have to go through. It can be
       | quite patronizing.
       | 
       | Edit: sitting a desk is not "sacrificing your body". Comparing
       | that to the labor that people in trades do is completely detached
       | from reality. Obviously there are things like standing desks and
       | working out. But in life you have to sit or stand regardless.
        
         | cpsns wrote:
         | > I recognize that I have the privilege of not sacrificing my
         | body and health for my income.
         | 
         | Sitting for longer periods in any amount is incredibly bad for
         | one's health long term, every study on the subject has
         | confirmed this.
         | 
         | You are sacrificing your health, just in a different way.
        
           | andrewzah wrote:
           | Comparing construction or plumbing work to sitting is
           | absolutely ludicrous.
           | 
           | I also use a standing desk anyways, but I am not sacrificing
           | my health like my grandfather or father did who had/have
           | back/knee and other health issues in their 50s from physical
           | labor.
           | 
           | Being able to earn a nice living while sitting at a desk is
           | an enormous privilege, and I also get money and healthcare to
           | routinely visit doctors anyway.
        
             | Spinnaker_ wrote:
             | No kidding. I did concrete for a single summer. Software
             | engineering barely counts as work compared to that.
        
           | jjcon wrote:
           | Eh didn't it turn out that most of that was drummed out in
           | the 2012 era by a few doctors selling books and partnering
           | with exercise and standing desk companies? I feel like most
           | of the more recent stuff I have read has said, yes get your
           | exercise in but sitting itself isn't actually bad, certainly
           | not the whole '1 hour of sitting reduces your life by 1 day'
           | sort of stuff we heard a decade+ ago.
           | 
           | https://www.cnn.com/2017/02/21/health/sitting-study-
           | partner/...
        
             | jvanderbot wrote:
             | My confusion is that "sitting" is confounded with "never
             | exercising". If you exercise 5m/hr for 16hrs (and sleep 8),
             | you have accumulated a huge amount of sitting time, but
             | also a really big amount of exercise time. Nobody does
             | that, but what if we did?
        
               | brnaftr361 wrote:
               | I read somewhere that somebody did some study with god
               | knows what methodology (people like to use current-world
               | HG communities, not representative of ancestry) and
               | decided that our ancestors walked about 12mi/day. That's
               | about 3-4h of walking daily. We have like 280k years of
               | that selection criteria. But also we came from apes, so
               | we're sorta shitty at this upright stuff.
               | 
               | An aside: I also just loathe ergonomic design, I'm never
               | comfortable in anything other than a recliner or laying
               | on a couch or bed. I'm wholly convinced that chairs are
               | the way they are because " _they 've always been that
               | way_" with tables and desks following suit. It's
               | unfortunate that better designs haven't caught on, aren't
               | readily available, and tend to be inordinately expensive.
               | What I'd really like to see is a practical true to form
               | holistic ergonomic design instead of this weird
               | traditionally inspired clusterfuck with its productivity
               | centric model.
        
               | DavidPiper wrote:
               | > It's unfortunate that better designs haven't caught on,
               | aren't readily available, and tend to be inordinately
               | expensive.
               | 
               | Do you have any links to examples of these different
               | designs? After using a bunch of different chairs, I'm
               | seriously considering just repurposing my piano stool,
               | even though I'll lose all the back support.
               | 
               | I just can't find anything sustainably comfortable and
               | supportive.
        
           | jvanderbot wrote:
           | "The trades" each come with occupational hazards of their
           | own. These occupational hazards are sometimes much worse than
           | sitting down. Besides, op clearly stated the intent to walk
           | more.
           | 
           | For example, would you accept a 1.4x (+40%) chance of brain
           | cancer? Vs sedentary peoples who have 2x chance of diabetes
           | and +14% cardiovascular disease? (and sedentary means sitting
           | + not exercising after work!).
           | 
           | I'd argue diabetes is easier to avoid through other life
           | changes. I"m confused about whether "sitting" means "never
           | exercising", and articles that talk about "sedentary"
           | lifestyles are not very helpful.
           | 
           | https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1035250/
           | 
           | https://www.acpjournals.org/doi/10.7326/M14-1651
        
           | CodeGlitch wrote:
           | I set a timer that goes off every 45 minutes. At which point
           | I'll walk around for a couple of minutes and do some push ups
           | and pull ups.
           | 
           | In the mornings I walk my daughter to school: 25 minutes
           | exercise.
           | 
           | At lunch time I'll take a 30 minute walk.
           | 
           | There's no reason to be unfit as a software developer.
        
         | arbol wrote:
         | Sitting in a seat day after day is sacrificing your body and
         | health for work. You may not notice this now but you will in 10
         | years time.
         | 
         | https://www.cancer.org/latest-news/sitting-time-linked-to-hi...
        
         | dsego wrote:
         | > I recognize that I have the privilege of not sacrificing my
         | body and health for my income
         | 
         | Oh, sitting in a chair in front a screen for hours on end does
         | wonders for the body. It's still early, you'll appreciate it in
         | ~10 years.
        
           | Sebb767 wrote:
           | But you don't have to to ruin your body. You can get a
           | standing desk and a gym membership (remember, you have money)
           | and stay perfectly healthy. Crawling in tight spaces, on the
           | other hand, will ruin your body and is not necessarily
           | avoidable.
        
           | andrewzah wrote:
           | You and the other commenter have got to be joking.
           | 
           | My point was that office-work is far away preferable to daily
           | physical labor. I'll take sitting over throwing out my back,
           | blowing out my knees and having constant pain. Not to mention
           | the hazards of working with chemicals or industrial equipment
           | or electricity, and so on.
           | 
           | Of course there are options that I use like exercising and
           | standing desks. My point was that this is a significantly
           | better situation health-wise than working in trades. And that
           | I have the privilege of doing that.
        
             | pessimizer wrote:
             | > My point was that office-work is far away preferable to
             | daily physical labor.
             | 
             | It's not. I've never been fitter than when I was doing
             | physical work. The problem was the pay and the
             | powerlessness at the workplace (e.g. awful hours with no
             | notice, management compromises on safety, the expectation
             | that you'll keep silent when management cuts corners or
             | cheats the clients/customers, etc.)
             | 
             | The reason I stopped doing physical work is because
             | physical workers are disrespected by the world, and your
             | bosses would rather shut down and leave the industry than
             | to pay you a dollar more. After I decided I would never
             | work with my hands again, jobs paid a lot more. The less
             | you actually do, the more holy you get. One day I'll just
             | sit in the lotus position, floating two inches above my
             | prayer mat, giving cryptic pronouncements about what other
             | people should be doing. By then, I'll have billions.
        
       | tibbydudeza wrote:
       | My best mate is a plumber - it is very hard work.
       | 
       | Laying sewage pipes - fixing sewage blockages - replacing hot
       | water cylinder in the roof in the heat of summer (our homes don't
       | have basements).
       | 
       | Dealing with staff issues - people not paying their accounts.
        
       | lolinder wrote:
       | This comment and its top reply are dead on:
       | 
       | https://old.reddit.com/r/cscareerquestions/comments/sm54ri/a...
       | 
       | No job is going to get you away from unreasonable people with
       | unreasonable expectations, and most trades introduce a bunch of
       | other unpleasant things that you'd have to deal with.
       | 
       | It's all tradeoffs. Someone may legitimately prefer the stresses
       | of a trade to the stresses of working in software, and that's
       | great for them. But it's not an _objectively_ easier path: if it
       | were, plumbers would be much less expensive.
        
         | mrwnmonm wrote:
         | What about teaching? Or becoming a Youtuber?
        
           | kd0amg wrote:
           | Teaching isn't likely to get you away from unreasonable
           | people with unreasonable expectations.
        
         | civilized wrote:
         | Work is like driving. Everywhere you go, there will be
         | unreasonable, dangerous, stressful drivers.
         | 
         | Disproportionately they will be driving BMWs and Audis.
         | 
         | Sorry, it had to be said.
        
           | Simon_O_Rourke wrote:
           | It had to be said because it's largely correct!
           | 
           | https://www.financialexpress.com/auto/car-
           | news/psychopaths-d...
        
             | [deleted]
        
           | Tijdreiziger wrote:
           | That's why I don't own a car. :P
        
           | rudasn wrote:
           | There's a study for that :
           | https://www.scrapcarcomparison.co.uk/blog/which-drivers-
           | are-...
        
             | civilized wrote:
             | Damn, I nailed it. I had no idea, this was purely based on
             | personal experience.
        
           | artemonster wrote:
           | I like how in our progressive society it is absolutely
           | frowned upon to invoke any association between observable
           | societal statistics and, say, race/gender, but its okay to
           | bash BMW/audi drivers. So, user civilized, why is it okay for
           | you to generalize? And why exactly you were sorry? (I am
           | aware that this is a tangent discussion to the original post,
           | but it may be an interesting one)
        
             | brnaftr361 wrote:
             | I do think that's a pretty interesting point. It's a weird
             | move to sweep under the rug. I guess you could argue that
             | having a BMW is a choice, and it has associated
             | stereotypes, which we can infer is sort of like joining a
             | club.
             | 
             | race/gender are probabilistic and unalterable, one doesn't
             | necessarily elect to inherit the stereotypes associated
             | with race/gender. You're essentially being delegated
             | expectations that may or may not be in alignment with
             | personal values.
             | 
             | There are definitely double-standards in play though, a
             | sort of socio-cognitive warfare, I suppose.
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | I am unsure whether the (im)mutability of a qualifier
               | plays a role. For example, religion is a choice, but
               | making generalized derogatory statements about certain
               | religious groups is not okay either. You can try it with
               | the pattern of "civilized" user: """Everywhere you go,
               | there will be _men hitting their wivers_.
               | Disproportionately they will be ..." and say sorry
               | afterwards. You will be making a statistically correct
               | statement, but you will be flagged and IRL punched in the
               | face for saying that. But somehow saying that about BMW
               | drivers is still allright?
        
               | kube-system wrote:
               | Religion is a choice in the same way citizenship is a
               | choice. Sometimes it is a choice, often you're born into
               | it, and you often have to meet qualifications to change
               | it, and some of those may be impossible to meet. And your
               | social environment may impose some significant
               | expectations on you.
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | now you're trying to argue about a specifics of the
               | example I've given. Its tangent to the main question:
               | whether stereotyping on something that is a choice or
               | inherent is different? If you say that it is, can you
               | please elaborate?
        
               | kube-system wrote:
               | Yes, it is different, but not in a boolean sort of way.
               | It is impolite to make fun of people for something that
               | is not their fault... and generally speaking, the degree
               | to which it wasn't a choice (and the degree to which it
               | impacts someone's life experience) contributes to the
               | degree of impoliteness.
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | making fun of a group != inferring generalizing
               | statements about a group. I am completely with you about
               | "making fun" part, but this concrete example is different
        
             | openknot wrote:
             | The comedic term is "punching up" [0]. It's generally more
             | acceptable to make jokes about the (presumably) wealthy
             | owners of BMWs and Audis, versus "punching down" by making
             | fun of people who comparatively face more disadvantages.
             | 
             | [0] Urban Dictionary:
             | https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Punch%20Up
        
               | brnaftr361 wrote:
               | If we use the punching metaphor, in either case one is
               | committing an act of "violence", which I think most
               | people would acede is negative at least in the large
               | scheme of things.
        
               | openknot wrote:
               | Violence has different definitions, according to the
               | Oxford English Dictionary [0].
               | 
               | One is: "1. a. The deliberate exercise of physical force
               | against a person, property, etc.; physically violent
               | behaviour or treatment; (Law) the unlawful exercise of
               | physical force, intimidation by the exhibition of such
               | force." Another definition is: "4. Vehemence or intensity
               | of emotion, behaviour, or language; extreme fervour;
               | passion."
               | 
               | That the first definition is inherently negative is a
               | separate philosophical discussion (as quick counter-
               | examples where violence may not be negative, consider the
               | violence of a fencing or martial arts match). However, it
               | is clear that "punching up" in this case refers to
               | definition four. I believe that most would agree that
               | intensity of emotion or language is not inherently or
               | necessarily a negative behaviour.
               | 
               | [0] Current quoted version is paywalled, but older 1989
               | edition for reference (may have differences from the
               | quoted version): https://www.oed.com/oed2/00277885
        
             | TheCoelacanth wrote:
             | There's a big difference between stereotyping based on
             | something someone was born with and stereotyping based on
             | something they chose to buy.
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | That is my problem: I don't see that difference. Its
               | still stereotyping. Can you explain how it makes
               | different to stereotype based on choice or some inherent
               | immutable property? Its the majority of asshole careless
               | drivers (inherent immutable property) that _choose_ to
               | buy a BMW that make up a statistic. Still the stereotype
               | selects that group, not by their choice but by and
               | because of their property (being an asshole careless
               | driver).
        
             | grogenaut wrote:
             | I can afford a BMW, I've chosen not to buy one. In 08, I
             | technically bought one in a Mini. But it was better MPG
             | (very good for the time), fun, and cute. My buddy has a
             | fast BMW, 2x the price. He got real mad when he drove the
             | mini when he realized that the grand tour guys are right,
             | hot hatches are pretty fun. He was blowing through $1500 in
             | tires every year or so as well. I told him he got the bmw
             | cause he's a dbag and a defense lawyer. He agreed that he
             | is a dbag and he needed to show off as a lawyer. Every one
             | of my friends who has a BMW would agree they care about
             | appearences and are a bit of a dbag, I have about 10 from
             | college/highschool/the neighborhood. So I'd be making fun
             | of myself or my friends.
             | 
             | Personally I want multiple fun to drive vehicles. But I'd
             | also rather have a CNC mill sharing space a motorcycle in
             | the garage instead of a car I'm wiping with a diaper for
             | the same price.
             | 
             | It's also quite common and a source of fun in many
             | communities to make fun of the other brand. Many of these
             | jokes are great at summarizing why people buy a thing. Ford
             | vs Chevy. It can also get bit annoying and detract from
             | what would otherwise be a useful conversation. "Fix Or
             | Repair Daily" isn't very helpful. However "yamaha bike
             | owners ask which valve head shims to buy, bmw owners ask
             | which dealer is the most reputable" is a good description
             | of the mindset for those respective brands, and the what
             | the owners are looking for. Case in point, many BMWs only
             | have an oil low sensor. How low? drain it and measure the
             | volume, no dip stick. This carried over to my mini (bmw
             | made), when the low oil light came on it was at .75 of 4
             | quarts, basically empty and damaging itself, and the
             | dipstick is almost unreadable except in bright sunlight,
             | but it's sure stylish.
        
               | pwython wrote:
               | Wow. You're all over the place with this comment dude.
               | 
               | > "Every one of my friends who has a BMW would agree they
               | care about appearences and are a bit of a dbag, I have
               | about 10..."
               | 
               | I would seriously reconsider who is the dbag among your
               | 10 BMW friends. The people that care about what car
               | someone drives are the ones venting about their buddies
               | spending money on tires and quarts of oil online. Unless
               | I missed the part where they made fun of your self-
               | described "cute" Mini Cooper. Some people like quick
               | cars, or cars that look nice.
        
               | grogenaut wrote:
               | Almost of these comments are from my friend about the his
               | own driving habits with the car. It's his money he can
               | blow through tires if he wants. He's the one calling
               | himself a dbag. I think he's got redeeming qualities and
               | some insecurities, it's why he's still a friend.
        
               | pwython wrote:
               | So it's 1 friend and not 10 that are self-proclaimed
               | dbags. Well I guess add me to that list.
               | 
               | - BMW M4 dbag owner who drives like a normal person.
        
               | grogenaut wrote:
               | Me to one of the others when looking at college photos:
               | "is that an affliction shirt"... Them "yeah I was kinda a
               | dbag post college till I got married". me "wait is that a
               | wristband, were you watching UFC pay per view"... them
               | "actually, yes".
               | 
               | Do you need me to enumerate all of them for you? :)
        
             | civilized wrote:
             | I take care not to violate society's statistical taboos.
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | Ah, allright, I think I got the pattern. Next time
               | someone wants to: """Everywhere you go, there will be
               | {insert derogatory but also statistically backed pattern}
               | Disproportionately they will be {insert your -ist
               | qualifier}""" You just have to say sorry and it will be
               | okay?
        
               | civilized wrote:
               | Have you considered what you personally believe is right?
               | 
               | Why go around being an enforcer for social rules you
               | don't even know if you believe in?
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | I personally believe in statistics and I believe you
               | cannot use them to make derogatory generalizations. I
               | mean racists REALLY love to pull out crime statistics out
               | of their pockets in justification of their views. And,
               | frankly, its not about my beliefs right now and enforcing
               | of societal rules, its about you making derogatory
               | generalizations and thinking that its okay, because
               | "statistics" and because you've said sorry.
        
               | civilized wrote:
               | Well, I don't believe what you believe. I think you have
               | an overly general moral rule that you think is necessary
               | for consistency, but it's not really, and it's just your
               | personal belief.
               | 
               | Your belief implies it is improper to use statistics to
               | describe morally salient human behavior in any way,
               | unless the conclusion is that there is no variation. I
               | think that's silly and intellectually impoverishing.
               | Groups have different average behavior and I don't see
               | the point in blinding myself to that.
               | 
               | We all know that averages don't determine an individual,
               | and we all know that some generalizations should be
               | avoided, but that doesn't imply some broad fatwa,
               | completely irrespective of context, against noting broad
               | variations in group behavior.
               | 
               | The prosecutor attitude is very entertaining though. Feel
               | free to keep doing that.
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | I personally dont require that consistency, I was merely
               | asking WHY there is a difference in treatment of the same
               | method (making generalized statements about group
               | behaviour) when applied to different qualifiers. And yes,
               | just as you've said, maintaining that consistency does
               | imply that you suddenly can't use any statistics at all.
               | 
               | Point taken on "prosecutor attitude", sorry about that.
               | riding "moral high horse" got to my head.
        
               | civilized wrote:
               | It sounds like you don't believe what you just said you
               | did? I'm genuinely asking what _you_ believe, as opposed
               | to what you assert for the sake of argument.
               | 
               | For me, it's not an easy topic but I would say when
               | negative generalizations escalate to exclusion and
               | dehumanization, that's probably where to draw the line.
               | 
               | I know some people with Audis and I don't think worse of
               | them or anything like that. It's just a funny thing
               | that's hard to ignore after a while on the road.
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | Thank you for the insight on where you draw the line,
               | that explains a lot. Still, a hard terrain to navigate on
               | when you can say something and when you can't, even if
               | you make correct statements backed up by data. Just to be
               | clear we're on the same page: I've made absolutely same
               | observation about other bmw drivers. and we, humans, do
               | exactly that: observe and generalize.
               | 
               | Regarding my personal beliefs, as I've stated above "I
               | personally believe in statistics and I believe you cannot
               | use* them to make derogatory* generalizations"
               | 
               | 1. regarding "use": you cannot use specifically
               | statistics/data to justify any *-ist remark. "I hate bmw
               | drivers because most of them are assholes on the road",
               | an example of that (not what you said!)
               | 
               | 2. regarding "derogatory": you can(and should!) use
               | statistics to do (just) generalizations, i.e. in a
               | context of talking about group behaviour. "most of bmw
               | drivers are agressive and dangerous drivers, as shown by
               | this data" is a perfectly fine statement.
               | 
               | My problem is that you can say that sort of statements
               | about certain group of drivers, but if you would have
               | pulled up a similar argument and used (for example) PoC
               | and crime rates, you would have been torn to pieces by
               | everyone. And for me, on the surface, the statement and
               | the structure would be absolutely the same (and it is
               | STILL not escalated to exclusion and dehumanization). So
               | whats the difference? And why different treatment? People
               | above are arguing that buying BMW its a choice and using
               | inherent (immutable) properties (i.e. race/gender) is
               | different for the case of stereotyping, but I cannot see
               | the key difference that makes okay to do one and not okay
               | to do another.
        
               | civilized wrote:
               | On the difference between making these generalizations
               | along racial lines vs other things - it mostly comes down
               | to the fact that our ancestors ruined the fun. After
               | humanity had used certain type of statements to justify
               | mass dehumanization, slavery, Holocaust, etc., people
               | don't want to see that happen again. Then it's just a
               | question of how big a red circle we want to draw around
               | that kind of talk. Most people found a simple ban on
               | racial generalizations relatively intuitive and
               | practical. I'd prefer a more freewheeling culture but
               | it's above my pay grade at this point.
               | 
               | Side point - in general an important thing to remember
               | here is the big, big difference between P(A|B) and
               | P(B|A). It could be the case that _all_ aggressive
               | drivers I ever encounter are BMW drivers, and yet the
               | rate of aggressive BMW drivers could be very low and of
               | little practical predictive value on any individual BMW
               | driver (e.g. 1% of BMW drivers versus 0% for non-BMW
               | drivers).
               | 
               | People are already bad at distinguishing an implication
               | and its converse, and they're quite a bit worse at the
               | statistical version of the same.
               | 
               | Arguably this is a reason we should keep our
               | generalizations to ourselves, even if they're accurate. A
               | lot of people will take them to mean a lot more than they
               | do.
               | 
               | It's not my style, but I do recognize the risk.
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | thank you for your explanations
        
             | JKCalhoun wrote:
             | You can choose whether to buy a BMW or not?
        
               | artemonster wrote:
               | but having one does not make you an asshole driver
        
           | hodgesrm wrote:
           | Hey! What's wrong with BMWs? We have two of them. Both
           | diesels. The gas mileage is slightly below amazing. (Though
           | my lawyer says you should always buy them used, never new.
           | He's very good on life advice in general.)
        
             | blowfish721 wrote:
             | BMW's are great cars, used to have one. But somehow their
             | turn signals never seem to work.
        
               | civilized wrote:
               | The wheel and the gas work super well though. Maybe too
               | well.
        
             | granshaw wrote:
             | Not sure if that was a sarcastic reply but if not You're
             | missing the point - which was that these fools will often
             | be better paid and more well off than you :)
        
             | nixgeek wrote:
             | They're incredible, in slow traffic I have no issue fitting
             | into a space which is only 12" bigger than the BMW is in
             | length terms, and everyone around me is impressed,
             | particularly the driver behind, they often gesture
             | congratulations about these feats
             | 
             | In all seriousness though after a few years driving a Tesla
             | it is a stark contrast, the BMW's are actually well-
             | manufactured, very quiet in the cabin, tactile controls
             | instead of touchscreens. I'd forgotten what a good car
             | behaved and looked like instead of an early-adopter
             | plastic-fantastic interior and technology stack. Really do
             | think with "Big Auto" starting to figure out bEV and things
             | like F-150 Lightning, BMW iX and more coming to the market,
             | Tesla is not looking like a solid safe equity to be holding
             | in a 5 year time horizon.
        
               | civilized wrote:
               | You're making a surprisingly persuasive case. Maybe it's
               | time for me to become an asshole too.
        
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         | 01100011 wrote:
         | An old, cynical engineer I once worked with left me with two
         | indelible quotes:
         | 
         | - If it was fun they'd charge money at the door.
         | 
         | - If you can't write it down you can't do it.
         | 
         | You can argue about the accuracy of those ideas, but more or
         | less I've found them to be true.
        
           | ReactiveJelly wrote:
           | > If it was fun they'd charge money at the door.
           | 
           | I've told people that at my work and had it said back to me
           | later.
           | 
           | "If it was fun, it wouldn't be work." Also, I leave after 40
           | hours each week because there will never be a day when the
           | work ends early. If we run out of work, it's because the
           | company is sinking.
        
           | sneakymichael wrote:
           | "If you can't write it down you can't do it." - elaborate?
        
             | itronitron wrote:
             | I think this might have two, maybe more meanings. The first
             | is that if the person asking you to do something won't put
             | it in writing, then it's probably not legal and therefore
             | you can't do it. The second is that if you haven't thought
             | through something well enough to write it down (the problem
             | and the solution) then you haven't thought about it long
             | enough to have found a solution.
        
             | ByThyGrace wrote:
             | Maybe it means that the ability to spell out the entirety
             | of the work process is an indication of the ability to
             | fulfill the task.
        
           | openknot wrote:
           | >- If it was fun they'd charge money at the door.
           | 
           | I'm not sure if 'fun' is the right descriptor, but certain
           | fields of work with relatively high prestige and supply of
           | applicants but relatively low credential requirements (in
           | comparison to credentialed professions like law or medicine)
           | pay little or almost charge money.
           | 
           | Examples include journalism (very low paying, limited jobs in
           | North America), museum curation (requiring many years of low-
           | paid, unpaid internship; most people can't afford it), and
           | many creative fields (e.g. graphic designers are, in my view,
           | paid very low comparative to the skill and creativity they
           | bring; creative writers often have to pay to submit to a
           | literary journal; and video game developers are notoriously
           | overworked/underpaid, compared to other types of software
           | developers).
        
         | rakamotog wrote:
         | I opened comments to reply the same comment from Reddit. Grass
         | always feels greener on the other side.
        
         | psbp wrote:
         | The levels of stress aren't that much different, but there's
         | something more practical about the stresses of labor jobs that
         | make them a bit more manageable in my experience. Only in
         | software jobs have I had persistent, constant stress that never
         | seems to let up and consumes my weekends. It's a skill to
         | manage it, but it's definitely part of the job.
        
         | nelblu wrote:
         | 100% this. I have been renovating my house for the past few
         | months, room by room. It is fun on some days and not so much on
         | other days. It can even be stressful when you can't figure out
         | certain corners, or end up with leaks etc. I have contemplated
         | started renovation as a side business, but having spoken to
         | independent contractors I have figured it isn't all that much
         | lucrative. There are even assholes who won't pay you at all.
        
         | JKCalhoun wrote:
         | Stresses of a trade? Never "plumbed" professionally, so I can't
         | speak from experience. But from other non-software jobs I have
         | had, I know it was easy to "leave work at work".
         | 
         | Software development followed me home, lived in my brain 24/7.
         | It also caused a good deal of stress I was unaware of at the
         | time.
        
           | s1artibartfast wrote:
           | I think the ease of leaving work at work is probably a better
           | proxy for age and commitment to your job. If you know it is a
           | short term job or career, it is easy to leave there.
           | 
           | If you need the job, you start to care. Even with manual
           | labor, there are problems that didn't get solved that need to
           | be worked out before 7 AM tomorrow. I would say it is even
           | harder to leave it at work. If a pipe breaks, and water is
           | pouring out, sleeping on it isnt an option
        
         | bartread wrote:
         | I agree. I work in tech and, outside of work, I'm refurbishing
         | my house. I'm enjoying the refurbishment but would I do a trade
         | as a full time job? Hell no.
         | 
         | Crawling around in my loft sistering joists is satisfying work
         | but also, if it were to become the kind of thing I did over a
         | long period of time, would 100% wreck my knees.
         | 
         | And that's just one downside. There are plenty more: e.g., all
         | the ancillary guff you have to do (same as you have with
         | contracting really), and then dealing with the general public
         | and having people phone you at all hours of the day and night
         | looking for estimates and quotes. No thanks.
        
           | user3939382 wrote:
           | Get yourself a pair of these
           | https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001P30BQE/
           | 
           | I use them _all_ the time. Cable management under desks, tile
           | work, electrical. I wonder how I went so long without them.
        
           | ElKrist wrote:
           | I share your view about making estimates and quotes.
           | 
           | I get contractors to my house to help me renovate. It's just
           | standard practice to get multiple tradesmen (>=3) to make a
           | quote for the same job. I do that whenever the job is above
           | $5000. I assume they must have a lot of other clients who do
           | the same for lower thresholds too. I don't know the margins
           | in each trade but I guess at least half of the quote is
           | costs?
           | 
           | For the transport, the time on-site, the time to make a quote
           | (depends a lot on the job).. I believe they each spend at
           | least half a day on this. Then you add various time-consuming
           | items like phone calls, people canceling appointments, people
           | changing their minds about what they want, time to chase
           | unpaid invoices, dealing with other tradesmen on some
           | projects... All of this for a 1/3 chance of getting the job ?
           | 
           | Clearly some tradesmen are doing very well, but let's not
           | pretend it's easy. As a contractor in software, I realized
           | quickly I could and would only bill on a time-based approach.
           | I've gone through the hassle of making a quote for a project
           | with a lot of uncertainties and spanning over multiple
           | months. At the end the client played with my weakness of
           | being still quite young. He was older and much more
           | experienced in legal & contract matters so he kept adding
           | items pretending my contract was not fulfilled otherwise.. I
           | ended up OK but would never go back to that anymore
           | 
           | Now I only have to negotiate once or twice a year (with my
           | latest and ongoing client it's been multiple years so even
           | better) when tradesmen have to do that multiple times a week
        
         | brightball wrote:
         | Yep. I got burned out at one point and got my real estate
         | license. I was going to go into commercial real estate and
         | build a residential website in my spare time.
         | 
         | Good grief what a scheme that entire field is. If I wanted
         | access to residential MLS data I was going to have to be a
         | residential realtor. To be a residential realtor you have to
         | work for a broker who will charge you monthly for the pleasure.
         | You have to put the name of the brokerage on any site that uses
         | the data even if you pay for it yourself. You also have to pay
         | for each MLS you want to access.
         | 
         | If you want to start your own brokerage you have to get a
         | brokerage license. To do that you have to have your real estate
         | license for 3 years and take the brokerage class. There's
         | nothing you actually have to do during that 3 years other than
         | maintain your license.
         | 
         | Seeing the profession from the inside was eye opening and I've
         | been extremely happy getting to enjoy being in an unlicensed
         | profession ever since.
        
           | scythe wrote:
           | The National Association of Realtors donated $44M to
           | political candidates last year, the second-largest
           | contributor overall.
           | 
           | https://www.opensecrets.org/federal-lobbying/top-spenders
        
       | cletus wrote:
       | It's worth noting that these skilled trades (eg plumbers,
       | electricians, carpenters) have _wildly_ different experiences in
       | different countries.
       | 
       | In the US they aren't actually paid that well, particularly
       | compared to software engineering (in the US).
       | 
       | But go to Australia and you'll get a vastly different experience.
       | For one, just being a plumber is _strictly_ government
       | controlled. You need a license that requires a four year
       | apprenticeship. There are pros and cons to this system but you
       | will generally find that the base level of skill and competence
       | of any Australian tradesmen will be far higher than that of many
       | other countries.
       | 
       | I had a Australian friend who was a plumber in the UK where you
       | can be a plumber by just calling yourself a plumber. The stories
       | of incompetence he'd tell were shocking.
       | 
       | Trades in Australia earn more than software engineers do and will
       | generally have a much better standard of living, straight up.
       | It's one reason why I, as a software engineer, moved from
       | Australia to the US. If you want to be a plumber, you may want to
       | go the other way, assuming you're willing and able to get
       | certified.
        
       | 999900000999 wrote:
       | >The grass IS greener on the CS side of things though. There
       | literally is no denying it. We see a hyper focus of the bad on
       | here but if I'm being frank, many people on here went into CS as
       | their first Job and have nothing to compare it to. You're not
       | going to find another broad career field that gives you the same
       | financial freedom for time invested in learning your field. Pick
       | up a hobby if you're missing that salt of the earth feeling too
       | much. Doing that shit to barely live in many instances is not the
       | same feeling as having it as a hobby.
       | 
       | I'm positioning myself to be able to take a 3 month vacation once
       | every 2 years or so. Since I really want to travel outside the US
       | working remote outright is a bit harder, but I could live in the
       | US Virgin islands, or Hawaii right now while keeping my amazing
       | job.
       | 
       | Not having to move, even after getting a major pay bump last year
       | was a giant perk. I also make enough so I can just not work , i'd
       | move into a cheaper place but I don't need to work for a good
       | while.
       | 
       | Compared to real America, where working class people skip
       | medicine. I can explain it this way, I have a very treatable
       | illness. For a very nominal amount of money, less than I spend on
       | a night out, I'm able to stay healthy. If I was poor I wouldn't
       | be able to afford my meds. Even with Medicare, how do I get to
       | the doctor ? That means taking time off work, that means spending
       | 100$ on an Uber round trip.
       | 
       | Software Development is VERY VERY easy.
        
         | redisman wrote:
         | A lot of engineers also fail to see that they could just do
         | less and leave on time every day and actually use their
         | "unlimited" vacation! You won't get rewarded for the extra
         | stress and effort so just stop doing it and set expectations
         | accordingly.
        
       | xdennis wrote:
       | > plumber/electrician/brickie
       | 
       | None of those. But I would like to be carpenter or machinist.
       | 
       | I do often dream of moving back to Romania, to a hamlet in the
       | mountains and building a wooden house like Mr. Chickadee (
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2TcARfChhbE ).
       | 
       | But I'd never do it because I'm greedy and don't take risks.
        
       | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
       | I'm a software engineer who does his own plumbing and his own
       | electrical. Example projects:                  * rewire 1920's
       | three story house with romex instead of knob & tube        *
       | install 6.6kW ground mount PV arrays and connect to grid        *
       | replumb two kitchens and three bathrooms        * install water
       | softener (all copper, dozens of required brazed joints)
       | 
       | I love doing that stuff (carpentry and cabinet building too). But
       | ... a couple of times I've made the mistake of agreeing to help
       | others on projects like the one's I've done for myself. Mistake?
       | Well, absolutely. Doing work like this for other people is
       | completely and utterly different from working on your own
       | projects. Despite loving the work itself, I would never, ever
       | want to do this for other people, even for good income.
        
         | it_does_follow wrote:
         | > Doing work like this for other people is completely and
         | utterly different from working on your own projects.
         | 
         | To be fair this same logic likely is the source of stress for a
         | lot of software engineers. Loving to program and programming
         | for other people for a living initially seems like a brilliant
         | way to make a living. For plenty of people it is, but for some
         | what programming for money looks like and programming for
         | passion look like can be so different as to be depressing.
         | 
         | The hardest part of software engineers in this situation is the
         | money is really good and, all things considers, the job is
         | quite cushy. However having your passion drained by your
         | profession still can be an awful feeling, and that can be
         | magnified by the fact that there's no easy solution.
         | 
         | For me personally I resolved this by realizing and fully
         | embracing that the programming projects I like to do need to be
         | in a completely separate part of my mind that the ones I'm paid
         | to do.
         | 
         | By day I sling mediocre code on arguably useless things because
         | I need to pay the bills, by night I work on a separate set of
         | interesting problems that are related to the day time ones only
         | insofar as they technically involve writing code. If I get a
         | cool insight at work, great, but I've learned to leave my
         | passion at home when I check into work.
        
           | Apocryphon wrote:
           | To bring it back to the premise of this entire website: this
           | is a reason why entrepreneurship becomes a recourse for some
           | dissatisfied engineers. Startups, small-scale consultancies,
           | side projects are all ways to code the programs they want to
           | code.
        
             | redisman wrote:
             | I don't think that's a good escape. I tried owning my
             | business and I hated it 10x more than being just a
             | engineer. Instead of spending 70% of my hours doing what I
             | like it became more like 30%
        
           | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
           | I suppose I am both lucky and rare: I get to experience the
           | "I do what I want to when I want to how I want to" for both
           | my programming and construction work. A useful insight, I
           | hadn't connected them in that way before.
        
             | Cederfjard wrote:
             | Out of curiosity, what programming work do you do that's
             | both so free and pays the bill? Do you sell a successful
             | indie product or something?
        
               | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
               | https://ardour.org/
        
         | redisman wrote:
         | That's what I always thought about programming. So fun when you
         | do it as a hobby and meh when you're 10+ years into building
         | business requirements
        
           | hotpotamus wrote:
           | Yeah - I wonder about the age / experience level of
           | commentors in this thread. If you had told me in my 20's
           | about burnout (and I'm pretty sure people did tell me), I'd
           | have said I love tech too much and it'll never happen to me.
           | Now in my 30's it's a struggle. I think the last decade was
           | pretty rough too, perhaps if I was a bit older and gotten
           | into tech professionally in the 90's it might have been more
           | of a fun ride, but it's also possible that's just nostalgia.
        
         | Beltalowda wrote:
         | I worked in a daycare for a while when I was young; I really
         | liked being a scout leader and figured I might want to do
         | something like this for a living. I didn't like it very much:
         | turns out that a few hours on saturday is not quite the same
         | thing as 8 hours every day.
         | 
         | I think in general "doing this for a hobby and fun" and "doing
         | this for a living" are two entirely different things. Many
         | people love to cook as a hobby, but being a chef in a
         | restaurant is a completely different thing. Years ago I had a
         | friend who loved to drive trucks as a hobby; I never understood
         | the appeal myself, but he just loved the feeling of driving a
         | truck. He left his teaching career to become a truck driver and
         | in a matter of months ended up hating it (and he ended up going
         | back to being a teacher).
        
           | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
           | Some years ago I had a friend who agreed to do some tile work
           | for some other mutual friends. Midway through, I was at the
           | "client's" house talking with them, and they were complaining
           | (not bitterly, but perplexedly): "We just don't get it, Steve
           | finishes and says he'll be back in the morning but then he
           | doesn't show up for 5-10 days". I shared in their amazement -
           | it seemed so rude, so unnecessary. Why would you do that?
           | 
           | A few years rolled by and I found myself doing construction
           | stuff for friends. "See you in the morning" I would say as I
           | left, and then find myself returning a week later. There's
           | even a situation now where I've left an absurdly simple final
           | task helping one of my neighbors with some minor repairs ...
           | I think I told her 3-4 months ago that I'd be back in 2 days.
           | 
           | I don't really understand why this happens, but it did give
           | me some insight into a whole extra layer that is required
           | from you when doing work for other people: you have to go
           | back, tomorrow, even, over and over until it is done.
           | 
           | Now this certainly applies to any regular (well, contract?)
           | employment too, but there is something different about
           | construction that I think requires a different kind of
           | personal character to enable you to fulfill the implicit
           | obligations.
        
             | Beltalowda wrote:
             | Ah yes, the infamous builders.
             | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0QxQoOInV0
        
         | rascul wrote:
         | > Despite loving the work itself, I would never, ever want to
         | do this for other people, even for good income.
         | 
         | This is pretty much how I feel about IT work nowadays. I've
         | done it in the past, nowadays I repair rental houses.
        
       | xeromal wrote:
       | When I retire, I want to have a little coffee truck or stand and
       | just go around making random coffees.
        
       | abeppu wrote:
       | > Instead of my current career path where I'm having to
       | constantly re-prioritize, put out fires, report to multiple leads
       | with different agendas, scope and build things that have never
       | been done, ect.
       | 
       | > Maybe I'm misguided but in other fields one becomes a master of
       | their craft over time. In CS/data science, I feel like you are
       | forever a junior because your experience decays over time.
       | 
       | I get where this person is coming from, but:
       | 
       | - Improving at the things in the first list is part of mastery,
       | unfortunately.
       | 
       | - A lot of old experience is still valuable. But one needs to be
       | able to transfer/translate the important lessons to new contexts
       | as tools, frameworks and languages change.
        
       | throwaway135711 wrote:
       | In fleeting moments of madness, maybe. But aside from that, of
       | course not! We're so unbelievably lucky to be able to do things
       | that we're good at, most of us enjoy (to some extent), and also
       | be paid eye-watering amounts of money.
       | 
       | It's pretty easy to forget how low the median income really is
       | when one's social group is exclusively tech or other professional
       | occupations (lawyers, doctors, etc). Meeting somebody who's doing
       | physical labour 40-60 hours a week only to make 25k USD or
       | whatever puts things into perspective really quick.
        
         | ClumsyPilot wrote:
         | "also be paid eye-watering amounts of money."
         | 
         | Thats not really true outside US
        
           | HL33tibCe7 wrote:
           | It is in the UK
        
             | enronmusk wrote:
             | What makes you say that? Outside of contracting and a few
             | elite firms in London, being a developer in the UK is like
             | being an accountant -- nothing special.
        
           | barbazoo wrote:
           | It obviously depends on where you live and what you do in
           | your job and how much you work and how hard. I'd argue though
           | that, to say it in OP's words, most of us should get watery
           | eyes every time we see our paychecks given how much time we
           | spend actually working, what the work environment is and what
           | that work entails. We're so incredibly lucky it's hard to
           | fathom.
        
       | jbirer wrote:
       | I have worked as a steel worker in a construction site. The pay
       | was shit but I got a really nice toned body, good skin, girls
       | looking at me, all day banter in the workplace and parties
       | afterward, I went from being a depressed anxious nerd to a
       | talkative hot dude in about 7 months. Sometimes I wonder if I
       | should go back but I am earning 10 times more than the people
       | around me which allows me to travel (before covid) and have
       | almost anything I want, it's a hard decision.
        
       | matthewaveryusa wrote:
       | So yes, I bought a fixer upper 2 years ago at the beginning of
       | the pandemic because I had an existential moment where I was fed
       | up with the seemingly futility and abstractness of software
       | development. Turns out physical labor is even more futile after
       | the novelty wears out.
        
         | redisman wrote:
         | I used to clean the office/locker rooms of a concrete prefab
         | factory while in school for some income. Talk about
         | existential. Literally the same thing every night and a
         | seemingly pointless task since it would be the same mess within
         | minutes when the next shift walked in.
        
       | _trampeltier wrote:
       | I think the software world has to slow down anyway. Now there is
       | software anywhere build in and has just to work. Things could
       | last for 50 years before software. Now everything need updates
       | all the time because things are unfinished.
       | 
       | I'm in industrie automation and everything with software gets
       | worse really update by update
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | mikewarot wrote:
       | I took a job making gears in a job shop. I learned quite a lot of
       | interesting things. However, the pay and commute were both
       | horrible. I caught Covid in March 2020, and have been dealing
       | with Long Covid ever since.
       | 
       | Now I find myself needing to jump back into programming, and my
       | strongly preferred language is Pascal. It's going to be an
       | interesting ride.
       | 
       | If you do this yourself, make sure you have planned for
       | contingencies like long term disability, should you be injured on
       | the job, or get sick. Having a large nest egg of tech worker pay
       | is a very good idea to secure before making the leap.
        
         | blobbers wrote:
         | Hope your covid gets better. How does one "jump" into Pascal?
         | 
         | I used Pascal in 1992 programming in high school on a Mac
         | LCiii, and never really thought about it again. Do modern
         | compilers even exist for this language?
         | 
         | What genuinely curious what you could possibly want you to
         | program in Pascal let alone prefer using it for anything
         | meaningful?
        
           | GrizzlyMcGee wrote:
           | It is possible to do Delphi development:
           | https://www.embarcadero.com/products/delphi/starter/free-
           | dow...
           | 
           | Although I personally don't know anyone that uses this and
           | there probably isn't many jobs for this.
        
       | pessimizer wrote:
       | Only because of all the moral hazard in programming, being
       | completely wrapped up in rent-seeking, surveillance, dark
       | patterns, and marketing in general.
       | 
       | The problem is that the trades are hard as hell to learn and get
       | into unless you're connected. It's easier to become a programmer
       | than a plumber/carpenter/electrician.
        
       | blowski wrote:
       | A few weeks ago, I had a plumber round and he wanted to become a
       | programmer.
        
       | Kaibeezy wrote:
       | I'd go back for the PhD in land use economics I turned down and
       | get to work on smart ideas for dealing with relocating soon-to-
       | be-submerged populated areas.
       | 
       | It's effectively similar to plumbing or anything else -- a trade
       | off to a different scale of problems and pressures.
        
       | cxf12 wrote:
       | Software Development is a sedentary life. It is in and of itself
       | a risky career health wise, especially into the later years.
        
       | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
       | Plumbers need to stay up to date, too (and they make great
       | money).
       | 
       | I know several.
        
       | duncan-donuts wrote:
       | I started my career in trades so no I don't long for that. I do
       | think about leaving it all behind to be a musician tho. I look at
       | my circumstances of stupid salary, never leave the house if I
       | don't want to, and my level of comfort and compare to all my
       | musician friends who make nothing, always working a side job or
       | on the road, sleeping and eating like shit, and I 100% don't want
       | to trade. If I never had to think about money again I'd write a
       | lot more music tho
        
       | runjake wrote:
       | I work with tradesmen daily.
       | 
       | They put up with the same, as well as job-specific BS, just like
       | we do.
       | 
       | It's a pipe dream to think it's some career utopia. Unless you
       | want a change of flavor in the BS you put up with, for a while.
        
         | redisman wrote:
         | People need to listen to more George Carlin.
         | 
         | Oh, you hate your job? Why didn't you say so? There's a support
         | group for that. It's called EVERYBODY, and they meet at the
         | bar.
        
       | mbgerring wrote:
       | For me it's becoming an electrician, and I actually do a great
       | deal of recreational construction work and enjoy it. But the
       | licensing requirements are insane, and that ultimately is what
       | keeps me writing software.
       | 
       | Although I think that for a lot of people who feel this impulse,
       | the problem might not be the type of work -- it might be that the
       | software you're working on doesn't do any real good for the
       | world, or have any impact that you can see.
       | 
       | You can change that without having to switch fields -- just don't
       | go to work in ad tech.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | austincheney wrote:
       | I have written many such comments on HN myself and seen many such
       | comments from others. The motivation is generally universal.
       | Software is an immature industry with many beginner experts that
       | believe themselves to be experts but cry about how hard life is
       | when standards are set and/or enforced.
       | 
       | Fortunately, I have a part time director level job as a soldier
       | for my backup plan.
        
       | blobbers wrote:
       | I believe the basic gist of this is that the person feels
       | unfulfilled and burnt out. We all get that way after too much
       | screentime.
       | 
       | Take a break, get a little more balance in your life, and perhaps
       | the desire to program will come back. Maybe it won't.
        
       | 2OEH8eoCRo0 wrote:
       | I often think of becoming a farmer.
        
       | AlbertCory wrote:
       | When you're walking around with your dog, or in some other
       | situation where you're not their employer:
       | 
       | Chat with the plumbers (and other tradespeople). Nothing deep or
       | profound. Don't even bring up these work topics unless they do.
       | The weather, the Super Bowl, your dog, what they're doing right
       | now...
       | 
       | I could enumerate the benefits, but let's leave it as "you'll
       | feel better, and so will they." And you'll get a gut feeling
       | about them as people.
        
       | teunispeters wrote:
       | I took a year out and worked as a forklift driver (and general
       | "haul things around") at a warehouse. It was a much-needed
       | "vacation", and the social company was good. The pay was rough
       | though .... ... but the experience awesome.
       | 
       | The fact I told HR (and coworkers) that this was my vacation
       | really helped keep some silly inspiration going, especially as I
       | could keep up with them with everything I needed to do. (I'd also
       | snap to attention, military style, for the HR lead, the only non-
       | military person in management .... got a lot of laughs that way)
       | No I never served, wasn't permitted. I did go through years of
       | cadet training though...
       | 
       | Anyway, went back later to say thank you and complain that my
       | vacation was over. It was a cheerful hello.
       | 
       | The work itself was back-breaking hard but ... it felt good. The
       | only regret about the job itself is I should have done work like
       | that a lot earlier in life (instead of 30s).
        
       | TillE wrote:
       | I enjoy solving problems, and software is an interesting place to
       | be. Learning should be fun, not a miserable chore; I typically
       | have one or two software/hardware hobby projects going in fields
       | totally unrelated to my work, just to solve a little problem, and
       | because it feels really good to expand your knowledge.
       | 
       | There are plenty of crappy boring jobs though (I never want to do
       | typical web dev), so try to find something better if you're stuck
       | there.
        
       | marginalia_nu wrote:
       | I've considered it.
       | 
       | What grates with CS I feel the combination of never being
       | challenged and not doing anything that furthers humanity. If I
       | fix toilets then at least I'd be squandering my resources on
       | something meaningful.
       | 
       | What frustrates me is I know I could do so much more, I could do
       | good things. In the same time period of roughly a year it's taken
       | a team of like 8 people at work (myself included) to develop a
       | prototype for a stupid crud-application that exists entirely
       | because Conway's law doesn't permit team B from talking to team C
       | without going through my team, that has basic MVP-functionality
       | of being able to process some simple requests and change a few
       | fields in a database; in the same number of days I've developed a
       | fully function search engine the scale of late 1990s google in my
       | spare hours.
        
       | JediPig wrote:
       | yes, unfortunately I have golden handcuffs and ever since the
       | great resignation happened, it has gotten worse. I said 4 years,
       | and they said ok, and my payout is very never work again.
        
       | vmception wrote:
       | > I'm a data scientist/software developer and I keep longing for
       | a simpler life.
       | 
       | Reminds me of how Stardew Valley starts off with that premise and
       | within 2 days you are mining for crystals in a dungeon.
        
       | agentultra wrote:
       | I don't think the OP is insane. Sure, the trades are physically
       | demanding and in a lot of cases will pay less than a software
       | developers' salary. But one thing the responses are missing is
       | that simply because you can't physically see the damage done
       | doesn't mean it's not there.
       | 
       | Bad back and shaky hands from years of hard labour? Sure.
       | 
       | How about years of stress and gaslighting? Is chronic depression
       | and learned helplessness any less bad?
       | 
       | "Don't worry buddy, you're getting paid enough to hate yourself
       | and not see the point in living anymore. Just keep at the grind
       | and enjoy your comfy chair and latte."
       | 
       | If you're starting to feel that way I would look into starting
       | therapy first before making big life decisions like that. You
       | might find the root cause of your discomfort and treat the cause
       | rather than run away from it. And if it is the right move for you
       | you will go in with eyes wide open.
        
       | laxatives wrote:
       | A professor of mathematics noticed that his kitchen sink at his
       | home leaked. He called a plumber. The plumber came the next day
       | and sealed a few screws, and everything was working as before.
       | 
       | The professor was delighted. However, when the plumber gave him
       | the bill a minute later, he was shocked.
       | 
       | "This is one-third of my monthly salary!" he yelled.
       | 
       | Well, all the same he paid it and then the plumber said to him,
       | "I understand your position as a professor. Why don't you come to
       | our company and apply for a plumber position? You will earn three
       | times as much as a professor. But remember, when you apply, tell
       | them that you completed only seven elementary classes. They don't
       | like educated people."
       | 
       | So it happened. The professor got a job as a plumber and his life
       | significantly improved. He just had to seal a screw or two
       | occasionally, and his salary went up significantly.
       | 
       | One day, the board of the plumbing company decided that every
       | plumber had to go to evening classes to complete the eighth
       | grade. So, our professor had to go there too. It just happened
       | that the first class was math. The evening teacher, to check
       | students' knowledge, asked for a formula for the area of a
       | circle. The person asked was the professor. He jumped to the
       | board, and then he realized that he had forgotten the formula. He
       | started to reason it, and he filled the white board with
       | integrals, differentials, and other advanced formulas to conclude
       | the result he forgot. As a result, he got "minus pi times r
       | square."
       | 
       | He didn't like the minus, so he started all over again. He got
       | the minus again. No matter how many times he tried, he always got
       | a minus. He was frustrated. He gave the class a frightened look
       | and saw all the plumbers whisper: "Switch the limits of the
       | integral!!"
        
         | bjornsing wrote:
         | In the Swedish version it's a surgeon and a plumber, and it
         | ends after the surgeon gets the bill and complains. The plumber
         | then replies "Yea, that's what I used to make, back when I was
         | a surgeon".
        
         | ant6n wrote:
         | That's a sovjet era joke about professors working as plumbers,
         | because back then blue collar labor was more respected than
         | intellectual endeavors.
        
           | boppo1 wrote:
           | I suspect the US might sorta wind up there in 10-20 years.
           | Low interest rates have subsidized borderline-avant-garde
           | tech jobs a bit too long.
        
         | malshe wrote:
         | Haha never heard this one before!
        
         | jeffrallen wrote:
         | Upvote for LoL.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | praptak wrote:
       | My constant daydream is machining. So far I learned the basics of
       | FreeCAD, watched a shitton of machining videos on YouTube and
       | researched some lathes and mills.
       | 
       | Unfortunately it is a hobby that requires lots of space to keep
       | the machines and tools.
        
         | dv35z wrote:
         | You ought to see if there is a makerspace/hackerspace in your
         | area. I just joined one - it's got a full woodshop, machine
         | shop, CNC router, welding, laser cutter, 3d printers, even an
         | auto bay - so you could work on your car. They do regular
         | classes on the tools. It's been fun coming up with fun ideas
         | and seeing how quickly I can "MVP" them. Most recent project
         | was making an old-timey saloon sign for a friend's birthday.
         | Found some fun pictures on Google Images, traced them as vector
         | shapes, and etched / cut the design into some scrap wood using
         | the CNC laser. It was a lot of fun. Just wandering around the
         | tools watching people - you can come up with new little project
         | ideas. The other great thing is meeting all the tool experts,
         | they're always willing to help out & show some tips.
         | 
         | To those looking to increase your ability to express yourself -
         | this is a very satisfying interest. Making besutiful & helpful
         | stuff for the people in your life is quite interesting ...
         | People tell you their life dreams - when you work on those
         | projects, there is a lot of learning & fun.
         | 
         | And for anyone who's interested in this stuff, a question- what
         | is considered the "GitHub" of makerspace projects, plans, 3d
         | models, stock designs etc? I'm looking for that open-source
         | feel good sharing vibe... "Is there an HN for that"?
        
         | convolvatron wrote:
         | its true. i live in a medium-size american city and you can
         | find a corner in a warehouse if you look hard enough.
         | 
         | i started out trying to build a little mini-shop. that turned
         | out poorly. working with the small tools seems to require alot
         | more expertise and patience than working with the normal-sized
         | toolroom machines.
         | 
         | space aside its pretty much free. old machine tools are great
         | learners and can be had for not much more than scrap price.
         | steel is dirt cheap.
        
         | polishdude20 wrote:
         | What about 3d printing?
        
           | praptak wrote:
           | I got a 3d printer at work. I'm not saying it's worse, just
           | less appealing to me personally.
        
       | ant12345 wrote:
       | I did it. Not being a Plummer. I changed from being a programmer
       | to working in sustainable mobility (railways). Did an MBA in the
       | field, got a job at one of the largest companies in the field,
       | supposedly with a fast track into decision roles. This is my
       | outcome:
       | 
       | * I now work more hours than I did as a programmer
       | 
       | * I have to deal with a lot more bullshit, politics and doing
       | annoying tasks
       | 
       | * In total I lost about 5 years of career, due to education and
       | starting at a lower level in a different field (in North America
       | this may not be so bad, in Europe they have difficulty counting
       | years of experience in other fields)
       | 
       | * I lost 2 years of pay (education), then started work at half
       | what my cs peers make. Since programming pay increased a lot, but
       | mine didn't, I'm now at a third.
       | 
       | * Instead of a (internally) well respected expert feeling near
       | the top of my particular field, I am sort of on the path of
       | getting there
       | 
       | I did it because I didn't want to code for work anymore and
       | actually shape the real world, but it's not exactly been an easy
       | path. It should be considered well before doing it. Ymmv.
        
       | lcvw wrote:
       | The other thing that is wrong about this post, that I haven't
       | seen anyone mention, is that jobs like be a plumber also require
       | constant upskilling to remain competitive. My plumber learned how
       | to install ductless heat pumps, and now that is a huge part of
       | his business. New types of boilers and other systems also require
       | him to get certified. He listens to plumbing/building podcasts,
       | reads different sources, and regularly has to do more training.
       | On top of that he is on a 2-3 person oncall rotation --- where
       | being oncall means being woken in the middle of the night by an
       | outraged or panicking customer, driving to their house, crawling
       | or climbing into whatever hellhole their pipes reside in, and
       | doing a hard, dirty, and sometimes disgusting job.
       | 
       | There is no getting away from updating your skills, or sometimes
       | doing work outside of the 9-5 if you want to stay competitive in
       | ANY profession. Especially if you want the 200k+ comp so easy to
       | get in software.
        
       | drewcoo wrote:
       | I've considered going back to school to learn a real engineering
       | profession. Something where people solve real world problems
       | based on accrued group knowledge instead of faking it til they
       | make it, constantly reinventing themselves and everything else,
       | living the future they want to exist.
       | 
       | But I think I'm too tainted by software to really be any good at
       | any of that.
        
       | amcoastal wrote:
       | Seems like something who has never been a plumber would say. If
       | they love plumbing so much, I bet there's a ton of pipes in their
       | house they could replace, but would rather live in a fantasy
       | world instead where they imagine their job is worse than being a
       | plumber to aid their self victimization.
        
       | hpen wrote:
       | Landscaper -> retail associate -> construction worker -> software
       | developer
       | 
       | Would never go back.
        
       | ramoz wrote:
       | I should've been a cowboy.
        
         | TigeriusKirk wrote:
         | My brother considered doing that in his 20s. A lot of demand
         | where he lives. I was surprised to learn it was still a real
         | job, but of course it is. Someone has to ride the fences and
         | herd the cattle.
        
       | mcbishop wrote:
       | After 15 years doing software development, I started training to
       | be an electrician a month ago (in the Bay Area). The two people I
       | work under are chill / patient.
       | 
       | Sometimes when dragging myself and wire though tight rat-shit
       | crawl spaces... I yearn for my nice little home office. But,
       | overall, I enjoy the work. It feels good to do work in the
       | physical world.
       | 
       | A lot of electricians are nearing retirement. Meanwhile,
       | electrification is picking up steam. The National Electrical Code
       | 2020 is letting distributed / behind-the-meter software do a lot
       | more heavy lifting (e.g. its letting software manage loads so
       | that (expensive, delaying, and grid-taxing) utility service
       | upgrades can be avoided)[1]. There's already big demand for
       | electricians, let alone when EVs (and level-2 EV chargers), solar
       | + batteries, and other flexible loads become mainstream.
       | 
       | My aspiration is to spend one week a month in the field, leading
       | an electrical project (and taking all or most of the profit).
       | With a low-cost lifestyle, I think I'll be able to spend the
       | other three weeks improving processes / tooling around that
       | electrical work. And working on related FOSS and education
       | resources.
       | 
       | 1. https://www.dropbox.com/s/klt1zzc7zxqwrfe/IAEI_Bill-
       | Brooks_2...
        
         | Denzel wrote:
         | Are you still doing software while training to become an
         | electrician?
         | 
         | I'd like to become a licensed electrician. After completing a
         | few successful projects around the house, and studying the 2020
         | NEC inside out, I looked into becoming licensed. The required 4
         | year apprenticeship, before I'm able to take the exam, turned
         | me off. How would I ever be able to satisfy that requirement
         | while keeping my day job. It's like a forced pay cut to become
         | licensed.
         | 
         | What's your arrangement look like?
        
           | mcbishop wrote:
           | I do field work 3-4 days a week. In the other 1-2, I set
           | aside time to do software. Relying on electrical work for
           | income, the pressure is off to monetize the software work.
           | ...This has made it more fun.
           | 
           | Yeah, people learn / master at different rates so it's too
           | bad they require so many hours to qualify for a license. Once
           | you're a journeyperson and have your chops, you could arrange
           | a profit share (or something) under a licensed electrician.
           | ...Where you're pretty much "owning" the project, but they're
           | available to answer questions and review you work. And take
           | liability.
        
             | Denzel wrote:
             | Props to you for designing the life you want and thanks for
             | the reply :) Happy to hear you're having more fun in this
             | arrangement.
        
         | JKCalhoun wrote:
         | Good for you. Once I had a family, I decided I didn't want to
         | rock the boat, kept the comfy(ish) coding job so I could afford
         | to take them to places abroad, pay for their college.
         | 
         | I sensed you could make good money in the Bay Area in any
         | contractor-type field: electrician, plumber, etc. When we
         | needed an electrician it was often hard to find one (and that
         | didn't, for example, only do commercial electrical work).
        
         | chime wrote:
         | Props to you my friend. This is a great way to leverage your
         | past skills and experience, get into a new field, and help
         | improve things at a national level, while getting personal
         | satisfaction. The binary view of 'white collar' vs. 'blue
         | collar' prevents growth. Just like farm work has been
         | modernized and companies like Leaf and FarmLogs are bringing
         | the efficiency of tech/automation to millennia old practices,
         | coders branching into EV, grid-based projects is fantastic!
        
         | [deleted]
        
       | mattlondon wrote:
       | Do people in the US do "work experience"? In the UK it is
       | something <16 year old kids do where you spend a week working a
       | job and is organised by schools.
       | 
       | From what I understand, the placements are almost random, and
       | pretty much tend to all be something pretty tedious. E.g. a
       | postman, working in a bakery, some random office admin/assistant
       | crap, a cinema usher, collecting trolleys/carts at
       | supermarket/grocery stores etc.
       | 
       | I think those were pretty educational in terms of what shit jobs
       | are like.
       | 
       | I am not sure if they are _deliberately_ shit jobs to try and get
       | you to concentrate on studies etc. But they do at least give you
       | a baseline for how depressing and brain-dead many jobs can be
        
       | ramesh31 wrote:
       | I've noticed people in this industry who took the typical high
       | school -> college -> professional job route with no time in their
       | life spent struggling at all or doing manual labor have some kind
       | of weird romantic notion about it. Working manual labor sucks. It
       | destroys your body, forces you to work terrible hours and often
       | in brutal conditions, and pays awful. I spent years of my life
       | being homeless and working menial labor jobs for years before
       | getting into software development. You guys have absolutely no
       | clue how insanely privileged we are. I think about it _every
       | single day_.
        
       | celim307 wrote:
       | As a web dev who glues together api's and json, I'd call myself a
       | plumber. Instead of shit, I shuttle data from the frontend to a
       | database and vise versa.
        
       | tester756 wrote:
       | Software Engineering is probably the most privileged job, so
       | switching to anything else would be not that easy
        
       | Terry_Roll wrote:
       | Its an interesting question, I've done a variety of jobs and
       | watched a variety of trades, some are physically harder than
       | others, some are mentally more demanding. Within a job title, you
       | also get your range of hard and easy jobs.
       | 
       | For example, plastering, when having to plaster a ceiling, the
       | effort would be good for boxing, ie arms above the head dragging
       | the board and plaster over for a whole day does wonders for the
       | shoulders & arms! Walls & surrounds are easier, but you have the
       | usual dust and mixing mess which if an indoor job means some
       | tidying up to do, obviously men dont always like cleaning up and
       | their Henry vacuum cleaners are not a Dyson. Some also do
       | ornamental styles of plastering, but I think this was more
       | popular 100+yrs ago as there were less different jobs around
       | unlike today where new sectors exist like this one. Building regs
       | dictate what you can and cant do as well.
       | 
       | General building, like new houses or extensions, lots more mess
       | indoors and out, more planning involved. Bricklaying, cant be
       | below 3DegC because the mortar wont set, and you can only lay so
       | many rows of bricks in a day otherwise the mortar gets squashed
       | out. Building regs dictate what you can and cant do as well, but
       | many home owners and trades people dont know the regs!
       | 
       | Plumbing, fiddly job, you could be digging up gardens, drives,
       | ripping up floorboards working in tight spaces. Biggest risk is
       | plumbing and central heating leaks damaging carpets, plasterwork,
       | blowing electrics. Building regs & plumbing certification dictate
       | what you can and cant do as well.
       | 
       | Electrical, again a fiddly job like plumbing, most of the
       | products that can be fitted in a house setting already have the
       | regulations built into the product, so its a bit of a no brainer,
       | biggest mistakes come from choosing wrong product like dimming
       | lightswitch which doesnt work with dimmable LED lights, or choose
       | the wrong cable for laying underground. Building regs and
       | electrical certification dictate what you can and cant do as
       | well.
       | 
       | In terms of mental thought processes, local and national govt
       | regulations control what you can and cant do. For example here in
       | the UK, there are next to no regulations for laying driveways and
       | patios so that those not academically qualified, ie cant
       | read/write but maths never seems to be a problem, can still work,
       | even for themselves.
       | 
       | General building, the building regs can be a pain, I ended up
       | spending a week going through the UK combustion appliance regs,
       | spoke to some of the authors and found, to use a software term a
       | number of "unhandled errors" which had to be referred back to the
       | planning authorities for clarification but they wouldnt commit,
       | so I ended up making my own decisions!
       | 
       | Generally the more lethal something becomes the more rules and
       | regulations. Gas & electricity seem to be the most heavily
       | regulated, then plumbing then building. These are in a non
       | commercial setting.
       | 
       | Commercial jobs, like infrastructure, much much more regulations
       | & qualifications required but these are bigger projects like
       | building schools & hospitals, roads, etc etc, and there is a hell
       | of a lot more planning & paperwork with multiple external
       | entities.
       | 
       | Work ethics varies, I've seen some turn up early, like 7am and do
       | 7 hours, others will do dawn till dusk weather permitting.
       | 
       | Quite a variability in price quotes for a job, it can be hard to
       | get stuff written down with trades, dont forget many cant read
       | and write well, but the ideas to do a job can vary from just
       | using expanding foam, to taking a few bricks out and filling
       | holes in walls with bricks & mortar properly, even using the
       | write matching colour mortar.
       | 
       | The quality of workmanship is all over the place even when they
       | may be part of a govt recognised trade body, but I think this is
       | also a way trades get at people to eek out the job or just mess
       | someone over. Its very clique.
       | 
       | Dont get me wrong they can have a strong work ethic just not know
       | how to do something properly and vice versa and somewhere in
       | between.
       | 
       | Fall out with them and they can mess up stuff which you wont know
       | about for years, like leaving flux on copper pipes which slowly
       | develops a pinhole where water drips out and then slowly ruins
       | studwork and plaster work.
       | 
       | Where jobs interfere with other domains like plumbing interfering
       | with electrical jobs, generally they will take a flyer and do the
       | other domain job even when not qualified. Property owners will be
       | put on the spot in these situations and if the owners doesnt know
       | the regs, they can end up with expensive problems if things are
       | not done properly which is madness considering the price of
       | property in the UK and wider world today.
       | 
       | Overall if you want a job where you can do it with out much
       | thought, do a trade job, if you want something more mentally
       | challenging stick in IT, with coding being the most challenging.
        
       | plutonorm wrote:
       | I used to feel like this before I started working from home.
       | Soooooo much less stressful, open plan offices are hell.
       | Commuting is exhausting.
       | 
       | For the first time in my life I feel like I have a sustainable
       | lifestyle that isn't hell to live
        
       | brandonmenc wrote:
       | No.
       | 
       | The work is hard, dirty, and you need to go through a half-decade
       | apprenticeship program before you can even start making the big
       | bucks (which are still nowhere near what a programmer makes.)
       | 
       | And good luck finding someone to take you on as an apprentice.
       | 
       | I remember one of my buddies desperately pounding the pavement to
       | get an on-the-job apprenticeship as either a plumber or
       | electrician. It took him a couple years to find one. 20 years
       | later and he's a successful industrial plumber, but that first
       | decade was a lot of hard work - even before he got his first job.
       | 
       | Also, just about everyone I know who does even a skilled trade
       | for a living has a body full of aches and pains and injuries.
       | That's why the smart guys become foremen or start their own
       | business - but they've all got at least a ten year head start on
       | anyone reading this.
       | 
       | Just keep sitting in your home office cashing giant checks for
       | screwing around on the computer.
        
       | _wldu wrote:
       | Every time I call a plumber it's a least 600 USD. I have learned
       | to do many things myself such as rebuild the innards of toilets,
       | repair broken drain pipes, install sinks and new drain lines, but
       | some things are too much for me (don't have the time, tools or
       | knowledge).
       | 
       | I just had an old 2 inch steel drain pipe descaled ($600) because
       | it was causing the washing machine to backup and overflow. I had
       | had it power cleaned/jetted before (several times) but that did
       | not work. The rust corrosion had constricted the pipe to about
       | 1.25 inches. Descaling seems to have really opened it up.
       | 
       | I used to hate drywall. It would get wet and need replacing after
       | plumbing problems, but I recently came to realize that as messy
       | and time consuming as drywall is to replace, it's a good thing
       | because it allows you to spot water leaks early and absorbs a lot
       | of water. A more water resistant surface would hide the problem
       | and only allow it to grow much bigger before someone noticed it.
       | If you have enough space, drop ceilings are the best thing since
       | sliced bread.
       | 
       | Also, when you are not using your washing machine, turn the water
       | off at the wall. That will prevent a washer water line bursting
       | (while everyone is at work) and ruining an entire room/floor of
       | the house. And when you buy replacement water hoses for your
       | sinks and washing machine, buy the best you can afford and
       | replace them every 3 to 5 years. You'll save yourself a lot of
       | money and trouble by doing this.
       | 
       | If you ever own a house, you'll learn to fear and respect water
       | (and chipmunks) more than anything else.
        
       | fullshark wrote:
       | Of course, grass is greener effect. I will say this urge has been
       | growing now it appears we are past the peak of the web2.0
       | business cycle and the next proposed ones (web3.0 / metaverse /
       | self driving cars) seem less inspiring to me for a multitude of
       | reasons.
        
       | davewritescode wrote:
       | When I was 15 my dad got me a job where he worked, a trucking
       | business where the work was dirty, hard and not well compensated.
       | Moving equipment and large Diesel engine parts was incredibly
       | tough. I made more money than I would have working in retail.
       | 
       | At the time my parents were worried that I was getting paid
       | enough doing that kind of work that I might consider not going to
       | college. If anything it solidified my view that college was my
       | only option.
       | 
       | I do occasionally miss working with my hands but I'm thankful for
       | what I have now as a software engineer. I've never seen anyone
       | get sprayed in the face with hot coolant or hurt their back
       | sitting at a desk programming. I don't have to worry about
       | punishing my body for 30 years.
       | 
       | White collar work can be exhausting, unfulfilling and stressful
       | but it has to be put into perspective.
        
       | RoboRy wrote:
       | As someone who left carpentry and bartending to become a
       | programmer, I must say, respectfully, many of you have no clue
       | how good we have it.
        
       | lettergram wrote:
       | There's a lot between leaving your high paying comfy job and
       | working full time cutting trees or something.
       | 
       | One of my former co-workers left to become a lumberjack. I don't
       | blame them, I spend a day or two cutting trees on my property and
       | it's enjoyable. That said, you won't make six figures doing that.
       | 
       | Without fail, the people I see making complaints (1) lack a
       | family with kids and / or (2) don't own a home / property.
       | 
       | We're very much predisposed to having a family and having
       | something to build (physically). If people feel this way, try a
       | decent sized garden (150+ square feet). Or build some furniture.
       | It'll be fulfilling and you'll learn to love your job lol
        
       | ggcdn wrote:
       | Well, I guess I should rethink my constant urge to leave
       | structural engineering and become a software developer.
       | 
       | "The grass is greener..." fallacy seems to be prevalent in most
       | people. It becomes most intense when encountering obstacles,
       | frustrations, boredom, and stress in the current situation, which
       | makes sense I suppose. And it's so easy to gloss over all the
       | privileges that come with the current situation. When I was broke
       | and busting my ass in university, I couldn't wait to start my
       | coop jobs. Then half way through coop, I couldn't wait to get
       | back to class. Now I have the luxury of living a comfortable life
       | and there are no abrupt changes unless I decide to implement
       | them. Yet the dissatisfaction creeps in...
        
       | satisfice wrote:
       | I'm a lumberjack and I'm okay I sleep all night and I work all
       | day
        
       | burnt_toast wrote:
       | I left software shortly after college to start an auto detailer
       | business due to not liking the job. 3 years later, I'm back in
       | software and couldn't be happier.
       | 
       | Sometimes you can't appreciate the good aspects until you're
       | missing them.
        
       | christkv wrote:
       | Gardner for me. Fresh air everyday and making things grow.
        
       | nilkn wrote:
       | In the FIRE community, this kind of topic often comes up. Are
       | there any enjoyable full-time or part-time jobs to do in semi-
       | retirement?
       | 
       | Invariably, the conclusion is that low-wage or part-time jobs
       | almost always come with enough baggage to outweigh any perceived
       | benefits as a semi-retirement gig. A job is a job -- anything
       | that produces a consistent income is going to involve dealing
       | with unreasonable people or expectations or situations. [0] The
       | most efficient path is to get into the most lucrative role
       | possible early on and simply do that until you don't need to work
       | at all anymore.
       | 
       | If you like carpentry or machining or driving around or
       | landscaping or gardening, you're going to enjoy these activities
       | a LOT more if you're doing them on your own terms in proper
       | retirement for your own satisfaction. As soon as someone else is
       | paying you to deliver these types of services for their benefit
       | and not yours, you're in the same situation you're in as a
       | software engineer, just with far less income and thus less
       | potential to ever truly retire.
       | 
       | [0] I'm sure some "unicorn" jobs do exist. So I'm speaking in
       | generalities here. There probably do exist some gigs out there
       | that are genuinely great for semi-retirement; they're just going
       | to be surprisingly difficult to find, they may not be stable over
       | a long period of time (decades), and it may not be possible to
       | find one for yourself.
        
         | jeffrallen wrote:
         | I worked as a volunteer in a food pantry's warehouse for a
         | while when I was "early retired", and it was great. Satisfying
         | real work with real outcomes that were visible ("pallet is
         | restacked", check!), in the service of a mission I believed in.
        
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       | ykevinator2 wrote:
       | "data scientist" when is that thing gonna die, it's so self
       | elevating. I'm a hamburger scientist, I make hamburgers.
        
       | mkl95 wrote:
       | I feel a relatively frequent urge to run away from my stressful
       | job and spend some time working on passion projects. After a
       | while I remember the industry has made me a relatively privileged
       | citizen, that I never expected to be making so much money at my
       | age, etc. Tech has a way of trapping you in if your work ethic is
       | remotely decent and you are not wealthy.
        
       | mattlondon wrote:
       | This is why I like frontend development - you get to _see_ the
       | results of your work.
       | 
       | It's satisfying to start with a blank screen or perhaps a times
       | new roman mess, and leave it as something that looks great and
       | works well.
       | 
       | Backend development can sometimes be a tedious death march where
       | all you get at the end of the day/week/sprint is not-an-error or
       | perhaps just wiring up RPCs, or maybe if you are _very lucky_
       | upgrading to a new point-release of a library with no other
       | visible changes. Don 't get me wrong, refactoring and fixing
       | backend bugs can be satisfying, but I often find it is not as
       | genuinely enjoyable as being able to actually _see_ the results
       | of your work.
        
         | thex10 wrote:
         | This is me. And honestly, as a full stack web dev who skews
         | front-end, I've never felt this strong urge mentioned in TFA.
        
       | cablexl wrote:
       | This is just anti-work sentiment, nothing more.
        
       | simpsond wrote:
       | One summer in college I worked with my Dad as a timber faller. I
       | had the luxury of getting paid for writing software before that
       | (being paid to learn). On one hand I enjoyed the work... I was
       | outside, getting great exercise, and I gained a ton of respect
       | for my father. But by the end of the summer, it became pretty
       | repetitive, extremely hot, and I was physically exhausted every
       | day. Nearly 20 years later, when I feel like I am burning out for
       | whatever reason, I reflect on that one summer and ground myself a
       | bit. I have it really good. I'm extremely fortunate to have found
       | interest in this world at a young age, and even more lucky to
       | have hard working parents that supported my interest.
        
       | philip1209 wrote:
       | I've been thinking recently on the concept of "deadlines" in
       | development teams, alongside roadmaps and deadlines. I wish teams
       | asked each day "What's the most impactful thing I can do for the
       | business _today_ ", and focused on that.
       | 
       | Constantly acting under time-constraints removes the creativity
       | from building. And, focusing on short-term productive gains comes
       | at the expense of long-term fundamental progress.
        
       | rdiddly wrote:
       | It's unclear whether that post is based on multiple similar job
       | experiences, or just the single job they're currently in. But the
       | last time I felt like that person (constantly considering what
       | else to do instead) it was actually just the one job (and
       | specifically that manager), not the career.
        
       | mgarfias wrote:
       | Not a plumber, but if I could earn this kind of income building
       | fun cars I'd do it yesterday.
        
       | MisterBastahrd wrote:
       | And increase my social surface area for interacting with entitled
       | and stupid people while literally having to deal with their shit?
       | 
       | Nah, I'm good.
        
       | renewiltord wrote:
       | Never even thought about it. The constraint solving is what I
       | find interesting. I revel in being able to adapt as the
       | circumstances change.
       | 
       | Sometimes, I even tire of writing the code once I know how to
       | solve the problem. But you sort of have to do that to get the
       | next problem.
        
       | jeffrallen wrote:
       | No, but I left the field once to be a humanitarian aid
       | logistician, and another two times to be a dad at home. Both were
       | more useful and fulfilling, but paid less.
        
       | dghughes wrote:
       | I'm getting more into home repair since my Dad died I help my mom
       | with the house I don't own a house. Really I think it's
       | interesting and could do it as a job. My Dad was a blue collar
       | worker who did almost everything.
       | 
       | I combined the two and I am making a 3D CAD of the family house.
       | I'm learning a lot about foundations, sill plates, rim boards,
       | insulation, sheathing, plumbing. electrical etc.
       | 
       | FYI Matt Risinger has a great channel on YouTube for general home
       | building science. And I watch fellow Canadian Got2Learn on
       | YouTube for plumbing.
        
       | jliptzin wrote:
       | The grass is always greener on the other side unless, of course,
       | you're a member of the idle rich
        
       | maxbaines wrote:
       | Why a plumber? If as I suspect it's an example of a simpler
       | trade, I would suggest you read up on the skills, problems and
       | challenges required to be a plumber. It ain't easy.
        
       | lifeplusplus wrote:
       | I think what we really miss agency to build what we want and how
       | we want, instead of scrum master wanting to credit us for our
       | work
        
       | sodapopcan wrote:
       | At an old job, we were next to a window that looked out onto a
       | crossing guard who was there most of the day. We used to say,
       | "That's it, I'm becoming a crossing guard," when work got tough.
       | But ya, I agree, I wouldn't pick anything over tech, no matter
       | how rough it gets.
       | 
       | In terms of "constantly staying up to date", that's a large
       | reason I moved to a tech stack with less moving parts and slower-
       | moving major change. It helps a little.
        
         | MrAbstract wrote:
         | > I moved to a tech stack with less moving parts and slower-
         | moving major change.
         | 
         | Could you please share what tech stack is this? Frankly
         | speaking, I also consider finding something more stable and
         | slow-paced as a continuation of my software career at this
         | point.
        
           | sodapopcan wrote:
           | Elixir. It's a bit hard to find jobs that actually use
           | LiveView (which would relatively shield you from the world of
           | NPM) but they're out there and pay pretty well. It isn't a
           | silver bullet and not without its problems, but I'm
           | incredibly happy with it.
        
       | protomyth wrote:
       | Well, no since I deal with enough virtual crap all day, and don't
       | really have any desire to deal with the real thing. Plus, plumber
       | does require an apprenticeship in the US.
       | 
       | I, on the other hand, have thought about buying quite a bit of
       | carpentry equipment when I am done with IT. These new CNC
       | machines are amazingly programmable and just the thought of
       | actually building custom furniture excites me.
       | 
       | I did grow up in an era and place where I learned electrical and
       | carpentry ("ok students, in order to have the photography class
       | we need to build a dark room"). So, I do know a bit about basic
       | techniques, but would probably take some classes to refresh my
       | knowledge and learn the "right way".
        
       | klyrs wrote:
       | No. Plumbing is gross and wet. Carpentry, on the other hand...
        
         | tartoran wrote:
         | Plumbing is gross and wet but you clearly know where the
         | bullshit is from the beginning. In software it is creeping from
         | everywhere, changing patterns every coouple of years as well. I
         | probably wouldn't want to be a real plumber but I hear the
         | people who would. And I definitely get the urge to find
         | something else but generally trading off for something else is
         | problematic as well and generally comes with its own type of
         | bullshit.
        
           | aldebran wrote:
           | Thank you for the morning laugh. And yes, I do agree.
        
           | xeromal wrote:
           | You can't catch ecoli from software at least though
        
             | ClumsyPilot wrote:
             | Joint and back issues?
        
               | grumple wrote:
               | You get those from coding too. Sitting in a chair all day
               | wrecks your neck and back, mouse and keyboard use causes
               | carpal tunnel as well. Standing still instead of sitting
               | causes other issues. You have to move around, not remain
               | fixed. There's a balance somewhere between being a dev
               | and being a plumber.
        
               | lokalfarm wrote:
               | If your idea of physical abuse is carpal tunnel from
               | using a mouse + keyboard, don't go into the trades.
               | Seriously. Go to Home Depot, buy a stick of 1" copper
               | pipe, a Ridgid (wheel) pipe cutter, and some sandpaper.
               | Now go to your backyard, in the cold, kneel on some
               | bricks/concrete, and spend 30 minutes cutting off little
               | portions of the copper stick, and then clean the ends
               | with sandpaper. For bonus points, consider reaming the
               | insides too.
               | 
               | Now tell me how your wrists and hands are feeling. How
               | about your knees? Imagine that everyday, plus an array of
               | powertools such as impact drivers + drills, rotary
               | hammers, sawzalls, band saws, and crimping tools that can
               | weigh 20+ lbs.
               | 
               | That mouse & keyboard will start to look very, very
               | comfortable.
        
               | Apocryphon wrote:
               | Truth be told people itt are talking about "trades" when
               | the ideal physical profession for them is probably
               | something like building boutique artisanal furniture or
               | glassware for wealthy clients. A comfortable middle
               | ground between office work and construction.
        
         | verisimi wrote:
         | I reckon both these jobs plus general building work, are much
         | better than working on computers. We have bodies and _need_
         | physicality in our work, not just theory.
         | 
         | Those sort of trades do present problems like coding does -
         | your brain is still engaged (a bit). However, I think you are
         | also adding/improving people's lives.
         | 
         | Fix someone's dirty toilet? That is clearly a good thing. I
         | can't think of one thing in my computing career that has been
         | as positive..
        
           | lokalfarm wrote:
           | This is a very shallow view of what it means to be working as
           | a plumber...
           | 
           | As someone who spent a couple years doing commercial
           | plumbing:
           | 
           | 1) You are lifting very heavy 10-20ft long sticks of cast
           | iron pipe, often 10+ ft in the air. There is technology to
           | aid with this (scissor lifts) but it is brutal work.
           | 
           | 2) You spend a lot of time in the air - on ladders or lifts -
           | often overhanging the edges. You are constantly drilling
           | hangers in the ceiling, breathing in dust that will ruin your
           | lungs permanently. And again, you are also fitting cast iron
           | pipes in this environment. You will feel the sway and it's
           | pretty easy to hurt yourself. OSHA is a joke. I've been
           | caught in the middle of a huge storm, since the foreman
           | didn't want to let us off early, and we had to run down 8
           | stories of scaffolding while heavy material is being thrown
           | around like ragdolls.
           | 
           | 3) People on job sites generally don't give a @$%^. Toxic
           | fumes? Check. Concrete/cement dust? Check. Crazy welders that
           | don't care that they can potentially ruin your eyesight?
           | Check.
           | 
           | 4) Your company will track you with apps, often not pay you
           | until you arrive on the jobsite, but you still need to be at
           | the shop @ 6AM to help load materials. Unpaid.
           | 
           | 5) Depending on where you live, you can expect to listen to
           | nothing but conservative talk radio on that morning ride.
           | I've worked with people from all paths, so this didn't really
           | bother me, but something to consider if you have spent most
           | of your life doing white-collar work. You can expect to be
           | around some hateful ignorance.
           | 
           | 6) If you're not doing new construction, you can expect to be
           | in the ceiling, crawling among ducts, trying not to fall
           | through. This is generally with copper pipes, which is
           | another ball game as far as cutting, soldering/brazing, or
           | crimping. Otherwise, you are often trying to do this standing
           | on a 12ft ladder.
           | 
           | Commercial plumbing pays better than residential (fixing a
           | dirty toilet) and is often in more demand. It is also a
           | pretty good way to wreck your body. Most of the older/senior
           | plumbers that I worked with spent their time trying to do as
           | little work as possible, and were drunk after lunch.
           | Addictions are very common.
           | 
           | IME, people who often are shouting "get in the trades!" are
           | the exact people who have never once worked in one (or they
           | own a business in it). It ain't all that.
        
             | verisimi wrote:
             | I hear you. Sorry you think its a shallow view! but I thank
             | you for your thoughts. I have done some plumbing of my own
             | - I can personally verify that I never felt comfortable -
             | always contorted!
             | 
             | Managers/foremen etc are asses the world over. I was really
             | addressing the work. And I thought I picked a pretty
             | unpleasant example in dirty toilets!
             | 
             | I contrast the work you do with work I have done. I was
             | making a moral point.
             | 
             | I have worked in financial and other institutions. I really
             | see no value in what I have contributed. If I achieved
             | something, its that the shareholders of those institutions
             | were happier in being able to squeeze a bit more life-force
             | for themselves from others. I helped the fat cats get a
             | little fatter.
             | 
             | BTW - I think you wreck your body sitting in front of a
             | machine all day. I accept that coding is not as overtly
             | dangerous though!
        
               | lokalfarm wrote:
               | > I helped the fat cats get a little fatter.
               | 
               | I think that is just the way of the world, especially in
               | America. Even though I have worked in fields that produce
               | a more "tangible" product, I can't say that I have
               | contributed or helped much of anything. And now I'm in my
               | 30s without an education and I only have experience doing
               | things that I never want to do again.
               | 
               | Bosses are always terrible, but it's a little different
               | when your life is literally at stake. I've had "old
               | school" foremen who want to sit and call you a pu$$y
               | because you don't want to stand (without a harness) on a
               | flimsy piece of wood over a six story shaft, cutting and
               | then brazing 8" copper pipe. It's also harder when you
               | don't have dedicated recruiting networks and the ability
               | to WFH like many do in tech/SWE.
               | 
               | (Just my perspective! I appreciate the discussion.)
        
               | verisimi wrote:
               | I for one fancy doing something totally different -
               | producing some of my own food, in a more natural
               | environment. No deferred joy - more immediacy, living
               | closer to nature, etc. Your user name makes me wonder if
               | you would find that more fulfilling too? :)
        
               | lokalfarm wrote:
               | Have you considered taking some time off and going
               | WWOOFing? It can be a fun experience.
               | 
               | Personally, I believe that knowing how to navigate this
               | (increasingly) digital world is an essential skill. I'm
               | enjoying trying to build foundational knowledge about
               | computing & networking for these reasons - and I also
               | just feel like there is _so much_ to learn, and that is
               | both exciting and overwhelming at times. I have some
               | negative views towards the way technology has trended in
               | the last decade or two (bordering on tin-foil hat
               | territory :P) but I think that is all the more reason to
               | understand it.
               | 
               | I don't have any interest in pursuing SWE, esp. for
               | financial reasons. But I am enjoying learning about
               | programming. I'd be happy if I could hack on things at
               | home & contribute to some OSS projects. I'm hoping to
               | land a junior position at a NOC in a year or so, but who
               | knows? I've given up on the idea of any career giving my
               | life meaning or purpose, so I'd be happy with an
               | education + skillset that makes me employable, especially
               | with remote opportunities. Not having to destroy my body
               | is a bonus!
        
         | kurthr wrote:
         | Carpentry is brutal and pays badly... but I agree, poop is
         | gross. Electrician, on the other hand?
        
           | Ekaros wrote:
           | Similar physical demands to plumbing. The proper cables are
           | not light. Installation is still pain and involves hard to
           | reach places. And fun stuff like crawling in crawl spaces
           | sometimes etc.
           | 
           | I suppose telco might be most reasonable. Or if pay isn't
           | important electronics. And even there is problems.
        
           | klyrs wrote:
           | Honestly, it isn't even the poop. I do my own sink faucets
           | and whatnot, and hate every minute of it. I wouldn't survive
           | framing, but making fancy furniture has some appeal. But
           | then... finishing is also gross and wet. And sticky.
           | 
           | On the other hand: about once every 3 years, I shut my
           | computer down and get the dust out. I even hate that. The
           | only nasty wet messes I don't mind dealing with come from my
           | child or the refrigerator. All else, I'm happy to pay
           | somebody else.
        
           | h2odragon wrote:
           | > Electrician, on the other hand?
           | 
           | Still involves a surprising amount of carpentry. And finding
           | where the hell the wires were run in other people's "wtf were
           | these fools thinking?" grade framing. and other fun stuff.
        
       | mrweasel wrote:
       | Not a plumper, but I noticed a guy driving around washing self-
       | service gas stations. Might not be that great during the winter.
       | 
       | More realistic: I often look at "IT guy" wanted job postings, or
       | "programmer wanted" from companies that shouldn't need a
       | programmer. One I regret not applying for was a programmer for an
       | auto-parts company.
        
       | malshe wrote:
       | OT but still tangentially relevant - In the cold wave a couple of
       | weeks ago in Texas, our pipes froze and the tap on the outside of
       | the house burst. We were not sure about the extent of the damage
       | so we called a plumber. He charged a cool $350 to simply replace
       | the tap. Took all of 15 minutes.
        
         | RHSeeger wrote:
         | > We were not sure about the extent of the damage
         | 
         | > He charged a cool $350 to simply replace the tap
         | 
         | No, he charged you $350 for his knowledge that replacing the
         | tap was the right solution in this case. If all you had to do
         | was replace the tap, you could have done that yourself and
         | saved a bunch of money. But you didn't know that was all that
         | needed to be done; he did. You paid for his knowledge, not
         | simply the act of replacing the tap.
         | 
         | See also: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/know-where-man/
        
           | malshe wrote:
           | I've seen this argument a lot. It's was just changing a tap.
           | I don't have to pay $350 to just someone look at it and tell
           | me your don't have any damage.
        
             | gwern wrote:
             | You just wrote, "We were not sure about the extent of the
             | damage". So yes, you did need to pay someone that.
        
       | throwaway1966 wrote:
       | I've decided that I will soon be done with tech after 35 years. I
       | find the tech industry exhausting and disappointing. It is really
       | hasn't gotten any better than it was when I started and in some
       | significant ways it is worse. The whole practice of software
       | needs [citation needed] and [condemned by the board of health]
       | notices slapped on it. Ignorance reigns and there is new
       | ignorance every day lest anyone ever learn anything.
       | Cliquishness, fetishism and cargo culting are rampant and that is
       | not even commenting on the fringes like cryptocurrency. The
       | scabrous larcenous fucks who want to take over the internet with
       | "web3" might likely succeed because the investor class is filled
       | with rapacious sociopaths and grifters who will happily ally
       | themselves for another quick buck.
       | 
       | It is all shit and it is not fun any more.
       | 
       | Having spent several summers working manual labour and others
       | spent working as a school janitor I certainly don't long for
       | those jobs. I will probably spend my time on personal health and
       | volunteering including tutoring. I will presumably continue to
       | write software for my own enjoyment but I am indifferent about
       | even participating in open source as it has become, too often, a
       | cudgel used by one company or faction against another rather than
       | a societal good.
        
       | hickimsedenolan wrote:
       | In contrast with everyone in this thread, I absolutely love being
       | up to date with the current and the bleeding edge techstack,
       | because I love programming.
       | 
       | I chose to be a SE because I knew I'd have fun doing so, and I
       | advise the younger generations to have a similar approach.
        
       | tamaharbor wrote:
       | My friend was a plumber for the NYC Housing Authority. He retired
       | at 41 (after working 20 years) with a 1.5x full pension.
        
       | aaron695 wrote:
        
       | Doctor_Fegg wrote:
       | If you do, can you come and fix my boiler please?
        
       | civilized wrote:
       | Very enjoyable comments here, no sarcasm intended. "Other jobs
       | are even worse". In my experience, yeah, they are.
       | 
       | Personally as a data scientist I might as well be described as a
       | digital plumber.
       | 
       | I wouldn't mind a real dirty job, but physical dexterity isn't my
       | strong suit.
        
       | _joel wrote:
       | The grass is always greener. I have friends who work in trades
       | and they constantly say how I have it easy for being able to work
       | from home and not exert myself too much physially. On the other
       | hand it'd be nice not to have meetings, deadlines and operational
       | work (at least I don't have to do on call anymore) and constantly
       | try to keep up with the times skillwise (which tbf I find really
       | fun, but still). I'm quite happy though. Remote work has
       | definitely made a massive difference, for me, in that respect.
        
       | ryandvm wrote:
       | Sure, you hate your boring, safe, lucrative job in software
       | development until you become a plumber and find yourself on your
       | hands and knees beside a disassembled toilet for the 87th time.
       | Splattered in fetid wastewater, pulling stuck condoms out of the
       | floor while the idiot renter stands above you dragging on his
       | Juul, and you realize, maybe I didn't have it so bad after all.
       | 
       | The "grass is always greener" is probably the most repeated
       | aphorism for a reason.
        
         | hodgesrm wrote:
         | Somebody _really_ needed to write this comment. The HN
         | community thanks you.
        
         | firstplacelast wrote:
         | So I get it, but also people are way overhyping software
         | development in this thread (which is expected on a tech
         | website). The only thing going for it is an insane salary and
         | lots of us don't have those.
         | 
         | I've worked in biotech/healthcare and have never had anything
         | close to a FAANG salary even in a HCOL area. I burned out and
         | am just now taking a month off to just exist. I have had the
         | same thoughts about going blue-collar as the OP, but taking a
         | month to figure out if it's just general burn out or if I need
         | a career change.
         | 
         | I've been working since I was very young and have had all sorts
         | of jobs: door-to-door sales, lifeguard, retail, waiting tables,
         | property maintenance, cleaning homes from flood/fire damage,
         | and on and on. I loved a lot of those jobs, though I didn't do
         | any for more than 2.5 years (or even just a summer).
         | 
         | I don't know if it was the pandemic or what, but never been so
         | miserable at a job in my life and can't imagine staring at a
         | computer 40+ hours/week right now. I was literally staring into
         | the Taco Bell drive-through window 6 weeks ago thinking I'd
         | rather be working there and learn how to make a quesadilla in
         | 1min than sit at a desk, which was the last straw for me.
         | 
         | Plus with software it's all about the skills. So if I drop out
         | for awhile and decide to get back in a few years later, I
         | should be fine after a couple months of self-study.
        
           | TheCoelacanth wrote:
           | Software development has a lot more going for it than just
           | high salaries. You have a enormous amount of bargaining power
           | and ability to be picky about working conditions.
        
             | lordnacho wrote:
             | Aren't those all the same thing?
        
             | Apocryphon wrote:
             | People always say this to claim that software engineers
             | don't need to organize, but consider a very banal but
             | ubiquitous example pre-pandemic: if open offices are so
             | universally despised, why was it used everywhere in tech?
             | And why was remote work so rare in the industry despite
             | worker demand for it?
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | pessimizer wrote:
         | I feel like a lot of replies like this assume that everybody is
         | an upper-middle class white kid who hasn't had to shovel shit
         | before. I've had a lot of much worse jobs than being a
         | mechanic; jobs where I looked up from what I was doing when the
         | mechanic walked in _with unbelievable jealousy._
         | 
         | I'm counting the days until CoPilot suddenly turns a bunch of
         | John Galts into Ragged-Trousered Philanthropists, but an
         | additional effect is that a lot of people are going to notice
         | that most programmers are at exactly the same professional
         | level as other tradespeople, the difference is that since we're
         | riding a wave of financial scams and deregulation that require
         | the internet and cellphone apps as part of the grift, we're
         | showered with cash. There will be a oversupply of programmers
         | that plumbers will be laughing at.
        
           | sjg007 wrote:
           | Honestly same for most doctors too. They are just human body
           | mechanics.
        
             | [deleted]
        
             | taxcoder wrote:
             | And they only have two models to work on.
        
             | rightbyte wrote:
             | On the other hand being a mechanic is a very high skill
             | trade.
        
       | JoeAltmaier wrote:
       | One friend quit (VP Eng, startup) and runs a Falafel joint.
       | Another (Fortune 500 VP) a chocolate shop.
       | 
       | A PhD in Philosophy I know was a lifelong carpenter.
        
       | zeckalpha wrote:
       | As someone who had an air gap spewing all over their kitchen
       | yesterday... no
        
       | Vanderson wrote:
       | Yes, I have planned to become a carpenter or some other
       | profession many times.
       | 
       | But, I have been blessed/lucky to be a one man show for many
       | years and I had to stick with one tech stack and my learning only
       | added not shifted out from under me. So when I made massive
       | changes it was on my own terms.
       | 
       | The cost is mentally going against the trends/grain in the
       | industry. My LAMP stack is now back in style, and I am grateful I
       | never dumped it for something trendy.
        
         | waynesonfire wrote:
         | that is awesome. These are the types of dividends that I strive
         | for. Well done.
        
       | jedberg wrote:
       | This last summer/fall really put things in perspective for me. We
       | did a major outdoor renovation at our house, which involved
       | landscapers, plumbers, electricians, and carpenters.
       | 
       | Every day these guys would show up at 8am and long sleeves and
       | jeans and hard hats, work super hard, pee in a port-a-potty, and
       | be exhausted by the end of the day. They worked out in the 100
       | degree heat as well as the rain as the job got near the end.
       | Luckily the bosses were pretty cool and provided them with decent
       | food for lunch and plenty of drinks (but I still offered them
       | food and drinks too).
       | 
       | I on the other hand was working at my desk in my air conditioned
       | house in comfortable clothes. A few times a day I'd put on my
       | flip-flops and wander around outside to check on their work, ask
       | a few questions, and then head back in when it got too hot.
       | 
       | And a couple of times the plumbing sprung a leak just as they
       | were getting ready to leave, despite their best efforts to get
       | all the risky work done early, and they they had to stay super
       | late. Once the plumber was here till midnight after arriving at
       | 8am.
       | 
       | I used to have thoughts about how it would be nice to have a job
       | with totally spelled out requirements that end at 5pm and then
       | you have the rest of the day off. But no more. I'd much rather
       | work at my comfy desk inside and deal with the occasional call at
       | 9pm on a Saturday than deal with what they all went through.
        
         | gfxgirl wrote:
         | OTOH I have a friend who switched from programming to air
         | conditioner repair and is much much happier. they say the
         | number one reason is when they stop for the day the job is
         | over. They don't have their brain running over how they're
         | going to solve/continue/finish the current task at their job
        
         | jseban wrote:
         | Yeah but even if it seems more comfortable to sit at a desk,
         | it's much worse for your health, and also will make you feel
         | worse already at the end of the day, so as a desk worker you're
         | basically required to spend another hour after work every day
         | exercising to make up for that. While the people doing the
         | landscaping already got their exercise and fresh air.
        
           | throwaway675309 wrote:
           | Did you stop to think before typing this comment or do you
           | just fade in and out?
           | 
           | There's no requirement to sit at a desk, you can use a
           | standing desk or in my case I actually use a treadmill at
           | varying heights inclines and speeds while typing in a
           | computer using an economic keyboard.
           | 
           | I did some landscaping work during summers while in
           | university and it can be absolute hell on your joints - now
           | stack that 40 hours a week for _years_.
           | 
           | Yeah... have fun with that.
        
           | Karrot_Kream wrote:
           | Huh? Tell me that when you're painting the underside of a
           | desk for 5 coats on a concrete shop floor and you don't have
           | the clearance to sit up. Try installing a toilet when you
           | have just enough crawl space next to the water inlet line to
           | fit 3 handspans. Try sitting in the bed of a truck in the
           | summer heat making sure that your ratchets are tied properly.
           | As someone who grew up in a blue collar area, RSI is
           | extremely common. Tennis elbow, worn knees, hip problems,
           | back issues. That kind of hard labor is easy until your mid
           | 20s and then turns more into a liability than exercise. You
           | can always run on a treadmill to lose weight, but no amount
           | of running will repair your knee.
        
           | oneoff786 wrote:
           | Definitely not wearing out their back and knees
        
         | lta wrote:
         | Yet, in the deep country side if France, I regularly see former
         | engineer, or business school guys selling fruits at the market,
         | opening restaurants or cafe, repairing old bikes in a workshop,
         | etc. I don't think it's condescending, I just think it's an
         | actual thing.
         | 
         | A friend of nice from school stopped coding to open a brewery
         | and I'm regularly considering starting a street food thing.
         | Even started to get some of the gears sand the
         | certifications...
        
           | all2 wrote:
           | My "retirement plan" is a book store/coffee shop. I don't
           | want to code professionally forever.
        
         | JKCalhoun wrote:
         | Your contractor, on the other hand, may well have got a few
         | rounds of golf in during the day time.
         | 
         | A neighbor owns a painting company. He goes around the various
         | job sites in the morning, sees that everyone has their marching
         | orders for the day, returns in the afternoon to check in on the
         | progress. In between the morning and afternoon though? He does
         | what he pleases.
         | 
         | I believe he started the company with a buddy, the two of them
         | doing the painting. Things grow though, you hire guys, your
         | role changes (and your income too).
        
           | TheCoelacanth wrote:
           | Well, yes, owning things is definitely the best job,
           | regardless of what industry you're in. It's not the typical
           | path for any job, though.
        
             | JKCalhoun wrote:
             | I know, but I think for most people in this thread, there
             | is an upward path for that.
             | 
             | I often wonder why the other painters working for him don't
             | go off and start their own painting companies. Perhaps a
             | few will. But I suspect many of them would not enjoy or be
             | comfortable with spread sheets, business taxes, work
             | insurance and some of the other things that go along with
             | owning the company.
             | 
             | I suspect my neighbor, like many of us, fond those things
             | to be fairly un-intimidating and so he owns.
        
               | redisman wrote:
               | But then you're a business owner and a manager. It's
               | mostly not golf. As I'm sure anyone who has had a
               | business here already knows very well.
        
               | maccard wrote:
               | > I often wonder why the other painters working for him
               | don't go off and start their own painting companies
               | 
               | I've got a very good friend who worked as a painter, did
               | the 8-3 5 days a week gig for probably 8 years or so. He
               | had no interest in running a business, managing clients,
               | dealing with costing, estimates, etc. He just wanted to
               | show up, paint and leave at 3.
               | 
               | > and some of the other things that go along with owning
               | the company.
               | 
               | One of the big differences is what happens if there's no
               | work, or if someone stiffs you or if the work required is
               | substantially more than the estimate? In all three of
               | those cases a business owner is in trouble, but the
               | painter doesn't care.
        
               | sjg007 wrote:
               | Same thing for software engineers and companies.
        
             | indymike wrote:
             | > Well, yes, owning things is definitely the best job,
             | regardless of what industry you're in.
             | 
             | Unpopular opinion: being an owner is hard. You think it's
             | easy until $80k doesn't come in on time and you have to
             | make payroll by mortgaging your house, or you have to wake
             | up at 2 am because a developer got arrested by INS (even
             | though they were a US citizen), or you have to deal with a
             | $150K medical bill that your insurance wouldn't cover...
             | etc... Or an employee tries to make a copy of your code and
             | launch a competing business...
             | 
             | Life is hard.
        
               | taxcoder wrote:
               | I wish I remembered where I read this: "The definition of
               | business is problems. The people who are the most
               | successful are the ones who have the most fun solving
               | them."
        
               | hgomersall wrote:
               | Ownership != Control. Most outright owners are in
               | control, but it doesn't necessarily follow. I mean, if
               | you're not in control, you still have to rely on those
               | that are not to mess it up, and there may come a time
               | when you have to do the dirty work to make sure they
               | don't.
        
           | maccard wrote:
           | I can own a software company and go play golf every afternoon
           | while my employees write the code.
        
           | el_benhameen wrote:
           | Depends, but I wouldn't bet on it. My dad owned a small
           | contracting company, and while he took the odd afternoon off
           | to take me to a movie or cool off when it got too hot, that
           | was more than made up for by Saturday morning client
           | meetings, after work lumber runs, and tons of behind the
           | scenes planning. And even if you do make it to the point
           | where contracting becomes "cushy" job, you've very likely
           | destroyed your body while working to get there. I've
           | occasionally dreamt of restarting his business and growing
           | it, but then I spend an afternoon with him fixing a plumbing
           | issue or doing drywall and I remember how good I've got it.
        
           | ReactiveJelly wrote:
           | I don't really want to be a manager, though. I want to be
           | retired.
        
             | bruce343434 wrote:
             | Don't we all?
        
               | maccard wrote:
               | Nope. Some of us are perfectly happy doing what we're
               | doing, and to continue with a balance of work and not
               | work for a long long time.
        
               | techsupporter wrote:
               | I'm exactly in this position, yet when I said in another
               | thread that I was quite content with my salary that's
               | mid-tier for Seattle (but fantastically wealthy in a lot
               | of the rest of the country), at a company that's all but
               | certain to be around for at least the rest of my working
               | lifetime, doing work to enable that company to do work
               | that I consider useful (we're a medical practice group),
               | and had no plans to change, I got incredulous replies.
               | 
               | One of the things I legitimately struggle to understand
               | about other people is the willingness to exchange an
               | irreplaceable thing, time, for a very replaceable thing,
               | money, and suffer while doing it when other choices
               | exist. The "when" in that bit is very important. A lot of
               | people do not have that choice, and I understand why they
               | continue; there's no other option. But for people who do
               | what we do and how we do it, why chase the brass ring for
               | so long? You don't have to suffer at Amazon, no amount of
               | stock options are worth it. You will never get back that
               | night you spent working on that one last thing instead of
               | going home to your partner or kids or friends. The
               | marginal impact of another $5,000 when you already make
               | $125,000 in a year is very small.
               | 
               | And, as a bonus, not only are you helping yourself,
               | you're helping the rest of our industry. Since we are
               | largely allergic to unions in this industry, the only
               | leverage we have is if enough people finally realize that
               | it _is_ possible to have a good work as part of a good
               | life.
        
           | indymike wrote:
           | > A neighbor owns a painting company. He goes around the
           | various job sites in the morning, sees that everyone has
           | their marching orders for the day, returns in the afternoon
           | to check in on the progress. In between the morning and
           | afternoon though? He does what he pleases.
           | 
           | It's no different in Tech. What is hard about being a
           | developer is that you are building. The analogy between your
           | friend who owns and manages a painting company, isn't really
           | that far off. As long as your are primarily responsible for
           | getting the work done... well, the expectation will be closed
           | tickets, shipped features.
        
         | hlesesne wrote:
         | An old plumber friend wished he'd specialized. His idea was 1)
         | live in a college town with tons and tons of student or
         | vacation rentals (we already did) and 2) just do water heaters.
         | 24 hour service and mark up for unscheduled installations.
         | 
         | Easy, clean, indoor work (generally) that you can get really
         | good and you can pretty much name your price because everybody
         | freaks when they don't have hot water or it is leaking.
        
         | enraged_camel wrote:
         | Yeah, I genuinely do not understand what it is that drives
         | people like the reddit OP to think that tradespeople somehow
         | have it better than software folks. It's like they have never
         | _actually_ paid attention to how absolutely grueling plumbing
         | /roofing/fencing/etc. is.
         | 
         | "Constant need to stay up to date" is actually one of the
         | things I really like about this field, because it's one of the
         | things that prevents the work from getting redundant, at least
         | in the long run.
        
           | garbagetime wrote:
           | Some people enjoy hard work
        
           | Apocryphon wrote:
           | I don't think they want to be tradespeople. I think they want
           | to be artisans.
        
             | ianai wrote:
             | I'd say they already are artisans. Guy talks about needing
             | to constantly study up to stay current. I imagine an artist
             | just through creating is constantly getting more
             | comfortable with their tools. Hokusai has a famous quote to
             | this effect - basically saying he would have to live to
             | 100+ to really practice enough to be proud of his work.
        
               | Apocryphon wrote:
               | By artisan I meant specifically the concept of a
               | craftsperson who creates small projects on demand at
               | their own leisure, something both like the traditional
               | concept of a village smith or potter, or the modern day
               | craft fair equivalent or Etsy vendor.
               | 
               | In software, someone with their own software consultancy
               | or an indie app developer could be equivalent.
        
             | djur wrote:
             | It's just the masculine-coded, "left-brained" equivalent of
             | "I wish I could quit my office job and do arts/crafts for a
             | living", a sentiment I've heard a lot from friends outside
             | the tech industry.
        
           | rascul wrote:
           | > Yeah, I genuinely do not understand what it is that drives
           | people like the reddit OP to think that tradespeople somehow
           | have it better than software folks. It's like they have never
           | actually paid attention to how absolutely grueling
           | plumbing/roofing/fencing/etc. is.
           | 
           | I have done a decent bit of network and systems
           | administration in the past. I don't like it. It's hard on me
           | sitting at a computer all day. Sometimes I got to go
           | somewhere else and play with some equipment for a bit, but it
           | was mostly a sit at a desk and stare at a screen kind of job.
           | I really need the physical activity. Nowadays I repair rental
           | houses for a number of property owners around here and I'll
           | never go back, even if does pay a little less. I don't really
           | find the work any more or less enjoyable overall, but I work
           | less hours which means I have more time of my own, I sleep so
           | much better at night, and my mental health has improved
           | significantly. Also I get to work by myself which is real
           | nice.
           | 
           | Edit: Many trade jobs are not like mine. I work my own hours,
           | at my own pace, doing mostly light work. Every now and then I
           | might get a helper. I was a roofer when I was much younger,
           | and that's not something my body could handle anymore.
        
         | emteycz wrote:
         | Yeah lol... The apartment building next to mine was having some
         | reconstruction and the guys working on the exterior saw into my
         | office windows (5th story). I started talking to them, had a
         | cigarette together when I saw them lighting up, shared my WiFi
         | password with them, etc, just being friendly. After a few days
         | the guys asked "so, do you ever work man, or are you one of
         | those computer pussies?". I agreed I'm a computer pussy as I'd
         | never want to do any of what I saw them doing, in all weathers,
         | very very early in the morning as well as very late in the
         | evening.
        
           | not1ofU wrote:
           | "Computer Pussy?.. no mate, computer hacker, and seeing as
           | you all connected to my Wi-fi, my rent is covered for the
           | next 2 months".... <Trollface>
        
             | emteycz wrote:
             | Well I wanted to be a friend. They were cool to me, I was
             | cool to them. It was all in good jest, with a bit of truth.
             | ;-)
        
               | throwaway675309 wrote:
               | I guess but the phrasing that he used was unbelievably
               | condescending and you just accepted it.
        
               | boppo1 wrote:
               | It's a hard thing to describe, but among people doing
               | that kind of job, an insult like that can be a signal
               | that you're "on the inside" of the group. It's pretty
               | contextual and you have to listen to their tone of voice.
               | 
               | If you've seen Good Will Hunting, imagine Affleck and
               | Damon's characters meeting again years down the road.
               | Affleck might call Damon a "computer pussy" but both of
               | them know Affleck is proud of Damon and would trade
               | places with him if he had the skills.
               | 
               | Not to say "computer pussy" isn't potentially extremely
               | condescending; just that such usage of profanity among
               | laborers is often colloquially used to express sincere
               | kinship and camaraderie.
        
               | emteycz wrote:
               | Exactly - and I think it's the same among programmers,
               | and more generally in male friend groups. It's a
               | translation btw, but I think it's a fitting one.
        
           | JKCalhoun wrote:
           | I've done manual labor. Mowed lawns for a guy who had his own
           | company, he drove us around in the truck, we'd hit the grass
           | with his mowers.
           | 
           | Worked fast food, retail. Been a dishwasher, bus boy....
           | 
           | I think there is something abut the manual labor that gives
           | you a daily sense of accomplishment. The lawn work for sure.
           | Arriving at a tatty yard, leaving it looking like a golf
           | course.... That sort of day-to-day sense of achievement is
           | much more rare in software development.
           | 
           | To be sure I ultimately chased the higher-paying software
           | field. But when I would see the "grounds keepers" at the
           | Apple campus, I was often a little envious....
        
         | supernova87a wrote:
         | I have to say also that the "4 day workweek" idea tends to be
         | embraced by such same people who have little idea what true
         | laborious labor really is and can pontificate about it from
         | their air conditioned offices.
         | 
         | And who I think would be unpleasantly surprised to find out
         | certain inconveniences if everyone's available working hours
         | were cut back by 1 day per week.
        
           | maccard wrote:
           | I don't think that's necessarily true, in fact I think what
           | happens more often is the idea of a 4 day work week is
           | dismissed by people such as yourself as it doesn't equally
           | apply to everyone. A 5 day work week as is common now doesn't
           | work for hospitality staff, for example. Does that mean that
           | we should all work 4pm-3am Saturday shifts because that's
           | when nightclub staff work? Of course not. do we argue that
           | because patients in hospitals require 24/7 care that we all
           | take up 4on-4off 12 hour shifts?
           | 
           | The argument for the 4 day workweek is that _many_ jobs would
           | be performed just as efficiently as if they were 5 days per
           | week, so they might as well be. If there was a compelling
           | argument that hospital patients required 16 hours of care per
           | day rather than 24, you can bet people would be suggesting
           | dropping doctor and nurse shifts to 4x8 or 5x8 rather than
           | 4x12 or whatever insanity they're doing right now.
        
         | Apocryphon wrote:
         | Aren't there jobs working in the trades that aren't in
         | construction? If you're working on large-scale projects, you
         | end up running into the "becoming a cog" problem anyway.
        
         | spywaregorilla wrote:
         | Those guys aren't making the fabled plumber incomes either. You
         | need to own the business for that.
        
         | Trasmatta wrote:
         | > I used to have thoughts about how it would be nice to have a
         | job with totally spelled out requirements that end at 5pm and
         | then you have the rest of the day off
         | 
         | In addition to your other good points, I used to work
         | construction, and it was never like this. Requirements were not
         | spelled out, and we constantly had to deal with unexpected
         | issues, or ridiculous homeowners with dumb ideas. Timelines and
         | deadlines were harsh, and you were often blocked by somebody
         | else's work, but were still expected to finish by a given date.
        
         | Kye wrote:
         | It's easy to pine for the good outcomes. The reality for most
         | people is abusive bosses, wage theft, various exciting diseases
         | from exposure and overwork without the health insurance or
         | savings to deal with it.
        
         | dspillett wrote:
         | I currently work with people1 who quit construction & plumbing
         | to retrain in tech for pretty much the reasons you describe.
         | The two I work with right now are a dev manager and a support
         | tech, another I'm no longer in contact with was a senior dev,
         | none of them to my knowledge hanker to return to their old
         | working lives.
         | 
         | None of them were top-level contractors, those who plan and
         | hand out work to others, instead being people on the ground
         | working on sometimes physically demanding tasks in all
         | conditions and being the public face of the operation so
         | sometimes interacting with difficult members of the public.
         | Maybe if you get one of those management/middle-management jobs
         | in construction the dynamic would be different, but then again
         | you'll have a lot of the same problems that make me avoid
         | management/middle-management jobs in our industry.
         | 
         | [1] and have known others
        
         | TigeriusKirk wrote:
         | I worked construction jobs summers during college (family in
         | the business).
         | 
         | On the plus side, it really is satisfying to be able to see the
         | results of your work at the end of the day, nearly every day.
         | Progress is visible and real.
         | 
         | On the downside, construction in the summer is rough work. You
         | can be on rooftops working with materials or tools that make it
         | even hotter. There's lots of exhausting carrying heavy things
         | from here to there. There's incredibly long hours (10 hour days
         | is within the norm, 6 day 12 hour schedules aren't rare, and 16
         | hour days not unheard of). In any decent construction job
         | that's a ton of overtime pay, which really adds up, but it's
         | also exhausting. A 6/12 schedule is basically work/sleep/work.
         | Great way to save money for the coming school year, terrible
         | way to make a living long term.
         | 
         | I miss being able to _see_ my work. And to be able to drive by
         | 20 years later and point and say  "Yep, I built that." Don't
         | underestimate the pride that brings.
         | 
         | But I don't regret my career choice at all. Construction is
         | viscerally satisfying in a lot of ways, but it's not how I want
         | to spend my days.
        
         | nkozyra wrote:
         | There's something so insidiously, backhandedly condescending
         | about tech workers pining for the simplicity of an honest day's
         | job that drives me nuts.
         | 
         | Yes, there are almost always jobs with less strenuous
         | requirements on time, fewer requirements and late nights. But
         | the average tech worker has a pretty good gig. And if they
         | don't they can go down the street in 2022 and get one.
         | 
         | Trades scratch a similar itch to development in some ways -
         | you're working with a set of tools and generally always
         | building or working on the same projects. Yes, it's tactile, it
         | gets you something palpable in the end. Yes, like software
         | development you get that dopamine hit when you've built
         | something nice. But there are late nights, big jobs that go too
         | long, crappy coworkers and clients, because ... it's a
         | professional job.
         | 
         | Did this behavior start with the coda of Office Space or has it
         | always been a thing?
        
           | yourabstraction wrote:
           | A couple issues I see. The extremely abstract nature of
           | software can make progress sometimes seem very ephemeral, and
           | make those dopamine hits hard to find. Ever spend a week or
           | two on a bug going in circles with no progress? It's
           | maddening, can seriously impact stress levels and sleep, and
           | be very bad for your health. I think this is why some opine
           | for a job where you step back at the end of the day and
           | marvel at the work you did in the physical world. I
           | personally know I get a great satisfaction when I complete a
           | project around my house, and it's a very different feeling
           | from when a unit test finally passes.
           | 
           | Then there's also the problem of not using your body. Up
           | until extremely recently in evolutionary history, we used our
           | bodies and brains together. It turns out office work can be
           | just as bad for your body as swinging a hammer or welding
           | pipes due to inactivity. It's really a dehumanizing way to
           | live. Certainly you can try to balance the scales by hitting
           | the gym after work, but it can be a struggle when you're
           | fried from the day.
        
           | simooooo wrote:
           | I feel like I'd sometimes like to try a job like a carpenter
           | or builder, but simply to try building something in real
           | life, rather than our often intangible products.
        
             | cgrealy wrote:
             | What's stopping you? You don't even have to give up working
             | in tech.
             | 
             | I started learning joinery a year ago. I'm still terrible
             | at it by professional standards, but I've made some bespoke
             | furniture pieces for our house that would have cost 2-3x
             | what I spent in tools and materials, and I enjoyed the
             | process.
             | 
             | It's definitely something you can do in your spare time,
             | and even if you don't decide to go pro, you've still
             | learned a valuable life skill.
        
           | mejakethomas wrote:
           | Ah yes, the common misconception that trades are simplistic!
           | 
           | Most trades (!including plumbing!) have VASTLY more stringent
           | requirements than tech, are often more mentally stimulating,
           | and yes, quite rewarding.
           | 
           | Disclaimer: I've worked in software for ~9 years and worked
           | in trades before that. ASE master certified auto technician,
           | father is a master electrician, uncles are contractors. I'll
           | probably become a plumber.
        
           | detcader wrote:
           | I think it's a manifestation of the inherent feeling that
           | many of us developers are doing something mostly useless
           | compared to others. We know that the world could be different
           | and we could be working jobs that are physically and/or
           | mentally difficult but also fair and useful. Ursula K. Le
           | Guin puts it thus, from her novel "This Dispossessed":
           | 
           | "A child free from the guilt of ownership and the burden of
           | economic competition will grow up with the will to do what
           | needs doing and the capacity for joy in doing it. It is
           | useless work that darkens the heart. The delight of the
           | nursing mother, of the scholar, of the successful hunter, of
           | the good cook, of the skillful maker, of anyone doing needed
           | work and doing it well--this durable joy is perhaps the
           | deepest source of human affection, and of sociality as a
           | whole."
        
             | sonofhans wrote:
             | Yes! I'm rereading this now. That book is an endless
             | wellspring of reminders about what truly matters.
        
             | analog31 wrote:
             | "Half of my software budget is wasted, I just don't know
             | which half."
             | 
             | I suppose there's a sense in the trades that you know
             | somebody wants something before you do it, because they've
             | asked for it. And you can usually see where it fits into
             | the bigger picture because the interconnected pieces are
             | visually and physically connected.
             | 
             | I get a similar satisfaction from being a part time
             | musician. When I show up to play music, it's because
             | somebody has hired me to play music, and within the band
             | there's a specific part that's filled by my work. I also
             | know the quality of my own work instantly as I do it. I
             | love music as an art, but on the bandstand, I'm a tradesman
             | first and an artist second.
             | 
             | Working in a tech field, it can be hard to know if what
             | you're making is ever going to matter to anybody, and it's
             | possible to do _negative work_ in the sense of costing more
             | than what it returns. That can be frustrating.
        
             | emteycz wrote:
             | I can't understand that one. Software fascinates me since I
             | was a child by how universally useful it is. Even for the
             | more manual stuff, computer is still a hyper-useful tool.
        
               | batshit_beaver wrote:
               | I think it's much, much more common in the world of
               | software to build things that either no one uses, or
               | fades out pretty quickly.
               | 
               | There's a world of difference between taking a week to
               | ship a new button to Chrome at Google (low impact, but at
               | least high visibility) and creating a project from
               | scratch over the course of months for it to be killed off
               | by or not work out for the stakeholders (no impact AND
               | no/low visibility). This happens with most projects.
               | 
               | On the other hand, building or fixing something physical
               | you know that at least you're solving a real problem for
               | someone, and it will probably last them a while.
               | 
               | Software is constantly churning and evolving precisely
               | because such evolutions are not limited by tools,
               | materials, or constraints of the physical world. Way
               | better for creativity, but rarely leaves us devs feeling
               | proud of the work we've done
        
               | tangjurine wrote:
               | Carpentry is useful, but if you are spending months
               | making a small part you think no one uses or cares about
               | for a lot of money, you might feel useless.
               | 
               | Same things goes with anything really.
        
             | MaxBarraclough wrote:
             | A similar idea was expressed by Marx, who referred to it as
             | _estranged labour_. Forgive the lengthy quote:
             | 
             | > _the object which labor produces - labor 's product -
             | confronts it as something alien, as a power independent of
             | the producer. The product of labor is labor which has been
             | embodied in an object, which has become material: it is the
             | objectification of labor. Labor's realization is its
             | objectification. Under these economic conditions this
             | realization of labor appears as loss of realization for the
             | workers; objectification as loss of the object and bondage
             | to it; appropriation as estrangement, as alienation._
             | 
             | > [...]
             | 
             | > _the worker is related to the product of labor as to an
             | alien object. For on this premise it is clear that the more
             | the worker spends himself, the more powerful becomes the
             | alien world of objects which he creates over and against
             | himself, the poorer he himself - his inner world - becomes,
             | the less belongs to him as his own._
             | 
             | https://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1844/manuscript
             | s...
        
               | e4e78a06 wrote:
               | Very ironic that the USSR ended up forcing most people
               | into state-chosen jobs. I think it's nice to think of
               | some ideal future where everyone works on what they want
               | to work on but society needs people to do the dirty work
               | that nobody wants to do. Janitor, garbageman, sewer
               | maintenance, warehouse worker, etc. A lot of Marx's ideas
               | are just ideas, not anything that could ever be realized
               | in the real world.
        
               | Apocryphon wrote:
               | Whatever you can say of his prescriptions, many of his
               | descriptions and diagnoses are relevant.
        
               | hgomersall wrote:
               | In said hypothetical world, the crappy jobs would come
               | with the highest prestige, because nobody would want to
               | do them, so the payoff would need to be something other
               | than reducing the risk of starvation.
        
             | Karrot_Kream wrote:
             | The Dispossessed was a fantastic book but you're taking
             | away the wrong thing if you're using Anarresti propaganda
             | to sum up the work. The full title of the book is "The
             | Dispossessed: An Ambiguous Utopia" and Anarres has many
             | problems.
        
           | Apocryphon wrote:
           | I had a manager who once abandoned software engineering to
           | become a jeweler. There's definitely a patronizing
           | romanticizing of the trades in threads like this, but the
           | yearning to switch to physical work doesn't have to be
           | fulfilled only by plumber/carpenter/electrician roles
           | mentioned here. There are plenty of other jobs that require
           | more physical work, from aestheticians to dentistry.
        
             | nkozyra wrote:
             | No doubt. I think that sitting in room all days drags on
             | some people the way climbing up a pole with equipment all
             | day might drag on another.
             | 
             | And sometimes you just want something radically different.
             | But don't pretend it's simple enough that we - the
             | brilliant computer and maths people - could easily just
             | start doing it. I think that's where the patronizing comes
             | in. Any professional job requires training and experience.
        
               | Apocryphon wrote:
               | Sure, but the point still stands is that people seem to
               | be yearning for an alternative to computer-only work, and
               | there are perhaps more feasible alternatives out there to
               | the _Office Space_ ending ideal.
               | 
               | As far as training goes- software engineering doesn't
               | seem particularly rigorous in providing it compared to
               | other disciplines.
        
           | ctvo wrote:
           | > There's something so insidiously, backhandedly
           | condescending about tech workers pining for the simplicity of
           | an honest day's job that drives me nuts.
           | 
           | Agreed. SO recently left a career in academia to get a job in
           | tech as an entry level software developer. Says this is the
           | easiest job they've ever had in their life, and wondered why
           | they didn't start sooner.
           | 
           | Developers have no idea how difficult even other white collar
           | jobs are, let alone blue collar work that involves physical
           | labor and the outdoors.
        
             | nathanlied wrote:
             | Will have to third this. I have friends and acquaintances I
             | talk to regularly from all walks of life - from
             | construction workers to tradesmen/mechanics, all the way to
             | bankers and the like.
             | 
             | Out of all of them, I have the "best" job in terms of
             | what's expected of me on a day-in-day-out basis. The
             | biggest problem I feel us tech-workers have is that we
             | compare our "bad" with their "good".
             | 
             | On a good day, a construction worker may get there, do
             | their work for the amount of hours stipulated, and leave
             | the work at work. That's our perspective. What we do not
             | often see is the time they spend worrying about the weather
             | conditions (if you're painting outside, can't do it in the
             | rain), or whether this or that material will be on time/to
             | spec, or that you sprained something yesterday and you
             | really need to haul heavy stuff around today, and it cannot
             | be delayed because people are relying on it being done, and
             | this might mean your injury will worsen and you might not
             | be able to work for a while.
             | 
             | We can get bad days. And our bad days can get pretty
             | shitty. I won't begrudge anyone who'd love to leave the
             | tech sector; I've often thought about it myself. But from
             | hearing my friends in other professions talk about their
             | bad days? Mine don't occur so often, and when they do, are
             | often not as bad.
             | 
             | It's very difficult to deny our privilege when we talk to
             | someone who works all day in the searing heat, and our day
             | consisted of turning on our laptop at 11, running some
             | Terraform scripts, making it to our favourite restaurant
             | for sushi, enjoying an extended lunch while monitoring some
             | deployments on our work tablet, and having a meeting while
             | walking on a nearby park to negotiate internal deadlines.
             | I've often been embarrassed to describe my day to some of
             | my friends.
        
             | aeyes wrote:
             | For a couple of years I worked at a rental shop at night
             | and on weekends after my full-time IT job. It was the best
             | thing ever because I got the feeling of actually getting
             | something done, even if it was repetitive work. Not using
             | my brain and not worrying about anything was nice.
             | 
             | I also temporarily quit my IT job because I felt burned,
             | got a job cleaning floors and washing clothes. Again I
             | loved the work.
             | 
             | If it weren't for the pay I wouldn't work in this field.
             | I'm hoping to quit for good in a few years, switching
             | careers doesn't make much sense at this point.
        
             | digitaltrees wrote:
             | It may be easy for some but lots of people try a coding
             | boot camp and realize it's hard and they hate every moment
             | of it.
             | 
             | My father was a corporate finance executive for 25 years.
             | He hated the political drama, attention to detail, mundane
             | routine, long hours and being indoors all day. He quit and
             | started roofing. And loved being outside.
        
           | hinkley wrote:
           | Through attrition and universities pumping out CS degrees as
           | fast as they can since the early 90's, at any given point
           | almost half of us have less than 5 years of experience. When
           | half the people don't know any better, it's really hard to
           | use democracy to get anything 'good' done. Either this hasn't
           | changed much over that interval or the people who are fond of
           | pointing this out aren't tracking statistics. Whether it's
           | actually true or only somewhat true, I think we deal with the
           | consequences all the time.
           | 
           | What I can say is have more hobbies, and perhaps we (those
           | who care) should be working to differentiate a genre
           | (vertical, size, location, something) as being better, so it
           | feels like less of a game of chance every time people are
           | looking for 'better'.
        
           | digitaltrees wrote:
           | It's only condescending, because you're assuming a social
           | hierarchy where software development is more prestigious or
           | desirable than one of the trades and that physical labor is
           | harder than non-physical labor. The implication then is that
           | a software developer wishing to become a plumber is
           | ungrateful for their "better" job and naive for wanting a
           | "harder" and "worse" job mistakingly believing it to be
           | easier.
           | 
           | Would you feel the same way about a plumber wishing for the
           | job software developer? Would you call out a plumber for
           | being condescending in wishing for the "easy" job of a
           | software developer?
           | 
           | The more accurate interpretation is that all people have
           | frustration with their job and start to imagine an
           | alternative that would eliminate the frustrations.
        
             | emerged wrote:
             | To be honest yes I would consider it a little
             | condescending. No doubt they would be similarly creating a
             | utopian vision of what our jobs entail and come at it from
             | the angle of "boy wish I could just sit around all day
             | doing nothing"
        
           | strken wrote:
           | One of my really good friends dropped out of his chemical
           | engineering degree in the last semester to be a landscape
           | gardener, and seems to enjoy it much more. It's been nearly a
           | decade so far. He hasn't gone back.
           | 
           | The tech meme of dropping out to pick up a trade is pretty
           | funny at times, especially when it's coming from people who
           | couldn't change a doorknob, but I don't think jobs are one-
           | size-fits-all, and I do think some people would be happier
           | with a job that requires doing hard work outside.
        
           | jackcosgrove wrote:
           | > Did this behavior start with the coda of Office Space or
           | has it always been a thing?
           | 
           | No, it's such a cliche that's why Office Space chose to use
           | it.
           | 
           | The movie _Lost in America_ explores this theme much more
           | generally.
           | 
           | The funniest thing about the end of Office Space is that by
           | "dropping out" of software during the Y2k era and entering
           | the construction field, the protagonist is just swapping one
           | bubble for another, software for housing.
        
             | nefitty wrote:
             | The alternate ending changes the tenor of the entire film
             | with just one line of dialogue. Peter is probably
             | dissatisfied on a deeper level than any job could fix.
             | Maybe he would find meaning as an entrepreneur or
             | travelling or dropping out...
             | 
             | https://youtu.be/XK43Ureuiqc
        
               | thaumasiotes wrote:
               | > The alternate ending changes the tenor of the entire
               | film with just one line of dialogue.
               | 
               | This also happens with _Kiki 's Delivery Service_. It
               | makes the English dub much, much better than the Japanese
               | original.
        
           | 11thEarlOfMar wrote:
           | It may be self-selecting tech workers who feel excessive
           | stress from their job, or, really are disastisfied and ready
           | for a change.
           | 
           | I can confess to passing the person holding the STOP and SLOW
           | sign at a construction site, and even saying out loud, "Now
           | _that 's_ a job I could do."
           | 
           | But when the fog clears, and the paycheck lands in the bank,
           | it's, well... nah. I'd rather put up with the stress or ennui
           | and have the cash.
        
             | lethologica wrote:
             | These people make $90 an hour in Australia. It's definitely
             | tempting.
        
               | LouisSayers wrote:
               | I've heard the tram drivers make $150k ...
        
             | taxcoder wrote:
             | Sometimes I consider going back to the trades (I have
             | enough experience I could easily do so), but no way would I
             | want to be a flagger. The boredom would kill me by noon the
             | first day.
        
               | nefitty wrote:
               | I was one of those ad sign kids as a teenager. It was
               | mentally brutal. Thank God for podcasts.
        
           | hahajk wrote:
           | Did this behavior start with the coda of Office Space or has
           | it always been a thing?
           | 
           | A big aspect of Marxism is that labor has been alienated from
           | their production in the age of industrialization, so I'd say
           | it's been a thing for a while.
        
             | nkozyra wrote:
             | I've read a lot of Marx and I think this is ultimately less
             | about alienation and more about guilt.
        
           | takinola wrote:
           | I think it is more than just condescension. In job's like
           | plumbing or carpentry, it is much easier to ascertain when
           | your work is done and if it is good. The workmen on a house
           | remodel have a fixed(ish) scope and at the end of the day the
           | homeowner is either happy with the work or not. The outcomes
           | are tangible and quickly ascertained. On the other hand, when
           | you start work on a software project, it will take months or
           | possibly years to know if the strategy or architecture you
           | chose pays off. The roadmap concept also means software is
           | never done and there is always more code that needs to be
           | written.
           | 
           | In the software world, you don't get the satisfaction of
           | knowing that you have done something well in the same
           | visceral way physical trades provide.
        
           | blame-troi wrote:
           | Nothing condescending here. After my first twenty years in
           | tech I did feel the urge for a change. Why be just a tech
           | worker?
           | 
           | Complexity is no indicator of worth to society, nor is
           | salary.
        
           | bmitc wrote:
           | > Trades scratch a similar itch to development in some ways -
           | you're working with a set of tools
           | 
           | I'd say the major difference is that in the trades, the tools
           | actually work.
        
             | elorant wrote:
             | Sure, and they can also chop your hand off or otherwise
             | seriously harm you.
        
               | mschuster91 wrote:
               | Fuck up something handling PII and the GDPR fines can
               | seriously harm you...
        
               | PeterisP wrote:
               | Looking at all the documented (not that many) large GDPR
               | fines, I haven't noticed any that are the result of a
               | company (much less a developer) accidentally 'fucking up'
               | - they are all the result of an intentional policy or an
               | unethical management decision intentionally screwing
               | people.
               | 
               | If you simply fuck up during your development, the most
               | you'll get in practice is a letter from the regulator
               | requiring you to change the fucked up thing; Fines arrive
               | when management refuses to change the fucked up thing and
               | tries to invent a loophole instead.
        
               | Nextgrid wrote:
               | The fact that everyone is breaching the GDPR left and
               | right and that Equifax is _still_ around suggests the
               | opposite.
        
               | hamstercat wrote:
               | Comparing the permanent loss of a limb to a possible fine
               | to a corporation for mishandling data is a bit out of
               | touch.
        
               | Swenrekcah wrote:
               | Ever since their power tool accident they've been all out
               | of touch...
        
             | wbl wrote:
             | Having just had fun with replacing a bathroom door knob
             | that involved far more power tools than expected I'm not
             | sure I can agree.
        
               | lotsofpulp wrote:
               | The tools might work. But then you discover the plumber
               | from 20 years ago did something crazy. Or the wiring
               | makes a left turn in the space between 1st and 2nd floor
               | for some reason. Thee dimmer switch that was $15 and
               | should have taken 10 min to install actually does not
               | have enough clearance behind it because a drain pipe is
               | there, and so you need a special smaller size electrical
               | box or you need to cut holes in the wall. Etc, etc.
        
               | toyg wrote:
               | Just another day in the life of a legacy enterprise
               | project maintainer.
        
           | moeris wrote:
           | > There's something so insidiously, backhandedly
           | condescending about tech workers pining for the simplicity of
           | an honest day's job that drives me nuts.
           | 
           | I worked with the county doing road construction and logging
           | for seven years, then was a teacher for a couple years after
           | that. Now I work at a cushy FAANG job.
           | 
           | I still miss both of my previous jobs often. Construction
           | wasn't super meaningful, but there was a focus on making
           | quality artifacts that isn't really the same in software.
           | (Software is too complex, too large, and has too many
           | constraints.) Working with physical implements is nice. I
           | miss knowing the weather more intimately, and being
           | physically exhausted at the end of the day.
           | 
           | Teaching was very meaningful, but emotionally exhausting. If
           | the pay hadn't been terrible and if I had found a supportive
           | administration, I'd probably be happier teaching. I miss
           | working with children, being a part of a community.
           | 
           | Having worked these sort of jobs and having enjoyed them, I
           | don't think it's condescending at all. I think there may be a
           | bit of ignorance there. If you didn't grow up doing physical
           | labor (I grew up on a farm) then you likely will have a hard
           | time adapting to physical exertion/pain. And you have to
           | recognize that you'll likely encounter physical injuries,
           | especially later in your career. (In my shortish stint, I
           | managed to injure my shoulder, and it still affects me). But
           | if SWEs still like the idea, then they should give it a shot
           | for a year. Software will still be there.
        
       | version_five wrote:
       | If it helps, I had such a "1/4 life crisis" at around 29.
       | 
       | Tldr, trades can be fun, but are also physically demanding, get
       | boring, don't pay as well as it might appear, and have a pretty
       | low ceiling on growth unless you want to manage a fleet of
       | tradesmen or something.
       | 
       | Sometimes I do still wish I was a carpenter. But realistically,
       | software has so many of the same aspects as trades, but is
       | changing so quickly there is always something to learn, it pays
       | better, and doesn't depend on having peak physical health.
       | 
       | The biggest difference in terms of satisfaction I think might be
       | that plumbers et al are more likely to be entrepreneurs, while
       | well paid software engineers mostly work in big companies.
       | Consider entrepreneurship within software before bailing to a
       | completely different trade
        
       | mgh2 wrote:
       | The grass always seems greener on the other side
        
       | hermitcrab wrote:
       | Move from dealing with shit metaphorically to dealing with shit
       | literally? For less money? No thanks.
        
       | jhallenworld wrote:
       | I'll say this for the trades: there is infinite work. The
       | population is getting older, leaning towards old ladies. Who is
       | going to keep their oil-fired steam heat working? Maybe you..
        
       | spicybright wrote:
       | One of the best jobs I've had was working part time at a pizza
       | place in my early 20's.
       | 
       | I made just enough for rent, food, and fun. The job was easy to
       | be good at, but rewarding because I was helping actual people.
       | Most of the time it was slow so you got to joke around with the
       | other employees.
       | 
       | But sometimes you'd get slammed and have to organize your crew to
       | work efficiently for a few hours, which was stressful, but very
       | fun to figure out and do well at.
       | 
       | I think about that a lot when my current software job becomes
       | really boring or difficult.
       | 
       | EDIT: Oh, and I was certainly less sedentary being on my feet all
       | day. I slept really really well after a long shift.
        
         | lokalfarm wrote:
         | This is more a reflection on that period of your life than the
         | work itself.
         | 
         | Part time at a pizza shop in your teens/20s? Time of your life!
         | Doing that exact same work in your 30s when you're trying
         | provide for a partner and potentially kids? When you have bills
         | stacking up, rent is shooting through the roof, and your hopes
         | of one day owning a home are slowly circling the drain?
         | 
         | What do you do now, when that is your sole skillset to fall
         | back on? Being on your feet doesn't feel nearly as nice as it
         | did when you were in your early 20s. Those slow times become
         | stressful because you know it means you could be out of a job
         | like that. Sure, people might always want to eat pizza
         | ("there's always work") but that doesn't mean your quality of
         | life is going to increase _at all_ because of that. Your only
         | hope out - opening your own pizza shop - is an incredibly
         | fragile & stressful undertaking. You're much more likely to
         | lose all the money you borrow/invest into it than ending up
         | with a successful restaurant that provides for you financially.
        
       | georgeoliver wrote:
       | There surely are people who would be professionally more
       | satisfied as a plumber than an IT worker. I definitely encourage
       | those people to try it out.
       | 
       | Then there are people purely fantasizing about professions like
       | plumbing because of that 20% of their job they're unhappy with.
       | They probably would do more for their mental health by donating
       | 50% of their 5x plumber's salary to a non-profit of their choice.
        
       | trentnix wrote:
       | If you do decide to become a plumber, be sure to remember the two
       | golden rules of plumbing:
       | 
       | 1. $#!7 flows downhill.
       | 
       | 2. Don't bite your fingernails.
        
       | homie wrote:
       | absolutely not
        
       | soheil wrote:
       | I think what this comment hints at is the tight coupling of money
       | and working in tech. I think for most of us it all started as fun
       | and curiosity. We were gravitated to computers not because of
       | money, but because of passion. Then suddenly we realized there is
       | immense amount of money to be made with our skills. Naturally we
       | started benefiting from that by getting a job in tech. Then we
       | became addicted to the money and since now we didn't learn any
       | other skill than programming we didn't have a choice but to
       | continue working in tech. What was once a passion now turned into
       | shackles that we can't wait to get rid of. It's sad, ironic and
       | extremely frustrating.
        
       | golemiprague wrote:
        
       | Fuzzwah wrote:
       | I laboured for my Dad when I was 19. He was a master plasterer
       | (dry waller for the Americans). We worked together for months
       | travelling around Queensland (an Australian state the size of
       | Texas). It was hot and draining work. Over the course of my 25
       | years of IT work, on the difficult days I've often looked back on
       | those days and thought, "still better than sanding ceilings in 40
       | degree Celsius heat.
        
       | jrib wrote:
       | I fantasize about taking 6 months off before starting my next job
       | and being a barista for a while. My guess is I'd appreciate my
       | current situation a lot more :D
        
       | rowanajmarshall wrote:
       | For me it's becoming a barista. Something social, where I'm not
       | sitting all day. Something with an artisanal bend to it, that can
       | be appreciated by more people than a handful of your coworkers.
        
         | Trasmatta wrote:
         | Out of curiosity, have you worked a service job in the past? If
         | not, you might underestimating how much of an absolute
         | nightmare they can be.
        
           | rowanajmarshall wrote:
           | I have, but in a very small town where everyone knew everyone
           | so it wasn't as bad as I've heard it can get. I fully get
           | it's not realistic and would have massive downsides, but
           | still.
        
       | umvi wrote:
       | I actually think it would be fun to "retire" and go to trade
       | school to become an electrician. Not forever, just long enough to
       | learn the trade. I practically have an EE degree, but since I
       | only ever worked with low voltage, mostly digital circuits I
       | still have poor electrical intuition for things like residential
       | AC.
       | 
       | Realistically though, I think my secondary post-retirement career
       | will end up being a teacher of some sort (high school or
       | community college -- I'm mainly interested in teaching, not
       | research, so university is largely out of the question).
        
         | fortran77 wrote:
         | What do you mean by "practically have an EE degree?"
        
           | umvi wrote:
           | I have a computer engineering degree which requires all the
           | electrical engineering core classes but swaps out some EE
           | electives for CS electives
        
         | Freestyler_3 wrote:
         | The amount of knowledge you need for residential is minimal,
         | there is only one voltage (ok maybe multiple phase) and you
         | should only have to think of load per circuit. Don't know what
         | kind of intuition you really need for new install.
        
           | 01100011 wrote:
           | A lot of the knowledge is just practical stuff like knowing
           | how to correctly use a wire nut, where to buy the best brands
           | of equipment for good prices, and lots of rules of thumb. The
           | other half is code. The code can be surprisingly complex.
           | There are all sorts of things to know like how much you can
           | legally stuff in a junction box.
           | 
           | I have an EE degree but find there is little overlap between
           | that knowledge and electrical work.
        
         | candiddevmike wrote:
         | Being an electrician sounds great until it's the middle of
         | summer and you have to go in an attic or under a trailer.
        
           | spicybright wrote:
           | You could just not take jobs like that. It sounds like a
           | semi-retirement job means you'd be financial stable enough to
           | not need to take every request you get.
        
             | candiddevmike wrote:
             | I'm not sure what electrician work you think you'd end up
             | doing that doesn't involve some kind of shitty situation,
             | aside from maybe some types of new construction. On top of
             | that, AFAIK in the US, to become an electrician you need to
             | start out as an apprentice working under a journeyman or
             | master. Which means you get the shit jobs (sometimes
             | literally, like septic wiring).
        
           | hodgesrm wrote:
           | Leaving aside problems with heat, it really helps to be
           | small. One of our electricians was about 5' 2" and previously
           | served on submarines in the US Navy. Another job where being
           | of small stature is a benefit.
        
             | smileysteve wrote:
             | A plumber can be similar. In a craw space, I've soldered a
             | coupler where I couldn't get the torch to light in the
             | small space I had. Yep, there wasn't enough oxygen to
             | sustain combustion.
        
               | hodgesrm wrote:
               | Yikes. Here in California in addition to size of the
               | space, you really don't want to be there if the ground
               | moves. (Which fortunately is very rare.)
        
       | inglor_cz wrote:
       | Plumber, no. Too dirty. But being an electrician would probably
       | suit me just fine.
        
         | akemichan wrote:
         | I have worked as an electrician. It's not particularly a clean
         | trade and you get spaghetti too, in the form of hundreds of
         | wires of the very same color and air conditioners connected to
         | the lights circuit.
        
       | spywaregorilla wrote:
       | Slightly off topic but does it really feel difficult to keep up
       | with tech skills? I find it's extremely easy. Front end guys seem
       | to have it harder, but as a data scientist I don't feel I need to
       | learn much at all. In the past couple years it's been... shap...
       | and that's it? I don't feel the need to bother with any of the
       | neural net stuff.
        
         | redisman wrote:
         | Even on the frontend it's kind of overblown. If you're at a
         | stable-ish company you learn react and a few missing pieces
         | from the JS stdlib but most other stuff is already set up or
         | you Google how to set it up and move on.
        
       | Apocryphon wrote:
       | I think the sentiment behind the OP and agreeing comments are
       | twofold:
       | 
       | 1. The desire to create tangible, physical products and
       | improvements rather than abstract ones- some of which never see
       | the light of day outside of the sprint.
       | 
       | 2. The desire to expend physical labor and use one's body rather
       | than only one's mind.
       | 
       | I think the trades would fulfill that but maybe more software
       | engineers who experience this anxiety would be happier if they
       | pursued some sort of skilled craftsman hobby, or even career.
       | Being a construction carpenter is one thing, becoming an artisan
       | who makes bespoke wooden products is probably closer to the
       | lifestyle (and compensation) that's being idealized here.
        
       | adityavsc wrote:
       | No, I want to become a house painter or a gardener. I watch those
       | super long house painting videos. And I'm ready to do it for FREE
       | :)
        
       | dionidium wrote:
       | I am in my early 40s and have been a software engineer my entire
       | career. Lately, I can't bring myself to care about this or that
       | new framework, but I have spent hundreds of hours watching
       | electrician videos on YouTube and have been joking with my wife
       | that I'm going to quit my job and become an apprentice
       | electrician.
       | 
       | So, yeah. This resonates.
       | 
       | But recently I watched a video where a guy had to do his ten
       | millionth ceiling fan install and he had some particular trouble
       | getting to where he needed to be in the customer's attic and he
       | was filthy and hot and probably bored by this stupid task he'd
       | done a million times and in that moment I realized I was
       | idealizing and over-extrapolating from the excitement of learning
       | a new skill.
       | 
       | Learning to wire my own house was fun and interesting. I don't
       | want to do it every day for strangers.
        
       | xzc wrote:
        
         | emadabdulrahim wrote:
         | This made me chuckle
        
       | chrisdhoover wrote:
       | I started in the trades 45 years ago. Worked as a deck hand, low
       | voltage installer, cabinet maker, and service tech.
       | 
       | Climbing in a ceiling at 30 years old I asked my self what the
       | hell am I doing? I have a hard upper bound in salary. I'm sore, I
       | had stitches on several occasions, I'm a bit battered from
       | physical labor. The after work drinking was a short term
       | analgesic but a long term killer.
       | 
       | I realized a life time of labor is back breaking and will leave
       | me a broken old man long before I should be.
       | 
       | I decided at that moment to move on to engineering.
       | 
       | My days of labor provided me with a great foundation for problem
       | solving and understanding how projects are executed in the field.
       | I wouldn't trade the experience for anything, it was incredibly
       | rewarding.
       | 
       | My office life has been equally rewarding. I worked as hard
       | wearing a dumb tie everyday as I did wearing Carhartt.
       | 
       | The balance I struck was earning in the white collar world while
       | keeping busy at home on blue collar pursuits. For example I took
       | my contractor special condo from plain to fully executed trim.
       | All of the doors and windows are cased, there is crown and
       | picture rail. Some areas have wainscoting, the knock down wall
       | finish is now level 5. There is 4 color paint.
       | 
       | I have since begun maintaining an old sports car.
       | 
       | For me it would have been hard to start on an office and then
       | transition to a shop. The reverse worked best for me.
        
       | syndacks wrote:
       | I see this not so much as, "let me quit my swe job to become a
       | plumber" but more so a fundamental alienation from labor (on
       | behalf of OP). I think we can all agree that using intelligence
       | to create abstract flows in code is engaging and rewarding. It's
       | the everything else that makes us feel alienated: the
       | politics/pressure of the company, the "mba types", the mission of
       | the company itself to solve a problem that isn't even all that
       | real or impactful ie optimizing video advertising -- and the
       | perverse ways management tries to sell it as world changing work
       | -- m that makes us look to the other side and wonder if say using
       | our hands to make physical structures might being a closer
       | relationship to our work. A rejection of cognitive dissonance or
       | something.
       | 
       | Marx touches on this concept of alienation of labor [0]. Not
       | pushing Marxism at all here, just using one of his lesser known
       | theories to tease out this topic.
        
       | alin23 wrote:
       | Last year when I was working as a contractor for a US company, I
       | mentioned to my team leader that I'm sick of tech and I really
       | want to close my laptop for the last time ever, go outside and
       | start making wood flutes or something.
       | 
       | Instead of telling me that it will be better, he says that
       | sometimes he contemplates buying a bar and just serving people
       | and listening to their stories.
       | 
       | On that day I realized that not tech, but the idiotic company
       | processes and the people I had to put up with were what got me
       | into that state. I was hired as a Python backend developer, but I
       | was also working as a Postgis expert (and I was no expert, I had
       | no idea what I was doing), Go+gRPC integrator, Kube and Docker
       | Swarm ops guy, frontend debugging person and I was in charge of
       | the dev experience internal tools. It was simply too much to keep
       | up with.
       | 
       | That same month I resigned and started working on selling my own
       | product. 3 long months later, I launched the paid version of
       | Lunar (https://lunar.fyi/) and I again discovered why I like
       | being in tech.
       | 
       | There's a kind of freedom that you can rarely find in other
       | domains. You can be creative, start ideas on a whim, go into
       | rabbit holes of satisfying curiosity, learn to use languages and
       | tools that allow you to do in 3 lines of code what you needed 300
       | lines for yesterday. It feels like earning super powers
       | sometimes.
       | 
       | And after all that, you can also make enough money to live
       | comfortably in a nice apartment, small house, or just sleep in
       | the woods if that's your thing.
       | 
       | Since that day, I never considered being an employee, and just
       | continued on doing my thing and creating stuff. This lead to the
       | creation of https://lowtechguys.com/ and writing about my tech
       | journeys on https://alinpanaitiu.com/blog/
       | 
       | I'm still contemplating about building a house in the forest and
       | start making Kaval flutes some day, but I think my tech skills
       | will be a helpful aid for that goal, not something I want to
       | leave by behind.
        
       | honkycat wrote:
       | not at all.
       | 
       | I respect trade work, but I also don't idealize it.
       | 
       | It sucks in a lot of ways that are very similar to how software
       | engineering sucks.
       | 
       | As a SWE I get respect from my peers and family for having a
       | "smart job", make 4x what most plumbers make, work from my home
       | office, and do not have a boss breathing down my neck. I do not
       | destroy my body by constantly kneeling over and getting into
       | awkward positions.
        
       | bee_rider wrote:
       | I shifted away from EE toward programming stuff because physical
       | objects are kind of a pain in the butt. You plug in the wrong
       | wire and the magic smoke permanently escapes. No way to put it
       | back in. I'm sure plumbers have a similar problem, except it
       | involves poop water everywhere. No thanks.
        
       | MattGaiser wrote:
       | Seems like OP should just go to a place like the government for a
       | fairly slow paced retirement friendly job.
       | 
       | They could definitely use skilled people and while there can be
       | the same crazy expectations and conflicting missions, you can say
       | no a lot more easily.
        
       | manishsharan wrote:
       | I do occasional plumbing repairs like replacing faucets and
       | toilet fixtures at my home using YouTube video. I hate the
       | experience. The water is cold. My knees hurt when squatting and
       | crouching for long stretches of time. I do end up using plumbers
       | putty and plumbers tape and I am terrified at the thought of
       | accidentally flooding my home.
       | 
       | I have a lot of urges but becoming a plumber is not one of them.
        
       | mostertoaster wrote:
       | Yes.
        
       | Kalanos wrote:
       | yes!!! i thought it was just me. it's probably subliminally mario
       | related
        
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