[HN Gopher] Anti-mimetic tactics for living a counter-cultural life
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       Anti-mimetic tactics for living a counter-cultural life
        
       Author : Ariarule
       Score  : 404 points
       Date   : 2021-12-26 15:00 UTC (7 hours ago)
        
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       | giantg2 wrote:
       | Just remember, society will have an implict bias against anyone
       | is is not like them. I happen to fit many of the suggestions in
       | the list and it has gotten me nowhere.
        
         | em-bee wrote:
         | what makes you think that getting nowhere is caused by you
         | doing as the article suggest?
         | 
         | i am just curious here, not judging. where do you want to get,
         | and what do you think it takes to get there?
         | 
         | i too thought that most of the points applied to me and my
         | feeling was that i would be miserable if they didn't. i can't
         | in fact imagine living another way. this is me, and i am going
         | to make the most of it, regardless what others think.
         | 
         | (to all the commenters who suggest that this list makes for a
         | miserable life: if that's the case then this list is not for
         | you. it's for those of us who don't enjoy following others)
         | 
         | i'd like to share one specific experience that seems relevant.
         | in highschool i was a contrarian. a quiet one who expressed
         | this by wearing different things than everyone else. at one
         | point i realized that if everyone else started to copy my style
         | then i would change my own style, and that meant that my style
         | was just as dependent on others as was everyone elses.
         | 
         | that realization made me stop being a contrarian and instead i
         | simply chose a new style that i could enjoy on its own
         | regardless whether it differentated me from anyone or not.
         | 
         | so instead of asking: will this differentiate me from others?,
         | i am asking: is this comfortable for me? is this something i
         | want? does this fit into my principles of life? ...
        
           | giantg2 wrote:
           | Being contrarian and being anti-mimetic are different things.
           | 
           | The simple thing is that people who get promoted (or any
           | other favorable thing) are the ones who share the most
           | similarities with the person doing the promoting. I see this
           | all the time at my company and in my life. This is even true
           | in things like law and government (law enforcement and
           | prosecutorial discretion).
           | 
           | Just stop doing isn't necessarily an option. Why should one
           | not be their true self, and how difficult and painful would
           | that be? Some people are stuck between the options.
        
         | SyzygistSix wrote:
         | It's gotten me nowhere as well but it has allowed me to be me,
         | which is quite alright. I wasn't trying to get anywhere
         | necessarily. But I was always comfortable with that.
        
           | giantg2 wrote:
           | It's a painful existence to be oneself and see the negative
           | consequences/treatment by society because of it.
        
             | quesera wrote:
             | It's also a painful existence to be someone else, and live
             | an unfulfilled life.
             | 
             | And it's a rewarding experience to be oneself and
             | _eventually_ find the set /setting/companion/environment
             | that correlates to you in a fulfilling way.
             | 
             | Sometimes that's very difficult or impossible. It is never
             | the easiest choice, but worthwhile things rarely are.
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | I'm going with impossible.
        
               | quesera wrote:
               | I won't deny the importance of luck.
               | 
               | There are things one can do to increase their
               | apportionment of luck in life, but outcomes are not
               | guaranteed.
               | 
               | I don't mean to be glib. Equanimity is required for
               | lasting contentment. Equanimity comes more naturally with
               | age.
        
               | giantg2 wrote:
               | Yet equanimity alone will not bring contentment either.
        
             | em-bee wrote:
             | i don't want to pry, but if you don't mind, what kind of
             | negative consequences are you experiencing?
             | 
             | i too experience negative consequences, but these are owed
             | to finding it difficult to make friends. however, i do not
             | believe that this difficulty comes from doing what is
             | suggested in the article but rather the reverse, the
             | difficulty to make friends is something i grew up with, any
             | behavioral quirks developed later as a consequence of not
             | having friends.
             | 
             | so in other words, the negative things you experience maybe
             | don't come from being yourself but because you may be
             | missing something else, something that may have had a hand
             | in shaping who you are now.
        
       | frontman1988 wrote:
       | Most important in these times is to not get influenced by
       | ubiquitous advertisement. Be that radio ads, youtube
       | recommendations or highway billboards. One needs to be really
       | careful to not let their subconscious get influenced. I
       | personally make a list of most of the ads I see and don't buy
       | stuff from those brands unless there is no alternative.
        
       | 95014_refugee wrote:
       | > "I think that a massive deficiency in religious literacy is
       | causing confusion."
       | 
       | In an article about selective anti-mimeticism, worship at the
       | altar of self-oppressive mimicry. Too serious to be a joke, but
       | the irony...
        
       | grassgreener wrote:
       | These are fantastic advices to turn into an arrogant insufferable
       | person. I used to be that person, it's miserable. There is a lot
       | of good in drinking the social kool aid and embracing our
       | cultural quirks
        
         | rglullis wrote:
         | _The difference between the medicine and the poison is in the
         | dosage._
         | 
         | TFA states quite in the beginning that the point is not about
         | becoming a contrarian, even less being a contrarian for the
         | sake of being a contrarian. Seems like you are projecting quite
         | a bit.
        
       | cryptica wrote:
       | > 20. Read Foreign Newspapers
       | 
       | As someone who has lived in many different countries around the
       | world. I can strongly relate to this point. Media in different
       | countries cover mostly the same information but the angle is
       | different. Watching the media of two different countries which
       | are opposed to each other politically gives you a better general
       | idea of what's going on. When you do that, you can easily see the
       | spin/deception and you train yourself to spot it.
       | 
       | There is always spin in the media. It's a bit like cross-
       | examining two people in an argument; of course each individual
       | will try to subtly twist the facts in their own favor. Nation
       | states are no different; if anything, they're more consistent.
        
       | prog_1 wrote:
       | moderation is the key
       | 
       | combine and synthesize the best of antifragility, postmodernism,
       | dao te ching, science and what have you
       | 
       | this article made step #2 of thesis, antithesis, synthesis.
        
       | bluishgreen wrote:
       | For an anti-mimetic article it could have used something other
       | than a reverse sorted listicle format.
        
       | woodruffw wrote:
       | This reads like a Buzzfeed listicle for people who hate Buzzfeed
       | listicles.
       | 
       | By all means, please do read more books, consume less
       | frivolously, watch old "under-rated" films, &c. But do it because
       | you want to do it, not because some weirdo on the internet told
       | you that it'll make you "counter-cultural."
        
         | crowbahr wrote:
         | Insisting that people should be more anti-mimetic and
         | simultaneously calling humanity homo-religiouso (fundamentally
         | religious), insisting that people don't read the Bible enough
         | etc...
         | 
         | Oh well. At least this goes into my pile of "read things you
         | deeply disagree with".
        
       | webdoodle wrote:
       | Fantastic list, and was quite happy to see, I'm already doing
       | most of these, many for most of my adult life. The big ones for
       | me were I threw away my phone a couple years ago, and have
       | essentially stopped using all social media. I also made an effort
       | to go completely analog when hiking, something I do daily, for
       | instance barometric altimeter and contour maps vs gps/google
       | maps.
       | 
       | There are 2 that I weren't on my radar at all though, and will
       | take them to heart and work them into my lifestyle: "Return Anger
       | with Kindness" and "Forgive Someone. Repeat.". These are really
       | hard in today's divisive world, but someone has to take the first
       | step.
       | 
       | Thanks for putting together a wonderful list.
        
       | FourthProtocol wrote:
       | _#13. Social Media with a Purpose_ made me pause - I have two
       | Instagram accounts, and a Facebook account.
       | 
       | Instagram 1 is for family and friends. It's snapshots of daily
       | life for family and friends all over the world.
       | 
       | Instagram 2 is for others that like me enjoy making radio-
       | controlled replica cars and trucks from flat sheets of styrene.
       | 
       | Facebook is to let people who know me find me.
       | 
       | Why would one NOT have a reason for social media? Anything as
       | mundane as keeping up with distant friends and family is reason
       | enough, no? And of course that's going to forever remain mimetic
       | unless you're a business. That's why there's the word "social" in
       | social media, or did I miss the boat?
       | 
       | TikTok for entertainment. Twitter to be heard... I can't believe
       | one would have any kind of social media account without a
       | purpose. Even if it's showing off your wealth, or pretending to
       | be something you're not - they're all reasons, no?
        
         | nulbyte wrote:
         | > If you have a vague answer, dial it in immediately.
         | 
         | I think this covers most people's use of social media. Many at
         | best have a vague notion of why they are on social media, or at
         | worst have not even considered the possibility of not
         | participating. "With a purpose" to me suggests forethought:
         | Think about why you are on social media before participating
         | (or before your next interaction), if you haven't thought much
         | of it before. This is very different from coming up reasons
         | after the fact, which I think is far more common.
        
           | FourthProtocol wrote:
           | Not sure it needs to be dialled in for social media. If you
           | want to achieve a result like monetisation then yes, but then
           | it's no longer social, it's just become an income-related
           | activity (job!!) and is no longer social media -- it's now a
           | tool to achieve a non-social media goal.
           | 
           | A counter case -- for sure as a consultant at McKinsey,
           | umlaut or Accenture you'll write out a communications plan in
           | which you detail and map project stakeholders, places/times
           | of project news and briefings, publicity, dealing with
           | external inquiries and so on. That's a very, very specific
           | and detailed set of requirements for what boils down to
           | social media at corporate level.
           | 
           | Way over the top for Jane and Joe Average. For whom "keep in
           | touch with friends and family" is specific. For many the
           | notion of not participating is unthinkable - becuase THAT's
           | where all their family and friends are. And so it requires no
           | additional pontification, I'd think.
           | 
           | What might an example of a loftier, more dialled-in purpose
           | be?
        
             | nulbyte wrote:
             | I don't think dialed-in has to be lofty. Keeping in touch
             | with family is a perfectly fine reason. My point, and I
             | think the point of the author, is that thinking about it
             | before, not after, offers an opportunity to deepen your
             | understanding.
             | 
             | For the longest time, those in my circle who used Facebook
             | to "keep in touch" really didn't. Sending me an apple on
             | the latest farm game isn't a genuine interaction to me. It
             | was only after I quit that close friends finally got the
             | hint that Facebook was not a good way to reach out to me,
             | despite explicitly saying it many times before.
             | 
             | For those for whom not participating is presently
             | unthinkable, maybe thinking it over would do some good.
             | That doesn't necessitate changing one's choice in the end,
             | but considering it can be useful in and of itself. Family
             | and friends are not only on Facebook. They have a real
             | presence in the real world. Even if one chooses to stay on
             | Facebook or whatever social media du jour, realizing this
             | can be immensely helpful.
        
       | xrd wrote:
       | Isn't hacker news, for all the excitement about mimetics, just
       | another form of Instagram? Aren't we all just here for all the
       | things listed in that article?
       | 
       | Isn't the internet itself, as a giant copy machine, the opposite
       | of the goals of a mimetic life?
       | 
       | Maybe this says a lot more about how I approach HN than anyone
       | else. I truly love this community and the ideas put forth by
       | Girard are so interesting. But, it makes me wonder if by pursuing
       | them I'm just following the herd anyway.
       | 
       | I also would love to hear someone write about being anti-mimetic
       | with kids and with another parent. There is an entire industry
       | trying to make you spend money that's so mimetic.
        
         | indigochill wrote:
         | Probably. The article itself had a comments CTA in point #25, a
         | newsletter subscription CTA in #15, and then I stopped reading
         | because it seemed like a hypocritical list in that it was on
         | course to hit all the typical content marketing milestones.
         | Struck me a bit like Thoreau praising the wilderness from the
         | comfort of civilization.
         | 
         | Which is not to say it's all nonsense. I think the front matter
         | sums it up nicely. Life is about what you focus on. Your
         | personal focus is what will separate you from the "dead fish".
         | 
         | Focus is dividing what matters from what doesn't and that's
         | unique to each person. People do this focus calculus all the
         | time when deciding whether and who to marry, how many kids to
         | have if any, what school subject to study and how hard to
         | study, and so on. The "dead fish" in the article's analogy
         | aren't really dead, but they're acting on subconscious, pseudo-
         | instinctive drives (usually some form of search for social
         | validation) whereas we can at least attempt to be more
         | conscious of what we want our life to be about (social
         | validation maybe doesn't matter as much as we often feel it
         | does, at least relative to other things).
         | 
         | This can sometimes mean abandoning, at least in part, the
         | principles of those around us because they don't lead where we
         | want to go (a common experience between parents and their
         | children). Or at least being able to better negotiate
         | compromises when someone knows what they actually want rather
         | than just trying to get along.
        
       | steelstraw wrote:
       | This is perhaps the most important point right now in our
       | increasingly polarizing society:
       | 
       | "The time has come for us to forgive one another. If we wait any
       | longer there will not be time enough." He understood that the
       | only way that we wouldn't be 'battling to the end' in a never-
       | ending mimetic escalation is through an anti-mimetic movement
       | away from violence and retribution and toward reconciliation and
       | peace.
        
       | podgaj wrote:
       | Yawn...
       | 
       | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29592786
        
       | xwolfi wrote:
       | Bit off topic but there's something I never got quite right in
       | american linguo: do they say people do 9am - 5pm workdays ? Cause
       | in France where I worked 3 years and Hong Kong 7, it's more
       | 8:30-7. Someone leaving at 5 is almost reason for a riot in a
       | team in both countries, how is it so common in the US?
        
       | ianbutler wrote:
       | I read this and while I view some of the points as good advice,
       | like others have pointed out -- being counter cultural for the
       | sake of it is a path to misery. Articles like this miss one
       | crucial overarching point and that is, what ever you do in life,
       | do it intentionally. Go with the flow, don't go with the flow --
       | whatever as long as every once in a while you have a think and
       | ask yourself "is this really what I want out of life" if it is
       | great keep on keeping on but if it's not then think about what
       | you have to do to change your life to get to where you want to
       | be, doing what you want to do. Don't be merely an observer in
       | your own life.
        
         | AstralStorm wrote:
         | The problem with most of the advice is that hindsight is 20/20
         | and some decisions or circumstances are extra hard to invert or
         | redirect.
         | 
         | People change, we do not have infinite time and over time
         | actually making lasting acquaintances takes ever more energy.
         | And if you change, so may your circles of friends, or even
         | family.
         | 
         | Few people make themselves available later on, everyone is busy
         | or sapped, either by work or other obligations. A decision to
         | change and go against the flow can easily become a lonely one.
        
       | Danborg wrote:
       | This article is full of dumb advice that will cause nothing but
       | grief if you follow it. This is an anti-mimetic comment. ;-)
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | programmarchy wrote:
       | To tie this into tech a bit, Peter Thiel is a Girardian. There's
       | at least one interview out there of him expanding on his views
       | about Girardian mimetics.
        
       | dpweb wrote:
       | Also the importance of intuition, but going against the crowd can
       | be a lonely road, not for everybody. I'm reminded of warning not
       | to read too much. "When we read, another person thinks for us, we
       | merely repeat his mental process" - Schopenhauer
        
       | mrVentures wrote:
       | They focus so much on disobeying the crowd that they still let it
       | dictate their decisions.
        
       | arpa wrote:
       | Being anti-mimetic and following lists is kind of... mimetic,
       | ain't it?
        
       | r3trohack3r wrote:
       | The deep bookshelf rings true to me. I use https://audile.app for
       | exactly this - but in music.
       | 
       | A book version would be neat.
        
         | Veen wrote:
         | The Audile page suggested Jackie Gleason singing Christmas
         | classics, which is certainly different to what I would normally
         | listen to.
        
           | foobiekr wrote:
           | On a whim I started listening to 1920s and 1930s music. It's
           | not at all my style but you know, after awhile, it's kind of
           | good. The feeling was very much like learning a new language.
        
           | r3trohack3r wrote:
           | Keep refreshing - you'll get a different album each time!
        
       | xwdv wrote:
       | At first I thought this was about _Antimemetic_ tactics which
       | would be far more useful as a lot of time and potential for
       | original thoughts is wasted through the absorption of memes these
       | days. Memes tend to stay in my head far longer than what seems
       | healthy and makes it harder to be truly creative and imagine
       | novel ideas.
        
         | scubbo wrote:
         | Same. Arguably there's strong crossover, though - mindful
         | consumption would be both antimimetic and antimemetic.
        
         | adfm wrote:
         | Memetic mimeticism? Is there a Dawkins/Girard intersection?
         | 
         | Are "Anti-mimetic tactics" selfish?
         | 
         | And does the mnemonic I before E except after C rule apply in
         | this context?
         | 
         | We might be close to a CRISPR for memes here. Memesplicing
         | anyone?
        
       | stareblinkstare wrote:
       | This is yet another social signal. You've created a group D by
       | harping about Groups A, B and C.
        
         | jancsika wrote:
         | What's the criticism here? These are just truisms.
         | 
         | E.g., suppose the defining trait of group D is: "always reads
         | the entire article before posting a response to it." If Groups
         | A, B, and C do _not_ possess that trait (and judging by HN,
         | they may not) then the benefit of group D even becoming a
         | supermajority by harping on A, B, and C far outweighs any
         | contradiction in their counter-culture identity.
         | 
         | On the other hand, if the reason for group D existing is to
         | simply reject any position held by a majority of citizens,
         | growth of group D could be detrimental to democracy.
         | 
         | In the first case, group D harped its way to a better society.
         | 
         | In the latter case, group D harped its way to a worse society.
         | 
         | In conclusion, your truisms don't say anything meaningful about
         | the potential creation of another social signal.
        
         | whodidntante wrote:
         | There is no antimemetics group
        
       | SyzygistSix wrote:
       | Some interesting ideas here.
       | 
       | I still found it funny that he talks about avoiding frictionless
       | consumption yet links book titles to the Amazon store.
        
       | tiagod wrote:
       | This is one of the most pretentious and ironic pieces of writing
       | I've ever seen on HN front-page. Maybe only surpassed by pg's
       | "How to think for yourself" being #1.
        
         | draw_down wrote:
        
         | tomlockwood wrote:
         | Idk the highly upvoted pg article about "orthodox privilege" is
         | also up there for me.
        
       | zerobits wrote:
       | This is one of the best articles I've read in awhile - thank you!
        
       | krnsll wrote:
       | Ah yes, learning (imitating?) how not to imitate from a listicle
       | that itself cites advice from a compendium of books and sources.
       | 
       | Sorry, couldn't help myself.
        
       | smk_ wrote:
       | Ironically reading and engaging in commentary on the article is a
       | girardian desire
        
       | kayo_20211030 wrote:
       | This chap needs a decent editor. The tone is dissonant. Maybe,
       | there's some decent stuff in here, but who'd know? In the same
       | sentence we encounter "Nobody wants to be the disagreeable, anti-
       | mimetic guy" and then, "grab a beer or a bite to eat". I don't
       | know for sure, but the person with whom I want to "grab a beer"
       | doesn't know wtf an "anti-mimetic guy" is. Write it up, or write
       | it down, but FFS, just write it for the reader you're trying to
       | reach. Don't try to fit in so many buzzwords (mimicry?). It's
       | rare that ideas are new, so you're better off just trying to
       | express them more clearly, and move on from there.
        
       | durpleDrank wrote:
       | When the RIAA (and by extension music streaming services) went
       | after youtube-dl I decided to orchestrate my media consumption a
       | lot differently. I started to collect tapes and cds again. Same
       | goes for movies.
       | 
       | My rational is that David Bowie isn't collecting those streaming
       | royalties anyway and his estate is getting 0.0005 cents per play
       | so isn't it better to own a physical copy and not line the
       | pockets of lawyers who think they can go around dictating FOSS
       | projects?
       | 
       | Honestly it's kind of fun too. Ripping your collection to FLAC
       | and setting up a samba share is a nice Sunday afternoon project.
       | 
       | The writing is on the wall, this will only get worse.
        
       | edna314 wrote:
       | I think he didn't quite understand the depth of Girard's thought.
       | It's not like that you can really fight mimetic desire,
       | especially not by following any kind of tactics. Reproducing
       | behavior in a certain way is nothing but mimesis.
        
       | phosphophyllite wrote:
        
       | raldi wrote:
       | _> Simple heuristic: ask yourself what price you would pay at the
       | moment you are using a digital product to be doing the real
       | thing. Take running on a treadmill through a digital forest on a
       | 10" screen. If the answer is $10, then do the math: I bet that's
       | more than what you pay for a daily gym membership. That means
       | that there is more value for you to unlock if you find a way to
       | make that desire a reality._
       | 
       | I don't understand this. What is he proposing you do with the
       | $10? Why would this advice change if your declared value was
       | _less_ than a daily gym membership?
        
         | lolc wrote:
         | The way I read it: The argument starts with the reader being in
         | a gym. So having paid the gym is given and we assume that the
         | gym must provide some sort of value. At some higher fee, the
         | value would be negative and the reader would not have gone to
         | the gym. Rationally.
         | 
         | Now the article argues that since the reader would pay more to
         | be in the forest than the gym, they should evaluate their
         | options to run in the forest. Because that could provide more
         | absolute value. Even if it meant travelling further.
         | 
         | The only way it makes sense to argue this way is when you're
         | trying to convince a consumer of a non-consumer option that is
         | better. Because, it presumes, only when a consumer evaluates
         | the forest as a product, they will see its value.
        
         | em-bee wrote:
         | i didn't get that either, but then maybe that's because i would
         | never even consider using a treadmill when i can go for a walk.
         | most other digital things like watching videos or listening to
         | audio books don't have practical analog equivalents, or have no
         | benefits. (i really don't see the benefit of playing vinyls. in
         | the end i still get sound made through electricity. for the
         | real analog experience i actually play an analog music
         | instrument myself.)
        
       | max1cc wrote:
       | Apparently I've reached the maximum number of free articles
       | despite never visiting this site before
        
         | _0ffh wrote:
         | Same here. I used the 12 foot ladder, it works.
         | 
         | https://12ft.io/proxy?q=https://www.epsilontheory.com/25-ant...
        
           | Veen wrote:
           | I just opened the article in a different tab. Something is
           | amiss with their paywall implementation.
        
             | 3np wrote:
             | Maybe they're going by Referer? Which sounds utterly silly.
        
             | howdydoo wrote:
             | I got halfway through and a newsletter signup modal
             | interrupted me and wouldn't close. Good thing I know CSS or
             | I couldn't have finished reading.
             | 
             | So much for being anti-mimetic and bucking the trends.
        
       | jackyinger wrote:
       | Here's a few little tricks I use. These may seem trivial and
       | silly, but given that mimetic behavior is rooted in a very basic
       | level of existence, I believe these counter mimetic attitude
       | exercises are useful in maintaining the foundation of a anti-
       | mimetic Maslow's hierarchy.
       | 
       | When I know I'm going to be exposed to a video advertisement I
       | summon all of the rage and contempt I can to make my mental state
       | as unlikely to retain the ad's message as possible.
       | 
       | I take perverse pleasure in letting my devices
       | alarms/notifications ring without rushing to attend to them.
       | Similarly I talk back to the maps directions voice.
        
       | beardedman wrote:
       | My personal philosophy on this is to not live life by tactics
       | like "anti-mimetic" or "counter cultural". Like what you like, be
       | present & don't treat life like a to-do list. There's room to be
       | well read alcoholic with a good heart & a love for 90's hip hop.
       | 
       | EDIT: And for god's sake be kind to someone who doesn't share
       | your worldview, even if that worldview is offensive in some way.
        
       | eat_veggies wrote:
       | It's hilarious that this is standard self-help advice designed to
       | make you a better worker, packaged up as something subversive or
       | "anti-mimetic." I am reminded of Mark Fisher:
       | 
       | "Witness, for instance, the establishment of settled
       | 'alternative' or 'independent' cultural zones, which endlessly
       | repeat older gestures of rebellion and contestation as if for the
       | first time. 'Alternative' and 'independent' don't designate
       | something outside mainstream culture; rather, they are styles, in
       | fact _the_ dominant styles, within the mainstream. "
        
         | AutumnCurtain wrote:
         | Had exactly this thought reading it. Here's a list of
         | platitudes to make you a subversive independent thinker!
        
           | throwanem wrote:
           | I'm surprised they haven't yet sold them as NFTs.
        
         | WFHRenaissance wrote:
         | This piece is definitely haunted by the flood of self-help
         | listicles that we've seen in the past decade or so, but also
         | there are facets of it which are actually very effective ways
         | for cultivating meaning in one's life outside the dominant
         | styles. There is a film of fetishism going on here, but still
         | some good parts. Outsideness is possible.
        
         | PragmaticPulp wrote:
         | > It's hilarious that this is standard self-help advice
         | designed to make you a better worker,
         | 
         | Are we reading the same article? This article doesn't read at
         | all about becoming a better worker. It emphasizes anti-
         | consumerism and building diverse personal experiences and
         | insists on not blindly following your peers and doing what
         | others want you to do.
        
           | Cpoll wrote:
           | I think they meant that the same advice is presented in a
           | different context as self-help/better worker advice.
           | 
           | I can see what they're saying, a lot of this also gets
           | mentioned as productivity advice:
           | 
           | - Anti-Mimetic Scheduling: take advantage of the off-peak
           | times
           | 
           | - Building a Deep Bookshelf: allocate 10% of your annual
           | reading to books where you know you're not going to 'agree'
           | with the fundamental premise
           | 
           | - Don't Participate in the Shark-Tankification of Worth
           | 
           | - Learn to Navigate without GPS: It kills the brain and it
           | kills the wandering -- the spirit.
           | 
           | - Stop Writing to Please
           | 
           | - etc.
        
           | eat_veggies wrote:
           | It's for a specific kind of worker -- the neoliberal
           | individual, the "entrepreneur of the self" who cultivates
           | their personal value like a capital investment because _they
           | are human capital_.  "Building diverse personal experiences"
           | is a nice euphemism for this. Although you are not doing what
           | others want you to do, it's a freedom conditioned by the
           | market. Being anti-memetic is already priced in.
           | 
           | Not all of the tips, like "be nice" and "forgive people"
           | accord to this logic, but as a general through-line: Burgis
           | is relentlessly focused on "the way great companies are
           | built" (#23), worships the great innovators Henry Ford and
           | Steve Jobs (#18), demands that everything has a purpose (#17,
           | #13), in service of what he deems most important, "the
           | calling" or personal vocation (#1).
           | 
           | We might read this through the lens of 20th century German
           | sociologist Max Weber, who traces the spirit of capitalism to
           | the Protestant ethic [1]. As a very short summary, it's an
           | ethic defined by the very same vocational calling [ _Beruf_
           | ], where labor acquires a religious significance and produces
           | values that then become secularized. From my copy of his
           | book:
           | 
           | > One of the constitutive components of the modern capitalist
           | spirit, and, moreover, generally of modern civilization, was
           | the rational organization of life on the basis of the _idea
           | of the calling_. It was born out of the spirit of _Christian
           | asceticism_ [...] The Puritan _wanted_ to be a person with a
           | vocational calling; we _must_ be.
           | 
           | Whether or not you believe the historiography, the function
           | of the vocational calling is to produce a subject who works
           | and disciplines themself automatically.
           | 
           | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Max_Weber#The_Protestant_Et
           | hic...
        
             | xwolfi wrote:
             | Sure, and it's hard to detach from the idea we must have a
             | purpose - which I would even argue predates and exists
             | outside the christian sphere. I'm an atheist and I still
             | think life should try to expand outwards in space for the
             | sake of structuring the chaos...
             | 
             | Look having no goal, purpose or calling seem to work now
             | that we organized process-heavy societies where one
             | dilletante wouldnt hurt too much. But let me remind you not
             | so long ago we did what our father did and his father
             | before. And also, that if we jump back into natural
             | nihilism to live as free of purpose as animals, we'll miss
             | many of the intellectual wonders that the group managed to
             | accomplish, maybe through the illusion it has no
             | alternative, I concede.
             | 
             | Probably not important to you, after all, since there's no
             | inherent rule nor purpose, but sad a bit to me.
        
               | TheOtherHobbes wrote:
               | No one is suggesting having no goal. But if you have
               | exactly the same goals as everyone else - build a
               | business, become an executive, do executive things -
               | while persuading yourself that you are somehow
               | _different_ because you read a few extra books and don 't
               | use a GPS etc, you are very much not operating outside of
               | your culture, never mind being counter to it.
               | 
               | And you are at least metaphorically - and possibly also
               | literally - "doing what your father did."
               | 
               | What goals are _genuinely_ countercultural in 2022?
        
               | krapp wrote:
               | >What goals are genuinely countercultural in 2022?
               | 
               | Undermining or opting out of society: Crypto, neo-
               | reactionism, antiwork, anti-capitalism, even alternets
               | like Gemini to a degree.
               | 
               | Undermining societal norms or rejecting status quo
               | reality: incels, anti-vaxx, flat earthers, pro-
               | pedophilia. QAnon and BLM are both explicitly against
               | society, albeit for vastly different reasons.
        
         | jameshart wrote:
         | Yes, surely the main 'anti-mimetic' strategy to adopt is _not
         | adopting lifestyle affectations from a blog post that claims
         | that that will make you a better person_.
        
         | TheOtherHobbes wrote:
         | "To learn more about [anti-memetic counter-culture] my website
         | and be notified when we release new content sign up here."
         | 
         | OK.
         | 
         | I'm going with Mark Fisher on this one. This is absolutely
         | generic and unoriginal cut-and-paste Californian lifestyle
         | advice trying to package itself as something deeper - which is
         | something generic and unoriginal Californian lifestyle advice
         | _always_ does, as part of its own branding(tm).
         | 
         | But it does raise the question: what would a genuine online
         | counter-culture look like?
         | 
         | I'm pretty sure going to museums and restaurants and playing
         | golf at off-peak times wouldn't be part of it.
         | 
         | But what would?
        
           | turminal wrote:
           | > I'm pretty sure going to museums and restaurants and
           | playing golf at off-peak times wouldn't be part of it.
           | 
           | Why not?
        
           | Nowado wrote:
           | That's the point of Fisher and those before him, isn't it?
           | 
           | Counter culture gets recuperated. New terrain becomes
           | deterritorialized and reterritorialized. Edge becomes
           | fashionable and popular.
           | 
           | Even if we knew what would, would that thing survive getting
           | mentioned on HN?
        
           | liaukovv wrote:
           | Something like 4chan in the past
        
         | jmfldn wrote:
         | I'm a big fan of Mark Fisher's work but I must say that I
         | didn't read this piece in this sort of light. Seems like quite
         | different to the usual co-opting of wisdom in the service of
         | capitalist hegemony. At the very least, more insightful and
         | wiser than a lot of listicles.
        
       | champagnois wrote:
       | For someone who talks so much of loathing social media, they
       | seemingly do very little to avoid it.
       | 
       | Acknowledging the technology is basically poison at scale, maybe
       | remove it from your life so you do not suffer the same brainrot
       | as the masses.
       | 
       | The great Naval once wrote: Be wary of anything that uses the
       | word "social".
       | 
       | Social Media is conditioning people to discuss moral crusades,
       | launch moral crusades, and dwell on moral crusades. Humans are
       | being conditioned to write and say things that inspire anger
       | towards the opposition, because that is the best approach to
       | getting likes, upvotes, and subscribes. Poison for your mind.
        
         | booleandilemma wrote:
         | I learned about this Naval guy through Twitter, ironically.
         | 
         | I haven't looked into him too much, but from what I can tell,
         | people only respect him because he has money.
        
         | exotree wrote:
         | Most of his pontifications and influence are only distributed
         | to people at scale because of Twitter. I'm not sure he's great
         | or particularly good example to follow.
        
           | champagnois wrote:
           | He is friends with Nick Szabo and has a pretty sharp mind
           | with some good experiences. I think he is basically done with
           | the rat race of becoming successful now and he has written a
           | bit of relevant advice for folks.
        
         | gerikson wrote:
         | > The great Naval once wrote: Be weary of anything that uses
         | the word "social".
         | 
         | I was not aware of this quote, so I googled, and it turns out
         | it's a Twitter account
         | 
         | https://twitter.com/naval/status/1383520778361065474
        
           | FooBarBizBazz wrote:
           | I would guess this is Naval Ravikant?
           | 
           | I'll also point out that Naval correctly used the word
           | "wary", but I do weary of these things too.
        
       | kayodelycaon wrote:
       | There's a lot of good stuff in here, things I've used in my
       | personal life to great effect.
       | 
       | The really important thing here (that's hinted at towards the
       | end) is moderation.
       | 
       | Do some of these things. A little at a time. Find what works and
       | what doesn't.
       | 
       | Saying the truth no matter what the cost is extremely dangerous
       | advice to follow literally.
       | 
       | Pick battles you can win. Know when saying the truth matters and
       | when it doesn't. Know when your "truth" is just another opinion
       | no one around you at that moment agrees with.
       | 
       | As my dad always told me, "you can be dead right."
       | 
       | Life is too short to be miserable trying to obtain someone else's
       | goals. It is too short to optimize everything. Remember that
       | happiness in the moment matters. (But not at the expense of the
       | future.)
       | 
       | You'll never find me reading a book I don't like or skipping
       | using GPS, because things cause more stress than benefit.
       | 
       | Having a car break down and having a magical moment because of
       | it? Do the opposite. Actively seek those moments by finding
       | people to help instead of waiting for the moment to happen.
       | 
       | If I have any advice to add, it is be honest and be kind. Fight
       | when you need to fight, make peace when you don't. You don't need
       | to fix everything, just make the world better by being in it.
        
         | fnord123 wrote:
         | > Pick battles you can win
         | 
         | Don't forget to pick some battles to make sure you still know
         | how to battle. And pick some where you will lose so you can
         | grow.
        
         | duxup wrote:
         | > Saying the truth no matter what the cost is extremely
         | dangerous advice to follow literally.
         | 
         | And there's the risk that you could be wrong... and / or just
         | do more damage than good.
        
           | giantg2 wrote:
           | Often times people don't want to hear the truth. A classic
           | example in my own life was the gender wage gap in the late
           | 2000s and early 2010s, especially with the Obama (forget the
           | year) state of the union with the "all things equal" comment.
           | A complete misunderstanding of the data by the majority of
           | the population, and filled with highly charged emotions.
           | 
           | Sometimes it's dangerous to be right.
        
           | retrocryptid wrote:
           | another way to think about it is if you reach a point where
           | telling the truth no matter the cost, then maybe the path
           | you've followed is sub-optimal.
           | 
           | but yes, this doesn't help you if you find yourself in that
           | position.
        
           | topkai22 wrote:
           | How you say what you perceive as the truth matters a lot. For
           | example, saying "I believe this to be true" has a different
           | effect then saying " this is the truth."
           | 
           | Providing the reasoning behind conclusions can also help- "I
           | believe that unlimited migration is harmful to those poorest
           | of those already here and that the rule of law is incredibly
           | important, so I'm opposed to extending a path to citizenship"
           | or "all human beings deserve the same dignity and from a
           | practical standpoint an undocumented immigrant that has been
           | working, paying taxes, and staying out of trouble is more
           | worthy of citizenship than many who gained it simply at
           | birth, so I support a pathway to citizenship."
           | 
           | Both statements may still be problematic depending on the
           | circumstances (where depending on the circumstances, the best
           | option may be to say nothing) but they are far better than
           | saying "illegal immigrations wrong" or "giving people a
           | pathway to citizenship is the right thing to do."
        
         | akiselev wrote:
         | _> Pick battles you can win. Know when saying the truth matters
         | and when it doesn't._
         | 
         | Great rules to live by. My own little corollary: learn which
         | rules can be bent and which ones to disregard completely.
         | They're not all created - or enforced - equally.
         | 
         | Win build on each other like compound interest. So does
         | confidence. The two are almost inextricably linked.
        
         | akomtu wrote:
         | Sounds like the buddha's middle path (that's a half serious
         | remark). Those books also add that it's important to keep your
         | thoughts, emotions, words and actions aligned, but like you
         | say, nowhere those books say that you should express your
         | opinion unprompted on every corner, and silence is a good
         | answer when truth would only make things worse.
        
         | jquery wrote:
         | > Saying the truth no matter what the cost is extremely
         | dangerous advice to follow literally.
         | 
         | An example I use is someone knocks on your door and asks if you
         | know where Maria is. You do, and you're sheltering her. If you
         | tell the truth, the person at the door will kill Maria. If you
         | lie and say "I haven't seen Maria", the person will leave and
         | continue looking elsewhere.
         | 
         | In this case, telling a lie is the moral thing, and telling the
         | truth would be evil.
        
           | jbay808 wrote:
           | I mean, you can truthfully say "even if I knew, I wouldn't
           | tell you".
        
             | SamoyedFurFluff wrote:
             | This invites much more opportunity for speculation on the
             | person hunting a vulnerable person that you're trying to
             | protect. This is precisely what someone would say if they
             | were avoiding lying but are trying to cover for a
             | vulnerable person.
        
               | Thorrez wrote:
               | It's also the sort of thing that someone would say who
               | wants waste the time of an evil government to delay them
               | from carrying out their plans.
        
             | clort wrote:
             | Alas the first part "even if I knew" when you know that you
             | do know, is not truthful..
        
           | amcoastal wrote:
           | A common anecdote from Kant. Im not Kantian but I think
           | (feel) that he is somewhat right that the lie IS wrong. I
           | think the key is that no one can be perfect, and sometimes
           | you have to make a decision between two things that are
           | wrong. In this case lying is much less wrong than not.
        
             | Der_Einzige wrote:
             | This is why I reject the categorical imperative. The claim
             | kant makes is that you still lie because it's more
             | unethical to normalize a society of people being given up
             | to murderers than it is to normalize a society of
             | (white?)-liars.
             | 
             | I claim that this has degenerated into utilitarianism. This
             | is also word for word what scopenhaur (a huge fan of kant)
             | has to say about Kant's categorical imperative in his
             | critique of Kant's ideas...
        
             | kibwen wrote:
             | This suggest a sort of morality that contains the axiom
             | "lying is always wrong", which then demands torturous
             | philosophical gymnastics in order to justify one's actions
             | in circumstances when lying is obviously right. To say that
             | lying is sometimes right does not diminish the merit of
             | truthfulness, rather it is an acknowledgement that
             | communication is a means to an end, and not the end itself.
        
           | zzedd wrote:
           | Just fix your mind on another Maria who isn't here, and tell
           | the truth about her.
        
           | 323 wrote:
           | Someone who is unable to lie is classified by psychiatrists
           | as "cognitively impaired".
        
         | mystickphoenix wrote:
         | > You don't need to fix everything, just make the world better
         | by being in it.
         | 
         | I wish more people would follow this advice. I've made it a
         | habit to try to make the world an infinitesimally better place
         | every day. It doesn't always work out, but the effort is a huge
         | boon to my mental health and maybe I succeed and the world is a
         | better place.
        
           | ThinkBeat wrote:
           | This is a demanding thing to achieve. The road to hel is
           | paved with good intentions.
           | 
           | Philospy spends a lot of literature on how to tell if what
           | you are doing is making the world any better?
           | 
           | History, current history is filled with examples of "making
           | it better" and doing enormous damage.
           | 
           | Is your intent when you do the action what is important? Or
           | is it how your action is received in the moment? Or what a
           | spectator might conclude. Or is it the eventual consequences
           | of your action that is important? Or none of the above.
           | 
           | Your intent is selfish. I want to be a person who makes the
           | world a better place. Do you do so in a vacuum? You do the
           | act, and then never ever speak about it to anyone. Or is the
           | real goal the adoration of those you "tell"? (Innocently and
           | self deprecating of course)
           | 
           | If you were (or are) an evangelical Chrisitan, sharing the
           | word of God, and saving souls would be the greatest good you
           | could ever accomplish. "Today I shared the Word with 5
           | people. "
           | 
           | Those 5 people may have found a person rambling about God to
           | be unwelcome. Annoying. Rude.
           | 
           | Or maybe one was in a deep crisis, and he was moved and
           | accepted Christ and his life took meaning from it. His life
           | got better and afterwards he kept a good job, got married,
           | had wonderful kids.
           | 
           | Or a person who was rambled at has terrible trauma from
           | childhood from being sexually abused by a Catholic priest and
           | this forceable reminder brings him over the edge, and he
           | kills himself 20 minutes later in a public toilet.
           | 
           | Maybe one is a woman who was viciously demonized by
           | protesters for having an abortion two weeks ago. This most
           | unwelcome vocal assault by another right-wing misogynist is
           | what finally drives her to take a stand and gets involved in
           | politics, changes her major to political science and many
           | years Later she is a senator who casts a deciding vote in
           | something she think is wonderful
           | 
           | Did this evangelical guy make the world better?
        
         | soperj wrote:
         | >You'll never find me reading a book I don't like
         | 
         | Some of the best books I've ever read I didn't like at first.
         | Love in Time of Cholera was an absolute slog for the first 89
         | pages, I didn't actually get through those pages the first time
         | I tried to read it. It's one of my all time favourite books.
         | First 30 pages of Dune were similar. Found the same with
         | another book by Dostoevsky.
        
           | willhinsa wrote:
           | Which Dostoevsky book?
        
             | e40 wrote:
             | I'm at that stage with The Brothers Karamazov right now. I
             | have no idea what people see in it. Book 1 chapter 5.
        
               | notsureaboutpg wrote:
        
               | funksta wrote:
               | The first 100-200 pages were a slog for me too. But
               | pushing through was completely worth it, it's a
               | masterpiece IMO
        
           | downut wrote:
           | Yeah. In the last three years I picked up Joyce's Ulysses,
           | which I sputtered out on 35 years ago, and Pynchon's Mason &
           | Dixon, which I sputtered out on 15 years ago. I now believe
           | that Ulysses is the best book I've ever read, and Mason &
           | Dixon is very good.
           | 
           | So much process. People think there's a formula, not well
           | known, that greatly raises the chance for "success" however
           | defined, for everything. Nope. IMHO the key to "anti-
           | mimetic"[0] living is to cultivate your inner bullshit
           | detector. My friends have a fully functioning one; people who
           | turned out to be false do not; I have no idea how to nurture
           | one for anyone else. There is no process, other than get as
           | broad non-digital experiences as you can and use those to
           | learn to think for yourself. I have no idea how _you_ can do
           | that, because apparently no-one who is not my friend appears
           | to think doing this is sane.
           | 
           | [0] This Rene Girard stuff, fueled by lavish attention from
           | Peter Thiel and his acolytes, is bullshit. Think not? Well a
           | while ago, I thought it might have some validity, but then I
           | read the review by Joshua Landy in my previous HN comment:
           | 
           | https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=21955489#21956253
           | 
           | The child comments are interesting too. A moral of the story
           | is that my bullshit detector initially failed me, but
           | eventually, with more experience, I got it straightened out.
        
             | akomtu wrote:
             | > I have no idea how to nurture one for anyone else.
             | 
             | The bullshit detector is usually intuition and, very
             | rarely, is what's called 'wisdom'. Intuition is what I'd
             | describe as "the right feeling" - ability to "hear" truth,
             | in a sense. Wisdom is "the right knowledge" - ability to
             | see the truth. Intuition is related to emotions, and can be
             | improved by straigthening up one's emotions. An
             | uncontrolled storm of emotions obscurates intuition, and
             | hatred burns it. That's why, I think, a known occult
             | aphorism says: "a moment of hatred erases eons of
             | achievements". Wisdom is similarly related to thoughts and
             | words, and so straightening up what one says and thinks,
             | allows the wisdom to show up. The " all seeing eye" is the
             | typical symbol of wisdom. Afaik, only few top scientists
             | had it, and they attributed their ability to see truth to
             | luck and lots of read books.
             | 
             | I believe that most people out there give in to emotions,
             | those gradually turn into something more sinister - hatred
             | fueled by vanity, that burns their intuition to the ground
             | and from that moment they're unable to feel what's right
             | and what's wrong.
        
             | Retric wrote:
             | The best bullshit detector is to simply keep running
             | through the implications of whatever is being suggested. If
             | you see something marked 80% off look for a similar item
             | that's five times as expensive. I think the core issue is
             | people have a lot of false and conflicting ideas floating
             | around so they get used to cognitive dissonance.
             | 
             | Many groups have a vast vested interest in convincing
             | people of obvious falsehoods. The phrase used is "Diamonds
             | are forever" rather than the more honest "Diamonds are
             | flammable."
        
         | catillac wrote:
         | Taking the book example further, I've often found that doing
         | something I don't like in the moment can more than make up for
         | it in long term happiness or skills gained. Skiing is a good
         | example for me. I hated skiing, hated learning it, hated
         | driving out to the mountain to do it. After putting in a lot of
         | work, now I absolutely enjoy it and look forward to it
         | seasonally and treasure all the memories I have created.
        
       | chiefalchemist wrote:
       | > "I read many books not because I think I'll 'like' them but
       | because I think that I won't..."
       | 
       | I won't necessarily intentionally look things I don't like but I
       | will ask others what they're reading, what they suggest, and so
       | on. It helps me escape confirmation bias.
       | 
       | The other hack I use is to read books referenced in the book I'm
       | reading. These are often the book that influenced the book I'm
       | reading. Getting back to basics, back to the source, is often
       | helpful.
        
         | anonymoushn wrote:
         | These are pretty mimetic ways to find books to read.
        
           | chiefalchemist wrote:
           | Not really. Not relative to myself. If you're going to
           | deviate from patterns, that starts with self.
        
       | technotarek wrote:
       | This was one of my favorite recent reads.
       | 
       | The most tangible tech related thing it made me think about is
       | Google News. There are reasons to dislike the service (or the
       | beast behind it), but at the end of the day, it's a great way to
       | help break your own personal political ethos bubble. Read the
       | headlines of CNN right next to FOX. Consider the angles. On that
       | point, I'd love to find a non-FAANG alternative that does the
       | aggregation as well as Google. Anyone have suggestions?
       | 
       | Separately, I will quibble with this:
       | 
       | " I've never understood why the debate our education has focused
       | so heavily on the type of school (private, public, parochial,
       | charter, etc.). Shouldn't we be more concerned about the quality
       | of education?"
       | 
       | He's grossly glossing over the socio-economic subtleties. Those
       | ARE ultimately meant to be debates about quality -- and about how
       | quality education can be delivered at mass, fairly and justly.
        
         | chernevik wrote:
         | The debates over the type of schools are about school
         | governance, and what sorts of school governance are best suited
         | for "quality education".
        
           | technotarek wrote:
           | Coming from a public policy perspective and background, I
           | don't see it that way. Rather that's simply how some have
           | chosen to frame it (and some like yourself have come to
           | accept it).
        
       | Stevvo wrote:
       | Misread the title as 'antiemetic'. Went in expecting strategies
       | for keeping food in your stomach when consuming 'counter-
       | cultural' substances.
        
       | emodendroket wrote:
       | > Read Foreign Newspapers
       | 
       | Depends on which ones... gets a little dispiriting to realize I
       | just labored through what was actually a Japanese translation of
       | an article from Reuters originally written in English.
       | 
       | In a wider sense, if you're actively trying to go against the
       | grain of society, they've already got you, in a way.
        
       | DoreenMichele wrote:
       | Eh. Some of these are dangerous and misguided.
       | 
       | A commitment to truth has value. A commitment to speak it always
       | and essentially pick fights and cut your own throat is not really
       | a dedication to the truth. It's some kind of misguided puritan
       | guilt or something like that.
       | 
       | Forgiveness is a gift. Trust is earned. People hold grudges when
       | they know no means to have compassion for another while still
       | protecting themselves. Telling people to run around randomly
       | forgiving others is an unnuanced idea that advocates for
       | encouraging bad behavior and a professional victim position.
       | 
       | If you can help them move on, cool. Wonderful. If you can't, it's
       | bad advice that amounts to saying "The nice thing is to cut your
       | own throat and actively encourage others to keep cutting throats
       | without consequence."
        
       | noodleman wrote:
       | How do people actually read this and take it seriously? It's
       | listicle level non-conformist hogwash, ran through a thesaurus.
       | By all means, watch more old movies and read more books. But
       | don't pretend it makes you anything other than pretentiously
       | edgy.
        
       | jancsika wrote:
       | Suppose I wanted to use the namespace clash here with "anti-meme"
       | posts on reddit/etc. in order to boost the concept of "anti-meme"
       | posts, with the goal to eventually take over the name in the
       | popular consciousness. E.g., the way that Uber ate "ride
       | sharing," Bitcoin/blockchain is attempting to eat "crypto," or
       | how current Ripple literally paid to take over the name from the
       | old Ripple.
       | 
       | How much money would that cost me?
       | 
       | I guess the easiest starting place is-- how much would current
       | Ripple have paid the original Ripple guy to buy the name?
        
         | bckr wrote:
         | > How much money would that cost me?
         | 
         | Weird thought experiment, love it.
         | 
         | I'd first ask the question "how could this be accomplished"
        
       | mym1990 wrote:
       | I am surprised the word 'listen' was used only once in the entire
       | article. There is so much to be gained by simply perking up those
       | little ears of ours, and I would certainly say it is becoming
       | anti-mimetic.
       | 
       | Also, being flexible. You don't have to avoid using GPS all the
       | time. But sometimes I find a fun challenge in seeing if my brain
       | can figure out A to B on its own, etc...
        
       | yakshaving_jgt wrote:
       | > I have always had disdain for the show Shark Tank and all of
       | its many derivatives.
       | 
       | Shark Tank is itself a derivative.
       | 
       | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dragons%27_Den
        
       | jonstewart wrote:
       | I was thinking, jeez, there's a whole lot of Christian mysticism
       | in this article, and so it's not surprising --- indeed, downright
       | mimetic --- to read the author's at Catholic University.
        
       | im3w1l wrote:
       | I don't think it's a good idea to make deviance an end-goal. It
       | should rather follow naturally from your other goals and needs.
        
       | hutzlibu wrote:
       | There are interesting ideas, but despite even speaking down on
       | hipsters who do things just because they are not mainstream - the
       | whole concept reminds me still of it.
       | 
       | Being anticultural for the sake of it.
       | 
       | "Being anti-mimetic is the power to live in freedom"
       | 
       | I mean do that, if that is your thing. But rather just do what
       | you really want. Whether your local culture supports it, or not.
       | This I call freedom.
       | 
       | Just note of course, going against the mainstream is a lot
       | harder. And there are cultures that are very repressive against
       | even small sidetracking from the norm. And they will try to make
       | your life hell, for bringing chaos into their stable order of
       | things. Because this is how they might perceive you, for not
       | adopting to their standard.
        
       | decebalus1 wrote:
       | > The Marriage of Anti-Mimetic and Anti-Fragility
       | 
       | And that was when I realized the whole article was bullshit.
        
       | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
       | Liked most of this except #1
       | 
       | > Discovering and living out a sense of calling -- a personal
       | vocation, or something you are uniquely meant to do -- is the
       | ultimate way to cut through the mimetic noise of the world and
       | begin to shape both a moral and a vocational compass.
       | 
       | There are on the order of 7 billion human beings on earth. We
       | don't all have a personal vocation or something we are uniquely
       | meant to do. One of the keys to leading a happy and fulfilled
       | life is being able to be content to live within the bounds that
       | most of us operate in. Most of us are not uniquely gifted, not
       | particularly special, not here to do one thing in this world. But
       | we can be kind, be helpful, try to do as little damage to other
       | people and the world as we can, to find value in things that last
       | and do not cost the world very much, to enjoy our lives
       | regardless of what we do for a living, not because of it.
       | 
       | It may be a gift from the Renaissance to believe in individuality
       | in the way that #1 clearly does, but it's a gift that doesn't
       | scale to huge populations (it may not even have been right with
       | much smaller ones). It's wonderful to live in a society that
       | allows for individual self-discovery and self-expression, but we
       | should not blind us to the reality that almost all of us are not
       | on a unique, singular mission.
        
         | joe_the_user wrote:
         | Here's a dialogue my father attributes to CF Gauss
         | 
         | Young student: Should I finish my college studies or jump
         | straight to a thesis in advanced mathematics?
         | 
         | Gauss: You should finish your studies.
         | 
         | Young student: But you jumped straight to a thesis!
         | 
         | Gauss: I also didn't ask anyone's advice.
         | 
         | IE, people who march to a different drummer, who have a unique
         | vocation, aren't the ones who need to be told about it.
        
         | nathias wrote:
         | Vocation is your own sense of purpose, you don't need to be the
         | best at X to have X as vocation at all. What you need is that
         | you can contribute something special to X, and anyone that
         | dedicates their working life to some purpose definitely can.
        
           | chana_masala wrote:
           | This is the Hindu idea of svadharma - one's personal work in
           | this lifetime. As you said, it need not be anything outwardly
           | unique, just that it is what is right for you.
        
         | itronitron wrote:
         | But think about all of your past classmates and coworkers and
         | whether any two of them were exactly alike.
         | 
         | Even within a specialized class or career the people there will
         | have wildly different backgrounds and life experiences. Hence
         | their sense of calling from a personal standpoint will be
         | unique..
        
         | jtr1 wrote:
         | [deleted]
        
           | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
           | Yes, these are all lovely examples. However, in the meantime
           | (at least for the time being), millions of people:
           | * build cars        * work in retail         * construct and
           | repair buildings        * sew mass-market clothing        *
           | build, maintain, manage the energy supply system(s)        *
           | plant, grow, harvest and process food        * run the
           | machines that move people, products and materials around
           | 
           | It is quite possible to find meaning and purpose doing any of
           | these things, but they are generally unlikely to offer the
           | sense that you exist in this world to do whatever it is that
           | you do for a living. Despite that, the people who do this
           | sort of work play an invaluable role in how our societies
           | work. Rather than encouraging everyone to run away from the
           | critical work that needs to be done, I'd rather build a
           | society in which people can feel meaning and purpose in their
           | lives regardless of what they do for a living.
        
             | cgriswald wrote:
             | _All_ sense of meaning, purpose, and satisfaction stems
             | from our own minds. I found deep meaning and purpose in
             | being a busboy and sometimes I still miss it. I had a
             | friend and coworker who felt the same way. I had other
             | coworkers who hated the job and just did it to earn some
             | money (often, but not always, for college).
             | 
             | It's easy to understand why someone might feel a strong
             | sense of meaning and purpose if they win an Olympic gold;
             | but they could also be miserable and generally dissatisfied
             | with life.
             | 
             | Any prejudice we have about how someone _should_ feel if
             | they are doing a particular job is just our own
             | interpretation of how _we_ would feel doing the job; but
             | there isn 't anything inherent in any of these jobs that
             | gives meaning or purpose. (I also think people confuse
             | being satisfied with the perks of a job--say fame or
             | fortune--with meaning and purpose and satisfaction with the
             | job itself.)
        
               | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
               | It was TFA, not me, that said
               | 
               | > Discovering and living out a sense of calling -- a
               | personal vocation, or something you are uniquely meant to
               | do -- is the ultimate way to cut through the mimetic
               | noise of the world and begin to shape both a moral and a
               | vocational compass.
               | 
               | and that's what I was calling out, not the idea that
               | certain jobs can prevent you from having meaning and
               | purpose.
        
               | cgriswald wrote:
               | Right. You're misunderstanding the quote.
        
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         | rfrey wrote:
         | Believing something is the best past for an individual does not
         | mean believing it to be "scalable" or that it would be good for
         | society (or even possible in a society) for everyone to adopt
         | that path.
         | 
         | Socrates was executed for corrupting youth. He never denied it.
        
           | PaulDavisThe1st wrote:
           | Sure. But then I don't think it makes much sense to be
           | dispensing "advice" like this in such a generalized way.
           | 
           | Suggesting to a particular person that you know that they
           | should try to find their life's mission and purpose may make
           | sense given whatever you know about them. It may be
           | absolutely the right advice (and path) for them to take,
           | since there are undoubtedly people who do have such singular
           | purpose.
           | 
           | However, that doesn't imply that this way of thinking about
           | how to approach life makes any sense in a generalized "how to
           | live an XXXX kind of life" article or book or talk or
           | whatever. That's even more true if one of the metrics
           | supporting why "an XXXX kind of life" is good includes
           | happiness. If you're only going to be happy if you manage
           | your singular unique mission and purpose in life, then the
           | chances are extremely high that you will not be happy.
        
             | civilized wrote:
             | This "you're not special, so just live within the bounds
             | everyone else lives in" thing seems like a depressing spin
             | on life.
             | 
             | I agree that there's a lot of rules that everyone should
             | follow and philosophies that most would benefit from,
             | but... everyone's life involves situations and
             | relationships that are unique and singular and special to
             | them. For example, most adults are taking care of a family
             | that is very special to them. "Take care of your family" is
             | maybe not a special, unique purpose on its face, but it is
             | special to each person who is doing it.
             | 
             | While it's perhaps true that few people are called to live
             | lives that would look utterly unique and remarkable in an
             | autobiography, I think we should take care not to define
             | out of existence the inherent uniqueness and singularity of
             | purpose of each life.
        
       | retrocryptid wrote:
       | I'm not going to dis the OP's hypothesis, but he missed much of
       | Girard's point. It's not that children mimic the desires of their
       | parents or individuals mimic the desire of society writ large,
       | it's that desire is embedded in the perceptions of reality
       | transmitted to children and reinforced by society.
       | 
       | That being said, I like the article and maybe the author was just
       | side-stepping complications by presenting Girardian desire as
       | being consciously culpable. But that is a complication in and of
       | itself: desire is often unconscious and accessible only to the
       | hidden self of the subconscious.
       | 
       | That the desire the author describes may be a meta- (or pata-)
       | desire is worth noting when reading the text.
       | 
       | Or at least that's my 2 bit commentary.
        
       | pjbeam wrote:
       | I'm reminded of broken mirror guy from Black Mirror who starts a
       | YouTube (whatever it actually was) channel at the end.
        
       | paganel wrote:
       | As other HN-ers have mentioned this is a really good article over
       | all, just wanted to add something extra related to this part:
       | 
       | > Not all who wander are lost. And sometimes, I like to drive
       | with absolutely no destination at all.
       | 
       | more exactly a link to _la Derive_ [1]:
       | 
       | > The derive is a revolutionary strategy originally put forward
       | in the "Theory of the Derive" (1956) by Guy Debord, (...) It is
       | an unplanned journey through a landscape, usually urban, in which
       | participants drop their everyday relations and "let themselves be
       | drawn by the attractions of the terrain and the encounters they
       | find there"
       | 
       | [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/D%C3%A9rive
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | mawise wrote:
       | > How many people can honestly and explicitly articulate their
       | purpose, or mission, on social media? Is it to gain followers?
       | Sell books? Build a Substack list? What?
       | 
       | This line resonated a lot with me and some of my goals and anti-
       | goals when I started working on Haven[1]. I don't want to support
       | any sort of commercial or brand-building goals on Haven and I
       | explicitly send those people to Wordpress on the features page.
       | 
       | [1]: https://havenweb.org
        
       | WFHRenaissance wrote:
       | I like this article, and I also like the Girardian
       | theory/terminology, but I wish I could send this to my younger
       | brother without him having to muck through the context of RG and
       | mimetic theory.
       | 
       | I know it would sort've just become a self-help article at that
       | point. There's been a deluge of those lately, most of which are
       | of s** quality and usually preaching the sort of "hustle hard
       | bro" message Luke decries, but I just think this sort of stuff
       | would _actually_ do well on TikTok with a smidge of substitution
       | for the more core-RG terminology.
        
         | hairofadog wrote:
         | Wish I could send it to my younger _self_ , but life lessons
         | can only be learned by people who decide to learn them.
        
         | rapht wrote:
         | Rene Girard actually _is_ a must-read. No need to go through
         | everything he has written -- though his works are a great
         | gateway to our (Western) culture as they draw on everything
         | from ancient mythologies (notably greek) to modern philosophy,
         | with a focus on the sources on the Christian religion. Start
         | with "I See Satan Fall Like Lightning", a very straightforward,
         | almost romanesque read, and if interested, read "Violence and
         | Religion" and "Things Hidden Since The Foundation Of The
         | World". A great way to dive into Humanities.
        
           | WFHRenaissance wrote:
           | I've read Girard, but I don't think everyone in my life has
           | the attention span or interest to dive into him. I'm
           | imagining what the conversation of me recommending THSTFOTW
           | to my bro would be like LOL.
        
       | kazinator wrote:
       | > _Speak the truth in accord with your conscience no matter what
       | the cost._
       | 
       | My conscience keeps saying that vaccines are a depopulation
       | scheme. Now what?
       | 
       | I say, don't be just another member of a set of people who follow
       | bullshit articles on how to be anti-mimetic.
        
       | rgrieselhuber wrote:
       | Mimetic frenzy is the engine behind accusatory networks (as we
       | see with cancel culture) and revolutionary movements that result
       | in incredible amounts of bloodshed and destruction when left
       | unchecked. Refusing to accuse in one's personal life and instead
       | focusing on measured reaction as a counter-mimetic approach to
       | these movements is the way to remain human in the midst of it
       | all.
        
         | AstralStorm wrote:
         | Or it is the way to be milked and shaved to the skin while not
         | saying no.
         | 
         | Any act of opposition can land you on a blacklist or worse,
         | even small one, even if you do not expect it.
        
       | PragmaticPulp wrote:
       | This section is particularly important and worth re-reading:
       | 
       | > Being "anti-mimetic" does not mean being a 'contrarian' or
       | refusing to imitate one's peers. That's what every hipster thinks
       | he's doing, too. "Everyone leaves the beaten path only to fall
       | into the same ditch," wrote the social theorist Rene Girard, the
       | father of mimetic theory. This kind of naive rejection of the
       | culture is not what we're talking about here.
       | 
       | This mindset runs deep in tech communities, where some people
       | seem to think they can build a personality around doing
       | everything differently than others. It's the person who can't
       | resist the urge to remind everyone that they don't use a popular
       | text editor, programming language, or operating system.
       | 
       | I'm actually all for exploring the less popular path and trying
       | different things. It becomes a problem, however, when someone can
       | only view every choice as a false dichotomy in which only one
       | option can be chosen. And of course, they'll find a way to
       | casually mention how they chose the less popular of the two
       | options every time it comes up. They _need_ everyone to know they
       | are different (which they believe is equivalent to being better).
        
         | soheil wrote:
        
           | WJW wrote:
           | Perhaps offtopic, but this argumentation style of "So you
           | think XYZ", where XYZ is a complete strawman of what the
           | original post was arguing, is that some new fashion? I don't
           | recall ever seeing it even just a year ago, but these days it
           | seems to be in every other thread on HN.
        
             | dragonwriter wrote:
             | > Perhaps offtopic, but this argumentation style of "So you
             | think XYZ", where XYZ is a complete strawman of what the
             | original post was arguing, is that some new fashion?
             | 
             | No, there is nothing new about it, either in general or on
             | HN.
        
               | WJW wrote:
               | Perhaps it's just my imagination then (or I noticed it
               | once and now the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon is causing me
               | to see it everywhere).
        
             | soheil wrote:
             | You just did what you accused me of doing.
             | 
             | I wasn't saying there is never any point in going with the
             | flow. I was just highlighting that there is wisdom in not
             | following the crowd all the time as long as you're both
             | contrarian and right.
        
               | detaro wrote:
               | I think their accusation was fair: The comment you
               | replied to wasn't arguing for "following the crowd all
               | the time", so "So you want to be lemmings running off the
               | cliff" was attacking something they didn't say.
        
               | soheil wrote:
               | That's assuming the worst possible interpretation of what
               | I said.
        
         | wolverine876 wrote:
         | If you always choose the anti- path, the mimetic is controlling
         | your behavior just as much as if you always choose the mimentic
         | path; it determines what you do. The point is to make decisions
         | on other values, disregarding the mimetic (except when you
         | choose to regard it).
         | 
         | Analogously, in decision theory, someone is equally reliable
         | and predictable if they are always right or always wrong.
        
       | bananamerica wrote:
       | Being autistic mean I don't really need to make an effort for
       | that. Silver lining, maybe?
        
       | javajosh wrote:
       | This is a path to more meaning and engagement, but at the cost of
       | much more misery. Post-modernism is lame, but Lyotard's "tyranny
       | of consensus" is real - the vast majority of people do NOT want
       | to be challenged, and these days it feels like the ones that need
       | to be challenged are on the edge of violence.
       | 
       | At least in this time and place (2021 USA), keep your head down.
       | At least for now.
        
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