[HN Gopher] The Wrong Side of Right
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       The Wrong Side of Right
        
       Author : durmonski
       Score  : 23 points
       Date   : 2022-01-09 13:24 UTC (9 hours ago)
        
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       | compressedgas wrote:
       | Be a rhizome. Not a tree. But a forest.
        
       | gmaster1440 wrote:
       | Whenever I encounter advice in this vein, I can't help but feel
       | it significantly undermines the inextricable relationship between
       | productivity/caring and ego.
       | 
       | To be able to care just enough about something to genuinely
       | commit to it and yet not care too much to not find yourself
       | entangled with it is incredibly difficult, if not inherently
       | paradoxical.
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       |  _Something_ has to do the caring--that 's the ego. We're
       | frequently told to meditate the ego away, but if we do that
       | effectively, an overwhelming equanimity emerges that is
       | essentially a thermodynamic equilibrium and effectively the end
       | of what we generally mean by productivity.
        
         | ok_dad wrote:
         | I had trouble at my previous job like this. I knew I was right
         | and my boss was wrong and let him know. I also worked way too
         | hard for the benefits I was getting there. It didn't do much
         | for my career and didn't help my mental health, so I ended up
         | leaving.
         | 
         | In my new job, I decided to care about the outcome a little
         | less so that I can play my part better. Sure, we could fix all
         | the stuff that I think is wrong here at the new place, but then
         | we would not get the stuff done that will make more progress
         | with our customers and product. Honestly, just caring a little
         | less does wonders.
         | 
         | I sure wish I could quit and start my own business, though,
         | because surely I could do better! At least my ego tells me that
         | I could do better...
        
         | nils-m-holm wrote:
         | > Something has to do the caring--that's the ego.
         | 
         | This is the narrative that we are told to believe, but ask
         | people who did "meditate the ego away". They will tell you that
         | productivity and all the other things in life still just
         | happen, only "you" (whatever that is anyway) do not care so
         | much about them any longer. It is not a paradox. The "ego"
         | itself is a paradox.
        
           | gmaster1440 wrote:
           | If you can provide examples of durable productivity in the
           | face of a deconstructed ego that would help. I've only been
           | able to find examples to the contrary, such as some of the
           | most ego-less people also being the least productive (in the
           | traditional sense of the word implying labor and output),
           | i.e. monks.
           | 
           | To be clear I'm not making any moral or value claims here,
           | rather simply observing the correlation between ego and
           | productivity/commitment.
        
             | nils-m-holm wrote:
             | Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj received people every day for
             | decades and answered their questions. He made it very clear
             | that the answering just happens without anybody doing it,
             | and he continued doing it even in the presence of the pain
             | of terminal cancer, weeks before his death. You could call
             | that commitment, but Maharaj said otherwise. Source: Jean
             | Dunn (Ed); "Consciousness and the Absolute"; Acorn Press,
             | 1994
             | 
             | Then there are lots of books written by people whose "ego
             | died" (although what does not exist cannot die), and from
             | own experience I can tell you that writing a book requires
             | a lot of momentum--or what you call commitment.
        
               | gbuk2013 wrote:
               | Wrong kind of productivity for the capitalist environment
               | though. Once the ego is out of the picture it is easy to
               | enjoy "having enough" and choosing more worthwhile
               | pursuits than the rat race to make someone yet more
               | wealthy.
        
             | e1g wrote:
             | It depends on how broadly you define 'ego', as people
             | committed to a cause larger than themselves are often
             | extraordinarily dedicated & productive. Priests, teachers,
             | explorers, scientists (driven to find a cure for a genetic
             | disease), etc. Their motivation might have a small
             | component of individual ego (" _I_ found it! "), but mostly
             | it's egoless service to a significant problem they observe
             | in their society/world.
        
               | gmaster1440 wrote:
               | That's a fair response, and we may disagree here
               | somewhat, but to me there's a subtle redefinition of
               | "ego" going on when we talk about traditionally
               | "selfless" acts or charity or, as you put it, commitments
               | to causes larger than individuals.
               | 
               | To me, certain egos are fed by selfless works and
               | dedications to grand causes. This is not to say that's a
               | bad thing or that we don't want to create incentives to
               | have more of this, but I do think it circles back to the
               | original problem of the ego. It's just that certain
               | people's egos are more effectively fed when not focusing
               | just on themselves.
        
             | jfengel wrote:
             | The ego-less people tend not to spend a lot of time telling
             | their stories. So such projects tend to be known by the
             | result. Apollo 11 was one particularly prominent example of
             | lots of people putting their egos aside for the common
             | goal.
             | 
             | There is perhaps always an ego at the top, at least when
             | the project itself is ego driven like Apollo. We only know
             | the stories that somebody told.
        
         | HighlandSpring wrote:
         | This has also been my impression. I think the paradox is
         | roughly this:
         | 
         | - People who understand driving the most meaningful outcome may
         | not be egotistic enough to want to drive it (they're content in
         | life, their self-worth is unlinked to their outcomes)
         | 
         | - People who are willing to sacrifice lifestyle to drive
         | meaningful outcomes also care about being right and are easily
         | blinded by their ego when they're wrong
         | 
         | And the most depressing of all:
         | 
         | - Commanding the resources to drive meaningful outcomes too
         | often goes hand-in-hand with being entrenched in some kind of a
         | system that's too inefficient/bureaucratic/political to
         | actually empower anyone to drive meaningful outcomes.
         | 
         | Another crutch:
         | 
         | - Driving meaningful outcomes can go hand-in-hand with absolute
         | and utter obsession for navigating whatever is needed to drive
         | it. Personally I understand it as the doing/reflecting
         | dichotomy. Doing the doing leaves little room for reflecting
         | and vice versa.
        
         | _hyn3 wrote:
         | That seems plausible, but it's hard to disprove the truthiness
         | of non-falsifiable statements, especially at (to use your
         | excellent choice of words) that paradoxical intersection of ego
         | and productivity.
         | 
         | (On the other hand, I may not care enough about this topic to
         | genuinely commit to it, which probably means I'm right. ;) )
        
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