[HN Gopher] Most advice is pretty bad
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       Most advice is pretty bad
        
       Author : samglover97
       Score  : 110 points
       Date   : 2021-12-23 17:40 UTC (5 hours ago)
        
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       | errantmind wrote:
       | In my experience, most situations and their associated decisions
       | are context sensitive, so most general advice is unhelpful, or
       | even harmful. Heeding generalization is the root of many bad
       | outcomes.
        
       | exolymph wrote:
       | Advice is best regarded as suggestions for future experiments.
       | Nothing beats trial and error plus a willingness to do new
       | things.
        
       | jimmyvalmer wrote:
       | _Work smart, not hard._
       | 
       | If you knew how dumb I am, you'd realize it's not up to me.
        
       | pdpi wrote:
       | The best advice I ever got was that advice is pretty bad in
       | general because the person giving the advice doesn't have skin in
       | the game. It's usually much better when you instead tell the
       | other person about relevant experience you've had in the past as
       | a data point for them to base their decision on.
       | 
       | So: less "in your situation, I would do this", and more "when I
       | was in this similar situation, I did this, and that happened".
        
       | dukeofdoom wrote:
       | This also applies to doctors. You would think they are
       | intelligent, highly trained and experts in their field. But the
       | you look at the statistics for medical mistakes and how many
       | people die every year from drug complications and it brings some
       | needed perspective.
       | 
       | I think the problem is people are biased, and play out roles. You
       | show a carpenter a nail that sticks up and he will hammer it
       | down. What else would you expect, this is what he was trained to
       | do.
       | 
       | A doctor is trained to give you drugs or operate, the bias is
       | towards taking medical action. If he doesn't do anything and you
       | die, he might get fired, your family would have a clear case to
       | sue and so on. Even if statistical doing nothing may be
       | preferable. It's just probably hard to nothing in some cases.
        
       | KerryJones wrote:
       | I agree with the title and disagree with the article.
       | 
       | I was hoping the article was going to talk about how much advice
       | comes from survivorship bias and people's general inability to
       | see the difference between cause and correlation of what they are
       | recommending and true effect. On this subject, I could rant.
       | 
       | As others have pointed, "non-obvious advice" doesn't inherently
       | have any reason it's better. The vast majority of people I know
       | who struggle with problems aren't struggling because they haven't
       | been told helpful advice, it's because of some combination of
       | lack of conviction of the advice, lack of discipline, and in some
       | cases (as the author points out) is hard to discover how to take
       | the advice . (While advice that lays out clear actionability is
       | good advice, I don't think that advice that is more general is
       | bad advice.)
       | 
       | Take diet. I think you'd be hard pressed to find people who said
       | salads were unhealthy. I believe most know that they would lead
       | to less heart problems in the US, they are cheaper, and would
       | help lose weight.
       | 
       | The more I have gone into philosophy and that path of many
       | successful people, most of them have taken to simplifying
       | everything they do. It's said that only masters can truly
       | simplify. It's the amateur who overly complicates. But I digress;
       | I firmly believe that obvious advice is often the most useful.
       | Personally and professionally, most of the problems with advice
       | that arise is that it wasn't followed, not that it needed to be
       | non-obvious.
        
         | DarylZero wrote:
         | > Take diet. I think you'd be hard pressed to find people who
         | said salads were unhealthy. I believe most know that they would
         | lead to less heart problems in the US, they are cheaper, and
         | would help lose weight.
         | 
         | Eating things doesn't help you lose weight.
        
       | onecommentman wrote:
       | Better title: Most (tactical business/career) advice is (rarely
       | helpful in the general case, often unwise as long-term life
       | strategies and full of survivorship bias).
       | 
       | Yep. Such books are written to get the author into the business
       | equivalent of Oprah's Book Club. They have the half-life of your
       | average K-pop group.
       | 
       | The beef jerky and Mountain Dew at the feast of life insights. If
       | you are starving and nothing else is available...
       | 
       | The In-and-Out burger wrappers in the library of worldly wisdom.
       | They can, at least, be useful bookmarks...
        
         | jacobr1 wrote:
         | A better title would be something like: "Most advice sucks: how
         | to determine when it doesn't"
         | 
         | The important point I got out of the article, wasn't that most
         | advice is bad, which seems clearly true, but a theory as to
         | why:
         | 
         | 1) Not novel - it just repeats what everyone already know, but
         | maybe with a new anecdote! 2) Not actionable - the advice to
         | vague to be practicable, good advice needs to be more specific
         | which probably mean not applicable to everyone, which means not
         | oprah scale. 3) Not based on evidence - why does this advice
         | work, as opposed to being survivorship bias or junk
         | extrapolation of real research.
        
       | Hermitian909 wrote:
       | I disagree with the article somewhat, I think a more accurate
       | take is that the well of good advice that is _generally
       | applicable_ is fairly shallow and once exhausted is not worth
       | revisiting. From there you need to start looking for advice with
       | an eye to the specific context of your life.
       | 
       | For me personally, the first time I understood that my life would
       | be really easier if I was really good at something, and that the
       | best way to get good at something was to work at it every day,
       | was a bit of revelation. That may sound a bit silly to say, but
       | we don't come into this world knowing everything. The advice has
       | improved my life immensely and is exactly the advice the author
       | is bashing _but_ it was only good because I understood how to
       | apply it.
        
       | mbesto wrote:
       | IMHO I think _free_ advice is the worst. I 'm gonna generalize,
       | but free advice usually:
       | 
       | - There is no incentive to give you good advice
       | 
       | - Ulterior motives are much more prevalent
       | 
       | - Rarely contextualized
        
       | emodendroket wrote:
       | When I have a question, I rarely settle for one piece of advice.
       | Instead, I read a bunch of them, often in a forum like this one.
       | Inevitably people will start arguing with each other, and I will
       | find myself sympathizing more with one or another side of the
       | argument. Well, there you are: that's what I think I should do.
       | 
       | On the other hand, "how to be successful" is so nebulous that I
       | think your first step is defining the question better. Of course
       | the advice is vague and un-actionable, because what you need to
       | do if "being successful" means being the world's greatest Tekken
       | player is different than if it means starting a business, and
       | different again if it means being a great parent, and different
       | once more if it means doing well as an employee in the company
       | you work for now (and among these one can imagine many more
       | variations). I guess in most cases the unspoken premise here is
       | that we're talking about a tech-based startup, but even then, if
       | your startup has so few unique traits that you can ask such a
       | broad question, what's your competitive edge, really?
        
       | ncmncm wrote:
       | You can take advice or leave it. If you take it and it works,
       | it's not bad. If you can't or don't take it, that doesn't make it
       | bad if somebody else could. It's bad only if, when you take it,
       | it will produce a worse outcome for you. Most advice is not bad
       | in that way.
       | 
       | The most useful thing a piece of advice can be is something you
       | would not have thought of yourself, that somebody else learned by
       | hard experience, that you wish somebody had said to you before
       | you got it.
       | 
       | It is in the nature of the very best advice that it is not
       | obvious why it is good advice. If it doesn't seem like good
       | advice, it might be because you have just not thought it through.
       | 
       | What we can say is that most posts on substack are bad.
        
       | mrkentutbabi wrote:
       | So does this advice.
       | 
       | You can definitely develop conscientiousness, and not just
       | genetics. Saying everything is genetics is just lazy.
        
         | frenchyatwork wrote:
         | OP never said you can't develop conscientiousness, just that it
         | was almost certainly partially genetic. You can learn to run
         | faster, but some genetic profiles will never make it to the
         | Olympics by just practice.
        
         | commandlinefan wrote:
         | "Be hard to compete with" is also not bad advice, at all. What
         | it really boils down to is, start learning to do something that
         | takes a long time to learn now, and once you know it, you'll be
         | ahead of the people who are starting then. And once you've done
         | that, start learning something _else_ that takes a long time to
         | learn.
        
       | bidivia wrote:
       | I disagree.
       | 
       | In my career I started getting close to the people that had
       | already done what I wanted and just asked them for advice.
       | 
       | The advice they gave me was incredible and the most useful thing
       | you could do.
       | 
       | The most important thing is that it must be an active process.
       | You must do the work to decode and extract the information.
       | 
       | Different personalities will give you different advices. If
       | someone has a very strong visceral nature, her advice is going to
       | be "don't be too visceral, think before you act", because that is
       | the advice she needs, but not what you need.
       | 
       | That advice is completely useless if your nature is thinking too
       | much, and you don't have a problem thinking, you love to think
       | all the time. The advice you need is acting instead of thinking,
       | to take decisions.
       | 
       | So you need to be active and ask specifically the problems you
       | are having when trying to do what you wanted. Most of the time
       | you will realize the super big problems that you have are the
       | most stupid and obvious thing for the person you are asking.
       | 
       | It is so easy for them because their own nature or personality
       | makes it so for them. 9 times out of 10 they will give you an
       | easy, "obvious" solution you never thought about.
        
         | kangnkodos wrote:
         | Yes. It's important to analyze why the person giving the advice
         | is suggesting a particular course of action.
         | 
         | If it's face to face, after I ask for advice, I always follow
         | up with "Why?"
        
       | dsizzle wrote:
       | I wonder if what people get out of the general advice literature
       | is more like a reminder or motivation, rather than actual
       | insight.
        
         | jacobr1 wrote:
         | My wife once called it "affinity porn," in that a lot of demand
         | is the feeling of proximity to something great gives you some
         | kind of essence of that greatness, like it will rub off in some
         | way. Why do people like getting signatures of sports figures
         | (ignoring second order financial motives to serve to the those
         | with genuine interest)? Or to shake the hand of a political or
         | religious leader? So much of the advice literature seems like
         | it falls into that category, especially those that are memoirs
         | in advice-book form.
        
       | polote wrote:
       | VC give pretty bad advice in general. Their advice is the the
       | description of founders they want to invest in. Most of the
       | founders they give money to, more or less follow the advice they
       | give (not directly, but because they have been selected like
       | that). But as all vc most of their companies fails, showing that
       | the advice in fact doesn't work.
       | 
       | Don't forget that if they really knew what to do to start a
       | successful company they wouldn't be investors but founders
        
         | jnovek wrote:
         | "Don't forget that if they really knew what to do to start a
         | successful company they wouldn't be investors but founders"
         | 
         | I can't stand this philosophy, e.g. "those who can't do teach"
         | kind of stuff.
         | 
         | Perhaps VCs prefer their job to being a founder?
         | 
         | Not everyone who is _capable_ of being a founder _wants to_ be
         | a founder. It's exhausting work that takes all of your time.
        
           | jacobr1 wrote:
           | And plenty of VCs are former founders.
        
             | Rapzid wrote:
             | And they, of course, know it's a numbers game. Why suffer
             | all the failure and risk never having another hit when you
             | can let others do it for you?
        
           | polote wrote:
           | My point is that only a handful of people have been able to
           | create several successful companies. Because we don't know
           | how to create such company, so most advice in that case are
           | wrong
        
       | bell-cot wrote:
       | "...for advice is a dangerous gift, even from the wise to the
       | wise, and all courses may run ill." - Gandolf (fictional
       | character by J.R.R. Tolkien)
        
       | 11thEarlOfMar wrote:
       | "Even for us, though, we can often increase our impact a lot by
       | improving our generalized effectiveness."
       | 
       | This rings of Scott Adams' 'Talent Stack'. He posits that having
       | expertise in multiple, unrelated fields both expands your
       | generalized knowledge and helps you stand out in the combination
       | of talents you possess. One example of a real person is one who
       | holds expertise in artistry (oil painting), mechanical
       | engineering, and cycling.
       | 
       | If I were to claim my own, it would be program management, poker
       | and music.
        
       | jacobian wrote:
       | I think part of the dynamic here is that when people give advice
       | it often comes from one of two very different modes:
       | 
       | 1. There's a piece of advice I want to give, and I'm going to
       | give that advice to some degree regardless of the question or
       | situation. Maybe I'll wait for a question where my advice fits,
       | or maybe I won't, but it's a play _I_ want to suggest, so I'm
       | going to suggest it. For example, "use Django" is advice I might
       | give to anyone who asks anything about web apps because I know
       | Django and it's easy advice to give.
       | 
       | 2. I really listen to what someone's asking, and give them
       | specific advice for their situation, without letting it be
       | colored by my own experience or the moves that have worked for
       | _me_ in the past.
       | 
       | The second is a lot less common! It's really hard to pay that
       | level of attention, and force yourself to question your own
       | assumptions. But it's also a lot more useful, since it's specific
       | and tailored.
       | 
       | Critically, in a blogging context, only the first mode is really
       | possible. There isn't someone asking for the advice, it's just me
       | writing a blog post for some imagined asker. This is why most
       | unsolicited advice isn't that useful, which absolutely includes
       | whatever blog post you're reading. Including one of mine.
        
         | emodendroket wrote:
         | For #2, I think that a secret to being perceived as a great
         | advice-giver is that, in their heart of hearts, most askers
         | already know what they want to do, but need your help
         | discovering it. It's more effective to simply restate the
         | question in a novel way than it is to just tell them what to
         | do.
        
         | User23 wrote:
         | Giving unsolicited advice is disrespectful and will do your
         | relationship with the person in question no favors.
         | Contrariwise, soliciting advice from someone else is
         | respectful, and will often improve their disposition towards
         | you. The simple rule that I endeavor to follow is to never give
         | unsolicited advice, but to give solicited advice if I can be
         | helpful.
         | 
         | A blog post isn't unsolicited advice because nobody reads it
         | without choosing to visit your blog. Incidentally that
         | indicates the reader has at least some respect for your
         | thoughts. It probably won't be as helpful as personalized
         | solicited advice, but it's still potentially valuable.
         | 
         | Another rule I follow for advice-giving is asking myself, am I
         | suggesting a way that is really better or just how I would do
         | it? If it's the latter case then I'll often demur, or at least
         | say it's really just my opinion and there are probably other,
         | possibly better, ways to do whatever it is.
        
         | foobarian wrote:
         | I don't mind 1 if I know what it is. It's an existence proof of
         | sorts. "I took this path to get somewhere and the fact I got
         | there" tells you something about the level of obstacle on the
         | way.
        
       | javajosh wrote:
       | Advice is a way to get someone else to try out your hypothesis.
        
       | dwheeler wrote:
       | I agree that advice that "isn't practical" is bad advice, as the
       | article states.
       | 
       | I do _NOT_ agree that advice that  "isn't insightful" or "is
       | obvious" is bad advice.
       | 
       | The author complains that "Work hard" is bad advice, and I don't
       | agree. Some people I meet are _not_ willing to work hard. _You_
       | may think it 's obvious, but that doesn't mean it really is
       | obvious. Even if it's obvious, people often need reminding of
       | obvious things, _because_ "obvious" things are easy to forget.
       | 
       | Vince Lombardi was famous at starting training from the
       | beginning. He would start his training courses by telling highly-
       | trained athletes, "this is a football."
       | https://jamesclear.com/vince-lombardi-fundamentals Excellent
       | athletes continually train and excercise the fundamentals,
       | because they are fundamental. "Obvious" things _do_ require
       | reminders. They require reminders because they 're boring, & we
       | often want to shift to the novel thing instead of focusing on the
       | important thing.
       | 
       | Even worse, if it's novel, then it's often wrong. Sometimes the
       | new can be really helpful - but seeking novelty for its own sake
       | misses the point. You want _good_ advice, not _novel_ advice, and
       | the two are not the same thing.
        
         | mikkergp wrote:
         | I wonder what the fundamentals are of coding, that you could
         | practice, starting from "this is a football"
         | 
         | 1: Naming Things 2: Testing (Unit or otherwise)
        
       | tdrdt wrote:
       | Most advise is like: do what I did, if you were me, in the exact
       | place and time as I was, surrounded by the same people as I was,
       | and so on...
       | 
       | I think advise in the form of a small life lesson is more
       | helpful. For example: 'Take good care of yourself if you work
       | hard.' is more helpful than 'Work hard to become successful.'.
        
       | jmath wrote:
       | "smile" is an exception
        
       | slap_shot wrote:
       | I've thought a lot about this recently: what type of person is
       | subject to a greater amount of variance in the outcome of
       | something due to good/bad advice than a founder?
       | 
       | Other professions with the potential for drastic upticks of
       | success or net worth (e.g. a professional athlete, an
       | entertainer) are so standardized that the advice to follow is
       | pretty much down the center of the fairway.
       | 
       | Given the complexity/uniqueness of a company and its market,
       | almost any piece of advice given to a founder is at best
       | inadequate, at worst, gravely detrimental.
       | 
       | Paul Buchheit had a slide at founder school that read something
       | like "Advice = Limited Life Experience + Over generalization" - I
       | have no idea if I interpreted it correctly, but most advice I've
       | received (and thought was great at the time) ended up being
       | wrong. The people giving me the advice weren't being malicious -
       | they were just looking at my problem with _their_ life experience
       | and abstracting it a very general way.
       | 
       | And the worst part is - and I say this with a lot of experience -
       | when someone else's advice was wrong, you can't blame them, you
       | can only blame yourself.
        
       | katmannthree wrote:
       | I disagree strongly with the article's central thesis, but it is
       | still worth critically examining the source and utility of
       | advice. Even honest and sincerely given advice is often more a
       | form of nostalgia on the part of the giver than a lucid examining
       | of your specific situation and the nuances therein.
       | 
       | It's most often a form of "well this is what I wish I'd done when
       | I was in a similar situation years ago" or "here's what I did
       | when I was in your position and let me tell you how great a
       | choice it was." That is meaningfully distinct from and a lot more
       | common than the much more useful version "I once had something
       | similar happen and afterwards concluded that I should have done
       | X, but the world has changed over the decades and now it seems
       | like kX would yield better outcomes based on Y."
        
         | butwhywhyoh wrote:
         | Changed over the decades? Your issue with advice is that the
         | giver must have had something happen so long ago that they can
         | tell you about how the world has changed in the meantime?
         | 
         | By your reasoning, you would have rejected that person's advice
         | if they had given it to you earlier because it would have
         | looked a lot like the form of advice you have an issue with.
        
           | JacobThreeThree wrote:
           | It was an example of how someone could give advice while
           | trying to take into consideration the nuances and
           | circumstances of the person's context.
        
           | katmannthree wrote:
           | The majority of advice I've received was founded in
           | experiences 10+ years in the past, yes, and did not account
           | for the substantial societal changes that have occurred
           | since. My issue is not that the giver hasn't noticed changes
           | in the world, it's that _most often_ the underlying reason
           | they give advice seems to be as a form of nostalgia rather
           | than a careful consideration of what my best options are.
           | 
           | > By your reasoning, you would have rejected that person's
           | advice if they had given it to you earlier because it would
           | have looked a lot like the form of advice you have an issue
           | with.
           | 
           | No, I am not saying that any advice should be immediately
           | rejected. It should be appreciated, always, when given in
           | good faith. It should also be silently examined, always,
           | before application.
        
           | zerocount wrote:
           | I understood it along the same lines as you and don't
           | understand the down-voting.
        
         | ninkendo wrote:
         | I'm reminded of a quote from the "Wear Sunscreen" song/speech
         | from back in the 90s:
         | 
         | > Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those
         | who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is
         | a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off,
         | painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than
         | it's worth.
        
         | superposeur wrote:
         | Agreed -- when I'm on the receiving end of advice, I try to
         | suss out the distinction you describe. Is the advice-giver just
         | lazily ruminating (usually the case) or are they actually
         | thinking through my particular circumstances and reflecting on
         | the optimal path given these constraints and/or plugging a
         | particular blind spot holding me back? You can often feel,
         | viscerally, the difference between the two types of advice-
         | giving.
        
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       | black_13 wrote:
       | Advice is free like kittens. Really affecting the outcome of
       | someone elses circumstances costs money and time and very few are
       | willing to do that. Especially when the someone is outside our
       | family or tribe.
        
       | Crazyontap wrote:
       | I think most advice is bad because the person giving the advice
       | somehow also wants to sound like a hero or at least somebody you
       | would want to look up to.
       | 
       | Unfortunately most of the times the reality to do the things for
       | which the advice is sought is rather mundane and sometimes not
       | even something a person would be proud off.
       | 
       | Like for example, if you want to be a very successful business
       | the _reality advice_ is to market more aggressively, lock people
       | in your walled garden, save taxes, inflate prices, make a
       | commission on other people 's work, etc but the advice you give
       | is make better products, innovate, make it user friendly, create
       | brand loyalty, etc.
        
       | bckr wrote:
       | It may be helpful to think of advice from the perspective of a
       | "science of life". In science, you often want to spell things out
       | that many people might consider "obvious". The point isn't
       | necessarily to instruct, but to document.
        
       | csallen wrote:
       | Our obsession with non-obvious advice stems from our base
       | addiction to novelty. For good reason, pathways in our brain
       | become myelinated and more efficient the more often we use them,
       | to the point where we can process well-worn thoughts almost
       | subconsciously. Thus, toys we've played with too long become
       | boring. Advice we've heard too many times before seems blah.
       | 
       | We're hardwired to notice more when we encounter things we've
       | never heard or seen before. Novel advice just _pops_.
       | 
       | However, most good advice is _common_ advice. In practically any
       | field, grokking the fundamental advice and actually sticking to
       | it will get you 99% of the way there. As Charlie Munger once
       | said,  "Take a simple idea, and take it seriously."
       | 
       | But the fundamentals are boring. We'd prefer to ignore them and
       | say, "Yeah yeah I know that already," even if we're totally
       | ignoring it. Then we retweet the next dopamine hit of novel
       | advice we see on Twitter.
        
         | dwaltrip wrote:
         | > grokking the fundamental advice
         | 
         | This is much harder than it sounds! The roots of true
         | fundamental understanding go very deep.
        
         | roenxi wrote:
         | One other - more subtle - point is that nothing is easy and
         | nothing is obvious. There are people in the world to whom "you
         | need to make eye contact when you talk to someone" is a new
         | idea.
         | 
         | Good advice is based on evidence that the receiver does not
         | understand something. Nothing is novel to an expert.
        
         | jorgesborges wrote:
         | The best advice -- real wisdom, in fact -- is often readily
         | available as platitudes on door mats or fridge magnets but they
         | don't resonate with us. Because real wisdom and the best advice
         | is useless without a certain time and experience to recognize
         | it, and a great deal of practice in putting it to life.
         | 
         | I first recognized this learning to meditate. Life is
         | impermanent and leads to suffering so stop cravings and
         | avoiding! Okay, well I've heard that a million times so what.
         | But then learning to observe my experience a lightbulb goes
         | goes on.
        
           | WJW wrote:
           | Most advice is quite specific for people in certain
           | circumstances and useless or even harmful for people outside
           | those circumstances.
           | 
           | Should you save save up for retirement and be generally
           | financially sensible? Of course, but there are plenty of
           | exceptions. For example, for the terminally ill it is
           | terrible advice, and neither is the traditional "save 10% of
           | income and invest in index funds" advice applicable to newly
           | minted millionaires who have just won the startup lottery.
           | 
           | "Turn the other cheek" is great advice 99% of the time, but
           | terrible advice in a relationship with an abusive spouse.
           | 
           | "When in doubt, assume stupidity over malice" is extremely
           | easy to abuse by malicious actors.
           | 
           | In general, even well-meaning advice givers on the internet
           | often don't realize that their advice is not universally
           | applicable or forget to add a warning label stating the same.
           | (And, of course, not everyone on the internet is well-meaning
           | in the first place)
        
         | mjr00 wrote:
         | > However, most good advice is common advice. In practically
         | any field, grokking the fundamental advice and actually
         | sticking to it will get you 99% of the way there. As Charlie
         | Munger once said, "Take a simple idea, and take it seriously."
         | 
         | Definitely. There's also an issue on the flip side of it: many
         | people asking for advice are not doing so sincerely. You'll see
         | it in the new year on fitness forums. People asking for advice
         | on which fad routine (coughCrossfitcough) will make _this_ the
         | year they keep that weight off, or whether they should get a
         | Peloton or a Bowflex. If you give them the simple, obvious
         | advice that most experienced lifters would agree on--do a
         | barbell strength program and count your calories--they get
         | extremely defensive. That isn 't an option for them because
         | it's _boring_. It requires repetitive, uninteresting, and
         | physically strenuous effort multiple times per week. They 're
         | actively looking for, as you say, the new and novel advice that
         | gives them the dopamine hit.
         | 
         | So yeah, I disagree with the article's assertion that good
         | advice is not obvious. There's a reason the advice is obvious;
         | it's likely pretty good advice!
        
           | maximus-decimus wrote:
           | I don't think this is the same thing. They're asking for a
           | fun activity they can use to lose weight, not for a novel fun
           | advice about losing weight.
           | 
           | It's not the advice itself that's boring, it's the activity
           | the person will have to do every other day.
        
         | MattGaiser wrote:
         | This depends on whether the field is an arms race. In plenty of
         | areas, common advice is quickly implemented by most competitive
         | participants. See college admissions or even getting jobs after
         | university.
         | 
         | At one point founding a charity was considered evidence of
         | leadership. By my graduating class for high school, half the
         | class had a charity. The person I know who has been the best at
         | admissions has founded 4. But now there is nothing special
         | about charity creation.
         | 
         | Same with getting jobs after university. It used to be that you
         | earned your degree and a good job awaited you. But then lots of
         | extra people went to university and you started needing better
         | grades, an internship, and now several internships to be
         | competitive.
         | 
         | In those cases you need something novel to stay ahead.
         | 
         | Or consider unlimited vacation for developers. At one point
         | that was a fairly novel perk. Now, everyone has that. I would
         | be surprised to work for a company with fixed vacation ever
         | again.
         | 
         | It was once a perk that would win you staff. Now, it is just
         | being competitive for certain kinds of people.
        
           | nicoburns wrote:
           | > Or consider unlimited vacation for developers. At one point
           | that was a fairly novel perk. Now, everyone has that.
           | 
           | I would argue that nobody (or hardly anyone) has this.
           | Otherwise you'd find most developer only working 6 months a
           | year.
        
             | MattGaiser wrote:
             | Fair, it is not truly unlimited, but for plenty of people
             | (at least where I have worked) it has still ended up being
             | 5-8 weeks a year.
             | 
             | In contrast to the more traditional employers who say that
             | you can start with two weeks and after 3 years of loyal
             | service with no real raises, you can have three.
        
               | simplestats wrote:
               | People I know take about four weeks a year. 8 weeks seems
               | nuts. Do their managers push back all the deadlines
               | related to their projects since they take a lot of
               | vacation? I'd imagine managers don't even consider it and
               | plan deadlines according to a typical (e.g., 50 weeks a
               | year) worker output.
        
               | fvdessen wrote:
               | The managers indeed push back the deadlines or hire more
               | people
        
               | MattGaiser wrote:
               | I haven't ever worked for a company with hard deadlines.
               | Always enterprise software, so delays are no seemingly no
               | consequence.
        
               | nicoburns wrote:
               | Ah, I guess that makes sense from an American
               | perspective. For context, 5.6 weeks (28 days) is the
               | legal minimum for absolutely every full time employee
               | here in the UK, and I believe that's one of the lower
               | legal minimums in Europe. Higher allowances are not
               | uncommon here.
               | 
               | My employer considered introducing unlimited holiday, but
               | we said no once they admitted that they were hoping it
               | would result in us taking less holiday in practice. I'd
               | rather have my 5 weeks guaranteed, no guilt, than be
               | worrying about whether I've taken too much unlimited
               | holiday.
        
               | mc32 wrote:
               | Indeed. It's a wolf in sheeps clothing.
               | 
               | It's like letting the kids mind the house by themselves
               | while you go on holidays.
               | 
               | If they take too much liberty, they never get that
               | privilege again. If they do it within implied constraints
               | they get to have the house more often.
               | 
               | If you have power (not necessarily managerial) you can
               | exploit thus and be okay, if you're mediocre and you take
               | the same advantage, you could very well have signed your
               | own pink slip.
               | 
               | Now if you have a minimum everyone takes, then even as a
               | mediocre worker, you're not an outlier.
        
           | _jal wrote:
           | > Or consider unlimited vacation for developers.
           | 
           | Is there any evidence that developers (or anyone else with
           | "unlimited vacation") take more time than they did
           | previously?
           | 
           | I've assumed that was more akin to "open offices" - selling a
           | cost-cutting measure as something hip.
        
             | MattGaiser wrote:
             | I only have anecdotes from the two companies I have worked
             | for with it, but developers taking 5-8 weeks off is not
             | uncommon.
             | 
             | And whether or not you do take it, you can if you
             | need/desire to do so.
             | 
             | It stands in contrast to more traditional companies that
             | offer you two weeks to start and an extra week after three
             | years of service without a raise.
        
               | jacobr1 wrote:
               | I too only have anecdotes from myself and
               | friends/colleagues, but a few experiences stand out:
               | 
               | * The accountability culture really matters. Are teams
               | responsible for their own commitments/deadlines? If you
               | think you might get fired, or at least a lower
               | performance review for taking vacation (because you
               | shipped less while out) then you are less likely to take
               | vacation. Of course the problem here isn't the PTO
               | policy, but unlimited PTO in a company like this is worse
               | than a defined amount of time.
               | 
               | * Are senior leaders work-a-holics? If so, that might
               | breed a culture where, even these same leaders always say
               | the right things about everyone needing to recharge and
               | take advantage, the ambitions see those above them, and
               | ape the behavior of working more. This trickles down,
               | though it might be inconsistent across the company.
               | 
               | * As time has gone on with these being more common, some
               | strategies have emerged to take advantage of them more
               | effectively. Such as being more aggressive with 3 day
               | weekends, or flex schedules, or remote work, or vacation
               | hybrids (like going abroad for a 6 weeks and working
               | every other week). Taking a bunch of multi-week vacations
               | may or may not work in your company, but figuring out the
               | broader category of "flex work" seems to be getting a ton
               | of experiment.
        
             | rocqua wrote:
             | I have vague memories of stories that it leads to less time
             | off taken. Something about people feeling more guilty
             | taking vacation when they have to pick their own limit.
        
             | milkytron wrote:
             | My company recently switched to unlimited, and everyone has
             | been consistently taking more than we were offered prior,
             | which was a generous amount compared to previous places
             | I've worked for.
             | 
             | So far in the 4 months we've had unlimited, I've taken
             | 40-50% more time off than I would have otherwise. I think
             | many employees know of the issue you mentioned, and we're
             | collectively taking steps to prevent that from happening.
             | It mainly has to do with culture and not have too many key
             | person dependencies.
        
         | WalterBright wrote:
         | Good advice:
         | 
         | 1. Try, try until you succeed.
         | 
         | 2. Stop beating a dead horse.
        
         | vaxman wrote:
         | Good point. How to classify:
         | 
         | 'Don't risk catching Omicron and passing on to others who may
         | die by going to see the latest, widely panned, episode of The
         | Matrix starring Doogie Howser as a psychotherapist, a middle
         | aged woman as an action hero all set against a stalker's
         | perspective on romance. Same goes for Yaamava which
         | opportunistically released a commercial with a Morphius-like
         | narrator over slow motion scenes.'
         | 
         | Is this obvious, non-obvious, common (or novel) advice?
        
         | mc32 wrote:
         | Not everyone is "addicted" to novelty. I've travelled a bit and
         | there are places where people repeat and repeat old advice
         | about lots of general things and don't go for novelty... but
         | that may be because they're not plugged in to a bias of novelty
         | = modern = more savvy = better = more admiration.
        
         | HPsquared wrote:
         | Hence the attention economy promoting informational junk food.
        
       | 999900000999 wrote:
       | The best advice I heard was don't listen.
       | 
       | - Cousin Stizz
        
       | 0xbadcafebee wrote:
       | Most advice is _advice_ :                 advice, n.         An
       | opinion about what could or should be done about a situation or
       | problem.         Information communicated; news.         An
       | opinion recommended, or offered, as worthy to be followed;
       | counsel; suggestion.
       | 
       | If the advice is based on something that has worked for someone,
       | it is good advice. It's up to you to figure out if the advice
       | will work for you. If the advice didn't apply to your own
       | situation, or wasn't appropriate, it is your responsibility to
       | figure that out, not theirs.
       | 
       | You can of course try to blame everyone else for the paths you
       | choose to take in life: you didn't get the right advice; they
       | didn't give you the right tools; they didn't explain something
       | well enough. But none of that changes the fact that you,
       | ultimately, are the only one that controls whether you will take
       | that advice and use those tools, or go find others. You own your
       | own decisions.
        
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