[HN Gopher] How to make quitting your addiction easier
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       How to make quitting your addiction easier
        
       Author : vitabenes
       Score  : 199 points
       Date   : 2022-01-08 09:22 UTC (13 hours ago)
        
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       | daggersandscars wrote:
       | Everyone's addiction is different. A question that may be useful
       | for some:
       | 
       | When you started, why was it enjoyable? Be specific.
       | 
       | Many attempts at addressing addictive behavior focus on stopping
       | the behavior. If there was something specific the behavior
       | initially improved, that has to be addressed or you're unlikely
       | to succeed.
       | 
       | E.g.: if drinking initially improved anxiety issues, those will
       | still be there while the person is trying to quit.
        
       | thenerdhead wrote:
       | I felt addicted to the internet a year before the pandemic. I
       | read the book "Don't shoot the dog" and it had so many amazing
       | training tips to kick that addiction. Am I a dog? No. But the
       | training and reinforcement is pretty much universal. Having tools
       | to deal with addiction is important.
       | 
       | Mindfulness sadly isn't the big aha! moment. I know I was
       | addicted. I know I wanted to change. This is why they say
       | "admitting you have a problem" is the first step.
       | 
       | It's not a matter of knowing you're addicted and then suddenly
       | stopping. That can happen, but more likely an incremental
       | approach will happen. B.J. Fogg's book about tiny habits talks
       | about this epiphany moment being quite rare.
       | 
       | Only a couple times in my life have I had this epiphany moment
       | and went cold turkey overnight. Once when I was larger and
       | struggling to hike with friends like I used to. Another when I
       | was playing video games and felt deja vu that made me feel like I
       | wasted years of my life. Now, I'm in the best shape of my life
       | and work on things I'm passionate about in my free time.
        
       | dillondoyle wrote:
       | This type of CBT is great.
       | 
       | But I think there is a big distinction between chemical
       | dependency and other compulsions or addictive behaviors.
       | 
       | And I think the word addiction itself has been kind of coopted by
       | self diagnosing people on the internet for karma and some odd
       | type of self gratitude, if that makes sense; kind of a weird
       | bragging about your supposed addiction to ____ or OCD or ADHD
       | etc.
       | 
       | The author writes "It's about seeing through the illusion of
       | satisfaction. It's about realizing you don't want to be doing it
       | anymore."
       | 
       | Most users don't want to be addicts. Almost no one wants to be
       | dependent on opiates or to have the shakes every morning. Anyone
       | that does hasn't been using long enough yet or probably has other
       | mental health issues that they are trying to patch over
       | themselves with drugs.
       | 
       | We know the satisfaction or other benefits one initially gets
       | from using eventually gets buried deep by all the negatives.
       | 
       | With drugs and alcohol the satisfaction becomes less and less,
       | even when you use more and more.
       | 
       | Drugs are fun & feel good after all. they can 'fix' a huge array
       | of problems in your life.
       | 
       | Until they don't.
       | 
       | Props to anyone who can overcome a chemical dependency on
       | willpower alone and through this type of CBT mental reframing the
       | author talks about.
       | 
       | But for almost all users, especially many of those with untreated
       | underlying issues, it's basically impossible without science
       | based, often medicine supported treatment.
       | 
       | Another book I think is worth reading for a dumbed down summary
       | of addiction is Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of
       | Addiction
        
       | papito wrote:
       | The Power of Habit really taught me to be on the lookout for
       | negative and positive habit loops. It's an incredibly powerful
       | concept, and how pretty much all addictions work, from food to
       | cocaine.
       | 
       | You are bored, so you automatically get up and walk like a zombie
       | to the fridge to inspect it, for example.
        
       | ultrablack wrote:
       | Read Atomic Habits?
        
       | ndynan wrote:
       | This essentially the same argument that Judson Brewer makes using
       | insights from behavioral + buddhist psychology -
       | https://drjud.com/book/
       | 
       | The insight is also to use mindfulness to understand the "true"
       | experience of the addictive behavior and come to internalize that
       | it is no longer valuable.
       | 
       | Ezra Klein has a nice interview on the subject:
       | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/that-anxiety-youre-fee...
        
       | aenis wrote:
       | For those struggling with alcohol - I can recommend the Sinclair
       | Method. The idea is to take an opioid antagonist, naltrexone,
       | before drinking -- this helps reset the association between
       | drinking and pleasure, since drinking on naltrexone is devoid of
       | any pleasure, while the downsides of alcohol are still felt by
       | the body. Do it a few times, and the desire to drink wanes. Also,
       | when under the influence of naltrexone, it's hard to drink a lot,
       | since it really is not enjoyable. It allowed me to basically stop
       | drinking alcohol, but I can still go out with friends and have a
       | drink if I want to, as long as I take naltexone before, there is
       | zero risk of this ending up in a binge. Good stuff.
        
         | gunshai wrote:
         | I wonder if this works for gaming addiction.
        
           | aenis wrote:
           | There has been research into using it to fight gambling and
           | binge eating addictions (with some moderate success in both
           | cases). I'd guess it will work better for addictions which
           | are associated with the state of euphoria, and less so or not
           | at all with compulsive behavior where one feels miserable the
           | whole time.
        
         | loeg wrote:
         | FWIW, it seems like you need a prescription to buy naltrexone
         | in the US.
        
           | MissionInfl wrote:
           | I used telemedicine to get my first prescription. I had a few
           | appointments and probably talked to the total for about 30
           | minutes in total. The Sinclair Method is pretty
           | straightforward once you understand it and there is only one
           | hard rule (always take Naltrexone at least 1 hour before
           | consuming alcohol). But the doctor will want to do a liver
           | enzyme test and ask some basic questions to make sure that it
           | is safe for you to take Naltrexone. If your liver is damaged,
           | you may have to take Nalmefrene instead. Or if you are using
           | opiates, it can be unsafe to take Naltrexone (not sure of the
           | details here).
           | 
           | At some point I was able to get my PCP to refill my
           | Naltrexone subscription. Naltrexone is pretty widely known
           | for treatment for alcoholism but the prevailing wisdom in the
           | medical community is that it must be taken every day to
           | prevent cravings and alcohol should not be consumed when on
           | Naltrexone. I've heard that this way of using Naltrexone
           | isn't any better than placebo. The TSM book[1] does a good
           | job of explaining why this is the case: the mechanism of
           | action is that the Naltrexone blocks the endorphin rewards
           | from consuming alcohol, so it doesn't work if you don't drink
           | and there is no point in taking Naltrexone without drinking.
           | 
           | tldr: you may be able to find a TSM specific doctor via
           | telemedicine. Additionally, most PCP will probably prescribe
           | Naltrexone, although you need to be mindful that they may
           | recommend to take it every day and this is not TSM
           | 
           | [1] https://www.dropbox.com/s/60fs7gmvbyzs1kk/Cure%20for%20Al
           | coh...
        
         | 0xcde4c3db wrote:
         | Does the Sinclair method have a track record for people who
         | don't drink primarily for pleasure? I find that I already don't
         | typically get a lot of actual pleasure out of drinking; it's
         | mostly a way to help me relax because my baseline anxiety level
         | tends to be pretty high. I don't have the classic "alcoholic"
         | pattern of behavior, but I've done the math and the number
         | definitely needs to go down.
         | 
         | (Please spare me the "ackchyually alcohol makes anxiety worse"
         | spiel. Whatever my problem is, it was there long before I
         | started drinking and has not improved during periods of
         | abstinence.)
        
           | aenis wrote:
           | Likely. Your body won't get the euphoric rush from alcohol,
           | so I thinik it will prevent it from functioning as anxiety
           | medication. Its works on low hardware level, so to speak, and
           | should nullify any positive effects from alcohol on the
           | psyche.
        
         | MissionInfl wrote:
         | Highly recommend The Sinclair Method. I chose to try it because
         | I wanted to be able to continue to drink socially as the OP
         | mentioned. I actually overshot this and find myself completely
         | abstinent for over a year now. It actually made me "too sober"
         | which can be slightly frustrating but it a REALLY good problem
         | to have considering where I was a few years ago.
         | 
         | Some more resources:
         | 
         | https://www.reddit.com/r/Alcoholism_Medication/ - a great
         | community and how I first discovered The Sinclair Method
         | 
         | https://www.onelittlepillmovie.com/ - documentary on The
         | Sinclair Method
         | 
         | https://youtu.be/6EghiY_s2ts - TED talk on The Sinclair Method
         | 
         | https://www.dropbox.com/s/60fs7gmvbyzs1kk/Cure%20for%20Alcoh...
         | (warning: large PDF) - book about The Sinclair Method,
         | definitely the best way to learn more, it is surprisingly
         | simple and the first few chapters cover everything but you may
         | find yourself reading on because there's some interesting case
         | studies and tips on how to succeed
        
         | birriel wrote:
         | Is there something similar to this for smoking, barring Chantix
         | (I believe it was recalled last year for having carcinogenic
         | compounds itself)?
        
         | ransom1538 wrote:
         | _from a friend:_ They have a shot version too. The pill will
         | work if you don 't cheat. But taking the shot takes out all the
         | guessing. I would do this your first few months.
        
           | aenis wrote:
           | According to the sinclair method, the shot is only good if
           | you do drink every day.
           | 
           | Otherwise, the pill is better. Take it if you plan to drink,
           | and dont take it otherwise.
           | 
           | As another poster has said, its easy to "overshoot". For me,
           | after three pills I stopped craving for alcohol and only
           | drink on social ocassions.
        
           | MissionInfl wrote:
           | I would modify this recommendation to say that the shot
           | version (Vivitrol in the US) is not necessarily compatible
           | with The Sinclair Method which requires you to take
           | Naltrexone only when you are drinking. So unless you drink
           | every day, it might not be the best fit. I myself was a binge
           | drinker, on any given day I drank either 0 drinks or 10+, so
           | the Naltrexone pills were the best fit for me.
        
       | erwincoumans wrote:
       | For a curious person, reading interesting information on the
       | internet and watching Youtube videos is not (necessarily) wasted
       | time.
       | 
       | So it helps if you keep in mind activities that are acceptable
       | and ones that are not.
       | 
       | A lot of the 'good habits', moved to screen time: I used to read
       | more news papers, magazines and books, and most of that turned
       | into screen time. Online discussion is also a useful way to spend
       | time I think (with the right audience, such as some of HN).
       | 
       | I wouldn't put screen time due to curiosity for information on
       | the same level as bad addictions, such as smoking (hurting
       | health) or gambling (hurting the wallet).
        
         | david_allison wrote:
         | The YouTube front page/recommendations were a massive amount of
         | wasted time for me. Removing them via uBlock Origin filters has
         | significantly reduced my "wasted" time on YouTube:
         | www.youtube.com###secondary         www.youtube.com##ytd-
         | browse[page-subtype="home"] #primary
         | www.youtube.com##.ytp-show-tiles.ytp-endscreen-
         | paginate.videowall-endscreen.ytp-player-content.html5-endscreen
        
           | lanstin wrote:
           | A good general rule of thumb is never look at anything
           | recommended by an algorithm. Chronological feeds and media
           | recommendations from other humans. Search results are a
           | tricky middle ground. Seems they are trying to make that a
           | source of low value, addictive content as well.
        
         | danenania wrote:
         | I've been listening to Andrew Huberman's podcast lately. He's a
         | neurologist and ophthalmologist at Stanford. Something that
         | comes up a lot is how much artificial light, especially the
         | blue light of screens, affects the eyes, brain, and circadian
         | rhythm. Research has even shown a significant impact on hormone
         | levels.
         | 
         | Because of this, I don't see reading a book on a phone as
         | equivalent to a paper book, or reading news online as a
         | equivalent to a newspaper. The content your brain is processing
         | may be the same, but it has a very different impact on your
         | body and mental state, especially at night. So I think it's
         | wise to differentiate screen vs. non-screen activities and be
         | more careful about doing the former in moderation, or perhaps
         | only early in the day.
        
           | lanstin wrote:
           | EInk with warm light. Kindle or Rmarkable with good reading
           | light. Or reading outside in the sunlight.
        
       | schwartzworld wrote:
       | Stupid condescending article. Anybody who thinks quitting smoking
       | is just a question of "realizing you don't want it anymore" has
       | never tried to quit smoking.
        
         | dahart wrote:
         | > Stupid condescending article
         | 
         | Don't mistake a 'here's the trick' with 'it's so easy', the
         | article wasn't claiming it's easy. And don't take advice as a
         | personal affront.
         | 
         | The true and valid point this article is making is that
         | changing a behavior is a mental game you play with your mind,
         | not a physical one, and that "willpower" and "discipline"
         | doesn't work before fully convincing yourself of your goals.
         | You have to figure out how to truly convince yourself the old
         | behavior isn't what you want, and the new behavior is your
         | goal. Not in a contradicting yourself kind of way, but in a
         | deep and true believe it with your whole body way. I think
         | you're actually making the exact same point underneath your
         | disagreement, that focusing on quitting is too hard, and
         | there's more to it.
        
           | schwartzworld wrote:
           | Sure, if they are arguing to apply to things that are mostly
           | psychologically addictive. It's smoking is a physical
           | addiction and a really hard one to break.
        
             | dahart wrote:
             | I think something being physically addictive only increases
             | the mental difficulty of overcoming the addiction, no? It's
             | not physically hard to go through withdrawal, it just
             | sucks.
        
         | lookalike74 wrote:
         | You're being too kind, this article is woo bullshit. Addiction
         | at its core is having lost the power of choice and recovery is
         | finding a way to regain it. But to most people that sounds like
         | just another choice to make - they completely don't get it.
        
         | astura wrote:
         | I think everyone's experiences are different.
         | 
         | I have a friend who left his toxic wife. Immediately after that
         | he quit smoking cold turkey without even trying. He said that
         | with his ex-wife out of his life he just didn't feel like he
         | needed to smoke anymore.
         | 
         | Myself - I don't find caffeine addictive in any way.
        
         | CraigJPerry wrote:
         | Anec data: i smoked for 4 years. For 3.5 of those i was trying
         | to give up - somehow once i entered the consciously trying hard
         | to give up stage, i went from 10 a day to 20-30 per day.
         | 
         | Patches, gums, sprays (throat one, nasal one), cold turkey,
         | herbal cigs, gamification, the little ball pellet things that
         | were briefly on the market as a better gum alternative in the
         | early 2000s, electric cig (not the modern e-cigs, the early
         | 2000's terrible ones), having a quit buddy, joining an nhs
         | smoking cessation group...
         | 
         | I was not playing at giving up. I was latching on to anything
         | that I'd heard worked for someone. I was distraught mentally.
         | To top it all off, i couldn't actually afford smoking as a
         | student, i was accruing debt.
         | 
         | The only 2 things i refused to try were a "stupid" book
         | (easyway by allen carr) - how dumb do you have to be to let a
         | book reprogram your mind, I'm too smart for that. Also i
         | avoided hypnotherapy for the same reason.
         | 
         | I finally read that book. I quit smoking (easily) before the
         | half way mark in the book. No will power, nothing. I was just a
         | non smoker now.
         | 
         | I don't smoke, i don't think about it ever, it doesn't bother
         | me to be near smokers, there's no triggers i have to avoid etc
         | etc im just a plain non smoker.
         | 
         | That book uses the same approach laid out at the start of this
         | article.
        
           | justinator wrote:
           | Good for you! I hope you've allow yourself celebration for
           | kicking the habit!
        
           | cyberpunk wrote:
           | If you enjoy a beer now and again I would avoid his quitting
           | drinking one, it completely ruins that for you too.
           | 
           | Why they don't just give out copies of easyway on the health
           | service I don't know, sure worked for everyone I know who has
           | used it.
        
         | cyberpunk wrote:
         | I'm smoke free for 8 days, and it was very much a question of
         | realising I didn't want it anymore.
         | 
         | I wouldn't generalise on such things though, everyone is
         | different.
        
           | justinator wrote:
           | Heck yeah! KEEP GOING!
        
         | pixelrevision wrote:
         | Lol yup. The advice here is about as practical as "just have 1
         | smoke a week so you can enjoy it". A lot of people just don't
         | get the difference between an addiction and a bad habit.
        
         | Nevermark wrote:
         | Obviously it isn't "just a question", but the article didn't
         | say that.
         | 
         | It simply points out that how we frame, and experience, our own
         | motivations for quitting can be more or less helpful.
         | 
         | I think anything mentally difficult is going to work better if
         | we take into account our subconscious as a first class partner.
         | Our subconscious responds very strongly to how we perceive
         | tasks and challenges. It can carry us through tough situations,
         | but is very hard to work against.
         | 
         | Sometimes subtle, almost nonsensical things from a purely
         | rational point of view, really help.
        
         | andy_ppp wrote:
         | It depends, the Allen Carr book everyone recommends tries to
         | make you see that without directly telling you that smoking is
         | disgusting etc.
         | 
         | The thing for me that allowed me to give up was realising and
         | convincing myself that it was possible for the cravings to go
         | away, to feel normal in a pub without smoking etc.
         | 
         | It seemed impossible at some point so I always went back to it
         | before.
        
           | telxosser wrote:
           | Same for me. I quit for good ten years ago by basically
           | convincing myself it would be easy after so many times trying
           | to quit I lost count.
           | 
           | Of course it really wasn't easy but that mindset let me not
           | give in to the cravings. I do think when you internalize
           | quitting as something that is super difficult it just gives
           | ammunition for all those mind games to give in.
           | 
           | I was also watching this Navy SEAL buds training at the time
           | and the one guy Travis Lively was using that strategy.
           | Convincing himself that Navy SEAL hell week was really not
           | that bad. I love that guy.
           | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVxhm7jkN0k
        
         | barrystaes wrote:
         | There is only 3 ways that i can think of. Either forget/lose
         | the routine without thought, or observe/choose to quit, or
         | being deprived by others.
         | 
         | Only the realisation and choice is definitive. Thats the quit.
         | There is no try. I decided to quit once.
         | 
         | If your quit failed, you just didnt fully realise yet.
        
       | 300bps wrote:
       | Spot on. In 2013 after a highish triglyceride test result I quit
       | obvious refined sugar. (Have to specify exactly what I mean or I
       | get a lot of questions like "what about bread?!!? You know
       | there's sugar in bread right!?!?")
       | 
       | I framed it as, "I just don't want to eat that garbage anymore."
       | Two weeks of cravings and then I just stopped missing it. Fruit
       | started to taste amazing.
       | 
       | Triglycerides went from 263 to 113 in one year.
        
       | Kaze404 wrote:
       | This is something I realized after trying to quit League of
       | Legends, a game I played for over a decade, years ago.
       | 
       | I could only truly stop playing it when I completely internalized
       | the fact that the game didn't bring me anything except misery
       | after every match, win or lose, and the short term satisfaction
       | of the ding you hear when you kill a creep or make a fancy play
       | were not worth it.
       | 
       | Sometimes when I remember it exists I still feel a pull towards
       | it, but now I know that if I play it, in 45 minutes I'll wish I
       | did something else instead. This is more than enough to stop me,
       | fortunately.
        
         | emerongi wrote:
         | Even then it's hard to stop, mainly because it's a habit. I
         | went through the same experience and for about 2 months I had
         | the habit of trying to open League whenever I had free time (it
         | wasn't installed anymore, but the brain wiring would still
         | "think" of opening it). Every single time, I would need to tell
         | myself that there are activities that make me happier. I would
         | slip a couple of times, re-install and then immediately de-
         | install. Luckily I broke the habit eventually.
         | 
         | After going through that, I no longer play games at all and
         | would probably be fine with some degree of regulation in the
         | industry. Many kids are growing up as addicts and it's a bit
         | worrying.
        
           | Kaze404 wrote:
           | Yep, my experience was the exact same. I still play video
           | games however, but as I said in another comment, I'm more
           | conscious of what the game I'm currently playing does to my
           | body and mental health. This mostly translates into a healthy
           | obsession with Final Fantasy XIV, a game I get to share with
           | people as it's online, but not in a competitive environment
           | meaning I get to enjoy it at my own pace.
        
         | anthk wrote:
         | I was like that on games. A half and a decade ago I switched
         | over nes/snes/md/genesis/pce classics, roguelikes and text
         | adventures. No bullshit mechanics, no addictions, no DLC. The
         | 8/16 bit games are short enough to be enjoyed fully, roguelikes
         | add random mechanics and calmness, and IF is like a good book
         | but with far more interaction and rewarding puzzless.
        
           | barbs wrote:
           | Yeah, I find there are some games like CS:GO that feel a bit
           | more like a brain-numbing, slightly soothing activity that
           | chews up time. And then there are roguelikes like FTL that
           | involve interesting decision making and feel far more
           | satisfying.
           | 
           | These days I play more of the latter than the former, but
           | less often, and the decision to play them feels more
           | intentional.
        
         | ss108 wrote:
         | Haha, coincidentally, I clicked on this thread because I plan
         | to uninstall Dota in a couple months.
        
           | hiptobecubic wrote:
           | I cannot imagine being so addicted to a game that I plan on
           | quitting it "in a couple months."
           | 
           | Thank God I never started dota. Just reading the steam
           | reviews are enough to convince anyone that gaming is a
           | serious public health issue and detriment to society.
        
             | ss108 wrote:
             | It's winter now, so social life is quieter. _shrug_
        
         | slothtrop wrote:
         | > I could only truly stop playing it when I completely
         | internalized the fact that the game didn't bring me anything
         | except misery
         | 
         | Being cognizant of this was among the first steps to curbing
         | addiction for me, but I found that I would quickly forget when
         | my mind was in pursuit mode. Anticipation creates a large spike
         | in dopamine - I've shaken in anticipation, you've got blinders
         | on at that point. I needed the discipline to avoid entertaining
         | the thought of cravings and take myself out of situations,
         | offer alternatives even. When I was stressed or sleepless is
         | when this was hardest. Eventually your baseline dopamine levels
         | improve, and you find more motivation and focus for everyday
         | life. It can get better with most other things remaining equal,
         | which in my experience was beyond my imagination until I lived
         | it.
        
         | infairverona wrote:
         | Curious why you feel that way, I've been playing league of
         | legends for about that long and although i don't spend nearly
         | as much time as I used to on it, it still does mostly bring me
         | joy whenever I get to play. Is the disappointment you feel
         | linked to winning vs losing or are you always unhappy
         | regardless of the outcome of the game?
        
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           | emerongi wrote:
           | For me, it was about ranking up. I'm harsh on myself when
           | ranking up, these are the possible scenarios:
           | 
           | 1. You play well, but your teammates play poorly. You lose
           | the game, you feel bad.
           | 
           | 2. You play poorly, but your teammates play well. Whether you
           | win or lose, you feel bad.
           | 
           | 3. You play poorly, your teammates play poorly. You feel bad.
           | 
           | 4. You play well, your teammates play well. You win - the
           | only happy scenario -, but even then there's going to be
           | complaining and whining by everyone in the game.
           | 
           | If your win rate is something like 55%, you're going to
           | experience a lot of the bad scenarios, even though you're
           | ranking up in the long term. Once it's an addiction, you
           | start the game already in a bad state of mind, as you hate
           | that you're wasting your time on a pointless game anyway.
           | 
           | ARAMs were fun though, I actually enjoyed ARAM.
        
             | dsclough wrote:
             | I've wished for years that mobas and other competitive-
             | ranked games simply let you completely hide your rank from
             | yourself. I'm sure the psychological addiction aspect has
             | something to do with why this is never an option, but
             | playing unranked games isn't really a replacement because
             | those players have a different mindset. Just let me play
             | competitive modes and be blind to my ranking :(
        
           | Kaze404 wrote:
           | My best guess is I played it so much that I don't get any
           | satisfaction from a match ending, regardless of outcome,
           | which turns into disappointment considering it's a PvP game
           | where you're supposed to get satisfaction from winning. That
           | would lead me into immediately queueing again, looking for
           | the next rush, and next thing I notice it's 8 hours later and
           | I feel like I wasted an entire day.
           | 
           | I still play video games of course, but nowadays I'm more
           | conscious of what each of them bring to my life, and avoid
           | the ones that don't leave me feeling good after a long
           | session.
        
           | ss108 wrote:
           | > it still does mostly bring me joy whenever I get to play
           | 
           | I think you are def in the minority of people who regularly
           | play LoL or Dota haha
           | 
           | relevant:
           | https://clips.twitch.tv/SplendidAliveQueleaFeelsBadMan-
           | QxQq2...
        
       | anthk wrote:
       | Switch to https://68k.news for 10 minutes a day. Enough to stay
       | informed.
       | 
       | On tech, usenet has good newsgroups, such as comp.misc. By
       | pulling articles once a web, you'll get sorted.
        
         | b3morales wrote:
         | Tangent, but if this is your site you should fix the
         | certificate.
        
           | anthk wrote:
           | That's because I posted the wrong URL. It's http://68k.news,
           | it doesn't use TLS at all.
        
       | tcskeptic wrote:
       | I have found it very useful to frame things in terms of my future
       | self. This works for both things I want to do, and things I want
       | to stop doing.
       | 
       | For example -- get home from work, tired, don't want to go row.
       | Instead of saying to myself "You really should go row, you said
       | you wanted to do it 4 times a week." I say "1 hour from now do I
       | want to be a person who has sat on the couch for an hour or do I
       | want to be the person who has worked out, taken a shower, and
       | feels good". Same thing for stopping mindless doom scrolling or
       | making dinner vs ordering deliver or whatever.
       | 
       | I know it's just a mental trick -- but reframing things in terms
       | of my future self has been _incredibly_ powerful for me.
        
         | anthomtb wrote:
         | Future me has helped maintain an exercise habit and healthy
         | eating for nearly 2 decades of my life (and counting).
         | 
         | Future me has been less effective for breaking the internet
         | habit. It works, just not quite as well. I think because future
         | me still wants to know what happened in the world in the last
         | hour. And because sometimes current me needs a break and light
         | entertainment due to the mental energy required to consider
         | future me.
        
         | costcofries wrote:
         | I do something similar. If I'm being lazy or procrastinating I
         | ask myself to rate on a scale of ten how much I don't want to
         | do said thing, then I ask myself why it's not a 10/10, those
         | reasons push me to start.
         | 
         | Example - how badly do you not want to run today (6/10). Why
         | not 10/10? Because I'll feel better after, because it's part of
         | my marathon training and because dinner will feel more
         | rewarding. Ok, go run.
        
           | psychomugs wrote:
           | Some advice I gleaned from another HN post: you rarely [1]
           | regret going for a run.
           | 
           | [1] Unless you're injured and stubbornly push your body
           | through it.
        
             | DarylZero wrote:
             | If you're fat you are going to regret going for a run for
             | days just from the micro-injuries. It's not low-impact.
             | 
             | Also, even if you walk back home after an injury, you might
             | regret running. You started your run able to run, now
             | you're disabled!
        
               | BossingAround wrote:
               | Your wording is poor, but you are right in a sense. If
               | I've never run, I won't finish a triathlon and expect to
               | be completely fine the next day.
               | 
               | If your body is utterly out of shape, i.e. you're
               | morbidly obese, you don't start with running. You start
               | with walking and slowly move to running. In that case,
               | you won't regret walking, not running.
        
         | Ozzie_osman wrote:
         | You're actually triggering two things with this trick.
         | 
         | First, the piece you call out is delayed gratification (ie
         | focusing on the future over the short-term).
         | 
         | But there's a second piece hidden in there, which is identity-
         | orientation. "I'm the type of person who does X". Tying actions
         | to your identity is actually really powerful.
        
           | MagicNights wrote:
           | This is one of many solutions to the framing problem. John
           | Vervaeke discusses it and the theoretical background in his
           | awakening from the meaning crisis lecture series.
           | 
           | Lecture 13 especially
           | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jkWNBdBDyoE
           | 
           | Meditation, therapy, exercise, certain religious practices,
           | etc. Also break people out when they are stuck in loops of
           | vicious cycles. Different people have different combinations
           | of what practices work for them. And there's no way to know
           | what works before you try it.
           | 
           | In OPs article, he mentions the distinction between knowledge
           | and information. He means self-knowledge, the stuff Socrates
           | talked about
        
         | id wrote:
         | This only works if you care enough about your future self
         | unfortunately.
        
         | robenkleene wrote:
         | A bit off topic, but I'm wondering if anyone has any ideas
         | about how to remember to do something like this?
         | 
         | In specific, I mean as it relates to information management.
         | E.g., a lot of things are solved problems for me, like using
         | todo apps for todos, and some sort of "Everything bucket"[0]
         | system for searching for information (per the link, I use the
         | file system for this).
         | 
         | But things like this, things you want to try and implement, but
         | unlike a todo, you have to wait for the right moment (i.e., use
         | this technique to address a bad habit at the right moment), I
         | can't figure out a way to use to technology to remember to do
         | them.
         | 
         | (I'm aware some people don't like to use technology to solve
         | these kinds of problems, but for me personally, technology has
         | been tremendously effective in solving these problems when a
         | system can be adapted to the problem. I'm just not sure what
         | the system should be for this type of information.)
         | 
         | I've actually been thinking about this problem literally for
         | over a decade, the first app I ever made was designed to
         | address it[1]. This app is no longer maintained, because it
         | didn't get enough users to be worth maintaining. Maybe an app
         | like this is the right solution, and there's just not enough
         | people who think it's a problem worth solving to support the
         | continued development of a software solution? I'm not sure.
         | 
         | [0]: https://www.al3x.net/blog/2009/01/31/the-case-against-
         | everyt...
         | 
         | [1]: https://1percenter.com/review/
        
           | batshit_beaver wrote:
           | When it comes to automatic introspection (ie noticing when
           | you're thinking/feeling something, processing that, and
           | making a CONSCIOUS decision in response), I am not aware of a
           | better solution than meditation. It literally trains your
           | mind that the constant stream of information passing through
           | your brain (thoughts and cravings included) can actually be
           | "watched" and responded to.
           | 
           | If you don't have a sufficient level of awareness, it'll be
           | really hard to catch yourself thinking "man, I don't want to
           | do X, I'm just gonna lay on the couch." You'll just go lay on
           | the couch and your brain will continue on to something else.
           | 
           | To break these kinds of patterns, you essentially need a
           | "supervisor" process running in your brain that can catch and
           | evaluate thoughts, especially negative or harmful ones. Then
           | if you catch yourself thinking "I don't want to do X right
           | now," you can proceed to thinking about that feeling rather
           | than laying on the couch.
           | 
           | Takes about a month or two of daily meditation before this
           | sort of thing really starts becoming effortless.
           | 
           | I miss my meditation routine...
        
         | 0xcde4c3db wrote:
         | The problem with this kind of trick for me is that too often,
         | the "better" option does not actually make me feel better (in
         | any sense). It ends up just feeling like effort for the sake of
         | effort.
        
         | emerged wrote:
         | I sometimes explicitly create a log of the before and after
         | state of mind. Before rowing: "I feel fine, but pretty lazy and
         | stressed about XYZ" after rowing: "Struggled through and got a
         | big endorphin rush toward the end, feeling good and much less
         | stressed."
         | 
         | Seeing fitness progress graphs helps as well (heart rate vs
         | power output etc). I know for me personally monitoring my
         | resting heart rate made a strong argument against pretty much
         | any alcohol consumption.
        
           | loeg wrote:
           | What effect have you observed on your resting heart rate from
           | alcohol?
        
             | emerged wrote:
             | It increases immediately and takes a few days to settle
             | back down. After quitting my weekly average slowly
             | continued to decrease. My RHH is a very consistent 46 bpm
             | now and it was consistently in the low to mid 50s during
             | the months/years I was routinely drinking on the weekends.
             | 
             | Obviously there are other factors like fitness, sleep,
             | general health, but I was monitoring the numbers on a daily
             | basis and the trends became really clear.
        
             | maccard wrote:
             | I've not been measuring my RHR for a while but when I was
             | training daily my RHR would be up significantly for maybe 3
             | days after a night out even if I felt 100% the morning
             | after.
        
       | molhillmountain wrote:
       | Alternative to thinking in the future about rewards is focusing
       | on immediate costs. My consumption and enjoyment of junk food has
       | plummeted ever since I went from 'this is bad for me but
       | delicious' to 'this in fact tastes awful and my stomach hurts.'
       | Obviously, this doesn't work as well with my favorite desserts,
       | but if you improve your taste and your favorite desserts become
       | super expensive/rare you rapidly decrease the amount of
       | temptation you face.
        
       | short12 wrote:
       | This article is just flat out the dumbest thing I've ever read in
       | regards to addiction
        
         | kayodelycaon wrote:
         | I'm genuinely curious, because of the other discussions
         | happening here. Why is the article bad/wrong?
        
           | pixelrevision wrote:
           | It's conflating bad habits and addiction. The advice may work
           | for bad habits such as watching too much YouTube when you'd
           | rather be more productive. An addiction twists the mind
           | around where no amount of reason is going to stick without
           | external systems in place to help. Anyone who's had any
           | serious struggles either internally or with a loved one is
           | going to recognize this.
        
             | golemiprague wrote:
        
             | kayodelycaon wrote:
             | I happen to agree. I read it in the same way as many
             | articles on depression. This is an article that discusses a
             | "normal person" problem.
             | 
             | Fortunately, most of the people discussing it here seem to
             | recognize that. A few of them prefaced their comments as a
             | result. And I don't see anyone disagreeing that bad habits
             | and serious addiction are different problems.
             | 
             | As a result, the discussion has been helpful to me rather
             | than aggravating.
        
       | l5870uoo9y wrote:
       | I have found the replacement tactic useful. If you want to stop
       | drinking coffee, replace it with tea.
        
         | dbrueck wrote:
         | Can confirm. I successfully got off cocaine by replacing it
         | with heroin and it was as easy as pie.
        
       | vcarrico wrote:
       | > Most people try quitting their addiction by banning themselves
       | from doing it.
       | 
       | After some failed attempts I quit smoking 7 months a go and this
       | change in the way of thinking made the difference for me. During
       | the failed attempts I used to repeat to myself "I can't smoke",
       | this last time my thought was more like "I don't want to smoke",
       | I didn't even tell to my wife that I was trying to quit so that I
       | would fell less the pressure of being forbidden to smoke. Somehow
       | it worked better for me and whenever I had cravings my thoughts
       | were usually something like "I could smoke if I wanted to, I'm 5
       | minutes away from a pack of cigarets, but I don't want."
       | 
       | I'm not saying that this was the only factor that made me stop or
       | this is the "secret to quit smoking" or that's easy, it just
       | worked better for me.
        
         | _dark_matter_ wrote:
         | This is the basics of Carr's "easy way", right? It basically
         | convinces you that you don't want to smoke. On top of that it
         | specifically doesn't let you stop smoking until you finish the
         | book. So you feel horrible reading this book and smoking until
         | the end when you're like FINALLY I'm allowed to stop!
        
       | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
       | Well, there's "bad habits," and "lack of discipline," vs. true,
       | hard-core "addiction," like alcoholism, compulsive gambling,
       | sexual addiction, and drug addiction.
       | 
       | For the former, mindfulness, metrics, and discipline can be
       | extremely effective (and can provide many benefits beyond simply
       | quitting the habit).
       | 
       | For the latter, they can be helpful, but we usually need a great
       | deal more assistance.
        
         | skeeter2020 wrote:
         | I would appreciate a trigger warning before people use the word
         | "Addiction" to encompass everything from methamphetamine use to
         | playing video games to frequently. As you indicate they are not
         | comparable and require very different approaches to escaping.
         | Adding to the challenge is that hardcore, true addictions tend
         | to be layered on top of each other and quitting one is almost
         | impossible while still having the others, yet quitting them all
         | at the same time is also impossible.
        
           | dbrueck wrote:
           | > I would appreciate a trigger warning before people use the
           | word
           | 
           | Curious to know what you mean by this. Are you literally
           | asking that people say/write "trigger warning" (or something
           | to that effect) before a certain word is used in an upcoming
           | sentence or do you mean something else?
        
           | dillondoyle wrote:
           | I'm not sure what a trigger warning would look like but I
           | agree in figuring out a language distinction.
           | 
           | Chemically dependent works in a lot of ways IMHO.
           | 
           | but I guess you could argue that ones porn addiction messes
           | with your neuro-transmitters & dopamine, gaba, whatever too.
           | 
           | Plus you're right that with poly drug dependency a lot of
           | times there are other real mental health issues at play, many
           | requiring medicine to treat both the chemical dependency and
           | underlying problems.
           | 
           | To me too it's kind of a bit of trigger when people over
           | exaggerate and self diagnose their 'serious' starbucks
           | addiction lol as a joking example.
           | 
           | not sure trigger is the word, but like more like a sigh when
           | you have a life experience more similar to what you describe.
           | 
           | like when a reddit thread gets literally 80% of people
           | commenting they have self diagnosed adhd or ocd compulsions
           | whatever. slaps face.
        
           | BbzzbB wrote:
           | Far from me the idea to downplay the horror that must be
           | quitting a long-formed addiction to methamphetamine or
           | heroin, but I think downplaying non-chemical addictions as
           | "bad habits" is an unfair characterization as well.
           | 
           | YMMV, but in my own experience for what it is worth, I've
           | seen little difference and much parallel between quitting
           | cigarettes (after 10 years of ~15 cigs/day), weed (after 11
           | years of ~1-1.5g/day) and Internet time-wasters (.. a W.I.P.,
           | many-to-most hours a day). Haven't gamed in a while now, but
           | the loop of self-hatred and coping where each day you tell
           | yourself "tomorrow is a new dawn" has felt eerily similar to
           | each day telling yourself you're done smoking after this pack
           | - which you make sure to finish so you wake-up without any
           | left - until you're walking right back to the convenience
           | store begrudgingly before noon. Rinse and repeat for months
           | and years until, eventually, it actually sticks for some
           | reason and you get past the first few months without giving
           | in to your triggers (failing which you're basically back to
           | square one). The pull to grab a smoke never really goes away,
           | although it actually stinks after a few months, you just
           | learn to tell yourself "no". The same way going to the
           | dispensary remains tempting, but you remind yourself how it
           | actually makes you feel after you smoke beyond the habitual
           | dopamine hit. The same way reinstalling LoL or whatever gets
           | tempting when you don't want to do what you need to do, but
           | you manage to control yourself knowing you won't get any
           | satisfaction from it.
           | 
           | I know it sounds dumb, I know none of these are comparable to
           | an opioid addiction (despite what some say about nicotine, I
           | refuse to believe it is harder to quit then opioids) and I
           | don't think I'm able to properly word how I'm trying to say
           | w.r.t. addiction, but I really think, for myself, that my
           | addictions acted in a very similar way on my psyche. They're
           | all self-destructive ways (for me and my usage) of coping
           | with my negative emotions and anxieties, the "pull" to each
           | when trying to quit and the hoops my brain'd go through to
           | justify giving in to a trigger felt very similar, chemical or
           | not. If anything, quitting cigarettes was the "easiest" and
           | avoiding wasting hours a day on unfulfilling Internet
           | activities remains the hardest.
        
             | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
             | _> I think downplaying non-chemical addictions as  "bad
             | habits" is an unfair characterization as well._
             | 
             | Fair enough. I didn't feel that was appropriate, either, as
             | I am _quite_ aware that these types of addictions can be
             | very destructive.
             | 
             | I can assure you, though, that considering them to be in
             | the same category as a chronic alcoholic or drug addict is
             | just as inaccurate, with the added caveat that calling it
             | by the same name, "cheapens" the more serious type of
             | addiction. That's one of the reasons that some folks get
             | upset over calling people "Nazis," for doing things like
             | being anal about the rules. They feel that it waters down
             | the true horror of what the Nazis were really all about.
             | 
             | Also, "Bad Habits" was a great album by The Monks _(2.0
             | -UK- Version)_.
             | 
             | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mBtGNHkLt4E
        
               | BbzzbB wrote:
               | Dare I say, it is IMO odd you will agree to include
               | gambling addiction in your original comment, but won't do
               | the same for other types of addiction which don't fit in
               | the same league as chronic meth use. If someone comes to
               | you saying they didn't save a dime over 20 years and live
               | in shame because they're compulsively gambling every
               | evening even when their brain screams them not to, will
               | you tell them they are not addicted because it cheapens
               | the trouble of those that lost their families, houses and
               | lives over worse gambling addictions? Nicotine is clearly
               | chemically addictive, but it is no where near as life-
               | disruptive as chronic alcohol or meth abuse (even health-
               | wise with some methods of administrations), are they not
               | addicted because they have it better than the other
               | group?
               | 
               | I get what you're saying, but I have a hard time agreeing
               | we should be so stringent as to what we'll call addiction
               | and not. If it's derailing your life, calling it a bad
               | habit is reductive. I think addiction is a large enough
               | spectrum that it can encompass both horrific and harsh
               | addictions. It actually reminds me of all the stories I
               | read about narcotics anonymous where people feel so
               | unwelcome in those groups as their struggles get shrugged
               | off by NA that they resort to going in AA groups
               | pretending their coke addiction was booze as they are
               | less judgemental groups.
        
               | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
               | _> I read about narcotics anonymous where people feel so
               | unwelcome in those groups as their struggles get shrugged
               | off by NA that they resort to going in AA groups
               | pretending their coke addiction was booze as they are
               | less judgemental groups._
               | 
               | I'd be extremely interested in learning a bit more about
               | this, but I don't think that discussion of individual
               | treatments is something I'll be pursuing in a public
               | venue.
               | 
               | Feel free to reach out to me. I have my info in my HN
               | profile.
        
               | BbzzbB wrote:
               | It was something I came across online and not personally,
               | I was curious so I read about it on forums for drug
               | addicts and it seemed somewhat prevalent, at least not
               | unique to the first post I read about it.
               | 
               | I wanted to edit this in but since I'm late I'll do it
               | here : I could very well be in the wrong with my stance
               | on addiction as a term. Perhaps it is akin to me
               | downplaying feminist or trans causes as a male (it's not
               | something I do, just an example) to say we shouldn't
               | reserve the term for worst cases. I say that from a
               | stance where I think it is a prevalent problem in our
               | society and we should be able to address it without tip-
               | toeing around terminology. We should be able to talk
               | about things like weed and obsessive phone-scrolling as
               | potentially disruptive issues that can be proper
               | psychological problems (and/or stemming from others like
               | anxiety) which run deeper than mere bad habits.
               | 
               | And thanks for your kind offer.
        
         | exhilaration wrote:
         | I feel that the word "compulsion" describes a good middle
         | ground between bad habits and addiction.
         | 
         | I like ice cream and chocolate chip cookies a little too much.
         | It's not quite an addiction, but it's gone beyond a bad habit
         | at this point.
        
       | TonyRobbins wrote:
       | I like this two points. Thank You for Sharing Valuable Tips.
       | 
       | >There are 2 main things you can do to come to the realization
       | that addiction is empty of satisfaction and that you actually
       | don't want to do this anymore.
       | 
       | Reflect on the cost of the addiction. Reflect on how it's not
       | fulfilling you at all. How you feel after you've indulged.
       | Pondering the personal negative effects that a specific behavior
       | has on your life is a good initial step. Bonus points if you do
       | this in writing. Abstain for a couple of days as an experiment.
       | Remove a distracting app from your phone for a weekend. Plan a
       | trip that will take you away from the environment that makes the
       | addiction easy to engage in.
        
       | mythrwy wrote:
       | I liked this and will be the first to admit I have an information
       | ingestion problem that the internet has made many times worse.
       | 
       | In grade school I nearly failed a semester because I read books
       | all day. It was obsessive. I didn't do my school work but knew
       | all kinds of random facts. And even though my parents caught it
       | and pulled me out I never did as well as I could have because at
       | some level the issue persisted, even now and I'm 50 years old.
       | 
       | It really has been a problem my entire life. I suspect it's kind
       | of like the evolutionary desire for sugar. Useful when sugar was
       | rare, deadly when sugar is cheap, refined and readily available.
       | Same with the desire for information. We can only healthily
       | process so much and we only need so much and it needs to be in
       | the proper form.
       | 
       | It's so bad sometimes I'll have multiple tabs open at a time
       | paging back and forth at light speed, or listening to
       | informational audio and trying to read at the same time. Or surf
       | the net for 14 hours straight. Like a wino greedily slurping a
       | bottle as fast as he can with another ready to go in the other
       | hand.
       | 
       | I never got into video games which always seemed like complete
       | boring waste of time.
       | 
       | The ironic thing is I never would have found the article if I
       | weren't frantically scrolling HN looking for the keys to the
       | universe.
        
         | nickfromseattle wrote:
         | >In grade school I nearly failed a semester because I read
         | books all day. It was obsessive. I didn't do my school work but
         | knew all kinds of random facts.
         | 
         | This is a very familiar story.
         | 
         | Even today it's still an issue. I have missed the gym, or been
         | late to a social obligation hundreds of times due to getting
         | stuck reading something.
         | 
         | While the behavior does have negative impacts, I generally view
         | it as a positive thing.
         | 
         | I know a little about a lot, and I can generally have an
         | engaging conversation with anyone, about the things they want
         | to talk about.
         | 
         | I think knowing a little about a lot also helps me in the
         | periphery of the things I do go deep into.
         | 
         | For example, I've read hundreds of articles on Hacker News
         | about cyber security and have read countless comments by
         | cynical devs explaining that companies don't take security
         | seriously because it doesn't create revenue. Today as a non-
         | technical founder, the security posture of my organization is
         | 10x better than my peers (including technical founders) at
         | similar sized (and even bigger!) orgs.
         | 
         | You spoke specifically about the negative impacts - do you see
         | any positive impacts?
        
           | mythrwy wrote:
           | Yep there are a lot of positive impacts. Like you, I feel I
           | know a little about a lot of things.
           | 
           | By the time I was in maybe 6'th grade I suspect I had better
           | knowledge of world history, different cultures, ecology and a
           | whole lot other topics then most of my teachers. At least at
           | a superficial level. Even though a lot of books I was reading
           | were fiction I knew a lot about the world. So (as you say) a
           | lot of times when I need to know something I know where to
           | look or have a baseline to start from. Also I think I
           | understand how things fit together holistically better then
           | average. And my research skills are pretty good, separating
           | the wheat from the chaff and rapidly getting to the meat of a
           | topic takes a lot less time then others I've noticed.
           | 
           | But, it hasn't made me rich lol. Perhaps because I have too
           | many interests and they aren't always the most immediately
           | useful. And there have been other problems.
        
         | anthk wrote:
         | Just open http://68k.news and https://text.npr.org, ditch
         | anything else. Read them just daily, for 20 minutes. Enough for
         | news.
         | 
         | On books, get adult mistery gamebooks, they are random enough
         | to force yourself on your previous choices (and your
         | character's skills) and having to improvise to win instead of
         | being a static reader.
         | 
         | EDIT: 68k URL.
        
           | DarylZero wrote:
           | LOL, top headline right now on text.npr.org is classic
           | clickbait style:
           | 
           | "Congress may change this arcane law to avoid another Jan. 6"
        
             | mythrwy wrote:
             | Right? That's a puzzling comment. Low level sweater wearing
             | soft voiced .gov propaganda isn't usually high on my
             | interest list.
             | 
             | Although come to think of it, he might have a point. Maybe
             | if I stuck with that I wouldn't be tempted to keep going
             | back.
        
       | chiefalchemist wrote:
       | IDK, most addicts I've known and talked to have said that
       | addiction is often a symptom. That is, (typically) the substance
       | is used to mask the pain.
       | 
       | Taking away the substance doesn't cure the root pain. Truly
       | quitting addiction means addressing the room cause(s).
        
         | skeeter2020 wrote:
         | I think you're right when it comes to many addictions. When we
         | add in bad, unhealthy and suboptimal habits this is probably
         | less universal, which unfortunately get labelled as
         | "addicitions" in a lot of cases.
        
       | mbrock wrote:
       | I like the book "The Biology of Desire" on addiction. It views
       | addiction as an instance of the same kind of desire-driven habit-
       | forming learning that's the core of our motivational system. And
       | so quitting an addiction is not exactly just quitting something
       | bad. It's more like a continuation of one's general lifelong
       | process of learning. This is a kinder framing and it's thoroughly
       | neuroscientific. And it reveals that addictions are actually very
       | clever behaviors in some ways--so we can even learn from them as
       | we try to develop healthier habits to replace the ones that harm
       | us. It's also a narrative perspective that respects the subject's
       | life story. The addiction was a part in my troubled human
       | journey. And now my narrative needs to find a new charge, a new
       | quest, a new act. Maybe I was drawn into addiction in part
       | because my life story didn't make sense, I felt disconnected from
       | past and scared of the future, etc. Addictions also form around
       | the need for connection: it's not just the beer, it's the pub. So
       | I have to find other social contexts that center around something
       | that doesn't harm me.
        
         | justinator wrote:
         | Thank you for sharing your book recommendation! I'm going to
         | seek it out.
        
           | mbrock wrote:
           | I heard about the book in this lecture by John Vervaeke, so
           | you might be interested in that too!
           | 
           | https://youtu.be/vGB8k7jk1AQ
        
         | refurb wrote:
         | I like to draw a comparison to obsessive compulsive behavior.
         | The compulsion (which is often what drives use and relapse) is
         | a learned behavior and one that is reinforced by the reward.
         | 
         | People with OCD often find the obsessive and repetitive
         | behavior helps with anxiety, although the anxiety ends up
         | reduced in the short-term, it worsens in the long term as the
         | behaviors have negative consequences of their own (disruptive
         | and time consuming, interfering with normal life activities,
         | shame for lack of self-control).
         | 
         | We wouldn't tell someone with OCD to just "quit doing that"
         | (and for the person it would just increase anxiety to stop
         | doing what helps their anxiety), but provide an alternative
         | that addresses the core cause of the behavior (anxiety) and
         | "unlearns" the harmful behavior, replacing it with self-help
         | tools to address the core problems (anxiety) in ways that are
         | less harmful and likely more effective in the long term. That
         | can be done through a number of approaches, none of which are
         | surefire and often take a few attempts.
        
           | mbrock wrote:
           | Oh yeah, the book also describes the craving itself as an
           | essential part of the addiction. It's not just that the drug
           | or whatever is so immensely pleasing when you take it, it's
           | also that the whole cycle of wanting, pursuing, and getting
           | is addictive in itself. It's a whole "dark liturgy." Strong
           | craving for a well-known thing might be preferable to vague
           | indeterminate anxiety, or it might be a way to occupy one's
           | mind to avoid seeing something traumatic. Chasing a target is
           | a thrill in itself.
        
             | alexilliamson wrote:
             | These three comments really hit home. Thanks!
        
         | sirspacey wrote:
         | I found this helpful, thanks for sharing. I'm checking out the
         | book.
         | 
         | I've noticed finding ways to make my experience more friendly,
         | easy, and kind seems to make the most progress in assessing
         | patterns.
         | 
         | Best quote I've heard on addiction:
         | 
         | "Addiction is getting more of something than you want."
        
       | boppo1 wrote:
       | I have the problem that my addiction (scrolling 4chan* and HN for
       | hours) has materially added value to my life. I've been
       | introduced to books and resources and technical advice that I've
       | found nowhere else. But I have trouble controlling the amount of
       | time I spend browsing.
       | 
       | *4chan is full of hate, but if you grew up with it and have a
       | sort of auto-filter, there are surprising things there. I would
       | not have read (and deeply enjoyed) Moby Dick if not for 4chan.
       | Weird. This is not a recommendation though, generally speaking,
       | avoid the place at all costs.
        
         | raunak wrote:
         | How can I get value out of 4chan? Browsing b fit and pol
         | doesn't really do anything for me. What should I do instead?
        
           | boppo1 wrote:
           | > How can I get value out of 4chan?
           | 
           | Leave. Seriously. Don't visit if you can help it. There are
           | other, better places to go now. I only visit because I'm
           | semi-involuntarily hooked.
           | 
           | If you instead mean to ask "It's hard for me to imagine
           | anything positive coming out of 4chan. How did you get value
           | out of that site?":
           | 
           | I prefer to remain anonymous and won't describe my hobbies in
           | detail, but among other things I was pointed to new (to me)
           | bands, books and study resources, sometimes quite obscure.
           | The 'what I read, what I expected, what I got' memes
           | persuaded me to read literature that I ignored when it was
           | suggested elsewhere. I learned a lot about computers on /g/,
           | a lot about cars on /o/, etc. Iirc, those communities were
           | developed earlier than their reddit counterparts. There may
           | have been other car forums, but they weren't as funny.
           | Additionally, the site was always hateful, but much less so
           | than it is now.
           | 
           | I suppose also that it helped with my lonliness. For many
           | years I found 4chan, at it's best, to be a much more sincere
           | place than other more moderated communities. Elsewhere,
           | someone might get banned for a clear and honest opinion on my
           | post if it is unkind. On 4chan, someone might insist that I
           | kill myself.
           | 
           | So if I made a post on 4chan and the worst I got was 'you're
           | stupid', or even positivity, I knew it was genuine because
           | that person had the other options available. Elsewhere, I was
           | not so sure.
        
         | reidjs wrote:
         | I feel the same way about HN. I feel like I've learned a lot
         | about technology, software, entrepreneurship from this site.
         | But it would far more valuable to have spent the majority of
         | those hours reading books, learning new skills, networking, or
         | even just being more focused at work. It's tough to find
         | balance.
        
           | ip26 wrote:
           | An aggregator like Feedly is really good in this regard; you
           | can set up sources of interest, add filters, and then-
           | critically- when you reach the end of your feeds for the day,
           | you're _done_.
           | 
           | Something like hackernews or reddit is more endless, without
           | a neatly defined "stop". (Of course, I'm still here)
        
         | BbzzbB wrote:
         | Consider something like Cold Turkey, the paid version (one-time
         | fee) has an included scheduler if you can't trust yourself to
         | turn it on when you'd need to. If you don't want to pay for it,
         | the free version includes CLI operations, you can make your own
         | scheduler script without too much trouble.
         | 
         | HN has an included time limiter in the options.. but nothing
         | stops you from launching it in incognito so it's only useful as
         | far as you have willpower.
        
         | tayo42 wrote:
         | >*4chan is full of hate, but if you grew up with it and have a
         | sort of auto-filter, there are surprising things there. I would
         | not have read (and deeply enjoyed) Moby Dick if not for 4chan.
         | Weird. This is not a recommendation though, generally speaking,
         | avoid the place at all costs.
         | 
         | I wonder if your in some kind of local maximum, i bet if you
         | stopped wasting time on 4chan you would find other things that
         | make your life richer. like you just dont know how much value
         | can be added to your life from other things, especially ones
         | that wont require so much filtering on your part
        
           | boppo1 wrote:
           | I've quit for up to a month at a time here and there. Where I
           | don't fill that hole with a similar diversion and instead one
           | of my productive hobbies, my life indeed becomes much richer.
           | Although, my participation some of those hobbies were very
           | much improved by some of the time spent on 4chan.
           | 
           | Altogether, I intend to quit visiting. Hopefully sooner than
           | later. I 'quit' rather frequently. The best comparison I can
           | make for my compulsive usage is to someone who started
           | smoking before they were 10. I was heavily browsing forums by
           | 8 and 4chan by 12.
        
       | max002 wrote:
       | I think article says its a matter of decission. Once you take
       | hard stance/decission its a matter of time amd retries.
       | 
       | Goos tip is to find replacemet, a healthy one. You can get
       | addicted to gentle (not stupid) weight lifting, running (please,
       | on grass, not on cement or next to road full of cars, not on
       | asfalt, its not good for your knees and lungs) reading a book.
       | 
       | Replace it with hobby that you like or put that time into
       | something you wanted to do, but never had time.
        
       | jimmyvalmer wrote:
       | Problem: I'm a dipole preferring this orientation.
       | 
       | Article's solution: Don't be a dipole.
       | 
       | I believe Ben Affleck of all people nailed it on his recent
       | Howard Stern appearance. _The cure for addiction is suffering_.
        
       | thom wrote:
       | Something that has helped me kick some bad but undeniably
       | comforting habits in the last year is keeping actual data. For a
       | few months I logged simple stuff, like whether or not I'd imbibed
       | alcohol, how much sleep I'd got, whatever. And on the other side
       | I'd track simple subjective measures of my mood and energy. I put
       | all this into some simple linear regressions and the evidence was
       | so overwhelmingly clear that it became very hard to convince
       | myself that staying up until 1am was the only way to have quality
       | 'me time', or having a boozy night with my wife was the only way
       | to fully relax.
       | 
       | I don't really go for quantified self stuff generally, I do quite
       | like living intuitively as much as I can. But sometimes you do
       | need to call yourself on your own bullshit.
        
         | netizen-936824 wrote:
         | I'm glad you noticed the down sides, most people don't get to
         | see that different perspective. Alcohol does a serious number
         | on us without us realizing it. Alcohol really doesn't help us
         | relax (besides in the few hours after consumption) and induces
         | _more_ stress over the long term
         | 
         | Personally my cannabis use patterns can mess with my sleep,
         | I've noticed how much by simply using a sports band sleep
         | tracker. Its surprisingly accurate at predicting my overall
         | energy levels
        
           | thom wrote:
           | Yeah, two things highly correlated with overdoing alcohol for
           | me are worse sleep (irrespective of going to bed early, I'll
           | sometimes get reflux for example) and clearest of all are
           | anxiety attacks. I'll sometimes wake up with a sense of
           | unshakeable doom (which in turn could lead to some suboptimal
           | behaviours), but cutting out booze reduces these occurrences
           | basically to _zero_, even on my worst, most stressful days
           | thinking about problems at home or work.
           | 
           | Not going to claim it's all been plain sailing, and I don't
           | really want or intend to maintain a permanent state of
           | sobriety, but the article certainly matches my experience,
           | and having hard evidence really helps.
        
         | C19is20 wrote:
         | I can recommend apps like kubios (my fav), hrv4 and elite hr (I
         | use all three daily). Coupled with even a cheap heart rate
         | monitor, you can see the effects of 'everything' on your body/
         | soul as well as track sleep etc. Oura rings do similar, but
         | they're subscription based.
        
           | netizen-936824 wrote:
           | I second this. These monitors are invaluable for gaining
           | insight into how we're doing health and stress-wise
        
           | BbzzbB wrote:
           | Any recommendation for a decent but cheap tracker?
        
             | TheAdamAndChe wrote:
             | I've got the Garmin Forerunner 45s, I like it a lot. It's
             | got a built in GPS, so you can track your runs without
             | bringing a phone.
        
         | nefitty wrote:
         | I tracked every minute of my time several years ago, for about
         | a year. The shock of how much time I was spending playing
         | Battlefield is what helped me kick video games.
        
           | aenis wrote:
           | Ha! Had the exact same problem - and same solution. 650hrs on
           | bf2 alone.
           | 
           | One can learn a new language in less time.
        
             | nefitty wrote:
             | Thinking of BF2 still gets my blood pumping all these years
             | later lol
        
       | _huayra_ wrote:
       | The best way to change your habits is to really understand and
       | appreciate what they're doing for you. You're not running towards
       | whatever your procrastination mechanism of choice may be; you're
       | running _away_ from something else. This is why procrastinating
       | has that tepid feeling of boredom, as you don't really want to
       | click onto the next video / reddit / HN page, but you feel
       | compelled to do so.
       | 
       | I highly recommend How We Change [0]. It was the first book in my
       | long journey of trying to "read my self out of my depression"
       | that was really insightful. It lays out why people choose to not
       | change (tethered by their procrastination or other habits they
       | deem to be fruitless), and only by seeing and appreciating that
       | _fear of hope_ can you start to approach the (at times) extremely
       | difficult task of authoring your life.
       | 
       | [0] https://www.harpercollins.com/products/how-we-change-ross-
       | el...
        
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