[HN Gopher] Be curious, not judgmental
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       Be curious, not judgmental
        
       Author : shbhrsaha
       Score  : 239 points
       Date   : 2021-12-23 15:59 UTC (1 days ago)
        
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       | photochemsyn wrote:
       | It's a good title... My instinct is to ridicule the entire
       | concept of the smart home with its dozens of internet-attached
       | devices from TVs to refrigerators to light bulbs accessible from
       | one's smart phone. I suppose I should instead be curious as to
       | why anyone would be comfortable with such a system?
       | 
       | I can see the attraction of using a Raspberry Pi on a closed
       | local network instead of timers and so on, for example if one has
       | a lot of houseplants and so on, but I don't really understand the
       | desire for having that network be internet-accessible.
        
         | AceJohnny2 wrote:
         | > _dozens of internet-attached devices from TVs to
         | refrigerators to light bulbs accessible from one 's smart
         | phone. I suppose I should instead be curious as to why anyone
         | would be comfortable with such a system?_
         | 
         | I get value from such a system for the following reasons:
         | 
         | - my bedroom lights wake me up by fading in over the course of
         | an 20 minutes. Before that, I'd always wake up in a bad mood as
         | I got startled awake by an alarm.
         | 
         | - Thanks to the HomePod in the bedroom, we can adjust the
         | lights by voice, useful in the evening when one is falling
         | asleep and the other's still in the bathroom. Like the 80s
         | "Clapper", but magnitudes more useful.
         | 
         | - My mainroom lights adjust color temperature through the day,
         | which I find inordinately pleasing. They will also switch to an
         | "evening" dimmed and redder lighting at a particular time. This
         | is often a subtle cue to me to stop working, or prepare for
         | bed.
         | 
         | - The HomePod in my bedroom also serves as my alarm, using
         | music from the auto-generated playlist of stuff I like. I no
         | longer am woken up by the same repetitive alarm (I can't listen
         | to some of my favourite tunes due to the association), or awful
         | radio.
         | 
         | - I can transfer the music to different devices as I go through
         | my morning routine. It's never been easier to listen to what I
         | want, where I want.
         | 
         | - If a meeting suddenly comes up, I can just give a vocal order
         | to stop the music
         | 
         | - I can switch watching something on my iPad to my TV, and
         | control the TV from the phone that I always have with me,
         | rather than hunt down the single-purpose remote.
         | 
         | There are some downsides of course, but they don't outweigh the
         | above quality-of-life benefits, and I'm very happy with what I
         | have.
        
           | TheGigaChad wrote:
        
           | rfrey wrote:
           | That all sounds great... But none of your examples require,
           | or are even improved, by being internet connected.
        
             | xibalba wrote:
             | What non-internet connected voice recognition/NLU system
             | that integrates with light bulbs is available for sale?
        
               | DarylZero wrote:
               | Even having a separate, but integrated, internet-
               | connected voice recognition system would allow the
               | devices themselves not to be internet-connected.
               | 
               | This is possible on Android, you can have an Android app
               | call out to Google for voice control, and have the app
               | control your local network.
        
               | krisoft wrote:
               | That is in fact how most smart lights are implemented.
               | There is a central unit each lightbulb connects to and
               | that central unit (optionally) is connected to the
               | internet.
        
               | scollet wrote:
               | You can make your own.
        
               | Vetch wrote:
               | I don't know any that are for sale on the internet but
               | the deep learning, mesh network and microcontroller tech
               | to join together such a capability are readily available
               | and open source.
        
               | orev wrote:
               | Voice systems only require Internet because companies
               | have designed them that way to keep you on the hook and
               | collecting your data. There's no reason that voice
               | control can't run on a local box except for this business
               | decision. Voice control systems had been around for years
               | before everything was in the cloud, and with the advances
               | made in the technology since then, the accuracy would be
               | just fine on a local system.
        
               | greggman3 wrote:
               | I thought Apple's system didn't use the internet. The
               | voice recognition happens on the phone. No?
        
               | AceJohnny2 wrote:
               | Newer devices and newer OSs can do _some_ recognition
               | device-side-only. But many features, and certainly
               | anything through the older HomePods, requires cloud
               | assistance.
               | 
               | This article has a good overview:
               | https://appleinsider.com/articles/21/08/02/how-to-use-
               | siri-o...
        
               | _Microft wrote:
               | Apple introduced voice processing on the devices with iOS
               | 15 (that's the current version if you are not so familiar
               | with the system.) Older versions of iOS required an
               | internet connection for any voice command. This works on
               | all but the oldest supported devices (which are ~iPhone
               | 6), from what I remember.
               | 
               | Edit: scroll down to section "Siri" here:
               | https://www.apple.com/ca/ios/ios-15/features/
        
               | wruza wrote:
               | Sometimes my home wifi gets stuck. I noticed that when I
               | talk to Siri at this time she doesn't react quickly
               | (working on it for seconds).
        
         | nicoburns wrote:
         | As an example: your driving home on a cold night, and you want
         | to turn your heating on to preheat the house before you get
         | home.
        
           | bumby wrote:
           | I guess the question is really the upside/downside ratio. I
           | think for many the upside is marginal compared to the
           | potential downside.
        
           | jaclaz wrote:
           | Many years ago I knew someone (an electrical engineer by
           | trade) that modified a standard/ubiquitous Panasonic
           | telephone answering machine connecting it to his home
           | thermostat, he used the code to hear messages to switch the
           | heat on.
           | 
           | You don't need the internet, nowadays the equivalent would
           | most probably be something _like_ :
           | 
           | https://www.ezyswitch.co.nz/
        
             | gkop wrote:
             | Both voice calls and SMS are routed over the internet
             | today, though...
        
           | klyrs wrote:
           | Grandma tech: keep rolls of sugar cookie dough in the
           | freezer, and bake 'em when you get home. An excuse to hang
           | out by the oven, and then you have cookies.
        
             | iratewizard wrote:
             | Each generation toils away to solve problems that were
             | first solved more than 200 years ago
        
               | rileyphone wrote:
               | Or maybe our problems and potentials are radically
               | different than they were 200 years ago?
        
               | iratewizard wrote:
               | Spoken like someone toiling away at something your great-
               | grandpa had a solution for.
        
               | lazyasciiart wrote:
               | Actual grandma tech: keep grandma at home using the oven
               | so the house is warm when you get home.
        
               | klyrs wrote:
               | Nah, my grandma had a life, as I fully intend to when I'm
               | her age.
        
           | sjg007 wrote:
           | I have never found this feature useful. In cold places you
           | tend to leave the heat on to keep things stable. Same when it
           | is hot and humid.
        
             | konschubert wrote:
             | You can turn down the heat a few degrees when you're out of
             | the house and save quite some energy this way.
        
           | trompetenaccoun wrote:
           | That would be a dumb home then. A smart home would be
           | properly insulated and a lot more passive, it wouldn't leak
           | as much heat and wouldn't be cold when you get home. All
           | without "smart" tech or burning extra fossil fuel.
        
             | lotsofpulp wrote:
             | The "smart" tech is affordable and costs less than
             | renovating or rebuilding a home, a luxury which many people
             | cannot afford.
        
           | wruza wrote:
           | Curious if that saves any significant energy, if you visit
           | home regularly. The same with summertime AC. I believe that
           | allowing a properly insulated room to get hot/cold and then
           | reheating/recooling it takes the same work, because half a
           | day is barely enough for it to get equilibrium with the
           | environment. For a week probably yes, but then again you
           | don't want your home to cross a freezing point too often. Am
           | I right or naive here?
        
             | jaclaz wrote:
             | You are half-way right (or half-way naive, it depends on
             | points of view).
             | 
             | Generally speaking (but it depends greatly on the specific
             | home thermal properties and on the kind of heating or AC
             | you have) it is usually less energy intensive to keep in
             | winter your home at a certain temperature (lower than
             | normal but not too lower) than to switch off completely
             | heating and then when you get home boost to the wanted
             | temperature.
        
           | Vetch wrote:
           | A smart system would learn your patterns and eventually be
           | able to predict your arrival, setting a temperature that's
           | further away from ambient and towards some target the more
           | confident it is.
           | 
           | Or a tad bit more risky, you could email it.
        
         | jfim wrote:
         | > I don't really understand the desire for having that network
         | be internet-accessible.
         | 
         | Some devices are more useful if they're internet accessible:
         | 
         | - Thermostat: can start the AC/heating ahead of time if one
         | comes back at irregular times, in order to come back to a house
         | at the right temperature while saving energy away from home
         | 
         | - Security system: can arm it away from home if someone forgot
         | to arm it, can disarm it remotely if coming back with heavy
         | packages
         | 
         | - Security cameras: can monitor them remotely if needed
         | 
         | - Garage door: can close it remotely if forgotten, can open it
         | remotely so that it's fully open by the time one arrives at the
         | door, can also integrate with Amazon delivery so that they can
         | leave packages in the garage instead of on the porch
         | 
         | - Lights and other devices: no more wondering "did I turn off
         | the lights?"
         | 
         | - Washer/dryer: I don't have one of those, but it would be nice
         | to get phone notifications that the laundry is done and be able
         | to check remotely how much time is left on the current cycle
        
           | greggman3 wrote:
           | I look at most of that in the opposite way
           | 
           | > Security system: can arm it away from home if someone
           | forgot to arm it, can disarm it remotely if coming back with
           | heavy packages
           | 
           | Someone finding a zero day can turn off my security system
           | 
           | > Security cameras: can monitor them remotely if needed
           | 
           | Someone hacking my system can spy on me and my family members
           | naked or doing other NSFW things
           | 
           | > Garage door
           | 
           | Same as above, someone will hack it to open my garage
           | 
           | > Lights and other devices:
           | 
           | Increases the surface area massively for getting hacked.
           | 
           | > Washer/dryer (same as previous item)
           | 
           | Further, each one is a chance to be monitored by 3rd parties
           | and/or charged a subscription.
        
             | konschubert wrote:
             | Just to pick one, i think there are many more likely
             | threats to your home security system than a hacker with a
             | zero day.
             | 
             | In the end, it's about your personal threat model.
        
         | alfor wrote:
         | I imagine our home of the future with a microchip in all
         | outlets, switch, circuit breaker, bulb, etc.
         | 
         | Each breaker would know the current going through it and
         | through all sockets and bulbs. They will be able to detect the
         | bad connection, shut off the current and report the problem,
         | saving a lot of electric fire.
         | 
         | The wiring of the house will be massively reduced as they will
         | be no need to go from switch to light. All lighting will be
         | connected all the time, the switch will be wireless, will be
         | just a faceplate that you stick where you want them. You will
         | assign the switch to the light that you want, they will adjust
         | with the time of day, etc.
         | 
         | Some of the heavy energy use appliances will do peak shaving to
         | reduce the cost of the electricity bill (already in place in
         | some areas)
        
           | jaclaz wrote:
           | There are (since several years) "bus" electrical systems,
           | simplified, there are five wires (live+neutral+earth+a two
           | wire "bus" ) going everywhere.
           | 
           | You can decide to mount in "box #1" a switch and (say) a
           | socket, then you configure the switch in "box#1" to command
           | light bulb #23 and the socket to be either always on or
           | commanded by switch #18, etc..
           | 
           | What you are proposing is essentially removing the two wire
           | cable to go wireless.
           | 
           | You need anyway the three mains cables (live+neutral+earth)
           | to get everywhere and passing in the same pipe/tube the
           | additional two wires cable is "no cost".
           | 
           | NO practical advantages, but a whole new possible sets of
           | malfunctioning and/or vulnerabilities.
           | 
           | Apart from the added (and not-so-trivial) added cost of a
           | "bus" system as compared to a traditional electric
           | cabling(not that your dream solutions will be any cheaper),
           | the existing solutions work, and work reliably, because by
           | now they have existed and have been tested for many years,
           | let's introduce a new wireless protocol and brand new
           | microprocessors/terminal devices that offer no advantage...
        
           | taneq wrote:
           | Sounds great. None of those devices need to be talking to
           | anything outside the home, though.
           | 
           | Even peak shaving can be done by simply checking the AC
           | supply voltage. If it's starting to sag, ease off some of the
           | heavier appliances. If it's higher than expected, now's a
           | good time to burn some extra power.
        
             | alfor wrote:
             | I agree, they don't really need the internet.
        
               | oriolid wrote:
               | KNX already does this without internet. The downside is
               | that it's expensive and just as proprietary as the
               | internet-connected smart gadgets.
        
         | taneq wrote:
         | Network connected devices are fine, but this thing where every
         | object in your home is reliant on a persistent network
         | connection to a remote server which it uses to funnel data back
         | to the manufacturer? This needs to die.
         | 
         | The push for evergreen, cloud-connected, as-a-service
         | everything was never about meeting users' needs. It's just a
         | cynical grab for recurring revenue and job security.
        
         | nine_k wrote:
         | Smart home is a useful thing.
         | 
         | A cloud-connected, vendor-locked smart home is not such a smart
         | move, to my mind, though.
         | 
         | A LAN of things, with a VPN to my phone and laptop is something
         | I'm considering. An always-on third-party listening device,
         | like Echo, I would never consider.
        
         | [deleted]
        
         | balls187 wrote:
         | It's a quote miss-attributed to Walt Whitman. Made very famous
         | by Ted Lasso (in probably the greatest scene in television
         | history).
        
           | bmitc wrote:
           | https://youtu.be/i_FofLSherM
           | 
           | We're currently binge watching _Ted Lasso_ , and that scene
           | really stung and stuck with me. I am someone who is often
           | judgmental and contrarian, exacerbated by the Internet and
           | many things in our society being not enjoyable, and it has
           | masked the underlying humanity of curiosity that lies inside.
           | It's hard, but focusing on what I can do to learn more about
           | something and actually do things rather than critiquing some
           | existing thing is a process I'm trying to implement. While
           | being a critic is valid, too much of anything is not a good
           | thing.
        
         | jprete wrote:
         | There are lots of applications for having home devices and
         | appliances on the network. The typical user doesn't know much
         | about security and tends to assume devices will do what they're
         | supposed to, so it's not an obvious problem for those devices
         | to be accessible by a cellphone app.
        
         | weikju wrote:
         | > I suppose I should instead be curious as to why anyone would
         | be comfortable with such a system?
         | 
         | My assumption, informed by a few anecdotes of people I know -
         | people want to feel like they're living with modern amenities,
         | or like they're in the future (Star Trek people talking to
         | their computers, for example), and this is obviously aided by
         | marketing.
         | 
         | Remember when Apple referenced Dick Tracy when introducing the
         | Apple Watch (or a subsequent model?), and how they had always
         | wanted to have the same cool device? I suspect that this is a
         | huge part of what drives the "smart" home.
        
         | gerdesj wrote:
         | "My instinct is to ridicule the entire concept of the smart
         | home"
         | 
         | Your choice. I'm an IT consultant and I try to run my home IT
         | to the same standards as at work.
         | 
         | I keep my IoT devices on a separate VLAN or two. I use Home
         | Assistant as a mediator and I absolutely refuse the likes of
         | Alexa. I'm pretty sure that my Kitchen telly is listening and
         | it is surely loving Morecambe and Wise show's audio on an
         | endless loop and quite quiet.
        
           | oriolid wrote:
           | I'm a former IT consultant, and I'd like to run my home
           | network to the same standards as at work. I looked into it
           | and came to the conclusion that dealing with a few timers is
           | much less hassle than trying to do it with computers.
        
       | alfor wrote:
       | That has to be the funniest serious video
       | 
       | The absurdity of our modern high tech lives in 2min
       | 
       | It's not anyone's fault, it's an emergent property.
        
         | dqv wrote:
         | By the third time I was saying IT'S ENOUGH SLICES [0].
         | 
         | In all seriousness, it's fine if that is the reset procedure,
         | but I think they should provide some kind of reset socket tool
         | where you can screw in the bulb and it will run the procedure
         | for you. This way, it's always possible to do it manually, but
         | also can be done more easily with the reset socket. It should
         | be an inexpensive tool of course.
         | 
         | [0]:
         | https://www.tiktok.com/@theneedletok/video/69560346101741519...
        
       | rgasiorek wrote:
       | I think it's naive to think that we can stop being judgemental.
       | It's like saying we can stop going to the loo or needing love. It
       | is out nature and this is the nature of our neural-nets. Our
       | neural-nets were trained, and then they 'classify' and 'trigger',
       | the classification is the trigger which is the judgement. What we
       | can do do is to be aware of the nature of our neural system, of
       | the fact that as any other AI solution needs training data and is
       | only as good as the data. As any other AI solution it can over-
       | optimise or end up in a local optimum which makes us think so
       | strongly about some subjects. Part of the video is spot - it's
       | its title - yes being curious helps 'cleaning' the training data
       | and helps having the trained data better balanced which in turn
       | kicks your locally-optimised NN out of it's dip and allow to
       | explore further. The most important part is to distinguish
       | between being judgmental and acting upon judgment rather than
       | reflecting on it first.
       | 
       | This part is not naive -> we can and should control our actions,
       | we do not control our thoughts as much as we like to think but we
       | can choose how we react to them.
        
       | chrismckleroy wrote:
       | Also, PMs and engineers that don't actively use and love their
       | product can be subject to laziness - finding the most simple
       | passable direct solution and implementing that - just to go home
       | at 4:20.
       | 
       | Sure, yes, empathize don't judge, but also, let's acknowledge the
       | human tendencies as non-owners to DGAF - especially in this
       | current age of the worker questioning everything.
        
         | omosubi wrote:
         | Yeah what a terrible example. We can all strive to more curious
         | but bad product design is bad product design. We shouldn't let
         | people off the hook for that regardless of the engineering
         | challenges that arise.
        
       | nthngtshr wrote:
       | Yeah, but how are you going to get likes on those tweets?
        
       | lejohnq wrote:
       | This reminded me of a clip from Ted Lasso with the same quote:
       | https://youtu.be/5x0PzUoJS-U
       | 
       | Nice to see this pop up here
        
       | kstenerud wrote:
       | What would be cool, although it would take enormous coordination
       | and negotiation effort to do, would be to develop a universal
       | reset code for lightbulbs.
       | 
       | One idea would be to use the morse code encoding for "RRR", or
       | ".-. .-. .-." (has a nice, memorable beat to it) with a minimum
       | and maximum frequency such that it could be input at human or
       | machine speed (say an allowed period between 50-500ms and a
       | tolerance of 20% variation while inputting).
       | 
       | Once you have a standardized way to encode "reset" using on-off
       | (which is all we have available given the legacy system we use),
       | the next-gen lamps and light switch panels could just incorporate
       | this into a built-in reset switch that sends the full reset
       | signal to any bulb that happens to be plugged in.
        
       | mmaunder wrote:
       | "...unless you're me."
        
         | jmath wrote:
         | y'all got it twisted
        
       | ricardobeat wrote:
       | This is good advice, but that design is still terrible.
       | 
       | Take for example, IKEA Tradfri: if you use their dimmers, you
       | don't ever need to reset the lamps. You just hold the dimmer and
       | it's reset button close to the lamp.
       | 
       | And if you use another system, you reset them by quickly
       | switching them on and off six times. Takes under ten seconds.
       | "It's complicated" is not a very good excuse for shitty design
       | reaching end users.
        
         | omosubi wrote:
         | Not sure why you're getting down voted. People here complain
         | that a website/app doesn't load quickly even if it's a few
         | seconds regardless of the complexity. I'm not going to use the
         | service if it has problems. I don't care about the "engineering
         | challenges" unless it's moving needle dramatically.
        
       | Jensson wrote:
       | > Be curious, not judgmental
       | 
       | Those two are not opposites. The opposite of curious is that you
       | don't care. Most people don't care about things like the factory
       | reset procedure for lamps. A judgemental person cares or they
       | wouldn't spend energy judging, and in fact one of the best way to
       | sate your curiosity is to be very judgemental online since people
       | will write comments, blogs or articles like this and explain
       | things to you when you do.
        
       | Msw242 wrote:
       | Why can't the button be on the bulb? It's not vacuumed glass
        
       | sgallant wrote:
       | There is so much wisdom in the title of this post (a quote by
       | Walt Whitman) and it applies to so many situations in life. Happy
       | to see it used as the title to this post (and on the homepage of
       | HN :)
        
         | nuclearnice1 wrote:
         | I believe it's misattributed.
         | 
         | https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/be-curious-not-judgmental-...
         | https://ace.nd.edu/news/be-curious-not-judgmental-not-walt-w...
        
       | deft wrote:
       | Not directly about a lightbulb, but I've learned that when you
       | see something and think "why is it this way, that's stupid" its
       | usually not. People don't make things "stupid" for no reason.
        
         | dexterdog wrote:
         | Somebody hasn't seen the yoke.
        
       | ozy wrote:
       | FYI: Little kids unpair ikea lamps with ease if there is still a
       | physical switch.
        
       | [deleted]
        
       | CraftingLinks wrote:
       | Excuses...
        
       | mooreds wrote:
       | Always good advice. When I see something I don't understand that
       | seems off or weird, one way I avoid judgement is to ask the five
       | whys to myself.
       | 
       | It is also good to recognize that most everyone is doing the best
       | they can, and if you ship a light with a weird way to reset it,
       | there were probably (as the author suggests) constraints that you
       | don't know about.
       | 
       | What if you're wrong and they wanted to inflict anguish on their
       | users? Well, the market is pretty good about fixing those
       | problems, at least with commodities like lights.
        
         | Jiro wrote:
         | >What if you're wrong and they wanted to inflict anguish on
         | their users? Well, the market is pretty good about fixing those
         | problems, at least with commodities like lights.
         | 
         | The problem with this idea is that consumer-unfriendly things
         | can make more money for the manufacturers than consumer-
         | friendly things--not because the consumers want to pay for
         | them, but because it lets the companies make money in other
         | ways (typically advertising, monetizing consumer data, or using
         | consumer bandwidth) that are dangerous in ways that are hard
         | for consumers to understand. The consumers will end up worse
         | even by their own standards (they'll understand the dangers
         | _after_ they happen to them, they just won 't understand them
         | in advance or connect them to the poor design).
         | 
         | The market assumes perfect consumer knowledge. Most people here
         | know the dangers of the Internet of Things, but the average
         | person doesn't. And _just_ HN geeks are not enough to support a
         | market, so you only get to buy the same things that the average
         | consumer can buy. (Go ahead, try to find a non-smart TV.)
        
         | ChrisMarshallNY wrote:
         | _> When I see something I don 't understand that seems off or
         | weird, one way I avoid judgement is to ask the five whys to
         | myself._
         | 
         | There's an awesome (and odd) book, called " _Outside Lies
         | Magic_ ,"[0] that explores many of these types of things in
         | everyday life.
         | 
         | [0] https://www.kirkusreviews.com/book-reviews/john-r-
         | stilgoe/ou...
        
       | chaostheory wrote:
       | > "we can't put it on the glass"
       | 
       | LED lightbulbs are typically housed in plastic. You easily
       | integrate a plastic button into plastic housing.
        
       | DantesKite wrote:
       | I liked how they picked the worst possible example to illustrate
       | their point lol.
        
       | cupcake-unicorn wrote:
       | While I agree with the general sentiment when it comes to
       | individual interactions, I think it's kind of naive to put this
       | much trust into corporations in a capitalist system.
       | 
       | Should we have been curious about the development of MCAS at
       | Boeing? Or the Volkswagen emissions scandal? And it's very common
       | that have companies that have actuaries that spend money
       | determining the amount of money they'd have to pay out in
       | lawsuits for lethal design flaws in their products vs recalls.
       | 
       | The point is that big companies have such vastly, mindbogglingly
       | different systems behind them, so yes that much is true, that
       | most likely there was a "reason" it was done this way, like there
       | was a "reason" the Volkswagen emission scandal happened and the
       | departments were mixed up in such a way so no one could point to
       | any one person. But that reason sure isn't about the customers,
       | it's about their corporation.
       | 
       | By all means though, curiosity is great to cultivate in
       | INDIVIDUAL interactions where it's a human interaction and not
       | motivated by profit/transactional. Why give companies this
       | benefit of the doubt? In my opinion the onus should be on them to
       | prove to consumers that they're not just profit based and that
       | they care about customer service and transparency.
        
         | wintermutestwin wrote:
         | Good question. Should we apply this axiom (and resulting
         | benefit of the doubt) to power structures / organizations? One
         | way to look at it is: which approach is more likely to lead to
         | a better understanding of the problem and thus the solutions?
         | 
         | If we are curious, we can ask questions like: what are the root
         | cause incentive structures that led to anti-social actions?
         | and: What systematic adjustments can we make that
         | disincentivize such actions in the future? I think that these
         | questions lead to a more broad perspective on how to address
         | problems. Where a judgemental approach narrows the possible
         | solutions and opens us up to the cure being more deadly than
         | the disease.
        
       | grover35 wrote:
        
       | ketzo wrote:
       | I'm taking a little of my holiday break to try and apply this to
       | cryptocurrencies and blockchain stuff.
       | 
       | Horrible, terrible, tragic, I know. But if I feel like I'm going
       | to be ridiculing this stuff on a fairly regular basis, then I
       | should at least know what the fuck I'm talking about, right?
       | 
       | I mean, what number of HN commenters who dismiss crypto out of
       | hand have literally never made an effort to _be curious_ about
       | the guts of it all? Probably a pretty sizeable majority, if I had
       | to guess - myself included.
        
         | psyc wrote:
         | I think I have a general policy of withholding judgement until
         | I've researched a thing, with as little prejudice as I can
         | manage. But if I spend a lot of time researching a thing, and
         | _still_ reach the conclusion that it 's stupid, and everybody
         | buying it is stupid, then woe unto that thing (in internet
         | comment threads).
        
           | ketzo wrote:
           | Yeah, I'm with you. I just feel like a lot of my "research"
           | so far - crypto-wise - has mostly just been people talking
           | about it, instead of me making an actual effort to understand
           | any of it myself. So now I gotta go do that.
        
             | Ensorceled wrote:
             | The technology is actually not that hard to understand, at
             | least at a high level, it's getting through the "people
             | talking about it" down to what is actually being done with
             | the technology and why it needs to be a "distributed
             | ledger". Often it doesn't and understanding that disconnect
             | seems to often be the hard part.
        
         | Ensorceled wrote:
         | > I mean, what number of HN commenters who dismiss crypto out
         | of hand have literally never made an effort to be curious about
         | the guts of it all?
         | 
         | I think most people on HN don't dismiss the "guts of it". I
         | don't think blockchain is technically deficient, though proof
         | of work is an ecological disaster, and I don't think most other
         | people do either.
         | 
         | But it seems to be a technology in search of a problem; the
         | problems blockchain/crypto answer are often things like
         | enabling Ponzi schemes, money laundering, ransomware and,
         | rarely, currency in despotic regimes.
         | 
         | Whenever we ask crypto supporters WHY blockchain?, WHY NFTs?,
         | WHY so many ICOs?, isn't this a ponzi scheme?, the answer is
         | some form of "you don't understand" or "good luck, stay poor".
        
           | Vetch wrote:
           | One start on this question is with another question: What
           | advantage does Nakamoto consensus have over typical Practical
           | Byzantine Fault Tolerance? It, surprisingly enough, scales
           | better and is also open with permisionless participation.
           | It's inefficient but a big part of that is because it's both
           | open and seeks consensus with essentially no subjectivity.
           | 
           | The combination of these features: a distributed, open,
           | permissionless, minimal subjectivity, practical double spend
           | immunity, and malicious actor or sybil resistance log of
           | transactions, are what make it as it is and difficult to
           | improve upon without weakening one of those aspects. To
           | answer your why questions would be to defend those
           | properties.
           | 
           | My experience is people from oppressed corruption filled
           | countries tend to be sympathetic of those properties and
           | those from wealthy stable countries tend to think them not
           | worth the cost. It probably can't be used as a global
           | currency but can (in theory) be there for scenarios where
           | trust and subjectivity tolerance are minimal.
           | 
           | > isn't this a ponzi scheme
           | 
           | I would say no, it's more like a speculative bubble and
           | casino that breeds pump and dump schemes. If most
           | participants are uninformed then it's a scam, if most are
           | informed it's senseless gambling. There are some legit uses
           | such as funding civil disobedience or hedging against serious
           | inflation in countries with constrained access to dollars
           | (this usecase is why it fails to be a ponzi scheme, you don't
           | want value to increase, stability is preferred).
        
       | lysecret wrote:
       | I like this way of putting it. For me I have seen it more as
       | being understanding compared to judgmental. But I understand how
       | you would put it as curious ;)
        
       | r3n wrote:
       | Dose anyone has good advices to change this kind of mindset ?
       | 
       | It is hard for me to not be judgmental about stuff I disagree,
       | and I can tell this attitude is causing more trouble than I would
       | like in many different area of my life.
        
         | biql wrote:
         | Remembering when I was wrong about something I felt strongly
         | about in the past can be a good reminder to suspend harsh
         | judgment.
        
         | grasshopperpurp wrote:
         | The replies to this are very good. I'd just add that - like
         | anything - it takes practice. You have to train your mind to
         | work this way, and you need to continue to do so. So, don't
         | judge yourself too harshly when it doesn't come easy. Recognize
         | it and continue to practice.
        
         | dools wrote:
         | Start with questions, even when you know the answer, and
         | listen.
         | 
         | Then follow up with a question.
         | 
         | And repeat this without offering any opinions.
         | 
         | Just practice that.
        
         | Skunkleton wrote:
         | Try looking up "Beginners Mind". It's a concept from Zen
         | Buddhism.
        
           | sorokod wrote:
           | "In the beginner's mind, there are many possibilities, in the
           | expert's mind there are few."
        
         | petargyurov wrote:
         | I can strongly recommend the book "The Scout Mindset" by Julia
         | Galef.
         | 
         | It's not only an excellent discussion/lesson on exactly this,
         | it's also an incredibly well written book.
        
         | rdli wrote:
         | In improv, there's an exercise where you say "yes and". This
         | language construct helps you build on what someone else is
         | saying.
         | 
         | (Because in improv, if you object to something, you can just
         | stop the show.)
         | 
         | It works really well in a professional setting, too. Try it!
        
         | TaylorAlexander wrote:
         | I learned about Buddhism and the concept of lovingkindness and
         | that really helped. I read a short book on Buddhism.
         | 
         | But also finding people who can engage with those they disagree
         | with without resorting to mean behavior and listening to them
         | is probably a good tactic. One person I can think of is Beau of
         | the Fifth Column on YouTube who basically explains a left
         | leaning political position to conservatives and centrists in
         | short videos every day. He's totally non judgmental and I have
         | found it useful to just listen to the way he describes things.
         | He explains topics that are often divisive without any
         | condescension, which I think is a rare trait in political
         | discussion.
         | 
         | EDIT: Forgot to include the obvious, but therapy. I had all
         | manner of rough edges and I'm still finding tricky situations
         | that my therapist has been helping me with for years. Keep in
         | mind that if you learn to become less judgmental you will have
         | better relationships all around. Better friendships, work
         | relationships and love. My career is much better today because
         | I matured, in a large part through therapy, and can manage
         | complex and difficult discussions with my business partner
         | without upsetting anyone. These changes benefit you and those
         | around you and lead to more harmony and happiness. And you
         | deserve that!
        
         | wccrawford wrote:
         | It's really hard, and the author falls into their own trap.
         | They're being "judgmental" about the people who are being
         | judgmental. And here I am doing it, too.
         | 
         | Instead of worrying about "curious" vs "judgmental", I would
         | instead ask: Who am I helping with this statement?
         | 
         | The author is attempting to help people be more helpful to
         | other people. Clearly you heard them, and it has inspired you
         | to be a better person. Unfortunately, they didn't provide you
         | actionable advice. I'm hoping my suggestion above is better for
         | people.
         | 
         | I use it myself sometimes when responding online. When I first
         | started asking it (or things like it, focusing on the wellbeing
         | of others), I deleted a _lot_ of comments. They simply weren 't
         | actually helpful overall.
         | 
         | Another way to look at it: "Am I going to ruin someone's mood
         | with this?" If you are, can you provide the information in a
         | way that doesn't, or at least softens the blow, if they really
         | need to hear it?
         | 
         | I don't enjoy making people unhappy, so it wasn't hard to start
         | concentrating on that first instead of last, and improving all
         | the help I was trying to give. I'm sure I have a long way to
         | go, but I feel like I do better than I used to.
        
           | wruza wrote:
           | Another deleter-a-lot is "Why do _I_ need this fight?".
        
             | Fnoord wrote:
             | With our toddlers we ask ourselves: 'is this the hill you
             | want to die on?' It makes us less judgemental, more
             | curious, more listening, and more self reflective. I
             | believe that is also what 'please listen to what I have to
             | say' means (tho its too often shortened to shouting
             | 'Listen!' which works less well. But we all lack one
             | important currency these days: time. Spending your time on
             | someone is therefore an invaluable investment. Who other
             | than your children deserve it more?
        
         | DyslexicAtheist wrote:
         | there is a logical fallacy (not just in the title). It ignores
         | that curiosity will always result in a judgement, and even it's
         | a "positive judgement". If only we stick around long enough
         | we'll need to tear down our original belief (only way to avoid
         | it is not to grow). Being loud (judgemental) makes us look like
         | we have done the leg work (of curiosity). But curiosity is a
         | lot of work and it's easier to get reward by simply looking
         | competent (judging loudly). Exploiting this is easy because
         | it's hard to tell if a stranger has actually put in the legwork
         | and earned their "right" to judgement. And it's also easy to
         | dismiss judgement as _" Don't judge just be curious"_, when in
         | reality, staying curious is impossible once you have a full
         | grasp over a specific topic. (being curious here would mean
         | move on to new things to be curious about).
         | 
         | I'm probably overthinking it. Last weeks I was working on
         | designing an IIoT device (EV charging point) where the customer
         | insists on using the outdated protocol, and not spend the money
         | or time to bother with security. Hardware constraints will rule
         | out there is a future in which this device will be secure (or
         | maintainable). So when I read this:
         | 
         | > By being curious, not judgmental, we can start to understand
         | these peculiar things around us. Only by understanding, we
         | might even find a way to make them better.
         | 
         | It drives me up the wall. Almost impossible for me not to
         | immediately judge and ridicule them, for sloppy thinking, but
         | also for forgetting that a system/idea will only get better by
         | stressing it. And it would be a shame if somebody destroyed
         | their echo chambers, or took a dump in their "safe-space".
         | Perhaps I'd understand the situation a bit better (have
         | empathy) if the people being attacked and ridiculed were unpaid
         | tinkerers or engineers (e.g. FOSS). But a big company like GE?
         | And especially a topic like IoT - I don't think so.
        
         | paradite wrote:
         | Give it five minutes. My all time favorite advice on exactly
         | how to do that.
         | 
         | https://signalvnoise.com/posts/3124-give-it-five-minutes
        
         | ekianjo wrote:
         | > Dose anyone has good advices to change this kind of mindset ?
         | 
         | The only way you can not be judgmental is by being dead or
         | unconscious. Living is about making judgments about everything,
         | all the time (and most of them become habits at some point).
        
           | Nihilartikel wrote:
           | A person may not be able to suppress spontaneous judgement,
           | but one can observe the process and reflect on the reasoning,
           | incentive, and emotions that go into it afterwards. Then you
           | can decide if you mind _should_ be made up, or if it might be
           | better to put more effort into a higher order of
           | understanding.
        
         | telesilla wrote:
         | I use self-reflection and internal dialog when I notice I'm
         | feeling judgemental, to drill down to what has created the
         | discomfort. Once you understand your own reactions it's much
         | easier to talk with others. I'm not always aware until later
         | but it works then too as a retrospective. Most people are open
         | to walking through their beliefs with you as long as they feel
         | safe from risk of attack. Apply the same kindness to yourself.
        
         | pronik wrote:
         | Assume you are wrong until proven otherwise. There are really
         | quite a lot of constraints you are at most times not qualified
         | to reason about. Small example: I was working on implementing
         | accessibility for a government website and was rather baffled
         | at the requirement to provide sign language videos providing
         | basic explanations. I had assumed we'd need to provide
         | augmenting accesibility, i.e. text-to-speech for the blind. In
         | my mind, if a person can see, they can also read. Turns out:
         | no, not the case. Sign language is a separate language and
         | you'd be learning your locally dominant language as a first
         | foreign language, so depending on the community you grow up
         | with, you may as well lack basic literacy in that language.
         | Therefore, sign language videos are more akin to offering the
         | website in different languages that assistive technology. After
         | that incident, I've learned to assume there is always something
         | I don't know which explains the things I find weird.
        
         | icu wrote:
         | Besides living long enough to witness mistakes that took a
         | decade or longer to play out, what I do is use the cognitive
         | bias codex by designhacks.co.
         | 
         | My heuristic is:
         | 
         | Is the subject matter important?
         | 
         | If yes, is the cost of being wrong high?
         | 
         | If yes, am I displaying any signs of cognitive bias? (Consult
         | the cognitive bias codex)
         | 
         | If yes, how do I mitigate the bias?
         | 
         | Once done, has my outlook changed?
         | 
         | What action should I take?
        
           | andrei_says_ wrote:
           | This is close to Sociocracy's "Is it good enough for now and
           | safe enough to try?"
        
         | codeptualize wrote:
         | What works for me is to assume there is always an explanation,
         | then go look for it.
         | 
         | Could be anything from an actual good reason to do it this way,
         | or some other factors like cost, or maybe even just lack of
         | time, or the best of multiple bad options.
         | 
         | Postpone judgement until you have a good understanding. You
         | could still come to the same conclusion but it will likely be
         | much more nuanced.
         | 
         | Basically empathize with whoever build it or was involved.
         | 
         | Also design/build stuff yourself, do user testing and get
         | feedback; it's humbling haha.
        
           | jrs235 wrote:
           | Like Chesterton's fence [0].
           | 
           | I get annoyed when other younger/new hires come in and just
           | start bashing and saying how stupid this is that is/was and
           | that the person that did it was dumb or an idiot or
           | incompetent without them first learning the history, context,
           | and environment the decision(s) were made in. And they're
           | typically not wrong. If the decision(s) were made today, I
           | typically agree 100% with them.
           | 
           | [0] https://en.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/Chesterton%27s_fence#:~:
           | tex....
        
             | jrs235 wrote:
             | *they're usually not wrong about how stupid the current
             | situation is, but they're wrong that someone is stupid,
             | dumb, or incompetent. Hindsight is 20/20 and historical
             | context is important.
        
       | mfav wrote:
       | Plus, the QA team probably felt this a lot more then end users,
       | testing this reset procedure thousands of times.
       | 
       | The product team had probably received this feedback long before
       | the Internet spoke. And, ultimately, found a 40-second factory
       | reset procedure is not that big of a deal.
       | 
       | Totally agree with this sentiment. It's easy to criticize on the
       | Internet and receive positive feedback for that. But,
       | constructive replies are often the most clever & interesting
       | ones. Great post, Shu!
        
       | mwattsun wrote:
       | _There is a principle which is a bar against all information,
       | which is proof against all argument and which cannot fail to keep
       | a man in everlasting ignorance. This principle is contempt prior
       | to examination_ -- Herbert Spencer, 19th century English
       | philosopher, scientist, and theologian
       | 
       | I've been attempting to train myself to be more open minded. For
       | example, I have been skeptical of functional programming because
       | my assumption was that it was an academic thing for those that
       | didn't have to live in the real world of state and mutability. I
       | thought it had to be less efficient.
       | 
       | Some investigation proved me wrong. Russ Olsen set me straight:
       | 
       | Functional Programming in 40 Minutes * Russ Olsen * GOTO 2018
       | 
       | https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0if71HOyVjY
       | 
       | We don't have to copy a million element immutable array to change
       | one element. We copy a section of it and keep the rest in a tree
       | structure of changes (this happens under the covers). Secondly,
       | manipulating the stateful world is easier to understand if we
       | isolate those actions in Atoms and Actors.
       | 
       | Now I see the beauty of it so I'm glad I investigated.
        
         | WastingMyTime89 wrote:
         | I was very puzzled by your argument until I skimmed the video.
         | You are associating functional programming with avoiding side
         | effects. That's a very Haskell-ish view of things but that's
         | not the heart of it.
         | 
         | The key idea of functional programming is that it's easier to
         | think of program as a composition of functions rather than as a
         | list of statements and therefore functions should be first
         | class values. That used to be controversial but frankly the
         | idea won. We have seen lambdas go mainstream in most major
         | languages and programming is more and more functional by the
         | day.
        
           | mwattsun wrote:
           | Right, I understand where I wasn't clear. You're right, that
           | idea has won and gone mainstream so I didn't think it was
           | worth mentioning. I was emphasizing that I thought immutable
           | data structures were inefficient and that it was the luxury
           | of academics to abstract away stateful changes in the name of
           | purity.
           | 
           | I've got a couple of other ideas that I need to do more
           | research on (I'm watching Erik Meijer videos today)
           | 
           | 1) Class objects with methods and data are like small
           | programs, so I don't get why people go on and on about having
           | data structures with functions as being superior to class
           | objects, which are essentially data structures with
           | associated functions.
           | 
           | 2) Similarly, Joe Armstrong seems to hate object oriented
           | programming but Erlang instances are essentially class
           | objects, albeit running in their own process so they have
           | more isolation
           | 
           | 3) From reading Erik Meijer's Confessions of a Used
           | Programming Language Salesman, I'm assuming that Async/Await
           | that he help put in C# and Dart are his attempt to bring
           | Haskell continuation monads to the imperative world
           | 
           | 4) I'm assuming Clojure Atoms and Actors are like Haskell
           | monads but don't know that. I watched Brian Beckman: Don't
           | fear the Monad (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZhuHCtR3xq8)
           | but couldn't make heads or tails of it. Something about
           | functions calling first order functions and pure first order
           | effects with stateful second order effects, or something...
           | That was a few years ago so I will give it another chance.
           | 
           | I'm probably wrong about these ideas but they're fun to think
           | about and give me something to learn
        
           | mwattsun wrote:
           | In this talk Erik Meijer surprised me by saying functional
           | programming is not about immutability (at the end) which is
           | talked about a lot by functional programmers and then refers
           | to his paper, which lays out his thoughts in greater detail:
           | 
           | The Curse of the Excluded Middle: "Mostly functional"
           | programming does not work by Erik Meijer
           | 
           | https://queue.acm.org/detail.cfm?id=2611829
        
       | aaron695 wrote:
       | > Why not add a factory reset button?
       | 
       | If you don't say dumb things in life out loud, you won't move
       | forward. You'll just continue to think dumb things.
       | 
       | > I'm saying that we don't know enough about the constraints to
       | say there's a better solution.
       | 
       | This is pride in ignorance. There's no reason why you can't.
       | Light bulb engineers, rocket scientists and doctors are just
       | human beings.
       | 
       | OK I'm curious.
       | 
       | Why was it like that? If you don't judge it how can you
       | understand it? What framework should be used?
       | 
       | Don't be judgemental without being curious, I think is a better
       | line.
        
       | borski wrote:
       | Sure, but this isn't such a unique problem. Hue handles all of
       | these reset scenarios with much more grace, as an example:
       | https://www.trustedreviews.com/how-to/how-to-reset-philips-h...
        
       | dvt wrote:
       | This article, the Twitter critics, and the overall lesson learned
       | reminds me of this quote, one of my favorites:
       | 
       | "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how
       | the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have
       | done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually
       | in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood;
       | who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again,
       | because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who
       | does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great
       | enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy
       | cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high
       | achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails
       | while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those
       | cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." -
       | Theodore Roosevelt
        
         | trabant00 wrote:
         | I like this quote and have used myself several times. The devil
         | is in the details though. "who spends himself in a worthy
         | cause". IoT is far from a worthy cause, it's a desperate
         | attempt to sell more stuff. Or let me go to the internet's
         | favorite argument: Hitler also did deeds and could have
         | certainly done them better. Are we not allowed to be
         | judgemental?
        
           | zachlatta wrote:
           | I love how I can have lots of floor lighting that's easily
           | controlled with IoT bulbs and power switches.
           | 
           | It solves a real problem for me, and I think many others too!
        
           | BoysenberryPi wrote:
           | > Are we not allowed to be judgemental?
           | 
           | I am far from innocent here but I'm gonna say no. You are
           | saying IoT is far from a worthy cause. Really? Is it not
           | worthy that my aging grandparents can open the door from
           | their bed and not have to go downstairs, turn on their lights
           | in the dead of night from their phone so they don't have to
           | risk stumbling and falling when reaching for the light
           | switch, or even just more accurate track their health? I
           | think those are all pretty worthy causes.
        
             | selfhifive wrote:
             | I don't know if that's a great use case. My experience with
             | old people says that they (mostly) hate tech and cannot
             | operate it without someone else.
             | 
             | Also with old people you'd want the tech to be familiar to
             | them so that you don't have to video call them to show them
             | how to reset the WiFi.
             | 
             | And if you're talking about old people who cannot even walk
             | without stumbling their memory would be so far gone that
             | they'd forget how to operate half the devices half the
             | time.
             | 
             | Maybe it would be more helpful to future old people such as
             | ourselves, but I think simpler, robust, and familiar tech
             | is better for old people.
             | 
             | Just another perspective.
        
             | trabant00 wrote:
             | Excuse me, but a an analog electrical switch to open the
             | front door remotely works just fine. If you must insist on
             | a digital one, OK, though I fail to see why you would
             | complicate things. An internet connected one though: just
             | NO.
        
             | nine_k wrote:
             | Consumer IoT is often a gimmick. In industry and
             | agriculture it's much more worthy but less visible to lay
             | people.
        
             | suifbwish wrote:
             | The problem with IoT is that people in other countries can
             | also theoretically open the door and turn on the lights
             | from THEIR phone if the grandparents don't keep everything
             | updated.
        
       | gigglesupstairs wrote:
       | Anecdotal but Yeelight smart bulbs in my home require 5 turn offs
       | and ons to reset with 2 sec pauses after every press. I reckon
       | the GE bulbs don't actually require 8 sec pauses and it's just
       | suggested to ensure users cross a certain threshold at all times
       | when they are really trying to reset.
        
       | selfhifive wrote:
       | But the whole point of curiosity is to find out more about
       | something in order to form a judgement. We just need to be
       | willing to change judgements when shown the constraints. In a
       | way, asking people to be non judgemental kills curiosity.
       | 
       | I'd quote Marc Andreessen: "Strong opinions; weakly held."
        
         | trabant00 wrote:
        
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